Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? A New Study Says Yes!

A study by a group of scientists gives truth to the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” because once a person is unfaithful, they’ve become desensitized to the “negative effects of lying.” Adrienne shares her own personal experience of being unfaithful and how she changed her tune once the tables were turned. Plus, we discuss getting primped before heading to our next doctor’s appointment. Is it good manners or just extra?
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[@abubarrie88]

If your partner really valued your relationship and had respect for you as a person they wouldn’t cheat on you to begin with.

[@donnavice60]

AMEN!!!!

[@t.g.4311]

Not always sometimes it might just be them....and it has nothing to do with you....something their lacking etc. Come on Jeannie!!!

[@bilboe4199]

@@t.g.4311 yes really. It all comes down to respect.

[@jamaylarenea]

FACTS🗣 i had to learn this!!!

[@ceeare12345]

I will NEVER stay married to a man who cheats on me even once. That’s just ME.

[@pontshopriscilla]

I agree with Jeannie. If someone cheats on me now, GOODBYE. I ain't going through an emotional rollercoaster and disturbing my mental peace again for someone who couldn't respect me and my wishes of being monogamous.

[@williamshoven]

I hear so many females saying, if their partner cheated they would be gone in a second. When it actually happened most of the time, the female didn't leave and the only person their angry with, is the other female.

[@pontshopriscilla]

@@williamshoven I've been cheated on before and I stayed. That's why I said "cheats on me now" to show that it's gonna be a different response.

[@williamshoven]

@@pontshopriscilla I get you and i am happy you love yourself over some fool, that can't see your value. I wasn't necessarily talking about you. I do have female friends who talk a good game, but when it's time to put that talk into actions, they fail and allow that guy to continue to disrespect them. I don't mistreat women because i have sisters, who i don't want mistreated, always look how the guy treats the women in his life. His mom, aunties, sisters etc. . . It will give you insight as to how, he will treat you.

[@oneandonly3139]

My experience has been that once a person cheats on YOU they will Continue to cheat on YOU. That person can change as they get older but usually do not. I believe that if you are in a relationship and your partner cheats you SHOULD leave because YOU will become different for it. Insecure, uneasy, stressed, constant worrying, more aggressive and protective and nothing is worth losing yourself over. If he or she wanted it they wouldn't risk it.

[@ozzy8557]

Adrianne fighting for iz 😭

[@yf8350]

😭 goin mad hard

[@angelicabarksdale9807]

Right

[@nicholegajadar1950]

Adrienne going mad hard😭😭

[@yf8350]

😂😂Right. She always does when the shoe fits

[@ms.tinygiant]

She’s just speaking her truth

[@PreciousSullivan]

I think ppl cheat b/c they are selfish. Once they cheat, leave b/c they will do it again!

[@jesssmith4801]

Once a cheater always a cheater…usually. Take the gamble if you dare. Some people just aren’t wired to cheat and some are. Upbringing & learning from your peers is a huge influence in who you may turn out to be

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

This is true, because there seems to be no consequences to the wrong behavior. I'm not saying there aren't couples who have worked thru infidelity in their relationships, but most times it doesn't work.

[@YouTunes4You]

so if I try to work through my relationship and we both want to and are trying you still think it won't workout?

[@raephaelemasirnille5794]

Chronic cheaters are the people you have to worry about. They are the people who cheat when they are in good relationships; they cheat because they can. But most people cheat because they have been unhappy in a relationship for a long time. Happy people who value their relationship don't cheat whether they have cheated before or not.

[@bellasadventure2829]

If a person cheats and you accept it, it's enabling. Leave let time work it's magic. Let him understand what he's done wrong

[@lisperkemunto9267]

loni WAS SO CONFUSED THE ENTIRE SEGMENT HAHAHAHAHAHA...i get what she was trying to put across with her 'examples' hehe

[@jacobTheeCreole]

Definitely once a cheater always a cheater ! It makes it easier to cheat again they always cheat again lol it’s just the way it is

[@a.sydney5036]

Didn't Adrienne's husband cheat on his wife... that's why she believes this🤣

[@sn33k60]

I CHEATED ONCE BUT NOW IM OLDER ITS WEAK & SELFISH

[@crystalmasters8582]

Honest answer

[@camadams9149]

Cheating is a giant red flag that the person is a narcissist. Narcissists can't be fixed and they can't change (no your situation is not the exception to the rule). I would never date someone who cheated in the past

[@meaganbianca2978]

Anyone has the capability of cheating it’s having self control or strong morals not to

[@bridgetmavhimira6817]

We all grow but some people are serial cheaters 😒

[@mariamoncadajamaicamelovet3995]

I’ve believed this long before the study.

[@madridista703usa3]

Maybe your the issue that’s why they cheat lol

[@a.sydney5036]

All these mask less people. Man we had it so good.

[@954dreamer1]

I think people change. But they shouldn’t stay together because the foundation and trust in that relationship is destroyed

[@jaydecampbell3499]

I think they should breakup and heal and if it’s meant to be, they’ll come back to each other

[@Lolee56]

I hate that their acting like only women get cheated on. Plentyyyyyyy of women cheat. I see it all the time.

[@cookingwithkayabne1]

Go see it again

[@THEBRITTEFFECT]

Adrienne said they are less likely to do it to a woman with no tolerance for cheating ??? Huh

[@ineedya123]

Her husband wont heat on her is what she saying lol

[@noushs8004]

Cheaters lack character and integrity, they can’t change that

[@kathleenweinberg6442]

I believe once a player always a player don't disrespect the one you love

[@IntroducingHolliNicole]

Nobody: Loni: “I know where I'm going” 😂😂😭🤣

[@kaleeevans2376]

I think it depends on the circumstances. If you're in a very unhappy relationship but afraid to let go, or can't let go, and you cheat because, that's one thing. If you go and cheat just because you want to even though you're happy with your relationship then you're definitely always gonna be a cheater.

[@cloroxbitch2491]

Would you give a cheater a 2nd chance if they cheated bc they didn’t feel valued and felt like you are not giving them attention? And you find out that you really haven’t been putting in as much effort as they are?

[@roselenerose5380]

Tamera's changed her tune. She used to look down HARSHLY on those who forgive cheating men. Now she's saying she'd be lying to herself, if she says she'll leave, which she has said she'd do so many times before 😡 She's the type that will never leave no matter what Adam does

[@allylove21]

People can change their minds

[@roselenerose5380]

@@allylove21 or she's weak like she's harshly critised women before. In other words a HYPOCRITE!

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

It's always easy for people to say what they will or won't do when it's not their situation. Until it happens to them. So I think Tamera thought about that after a while. Like I should chill cause I may react differently if it were me.

[@roselenerose5380]

@@TiffanyRayneOfficial It's a shame she did it in such a judgemental way calling people cowards and weak. Now she's that coward & weak person!

[@AkireMaru]

Never? No. Is she older and more realistic? Yes.

[@MajesticMyronn]

I think it depends on whether or not the person is WILLING to change... like if the person is truly able to recognize and realize that what they did is wrong and they hurt someone then they will recognize and try to internalize and see and look inside themselves as to why they decided to walk outside that relationship ! And if they want to go back to that relationship then they have to make up for it for that person who got cheated to not only trust them again but to not resent them! Plus, for me…I honestly believe in karma when it comes to cheating... if you feel like its fun to cheat and don't wanna think about the consequences then that's on you but realize once your partner comes to their senses and is don'e with your crap then you gotta do what you gotta do to make it right & change .. but that's if you are once again WILLING to !

[@jacobTheeCreole]

The cheating shouldn’t even occur

[@Milady400]

I’ve known people who cheat because of past trauma (e.g. sexual abuse as a child). They are hyper sexual beings who need truly need therapy. Bottom line I agree with you.

[@jeanty12345]

😂😂😂 Loni’s makeup

[@tenierajohnwell777]

I understand and agree with where tamera is coming from. Of course you want to say you would just leave a man if he cheats. But when it comes to having kids and being married and having a home and established a foundation it’s hard to just say let’s throw all this away from one mistake. It wasn’t an affair it was one time cheating. So I agree with separating and seeing how the man handles it. If he is willing to put in that work and show that he loves you, it was a one time mistake that would never happen again we could possibly work it out. But if he takes that separation and uses it to freely just get his freak on and shows no remorse or willing to change. Or tries to put the blame on you like your the blame for him going outside the marriage. He would have to go. It does depend on the person and the circumstances.

[@jacobTheeCreole]

At least leave and make them suffer a While ! Don’t just lay don’t and accept it tho 🤣 take the kids and dog and leave make him cry !!!! Wait six weeks then go home make them pay !

[@hybridangel3403]

I used to believe that till someone said once fat always fat.

[@madridista703usa3]

Lol true

[@PLazz257]

Why is Adrienne so aggressive here? Omg lol

[@loveafrica97]

Was she married here?

[@fizzybizzy3790]

Israel cheated on his first wife

[@michellealjunaidi8471]

Cheater's will always find a reason to do it. They can be in the best relationships and still do it. The other people the spouses and partners of these cheater's need to realize their cheating wasn't about them. Cheater's cheat because they want to and because they can. The spouses and partners just need to decided for themselves whether they want to stay in that type of relationship. Don't let the things you accept be those things you regret. Don't waste a day, week or even a year being with the wrong person. That's no life at all. Stop staying for the kids, home or the standard of living etc.

[@lorettaknoelk3475]

Explain to me like I'm 5 how someone can be faithful to a cult but nor a person if science makes you cheat

[@Abell_lledA]

One is caught up playing the impassioned protagonist in one’s Subjective Narrative of Self🎈

[@simsimg264]

Adam somewhere taking notes 😂

[@bobbiholmes2274]

I was a wild child back in the day. I cheated out of spite because we fought daily and my feelings were hurt and he ended up cheating on me for revenge. We’ve been together since 2009 and we changed a lot and have devoted each other to being a better couple and a better partnership. We do change.

[@madridista703usa3]

Your man’s a simp who can’t get any girls 😂

[@muffinpomu]

you both are a cheater ofc it would works lmao.

[@mikahwilliams907]

Great job 👏

[@devoylindo1324]

Panties **Adrienne voice* * haha

[@charlesjrtayleravery4636]

Y should I metchen past will goner past😂🛑

[@l.garcia3344]

Ppl definitely… maybe not exactly “change” but for sure ppl grow up and mature. Let’s not pretend that 13 yr old dating and 17 yr olds are the same… they not. Same with 20’s and 30’s. And so on and so forth. Also like Adrianne said, when you don’t think of the hurt it by don’t think the other person is going to find out or be hurt… THEN you love you learn… it hits different. Also there just different type of ppl. Big difference to someone who has multiple partners and he/ she isn’t honest about it… Vs someone who cheated one time or with one person. It’s just all different. We can’t label all chest other same way. I personally could never understand why lie. One relationship alone is a lot of work lol. I always focused on school, and on having a career, making someone of myself helping my family etc etc. So having free time to hang out, or date it was a BIG DEAL. I know some of the guys I gave my PRECIOUS time to, they simply didn’t value time the same way I did. It hurts but at the same time it’s understandable. You have to be self aware. Just because you take yourself seriously and your time precious doesn’t mean the other person will. So we have to take our time, respect ourselves and understand that one day you either meet someone who already thinks like you, OR someone will LEARN from you (but it doesn’t happen over night though, takes time) or someone learns that in order to KEEP you they have to deserve you and they will LEARN to do that. And if cheating is their only flaw and they are willing to GROW UP then ladies and gentlemen allow the growing up, give it a chance. Don’t turn around and say “I’ll do tobu how I do to me” because some guys got hurt and they don’t know how to heal, forgive learn and move on. They hurt the next girl:partner. So know if YOU are that next girl, no u don’t deserve to pay for the “Plato’s rotos” like they say in Spanish…. But if you recognize no one is perfect and everyone does deserve a second chance… then you may figure it out. Every one is different, and every couple is also original. Either way proceed with caution. I also know many who swore up and down that they never were cheered in… chiiiild smh men AND woman be sneaky and shady. It shouldn’t be who gets caught Vs who doesn’t get caught but that’s what it actually is. Never brag about not being cheated on never make fun of someone who forgave a cheater….Karma is crazy lol

[@lindia6918]

Please give the link to the Nature Neuroscience article. Thanks!

[@Thewifelife40]

Why would you not wash your feet when you wash the other parts?? My feet get cleaned with the rest of my body🤷🏾‍♀️

[@davisholman8149]

I used to say if my man ever cheated - that would be it - over, done. But as I matured, with children, a business, life together - at this point - No, not necessarily. Men will make mistakes under the right circumstances. If they are repentant, and really will do anything to keep our family together - I would work on the relationship with them & try to keep our family together.

[@Kittikee10]

pathetic. y'all let men get away with anything and everything. holding them to no standards, like they're some children or animals. absolutely ridiculous

[@ayanour7]

Girl no.. I understand where you’re coming from but flip the script & see if he would actually stay with you if you did it. Just speaking the truth.

[@marcellacollins4697]

But she didn't after the fact he did

[@marcellacollins4697]

He probly was cheating to or he wasnt that into you A

[@a.sydney5036]

Tamera 's laugh 14:30.

[@brittneyrenea210]

💜💜💜💜

[@yasminvilla8481]

❤️❤️❤️♥️♥️

[@reema7016]

Adrienne so annoying she is def relating all her opinions to Israel based on his past

[@jenniferwhitley4203]

How if she is relating it to her being the cheater and then deciding not to cheat in her next relationship?

[@a.sydney5036]

I miss Tamera.

[@eilenmartinez3144]

Karma karma karma!!! That's a mean chic even if you've learned your lesson karma will get you regardless!! Just sayin

[@Psalm1500]

This segment is 15 minutes long 😮😮😀😁🤩🥳

[@anunez3450]

Not true some people can change i seen it i lived it. If not i wouldn't believe in God because why pray fast read the Bible if another person doesn't do that and get the same reward.

[@abbaalexander7733]

This is not true and I have proof. What's your theory?🤑💸💸💸 Salvation ✝️

[@charlesjrtayleravery4636]

What was that on Dr Name o ya Stein Burg that was First Doctors name when Wet Dream urputions Dad Avery Jiggy Charles Sr And Jr Me Avery Taylor Rhymes Sister 🙏👍

[@doneecemcneil7826]

Hi edagdwg Miss A.is sooooo fake she stop seeing R.K. because he cheated on her she was soooooo hurt but she lied and did it to someone else sad Linda j . peace

[@imnotocdimdiy]

Ladies, wait... 🙋🏻‍♀️ 🤔 🤦🏻‍♀️ You see; if your unsaved oppressed, and/or possessed you will do sinful selfish wrong. But, if you repent (start over) 🙏...accept Jesus as your Lord, and savior...and,...by God's Grace 😇, if you are given the Holy Spirit. You will have the power of the Holy Spirit to Rebuke bad fiery darts, and then all things will be possible. 📖 Amen, God is good allllll the time. 🧡 Much love from Texas 🤠

[@glamgirlkass]

first 😌

[@walterbrown9079]

WHATEVER 🤬 THIS IS AN OLD REAL SHOW THAT YOU HAVE FOR WANT TO BE PARTY GIRLS ACTING LIKE WOMEN ? Yet Jennie Mai did marry Freddy even though he did cheat yet she did not give him any affection in a relationship if you wanted to keep your career you made the choice to be married to someone sometimes that's the risk you take but then you lose the trust to go on to a next relationship even though Jeannie Mai did get married again with Jeezy !

[@allthingsbeauty9175]

Adrienne talking about her husband per usual 🙄

[@PreciousSullivan]

Wat did her husband do ?

[@leahrobinson2728]

@@PreciousSullivan he cheated on his wife

[@TheSunshinefee]

he fathered 2 children outside his marriage and everyone praises Adrienne and him to be such a loving couple, lol - wait till she is in the marriage for 10 years and her body is sagging. he will do it again