PENOPLASTY: The dark world of "eggplant" enlargement (a deep dive)

[@oboemoboe]

The censoring of normal anatomical and medical terms is absolutely insane.

[@jrtg1990]

Yet the rransgenderism agenda is strengthening 😑

[@m.s.biteth1164]

Down with you tube.

[@Zilch.0]

We live in insane times.

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

Yup. KZbin is stupid. They also like taking power away from victims. If I hear one more person say SA or grape instead of rape or sexual assault. . . It angers me that serious crimes are diminished by censorship. Also suicide. Stop calling a serious need for mental health help unalive. I hate people ignoreing real problems. It reminds me of the rudest woman criticizing people using curse words appropriately. Yet, she always talked down to people with rated G words. I think that’s worse.

[@zeta_noir]

Friendly reminder that youtube does not do anything to videos who use such words. Its purely scummy youtubers who just want money and thus self censor

[@Moshm4n]

"The candelabra enlargement community" is a concert of syllables I never expected to experience.

[@onepartyroule]

I wish she'd used "pork candles" instead ('andles for pork).

[@MrLoudthought]

😂😂😂😂

[@bluespiral4678]

That's why we call it the PE community lol

[@auto_math]

Nice alliterations.😅

[@julecaesara482]

A concert of syllables - sounds like the title of a fae romance novel

[@C17Y]

the censoring of every other words is really aggravating, i'm tired of youtubes puritanism

[@DocStench]

It’s Orwellian. I want to hear Kid communicate in the language she chooses

[@Beapoem0802]

It’s especially weird when one watches true crime content. “He then proceeded to unalive the victim with his automatic pew pew .” Like what??

[@joannasekua6273]

I personally like calling it candelabra lol

[@cloudbasedbear]

that sounds like mr ballen 😂😂​@@Beapoem0802

[@Outworlder]

It's a reflection of society. US society above all

[@voidsnail]

I just feel the need to point out, most of the time when a woman says she prefers smaller guys, she's not lying to save your ego. If it touches the cervix, it actually can be extremely painful. Some women are less sensitive to that pain, some women are used to it; but some women physically cannot tolerate it.

[@Li_Tobler]

Also some women are smaller down there in terms of length (and funnily enough it doesn't correlate with general height, contrary to popular belief), so smaller-average is just a better match anatomically. One of my bfs was 17cm and it was way too much for me, not enjoyable at all unless he was constantly withholding (which itself isn't that fun). My current bf has something like 12-15cm I assume (he's not THAT into it to measure him, and I don't care to either LOL) and it's absolutely perfect

[@lreece922]

Thank you cuz I cannot.

[@VideoSaySo]

This needs a pin until we can put it up on a billboard! Lol!

[@johnkingmk]

Sounds like a skill issue

[@voidsnail]

@@johnkingmk No its actually human anatomy, nice attempt at being funny i guess

[@vibrancy.8374]

i had a partner who after we had intercourse for the first time, revealed to me that he had the surgery and there were quite a few complications. i attempted to be supportive and helpful throughout, but i definitely believe that therapy would have been a much better option due to all the pain and stress he went through because of it. not just physically, but clearly emotionally, my heart definitely goes out to men right now.

[@MasterInHD]

Damn, so many questions, how did the member looked? Did you give oral? Did it smell? Did it 'feel' any different in comparison to other members of the same size?

[@alisonmercer5946]

Sounds likeits a crappy surgery for only length when it is soft. And complications that can happen. Anyoen optinh for that is being taken advantage of because a mentally well person would not get such a useless surgery that will potentially cause issues. I m ginna bet the surgery does not alleviate their issues with their penis. The risks are so high compared to the benefits. These men are mentally unwell and being taken advantage of.like the cat lady, jocelyn wildestein???name? Was mentally unwell

[@kiuk_kiks]

Was he any bigger?

[@vibrancy.8374]

@@kiuk_kiks oh i couldn’t say i didn’t know him before he got the surgery but according to him there was definitely a difference in girth and a slight one in length

[@EAE-n1l]

@@vibrancy.8374 To know one who does such things one must be in extremely nefarious social groups XD

[@krk6216]

Someone in my family had this surgery and died after it. At first I thought it was his health not being good beforehand but now I’m realizing…. Maybe my family should sue

[@unsashamed]

Absolutely you should

[@jhoughjr1]

Hard to prove malpractuce. They will say its routine than say its acceptable risk. They dont make money convincing ppl surgery is risky

[@KaeMaiden]

​@@unsashamed It's worth it, if they can hopefully prove a case of malpractice, but they always make patients sign a waiver stating they have been informed of the complications of the elected surgery, which includes their possible demise.

[@lorenaaleman7914]

first check the statute

[@FyerBear]

Hopefully the clinics don't give you grief. The labiaplasty video was very informative and interesting.

[@WatermelonPeppermint]

I had a labiaplasty at 18, I regret it deeply. Pain for many years, loss of feeling (of course, I got skin and nerves chopped off.)

[@justinal8735]

@@WatermelonPeppermintthat’s a light version of what circumcision is

[@WatermelonPeppermint]

@@justinal8735 I am also against circumcision. Unfortunately FS restoration isn't exactly the same, but the gentleman invovled with it have helped me try and regrow some of my labia minora skin. (It isn't entirely possible as labia minora are more than skin, they are meat as well.) I don't think labia and foreskin can be compared. They're different. The hood of the clitoris is more akin to foreskin because it goes over our glans.

[@rene3759]

@@justinal8735 its not

[@gooreum2023]

​@@justinal8735how is a labiaplasty "light"

[@PinkCoils]

It really is sad. So many men hyper-focus on size and never stop to actually ask their partners' thoughts.

[@TowDow3]

their partners might not even tell them the truth though.

[@angryox3102]

Culture, both male and female is quick to shame men who don’t measure up to standards. One of the first insults that women will use towards a man is that he’s small.

[@petitmorte2186]

​@@angryox3102 because it's the most hurtful in the male eye. we know it'll hurt the most and they aren't saying " your dick is too small and I'm unsatisfied." It's just small whether it is or not.

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

@@angryox3102 yeah i noticed that too

[@markstriker925]

​@@angryox3102small is a woman's favorite insult after gay and virgin.

[@KateyWatson]

Speaking as a woman I recommend men tone and control their pelvic & stomach muscles rather than focus on their johnthomas... and being clean, you don't need lotions & potions, regular washes - important.

[@MiddlePath007]

No way. That aura is chock full of pheromones. Pop a shower cap on it when to clean the rest of yourself, it is like that cologne from anchorman. Works 50% of the time, every time

[@brrjohnson8131]

​@@MiddlePath007 aura verses odor are very different topics.

[@MiddlePath007]

@brrjohnson8131 it's not a serious comment. If you wanna imagine an odor that saturates the environment, creeping along the ground and slipping through the cracks of doors with people taking a whiff and floating towards me lead by their noses, passing people doubled over wrenching, go ahead. If you want to imagine the pheromones and confidence is so thick that there is a haze around me like the heat waves of a mirage beckoning people in like an oasis in a desert of chemical scented individuals all ashamed of themselves while those who approach, but not out of attraction, see the haze as a burning plume of acid irritant, please, go ahead.

[@Doctor.Kapow.]

​@@MiddlePath007 tell me more 🤔

[@Private-wj4nd]

@@MiddlePath007🤮 Wash it

[@wen6519]

Note: procedure cost ~$10K once; my cost for 4 years of therapy under sliding scale for PTSD: ~$8.5K. Candelabra dysphoria will surely resolve faster than 4 years. You got this. Go to therapy, put the money in your 401K if you have one, otherwise in a savings account the rates are good right now.

[@kiuk_kiks]

Did it work?

[@genocidehero9687]

Why can't I do what I want with my body?

[@TheSH1N1GAM1]

@@genocidehero9687No one is saying you can’t mutilate yourself. After watching this video, why would you want to?

[@voidsnail]

@@genocidehero9687 You can, these specific procedures are just rarely ever worth it.

[@ThatGirlJD]

Body dismorphia of any kind is something that has to be worked on lifelong. Many of the men getting pumps and sheaths get them because they have lost function in their swords. Spinal cord injuries, head injuries, age, and certain health conditions can cause the need for a device to use their manhood. Many of these men get them so they can interact with their wives, some of them have no feeling in the area.

Weird to say/feel this, but I'm really glad to see a woman talking about this.

[@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ]

Why is it weird?

[@ktvcartoons]

body disphoria affects everyone, we need to stick together and help eachother understand that there's not such thing as the ideal body type. As long as you're healthy there's nothing you should worry about. ☺

[@GALA89]

same

[@CharlesH-t9r]

​@@ktvcartoons i agree seeing the "which gender has it worse" every time Kidology does on men's struggles in the comments is getting annoying Can't we just focus on the topic whether it's men's or women's struggles Despite what people claim she literally showed comedy shows and there's been many comedies that have mock men's so-called small penises

[@lindboknifeandtool]

@@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δit’s not but men are controlled through and by their shame. You’d be amazed how the average guy feels 😂

[@Jo-sd3ch]

Just love that you learned all this and your reaction is compassion. As a man it feels warming. Most people, men and women are mean about these things

[@mustanggox]

yeah and super judgey too. people need to remember even if these procedures and insecurities seem ridiculous, which imo they are, they don't just spawn out of nowhere. society tells us there's a certain way to look to be attractive or even valued.

[@odothedoll2738]

Gotta love how most of the non surgical options are just CBT. Not cognitive behavioral therapy.

[@Ladyg617]

😂

[@asmo_1929]

deep cut

[@DecadentMystic]

Not to mention it’s common for cis women to either no being able, or have difficulty even orgasm from penetration. You don’t need penetration because a lot of cis women won’t be pleased anyways to have sex. Outercourse is a better option

[@mojrimibnharb4584]

Oof

[@laneyking2044]

Your pfp... just gotta say the lez odo reading is so special to me

[@viciousqueen5096]

I begin to realise how ridiculous this whole discussion about the size of our respective private parts is once you begin to put both "ideals" on the table. So a sausage should be big and a bun should be small/tight. How is a big sausage supposed to fit in a small bun? Either it's big sausage and big bun or small sausage and small bun. The opening in the bun is also only a few cm/inches long, is that gonna be the new surgery trend? Elongating the bun opening? Can we also talk about how "toys" are made in ridiculously big sizes that aren't gonna fit any human body?

[@corpseflower890]

agree 100% on toys being too big…as a woman it feels i’m supposed to admire and be attracted to giant “members” due to society. it really does hurt if it’s too big! let’s normalize both parties being COMFORTABLE and satisfied during sex

[@riikkaylonen4894]

As a woman who does enjoy those kinds of gigantic toys inserted, I really don't give a rats ass how big of a candelabra my partner has. Like PiV is wonderful with any size for me, but I don't expect anyone to have anything even close to the size of the toys I like. It's just a different sensation I like, but as to what goes in a partner, I like the sensation what you are making me feel in my brain mostly 💁‍♀️

[@selkrasouza6262]

I’m glad I opted for an average sized toy (the smallest the brand had available). For the first few months of use, even that was too big.

[@c.a.greene8395]

A lot of those BIG toys were not made with women in mind...they were made for men on men. You would be surprised what men will shove up their a$$. I mean there are TONS of videos of x-rays on utube of the bizarre assortment of shit men have anally swallowed. I was in hospital yesterday in the emergency and the man next to me had used several pair of pantyhose, put a full can of beer, knot, beer, knot, beer, knot...in the legs and used a twelve pack as anal beads, and he lost the part of the pantyhose which he would have used to pull out the DIY anal beads...that poor doctor had to reach his hand in there and pull them out.😮 So those gigantic candelabra aren't designed with women in mind...😂

[@MrsDazl]

"How is a big sausage supposed to fit in a small bun?" 🤭 It doesn't make sense because the world's smartest and most logical sex (wink wink) has already decided that this topic wasn't made for you to discuss. Consideration for the woman's comfort and enjoyment in smex was never a factor. For the sis's who enjoy things on the larger side, do you, babe

[@maryalicefike4704]

the average vaginal canal is between 5-6 inches long. for sex to be comfortable the average male penis is around 5 inches. we’re puzzle pieces ! it’s also why most women prefer average length bc anything larger than 6 can be very uncomfortable since our bodies literally aren’t made for all that

[@hahahaaha7208]

I can't feel much from my 6 inch boyfriend. But, I think its because of his girth lacking. I once had a 6'5 thick one and I ad9red it but he came too fast😢. I just cant win.

[@gyrosbzz72]

@@hahahaaha7208 wha

[@gummy5862]

You’re pretending like men with penises smaller than 4 inches don’t exist.

[@skateboardious]

​@@hahahaaha72086 foot 5 is a notably large unit

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

THISSSS

[@CaulkMongler]

As someone who exists on the smaller end of the size category, it genuinely hurts my feelings when I see other people use a small size as a simple insult to hurl at anyone they don’t like or agree with. It’s not like I can really insert myself into a disagreement/argument I’m not even part of just to start talking about my size, right?

[@bingonight1504]

I'm with you, I used to make jokes like that but someone called me out for it one day like "isn't it kinda dumb we still make jokes about something outside of one's control?" and I never did it again because they're right, there's no good excuse for it. Now I never hear my friend circle make small penis jokes anymore so I hope it's falling out of fashion in general

[@harrietdrums]

Thank you! I'm a woman and had been doing this as long as I can remember because it's just the culture. I don't anymore because it's fucked up. I once got downvoted to hell on Reddit for saying that we shouldn't use it as an insult even if someone is a shitty person, because it hurts anyone reading it with the same characteristic. I was accused of being a man with a small penis myself, they couldn't fathom that a cis woman would call them out on it. The women in the thread were absolutely fine with body shaming as long as it was a dick joke and it was someone they didn't like. It's hypocritical. For the record I despise short jokes as well.

[@leightonlawrence8832]

I had a coworker that made unsolicited jokes about his own small weener. He'd say shit like "I was 4 inches deep in your mom" and he's genuinely one of my favorite coworkers I've ever had. Be that guy.

[@sarahthesarah2850]

Some of the best, most pleasurable, most considerate lovers I have ever experienced have had smaller sized members. I despise that peoples natural bodies are used as an insult. Some folks need to seriously get therapy and mature some. The guys who think it's all in size and don't communicate are the worst in bed. Smaller ones are funner giving oral to for most the folks I've talked to. I'm so exhausted with folks equating size to masculinity and quality. When folks do this, they tell on themselves so much. Terrible to hear you've been hurt by these crass and tactless folks. I hope you have lots of folks in your life that build you up. Sometimes watching someone get roasted can be enjoyable. If it's done in good spirits it can be interesting from both sides. When they make it about body shaming it instantly kills it for me. Folks getting shamed for things they have no choice over is wrong.

[@malachitestorm]

It's also sad because people imply that there is no one there for you, but there are women who prefer smaller members because of their own size, or even women who don't like penetration at all

[@b00bbi-b]

i been screaming in pain this whole video and i don't even have as hot dog/weenie

[@bascoaful]

I dont have a candelabra either but as I am cleaning I have been randomly grabbing my crotch in pain whilst listening.

[@Won_core]

Same except that I was hella unsettled and uncomfortable

[@jbark678]

*candelabra

[@Keti9er]

Well, I DO have a schlong and this video was an absolute NIGHTMARE. Ladies - might I suggest just going back to lying to us? All of us are the biggest and best youve ever had 🤣

[@wilgefortisohlin568]

I’m glad that the video on labia now has its masculine counterpart! Very informative, it’s quite concerning that those “fillers” are a thing and have considerable popularity.

[@breannathompson9094]

Can we also just talk about how Corn addiction goes hand in hand (no pun intended) with these insecurities...

[@mariusvanc]

Oh yeah, men were never worried about their size before corn.

[@natther748]

I believe it's mostly due to pressure from other men actually. Men are often being laughed at for having a small pp by other men. So that being said they should fix those issues themselves and we women shouldn't care because we already have a lot more to worry about in terms of beauty standards🤷

[@nigelharvey640]

@@natther748I’ve genuinely never heard of this happening ever bc men don’t show each other hard pp size. There is very little reason for such a convo to occur and I can only imagine it happening if it was a trusted friend who would not weaponize an insecurity like that to begin with. I don’t even think that’s an insult a man would say to another man because it would be considered “sus”. At most something like “I pleasure your girl better” which is a statement of skill not size. Porn I get but this is just unlikely. I’ve heard far more men have a one off harsh comment about it from a woman they saw intimately, or hearing some negative comments about it from some woman friends talking about another man.

[@MK-hh1vo]

​@nigelharvey640 Men don't have to see each other's parts to make fun of them. They just hurl random size insults. That, coupled with glorified images in corn, is enough to make normal sized men question themselves. Women don't regularly comment on men's size unless men ask them to or if women are *imitating what men do to each other* by using size as an insult. Most women haven't seen enough different Ps to compare sizes. And very few women want men who are extra long and thick. That's a man's fantasy.

[@bludbought]

​@@mariusvanc I dare say yes. This is mainly because of corn. I think in the past, if their woman said it was enough for her, it would be enough. But, now, corn feeds these insecurities. I think that's a truth men don't want to hear because they don't want to leave corn alone.

[@DWatt6455]

33 y/o man here, I could say I was one of those men in the statistic that felt insecure about such a thing, although being statistically average, mostly from having two experiences where I felt of being inadequate. But the way I am terrified of surgical/invasive anything, even so much as my getting my wisdom teeth pulled a few years back, there's no way I'd even consider thinking about any of these procedures.

[@pupsap7714]

Man, I hope you don't date anyone. Theres nothing more evil and life draining than a male with small size. The insecurity is satanic.

[@WatermelonPeppermint]

Please don't be insecure! There's individuals like myself who even prefer on the SMALLER side, just because it is comfortable.

[@jd-hs5lj]

It’s like anything with dating people will want various different things depending on their preferences you just need to find the people who are a fit for you. There’s not one type of size or man every woman wants

[@blackswan1983]

From a woman, you're just fine as you are. Big candles are overrated. Women want the intimacy more.

[@jhoughjr1]

Had my wisdom teeth surgeried. It wasnt bad at all.

[@michaelbashford2733]

This video makes me suddenly comfortable with my average candelabra.

[@WatermelonPeppermint]

You should be! People like me, aside from average, prefer the smaller to the too large. Comfort is better than pain.

[@blackswan1983]

As you should be.

[@matttheamerican3766]

@@WatermelonPeppermint Go out with him then

[@matttheamerican3766]

@@blackswan1983 Naaaaaahhh

[@soniamladenova5167]

​@@matttheamerican3766least obvious bait

[@MarsblissGuidedMeditation]

I wax for a living so I see peoples genitals on the regular. Sometimes people will ask me my thoughts on theirs. I will always look for something positive to say and compliment them. It’s so sad how insecure people are about it.

[@Eskapismus]

Customers asking your thoughts about their private parts is so weird. Ugh. 🤨

[@MarsblissGuidedMeditation]

@@Eskapismus yeah I’d agree, it can be uncomfortable and sometimes a little creepy but most of the time I can just tell people are insecure so it’s more sad than anything.

[@alasdairgodewife8534]

Creeps, sorry you had to endure that kind of behaviour, and also props to you for staying level headed about it. I would have ignored the question with a stony face 😅

[@MarsblissGuidedMeditation]

@@alasdairgodewife8534 yeah, this job is definitely not for everyone.

[@Moe_Lester_fromUptwn]

You're strong. I'll give u that.

[@tinyt363]

Medium “candelabra” energy is so underrated. There is such a thing as too big. Honestly the best intimacy I’ve ever had has been with guys with very average sized “candelabras”. My heart breaks for the men who have fallen victim to this cowboy surgeon, and those who don’t feel good enough. If only they knew they were perfect as they are 😭

[@skeletorlikespotatoes7846]

How can I feel that way....y'all always bring up online that y'all want huge ones

[@sontapaa11jokulainen94]

​@@skeletorlikespotatoes7846 because of selection bias. The vast majority of women don't go posting online about dick size because they are happy with what their partner have (ie most likely an average dick) so of course you see only the few outliers who are so called "size queens" and want bigger because those are the only ones unsatisfied. Studies show that women on average prefer bigger than average, but only slightly bigger than average, so if you are average, then you should find plenty of women who are satisfied with your size. Of course more women would be satisfied if you were a bit bigger than average (ie at the optimum size), but point is that a decent chunk of women are happy with average. Point id that yes, your options are more limited if you are average as opposed to slightly bigger than average, but you still have plenty of options. Problems only arise if you are well below average when it becomes a dealbreaker for many women and even then there are women that don't care. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

[@skeletorlikespotatoes7846]

@@sontapaa11jokulainen94 that's not the point. The point is how women see you versus another man.

[@ash-ee5mm]

@@skeletorlikespotatoes7846ive seen several of your replies on different comment threads now and it seems that you’re kind of beating yourself up about your size, and it seems like that particular (needless, though understandable) insecurity is stemming from a lot of self-comparison with what you’re seeing/reading online. Despite hearing multiple women expressing their preferences towards average sized or even below, it seems as though you’re almost determined to believe they are all secretly size queens and comparing you to larger than average men, that they aren’t capable of love and respecting a partner that’s not largely endowed. Even when explaining that physically too big is simply incompatible, painful and not preferred. I understand having insecurities stemming from past experiences or even like locker-room talk from other men that you are bombarded constantly with in everyday life. But when what you are subjecting yourself to online is causing you to compare yourself constantly with these outlier cases to the point that it makes you insecure enough to a point of not being able to believe a potential partner when she tells you she likes an average size, or she’s completely satisfied with your size, that toll on your mental health and body image becomes insanely detrimental. I’d say maybe try taking a bit of a cleanse from online in general, or at the very least content that discussions the realm of size and people’s sex lives/preferences. Remove yourself immediately if you stumble upon it, use the block button as your friend. Go out in your city and focus on building real in person relationships with people that build you up, possibly go on a date or two. Work on your self image and not comparing yourself with others. Do things that you enjoy and build you up as a person, because you as a person and as a partner is not solely dependent on your size. All the peace and love brother, wishing you well and nothing but greatness.

[@moonclip9997]

​@@skeletorlikespotatoes7846 woman here 🙋‍♀️ I can confirm big peeners scare me, never did the reproduction macarena before and heard that big ones hurt

[@benmcreynolds8581]

No joke I just need to say that this video feels like such a therapeutic step in the right direction. Body insecurities are such a widespread issue. It trickles into SO many facets of our own society.. It's just great to be seeing people across the board sympathizing with the struggles of body image insecurities. It can be such an endless pit of dispare, especially if someone doesn't find healthy ways to navigate themselves throughout the journey of learning how to come to terms with their own insecurities.. ~So seriously for the greater sake of humanity, thank you for making this video and thank you for starting this conversation that also includes women into all of this as well.

[@lucy2459]

petite woman here - i found my ex to be far too big, and i believe he was perfectly average. he has been my only sexual partner thus far, and honestly despite his best efforts (he is a very gentle and kind man, and i’m so grateful that he was my first despite this incompatibility) every time we had sex his ‘candelabra’ hit my cervix and hurt so so badly. we broke up for reasons wholly unrelated to candelabra proportions and remain very good friends, but in the future i will be looking for a sexual partner with hopefully a much smaller thing than the average. everyone is different and there’s no shame in having whatever size you may happen to have. different women (and men) will want different sizes - and if you’re incompatible in any which way and still want to be together there are so many more ways to be intimate than PiV. there IS, however, incredible amounts of shame in being a predatory ‘doctor’ mutilating insecure, healthy men. i don’t even have a candelabra and parts of this video made me wince!

[@alisonmercer5946]

Exactly. If only everyone could understand and really feel this. Because it is the simple truth and it would make life better for a lot of men. Instead we got psycho lying scammer drs like dr ellis taking advantage of these men ,making bank. U gotta be a psycho with zero care for people or you simply couldn't and wouldnt do that to men.

[@healingpoisonbreak9984]

Thank you for sharing. As a petite woman as well, i can relate. I hope you find the perfect s3xual partner for you girl❤

[@genocidehero9687]

I bet he was huge but you think he's average

[@OZUndead]

Men love it when you call them average, especially when you take your time to describe yourself in detail. Pretty average for common girls.

[@hexabellezarco]

I'm also quite small and it hurt the first time so much that I invested in a dilator set to be able to accommodate him. It took months for me to be able to be comfortable. There are options if you want to be able to handle larger candelabras. It's sad that men think they have to be *huge* to be acceptable when this is such a common thing I hear from women.

[@EveloGrave]

Still watching the video, but as a man. Until I was about 24, I was worried that I wasn't big enough. After learning more about the average range and women's preferences, Being average is perfect. Plus, more often than not I've seen videos of women stating that even smaller or comically large packages can get the job done. Which is comforting to everyone of all sizes I think. Now if only meeting people wasn't so difficult...

[@NoNameNomad....]

I will tell you as a woman that most of us don't like it too big, it just hurts and is extremely uncomfortable. I'm bi and have been with both men and women and it always comes down to a connection and chemistry we have. Advice to any man out there struggling (this actually goes to women too) be honest with your partner, find what you like and say what you dislike, and ask them too. Be open with each other, communicate and experiment. Size has nothing to do with any of that. Your sex life will drastically improve if you tell each other what you like and guide them in the process. Please, please, please men, do not feel pressured into getting any of these procedures done, it's not worth it ❤

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

@@NoNameNomad.... yeah i honestly think media has twisted the reality of sex & "desireability" which really differs from person to person & being honest about the expectations & preferences is what helps, like you said.

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

hahaha the first step is often the most difficult

[@nizvkfb7vsbvrsct723]

id pick a normal and small P over a big one any day of the week. They are lovely!! not painful not scary and ive discussed this with many of my girlfriends and not one has disagreed. I even broke up with a guy after sleeping with him because I didnt want to ever face his large member again.

[@Macheako]

From what I’ve seen, it’s like, there’s TONSSSSS of guys in the average ranges, and far far less men at the extremes here. 8 outta 10 dudes you probably walk by are all packing averages ❤ you’re definitely not gonna be “left out”

[@bo8fett.]

This video was equally enlightening as it was horrifying. As a guy, with insecurities, I’m glad I don’t have one about my gentleman’s canon. I wasn’t aware that penis enlargement was a thing, and I now wish it wasn’t. From my perspective (in all its limitations) I really believe that men are far more insecure than women (and that’s okay), and the pressure(s) from these insecurities is not nearly discussed as much as it could/should be. Women are far better at decreasing stigma, as they’re far more willing to enter uncomfortable and vulnerable conversations. Feminism has been essential in this. Masculism (which is underlined in red because it’s that ignored) has failed; it’s why the ‘Manosphere’ rose to popularity: men don’t like exposing their weaknesses, because weakness is considered unmanly, and thus a paradox ensues. We mention that men suffer, commit suicide at higher rates, and have a plethora of insecurities, but we rarely see any application to tackle these issues. It’s why bad faith people get involved, they don’t need to fix the issues, they just need to profit and prolong these issues.

[@breannathompson9094]

Its gonna be unique for most people, but i feel like a lot of guys compare themselves amongst themselves, without women commenting on those things personally for them. Like so many guys think they arent muscular enough or tall enough, but WHO told them that? Mostly other men, its like women are yelling out that it isnt his height or his looks, but he listens to the bro who tells him it is...

[@nicholascoob1350]

​@@breannathompson9094Men don't need to be told, just look at who women find attractive or date and connect the dots. Are you serious?

[@あんでぃいい]

"Women are far better at decreasing stigma" ehh... citation needed. women are the ones that go to the small penis insult when bantering. if i were to guess i'd say they're better at giving off the appearance of decreasing stigma, but there are so many implicit biases that we all have and you cant just will your way out of them, it takes work to get rid of them.

[@rebeccadelbridge2998]

Thank you for recognising this. Men can learn these skills too. No one is holding you back from creating safe and supportive conversations and spaces but yourselves. Women have tried forever to tell you these things don't matter. You don't listen to us.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

​​@@nicholascoob1350 ok then why aren't they seeing women who are utterly gorgeous getting married to ugly partners more than men? Why are they not seeing women more likely than men to care for a terminally ill partener? Why are they not seeing more women being loyal to their partners than men? Why are they not seeing the female centred media where women really love men who are romantic and funny and not necessarily rich and handsome? They do see women doing this stuff, and they mock us for wanting love.. Because it will challenge the victim mindset many men have... Men will blend everyone but themselves for their own fault..

[@laniyamamoto6693]

this whole video is more horrific than a stephen king novel

[@Cumdown]

The Running (from small penis) Man

[@Won_core]

Frr, I'm hella uncomfortable, and usually I am not uncomfortable with these topics

[@Petunia3001]

I admit I wasn’t entirely prepared for this video 😱 I really feel for the men that had this procedure and suffered so greatly.

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

I remember in college, my bf had a, ahem, LARGE candelabra! I was SCARED of it! He was a lovely person but sex was painful. Guys, seriously, small to medium is just fiiiiine. I had NO idea this "enlargement" community was such a huge thing (no pun intended). I mean, wow. Just picture a woman watching this video with a face of incredulity and wtf?!

[@fines158]

I guess corn is causation of this. Maybe they think having a mega candelabra is what the opposite sex wanted😢

[@tete-rh5xo]

fr i agree with you and a small - average size is way more enjoyable if they know what they're doing, in my experience anyway. It feels painful and so uncomfortable when they're too big. I feel like the stereotype about "bigger is better" is literally created by men

[@joannasekua6273]

I had sex with a "large" guy only once in my life, it was awful. He obviously felt like he didnt need to do anything else because his dick is so big and thats enough, lol.

[@bludbought]

​@@tete-rh5xo Exactly. It's literally a corn phenomenon.

[@Macheako]

Yo, be real…you NEVER think about his large handlebar anymore? lol 😂❤

[@therealAQ]

omg, at every mention of candelabra my head was like "ii~i'm gonna swiiiing from the chandelier~"

[@NoNameNomad....]

Given that the monk's at the beginning could pull trucks and planes, as long as you got him to stand at ceiling height, i think you could swing from the chandelier 😂 If it rips off in your hand and you hit the floor and he bleeds out...well you're on your own.

[@alexxC37]

Hahahaha now I have the song in my head.

[@robinswampangel]

No offense, but I wish I could dislike this.

[@taylorhillard4868]

Instructions unclear, my candelabra is stuck in a ceiling fan.

[@Rig0r_M0rtis]

Sounds like a new pickup line.

[@Tali-De]

I wish the adult section on KZbin for adults would be, you know, worded for adults too. Your videos are amazing and super educating Kidology, I'm so sorry you have to deal with the puritanism of the powers that be to bring us this information. To your point, I definitely agree this is an all-around really tragic situation in which predatory professionals prey upon vulnerable and insecure human beings to make a profit. It's really sad.

[@NoNameNomad....]

Fk, this is heartbreaking. These Drs need their license taken from them.

[@Hybrid_The_Hero]

No she's doing this as a lesbian to try to traumatize women as a form of sexual mate guarding. Lesbian insults are Relentless with that. They're always thinking every single moment what are straight people doing with their private parts and how the f*** over our relationships. That's all they think about

[@Alastariana]

God, I hate this stupid „censorship policy“ (and I am not willing to call it otherwise, as long as educational content is not allowed to use correct technical terms and for example misogyny can be spewed all over a platform), that makes everything three times harder to understand. Especially when one is used to ED being something entirely different … Kudos for the consistent use of candelabra. I have never heard that one before 🙈

[@Cherabreena]

I have a friend who had such surgery where they elongate using fat. Yes, his candelabra got bigger but he says he regrets it due to the complications. He had to travel to the clinic three or four times IN ANOTHER COUNTRY due to complications. The wound got infected and the stitches kept popping in the morning due to male anatomy doing it’s thing in the morning. His inner thighs and lower stomach was purple bruised for weeks. It took MONTHS to heal, months on pain killers and he said the pain during those months were awful. Not worth it, he says.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Better to be born with one.

[@jdb6026]

I hope that people study the side effects of insecurities and all it entails. There isn't enough information out there.

[@V0C4L01D_forever]

Came from the labiaplasty video, very nice.

[@MK-hh1vo]

Me too!

[@jbills3000]

Your deep dives are always so well researched and eye-opening! I've literally never thought about this subject.. Thank you! 😳😳🙂

[@sarahmcdonald9624]

PSA for the men who struggle with thinking they are too small: It’s ok! Women like other things about their men and size won’t make her laugh. Enjoy life and seriously don’t worry about it.

[@bluespiral4678]

I'd say to such men, buy a "candelabra" pump and do your research on best practices. Permanent gains are possible, and ED is not a guarantee as men grow older.

[@masseffect48]

This is literally the worst thing to say 😅😅 and also if your small enough it might make some women laugh🫠

[@mariusvanc]

@@masseffect48 Yeah, same as with looks. "Look don't matter very much", say women for whom the men who do not pass through their attractiveness filter are invisible. 🤣🤣🤣

[@Cumdown]

Women aren't a monolith

[@billybob-ik5yv]

The women who say this usually are the one who judge the most

[@tom1644x]

I've been on antidepressants so long, I forget what having a happy candelabra is like.

[@sycrop1479]

😭😭😭 (i should not laugh but as someone also on antidepressants and feeling the same thing this is hilarious haha)

[@amp4105]

I hope this is hyperbole because that shouldn't prohibit that from happening completely

[@Маша-ш1з7ы]

this is all very sad. we need to stop equating the value of a person with their genitals, weight, height, etc. it's just a body. people are much more complex and interesting creatures, and when you realize this, you understand that any complexes associated with the body are imposed and not worth it. but, in addition, i would really like to wish that the conversation about "sizes" does not go from hatred of "small" to hatred of "big", which i often see in such conversations. regardless of whether you have "small" or "big", you were and will remain a valuable and needed person, and for everything else, solutions and alternatives can be found.

[@bingonight1504]

Real

[@tinamenon1593]

👏🤜🙏🤌

[@matttheamerican3766]

The Greeks started penis shaming. Stating that only intelligent wise and evolved men had small wangs. And only dummies that are brutes have big ones. Classic European racism toward African peoples...

[@Mambo9000012]

This will never happen. Every human being creates instant judgements about another person from visual input in the first few milliseconds of meeting them. It is part of who we are and even those that are aware of it are subject of its bias.

[@matttheamerican3766]

@@Mambo9000012 They want more copium. More spitituality and empathy is a good thing, but this utopia is far off. Not impossible but far off. The first time a smart weak guy makes fun of a strong not so smart guy for taking his girl and vice versa the other guy for taking his job etc, it all devolves into name calling and fist fights. Were all meant to be big strong smart and handsome/gorgeous. When people muddy the waters the gene pool gets muddied too.Ugly people once got together to regenerate and they know full well theyre ugly af. The other traits survive if theyre good for anything and healthy. But we all know they are mostly not top tier human in terms of genes and health.

[@avo2986]

As a guy, everything is about size. You’re hot if you’re tall (big), muscled (big), and well-endowed (big). I’ve heard those stories that seem weirdly prevalent that talk about sexual experiences being ruined by the man’s penis being unsatisfactorily small. There’s a common perception you won’t be wanted as a man if you aren’t at least 6 feet tall , >10% body fat, and a minimum of 8 inches long. As a guy myself, I have an exactly average length penis (5.5 inches) and I feel like I am on the very lowest part of the “acceptable length” scale. I’m also not jacked by any means and the average American male height (5 foot 9). I’ve definitely felt insecure about my penis length and height (even though statistically they should be perfect) because you see those millions of TikToks of women talking about how hot 6”4 men are. I would argue this is part of the whole “exceptional is the new average” issue. Until this video, I have never seen a video of a woman saying “average length is good”. What I think is the biggest issue with matters like these is that while generally there is a decent number of women discussing women’s issues and men discussing men’s issues, we don’t have enough people sympathizing with the other gender and explaining the issues we both face. For instance I’ve never even heard a whisper of men talking about labiaplasties.

[@Abandex369]

Move to Indonesia, get an Indonesian wife. Live there happily ever after.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

PSA announcement: don't use TikTok as information gathering for any reason ever. EVER. People get paid per view, not level of accuracy. There's also a growing trend of being wrong on purpose just to get views.

[@manticore2676]

@@Ajcarter95 what the fuck was the point of this comment " my bf has all the physical traits you want, but its bad because it hurts if he gets rough,love yourself teehee" unreal.

[@amp4105]

​@@Abandex369incel pathetic cope strat

[@victorshopov4913]

this was the hardest video to go through, holy hell

[@oboemoboe]

Is it because p****, g****als, and *** were censored and replaced by words like "candelabra" and "panini"? I had to stop listening.

[@moonchildmari]

29:22 if anyone is eating during this time stamp please be warned at how I almost lost my lunch listening to this

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

omg thank you

[@lolwtfbbq111]

I feel weakened.

[@avrie6668]

Okay this comment right here definitely should be higher up in the comments Anyway I’m gonna eat rn

[@oliwier5093]

this video was perfect. I have been thinking of getting injections for a while now -- before that I thought about those stretching devices. Why? I don't know. probably just because it is possible. My size is completely fine and I don't feel ashamed about it. Luckily I had a kind of reforming experience during a stay in Tokyo. I went to a bathing house (first time) and... I shared a big pool bit with about thirty other naked men. See so many body types really made me feel good. Not just "huh I look actually pretty good" but rather: Everyone here looks good - even if they weigh a bit more or 'pack a bit less'" I am just 22, very single and "it's not like anybody see's me naked anyways" -- still I had this idea of "self care, this is just an aesthetic fix FOR MYSELF" (yk, everyone being sooo much into calling every little trend 'self care').

[@momiskiv]

Proud of you bro, the world is beautiful because it’s varied :). There is no better nor worse body

[@wilgefortisohlin568]

Sounds like a nice experience :)

[@vivvy_0]

dodged a bullet there

[@EAE-n1l]

Ok, so basically, you went to a country with an extremely small p size, coped about your own size while denying race completely, and gaslighted yourself into loving yourself again through mental gymnastics. Yes im sure it surely worked out. And im 6 ft 2 as well.

[@felix-xd4mx]

fr tho. it's like women with big or small chest, it's so "important" in corn but irl, nobody cares. you'd fall in love with a girl for who she is, not for her chest size. same with down there. we can see in the comment section most women definitely do not care. people can be racist and say "well japanese men are not known for their size" and guess what they still get girlfriends, wives, like literally nobody cares. at least nobody decent does

[@mitchelldsm6222]

was recently at my grandparents house and the amount of actual, PHYSICAL mail about penis enlargement was insane. imagine a pop up ad, but printed out and somehow 5 pages long. we had never seen anything like it before.

[@zacariasnelson5753]

15% of women being unhappy with their partners size is waaaay more than I expected and more heartbreaking than you seem to realize

[@manuelsilva6244]

And those don't count the ones that lied (since it's not a thing most people want to admit). The reality is woman also see man with big penises as more masculine and capable. This insecurities don't come just from the dudes mind.

[@Ainzho]

It’s actually more but they’re being nice and don’t want to hurt their men ego

[@CoreenMontagna]

Who says that all of those who responded as unhappy were wanting their partner to be bigger? I know plenty of women who have been with partners who they wished were smaller!

[@zacariasnelson5753]

@@CoreenMontagna “X” to doubt

[@c.karnstein3299]

There's likely just as many, if not more, men who are also unhappy with aspects of their girlfriends bodies. Given how normalised it is to have porn addictions. Hell, the amount of men I know in relationships that don't even *like* their partner in general is astounding. Men will have sex with anything and anyone. Even while hating them.

[@meganwalker27]

I mean... I cried. Insecurity and shame hits us all in one way or another. More terrible when medical "professionals" take advantage of us and cause irreparable damage. 💔

[@valfanclub]

Something women experience constantly.

[@kungaroomanga5639]

@@valfanclubOp: talks about men’s issues. You: how do I make this about me?

[@valfanclub]

@@kungaroomanga5639 not about me. About women, because men and women are interlinked and we are talking about something men feel is about their ability to attract the opposite sex. And the insecurities that spring from that. Since women are used to it, maybe communication on the issue could help both sides? I'm not sure what you saw in my stating a fact but it certainly wasn't what you thought. Is your comment helpful and bringing the convo forward, highlighting anything of interest? Pffff

[@kungaroomanga5639]

@@valfanclub I’m merely stating that women (mostly radical feminists) try to play victim all the time and use whataboutism . I think it was the UK that had a panel that was about men’s issues, they talked about it for a little bit then the women took over and made it about themselves and said “yeah but let’s talk about us and our problems now. What can men help about our issues?” As if ppl haven’t been preached at for an entire decade about women’s issues. Plus don’t think you’re original comment contributed anything to the conversation either. Guy said “men have it rough” then you came along “yeah but women though” doesn’t say much.

[@kungaroomanga5639]

@@valfanclub I guess KZbin didn’t like me naming your group. Anyway, I’m not gonna type all that again so in short TLDR; guy says “men got it rough.” Then you said “yeah but women tho” Yours didn’t contribute anything to the conversation, just trying to make it about women.

[@shaytanirau]

Girl I actually really love how you dive into this in the most real way you can on this platform. A definite follow and browse through your other videos!

[@johngablesmith4671]

Kidology chooses the most interesting topics

[@radioforthebirds]

A candelabra (plural candelabras) or candelabrum (plural candelabra or candelabrums) is a candle holder with multiple arms. Candelabras can be used to describe a variety of candle holders including chandeliers, however, candelabras can also be distinguished as branched candle holders that are placed on a surface such as the floor, stand, or tabletop, unlike chandeliers which are hung from the ceiling.

[@Moe_Lester_fromUptwn]

I've held one. Felt like a solid mrder weapon.

[@hannadelucca]

This topic must be really trending! Just the other day, Instagram showed me ads about candelabra enlargement with hyaluronic acid, and today you released a great video about it. It’s very odd because I’m not a man, and I definitely have no interest in candelabras! By the way, the ad was from Brazil, and it looks like estheticians and other health care providers, not just doctors, can perform this procedure. I was shocked!

[@OldemarFIN]

Geez, some of the descriptions of these procedures are just... harrowing. Makes me wanna lean in to my lil' fella and tell him "don't worry, I won't have you filled with sheathes, cylinders or injections, my guy". Human Centipede type beat. Great video, though!

[@annehedonia156]

Yes, this is disturbing. The stretching 'techniques' are bad enough. I just find it horrifying that men would risk permanent injury to themselves to be a tiny bit bigger.

[@amp4105]

Fakkin orrible

[@arenomusic]

One of those surgery explanations was so bad I had to take my headphones out, you're a trooper for sorting through all of this for us. Thank you :)

[@moneygrowslikegrass]

As a normal man with a normal candelabra, even though I myself fortunately dont have so much insecurity about my body anymore, I can understand the fear of finally building up the courage to be intimate just to be made fun of. I think it all connects to the fear of not being enough, not being worthy of recognition and love. What I think makes this particular insecurity so strong is the fact that you can't be sure if you are enough up until the very last step of a relationship. The thought of putting huge amounts effort to find love, learning to put your guard down around someone, only to completely fail, is terrifying.

[@angryox3102]

I’m also an average length candelabra owner. My heart really goes out to those guys that fall well below the average. Those companies that are selling products to them are so predatory. Do I wish I was larger? Sure. But the risk isn’t worth the reward for me. But for those other guys I can see why their hope outweighs their rationality.

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

thank you for the insight

[@ajd8558]

As a woman, I honestly never really thought about how nerve wracking this must be for men, so thank you for your perspective.

[@rottingsun]

If you truly have a strong relationship with a worthwhile person, not being a size king isn't going to be a deal breaker. Most women with experience know that size has *nothing* to do with performance. You have the biggest piece in the world, and still be $h*te in bed. Not to mention that big pieces often hurt immensely, and while you're feeling stabbed and gutted as a woman, the man is feeling dissatisfied with barely being able to get it in and having to be extremely slow and careful.

[@BaltimoresBerzerker]

Honestly if it's a concern, like a micro pen!$ situation...just tell her a couple months in, before you've invested much. If she splits, you save yourself time and pain. If she stays, keep doing you, it's working! Take care bro.

[@Roxkis]

When kid started talking about fillers, it made my skin craw. I never imaged people would inject stuff in their baby leg.

[@VioletProVixen]

They don't have a baby leg. That's the point. A baby leg is a term used for someone that is already big.

[@abelhapedras]

BABY LEG 😂

[@scottn322]

When I was with my sons mom, she went out of her way to make me feel insecure. She would suggest some of the most insane things to make "it" bigger. After we split up I didn't date for a while because of it. When I did finally start dating and sleeping with other women, I very quickly realized my ex was full of crap, and that I'm fine. People are insane.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Nahh bro it was def small. Bet you wont post your current size online. Im betting 4 - 6 inches No diddy

[@Defnotjolie]

That is soo diddy asking for his d size after he spilled his guts on insecurities 🗿​@@matttheamerican3766

[@OrinSorinson]

​​@@matttheamerican3766dude, F off. the hell's wrong with you?

[@kingti85]

😂

[@youcanthandlethetruth8873]

​@@matttheamerican3766 Demanding another man's length is insane.

[@sanjanat1085]

I feel like body image issues in men are so underrepresented! I'm not saying this to appeal to men or kiss anyone's ass but male surgical procedures sound so painful! The leg lengthening surgery, now the p lengthening surgery...It all sounds absolutely gruesome. Not to mention the looksmaxxing trend of slowly breaking your jaw with a hammer or something to rebuild it stronger???? And the need to look so muscular and broad that they take steroids (I know women take them too, but statistically, it's so much higher in men, all because they want to surpass their genetics to achieve a godly figure). Why is it all so unhinged!?

[@stereo-soulsoundsystem5070]

Western Beauty standards + Technology-induced brainrot over the last 100 years. With a dash if Eurocentric preferences

[@jhoughjr1]

Men are built for pain.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Blame the ancient Europeans. They were the firts ones to discriminate other people/races because of p size. The Greeks were obsessed with touting their micros. Look at their statues

[@johnnydi2231]

​@@matttheamerican3766 WHAT?! 😅 Oh yeah, "Just blame the Europeans for everything!" How original and well thought-out. Smfh. It's not even accurate, either. If you actually bothered to read, you would know that they did that simply so it wouldn't overpower or distract from the beauty of the art. It was undoubtedly a very humble and respectful thing for them to do. They surely didn't have to. The truth is they were absolute specimens compared to many people, in general, today. But somehow they're the "bad guys" now, for painting themselves in a humble light?! How utterly ridiculous. Is that how you make yourself feel better? By blaming everything on "ancient Europeans"? Or maybe that's what your teachers told you in school, hmm? Lol Sound logic. You seriously need to get out more. *Btw: It was the internet that created these obsessions and insecurities, that people are suffering from. The same way it's helped to create most of our current issues, actually... That sad people, like yourself, have unfortunately fallen victim to.

[@carolinadiaz3618]

Social media and worship of the alpha male and 5exed up female.

[@JayceeElle]

I once heard from the director of an educational cadaver lab that various P implants were shockingly common amongst cadavers they studied 😢

[@tom1644x]

I was afraid you were going to talk about after-death tissue donations being used in enlargements. 😮

[@KreeZafi]

Obviously this isn't the main issue here, but I absolutely think one contributing problem is the lack of understanding of female pleasure. SO many men think their ability as a lover is primarily determined by their pp size, when in reality that is absolutely not the case at all! Partly because most women can't even finish from only penetration anyway, partly because technique is infinitely more important than size. I've heard so many women say their worst experiences were with well-endowed men, because those men thought their size alone made them fantastic lovers and they therefore made no real effort. I can personally say the same, my ex was quite large (I believe about 7 inches) but absolutely terrible in bed, our intimacy was completely one sided! Meanwhile - pardon the explicit oversharing - I can blow my own mind with only two fingers two knuckles deep. So it well and truly is not a size issue, it's a technique issue.

[@JaeJEH]

It’s totally a technique issue, been with a guy with a way above average length and it was a horrible experience compared to a man w an average size who knew how to use it.

[@jhoughjr1]

Porn taught us for decades now.

[@Timmy-mi2ef]

By technique do you mean stuff like foreplay or is there a special angle you're supposed to thrust from.

[@JaeJEH]

@@Timmy-mi2ef just things like rhythm, being able to find it, foreplay, things like that. Like there is a stark difference between someone w little experience vs someone that knows how to do it

[@LiveFreeOrDie2A]

As a guy above average in length and girth I’ve found I can cause pain and because I can last a while even initial pleasure could eventually cause soreness asking me to finish. Women are WAY more satisfied by my willingness to go down on them. Men, there’s more often far more effective ways to satisfy a women than size!

[@borza4440]

i liked this vid the next second after you used the "candelabra" euphemism. I love it.

[@skorqion_art]

37:41 I feel extremely sorry for this guy for losing most of his guy, but "I can't stand and urinate, I have to sit like a woman" is a wild way of putting that. A lot of normal men sit white they pee. Also him saying he will never find a wife?? Life is not over, especially these days people value more than just your package. There is someone, who will love you, even if you have no genitals.

[@samaraisnt]

Yeah yuck. Obviously he only looks for one thing in a partner and he’s projecting. Clearly needs to work on himself first…but yeah Hank Green taught me it’s actually healthier for men to sit down he’s really implying women are inferior while wanting one. 😅

[@Neonseasnake]

That dude turned out to be his own number 1 enemy with the way he thinks and lives his live. I can't really blame him for that but he could've worked on a better mindset.

[@katybee3891]

Has he ever heard of lesbians?

[@あんでぃいい]

is this a trans awareness comment? what are you even talking about? most guys stand pretty much exclusively, unless theyre also shidding. also that last sentence is nice but not kind. it will be very hard to find someone as a cis man without a dick. not impossible, but thats a mountain of a hurdle. let's not pretend it isn't

[@wen6519]

Stand up comedian Nanutria supports and promotes sitting down for men. According to him, the bathroom smells better. I believe all men should listen to Nanutria and abandon stand to pee if not necessary.

[@coricognitions]

22:30 i fear the urge to make clown honk noises while the pumping occured would be overwhelming and unavoidable

[@Jessica-pz1pq]

Child obesity can lower the testosterone level, very important for the penis growth.....

[@PowerRangersFanAntiDinoFury]

I didn't deal with obesity as a child, although that might be because I had to take Ritalin before school every morning. I can tell you though that it did cause me to get a little obese as time went by after quitting the drug. Let me tell you, it's not fun to be overweight. It took me a lot of time to even come close to controlling my belly fat.

[@DestroAzureDx]

Yet another person preaching that hard work out does genetics. You are the problem with all mens insecurities hinting that theres something to be done about it if they just "work hard" enough

[@notyourtypicalfarah7194]

Can please give links to studies? This is so me

[@prettyevil6662000]

@@notyourtypicalfarah7194 Body fat is an estrogen transport system. Can't give links on youtube but that phrase should help you get started looking up info.

[@FeloniousAngel]

Blocking the product name was great but now I googled it out of morbid curiosity. This probably ruined my ad algorithm lol

[@sekaiomiruhitokaminoyume5426]

You had a good laugh?

[@getyourownshoe]

What a treat your videos have been this month! You are a force of nature, Kid! What a fantastic video.

[@aaeccs]

you describing the p sheath procedure made my stomach turn, i am so horrified that society has made men believe they need this or any other treatment. i hope they learn that many women do not require that to be happy with them. heartbreaking:(

[@kylekennedy420]

The pronography industry just made this exponentially worse.

[@carolinadiaz3618]

Exactly! Nobody wants to admit it, especially men!

[@DestroAzureDx]

​@@carolinadiaz3618women also watch porn and/or fantasize about an unrealistic male beauty standard. Abs, large penis, extremely handsome, rich but also a dangerous criminal.

[@AmericanAmy]

It is sad and yes, it does not affect you but any time people are suffering. It hurts us all. Thank you for covering this. 🥰🙏

[@TopHatKitty]

My current boyfriend has the most satisfying wondering parts I've ever known and i just cant convince him he is normal and amazing. I feel so sad that we cant jusy appreciate each other.

[@Macheako]

There’s nothing a guy hates than hearing his stuff is “perfect” 😂😂 WE WANNA BE BIG!!!! 😂❤

[@TopHatKitty]

@@Macheako well when I've had sex with big penises I experience incredible pain and cried so if that's what you wanna do to female bodies literally get checked

[@jeremyfuller7730]

​@@Macheako"the big ones hurt. Your little thing is the perfect size" there's no way that women don't know how demoralizing these things are by now

[@Jadianne]

Y'all don't even see how ridiculous this is? Demoralizing? 🙄 I was honestly trying to be sympathetic but I think maybe indulging this pity party is not helping anyone. You are basically admitting your egos are so fragile that you would be perfectly happy inflicting actual pain and discomfort on your sexual partner due to being 'too large' rather than the apparently massive blow to your self esteem that is hearing terms like 'average, adequate or perfectly satisfactory'

[@Macheako]

@@jeremyfuller7730 🤣🤣🤣 o they do lol

[@notquinlynnie7705]

First video and a couple minutes in… girl do you do audio books? Your voice is amazing

[@artytapes]

size is not the issue, hardness is! as a woman, a man not being fully erect during intercourse is what turns me down! and that's a health issue and not an looks issue; this requires putting in consistent effort to improve health! rock hard candelabra is what actually counts lmao

[@carlwide6594]

It can also mean they're just not feeling it.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Youre right, but unless theres an issue like ED, the problem is either anxiety or you.

[@artytapes]

@@carlwide6594 they initiated intimacy multiple times and they nutted every time during intercourse, but the penis stayed half hard every time; i came zero times, i was the one not feeling it

[@ravenrebel3183]

@@carlwide6594p0rnsickness and bad health are far more likely. If he’s not feeling it, and that’s a consistent issue, time to drop him for a partner who is.

[@tylerdurden8422]

Guys can't get hard due to anxiety Not a health issue

[@afrodude4782]

Thank you for this video. Very insightful. Was a bit hard to watch at times, but the discussion needs to be had.

[@drmisscharlene7443]

Great information. I am a Clinical Social Worker & Sexologist. Your video is well done & has a style & tone that will successfully engage people. Thanks for your efforts. 🥰

[@serenitymoon825]

Doesn’t the old saying go "its not the size of the boat, its the motion of the ocean"?

[@matttheamerican3766]

Thats a dumb outdated saying. Its the size of the boat and the motion of the ocean. If were talking about being ships in the tumultuous ocean. But for humans? Nahhhh

[@DestroAzureDx]

Young women know that is a lie

[@kingti85]

Only guys with small members say that

[@cgarcia660]

This is so upsetting. I hope there is more awareness and education regarding irreversible surgical procedures and men’s health. This video is a great beginning but definitely so sad to learn.

[@glitchbanana]

As a guy, I think the whole idea of being big and having bde is deeper than you think. Having a large member means you're very masculine and dominant. Being less than an extreme size meant you're not a real man or you're powerless. It's partly why you see men take offense when a women say you're just fine or your member is perfect or average. It's not so much that we want to inflict pain to a partner, we just want to be dominating the "sexual market" if that makes sense. Also, I noticed there's a PE community through reddit like jelqing and clamping which are there to encourage men to "bodybuild" their member to increase length and girth to given women a more "filled up" feeling. Honestly, that all sounds like it's blending the fantasy and reality of what people see in adult content. We need sex ed more than anything but of course, people are oppose to that and we're still stuck in the prehistoric times.

[@sekaiomiruhitokaminoyume5426]

@@Ajcarter95stop lying and associating your lies with Jesus name . Go away you lying devil ! You did this to don’t you , you never shamed any dude ? You don’t casually laugh about this with your friends ? You know it’s common sense and yet you choose to come here and to lie. Disgusting

[@swonder2245]

My favourite kind of Kid video

[@aeonsnarfus]

Kidology, a true egalitarian. ❤

[@azzzmodeus_]

Hey kid, interesting topic as per usual! I love listening to your videos in the background when I'm playing games like Minecraft or pws. Keep it up :) ❤

[@justinahole336]

You put this out a few months early - anything this scary should be released around Halloween! Terrifying!

[@AuntieThree]

My 2nd boyfriend had a micropeen/embedded peen. My lack of experience had me thinking it was normal. Hearing you say it is very rare is the first time I realized, he's the only guy I ever knew like that. Hope he got that sorted.

[@dannyarcher9002]

It never began

[@Antifrustrated]

​@@dannyarcher9002had a good laugh reading op's comment lmfao, over for buddy

[@GizzyDillespee]

I'd rather have that than have a plastic thing stuck in there, some ligaments cut, etc. I've seen a pretty wide range, hard... and all would be preferable to a surgically enhanced one.

[@AuntieThree]

@GizzyDillespee like Google embedded peen. It almost wasn't there if he wasn't er3ct. And when it was, he was lucky to get 3 inches. What's crazy is he was like 6'2" and wore like a size 16 shoe... so I learned quickly that doesn't mean anything.

[@mustanggox]

@@Antifrustrated nah we dont do the shaming thing for features people are born with

[@unknownkingdom]

Finally someone did a video about it. I was aware of what a bonkers world it was and was drawn into the iceberg myself and windered why noone had done a deep dive video on it.

[@Beeloh]

I am a person who has done some of these things, non surgical in nature, to enhance my candelabra. I have not experienced any complications, but did research before I started to ensure what I was doing was safe. This was motivated by body dysmorphia and some comments from past partners, because I know I was well above average before I started, but the pressure is real.

[@notyourtypicalfarah7194]

Was it for girth?

[@Alas-yc1sg]

Just pump

[@shifterofshape]

Thanks for covering this.

[@rosellavaughn5394]

The video I didn't know I needed

[@loganmacgyver2625]

I feel like this is the right place to let this off my chest because experiences like mine aren't talked about enough. I got more than some partners in my past could chew but i still struggle with it. Sure the ruler says X" but it looks less. In my more self conscious teenage days i measured it every other week just to reassure myself. Sure at the moment when it's more than a partner could chew it feels like a confidence boost but when I take the "walk of shame" I lose that confidence boost. Even at times I had to ask a partner what they thought of it just to feel that 10 seconds of confidence. I sound egotistical, i understand. But its something i struggled with this since I was 15. Turning 20 soon. Many sleepless nights of "if i was only more active and healthy, only if i didnt start smoking". I dont want to quit because it killed somebody in my family, i dont want to quit because i saw my best friend's mother die from COPD, i want to quit because I read somewhere that it can cause shrinkage.

[@dannyb1131]

You don't sound egotistical at all. You just sound like you have an insecurity. That's OK, everyone has insecurities. I hope that as you get older you can shed this insecurity and that you find someone who loves you and with whom you will be compatible (if that is what you want). And hey, whatever gets you to stop smoking :))) lung cancer isn't much fun Good luck ❤️

[@DevonHberman-im6bx]

I say this with intended compassion and respect: Your insecurity is making you stupid, foolish, dumber. Every minute of your life you spend worrying about your dick size is a minute you’re not doing something that will actually make people happier. Your dick size will have 0 positive affect on your quality of life, it will only make your life worse and it will slowly make you a worse person because you’re investing mental energy in something which you 1. Can’t control. 2. Doesn’t matter and 3. Is a distraction from the things that actually make women happy. I know saying it is easier than doing it, But just stop. Stop measuring it. Stop looking at it in mirror. Just stop thinking about it.

[@xhyunjones1513]

yo wassup bro, i feel you 100% I dont have a big one myself, and i used to let it absolutely control my mind, i used to cry and have mental breakdowns over something uncontrollable. My advise is to learn to love yourself, speak kindly to your body, treat it as if it was ur best friend, it might sound crazy but i fr started to just speak to my body, giving it words of kindness. Best of luck to ya bro, i believe in you

[@General_Dogo]

This girls is going make waves. She cover so much edge! Good on her.

[@gaiaswildchildtarot]

I’m a woman and I think no woman should shame a man’s size. It’s not something they have control over. That is what makes men go down this route. If a woman is not ok with your size she’s not the right one period.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Obviously. She won’t stay w him anyway so win-win?

[@matttheamerican3766]

@@Ajcarter95 They big mad and trying to cope like the Greeks did.

[@notyourtypicalfarah7194]

​@@matttheamerican3766 are you part of bp community? You're based

[@amp4105]

​@@notyourtypicalfarah7194not based at all u freak

[@monkpool]

YK what, I’ll stay small and proud

[@dahliacheung6020]

My entire heart and soul hurt for the men who are dealing with the mental pain and suffering surrounding this issue, the physical pain and horror these guys are going through when they reach the point of seeking surgical or even nonsurgical intervention. I'm so sorry that society has conditioned you guys to feel this shame and to try to fix what isn't broken rather than seeking therapy to find healing. And to any men here who relate to what's being discussed in this video I hope you find that healing. You deserve it, and not just so you can know your partner is satisfied but so you can be content with yourself.

[@dahliacheung6020]

Yeah, this video makes me want to cry.

[@questioneverythingtv]

Sorry to the men who have been affected by this. Hoping you heal.

[@deesrose6003]

Damn, you've genuinely informed me so much! I've noticed some of these behaviours in past partners but never registered what they meant! Thank you ❤

[@ViralCog]

Many women nowadays suffer from vulvadynia , extreme pain during the course. Small size is a blessing.

[@matttheamerican3766]

Yeah they got defects. Guys with defects like a micro or an average wanger should thrive w those women.

[@avrie6668]

That’s pretty sad

[@Mambo9000012]

Can you cite a percentage and source? Your "many" is likely not that many and probably not much more than micro D population size is.

[@ViralCog]

@Mambo9000012 16%percent of us women suffer from it. This is only the women who went to a doctor. There are those who don't seek medical attention for this. Those percentages are much higher. It has increased every year because of the increase in cases of pcos , endometriosis and other fertility and gynecological issues which could be due to the environmental toxins and toxins in food. More women suffer from infertility now and many of those cases have vulvadynia as a symptom. Then there are cases where it's caused by psychological factors and trauma.

[@matttheamerican3766]

@@ViralCog "16%percent of us women suffer from it. This is only the women who went to a doctor. There are those who don't seek medical attention for this. Those percentages are much higher. It has increased every year because of the increase in cases of pcos , endometriosis and other fertility and gynecological issues which could be due to the environmental toxins and toxins in food. More women suffer from infertility now and many of those cases have vulvadynia as a symptom. Then there are cases where it's caused by psychological factors and trauma." right, so these unfortunate women are "broken" for lack of a better word and may never experience childbirth or a happy marriage or vaginal climax and youre saying to guys with small pp's or micro p's that "its okay some women are flawed and you can get them because they like small and micros"?

[@rufiohaspan]

I feel you’re better off taking the money for these surgeries and buying stuff for hobbies or traveling

[@lammellealoof7110]

Reallllll 🙏

[@notyourtypicalfarah7194]

Or paying for high-end ladies

[@amp4105]

I don't think most of these guys have hobbies.. not real ones anyway. REAL hobbies take up alot of time and mental space.

[@vreeze33]

The psychology behind candelabra enlargement sounds very similar to female chest enlargement to me. It's not a 1 to 1, but when you were talking about how people think that they're not big enough and that their partners think they're fine.

[@Mambo9000012]

Aesthetics-wise, the shape of breasts is always more important than their size. Also how they match the rest of the body. They are also not a major source of creating physical pleasure so a comparison is not really possible. You really can't compare D sizet with anything in women because of how the act works, the roles are very clearly divided where one enters (performs the lions share) and the other one is entered.

[@sekaiomiruhitokaminoyume5426]

Nope ! Woman do this because of woman , and men do this because of women…. You understand the common factor? Woman!

[@TheFred10000]

Speaks to your character to speak to empatically and respectfully of a topic that could never affect you

[@kayokyokuqueen1525]

Truly an excellent video- seriously, great job! My heart sincerely goes out to the men that have been victimized and taken advantage of for their insecurities.

[@BluuJourney]

Self-love is so important

[@ischeika-tori8330]

This is sad and this is horrifying