Podcast 164: How to set boundaries with Dr. Henry Cloud

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Right now, we are all dealing with a lot. The world is topsy-turvy, and life just seems so…out of whack. But what do you do if you are dealing with all this, and you are stick at home or in quarantine with someone who drives you nuts at the best of times? In this week’s blog and podcast, I speak with bestselling author, speaker and clinical psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud about setting boundaries during quarantine, dealing with difficult people during the COVID-19 crisis, how to help others without enabling them and how not to feel guilty for saying no.
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Podcast Time Stamps
2:50 Dr. Cloud’s work as a clinical psychologist
7:00 Time and space as natural boundaries, and how to enforce these during quarantine
11:30 Why ‘no’ is a complete sentence, and why you don’t need to justify your boundaries with people that push the limits
18:00 How love builds up a protective barrier around your mind
31:15 How to stand firm and take ownership of your own fear and actions when faced with a difficult person
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For more info on Dr. Henry Cloud and to get his books visit: www.drcloud.com
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[@vynedvyne59]

The 2 people who have currently helped me stay alive!!!! Dr Leaf and Cloud some day I pray I will get to tell u my story...thyroid cancer...SAI and was slotted for Hospice, yet God....in a dark hr I cling to a resource and was asked the question....what lie are u believing...it was “your going to die”. That was x3 years ago and I live abundantly the battle was spiritual and in the mind. God bless U for being true to u

[@heathermiller5413]

Wow

[@mariamkinen8036]

No contact is the most efficient boundary.we shouldn't be afraid of grabbing to do a thing. I was not.

[@dreamervert]

This video has just changed my whole entire life. 🤯

[@brookemckenzie1862]

Name a better duo.... You two are wonderful!!

[@veronikaimgarten4955]

Your work is changing lives!

[@yasminmihlar1930]

Excellent talk on boundaries!

[@sarah_cary]

You two's work is changing lives for the better!!

[@robertaturk]

Be in charge of our emotions. Being in control is like driving a car on an icy road - takes all your concentration and energy. Being in charge is an overview - only intervene when necessary.

[@rebekahwitmer8322]

I’m about to start reading this book! So timely. Thanks, Dr. Leaf 💞

[@titov7823]

It’s funny because I just started this book the day before this video came out! Very timely

[@Suzpucciarella]

When you are in that “dance” around family, you need to remember that you CAN only change the way YOU dance. My only concern is losing face around adult children or if this incident occurs in public.

[@DebzFriedmanDebzArtz]

Thank you so much

[@TheFreshSoundsFlorida]

This is so good. I'm so glad I watched.

[@thelongevityproject]

Really great interview! Love it! ❤️

[@juneo7]

i love you both! you are amazing and have helped me to navigate and get through so much.. and my understanding is growing..thanks and much blessings to you both!

[@angentry45]

These interviews have been so good! I’ve been applying your mind/brain techniques Dr. Leaf, yet I needed to now add Dr. Clouds boundary practices to finally enjoy my life And be present in the purpose and calling God has given me! Ya’ll both are awesome + now I will be stronger for the women I coach.

[@hellofinney1]

On an incoming call, my battery is about to die and cut the call half way 😂😂😂

[@RevolutionYLuke]

Great episode, thanks for posting Dr. Leaf

[@ingeranneamundsen7722]

Thanks Dr Caroline Leaf

[@gomolemokau3562]

I love Dr Cloud 😊 this is a great collaboration

[@mogulmoagi]

Thank you so much.. I'm empowered.

[@Suzpucciarella]

I’m a former clinician and it’s amazing how much we were not taught! I value the lessons I learned as my children matured, and can relate to the examples you mentioned. How can you best “behave” when family is in s group setting around your children and extended family threatens your boundaries?

[@Minaretfm]

Excellent content; very useful to know my soul is decaying when I’m forced by a manipulator to do something I don’t want to & my life depends on their emotional ups & downs!

[@poornimar3552]

Thank you needed this, God bless you

[@lomo9023]

Amazing fab teaching

[@heidikkaether5031]

What is the difference between influence and manipulation?

[@elenif.vlachou9126]

manipulation is mainly negative imposition on someone elses life. Someone sick has found a good victim for this, And influence has both neg and pos. LEADERS usu are said to have one or the other. I mean of course a MOM is a LEADER..she influence her kids. Check JCMAXWELL on this too. INFLUENCE and lEADERSHIP is his FIELD..hes #1 in it.

[@alliehill4076]

Manipulation is basically pressurising someone to do something by threatening negative emotional or other non-physical consequences if they don't do what you want. Eg if you don't watch the video she has been enthusing about and urging you to watch, then she'll be less friendly and will be cold towards you. Influence would be where she explains why she'd like you to watch the video but doesn't make you feel punished if you don't do it. She accepts your choice either way even if she is disappointed, allowing you to choose 'no' freely, respecting the fact that you have your own choice and don't have to follow what she would choose.

[@Minaretfm]

@@alliehill4076 excellent explanation! Need to share with someone who doesn’t understand stated boundaries.

[@Suzpucciarella]

It’s the perspective of the recipient of the action: behavior who gets to decide…

[@christineandcarlmilitz2883]

amen

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