Post Breakup, what I ate in a day

[@mflove09]

Maddy, I just broke up with my fiancée of 10 years. This video really made me feel seen. All of the feelings, all of the waves of sadness, and the little things we do to distract ourselves. Thank you for talking about feeling the feelings when they happen. I was trying to be strong but now I feel like it’s best to just feel the sadness and the little glimmers of hope. I wish you healing and happiness ❤

[@HannahMairi]

Just wanted to take a second to send love to you in this Maria. I hope you feel held in your sadness by other people around you, and can still see some beauty in life and in yourself x

[@CafeMaddy]

I'm so sorry :( we will be looking back one day, completely okay. Hannah said it so well. hope we are all healing and taking all the time we need in processing

[@jus2cute09]

Ten years without a ring is all you need to know

[@user-fi7bb1ds3s]

@@jus2cute09 whats wrong with you?

[@user-fi7bb1ds3s]

Hi, im sending you my love and hope that you do things that bring you comfort. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years and i couldn’t handle it. I can’t imagine how it must feel after ten years. How are you handling this? Sending you love 💕

[@meehattan]

one meal at a time ❤

[@CafeMaddy]

🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@Xilladan093]

​@@CafeMaddy Dumoed and pumped by chad n tyrone

[@domo4563]

​@@Xilladan093 broo chilll

[@mekibe103]

@@domo4563 he made over 10 comments saying this. It shows he is bitter

[@msunje9862]

@@Xilladan093 I guess moids are not unaliving themselves fast enough. Studies show y’all isolation rates are growing 💕

[@CafeMaddy]

thank you. all your words are so kind, loving, and powerful. I'll come here to remind myself of how much love I am surrounded with when I can't see it. See you in the next video, feeling a little bit better each day :)

[@j.8478]

you're totally allowed to feel the emotions you feel and i'm so glad you were able to acknowledge those feelings of sadness and loss instead of glazing over the fact. i admire you being gentle with yourself through this process and sharing this particularly vulnerable moment with all of us. much love and healing to you maddy.

[@nicolefancy69]

Well said! ❤

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you so much jae :)

[@amithize]

you are so brave for revealing your emotions to us. break ups are losing a piece of yourself, but you learn to love yourself. you don't bottle up your emotions until the explode; instead, you let them flow and even encourage your emotions to be free. i look up to you for that since i need to get to a habit of doing that myself. you have helped me appreciate my korean heritage. i always used to be so ashamed of it, but your little shorts exploring korean food helped that part of me heal. words can not say how much i appreciate you! you always bring such a warm welcome to my screen. things will get better, and when they do, the people you love and we will be there. lots of love, your fans 💗💗💗

[@CafeMaddy]

😭😭crying more from your comment lol thank you so much. I really appreciate your words, and I’ll remember this as I focus more on content to keep busy :)

[@cosminahogea]

Maddy, you are a sweet and kind soul! Unfortunately pain and suffering are part of the process of life and it never gets easy. I’m 42 this year and after 17 years of marriage I can honestly say that being in a relationship is the hardest and most complicated thing I have ever done . Pain comes from breakup but pain also comes in a relationship as well . Rumi ( a favourite poet of mine) said something like this: if you can’t take the rubs than how are you going to take the diamond out of you( smth like that), you get it. Feel the pain and don’t bury it because if you don’t process it now, it will come back in another form. Hope it won’t last that long. Love from London

[@whichonespink7]

Maddy, I couldn’t have seen this at a better time. I am going through the same thing, and it helped so much to hear you explain how each day felt, and how you got through. I also feel a void and it’s been hard to see the way through. I’ve been desperate to not feel so alone in my experience, even though I know so many people have and will feel this. But you captured the raw part of this so well. Cooking is also healing for me and so one of the first things I did was buy a ton of exciting new ingredients to use. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your vulnerability. I will probably save this to watch again later ❤

[@CafeMaddy]

I felt the tingle of excitement hearing about you getting ingredients 🥰 thank you Patty. We will be OK. But until then, lets take it one day (or half a day) at a time💜

[@karamiaone]

Thank for your vulnerability. Sending hugs and prayers to work through this grief. ❤

[@maureencarlos3223]

Dear Maddy, You're a brave soul. Thank you for this. I lost a friend almost two years ago. We've known each other since grade school. Our friendship would've remained if not during the pandemic. We began to really like each other and want to be together. We never become a couple. As a form of therapy for myself, I did 5 min. Voice recording about him/me almost daily. We used to talk so many times during the day. Me too, I felt the void. I cried and missed him for awhile. But now, we both moved on. We are not friends. That's okay. I kept my audio files with me 😊

[@solsololo]

You are so precious and the way you’ve met this experience shows a lot of growth and how wise and kind your soul is. Sounds like you have some really wonderful friends and just as importantly know how to be a friend to yourself, even when it’s the hardest.

[@criticalcrash]

Sending you love from 🇦🇺! Breakups are so frickin hard and painful, but in due time, you will be able to look back on it with such great insight, learnings, and gratitude. The benefit of this void you’re feeling now, is that you’re making space for new and better things and people. Sounds like you’re processing this in a healthy way. Keep going! You will be okay Maddy. 🧡

[@Jamjosh]

Thank you for always sharing your experiences and yourself with us. I think you're very right, there is no timeline for things like these, but I think you showed that everyone has good days, bad days, progress, and stumbles. Even knowing it will be okay eventually, doesn't mean its less important to let yourself not be okay now.

[@3EternalOptimists]

This was such a healthy response! It was really refreshing to watch! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with us. ❤

[@sabphu]

Thank you so much for this video. I found you when I was going through a break from your quitting work video and how you were able to openly share your processing of emotions really really helped me feel less alone when I was a shell of a human hiding in a self-made hole. It’s scary that events like this is just a part of living life and I truly appreciate your perspective and insights. Love your part of the internet warming my soul.

[@thepreciousstar]

This is the most soothing,comforting and relatable content I have seen in recent times. Love and strength to you Maddy. Your voice is magical and it heals us💜😊

[@marcochan6575]

im proud of you for all the days you've gone through it's hard, and if it helps, your videos have been small doses of joy for me. i hope you get through this and continue to be you!

[@SincerelyNita]

hey Maddie. Your vulnerability and feelings are totally valid. Friends and family are amazing to have by your side and to cry in front of. The waves of sadness are hard but each day makes you stronger. Feel them. This journey will be hard but you will get through it beautiful. You’re amazing. You will become a stronger you in the long run. I got out a 6 year relationship and I felt like I lost my best friend. It’s been 7 months later and I’m a much better person overall. Thank you for sharing this and being so real. Your feelings and honesty are so relatable.

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you Nita. It feels like someone from the future is assuring me everything will be okay :)

[@m0_oohsays]

Hi Maddy, I want to acknowledge your bravery and courage for sharing something so personal and being vulnerable. Ever since the lose of my dad I been in so much pain as you mentioned pain comes in waves. Some days I am okay others I cry myself to sleep. I heard it say that we wear our pain and that it takes residence inside of us without asking for permission. It will be with us. We will not be the same after, but it’s in the little moments (a sunrise, cooking, reading a book or breathing fresh air) that we will find comfort and learn to smile again. Love you Maddy. You’re such an amazing person. Cheering for you and know that you are not alone.

[@oliviarule5679]

Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably with us. I am so glad that you have a solid support system and know what helps you deal with your grief, there is nothing worse that falling into that pit of sadness alone

[@nikitadcruz1267]

And this is why you are SO LOVED Maddy!!! You're a precious soul. Sending you lots of love and comfort ❤

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you so much!!

[@jeffkling4740]

One of the things I love most about you channel is you honestly and openness about yourself. Much love too ya. Best thing about the loss you’re feeling is you find out who really cares about you, and the point you realize that person was not for you. Your amazing! No doubt!

[@kenyadavenport5822]

there's something about cooking that's just so healing. glad you're feeling better

[@spamandkimchi]

The void feeling hit hard. ☹️ A break up is also losing a best friend. Thank you for sharing your break up journey, even though you didn’t have to. Sounds like you have great friends to be your support system. You’ll get through this! ❤

[@AbigailSmith]

you are amazing, maddy! I am so encouraged by you and hopeful for all the things to come 💜

[@maryyu4010]

So sorry you are going through this painful breakup 😢 sounds like you are doing a lot of good things to help you process and get through this valley ❤ in the meantime you’re still giving us so much food-spiration!! That bacon avo grilled cheese though - whoa, that’s next on my list of things to make!

[@limedaiquiri]

Oh Maddy, thank you so much for this. I’ve been feeling so down on myself lately, personalizing my recent breakup as proof that I’m the problem. To see you going through a breakup too I thought to myself how ludicrous it would be if you were blaming yourself. And how I would automatically try to comfort you and rush to your defense. Thank you Maddy for being so vulnerable and sharing. Hurting is proof of how deeply we loved. It’s a beautiful pain. Here’s to us single badass gals, beautiful pain and all!

[@Abigail---]

Thanks for sharing it helped me. You got this, love you ❤

[@arcxty]

Thank you for being vulnerable with us, hearing about the ups and downs of other people's lives makes me more aware of the fact that we all are human, and that we have a lot more in common and capacity for connection than we sometimes think. Take your time to heal, and take care of yourself!

[@Saga901]

This vlog was so raw and straightforward in a way, without being dramatic 🥺 And though I'm already in a really good place, happiest with my current (and hopefully last) relationship & person, you still made me cry while eating 😆 You're such a bravegirl and I agree with all that you said in this video. I hope you heal peacefully and progressively, Maddy. Looking forward to the gim pasta sauce recipe in here too! ❤

[@NetteSproule85]

I felt so much in this video. Sadness, strength, courage. Bless you for sharing such raw emotions 💕

[@amykeith2580]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Coping with pain is such a hard thing to do. But the way you handled it was beautiful. Thank you for being an example to me and many others. I hope you get feeling better soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers. 🙏💕

[@brookesmith8223]

You have some good friends, Maddy. I’m betting that you are just as great of a friend to others. I’m so sorry about your break-up but I know you’ll find yourself on the other side of this in time. Sending lots of love and encouragement to you ❤

[@danihafr]

You are very classy to keep the details of what happened to yourself. This video was lovely to hear about your emotional journey and what helped you get through the worst of it. You have some special friends.

[@WhaleMilkTea]

Thank you for sharing this. I went through this two years ago and watching you go through the exact same things I did just makes me know that you will be okay. It's a process but I believe in you! Take care !

[@captainbao]

Aw Maddy! I just started following your videos in the last month or so and I wish I could give you a great big hug!!! ❤

[@stevenguan9540]

I hope you feel better Maddy I know how it feels to go through a break up, take some time and heal and im happy that you showed us your emotions on video!

[@oliviaaasilva]

thank you for always being so real. it’s so refreshing. sending love ✨

[@cindyfern]

Maddy the story about your coworker's mom and feeling sad for your coworker.... I totally resonated with that. Just hearing all my friends telling me about their current dilemma strangely feel better in a way that I know we're all dealing with it. It made me feel like my problems weren't as life-threatening as theirs, not that I tried to downplay my situation, I just needed reality check.

[@Alicia-qd9dq]

Thank you for sharing with us what you are comfortable with, and giving us a glimpse of what you go through when you’re not in front of the camera. I hope you feel even better soon ❤

[@milktea2755]

Maddy, thank you so much for sharing this with us. I love your content, the food, the stories, and how genuine everything is. I wish I could support you more, but I hope you are doing better now! Much love ♥

[@afterglowisle]

The process of mourning a person, whether you've known them your whole life or not, is still a journey full of many emotions. I am glad you're getting to process and express your emotions by allowing yourself to cry when you feel it. I will be praying that you soon start to heal and feel better. Thank you for sharing with us such a vulnerable part of yourself ❤

[@VerenaSatriani]

You know Maddy, the emotions you revealed help so many people who are going through difficult times not only in heart breaks. And when you said at the end that you'll be okay, that's exactly right. Although we all heal differently and it may take different amount of time but at the end of the day, there are always people who loves us and are there for us and yes we will be okay. Love you, Maddy.

[@camsiedoodledoo]

I just saw your vid just when I was really feeling down from both career & personal problems. Thank you for validating the fact that sometimes, it really is okay not to be okay & let ourselves feel the pain. Rooting for you, Maddy! 💜

[@louloumore9436]

thank you so much! I am currently going through the different stages of a breakup as well and this video really helped me to breathe through, realise it’s okay to cry and grief and remind me of the things i can do to strak joy inside me again. ❤

[@eresthon]

And a big hug to you ❤ I hope you are healing well and caring about yourself as much as you can

[@isabelle571]

I am going through the same thing except it wasn’t as nice of an ending for me. Four years, living together, a dog, family goals, engaged etc. It tears you apart. It’s been a month, I’m still sad and feel like a sink hole sucked up half of my life. With time we will heal, but for now let’s cry together and mourn and then work towards our own self love and happiness. We will get through this. I appreciate your openness and how much amazing advice you’ve given. I wish you the best!

[@Abigail---]

You got this! Love you ❤

[@KD-eq4xi]

Much Love Maddy! Praying for your healing and that your soul will smile again❤❤❤

[@osis254318686]

I agree with many people that you’re such a kind soul. Thank you for sharing.

[@Seimeika]

I went through a break up a month ago and seeing Maddy say exactly what I felt I felt peace. I hope the best for you

[@rachelayala6724]

I'm sorry Maddy. I really hope you'll feel better as time passes. And that you'll be happy in the future. Btw, that spaghetti recipe looks amazing!

[@ayeshamaree1357]

sending love from australia, i'm a new subscriber and your voice is so calming and welcoming. breakups are never easy and i've had my fair share, and your pain is your pain. however it is you feel whatever time or day, regardless of whatever is happening around you and whoever in your close circle it is happening to, doesn't make your pain any less or more important. i've experienced death and break ups and mourning the loss of someone who is still alive is just as painful as those departed and i don't hesitate with saying that whether or not others will agree. you're doing the best you can and that's all that matters. always put yourself first and allow yourself to have bad days just as much as good days to heal and rest ❤

[@tinka_minina]

oh God I was crying with you at the first minutes of this video so much. it’s like I was looking at you and I saw me at the same time. and I felt your pain at every level. thank you for doing this video. it was something I really needed to watch. thank you! I wish you all the best. stay strong, you’re very powerful ❤️

[@UltimateDorito]

It will get easier but I know it doesn't feel okay right now. Try to be patient with the process. I'm glad you're talking about it and I hope things start to look brighter soon. 💝

[@Jiwalka]

This video feels like a friend calling. It felt comforting to be there for you and listen although you don't talk to me personally. I am amazed at how you handle your emotions. Even at your lowest you are a very inspirational person. Your light warms my heart. If someone is going to be okay it is definitely you, Maddy. ♥

[@bloated_noodles452]

This is so comforting to see. I needed this. Love you so much girlie. I hope you are well and staying hydrated. It’ll pass, I promise. Be strong Unnie! 🥰🙋🏻‍♀️❤️

[@nadiayahya93]

thank you for this video ❤️ im not facing a breakup phase, but it's another phase that requires me to stay rational or else, i might lose myself again, and those words at the end of the video cheered me up a lil. thank you for sharing your feelings to us, hope things will be better for you (and me!^^)

[@churanxu2976]

something abt this feels like such an emotional journey and relief. thank you for sharing this.

[@xoxogossipgirl549]

More videos please 😭 I’m so excited for your new chapter. You got this. I’m in a KZbin rut and this was so nice to sit and watch. Not a lot of people making content on here. Good luck❤️

[@CafeMaddy]

thank you :)

[@ngocthele2115]

Dearest Maddy, you have helped me in so many ways watching how you shared your heartbreak and struggles. I feel like someone out there can understand and relate to when I am at my lowest. They say time heals all wounds, but in the process of being resilient, it seems like eternity.

[@butterflylofu]

Your “Alexa lights on” just turned my lights on 😂😂😂😂 and heartache makes us stronger and is really an opportunity to self love, self reflect and start a new chapter of learning.

[@justinlam3467]

Hi Maddy ❤️ I know this may be just another comment of the bunch but I hope you are feeling better. I am there right with you and felt the feelings of breakups, they stink. I loved seeing your channel grow and you grow as a person too! ❤️ Take as much time as you need, as avid listeners and viewers we will always be there for you, going thru old videos and learning new recipes! You go girl!! ❤️❤️

[@elchancho7959]

Thanks for sharing, Maddy! I went through a breakup at the end of 2021 and the pain still manifests itself. And whenever it does, sadness comes. It's healthy to be sad, I loved that you let yourself be sad. And that you took care of yourself! Thanks for making stuff for us despite how you were feeling.

[@clip012]

Same. Still crying after 2 years. Refuse to go out meet someone new cuz I feel like I am too broken for a new relationship. So many years, so much effort poured all go to waste.

[@Aikonekoxoxo]

I hope you take care of yourself maddy and heal yourself over time. Breakups are hard and so painful. We are with u

[@alicat2501]

You are probably one of the most beautiful humans I have ever seen when I first came across your videos I was just in awe of how pure your voice and demeanor were/are and how stunningly gorgeous you were breakups are never easy and always take so long to process/feel normal my heart goes out to you!

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you so much 😭

[@tatacolica]

I’m truly sorry. 100% understand what you are going through. Take your time and let all out. It’s okay to be sad, mad, anxious. Better days will come. Be safe 💜

[@erikak.7873]

Thank you for sharing this moment, it must have been so hard for you to talk about your feelings 😘

[@christineeeykim]

Hi Maddy❤ I recently went through a breakup too and it ended similarly to yours. I’m sorry you are going through this..I had a very difficult time and cried a lot too. I hope the best for you! ❤ You are doing amazing and heal at your own pace and not what you think you should feel sending you lots of love ❤️ ❤

[@nicholemalloy4694]

I’m glad you had people to reach out too. ❤

[@almizaabid2718]

Im so so proud of you for being vulnerable and so so raw with your emotions. More power and love to you

[@Biaaancaaa]

One of the most beautiful examples of a supported breakup healing journey. Thanks so much for sharing and for being an example to many. Sending love

[@dannilizbeth324]

I really appreciate the vulnerability you show in sharing this. You're entitled to each of your emotions. I admire you being able to share this and motivate yourself to create content. Much love to you, I hope brighter days are ahead

[@sarahyoo5708]

Sorry you had go through a breakup, Maddy. You’re a beautiful soul and hope you never forget the love you give and receive from others. Continue to love yourself ❤

[@sunnimooni]

Sending you additional love, virtual hugs and more! I'm glad you have friends that are truly there for you and to have people in your life that care about you in general, breakups will hurt no matter how it ended but I wish you nothing but good health, happiness, and good fortune overall. Thank you for sharing parts of your life with us even when you don't have too.

[@chinesecabbagefarmer]

Good luck getting it all back together, you've got this. Your voice is so beautiful.

[@TheMyaJae]

Thank you for sharing your process Maddy. And can’t wait for that recipe! 💜

[@ReflectionsofChristianMadman]

I’m sorry, Maddy! I hope you’re well and please know we all love you so much. Stay awesome!

[@PAULLAFR35H]

I’m glad you posted this video.. I’m going through a similar situation and this helped me feel a lot. Thank you.

[@qt_pi6504]

This is going to be my forever comfort video. Thankyou ❤️ this really brought in a lot of help for many!

[@ImWorkin]

You’re so strong Maddy..please don’t give up and know you are loved and that you will find inner peace and love again, take it day by day and feel the emotions you need to feel..❤

[@BJillian]

This is so vulnerable and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your expression of hard feelings. Cooking helps me too, this is very inspiring. I'm here for you❤💜🩵

[@kalsangdrolma]

So good to know what wonderful friends you have and how emotional intelligent you are

[@vanorav]

thank you for sharing this difficult time with us and also for holding onto your boundaries with privacy - praying for this time of change and growth 🌸☀️🤍

[@Papacha]

I'm so sorry that happened. But you have some amazing friends. I wish you the best 💜

[@victorial377]

Hi maddy. You are one of the sunshines of my life. Glad you are feeding yourself well. You will get thru this maddy!

[@victorial377]

Ps cant wait for the pasta recipe! Is that with tofu???

[@y0_0nji]

thank you for being so vulnerable with us !

[@kimhyunjoonglova]

Thanks for sharing 🤍 this was so calming and nice to watch. Glad we were part of your healing process. 🧸

[@domokun808]

Sorry to hear about what happened. Sending you good vibes and hope everything goes with you in the future!

[@AYESHAARstarviews]

We know you’re strong and you can get through this Maddie. We’re with you always !! Stay strong girl…. There is always light at the end of the tunnel ❤

[@bea5043]

You are so good with taking care of yourself during this hard time. I am going through the same thing (it's been almost two months now) and I am still petrified and scared by the waves of sadness. Keep taking care of yourself and merci du fond du cœur pour cette superbe vidéo. Cheers from France

[@kwok]

SUCH. A. GOOD. VLOG. it's my first one that i've watched from you, and i am so so inspired right now!!!

[@inex3695]

Hi Maddy, I, too, am getting over a break-up that happened around the time that yours did. It was with my first love and it ended amicably like yours. The first few days to the following week were probably the most painful days of my life. It was so hard for me to come to terms with it all, and I especially couldn't bear talking about it with anyone. I think I was most vulnerable on day 2, when my roommate came to see me. I couldn't hold it together and I let it all out into my pillow, yet in front of her. I don't think I've ever been so vulnerable in my entire life. Hearing you be so open and vulnerable to your friends and with us is very commendable. Thank you for sharing this video with us- I feel so understood, and in a way I didn't know I needed. Here's to moving forward and finding our balance.

[@adrianiii3125]

Your feelings are valid! A day at a time, sending warmest hugs strong and gorgeous one! Honestly, while watching this, somehow felt all the emotions from the breakup from last year, gushing out. Realized have been in denial and shrugged away the pain to look okay and push forward. With this, helped me acknowledge and embrace the feelings kept away for so long... Finally letting the healing process fully take place.. So thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and how you allowed all the emotions and pain that came along with the breakup... Staying strong!

[@jemenfous9343]

So well said ❤

[@missrosita9]

Just wanted to say, thank you for sharing this. It’s a good reminder to care for ourselves and also allow all the feelings. I’m someone who can too easily close off so I will remember this for myself too. ❤

[@simonotori1948]

I'm glad you get to vent out your emotions verbally on this subject especially since the feeling can be suffocating and at times, excruciatingly painful on certain days. But you're strong, and I know you and I can get through this. The thing I like about taking a video of yourself and rambling whatever comes to your mouth is that you get to make realizations for yourself and come up with your own conclusions rather than having someone give you an advice that doesn't really understand your situation to it's fullest extent than how you do. I hope you heal❤ You can do this❤😊

[@marikwondo]

Your friends sound like absolute sweethearts💕

[@beyondthebop]

This is the first video from you I saw and I want to tell you that, although I don't know you, I'm so proud of you! Feeling everything is way healthier than showing it aside. I wish you all the best 💛

[@leilani2258]

Breakups are like grieving the future of what could have been. It's like this deep deep pain in your core, followed by the aching of emptiness left from that person who is no longer there. But please please, let me tell you that with time the pain will lessen. One day at a time, take it easy on yourself❤

[@42escape]

I'm having a slightly rough time at the moment but this video was super comforting 💕 I know we'll both be feeling better soon

[@isabellafrancisco8626]

I love this. I absolutely love this, people being truly honest to the world is so refreshing. You're brave for being truthful and emotional but this is so relatable and something that a lot of people should normalize. Thanks for sharing this, I think I'll watch this in the future when I go through my first breakup :)

[@applestar121]

The timing is the same as the breakup I went through. I was so sad for so so long and our breakup ended similarly like yours. I’ve been better now but did relapse a bit after seeing he’s in a new relationship again after he had told me he wanted to focus on being single and self improvement for a long time. The feelings and emotions ebb and flow, but we can recover through the time spent with friends and family, journaling and hobbies to help keep us active, and remembering to continue empathizing as you’ve also mentioned. It has helped so much to keep an open perspective. Thanks so much for choosing to post this and for being a breakup e-friend☺️ hope one day to see you around in ny to say thank you!❤

[@johnmitchell7834]

I love your openness and your honesty you will be fine, you did a great job with this video I hope you continue to tell us about your emotional journey and how you are feeling.