Minka Kelly on Opening Up In New Memoir: "I Carried A Lot of Shame" | PEOPLE

Actress Minka Kelly discusses her new memoir 'Tell Me Everything,' in which she reveals details of her turbulent childhood and complicated relationship with her mother, feeling "way in over my head" while starring in 'Friday Night Lights,' and how she's been able to heal from her trauma to create a life that's a "wild dream come true."
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[@MBXGill]

The difference between how she frames her story and how others talk about their horrible mothers- makes me want to buy the book. She does it with humility and humanity, and not just victimized hate. What growth. Love it!

[@ns2110theonly]

SPOT ON!

[@ns2110theonly]

@@TorieLives I think the original commenter Monique was saying that she loves how Minka does not victimize herself. You just contradicted your point ….first you said you should let people handle it their own way but then you said let them grow in their own way, which contradicts the first part of what you said. Handling it in their own way implies it’s their choice to either grow or not grow. Growth means not letting yourself be a victim. So you’re saying people should be allowed to victimize themselves but then grow in their own way …..which are inherently opposite, and so this makes not a lick of sense. Monique’s comment was spot on and there’s no judgment there.

[@georgecrosby5690]

She's amazing.

[@heathercooper]

The book is wonderful.

[@ricogomez4020]

It's a good read and I found myself feeling sorry for her except by the end of the book she keeps repeating the same mistake on who she hooks up with. Like now she is over 40 and is still going with rock stars. She needs to go after rich men over 55.

[@kaseys7433]

I always just assumed she lived an easy and pampered life. Shows how little we actually know about people. I love how she says we don’t have to be a victim of our circumstance. Very inspirational! Just pre-ordered!

[@JohnSmith-pg9ns]

She's fine af

[@alfblue4734]

​@@JohnSmith-pg9ns that's wut u got from that comment bruh 😂😂

[@JohnSmith-pg9ns]

@@alfblue4734 from the video and you did too

[@heathercooper]

I enjoyed her book.

[@ricogomez4020]

I read the book and it is good but she has not learned a damn thing.

[@torigoth7487]

Wow, growing up with such a mother, I don't think many people understand how severely painful it is. Now that I know, I see it in her eyes and the way she moves and speaks. You carry that trauma from parenting with you even after you're "free" from toxic parents. It's hard because you get shunned by well-raised people, nobody explains things to you because they think you should've learned it at home, which you couldn't. You learn things about the social world VERY late. She says she only learned being available for friends late, those things people just know in high school for some reason and it's because they grew up in a better household. This is some really good stuff to share as a public figure, I wish there was something like this when I was still struggling hard. Being peaceful inside is never passive, always pro-active, for children who grew up in toxic households, especially under narcissistic parents who weren't really prepared to parent.

[@gmansi]

"Now that I know, I see it in her eyes and the way she moves and speaks" Can you please explain that? Thanks

[@jjack5244]

Wow! Thank you for this. I went thru a similar experience to Minka and hearing you articulate how we move thru the world was insightful and appreciative ❤

[@brodyquint1]

Great interview. She is a lovely, intelligent woman, and I'm inspired by her willingness to heal and better herself. She was openly and unapologetically vulnerable, and that's rare these days...Especially in the entertainment industry.

[@ricogomez4020]

Intelligent? Not wise when you read the book.

[@vd3002]

Sending her so much love and compassion, you can tell she has a pure heart 💖 what a gift to the world 💖

[@lindsayt7950]

Omg. When she said she felt like she had to trick people into knowing she’s not a threat they don’t have to hurt her. Wow I have felt like that and I had a manager one time tell me I see the fire in your eyes there is a beast in there. And that was soo affirming and powerful. Good to know I’m not alone

[@anniehamilton2034]

i love her so much now after seeing this interview and hearing her on the Friday night lights podcast. She has so much depth and wisdom and i can relate to her story so much. Keep on doing amazing, Minka

[@WanderThisWay]

What a refreshing interview. I have her book on hold at the library and I am so excited to read it.

[@michaeld.williamsiii9026]

Just stumbled across this, as I’m in a very deep sad pit of grief and darkness.😪😔😢 I recently loss my adopted mom and my late fathers passing anniversary is nearing along with Mother’s Day. So I’ve felt the weight of being parentless, lonesomeness the emptiness, if not the abandonment even more. 💔😢💔 To my own biological mother I don’t even exist it’s a very heavy weight of unbearable grief I feel and carry. I don’t hardly even want to be here, feeling very orphaned, and realizing how hard it is to be here parentless. My phenomenal adopted mom was the mom I never had her birthday also just passed along with the second Easter without her.💔😰l wish she did not have to go, this soon I hate this.💔🌏😥 #GriefHurts Never really heard of Minka but I appreciate her being so open and vulnerable in sharing story.😢❤️‍🩹😥 #Parentless

[@mashudusimone578]

I hope things are better for you now 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@prashanthb6521]

I dont know why but I like her. I think she is pretty. And now I respect her struggles. She fought and made a name for herself. Best wishes to her.

[@DualityUnlimited]

She’s on my shortlist for one of the most Underrated Actresses currently!

[@thegoodthebadtheevil7691]

Hey Minka! You are truly a beautiful person inside and out! Keep sharing, keep acting we are a better world with you in the public eye. And Yeah, find the father of your kids! The world needs more people like you. More Minkas please!

[@PorsheCaina]

I love Minka and hearing this made me tear up a bit bc she seems to carry light all the time, everytime I see her in instagram she feels so free. Way to go, lovely woman. Healing is beautiful.

[@elle6952]

Wow, she's just lovely. Love her voice and how she views life. Hoping she finds her special person soon and gets to have the family she desires.

[@ricogomez4020]

She is over 40 and still dating guys that will not marry her.

[@leggimiditedichristianmasc9483]

I've always been a great admirer of Minka Kelly. She's sensitive, smart, extremely talented. The woman she's becoming is amazing. She's honest and vulnerable. Her acting is evolving with her discover of her human powers. She's really marvelous.

[@JohnSmith-pg9ns]

Yeah I'd date her too

[@annarose4828]

Love you Minka! Thank you for telling your truth! I've always loved you. You are a beautiful woman inside and out.❤❤❤❤

[@selinadatoo9921]

Wow! I had no idea about Minka’s story. She seems like such a respectful and resentful woman. Not to mention just absolutely stunning. Minka you’re an amazing woman ❤

[@angelaholmes8888]

Definitely will be reading her memoir

[@jacqueline3182]

When Minka Kelly has blonde hair like she did in Titans she looks alot like Gwen Stephanie. They could play sisters in a movie for sure.

[@randystuddard7174]

She looks like an angel…❤

[@Nat-th9oz]

Her book is so inspiring!! Such a great writer. 💛

[@iamyoda1980]

One of the most gorgeous women ever, she’s unreal.

[@solangegarcia536]

Her story 😭😭🥺❤️

[@danielclark5586]

What a beautiful and elegant young woman. Inside and out and great self awareness. She is going to be great!

[@iamjheani]

She’s so stunning.

[@Beauty_bydeborah]

I adore Minka! Can't wait to read her book!

[@BySamWithLove]

Why was she asked if she wants to get married or have kids? So odd. I thought we had moved on from asking women those types of questions.

[@Yuna2346minji]

Why

[@NN-iu2rp]

Exactly what I was thinking. Men are never asked these incredibly stupid, basic, irrelevant questions.

[@jaymichelle8357]

I have always adore Minka Kelly! Listening to her in this interview you can tell her she’s done so much work on herself, and I couldn’t be prouder as her fan. I can’t wait to read this book and melts my heart just to see that she’s in such a good place.🥰❤️

[@jujubees711]

What an amazing brave, beautiful, soul.

[@musicman76enator]

Lyla Garrity rules!! Minka was excellent on FNL. I just finished watching all the seasons on Netflix. Too bad there wasn't a 6th season. I miss it. Minka is one beautiful hottie. I wish her all the best.

[@takarasewitt339]

Minka is the most beautiful, elegant, and strong woman. Her book was so moving, probably the best book I have read in years. I wish her the most happiness in the world

[@ricogomez4020]

No.

[@lorrainem.swartzentruber3077]

Reminds me of Brooke Shields' story. It is so hard for kids to be the responsible one and have the weight of their parents addictions on them.😢

[@Artoflifebyvictoria]

Love you Minka kelly

[@maywong2150]

A beautiful real human ❤

[@loriryan2045]

I read her Memoir. I thought it was great!

[@ashleyparks1738]

It's sad bc you can see she's trying hard not to cry

[@cherishchee]

What a beauty, both inside and out. First saw her in Parenthood. I can see why she and Trevor Noah were together, both had traumatic childhoods that resulted in them being deeply compassionate, intelligent and humble people.

[@rl3293]

Such a lovely young woman. I'll be reading her book. 🙂

[@kathyalber9720]

Always liked her 😊

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

Lovely Aura. So feminine ❤

[@mari-wp5nn]

She seems lovely and she is beautiful. I just don’t like some comments saying she is better because she doesn’t victimized herself unlike others . As she said her mother was unconventional but fun . She was a victim of negligence because her mother was not an adult . However some others have lived different type of abuse and have the right to cope the way they want. It’s atrocious to say to somebody who was traumatized, physically, mentale and /or financially abuse , manipulate , put in a dangerous situation, exploited , molested , r*pe , and more by a parents to not be victim. It’s disgusting because they are and have the right unapologetic about the abusers.

[@armondo22]

shes gorgeous

[@toshasteele6633]

I love u girl

[@shreya1632]

I saw her in Beverly Hills...she is beautiful

[@binarystar300]

Damn, Garrity 😢

[@PeterZeeke]

Most attractive woman in hollywood

[@glowrocks12345]

Love her comments

[@tony-yl8gp]

this explains a lot

[@dad102]

She makes it look easy, but this is difficult to do.

[@Luvanmusiq]

The candor and vulnerability is incredible. I truly hope she feels empowered and finally at peace. She deserves it all.

[@bgthtr6404]

Very impressed with her honesty and willingness to be vulnerable. By the way, I'm a gay man who believes in reincarnation. When I come back, I hope I'm a beautiful woman as her. Wow, she's so beautiful. It'll be my luck when I come back as a gorgeous woman, I'll be lesbian. 😂

[@jacklinekendikinoti]

she looks alot like Leighton Meester

[@prima-madalina]

And they have a similar upbringing. I believe leighton was born in a prison because her mother was incarcerated

[@jacklinekendikinoti]

@@prima-madalina yeah she was. they are both amazing actors

[@arlenec3983]

To me, Leighton and Minka are both classic beauties.

[@1goldengirl25]

They were in the same movie together…The roommate

[@elizabethpalacios2388]

❤️❤️❤️

[@aishaibrahimabbas5867]

Very rich interview, wishing her only good things...

[@LolLololol-m1i]

Is that her real voice ?

[@raquelaguillon5336]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@jeremymia4949]

Nice.. people...

[@okkotsu-yuta0]

Look like perrie Edwards😊

[@oscarlozano9986]

Who is she?

[@takarasewitt530]

So gorgeous it's not even funny

[@justinherbert9146]

Jeter tapped that

[@tamivega6225]

Why is she talking baby talk?

[@ryanreyes5440]

Onlyfan mothers should probably buy this book lol

[@joesalad69]

Typical famous celeb who spent her twenties and thirties sleeping around, and now writing a book at 42 for money 😂 anyone with two brain cells can see through Kelly's crap

[@missliz85]

🤍

[@impitt28]

Arrested development.

[@mazeymay960]

😅

[@ragetobe]

I get that she has had it hard, but so have millions of us, the stupid part here is that people buy her book when she is out of it and most of us are living in it, money does change things regardless of what anyone says. There are far better qualified people to listen to than her, this is just her making money.

[@hellorg]

she's beautiful smart and single at age 42? hummm....i wonder why though

[@Brittanym345]

Because men suck.

[@kittenkaterinaxoxo9986]

Smart is the key word haha

[@enmenergy]

She is so stunning. And I mean as a person. It’s so funny when I hear people not feeling secure for lack of school because I aced it thru college and I would’ve way rather have been in the “real world”. But I understand their ideas. Just interesting. You have the education to realize it means nothing, oftentimes. Not bad! Just difference of experience 🤍✨✨

[@vuyon5317]

Me too. I wish I I had spent those 4 years doing something i actually wanted to do. I hear alot of people worry about how they sound in conversation which I thought was ridiculous too

[@kristinesalazar1005]

Minka is so real poised and incredibly beautiful. She’s very classy. I love her voice it soothes me 😊 I’m excited to read her book!🎉❤

[@KristenLodge]

I loved learning about her. I think she is an amazing actress and just love her candid interview.

[@arghandewal]

Her book does a beautiful job at reviewing her childhood, forgiving those who wronged her and taking accountability for her future happiness. I think the culture (especially celebrity culture) celebrates victimhood, so it would've been easy for her to throw everyone else under the bus.

[@Mulania007]

Wow. This was an amazing interview. She’s really doing the hard work of growing up with someone that’s as complicated as her mom. I sense she has compels ptsd from it.

[@jocosus3]

Minka Kelly and Kristin Davis should play sisters in a movie and/or TV show...they look so much alike!

[@Luvanmusiq]

Yesss! Two brilliant actresses, too.

[@dimitargueorguiev9088]

"In the most humiliating moments we grow the most" - that can be quite true!

[@lifelovinalaskagirl]

Beautiful soul inside and out! Forgiveness is freedom and the mercy with grace she extended to her Mom is true beauty! Not to mention she will affect so much health and healing to others in their difficult relationships through her book and these interviews of honesty! God bless you Minka ❤

[@arlenec3983]

Minka is still such a classic beauty(I remembered when Fri Night Lights first aired years ago and she definitely graced our tv screens with her beauty). But I have to admire her as she always tries to improve and better herself. Even when she mentions that she sometimes receives mean comments, she takes it as constructive criticism to improve.

[@kathleenreynolds7113]

So beautiful internally and outside ❤

[@rishabhdeb]

I chanced upon Minka's interviews a day ago on KZbin and I've been watching, re-watching her videos and thinking about my life. I'm on a path of healing too and this genuineness of Minka's heart and rawness of her story is so inspiring. Really appreciate it. ❤

[@Tigers_and_Tarot]

Hollywood had shunned her because she wasn't as beautiful as other actresses. WTH? She's so freaking pretty.

[@user-lu3mf2up2e]

Being pretty isn’t enough

[@donutswaffles2394]

I always thought her and Chris Evans would be married since they were on and off for so long. It’s nice to hear her talk about how her childhood affected her relationships.

[@annekimberleight]

She is angelic ❤ love her aura

[@Raynai87672]

She is not an incarnated angel. Please stop calling everyone “angelic.” There are only a handful of incarnated angels on the earth at this time, and she is not one of them. Stop using the term angelic, or angel, so loosely. Angels are of high rank and rarely incarnate. So just stop.

[@carolinarolingson4411]

@@Raynai87672 From the Oxford dictionary: Angelic: (of a person) exceptionally beautiful, innocent, or kind". Someone who's beautiful, calm and simply kind may be called angelic.

[@annekimberleight]

@@carolinarolingson4411 thank you Carolina! This is exactly what I mean ❤️💕

[@annekimberleight]

@@Raynai87672 I will not stop😊 but I respect your opinion.

[@jasonrhee]

Love her. Always loved her for her talent and beauty and to know she had this experience makes her so much more beautiful. Her words on humiliation is so deeply impactful.

[@linkntinks]

she's an old classmate from H.S. I remember her as that 16yo girl trying to navigate life. Listening to her, she's grown so much but she is also still that 16yo I remember from school.

[@Luvanmusiq]

Somehow I thought the same. I can almost hear and see that little girl inside. Her eyes carry all the pain and neglect she has navigated. But she is also so wise and incredibly mature.

[@yoursoulempower]

Thank you so much Minka for sharing your story! It's a beautiful journey you are on and looking forward to getting a copy of your book.

[@krystalyazzie2646]

Cool interview! Really enjoyed it! 🤙✌💖🎶🎵😉😁

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

you go into denial, because if they die, i die. that's so true. my mom was chaos growing up too. and is still till this day still chaos in a lot of ways. i love her a lot, i dislike her a lot. my dad was my rock. and he just died. and i was in such denial and i suffer a lot now. now i only have my chaotic mother left and it's hard to accept that fact. I will definitely check out this book. It really means a lot that women like Minka, can share such stories. 💕

[@michaeld.williamsiii9026]

My sincerest condolences to you, @Zabina, on the loss of your beloved dad.💔 I feel you in the “suffering part” along with how you expressed your dad being your rock. I thank you for sharing a little openly. My beloved adopted mom was mine, whom sadly has recently a year ago passed.😪😔😥 Now parentless, having also loss my biological dad, I feel the deep sadness, painful sorrow and loss without any loving parent to talk to. Or have to love on me, and I on them, I feel very orphaned, the biological mother who abandoned me I don’t even exist to still till this day. It hurts and is heavy, every thing feels shattered in this thick layer of grief and lonesomeness of not isolation I feel. 😪😔😥 I don’t feel like I want to or belong here most often lately, my adopted mom was the mother I never hard…😥😞😢 #GriefHurts #Parentless💔🥀💔

[@bgipper4109]

What an interesting interview, Minka is on the right track to healing her trauma. Bless her...

[@pennytrue2741]

She sounds a lot like J lo. I’ve never heard her speak before.

[@aliciac7053]

I can’t believe she’s 42 years old. She looks younger.

[@ryry6537]

You are one of my favorite actresses. Loved you in Friday Night Lights. You are so beautiful and your voice just melts my heart. Thanks for sharing and staying strong. Therapy helps so much and you see blessed. I wish I was able to share my story with you because I can sympathize. We have lots in common. You are an inspiration to many people. Love ya 💯🤗😘

[@SIMARashburah]

She was gf of chris evans, she always keep contact with him

[@kimberleybregg5302]

Keep shining, beautiful! 🤗✌️💜🙏✨️

[@kiklocus4660]

childhood is pretty much everything, who you make friends with, who you date, who you lean towards.

[@alejandrorosales6937]

Minka Kelly as a woman you will find some romance in your life ✨ 💛 to look and feel good better about your own to kiss some won how will treat you like a princess to make your body feel strong 💪 💖 inside your self now with this pendmek out there in a lot city's dating or just enjoying yourself

[@emilybaker2921]

I adore her and am so proud of her. Can’t wait to read her book!

[@annekimberleight]

Same!😊💕

[@PeterZeeke]

Minka: I'd love to be a mother Me: I volunteer as tribute

[@joesalad69]

She's 43 lmao

[@PeterZeeke]

@@joesalad69 We can still try

[@ClaraW_131]

I love how she swanned up and never changed her voice.

[@suebryan694]

What a smart lady

[@daddy9925]

I didn’t know has she had this month depth of soul, and richness of character. She’s a solid person. Cool.

[@PrecursorLegend]

What an incredible woman inside and out. I wish I was 10 years older, lol!