Parents Talk About Teen Suicide Prevention | Jason Reid Speech | Goalcast

[@katalovesresets7487]

When I got my diagnosis of depression after a failed s. attempt so many years ago, they just told me I was lazy and I hadn't any right to be in a bad mood or depressed or sad. 10 years later (I'm 26 now) I'm still not ok, just 'living' and still not able to talk to them about anything. They just don't care about how I feel cause 'they suffered a lot, worse than me'.

[@weezer1109]

It’s likely you’re parents have unresolved trauma and are expending all their emotional resources in handling their own issues with very little “left” to share with you. Of course, they may never admit to that. I don’t have an answer. But I can tell you that being depressed is not a privilege or luxury item only reserved for those who feel they are suffering “worse” than you. You see the lie in such a belief, yes? You’re not lazy and have every right to your emotions. They make you human and relatable.

[@NEVERMORE666S2]

how is ur life now?

[@joshnagenmurugiah4531]

You are a great guy, Jason. Your words are divine.

[@hehe8231]

As a 13 year old, that has really bad anxiety, to all the parents: DO NOT run in on your child trying to talk to them about there feelings and trying to help them out when they are relaxing, for example watching TV, reading a book, on KZbin, texting a friend. DO NOT, take things that we get enjoyment out of away from us (but if we're doing some sort of messed up, out of order thing you can take it away from us). If you take things that we get enjoyment out of, we will only go deeper in to sticky situation. and please STOP over protecting us so much. PLEASE give us the privacy we need and only talk to us about our feelings at the right moment because the majority of the time we are hiding them. in this video (no hate) some of the stuff is wrong and as a suicidal teen hiding behind my phone screen at 2:00 in the morning, GIVE US OUR PRIVACY or we will try hide things better from you.

[@Malaka300]

How would you suggest a parent approach a depressed child?

[@usurpererenyeager649]

@@Malaka300 I'm not sure if I'm qualified to answer this as I haven't been formaly diagnosed with depression or anxiety. No matter how much I feel like I'm depressed I still haven't been formally diagnosed. I will tell you from my experience though, It's extremely important to me that when I open up anout my feelings, is that it won't be opposed. The last thing I want is people saying that "You're not really sad", or "You're just lazy" or "It isn't that hard". In my opinion, yes it might be easy, yes maybe I'm being lazy, but that doesn't change the fact that somebody might want to die, or feel that nothing matters. I want to be acknowledged and understood. I find nobody really understands me, and the last thing I want are people who think they've got me all figured out when they don't know anything at all. I want people to ask for my feelings and take them as what they are, don't dictate what I should be feeling or what I should be doing. It really makes me refuse to open up anymore. If somebody says they can hear my probkems out then they better hear my problems out, not tell me I shouldn't have those problems because what im going through is "Not that bad", or say that "You've got it better than most people". Sorry, this has become less of advice and more of a rant. Feel free to keep it in mind if you want, it's just my opinion. Nothing I say is fact.

[@spxtra1159]

@@Malaka300 first let the child know that being depressed is not just a feeling or a disease that they have. share your experience, but dont try to compare them. that makes a kid feel like you’re downplaying how they feel. just help them understand that you know what its like to be sad or lost, and make sure to give them confidence in the fact that you aren’t just their parent, but a warrior on their side of the battle, a friend, a therapist, and a caregiver all in one. The most important thing is to just not assume how they feel, dont tell them how they feel, just help them find the source and overcome it.

[@itl5196]

I don’t think it’s “wrong” per se, it may not be specifically what you need but I think every child is different. Essentially the message is don’t ignore your children, have the hard conversations and make sure they know they’re loved and cared about. Know what goes on in your child’s life. I hope your anxiety has gotten better and you’re no longer depressed/suicidal. Everything you wrote was super articulate and well described, thank you!

[@Ezonandez4432]

@@Malaka300 as a 14 year old who feels depressed and suicidal every day I think you should be ask your kids that not KZbin comments because while there are similarities between people with depression everyone is different and A lot of times I feel like the best thing would just be for an opportunity to tell my parents what I want them to say or ask me

[@tovopro]

Ask your child specifics without needing to be too specific. Ask them on a scale from one to ten, what number are they feeling? And go from there. Asking a child how they’re feeling is a good initial step, but expect a vague reply. Also, never deny anyone of their feelings. Reassure them that the way they feel is ok and that it isn’t wrong to feel that way. Be clear about that.

[@sarahbentall3419]

This dad is amazing. If I saw him I would look him in the eye and say it's not your fault. I thought it was my fault when my dad took his own life. I thought it was my fault when my best friend took her own life but now I am at peace with it now. You know what I hope they are both at peace now.

[@bokchoiman]

The last bit there is probably the most important out of them all. Being honest. Not only does honesty release you of the burdens in your life, people become attracted to you because they feel they can trust you.

[@personma5012]

how can i send this to my mum without sending it to her...

[@tarunsarma7388]

Oooff I know right 😁😁

[@mariee.5912]

Subscribe her to the channel. She won't know. Or just talk to her. Your mom would be glad.

[@CuriousCat777]

Make another email account. Talk to someone you trust Write a letter of what you would say to your mom

[@rudomarufu9052]

Same

[@erickingston7910]

Just send it

[@itsdoc5506]

This is really great. I liked the idea of not waiting for the "systems" in place to change. Start with yourself because you have feelings too. Try, try again and try some more, change will happen.

[@velvetpaws999]

One of my exchange daughters (international high school exchange years) had very close ties of friendship with her senior year class here in the USA. The one boy who graduated with maximum honors, absolute top of his class, was in my house the night the kids had a celebration graduation party there. All of the kids seems nice, relaxed and had great fun. Four months later, we found out that this boy had hung himself in his dorm room in college. No letter, note or any explanation, why. The other kids of his class were so under shock that many of them needed counseling. I think he may have ended his life, because he was at a very good college and only the top of the best get to attend it. In the midst of this group of brilliant kids, he may not have been able to preserve his "star status" as the brightest. Maybe the realization that he could not keep his top position made him fearful that his parents had to find out and that he would disappoint them? I am guessing, but nobody even in his family has any explanation. It also does not matter, because we lost this vibrant young man, who could have had a wonderful life if there had been anybody in his life who had paid attention and helped him when he needed it most. Too late now.

[@littlemissrocknroll744]

if there's something I know, it's that life is difficult, very difficult, every day there's something difficult, but also, there are beautiful things in life, and I'm only 14 years old, with a history that goes from self medication, self-injury, many suicidal thoughts since late childhood, for plenty of reasons (exclusion, bullying, neglect, social anxiety and several other things) I can say with certainty that it is possible to avoid, that it is possible to interfere, to do the right thing, we have to stop caring only when It's already too late, so all my support for this gentleman doing something so noble, in such a complicated cause to say the least, really makes me very happy to see these issues getting more attention

[@ARBanks80]

My adult sister attempted suicide and I have a BA in psychology and saw the signs but didn’t act on it. This video not only applies to kids but to others. Please share this with your friends and family. Let’s focus on stopping suicide instead of Co-Vid

[@mohafilibin5176]

Help!!!

[@Trixiesongzxoxo]

Wow your a horrible person...

[@fionahendry8431]

Self care men is very very important too!!!! So that you can be mentally well ,deal with all the responsibilities and your kids can see that self care is important xx

[@gennyclement5919]

For the man that said (such a erroneous statement) that he's not emotionnal! I would respond...you are human, you "have" emotions, so you are a emotionnal being. The choice that you make to denied them or to pretend that they are not there is yours. Don't pretend you're not emotionnal because from what I know, read, listened, saw every person who believe that same frame of thoughts have either explode one day...regret it on their death bed...or become a shell of a the human being they once were. So keep working on you buddy. I send you love, you need to heal. 💛

[@rayrichardson6440]

My father and stepmom only took one point from this.... Cell phone is the base of everything.... God I am more determined to die😭🔥

[@rebeccabaker1093]

I sure hope not. Your more than what your parents do or don’t do. You have sooo much to offer this crazy world. You at your young age already can see things your parents are not. You could help so many others struggling because you understand. Your valuable- worth more than you know…. Please stay here this world needs you

[@jacobrichardson611]

Hey bro I saw this comment even though it was a year ago how are you doing?

[@erikmartinez6726]

Hopefully you are feeling better, Ray. I know that you may not believe me, but you have a purpose in this life. Now, I can't tell you what that purpose is because everyone is unique and will take different paths in life. God also has a plan for you, and I just hope that you might realize that someday. God bless!.

[@tuasiviioapo8575]

Jason Reid. Would you please consider coming to New Zealand. We have the highest suicide rate per capture in the world. 75% of our stats are men and teenage boys. We dont have men who lead in this area in our country. You are more needed in our country than any other man in NZ right now.

[@CuriousCat777]

Just a suggestion dear friend. Could reach out to local leaders that can take in this task? You yourself can become a reporter/ spokesperson of the subject.

[@JWIA67]

I'm in a wgtn suburb, when trains go thru they slow down and honk their horn due to the amount of teens that have laid down on the tracks there, boys and girls

[@frankteng]

My father stayed in China when I moved to the US with my mom and she and my aunt who raised me only spoke mandarin while I adopted my new cultured and mainly spoke English and let my mandarin Knowledge rudimentary so I couldn’t have any meaningful connection to my family. I’ve only been able to learn through my own logic and research how to deal with these things. Philosophy and making friends have been helping a lot but I’m still learning and if I ever have kids it would be essential to prepare them for the future ahead

[@ping7o]

I think he spreads a good message and not enough people are getting it or taking it seriously. For example: I have a pretty big family, therefore, I didn’t a lot of attention growing up. My parents didn’t really show any emotions or weaknesses either. So, because of this, I felt uncomfortable to talk about my emotions and even to talk to people. I always feel uncomfortable when people cry or talk about something really important to them and it has effected my relationships with friends, family, and “partners.” It sucks because I’m actually really young and this has already been embedded into my thoughts and into my life. I’ve always wanted to have someone to talk to, but whenever someone actually tries to help, I just push them away and hate myself for it afterwards.

[@kdulanjaya6112]

I know what it is.. I'm 18 and I know about this teen mentality.. My parents love me. But they never can't understand me. They supply all my outside needs and they don't know my inside. It's very painful. Sometimes suicide is the only way. But I'm trying to live. Plz parents help your children. When you help your children, they will come to you and they ll cry on you. They will love you. Parents, you can make a lovely world by loving your kids. In can't find good things from my family, but I will never let my children to be like me. 💝💟

[@weezer1109]

Your seem to know your parents actually do love you, but feel they don’t understand you. Why do you think they are misunderstanding/not seeing you? What are they doing wrong? How might they help you or love you the way you need to be loved?

[@tjohnson5788]

This is so real

[@Karthik-kt24]

That KZbin thing at late night is accurate... It's 2:30 am here Spending time on KZbin and ... Then feeling guilty that "I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do..and I have become irresponsible etc. fuels Suicidal thoughts.... And having a Brighter past...where you were dedicated to your work... excelling at almost everything and now you have all Resources but you're Wasting time on KZbin makes me think of Dying.... So it's easy for me to say that Stay away from phone at night...all I want to say is that Keep doing your Work...Excel at giving your best ... Results don't matter if u have given your best....It gives you a sense of satisfaction .... And learn to heal yourself...

[@nelsongeada4930]

Cleaver anwser.. Learn to heal yourself.. I will only say something for you to think.. "If you aren't happy with the results you having.." CHANGE the way you are doing.. Otherwise you will stay in the same place over and over.. Don't be afraid to fail.. Failure is part of Sucess.. Peace

[@luckysaad1876]

Karthik I personally feel the same way

[@CuriousCat777]

DIACIPLINE IS KEY. I feel very guality too. Solution for this is start replacing bad habits w good ones. Less internet more books. Less sitting around instead exercise,, clean closet

[@gustavooro1069]

Great information to share.

[@samueloreland5034]

"Extreme ownership" shout out to Jocko

[@usurpererenyeager649]

The fact that there are so many 13 year olds who feel depressed including me says a lot about the mental state of this generation.

[@curiousuniverse7415]

Me too 13 yrs old. But I am not depressed since I meditate. I really feel pity for my friends who blame others and parents. They are as stupid as adults. You don't have to be stupid. Their work is to make you depressed. Shouldn't fall for the trick. Toughness is the only way we can change the way the generation is. Don't blame the system, BEAT the system.

[@usurpererenyeager649]

@@curiousuniverse7415 Yes I agree though of course if you're actually being abused or harmed in some way by parents or others then that's a different story

[@awkwardautistic]

It's societal. Kids have no purpose anymore... they're in the house constantly and behind a screen all day. There's not enough human connection.

[@usurpererenyeager649]

@@awkwardautistic True! I forgot about this comment, but I'm definitely doing much better now. I was very young when I wrote this comment, and still am very young. I didn't know enough back then and probably still don't. It's very much like the Dunning-Kruger effect in that way, but although I admit and am now more aware of just how much I don't know and how much growing I have left to do. I'd still like to share my opinion and viewpoint on things currently. I'll continue in a later edit I have to go

[@usurpererenyeager649]

Ah anyway I'm back, as I was saying. First of all on my past self. I should really stop sharing my age on the internet as it makes me prone to being taken advantage of LOL. Secondly, I do want to correct myself when I talked about "this generation. While it may cover a good portion or maybe even a majority, as I don't have any statistics to back up my claims I should stop making blanket statements for groups like "This generation". And should be more informed and careful in my words to avoid accidentally hurting and misleading others with my words.

[@jacobrichardson611]

I don't trust people enough with my emotions

[@velvetpaws999]

When I was about 9 maybe, black and white TV made its appearance in my little village in Germany. It was so mesmerizing to all the villagers, that the poor family who had the TV put up with the entire village every evening, standing all the way down the hallway of their house, all eyes riveted on that little black and white screen. They would not even leave when the program was over for the night, no, they even could not let go of that "control screen" of stripes and blocks that was aired when no TV program was on. I have to say, even though I found it intriguing, I never caught the bug... I thought of it as the 'story telling box', and for me that meant, nothing real, just fantasy. For my niece, who grew up with TV from the day she was born, this is a totally different position. As she said to me once, when we talked about this: "For us kids, the TV was on the same level as the parents. Everything the TV told us had to be true. We trusted it and believed it all." She said that she had to come to understand that TV is not the dispenser of absolute truth as she grew older and more mature. However, I think that this is the situation for the majority of young people: they can no longer discern between a fictional story and real life events. It is all blurred. Reality TV is not reality. Whatever is on fb is not the truth or something to be embraced by all, just for the sake of getting a "like". The lines between what is real and what is not have been so blurred that kids can watch a movie with hundreds of shootings with Kalashnikovs and likewise see news from a war zone, where the same thing happens, with the thought that ALL of it is just a virtual reality show. I can see this around me, when I interact with young people. I believe this is one of the factors that these kids are depressed and also disoriented in life at large. 15 years ago, I returned to study at the local community college. Of course, I was senior to all those young kids by a few decades! Often, while hanging out between courses, I would engage them in conversations about their lives. I found out that absolutely all of them were on some kind of medication, mostly for lack of sleep, for depression and of course, ADHD. When I told them that I had never taken a mediation in my life, this was sensational to them!

[@annatevesbanzon1359]

Thank you for sharing. Very relevant

[@Paulo-pv8db]

12:37 - Spot on. This will be a long text, but if "Only one life is saved" it will be worth it. If you're not concerned about suicide, depression or anxiety...just skip it and move on the next comments. Only the first 4 lines below are about myself. The rest is information that people should be aware of. Scientific stuff. I was against giving a cell phone to my son. But i was defeated ( not convinced) because, the answer i got from the entire family was: But everybody has it!!! It's harmless...NO IT ISN'T!!! I still get mad at not standing up against it. Do you know what is Dopamine or Serotonin? Did you ever heard or google the term "Digital Dopamine/Serotonin"? Just google it. Simply put, they are responsible for releasing substances in your body to make you feel good. These are crucial for a healthy Brain and Body to function at it's best. They have roles in sleep and memory, as well as metabolism and emotional well-being... "Function of serotonin in the brain" Serotonin is an important chemical and neurotransmitter in the human body. It is believed to help regulate mood and social behavior, appetite and digestion, sleep, memory, and sexual desire and function. There may be a link between serotonin and depression." Source: www.medicalnewstoday.com Just like most of the ilicit and some licit drugs. Yes, a simple cell phone, depending on the amount of time, it's no different from consuming ilicit drugs or giving them to our kid's/teenagers. But, 99% of drug addicts wouldn't be able to keep using drugs all day long, everyday, because of financial reasons and they wouldn't last for too long. Wanna go for a ride with me? keep on reading, this might change/open your eyes... So, think of your body as a vehicle. And your "Fuel tank" instead of "Fuel" is filled up with a limited amount of Dopamine and Serotonin. What would happen if you got in your car, and go out for a long drive and there were no "gas stations" on your route? You would eventually run out of "Fuel" (Dopamine / serotonin), right?. Running out of THIS FUEL, messes up your entire Body and Brain. Your mood, sleeping pattern, hormone release, etc. So, back on "the road" when your body is finally our of "Gas" you have arrived at a Dark Station called "Anxiey/Depression". Ok, so you know somebody who seems to be depressed and you take them to a psychiatrist, which is probably going to prescribe Antidepressants.... How does some Antidepressants work? "The antidepressants inhibit reuptake of neurotransmitters through selective receptors thereby increasing the concentration of specific neurotransmitter around the nerves in the brain. One of such antidepressant is selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), which affects the brain serotonin level". Simply put, they try to "save" serotonin hijack caused, for example, by overuse of technology in your body." Source: medcraveonline.com Try to get a drug addict and take out all of his drugs. He'll go into something called "withdrawal syndrome". Google "withdrawal syndrome" signs and symptons, so you can get a glimpse of what is like. Remember, i am talking about "Drug Addicts withdrawal syndrome". Now, try to take out cell phones and computers from your kid/teenager or even from yourself for sometime and observe what will it feel like and compare it to, what you've researched about "drug addicts withdrawal syndrome". What you might observe is exactly the same, drug addicts go through. This is not just a coincidence. The increased rate of suicide, in every age level is increasing substantiously. Today is May 23rd 2020, so leave out the pandemic we are going through, because this will be decisive factor that will interfere on what i am saying here. So Why, as for even before the pandemic, suicide rates and depression/anxiety disorders were increasing? Because, brains can only giveaway(release) a certain amount of dopamine/serotonin and it needs time to reload (produce). On top of that, the less you move your body (exercise), less serotonin is produced creating a vicious circle. A lot of Tech guys have something called the "Dopamine/Serotonin Tatoo", which is the drawing of the molecular structure (Chemistry) of Dopamine/Serotonin on their bodies? Now, just think for a second...I.T and tech people getting "Chemistry tatoo's", that doesn't make sense, right? Just google it, don't trust my words...You'll find many "explanations" that try to avoid telling the Real reason. Now, hold on to your seats... 99% of the tech companies, even before launching their "Tech products" during the early stages of development, have a goal of reaching a specific area in your (our) brains, called the "pineal gland" to stimulate as much as they can, the release of Dopamine and Serotonin, so you can "Feel good" and ultimately hooked. It's so addictive that some people might even skip meals or don't feel like stopping what they're doing, and bring the food to eat while surfing the web or gaming. Would you offer alcohol, cocaine, tobacco, heroin, Meth, Cannabis, Crack or anything that could make your beloved one, a drug addict? From a medical (scientific) perspective, technology has become the "digital drug" that does exactly the same thing ilicit drugs do. Just using a different approach, but the goal and results are the same.To Hit the same "the pineal gland area" of the brain, that ilicit drugs do. Don't trust my words, do your own research. So, think about times before the internet. You would get bullied, outraged and you would try to get rid of that sensation by moving your body. Going outside, throwing things around, playing sports etc. You didn't know, but actually you were, somehow, unintentionally exercising, wich is one of the main physician advices for people dealing with Depression. Why? Because, when you move your body, you send a signal to your brain to produce more Serotonin and Dopamin, so basically you were healing yourself without even being aware of this. People have been bullyied since the beggining of human kind... But, what happens now with the kid's and teenagers? They get bullyied/frustrated (and they have all the reasons to feel like that), but now they go to the internet, where they may get even more bullyied, specially through social media. Or go after violent games, to get rid off this bad feelings. And the most succesful games involve violence, shooting, huting people. So, all in all it's a really really bad recipe. 1) They get a buzz out of violence 2) These games release Dopamine and Serotonin, reinforcing the vicious circle and basically locking them down inside the online world and not allowing them to exercise and produce dopamine/serotonin. This is a serious issue, but you'll never see an in-depth discussion about this. Get the statistics of suicide and school shootings, before and after Internet was created. I haven't done it, because i already know what the results are going to be. And, a final message fro the I.T. and Tech companies. Try to develop healthier alternatives to engage people and make money, because sooner or later, this strategy will end up affecting YOUR BELOVED ONE'S.

[@reaper_of_souls_gaming5697]

Lady your far off. Yes scientificly that is true from what I know. But the world was probably a lot different when you where growing up. But not in they way you would think. Kids are a lot more angry, depressed, etc but not just because of that. Kids have always been dicks thats just a fact. But they have gotten worse. Want to know why their home life is horrible. That causes kids to act out. Want to know what else to look up divorce rates, the amount of single parents, the amount of kids that don't get proper attention from their parents because they are both at work all day and where basicly raised by strangers. Also a lot of kids go to their phones to talk to people they feel safe doing so with. If you take away their privacy it just causes resentment, and them to bottle up their feelings. That's not even including how much higher the rates of suicide, homelessness, depression .etc in lgbtq teens because their parents won't exept them for being them.

[@reaper_of_souls_gaming5697]

It also does not help kids learn not to show their emotions from their parents. And so many more its a person to person basis thats why your wrong. I dont disagree that us as teens should not have a shut off time or times if they are in school until they get their stuff done. But while they have it give them privacy. Because they will find out about things at school they will never be totally sheltered. And by God if your kids come out don't end their lives by not expecting them, even if i goes against your personal things just try to exept them, it does not need to be right away. Just dont comdem them for being them

[@emerald6434]

*OK BOOMER*

[@hanniffydinn6019]

I don’t understand why young Male suicide is so high in the U.K. it’s confounding that people around that person don’t know it’s that serious. 🤯

[@deva_69]

The only thing I would like to say is giving cell phones to children is not wrong. I'm 17, so I do have some experience with the phone that I owned for like 5 years now. In my group I was the first child to get a phone. I would say that, that phone kept me away for alcohol and smoking. As I said I'm 17, some of my friends so drink alcohol and do smoke. I have never smoked for drank alcohol till date. Whenever I felt low I just open YT and watch videos.

[@weirdoaquaruis5967]

12:34 , i need to respond to that , the problem is not the cell phone , the problem is the lack of communication with your son , because if you both were open to each other, then anything he saw on youtube or any social media, he will tell you cz he feels safe around you , sharing his thoughts and what he discovered lately. For example, i dont talk to my parents at all. I used to hurt my self i did tried to end my life n stuff (i still do ..) but it’s because they dont care about my feelings, and im not allowed to cry around them or express what i feel . Which leads me to social media, i found ppl that are actually having issues similar to mines , i started reading and watching vids about it like this , im healing my self now , so its not only cell phones , its cell phones AND lack of communication, i swear ! Hope everyone a better life ❤️

[@MightyMako]

He mentioned the cell phone in relation to sleep. And he’s right, factually.

[@alyajoop1889]

It's true

[@alexb7336]

Wow ; now this… is amazing information.

[@sidhantvarshney4185]

As a Hindu, you are taught that the gift of life as a man is precious and is attained after various reincarnations , and is tied with many responsibility . You shouldn't run away from them but to accept the challenges the life has to throw in your path. This mentality is lacking in kids these days cause their parents don't teach them about harshness of life and tend to overprotect them. Hence children with mental issues are raised which are timid and take their own life in order to escape the harshness of the world . So teach your kids about the reality of life, connect with them so they won't commit suicide.

[@jafafafa9206]

Your right but not wholly so. I grew up with out my parents there to teach me. My dad was in the military and I never saw him. My mom checked out. She was there but beyond food I didn't exist. I grew up being told I was the mistake in my mom's life. That I was the reason they suffered and I should have been born stillborn. That I was the anchor in their life and if I didn't exist everything would be better. I grew up hearing that day in and day out for years. I checked out of life and had a plan in life. At 18 I was gonna get a job and with the first check get a gun and kill myself. I decided that when I was 9 and I almost did it. I never once felt that I had the right to live and that desiring that to me was wrong. If it wasn't for my amazing friend now fiance I would not be on this Earth right now. So yeah having parents who care to raise you or even if it's anyone is great but when you decide that your done forming relationships is hard.

[@havha4430]

You say that teenagers need more sleep, and that lack of sleep leads to more suicidal thoughts. The thing is, you need to think about the fact that suicidal thoughts and depression lead to a lack of sleep as well. My friend group consists of five people who all struggle with depression and anxiety. None of us goes to bed before midnight, most of us don't fall asleep until 2. That's not because we don't try. When I was at my worst a year ago, I stayed up because I couldn't fall asleep. I just wasn't able to. So instead of self-harming, I tried to watch videos on my phone or text my other friends. In fact, I think many times just texting my best friend saved me from attempting suicide. If you notice your kid is staying up late on their phone, please don't just take the phone away. That won't help. Then they turn to other things. Talk to them. Find out why they are staying up late on their phone. Use it to have a conversation about how they are feeling.

[@domagojhorvat1875]

Thru high school i never had a best friend. I was bullyed thru whole high school. I live i europe. Now i am 20 year old and i have had start heavy drinking as 18 year old to hide pain that i had. Still sometimes couple times a month i have sucide thoughts and its hard right now for me. My mother had a breast cancer and that hit me hard. When i think about that and about suicide and that i have no friend i cry. I didn't told my parents about my pain and emotions.. I thought about to killing my self but i didn't. I found a way to forget about suicide thoughts when i think about that. I found my way in music. I play guitar that is my friend to which can i talk. When i have sucide thoughts i take my guitar and i transfer my fealing to guitar and i wrote a wonderful piece of music. That helped me a lot.

[@domagojhorvat1875]

@Imagginary That what you said how it feels is the point. People who tried to commit suicide should try doing things what they like. For example I like music and fishing and going to sea and taking long walks. My guitar is my best friend until the end. I can talk to guitar and my fealings just go out. When i play i cry. That means that my pain is getting out of me. And music as you said is top thing in life I totaly agree with you.

[@CuriousCat777]

Stop self pitying yourself and go out and make friends. Forget the past and live in the present moment.

[@domagojhorvat1875]

247addiction I am not pitying I’m just telling my story. Now i am 24 i work and i have a lot of friend. I live in present i have my family who loves me. And I say to people put your head up and live in present.

[@Dan-vq1dr]

He reminds me of Michael de Santa. Anyone else?

[@sync3471]

I don't know why this got recommended to me by the comedically inaccurate youtube algorithm, but I'll leave a piece of my mind here. The times I've attempted suicide (and failed because I ran out of the chemical), I was just questioning life and how we exist. Here's how it goes: 1. I think too much. 2. I start questioning existence. (first two happen often, the third only triggers if I have negative emotions) 3. I get overwhelmed and want to find out the mechanics drawing this world. For instance, is there some sort of system like religion that does have afterlives/rebirths, or are we just an entity that happened to form by chance? 4. The curiosity is also being driven by negative emotions, and the only resistance is the fear that the possible outcome of the afterlife being negatively effected by my life on earth.

[@Talktopics2000]

Because a large percentage of parents don’t know the strategies to help their children cope with stress, and emotions. Some healthy coping mechanisms are meditation, healthy communication, exercise, positive reassurance etc. Some parents are unaware of the task at hand for their children’s emotional well being. These teens are being neglected emotionally in some way. You can have the richest parents and still a teen will suicide because the parents don’t know how to cope their kids emotions

[@Brodiesmh]

My mum would go to bed at 10pm I would be depressed thinking about offing myself until next day

[@GIguy]

I hate this poor man actually believes that it’s his fault that his son committed suicide, when the truth is, it is not his fault, not at all. It’s human nature to blame ourselves for situations that we don’t fully comprehend, but it is not his fault. Speaking as a medical professional, not a mental health professional, but nonetheless, I have my PhD‘s in medical radiation sciences/neurology, as well as medical laboratory sciences. I participated in countless studies on depression and suicide, to see if we can find any markers within the brain that might possibly indicate mental health disturbances which include suicidal idealization. I’ve dedicated the last 10 years of my life to studying this phenomenal, and every year we learn more and more, but I can promise you one thing, it is never just one person‘s fault, in cases like this there is a plethora of problems, and the vast majority of times, these kids would never ever tell their parents that they were struggling because in their mind, most of them would feel like they were letting their parents down, thinking it is a sign of weakness, and in today’s insanely competitive market, weakness is something frowned upon so deeply, nobody wants to discuss it. With the advance of technology, parents have so much more to contend with than ever before, because the Internet has become a weapon in itself for bullies and the victims of bullies. I can’t even count how many cases I have studied where children we’re being so relentlessly bullied and harassed online, that they could see no other way out then to commit suicide. They were too ashamed to tell their parents, or for that matter anyone. Sadly, the vast majority suffer in silence, until they can no longer tolerate it, and end up ending their lives. In many families, the Internet has taken the place of a parent, not because the parents are doing anything wrong, simply because they feel much more independent on the Internet than they do in real life, so they hide within the Internet, which has become something for which it was not intended, a vicious weapon Bully, intimidate, harass, and even kill children. The one piece of advice I would give, as difficult as it might be, is to regulate your child’s online activity as much as you possibly can at least while they’re at home. The biggest problem is the Internet is accessible pretty much anywhere, so even if you try putting lemons at home, they’ll simply go to their friends house or to school and use the computers there. But please, I am begging you as a scientist and a parent, if ever you have to face this nightmare, don’t blame yourself, because it truly is not your fault. Yes it is our job to try our best to keep them safe from harm and danger, but we cannot be around them 24/7, especially when they are teenagers living their lives in anonymity online. How can any Parent compete with that? You can’t, no matter how hard you try. Unless you’re Amish and have no technology, we’re locked them in their room until they’re an adult, there is nothing you can do once they leave the house. I can say this much, it is a proven fact that teens suicide has exponentially increased by a factor of 10 in the last few years alone, as the Internet becomes more and more a part of every day life, so what can you do to combat this? Always make sure to keep an open line of communication with your child or children, make sure they know that they can talk to you about anything, that you will not get mad at them, that you will not judge them, and that you’re there because you love them and all you want to do is help. A lot of parents do the opposite, and up Screaming their heads off because their children spend so much time with technology, I’m sure you’ve seen videos of parents destroying their own children’s technology, that is the worst thing any parent could ever do, because it has led to many many suicides, and in that case it was the parents fault. It’s a very very delicate situation and a fine line to balance yourself on, but if you ever hope to keep your kids safe, you have got to put aside your own fears and insecurities, and constantly remind your children they can tell you anything and you’ll always be there for them without any judgement. Then there’s a good chance they might actually talk to you when they need help, but if you do anything less than that, you’re the last person that would come to fearing retribution and punishment. This is an entirely new generation that humanity has never faced before, and we absolutely must change our approach to parenting in order to save our children from such a horrific fate. all my children are growing up and have their own kids, so I was lucky because the Internet was in its infancy when my kids were young, but my grandchildren are the ones that we have to watch out for, because they literally live on the Internet all day long every day. To them the Internet is a parent, so do what my son does, what I forced him to do. no matter how busy or difficult life may be, you have got to set aside at least an hour or two every single day for family time, and have dinner together as a family, where no subject is taboo, where they can feel free to talk about anything they want. Because technology occupies our every waking moment, we have got to make sure we set aside time without technology, so we can actually talk to our children and to each other. It’s not easy, especially when most times both parents have to work full-time just to survive nowadays, but it does work. My 11-year-old grandson actually told my son and daughter-in-law that he was struggling so badly in school from bullying, because he’s much shorter than most other kids, and because he is very very gifted, Which makes him a target for all the bullies. My son called me in tears, thanking me for forcing him and his family to have this time set aside every day, because when an 11-year-old child talks about suicide, that is something that you absolutely must address immediately, and if you don’t make time for it, children that age are ill-equipped to deal with that much pressure. That same evening I got a call from my daughter-in-law around 11 PM, which I know is not a good thing, because the kids are always in bed before 10. Turns out he went to a sleepover at a friends house after they had a very long discussion about suicide and about how it’s OK not to be OK, and that they would be there for him no matter what. My son and his wife were so worried when he said the word suicide, against their better judgment, they decided to have a look in his bedroom while he was away at his friends house, and they discovered pages and pages of handwritten notes saying goodbye to everybody, finding a full bottle of Percocet that went missing months before. He had actually planned everything, at only 11 years old! I can’t wrap my head around that, when I was 11, I didn’t even know what suicide was! Bottom line is, no matter what you do, it’s essential, even life-saving, to keep an open line of communication with your children at all times, and no matter how busy you might be, make the time, because I’ve heard parents, far too many parents all say the same thing, “I wish I would have made time to listen to them“. I have already found him a child psychiatrist, and are about to start him on therapy and medication if necessary, but making sure he fully understands why we are doing this, and making sure he knows we’re doing it out of love, that we’re not forcing him, and if he doesn’t feel comfortable, we will find another way. That’s what you have to do in today’s modern society to save your child’s life. I pray none of you ever have to face the pain of all the people I’ve spoken to over the past 10 years during this research project, thank you for listening.

[@velvetpaws999]

Ahhhh man date, lol.... my husband has a hand full of male friends. They go for C&C, meaning coffee and conversation. All involved seem to like it and do it regularly. And I don't mean, they are a group, he does it with several friends, but always just one on one. Everybody is different and has a different life situation.They talk about career, family, life at large, science, whatever. I think they get to know each other better every time. I am glad he does that!

[@zerotalk9894]

hey, is there any way I can contact james reid? Because I wanna help with his mission to eradicate teen suicide by 2030 somehow

[@adamcolvin3652]

How can I volunteer my time to help? I was bullied...

[@MrJammyGel]

he has some semi-twisted ideas of his sons problems. His sorrow is so dark and understandable, but some of his points make it seem like he didn't exactly understand the problem at all. Take the internet away, archaic take-care-of-your-wife attitude etc.. I think he might think he understands his child better now, than he actually does

[@weezer1109]

What I got from this was that he realized too late that it would have been better to admit his own failings to his son than to be super dad. It’s really hard to connect with people when you’re playing a role yourself to protect your own feelings and ego. A kid isn’t going to be able to break that down and get through to you if you don’t meet them where they are at. It’s a powerful message.

[@bloodspartan300]

Never commit suicide, even if it is to spite the people who want you to.

[@curiousuniverse7415]

My 13-year-old self self-medicating daily with meditation.

[@sean3423]

The crazy thing is barley dads nor adults watch these

[@lucianorojas2384]

ok so, about the cellphone its not gona change anything if u give your son a cellphone at the age of 5 or 12 or 17 the internet is gona be there and if you dont give him a cellphone he/her is gona ask him/her self why can`t i have a cell phone, every one has a cellphone. then, like every other thing that you prohibit to have they are gona make things to get them they gona have that thing even more, thats why u have to be more open, let them Research about things. of course there are "bad things" that they shouldn't see but they are gona see them anyways

[@weezer1109]

I complete disagree with your line of argument reasoning here. If every other kid in the neighborhood owns a sports car, that isn’t a reason to buy my kid one. It may be a reason to switch neighborhoods though..

[@kween_keyera7337]

I've struggled with suicide in the past and I currently struggle with mental health disorders as well. It's very important for us to not only seek out counseling, but Jesus as well. He died for us to live for him. He gives us purpose to live for and his Spirit fills us with joy. It sounds cliche, but I promise it does get better. Not where I want to be, but not where I used to be (Romans 10:9,13, John 3:16)

[@CuriousCat777]

I hope Jason Reid can get online nationwide/ worldwide. Check out the KBB program from Tony Robbins to reach a multitude of people at the same time.

[@bIahaj]

I don't know why I'm here in 3 in the morning

[@jakesylvester116]

THATS WHY. it’s being glamorized.

[@IRBD4Jesus]

School allows free, easy accessible internet.

[@takiraedmundson5772]

This man is talking about the responsibility that men have to their kids, their wives, their commitment, the planet, etc, etc... but I hear nothing of the responsibility of men, esp those who are fathers to their heavenly Father. Who knows better how to raise up happy and healthy kids than our heavenly Father! JESUS says the Father gives good things to those who ask him...Matthew 7:11. Father give us wisdom. Amen. Submit yourselves therefore to God...resist the devil and he will flee from you. James 4:7

[@thefrostbee4182]

Kids dont ask for god in their time of need, they ask for their parents. ''god'' isnt the first word an infant learns, its mommy or daddy. children have an innate connection to their parents, and its their parents they need, not whichever deity you follow. a religious figure can be important too, and if u think it helps then go ahead. but if you have children, then its your responsibility to be there for them, not a deity.

[@jacobrichardson611]

My bishop recently shared something with me that stuck instead of doings conventional prayer have a conversation with him, he made man he understands the slang even when I'm feeling down since I don't trust people when Im alone I open prayer and will just talk about life for a while then close. It's not the solution but it's good to talk.

[@haydenbrophy9460]

14:50 discount Noel Miller

[@trollycharly6403]

Therapist and psychologist have close to zero effect helping a depressed person. Especially if you put them in a mental clinic

[@itsgabeherekarlsson6341]

a sociopath can have emotions, we dont realy understand emotions, but we understand the social construct of them and as for that we can intelectualy understand it and "show" it. I dont like it when peaople throw it around without knowing it, i understand why they do it.. anyway im horrible sorry for your son's passing.

[@carolinefranken6715]

You can't do it alone. Your not superdad. You need the quidance of God.

[@thefrostbee4182]

kids dont want their parents to offer gods support. kids want their parents to offer their own support. a religion/spirituality can be part of it too sure, but remember that a child sees their parents as their parents, not a deity as their parents.

[@jacobrichardson611]

Honestly I talk to God about my problems than my parents