PARENTING ADVICE || What I’ve learned as a parent.

Hey Everyone!
This is just a video of my take on parenting. Everyone has different parenting methods and their own way of doing it. These are just some tips that work for me. If you have any more let me know as I’m still learning to be a parent! Remember there is no perfect parent or a perfect child so just enjoy and cherish every moment you have and just try your best. Hope you enjoy the video ❤️

[@Mano.mano11]

I am truly amazed how without a script you are going with the flow so beautifully and covered every single aspect of parenting.

[@ashandpai]

Aww thank you so much I’m honestly glad you liked it

[@Mano.mano11]

This is heart melting and made me really really emotional 💞❤️. You hit all the right points !!!!

[@haanaabdool5130]

This melted my heart 💯 u pointed out all the main points ❤

[@ashandpai]

Thank you❤️

[@jes8432]

I love this, you've highlighted how crucial it is to raise kids well because it WILL affect them as an adult.

[@ashyh6202]

I'm an introvert and I am so glad you mentioned letting a child be an introvert, if that is who they truly are. There is nothing wrong with it. They should not be forced to change their personality to suit others. This only sends a negative message to them about who they are. They should be allowed to explore the world how they want to. As a child it was always very annoying when teachers would say things like, shes very quiet, as if it was a defect. I liked to talk where I felt it was required otherwise I kept myself to myself. I appreciate this generation accepts all types of personalities but some still think being extroverted is normal and introverted is abnormal. That is NOT the case.

[@eimanabdallah4732]

She’s so beautiful MaShaAllah💞💖

[@ashandpai]

JazakAllah ❤️❤️❤️

[@eimanabdallah4732]

Ash & Pai Omg you actually replied 💞💖

[@ashandpai]

I appreciate you so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@eimanabdallah4732]

Ash & Pai Thank you so much ❤️

[@mariamustafa7468]

I love this, a real eye opener Your an amazing mother Ash!!!

[@ashandpai]

Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️

[@Mano.mano11]

Children need respect too 💓. I am going to make Bullet points from this video .

[@aminaibrahim11]

Amazing advice I can tell you’re a great mom Masha’Allah

[@Mano.mano11]

May Allah keep all four of you safe and protected from evil eye ameen ! 💗

[@ashandpai]

Ameen and you too❤️

[@salma9909]

I agree with all of your points! Not a mother but definitely taking these into mind with perhaps my younger siblings 💓

[@Sonic47651]

You're an amazing mother, my parents could learn a thing or two from you! And the fact that my mom is also studying childcare...

[@Hanfahhussain]

I'm not a parent, but my advice is don't always take your kids side especially when they are in the wrong

[@ashandpai]

That’s a good point

[@faithfullyfearfully2809]

I truly appreciate you for making this video.💗

[@saadetoz1605]

11:00 Just wanted to precise - Research has shown that the formation of a child’s identity begins at birth, so it’s never too early to teach your children the right things :) Thanks for this video Ash, really like your content and wish you all the best x

[@sureyyaozil313]

i found out about your channel a few days ago. and i love your channel so much! you are SO beautiful. Ma Shaa Allah

[@catelandxo347]

I love this woman she speaks nothing but facts I can relate to so much she says I couldn’t call her out on anything she has said in this video because it’s truth.❤️

[@ashandpai]

Appreciate you a lot ❤️

[@emilythan3701]

This melted my heart, I look up to you so much

[@aliyahoosein4693]

All we need is our parents to listening to us know what they kids are going true😭😭Sometimes all we need is a hands to hold when they is no way🤝😭😭not when we about to take our own life then they would come an cry when we already gone an it's too late...if I the know what my daughter is going true....I should have talk with her😭

[@haleema3472]

I always pray for you ❤️

[@moon22lightt24]

Your story is so inspiring to many others who may have the same situation thanks for speaking up about ur emotional abuse n yes it’s so true emotional abuse is more harming then physical You r so lucky mashallah that U escape from that toxic relationship may Allah keep you always happy

[@mpho4164]

Such an amazing mom

[@universaljourney1817]

I hated my mom for this reason since she allowed my brothers to do things that she didn't allow me to do in my life and I still hate her for that :(

[@ashandpai]

Sometimes parents don’t realise things like that as that is how they’ve been bought up.

[@universaljourney1817]

@@ashandpai true I agree with you and that is why I am actually working on overcoming my childhood wounds and also I am a life coach and mentor by profession

[@ashandpai]

Would love to ❤️

[@universaljourney1817]

@@ashandpai I just messaged you on Instagram chat :)

[@ashyh6202]

In Islam men and women have different roles. Men are the providers and maintainers of the household therefore require to go out to look after the family. This however does not mean they take advantage of this. I.e going out with friends until late at night etc. Our people tend to follow cultural norms more than Islamic. If they explained the roles properly no one would ever feel they were treated unfairly. A woman is like a pearl in our religion. Always cared for and always protected.

[@Mano.mano11]

You look so beautiful and this is really insightful. Thankyou soooo much Ayesha !

[@ashandpai]

Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️

[@m.-9615]

You're very smart and wise Ma Sha Allah. Even though I don't have children (yet), I found your video to be very educating. May Allah bless your family

[@salmaabrahams6782]

Aww Masha'Allah. This is beautiful. May Allah always guide and protect your children ❤.

[@ashandpai]

Ameen JazakAllah!

[@jahanarabegum4846]

Ameen❤

[@nadiaa9268]

Such amazing advice!! 💕💕 mashallah

[@elainesilvas5832]

Just beautiful!!

[@zaryabshah6060]

Da best parent advice I've heard baj💫💯 Edit: catchin up on ur vids todayy

[@shabinak1686]

Salaams sister you are good caring mum whos down to earth and Thank you for sharing. Love watching your vlogs. Can you both do more cooking vlogs.. Beautiful couple Marshallah. You look Arab sister.

[@jakia2020]

Can you make a video on topics such as depression and anxiety. I really like watching every video you make🌷🌷🌷

[@sabahmalik3026]

Agreed

[@kautharbentley1315]

Such an inspiration ❤️❤️ Love ya ash💖love ya videos🤗 You're my role model as much as my mother is🤲💜

[@iqraa3725]

Love you guys sm💕. Thanks for all the advice💕💕

[@fatimaadam2068]

That u sweetheart for your advice u hit the point I hope it benefit many people

[@sabahmalik3026]

MashAllah . I love love love this video.Never been married or have kids but this is an amazing informative video

[@liridona5355]

I love this video. We are not perfect, so why expect the child to be perfect? I really enjoy learning about children, so this video deserves so much more views

[@fprd2468]

Just amazed by your words and visions of life and parenting👏💙

[@MaureenMollel]

As a parent this melts my heart ❤️

[@Mano.mano11]

omG 2:00 onwards i never knew you are wise beyond your years . Love this . All this is Very much needed to be said out there.

[@ashandpai]

So glad you liked it ❤️

[@aliciaallt5607]

Wow 🤗, you are so great , I really appreciate every bits of it . ❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘😘💋

[@kenza111k]

Keep at it ❤

[@itsMissyCutie]

you are a wonderful parent :)

[@Mano.mano11]

This pulled me out of a depressive state and answered all my life problems honestly.

[@manishaahkter1063]

Im in love with your videos guysss!!

[@Mano.mano11]

Don’t chase after materialistic things ! 🌹💞

[@Abak18]

Masha allh you’re really young parent who already educated! 🥰🥰🥰

[@vanav.jackson4521]

This helped me so much. Thank you earth angel!

[@alutampayise6445]

You are so wise and u are such an inspiration ❤😭

[@franciscavanommeren1709]

You are so beautiful. Keep glowing❤️

[@sundusmujeeb3921]

I wish our parents watch this video n understand it. One more thing I wanna say. Never compare your child. With anyone. They r individually born and have an individual personality.

[@seherhussain5159]

Well Said 👏🏽💯♥️

[@med3203]

Awesome advice!❤️❤️

[@ashandpai]

Thank you!

[@NekaMusaraj]

I just think that your video it’s a blessing to our society condition you are lovely may you and your family be blessed also!!!!

[@kawaiinails]

Do you have any tips for how your husband and toddler became closer in the beginning?

[@ashandpai]

Do activities together and spend lots of time together. Also, let your child know to respect your other half always but also let them be the nicer parent and you be the stricter one

[@nishasook1138]

I share the same views as u do. Cudnt agree more... lovely video

[@nafeesasufyan2426]

Great and informative. Loved the way you talk and put your points across. How have you managed to put away your past and become a great parent? Please advise, I struggle to come to terms with my traumatic past and be the greatest parent I could possibly be!

[@candipayne2003]

Your correct, great advice!

[@ashandpai]

🙏🏼❤️

[@candipayne2003]

🤲🏻🤍🕊 inshallah

[@Mano.mano11]

First here love you

[@ashandpai]

Love you too❤️

[@safiahamed6747]

Love you💗💗💗💗

[@annekaelliot1983]

Your Right Their is No Such, thing as the perfect set of parents, i mean everybody in this entire planet makes mistakes, then looks back where thy went wrong, and learn from it, does not make you a bad person, means you are learning how to fix things and put stuff back together.) To those people who got pregnant very young, i hope you love and respect all the help and support you received free of charge and are not acting negative or rude about your own mistakes, towards your friends or family.) Love listening to what she got to say, My parents split up when i was 14 years old, it was a big shock to me because, i was not expecting that to happen so quickly, but you can not force two people to be in love that is not healthy, its unhealthy, these things happen in life, and i really do not care if my mum and dad are together or not, hint they never ever got married, which is a good thing because means no annoying divorce papers or fucking last name changes.) And Nobody in my family got cheated on, just to make that clear.) I am 22 and i am not planning on having children anytime soon, me and my boyfriend of 5 years want to enjoy our young years before we make any final decisions in life, in fact children are overpopulating and polluting the country, So nah me and my fella do not want children and do not want to be parents, we decided to fight against the stereotypes saying most straight couples have babies before the age of 30 years old, hey their is nothing wrong with having a child at age 38 years old, the older you are the more caring you are, the younger you are tthe more you want to go off and do your own things.) So Yeah i am going to adopt 2 kittens as pets for me and my boyfriend in our, forever home in the future, he would love that me and him are cat people.) Not everybody wants kids, their is enough children in this world, believe me look at foster care or adoption, instead of having, to go through health care bills and the stress of pregnancy and birth constantly.) Some of you pro-lifers people are against abortions because you don,t like how other people choose to live their lifestyles, fair enough, but if your really young and can not handle the fact of parenthood let the girl and her supportive fella take the abortion pills, its not murder its stopping unwanted offspring being born into the wrong environment.) People have had successful lives without babies, Nicole Sherzinger, Katy Perry, Rhianna, i am naming people without children so you know you can do so much more with your life without being pregnant or having a baby.) I want to see more women in the police force, and involved with public services and creative arts, that do everybody a fucking favour, eqaulity rules.)

[@sapphire1680]

Rihanna is pregnant now yay for her. I don’t think I’ll have children tbh, I’ll just have to accept life as it is. I know I’ll start to regret later in life but it’s better to regret your decisions without children than with them. It’s weird because I feel like my body and mind are fighting about it all the time. Adoption is nice also but I don’t think I have the heart to raise a child that isn’t my own. Maybe I’m just cold hearted🤷🏾‍♀️😂

[@emilythan3701]

WOMAN EMPOWERMENT!!!

[@sadiyaakhtar5005]

💯💯💯

[@ashandpai]

❤️

[@AnnzzLyfe]

Also parents shouldn’t favouritise. Many parents do and don’t treat their kids equally and I absolutely hate it. One rule for them and another for u. Middle child problems ahaha I jus honestly think to myself and tell my close sister that I can’t wait to get out of this house and be married In’Sha’Allah❤️🕋🙏🏼 fr😔

[@changinglifestyle6675]

You'll have different problems and different challenges in marriage. Enjoy your time at home x

[@laibarani9441]

Good x

[@muzin1258]

I love u guyz

[@ashandpai]

Love you too❤️❤️❤️

[@abbieg3945]

You look like a girl version of Bretman rock I can’t unsee it now haha

[@ashandpai]

Trust me neither can I since a few people have said it 😂🥰

[@aysatogi6503]

you are so cute

[@ibrahimsayah1915]

Thank you

[@ashandpai]

🙏🏼❤️

[@aliyahoosein4693]

MashaAllah my sister the little things matter...I'm going true a suicidal thoughts over months now when my bf broke my heart in too a million pies💔I wish my mother would understand feelings she never take th time to sat down and ask me what I'm going true😭😭I wear a mask it's a smile but if someone actually cared they would be able to see its broken💔People only care when you're RICH BEAUTIFUL OR DEAD😭😭I'm here for anyone that needs it💯✔I wish someone was there for me when I needed it th most...I pray that Allah SWT OPEN a good door for me with peace love joy and happiness😭❤❤Ya rabbi i don't need a man who would give me A Rich life but someone who would love me for who I'm and treated me right and who would bring me closer to you☝️insallah Ameen☝️🤲❤❤

[@suha_iqbal]

I'm sorry to hear your story sister. I've been through similar experiences where I had no one who could listen to me. Specially my mum or my family members. I went through alot of depression in the past. It's really sad but Allah is always with us. Talk to him. Cry to him. He understands more than anyone could ever understand you. I wish I could be there for you or anyone who feels this way. Smile and appreciate other little beautiful things in your life ❤❤❤

[@ashandpai]

Allah is always with you! May Allah make things easier for you and guide you. Do things that make you happy! Everyone loves you ❤️

[@aliyahoosein4693]

@@ashandpai thank you so much my sister love always❤

[@muzin1258]

Cute couple ❤️💕 ever

[@ashandpai]

Thank you❤️

[@Bonyourscreen_]

Mashallah, remember me 😀

[@ashandpai]

JazakAllah! Not sure give me more details haha

[@Bonyourscreen_]

@@ashandpai i commented on your mental health video and told u i was a new sunscriber and that i wouldnt go anywhere

[@ashandpai]

I remember that comment! Just went through your KZbin channel and absolutely love your videos!!! If you don’t mind me asking were you from east London at all?

[@Bonyourscreen_]

@@ashandpai no, i have never lived in london. Me and my twin are from Milton Keynes, 1 hour away from london 😁

[@ashandpai]

Oh wow that’s crazy I knew twins form London that looked so so similar to you guys!

[@AnnzzLyfe]

OMG did u guys blow up? I think I subbed to u like a 2 months ago or less u were on 7k right? Or I’m imagining it😭Idk

[@ashandpai]

Haha we have grown fast alhamdulillah it’s amazing!!! ❤️

[@zaynabelmi9619]

Why cant I not find their Instagram page on their description?......am I the only one🤔

[@ashandpai]

Ayesha’s is @EmpoweredByMyself and My(Pai) instagram is @Paea.m

[@fatemaahmadi2081]

like you videos

[@ashandpai]

Thank you ❤️

[@BrianDonato]

Awesome perspectives! I just finished up a Parenting Series on my channel that I hope inspires & encourages parents to dominate parenting from the inside-out, just like this video has. I hope our videos are useful to parents out there! Just subscribed to you too.

[@ukproduction8306]

Hey bhaji im usman from lahore i think you know who i am. I live in Qasir bhai street rayyan 😊😊😊

[@Mano.mano11]

11:34 .....200% accuracy

[@moon22lightt24]

How old r u

[@ashandpai]

25

[@asmairachaudhry4658]

Assalam o Alikum I am from Pakistan I am a girl My parents abuse me aloot They hit me alot and my brothers I am 18+ I use my younger sister tab I even don't have phone I don't have permission too study Now I am in my Mamu home I went to my home for 4 days and omg that was worst They said really bad words too me This is alll because I love someone They don't listen to me at all they just hate Mee I just don't wanna go back home that is hell 😢 my parents brother don't even talk too me

[@ashandpai]

I’m so sorry you are going through that I know it’s very difficult in pakistan in some places. I will make lots of dua for you may Allah help you and guide your family❤️

[@asmairachaudhry4658]

@@ashandpai thank u so much ❤ and thank u for understanding Mee ❤

[@amaniibrahim5599]

If you need someone to just talk to I’m here for you just dm x_amanix_ you are loved 💕🥺May allah make it easier for you

[@Guleza]

If Islam was only about covering your hair than it would have been a nonsense religion. You guys think that covering you hair makes you look like a Muslim then i recommended you to wear a cap becuasw i don't see a difference. Pls respect the hijab it's not only covering your hair it's your whole body and your neck and everything