planning a gay wedding (q&a)

[@TaylorandJeff]

We’re not planning on getting married this year, just starting to plan ❤️

[@Shawnngatiaa]

Will we be able to watch a video from the wedding ??? BTW Congratulations

[@alelambert888]

That's right tigers, take it easy, there is bug in the air now. Best

[@marwaa2895]

That would be wise , 2020 doesn't seem a good year to get married 😅

[@jaydonnolasco]

Hi Taylor & Jeff! I'm a wedding filmmaker and photographer so I've been a part of so many weddings. The biggest piece of advice is to completely enjoy your wedding day. It goes by so fast and you shouldn't have to worry about anything day of. If you don't have a coordinator, at least designate a trustworthy friend or family member that could make sure everything is great day of so you are not bogged down with details and alleviate so much stress so you can have the most memorable wedding day!

[@ricardonunez3356]

Ohh! Taylor finally said “Welcome to OUR KZbin channel” (Parker so adorable drinking water lol) ❤️

[@jamiem.5335]

What you both said about being gay and not picturing yourselves having a wedding is exactly how I feel. I really appreciate you both sharing your stories and your lives as a gay couple, its a great example for others like me, thank you for that! Best of luck with the wedding!

[@jimwilloughby]

I like the idea of an anniversary / honeymoon trip, a year after the wedding. Walking your moms down the aisle is a wonderful idea. Taylor, I don't consider myself an old queen by any means( I'm a retired firefighter fer Chris' sake), but at 72 Iv'ed learned a couple uh three things. Your idea of a cocktail party ahead of the wedding so that people can connect is terrific ,but you might want to think about including some sort of hint in your welcoming speech, if you're going to give one , that will urge people to introduce themselves to strangers, and share stories about you and Jeff. People tend to stick to their own kind at these sorts of things. Finally, I don't konw what your moms look like, but when you were talking about the music and dancing with them, I flashed on the scene and it came to me that it will be beautiful, emotional , and a sight that won't soon be forgotten. Looking forward to part two .

[@hosinw]

Jeff is going to do the absolute most during your wedding 😂🤦🏾‍♂️ congrats again

[@jordanmcnally7174]

You two are so adorable together!! Love watching your videos and Tik Toks. Loved this video to get away from everything going on right now. Just remember to have fun with it. It’s your day and not anybody else’s. Keeps the stress down. ❤️❤️ love ya guys!

[@vinnytortellini7377]

When they joked about 600 guests, my Italian side immediately thought they were serious.

[@michaelkline6374]

I just love how you look at each other when you talk! 😊

[@tenor714]

Just thought I’d share this with you as I felt you might find it interesting: My husband & I had been together for 18 years before we got married 11 years ago. We didn’t think it would be different either. What really surprised us was that our friends and family treat us differently now. Not that they where ever judgmental or anything but that actually getting married made us a more legit couple. Very surprising after being together so long! So you never know!

[@tenor714]

SpectroMan YES! That’s a great way of putting it!

[@willjay916]

It means not having to explain to the agent at the rental car counter when you are on your honeymoon.

[@quangluu5820]

Congratulations! Watching and hearing about how you're planning your wedding day made me feel very excited and happy for the two of you. I don't know your faith backgrounds, but I want to share with you some reflection questions that might be helpful for you as you plan for your special day. Logistics and taking care of your guests are very important, but I also hope that your wedding day itself will also be an opportunity to deepen and nourish your love for each other. It can be liberating to plan a gay wedding because you have so much room for creativity to make it your own, but also daunting because of the lack of tradition. I am a high school teacher and I teach a unit on healthy relationships. One of the assignments is to write a relationship creed. These are the reflection questions I gave them: What is the purpose a relationship? Friendship? Dating? Life Partner/Companion? What’s special about our relationship? What am I willing to commit to? What am I responsible for? What do I want and need from this relationship? What are my hopes for this relationship? What do you do in this relationship? How do you see yourself living together? (Ex. WE raise kids, WE workout together, WE love the other person in a way that no one else can, WE lift and celebrate each other’s (our) success, WE contribute to each other's (our) happiness...etc.) How does this relationship create joy and love in our lives? And these are just some additional questions for you: What are we celebrating on our wedding day? How can our wedding deepen and strengthen the love in our marriage? What am I committing to (if anything)? Is our wedding more than a celebration of our love? I tell my students that they have to interview a couple they admire with these questions before they write down what they believe a relationship should be. May the planning process and your wedding day help your love to grow and flourish. :)

[@lonniejames6674]

You two are just too cute - best of luck with the upcoming nuptials. It's always nice to see a romance story gone right.

[@JustinConnor01]

QUESTION: will you get married in a church and will you have you wedding filmed for a wedding video?

[@RB-747]

Can a gay couple get married in a church in the States?

[@JustinConnor01]

RobBee I don’t know, that’s why I am asking

[@rajdeepbanik4056]

@@RB-747 why not bro😉

[@Richpopballa]

RobBee To answer your question, yes you can. It largely depends on the church and its endorsing religious body. For example, my Presbyterian (PCUSA) and they allow same-sex weddings to be performed, at the discretion of the pastor. Episcopalians and Lutherans fall into this same preview as well. I believe the Unitarian church allows performs same-sex weddings too.

[@RB-747]

@@rajdeepbanik4056 Because a lot of religious institutions don't allow us to get married and the States is historically backward when it comes to minority-represented rights?

[@rhmua7110]

will you guys make a wedding video for youtube too? i totally understand if you don't want to, but i'd love to see how it went down :)

[@menioq.8740]

Don't film your wedding, just enjoy without the stress of looking good for the camera or trying to make the wedding look fun for the video, just enjoy it!!!

[@SamirSaid]

@@menioq.8740 That's what videographers are for luv.

[@dangagne3347]

For surname, I think hyphenated is the best route for many gay couples and shows equality as its foundation. Can’t wait to see part 2. You 2 are clearly meant for each other...that was evident from your first video. So happy for you guys (and Parker).

[@AustinAshburn]

I want Taylor Swift to write my vows for me too lmao

[@johnpickford4222]

Yes, but she only writes songs after dating, screwing and dumping s guy. That ain’t gonna happen with these two.

[@pppmanly]

I am so excited for you guys! 🎈 Please continue to keep us posted on the wedding planning. By the way, Taylor looks so happy; good job, Jeff! 👍🏾😀 Also, consider getting pre-marital counselling. After all, the marriage is more important than the wedding.

[@josephmillraney1061]

Hey, guys are you going to video tape the wedding? Am looking forward to highlights of the wedding. It's going to be just fantastic. I'm so excited for both of you!

[@rickgene3359]

I worked for a florist years ago. A bride had picked peonies as her flower and getting married on Memorial Day (the time peonies bloom). When the peonies arrived from the flower wholesaler only a portion of them arrived. The boss told me he would pay me $3 a stem for all the peonies I could find. I drove up down the alleys and would prune a few stems off of people’s bushes. Also cemeteries are a great place to find peonies. Need less to say I was a dumb young poor college student.

[@joshwesterman5105]

You guys are so cute. As these kinds of life events are likely in my future, I appreciate you all answering these questions and sharing your journey! Congrats...I’m sure your wedding will be a blast!

[@ahmcadam2713]

It’s great Taylor and Jeff are getting into this .... Taylor strikes me as someone who is very grounded, comfortable in his skin and really knows himself. Jeff is creative, the showman but maybe more self-conscious even if Taylor can be more shy. In the end - whatever you do, don’t worry about getting everything perfect - make your day so you can enjoy yourself and not worry about the details. So many couples don’t remember their wedding day. Surprising but true.

[@edgewaterspartan71]

Christmas Holiday Wedding! It's such a great beautiful time of year!

[@philippegroleau3093]

This video makes me laught out loud! You are so cute together. Congratulations for wedding ♥️

[@Billyboy70]

Hi Taylor and Jeff. From watching this wedding organizing sounds great so far and it is not easy for couples to agree for their big day. Hope that we get to be apart of your big day even if it is not from the beginning to the very end. I will be happy to see just the important parts. Cannot wait to see part 2 of this wedding organizing video🥰🥰🥰

[@clm6184]

Taylor, I think you and Parker are connected in multiple ways. That little girl can not get away with anything without you knowing. Lol! She loves it though, even does things on purpose sometimes. Lol! Jeff, I adore you! You crack me up. The "because I know I can do it" comment made me laugh. It was like you were actually saying, "Taylor, honey bunch, I think you are forgetting exact!y WHO you are dealing with here. Get with the program baby boi." Lolol! 💜💚❤💙❤💚💜

[@TaylorandJeff]

C LM me and that dog are literally connected telepathically

[@clm6184]

@@TaylorandJeff I know. Lol! You can see AND feel your connection. ;-)

[@robinmyers451]

Planning a wedding is a lot of work but please, please make sure you choose enjoy the day! Be prepared: at least one thing will go wrong, be out of place, not go the way you thought it would. Ignore it; laugh it off. Only the two of you will know it's wrong. Slough it off an go have the best day of your lives!

[@cliffordjones9399]

I don't like planning parties so I was very happy my Husband and I went to the City Hall in a city in Florida while on vacation. My anxiety was rising just listen to you guys. But Good Luck guys, it sounds like you will enjoy the journey leading up to the wedding.

[@ttroy4804]

Hey Taylor, got a video request. Would you create one about: what is a close friend? how to recognise, develope and maintain the relationship

[@jvega80]

100% agree with Jeff on the honeymoon. My husband and I got married in March 2019 and we decided to focus on the wedding. We waited a whole year to plan out our honeymoon and this year at the end of February we decided to go on a five-week honeymoon all over Europe. Unfortunately due to the current circumstances we had to cut our honey moon in half and come back to the states. Nonetheless, it was something to look forward to after the wedding and now we have another vacation to look forward to once this pandemic is all over!

[@jvega80]

Oh my god I can go on forever relating to your wedding planning lol Taylor, I too, was scared of my husband planning some singing surprise at the wedding. He never told me or admitted he had something planned but on the day of the wedding he did sing me a short song and although I hated being the center of attention it was very sweet. Planning our wedding was one of my favorite things to do as well mostly because once the day comes you get to see your vision come to life. At first we weren't sure if we wanted a day of coordinator but we ended up getting one and my god did they make a huge difference. There is so much that goes on the day of that it is virtually impossible to check on everything coming out the way you wanted while trying to enjoy your day. Our wedding planner did fit in like a 10 minute slot before reception started to show us the actual room before anyone went inside and that moment was super magical, especially since our photographer followed us in to get our reactions. With that said, I really encourage you guys to be in the moment that day because it will be hard to take it all in! Maybe take a quick moment during the reception and step back to appreciate all the love and support you will be receiving from your families and friends. It's truly an amazing feeling! Best of luck planning your wedding and can't wait to see pictures/videos!

[@roderickshaka3626]

Great video, wedding planning can be tough, please don't forget to love on each other in this time. Its going to be just 1 day., you have each other for a lifetime

[@nunyabusiness1317]

wow! married? I guess it really does go down in the DMs on instagram. Crazy

[@loom1c]

In a m/m story I've writing the postsectional is Ethan James' At Last. The lyrics speak to the love of two coming together in marriage. If nothing else, please listen to the words and of course the score.

[@robertbottorff763]

I love you guys so much. I'm so glad you found each other, to me you are the perfect couple. You give me so much hope for the future. Your videos are the BEST!! Keep sharing your story.❤

[@fredniles55]

I am a retired florist, over the 50 plus year I have done hundreds of wedding both same sex and opposite sex. I have 2 pet peeves. 1. to large boutonnieres or bows on boutonnieres 2. wrist corsages for mother's, and yes you can put corsages on a strapless gown if the florist is creative and uses magnets instead of corsage pins. Good luck have fun and enjoy the journey.

[@tomdeininger7379]

Looking forward to seeing this. Please, please where tuxedos. Each one of you pick the color, tie, just very formal.

[@nesfrutadalandan620]

Am i the only one who's fond of repeating the intro coz the music is so cooooooolllll

[@anthonyking4261]

Jeff - do you mind telling me the brand and model of your glasses frames. They are so handsome! Also where did you buy them?

[@its_rangga]

i'm so happy and grateful for your relastionship.. its so beautiful and watching this video makes me so excited about he wedding

[@gordonsmith9153]

No, invite who you want there,i'ts your day no theirs!

[@anthonyl.9059]

Question! I know you can’t give the venue away or the city but are you getting married in Indiana or New York?

[@MrAlfalfaTV]

I AM SO FUCKING EXCITED FOR THIS WEDDING YALL OMFG YOU HAVE NO IDEA

[@tplmic5866]

I loved your conversation. It's so obvious that you are in love. I look forward to what follows.

[@JH-hy6hx]

Ugh, ours was supposed to be May 9, because of COVID we've had to reschedule our wedding to August and cancel our two week honeymoon to Greece. Best of luck, once the planning is over it's wonderful.

[@TaylorandJeff]

Josh Hollingsworth I’m so sorry. My best friend had to cancel her wedding last weekend and it was so sad. My heart goes out to you. We’re hoping for next year

[@lffgar1]

Buy a house and have a backyard wedding. It is the people you celebrate with that is the most important. Just as Taylor said you will not be paying much attention to the flowers up the staircase. The cost of the flowers alone would pay towards some great landscaping that could last for years, flowers dead in five days.

[@jasonjesson9742]

Surely the first song needs to be Dancing Queen! Floor fillers including Its raining men. Seriously though, the ultimate song to sing each other is I only want to be with you. Huge congratulations from the UK xx

[@simonleaf2765]

Deffo Dancing Queen! My all time favourite song. It was No1 the week of my 14th birthday in 1976 have loved it ever since.

[@juws9997]

The fact that 600 is the medium in India makes me laugh so hard. And the number can go upto 2000-5000 or even 10000 sometimes

[@jmanni1704]

Do you guys have a budget amount you want to spend? Also, will you be accepting gifts ($) from your KZbin family. Praying for both of you to stay healthy. Heart felt love from Indiana!

[@Solskin60Tina]

Thank you for a great video 😊 Are you going to create the invitation yourself and then sent it to print or are you going to let a firm do it together with you?

[@Jason-Long]

Congratulations you two ! #NOTHINGBUTLOVE ❤J.

[@jerandzanes3455]

OMG. I'm stressed listening to this and wish you all the best on your wedding day. J.

[@paulpeters462]

When Clark Kent met Captin America...swoooooooooon

[@johnpickford4222]

Where were they in tights? Boxers or briefs? Commando?

[@simonleaf2765]

Can I suggest two songs for you to play at some point during your Wedding Day? : God Only Knows by The Beach Boys - gives me goosebumps everytime; and Laughter In The Rain by Neil Sedaka. Definately two of my favourite love songs. Really looking forward to seeing pictures of your big day!

[@petertravis4048]

You need to let your Wedding planner handle the day. The day before you have to become grooms and enjoy your guests and families Your planner needs to have everything done the week before. That’s what I do and I have been doing Weddings for twenty years with great results.

[@adamyvr]

JEFF is sooooo CUTE !!!!

[@moshemordechaivanzuiden]

I hate to break it to you guys but for the coming time there will be no airplanes and a wedding maximum might be 3 people. #corona But, I don't think even postponing it for 2 years matters because you're such a cute solid couple. And carrying into the house you can do on you planned date and then again on the real wedding day. Enjoy. Thanks for sharing the excitement with us. It comes across!

[@hamzaalkanderi4531]

Ooooooooooooh that was so sweet , love you guys and congratulations agian 🥳🥳🥳

[@jimenathequeen2351]

will the color of your suits be black or a different color

[@kennethkauzlaric8948]

I love this guys, was a boost today. When you started talking about flowers, I immediately thought of peonies... Keep safe and stay healthy.

[@johnpickford4222]

What do penises have to do with flowers??

[@kennethkauzlaric8948]

@@johnpickford4222 not penises, peonies. LOL! They are summer bush flowers that are huge, white and pink and smell incredible. I the first time you smell one, you'll be hooked.

[@johnpickford4222]

Kenneth Kauzlaric: Oh, thank you. The same thing happened the first time I smelled a penis!! Both are similar because they stems, but one isn’t opened yet!!

[@pierrebeukes6315]

You know that peopl in India has a couple of Weddings in one hey. You could also get married 18 times like Nick Jonas.... Just a suggestion.

[@ebboy5]

Can’t wait for part 2!!!

[@henrysousa7371]

Congrats two u both gentlemen thanks for sharing looking forward to your next video.

[@pippenlising9378]

You guys are so adorable!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@col8547]

No weddings allowed in UK for the duration, actually probably most of Europe! Not weddings like this anyway, I think you can still do a Romeo and Juliet wedding, you know, you, Friar Laurence and the Nurse and then head off to the family tomb!!

[@tarmalg]

Matching suits or coordinated ones or identical tuxes?

[@its_rangga]

you guys are so cute and sweet but not too much and i loveeeee you guys for it

[@lyssiescavo1768]

Congratulations to you both

[@lawrenceforsyth632]

Thank you for giving followers something other than worrying about getting TP. Life after Corona. I'll be glad to see a recap on KZbin like Tom Daley and Lance Black's wedding.

[@jimenathequeen2351]

are you guys planning on recording it and posting it on youtube

[@annebridges2631]

Are we (Your KZbin family) getting a save the day notice 🥰🙏

[@cmcdevitt22]

Any chance you guys can share your pinterest board so we can follow along with ideas you like?

[@ploaiepluvo933]

I cant remove my gaze on their teeth 😩

[@johnpickford4222]

“Chiclets?” (as in the gum), “Is that what you want your teeth to look like?” said my dentist when asking about whitening them. And “Chiclets” is what they have, so it (liquid oral protein?) and good brushing, flossing and 6 month visits work.

[@burthuffman2802]

Who are you wearing? Would love to see Jeff the entertainment. Both of you will be gorgeous!

[@CarlosEmilioEsq]

You guys laughed when you said comic sans was gonna be your font, so I'm assuming you were joking.

[@frostiesarah2315]

If you’re still undecided on theme combine a little from each and put on the save the date cards

[@samalr2352]

I love u both and i wish u the best and gooooood luck

[@cianmulhern5897]

Have you already found your minister/wedding officiant. If not where will you be looking. I could recommend one that is Ordained and can officiate in all 50 states.

[@rtchonglong9268]

suggest BoraBora - Tahiti - French Polynesia

[@calimaxtla]

Will you live stream it? Would love to see.

[@twatson8709]

Congratulations. Not a wedding question - what is that yellow thing between the two of you?

[@Marcky25]

its a light fixture that is in their home tour video

[@dancoll8166]

It's the Revolve LED Table Lamp available at westelm.com. I know because once I saw their Home Tour video, I just had to have it. It's dimmable.

[@mrbear1302]

What kind of question is who walks down the island?????

[@beemax2014]

I love seeing you both on tik tok 🥺👉🏽👈🏽

[@tomgray7049]

Will you live stream it?

[@bobbyporter5972]

Wishing you both the best love to see a video of it love you both stay safe and happy and healthy and strong together FOREVER God bless you both love wins 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@LisaMaeRyan]

I wish you two blessings on top of blessings 😊

[@primoleahy5088]

Good luck guys hope u have a great. Wedding xx

[@michaelbilbrey2375]

Odd question, but is Jeff related to Gigi Goode on RuPaul's drag race? They resemble each other, and have similar mannerisms. Just curious. Be sure to tell us, eventually, where we can send gifts, and where you're going to register. Hopefully that will be open to your fans.

[@jeffreyerdmann1017]

Have you actually picked a date ? And where the wedding and reception will be? I think that it’s a wonderful idea to not have a honeymoon the day of the wedding. But a year later.

[@gordonsmith9153]

so cute together!!!

[@petertravis4048]

I like Garamond for the font classic elegant pretty.

[@JustinConnor01]

lol medium sized 200?? That is still a lot

[@rajdeepbanik4056]

It's depends on people's taste 😅

[@menioq.8740]

Don't film your wedding, just enjoy without the stress of looking good for the camera or trying to make the wedding look fun for the video, just enjoy it!!!

[@veronicakang7827]

600？ just families? What a big family

[@eugenegamblin4011]

And I'm sorry but you got to go with a DJ your right about the song in your head it won't sound the same this coming from a bartender at a wedding venue I've seen the brides cry and grooms get pissed over this just saying ps love you guys!!!

[@3animeemily313]

FINALLY!!!!😎🤞

[@gavinmccune93]

Hahaha jeff is too much!! 😂😂😂

[@maynardcat]

Congratulations, but this sounds like something you would plan months ago not today, everything here is on lock down, all things offering entertainment, restaurants etc., even funerals. Hopefully in the weeks or maybe months to come things will level off, if not you may have to elope with social distancing. Stay safe, and it doesn't hurt to plan for that special day.

[@TaylorandJeff]

maynardcat we aren’t getting married anytime soon just planning! We’re quarantined in our apartment (:

[@maynardcat]

@@TaylorandJeff You'll have time for lots of planning, and that helps in these hard times looking forward to your very special day. I'm not quarantined but staying home as much as possible. It is very scary out there and especially in your city so stay safe, and I'm wishing you both the very best, and thanks for the reply.

[@ElaineVilarinho]

is this a try not to aww video???? because i failed

[@fredricweber872]

Whatever you decide to do will be right for you. You both have great taste and there's nothing phoney about your relationship. I wish you the best life has to offer. Hopefully this damn Virus won't be an issue and we'll have a Gay friendly President, Joe Biden, who pushed President Obama to support Gay Martiage. You guys will do it right, you're classy & pragmatic and it's obvious your relationship isn't phoney.

[@paulpeters462]

I would throw Costa Rica into the hat for honeymoon

[@akshayrajput8604]

Nice videos