Paul C Brunson: Should You Stay In A Marriage Without Sex? The Age Gap Rule Explained!

[@starlight-hy7is]

My ex husband had no desire to grow...I had suggested counselling etc. I grew, developed, learned .... and then I realised how much he held me back and belittled me. How much he was gaslighting me. I thought I was going crazy... until I gained that knowledge, woke up and left. My life is peaceful and joyful and I'm never lonely. I'm free! And I can't tell you how good that feels in your 50's.

[@shareenchoudhury-leighton1748]

Ditto ❤

[@darinivanov1715]

"woke up and left" that is the problem

[@tonifoster1835]

100%

[@starlight-hy7is]

@@darinivanov1715 never a problem when you leave an abusive relationship

[@midlifegoddess]

Wow! You just said everything that I’ve heard from countless women your age…and I’m making videos about them dating younger -as an option. Please check them out ❤ and I’m so happy for you

[@jeje4042]

I recently married someone half my age! I had been previously married for 25 years in a very lonely marriage. 10 years passed by after the end of the marriage to complete the upbringing of the children. The marriage to this man who is half my age has been literally amaaaazing. Helping me to get back my identity, time and love for myself. As well as enjoying being loved in a way that the father of my children never did. An extremely unpredictable occurrence in my life, but I’m enjoying it and why not 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@pigsinpyjamas9410]

I recently saw my ex after 25 years. He is married but still doing the same job, hanging out with the same people. I’m so glad he dumped me. God works in mysterious ways!

[@amandacallaway]

Love this. Love Paul and Davina, from a lady that ended her marriage after 30 years because I was just so lonely and unhappy, I didn't even like my husband, his morals, him as a person at all he wore me down. 5 years single now, scared to make the same mistakes but trying to do a few things outside my comfort zone. So hard, battling that and the menopause makes me even more anxious. I'm trying, thankyou for this so interesting xx

[@janespitfire9884]

My Ex husband withheld sex from me to be mean for 15 years in the 25 year marriage. I never cheated but he stopped loving me other ways too. He was a decent man but started silently hating me..had a lady on side. We got divorce due to his changes and it saved my life!

[@fizzy3949]

There are voices who change the landscape and Paul B is the man for relationships.

[@laurenShilling]

Love Paul, hope he realises he's sat across from an ICON.

[@trudiatherton7112]

Loved this Davina, I have never heard of Paul before but WOW will be listening to his podcast xx

[@Blondiee777]

Hi there. Im a Career Escort based in UK. I can definitely say ladies if you're not having sex with your husbands.... they will absolutely find their way to an Escort IF they don't have an affair. Sex IS a need and IT IS part of a happy, healthy, trusting relationship. Men feel loved through physical intimacy. Women feel loved through emotional intimacy. Men, if you choose to marry a woman and you think you'll be ok with no sex - you're very wrong. Ladies if your husbands are saying they're ok with no sex - be aware.

[@midlifegoddess]

@@Blondiee777 women are hiring gigolos too now. More and more women don’t want any little surprises 😂

[@melissariccardi7499]

I don't disagree with the point that sex is a need. I do take issue with you putting that solely on women. Many men, for many reasons, withhold affection and intimacy from their wives as well.

[@Blondiee777]

@melissariccardi7499 It wasn't meant to come across like it's solely women. However overall, I do believe it is mainly women that withhold sex. I absolutely agree some men withhold it too and it may cause the woman to cheat. But it's not as often.

[@midlifegoddess]

@ I see what you’re saying…but something else to consider is women want a man who is a good lover and well equipped 😜 Not just married women either. I’d love to hear what percentage of the men you meet you’d describe as skilled 🤔

[@midlifegoddess]

I actually made a video about how a sex worker has it better than a trophy wife. But you probably already agree with that 😄

[@leannedoolan5463]

This is so good. I nearly didn't watch this because of the title but I'm so glad I did. A single woman working out the realm of dating. Don't know if it's worth re-thinking the title of this 'relationships' feel like lots of singles need to listen to this wisdom..thank you! 😊

[@hkbjj59]

Totally agree with you, especially young singles

[@midlifegoddess]

@@leannedoolan5463 try dating younger men!

[@margarethowell982]

Really great discussion - natural, real, helpful. Thanks.

[@Cycle.every.day.]

Davina is gods gift.

[@KJ-lb4tj]

To who? Not me

[@debbieferraraful]

This made me feel confident, I've been single 13 years, too scared to try again, I'm going to work on my fears, it would be good to have a relationship on my terms! ❤

[@KJ-lb4tj]

A relationship involves...relationship. Which is two people. You can know yourself and hold your boundaries, but it can't all be on your terms! The other person will have terms too and it needs to be mutually acceptable.

[@tonifoster1835]

On your terms, best you stay single

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

I understand.

[@EMBODAY]

Paul is so complementary - its wonderful to see

[@katiejaneofficially]

I didn’t know you had a channel Davina, so missed your face on the screen now I’m in LA. I am subscribed and wish you every success with this channel. Really loved this video with Paul.

[@DTetelboim]

I loved this interview!!! Beautiful souls!!

[@KFB__]

Davina is so lovely. I love her interviewing style.

[@dragonflybells]

Thank you soo much for talking about this so openly! especially sex in longterm relationships.. it isn't discussed enough. Thank you both!

[@Julia-bj7bq]

Sounds like Relationship only stands on sex. So bad, no one said relationship should be on honesty, loyalty and kindness not just a sex, sometimes one kiss can be more than great sex

[@egl3369]

Yes. I don't agree that a marriage without it is a "friendship". There is a level of intimacy that is beyond friendship. People (generally) don't live with their friends, kiss/cuddle them, sleep next to them, take them to family events etc. It's quite diminishing of people that have low or no drive. If two people are married and neither wants s^x, that is still a marriage (asexual people exist!).

[@KJ-lb4tj]

The great thing is you are describing people who still have physical intimacy, even if not full blown sex. It's much sadder when there's no physical contact at all. Then it's much more difficult to see what the marriage is. ​@@egl3369

[@Bea556x]

I guess that’s covered in ‘intimacy’ as it requires honesty, loyalty and kindness

[@francesbeth2077]

A good marriage is one that works for the couple.

[@egl3369]

Relationships only work when both parties are willing to put the effort in.

[@hypnotherapydebono2109]

This is one of best interviews I’ve ever seen. I can totally relate to this on a personal level and a professional level. ❤👏👏

[@kasiafiedor-buziewicz8511]

Paul and Davina what a combo.

[@karenvalsler1755]

Another great episode. I'm so so glad I started this journey with you and your guests. Thankyou Davina xx can't wait for the next one x

[@BeginAgainWithDavina]

You are so welcome! Thank you for coming back every week 🫶

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@margaretcampbell2681]

So true with no desire to grow

[@PM-ji1wv]

Most important thing in a partner is being successful in their own field and ambition, end of, without that, dont want to know

[@DIP4K]

Paul is on my level or I'm on his Whichever way ... I relate

[@jessaabraham]

By 40 in dream you want a relationship but in reality no. The nature concept of procreation left the station long back. So now it’s more a mind game than in 20s. Relationship in itself is dangerous no matter what age in current world of responsibility and accountability. It was never there earlier.

[@amis1347]

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs should be revisited

[@frankie9953]

please elaborate

[@amis1347]

@ Flip the pyramid upside down and consider the reverse.

[@sharonneill6501]

Fantastic 🎉, love this show xx

[@siobhanrachel2969]

This video is a gem 💎

[@Sweepdog700]

Great conversation you guys. Everyone should listen to this.

[@rosequartz7841]

Im 63 and im too tired for this!

[@rayneprendergast3338]

Gorgeous human beings 😍 Comnection 🎉

[@SJ-wq3os]

I think the check list changes with age your20 years old list has 0 items but with aging items will be added because you know what you want .No matter what and how you still need the spark the chemistry that will be the ground for the relationship.you definitely not need BS type person a person with drink issuesis a no no drugs no no you need honesty and a person that will stay present and supportive outside the dating stage

[@rosequartz7841]

No online dating for me .

[@flossy8132]

Loved this. Love anything Davina does. But very relevant to me nd my age group❤ Very funny my partner walked in to the bedroom when the female orgasm bit was being talked about I reassured him theres no problems here at the moment😂

[@JohannaJohnston-zy8sb]

😂

[@CarlaHachemAuthorSongwriter]

Loved this episode ❤

[@Willsnej]

Why are these podcasts not available in KZbin music/podcasts?

[@patcade972]

Love 🥰 it, great work Davina 👍

[@GeorgieHolt1980]

love these two -

[@CasualViewer768]

Loved this, thanks so much ❤️👏🏻

[@jenster29]

07:00 strongly disagree. Many couple staying together for the kids is WAY better once its not a toxic environment. You'd be surprised just how many couples are doing this because they're mature enough to agree that its over and keep things civil. The kids have a solid foundation and remain secure and feel loved and safe. When they are old enough to handle it, the parents split up. Its extremely common because its the best solution for the kids

[@angelagarnham1731]

Great podcast❤

[@margaretcampbell2681]

Of course it’s the most important decision in your life

[@mf3064]

I really love the topics you choose for your interview and I love you, but you keep interrupting your interviewees all the time. And so they stop mid-sentence and we, as viewers , miss out

[@margarethowell982]

Staying in something unhappy is such a disservice to self, family, community & even your Creator.

[@toomylight2311]

No don’t agree about the sex part! Love is more than that .

[@pamcn2270]

Care home here I come 😇

[@JessPlaysstuff]

I don't do relationships 😂 I like my own time . 😂❤ Love Davina ❤❤❤🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🥰also I am lesbian so ya know 😂❤

[@humletfred9767]

Paul does not know id head from his toes....his performance in MAFS tells me all I need to know ow about his 'expertise'

[@immers2410]

What a load of self congratulatory nonsense! Everyone watching this is a good person who has done a bad thing. All the bad people are over there-you are not one of those. There will be plenty of toxic people watching this, who need to shoulder some responsibility for the damage they cause.

[@etp345]

😍

[@babypicassoeisenstein]

his dating show is so terrible to women.

[@pamcn2270]

The male calculator: female aged 51. Man aged 95 is gonna be after me ! Above 50 women’s dating pool 🤣🤣🥲

[@pamcn2270]

88 he’s gonna be 😐… must get swifter on my maths