Parents Did Nothing When Their Older Son Bullied His Younger Brother (Also a Golden Child for Mom...

[@risingwind8943]

Forcing reconciliation is about the most toxic thing you can do in a situation like this. It has the exact same flavor as the bullying. It is basically saying to the bullied kid that his horrific experience is worthless compared to his abusers feelings. This is obscenely twisted.

[@77wolfblade]

Exactly pushing off the person's feelings as well as ignoring the fact that actions have consequences.

[@Zurround]

When you are the one who has badly wronged a person it is your VICTIM that gets to determine conditions of reconciliation (or if and when it will happen AT ALL). ONLY the victim gets to decide this not the perps.

[@harleyquinn5774]

It’s a straight up ambush.

[@Vipershadow1]

Stupid and toxic it more often has the opposite effect.

[@sarahebrahem7162]

That actually happened to me, my sister SA'd me when I was young and I was in denial for the longest time, until one day I confronted her In front of everyone and she said she actually did that and went in a crying fit and was acting like she is the one who got violated, and my sister's and mother were trying to comfort her, and immediately they started telling me I had to forgive her since it happened a long time ago and she is remorseful, it didn't help that I live in my parents house and she visited 3 times each week, and kept bugging me to forgive her and got angry when I told her I'm not ready, I didn't even want to lay my eye on her but it sucks that I'm dependent on my parents and they are really strict and didn't let me go outside much and socialise and create connection with people, and online I was getting monitored by that abusive sister that I became so scared of even writing comments and liking posts، it's ridiculous I know, but I got tired mentally and physically from the constant bugging from every direction I was like I'm gonna treat her normally until I can find some semblance of independence in my life and get away from my toxic family, she's not the only one who abused me, I have multiple siblings who abused my mentally and physically, but that had a very shocking impact on my life.

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

Yta. You can’t force your children to reconcile just because you want it. It’s more about absolving themselves of their poor parenting than anything.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Or “saving face” by trying to look like they are sane and caring when clearly they are neither.

[@queenrhubarb1676]

The “family” excuse is so stupid.

[@uwetheiss970]

Yeah, I read this "argument" so often. "But FaMiLyYYyy!". Where was the family when the abuse happend? I always hear this when the victim is getting blamed.

[@damnmolony]

It's funny they always makes 'family' excuses when they're not doing their part of being family

[@SnowyWolborg]

Exactly. OP was not the victim in this conflict, so she doesn't get to decide what healing looks like for the person who was on the receiving end of the harm

[@laquietagray9323]

Where was family when the bs was going on and why didn't they do more to stop it?

[@Olimar92]

Yeah, they don't care about family when they throw the OP out of the house without any evidence for what the Golden Child says they did, but will use that when they think they can get money out of the kid.

[@lindah3803]

Story 2: Commenters are praising OP for standing up to his brother and parents for insulting his baby. Where was that backbone when brother was insulting his wife. His parents didn't say anything about that. Yes he did Daddy up to protect his baby. He sure didn't Man up to protect his wife. After OP's Dad saying he hopes OP ends up on the streets, hopefully now he can Man up and go NC with all of them, plus any other family member that contacts him defending his parents and brother.

[@iseaflames]

This is the comment I was looking for if he let them disrespect his wife to both their faces how could he possibly expect them to think his kids were off limits. This is a case of too little to late.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Exactly. He should protect his wife AND child. She should have left him rather than stay and have a kid with him.

[@lindah3803]

@@iseaflames The commenters praising him aggravated me. It's W T F, did you miss all the time's mentioned that his family insulted/slammed his wife. OP basically did nothing about it. I agree,why should his baby be off limits.

[@lindah3803]

@@princessmarlena1359 Or at the least,refused to go to their house.

[@lazallewillemse3617]

I was thinking the same thing. You stand up for the baby, but not the wife?

[@Only1199]

Of course Joseph doesn’t want to reconcile, and of course Ezra didn’t do anything to other kids, wanna bet that if he did bully the other kids, the parents would punish him for bullying them.

[@RequiemPoete]

It's possible he choose Joseph because he knew Joseph could be intimidated into silence.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Totally. Favoritism and scapegoating.

[@princessmarlena1359]

@@RequiemPoete Or if Joseph had complained to the parents at first, they would have most likely trivialized it with “JuSt IgNoRe It!” or “Oh, that’s just how older siblings act!”, or worst of all “Oh, ‘BOYS WILL BE BOYS’!”

[@jamestown8398]

OP, his wife, and Ezra are all YTA. However, I think letting Joseph stay with his grandparents was the right call. He was safe and loved there.

[@user-bn4cs6zu6r]

At least OP learned (had to be shamed for it, but, better late than never), can't say the same for the ex-wife.

[@skylinefever]

YTA: You want reconciliation? Make a therapy that actualy f-ing works. Pay your son whatever he demands to cover the cost.

[@user-qq2ic2vd7y]

I feel so bad for the victim in story one. He got to keep a good relationship with his parents and his other siblings. He had no repercussions besides being grounded for literally attempted murder. He broke his brothers arm and could’ve killed him. The other siblings are terrible because the bullying wasn’t happening to them so therefore they didn’t care. And just like most victims people are trying to guilt them into forgiving the bad guy and are treating the victim like they did something wrong.

[@eddiesuen3711]

When parents call their children a "bastard" what the hell does they make them?

[@cocothedino_2901]

before i was born my grandma and my uncle on my moms side would get into screaming matches a lot and my grandma would shout “you son of a bitch!” and my uncle would just smile and say “youre right” and she never got what he meant lmao

[@Zurround]

My own mother was so stupid that she would call me a son of a 🐝👁✝🧲H. Um... What does that make HER?? I never dared point that out for obvious reasons

[@AirQuotes2962]

"You're a bastard!" "You are correct, sir!"

[@morganleanderblake678]

yeah. so. people LOVE to point at autistics who are nonverbal or walking into stuff and think they know EVERYTHING about autism. Nope, it turns out that the "creepy" they were sensing was just ignorance about how she's different.

[@jeancorcoran6017]

Literally! Her several interests, social anxiety blunt manner of speaking definitely giving 👀 and the friends picking up on that also just reveals their ableist biases

[@jeancorcoran6017]

Even if she isn’t autistic, point still stands

[@mickmash13]

I was looking for a comment along these lines. I'm autistic & was like, "Oh wow, that sounds familiar." There's a reason it's called Autism Spectrum Disorder. It presents in a lot of different ways, but there's a lot of ignorance & ableism around people who aren't "autistic enough." You're either nonverbal & walking into stuff or a savant. Most autistic people are just people with different tendencies/behaviors than the norm.

[@RepellentJeff]

Story 2: …Is it possible that OP is an affair baby? He’s the only one in that “family” who *_isn’t_* an AH, and everyone keeps using “bastard” as an insult.

[@manutd316]

I'd agree they kept shoving that word in his face

[@djomega8462]

I wondered that, too.

[@BrettHarvey-u6c]

Ezra is the first born son. He can do no wrong. Ezra is a bully, parents knew about this, chose not to deal with it. Parents are EVIL. SIBLING RIVALRY is terrible. If I complained, I was the problem, screw you.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Exactly, and the “consequences” for Ezra were a joke. He should have been sent to military school or to a work farm for bad kids. His possessions should be sold off and the money used to compensate Joseph. Ezra should be banned from ever contacting Joseph again and disowned, disinherited, and permanently kicked out of the home at 18.

[@ToadKings]

⁠@@princessmarlena1359isn’t that a bit harsh? Like I understand military school and having his stuff sold but kicking him out as soon as he is 18 and disinheriting him is a bit far. He bullied his brother yeah but like isn’t that a little much, sure he broke his brother’s arm but that also doesn’t constitute not being a parent. If he were to be completely fair, i think his punishment was ok but maybe yeah send him to like military school or put him on beyond scared straight type of show to show him the direction he is going in. Forcing reconciliation is not okay but abandoning your child also isn’t okay. They both were in need of good parenting and a safe environment.

[@princessmarlena1359]

@@ToadKings I personally don’t see it as harsh, though I had a very strict upbringing. Also at 18, you are NOT a child anymore.

[@devondyer9201]

I think the issue is that Ezra was only in sixth grade when he was caught. Unless your child murdered or Sa'd a person you shouldn't disown them at that point.

[@LattePunch]

3rd story, I have never in my life heard someone calling somebody "unjealous" as a negative trait. Something is up with ruebin.

[@crystalgemgirl731]

Yeah, he wants to go out with her, me thinks...

[@bobfg3130]

He likes her.

[@kgomotsosekonya9435]

There was a video where this ND woman said that psychopaths apparently tend to hate ND people because they can't figure out their emotions and therefore can't manipulate them properly

[@Mischa21xo]

Why do SOOO many people seem to correlate forgiveness with having a current relationship with somebody? you can absolutely forgive somebody, yet not want anything to do with them for the rest of your life because their actions have consequences. You can absolutely forgive somebody, but never ever speak to them again. Forgiveness does NOT mean you must have a current relationship with them and speak to them. So many people truly need to get that through their ignorant heads.

[@mrsw2923]

Demanding forgiveness only twists the knife in the abused.

[@Zurround]

I posted above that ONLY the VICTIM of terrible abuse or betrayal gets to decide terms of forgiveness or reconciliation and that can include NOT AT ALL.

[@morganleanderblake678]

From what I'm seeing this is a culture clash. Born pre 1985, you were taught by a lot of USA that family is sacrosanct and we must always find a way to heal the family unit. That's just not healthy and it's not how things should be. Sometimes you break a relationship and it cannot be fixed , full stop. No one owes a parent or a brother a relationship.

[@uwetheiss970]

I was born in Romania and live in Germany and I am born in 1985 and I also was told this nonsense. Took me years of therapy to cut contact with my abusive spermdonor cause I thaught I was wrong. So your statement is true in other countries as well.

[@faithlesshound5621]

Ah, that explains the American obsession with "Family Therapy" as the cure for all ills.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Bojack Horseman was right. “Family is a sinkhole, you should get out while you can.”

[@SnowyWolborg]

That's because no one wants to acknowledge the reality that more often than not, the first bullies or abusers that people will meet are likely going to be relatives. Even those who don't come from old fashioned honor cultures are deeply ashamed to be known as the one in the neighborhood with the broken, dysfunctional family.

[@aleksandarvil5718]

Joseph = NTA *_"parents"_** ( including OP !!! ) & Ezra Made Their Own Bed, NOW They Must Lie in It !!!*

[@LordMondegrene]

I was told I could not disconnect by my sister, because "we're family." She is the abusive one. She is also a child psychologist.

[@brianbarber5401]

You can tell her to pound sand and get lost “Family” is an excuse abusive AHs use.

[@LordMondegrene]

@@brianbarber5401 I did just that two years later, after reading my old journal entries that recounted her trashing me on my birthday. Deliberately. ... to make me hate the day I was born.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Sorry to hear that.

[@thecajunphoenix]

Tell your so-called sister to pound sand and then go no contact with her and the other toxic blood relatives who use that excuse. True family does not abuse you, and your so-called sister lost the privilege of being called family when she made that statement.

[@ktmmatt7243]

Story 1: OP should have sent Ezra to military school and disowned him. I'm sorry but when a bully turns out to be a sibling to the point of a broken arm and threatening to harm the other siblings to ensure silence from the bullied one, there is no excuse. If there was any chance for reconciliation, it would be Joseph's call all around since it was he who suffered the most. YTA

[@ryangooseling]

Staring gf: congrats she's neurodivergent. Alice will be an awesome gf.

[@crystalgemgirl731]

I say, dump Reuben, he's a bad friend.

[@Papabear4564]

Ezra doesn't get to heal, he's the one who caused all the harm, Joseph gets to heal

[@kikiblue7169]

he can ask forgiveness but the brother doesn't have to give it. he doesn't owe you or the abusive brother forgiveness

[@geminiblue]

Story 3 - either Ruben likes OP or he senses his friend has found the one & he's scared OP is gonna be consumed with his romantic relationship, become distant from him & he's gonna be pushed into the background

[@a_noelle8595]

Yep. I'm with you here. Ruben is the red flag for several reasons. OP is a huge green flag!

[@pushkalvasudev790]

I would have responded to the father "bastard? Well looks like the apple didn't fall farther from the tree"

[@GMWILD87]

Story 3 fuck the friends.

[@leazimridaniels8552]

Scrolled too far to see this comment

[@GMWILD87]

@@leazimridaniels8552 yeah the algorithm doesn't like me because I won't censor myself so it buried my comment.

[@djomega8462]

I was torn on this or to defend the friend. I went through a similar situation where an ex-friend of mine started dating this guy who gave everyone - EVERYONE- a bad feeling and made us all uncomfortable. I approached her (w/o him), told her how I felt but that I'd defer to her since she knew him better. FF 6 months: he put her through a lot, got her to cut ties and burn bridges with almost everyone she knew, and she ended our friendship of 18 years. I have no idea what happened to her or where she is now.

[@melindaflick631]

Story 1 - OP sounds so PASSIVE! I hope Joseph cuts all contact with him... I also wonder how the heck Ezra ended up like that, though.

[@Echo_9]

2nd story I hate when people ask the stupidest question if they the asshole

[@marrero8100]

He insulted his newborn nephew in full view of his friends and family, and he's not at fault? WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH HIM?

[@nick-brothwood]

@@marrero8100 He didn't just insult the baby. He was straight up racist.

[@marrero8100]

@@nick-brothwood Racist or not, insulting newborns is effed up.

[@user-qq2ic2vd7y]

How about in story one Joseph gets to push his parents and his other siblings down the stairs and then gets to treat them like crap and bully them for two years. And then they should immediately forgive him and everything goes back to normal.

[@greeneyelove2003]

Wow. OP in the first story is clueless or just determined to ignore the fact he dropped the ball with both kids. But the youngest son really got screwed.

[@eastfrisianguy]

"What do other people think about that?" - "Let them talk behind my back and admire my bubble butt!" ... I had this discussion so often with my father 😂😂

[@LocksAndChains]

Forced reconciliation should never be done. It never works out. Back in high school, I horribly mistreated a peer due to my twisted unrequited crush on him. I made myself the victim when he fought back. I deeply regret it now and hate myself over it. Part of me wishes I could apologize. But the best apology I could ever give him is to stay away. I keep his name secret when telling people the story, cuz I’m terrified that some do-gooder will try to do this: a forced reconciliation. I will not allow that. I want him to forget I existed and be happy. Abusers who try to seek forgiveness are assholes.

[@princessmarlena1359]

It’s one thing for an abuser to want to make things right by apologizing to their victims and do what they can to set things straight, but they should never do it because they expect forgiveness. I’ve had some former abusers try to do this with me, but I would tell them “I want nothing to do with you. Your apology is noted but not accepted, nor are you forgiven by me.” A couple of them were okay with it. Others became furious and told me that I “had to forgive” them, to “be the bigger person”, and one or two even said “do as Jesus would do” (I hate them the most).

[@dustysimpson7864]

So E is your golden child too, not just wife.

[@chrisester2910]

Newborn bully story: is OP his father's actual child? The word "bastard" was thrown around a lot.

[@PiscesMoon2You]

You really want to Help Joseph? Help him get restraining orders against Ezra, mom and siblings.

[@user-qq2ic2vd7y]

You could tell they didn’t care about Joseph at all, and neither did the siblings since they just abandoned the kid at the Grandparents and the abuser who could’ve killed him pushing him down the stairs, got a slap on the wrist.

[@PiscesMoon2You]

@@user-qq2ic2vd7y yeah Ezra is probably a Ted Bundy in the making.

[@princessmarlena1359]

OP doesn’t really want to help Joseph, just make it look like he is helping him so he can save face to the public. Joseph should write a book about that awful family.

[@distortedriolu4618]

Story 3 Girl is a little quirky but normies are scared. Sigh XT sounds like small city folk

[@mauriceb3135]

Story 1 tell the world youre an uncaring pos without saying youre an uncaring pos

[@margaretsnewtoylynnparks5336]

Story 2: I have heard something like that! THEY will always be more important! Every time! THEY want the IMAGE!

[@margaretsnewtoylynnparks5336]

Thanks! Someone else gets it! Wish we did not know this stuff!

[@Kofi_Mensahs_BurnerAccount]

In story 2: it’s time to go NC. Brother is the golden child. There is no hope.

[@DragonJohn]

"My parents called me a bastard" Uh what? then who's my dad?

[@RetributionRadio0289]

Parents need to prioritize addressing sibling bullying for the well-being of all their children.

[@STEALTHrabbs]

Yes, and willfully pompous. It is cruel and ignorant to force your child to be buddy buddy with his abuser. That is a special kind arrogance that is grossly arrogant and selfish.

[@susioeandno1else]

Op3 wooo shiny spine alert

[@NessaEllenesse]

For his own peice of mind, Joseph needs to let go of the anger, pain, and resentment before it eats him alive from the inside out.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

“Social services” are big on reuniting or keeping families together. Many times they do this to the detriment of the child so if THEY demanded the two boys live apart, you know it was really bad. It was likely way worse than what OP claims. Ezra was likely an extremely violent, troubled child.

[@kirby-luvr]

Story 2: OP has so much restraint. If someone made fun of my SO and baby i would go to jail for aggravated as*ault lol

[@thewaywardrogue6430]

Story 1, OP is DEFINITELY the obliviosly malignant AH. Joseph owes you NOTHING!!!!!

[@colinayre2109]

Story 2: Question, how the hell are they ‘forcing’ you to go? Like how? Do they own your house? Do they pay your bills? If they don’t, they can’t MAKE you do anything. Grow a spine, tell them all to F off and go NC with everyone and live with your wife and kid.

[@PiscesMoon2You]

Pronounced it Are-See-Hole 😂🤣😂🤣 I Love it.

[@bangel5217]

Am i the only one not understanding what the hell the dude in the background is doing

[@bangel5217]

@@fallowfloof that much i can tell what confused me was the constant destruction and re building and it happens in all of their videos Most of it just doesn't make any sense 😕

[@bobbymoore8]

2nd story: those of you out there saying it’s a made up story, is it because he said they racially insult their baby? And if so is it because you think racism doesn’t exist anymore? If so can you tell me right now in the past year you haven’t heard any of your family or friends make any racist comments or jokes? I had a coworker who’s grandfather was black but looks very white and kind of things he says our other coworkers say behind our backs you’ll be shocked. And these are people who act nice in front of us.

[@darthbiscuit]

It's great to see OP get a fresh perspective on their dilemma and make healthy changes based on it. Too easy for the ego to not allow it.

[@w7100]

story 2 is clearly from India

[@billcutting2681]

18:34 YTA for ever taking it like a bitch and letting him be awful to your wife

[@princessmarlena1359]

YES! I broke up with a [former] fiancé for that.

[@morganleanderblake678]

ffs I hate the second family so much more.

[@morganleanderblake678]

yay we're just enabling a cycle of abuse cool

[@malifex9922]

"Arsiehole" made me CACKLE at 7am lol!

[@livetoserve966]

2ND story. i would have recorded that call from dad and posted that to every Social media site that translates to English

[@dehro]

The third one sounds like the Addams family origin story

[@MoonNightAria]

hearing "ate the same thing at every place you went" and knew it was hatred against autism

[@nessabell2848]

Story 1. The Mom viloated a court order. That alone is AH territory

[@harleyquinn5774]

Going NC is the only healthy thing a dysfunctional family can do. My Narcissist’s mom’s ancestors were the Slave Owners of the Old South. The post-Civil War generations are positively littered with multiple generations of siblings going NC once both parents were dead. My sister and I are the most recent edition to this family legacy. My paternal grandfather’s family tree had no such issues. *They* were the Quakers & Abolitionists.

[@nikig2891]

Easy to want reconciliation when you’re not the victim.

[@wanderlust3292]

Do you kept the bully and the victim had to live with his grandparents? Stop forcing any form of reconciliation

[@Jacob-rn6qf]

Let get this right you sent the victim away instead of the brother responsible 🤦 yta

[@jordanvictoria5]

It’s not your call about reconciliation. He is a victim and may never want to forgive his abuser. What you need to do is show your son he is loved. You also need to understand that while you and your spouse may not have known what was going on his other siblings did and they kept the secret. He probably doesn’t want to talk to them either.

[@IzzyPR2010]

OP claims Ezra went to consulting and was told tht his behavior with his sibling was normal? He broke his brothers arm, that is not normal, that could be life threatening if allowed to continue.Either OP is lying or those counselors need to lose their licensee..

[@andreavanhoof6047]

1st Story: Parents are so stupid for this! The younger sibling had a right to go no contact with his brother and parents! Too little; too late for remorse!

[@MajinDKes]

Nah Ruben likes you

[@darronpattel]

the third story it seems like the best friend is either trying to act like a mother hen or is trying to get with her on the rebound after convincing his buddy to break it off...

[@19floyed]

Story 1 NTA he did right by Joseph, he didn't force reconciliation he asked Joseph if he would forgive he brother and he listened,, they protected Joseph from his brother and obviously he still had a good relationship with OP because he talks to him more than any other family member lol they just wanted to jump down his neck for being a bad parent when it seems like he's the only one who actually listens to Joseph out the whole family which is crazy

[@TheChimeraDude]

Story three sounds like your best friend subtly poisoned the well with your other friends.

[@DeeBraynt2010]

Story 1: I suspect that they made the Entitled Brother the Golden Child after the incident with the uncle because something had happened due to the rumors. They're so accustomed to Rug Sweeping his ish that if they admit he's in the wrong they will have to admit that they failed as parents to OP and have now failed as grandparents

[@jemase7931]

Let's see Ezra was acting up, so Josrph gets kicked to the grandparents. And now, you want to ignore Joseph's refusal to reconcile with his bullt. Oh, yeah, you are a AH.

[@silverwinterwolf2064]

HARD YTA. The parents kinda just want this entire problem to just be ignored and brushed over when its really a serious issue, they are no better if not worse for even ALLOWING this behaviour to happen.

[@Rose_Bride]

*Story 1:* It was completely DISGUSTING the way OP kept asking his children, _"What do you want me to do?"_ 😩 It's like the kids were basically raising _themselves._ Did he REALLY require THAT much guidance in making decisions?

[@pattyramey6694]

2..nope you need to stay away from your family. Your mom,dad and bri along with his wife are trashy bullies.stop giving them your time .keep your baby safe

[@apathicmiko6546]

Last story: when op described his girlfriend I said to myself "is she autistic? And that's what weird out his friends?" I discovered I'm autistic a while ago so I can see the clues more clearly now

[@highlandermyphone4361]

I feel personally attacked by the Alice story 😆.

[@Asperger0815]

What I find highly more disturbing than the actual story is the video itself. It looks like someone who tries to build something and just forgets midway that he is doing so.... What the fuck is this?

[@dumplingyoo7014]

op shouldnt called themself parents. if i were joseph i would cut contact and disowned them since long ago. op is full of himself. what you think better to you not implied to other people too, if they want to reconcile, let ezra the one who approach him. dont interfere

[@vlkafenryka788]

Story 2 to paraphrase words of Chris rock I’m not saying it’s right if you were to introduce his face to a sock with a lock in it … but I’d understand

[@diehardfan56]

Moral of the story, never have kids...

[@tmajuru559]

Preach! People aren't really willing to do the work of raising children right so, please for the sake of society and mankind, don't do it!

[@Abce-hq6oz]

This is highly likely just my paranoid side talking, but isn't it odd, how she suggested doing something the guy would like, didn't seem surprised the guy didn't like her and at the end OP just decided on his own to distance himself from his friends? In my mind it sounds like she checked his phone, therefore knew what to do about the freaked out guy and manipulated him into thinking it would be good idea to distance himself for a while

[@MrKy85919]

Hard fail for the parent's my god they are horrible

[@VetaRoberts-sj7sw]

He doesn't have to forgive him. Yta

[@jazzie-sanbelle99]

S1 definitely, yta I'm be the one cheering if said child keeps nc with y'all S2 nta you're in the right with your feelings and standing up for yourself 👏 🙌 nobody needs toxicity in their life S3 omg i just cannot 😮

[@maxwhite8616]

OP1 actually doesn't sound that bad

[@jemase7931]

"dad srarts OPa bastard" Who was he insulting?OP or his mom?

[@debrapayne6533]

I have 2 boys and they are not friendly to each others they had a falling out when one was in freshman and the other one was in seventh grade; I have mentioned to them to try to get along but they do not do I just leave it along

[@vlkafenryka788]

Story 2 go make up with dads bro …start calling him dad/grandpa

[@yuki.VM12]

1 the staring: there are tones of people who just stare at the partner or even pther people they love just cause without any reason its not creepy (to me personally) if your fine with it theres no problem 2eating the same meal: as a picky eater i cycle between like 2 different meal everywhere i go so she cpuld simply be picky or she just knows what she like and wants to get that when she gos out thats not creepy at all and its weird that he would think that is 3 the unjealous thing: its a little weird but she could be totally secure in your relationship she could be someone who just doesn't care or maby she didn't even realize it was flirting so a littler weird definitely not creepy tho 4 the poisin/murder thing: nowing tones about that doesn't atimaticly make you creepy its the reason your interested in it that dose (definitely doesn't make you a phyco tho) Also its possible some of these things are from a undiagnosed mental disorder like she might be autistic or something

[@deathdrivesapontiac]

1st story is lazy parenting at its finest

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

last: but like all males he is thinking with his eyeballs. she may well be ok but he needs to just be careful. i'm a little leery of the descriptors OP is using in regards to 'A'. autistic? I believe in the almighty gene

[@RicShaffer]

S2 ..no your the whole for not standing up and putting your bother in his place whether by hook or crook you should of handed him consequences years ago ...so your failure to do so earned you the treatment you got

[@philipstiller6386]

All the reddit comments are "why didn't you just kill ezra"

[@missourimomofthree]

Reuben is jealous.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

#2. OP's biggest problem is listening to his gonad donors. but this is how they are raised. it is a blind spot we have. tell the 'P's where to go.

[@Vikashar]

Ezra went on to become a Jedi

[@YGJ360]

So you kept Ezra, the bully, but Joseph the victim was sent away to live with his grandparents. Joseph is under no obligation to forgive his brother. Just because your family feels it’s “ healthy” to have the brothers reconcile doesn’t mean that you know what’s better for Joseph than he does. His grandparents better understand the situation and his feelings because he basically grew up with them. You already failed Joseph. Stop failing him now. Stop trying to minimize how Joseph feels. Just because Ezra is really to reconnect doesn’t mean Joseph is. Tell your sons to stop the phone calls!!! Joseph doesn’t need to be harassed further!!!

[@harleyquinn5774]

Grandparents aren’t likely physically strong enough anymore to handle a problem child like Ezra.

[@shadesofjade]

23:05 girlfriend is neurodivergent.

[@RozaDarken]

story 3, those are all superficial reasons to not like soneone. if a reason to break up if u dont like the things shes doing, but he likes all the things she dose. but autism can put non nero divergent, and even other nero divergent, off