Parents Who Disowned & Kicked Me Out At 17 For Having BF,, Now Wants To Reconcile To Meet My Baby

[@SinSch]

Can we take a minute to admire the amazing husband? He is doing everything right.

[@jacoblamica4534]

agreed. in the entire story, the bf/husband is the true MVP here

[@racquelsmith1247]

Just from what I've heard so far they need to cut the in laws out of there life

[@clearmind89]

I agree but I think the step-sis was underage I think

[@dakotahsmith8320]

L​@@clearmind89

[@IzzyPR2010]

I really hate those people who think that because they had a good family life and think that everyone else is supposed to have a good family relationship so they want to play the hero and fix things. That type of person will attempt to force a person that was abused as a child, to re-unite with the relative that abused that person.

[@ariagnyug]

Lol they didn't even have a good family life, dad was toxic military asshole and mom was just as racist as the other dad

[@paperkay]

"I'm doing this for your own good! Family is family!" Right?

[@demonkitties9672]

That's what I was always afraid of luckily my fiancee understands

[@tuckafterdark]

The thought of that very real possibility happening to someone is making me gag D:

[@shadesofjade]

I mean they didn’t even have a good family relationship either, they were just delusional. 😓

[@anthonym6119]

Honestly the husband’s parents weren’t that much better than OPs,it’s good he stood up and kicked them all out.

[@robertx8020]

Let's hope they have gone NC by now

[@IzzyPR2010]

OP's father and her MIL were both racists, yeah that'll work out well.

[@cynthiarousseau3596]

@@robertx8020 mi

[@cynthiarousseau3596]

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[@robertx8020]

@@cynthiarousseau3596 ???

[@Gilhelmi]

The FIL and MIL should also lose all rights to be in their lifes. I have seen it happen far too many times, someone meddles in other people's family business and it ends the exact way or worse. In one case, a person told a husband where his soon-to-be exwife was staying. She ended up dead, and the fool who told ended up excommunicated from his Church.

[@ancadiamant]

It was her husband's parents to force a reunion with but we are family crap.

[@robynhensel9307]

Wow.. now that’s fyxked up…

[@robertx8020]

'Dad' would put Satan to shame 😝 What a horrible POS! Some ppl should be in jail for abuse!

[@anthonym6119]

Her husbands father thinks he knows what’s best for everyone

[@jyvben1520]

oh the crap, "excommunicated from his Church.", so not really justice is it ... religion is poison.

[@gardenappreciation6932]

Wow! This was an absolute carbon copy of my own childhood. I’m so happy that she found a good man who was willing to protect her at her most vulnerable.

[@LadyQuotes]

No matter how "Nice" a parent seems, there's always a good reason a child isn't in contact with them. And it's a whole lot of not your business.

[@bigbay1159]

As someone estranged from family this is true mostly....but this is not a universal truth. I've met many people who are the issue, not the family...

[@mariaslokker1841]

Not always a good reason. Sometimes its because of toxic wifes or husbands ....

[@katarinatibai8396]

Monsres wear the mask of sanety and apear as nice people. You newer know what they do behind close doors - they will also geth winy in public abaut how they have angreatfull children who left them.... My father would win a Oscar on his acting... When somebody says me he/she is in no contact with some one - I 100% belive there is a valid reason for that.

[@katarinatibai8396]

@@bigbay1159 That is because abuser are skilled in pretend to be the victime.

[@marissapalmer5866]

@@bigbay1159 you don’t just become the issue randomly as a young adult it is embedded from childhood trauma creating responses in a person that makes you portray them as “the problem”. The reality is even if you think their parents are the nicest healthiest parents they clearly weren’t always that way or their child would have embedded trauma that is coming out with them cutting ties. It always comes back to the childhood so therefore it always comes back to the parents. Had they saw the signs and put the effort into fixing the situation as they were children instead of ignoring it it wouldn’t progress to that person becoming a “problem”

[@johnschroeder163]

IMHO, the worst villain in this story is the Father in Law. To me, the most vile creatures alive are those who feel that they know what is best for other people, and then act upon these preconceptions EVEN AGAINST WISHES of the person in question. I am glad that OP's Hubby had the moxie to kick ALL FOUR of these toxic turds out.

[@LunaP1]

FiL, MiL, sperm-donor, and half-sister are all the villains of this story. The in-laws only heard one side of the story and did care about the truth because of the "family" crap and sperm-donor is an abusive psychopath that never cared about OP.

[@AuntLoopy123]

@@LunaP1 FIL and MIL REFUSED to hear explanations, even when they tried, though. What makes FIL and MIL worse is that they decided "We are the super-heroes, and we cannot be wrong!" Dad and Sis, on the other hand, know full well that they are villains. They KNOW they are abusive and take delight in it. Why do I say that? Because when they had a chance to explain their side of the story of why their family is broken, THEY LIED and PUT ALL THE BLAME ON OP. If they truly believed they were right and hadn't done anything wrong, they would have OWNED IT. So, the fact that they are blatant villains makes it not as painful as the "loving parents" who are "true believers" in their OWN INFALLIBILITY. That is downright dangerous. See, you can predict villain behavior. You can plan for it, and protect against it. YOU CANNOT PREDICT OR PLAN FOR SUPERHERO "INFALLIBILITY" ABUSE. Because everything they do to you is "For your own good! I mean well!," you can never know if they're going to be trustworthy, when they say they're sorry and they won't do it again. You don't know if they have changed, and actually agree to respect your boundaries, or if they are going to get you to drop your guard, JUST SO THAT THEY CAN SPRING THEIR "I AM RIGHT" TRAP. Heck, they may even go so far as to try to use Child Protective Services to steal your child from you, because they GENUINELY BELIEVE that they would be better parents. And then, they would blithely hand the child over to the abusers, "for family bonding," without taking ANY protective precautions, because they DO NOT BELIEVE THE VILLAINS ARE VILLAINS. And the villains will blithely take advantage of that. And if the child ever speaks up, and says, "Why does Grandpa hate me? Why does Auntie hate me? They do these awful things to me," the FIL and MIL will tell the child to STOP LYING. How DARE you make false accusations against those wonderful people? You sound just like your mother, and we all know what a witch SHE was! She tried to keep you away from those good people!" And as known "good people," they'll be able to enlist the help of other innocent dupes in their schemes to "save the children!" Yep, the "true believer" is MUCH more dangerous than the outright villains. That's why villains need to be EXPOSED. Publicly exposed as the villains they are. So that the "But faaaaaaaamily" people cannot claim ignorance, and are forced to admit that CHILD ABUSE EXISTS.

[@SH-qs7ee]

I don't know why it went as far is it did. Should have been a quick conversation FiL: "Why isn't your dad in your life?" OP: "Because he is a cheating, abusive racist. Next question." If OP was open and completely blunt about it in the first place, I doubt it would escalate

[@mpmansell]

@@LunaP1 Don't forget the step mother.

[@CocoCece08]

@@SH-qs7ee Right? That could have been nipped in the bud long ago. FIL: Why is your family not in your life? OP: Well, my sperm donor is a racist, cheating bigot, my sister is an entitled brat who just so happens to be an affair baby and just like him, and my mom was caught with substances. Yeah, too much drama.

[@florenceshuler6383]

I'm glad she was strong enough to stand up for herself . When she needed help she had a great man to back her up. You go girl. If I were you I'd make sure your "sister and father" and their friends couldn't come into her restaurant.

[@shinami3758]

Story 1: "I'm thankful I did it because now I know how much of a thankless, unruly child you were. Also, how dare you deprive your unborn child of the influence of a grandfather and aunt?!" FIL massively overstepped their bounds and has no right to decide what relations other people should have in their lives. This is when you lay hard boundaries on what such people can and can't do if they want to be a part of your life. If they cross your boundaries, cut them off for a while. If they fail again and again to respect your boundaries, cut them off for good. Otherwise, they will ignore your decisions every step of the way, even those made as the parent of your kid(s). Know what that's called? Infantilizing a person. It means to regard one as a small child or baby. In real world definitions, it means others think you are unfit to make your own decisions and will quite likely never respect you or your decisions as an adult.

[@girl1213]

Frankly it just sounds like the parent-in-laws had preconceived notions about OP for a long time and now that they found "proof" in the form of sweet words from her father and sister, they are hooked, lined and sunk. And frankly that's all the father and sister gave them: sweet words. They're not proof but when you're so convinced that you're right you ignore just how flimsy the so-called proof is. They can't even entertain the idea that they're being lied to. They really are the infants in the situation.

[@Alverant]

Stories like these make me appreciate my parents more.

[@Mr.Reddito]

every story on my channel, will make you appreciate good people in your life/family haha

[@dutchy213]

Facts

[@sammielopez620]

Honestly, if I were in OP’s situation , I would only even consider the idea of forgiving all four of them on one big condition: They have to post on every social media and confess what they have done to OP and her husband. But then, I would still file a restraining order against them, toxic people should never be around children after all. Hope OP and her husband are having great lives.

[@trixmania]

I doubt they would even know what they have done. It's clear they think they are 100% right in this matter. They will all continue this game forever with op father favouring the youngest. They will never change, even if u spelt it out clearly, they still deny it.

[@robertx8020]

There is not a single reason to forgive the racists abusive parents on both sides Keep them out forever! They have no issues with breaking promisses

[@Mari-go5hc]

I would have told father-in-law exactly how my half sister came about! What dear old daddy did to my mother. I would have told them the whole story as to why I was kicked out of the home! I would have told him everything! OP has every right to be as vindictive as her half sister and her father!

[@marchaelbeard5977]

Nah never give a snake a chance to bite you twice.

[@owl7072]

"It would be unfair to leave your sister all alone 🥺 sisters should stick together" Okay so where was this mindset literally every time your little demon in training went anywhere by herself without Op? Edit: Why are Op's friends and best friend getting angry and blaming Op for things that were _clearly_ her sister's fault???? If something like what happened to the best friend happened to me, I'd be losing my cool on the _sister_ but never _Op_ because what the actual hell.

[@MrBeevee5]

Outsiders don't always fully understand the dynamics of what is going on inside.

[@herewego8686]

@@MrBeevee5 yeah but it's still weird like they don't have to understand dynamics, but you serious believe your friends sibling over your actual friend? For no reason at all.

[@AuntLoopy123]

It happens a lot that the victim will blame a fellow victim, rather than the one who actually did the thing. I don't know WHY, but it happens A LOT in real life. For some stupid reason. It's like the people who say a child is special and wonderful and valuable, and then, as soon as the child's parents die in a car crash, that same child is worthless, useless, a drain on society, has no future, should just end itself, and it's the child's own fault for being an orphan, and how DARE that small child, who was tucked away in bed at the time the parents were out on a date, somehow be responsible for causing that drunk driver to hit their car?! Seriously, people are DERANGED, sometimes, when it comes to properly placing blame.

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

I knew I couldn't be the only one to see that OP.isnt responsible for her horrible sisters actions and her horrible sister wasn't responsible for how " best friend " reacted to hot coffee being dumped on her !! Best friend true reactions are all her and the " crush" got to see her true self!! Yes sister was a jerk but Bf.just wanted a reason for crush not liking her and blamed Op.and terrible sister instead of admitting that he just didn't like her !!

[@notaprinny]

To be fair, if someone always brought someone along with them and that person always caused issues and everyone involved knows it because it happens every single time it seems fair to blame the friend for always bringing that person along.

[@Octoberdoomster1]

I tried to repair my family ties but my family still saw me as a leech. I gave up, moved away, far away and with family that actually gave me a chance and loves me.

[@SH-qs7ee]

Biggest mistake people make is believing family and sharing some of the same genes are the same thing.

[@vpombovp]

@Brenda Gutierrez, I’ve heard that living well is the best revenge. As long as you’re living well the opinions of others don’t matter. God bless you

[@PuppyKatt]

Same. I also came from a very toxic family; abusive step-father and spoiled, angelic half siblings on one side, and mom sided with her new family; abusive step-mother on the other side. Once my birth father passed, I stopped all communication with step-mom's kids; once my eldest brother passed away, I stopped all communication with my step-father's kids. All are adults, all are toxic, and none of them have any way of contacting me. Silence is, indeed, Golden.

[@breadogi7118]

They don't, they love what you can provide in their time of need.

[@twinsgangtv6946]

What about your mom​@@PuppyKatt

[@annnichols3091]

I wish the husband had told his parents there was no way he'd allow his cheating, abusive FIL or his abusive SIL to be in his wife and child's lives before the baby shower.

[@Ken17-b8g]

The husband is a legend. I’m glad he stood up for his wife.

[@nadirimyers6643]

“By some luck when I was 13 my step mother died” I’m sorry but I almost choked on my food giggling at that… I’m sick ik 😂 💀…. What shoes she had on in the casket?! Lmaooo

[@bandashee]

Idk but I hope her striped tights curled up. 🤣

[@girl1213]

Well the in-laws won't have their grandchild anymore then her father can be a grandpa. They were so keen on the idea that OP was the bad guy that now they lost something very precious. Ah well. When you're that quick to demean, you don't deserve to be around innocent children.

[@tzarius78]

Even funnier is he was standing up for a racist.

[@echomoon3381]

Huh??? Ummm, did I miss something in the telling of that story? OP's father cheated on OP's mother, divorced her, kept custody of OP. Then proceeded to take all his anger out on OP. He favored the half-sister ever since they were little, gave OP nothing but punishments all while letting her half-sister do whatever she wanted. Then when he found out she was dating a black man that did it! She was told to either break up with him or get out because her father was so racist. And even with the 3 parents and half-sister showing up at the baby shower? They, all 4, were AH'S!!!! So how do you figure that baby is going to have a grandpa around? She's definitely not going to let her father around it and I doubt if either OP or her husband is going to let his parents be around the baby.

[@Sorchia56]

@@echomoon3381 She’s saying the in-laws are out in the rubbish bin ALONG with OP’s sperm donour. He WON’T be grandpa at all, the sister won’t be Aunt at all either. Which is an absolutely brilliant move. They will be barred from hospital when OP goes into labour and when child is born. If they knock on the door of their home, it’s an automatic call to the coppers as there’s a restraining order against them. I love the end of this story!

[@girl1213]

@@echomoon3381 r/whoosh

[@PuppyKatt]

Birth mom has a boyfriend; if they marry, then baby will have a grams and a "gramps."

[@PuppyKatt]

WOW, the audacity of both fathers. Congrats to husband for standing up to your own and your wife's toxic family members, and backing up your wife.

[@kellys.5908]

I learned from an early age that my father was a different person behind closed doors. He had many faces for whomever was in front of him. Most people thought I had the best father ever. Nobody would believe anything unless they witnessed it first-hand. Sounds kind of bad when I say this, he revolted me so bad that I would not date my own race because of what that man has done to me. I had to be in his good graces to be around my mother. It got to be too much, and my therapist said that I was not gonna heal until I let them go. She was right. The toxicity has left me. I don't feel as much hatred as I used to. It's sad but at the end of the day. She won't see me unless he says it's OK. So, having to cut ties with both of them for my health, I had to. My blood pressure, along with other medical stuff, has improved so much.

[@bodnica]

My father was like that, two faced😢

[@katycarnell9769]

Unfortunately my dad was like that.. weirdly enough at work he was the perfect guy who could do anything asked of him.. n a great friend to others.. yet my childhood was a battle zone.. with extreme physical n verbally abuse

[@neuesachlichkeit6919]

That doesn't sound "bad" in the sense that it reflects on your morality--that sounds like trauma. Honestly you don't owe anyone a date, or anyone any explanation for what type of person you want to date. Date whoever makes you feel loved, safe, and comfortable. I'm so glad you got away from that.

[@wendyscott4766]

Kudos to you and your husband showing a united front.

[@carolynbirkner42]

You're entitled to have who you want at your baby shower, it's not a privilege for family to think they can just invade your party. As to your in-laws tell them if they want to have e relationship with grand children then it's your way or the hiway. Your child is just that YOUR CHILD! Rules are made for a reason,follow them or else they can not be a part of their life. Their choice!

[@PiscesMoon2You]

The friend who got burned by half sis should have sued and pressed charges.

[@teresalipot3585]

"Step"? Or "half"?

[@beckah86]

@@teresalipot3585 half they both were their dad’s children… one was just born from an affair …

[@baffledanderanged2101]

Nope OP's not the AH for her refusal. Agreed OP's got one heck of a great husband.

[@katherinevaipo3141]

Not the AH, hug your husband for standing by you and making sure that you and baby are safe.

[@georgewashington4866]

OP and her husband should move near her mom and cut all contact with her dad and sister and her in-laws. Watch the reaction of that to her dad, sister, and in-laws and say not one of them will be in contact with the baby.

[@Sorchia56]

NTA! Brilliant move on getting the restraining order!! I have NCO’s on my entire maternal side of my family including the egg donour and her husband! My life had been so wonderful since! I have a brilliant family, that is not blood, who love me, my husband and our grown children unconditionally! Wishing you so much happiness and more blessings than you can count! ❤❤

[@ytubesuxshite4497]

Story 1: it's simple, quick end to the issue. "Mil, this is how it is with my father and sister, if you choose to have anything to do with them, you will be welcome to see your son as often as he chooses to grace your residence....however the rest of us will be but a distant memory to you. No grandchild shall accompany your son." By the way....I bet your father has a special relationship with your sister.

[@MrBeevee5]

I, personally, don't have a problem with yours "No grandchild shall accompany your son", but you have to understand, the father has rights too. The mother does not have FULL control over the child, the father has rights too. He must be in agreement with that statement. I hope he does.

[@ytubesuxshite4497]

@@MrBeevee5 not according to the police, I've had this conversation, the law is so weighted that what initially happens is that the mother is always assumed correct, the father is always questionable, so always return the child to the mother, then do further investigation under the belief that the father is lying or attempting to kidnap the child. Yes the father has rights too. But first you have to prove your the father, then you need to prove that you are in fact a custodial parent as well. By this time is it has been several hours, no crime has been committed because all the mother has to say when she dialed 911 is that her son was taken by the father against her wishes. No lie no crime. But now your the husband will know that this will happen every time. You will be pissed at the situation but she never lied to the police, the police did there job, went and detained for further information, gathered information and let father go.....who did wrong? Noone everything is the truth. He can choose to leave her and his kid, because see how often courts side with the father. Or he can choose to stand by her, his actions show precedent here. He has always stood behind her, why will that change. The simple fact that he was about to have his parents arrested...or worse because his father is black and former military with a bad attitude....so he may end up dead...... Shows that he does not mean to allow his parents any more leeway then hers. That's why she can be confident in him backing her on that power play goal.

[@MrBeevee5]

@@ytubesuxshite4497 I mostly agree with what you said, I am just pointing out that the father has rights too. I believe this one will stick with his wife.

[@gardenappreciation6932]

In an ideal world, but sadly being raised in those conditions cause major and often permanent insecurities that are impossible to change.

[@cherrylove528]

This pissed me off so much. The audacity of the FIL to show up with her miserable father and half sister

[@pamclince8205]

I’m glad your husband is so wonderful to you. Your in laws are as toxic as your father and step sister. I’m hoping that your husband tells his parents the truth about your childhood and that they beg you for forgiveness. Otherwise they would NEVER see the grandchild.

[@zoeylammers3820]

I heard my parents talking in their bedroom one night and my mother told my father that the harder he is on me, the faster I'm going to leave once I turned 18. Turns out, he didn't listen and I moved three states away to live with my boyfriend. Now, I barely talk to my dad and my mom still tries to keep me included and updated on things that are happening. I don't think it was his fault for me leaving so soon, but it definitely played a part. I'm hoping later on in our lives, we can reconcile bc I do still love and appreciate my father.

[@charlesnoska2225]

You go girl, you are doing the correct thing. Many years ago, I had to do something similar and let my in-laws understand that they had no right to treat my wife the way they were doing.

[@RedneckSwede]

A friend I know was being yelled at by his parents and in-laws to attend his cheating girlfriend's baby shower. They tried to convince him that the child was his even though he had never even slept with her yet. A DNA test proved him right but her parents doesn't believe the results. The baby (a girl) is clearly not his. The little girl is now 5 and her conception was the result of an affair with her mother's married boss. The truth came out when my friend's former in-laws begged him for forgiveness when the little girl started to resemble their cheating daughter's boss all too well and they demanded their daughter to do the right thing.

[@medra3494]

No, you did the right thing for you and your family. Congratulations to you and your husband.

[@dementedqueen4392]

Okay, everyone is saying how the worst thing the father was is a racist. No, that was not the worst thing he was! He abused his daughter for a very long time. Him being a racist and kicking her out of the house was the cherry on top and a given. He didn't want her to have friends or date. Do you really think he cared what race her husband was? This was about keeping his little scapegoat around. He hated his wife so he hated his daughter. He kept the daughter as a F you to his ex-wife. The best revenge he could take out on his ex was to take it out many, many times on her by her own father. He was a vile, disgusting man who abused his own flesh and blood for kicks. This is a far greater crime than racism. Seriously, we don't really know for sure if that was the real reason for him not liking her husband. Also, did anybody else's blood boil when her BFF 'forgave' her for what her half sister did? And please, no excuses like 'people who are not abused don't understand.' Her freaking BFF was RIGHT THERE when her half sister threw hot liquid on her! Her BFF should have called the cops immediately but decided to blame the OP? And my favorite of all this, the guy her BFF had a huge crush on didn't want her because of some minute burns on her face? Um...not such a great guy, huh? The BFF was a piece of work and OP should think long and hard about letting her into her life as well. (Which is SOP for people who had been abused - they have such low self esteem, they pick the wrong friends to have around them).

[@ravenralph123]

Agreed, the father is only projecting his hatred to the OP as a form of revenge to the ex-wife and both him and the the sister are in for the money the OP has. Then the in-laws are also the worst, even if the OP left out the sensitive info about her family (Father & Step-sister), they shouldn't be forcing their way especially the OP's husband telling them not to do that, they should be cut off as well.

[@TheDragonsDreamer]

You got a gem of a husband.

[@MaddieDeux]

If it were me I would tell my in-laws that I was kicked out for dating not within my race. Are they fine with inviting racists to the baby shower?

[@SH-qs7ee]

Should never have gotten that far, OP should have told the in-laws that the father was a cheating, abusive racist the first time they brought it up.

[@Sportyshorty23]

I don't blame you you did the right thing to get away from these two toxic idiots and keep them away from your children the need and deserve each other don't ever let them near you or your family

[@AncalimaArashi]

Man, that poor OP. I do wonder if there will be updates, because people like that don't give up easily unfortunately. But yeah, I hope the cut contact with both the father and the in laws.

[@bigbay1159]

True but they did what most others don't and that's get a court order. So that will keep them at bay, which glad for them

[@sarahclapp505]

I don't know who is worse your father and a step-sister or your father-in-law. You do not talk to your family your father in law thinks NO DID NOT THINK. I hope he does not speak to her family there must be a reason, you don't contact them

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: Someone should tell the sperm donor and half sister that tbey are not entitled to any kind of a relationship with the person they disowned. As far as i see it, they stopped being family the moment they disowned OP. And as such, they are not entitled to the role of Aunt and Grand Parent. They can go rot. As for the In Laws.... Grandparent rights, REVOKED Play stupid games....

[@jessicah3782]

Dad had a second family, destroyed first family, abused first wife and daughter because I GUESS in his mind they weren’t good enough and somehow had the audacity to think he was entitled to meet his first grandchild? Nope nope nope. Dad destroyed everything the moment he cheated.

[@Atemis]

Win stupid prizes

[@TornAlchemist]

@@Atemis Tell them what they won, Johnny! "Sure, Darnell, they won paid tickets to GoFYourself Island and a stay at the YouWontSeeMyChildEver Hotel! Back to you, Darnell."

[@gregoryreffitt7957]

Not the Ahole for refusing them after all the bad treatment and lies they told on you. Your in-laws need a lesson in not crossing lines they have no right mixing in.

[@vesla266]

As others have written her, full honour and applause for the steadfast husband who shielded his wife. Well done and best wishes for a blessed future ❤️☺️

[@AuntLoopy123]

"And I was being a jerk for not wanting the child to have an aunt and both grandparents." Time to text back, "So, you're saying it's a jerk move to PROTECT YOUR CHILD FROM THE CHILD ABUSERS WHO ABUSED A CHILD? REALLY? Because BOTH the aunt AND the so-called 'father' ABUSED MY WIFE SINCE SHE WAS A CHILD. She got away to protect herself from teh continued abuse, and avoided them to protect herself from their continued abuse. and now that she's expecting a child of her own, she will do ANYTHING to protect the child against their abuse, but YOU KNOW SO MUCH BETTER. YOU KNOW that it's a GOOD thing to ABUSE CHILDREN! There is NO EXCUSE TO PROTECT A CHILD FROM CHILD ABUSERS! How DARE my wife try to PROTECT HERSELF FROM HER ABUSERS, LET ALONE PROTECT HER OWN CHILD FROM HER ABUSERS?! Oh, yes, I'm sure THAT king of JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS AGAINST ALL THE EVIDENCE is the BEST thing to do, when preparing for combat, right? That's what they teach you in the military, right? IGNORE ALL THE EVIDENCE and GO WITH YOUR OWN PREJUDICED IDEAS ABOUT HOW ALL FAMILIES ARE PERFECT? And if the child runs away, it's the CHILD'S fault, and could not POSSIBLY be the fault of the man who cheated, lied, schemed, and abused his wife and child for years? Or how he enabled his love-child to abuse his legitimate child? Oh, yeah, I'm SURE the generals would all congratulate you on acting that way in battle. 'Let's not fight the enemy! Who CARES why war was declared? We know better, and we will just hand over ALL the refugees to the Taliban! That makes TOTAL sense!' Isn't that right, DAD?!" "What? She NEVER told us that she was abused." "As I said, there was EVIDENCE. Like, the way she talked about them, or DIDN'T talk about them. The way she had to run away. The way she tensed up, whenever they were mentioned. The fear and pain in her eyes, whenever the topic came up. But even without that, IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Either way, you're wrong."

[@RougeTheDemigod]

I hope she doesn't forgive her husbands parents because if she does I feel like they are going to try and pull some crap where they secretly get ops parents to come over and see the child and then they will try and make him or her into their weapon against op.

[@MrBeevee5]

Her husband shouldn't forgive them either.

[@bwyseymail]

Nope. That is on OP for not explaining what an ahole her father is. I know she didn't want to go into it and FIL should have respected her boundaries but at some point she should have said F it and just laid it all out.

[@RougeTheDemigod]

@@bwyseymail but from listening to the story if she sat them both down and told them do you really think he would listen. The father already had the guy licking his feet so I doubt he would have even listened to op and the husband if they did tell him.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

​@@RougeTheDemigod Imagine telling people you're banned from your grandchilds life because you valued a racist more than your daughter-in-law Jeez, I'm sure there's a word for that

[@RougeTheDemigod]

@@MiraTheWarlock I know that and if that happens if she forgives them I can already see that because as I said. They seem like the type of people who would do some fucked up shit like that. That or give them the child and say oh they're with their other grandparents. If somebody did that to my kid after I told them they aren't allowed near them everyone better be prepared because everyone about to get clapped.

[@toysruskid5074]

My first reaction would be to call the cops and have them trespassed. I wouldn't even confront them with more than a look of disgust.

[@TehAnshiTunes]

So sweet these two mentally and emotionally bruised people won in the end.

[@lola4lala12]

i wish OP, her husband, and child good health, fortune, prosperity, and non- toxic family life. I'm glad her husband stood up to his parents and stood by her, it takes a lot of courage to stand up against them esp military parents. I am so proud of him and OP. I know OP will never see this but in another life, if i was OP's cousin i would have made her sister's life a living hell and the extended family would know of the her and the father's crimes.

[@lbfaith]

She grew up believing that was her step sister and to find out when she’s older and of age that she was actually a half sister?! Wonder if the half sister knew.

[@paulahowlett1043]

What about the in laws. What consequences did they get for being intrusive and over stepping

[@redbird1218]

Exactly what I was wondering!

[@TRYLIKTO]

As Muhammed Ali said, when he was asked about interracial marriage: I want that my children would look like me! Totally agree with him

[@dorothylloyd1804]

Good afternoon Mr Reddito. Thanks for the video

[@notaprinny]

FIL and MIL both need to have a reality check. They should not have accepted what OPs father said at face value. They should have talked to both their son and his wife to figure out what happened. But no, they decided that the girl must be lying because they believe their son could find someone better so that means she must be bad. Insanity.

[@Sellons]

Both OP and her husband have quite toxic family situations but have overcome it and become really great people and it’s really heartwarming that they found each other and really support each other.

[@SuperGrandmother3]

I'm glad to see you had someone in your life who had your back.

[@sarahclapp505]

Op your husband ❤️❤️❤️you are lucky lady ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Parakeetfriend4215]

None of my family was invited to my wedding. You go girl! You've got this! You did good, real good😁

[@colleenwatch]

Not the ahole! so thankful you have a husband who’ll respect you and stand by you. Many blessings!

[@sebastianshaw5534]

This was a great story, especially if you're on a long commute. I'm glad OPs husband stood up for his wife.

[@jonmobile5521]

His parents would have been out permanently as well.. what he did was so very wrong

[@kristywalters3945]

Not the ahole the father abused her after her mother was out the picture and even acted like op was the step child who was always in the wrong. While the half sister and her the 2nd wife were angels. He didn't care. He stopped caring when he divorced ops mothers.

[@MrBeevee5]

I'm still puzzled by his not caring about her growing up. Makes me wonder why he cares now.

[@neil999ish]

@@MrBeevee5 Because she has money from her resturaunt and hubby from his software bussiness.

[@kristywalters3945]

@neil999ish and @MrBeevee5 parents who are money hungry and thinking they can ride on their child success after the parents threw out their children for stupid reasons, and when the child has money and refuses to have anything to do with them the parents played the victim card to whoever will listen and when the truth finally comes out the parents will deny and accuse or make up reasons why they did what they did

[@kathydurow6814]

Cares now because of the money, ✔️ Got OP from the mother simply to "win", not because he cared about her. Also probably to avoid paying child support. The second family was his priority.

[@jeanannd]

Come on, OP's family threw her out because of the man she fell in love with. NOW they find she and he are both successful and expecting and NOW they want to consider her family once more? The word hypocrite springs to mind for OP's family. The way OP's father treated her, claiming she was bad but ignoring what stepsister did. Gee, racist OP's father seems fine with their marriage now that they are successful. Yeah, I think OP's father and stepsister want money influence with OP and her husband.

[@MrBeevee5]

I was thinking she was stepsister also, but it appears the second child is his too. So, half sister.

[@SH-qs7ee]

Either that or OP's dad wanted to look like father of the year to the FiL, playing the victim of a wayward child gone off the rails.

[@thecajunphoenix]

@@MrBeevee5 She's not worthy of being called stepsister let alone half-sister.

[@MrBeevee5]

@@thecajunphoenix That is her parents' fault, given how she was raised.

[@thecajunphoenix]

@@MrBeevee5 True. OP's parents don't deserve to be in her child's life.

[@samanthapattison7286]

Wow! With all the troubles this poor couple have faced and come through stronger, they are both amazing and the husband is a hero! Their toxic families should be ashamed of themselves, but of course they won't...

[@Soei23]

I LOVE the graphics, can't imagine the time and work it took to do this. Only thing I'd suggest is putting in chapters so that the viewer can jump to certain bits of the video quickly and this will be THE best Reddit stories channel on KZbin.

[@samgrayeagle3909]

You put so much work into youre videos. Its so cool.

[@caroljo420]

No one deserves abuse. Not the a--hole!!! I'm glad your husband is so supportive!!!

[@sailorathena17]

Op’s sister who outed her in the first place to get her kicked out now wants to be involved with Op’s pregnancy?! The audacity of that screams bullcrap!

[@SauliIihola-qm5fp]

Good for standing your ground

[@monopinion8799]

Beautifully done!

[@cloud77ism]

Haha bro the head movement and the finger in the beginning had me dying. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jackymilton591]

No you are not the a hole. The best thing you did for your family. Health, wealth and happiness to you and your family

[@vhiktorbarlow1958]

Your a strong young woman I'm sooo proud of you much love Girl

[@lornepribbeno3760]

Think the worst here are the MIL and FIL believing complete strangers over their son. They deserve what ever comes next

[@tommylundholm9146]

Growing up with a bipolar mum and a narcicistic step father my story will be a book some day. The light in life is my husband daughter and grandchild. We all live close, the same house but diffrent floors, and have an daily realationship do to that our grandchild spends his afternoons with us until his mum comes home from work. So things can change but toxic relationships will never ever get better.

[@tigerqueen007]

If anything, someone should have punched OP's dad for putting her through that mess.

[@villebeny]

Finally, a partner who has a spine and not a doormat.

[@millerlucerojames]

Anyone else seen the 17 shining spines on Google earth? Cause I could have sworn they weren't there before

[@melissap1694]

My name is Missy in the story it brought back memories the words and cruelty of people. Being a young child and being treated like you aren't as good enough as your siblings, trying to do things to be noticed rub their feet and all you wanted was to be loved in the same way as your brothers. Always wondering what was wrong with me why they treated me badly I was left with trying to understand why I wasn't family in the since as everyone else. I was considered beneath them I was told that I wasn't loved as much as my brothers cuz I was born a girl they like boys better. I was a teen when I was told this by my older brother and my grandma confirmed it when I asked her. I'm getting ahead of myself so here it goes..., I'm the middle child when I was born I was a breach baby I came out feet first the doctors wanted my mom to abort me because neither one of us would survive my mom was a great believer in God and chose to have me instead because of being a breach baby I didn't get a lot of oxygen to my brain right away therefore I had some disability like learning ADHD and I ended up with a lazy eye as well. I guess all that was reason enough to not love me or want me around. The only one who ever loved me was my mom, she died when I was 6 from cancer of the pancreas she was 25 and my father was screwing around on my mom while she was dying in the hospital. After my mom passed my brother's and I received SSI checks until we was 18 my mom making sure we was taken care of plus we had to move in with my grandma the mother of my mom. During this time my father continued to see this woman and was spending our SSI checks on her and her daughter. He was never around my grandma told him he could keep the SSI checks and move in with Sharon the woman and her daughter Darla and let grandma have custody of us so my father decided to take us away to never see our mom's side of the family again. He took us to his mom's and dad's to live they was poorer than dirt no inside bathroom outhouse. Getting ahead of myself again before my father took us away from grandma Jerry mom's, mom after my mom passed away my father started touching me and it wasn't like my grandma Jerry and family didn't know they knew which I found out later in life from my own grandpa Jerry who told me that it was my fault he touched me cuz I set on his lap I remember having to play with his hands to keep him from touching my private parts for year's I dreamed nightly that a bunch of necked men that all looked alike there was 1000's of them chasing me and their name was Peter I always had to hide from them scared they would find me and do sex stuff to me I was terrified, I never told anyone this dream. Sharon and dad got married Darla was now our stepsister and Sharon the wicked stepmother she told me she wasn't going to call me by my name that my mom gave me she called me Lisa instead I looked like my mom and she hated me for that she done cruel things to me and brothers my oldest brother escaped ran away and got his custody given to grandma Jerry. The only good thing about Sharon is cuz my father didn't touch me again Sharon also was into black magic. I've always believed she put a curse on me at the age of 14 I almost died from Crohn's disease upper and lower and cirrhosis of the liver never drank a drop the doctor at children's hospital told my stepmother she better have me admitted to the hospital or he would have the cops come to our house this Doctors name was Dr. Newman and he knew what she was doing to me he overheard her getting on to me for screaming out in pain while Dr Newman did a bone marrow on me in my lower back. I must say I enjoyed Dr. Newman telling her off and threatening her with jail. While I was in the hospital my grandma Jerry and my oldest brother showed up I freaked out scared out of my mind telling them they had to go that Sharon would know they was there and I would get into trouble that Sharon was a witch and she didn't have to be there to know we was bad she could see us. Grandma Jerry and my brother had to convince me that she would never know. CPC was no help when I as a child wanted to protect my younger brother and get us away from her therapist was no help no one came to save us not even school's done nothing even after seeing mark's and other evidence each time I tried to get help from these people they would let Sharon and my father know and leaving me to stand in front of them to face whatever punishment they gave me. For example my stepmother went to the store got food we couldn't eat when we wanted she had locks put on the fridge and chain's on all cabinets with locks and she carried the keys around her neck. So on this day she decided to accuse my brother and me of stealing 2 slice's of bread out of about 10 loaves of bread. Sharon wanted our father to paddle us while she prepared sentences for us to write and be grounded to our rooms our punishment was $2,500 sentences more or less paragraphs we had to have 500 done at the end of the week or we got five wacks at the end of the week every I had to be dotted everything had to be perfect or was thrown away and had to do it again we could not take it to school to do if I hadn't snuck it to school to do I would have been paddled at the end of the week my younger brother I had to hear getting paddled every end of the week it killed me to hear it knowing we stole nothing. That day before our father paddled us he asked Sharon how did she know she said she counted the slices of bread my father didn't want to punish my brother and me for something so stupid my brother and I begged our father to believe us instead he chose to punish us to keep from arguing with Sharon saving himself. At the age 16 I started running away to get to my mom's side of the family it took a few times but eventually I thought my grandmother would take custody of me instead she wanted my aunt to take custody of me I had to get to know all of them again thinking I was safe. It took me back to child days how I was never good enough for any of them now as a teenager you learn your family just continued some abuse their favorite thing was kicking me out in the streets my aunt as well as my grandma Jerry would do this to me for stupid reasons like Sharon accusing me of something I didn't do and expected me to admit to it my aunt and uncle attacked me my aunt smacking me over and over in the face up against the wall my uncle blocked the front door to keep me from escaping I didn't want to do it but I had to in order to save myself I punched my aunt in the face and pushed her mind you she was fat I was 100 pounds she went back over the arm of the couch I ran past her in between the coffee table and couch where she was at I went running out the back door I had a friend mom take me to daybreak for run aways. You have 24 hours to contact the family to either get permission to stay at daybreak till things cool off or go home my aunt wanted me on the streets I couldn't stay there or go home Daybreak had no choice but to put me out. There was a girl that I met there and she came out to live on the streets with me cuz I had know idea of what to do how to survive oh yeah both my grandmother and aunt kept my SSI checks while they put me on the streets with nothing oh did I mention my brothers was never kicked out while I was being kicked out for farting after eating chili and having Crohn's disease that's kind of part of it regardless that didn't matter. Now I haven't had anything to do with my family since being disowned for telling the truth my grandmother Jerry has passed my aunt has passed the only one left to treat me like crap was my oldest brother I thought it was important for my son to have family and took the abuse until one Christmas my son had enough he was a teen now he told me when we got back home that we didn't need them we would learn to make our own holiday meals from them on its just my son and me. I'm now 55 and these things still haunts me to this day I haven't seen anyone in my family for over 10 years and yes I think about them from time to time but my son was right they was no good for us and we're better off without them. The way I connect with my mom is Frisch's she waitressed there as a infant I remember sitting in a booth with my brothers and dad bouncing my butt up against the seat waiting for my Big boy with the colorful plastic animal toothpick that was stuck through the Big boy bun. I Love you mom 💕

[@eleanorcramer7986]

I had a comment but it got lost. Father-to-be is a prince, knight and best friend. OP is blessed to find such a man. A real man not a soldier, bully, abuser or wimp. I have respect for people who avoid the military machine .

[@MrBeevee5]

Where is FIL and MIL court order to stay away? They are just as deserving.

[@AuntLoopy123]

I kind of wish it had gone like this: Sister: You wouldn't call the cops. Husband: Hello, police? The man who abused my wife ever since she was a little girl, and encouraged her half-sister lovechild to abuse her, as well, then SLAPPED MY WIFE FOR DARING TO DATE A BLACK MAN, had come to our house, despite the fact that we SPECIFICALLY TOLD HIM NOT TO, and brought his lovechild, whom we also SPECIFICALLY TOLD NOT TO, along with my own selfish, stupid parents, who think that a baby NEEDS CHILD ABUSERS, and were also SPECIFICALLY TOLD NOT TO COME, and they refuse to leave. Please send officers to charge them with trespassing. Oh, and if they leave before the officers arrive, please send the officers to their homes, and CHARGE THEM WITH TRESPASSING, since they were ALL SPECIFICALLY TOLD NOT TO COME, and yet, they came anyway, JUST TO STRESS OUT MY PREGNANT WIFE AND ENDANGER OUR MIXED BABY, because THEY LOVE TO ABUSE HER, AND ALWAYS HAVE. She FINALLY ESCAPED, AND NOW THEY ARE HARASSING HER AGAIN, AND I WANT TO CHARGE THEM ALL TO THE FULLEST EXTENT OF THE LAW. YES, I DID TELL THEM TO GO, AND THEY REFUSED. I THREATENED TO CALL THE POLICE TO HAVE THEM TRESPASSED AND THEY REFUSED AND DARED ME TO CALL THE COPS. SO THEY ARE DEFINITELY GUILTY OF TRESPASS AND NEED TO BE CHARGED AND SPEND THE NIGHT BEHIND BARS. ALSO, WHAT IS THE STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS ON CHILD ABUSE?" So, the FIL and MIL can hear all the reasons they REFUSED to hear before, AND pay the price for their CRIMES.

[@robertanthony5147]

dont invite them to anything ever leave them to wallow in there own slop

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Maybe have super soakers full of vinegar and warn them to leave or get soaked.🤪 Or have some sort of security when you know trash is going to try to crash your event. Never let garbage push their way into your home, event, anything. You don't need a infestation.

[@thecajunphoenix]

Vinegar won't keep garbage out. A working furnace will.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

What a crappy father and stepsister. The in-laws need to butt out. Fyi, please proofread before posting. The wrong words make it difficult for those with hearing problems from understanding what's happening in the story. Some of the words were waaay off. Cut off the nasty garbage from your life. Never allow them near you or your child. All of them. It's like allowing venomous snakes to slither over your baby. Nope.

[@astronautviolet153]

he known her and became friends with her when she was just 16 that's still a major red flag.

[@Ladywizard]

Yeah that was the part that was skeevy that she was in high school and he was finishing college

[@deandremiles1705]

Grow up lol their are couple with 20 year age gaps lol 😂

[@tommybell4850]

I think she said 17 n he was 22. If this is real he groom her to be is wife. He's a pedo if this is real.

[@gcarr1089]

I have no problem with people giving an opinion, but they have no right to get involved. OP was the only person with the right to invite her father and sister if she wanted them at the shower. Fil overstepped when he decided to invite them.

[@BigIIndo]

If she just told them and explain the full truth about her family from the beginning before they had to figure it out and learn some kind of lie on their own, then all this would’ve been completely prevented

[@girl1213]

Nah. Her in-laws should have trusted their son to make the right decision on who to marry. And they shouldn't have just believed the "sweet words" of a stranger. Because honestly, they've known her for far longer than him yet did not think even once "what if he's lying?" OP is entitled to her privacy. "I don't have a good relationship with my family" is more than enough information they're entitled to. The right way this could have been handled is this "OP, we've spoken to your father and gotten his side and now we would like yours." They didn't. They jumped headfirst into pre-conceived "she's a villain" ideas and now they are paying the price because if they couldn't trust OP, they should have at least trusted their son. Because they don't have any proof: just words.

[@TaRaah36]

Agreed. Also, the way her husband introduced her AFTER they were already engaged was most likely a red flag for them. What halfway decent parent wouldn't be alarmed by that?

[@ninaross211]

FATHER PUT ANOTHER MANS CHILD 1st. ALWAYS !! TREATING FLESH & BLOOD !! LIKE A DIRTY SERVANT ! NEVER EVER LOVING OWN CHILD

[@kathydurow6814]

You missed the bit where it turned out Dad had a second family and the "stepsister" was actually Dad's & a half sister.

[@Mignonne_Minyon]

Great job. I'm glad everything turned out

[@whodidthat2732]

I really enjoy the vicarious way that you narrate these stories. It makes them so much more appealing. Thank you.

[@joancampbell1377]

NTA they did not want you to marry your husband but now you are both doing so well in business they want to all of a sudden to be close to you do not be fooled don't start being in touch with them again enjoy your new life well done

[@Momof5grannytomany]

Man ops dad needs to understand that favoritism is not healthy for children what's good for the goose is sure for the gander. Man I'd leave him and never r a lj to him or step sister ever again an if the inlaws don't understand then I'd leave them behind to.

[@heididietrich9800]

That father is a piece of work!

[@ericmccoy2972]

You are absolutely right to hell with them for treating you like that

[@herewego8686]

Its always infuriating listening to these stories where one party brings their s.o. to their shitty toxic parents place. Like seriously ? Are these people idiots. Stop putting people you love in these situations

[@julialebron8881]

You Were Absolutely Right N Your Husband. You Baby DoestNeed That Awful Negativity In There Life. Congratulations 🎉❤😊

[@Mystic_Gaming0128]

The fact that op didn't call out her family rascim is beyond me She could of shut her fil up with that

[@ttrev007]

I would have immediately called the cops and have them all trespassed. I would not have given them time to make things worse.

[@gailholmes9099]

The audacity, cruelty, and resentment run deep in both sets of parents. Both sets of parents do not want to see them flourish individually or as a couple. Kudos for the husband for being wife's protector. Husband should have gotten a protective order against both sets of parents.

[@blessedgalore979]

The in-laws are horrible people too. I wouldn't deal with any of them. SMH

[@christinehutchins123]

I was going to say give them another chance....but after listening further I think you should feel free to extricate yourself from them permanently. They can't be allowed to further hurt and abuse you. Or access to do this to your family. Leave them to eachother. Best wishes for you and your new family.