Peter Van Wensveen: An intimate look into palliative care.

[@brendar9363]

Found a story about this man. He lived 2 months under palliative care. The human body is so strong yet so fragile. He looked and talked like he could go on more a few more months. But cancer can move so fast. Thank you Peter. I enjoyed meeting you.

[@sorchasam3252]

Isn't that amazing though. The mental strength the palliative care team helped him to have. Just beautiful.

[@Madocthevindicator]

I was in palliative care for end stage liver disease. The Dr's told me I had 6 months max to live, get ready to die. 1 month later, a nurse was crying, and saying " You are not going to die, are you?" I survived because I never believed the Dr's. I feel for other patients that are suffering, it's terrible to face your own demise and be in terrible pain. I pray daily for other that are going through this.

[@richardclarkson4857]

My dear grandmother is in late stages of a lung cancer diagnosis. This video was heartwarming and informative. I will carry it with me in the days ahead.

[@nenblom]

About 3 years ago, my uncle in my native country of Sweden wasn't feeling too well and was sleeping a lot. He couldn't understand why. One morning he woke up in such bad pain that his wife, my aunt, rushed him to a hospital in Stockholm. He stayed there for about a week and they ran a lot of tests and scans. The diagnosis, an aggressive melanoma and it had spread so far that there wasn't anything they could do for him. He went home and died in his sleep, thank God it was in his sleep and no pain, a couple of months later. He had a wonderful palliative care team looking after him and his wife. His death hit me and my family very hard. He was a good man. Unfortunately, I was not able to make it to the funeral because I live with my parents in the United States. They were able to go but, for some reason, my employer wouldn't let me go. Crazy, I know. However, last summer, I was able to travel to Sweden and I went to his grave which was very cathartic. That helped me so much. I miss him very much still. Uncle, may you RIP. I still cry every now and then.

[@hannahrosa5485]

Thank you for sharing your end of life experience with us. I pray Jesus came and walked with you into the clouds.

[@BaronPalamedeCharlus]

What if it turns out to be the Buddha or Muhammad or some other religion's leader instead?

[@KOSMICZKITTY-kn6ud]

With no disrespect but there's on jesus.your born ,you die your body rots and turns in to dust and feeds the rest of mankind when we utilize the soil for food.its a nice thought though when people are facing a challenging time

[@anjgraham8609]

Peter and Mary thank you so much for sharing your story ... I wonder if you know how much peace and reassurance you've given people - God bless you both

[@sorchasam3252]

This is one of the most beautiful things I've seen. What a comfort to see how all this man's fears were alleviated. I hope one day to be a palliative care nurse and help people to feel so free like this man. I had a fear of death growing up to the point of severe panic disorder and I don't anymore because of palliative and hospice care education and sitting with many people dying. Thank you to all the beautiful angels that are the palliative/hospice care team giving people life during the end of their life, and than you to the wonderful people in palliative care sharing your thoughts and experiences x

[@gercolt]

very mind resting piece of information thank you Peter and may your next life be beautiful rip fella ...

[@julieclark7722]

My husband's last wish was to die at home. He was comfortable, surrounded by family, and the palliative care nurses and drs helped us right up to the end. It was very hard for us to watch him slip away, but it was calm and peaceful. He died 6 months ago from liver cancer, he was only 49.

[@1romancatholic]

Julie Clark 🙏🏻❤️ so sorry.....prayers & love

[@canadianbabe5970]

My dad passed away in April. Suddenly. Im not sure what took him. But it broke my heart. I'm still trying to cope

[@mistybehave4886]

So sorry for your loss x

[@rockpadstudios]

You are one of the lucky ones that had a dad you cared about and that cared about you. I know it's tough. I never knew my dad so when he passed I wasn't even notified about it. @@canadianbabe5970

[@ronsmith4328]

I'm very grateful for this video. I don't have an illness at present, but I'm not young anymore. It was a great encouragement knowing that should a situation like this occur for me one day, that there is such a great way of coping as the end approaches. I have changed my Statement of Choices to reflect my wishes should that time come. Many thanks.

[@Whero1964]

thankyou for sharing your story, made me teary eyed, R.I.P.

[@michaelrankin4950]

Wonderful story....rest in peace friend.....jesus has you

[@lindamachin8266]

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[@nenblom]

Amen.

[@Tamwatto1]

thank you to the family for sharing

[@ingridakerblom7577]

Iv'e done some of my schooling in palliative care. It was one of ghe best places to recive care ive ever seen.. longtime care etc dosen't come anywhere near the same quality! The staff was just amazing & there was great cooperation between all different ppl (the care team-including loved ones), the vest Iv'e seen. I wish all our elderly would recive this level of care & emphaty

[@lauriechmielecki6576]

My late husband Stanley took surveys on the symptoms as his cancer progressed!

[@ChefWife67]

Beautiful soul..God Bless ❤️🙏🏻

[@MJLeger-yj1ww]

When you have family who loves you and needs you, the decision about what to do when you are declared and diagnosed as terminal, continues to be problematic. It's NEVER easy, but to hang on to a loved one and try to prevent them from giving up may be very wrong. There is NO ROOM for selfishness when a person is suffering at the end of their life. They don't need a guilt trip while dying! Always praise them for a life well lived if you can, and reassure them that you will be alright when they are gone, this can ease their mind and enable them to let go instead of continuing to suffer. I've had to see patients die for every reason there is, and it's never easy, but a terminal disease, while shocking, can carry on for a while and their loved ones NEED to know how to handle it gracefully. There is A LOT OF HELP out there for that, if you just ask for it. (Another factor that people are often not willing to discuss when their loved one is dying, is cost. Lengthy palliative or "comfort care" can be very costly. There are many ways we can keep a patient alive today, but is it morally correct to do so when they are suffering terribly? That is a question people will be facing more and more as lifespans become longer.)

[@stacisrainbownursery7825]

M.J. Leger this was very helpful for me to read. Thank you 🙏🏻!!!!

[@MJLeger-yj1ww]

@@stacisrainbownursery7825 I'm glad if it helped, Giana, and good luck to you.

[@ankie7180]

Very precious, thank you.

[@staceycordova8941]

I’ve been an oncology nurse for 30 years, it was very interesting to see his wife’s role in the care for her husband, I’ve seen this pattern often. Often our patients get better EOL care than our loved ones. It can be so hard as we can lose our objectivity when we are dealing with death on a personal level no matter your qualifications, beliefs, etc. I thought it was great that they offered continuous sedation near the end and too bad his wife started then stopped his drip. Despite all they did to try to prepare for the end an ideal death more often than not is not achieved.

[@natanmandala]

Bro, you are one in a world my friend. Respect 🌗🪞🌓

[@amandapanda7878]

my dad had colon cancer which lead to lung cancer, now they think its in his liver.god bless anyone suffering and their families

[@mmmotives7452]

It would be nice to know the names of those drugs...living in Africa and I wonder if there is access to the same form of treatment.

[@trishiaannhellums103]

my father was 51, when he died almost 37 yrs ago.

[@TeeNicole10]

GOD BLESS HIS SOUL💙🙇‍♀️🙏

[@setaglm7285]

soooooo, if he was 51 he wasn't likely married 40 yrs ago. i'm just sayin'...

[@karenroberts4941]

I believe he was 51 when he was diagnosed and he fought it for another 11 years, so he would have been about 21 or 22 years old when he got married.I think the issue is that the interviewer wasn't clear when the 40 years married occurred.... it does sound like it was at the beginning of the diagnosis, but mostly likely at the end of the 11 years of fighting the cancer.

[@brandiehenson6809]

Redt in peace 🕊⚘

[@NJSMKMMS]

As someone who has lived since age 10 with chronic pain with multiple different sources I would be extremely hesitant to simply swallow this story whole. This man was at the very beginning of Palliative care, just remember that.

[@helenjoy6316]

As someone with a foot in each scenario I feel able to quantify that for me, here in the UK having worked in that sphere and gratefully being supported by a palliative care team I feel blessed that this man's experiences very much echo truth. Yes it's different as I'm barely 40 with young children and we are all different in our wishes and worries. I'm now home, in a comfy hospital bed that was delivered the very day it was decided beneficial, I'm around my family and vice versa, I have no pain and I genuinely have never been able to say that even through childhood. I know this is all the help I want right now and that's respected but I also know there's that safety net. Of course here it's all free too!!!

[@NJSMKMMS]

Glad to hear you are living the way you choose to, we all deserve that. Not your choice but every ones own individual choice. By the way what is your safety net ?

[@helenjoy6316]

@@NJSMKMMS a complex web of medications, people that can come immediately or take me to a hospice for care, physio, occupational therapists, equipment, feeding aids or even my decision to withdraw feeding etc, volunteers, people supporting my whole family. I have a box that I'm filling with little notes for my children in particular to be opened at specific times and birthday cards written for them all the way to their 21st. Funny anecdotes and memories and messages for my husband to draw strength from. I bought a modern polaroid camera and have been happily capturing big and small moments these past couple of months. Maybe everyone should do this, I feel fortunate that I appreciate life and that tomorrow is never guaranteed. Do what you want and need and do it well, don't sweat the small stuff and instead smile at people. Women here are encouraged to write birth plans, why aren't we thinking about what we would or wouldn't like for our exit?! Do we want lots of medical intervention, do we want it to be very private or do we hope to be surrounded by loved ones? X

[@standup2982]

@@helenjoy6316 how are you?

[@MJLeger-yj1ww]

@@helenjoy6316 Very valid points, Helen, and one every living human needs to consider at some point in their lives BEFORE they are near the end of life. We all will die, for whatever reason, and to be a part of easing that passage from life should be the person's decision, with love and support and treatment, of course, but when a person KNOWS they are terminal, their next thought process should be how to accomplish their journey out of life with the least pain, anxiety and suffering as possible. There is much to be considered and there IS advice out there that will help a person through that end of life experience. We strongly believe that NO HUMAN SHOULD HAVE TO SUFFER at the end of their lives. We put our precious pets to sleep when life is no longer pleasant for them and they are suffering, why would we even hesitate to do the same for humans? (Yes, I know about laws) but some States are changing their laws and while a physician takes an oath to "first do no harm" that should not preclude the fact that a patient should be able to act as they wish and receive whatever medicines (indirectly perhaps) to obviate them having to put a bullet through their head or jump off a bridge like people have when for whatever reason, they do not wish to live anymore. We should treat a person dying at the end of their life with as much care as we do when we deliver a baby into this life! It is a moral and medical dilemma that more and more people will face as the lifespan of humans grows well into their 80's, 90's and even 100 now for a few!

[@1romancatholic]

🙏🏻❤️ R.I.P.

[@BaronPalamedeCharlus]

Here in my last days, I wish I had the cash to go on fancy trips to South America. My money has to go to pay for my medical treatments instead.

[@pmslasmith8768]

Beautiful Man

[@encief]

Dude seem fye asf

[@oscheayates6086]

❤

[@sandalwood2257]

He married his now wife at the age of 22 yrs old.

[@ccc771]

lucky man ive been diagnosed with a mental illness so i get nothing like many others in my situation.

[@wacerahchege8]

What sort of mental health illness?

[@ccc771]

​@@wacerahchege8 schizophrenia

[@wacerahchege8]

@@ccc771 so sorry. Are you born again Christian?

[@ccc771]

@@wacerahchege8 no

[@wacerahchege8]

@@ccc771 so, what was the cause or triggered the illness?

[@woman_warrior3344]

Maybe that was Jesus 💙🙏💙

[@newinla1]

Don't die before you look for the truth. Quran is the final revelation from God to us. ( 2 ) [This is] the revelation of the Book about which there is no doubt from the Lord of the worlds. (Sura As-Sajda) ( 1 ) Ta, Ha. ( 2 ) We have not sent down to you the Qur'an that you be distressed ( 3 ) But only as a reminder for those who fear [Allah] - ( 4 ) A revelation from He who created the earth and highest heavens, ( 5 ) The Most Merciful [who is] above the Throne established. ( 6 ) To Him belongs what is in the heavens and what is on the earth and what is between them and what is under the soil. (Sura Taa-Haa) ( 185 ) Every soul will taste death, and you will only be given your [full] compensation on the Day of Resurrection. So he who is drawn away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise has indeed been successful. And what is the life of this world except the enjoyment of delusion. (Sura Aal-Imran)

[@jnwd1723]

Omar Bennis Jesus is The Way, The Truth and The Life. no one cometh to the Father but through Him. The Bible is God's Word not the Quran or Allah which is a lie!

[@newinla1]

( 72 ) They have certainly disbelieved who say, "Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary" while the Messiah has said, "O Children of Israel, worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord." Indeed, he who associates others with Allah - Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers. ( 73 ) They have certainly disbelieved who say, "Allah is the third of three." And there is no god except one God. And if they do not desist from what they are saying, there will surely afflict the disbelievers among them a painful punishment. ( 74 ) So will they not repent to Allah and seek His forgiveness? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. ( 75 ) The Messiah, son of Mary, was not but a messenger; [other] messengers have passed on before him. And his mother was a supporter of truth. They both used to eat food. Look how We make clear to them the signs; then look how they are deluded. ( 76 ) Say, "Do you worship besides Allah that which holds for you no [power of] harm or benefit while it is Allah who is the Hearing, the Knowing?" ( 77 ) Say, "O People of the Scripture, do not exceed limits in your religion beyond the truth and do not follow the inclinations of a people who had gone astray before and misled many and have strayed from the soundness of the way." (Surat Maida)

[@andrewnaughton5403]

jn wd now now, you can both have your imaginary friend. But please keep it to yourself as the rest of us with a brain don’t want to hear fairy tales.

[@felicitymoore7340]

It does you no credit to criticise others for their beliefs. In fact, you have your beliefs, others have theirs. I also have a strong belief in Jesus Christ, but I also respect your beliefs. I do not belittle you or your character, because you don't believe what I do. May you have a happy life without trauma and sorrow.

[@wacerahchege8]

WRONG! Quran is a BIG LIE FROM DOOM