Part 2: Searching for my biological father after my unexpected DNA results. Update and Q&A.

[@sazizi3570]

There is a chinese proverb that you reminded me of: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is right now. Don't feel like it is too late to embrace your Egyptian side.

[@rubblejane7413]

Love this! Thanks for sharing :)

[@EvelynJoy]

That is beautiful. ❤️

[@carluzahunter]

💯❤

[@Joonflowers]

I love that proverb too and often think about it.

[@MH-tn3pp]

I disagree: you are lucky to have a culture fron your birth and a husband that has the same culture, it’s priceless !

[@marie84qt]

The hardest part of dealing with the search for your dad is your mom. I have a difficult mom. Totally understand how she is impeding the truth process. So unfair, yet kinda common for some of us. My heart goes out to you.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Marie

[@cheyannestrobel7176]

My mom is very difficult too, I agree that the thing that makes this harder is your mom. Those hard memories you have with your mother make you want your dad more. They make you idealize him. Maybe he’s the perfect parent because she wasn’t. If it’s any consolation I had a dad I lived from 10 years old on with my dad. I still idealized him because frankly my mom sucks. He didn’t live up to my expectations and I don’t have much of a relationship with him as an adult. I hope you find what you are looking for! ❤️

[@talksmoke1190]

Coptic egyptians are one of the first and oldest stems of christianity. Your egyptian bachground could also include greco-roman dna. Nothing to be unhappy about. Cool history.

[@7eloua]

Talk Smoke I see lots of these reactions, what does it matter if her dad is coptic or otherwise? Of course its nothing to be unhappy about. Egypt has a rich history and even the arab history is awesome. You dont have to sell it to her by using the greek roman part of its history.

[@talksmoke1190]

@@7elouaI dont need you to tell me if my comment is acceptable. Keep your feeble knowledge of history contained

[@7eloua]

Talk Smoke I have the right to express my opinion. It’s as if you said don’t worry girl, you are part of a country with coptic and greek-roman history now, it’s not just arab and muslim, so dont be unhappy. You maybe will understand why your reaction and many other similar reactions mentioning the copt christians in particular as if its some kind of reassurance seem a bit awkward and unnecessairy.

[@talksmoke1190]

@@7eloua funny how you think only you can say what you want. Why so bitter? Whats wrong with your life? Is it because I didnt say anything about islam and egypt. You dont get it. Just want to spew. The Ptolemy and ceasars were in egypt not just muslims. Is that where the history should start. She thought she was jewish from her dad. She finds out shes coptic. Everybody should be happy no matter what their background big mouth. Nobody is talking about arabs but you. Comment all you want its great when people reveal their bigotry. With your attitude it is not hard to understand why copts are persecuted in egypt because they predate you!

[@7eloua]

Talk Smoke wow talking about bitter. How did you get so many false assumptions out of one little piece of text where I said its awkward that people seem to tell her she shouldnt be unhappy cause she comes from a certain background without including all of egypts history and only concentrating on the coptic or roman side of it as if that makes things better. Relax, i never said you couldnt give your opinion too. I find it amusing how prejudiced you seem to be after just a little bit of scratching the surface. I think Ive missed the part where she said her father was coptic... maybe I should rewatch it

[@annak1712]

As sad as this is, you've still learnt you're Egyptian and thats amazing. Go out eat the food, listen to the music, visit Egypt! Discover your Egyptian side, its not late at all :)

[@rubblejane7413]

Thanks, Anna

[@Rtv1ComCHICAGONEWS]

@@rubblejane7413 did u go visit our beautiful country yet 🇪🇬 is full of kings n queens and u could've been part of the Royal family

[@thenobleone-3384]

@@rubblejane7413 I'm still searching for my Biological father. It's been tough for me but I will eventually find out. All I know is he's not an American he's from Afghanistan which is a poor nation just like Egypt. I will check your Instagram out. I want to connect with other Adoptees

[@katelyndashwood1610]

I hope you find your dad!! I'm half german and half egyptian and I love my egyptian family a lot, they're the kindest people in the world!

[@rubblejane7413]

You're so right! All of the Egyptian people I've met have been so warm and welcoming.

[@vigneshrk]

see if there is a coptic orthodox church around the city u were born in...that might be a start...

[@sandragamal8727]

This is a great idea

[@EvelynJoy]

Interesting!!!

[@EgyptianLotus95]

I can see the egyptian features in your face very clearly! You're gorgeous

[@HHH-ye1ro]

Exactly. While this is a difficult journey, you are so lucky that you are so strong and intelligent. And beautiful. You got the best of the DNA lottery. Stay strong. I’ll be following your story.

[@guypersson9981]

Given how uncommon your heritage is, there's a lot of hope for you. A Coptic man, in your area, during a specific time, can't be _that_ common. Have you tried finding people who knew your mom, back then?

[@rubblejane7413]

I was actually born in a place with a fairly large Coptic community. I'm exploring clues outside of the DNA results and am hoping it leads me to the answers. Thanks for reaching out

[@sarahkilimanjaro1409]

Rubble Jane Arab communities abroad get very close and if you go back too the area you were born and find ppl from the Coptic community and even the wider Arab community in that area it could give you a lead. Maybe there’s a Coptic church there..... Maybe an elder from within the community knows your biological father or remembers him or maybe someone will see you and maybe see a resemblance, you never know hun, wish all the best

[@rubblejane7413]

@@sarahkilimanjaro1409 Thank you, Sarah

[@sarahkilimanjaro1409]

Rubble Jane 😍 💐

[@johnnyhab7819]

@@rubblejane7413 are you Coptic

[@Egyptianfaith]

You are so beautiful, your eyes are definitely Egyptian. You are from the Land of Pharaohs- what a great hounor!

[@rubblejane7413]

[@beronika5295]

Coastal Coyote | hey, egyptian here! it would be really hard to try and explain how her eyes look egyptian, but i’ll try my best. i grew up and lived around egyptiants for the first 11 years of my life (i’m 15), so i know what this person is getting at, though it’s going to be a little unclear, i know. let’s start with the simple stuff: her eye color is quite dark and her eyes are large, so that was one give away. from here it gets more complicated. her eye shape, specifically her inner corners, have no folds. if you look at asian eyes you would notice how there’s a fold that covers the inner corner of the eye, but she doesn’t have any of that. i’m pointing this out because many caucasian and african american people have even just a small fold that covers part of the tear duct, but egyptians generally don’t have that, so the whole tear duct is completely exposed. i tried describing this to the best of my abilities but other than that, i can really just tell you that her face “feels” egyptian. her eyes, eyebrows, cheekbones, and a little bit of her lips just look so familiar to me and i would’ve thought she spoke arabic if i saw her passing by in the streets in egypt. hope this helped a little!

[@susannaCdonovan23]

She could be related to Cleopatra...she's so beautiful!

[@susannaCdonovan23]

WeightLossMotivation I'm aware of that but she was the Queen of Egypt. Her biological children would be Egyptian, just as my Grandparents were not born in USA, but my parents were and thus American.

[@susannaCdonovan23]

WeightLossMotivation Mark Antony was Roman, so it was already occupied by Romans when Cleopatra married him, and became the Queen of Egypt. Her children being born in Egypt, making them Egyptian citizens. Was Cleopatra born in Egypt, or was she born in Macedonia?

[@Princess-rh4rb]

You can definitely see the Egyptian in you Like literally you look straight middle eastern just a lighter complexion

[@StephhhhLoveee]

♡Princess♡ I agree! She looks very Egyptian to me !

[@lillymorgan8668]

Wishing you the best of luck on this journey! I’m also Coptic Egyptian so welcome to the family 💞

[@rubblejane7413]

Lilly Morgan Thank you! 🥰❤️

[@monkiram]

Me too :)

[@Trolando]

I helped my 3rd cousin find her dad last year so it’s very doable. Look up the person you messaged that didn’t get back to you on google and Facebook. Good luck in your journey

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you

[@Trolando]

Rubble Jane You’re welcome; also if that close relative has a tree, get your husband to make a tree based off the info they have and see if any of your shared matches share a common ancestor. Their common ancestor is most likely yours. It’s a lot but helps tremendously.

[@thenordichammer1606]

I just watched both videos and I'm hooked. I can't wait to see how this turns out. Hopefully your Egyptian family is wonderful and you get everything your could hope for out of this!

[@CaliforniaBlue1944]

Jon I had the same thing happen to me. I found my bio dad too. Im writing a book to help others who go through this. If interested follow me for updates on Instagram at notparentexpected

[@Lizzette48]

Alicia Valladao Good luck with the book.

[@bitolcanecc]

Good luck with that girl, i'm looking for my grandfather in this moment, who was forbidden subject in my childhood ;)

[@rubblejane7413]

I hope you figure it out! You should check out a podcast called Cut Off Genes. It's all about finding biological family through DNA & Genetic Genealogy.

[@tinahallberg8820]

Blagojce Petrovski That makes two of us. Just got my parents’ DNA results back and hope to get some more clues that way.

[@sarasara591]

со среќа :)

[@floraortiz31]

Maybe your parents did not want your grandfather in your life because they were protecting you.

[@Tashy...Tee...79]

So Sreka Blagojce.

[@pamwatson5905]

Hi Jane. I am Scottish but I live in Egypt (please read my comment on your first video ). You have a lot to feel proud about when you start discovering your Egyptian heritage. Enti helwa (you're lovely ) . 😊

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Pam. You're so sweet.

[@drmennah38]

Pam Watson I LIVE IN EGYPT TOO. Where tho ?

[@pamwatson5905]

@@drmennah38 Hurghada. Where are you?

[@drmennah38]

Pam Watson really ? My cousins live there I live in Cairo dokki near zamalek

[@Violentbeat3940]

Maybe I’m taking the terminology too literal, but doesn’t that just mean you’re pretty?

[@queendrogo3177]

I’m watching from England and I’m a genealogist, so am following your story with much interest. Look forward to your next update. Good luck in your search & your own journey full of discoveries 💕

[@vdavis7509]

(1) So sorry your mom is unwell and unwilling to be open. That is the saddest thing about all this - the deceit and lack of honesty and compassion. (2) Good thing the bad guy wasn't your dad! (3) I'm 100% European, surprisingly, and I would LOVE to have some exotic DNA in my mix. Egypt has one of the greatest cultures in history, and you are descended from those people! (4) You are so authentic, real, and vulnerable, and it's so enjoyable to go along on your journey. Best wishes to you.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Vic 🙏🏼❤️

[@eringoblah]

I think it's a very valuable thing you're doing, documenting your experience and feelings about it in this way. You're expressing very well what I'm sure many in your situation feel. I remember feeling a little fear when I had my DNA tested, just being afraid that my sense of identity would be upended in some way. That didn't happen, everything was as it should be and no one had lied to me, but I remember my heart pounding as I opened the results. Your perspective on this is important to have on record. Thanks for sharing your story, I hope you do find your father.

[@amralkhairi]

Yo I'm middle eastern I'm fluent in Arabic if you need help let me know

[@albam6311]

Your eyes look so similar to Natalie Portman’s

[@Coregame3]

She's Jewish

[@heyhey9077]

@@Coregame3 😃😂😂😂👊🏻🔪🔪⚠️ NOPEEE

[@saqomahdi6413]

@@heyhey9077 🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@marzenabaginska3790]

I am happy you have a husband who is very supporting. Just be careful I don't want you to get hurt by someone out there who just want to take advantage of you because you being very emotional it which I understand why you just want to know the true and you should have the right to do so.

[@Christine_990]

I'm sorry that you're going through such emotional turmoil over your discovery. Last year I took a DNA test from 23&Me & Ancestry because I'm just fascinated by genealogy & wanted to know more of my family. Turns out I had a cousin who was looking for my family. Her dad, is my mom's brother. Which normally wouldn't be like "oh my god, I'm searching for you!" normally you'd already know each other. Except that my mom's brother was taken away when he about 2 years old by his mother in the 1960's. And he's been missing that whole time. My mom & my great-grandmother have always wanted to know him & wanted to meet him. My mom cried so hard when I found out who this cousin was, that it's his daughter. His daughter is really excited to know us & share our families together.. but her dad, not so much. He's spent his whole life thinking (and being told by his mom n grandmother) that our family didn't want to know him, didn't want to be around him. Etc. So he won't speak to us yet. I hope he comes around. It means so much to my mom. I hope you find your biodad. I hope he's as happy to find you as my mom was to find her brother & know he was okay.

[@galleryg998]

This channel will be a really good diary to look back at when you’re older, and should help others in the same situation

[@yassmin4096]

Your identity is based on your personality and actions.It's not based on your unknown father or your mother.I think your identity is a beautiful young woman who loves life , has a warm heart , kind , brave and strong enough to share her story.

[@ShondaLouisianaMama]

I am 42 years old and found my biological dad three years ago through AncestryDNA.com. I found out that I am Portuguese and it blew my mind. I now have an amazing relationship with him. Keep searching. Knowing who you truly come from is worth it. I wish you good luck in your search.

[@dinniebeattie4679]

Portuguese.. My DNA results show that is my father's roots. Lots of family secrets being uncovered. Exciting for me.

[@lisaogrady1214]

We are all one. I understand wanting to know your biological dad. I would to. I hope you find him soon. Don't let that mess with your idenity. Our DNA does not make us who we are. Some people come from parents who have a terrible past and I would say, we are not our parents. We are spirits, having a human experience. Don't let that hurt you. Turn it into something positive and fun to research. I hope this helps you. Who ever he is he is lucky to have such a beautiful daughter. I will follow your story and I pray you find him. Sending love.

[@YayaC1115]

I have a similar story! The man I thought was my biological father up until 5 yrs old turned out not being my dad. And then at age 14 I found who I believe is my real biological father on Myspace LOL. It’s been about 10 years since then and I have no communication with him. I know what it’s like to feel like a chunk of you is unidentified. I hope your search goes well and you find him! Best wishes ❤️

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Mariah

[@DenaMarie90]

You definitely have Egyptian features! You are GORGEOUS. I can’t wait to continue following on your journey of self identity. I hope that you find your biological father ❤️

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Dena 💕

[@taylorm7933]

Transfer your data to My Family Tree DNA and My Heritage as well.

[@Jen-CelticWarrior]

I did a lengthy comment on your first post about this situation you’re in, describing how similar our situations are. I appreciate your feelings, experiences and searches, because they mirror my own in many ways. You’ve also described many of my own feelings that I haven’t put into solid words for myself. Peace to you, and I wish you success in your journey and search!💜

[@happygolucky8992]

I’m from Saudi Arabia, we’re all here to support you. From ALL around the world. I don’t claim to understand how you feel but I’m 100% that you are a very brave strong young lady, you should feel proud of yourself, you don’t have to suppress your feelings but don’t delve too much in the past, it’s going to take time to heal, I’ll always pray for you to find peace and tranquillity within you.

[@rubblejane7413]

HappyGoLucky Thank you so much for the kind words. 🙏🏼❤️

[@Hampdensipnpaint]

I can hear the grief in your voice for the dad you thought you had. This must all be so difficult for you. I hope you grow from this and eventually feel loved and wanted and valued.

[@fatimaamely]

Girl you made me cry😢 Every girl needs a father and it gets really complicated and challenging when a father is missing or when he fails to connect with her even if he is present. I feel you. You are not alone and none of that is your fault. This is why some religions are strict about sexual relationships out of wedlock. Stay strong.

[@mrsalshammari2377]

God loves you Rubble you know why because you are a wonderful person , please be strong and more positive about your life,this life has its own challenges for everyone only the type of challenges are different between us , God will help through this issue, please be sure of this and we as friends and community will help you too to make it through this emotional issue, please feel good about your self and always feel positive about your life with all love and support from us ,please don’t ever lose hope god and us are with you.💐💐

[@tammymcpherson9982]

I want to reach out and give you a hug!!! This is s huge thing, and even though I knew who my father was, he wasn’t in my life until I was an adult, and married with children. I only had two years of a relationship with him before he died from pancreatic cancer, so it was bitter sweet. I hope that you find your father, and that he is able to fill a part of the empty void in your heart. I am not attacking your mother, but as a mother, I couldn’t imagine doing that to my children, or reacting the way she did when you confronted her. I get it, she is who she is, and you have to love her for any good parts she has, and overlook the rest. That makes me so sad for you too!! I’m praying that you find your father!! Hugs and God Bless!!

[@saraibra222]

I am half Italian and half Egyptian and lived my 7 years in Italy and from this time I went&lived in Egypt and I am still there it's an amazing country come over and fight to find it.💪❤️ HERE IS INCREDIBLE AND THEY ARE THE CREATORS OF HISTORY🖤

[@Sarahcha_93]

It's never too late to discover yourself!! Don't be sad and do not give up. Keep searching and working hard at finding your biological father and your long lost family, and I hope that when you find them, you feel rewarded and happy. We are all rooting for you. In the meantime, I think it would be fun to research Egypt and Egyptian culture and Coptic Christianity and culture, I bet it will help you feel more connected to your heritage. Maybe even look up popular Egyptian recipes and try cooking Egyptian dishes. They are quite delicious! Even learn a few Arabic words in the Egyptian dialect. It is never too late to learn about yourself. I was raised by both my biological parents and I am 25 and to this day I'm still learning things I never knew about my culture and my ancestors.

[@rimmka29]

Are you planning on taking a trip to Egypt with your husband anytime in he future? That’s the best way to learn the culture

[@rubblejane7413]

Yes! We're planning on going next winter :)

[@rimmka29]

@@rubblejane7413 Awesome! Hope you both enjoy your time there!

[@hadayamonroe7728]

@@rubblejane7413 visit Morocco too and dubai

[@BeeBeeimonotfact]

My advice is pack in Ziploc bags so the dust doesn't get all over your things .

[@anomietoponymie2140]

Hi Jane, your first video came up randomly in my recommendations. I sometimes watch DNA discovery videos. I just wanted to say that I wish you best of luck in this adventure and much wisdom. I hope that whatever the outcome you will be able to make peace with your beginnings and heritage.

[@4myth3st71]

I love how raw and honest you have been in these videos, it’s amazing that you want to share this journey you are on with all of us, even though it’s so personal! i hope you get to the bottom of all this! ❣️

[@rubblejane7413]

🙏🏼💕 Thank you, Amy

[@carenostendorfayika7637]

Tears are cathartic. This looks like the beginning of something rather than the end of something. It is a new adventure that might bring healing and the answers you are looking for. Nothing is by accident. If you are in the same city that you grew up in, seek out the local Coptic church. Get to know the people and the faith.... You may come to discover what you need and who you need to meet. Blessings!

[@stefanfrankel8157]

On the positive side, as they say, you won the genetic lottery.

[@luanebernon6675]

Hi from France! You are incredibly brave and I send you all my support to find your father, I think you will help a lot of people to believe in the humanity on earth💓

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Luane

[@cadencechrome4783]

I admire your strength, you may not feel strong but you really are. Happy you have support. You will indeed find what/who you are searching for. You will certainly enrich their lives. You go, girl! Look forward not back. Your are on the path of your future and your life will open up.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Cadence 🙏❤️

[@cadencechrome4783]

@@rubblejane7413 you are more than welcome. Chin up.

[@sandra8991]

I can totally understand that you feel there has been a lot of lost time connecting with your heritage. The good thing is, you can do that now, emerge into a new world and wonderful adventure.

[@jitaamesuluma9730]

i understand knowing the truth of who you are is important , however as an adopted person i have to say being happy thats much more important and you have to give yourself the right to be happy no matter what life throws you

[@jackiejohn06]

I found out at 52 that the person I thought was my father never was . I even have his last name . I took a DNA test as a grad school project and was shocked . I found out by accident !!! It’s the worse ! I found my biological father lived an hour away my entire life . My mother kept this under wraps and it really hit me hard . I found I have a sister and a brother . They are good people so glad for that . I also found out my dad passed away 10 years ago . I wish I had found out then . This feels like a book with a missing chapter . Very hurtful .

[@seahorse251]

I understand how you feel and having to reprocess the memories of your entire life. Just remember your creator has been with you and by your side this entire side watching over you. Hugs.

[@andromeda0448]

I'm so glad to hear you have support - my thoughts were that even without the story about your father your family history sounded complicated enough. So, all the best for your life in the future!

[@MoniB888]

I relate to your story a bit, my mom was adopted and I went on a search to find her birth family. She was 11 out of 12 kids, but raised as an only child. So I only knew my dad's two sisters as my aunt's, but then I found 11 more wonderful aunts, uncles, and a million amazing cousins. I was raised believing half of me was Native American & Mexican, but I'm actually Portuguese & a pretty big mix of other nationalities. Best wishes to you, love.

[@Kenkosh3]

It’s so pleasant to see that you’ve begun the process of coming to terms with your ancestral past, I just saw you’re first video. I’m glad you’re tracking things down. I look forward to your updates. Don’t be discouraged, but please don’t allow this to reign over who you really are as a person. God has given you many talents and a heart of love. Enjoy it. Kudos to the husband who is taking part in this journey. I wish the two of you the happiest of life. God Bless!

[@momsandie6171]

Thank you for sharing your story in such a public way. I pray you will find what you are seeking. Take satisfaction that your vlogs are helping a lot of people who are going through the same thing.

[@jovanajohanna]

Your genetic background is so interesting and exotic. I'm a boring Eastern-European and there's nothing to be excited about that, lol. Be proud and embrace your genes. You had a difficult childhood but you're doing sooo good now. I wish you strength to go through all of this. I will subscribe, because I'm really interested in your story! Stay strong, love.

[@EmmaAppleBerry]

Theres nothing boring about eastern europe you should be proud of all the different cultures and history and achievements.

[@jaydagraham2407]

You’re so strong! Keep your head up and everything will fall into place.

[@isabellehoggmascall5953]

I had a friend who is from Mali but grew up in the UAE, when he got to his 20s he really felt that he wasn't connected with his heritage so he went for an extended solo trip to Mali to learn the different cultures and languages there. He always talks about how amazing it was and is now very proud of the cultures in both his heritage and upbringing. Sounds like it might be something worth saving up for to bring yourself a better sense of self xx

[@traceybaham8389]

Don't give up! Sometimes people don't check their messages on 23&me or Ancestry. If you can find a social media page or email address (not always easy to do), that might be your best bet. My husband has a similar experience, He grew up with his dad, but, like you, he learned through the same 2 sites that his dad is not his biological father. All parents are deceased now, but he has 2 new aunts, a sister, a brother, and 3 cousins. They are all very welcoming and his older sister is very supportive. WE have seen them several times and have spent weekends with them.

[@melvawages7143]

Watch youtuber KelseyLynn. she found her father only a year ago and she is in her 30's. She may can help you some.

[@melvawages7143]

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[@nadiaa.m.ebrahim3928]

I am Egyptian and from what I know, Coptic Egyptians are a strong net community. If you know where your parents met/where your biological father lived, it is so easy to find him through churches and local communities. You may need to visit or find people/friends who can help you search. Good luck to you. You are beautiful and magnificent! Xoxoxoxo

[@cheapskatepanic]

I'm so sorry about your mom. However I'm glad to know that you see she has issues and are able to articulate them well. Some people internalize their parents behavior and they think they are the problem. It helps for your healing. ❤️❤️

[@maryanna71701]

Darling Jane... this will be an interesting journey-> looking forward to watching you GROW.

[@tarynn7667]

I understand how you feel. I never knew who my real father was until I was 15. The feeling of being unwanted, incomplete, abandoned, that empty feeling is so painful. If I could reach thru the screen and hug you I would. It will get better chicka, the more you learn, the more you reach out to that side of the family, the more you will heal. The bad memories will probably stay with you but now you get to begin a whole new chapter of your life with family who can fill that empty spot in your heart. A relief and a painful thing to let go of. I wish I could tell you my story but I'm not comfortable doing so in the comments :D Let's just say our mothers sound very a like no disrespect intended they are still our mothers and we love them but sometimes they suck it is what it is.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you for the kind words and for sharing a bit of your story. Sending you so much love 💕

[@49alemanelena]

I just came back from Egypt, specifically Cairo and I have absolutely LOVED IT! Coptic Christians are some of the sweetest people as well! So cool how your heritage is a part of some of the most hospitable people I have ever met!

[@savannahphillips643]

Oooo I love this new channel and I’m ready for you to get some results girl! Keep us posted, we want to know!!

[@rubblejane7413]

Savannah Phillips thanks! I will 🥰👍

[@kristinarezaie6875]

Subscribed ♥️ I’m keeping you in my thoughts and I can’t wait to see this beautiful journey. You got this girl. Don’t give up when it gets hard!

[@rubblejane7413]

🥰🙏

[@trippymiracle1157]

What is explained and offered in this book applies to every single person on the planet and the likelihood that it can serve as a tool on your journey is very high. - It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn. Your ancestors are with you. Blessings on your journey.

[@thebookwormteacher]

Hey, I’m Coptic Orthodox as well. I think it’s awesome, sister :) I was born in Montreal, Quebec (Canadian) but I’m still very much of that culture still. I hope that I can shed some light on how the culture kind of works... my brother in law (Coptic Orthodox) and his (now) wife (British-Canadian non-religious) had their first child before marriage... they were both teenagers still. Not once did we ever make their baby feel like she wasn’t loved or needed in lives but it was as though the Egyptian culture (and the extremely nosy and insanely judgemental fellow churchgoers and their blood relatives) pretty much made the entire situation excruciating. Completely unnecessarily! If your dad was somewhat of a newcomer or if his family/community controlled his every move (not excusing it by any means), he may not have known how to react other than to flee the situation. He may also have thought that it’s best for you to not deal with the repercussions. My niece is now 10 and the churchgoers STILL STARE. Good Lord, sometimes people have no lives. My brother/sister in law have now been married for 8 years and have another child but she is still rarely acknowledged by the elders around us in the church, making it toxic for all of us since no one deserves to feel that way when they’re going to worship. I need to also say that please please do not feel that this is a religious thing. My Muslim Egyptian friends could all relate. This is purely the Egyptian culture that came to North America, bringing the old school mentality with them. While the culture in Egypt and the atmosphere has changed, that generation continues to think that the Egyptian culture should still be or may even still be the same way in Egypt currently. I’m praying for you and I hope that you can have answers soon. You were not placed on this Earth by accident. Trust me.

[@kall1010]

Hey, I came across your channel and saw that you're part Egyptian! Now you can say you're a descendant of the Pharaohs :D If you want to learn more about Egypt you should try to get in touch with members of the Egyptian community in your town.

[@mrkongsimr]

I understand what this doing to you and you need to change it . To be free is to let the past and only look to what is forward , so if you are going to find your father then it´s for the future only . Don´t be raking up the past with it , just be excited for the future , that also helps your new family . You are to beautiful and a nice girl to have your future ruined with the past and it´s all up to YOU.

[@karlyxoxo2]

Just wanna say thank you for being so open about all of this. I love following the journey & wish you the best! ❤

[@MalakhShenafal]

I really hope you find closure, whatever the outcome. Hope to see more of your journey. Good luck!

[@nehelnabil4425]

Hey dear, i am Egyptian and i know you’ll find him i am sure. Coptic Egyptian are a very closed group and finding him wont be hard. I am here i can help if you need anything or if you’re ever visiting. You go cousin! 💚💚💚

[@Roxality]

Also, start doing your family history. I know that sounds odd maybe, but if you connect with other people along the way, they may help connect you to your dad. Some people are crazy into genealogy. It’s how I found my grandma’s long lost brother.

[@Justshill]

Lots of families would be proud to have you as a member; sometimes you have to walk away.

[@monkiram]

I just commented on your first video but I felt that I should say, it's not to late to embrace your Egyptian heritage :) The easiest place to find lots of other Copts is at a Coptic church, I would suggest finding a church nearby and looking up a contact on their website to ask about social events they hold. We all consider each other family in the Coptic community, welcome!

[@tabitas.2719]

I admire you for your strength and courage talking about this! Thanks :) God bless you and all the best for your search and journey!

[@julietrejo8552]

You have time... re post from my post on video #1 I found my Biological father after 20 years of searching. In the beginning all I had was a christening certificate with his name, N/A was on my birth certificate, phone books, and the library. Thanks to social media and DNA that was 3 years ago, I'm now 41 it is never to late. If it weren't for modern tech we have today I feel I would have never found him. Since he had move many times ending up in LA and I have lived in IL an AR. As before much love on your journey ❤ Julie

[@susanmazzanti5643]

We are born needing our parents and you were not given what we need. Try to remember that your mom had a mental illness that changed who she was and was not able to do what she should have. You did and still do deserve to be loved and cared for. You did nothing wrong that caused any of this. Try to forgive the man you thought was your dad. That is the best way for you to heal. I hope you find the loving family that you deserve. You are still the same person you always were. You just have relatives from a different place.

[@63rambler66]

Jane, get your profile into other databases if you haven’t yet. And please be ready for more hurt and disappointment, but keep going nonetheless. I so envy the background you discovered. I hope you will explore all aspects of Coptic and Egyptian culture. Cool language, great food, great music, and if I’m not mistaken a warm sensibility in the culture, and rich history. I’m sorry about the hard parts of this. Big hugs to you.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you so much. I am on all the databases. Most of my matches are on 23andme & Ancestry but I obsessively keep my eyes on all of them. Hugs!

[@eiliaadam1800]

Good Luck Rubble stay strong we love you girl.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you Eilia

[@rtd1791]

If you haven’t already ( Don’t want to assume) register for bone marrow donation. Certain ethnicities aren’t represented that well in the registries. Also, the registries need more mixed people. It’s a way to do something super positive with all of your angst. You may even get to save a life.

[@qatarnightskywithlisa5008]

Sending you love from Libya 💕 I'm part libyan and part British from my mum side.

[@beautybyfuri5636]

Lisa Marghani I just found out 2 weeks ago that I’m part Libyan through a dna test! Had no idea, I thought I was a Turk the whole time!

[@PeteV80]

Watched your first video and had to see if there was a follow up. I'm glad you're still looking. The Copts have an incredibly rich culture and history quite unique from anything else in the Middle East. Their language has remained isolated in their Church for almost two thousand years, so it is an audible fossil of the ancient world. It IS ancient Egyptian. Coptic was used by early Egyptologists to figure out how the ancient Egyptian language sounded and functioned as far back as 5000 years ago. Your heritage is a pocket through which we can view the ancient world and its achievements. Now you have a whole life in front of you to explore your inheritance of this extraordinary cultural history. Enjoy it.

[@bintuweel]

You don't worry my dear you will find him that for sure, you are entitle for that, and is yours and God will bring to you without a doubt. I feel what you are going through, and I pray for your happy ending. God bless you.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you so much

[@smashandcreate]

I really hope you get some answers and are able to connect with your heritage. I'm glad you were able to get in contact with at least one relative and that your husband has been so much help. I cant wait to see how it all unfolds! God bless.

[@rubblejane7413]

❤️

[@dbeatty]

I don't know if this is what happened in your case, but it is a pretty big phenomenon of Middle Eastern men coming to university in the United States having relations while here that sometimes result in children, and then going home and getting married and going on with life. Typically, most of these men culturally do not feel they can acknowledge these children for a variety of cultural and legal reasons. I recently saw a story from a young man whose dad was Saudi in this kind of scenario, and his mother had given him a name and he found his father and went to Saudi when it opened up. He did not get to meet his father but he did meet some cousins who were good hosts for him.

[@kitty_s23456]

Yes, I saw that documentary too. I don't know if that docu was the one with a young Colombian (or Latino) / half Saudi boy? I felt more sad for the little boy since he's still so young & wants to see & know his dad. He's even learning Arabic at the local mosque to be able to connect with his dad in the future. For the other guy, I also felt sad that his father didn't want to meet or acknowledge him. I'm glad his cousins stepped up & treated him well. Since he's already an adult, his identity has been formed and I think he was able to handle the rejection from his father well.

[@daynamaelstrom3305]

I just sent out an Ancestry DNA test yesterday, as I have a mom very much like yours. There is speculation from family members between 2 guys who could be my father, tho she( my mom) is adamant it is only one ( who doesn't admit to me or bother with me my entire life). Sadly if it is the other man, he would have been an amazing dad and sadly I will have missed out, he passed away a few years back, he was a family friend of my aunt's.

[@simplynon-traditional]

If you don’t get an answer on 23 and Me, you can consider trying to find and contact those people on Facebook if you can find them. Some people don’t log in often or pay attention to 23 and Me notifications. I realize that’s a bit more invasive, but it may be worth a shot. Good luck!

[@a.a.2001]

I'm sure you have heard this somewhere along the way but in case you have not, your story is so strongly reminding me of the books Anywhere But Here and The Lost Father by Mona Simpson. They are wonderfully written books, the first about a young American girl growing up with a difficult and narcissistic single mother and the void she feels in her life where her estranged father, who happens to be Egyptian, is not. The second book is about her search for him once she has come of age. I highly recommend them as stories you may identify with and which I suspect may be of some comfort or use to you on your journey as you sort through your own emotional wounds and begin to heal. There is a movie of the first book but it leaves out quite a bit and really does not touch on the parts about her father or explore that in depth the way the book does, so I do not recommend seeing the movie until you've read the book. Hope this is of some use to you, sending love and luck

[@nourgohany5906]

Hey, I'm egyptian and I'm good at both English and Arabic so if u want help hit me up , can wait for the update tho good luck

[@arianacuriel6827]

Thank you for sharing your story, its not easy!

[@nadajniczek]

Hey. Your story is very interesting :) I read on wikipedia that egyptian coptic church has only 200.000 members all over the world and just a fiew of them lives in: Los Angeles, Brooklyn and Nashville (and Sydney - Australia) idk where are you from but you should start looking for in those Archidioceses - christian churches have huge archives about their members so it will be easy to find your dad :) I'll keep my fingers crossed!

[@wednesdayleigh7618]

Hello I suggest if you’re on Facebook to join a group called DNA detectives they can help you find your dad! These people are absolutely incredible and do some pretty dam impressive things with your DNA 👌🏼.

[@hettyherz]

It is a kinda sad how parents can hide such important information from their own kids. My foster sister now has a teenage daughter, and no one ever told the young girl about her biological father, even the father's name in her birth certificate is not real, the name was totally made up to sound local. But I see her photos now, and she looks a lot like her Iranian father. If I will ever have a chance to contact her, I think I'll tell her the story. Since there is no man who she believes is her real dad, there won't be any harm.

[@Coregame3]

Tell her already

[@hettyherz]

@@Coregame3 I can't. She is under 18. At the moment her mother is the only one who can decide to tell or not to tell, and she doesn't want to discuss the subject with the girl. To be able to tell her, I have to wait when she will reach the age of majority.

[@mirandapillsbury7885]

Congrats on being part Arab! I'm part Arab as well and it is such a beautiful thing. I didn't know until I was much older and found out about my father on my own. Turns out he didn't even know I existed because my mom (who is white) never told him. I was stripped away from having an amazing man as a father for my entire childhood but at least now I've got him. He is much older and he has huge regrets even though it was not his fault. At least we now get to hang out, share stories, eat together etc...I also found out about my father's Muslim faith and it opened my eyes so much. Totally changed my idiotic past thoughts about the Middle East and Muslims / Islam. I know it can be tough and I'm here with you. It is never too late to find out the truth

[@rubblejane7413]

Hi Miranda! Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. I love that your biological father was welcoming. It makes my heart sing to outcomes like that. ❤️

[@mirandapillsbury7885]

@@rubblejane7413 Thank you so much for the kind words! I'm really looking forward to experiencing this journey with you via your videos and I pray your story ends with the best possible outcome ever. I have a great feeling that it will!

[@avalondreaming1433]

I believe that it is a basic human right to know who your parents are. A child has that right. People who just selfishly tell lies about their child's heritage are committing a crime against nature. Buying and selling sperm and eggs should be illegal.

[@ChaiLatte13]

If your husband likes charts, then I recommend doing a Leed's method on your matches and use DNApainter's What are the Odds tool. Both of these can help sort through the different groupings of paternal matches. Also I don't think mirror trees where you attach your DNA to one of your cousins are recommended any more. That was an old technique that was popular a few years ago before Ancestry showed shared matches and you had to depend on the shared ancestor hints. I have helped a handful of people find their birth parents. Depending upon the matches it can be extremely difficult to sort through. It all depends on who has tested and if family trees are available for those matches. You want to build a family tree for each of your matches and figure out where they meet together.

[@yvettakollega5791]

It's an interesting aspect of DNA testing how your identity can change after getting the results. You just see yourself in a different light.

[@inquisitvem6723]

loved the ending with a touch of humor considering the emotional topic

[@rubblejane7413]

Inquisitve m Thanks! It can feel uncomfortable posting such a personal video on the internet. I wanted to end it on a lighter note and show a bit of my personality when I’m not crying. 😂

[@somcana]

The little girl in you still needs love. Please love her 💕

[@ashleylobato3405]

You are such a strong person. I really hope you find the closure you are looking for.

[@rubblejane7413]

Thank you, Ashley