How to Escape Abusive Parents | Nouman Ali Khan

[@Ukhti333]

I love my parents but they have honestly physically emotionally and mentally damaged me…

[@fahadihsan2483]

same and it hurts. i cant stop crying since i realize they were toxic

[@zaidkhan107]

Same with me, May Allah bless patience & ease. Ameen 🤲

[@koulfehad_7238]

Fuck parents

[@patriotlightning7791]

Your bravery is admirable ❤

[@n.t.a2528]

It hurts to I can relate keep making dua to Allah for a way out that's what I'm doing ❤

[@thunderballzz]

My mother has never shown me affection. She would turn my father against me to the point where speaking to me was forbidden. She forbids me to marry so I may take care of her. Whenever angry she will do the silent treatment for years if she has to. My father has passed, and now I take her to the doctor, pickup her medicine and anything she needs. It is time to distance myself as I cannot bear anymore mental abuse.

[@supermunie4096]

I'm going through something similar with my mother...my father talks to me with contempt and a hint of disgust in his voice....my opinions never matter...and when it comes to marriage she says, you'll embarras me! And what kind of tribe I shouldn't marry..turns the whole family against me....I want to leave home and never see them again

[@nafeezabolia9724]

May Allah reward you for everything you have been through.Folliw your gut instinct and ask Allah to guide you.

[@zumeraaa]

Feels like a disconnect with what abusive relationships are like. You can’t draw a line, respectfully or otherwise. If it were possible to draw a line, they wouldn’t be abusive. If they respected boundaries, they would be reasonable.

[@sidraqsa]

👏🏻

[@Moeezay]

What if the child's mental health comes on stake and starts causing physical impact on a child as well and if then a child decides to leave home to save himself even then is he considered a sinful person in the eyes of Allah?

[@shizaafzal1584]

I am under the same boat, I can't grow in this household.

[@farahmehar4239]

@@Sarandib22you are brave, i wish i could do that, SO PROUD OF YOU!!

[@nabilc1667]

If you just couldn't do anything else, then Allah is the most Just, the most Merciful. If the situation could've been resolved but you chose not to, then Allah is hard in punishment

[@amirsidiqui9136]

Same situation

[@ramshashahid2803]

same boat but im a girl cnt leave house

[@aimanmunim8866]

My parents are abusive to me form my childhood. They put different guilts under a umbrella of protection. When I know I wasn't foing wrong anything. I kept my mouth shut. I just surrender to what they say you don't need to do this you don't need to go there .. This sounds nothing but the way they insults me in streets on station for crimes I never committed... Like May Be I was a way. May be I am having a relationship. May be I am doing some nasty stufff and alll.. Upto this age of 24 years now I became an arrofant child who doesn't listen to her parents at all..Alla the time when I talk to my father and even when i Don't he spit abusive words that a person even can't imagine of listening to. Because I was never respected by a male figure not even my brother in my house I become many times vulnerable to toxic stuffs and even I can't realize. I am a person who never gets love from my father. I look for in other male figures when they offer me and it sounds me good. Because my father didn't to treat me rightly and make me guilty of things i hadn't done. So i started to do those stuffs. Because thet were crossing the boundaries that much that i was unable to bear. When i cry I cry to extent that my ovaries started hurting. I lost my beautiful hair in this process. When I wake up I have a lot of hair on my pillow just because the stress i was under . Now he has started to spit abusive words more and became a shakii insaan more. I say them I am now 24 ... Found a guy for me and make me marry from my mouth. Because even if they do something good I am unable to cherrish because of the time I was in amd still facing. They don't bother to do things for me. Just do whatever feels good for him. Engage all the time in sexual needs at home and don't consider at all that his children are young they feel so. I got distracted manytimes because of them . I felt horny amd I don't know what to do just because they don't take this thing carefully. There a alot other thinsg. I have mever crested boundary and now I am facing this with my other relationship's to. i am unable to draw a line or allow them taling advantage of me... Even if I do it takes a lot of effort. By keeping my mouth shut Now zi became a perosn when I speak I don't say good words to them them. I cry to Allah .. I councel my self but damage to my own character has beeen done now. Allah knows what I jave suffered.... What I am suffering from......

[@Whatsmyname567]

My mother has absolutely NO RESPECT for any boundaries that I set, but I can't leave her because I'm all she got, like literally. It has come to a point where mine and my children's safety and security are at risk. Don't know what to do.

[@nafeezabolia9724]

Set your boundaries and stick to them.Narcisistic people are very shallow weak individuals.May Allah help you.Aameen

[@tanjelaakthermukti5088]

Who will make them understand 😔😔😔

[@Ukhti333]

My parents would never understand …

[@richelle9563]

allah knows my pain. help me allah😢

[@Noor-y1p7n]

Allah always A capital name of the only King of all the worlds please always A capital

[@elane288]

@@Noor-y1p7n yes we use a capital A when referring to Allah

[@sarahbouraima3892]

ALLAHOUMA AMEEEN YAH RAHBI ALAHMIN ❤❤❤

[@Mus322.]

What do I do if my mother wishes and keep saying me may you die ? All my life I have been having biased parents I was never their priority I was the least for them faced enough in my life

[@manojmurali7462]

We keep talking about our strong cultural values and family in front of westerners. But we all know the nonsense we deal with underneath

[@irimfiaz951]

Parents are terrible- evil men are for evil women for real

[@bemindfulmuslimah]

Is there a full link on this lecture?

[@shafiqahruzanaisyah4093]

full lecturer please

[@lookbehindyou7313]

Does anyone know how to send a message to the sheikh please help

[@Scorpiotail]

Honestly, using this logic the child is expected to be the adult, and the adult is never expected to take responsibility for their actions 😔 sad. Why can we not simply hold the adults accountable? Being an evil parent is the perfect crime because no one will say anything to you.

[@MahrukhNisar-c1b]

LOL.. I wish it was that simple..😪

[@sottie9597]

SubhanAllah ❤

[@anon014]

My mother expects me to give her money every month yet she still have my father and we're not that poor. I want to make my own savings money, me and siblings have to start from zero because my parents don't give us anything, just our own savings since we were born. They keep label us as rebellious when we don't give them what they want yet they don't love us that much, keep complaining that we're a burden to them. Its hard Allah. I hate them but i love them as a child and parents only.

[@HewaadNiazi]

I gave up on Islam my parents practice sihr and are kuffairs mother slept w family members Father maid claims about my deen to lock me up at the time I was a practicing Beliifing Muslim My sister slept w multiple enemies at the age of 12 my family is about 40 w brothers sister loyal parents I’m one just one I ask Allah why

[@bemindfulmuslimah]

Brother/sister, that's heartbreaking. I obviously can't do anything to pull you out from such situation. However please kindly read w/ indepth understanding, QS Dhuha and QS Yusuf. The first surah, I pray that it will give you hope, and the latter surah is about being in abusive/manipulative environment.

[@ramshashahid2590]

Despite of all this try to come back on religion atleast just least you can do.. come back.. recite kalma again.. May God Help you

[@nafeezabolia9724]

Love yourself.Put your feelings first. Do not spoil your deen,dhunia and arkhirah because of them.Islam will give you peace and tranquility. May Allah guide you always.Aameen

[@zahir1016]

May Allah make it easy on you,Please just come back to Islam,Please,Akhira is better than this life,every struggle is a reward from Allah,please don't be depressed,Allah is with us Always,Please say Shahada Again,please Allah is Merciful

[@faizanzafar6365]

Son n daughter can't do anything they should respect no matter whatever happens or how much loss they impose on u

[@AK-rw8pg]

You’re insane

[@aaaahunagi9224]

Bullshit

[@faizanzafar6365]

@@AK-rw8pg I Kno

[@jeonghanandbaekhyunsWife]

I think you are enough spoiled by your loving parents.. but not all of us has that gift.

[@faizanzafar6365]

@@jeonghanandbaekhyunsWife I agree