[cafemaddy podcast] ep.7 I Quit My Dentist Job

The usual Cafe Maddy Podcast is paused this week because maddy went through a major life crisis. Here's the tea.
Thank you everyone for being so kind and encouraging. I wanted to tell this story for so long, and glad to be able to share with you. One day we'll look back at this video and laugh, right?
xx
maddy
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[@oxfordbambooshootify]

I quit my job as a doctor too recently. I was severely burnt out and felt I was at the breaking point of my mental and emotional health so I made the same decision as you did. The day I submitted my resignation it rained a storm and I rode home in the rain crying underneath my helmet and it felt as if the skies cried with me

[@AB-uv7ne]

i'm having the same thoughts right now. what do you plan to do next?

[@UnitaryInstinct]

following this thread

[@ScorpioMystik07]

Hey guys doctor here too, same boat! Burned out since Covid. What do you plan to do next? Am sick of explaining to others too but my mental and physical health comes first.

[@ThAshleable]

Following

[@doctoravi]

@@ScorpioMystik07 I started leaning into a passion of mine on the side. Created an online course/business and looking to grow that! It lights me up whenever I am working on it - looking to that as a sign!

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you guys always!! for being so kind and supportive 😭💜 i was in this limbo for the longest time, hesitating and stalling. But every day of it was so necessary for me to reach a point of making a decision. So if you are in the thick of it, I assure you you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and the hard times will bring u to a better place :)

[@judylee3031]

Good for you. Being first gen Korean is hard but you really have to do what makes you happy. So glad you made the right choice! Be happy Maddy! ❤️🙏

[@caelynhanna6124]

You go, Maddy! You thought about it, prayed about it, and listened to God's gentle whisper. You made a brave choice! 💜 As a fellow Korean and believer, I'll be praying for you as you begin this new chapter in your life. 😊

[@ing0589]

Do what you enjoy friend. You are a kind and very intelligent person. You will find that the online world is scary but once you find that niche, you’re right about how you think about it, it’s ok to fail. You can continue to grow. I’m working on doing what you’re doing. From the outside, I’m very excited and happy for you. Congratulations!!🎊🎈🎉

[@zuko61245]

Ive been feeling the same way too! i didnt know there were others feeling the way i did

[@jeong-minhwang5909]

I came across this video randomly but I am so glad I did. I am a Junior in college but what you said in the video spoke to my SOUL. I grew up in almost the same environment as you described in the video: Korean, conservative, first generation immigrant. My parents idealized stability...and I have learned to do the same. But slowly I was beginning to realize I was never really happy. And things I loved I was discouraged to pursue as a career. Interests remained as hobbies! I can't believe another person articulated exactly how I grew up and felt. Honestly, I feel less crazy. I thought I was being ridiculous. But this video made me realize pursuing something out of norms in my parents eyes IS NOT RIDICULOUS OR CRAZY. I told to this myself half heartedly once... but hearing from you wow dam it just got it to 98%. I think God said I needed to watch you Unnie. Thank you so much. God bless you.

[@jobinaclody2880]

I can totally understand this. Not a Korean but a Indian we have the same expectation from our parents and it’s so stressful to live up to their and society’s expectations.

[@electrictroy2010]

I FELT THE SAME but I didn’t quit my job. I just cut my hours to 4 days a week. That made life much happier… suddenly I had Friday free to have fun .

[@la381]

​@@electrictroy2010 don't compete for attention by comparing yourself to someone else. That's toxic.

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

@@la381 no I was thinking the same, one could work part time

[@mylene_b]

same, it's the immigrant mentality

[@alyaayob5877]

Thank you for this, Maddy. I quit my job 6 months ago and still haven't got another job. I expected it, I quit in the middle of a pandemic where everyone got laid off. I know it is the best decision because I started to not be able to sleep at night thinking about work, crying on my way to and from work, I was miserable. But again I am struggling financially, watching other people very-put-together life on social medias doesn't help either. Here's a reminder to everyone and also myself that putting you and your mental health first is the right thing to do, you can't buy health with money. Wish me luck in getting a really good job soon :)

[@Nina21_]

You were so brave making a decision for your own good , and i'm sure you'll get plenty of opportunities where you get to live the life you want and actually be happy ! Sending you all my best wishes❤️🍀🍀

[@gellichan09]

It's been months since you commented this, but I hope you were able to find a job that you like and that you're in a better place❤❤

[@alyaayob5877]

@@gellichan09 Thank you for the kind words 💕 I actually got a job but quit after a month because I couldn't take it. That made me realised it's not just the job, it's me. I need help. So I went to a Dr got diagnosed with anxiety :> I am focusing on my master's and trying to get better so all good! Wishing you all good things you wish for me plus a million more 🌟

[@jamie_leigh]

@Alya Ayob I hope u get better. I struggle with my mental health too and I know it's not easy. U got this, everything will work out for ur good. Sending u lots of love.

[@ysnp6956]

Mental health is important. If the job had you crying on the way to and from there, it's the right decision to quit. Very-put-together life people post on social media is hard to look at when you're struggling but all those people have their own battles to fight or have doubts too. I stopped paying attention to what people post on social media because I learned that sometimes people only post things they want others to see and keep the rest out of public sites. I hope you are doing well.

[@oluwaninsola4798]

I am a dentist , an NHS dentist I am very very miserable I am quite depressed at the moment I cannot tell you how bad my experience has been, it’s the grace of God that I have survived this far I am definitely going to do something about it

[@idc9087]

How are you doing now? I hope you’re doing better lately

[@OmfgOakt]

💪

[@marrr2563]

Good luck and you can definitely do it 💪💪💪

[@EmilyLe2909]

Hey! We’re all rooting for you ❤

[@MissElaine121]

why did you become a dentist?

[@Doobydobap]

i love every second of this episode-- thank you for sharing Maddy

[@viviindriyani5485]

Hello dooby😍

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank u tina ilysm 💜💜

[@caliehuynh2206]

My favorite KZbinrs ❤️ dooby & maddy

[@denilune3503]

I know I’m so late but I just wanted to say that both of you guys are my inspiration.✨🙏🏻🤍

[@thecookingshorts]

oh dooby is here too haha

[@fulasadetaylor262]

As a final year dental student that's been fighting this degree through blood and so much tears for the past 7 years, not having the passion my colleagues do and has always feared not enjoying Dentistry after graduation, this hits SO close to home. I absolutely LOVE cooking, exploring and experiencing new things, it's the only things that really make me happy so by the end of this video I was in literal tears😭. I'm SO HAPPY for you🎉🥳!! ThisDentistry life is tough and it takes so much courage to do what you did but you did it anyway. You made that leap for the sake of your own happiness and I admire that so much. A few weeks from final DDS and your video gave me so much hope and comfort that even if I end up hating Dentistry I CAN do something else that makes me happy too. Thank you so much for sharing your experience😭❤

[@electrictroy2010]

I FELT THE SAME but I didn’t quit my job. I just cut my hours to 4 days a week. That made life much happier… suddenly I had Friday free to have fun .

[@valerie5855]

The part where you said “The moment I handed my two week notice I felt like I would never be the same person again” was exactly how I felt when I quit my 9-5 to become a freelancer. You’ll be okay Maddy ☺️

[@zen_mindset1]

Because freedom is true happiness!!

[@Relativetoyou]

Hey Maddy, I completely relate to you. I’m a dentist and Asian. Ever since COVID I have been burning out just like you and the toxicity of dentistry overall. The stability of dentistry or honestly any job traps you. I’m so glad you found a passion that generate an income. I would love to do something I’m passionate but I still looking for my passion. This video honestly inspires me to look for something else! Thank you!

[@K.etanak]

Me too.I really can relate that. As an asian person,I have been influenced by social's expectations,and now I am a 3-year student majoring in electrical engineering.I always wanted to be an artist tho.

[@lullalalla8891]

I am about to become a dentist. Could you please warn me on what type of toxicity you girls are talking about? Just to be prepared ahahah

[@denrimi]

@@lullalalla8891 ayy same here hahaha. Getting FONMO now. Fear Of Not Missing Out

[@doctoravi]

I'm with you Clara! Start by creating some SPACE and TIME to find your passion. It will become very clear and when it does - lean into it and lean in HARD!

[@emilyau8023]

Rather have stability than not having enough in retirement and have to work as an elder.

[@famousamos]

Deep down, you gotta go with your passion. Being a free spirit creator, going into a 9 to 5 is life draining. I know because I left my six figure (not to brag) corporate career to do KZbin full time. Koreans do love stability but that's a part of the old generation's mindset. Good to hear your story because some nights I question if I made the right decision. But ultimately, happiness matters more than RSUs, 401k, etc.

[@cuttugirl7629]

I finished medical school in 2020. I’m so burnt out right now. As a junior, fy1/FY2 doctor my work timings are horrible. I’m on call (24-30h shifts) once during the weekdays, and on most weekends. I have no time for myself or my family. The atmosphere at the hospital is so toxic, i feel like do we as doctors all hate each other? The consultants hate the registrars and the regs hate the interns, it’s exhausting. And I really really want to quit, but I have no other life skills, and I feel so so stuck. So proud of you for being able to quit and move on. It’s a daunting and scaring thought, and to work on it requires a lot of courage.

[@soulfulvibesandmusic2423]

Do think doctor (the career) is overhyped especially by Asian parents/society in general. It is a very hard and stressful path I feel like. I'm a pre med and its seems people don't understand how hard being a doctor is and how it isn't a quick rich career? Also so proud of you for handling that much of work it is a lot!!

[@spartalane13]

Hi there. I understand exactly what you are going through. I went through the same. My foundation years were pure hell! Overworked, long hours, toxic environment. At one point I felt if I don’t quit I will go into severe depression. I suggest you take a year out after F2. Rest, refresh, recharge and re-think. That what’s I did and that was a life saver! (ended up taking two years…so take as much time as you need until you are mentally, physically prepared to go back) Remember that our skills are transferrable, so if you decide you want to leave, there are loads of non-medical job options. Just know that things do get better and there are specialties that don’t do weekends/long hours, with great work environment. I ended up choosing one of those. I am now a consultant and I love my job. Put your mental health first, do your research and most importantly, do what makes you happy. You will be fine. All the best Xx

[@ogechiagada6213]

@@spartalane13 thanks for sharing. Planning on attending medical school. What specialty are you in?

[@spartalane13]

@@ogechiagada6213 Histopathology. All the best with medical school.

[@verybarebones]

Id hate everyone if i had 24h shifts as well. It'd be worker abuse anywhere else, i don't understand why it's a thing in medicine

[@Forest14449]

I’m a pharmacist and an immigrant as well. I can relate so much to how you felt. My burn out was extreme and I quit after working for 8 years, just as I was pregnant with my second baby. I’m really living life now as a stay at home mom. I honestly couldn’t be happier. Cheers to us !

[@doctoravi]

"this is not living" This was an incredible episode and story. I am on my path to doing the same. It is inspiring to see others lean into their passion and not look back! So happy for you Maddy!

[@hihellothere94]

Quit my job as a dentist too! Honestly, it was the happiest moment in my life! Moved to to the states and now looking for a new perspective.

[@markqq4487]

And what job did u choose after? 🥰

[@ptdtruong]

I am a dentist myself and I just regret it. I’m slowly making my mind to quit a place because I feel unhappy. Thanks for making this video your story is so relatable and the tone was so calming that it made me realize that it’s ok to quit. Cheers to being happy

[@la381]

I read somewhere that dentists were one of the most miserable.

[@maddiemcshinee]

The section at 9 mins in made me cry. When you started talking to “Maddy” it felt like you were talking to me (Maddie), as I’m about to embark on a journey myself. We got this Mad!

[@TeenyThainy]

I’m a dentist too and I really admire you for taking this leap of faith. The great thing about our job is we always can go back to it. Congratulations for following your passion!

[@verybarebones]

I feel you, I've quit my career as a lawyer after a single year because the burnout was crazy. Society wastes so much talent by making jobs that require so much specialization simply toxic to work in. So much unpaid overtime just to keep your employment.

[@emkojima]

Maddy, I’m so proud of you! I feel like I can relate to you in a lot of ways - I’m a D1 in dental school and I come from an Asian household where there has definitely been pressure to find stability. I’m so happy that you had the courage to step out of your comfort zone and follow your heart, even if there are unknowns and it’s scary. You are going to be amazing! Thank you for being such a wonderful role model!

[@MrOkShin]

Was ready to listen to this podcast with my morning coffee, going through emails and ended up dropping everything to watch this. What a beautifully emotional video. Wasn't ready to be moved like this... Congratulations on such a big step, wishing you nothing but the best on your "new" journey!

[@bailee7325]

Wow RDH here. Literal tears falling down my face because this is how I feel 100%. So proud of you for putting yourself first and doing what makes you happy! This gave me a lot of encouragement.

[@anahifuentes6403]

Same, I am not content with my dental hygiene job but I dont want to disappoint my family, myself

[@amandaparkerdesign5488]

When I was 28 I did the same!! Quit my interior design job and went back to school for glass 😂 it was so necessary and amazing. Sometimes a reset is needed!!

[@musamatqadri8913]

"I have to be my own supporter and influence my own head even if things go wrong." For people who grow up in a families where their life decisions are taken and influenced by their parents, this is a big step . This must be so liberating and at the same time,so empowering. I wish you happiness and peace 🤍

[@theGodfella]

I appreciate you voicing this out and recording this video. I hope that you are still soaring high even through the valley lows. I feel this way, and i cant even begin to explain. It seems I cant afford to leave my job due to a divorce with children. My children need my financial stability and ultimately a healthy father, but i need to change jobs and this is definately a breath of fresh air. God bless you.

[@jamalwearsprada]

Hi Maddy! I’m a dental student, currently in my clinical year. Tbh, I’m starting to feel burnt out too, and although I have yet to be working like you, I understand how you feel. Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@QuestionMarque]

Hi Maddy, as a second gen Asian immigrant this feels so so familiar. The pressure of having to choose a stable job because our parents didn’t have that luxury was so debilitating. I worked so hard to become a dentist and now that I’m there, I don’t know if was all worth it? Still gathering all my thoughts about it, but I really appreciate this video! I admire your courage and wish you the absolute best!

[@John-sw9yd]

Hey, kind of the same situation here but not finished yet; may I ask how you feel about it now after 6 months?

[@runantelope4239]

I love this ! , I'm not Asian , but Nigerian but academically I see many similarities in our cultures , our stories are different , for me it was medicine, after spending 7 years in medical school I literally just failed my final exam of medical school and feel kind of lost because medicine was literally my whole personality - I'm now discovering all the things I enjoyed before medical school and honestly your videos are really comforting !

[@zainaba.1788]

I love your honesty. I hope everything is going well for you a year later 😊

[@hansiwijayasinghe26]

Thank you for this Maddy. As someone who's in their early 30s that quit their job this year (in Jan actually), this is something I also needed to hear. Thank you and I hope we both survive this and get to keep on prioritising ourselves instead of being controlled by what the society and the world wants us to do. More power to us, I guess. Good luck 💖 cheers to being happy 😊

[@sylvanavfuentes]

I wanted to cry watching this video, seeing this from someone who understands the struggles of being an immigrant daughter, was especially comforting. Feeling the need to sacrifice my own life to give my own family the stability they never had or the luxuries they never had, has been a tremendous weight upon my shoulders. All I ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother. I don’t even know if the passion I have for medicine is my own at this point, or if I’ve been sort of dragged into this idea of becoming an independent woman who doesn’t need anyone. You are a wonderful inspiration, and I am so happy that God led you down this journey of reconnection with yourself. Sending you tremendous amounts of love and support, Maddy, God bless you. ❤

[@Kiyomi388]

not sure why im so teary-eyed watching this video -- maybe it's cuz we're all trying to be brave and figure things out for ourselves THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING MADDY ♥

[@autumngalindo8279]

this made me tear up so hard at the end. i think you’re beyond inspirational maddy, and you make me feel like i’m not too lost in the thick of being in your 20’s and navigating life. i’m only pushing 24, and i constantly feel unsure of how to make myself happy in the business/financial aspects of my life as someone from a working class family too, not of money or wealth of any kind. albeit not immigrants in this generation of my family, my parents also pushed stability because growing up, it was paycheck to paycheck to support us all and i know my parents just want better for me than that and i want to be able to give that back to them too. but it is so hard to feel so happy in a continually downward spiral of a work life, i understand that one wholeheartedly. i really love how kind & soothing your voice is too, it’s like a comforting hug or a summer’s sun warm embrace. you are destined to do great things, nahjin. ❤️

[@xxdluvsjiroxx]

I love this and all of your videos/podcasts. Somehow each video even though not 100% relatable, I can always find myself learning or having something good to take away from them. And I always feel inspired after watching and listening to your stories. I’m glad you’ve made a decision that has made you happier. It’s really an eye opener to pursue what makes you happy or leave what makes you unhappy. Thank you for sharing your stories with us! 💕💕💕

[@mogesedip1750]

"I have to be my own mom, I have to be my own dad, my own biggest supporter" 다른 나라 가서 생활 하는 동기로서 이 말이 가장 마음이 와닸습니다. 러시아에서 한국으로 와서 유학생활을 하고 있는데 Maddy님의 영상에 나온 이 마디가 아주 공감이 되더라고요. 혼자 다른 나라에서 어떤 생활을 하고 있는지 부모님조차 이야기 하는 게 어렵고 이야기하면 괸히 걱정도 시키고.. 감사합니다! 4년 학교 다니고 나서 결국에 유튜버 하고 싶어 하는 저에게 큰 용기도 된 영상입니다!! Maddy님도 힘내십쇼, 응원합니다

[@sugaudacity]

i randomly came across your channel and this is the first video I’ve seen of yours, but I just have to say I’m so proud and in awe of your strength. people always say things like “if you want something, go for it!” but it is extremely easier said than done. but you found that voice inside you and you listened, and that is truly admirable and inspiring. thank you for sharing your story and I wish you only the best on your bright and beautiful future 💛

[@The_lightning_count_]

I’m so proud of you!! It’s so hard to overcome our Asian family programming of “get and keep a real job.” You are strong, you are brave, you are brilliant. Keep going ☀️

[@chelseachen265]

This is truly truly amazing, to see how you had the courage to give up the stability, abandon the path that others have put you on, and start a new life! I’ve always loved your cooking videos, and I hope you have a lovely time doing what you love. Have a nice day Maddy :)

[@katguc6335]

The part where you’re encouraging yourself and having that one-on-one with God-- gosh that made me cry haha. It’s so real. I’ve felt in similar situations before. It’s an awakening honestly. Thank you for sharing your journey with us ❤️

[@whiteheartt]

Thank you for sharing this video! I could relate to every single second. When I quit my job I felt like I was the only one doing this, I felt like maybe I'm not strong enough, but it was killing my mental health, so one day, I forgot about stability, about what others might say, and I wrote my resignation letter. I felt free afterwards. Now trying to achieve my dream job, but even if I don't, I will try to find some other thing that I enjoy, because I know God is with me and even if I don't make it here, he will guide me through a better path

[@yanli3245]

As a fellow dentist I completely understand that dentistry is very stressful, so I'm so glad you have found your path and is doing the things you love!! I recently just left my job of 10 years, where I was not been treated fairly, and its true that stepping out my comfort zone was hard, I was so miserable but I was scared to leave the stability behind. I have finally made my move and now I feel so liberated, I'm chasing my dream.

[@kikithepupper6774]

I'm korean American too in NYC and in medschool right now... I love medicine don't get me wrong, but I am afraid how miserable I'd be once I actually graduate. And yknow, I know what you mean by how our culture drills the idea of stability stability stability, even if it means we have to kill our soul for it.. and to make different choices and trying to have different mentality from how we grew up is not easy.. But rest assured, like how you felt God was speaking to you, Maddy you are in good hands.. And you'd be OK. God brought you here this far.. And you deserve to be happy and choose the life you want for yourself. God bless Maddy. I'm genuinely happy for you..

[@haggied]

I’m an NHS dentist and decided last year to sell my dental practice. That was the first step for me to change things and already I am so much happier but I’m also considering a change of career. Dentistry is an extremely stressful profession and I don’t think I’ve been happy for years. You are inspirational as its a hard decision to make but I’m so pleased it worked out for you!

[@TheSaharSherz]

@haggied , I’m in Yr12 and I’m thinking about becoming a dentist, I want to do it because it’s a stable profession and it’s well paid in the private sector. I also don’t know what other profession I should choose. How hard is it to get a private job and what’s your experience with dentistry?

[@hanaandnutrition]

Sigh, so relatable… I’m a clinical dietitian and every day I contemplate if I should quit my job. I’m the first in my family to go to college and obtain a job in the medical/health field so my family is super proud but damn am I not happy. Burn out is so real, at first I thought it was laziness then I thought maybe depression??? But now I truly know that it is burn out because I no longer enjoy anything. Im seriously mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. I too have a passion for food and am seriously considering food photography. Best of luck with future endeavors Maddy. I wish to have your courage some day. ❤

[@AndrewZelenka]

I know this is an old video, but it came into my life just when I needed it! Thank you Maddie.❤

[@sarasdungeon9274]

Hi Maddy, I can totaly relate to your story. Growing up as an immigrant all I ever heard from my parents was them wanting me to have a good degree and a stable and high paying job like a doctor, a lawyer etc. Being a creative I chose dentistry because it seemed to be a more creative alternative to regular medicine, plus it pays well and we have better working hours. I graduated in 2018, but after a year and a half i finally sent my resignation letter in december of 2019, for the same reasons as you. I wanted to take some time off to figure out what to do with my life. And the day before I was supposed to move away to live in a bigger city to dance, Covid hit and it all got back-tracked. Right now I am a semester away from gjetting a new degree in a field that interest me and life feels so much better than it has in a very long time. I am so proud of you for chosing yourself and your happiness, and I wish you the best of luck and an amazing life 💪👏❤️

[@justsomeone5660]

Maddy I was so stressed and this video calmed me down. literally. this was like a warm hug. thank you ❤️

[@memoobaba]

damn I feel the same , especially the part where Asian parents push for a job/stability (which I do have) rather than what I really want but i definitely am feeling burnout… this video gives me the motivation to get started

[@gabrielle9335]

I graduated dental school in 2021. I already dream about decreasing days I work. I think I could be happy doing part time like you as being a dentist 5 days a week is absolutely killer on your body and mental health. It seams when I was choosing this career the only things people had to say about it were positive; that its a great career, you’ll make so much money and go on all of these vacations 😂 Reality is a stressful work environment, with often no PTO or benefits like you said, and back pain 😅

[@mailytran6008]

Dear Maddy, thanks for the video! This is my reality as well, working on my PhD, doing science comme doing foodie stuff, being a coach, listening to friends and repeat every day, alone in a foreign country, adjusting my hours to the little communication with time shift to my loved ones. But now that i got my degree, I definitely will not push myself too hard anymore with zero free time.I hope some day I can also be brave as you and not choose the path of stability but the path of happiness! You will do great Maddy, you are an inspiration!

[@2018momo]

I am a Korean dentist based in Australia and I can definitely relate to your story. It’s definitely a stressful and lonely career. Thanks for sharing and good luck!

[@potatoeheadvibez]

ah this made me tear up, God is so good! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us Maddy!

[@ScarlettMoon2]

I left the culinary industry for a few reasons, one being it was just not healthy both mentally and physically. Over the last few years I have made changes to my life, not really knowing what I am doing and trying to find my happiness as well. I chose to start more creative and freeing passions. I am working a job that is good, its stability that I can't let go of just yet but I have plans for the future that I hope work out so I can live a fulfilling, freeing, creative, passionate and still financially stable and security to be free to continue what I want to do. The thing I keep telling myself is that if I ever need a bit of support I can get a typical job again while I need and it will only be temporary. I know the universe has my back and I am guided and protected and the timing of my life is in perfect tune and my dreams will happen. I totally understand what you said and I found comfort within this video as well. Thank You Maddy.

[@dodalstudio6746]

Im Korean, also living overseas (1.5 generation), love art, music, writing (ever since I was a child), didnt give much thought to job aspirations and then gr 12 hit and was rushed to med school (cuz everyone around me suggested it and I myself didnt know what I wanted to do), now in my fifth year of medschool - miserable every hospital session, burnt out with imposter syndrome, crying every week, feeling anxious and stressed- i’ll still have 2 years internship and 1 year of compulsory community service lying ahead of graduation, debt for my tuition that needs to be paid back. At 24, now only am i starting to feel like I know what kind of life I want to live but I feel so stuck and chained to my circumstances. As you mentioned, Im not sure if I’ll be able to let go of stability after I’ve tasted it and still be okay. All my life i walked in a oneway stable path and im not confident in myself to compete and succeed, or create a new way. I have this fear or regret, failure and fear of making my 6 years of medschool (once i finally graduate) meaningless. But watching your video gave me so much hope. Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@jeantan9222]

Maddy!!!! This episode encouraged and comforted me so much. I’m at the same cross road, torn between my hobby and a day job I dont have a passion for but is stable and has good benefits. Maybe I’ll be brave and make a decision soon. I’m excited for what’s to come for you ❤️

[@jilliachiong]

Maddy! God is there for you. I could relate with what you were going through.. God told me as well that everything was okay. He said "I will never let you go. ❤ God is with you. I'm so proud of you. You are so courageous and brave.

[@reptyler123]

I went through a very similar situation this time last year. My job required me to work 50-60hrs a week, lived alone and I had no free time and when I did have a day off I would be so burnt out I would just watch shows all day. I decided to quit and travel the world for a few months. Moved out of my apartment and got rid of most of my things. Now I'm back in the USA and in the process of retraining for a career that will allow me to work fully/partially remote. It was scary to quit and just as scary to be in limbo now. But I feel like I am myself again. I wish you the best of luck and think you made the right decision.

[@zen_mindset1]

Nobody should work so much that they don't have time to breathe.

[@yuko997]

I remember watching this a year ago, and being in the same position of being too scared of letting go of the stability that my job provided. I finally had the courage to quit my job a few months ago, and immediately had a mental breakdown afterward thinking I messed up. For some reason I tried to pursue similar positions for a bit and got rejected about 5 times before I decided to actually try and pursue the job I wanted but felt unqualified for. I recently interviewed for a job that wasn't actually what I was looking to do but in the general direction, and to my surprise the hiring manager saw potential in me and offered me the job title I was initially aiming for. I feel like I just needed to take that step to break away, and everything else followed after that. Watching this video a year later made me realize that. Keep up the amazing work.

[@vanillatwilight1701]

Following God’s plan can be hard and scary but I’m so inspired by you stepping up to it and taking on a new chapter in life!! 💕💕💕💕

[@silawannamunglang]

Maddy this is so relatable I’m going to do same as it’s been more than a month since I’m hating my current job. Always stressed and so on i thought being busy in life n doing job is a good thing and this is life but no I was wrong I have came to realised that I wasn’t happy at all. You know like you said. So,I’m preparing myself by the end of this month I’m surely doing the same as you. And I’m going to do what my heart wants. I’m 30 now and I think it’s a high time for myself to stop caring about everyone and everything around me. Take care maddy ❤

[@les0932]

It is a great feeling after you quit huh? So happy for you! I too was "stuck" in a toxic job of which took me 8 years of uni and massive financial debt to get. I held onto that job for 4 years, and it took a toll on my mental health. To this day I'm still struggling to keep my anxiety at bay...moral of the story - don't stay in a toxic workplace/relationship. Your health is more important.

[@yummyj3393]

I "retired" from being a dentist a while ago & I haven't regretted it one bit. It's a very stressful profession that can be rewarding in so many ways, but also demanding & relentless in others. My circumstances were completely different, but after much soul-searching about what would be best for my family (kids, husband, & elderly parents) - it just made sense for me. I just recently started watching your shorts after KZbin put them in my feed because I watch so much of Doobydobap (Hi Dooby!). I was so surprised to learn that you are also a dentist & on a magical journey of self-discovery. Keep doing what you love & everything will work out.

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi YummyJ I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@sharonyang8822]

I love this! I feel like there are so many of us who have a job just to pay the bills that ends up consuming our energy but meanwhile there’s soemthing that we love and dream about on the side. This really speaks to that. Thank you for your courage and heart ❤

[@alyssasalazar9454]

Maddy, although I am a relatively new follower of yours, I am excited to see where this journey will take you. I appreciate your honesty and courage to do what you feel like you are called to do. I hope I can find that strength as well. God bless!

[@g0og0o._.]

Ah I love and appreciate how vulnerable you are in this video! I think when we actually really look at our fear straight, we learn that it’s nothing more than conceptual thoughts that we might’ve store into our hearts and believe from somewhere probably low energy regardless of the intentions. Thank you for helping me to be brave about my own fear too. You sure will be beyond okay Maddy!🤍

[@Jonz23]

I'm a dentist , working in a clinic ,burnt out at work ,thinking about quitting every single day ,but scared to proceed , because "stability" I'm glad you found the courage to trust the Lord and make the decision to quit . I hope life will be kinder to you .God bless ❤️

[@sonian.1046]

I am so proud of you for realizing that you are so much more than what the stable income dentistry can offer. That you are a being that deserves happiness. That you are so much more than just fillings, crowns, dealing with the bureaucracy at work, feeling tired at the end of the day, and having to repeat it again the next day. Thank you for sharing this video. I am a dentist in a very similar situation as you were. Your video makes me feel like I can do the same and run towards my north star.

[@afl8182]

Your video made me cry. I can see a lot of myself in you, and I'll try to ''keep running towards my north star''. I hope you are happy in your new life. ❤

[@sunandrain98]

Maddy, I'm so glad i found your channel. I recently left a course that i had been on for 4 years and going through those same feelings. I take it that it's a good sign that i found your channel.

[@tonykatieherres9991]

My whole life, I hated working for someone else. So on the side I started selling on eBay. Then stumbled upon the opportunity to start my own business. I've now owned it almost three years and I'm trying to grow it, so that I can be a stay at home mom to our future child and be successful... Create my own schedule, decide my customers, building my business... Also in my thirties ❤️ it's so scary but so worth it

[@annas.7539]

I'm happy for you! Glad that you're following your dreams and are becoming happier. Can't wait to see what's going to happen, So excited so excited for you ❤️

[@Reef6587]

Congrats Maddy on the bold step to create your own path and be happy🙏🏾

[@mk-gs9be]

Maddie I am so happy for you. I started crying after the podcast was over because your little life story was so beautiful and special. Thank you. I hope that you will always be happy like you are... And I personally agree with you that sometimes we need to mom for ourselves. I am glad that you chose this path even when some people might say it is hard or not stable it really shows how you can respect yourself and grow mentally better. I am really happy for you 💖 Stay safe and healthy 💓

[@sanjanalogy]

This video is old but it moved me so much. One thing that I'm slowly starting to realize is that choosing yourself over any other thing/person is the best choice you can ever make. The road is tricky and has a few bumps here and there but it's all worth it. Everything in life is figureoutable so, keep choosing yourself over and over again.

[@vinutha001]

Thank you for making this video, Maddy, and showing some of us who are going through the same thing that we’re not alone in our feelings. I’m so happy you found your peace and happiness ❤

[@No-xh2cs]

This video left me in tears. Thank you so much for blogging this so beautifully. I am in Healthcare too and after a long road to be an anesthesiologist I too feel all the similar stresses and external pressures for stability. I hope you continue to be successful and I enjoy watching every video you create!

[@davidp9316]

I work as a dentist too and I get how you're feeling since we all have those days. I'm glad you found something you enjoy! I like how this is like a video diary and something you can look back and listen on. I journal a few times every year since covid and it's incredible to see what tough decisions I made in the past that almost broke everything for me, but they ended up being great choices looking back. I wish you the best in everything you do!

[@ricebowl3]

OMG I'm a dentist too and this content resonated so much with me. Thank you for being a voice for dentist who don't feel it's is there calling!

[@sunnieko]

Maddy, YAY!!!! I'm sitting here smiling SO BIG for you. I watched your day in the life video two times to make sure i fully understood how busy you were, and it stressed me, because selfishly, I was so scared that the dentistry would take you away from making content but alas, the opposite has happened! You are inspiring and seriously a wonderful part of my week. a HUGE cheers to you.

[@AliceSun]

Related to every single second of this voiceover Maddie!!! You’re really amazing for recognizing ur inner voice and sharing so vulnerably❤️

[@Janehuayarmy]

A final year dental student here. Similiar to some in the comments, this video also made me cry. It feels too raw and real. Relatable struggles that im facing too. Especially the happiness part. I start to realize dentistry for me is a path that i find happiness after doing or completing a procedure, not the other way round. I dread going to classes some days and am depressed at other times. I changed, but still im deciding to pull through and count it as just a phase for now. I still enjoy the reward of helping people, I still enjoy treating wholesome patients. I will be stronger when I come out to the working dental world and listen to myself ❤ thanks for sharing dr Maddy

[@Joycethedentist]

This is so good. A lot of food for thought (I’ve been a dentist for 12 years) and I can’t say I don’t identify with a lot of the feelings you had. I struggle with it even now tbh 😊 you will never regret forging your own path ❤

[@karyadamai]

This made me cry buckets, Maddy 😭🥺 Thank you for being so brave and sharing this with us. I too come from a very conservative Asian family where every single thing is decided for me. At 29, after months of contemplation, I finally quit my stable job as a teacher due to intense stress and burnt out much to my parents dismay and horror. Took them awhile to understand that I needed to do it for me. And though it’s super scary, having this utter freedom all to myself. All the decisions I’m making now is on me. No one else. At times, I don’t know what to do but then I’ll tell myself that it’s okay, it’s going to be okay. Still very much terrified but I’m happy at heart. Love you so much, Maddy 💜

[@honuohana913]

You are so courageous and honest. It’s endearing! I was a failed Korean military linguist who ended up living in Korea for 4 years. Your food originally caught my attention. Then you talked about God and it just reminded me of so many dear, wonderful friends God’s brought across my path over the last 30 years. So I subscribed. Thank you for sharing your life!

[@k3d1c]

Thank you so much Maddy for creating this video and sharing your experience with us. This video popped up and i saw the image and the title and it attracted me to it bc im going thru similar thing right now. Had i not watched your video, i would keep feeling guilty or ashamed about how i left my ft job, like it was the "wrong" thing to do. This is new for me. I def feel like i lost my passion and it was getting to be so hard getting up every day. Watching your video, i didnt realize that i was burnt out at this job. I thought it was bc im not enough at my work but it seems clearer to me now, yes i just lost joy in it and over time, i slowly did acknowlegde the 9-6 work week, i felt like i dont have time for the things i really enjoy. I was only hanging on bc of the benefits and security. I left and felt released but also scared of the uncertainty. After watching your video, i am so grateful to you and your encouraging words, i def will go for it. Im going to explore and seek out what brings me joy and start there. One person shared a phrase w me a long time ago, it was something like, dont worry about circumstances and money, on "how" to achieve your dream, focus on the "thing" (i forgot, maybe it was dream or goal) and then you will find a way. Resources will come to support. I think this is probably not the saying. Back then, i couldnt understand this. I was so focused on, i cant achieve that bc i dont have money. Recently, someone told me their mother always told her, go for what youre passionate about or what you like, and money will always follow. Recently, ive been reflecting on what money is. Before the creation of the money system, humans were probably trading goods and then probably services. I'll give you some wool and you'll give me some chickens, or i'll build your rooftop and you'll cook for me. I think we got so obsessed with making money (more money=better life, pay for food, shelter, etc) and some ppl will kidnap certain breed of dogs and beat ppl up just for money (saw it in documentary, the gangster justified, hey, i need to make money and put food on the table). If there was an unprecedented drastic global emergency situation, all the gold and paper would not have value. Like, even now, the money system is not working. Goods are higher, pay is the same. Feel like we're slowly being turned into modern day slaves and we're blind to its system. It's like the matrix movie. I am not trying to generalize but these are some of the thoughts that came up recently so it's not to be taken as "the" truth, it's just how the world occurs to me and it's just one person's POV. To everyone reading, don't have to agree or disagree, but hope to have in common with you all is of being free to openly communicate and share and being respectful of everyone's differences and uniqueness. If my thoughts cause you to feel like you need to defend your POV, or feeling like you are being pushed to listen, it was not my intention to invalidate your experiences nor to persuade and push my way of thinking onto you all. I am just sharing my thoughts and i acknowledge it's impossible to deeply understand every person's POV and how they see the world. I cannot even imagine what it's like for you and cannot deeply and really know what it is like to be in your shoes, so i acknowledge you all, your life, your experiences, it is all valid. We all have unique POVs just as many there are stars in the sky. I have questions about career, my purpose, and im 37yo. I know there are others who have quit their careers that they worked so hard all their life and ppl around them and family might be shocked. Some of them, mid 30s, 40 or even 50. Im guessing is it bc we think we're only meant for one thing in this life? And when we detour and travel an unknown path, ppl might think we're making big "mistakes"? I really appreciate your words Maddy, at the end. Being our own voice of support, like how i would personally support my friend. Like, yes! Go for it! You deserve to be happy! I think i am caught up in my fear of failing. Now, i realize, i wont know what will happen, so i have courage now to just try it out first. Thank you Maddy for sharing your life with us. This video, it was enlightening inquiry and i appreciated you bringing it up and providing further insights and digging deeper as to why - it allowed space for me to look clearly for myself. I am grateful for the access to this conversation, and also admire your candidness and courage, to show your human-ness (is this a word? Lol) You have impacted me and made a difference 😊 i am always in the benefit of you when i watch your videos. You bring joy to us viewers so i would like to share with you, to keep going, to keep doing things that make you happy and bring you sense of joy, peace, freedom to express and just be. 🎉❤

[@Beemers07]

Related to so much of this. As a Nigerian, immigrant and child of immigrant, this was literally my journey through 2022. The biggest hurdle was the fear of losing stability. similar to you, one day God made it clear that I would be okay and my stability was in Him. I’ve taken most of this year off after leaving my job in January as a primary care physician and faculty at a medical school and now slowly starting again. But I’m so grateful for the decision I made when I made it.

[@isabelmiranda3169]

Not me wanting to quit Dentistry all together (Dental Hygienist) but I don’t have another income so my solution was to work 3 days a week. It helped a lot but not quit happy as I would like to be. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@ASJSI]

This was such a good video. I think it is wonderful that Our LORD has placed you in this position for this time. I love Time Square Church. When I found your channel not to long ago I thought "oh great food recommendations for NYC because I am coming to visit TSC"! Perfect.

[@emilychambers4956]

Maddy, I am so happy for you. I’ve been following you for some time now and absolutely love all of your content, and you are just the sweetest. I can relate to the stressful job part for sure. I’ve been thinking of that sort of transition myself. I’m so happy for you and will pray for you that the Lord continues to give you peace and strength while battling the doubts and fears that come with transition. You’ve got this! “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭ESV‬‬ God is always there for you, and you’ve got us cheering you on! You’re awesome Maddy! ❤

[@misterflamingo]

I quit for the same reason as you. It works out well when you are passionate and have grit. You do really well with content creation - I am very sure you have everything it takes to have stability as self employed. I would absolutely invest in you as a creator. Cheers Maddy! Enjoy a great, new, reborn, life!!

[@jessicakim5538]

I just graduated from a university and lucky enough to got a full time job in health care. I teared up watching your video because I relate so much to you. I am a first generation Korean American and stability is crucial for me too. My passion is art but, I had to put it on the side as it does not guarantee stability. Your video really encouraged me to not give up on my passion. I will pray for you. God bless you:)

[@thetogo2962]

Don't give up on your hobbies. But still keep working. I have a very high paying career and I can retire early, but here I am, it's fucking hard, I continue working, I can quit, but people fucking need me, I will help people, I will keep working, stress won't stop me. Man the fuck up and work your ass of, people need you. Do it for them, money is the side reward.

[@nala2747]

thank you Maddy for this post. it was God massage through your video for me. I grew up with exact same fears and weaknesses about stability and how powerful it is in my family as you talked about . that's why I struggled for at least past 10 yrs of my life finding a career that doesn't burn me out and at the same time give me stability or luxury life. and your peace of mind after quitting and overcoming your fear was all I had to show to my fix mindset as a proof. that life is still going on even if you quit high salary job with great benefits for pursuing your passion. and you're not gonna be miserable if you do so. Thank you Maddy . It was alive changing point in myeline.

[@christinacortez7548]

You are so real. I resonate with you and your upbringing and story. I’m getting to that point in my life where I feel dead in my job and I have passion for other things, things that I feel will connect with people and can also be lucrative. Thank you so much for sharing your story 🙏

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi Christina I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@skippythetall]

Maddy you are such an inspiration. I also have always loved food and cooking and have wanted to get into creating content like yours but was also raised in an Asian American family where I felt like creativity has to take a backseat to a good, stable job. I’m getting to the point where I’m getting sick of sitting at a computer and making spreadsheets all day. I hope one day I get the courage to do what you’ve done. I was so happy for you and inspired that you had gone to Sicily for a farm to table class. you’re living the dream!

[@m0_oohsays]

Maddy this is so beautiful 😭 I can relate so much. Especially when you talk about the external and also internal pressures that sometimes can bring us down to the point that when we look in the mirror, we can’t recognize ourselves. I am at that point right now and facing some important decisions in my life. Grateful to know I am not the only one who has experienced this. Love your content and your vulnerability and transparency. You have a beautiful soul. Wishing you all the best as you embark on this new journey. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@cherryjaymes3816]

living in NYC is sooo taxing, I’m so glad you found a way to find peace in this city of ours.

[@carinatomi]

I’m in my third year in dentistry about to write my first medical exams. One I’m so scared and two I really don’t want to become a dentist. But I’m fighting this degree and pushing back things I love for my parents and as the first child I have to live by example. I’ve been so burnt out and miserable since the beginning of this year but I don’t think anyone understands and I’m too scared to tell my Nigerian parents because they are doing everything possible for me to get this degree. I’m 23 and I feel like I can thrive more as a content creator or model. But I barely can’t do that without feeling guilty. Thank you for this video. I hope one day I have the courage and opportunity to do what I love. Amen✨

[@mayleanlean5258]

Hi Maddy . I came across your vid out of nowhere and im so glad that i found ur channel. I am really proud and happy with your decision. I am exactly just like you. I work as a doctor and feels like its no longer my calling. I dread myself to work , feeling unhappy and complain about every single thing at work . But I am scared to quit due to the uncertainties and the fact that i have spent so many of years studying. Also the stability of the job and guranteed paycheck just make me dwell in this job longer. I am planning to quit my job end of this year and just like you, plan to take up part time job as a doctor while venturing into something else that i love. I wish u all the success in your career. Lots of love.

[@ashilykim9889]

This video was so incredibly inspiring and moving~ Maddy, you are so brave and courageous and I'm so happy that you have taken steps to pursue your passion and happiness. As a creative Korean American myself, I felt so many of the things you shared in this video. Congratulations on your journey, I can't wait to see how you will thrive & grow! ❤️

[@juliqaaa]

Love, love, love all of this! You are following your dreams and putting your happiness first ❤️ I can relate and understand to how scary it may feel chasing something that may seem "unstable" or "unconventional" to others but this is your journey and you know what's best for you. Glad to hear you're happy and following your heart! Best of luck in your new adventure x

[@abbyblair1631]

I love your content Maddy❤, you are so amazing and inspiring! I just graduated undergrad and got my first job. Going through a similar patch and I have an unhappy work enviornment. Trying to re-evaluate my priorities, focusing on mental health, and what makes me happy. 😊 Just like you said, life is too short to do what others and society says you should do! Wishing the best for everyone out there who is making the big step❤

[@pikpok1995]

I feel so happy for you. So happy that you are finally finding joy and happiness in life and enjoying them every single day. I am still trying to muster the courage to quit my current job as a lawyer. I don’t hate my job but I feel tired everyday just dealing with higher ups at the office. I hope one day I could tell you that “I quit!!” too. With love, From Malaysia