PART TWO: Being on a Date with Someone Who Has Baggage

[@sgrhopoodle2001]

That was probably the best talk that they’ve ever had.

[@n.tucker1296]

Totally agree!!

[@drtash21]

It's the first talk where they ALL equally contributed sth to the conversation. Took them long enough.

[@semiloreayo-gbenjo1370]

I was just thinking that too and then I read your comment loll

[@MrMedude77]

very different views from all of them.

[@alexisgeneve2471]

HONESTLY! They were just bouncing off of eachother so WELL!

[@preciosannie]

Guys, we are in quarantine we need the following parts faster. 🤣

[@lipsohlips97]

LOLOLOL

[@annenoel4171]

Right

[@janeeqstarks]

Annie Johanna exactly

[@LethoHali]

😂 know wot am sayin’

[@shaythareal2382]

Fr!!!

[@charlotte6717]

Everyone of these ladies is different Jeannie = Deeply emotional & intellectual person Adrienne = More physical, takes people at face value Amanda = Intellectually complex but emotionally grounded Tamera: Soft hearted, emotional but knows what she’s looking for Loni: Can be emotional but is also very protective of herself & space I can see where they are all coming from. Doesn’t mean ones opinion is better then the other, it just means they see things differently especially Jeannie & Adrienne cuz they are two totally different people. While some may agree with Adrienne, there are people out there who are more like Jeannie and relate more to what she’s saying

[@lunad5491]

I agree with this

[@jyn88]

I'm a mixture of Jeannie, Tam, and Loni.

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed 👏🏼👏🏼💯💯

[@ANAIVI]

Great analysis!!

[@aaiish9097]

An actual intellect 👏👏

[@MorganBee211]

There’s a difference between baggage and stats like Amanda said. Baggage=unresolved emotional and unaddressed. Stats= you’ve confronted them head on and go through life positively

[@ruruvarela]

Absolutely

[@LordLex]

Exactly unresolved, I was thinking why was this question even asked. Someone with emotional baggage should NOT be on a date 🥴

[@dhfgsncujsajh12]

In this topics, I agreed with Amanda the most

[@cheyennenicole2114]

Me tooooooo

[@mt3388]

dshweeks exactly!! If I tell you my secrets on the first date and the first date doesn’t turn into a second, I don’t want you and 8 of your friends that you’re gonna end up telling - to know my secret. You didn’t earn the right to know that just yet!! LOL

[@helenmayberry6010]

@@bsbgirl85 She let Adrienne (she came at her with some GHETTO MESS) know...NO IAM NOT ABOUT GAMES!!

[@queendaidai300]

I got a baby mama limit too . Mine is none 🗣‼️

[@Tan87ful]

Mines too lol I don't want no extra drama

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

Hahah

[@sweetlife1423]

I like men with kids cause if you ever want children one day. You get to atleast see how he is with his children he already has......Its really tough being a single parent because the father chose to not be a responsible parent...

[@hannahsvictorious8511]

Hahahahaha 😂

[@shayslay3416]

@@sweetlife1423 get to know the man before you lay down and have kids, and maybe figure out marriage before you have them. That might help.

[@Kim-427]

I love my Jeannie but she's projecting what she feels she should've done with Freddie.Im with Adrienne on this one its a first date it may not need to be so deep.And as a woman I will admit sometimes we just talk too damn much.lol A male friend of mine told me one time to stop telling those dudes so much! lol

[@cascada122321]

Kim Wright but she just said that she can kiki and have chemistry but also have vulnerable moments

[@Kim-427]

@@cascada122321 I dont know just from listening to Jeannie when it comes to dating and relationship topics she always seems to speak from a place of this is what I shouldve done or will do from now on.I pick that up because thats how I was when I went through that big break up.

[@Msladyrae92]

Kim Wright yaasssss I be chatty af once I get a few drinks in me then I’m like damn I done told this man my whole life story ahhaa

[@babygirl4949]

Kim Wright I don’t think she’s projecting but I do think she probably regrets that she wasted time with Freddie but also she was a different person. Her first date requirements back then are different now. She 40. She ain’t tryna waste no time. She still tryna find someone. Where as Adrienne, she was in her early 30s when she started dating her husband so her requirements weren’t so serious. Not that I agree with Jeanie though but I think it’s more so that she ain’t got time to waste

[@nv8988]

Even on the first date if you make it feel like baggage its gonna feel like baggage. But you can talk about your bottom line and deeper topics honestly without making it heavy. Guys who won't appreciate it aren't for you anyway cuz it shows they didn't really want anything deeper than fun.

[@kishasowell554]

I'm sorry I'm not with Adrienne, I want to know up front. Hell if we on a date that's what a date is for, sometimes the conversation gets deep. I'm not wasting 3, 4 dates then you tell me something crazy, I just wasted 3, 4 outfits lol 🤷‍♀️

[@Prosper927]

Wasted outfits 😂😂

[@Bibi_xoxoo]

You should also be enjoying yourself and not make things so seriously untill the next couple of dates. You have to know if you can laugh and just chill with this person while getting deep

[@lindsaylindsay4884]

If anyone was was completely open and real and put ALL their baggage on t(e table on the very 1st date then it would never get further than that. Now you have 50 strangers knowing all your business. You know your not doing that

[@LiahB]

Kisha Sowell I just really LOL’d!!!! I know that’s right.. can’t waste ONE outfit 😂😂😂

[@isisvazquez462]

Same! If you were married before, I need to know that. I’m not going to waste my time 4 dates in and end up being mad because you were hiding stuff.

[@jenbradley4728]

I love how Tamera just speaks so honestly about herself. Great discussion.

[@AsweetAroma-b2l]

I agree with Adrienne that’s to much on a first date.

[@nv8988]

Depends where you are in your life. If you know 100 you want a family and not waste time you gotta be up front even on the first date. Doesn't mean it has to be all heavy, like you're in therapy. Its gonna feel like baggage if you make it feel like baggage. Just in fun casual conversation talking about your bottom line is important. Guys will appreciate it too bc they hate their time wasted too but for different reasons lol.

[@Tan87ful]

@@nv8988 yep 👏🏼👏🏼💯💯

[@jackieagard537]

First , second or third dates Adrienne hussy came with baggage, he didn't have to tell her on the first date because she knew all along , because she was friends with him and his wife, so she knew and she knew about the cheating, maybe not the extend of it , I doubt she knew of all the outside children, that why up to this day there are baggage she wouldn't accept like his two other outside children, so she using that as" I don't have to know all your baggage on the first date" . regardless of all that she had a point to prove to the Kardashians, Rob especially and to the last engagement she had , so knowing about baggage on the first date or not , she wanted marriage so badly any old baggage will do .

[@AsweetAroma-b2l]

N V yeah you have a point

[@AsweetAroma-b2l]

Jackie Agard she was friends with the wife?? Damn come on adrienne

[@lipsohlips97]

And this proves my comment from part 1 that Jeannie and Amanda were never actually disagreeing. lolol

[@MewSakura12]

Loool you’re absolutely right

[@helenmayberry6010]

I love their interaction, both are strong in their opinions and very respectful to one another

[@lipsohlips97]

@@helenmayberry6010 Yes I've noticed also that they seem to be disagreeing all the time but they are more actually quite similar and their disagreement is sometimes because of misunderstandings.

[@brijyoda5897]

I think it’s bc their zodiacs lol cancer and Capricorn have the same ideals but come at things differently..sister signs . They need to work at not automatically dismissing the other opinions bc it doesn’t match theirs

[@amaliapereira2100]

Amanda is so well spoken. I love how she’s a strong, intelligent, self aware and romantic women. I think Trevor Noah is a good match for her. Just saying

[@rn2511]

Amalia Pereira hmmmm I thought about it. It’ll be sorta like John legend Chrissy type personality types. I can see her blowing at someone and him saying baby baby it’s ok don’t let him/her get to you. Let’s go lol. Who’s gonna do the matching. Me or you? Wait I think there was an interview lemmi go watch and see if there was any sparks.

[@daisymkhabela2703]

i totally agree

[@rn2511]

I’m back!!! This by the way is live investigative journalism. Yes yes you were right. I could feel some heat. Sigh. Woke up too early and now we’re here lol.

[@ayeshabray3727]

Nah trevor needs to marry someone from South Africa

[@ayeshabray3727]

@Anne Day I'm also South African and i definitely get what you saying All i meant was we have amazing woman in South Africa, and i would love to see him with a South African woman But he can marry who he wants to

[@n.tucker1296]

I think this was the best debate at the table I've seen. Such different opinions/preferences yet yall gave each other time to fully express yourselves without demanding one view is right and the others are wrong. Loved it!!!

[@TheLifeofAngie_]

PSA: These are pre-recorded episodes they are all at home safe they will be returning live in April!!! Stay in y’all’s house and binge watch some shows😌may God be with you all🙏🏽❤️

[@milesjohnson7423]

I'm glad they realized everybody is different and will consider some things as stats and not baggage.

[@Awillii]

Tam looks like she can be in the Sister Act choir.

[@saniahprater897]

Awillii lmaooo bye 😂

[@nvindell]

Awillii she’s drowning in that suit.

[@simphiwehlatshwayo5007]

U knw what😂🤣🤣🤣😂

[@elleblasse]

I was in a very abusive relationship for years and didn’t date for the longest time after that to deal with the trauma and PTSD that resulted from it. When a guy whom I’d interacted with a few times before asked me out, I thought I owed it to him to mention I had gone through something real bad since it shaped me differently and his actions or words could potentially have me shut down. He asked for ALL the details, to which I refuse to give him because who would want to just go on talking about day-to-day abuse they’ve suffered for years. He insisted as time went by and I gave him a little more information every time we’d hangout. He’s used every little thing I told him against me and would gaslight me the whole time. Although my friends and family warned me, I didn’t want to “abandon” him like everyone else. I left him after 6 months and promised myself I would never share this information again. It was like giving him a playbook to use and abuse you. I now have a good man whom I would be comfortable sharing this kind of information with and could trust him with but I don’t feel the need to anymore.

[@abyanfarah1076]

Same here I was married to a nacrssis for 15y PTSD is really.

[@tanialol101]

If you dont mind me asking, when did you tell the good man in your life now about that information. Like how many months in? Because im kind of scared of dating bc idk when's the right time to tell somebody

[@BiiMesiah]

I have left a highly abusive relationship, and I am so afraid of getting into a relationship again exactly because of THAT. God bless you, I'm glad you're free now

[@Tan87ful]

Wow

[@elleblasse]

tanialol101 he doesn’t know what happened other than I’ve been in an abusive relationship. He picked up on things I would do from the get-go and just would make it known that I was safe. He once walked up to me jokingly and I was backing up in the closet and I became very serious and panicky saying “don’t do that” and he just knew and gave me a breather. He later said he didn’t know and I understood and explained I get bad anxiety when cornered or backed me up into a wall. Communication is everything though and you’ll just know when you can open up. Just don’t think you “owe” anything upfront. There are many good guys out there and I just stumbled upon a bad apple when I decided to get back into it! Also, I hope all you ladies realized that facing evil and deciding to give love back is an immense strength and shows a compassionate and loving heart. That realization was what actually allowed me to forgive myself for staying in spite of my awareness of the situation. 🖤 I hope this answered your question?

[@Adriana_Rantonio]

I never dated. My husband is the only man I dated. I always needed to vibe and find out info on them before I ever considered anything else. I used to fall fast for dumb dumbs so I learned to slow it down.

[@musicloverkeke3314]

Yes!!! Dum Dums !!!

[@CeliniacForLife]

Adriana Antonio THIS!!

[@712anastasia]

Agreed

[@sanelisiwemyeni3760]

Who were you falling for if you've never dated?

[@marieabner]

You never what? Your husband is the only man you what?

[@lanisewilliams2036]

There is is a proverb, " Don't give your pearls to swine ." It takes time to trust and know someone. So, I think you should keep your deep stuff to yourself until the person has earned to hear it.

[@empath3133]

Damn I waited hours for the second part 😂😆

[@James27_]

😂 same

[@dhfgsncujsajh12]

Forreal i kept refreshing their page

[@jazzjade4844]

TGpeace 😭😭😭😭😭😭😂😂

[@shaythareal2382]

TGpeace 😂😂😂

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@adelitenyamhanga7823]

Trevor Noah and Amanda will be a great couple. Articulate intelligent people

[@fungilemsibi4290]

Yaaaassss!

[@Sarah-kw4tz]

their babies would be cute too

[@trish8321]

We need to make this happen. We need to get them to get him back on the show so he can meet Amanda.

[@michelleodo2356]

Woooah. Never thought about this & now I really wanna see this happen💕

[@michelleodo2356]

Woooah. Never thought about this & now I really wanna see this happen💕

[@sageleo4336]

FOR ME, Going In to detail on a topic is baggage. Example: simply saying “I am divorced” (is NOT baggage). Then there’s... “I am divorced! she cheated on me with 3 different guys and i have insecurity issues now because of it. She spent all of our savings and took the our dog away. I hate her her for that but... blah blah blah (THATS baggage 🧳 )

[@luckyarchery]

This is the first time I kinda agree with everyone! I enjoyed this conversation because i think everyone got their points out respectfully. 👍🏾

[@murielmelly7688]

Baggage vs basic questions... huge difference lol anyways

[@betsytucker2010]

Exactly

[@justinlocs]

lol, they had to edit out Amanda saying "All that ish." haha, she was speaking from the heart at that part.

[@gaila.9852]

Justin Unloc’d Timestamp?

[@justinlocs]

@@gaila.9852 4:32

[@gaila.9852]

Justin Unloc’d Thanks!

[@dance4life1208]

Yea I’m like Tamera I don’t wanna waste my time so tell me everything

[@jodynanci]

I wouldn't want to hear anybody's baggage on the first date either

[@SermonsSubtitled]

Jeannie, I love you, but your advice is not only dumb but could be straight out dangerous. There are predators out there, narcissists, who are willing to gain all that information in order to harm you. You just got lucky with your boo that he's a good man but the rest of us knows what's out there and that we need to be more careful and discerning

[@cascada122321]

Linda B it’s a matter of opinion though clearly most of the panel agrees with Jeannie. You would rather wait weeks/months to find out a deal breaker for you thats your choice? Most women (grown) don’t want to waste their time and efforts on something that will not last. Sharing facts is not dangerous at all, if you own it.

[@MewSakura12]

She clarified and said she didn’t mean baggage, just something light, otherwise I’d agree with you.

[@Tan87ful]

@@cascada122321 Yep. Im asking a lot of questions and I would hope that he would ask me. I hate my time being wasted

[@ivy456]

@@cascada122321 I hate my time being wasted too. However this is about protecting yourself. There's people out there with bad intentions. This is about the first date. Keep it simple.

[@gathajayan3558]

@@cascada122321 but on a first date though its pretty dangerous on a first date you don’t even know the persona yet what makes u sharing is okay. I have been told u could be cordial but have to be conscious but there are some people you can’t trust.

[@viviogogo2763]

Definitely with Adrienne on this one; for the 1st date, I just want to have fun conversations and a good meal. The only serious question would be "so what are you looking for?" I'd find out the rest of what I need to know (whether I want a 2nd date) through our conversations and behaviour.

[@chidinmaoguamanam9147]

I think they're all understanding each other now😊

[@Tan87ful]

Yep :)😊

[@carmeljazabelle]

Being real doesn’t mean you’re being vulnerable it means you’re just being yourself.

[@mkelly2585]

The thing is Jeanie knew what type of guy she was going on a date with. She wouldn’t have done that on a blind date

[@livlovsucceed3894]

I'm not your therapist; don't bring me your baggage. Adrienne is the only one who makes sense.

[@lexymartin6841]

Loni hit the nail on the head for me. When I'm starting to feel something, serious conversation needs to be made.

[@tyqueishahoward743]

Jhenie is talking about CONNECTION on a date. Its intimacy. The others are talking bout having fun. And Loni just wants to know what she’s up against.

[@briannasanderson1323]

Amanda is such an awesome addition to the group i love all the girls and she fits perfectly☺☺

[@growthrising]

I love how Tamara is so up front and honest about her Christianity

[@tweetingsparks]

Y’all notice these clips are getting a bit longer?! Say thank you, The Real!

[@disneythequeen]

I don't want to get too deep with someone I barely know for the simple fact that I want to protect my privacy. I don't know this person's character yet, my intimate problems are for intimate partners and intimacy and trust take time and grow gradually. I want to know your values, sure, your interests, sure, if you got KIDS, sure. but I don't need you to cry about your divorce , leave me alone!! FIRST date is a CHEMISTRY trial. it's to test sense of humor, intelectual compatibility, physical attraction and so on. it's SOON and I DON'T KNOW YOU LIKE THAT!

[@silentdawg563]

Thx for splitting part one and two 5 hrs apart now I can confirm that u need Jamal the intern running your KZbin account. SMH!

[@jubileethao20]

That why I like to be friends first with the dude. Than we can get to where Jeannie said. And yes, I'm with Adrienne I do love a guy who has a since of humor. But usually like guys that I really really like they have always been a homie first. Guys won't aren't homies first, you just are a crush that doesn't last.

[@agent_ninety9]

Its so true because from experience, in the past, I fell in love with someone that had major baggage. It's so important to find things out fast and to know.

[@musicloverkeke3314]

I agree 100 percent Tamera . Do not waste my time ! Same Tamera !

[@jamilaanderson7505]

Baggage is when you have gone through situations and you have not resolved them and dump them on others in conversation, emotions, etc. they missed the mark again!

[@kennethmesa]

I have appreciated the representation of Jeannie and Amanda’s working relationship here. For Amanda to state her position, Jeannie disagrees and states her position, Amanda affirms and seeks affirmation about what Jeannie heard and then proceeds to have a healthy dialogue! That’s a mature healthy conversation. Instead of being quick to be offended and always needing to correct someone... let me make sure you heard what I actually stated just to make sure we are on the same page! Loved it

[@MajesticMyronn]

Let me tell you something... when you’re grown and not trying to always “ keep it playa “ or trying to play games with people hearts and try to play them like you’re still in high school... that trick gets old real fast.. just be open , honest and real and put out all the stops... I’m not saying we have to get real deep instantly so we have connection but I have to sense more than just the coy stuff...

[@froberson41]

Myronn Coleman yess👏🏽

[@ChangeIsGood7775]

Myronn Coleman I agree. Ain’t no one got time for beating around the bush. Get to it. Honest.

[@kun_kue]

This is one of the best real discussions they've had. It's well discussed and everyone is sharing their opinion. Quality content!

[@waltenigusaetop3320]

This new host is a real asset to the show, all she speaks makes sense. Respect (to u all too cause each of u is different with some knowledge)!

[@ValentinoQ]

I feel like Amanda low key has been waiting to say “I’m on tv EVERYDAY” lol okay girl kudos to you 👏🏾😒🙃

[@haroldhenderson2824]

After 30, EVERYONE has baggage! Those that don't are hiding it, or so immature that they should stay single.

[@gabrielmikhail412]

These five women are women that girl should look up to and honestly this show is so knowledgeable and interesting to watch. The diversity is amazing and I love that they added Amanda because it just adds some more good outlook‘s

[@faithpullins2697]

Lawd. Why did loni make that baby mama comment while looking directly at Adrienne? 😬

[@cascada122321]

Faith Pullins if you have to ask that sis, I mean - pretty much everyone believes the blogs over Adrienne’s stories

[@1LocWonder]

I was waiting for part two🤸🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️

[@brooklynforever1990]

Adrienne cracked me up “Can’t fool me 🙅🏽‍♀️, got game, I’m not falling for it!” 😂

[@monicaflores3283]

I agree with Amanda with everything she said. Some things are earned!! But tbh y'all need to understand the definition of vulnerability. There's so many forms to it!

[@Bibi_xoxoo]

I agree with Adrienne. A good time and some laughs should be the first date while you get to know one another. Then the next couple dats should get deeper while still enjoying yourself. Remember you all, you are spending the rest of your life with this person so its important to have someone you can laugh and enjoy yourself with and also get deep with.

[@esetamyreelemanu8584]

Omg!!! This is beautiful! The more I listen to the ladies talking and actually LISTENING to each other. It’s so nice to see. Please producers, this conversation was one of their best because I could see everyone’s point of view.

[@teejaybee9]

Really Adrienne? If a man takes you out on a first date, and he hits you with "Hi, I'm going through a divorce" that is informational baggage. She seemed to take that personally.

[@cascada122321]

Tee I can’t get her level mentally for quiet some time now

[@smartladylab252]

Right, that is definitely baggage for some people

[@mimia.4810]

She always defend crazy stuff because of her husband. It's the worse when the topic is about cheating. 🙄😂😂

[@helenmayberry6010]

@@mimia.4810 Exactly..she gets very aggressive and argumentative. I sometimes see Loni biting her tongue, Jeannie will sometime through a little shade

[@MewSakura12]

It’s definitely baggage lmao was her husband going through one when they started dating?

[@justisabel897]

This has got to be my favorite girl chat!! The ladies respected each other's opinions, they let each other talk, they used opinion language instead of "you should's" or "this is the way it is," no mention of race or culture. Just five women respectfully giving their own opinion and having an interesting conversation. Love it ladies!!

[@elenavernet8267]

Omg

[@torimchugh5469]

I think it says a lot about someone’s emotional maturity if they can go from joking to vulnerability to fun and show all the multifaceted parts

[@HAUSOFAARON]

why was this segment so good?? I loved how it transitioned into a bunch of different sub topics.

[@avabear8074]

on the first date I don’t want to hear about baggage , I want to enjoy my dates company have some drinks and just vibe out . But if I do end up hearing about baggage that my date feels he has to talk about, that to me would be an indicator that he has things he’s needs to figure/handle .

[@bratty_31]

This is the best conversation in a LONG while everyone got a chance to speak and it was informative and helpful, keep doing this ladies. The chemistry is growing I appreciate it.

[@Ja-uv1kd]

I agree 100% with Jeannie😄 I love learning about a person in that sense, it just feels so honest and open. And it can be quite enjoyable and fun depending on the person, how they talk about it etc. At the end of the day, I think the topic is quite subjective, and I like that they all have different opinions and are respectful towards that. But I gotta say what works for me is Jeannie's concept😄...

[@prettyroyalqueen4823]

Out of all of the convos, this has to be the best one yet! Full of variety in experiences and respectful opinions. Definitely some cool advice given! Bravo ladies! God Bless!

[@LynnOnVinyl]

I love this show, but I love it even more with Amanda. The conversations are so much more in depth. And I always can appreciate Jeannie’s perspective! Love Tamtam too!!!

[@ogie86]

I'm with Jeannie. It doesnt have to be like a heart to heart talk, if you can make fun of your own flaws and issues or tell them in a joking way, im good with that. It's just better than pretending everything is alright.

[@EboJ13]

I see, after these hours of waiting they're still taking about different things. Part of this convo isn't even about emotional baggage anymore.

[@devinmarks8571]

Loved thia debate 🔥🔥🔥🔥 everyone had their moments regardless of whether you agree with whoever it was still engaging loved this topic discussion

[@refentsethathe7815]

Tjo I'm thankful for Amanda showing up and being honest. For some reason activist womxn who stand up and speak out against injustice in society, and are black, living their lives so boldly aren't thought of as romantics with a whole lot of heart and love to give. She gets swooped off her feet. She blushes and gets butterflies too. Dispel the myths created by those who demonize us miss! Yes Amanda! She is a gentle soul and all that hard talk is about protecting the good in her and others. That's why she goes so hard because she knows what pain feels like and understands the depth of what injustice does to humanity's soul. She cannot be indifferent. I love her.

[@naturegirl8089]

baggage is coming to a date telling somebody all you been through and perceiving them through the past lens of fear and hurt. but its really depends on what youre looking for. nobody wants to waste time but we gonna take our time with this lol respect but you always get the representative first

[@lynnea5731]

I’m just trying to click with you on the first date. If you’ve known someone before y’all start dating, it’s a different experience.

[@denises-a7819]

I really enjoyed watching this conversation- healthy disagreement, and very little interruption. Loved it Oh, and Loni bringing the humor when it gets heavy. I hate to say this, but this conversation was like the old days. Love the Real regardless!

[@elenavernet8267]

Same

[@esetamyreelemanu8584]

Amanda is getting better at bouncing off Jeannie and not rolling her eyes whenever she doesn’t agree with her. Well done producers

[@astrid4life1]

I agree with Jeannie/tamera, I am totally okay with knowing all the stats and or baggage up front because I don’t want to waste my time and vice versa

[@smartladylab252]

The intern is tripping, 😂 jk but what took so long for part 2 to come out

[@PHE-nomenon]

Thought it was just me unable to find it !

[@TheLifeofAngie_]

Thats what im saying but at least they posted it😭

[@diasiamonaeministriesforjesus]

I was very vulnerable on my first date Jeanie, he also opened up to me. Here we are 4 years later discussing marriage. I agree, Jeanie and Tamera. 💜

[@lancerave]

Damn, they have never had such different views from each other and I love it. More of this please 😂

[@susan-ku5py]

This was a really good discussion. Everyone contributed to the conversation and brought an important aspect. Even Loni lol.

[@elenamoreno7644]

Finally a topic they had different opinions on that didnt turn into irritated faces or sneak disses. Thank you!!!

[@frederickgould3845]

This was such a goooooood discussion. They were all hella passionate

[@stacey6229]

Jeannie is doing too much on the FIRST date. I agree with Amanda. Certain things need to be EARNED! Why would you wanna leave your whole life at the feet of someone on the FIRST date?! That would scare me away lmao

[@lexmort92]

This was a great conversation! Difference of opinions, able to connect to one another, and overall respect. And all your points were valid representations of how many people may feel! We want more of THIS!!!

[@Sumaiyaahh]

Amanda is all fax no printer. Literally the best conversation ever.

[@ellesaa8290]

This segment was so helpful.Thank you ladies,you opened up my eyes to what I have to talk about and is really what I feel right Now.I am stuck in a emoțional Roller coaster and We Both have” luggage” , I feel like in the beginning you can go past so many things because of crazy in love feeling but in shorter time then all comes again and hits you straight in the face with the same “ luggage “ you accepted in the first place.

[@nomthandazomadiya6898]

best Convo ever!!!!!!!!!! Especially how they handled it, listening to each other, and building on the convo..

[@jdinthehouse3070]

Interesting points! It would be nice if they brought a relationship coach to bring light on these topics. Cus we are all out here confused now 😂

[@officialnione]

Am I the only one who found 3:38-3:46 HILARIOUS? Tamera says, I fall fast, and Adrienne says REALLY, all while Jeannie, Loni and Amanda had a side convo and then Loni sounding like a southern grandma when she said, "what what was said". I'm weird I guess. I found that hilarious 😂

[@musicexplosionx4575]

2:31 My shady mind instantly thought of Adrienne 🙈🙈

[@nataliey07]

I really enjoyed this segment and I appreciated how open Amanda was. She belongs at that table.

[@julienneriviere6723]

Loni killed me with the babymama limit … wow..

[@yahgirl1726]

I dont even understand how people go on actual dates with STRANGERS, let alone tell them your business. My husband and I were friends before we even went out on a date. For me, there has to be some sort of friendship before a date even happens. You not about to murder me, no m'am

[@ElegraMargiela]

Tamera and Amanda remind me of myself, I hate games I want to be straight to the point, I guess it’s a ♋️ thing lol

[@growingwitha1578]

Amanda: I think that's what people didn't like about you at the beginning when you first came onto the show that you were a "what you see is what you get" kind of a person, nonetheless I am personally living for it and actually love the new perspectives you bring to the show! I actually think the show has elevated to another level with you on it! Keep up the good work, ladies.

[@reemak8794]

omg so much talking over each other, but I think what I gather is there is no one correct answer, to quote SISTA SISTA "you got to do what's right for you!"

[@melindahmkhwanazi]

I have never been on a first date but I imagine it's the best time to ask hard questions. If you wait too long it's almost like you don't trust them or you want an excuse to leave. First dates are already awkward, I'd milk that and get all the juice🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Shashayaway]

Amanda and Jeannie 🙌😻 what you see is what you get, vulnerability! Let's get to it..please don't switch their seats. This was a good discussion.

[@youtubecommentator9650]

Some things can wait until the second date

[@shamimkagere]

Adrienne and Amanda were very articulate and spot on!

[@loonytunes5082]

Adrienne hated being sort of wrong. The convo was damn good couldn’t stop watching and wish there was more!