Potty Training after Elimination Communication + Cloth Diapering

[@heyshayla]

Other EC videos: 1 year review: www.heyshayla.com/elimination-communication-1-year-review/ EC at 4 months?!: www.heyshayla.com/can-you-potty-train-an-infant/ ALL my videos on cloth diapering: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKekZ62IjtKolZY Potty Training: heyshayla.buzzsprout.com/1819031/10254987-026-potty-training-update-after-a-month

[@ginapurcell1732]

I love that you're not obsessed with the aesthetic of your home, wardrobe, kids clothes. It's so much more relatable!! Those youtubers are great but make you feel like a failure if your house isn't clean every day, you're not going on adventures daily, your clothes are normal and not the latest trend, etc.

[@heatherlawhon3408]

We did relaxed EC and 100% CD. Sign language made EC such MUCH easier for us. She was consistently signing “potty” by 8 months. She also didn’t have a single wet diaper at night after around 9 months. It was WILD! Then potty training at 20 months was INSANELY easy because of EC.

[@blank_notyou]

My baby also had nighttime dry diapers for most of a year before we switched from relaxed EC to toilet training.

[@gemmawistrand6114]

Probably too little too late, but i found with my secondhand cloth diapers (if you aren't worried about re-sale), if the elastic is loose, just put a little cut in the fabric on the insode at one end and pull on the elastic until it is tight enough and then tie a knot. no sewing required. Similar method also works for pants.

[@elissamartinez9123]

We started EC with my daughter at 2 weeks old and cloth diapering around 2 months. She's almost 1yr old now and starts to resist the potty when she doesn't need to go, but also doesn't tell us when she does. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We haven't had more than 4 poop diapers since 4 or 5 months old and it has been such a blessing. We use the pocket diapers, but just lay the liners inside like a regular ol' period pad. Since I was already using Huckleberry for sleep, I used it to track her pees for awhile and realized if we just got her on the potty every 45 minutes to an hour, she would pee the potty instead of her diaper. I'm so glad that I found your channel when I was pregnant because I always wanted to cloth diaper and was so intimidated to start until I watched your videos. Thanks so much for all the research and being so candid about motherhood.

[@rachelmorrison7293]

Where have you been my whole life?! It’s so nice to finally have found a KZbinr who is real, and is parenting so similarly to our home! Keep it up girl!!

[@respectfullymama]

The way to LOVE cloth wipes is to use a wipe warmer and wet the wipes you put in it - its like a spa hot towel every time. Works amazing!

[@tiabarrett7816]

We started EC with our now 10 month old at 10 days old. It's so awesome! He's working on a lot more mobility now (plus bladder is holding a lot more now) and he's been in a pee "potty pause" but I expected this from Andrea Olson's info. We only have to change a poop diaper once or twice a month! Definitely worth the study, attention, and work.

[@roar44879]

That's amazing!

[@lindsaywait8763]

Nice to see I'm not alone! I did some EC with both of my kids from birth, just during transitions or when it was obvious or convenient. We started full on potty training at 18 months for them both and we were out of diapers by 20 months. I largely attribute this early potty training success to our awesome daycare though, they take the kids every hour starting at 18 months and peer pressure is super helpful! With kids that young I think "bush wee's" are inevitable, so yeah lots of that happened. :) We're expecting #3 soon and I'm going to add some cloth diapering to the mix I think!

[@nicolevdb6301]

I stated EC at 5 weeks old, he is now just over 4 months and I couldn't read his natural signals so im sooo glad we started baby sign language already, now he signs when he wants to go potty and when he is all done 😆

[@heyshayla]

😳🙌🙌🙌 that’s amazing!

[@nyomicasey]

When did you start baby sign language?

[@nicolevdb6301]

@@nyomicasey i started in week 1 with a sign for "change nappy" since he hated that so much. He calmed right down when i started using the sign so i got obsessed after that and now we have 7 signs he knows and he can do 4 of them himself when i all him to "show mama". Babies are so intelligent!

[@ashleysmith5249]

Thanks so much for the reinvigoration about cloth diapering. I took a little break from it but realized I need to get back to it! My favorite diaper is Grovia all in one, they stretch so nice to fit the babies just right and are not quite as bulky as the Bum Genius. Cloth wipes really actually make cloth diapering easier because you don’t have to have a place to throw the wipes and a place to throw the cloth diapers, they all just go in the wet bag. I like the Grovia cloth wipes as well and I just fold them in half and put them in our Lionelheart wipes warmer right out of the wash so I don’t have to wet them or anything. I use disposable wipes still when I go out but for home, so much easier. Anyway, thanks for your content, I always look forward to new videos by you.

[@_pandacecelya_]

I’m not cloth diapering right now but hope to with my second! And have thought about getting cloth wipes too because of this exact reason! But question, do they get musty or moldy if you keep them damp in that container while wet?

[@donotneedtoknow7541]

Totally agree about wanting all the cloth diapers to be the same. I tried 6 of a different style after my first pocket diapers, and I don't use them at all. Just sticking with the 36 pockets! Your recommendations about using disposables early on and not feeling like 100% cloth was necessary helped me get on board with cloth! And now, buying disposables makes me so crazy because they're so expensive. 😫

[@Linalinalane]

I don’t even have a baby but it’s so cool to see these videos because I’ll be more prepared when that time comes for me. Plus you’ve got such a cool laidback energy to you!

[@Nadine9ymp]

You re not a normal mom, you are an amazing momma to your beautifull daughters. 💖

[@BaMaJs03]

I tried to be that mom with the cloth diapers. We had 12 SimpleBeing from Amazon. It lasted a few months, but they leaked ALL the time. Every single diaper change (regardless of the type of elimination) was a complete outfit change, plus any bedding or blanket that was nearby. It stressed me out so bad that when I went back to work I couldn't in good conscience ask anyone else to do it. I still love the idea. More power to the ones succeeding at it. I felt all the guilt come flooding back as you talked, but I know that wasn't your intention. Our little one turned 2 in June, and we are hoping to succeed at potty training soon!! I love seeing your videos, and I think your vlogging is great! I found you when I was pregnant through 2020, and I love your vibe even though I'm probably at least 10 years older than you. We also have an 8 year old and a 16 year old. Love all that you do and all the information you keep bringing to us mamas.

[@mulnrouge]

I do cloth and in the beginning with the brand new ones, I was soooo mad. They leaked EVERYWHERE. Never did I realize or know before hand that they needed to be 'stripped' and made to be absorbent *smacks own head*. It wasn't until like a couple months later when I had been refusing to use those ones that I had looked up that brand and came across something about stripping new diapers did I learn that. And I had to do it a few times to get them to really absorb! It was frustrated for sure so I can definitely feel your pain on that part. If I didn't have any used ones, I would have thrown things lol Especially with how much they cost new!

[@BaMaJs03]

@@mulnrouge Wow, thanks - hindsight and all that. I finally donated them about a month ago because they were just taking up space and collecting dust. Erg! I may have stripped them a time or two after noticing some lingering smells post-washing. It's all kind of a blur. Lol, I didn't throw things... maybe just my voice and my hands in the air, lol.

[@jordynferrari4161]

I’m pregnant with my second and they will be about 18 months apart so I potty trained my son at 16 months. Honestly it’s more like EC right now because I offer the majority of the time and he tells us occasionally. It’s worked really well with a slight regression and now we are doing great and ready for baby sister to come! I am definitely going to EC her way earlier because I don’t want to do the 3 day potty train method ever again.🤪

[@ThisFaithfulHome]

I have 1 baby. She’s almost 6 months. Been cloth diapering since she was 2 months (when she would fit into them!) loosely practice EC. Mostly do transitions and try not to stress too much lol. Catch a lot of pees and the occasional poop. I notice that EC helps get out her gas which is a win! We double up on inserts with hemp for overnight cloth diapering. And occasionally use disposable. She loves to sit on her little top hat potty and I’m looking into getting the next potty soon! Love you channel. Have been a subscriber since you were first prego!

[@MarianneMedlin-dz4dz]

I feel the SAME WAY about buying disposable diapers. Lol! I’m blown away every time! I mean this in the most non-judgmental, truly curious way: “How do people afford to do disposables full time?!” We cloth roughly 90% of the time. We do disposables at night, on Long flights, or if we are out of town more than 4 day w/o access to a washer/Dryer. I found when ai go into it with an “we’ll figure it out attitude, & just do the best we can, it’s fine.” Most of the time we do an AirBnB w/ WD or find friends & family nearby. I went to a wash house once on a trip, spent $40 to wash & dry 2 loads of laundry, & ended up with BAD STINK, & diapers did not get clean! NEVER AGAIN.

[@bethw3573]

Not to be dramatic but this is my favorite video of yours that you've ever done 😅 something about the casual conversational style was just so good!! We cloth diaper pretty much exclusively (we even started nighttime cloth!) And I am SO glad we do! The cost of disposables right now is insane! We tried EC when baby was around 4 months and same as you, sleep regression got us hard and there was some feeding issues along with that. Baby is now 9 months and I feel like it's too late to do EC effectively:( I'm sure it's not but he hates sitting on any of the potties we have.

[@dagmar9019]

My son was potty trained at 17months. My niece is now 21months and still hasn’t gotten the potty training down and her parents did EC. If you enjoy EC, then more power to you, but it is not necessary to have an easy and enjoyable potty training experience 😊

[@wendysanabia]

I freakiiiing looove momma talk & I’m loving these new videos. Ima try EC my baby girl is 2 months so I’m excited!

[@KnittingJoy]

We have used cloth nappies 100% of the time for our 5 month old and we also use reusable wipes. I have a couple of wet bags in my changing bag and it's really no big deal to change her when we're out and bring any wet/dirty stuff home. We're just starting to use EC at transition times 🤞

[@blytheeasterly825]

Ok this is the video I have been waiting for.

[@mariadiehl6684]

We started some EC when our little bean was two months old, but have found some improvement as we get more consistent. She is almost six months and we are mostly doing EC at home. We catch 3-5 eliminations per day usually, but sometimes it’s 7 or 0 (if I am unable to take her, she just has to go in her diaper..) GO TO FLUFF LOVE UNIVERSITY for the wash routine for your cloth diapers! we’ve used their recommendations as well as sun bleaching the diapers, and have had no problem with smell at all. They have a laundry detergent index telling you exactly how much of each detergent you should use, if it’s safe for cloth diapers, etc.. Also we save money by fixing our own cloth diaper elastics (got ‘em used as well) There’s a really quick KZbin video I watched to learn how ❤ Love your vids, thank you for sharing part of your life!!

[@elenalunn4052]

Not a “granatural” mom.. yet, due with our first in December but definitely a reduce reuse one. Switch to cloth from paper in the kitchen for towels/napkins/cleaning and it was a bit of a task at first but I HATE paper towels now, especially for cleaning, cloth just gives me more control and a better barrier between what I’m cleaning and my hands. Anyways love that you just posted because I’ve been trying to read more about EC as we prep for baby! My laundry jack is to use distilled vinegar as fabric softener. Takes the smell out of EVERYTHING. I wash my hockey equipment in it and it’s does quite well. I got some “fresh linen” essential oil blend and will throw in a few drops of that so you get the softener smell without all the junk.

[@melissapurtlebaugh6078]

I always wanted to go cloth diapers! But hubby not on board at all and since he's the work from home parent he won that battle. EC will be a little difficult for the same reasons but I'm going to start that now since our little just turned 6 months. I have been keeping an eye on her number twos and those seem to be easier identified. Love your vibe. Thanks for the content!

[@aliapetre6718]

Started directly putting my baby on the potty and also making sounds signifying potty at 8 months. Still using disposables for pee, want to get cloth and start training on that as well but need to just have patience. Thanks for the video, they are always very helpful and you make me feel like I am not the only mom that struggles and goes through good and bad phases!!

[@lenahe3078]

I started EC with my LO when he was about 2 months by just putting a potty under his butt for every feed, as I heard young babies mainly poop during breastfeeding. Now he is 3.5 months and he gets fussy when he needs to pee, so I'll take his diaper off, get the potty and he associates it with peeing so he lets it all out directly. I was so surprised how well it works. Just bought some splitpants to make the whole process a little easier. Also, when he's in the woven wrap or carrier, he'll go up to 1.5 hours without pee or poo, because apparently babies don't want to get their caregivers dirty. I am so obsessed :D Only downside is that he will only go on his specific potty, so if we're at a friend's house he'll signal, but he won't go when holding him over a sink or something. And he seems to hate peeing in a diaper, so he sometimes starts crying when we're somewhere we can't take his pants off

[@brd2122]

Really liking this vlog format 👍🏾

[@corinefortin]

You’re so beautiful and great at talking! It’s a joy to listen to you!

[@Lischynski01]

I've never heard of the term 'chronic returner', but I feel that on such a personal level.... I'm definitely working on it, and trying to just buy less things, but I'm a little relieved to know I'm not alone 😅

[@Bilisjourney]

Love your videos! Congrats on a new camera 👌!!

[@maiaatkinsschalchlin2075]

I love the Bum genius cloth diapers! I bought a bunch of them while I was still single and put them away. Now 4 years later they are very handy! My little princess is 4 months and she would wake up every 2 hours I stopped putting her in her bassinet and let her sleep in our bed, now we're both getting more sleep.

[@camillerijess]

haha a 'bush wee' is so aussie, glad to see Bluey is bringing it to the international community.

[@toriwiebe8085]

For diaper washing, I was having issues until I started doing smaller loads. It feels ridiculous to only be doing about 10 diapers at a time but because they hold so much more water than normal clothing smaller amounts of diapers really equals the same amount of cloth as a normal load of clothes. Rinse cycle, hot deep water wash cycle with an extra rinse. Good to go

[@cassandrareyes5523]

Okay I have to tell you you are not alone, my daughter's naps STRESS ME OUT. And no one seems to get that but I get so much anxiety from it. And not much else phases me other than that lol

[@operachicken869]

Love your videos. :) Parent to a 11, 13 year old and 32 weeks pregnant with my last baby.

[@SadieScarlett]

I've never felt so targeted by a KZbin video title...I have a 17 month old and it's proving a hard transition!

[@tabithawills4389]

Solidarity over here in the car. My 12 month old still hates the car even in a convertible car seat.

[@Almira524]

I tried EC with both my girls. It was very casual and mostly at transition times like you do. I felt like both of them started resisting the potty around the one year mark and I didn’t worry about any potty stuff unless they asked or when I started potty training. Even though we weren’t EC’ing consistently I feel like it really helped when it came time to potty train! Plus they both felt uncomfortable is soiled cloth diapers and that also helped a lot! I’m in the process of potty training my 21 month old! I’m a month and a half in and it’s going good, not perfect but good 😅

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏

[@anneshirley9560]

Mine started resisting around 1 as well. We started at 2 months. She used to go so much in the potty. Now she rarely goes. She does sign when she peed in her panties or if she naked that she went, but she only does that after and not before. :/

[@Dana-mb1hd]

Thank you for making my day by posting a video! I will be potty training my toddler soon so this is perfect timing! Love your channel girl 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@thewrightwords]

My husband and I were excited to do EC with our son and watched a bunch of videos and guides and read a lot before he was born, and we started it with him since birth. At first it was exciting because we had some good catches, not every time but working pretty well. But when he was around one month old, I have no idea why because nothing really changed, our son started to get really constipated. We tried a bunch of things to help him and stopped EC because we didn't want to stress him out further. We tried doing it again a few months later but we couldn't be consistent because we were both back at work and couldn't have the nanny or daycare do it so we had to stop. He also just is very oblivious to when he goes, we worked on signing for everything around pottying but it just wasn't connecting with him because he was just focused on other things so we just had to stop it. It is what it is, and it just wasn't right for him, but we will hopefully try some things we learned from it as we start potty training now as he's almost a year old.

[@heyshayla]

Love that you stopped it when it wasn’t working 🙌🙌🙌 listening to your kid is to priority!!

[@erinloomis8541]

Tip on cloth diapers, bleach breaks down the elastic real fast , I wouldn't recommend still using bleach for that reason . My easy no fuss method has worked beautifully, ( i use Nora's Nursery diapers, they are perfection ) all i do is rinse real good after each use and stick them in the pail , i wash every other day , and use seventh generation detergent with a scoop of borax in each load . Hang to dry whenever possible . I literally have zero staining on the diapers , I think the material helps quite a lot with no staining . So easy and works beautifully with no special effort 😉

[@christinacushingham6550]

Thank you for making your videos informative but also so funny!😂

[@culturallydifferent]

We ECed with our first almost since birth, not putting for on a potty, but holding her comfortably. It is a magical experience when you help your kid go and they show you more signs next time because they don't want to be wet :)

[@blank_notyou]

I don't understand why people are so against trying relaxed EC, even just giving a toilet opportunity consistently once a day for the morning poop was fantastic for us!

[@jahsoka8307]

Anyone looking into cloth diapers but worried about the washing, this is what works for my husband and me 1. toss any dirty diaper in the tub 2. next person who showers washes/rinses the diapers 3. put those washed diapers in next normal load of laundry Our baby is 3 months old and so far nothing smells bad after getting washed together. I plan to strip the diapers soon just because the inserts are not as soft and white as they used to be. also, if you're really worried about it, my grandma washed her kids diapers in the toilet, yes the toilet, and my dad is still alive from that

[@SadieScarlett]

Yea that's a clever approach for pre-weaning poop (ah the good old days) ...but be warned, everything changes in months time!

[@diannagripp1467]

Yes,we rinsed diapers in the toilet

[@melissagerner6977]

😂😂😂

[@oceaneyeye]

I would love an update on EC and potty training with baby #2! Such an interesting topic

[@heyshayla]

She’s 21 months and potty trained!

[@themasterbower]

I did EC with my daughter from like 5 days until she was sitting and crawling. Like…. 7 months? I never thought we’d stop but she just WASN’T having it once she could crawl. She’d arch her back and get so annoyed that she had to sit for 2 seconds! And I have a 2 year old also so I couldn’t just watch the baby like a hawk. Now she’s one and I’m thinking of trying some easy catches. We for sure do cloth diapers for both kids! Can’t imagine using disposable. Cloth is a pain to get the hang of, but after that it’s so dang convenient and cheap.

[@roar44879]

Interesting. Maybe it's just a phase? Mine was really into crawling once he got it down (around 7 months I think) and would get upset if you tried to move him. I am still very new to EC, so I appreciate all the stories/info out there. I started EC just in the morning at maybe 11 months. I know that's a bit late to begin EC. I guess I wasn't completely on board with a brand new baby (first baby and everything)-- all the poop, during the first few month he poo every time he nursed... like I knew it was coming but no way I would get him to potty in time unless I nursed w/ over the potty (or whatever being used). I only started EC at other times (after eating, for example) these last fews days @ 13 months. He seems to make the connection that he is supposed to pee/poo while on the potty. Now if only I can get him to do some kind of signal when he has to go (am working on currently but hasn't caught on so far).

[@tessacopeland8955]

I feel the need to give you my tip!! Give it a shot, I don't think you'll regret it 🤗. Vinegar girl - use it and I use soap nut beads from Amazon. Also, here's the biggiest game changer, I use Viva paper towels for a linger over the incerts. Hardly ever deal with stains and have had no smell, vingar is awesome. Also, I learned a lot also through research, total game changer. So, we started EC at a few weeks with my first and my second is 4wks. We're doing EC now but taking a much more lax approach like you are. 🤗

[@gentlecatholic]

I cloth diaper my 2 year old and 6 month old and feel the same way as you to disposables!! I'm potty training the 2 year old but have been hesitant and EC. Now with winter and staying indoors more I'm going to give it a try. Loved this video, felt like I was chatting with a like-minded friend 😆

[@kaylinlarson8349]

Just found your channel looking for cloth diapering info - you're so great! EC is fantastic. Our boy was out of diapers at 15 months (started at 4 months) and we're planning to start at birth (or as soon as we feel up to it haha) with our new one due in Dec. Esme's little smirk when she first woke up was the best! :D

[@baileyeckerson7251]

My son is 10m and he thinks sleep is for the weak.(he for sure would trigger your sleep anxiety) From birth this kid has take max 2 naps a day 30mins or less. I would stress that he wasn’t getting enough sleep and that it would impact him negatively, it hasn’t. He is a happy healthy kid, that just happens to hate naps and refuses to sleep through the night unless he is sick. As a mom we tend to stress about things when our kids do abnormal things, like not napping bc we want our kids to be the best they can be. I’m also on the fence about doing cloth diapers if I have a second child, just bc I have read, cloth diapers only reduce carbon footprint if you use them with multiple children, otherwise they are not cheaper than disposables and can increase carbon footprint due to the Energy that takes to produce them. We have used hello bello diaper subscription with my son and that has worked out.

[@toriwiebe8085]

I made reusable wipes from receiving blankets I found at the thrift store! Cost me maybe $3 for 100 of them! If you have someone willing to sew edges for you you could do them that way too

[@SerinaAmadee]

I just potty trained my 22 month old in 3 days. He’s only had 2 full accidents (including the very first day 🎉) he did so good. I never tried EC.

[@missycl9200]

We've been sitting our little on the potty since about 6 months old. Primarily in the morning when she wakes up. The poops are really obvious so we try to run her to the toilet then too. She's happy on the toilet and no matter what I want her to just be comfortable and know its normal. She sees mom and dad go potty too. Open door policy lol. Also love cloth diapers! We have several kinds but that doesn't bother me although we do have preferences. The bum genius are hands down best at night. I add a wash cloth for an extra layer of absorbency. The solid food poops are so much easier. They basically fall off into the toilet.

[@taylormohr8729]

Oh my gosh! Love cloth diapering and it makes me so mad to buy a box of disposables especially when she seems to always grow out of the size before we get through the box! Clearly I need to buy a smaller amount at one time! I need to get up the courage to to it overnight though and then we can make even less trash!

[@danik.2538]

I started cloth diapering at around 2 months. Disposable at night and when we go out (or when they are all in the laundry/drying). I plan to start transitional ec when she's about 7 months when we get back home because we have a trip planned for acouple weeks mid month. I originally wanted to do 6 months (because we are just using the ring instead of the little potty and I figured her legs would be long enough and she'd be sitting).

[@beaulot3574]

We cloth diaper! Loooooooove it. We did it from birth. We never had issues with cleaning and do the following: Collect used diapers in a pail liner. We are now weaning, so I plop poops in the toilet or use a sprayer (into the toilet) if they're not ploppable and then again keep them in the pail liner. Every morning after changing out of the night's diaper, I put on a short wash at 40C with detergent. Every 3-4 days, I run the longest program available to me on 60C with detergent. Rinse and repeat! Pun intended...

[@weldonservicegroup6962]

Bushweeeee 😂 love it!

[@danielleyoung4194]

We're also doing cloth diapers with disposable wipes, but I'm think about switching to reusable wipes too because I hate having two bins where I change baby. One for dirty diapers and one for trash. I just wanna be able to throw everything in the same bin lol.

[@americanwomantoday1928]

You know those clay cat litter boxes? Well they seal really well. Rather than throwing those away we have two. And we use one empty container and I fill it maybe 1/4 or 1/3 of the way with water. And that's what we put the dirty cloth diapers in. I wash them everyday to every other day and just dump the whole thing into the wash. Once baby started solids I'll let it fall into the baby potty if it's harder (which I have the baby potty on her changing table) and if it's runnier I have a bidet specifically for rinsing cloth diapers and then I'll put it in with the rest. It's really uncomplicated and easy to keep up with. I also don't fold anything and have 2 drawers 1 for inserts and 1 for covers so I can just throw them in when they're clean

[@shelbys2750]

I also dont like having different kinds of diapers. I use the bumguines pocket diapers. I have changed the elastics in our diapers twice now, I dont think I will do it again, I think they will be too worn out. Bleach works well but my kids started breaking out. We use washing soda and or calgon which I think is helpful. I always wash with original tide.

[@cubswinnow122]

I'm in Pampers for bedtime accidents 😂

[@wedidthematheson]

We use Esembly diapers unless we are out or sometimes at night. She pees soooo much at night and if I don’t use an overnight insert it leaks. (I only have two of those) but I love the cloth diapers. For poops I rinse out and any solid chunks and then do a quick wash/ low water cycle on warm, then a normal cycle on hot with free and clear. I wash her laundry every three days. Trying EC but I only notice the queues for poo.🤷🏼‍♀️

[@roar44879]

Mine isn't afraid of the toilet either. But I don't feel like EC has helped with potty training. In fact I felt like EC has been harder the more "toddler like" he has become. I tried the guilding to the potty (in the room) during the pee, which I think is in both the "Oh Crap" and the "Tiny Potty" training method as the first part of potty training. Honestly, it was all fun and games up until I guided him to the potty, then every potty instance was met with a tantrum. I thought part of the benefit of potty training early (15.5 months) was there wouldn't be this huge fight. He knows what the potty is for but only wants to use it on his own terms. He also isn't talking yet so although I try to validate his feelings, I don't know how much that is helping. I know I can try again when he's older, but if I keep being met with resistance who quite literally will refuse to pee in the potty (unless it's on his own terms), then I don't know how potty training will work. I have seen some potty training videos on yt, but the kids are not putting up this fight like mine is.

[@imaniantoinette2015]

I planned to practice EC from day 1 (first baby) but my postpartum journey has just not been as smooth sailing as I had hoped. We do about 75% CD with disposables at night and out and about. We're almost 5 months in and I think we're at a good point for us to start EC. I'll definitely try what you've done with the transitions and see how it goes.

[@heyshayla]

We’re JUST starting ec with ours and she’s 5 months and we didn’t start until 6 months with my first! The newborn phase is so intense ec usually feels so overwhelming

[@imaniantoinette2015]

@@heyshayla thank you for responding! This makes me feel less alone and less like a crap mom 🙃🙂

[@zyyork]

Suggestion per the bush-wee issue: consider having a baby potty in the back of your vehicle. That way your LO can pee on the go, but without the possible confusion of "it's okay to pee in public". All the best!

[@morganscott7290]

Have you tried white vinegar? For cleaning the cloth diapers. We’ve always used it to wash our clothes and I think there is a huge difference between not having it in there and having it in there.

[@gabewinterful]

There were like 29384747 topics in this video 😂 sorry for the folks that will randomly land in this vlog thinking it’s a video explaining how to do potty train and use cloth diapers

[@heyshayla]

Hahah very true

[@ceciliapistorius8321]

The BEST part about Shayla doing vlogs is that there are always soooo many topics 😝🤣🤣🤣

[@ashb2404]

"she leaves me alone to put her away" 😂... That was a great line... I only get to put my baby away once a day now ...

[@heyshayla]

hahahahaha 🤦‍♀️😂😂

[@aliswatzell940]

I started EC at 2ish months (1st baby, now she's 4 months). I really want to do cloth diapers but my hubs is not on board and I don't want to do it by myself. also daycare... but EC is going pretty well I'm starting to get intuition about when she needs to go. My hubs was completely joking when I was pregnant that "she'll be out of diapers by 1 year" and then I started EC. So now I'm like, well, she WILL be if you remember to take her to the potty. lol.

[@adararelgnel2695]

My mom said EC is potty training your kid for 18 months. Regular potty training is potty training for 1 month. That convinced me not to bother with EC

[@Bravokaylyn]

With my niece we potty trained her young but used cloth diapers except just not at night because she would PEEE SO MUCH it would leak every night so I just started using disposable every night but loved cloth, it was easy.

[@respectfullymama]

Also: for night time, sloomb night diaper with an esembly baby cover.

[@kimsinthe80s]

As a first time mom, cloth diapering just seems so hard. I really wanted to give it a shot when I was pregnant and making my baby registry, but my husband thought it would be a lot of work especially because we have a septic system. I tried EC around 4 months with my baby boy and "caught" two pees. I only tried for a week or two. It is really hard to aim a tiny penis. Since Im not working right now, i would really like to give EC another go. But i also struggled with learning my son's signals; poop is super obvious but pee not so much.

[@AlauraJones]

Oh my goodness those little baby feet! That little smile! 💕😭💕

[@張點點-s6o]

*Works great, nice height.*

[@christengardner1466]

i definitely let my baby go off her own schedule

[@jademyers6677]

Where do you put your wet bag now so that your older daughter doesn’t get into them? My girls are really close in age to yours :) I’ve seen other moms hang it on a door, but that doesn’t work where our changing table is and I think it might be a little weird and gross to just like command hook it on the wall. What a beautiful piece of art, no it’s a literal bag of poop.

[@lillianesley7778]

What brand do you like best?

[@heyshayla]

I love the all in ones by bum genius. Spendy so I got mine second hand. Second favs are Nora’s nursery

[@vkrish4177]

Hey, my baby is 9 months old and its becoming a huge pain to put the diaper on. Lying down is terrible.. she just rolls and crawls away. standing is also a problem. The moment I put the first button on she wants to sit and crawl away. It's just easier when I use training undies or disposable now (pant style), although I haven't given up on CD entirely yet. Did you face this problem with yours? Any tips to make diaper changing less of a nightmare? Thanks

[@heyshayla]

Yeeeeeees!!! I hand her something to hold her attention or make eye contact. Or just try to do it on the move 😂

[@MultiDaisy1995]

I always wanted to do cloth diapers, but my wife was 100% NOT ON BOARD. So we did a diaper raffle at the baby shower & ended up with over 1,000 diapers in various sizes. It really bothered me every time I tossed a diaper in the trash…. but I had severe PPD for 3ish months & I’m not going to try to force my wife to cloth. Fast forward: My daughter was 7 months old, My mental health was back to normal, We had a bit of a groove… it was time. I bought two 2nd hand diaper lots & got to work. We only use 2 disposables every night now. I can’t find a diaper insert combination that she won’t leak in over night. It kills me using the disposables over night, but I remind myself that we are still making a massive difference for the planet by cloth diapering the rest of the time.

[@maryanne.sanders]

Have you gotten her a chiropractic adjustment by someone specializing in infants? If your baby has a preference about the position they nurse, that could solve the problem! Did for me and both my babes 💕💕💕

[@heyshayla]

We just did!! Thank you!

[@ashleysinniah6789]

Who is your elastic fixer contact or how did you find them?

[@heyshayla]

I found them in a fb diapering group!

[@Pigimyshrewed]

Question! Are there any cloth diapers that you can put on while your LO is standing up? We really wanted to use cloth diapers, but my daughter had TERRIBLE acid reflux and laying on her back even for diaper changes caused her pain, so we switched to the smallest disposable pull-ups we could find at around 6 months. Also, my 19 month old is SUPER chunky, and I feel like the cloth diapers cause painful spots on her legs - any ideas? We are trying for our second, and I'd love to just be able to use cloth diapers with the next one, and with our little one before she is potty trained! TIA!

[@heyshayla]

No standing diapers that i know if. You can use it in the loosest setting!

[@Erinraewellness]

I am currently on day 6 potty training my 20 month old daughter. She really is not understanding, I feel so defeated that it’s not clicking for her but really think she is just showing me that she is not ready yet. I read Andrea’s book potty training 18+ mo of age, which says that this age capable but after 5 days of watching my daughter I’m not convinced that she is. I don’t want to give up but how do I keep going??

[@heyshayla]

It took us like a month. Keep going! Don’t get angry with her, just offer it (hard to do). It took even longer for her to tell us. We had to keep bringing her to the pottu

[@skjfamily9619]

Hey, Shayla! I also did EC starting around 3 months with my son (took a break these last few months). He is now 15 months and we want to wrap up EC/ Potty train him. Could you please do a more in-depth video on that transition of wrapping up EC/ Potty training??

[@heyshayla]

Yes I have an episode on my Hey Shayla podcast episode 23! heyshayla.buzzsprout.com/1819031/10134330-023-potty-training-a-newborn-or-toddler-if-you-missed-the-boat

[@samanthaf1992]

You’ve mentioned delayed vaccination before - can you do a video on this?

[@heyshayla]

We follow dr Paul’s vaccine friendly plan! It’s a book :)

[@sarahvanleuven1385]

Possums sleep changed my life. I think it is now called Milk and moon. Its based on the idea that babies will sleep when they need and teaches you to trust sleep pressure and the Circadian Rhythm. I was so worried about sleep and it was the most stressful thing for me as a nanny and then a mom. I don’t fully practice everything Possums but the research and tips I have learned have made sleep less of a stress. You have mentioned in many videos that sleep is what stresses you. I wondered if you had heard of this. It’s very “Granatural” 😂

[@heyshayla]

Just recently!!! And it’s what I started leaning on as I was giving up some of the stress but I had a hard time finding info!!

[@anhe3409]

Hey Shayla, We are more or less in the same boat (2 years and four months old son and 3 months old daughter here). How is the jealous going now? I’m still waiting for improvement here. I need to be always around to avoid any accidents. It can turn quickly from a hug and kiss to ‚I scratch, slap or pull on a feet‘. Potty is a subject here too but I don’t want to force on it, as there is already so much going on in his life. Our little one peed twice in the potty already after the afternoon nap. Greetings from France

[@ebonyalexis32]

New hey Shayla brand ? graNATURAL

[@pinkdog67]

How long do you have them on the potty ?

[@heyshayla]

Just a few min. If they try to get off or don’t do anything they come off

[@Purdylcp]

Naked baby training is the only way to go!😊

[@culturallydifferent]

absolutely!

[@christengardner1466]

I am about to have a one year old and I want to potty train as soon as she turns one. just not sure how to go about it kind of nervous

[@heyshayla]

You can read the book from Andrea Olsen gondiaper free! heyshayla.com/godiaperfreeyt

[@christengardner1466]

@@heyshayla thank you so much. Hoping it works

[@ASMRKay_]

Could you try a potty in the car? I don’t think it’s a bad habit to go outside though.

[@heyshayla]

We have one

[@Bilisjourney]

We do cloth diapering, for almost 5 years consecutively and 2 littles, LOVE them!🤍 EC worked very well w my first, second I guess I don’t try as much but whatever! 🫠

[@ashleyfoster1429]

I tried cloth diapers with my son and could just never get it to not leak, if it was on longer than an hour it would leak even after I watched all the how to videos and tried every tip and trick🥲