Parents screaming at You | Nouman Ali Khan

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[@HaveSabr]

Your face is a window into your heart ☝🏼

[@juveriabegum1561]

But how are we supposed to respond It just doesn't boils my blood tear my heart into peaces I always ran lack of sabr I can't explain how it feels 😪

[@qubaobei]

@@juveriabegum1561 May Allah grant us ease. AMEEN

[@HaveSabr]

@@Redmi-yl6jnFull Video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/h5-0n3WDm6iqb9U

[@aniqa71596]

@@juveriabegum1561yes same here and afer so much sabar we are just do the same back but what can we do we are also human we have limits of days and tears only

[@Gersei]

I have one message. "Yelling doesnt show dominance. It shows weakness. The calm mind is stronger then any substance."

[@beautyclover]

Right

[@Amy623]

Exactly! Parents yell because they have allot of anger inside of them that they never dealt with. Most parents needs physiotherapy!

[@cookiemonsta638]

@@Amy623 so true! In Islam we believe that strength isn’t determined by physical ability, but by how well you can control your anger. I just like to think about how parents tell their children to control their anger as kids because it’s not nice, yet the parent yells and screams at the child anyway! It’s like, what do you expect your child to do if that’s what you’re showing them? How would you feel if your parent was screaming at you? Then later in life they wonder why their child is so rude to them, well no duh! Some can really be hypocritical in that sense and it’s sad to see that this is the norm. Some adults lose all discipline as soon as they don’t have their mommy to reprimand them anymore, and forget that there’s still God watching over them.

[@elvin2010ify]

Well when it gets physical abuse then calm mind not helpful then

[@umnasaif8875]

Yes my mother yells and start getting loud when she knows she's wrong just to shut the other person up

[@Servant__of__Allah]

May Allah SWT forgive all our sins from minor to major whether it was intentionally or unintentionally and secretly or publicly Aamin ❤️

[@mojibullahahmadi9418]

Ameen

[@nrl_edits3958]

Ameen

[@sadafshakil6417]

Aameen

[@Muslim_Identity9]

Aameen summa aameen

[@madihaansari8403]

Ameen

[@Amy623]

If parents are abusing you verbally and physically how we are supposed to learn to respect them?

[@mayda2060]

We should leave

[@lomon9027]

It takes a lot of time but it's worth it. You learn patience and earn the love of Allah..also you should try to stay away from them for some time if you feel like you will say something bad out of anger..

[@Amy623]

@@lomon9027 I have married at the age of 17 just to get away from them. I had therapy and started to practice Islam. Alhamdulillah I do speak to them and respect them from a distance.

[@lomon9027]

@Amy623 may Allah bless you immensely. Allah knows best about what you are going through or what you went through, so don't be too hard on yourself. May Allah (Swt.) heal your heart.

[@AnonymousMaiden]

There is something called boundaries

[@Reejix]

“How you treat your parents is how your children will treat you. “ Imam Ali (AS)

[@superwin3826]

That is what I have heard for the longest but I have yet to see it. It’s seems very true

[@thishandleistaken1011]

It's more often the reverse. The way people treat their kids is how the kids end up treating the grandchildren.

[@tazeenrashid2055]

And I'll treat my children better than the way my parents have treated me

[@jabreelyusuf14]

(RA)

[@Isirsizitsitreed]

​@@thishandleistaken1011stop the cap old guy

[@sumaiyasabri6279]

May Allah purify all of us from arrogance and pride.

[@nimrarashid552]

If its occasional it's bearable but not on a regular basis especially when you are ill. It takes a toll on mental health pretty badly

[@missminu2303]

May Allah make it easy for you dear.

[@yasminberrytic6157]

Sorry but it’s human, why can’t parent communicate with their kids without yelling and humiliating ??? The fact that you are silent zith an ugly face Means that you are not feeling safe to speak your opinion Not that you didn’t say anything because you don’t have anything to say A kid/adult is a person not a wall and shouldn’t be a punishing bag to their parents

[@nimrarashid552]

Its just a clip not the whole lecture so we can't say much he also talks about mental health of children as well.

[@yasminberrytic6157]

@@nimrarashid552 I’m commenting on this clip not the whole lecture If this clip is misrepresented then the one that made it should take it down My comment is valid

[@nimrarashid552]

@@yasminberrytic6157 oh yes thats true

[@yourmuslimahukht3352]

In case parents are not that understanding. We as children should always remember to treat them with the best behaviour for the sake of Allah, anything less than best is sinful. Someone being silent doesn't necessarily mean they're feeling "unsafe" rather they're controlling their words so that it doesn't come out as hurtful. Considering the amount of sacrifice and hardwork a parent puts in their child, A child has no right to be rude to their parents no matter what they say. Ofcourse we can correct them if their wrong and try to communicate with them but that doesn't means we can fight or raise our voice. Ofcourse even parents are not allowed to be unfair to their children, but this video is regarding haw a child should behave if the parent is not being just in the moment.

[@sololevel817]

well just dont be dumb if u do something stupid and u get yelled by your parents and u get pissed at them. like first of all who do you think got you to where u are, fed you, bathed you, took ur shit and cleaned ur ass ur mother and father should be everything to you

[@mariamimi8497]

Why are we ALWAYS putting pressure on kids to respect their parents and not putting the same pressure on parents ? Like it should really be the opposite cause Kids are never abusive, they come out of the mother’s womb pure and innocent, and that’s when the parents start to project their unhealthy fears onto their childs (fears they shouldn’t have), project their own insecurities, yell and get angry over their child’s different opinion or over something so little instead of empathizing with the child. It should’ve the OPPOSITE !

[@the.most.high_4311]

سبحان اللہ الحمدللہ اللہ اکبر SubhanAllah Alhumdullilah AllahHuAkbar Read this (33, 33, 34x) and gain rewards.

[@Belingoal]

My parents always yells at me for something small, but he doesn’t yell at his favorite childs 😔

[@yourmuslimahukht3352]

Brother we are here to win the favour of only and only Allah, don't worry if your parents don't favour you. Insa Allah

[@Amy623]

​@C.L.O.U.D Most parents are very abusive to their children. How is that tracking children anything? The child is only developing resentment and hate towards his parents and then parents wonder why their children misbehave. Allah doesn't like anyone oppressing anyone even if the opressors are our parents. Parents need to heal their generational trauma before having kids. They need deep psychotherapy!

[@0_psh]

​@@Amy623Most of the parents do thsi when they get old. We should focus more on what the Quran says about parents when they get old. It says do not even say uff, if only saying uff is bad image how worse is saying more than uff. And yes it is indeed difficult but your parents are the gateway to enter Jannah. And sometimes we don't really understand them maybe there could be something that they are worried about but donot share with us. Just do it for the sake of Allah.

[@anonymousnation5235]

I was always a favorite child. And I'm only realizing now that over protection is a prison, it's not a blessing.

[@theexplorer1476]

Mostly it's just anger , a couple of my friends have some of the worst parents in existence, just yelling and swearing at them most of the time , sometimes for no reason at all. So i guess kids reach a point where they are just fed up.

[@the.most.high_4311]

أَسْـتَـغْـفِـرُ اللهَ وَ أَ تُـوبُ إِ لَـْيهِ Read this dua 70 times a day.

[@hanayuuki790]

Whenever im with my dad i can joke and rarely ever raise my voice nor act insolent but whenever im with my mum, i would prefer not being near her especially whenever she's doing work in case her emotions are unstable and the one nearest to her will be yelled at or degraded for not able to help her that instant. And oh boy she holds no patience or care if we busy or not at that time. So yeah i just leave or go into my room so I don't have to deal with the anger and yellings. There are times i replied back indecent ways but very rarely because you know i just lost it at the time. Rather than her saying thank you, she started telling more stuff to do, my brain just lost all patience because i just wanted to eat and said "you're welcome" because all i wanted was getting thanked but she lacks of that a lot among her children,. making me hard to say nice words to her. They're right, how you treat your parents is how your children treat you but i also would add how you treat your kids will mirror how your kids will treat you.

[@marium2815]

I just use to cry while they yell out

[@AnonymousMaiden]

And then they yell you are weak and you just know how to cryyy

[@sparkles5548]

What are we suppose to do ? Smile at them when they’re yelling at us and saying terrible things to us.Being silent is the best option we have left. Children are not always the problem!

[@hamzamalik7305]

They should also understand our feelings and situations

[@yourmuslimahukht3352]

But in case they don't, is iit alright for us to yell.

[@hamzamalik7305]

@@yourmuslimahukht3352 hmm

[@huzaifaimam1569]

​@yourmuslimahukht3352 No brother it is kabira gunah . You can't hurt your parents. Allah tests everyone differently. We will certainly test you with a touch of fear and famine and loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure quran 2 .155 The sahabah had to handle so much pressure both emotional and physical. You are nowhere near them . They ate leaves for survival. You think you will go to jannah so easily. Wallahi, paradise is not so easy . Once you become independent then they will love you even more, tryst me .

[@the.most.high_4311]

Rabbi innee limaaa anzalta ilaiya min khairin faqeer O ALLAH, indeed I am in need of whatever good you send upon me. Read this in difficult times.

[@romanakhan_]

Dua for parents. (Surah Al-Isra 17-24) رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا Rabbir hamhuma kama Rabbayani Sagheera "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small." May Allah make us look after our parents and treat them with kindness!

[@binod4348]

My parents just say we wish you were dead to me many times 💔and I just cry lonely

[@Patricia-en8qk]

😢❤I’m so sorry…

[@sumk66]

I get this too

[@the.most.high_4311]

رَبِّ إِنِّى لِمَآ أَنزَلْتَ إِلَىَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍۢ فَقِيرٌۭ

[@user-er3rs1pn9x]

May Allah allow us to never disrespect our mothers.

[@dontreadmyprofilepicture9928]

SubhanAllah

[@tuflihoonahmedpm9roll-297]

Then what do you expect? They call us anything and we cant even see???? And doing that kind of behaviour with your child is ok in islam? I dont think so

[@nuhabashir7677]

I agree

[@sun92852]

I think he means that we can tell our parents how we feel about how they treat us and tell them they are doing something wrong. BUT you should do this in the most respectful way as they are your parents.

[@tuflihoonahmedpm9roll-297]

@@sun92852 parents are never wrong - this is what our culture teaches our parents,so they will never hear out me until I protest on the behalf of my own

[@mazn714]

@Rumi Shaikh Assalamu alaikum, what if they keep humiliating you constantly? Until you break down crying and then being called dumb and stupid over that as well? Should I just cry about and feel stupid and dumb? Because I wish I could speak to them properly but they laugh at me and mock for everything I do. I just want them to hear me out.

[@mazn714]

@Rumi Shaikh jazakillah khair, I was just worried that because of the way they treat me that I would hate to do my duties to them because facing them in itself is really tough and it only causes arguments and makes it worse. Dua is the only hope there is to it then...

[@LallaHind]

No if it’s unfair.. say something just stay calm! When prophet Yusuf had the woman lying about him he didn’t just sit quiet he said no she actually came after me infront of all those VIPs 😊

[@hajaamiekamara1224]

thank you for sharing this wonderful story with us and for the love of God

[@maximus5465]

Children need a voice too!!

[@tayibatmufutau3077]

masha Allah tabarakalla

[@AhamedKabeer-wn1jb]

Jazakallah KHAIR

[@babarazamsucks]

I end up crying in silence actually and look away from them.

[@navidghazizadeh8805]

love this guy❤

[@qubaobei]

SubhanAllah Alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar

[@Umtalia06]

May Allah guide me 💔

[@gtxg.]

This doesn't make sense as you have to show at least some emotion, like its impossible not to

[@Calvin_M.]

Ikr, sometimes parents just cross the line too far 😭😂😂

[@abelievereverrising283]

Just always remain polite and diplomatic. Allah says to be good to them even if they command you to commit shirk. But don't obey them in that case.

[@kalims2775]

What if your mother had shown some "emotions" when you were crying at night hungry. Did she let you starve? You can't return their favors, so at least be grateful and polite.

[@gtxg.]

@@kalims2775 Bro feeding your child is a human right like what is she supposed to do let me starve

[@yourmuslimahukht3352]

@@gtxg. so you're just gonna be ungrateful for her actions as "oh she's supposed to feed me anyways, no big deal". She didn't have to feed you. She could've just left you alone. How can you insult your mother's love like that

[@TonniAkter-hn2fx]

I've been searching for some advice regarding this matter .... Thanks for this advice .

[@katrinarawls3632]

My own Irish dad held this belief, truth knows no bounds

[@AlHijazi954]

ربي ارحمهما كما ربياني صغيرا My Lord, have mercy on them as they raised me when I was young

[@JosheabbasAbbas]

❤❤❤

[@cc.929]

My friend parents are important, but remember not every human goes to heaven. So some human parents are abusive and coolant towards their children. Or even kill them. So there is sometimes a point in love u have to run.

[@apia300]

Tx!

[@adijahidi1215]

Subhanallah

[@muhammadhassnain3908]

MashaAllah

[@fathijessy3908]

where is rest of the part

[@thishandleistaken1011]

Not a fan of this. Children are human beings too and it's very possible the parents are doing something wrong and setting a poor example.

[@uttam_k766]

True ☝

[@anonymousnation5235]

It's hard to maintain a positive smiley expression when your heart is breaking and you wanna yell and cry at the same time. What did I even do to deserve this? I'm in this world because they chose to bring me here. They should know that their words and behavior hurts me. I won't say anything but I won't control my expression either. It's abusive.

[@ZeeKay1430]

Rather than yelling back if possible you can sit with them when you are both calm and explain how their screaming or yelling hurts you and also for them to know this because we don't want them to be punished for their words or actions, it's so they may also ask Allah for forgiveness aswell as from you before they and you stand in front of you creator, I pray for the children and our parents to try our best to be of good manners and character bur we are not perfect and whatever anger we feel is not going to be justified once they have left this dunya, I know it's hard but they raised us with however they knew best, you only have one mother and father, for every hurtful thing they have done remember the hundreds of good things they have done. And Allah knows best.

[@BeansPredi-ch6xk]

I’ve explained a thousand times. Abuser continues to abuse.

[@bruhziz3503]

سبحان الله

[@Unknown09466]

How long can we just control it's also hurtful to child when your own mom thinks of you as a competition and wants to put you down in front of whole family even in your own father's eye and she succeeded cuz we can't say anything we can't explain. Our side of story

[@W4SDYTofficial]

I love my parents but they beat me and yell at me which make feel kms😢😅

[@I.M-bn2dl]

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤❤

[@minkahumad5576]

❤

[@toxyz9490]

Omg he nails it , that’s how it is 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jamesgallarde9590]

ANGER is a sin

[@businessboy46290]

no it isnt anger is an emotion you can not change your anger but committing a sin because of anger is wrong

[@Xarahtu.]

Astagfirullah

[@mamunhabib7348]

So I am supposed to tolerate my manipulative and abusive mother

[@tororo1064]

Can someone give me the link to the full video?

[@afreenjaved7422]

Is that even fair...

[@amanifatima1402]

“Friday is one of your best days. It was on it that Adam was made, and it was on it that his (soul) was taken, and it is on it that the Trumpet blows, and it is on it that the Swoon is. As a result, enhance the frequency with which you send your Salat to me, because your Salat to me are given to me.” “O Messenger of Allah!” they exclaimed. And how will our Salat be delivered to you when you have passed away?” “Indeed, Allah, the Mighty and Sublime, has forbidden the earth from (destruction) the bodies of the Prophets,” he said. [Ibn Khuzaimah #1733 and Ibn Hibban #910 in their separate Saheehs, and Hakim in Mustadrak 1/278 He added, It is authentic on the conditions of Bukhari and Zahabi agreed.]

[@abelievereverrising283]

It would be better to restrain our anger and not even give your parents a bad look. Just be humble and either speak politely and reasonably or remain silent.

[@sumk66]

Easy to say

[@SleepyMario]

😅😅😅I’m changing myself now.

[@gussxp7647]

Then I would just close my eyes?

[@Patricia-en8qk]

Good point😂

[@yuuki7565]

And what if she's disrespecting everything dear to me including islam at that moment... I know I shouldn't do that, I dony say a word but my blood really starts to boil when it comes to islam

[@sumk66]

Just move away as Allah comes first and if she's saying bad about Islam keep. Distance from. Her

[@mkhan9764]

✔️✅☑️🤷🏾‍♂️😇

[@Abdul_Rehman0728]

Have easy

[@Theolivegirl19]

So what should 1 do when he is really angry?

[@thetruth389]

Be patient

[@AyeshaKhan-ip1kh]

What do with unfair parents

[@nayaa3965]

Sabar.. Dan berdoa kepada Allah supaya mereka berubah..

[@nimrarashid552]

Tell them respectfully when they are wrong if they don't change pray for their guidance and mentally distance yourself from them so they don't affect your peace. When you by Islamic standards of justice know that you are right it will give you peace. For some humans their parents are a big hardship. So learn more about what is right and wrong Islamically. This will give you peace

[@yourmuslimahukht3352]

Have sabr and try to reson with them. We cannot really do anything regarding it. All we can do is ask Allah for help

[@dysonmaxwell7030]

Ture

[@jayjoshi479]

Ur taunting at kids 2 respect their parents. Respecting ur children is mandatory in the Quran. Taunting in the Quran is Haram.

[@gwfatin9410]

You know why young people are accusing islam? Because of this one sided things

[@stephenbishop7153]

I think you gave an example of what the liberals call a micro aggression.

[@tonyarutti]

SO THEN WHAT DO U DO, THE HELL??? Just sit there? And take it all?? R u insane?

[@maheshep1051]

astagfirullah

[@jayjoshi479]

Ur expressing pride and arrogance by taunting at kids to respect their parents.

[@Patricia-en8qk]

I disagree. Parents shall know better.

[@mayda2060]

Look..when you're abusing your children ..you can do that

[@matasanasulala9538]

These kind of videos i don't like to watch ,it's a trigger form me ..Parents need to start learning somethings about mental health and how their behavior affect their children

[@shahanaparveen3518]

No no

[@wolfop4427]

I just looked down

[@_mooo_akh]

SubhanAllah

[@abdualrefaee109]

MashaAllah

[@sobersoda7843]

♥️

[@shahanaparveen3518]

No no

[@thetruth389]

“No no “ what ?