The Key To Understanding Men's Needs In Relationships | Past Present Future Podcast

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[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.*

[@heltristan]

AMEN !

[@OrchidTingz]

Absolute Truth!!

[@Portia620]

❤ truths!

[@ktaite.]

Amene 💯🎯

[@Leahmoonbeamflower]

Projection at its finest. ❤

[@user-kr2pv2mn1s]

There are men at 27 and boys at 67….Thank you for sharing.

[@lyneadetyfitness]

💯

[@Portia620]

Dating help! I agree!

[@niamhfranklin9261]

Stop giving males an out. Minimum 1/6 are peds. This is according to an Aussie survey.

[@Honeymaalox]

Soo true💯

[@ceciliauribe812]

Yesssss, it all depends on their course of life, integrity, morals and values!

[@Maryam_bashir]

I love how he says is not a woman’s job to tame the beast in a man. learn to control yourselves and show her you are their to protect and not to eat her up 😂

[@angiesnipes7443]

I love this. this is everything. i was mom and wife and caregiver and financial advisor and bill payer and household juggler. tired depressed and not valued.

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@salmighazali917]

You might want to grow and improve yourself.. be a real man and win her heart again.. this time, treat her the correct way

[@Dimondz1]

Damn, he’s right, I told my husband how much I was proud of him and how I admired how hard he’s working to support our family and he lit up and wanted to work harder

[@prettypuffprincess]

Yes🙏🏼❤️

[@brielax4441]

Aww that’s so cute ❤

[@Shortie8]

This is so true, my boyfriend feeds off that energy like crazy. Things like 'Im proud of you', 'Wow, you are working so hard', 'You are amazing' gets his energy up in a way that nothing can pull him down. Many times before we go to bed he then says, ' I love how you believe in me, it's like I have my own cheerleader' 😊

[@Thilosophocl3s]

Weird…. Lol

[@empresskae1980]

My boyfriend changed my car battery for me after my car had been down for like a week. When the engine started that first time, I jumped out of the car, hugged him and told him he was my hero ☺️ He had the biggest kool-aid smile I'd ever seen on him lol, it was so cute

[@kumral76]

He's so right!!!!!! My ex husband chose to listen to his MOM instead of working out our issues between us....i said " GOODBYE! go be w ur mommy!!!

[@dante19890]

family before everything

[@angelicalee6]

He was always a boy. You overlooked it the whole time.

[@SkExplore-it2cc]

Really sad.we give free therapy to help people

[@soleil7259]

​​​@@dante19890You can be a loving family member, a partner and one that creates their own family all at once, i know mind blowing. At one point in our life, we have to make our own decisions. We for sure can ask for advice but only doing what his mom says, is not equally to always making the right decisions you know.

[@namyalojoychristine7905]

❤❤❤

[@coachtshah6270]

Exactly, adult women are like little girls when they are upset or around their men. They want to feel love, respect, kindness, communication, and appreciation, and to be allowed to be in their feminine energy without fear or be judged. Always with awareness and healthy boundaries.

[@tanusreedbnt6710]

Yet that's what they r made to feel ashamed of

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

Do you want adult men to act like little boys when they are upset? No? See the disconnect here? Adult women aren't supposed to act like little girls.

[@geraldinesookorukoff7712]

As a woman, you got it right! I treat my husband great, keep my house clean, he gets fed good, love, hug & kiss him, always say thankyou for the little chores he does in the home, tell him I love him everyday.I respect his decisions as well. I pull my weight too, but I want to know he will take good care of me as well in return.❤

[@VS-xz1yv]

​@@geraldinesookorukoff7712Hey sister, loved to read your comment, May God bless your family and the mutual love and respect keeps on growing. ❤❤❤❤😊😊

[@ceciliauribe812]

Amen we love to see a love led by God and genuine! May God protect your family and union between the TWO!!!!!

[@Casanevel]

"You fail one time thats fine, but again? No." I love it.

[@JessMariaDwyer]

Yes…it would be amazing to have a man with this mindset. My ex constantly made the same mistakes over and over and never learnt. I made him aware of this and he didn’t care.

[@milliexxx6390]

As a woman , everything this man saying is 100% on point, this interview was extremely refreshing im so impressed because finally a man who gets it ...and a man with a healthy mindset , who is reflective and he makes the change he wants to see , this is what you call a leader and a man who knows who he is....we need more men like him who are responsible and stepped into manhood and not boyhood like he explained God bless him😊

[@saifalyasiofficial]

thank you for your words 👋

[@timmytee734]

What the ef? This dude trains his daughter to become and entitled spoiled brat. He picks up his daughter and kisses her instead of teaching her how to behave, then he thinks the woman needs to be treated the exact way as the little girl? This dude is not right in the head. Also women are a million times more logical than men! That is why they can never win any arguments. Women figure them out with logic and men don't get it. They call it emotion but it's hard facts! And the woman doesn't have to respect the man! He needs to respect her so the woman can reflect it back! That's the only way it works. This man talks down at women and you don't see it. Shame on you as a woman.

[@prashant381]

...and we have to go through a major heartbreak to learn that. I wish more men teach other men even when we are teenagers. I immediately got his being nice to daughter. I wouldn't have cared about using the same reasoning with older woman --- long time back !

[@Roller324]

He’s not American!!

[@timmytee734]

He's a misogynist who doesn't know anything about women. How can you allow this kind of brainwashing enter your mind? He thinks that women need to be treated like spoiled little girls? W the f?! He's raising a spoiled brat! Picks the girl up and fixes the issue with a hug and kiss when she's having a tantrum? This is a narcissistic male, not a man. Also, the woman don't need to respect the man! The man needs to respect the woman and that she will mirror back, he needs to prove himself to he a decent man first. That's the only way it works. What the eff is wrong with society these days!

[@Lacanadiense27]

I want to add that this works for secure attachment men. If a man is emotionally unavailable, appreciation and respect will never be good enough.

[@lolitazavala1879]

I was thinking the same 😢

[@TNT_dynamight]

This is SO IMPORTANT

[@shahbee7255]

I was going to say the same!

[@krysaustinmusic]

Preach. Some of his comments don't sound like they are based in secure attachment styles.

[@melw3313]

Precisely. Or abusive men. You can speak kindly to them and be present but they will never appreciate you and just continue to beat you into the ground mentally, physically, emotionally ally, financially, spiritually. I understand it works both ways. Women can do the same. It just typically seems to be more heavy handed with men being the abusers.

[@millie.k]

This is so true. Women, even as children, really need emotional connection. And men, even as children, need to know that thier effort is appreciated. This way in adulthood, she will seek men who won't abandon her when she's emotional and confused, and men will seek women who are openly grateful for his help/authority. I'd go shopping with my friend, and her 4 year old son would leave and walk around the grocery store aimlessly and bump into people. Everyone looked at him like he was a nuisance, but I knew he was actually a brilliant little boy. So, I did an expiriment and asked him to help me shop for a minute. He'd feel the tomatoes and tell me if they were ripe or not. We did the same with other veggies and fruits. I let him know that he was needed. The rest of that day, he stayed with us, carefully observing our surroundings. He "tamed his beast" and channelled all that energy into his discernment and awareness. His impulsiveness had completely vaporized in one instant of geuine recognition. His true nature could finally be expressed and seen. Another time, me and my (then) boyfriend went to a pub, and there were all these gregarious men around. One of them started flirting with me even with my bf right there, but he felt very secure with me. I just patiently listened to the playfully flirtatious man. When he paused, I smiled and asked him if he had a family. He said he has a little girl with his ex gf. I told him that he is a King in his little girl's eyes. In that moment, his back straightened up, there was a ssudden stoicism in his candor and he shed a tear as he listened to me explain how invaluable and privileged it is to be a father. He told his boys he wanted to go home, and he told me thank you. Men need to take their value seriously, and we can help ensure this as women, simply with a little acknowledgement.

[@nd3409]

❤ Thank you, for doing that. And thank you for sharing this.

[@millie.k]

@@nd3409 You're welcome, very glad to share.

[@theNikkiDash]

You're an incredible person.😊

[@millie.k]

@@theNikkiDash Thank you!

[@keineahnung472]

@@millie.kwhy would you be nice to a disgusting man who flirts with you in your bf’s presence?

[@ruthrose1000]

Cant respect a man that starts not showering or brushing for weeks when home.. only if he goes out or to his two week on shift. Cant respect a drunk.. cant respect a man that gets lap dances while his woman is clean, beautiful, starving for affection at home. You have to be worthy of respect.

[@elgrs5756]

You chose him !!! Start respecting your self so others can respect you

[@Portia620]

Truths!

[@brandic89]

Yes. A man who cheats on a beautiful, available wife is exactly like a rat. Rats perked up for anything new after about two weeks with something superior, based only on the fact that they live for anything new, lol.

[@nobslifestyle]

Every day you stay you choose him. So do something different.

[@ceciliauribe812]

🎯🎯sadly world is full of them! Covert toxic narcissists!!! Just seeing whom they can suck the life and happiness out of due to their internal issues!

[@traceyduxbury4289]

Respect works both ways and so does appreciation.

[@abbynmj]

Me too! My ex husband complained so much that o don't respect him when I don't do what he wants me to do ! Sorry sir! Women don't need just hugs and tapping on the shoulders! Respect and appreciation work both ways

[@mahnoorkhan581]

The two things are most misused by toxic men.

[@viktoriavass]

yeah everybody longs to be cherished

[@abigailgray8279]

He said men need those two things only. Women need more than two things.

[@coachnursececille]

Totally agree @tracey

[@ACohen-mj6kr]

This ladies and gentlemen is the rise of a beautiful Divine Masculine.

[@miaaa24]

You can give all the respect and appreciation, if he’s not invested, it won’t work. And maybe that’s for the best - such a man could never appreciate a golden woman.

[@user-br3gh4xy2d]

My grandfather told me in his last days he placed too much emphasis on providing financially for the family and only realized late in life that he was the protector and tender warrior. That should be a mans legacy, we all feel safer when the man is in the room even in the midst of a storm.

[@ihaurimadariaga]

Your wife is also someone’s daughter. Keep that is mind.

[@brigittecourson]

Your wife is her own person.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Is that why they twerk on tiktok, and thirstpost on Instagram? Why they cheat on their men? Because they respect being someone's daughter?😂

[@Jo_Cruz]

God's daugther. That's serious stuff.

[@TNT_dynamight]

Treat her like you want her daughter to be treated!!!!

[@laurenw2446]

I asked my soon-to-be ex husband if he would want a daughter treated the same way in her marriage that he treats me. He said no. 🙄

[@kaurilley]

The 5yr old little girl me when ever she threw an emotional tantrum was actually just looking for validation and acceptance ... It's something Im still learning to offer myself

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

Maturity is for both men and women to pursue.

[@nicolelouis8968]

@@SmartestDumbGuy Agree, however my father use to cry sometimes when he was really upset and yet he was a macho type man. Even as a young girl I felt it very balanced and human. and that I could reach out to him more. What was scary and wasn't balanced was when he would burst out into a rage, shut us down, hurl insults, blaming and projecting his stress and inability to communicate, onto my mother or his girls. He is of Mediterranean culture. It is not considered immature in our culture to cry.

[@Katie-ck6yp]

I tried to share that with my last relationship, when I am upset, I need comfort, but instead he would get mad. And that is how a woman falls in love, this build trust and you feel heard.

[@sharonandrews9687]

❤ spot on

[@guavagirl8344]

And women need to feel their man's attraction and affection.

[@janasiguenza1545]

The same with women we want respect and appreciation

[@ptyh27]

Exactly 💯

[@andreatorluemke4982]

We want to be loved and cherished. For men the respect is something they want and need more than love. They do not need to be on a pedestal. Do not marry a man you do not respect how he thinks and his decision making a man with self control

[@milliexxx6390]

Agreed❤

[@tinalove8197]

​@@andreatorluemke4982We want BOTH not either or.

[@sophiaad7486]

@@andreatorluemke4982As a woman I would choose respect any day over “love.” What the heck is love anyways? How come women’s decision making is not respected and valued? To say only a man should lead is abuse of the woman’s mind. We are mind as much as we are heart.

[@b.unicornette7734]

This guy is so smart and brave to know he has to put his pride aside in front of a woman in order to learn how to be a better man for himself and for his partner. It also shows he chose love above hatrus, not ego, not a negative path. He learned from his mistakes and he chose to upgrade himself. This is inspiring. If only all men knew what he knows.

[@saifalyasiofficial]

😇

[@b.unicornette7734]

@@saifalyasiofficial thank you so much. Your wisdom is helpful to so many women 🙏

[@Pinkflo363]

Spoken like a true King!! I loved what he said. Empathy is EVERYTHING!’ It sounded a thousand percent like a man in his FULL masculine. We need more men just like this!!!!!!!!!

[@saifalyasiofficial]

😇

[@marcellawall8827]

This is a basic tenent of Catholic marriage...husbands, love your wives, wives, respect your husbands. Much easiier said than done though. Thank you Saif.

[@ivonnegaxiola7459]

..wow men listen to this man he talks like a real man. A lion. A king .

[@Curiousmind1998]

Thank you!! Women need men to understand this. The world is not easy for women on their own, we need a partner to go through it safely. In my opinion men and women are not made to be separate but instead need to form healthy partnerships where they can bring their strenghts and compliment each other. This way we can build stronger families, children and consequently societies. Society is dying of loneliness, let's bring families back together and for this we need strong mature men.

[@brunoqnzbk7891]

No, MEN are dying of loneliness. Single women live the longest.

[@SA-lz1vx]

This guy is so self aware

[@CityCinderella]

Women want to feel safe. You take that away or constantly threaten it when having an argument or disagreement and they’re gone.

[@Tinayoga777]

Swallowing your pride and ego!!! - that’s masculinity ❤

[@naturelle1097]

Wonder how that tastes😂

[@Tinayoga777]

@@naturelle1097 HEAL AND YOU WILL KNOW😎

[@SSW_888]

Saif's voice is so relaxing, I could listen to him all day. 👌

[@chantelmanning184]

He gets it! It took him losing one marriage, but he got it right!

[@maii87]

He is humble and the things he say not many men can say it! respect.

[@saifalyasiofficial]

It was my honor to be a guest in this podcast ✌

[@aryamahima3]

The most calm and composed man I have ever seen on KZbin when I am going through a bad marriage for last 3 years and exhausted.

[@niamhfranklin9261]

Sanpaku eyes shows fear. He keeps displaying them. That’s not calmness. I think u have trouble reading people. You can also tell by his strained breathing control

[@jenster29]

​@@niamhfranklin9261that actually IS calmness. He's feeling all kinds of negative emotions and is still able to remain composed.

[@mahnoorkhan581]

Exactly. He had no example. Because there was embarrassment more than guilt, fear more than empathy. Sometimes people are the friendliest and calmest outside the house but arent the same or even close to showing empathy with their partner

[@nicolelouis8968]

@@niamhfranklin9261 Maybe what you see is fear that he will make the same mistake as before. He clearly is a man of conscience and his heartbreak led him to care at not making the same or similar mistakes. He is still in the process of navigating his behaviour, and trying to juggle it all so I wouldn't put it against him. I am not dismissing what you see however it seems more judgemental and therefore unable to see anything slightly positive of a man who is reflective and attempting to work out better and more improved behaviours when dealing with men socially and dealing with women intimately. It's all become a very messy and complicated world. Being another culture myself, rather than just anglo there is another depth or level to what you appear to see. and understand.

[@journeywithjasmin4089]

He’s definitely not calm his body language is slightly stand offish, he’s shutting us out with his left arm… this is not the body language of a calm person ( my opinion)

[@leahspringer7706]

I understand what he said about his daughter's emotions. Most fathers would do something or say something loving or become more tender to get her to feel better. So, a man can do the same for his woman. If there was an argument, and you know she's hurt, come back in a tender, more gentle, loving way. In moments that you can.

[@PowerGurhl]

I agree I’ve had men understand this and men that don’t. Men that don’t just don’t want to feel like their being manipulated which I understand maybe it’s a trust thing

[@susyvallejo217]

Respect and appreciation go both ways. Especially respect

[@missvegan1967]

Period! 👏🏽👏🏽 Girl, mem are confused. Lol. You can appreciate them but then, their Ego's get in the way and now they don't have to try as hard.

[@Sapere_aude_Trottel]

@@missvegan1967nah, you just met the wrong men haha, just no

[@PJay6799]

Yes when your dealing with women, your dealing with emotions.💯

[@valeriagopaul]

Very well articulated, thank you. Most men do blame their wives for their own shortcomings, never admit that the men’s anger cause lies within them - no one outside of them makes them angry. It may also have to do with a cultural norm of entitlement to always be right and not to see their partner as equal. Thank you for speaking your mind - not a lot of men do that.

[@carolinedarocha9994]

Wow, I adored my father, and just realised the reason most was that he was the gentlest soul ever, leaving the beast outside the door. I love that ❤ if all men would just understand that.

[@purplegirl8036]

This man is intelligent. If I fail once fine but if I fail twice surely I need to do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. The concept is so simple but unfortunately the majority of people never come to this conclusion.

[@PreethiRaja09]

Respect & Appreciation is equally important to women as well. All human beings irrespective of age or gender thrive with respect and appreciation

[@landajb6878]

This is true. However, as far as respect, because of their pride as men, they do have a deeper need for respect. It doesn't mean that we don't need to be respected, though. It just shows one of the differences between men and women.

[@brigittecourson]

​@@landajb6878Their "need" for respect is just ego. It's a want, not a need. They depend on outside validation.

[@landajb6878]

@brigittecourson That's what I said. Because of their pride/ego, they have a deeper need for respect. Of course, too much pride is not good, but at the same time, a man without pride/ego isn't a man. Even a little boy has his character and his little ego. They were born that way. The more we try to understand it, the better we'll get along with them.

[@sarahrobertson634]

​@@landajb6878 Pride and ego is the worst thing a man can have. Males need to be humble.

[@sarahrobertson634]

​@@landajb6878You're such a ditz.

[@lentamintal]

Sadly many men are small little puppies outside the Home, and at home they show the ,,other guy, hulk situation,, just because there are no imediate consequences .

[@naturelovelove1522]

He reminds me on Antonio Banderas.Specially the eyes, the calm warm way of speaking

[@AD-hh6dd]

Not always true. Some men don’t appreciate the woman who is respecting and appreciating them.

[@rainsara2795]

Boys

[@Rayis4444]

This video is not about them.

[@benj1827]

It's so true. Women always wanna stay safe in a marriage. Like when we are faced with work, family and other stress it's good if our husband is caring and comforting towards us saying it's okay or give some advices to us.. it's not that we are empty headed and cant do anything but it just comforts us and wants to be in the safe arms of our husbands. A man really need to have good decision making abilities to distinguish what is right and wrong

[@plushannah]

I love the way this man matured. He did his homework hard way loosing his family and made statement of not failing again but working on himself. His understanding of man- woman polarity is beautiful. Pleasure to listen to his words. Thank you!!!

[@redeemed3856]

This is a healthy man speaking. For women with unhealthy men they will not respond this way they will never do anything more than necessary to keep you from leaving but nothing bad enough to give you the ability to give yourself permission to leave. 😕

[@rikkibowman3196]

I think this is the perfect perspective. It actually helped me understand why my current husband is much better at understanding me and being attentive to emotions and feelings, he has raised 2 daughters. He provides me with exactly everything I need on an emotional level and beyond. It’s been night and day with other relationships.

[@JennaHasm]

Gjve him a son, two, three.

[@xhivagua]

Bravo 👏🏽 healthy masculinity is possible to achieve..! This is so needed ! More in this times when the masculinity is disappearing.

[@agiegovender5666]

It took so many losses to become self aware. Such a great loss all around.

[@alexaorsi6724]

he cracked the code!

[@aryamahima3]

His advice is applicable to a too masculine man not to mumma’s boy or to guys are who not willing to come out of there comfort zone.

[@jodiroberts9728]

That is true-if you are with a very beast-like man, and you don’t get that treatment, it can feel like safety…bc the soft side is reserved for you, and it’s peaceful feeling. Safe. Fun can happen. But when they begin to talk to you, treat you, react to you just like they do the boys or the other ones on the outside, you begin to loathe them….bc it feels so unloving and unprotective, and just plain ugly. You end up on edge all the time, even when they are acting nice, bc you know they could turn on a dime. Even if you are non-confrontational, you end up bucking against the beast stuff bc you hate the feeling of walking on eggshells. You start to resent that feeling. It starts to feel pointless to share anything intimate or real, you stop wanting to talk then, and then you stop wanting to even be around them at all. Maybe bc for many of us the home feels like it should be the safe space, the place you get to be at rest and be soft, and be fun too. Playful. The world is tough. Home is a refuge. But when you know there’s a beast in the house, it’s hard to not be on edge, irritable, frustrated with the snapping all the time, idk. Starts to feel so icky you want out, even if you love them.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

How long have you been married? I’ve been married for 12 years and reading your post has been my experience with my partner. Were you and your partner able to sort through this dilemma? He left over 2 weeks ago after a huge argument. It’s been much more peaceful but I think my reaction to his behavior was my shortcoming. I became consumed by him vs maintaining my own autonomy. I allowed my thoughts and emotions to wander freely about him while he was gone out and while home I’d watch his every move. This resulted in me being hyper sensitive. I have begun consciously changing my thinking patterns and reframing my projections bc many of them were based on expectations. I’ve been managing my emotional responses and I notice a difference now when we speak on the phone and when he comes by to do things with the kids. I miss him dearly and his absence has made me realize how much I stopped appreciating him and myself. I have decided that as long as I manage myself much better by not giving anyone outside of me that much power through my attention, I will have a more positive experience. I wasn’t prepared for properly understanding the true nature of men. I’m talking deep psychological, financial, sexual and emotional workings. It has been a huge wake up call bc after 12 years of marriage I don’t want to start over with someone else, I’ve put everything into building my family as a homemaker. If you’ve read through, thank you. I’m open to any insight you’ve gained in your experience.

[@TheLillipuss]

I’ve never seen this channel or heard of anyone here before, but how honest & insightful. Many women know and feel this, but for a big strong handsome man to talk this way is extremely attractive & helpful to ripple through humanity

[@mmljubinac]

Raising Boys to be men! Thanks God that this purpose is recognized, because it is needed in this world to have mature man and mature women in the furture ❤️ Good luck and thank you, dear soul! Harmed teacher who has healed himself is the best teacher! May God help you on your journey.

[@sofiya9212]

I'm amazed by men😮 How would you think women have the same mindset as you. We are different and that's amazing!

[@ravishingtwinkle3811]

So many men grew up without emotional support and emotional validation, not knowing the skill and unable to give it to others.

[@Musicismylove888]

It's soooo refreshing to see a man use self introspection instead of the blame game to have a happy and peaceful life. #mirrors.

[@julieannalbuzbeba253]

I am an American woman married to a man from Iraq. Everything he is saying here is 100% true. My husband is an amazing man and so loving to me and out son. But he does have the same behaviors that this man is talking about. I know he feels he needs to be "the man" all the time. And it took a while for him to let go of those feelings and be the way he is now with me in the home. Bit I am still working on trying to get him to understand that his Ego gets him no where with me. And that I see him as more of a man when he can show me that sensitive side of himself than when he feels he always needs to be strong and tough. On the outside...I want that strong tough man to be my protector. Or the inside...I need him to be that caring and loving man I know he is.

[@Carooo.1212]

How many years have you been together?

[@julieannalbuzbeba253]

@@Carooo.1212 7...married for 4

[@sophiaad7486]

People miss the point that men need to be the protector towards the outside dangers and tender when dealing with their wife. The aggressive and controlling side should not be acted out towards the wife but towards the outside dangers. Nor should men indebt their wives to obedience for providing and protecting them since women also care for the man’s physical needs by managing the house and caring for him and their children. I grew up hearing that since the man is providing income he is owed leadership, but the truth is that the wife is entitled to half his income for the work and services she does in the home, she has earned it and it’s not free like men would like to manipulate women into thinking it is.

[@julieannalbuzbeba253]

@@sophiaad7486 well I think that i, being American, already felt this way. I grew up being shown that a husband and wife should work together. No one is "the boss". I love doing things for my husband. I love taking care of him. But I also like to have the same in reverse. He knew when he married me he wasn't marrying someone who was going to be submissive to him. And I'm not. I stand my ground and I can take care of myself. I need my husband because I love him. I dont love him because i need him. And yes...my husband IS very masculine and tough. I DO like that feeling of knowing he wont ever let anything happen to me or our son. I feel extremely safe with him. I also love that he knows he can let his guard down with me and not always have to be that person. I hope you have a good man too.

[@dante19890]

​​​​@@julieannalbuzbeba253that's cuz you are a masculine woman . u want him to be more feminine for the energies to balance out If u instead worked on being more feminine and submissive it would be even better.

[@lhippocamperouge7845]

It makes me feel so at peace to hear that, I feel so gaslighted in my daily life when a man behaves weirdly with me. My ex never called me back because I kindly suggested that we should spend more quality time together, he said that I was trying to control him I felt really as a bad person even if I know it wasn’t at all like this and the more I worked on myself the more I feel like I have to accept any bad behaviour from men otherwise I will be the bad woman, very refreshing to hear that

[@mraanj3118]

do you know what's heartbreaking? it took another woman for him to see what's wrong and needed to be fixed in his behaviour instead of realizing and working it early on with the first woman and possibly all the things the first woman was asking for this man was ignored and was given fully and voluntarily to the next woman.

[@juliametzger1853]

But some men never get it. This man was wise enough to see the similarities in his daughter and ex wife. Their need for emotional connection. He is conscious and present. My heart swells with Hope. We need the more now then ever.

[@silverspring8042]

It’s Maqtub

[@pure-pisces9980]

Totally agree!!!

[@janetc9624]

Great that he is asking men to be accountable for the failed relationships, this is great! I hope lots of men hear this advice.

[@satyamyogaderby]

I want my puppy!! And know the beast is outside protecting me!

[@JessMariaDwyer]

Yes…strong but gentle at home…and a warrior outside…that makes you feel protected!

[@SK-1309]

Hats off to the gentleman 🙏 NOT EASY for a MAN to 1) ACCEPT his faults in public 2) Be So Honest Huge Respect to you Sir 🙏 Your daughter shud be proud of you and your wife a lucky queen 😊

[@danielafaus1151]

Yes, yes and yes. But it takes a lot of therapy and emotional maturity, but it's the best relationship you can ever have. Honor past relationships as teachers! We take care of each other! I'm proud of my man! And our relationship! Society oppose roles, but this is the key to a happy relationship.

[@juliewilliams9897]

Now this is what you call a REAL MAN! Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

[@dana58882]

He is so right. Give a man respect, talk to him if you disagree, don't fight, and give him appreciation and there will be less arguments, less fighting, less conflicts.

[@esterjoy7534]

WOW. WOW. WOW!!! There was not *one* shred of untruth to this! This is absolutely gold and I wish grownup boys would get this. ❤

[@saifalyasiofficial]

😇

[@JASMINE-LY]

Finally a Man speaking!!! 👏👏👏👏 Can’t wait to see your “FACTORY OF MAN” helping the weak boys out there! They truly need you!!!

[@user-vi2pf4zo6z]

I think that men who are blessed to have a daughter really do grow a whole new appreciation for the beautiful delicate essence and understanding for their children’s mother or women in general. It is like a window or empathetic glimpse into what it means to love and care for a female.

[@teamaden2185]

What a beautiful conversation: Master the beast to rise up; show your true nature to your partner so that relationship can become a companionship.

[@yourhealingjourney9824]

While dealing with women, you're dealing with emotions ❤ Thank you for sharing your side of the story. You're so humble and grounded

[@eminetun]

He has my respect! It takes a real man to swallow his ego and pride. And he is very well ballanced, in my opinion, with his masculine and feminine energy.

[@emilijamandic1191]

This has been life-changing for me. I mean, I've already known most of this, but he kinda said it differently, more precisely and more concretely. And at this moment in my life, I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you immensely! From the bottom of my heart.

[@Roseannaclear]

I can respect what he’s saying. When my husband hears me and then holds me in a big hug even if I’m angry i end up crying and then more in love because I don’t have to be super strong all the time I can relax. It’s easy to love him.

[@donnapiraino3323]

You are her protector outside…Inside her Gentle teddy bear…The man fills the gas tank, and takes out the garbage…The woman fills the refrigerator and operates the washing machine…It’s having Strong masculine energy, It’s that quiet Confidence NOT arrogance ….Learn your spouses love languageS…Strong hugs soft kisses, opening up car doors, giving her your coat when it’s cold, pulling out her chair…That being a Gentleman and tender heart NEVER goes out of style or gets old…🫶🏼

[@brigittecourson]

Stupid comment

[@ovoxohayley]

The title of this video is click bait for women; yet, the information he is giving is more important for men to hear.

[@ntsakomashele4350]

Sooo true and I hate it when they do that!

[@chukilewis1696]

Awesome interview! I have often tried to explain to men that I’m a woman and don’t know how to be a man so don’t treat me like one. Be gentle with me.🙂

[@toshrizzle]

He is completely right

[@ed000]

Consistency breeds respect. Consistency grows appreciation!

[@thatssjess9533]

Egos and refusing to understand one another is the reason for so many divorces. I love his take. I agree completely. Ive done alot of work on myself in order to understand my busband and work on my bad traits. And hes doing the same thing.

[@SandipKumar-cp3xe]

6:00 gold 💎

[@suzywilson]

What an absolutely stunning man Saif is! The depth and maturity of his personality is beautiful ❤ He speaks absolute truth. Regardless of the man or the boy. If you show respect and appreciation, you have their heart. I learnt this a couple of years ago and have applied this to all men I have dealings with. It establishes such a fantastic bond with them. That being said, if you are a toxic type and you fake it, it will still blow up in your face. You have to be genuine, putting their needs before your own. People can smell fake even when they don't fully realise it. But they will.

[@KJ-lb4tj]

Everyone desires respect and appreciation.

[@sparkle1949]

Respect ie earned ., not just given. Appreciation is for men who actually provide and protect. Always , we ❤ and appreciate this real men and would lay our lives for them .❤

[@southernboss-jm2kg]

Both men and women want and need to feel appreciated in the relationship. There should be no score keeping such as "I will respect and appreciate them if they do that first for me". The older I get the more I realize that taking the initiative to give to the other person first rather than waiting to receive, is more attractive because it is courageous and kind. Unfortunately, many men have a false notion that giving first will hurt their ego and make them less manly. A mature confident and loving man isn't afraid to give of himself.

[@pinayJayX]

My first love was my firstborn. He showed me how to love unconditionally. I didn’t had rolemodels growing up.

[@rydhamdalwadi1818]

He's absolutely right..I'm 22 years old. I'm single but I know what others feels and every man had experience difference and the pov is also different. Man also get emotional inside.. everyone is different by their own personality.

[@belovedinthebuilding]

I really love this! Thank you

[@samriddhigupta7611]

Thank you for existing ❤

[@MrinalM.]

I appreciate people who can acknowledge their mistakes weaknesses and work on them and then willing to give that knowledge to others to make their life better. This is the duty of every humen to give society whatever good knowledge they have to make others lives better! Its one of the preachings of Budha 🙏

[@constancegoldwing5867]

Thank you for sharing this. My fiance left me last week, seven weeks out from our wedding. Didn't see it coming, and he said he doesn't know why, and that he needs to figure out what he wants to do with his life (after four fantastic years together.) He then told me I deserved better and texted me days after asking me to start moving out of the house, and that he'd help me move. My family helped me instead. I am devastated and so confused about why I have been treated this way. One thing that hurts- hours before he came home and ended our relationship with no explanation, he asked me for money to pay the rates on his house. I told him I deserve answers, but he still hasn't spoken to me. Why did he propose? Why did he speak about having a family? I am very integrated into his family, and have heard nothing from them. My friend said it sounds like a classic case of Peter Pan. He doesn't want to grow up.

[@devorah935]

He's getting his confidence from a woman. So sorry to tell you. You dodged a bullet. Feel relieved

[@devorah935]

Family won't get involved

[@femzehn]

Wow…what a beautiful video 😢 ❤thank you so much for this

[@maryelizabethsinger2467]

Very good. Smart man.

[@rakshamoodley6410]

This man is speaking the truth. He is a great role model.. PRIDE IS THE BIGGEST PROBLEM. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM.🙏🙏💐

[@1980tiffani]

The way he spelled everything out , so simple, calm, and straightforward. The way a man treats his daughter, his wife/partner needs that as well (emotional support, gentle treatment) and what a man needs, appreciation and respect. The part about when a woman shows appreciation also shows him what she would like more of.. that’s a great way to explain that. Thank you, we listen more when the message is delivered in a calm, non-accusatory, non-demeaning way.

[@fareenashofficial]

I love this video! I couldn’t agree more! Exactly what I teach and exactly the definition of masculine energy ❤

[@carrielynn1305]

❤THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ❤THIS is what I've been struggling to communicate to my husband, and you just explained it so eloquently and clearly! ❤THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! ❤

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

I shower my husband with appreciation and respect. He's an adult, and I respect his decisions and his values, and I do not mother him. He usually doesn't ask a lot of me, nor I him. Regarding appreciation, I make it a point of saying "thank you" or "I appreciate you" every single day. It could be something as simple as him taking out the trash or helping with housework. Or, I tell him how much I appreciate the way he takes care of me, how supportive he is of me and my career, or the fact that is such a great guy and genuine man and that I'm so lucky that he finally got caught in my web 😂 I'm pretty confident that we can face anything together and will be with each other for the long haul. This makes me feel like I'm on the right track with keeping my husband happy.

[@kristythompson9815]

"Im ready to conquer the world..." Wow! I love this!

[@lingy74]

My father abused me. So parenthood doesn’t always make men treat women better. He was also a narcissist. I am 40 now and he still disrespects my boundaries. I treat him like an acquaintance and keep him at arm’s length.