Precious Chikwendu talks about her marriage with Politician Femi Fani-Kayode.

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[@lollypop8632]

He’s a narcissist and can never change. Please don’t go back! The hardest thing to do is to leave which you have done 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@eghonghonsquizandasmr3979]

Spot on

[@solawilliams4963]

Did the same thing to his other wives for those who don't believe her.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@solawilliams4963 In that case why did she get invvoled with such a man?

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@eghonghonsquizandasmr3979 Precious is worst for being a gold digger.

[@lollypop8632]

@@TheUhroboGuy Not sure how being a gold digger justifies how she was treated? Does this mean she deserves it and the man should go free??

[@foreverzainab3158]

Ladies ,it's time for us to start thinking with clarity and being clear headed,observe the red flag!!

[@omobolajicampbell8395]

especially in the case of cash dangling men like FFK

[@tdad8683]

Currently, there is another potential victim with him and tomorrow when things do not go as planned, that one too will come out and give interview to tell us that she fell for FFK out of pity and not because of money and power. PEOPLE NO DEY LEARN SHAA!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@maamedansowaa1520]

I'm telling you!!!!

[@uzoamakamadusque9829]

Thank you Zainab! Right from the beginning it was conspicuous!

[@leox4224]

Observe? FFK is a national red flag.

[@_erama]

She speaks so well

[@quizn88]

I believe everything this lady says because I can relate to her experience. Until you have been with a manipulative and abusive narcissist, you might not understand what she went through. These type of men always go for the quiet/reserved girls, those they believe can easily be manipulated. But what these men don’t know is no woman no matter how reserved will take these abuse for 4eva, they will surely revolt. Take care Precious, you’re strong and will prevail. I pray God blesses you with a good man who will treat you right.

[@raphaelx1441]

You believe her because you belong to the same gender

[@gracegeorge7285]

@@raphaelx1441 your comment is the reason abuse thrives in that society. U are taught to be misogynistic and hence diminish and disregard whatever an abused woman says, no matter what hard evidence has been presented…with names, dates and all! We women today, refuse to endure further abuse by our culture, the earlier you get that, the better for you and your like.

[@raphaelx1441]

@@gracegeorge7285 pipe down girl. She has no evidence to back the claim that she was physically abused by FFK. You believe that because she's a fellow woman and according to the popular mentality of victimhood, women are always victims. I don't condone him denying her access to their kids, but such is very rare in Nigeria unlike in the west where millions of men are denied access to their children by their ex wives and nothing happens

[@honesty2152]

@@raphaelx1441 kzbin.info/www/bejne/qWq3oXZmYtxprq8 The above is the link to a video of her husband proving her point. How can a supposed educated man be this rough?

[@MrStrikemasterice]

Honestly, I believe her as well. Whilst she might not say anything to paint herself in a bad light, you can tell the kind of person FFK is just from the things/videos/interviews that are publicly available. You can tell he has an ego the size of the sun and a temper to boot.

[@dooella8970]

never marry anyone out of pity...always ends in premium tears

[@princessaluchi8924]

It sure does, if they don’t want to change they will not change 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@bimboolufemi7593]

You are right. That guy has sweet mouth

[@dorothynjemanze]

Glad she’s speaking up!!! She has all the support of decent women. Denying women access to their children to punish them for rejecting enduring abuse is wrong!!!

[@priscillaojeigbo5173]

God will fight your battles.

[@evelynodogwu1531]

@@priscillaojeigbo5173 qqc

[@avehematti1250]

Please refer her to justice court. Judge Funmi must see this.

[@estherlola1734]

This would have been my story, but someone called me that my son had been taken from school. If not they would have used my child as a bait to keep me in an abusive marriage. God will bring back your children. I can see a very strong spirit in this woman

[@dikevivian8956]

She is such a beautiful, well mannered,soft spoken woman, please remain strong,I know you will unite with your children one day

[@ChisomAkahTV]

Jeez! What an experience. I remember interviewing this lady after she won a beauty pageant in 2014 and published on my blog then...thanks to Amb. David Egwu and co. I really admired the great works she had done as a humanitarian. This is a great exposé indeed. Thanks for this platform Chude

[@laceylove7375]

Listening and watching this interview, all I see is a beautiful, well mannered good hearted girl who fell into the hands of a wrong man. I pray help comes her way. Nobody deserve to be treated this way.

[@insidelifewithcathy5513]

Yes

[@chisomiduma4808]

I totally agree

[@raphaelx1441]

Beautiful well mannered gold digger

[@wolebbf]

No well mannered, well raised lady reasonable lady who already knew FFK’s antecedents would want to do with that kind of a man

[@raphaelx1441]

@@wolebbf she obviously knew who he was, she just wanted the money and fame.

[@Sheyi80s]

She's telling the truth. You can't make this up🧐

[@stilladey]

Oh She is ABSOLUTELY TELLING THE TRUTH. FFK is a beast and heartless arrogant man. He is a total disappointment to the society. It's a shame, he is just one of the many failing leaders the Nigerian state keep enabling. Shameless man.

[@bee7314]

No matter what colour the flag is or was. Even if she entered the relationships with her eyes wide open or closed. No human deserves to be abused. Stop victim blaming and shaming, start holding perpetrators accountable for their abusive behaviours. This is why people suffer in silence, must be nice up there in the clouds where your judgemental heads are resting. Hope there is enough oxygen.

[@walkingtalking7133]

Your comment is sweet but how about gold digging women who will enter a relationship with a known abuser for material reasons? Like this same stupid FFK is already flaunting another girl in less than how many months? I should pity them tomorrow too? Go and sit down please! Ur gender should have sense for once!

[@bee7314]

@@walkingtalking7133 who asked you to pity anyone? Plus i was ctually sitting down when I wrote the earlier comment, so your go and sit down is redundant. And "your gender," you sound bitter, who hurt you that's causing you to think people are asking you for pity, or that your opinion carries more weight, so others should go and sit down. If you believe that people should be abused by others, just say so and move on.

[@daughterofenoch677]

@@walkingtalking7133 Very well said. Each adult is responsible for their own decisions. If an adult enters into an unwise marriage for financial reasons, nobody's going to cry over them.

[@walkingtalking7133]

@@bee7314 precious your Aunty is actually looking for pity which some of us ain't ready to waste. Yes, your gender is in the habit of marrying an old fool for material gain only to come out crying in public looking for pity. Na una senselessness dey hurt me. Plenty women go still marry FFK tomorrow! Ndi ara!

[@storieswithauntyogeswaog1430]

@@walkingtalking7133 I understand what your point is, even I as a woman am tempted to agree with you. But when they truly repent, regret and cry out for help should we not show mercy? We condemn their stupidity yes but shouldn't we also forgive and help them if we can? The poor children are suffering too. No one is above mistakes and everyone does stupid things from time to time. It doesn't make abuse right in any way or manner. It could be your daughter tomorrow....

[@j.nstrub2238]

What a lesson to learn. There were too many evidence she saw during courtship, but she went ahead and entangled herself with such kind of man. I need a son, you must give me a son, IVF just for a son was enough reason to make her rethink and make a U turn. I guess you she was hypnotized. I prefer to marry Oyibo than than be with any Nigerian that will use my language, tribe or clan to insult me. I pray for God to continue to strengthen you, is a tough battle.

[@sadraolaedo4733]

😭😭😭😳😳😳😳😳😳 Foreign men are better

[@felixawgu6755]

9

[@omotoshotaiwoolanrew]

@strub and sadra, please never try marrying a wh%te man but vice visa is still very much possible. I am not saying they are not good but there is this historical and current imbalance between both race...black and white. You will feel it throughout your relationship because you will forever deal with insecurity especially when you are in their country. FFK is a completely narcist..i dont see him like 100 percent human being rather like bipolar person. back to marrying someone not from your race or color as a woman. it is tough...when he doesnt want to go out with u publicly, you will feel awkward by thinking you being with him in his circle will demarket him from his peers. black woman and white guy relationship can be challenging because the other party feels odd one out of his colleagues in the society. except you belong to a group that is controlled like jehovahs witness that has a belief system that binds them together.

[@j.nstrub2238]

@@omotoshotaiwoolanrew see, I have been living in Switzerland for 19 good years now, I can tell you categorically that white man and black man are same, where someone like you is getting it wrong is in skin colors and mentality. (Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba differs in mentality). The key is this : Study your Spouse to be, read him or her like book, check if your positively can handle his or her nagativity. and pray God for guidance. Most White men are even more open and sincere compare to black men. They tell you is over and is over! No pretence! No punishment! He pays for his kds, you move on with your life.

[@ucheekwebelem5160]

@@j.nstrub2238 madam! We obviously have different stories of white men. This stereotype of how white people are better should please just stop! Bad people are just bad and can and will be found in different shades of colour.

[@DrEzinneErhirhie]

The dangers of reading too many romance novels where the lead character is an arrogant rich dude that is made to be a type of guy every woman should want.

[@mirimercy975]

Exactly.. thank you so much for this comment. It is high time we get over all these tails of the stronger and arrogant, the man enough he is.. some sort of practice in the stone age blah blah blah...🙏🙏

[@onaziblessing8652]

Not only novels, a lot of movies as well

[@Iphie2019]

You are so right my sister. That’s why I have also stopped watching romance movies!!! Real life is super different!!!!

[@Skincaremum98]

Mehnnnn, exactly

[@oluseyeajakaye844]

One of my younger sister is very addicted to Mills and Boons.She will spend hours devouring romantic novels.When the time came to put her fantasies into action,reality hit her like a thunderbolt.Till now we still dey try to solve the matter!

[@maximamwinteruupuotege6705]

All I can say is that this lady is just beautiful inside out. I pray she gets all the goodness and justice she deserves.

[@Dailycatholicprayers]

Girl, Fly!!!! You have a story to fly on!!! Soar and never look back, use your pain to your advantage

[@kingamar8780]

Chude has been excellent with these interviews a Class act in African Journalism 👍🏽….Naija Gen Z/Millennials please grab your 🖊 📝

[@maduokafor]

Totally agree! He listens and asks the right questions.

[@JDede]

First time watching him, was his interview with Busola Dakolo. He's since created a niche for himself doing these types of interviews.

[@balogunrilwan9512]

Fact!

[@yellmow]

I commend her for doing this..... There are still many like her who are not brave enough or still enticed by the glam life..... Nigeria.... Sad!

[@amenuvevedelalorm2412]

The greatest mistake is seeing the signs and ignoring them. This is my story now after 15 years of marriage.

[@Laura_Obot]

🫂

[@nwanambaek-alad4052]

Thank you Chude for providing this interview fully. 🙏🏾

[@dominica136]

Am so moved to tears 😭😭😭now, listening to this beautiful n intelligent woman who married a man she felt ,atleast with his wealth of experience, he will be a better person with her and even with giving him sons, yet a leopard can never change its skin...well the relationship doesn't seem like it can hold again, just keep fighting till you get your sons out of the den before they grow up to become bullies...God give you the wisdom n protection you need in times like these.

[@victorkolo5142]

“If something on the inside is telling you that someone isn’t right for you, they’re NOT right for you, no matter how great they might look on paper, what they have achieved in life. When it’s right for you, you will know. And when it’s not - it’s time to go.” "People see the fire burning and decide to take a shot thinking it will not burn them"

[@queeni5212]

WOW! This is a very wise statement!!!

[@baybeecakes450]

Just want to give credit where credit is due! Well done to Chude for his excellent interviewing skills. He lets his guests speak and listens attentively which allows his guests to be comfortable to divulge even more information. It's not an easy thing to do because natural instinct is to interrupt anytime you hear something that makes you question. So well done to Chude! Also well done to the production team for the quality video, sound and interview setting! Also well done to Chude again for bringing light to controversial topics that are often swept under the rug or tabooed especially in Nigeria! As a young girl seeing this Its made me realise that not everything that glitters is gold.

[@sparrowdulake7076]

"as a young girl seeing this its made me realize not everything that glitters is gold" i like that... I will most ladies will see so too

[@mtd4577]

Except he never stops wearing slippers for interviews. That's not classic. Just rude!

[@BURXYMOORE]

@@mtd4577 I think it's because he always wears native attires. Originally slippers are paired with such wears .

[@amazinggrace1957]

When a man is mentally unstable, he can do all these and even much more. I was a victim too. An abusive husband is a thorn in the flesh. If there is no respect, then marriage is not worth it. Please lady, go where you are celebrated. You need to see your kids and its your right. Go to any length to achieve that. Goodluck Precious.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

A gold digger is more mentally unstable. Shior.

[@amazinggrace1957]

@@TheUhroboGuy After 4 boys to that unworthy man, you still call her a gold digger, she is a victim, while you are being insensitive, girl-code please.

[@slykems3474]

@@TheUhroboGuy ...Your daughter or your sisters will be one.

[@Anthony_Ola]

@@amazinggrace1957 that was Femi Fani-kayode responding to your comments using a fake account. The guy is a lunatic with a little bit of money and name recognition.

[@amazinggrace1957]

@@Anthony_Ola Really, am happy that I unknowingly gave him a deserving reply. He will soon understand that money is not everything and that God hears every agony, humiliation and supplications that woman is groaning everyday and night. FFK lived in Uk and knows that he cannot try that nonesense there bc by his medical status, the children should be with their mother so that they can turn out to be better adults in the society. Take the case of Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, the court gave her custody of the kids bc she is one likely to give them better care due to Kanye's mental instability am sorry to say this bc am a huge fan of Kanye. Kanye is now begging her for a come back. People should learn in this world bc things are all out there for all to see.

[@craftfashionmedia]

I feel for precious. She fell for this man out of pity. Most times it's not really nice to have a tender heart.😥 when i realized precious gave birth to 3 babies in Nigeria when she had all the opportunities to deliver abroad (high risk pregnancy)that was when i knew this man was up to something... be strong God will surely vindicate you.

[@tdad8683]

Out of pity???? Are you serious??? Would she have married an Okada rider out of pity? Let us say things the way they are, abeg.

[@lilychi1511]

@@tdad8683 shut up you’ve been bouncing from one comment to the other to type trash

[@tdad8683]

@@lilychi1511 TRASH???... 😂😂😂 On top reality wey all of us dey see??? Tell me something else, ejoor. 😆😆😆😆😆

[@susanmajek]

@@tdad8683 Spot on! It was straight up money+power in exchange for beauty+sons...

[@werqzeleke2815]

So bleaching is beauty?

[@blessingjennifer24]

I am impressed on how well she has taken care of her body, 4 kids n still looks like that. May justice and mercies come her way. I wish her all the best

[@beyourself2444]

Some people bounce back and others don't

[@ekamanda84]

This business of friends and family begging women to remain within violent and emotionally abusive marriages is just as toxic as the actions of the perpetrators. Generational practices and curses that have to be broken!

[@solawilliams4963]

Backwards culture that needs to change.

[@peacenosa-omorogiuwa5057]

So true! And they always come to beg the woman, do they talk to the men who are creating the issues.

[@raphaelx1441]

Stop being golddiggers then

[@konye618]

Very backwards. It's easy to be saying that when you're not the one being pummeled with punches, emotional abuse daily. It's disgusting

[@raphaelx1441]

@@konye618 women subject their husbands bro emotional abuse and they physically abused their own children too. What about that

[@BukolaRY_TV]

This is really sad. The pain in her voice is touching.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

When she was enjoying with FFK she made no noise.

[@nnekalaura6086]

I never knew or saw this woman until FFK was arrested and charged to court.. then I would always see her in the news in court standing by/with him and I admired her strength and boldness. But for FFK to turnaround and put her through all what she said especially denying her access to her own children????? It’s inhuman and wickedness

[@blessingbessotobo2792]

He thought he could treat her like a sex slave because he thinks he has money.

[@sholabomiveracruz8255]

You married that man out of pity. Marriage is a life time commitment.

[@ritamali584]

She feels pity for him, that’s where a lot of people don’t understand. Some women feel pity for men and just want to be in their life,.those are the guys that betrayed us the most

[@violetefejuku2558]

Exactly same here you pity for them when they come with story that is the way they come narcissistic

[@candyhender291]

Calling his own blood a cockroach? So this time the same man is refusing to give away cockroaches to their mother? What a level of hypocrisy!!

[@theafricanphilosopherqueen3032]

This lady is very strong and represents many women who are suffering in the hands of narcissistic partners...May God see her through. Following from Kenya.

[@Lezayla_luxuryhair_uk]

She's a strong woman. God bless you precious, for your strength

[@TheUhroboGuy]

She wanted to reap where she did not sow.

[@elizabethjulianah]

May God protect Precious and reunite her with her sons, in Jesus mighty name Amen

[@TheUhroboGuy]

Did she tell us when she was enjoying the money FFK stole?

[@mazwideamahle4091]

@@TheUhroboGuy your most probably not a parent so.........

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@mazwideamahle4091 What has being a parent got to do with Ashawo Precious a gold digger who wanted to reap where she did not sow. Abegi commot for road mumu.

[@daniellawrence4973]

Amen

[@OBIANUJU]

The people calling this woman a gold digger, the job and side hustles you do, do you not get paid? The truth is, she has never been compensated enough for the amount of trauma and abuse she’s been through. Even surrogates with no marriage get treated better than her. Now, it’s time for her to truly love herself and put herself first. ❤️

[@SingonpointTV]

The 1st point of contact & communication was Arrogance, threats & bossy ! She didn't really pay attention to RED FLAGS, that's the truth 💥💥 A man who could threaten a FAAN Staff with losing his job was already sending you a signal from the onset !!! you heard stories from same man with 2 prior divorces & you didn't bother to fact check all the informations b4 you. Only her know the Actual reason for getting involved with a man like FFK 💯💯

[@blessingbessotobo2792]

I can imagine how she feels not seeing her children for over a year. I was in the same predicament for over 10 years, and the worst part is that most men don't take care of the children if they resent their mothers. Precious fight for your children. The law is on your side, unfortunately out of ignorance of not knowing the law, most mothers suffer 😢. May God give you strength to heal and stand for your children.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

Precious nobody forced you to marry a man that has divorced his 4 wives. Gold digger.

[@ainnaa6909]

@@TheUhroboGuy smh, but you men will happily marry a rich mans daughter cause money. The gold digger term often applies to you more than us after all look at what your male government is doing to the country simply for money.

[@AA-xs8mv]

@@ainnaa6909 very stupid argument smh

[@ainnaa6909]

@@AA-xs8mv Is it false? Nope so you can just go ahead and cry and call it stupid because you can't debunk it.

[@AA-xs8mv]

@@ainnaa6909 you are clearly not normal

[@ruthdianamomodu7808]

He should give her, her children. No mother should be separated from her children no matter what.

[@pintopinto9901]

Chude is a really calm and professional interviewer!

[@blessingnnaemengozi8142]

Empaths are always attracting narcissist. People who are calling her golddiggers do not really understand.

[@abaabeebeauty9170]

Thank you. They just don't gerrit! I dodged a bullet so I know. Narcissists know how to get into the head of an empath and make you start even hating the ex wife you don't even know.

[@tdad8683]

@@abaabeebeauty9170 Watch this interview from the beginning oooo. There were red flags but she was too naive to see its effects in the long run. Was she a toddler when she met him?

[@exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198]

Exactly so.

[@maydvicky3316]

@@tdad8683 u are too harsh with ur words, not everyone observe the red flags, there are still poor men who are narcissist and women are victims so stop emphasising on money

[@blessingnnaemengozi8142]

@@tdad8683 we all watched the interview from the beginning and paid attention. Respect people's opinion and don't shove yours down our throats.

[@danbauchihauwa1231]

All of my heart goes out to Precious. All i see is someone who was deeply tactically victimized and its so heartbreaking. I send you bright lights, love, warmth & more resilience in this time✨❤️

[@TheUhroboGuy]

I have no sympathy for gold diggers.

[@empressrosey3288]

i really feel ur pain sister😭God is ur strength don't worry

[@empressrosey3288]

@@TheUhroboGuy she is not point of correction mr man🙄

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@empressrosey3288 Precious Chikwendu stop using fake accounts to defend yourself. Ashawo kobo kobo.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@empressrosey3288 Precious Chikwendu with fake accounts spotted again. Ashawo Ooloosho

[@stellaprah375]

I’m sorry that you went through these. You are strong because you didn’t even break and you are fighter. I hope you get your boys back. You are right about your children not following after him.

[@winifredokonkwo2329]

Femi fani kayode is a malignant narcissist..what baffles me is how a young, pretty girl with a clear vision of where she was going decided to marry someone whom she knew had been married multiple times and she even said it in this interview that he was arrogant the first time he spoke with her..im not judging her for whatever decision she made but I think she saw clearly the red flags but ignored it..

[@tosinakande735]

My thoughts too. The red flags are always there.

[@clarebt844]

She was young, naive and empathetic. Narcissistic men tell you stories to latch on to your empathy.

[@ZoeBredan]

He has a supporter Kemi Olunloyo two raving mad people

[@vanessaagyemang1659]

My dear, don't forget that the Narcissists deceive and lure people into relationships and marriages before they show their true selves hmm they're more than Dangerous

[@mcdapsytube3695]

Could it be the wealth?

[@jideajibola5074]

While I don’t advocate for splitting up families, it is very refreshing to see women leave abusive relationships. I feel for her. FFK is a terrible human being.

[@trevoruzomah7290]

Don't join them bro , there are two sides to a story.

[@saraholuwatoyinajayi9758]

Don’t pity to marry anyone in this world ,she is saying the truth she can’t frame up all the story, Girl don’t allow anyone takes your kids from you!!

[@mamudurashidat1227]

This is the life of a lot of women. Very heartbreaking experience. Violence against women is real. Hope she gets listened to by the court and given access to her kids.

[@rebeccaoluwashindara2540]

The fact that she said “this is a wake up call” says alot and no woman/human deserves to be treated this way! Ffk will meet his loom soon

[@restoringyourconfidence]

Amen

[@maryimasuen6014]

I just pray a day comes for him to be judged and the fact that the law is behind him is so sick Nigeria truly is a lawless country

[@Fomskie]

This is wickedness of the highest order! Please how can we help this woman and her kids reunite??? #JusticeforPreciousChikwendu

[@aanufasan8780]

The truth is most Nigerian men have this same character. Most women tend to wrapp theirs up under the cloth. Some of us have been brainwashed by our mother's from the village ti endure. Iam happy our girls are speaking up and facing it better to be single than to stay in a traumatised marriage.

[@avehematti1250]

Justice court, judge Funmi must hear of this.

[@Sam_de_great]

Having heard from the woman. I believed that the signs to show that he was going to be an arrogant and a non-husband material surfaces before she went into the marriage with him. I wouldn't say she went for such an arrogant man because of money because she was an independent woman of herself before she men him. I want to believe she fell for the lies from FFK and the pressure from people. FFK was just a virus to her noble self. I felt your pains for being lured and fed with lies

[@oyinkansolaoladipupo]

She did not marry him, she got pregnant for him

[@Jooniebug]

She was surrogate to his sons. Yes she isn't his wife. They never were in love he wanted sons she wanted money

[@olua9120]

You guys are sick! All you know how to do is gossip and exchange rumors. A woman has been so severely abused like this and you come here chatting nonsense.

[@oyinkansolaoladipupo]

@@olua9120 You do have misplaced priorities, so let me at you straight. I am telling this commentator that he is saying what did not happen such as she saw the signs and still married him. She didn't marry him, she pitied him because she most likely be a very reserved and laid-back person. She empathized with him and had sympathy for him. So when commenting kindly settle down read thrice, it shows comprehension is hard for you but don't take it out on others. Be calming down 😂

[@alithair929]

@@Jooniebug not everyone is like you she wasn't with him for money!

[@DrEzinneErhirhie]

I'm yet to see anyone who married or dated as a rebound and didn't regret it. Taking a serious decision when emotionally dazed is a NO! NO!!

[@tdad8683]

😂😂😂😂

[@bellabetha8827]

Exactly how she ended up with this old.. not out of pity as she says it but more of a rebound when she realised the person she was interested in was getting married..

[@Mabrrrr]

This ❤️💯😂 we are here oooh but thank God it worked out 😆

[@olabmar498]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏This comment right here is gold.... why I sympathize with her and absolutely condemn the despicable actions of the man, I feel like the rebound aspect just was a no no on her part. She should have healed before moving on to have kids with someone else. There were so many red flags: from the beginning of her giving her number to the frantic employee who was operating under literal threat to the bouts of arrogance during conversations at the early stages of their relationship to having been married what thrice????? Red flags red flags red flags... but again we are all different and things are easier said than done

[@nkhen_c357]

My problem is when young women get married to old men with bad history..... They convince themselves he will do better with them and history repeat itself....... For such a young lady to settle for an old man.... Hayikee

[@aghachinenye5617]

Absolutely 💯. Regina and Co hear oo

[@kateodumu6640]

@@aghachinenye5617 🤣🤣🤣

[@okafornnenna9769]

Old man is not the problem here. I was married to a narcissist my own age. Young men have bad histories too

[@KIRSTYVALENTYN]

God bless you, thank you, A man who had three failed marriages what is a young girl doing there didn't that tell her that Ffk is a bad case wasn't that a sign in the first place, both sides of her family watched and approved liaisons with him and it was fine and okay with them without even introduction so that they can even get the opportunity to give him a list, she didn't even sale herself cheap she gave herself away for free. A man who is a tyrant and a bully, someone who is a political confusionist, for me I don't feel sorry for her, I feel for the innocent children who are caught up in this messy battle.. As for both precious and FFK i pray they both reach an amicable agreement

[@deziebethel]

Imagine hanging on to your kids' pictures for more than 1 year. What kind of wickedness is this? I pray you get reunited with your babies soon🙏🏽

[@monalisawm]

This is a mother and a woman with courage, strength, tenacity, and love for her children. She has taken on a system that only favors men in power who think women should not be heard pr listen to but only seen and can/should be treated with disregard, humiliation, and violence. The saddest part there are many women like her only to look pretty in the public like trophies. She has helped someone somewhere to stand up for herself. I know she will be victorious.

[@Dailycatholicprayers]

The signs were there from the onset, Like many other women, you were blind to it, that’s fine , you are not alone, many of us fell for such men too. We learn and we moveeee

[@tdad8683]

THANK YOU VERY MUCH OOOO. Are you minding her?... she got married to her father for power and money and she expected all to be well. She should rest abeg, there is nothing new about what she is lamenting.... FFK is a known problem and the signs were ALWAYS there but she was a BIG FOOL.

[@Dailycatholicprayers]

@@tdad8683 if you read my comment well, no hate intended. She made a mistake that almost every woman has made- falling for the wrong person. Even men have made same

[@tdad8683]

@@Dailycatholicprayers Na my own comment come carry hatred, shebi???? Wasn't she the one whose lovey-dovey videos were all over the internet as if all was well? She kept deceiving people meanwhile she was receiving her daily doses of beatings from a very volatile man. How stupid can one be???? Did she not hear of FFK's older marriages and how they ended??? Like I said, MAKE SHE REST. It's because things have gone bad that she suddenly realised that he was abusive to her. These are the usual things women do when the going becomes awry, THEY GRANT INTERVIEWS telling us what we already know.

[@Isaiah--vj2xu]

@@tdad8683 let's be truthful but cover it with grace..

[@tdad8683]

@@Isaiah--vj2xu That message should be for pretentious souls not me.

[@Juliet-de2fl]

I hope she is safe after this interview

[@jollybabe7994]

Nice interview Chude...I hope she re unites with her kids soon.

[@modichiestouch]

Be strong woman,you will surely get your sons back!!! In Jesus mighty name Amen

[@queenmarian2947]

📝 taken Thank you Chude for this exclusive interview I wish Chikwendu healing and strength to move on

[@bolajimartins6771]

FFK is huge caricature, I wonder what any woman as beautiful and intelligent as this lady is doing around him.

[@blockishdev2400]

From the interview it seemed he manipulated her (part of narcissism). Sending people to beg her, sub stories about his ex-wives. She wanted to support him, it’s so sad

[@blockishdev2400]

It’s best to trust what people say about someone instead of waiting to “experience them” as she said in the interview. I just feel sad for her sha

[@chukwukaokafor2673]

She was looking for fame and money above all already made husband

[@kachilious978]

The answer is MONEY!!!!

[@abaabeebeauty9170]

@@kachilious978 who doesn't like money!

[@nnekagodwin2922]

No woman should be denied access to her children when she does not pose any threat to them. I hope Nigerians can rise up against this monstrosity. His recent political stunts clearly portrayed his true character.

[@ambberhill1090]

I tell you. very unstable human being

[@felicianjideka9631]

Very true!

[@captainjacksparrow6881]

No Parent is more appropriate, because a lot of women deny Fathers access to their children for no honest reason without realising that the child is the one that suffers the most.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

​@@ambberhill1090 Why did Precious give her TOTO to FFK after he has insulted Bianca Ojukwu? Gold digger.

[@TheUhroboGuy]

@@felicianjideka9631 NTOOR Precious Gold digger.

[@ng1471]

I feel really sorry for what this lady must've been through. I never saw Femi Fani Kayode as a responsible person.

[@raphaelx1441]

That man has many children who're well taken cared of. Maybe you need to check the dictionary for the meaning of responsible

[@smileblaine5107]

Having children well taken care of doesn't mean you are responsible.

[@jafat8829]

Do not go back to him. If you do you may not come out alive. Your kids will find you at the right time.

[@mpoliwamwampashi3387]

Great advice

[@oja2338]

Oh my God, I can’t imagine the pain of not seeing her kids for such a long time. I pray she’s able to get custody of her children soon in Jesus name. Amen 🙏

[@cordemina2167]

Beautiful lady

[@estelleogbs6741]

Exactly what's on my mind! She spoke eloquently and sounds intelligent, how the heck did she take in all these? Sorry beautiful, you'll win!

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

@@estelleogbs6741 show you that beauty and eloquence isn't intelligence. Else she wouldn't have remained in or better still got in at all.

[@jenniferopara1366]

i can understand how she’d be feeling now. i can’t even stay a day without my son . no woman deserve to be treated like this.

[@nonyenj4887]

This woman is brave. I give it up to you. Well done for having the courage to walk away. Hope you get to see your sons soonest.

[@obifrancauchetv1558]

No matter what any body is saying, you are a strong woman. A very strong woman. God will certainly make way for you.

[@Nelly1013]

I didn't realize she's so refined, sounds well educated and is so articulate. She could have done way better than ffk..it's so tragic.

[@Jooniebug]

He used her as a surrogate to have his sons. She KNEW what She was getting herself in to! 💰💰💰!!

[@luluallwell6232]

@@Jooniebug so is her fault for being abused? You are a horrible creatures.

[@raphaelx1441]

She's a gold digger

[@raphaelx1441]

@@luluallwell6232 you're just hysterical

[@vokeobianyo2525]

@@Jooniebug I don't know if it's true that she was a surrogate but if she signed up to be a surrogate and did a job and got paid, that's not being a gold digger and she should not be physically abused on the job. There is never an excuse for abuse.

[@chimerezeemeruwa]

The part that got me is the seven pastor's that are praying for FFK's Presidential ambition🤣🤣🤣

[@pearlpearl5476]

😂😂imagine a bully as Nigerian President

[@wolebbf]

@@pearlpearl5476 we actually have a bully as a sitting president, nothing to imagine again

[@AgozIfebi]

@@wolebbf 🤣🤣🤣

[@emmacogodson3077]

No small thing 7 pastors chai

[@omolaralawal5407]

Any man or woman who keeps Children from their mothers or father's are beasts.Precious for wealth and position you played well ,you closed your eyes and feelings.Now you are paying for it.

[@dupzjai]

Lessons Here: 1. What you see is what you get. He showed you who he was from the beginning, and no apologies should have erased that. Your instincts are usually right, and most people don’t change. 2. Do not make any important decision while heartbroken or hurt. 3. If possible, ask the people who came before you about the position you are going to occupy. You might have heard a single story. I pray and hope you are victorious in getting your boys back. Good luck to you Precious.

[@Mabrrrr]

Very true ❤️

[@omotundebunmiadeoye5292]

Very true...May God help us.

[@joyugbome]

So many red flags she saw but still went with the relationship. I hope young girls and women are listening

[@Jooniebug]

Totally agree. She NEVER loved him though. He used her for surrogacy for his sons that's all. There was no loving relationship between them.

[@alexanderonwe9712]

Many will not listen and still fall prey. Gold is attractive even if in the hands of the devil.

[@ClassyCelest]

Exactly. From the day he threatened to sack the FAAN personnel if he didn't get her number, that was a red flag. Second, I don't think they loved each other. The collaboration was to have kids. May God help her and help everyone.

[@joyugbome]

@@ClassyCelest I'm currently making a video on my channel highlighting all the red flags! Women need to hear!

[@simp1eone]

She's beautiful eloquent and intelligent. Ladies don't let anyone pressure you to marry anyone'. All those prominent elites calling to plead on the MFers behalf made her stay. Maya Angelou once said. Love is many things, the one thing its not and will never be is UNSURE, Like Actress Lilian Esoro. She was unsure but still went ahead to marry these 😈 😈 😈 . Ladies take this as a lesson

[@evangelanyanwu]

No body should be physically and emotionally abused but denying her access to her kids breaks my heart. Am just here crying 😭 I don’t want to know why she ended up with such a person but raising those kids without their mom even when she is able and sane is the most wicked act really. SMH

[@TheUhroboGuy]

What does Precious Chikwendu expect when she went ahead to marry a guy that has already divorced 4 wives. Na gold digger she be.

[@ifehansson2254]

She wanted to gain wealth, power & influence.

[@enyichukwudi1026]

Most of you women never reason well especially when money is involved.she married someone that already divorced 4 women so what was she thinking? Ndi ara

[@dcc-randomstorieswithmel7424]

@@enyichukwudi1026 why are you on every comment writing the same thing,do you have some bad experience or something? You already passed your message,let it go.

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

Hope you have stopped the crying now ma? Very important.

[@adesanmiadebowale5316]

Even Nigeria politicians are using power in their homes how do we then expect them to care about us "Nigerians" 💔 The Lord will see you through and keep the children for you, the children won't eventually become your enemy in Jesus name

[@iniobongukpong9001]

No be smallooo

[@omonEA]

I can't imagine me without my children. Please God help this woman 🙏😭

[@blessingnnaemengozi8142]

Those are not pastors. Those are thieves who jammed another thief🤣🤣🤣

[@aghachinenye5617]

100 percent

[@mimmieakintoke8139]

7 pastors praying for you to become president 😂😂😂. FFK you will never be president because Jesus will not allow you reach there. Ole (thief) ole (lazy)

[@joannie6993]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@bj.bollus]

Oh dear. I feel your pain, Precious. No woman should have to go through such treatment. I pray you see your sons soonest. Stay strong and keep safe.

[@yc0m571]

Igbo's are blessed to comes from a democracy culture.

[@MrRoyck10]

The explanation of marrying a well known red flag man out of sympathy does not hold water, there is a substantial age and cultural gap, he has had previous marriages. FFK was a very famous Oxford educated man from an affluent background who is a two time minister, so his status must be an overriding factor why this fine articulated lady married FFK. Well take it as a error of judgment but to loss your boys without the jurisdiction of the court is a testament of lawlessness in Nigeria.

[@tdad8683]

She never sabi. She thinks Nigerians are GULLIBLE😂😂😂 SHE WANTED TO HAVE IT ALL FROM SUCH A MANIPULATIVE PERSON.

[@davidoghenewede1255]

A real, ... I mean Real Woman, scarred by unfortunate experiences, yet confident, hopeful, purposefully focused, polite, and above all, liberated! 😢Psalm 20 is your portion! Amen!

[@tinaasidje5236]

I believe every single word said , every single word. Her ex husband is a narcissist egotistical chauvinist . Obasanjo described him more accurately .

[@justinaolabode8534]

There are so much red flags. I feel sad that she passed through all that and God will see you through. I feel your pain sister.

[@KIRSTYVALENTYN]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6i4Y395jtJ1irc MY SISTER so many so so many what really bothers me is the fact that her family allowed this to happen without intro or traditional wedding not even breaking of kolanut or Schnapp.. how hungry and desperate were they.. a beautiful Queen that she is.. at her youth why subject herself to bearing children for a man with sexual issues, no consumption for six years and not that she is a lady that has been long in marriage and has issues bearing children, a man that has had three failed marriages what is she a beautiful youthful young girl doing there and now she discovered that FFK did not divorce his third wife Regina, Regina must be celebrating her freedom and liberation.. honestly I wonder what kind of family she is from that could have allowed of these to happen.. it is so sad, very disheartening

[@justinaolabode8534]

@@KIRSTYVALENTYN Please don’t tell me that the old man did not do any traditional marriage or legal marriage on this youthful beauty Queen. Too hard to swallow this information. I think she should have gotten a personal business for financial stability instead of depending on him. Big mistake on her part. My advice to all ladies is not to fully depend on any man financially but please have your own source of income.

[@angelaodah5690]

Shocking. May God grant you the strength to rise above this ugly experience and reunite you with your children. That man clearly is unfit to raise your kids

[@deolababes]

Wow! Those children are too little to be placed exclusively in the care of nannies (outsiders) when their biological mother is alive and well. It is sheer wickedness to deprive those babies of the maternal love and nurture they so desperately deserve, all bcos of ego. If it wasn't Nigeria, the courts would ensure that the best interest of the children is served by awarding custody to the mother, but since it is Nigeria my prayer is that God touches his heart so he could allow the woman to care for children herself🙏

[@abaabeebeauty9170]

That is who a Narcissist is. They live on control

[@nas3516]

You know Nigeria and Africa the children father

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

You don't know where exactly the kids are oo she is the one saying. No Nigerian court wouldn't give a woman access to her kids. The court even grants the woman more preference over the man in terms of access.

[@DIMMA04]

This is heavy...... precious you're very strong

[@berrylove2100]

Very experienced journalist, he gives the guest time to talk and he listens without judging. Great to see this in Africa

[@dededorothy1812]

Am a victim of similar situation, l had this boyfriend who happened to be soo bossy, arrogant and proud. He was 19yrs older l am and makes me feel soo less of a human being. He's now asking for everything he gave to me in the relationship. He said he will curse me if l don't give him back his money. Our marriage date was in three months time buh l opted out because he can't change for even a second. My worst relationship ever.

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

19 year older... And you say BOYfriend. em....

[@dededorothy1812]

@@samuelonuegbu4276 lol what's the right word to use please????

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

@@dededorothy1812🤣🤣Daddy friend ma.

[@dededorothy1812]

@@samuelonuegbu4276 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 that's a blatant lie.

[@laughoncomedy2923]

Meaning you must be very young.​@@dededorothy1812

[@ambberhill1090]

She is so beautiful, I pray she receives all the help she needs to reconnect with her children. FFK is a sadist and Narcissist. Is there any organisation that can help her? none of his ex wives has good stories to say about him, he even did not turn up at his first daughter's wedding.

[@florenceita8397]

Most viewed interview with Chude.......Precious,I Pray for strength for you......It may not be easy for you now,just keep holding on.....Your children when they grow up,they will tell you,Welcome Mummy,we saw your struggles,your strength,and they would give you a Big Hug ..

[@topazgem7778]

Toxic persons suck you in with their sad stories from the onset. You were trauma bounded with his stories. This tactics is typically used by narcissist men to earn pity from their potential victims.

[@tdad8683]

If he was an Okada rider, would she have been sucked in with his stories? She should not act like she did not marry him for material benefits.

[@ginikaonyenuforo7951]

It doesn't matter.

[@jeremycole5744]

@@tdad8683 Dude youre just everywhere insulting this woman who is clearly a victim of this manipulative, condescending, toxic demon. Whats your problem? Did she reject you in real life or does she remind you of what you want but can never have? This is at least the 8th reply I've read you post on the topic. We heard you already. sheesh. Youre a demon too. We heard now move on with your life.

[@Alex-766]

@@tdad8683 This dude with Okada Rider what's your problem are you Okada Rider😂

[@levBeing]

True, I’ve been there!!

[@labake1679]

As a mother of 2 young adults whom we are praying to be wedded to God-fearing husbands in future, my heart really bleeds for this young lady. You went to dine with the devil.

[@phillipsphillipsesajere1159]

😂😂😂😂😂 Aunty na money make u enter the marriage stop covering up

[@nkechiokoro859]

@@phillipsphillipsesajere1159 uncle you don't know people's situation don't judge

[@phillipsphillipsesajere1159]

Off all people ffk Even from the way he talks on social media u go know say nor be man be dat... what were u expecting 😂😂😂

[@samuelonuegbu4276]

You came here to pray for your daughters or you came to showcase them for marriage ni!!!

[@joannie6993]

Wonders

[@IdorenyinIbanga_]

My question is, why do women stay in an abusive relationship? I can’t even wrap my head around it. Exactly why I hate people who try to reconcile people in an abusive relationship

[@sadraolaedo4733]

As in my dear, pastors have this so called "BADGE OF HONOUR" in reconciling a spouse to their ABUSIVE PARTNER(whether MALE or FEMALE). When such conversations come up, I disagree and all the elders will be telling me "YOU ARE A SMALL GIRL, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND" and I am 22 years old. The ELDERLY has encouraged THIS evil act for a longtime (from generation to generation). It is so disheartening 😔

[@hojochijioke7068]

@@sadraolaedo4733 the question should be why did she marry a man such as femi? Money and fame drove into her ordeal today. So make she no cry.

[@raphaelx1441]

Because you like to play victim

[@XoXoG]

He made her quit her job. So that she would stay in the house and not socialize. That’s a form of manipulation and making her dependent on him.

[@Mabrrrr]

For my continent Africa it's people's perception. It's normalized to stay and be patient not wanting words like divorced and failure attached as titles. Very sad also for the children and sometimes you just love this animal and hope and pray it comes back to being the human who wooed you. I hate all this reconcile nonsense allow the person time to recover and decide. Alot of women are going through alot. May God help us

[@gozzyafrique6922]

HE WAS A REALLY MANIPULATIVE PERSON. KHIA!!!

[@esegrace8838]

I learned a lot of lessons from this because as a single lady you don't have to marry a man that already have wife and childrens it would be nice for you to be the first wife and pray to have a wonderful marriage life Second is that when man show you his behaviors that his arrogant and that his behaviors is not what you want in your man or husband don't go into relationship or marriage with him. Like they say a Brooklyn relationship is better than a Brooklyn marriage We single ladies should try to learn a lesson from story. so we can have a better husband and a better marriage...

[@highlyfavored5207]

Precious Chikwendu, You unknowingly married a narcissist. That is how they behave. They are abusive, controlling and lack empathy, compassion and love. If you don't run away, a narcissist will destroy you. I sincerely hope you are able to get your kids back. Your boys need you. Wishing you all the best. Stay strong.

[@tdad8683]

UNKNOWINGLY?????

[@maydvicky3316]

@@tdad8683 are u working for FFK come on get out! Evil man

[@tdad8683]

@@maydvicky3316 it is clear that you have never been following this lady's lifestyle on the internet before all these Wahala. Like I always say, save your pity for some other person, not this lady who is obviously not using her head.

[@maydvicky3316]

@@tdad8683 what do u mean by pity, u think I commented base on pity? My dear chill small have been following her, her experience with him was bad nothing to write home about, say the truth dont u like money y accusing the lady

[@tdad8683]

@@maydvicky3316 she is acting like she never knew he was a DEMONIC PERSON while the signs were there for her to run for her dear life at the onset. If he was a secondary school teacher (with that age gap between them), would she have fallen for him?

[@mobychima1087]

I feel enormous amount of pity for this woman. Most people don't know how deeply wounded it feels when you are insulted and verbally abused in your workplace or in your marriage or in just an ordinary friendship because of your tribe or ethnicity. It cuts like a knife straight to the heart. If you are scolded or even verbally abused based on some humanly mistakes that you've made, there are chances that you can turn a new leaf, but when the abuse is based on your ethnicity or your tribe, it means there are no chances of changing for the better, no possibility of redemption because it is so very adamant that your abusers mind towards you has been set in rock perpetually. Nothing good can be expected of you no matter how much you try to get better. I believe this woman's story 100%, FFK is a very very cruel human being no.. no.. no... animal being, apart from his bipolar disorder which is in his medical history, he has sold his heart to the devil. The most wicked thing you can do to a woman is to snatch her children away from her. No right thinking person will even try to go near a raving mad, dirty, naked insane woman eating from trash cans in the streets of Lagos and attempt to touch her baby. She won't spare you ,that is, if you manage to escape with her bites and scratches . She will fight you like a wild cat. Then I wonder how a sane and caring mother is made to suffer the day light robbery of her flesh and blood, the abduction of the children she risked her life to bring into this world, she took the risk of giving this man sons because she wanted him to be happy, she ignored the odds and the unforseeable consquences that might make or mar her entire life just because this man begged her to bear him sons, Children that she nurtured on her laps of love ,the children that survived on her breastmilk, the children that thrived on the solid bonds of every day diaper changes and every minute, every hour, breastfeeding just because of some marital disputes, just because she married a powerful personality! On the surface of things, when a man denies a mother access to her kids, it appears that it's the woman that has been hurt but in a deeper sense, in an honest analysis, it is the children that have been hurt the most. FFK will come out tomorrow without a shame to profess how much he loves his children while he is deliberately, consciously denying his own children the love, the care and the nurture of their mother. He is destroying their psychological health and their social well being by posting their mother's unflattering images and interviews to the media just to incur public ridicules against his abused wife but all at the expense of these innocent children's future mental health. His children WILL NOT FORGIVE him when they are of age. So, woman don't worry. Hold your peace. They would ask FFK their dad why didn't he keep them away from his fights with their mother? They didn't need to be brought into the centre of a wrestling match they never started. They would ask him even though their mother had offended him, in what way did they also offend him? Why should they be forced to take sides with him,and be made to pay for an offense they didn't commit?

[@okonkwoifunanya9029]

You said it all God bless you

[@susan8576]

You said it all. I feel your pain through your write up.

[@MegaAdedeji]

stop being over sensitive and sentimental. what has her tribe and ethnicity got to do with anything? some of you Igbos are so insecure. Any little thing, they bring tribe into it. why?

[@okonkwoifunanya9029]

@@MegaAdedeji and some yorubas are insecure too

[@trevoruzomah7290]

Quintessential ignorant igbo girl who always thinks she is something. Fathers train your daughters to know their place when they are in their husband house. Her kids belong to fani kayode family because their father has taken responsibility over their affairs. It also doesn't stop her from being the mother. She should get her brother and father to beg FFK to accept her. Yoruba men are not like colonial mentality igbo men that surrender their power to wives .chude pulled off a class act in journalism by handing the interview well

[@Samuraiwoman]

I believe her. The yorubas talk that way about the igbos especially the case of husband and wife.

[@XoxoVictoria_]

Yes so right

[@richiejaytube]

@@XoxoVictoria_ stop generalizing, I'm from both tribes and can't relate

[@XoxoVictoria_]

@@richiejaytube I’m not generalizing I’m from both tribes and I see it happen all the time

[@richiejaytube]

@@XoxoVictoria_ your experience Sha not mine👍

[@mercyowoeye9993]

I don’t know why I cried when she said her kids are in her memory and they had good times. This is painful 😣

[@candyhender291]

I also shed tears.

[@joyokere2613]

Dear Precious, the signs and red flags were all there ab initio, had you known then what you know now from other people's experiences without having to experience him for yourself, you would have been better off today without the narcissist. I wish you the best and may God help you get access to your kids soonest.

[@OnyekaAsamaka]

Honestly!

[@SuruLereinLasGidi]

🚩#1 threatening someone to secure a woman’s number. 🚩🚩 man only with the sob stories of how everyone else has hurt and betrayed him & no accountability

[@abaabeebeauty9170]

Narcissism at it's peak!

[@somoyesimileoluwa2283]

Why would someone do this to the mother of his children not one but four God I see the pain in her eyes and the love for her children girl everything will be alright just keep praying for them and take care of yourself does children are yours and will always be we love you girl

[@sakamomoh9087]

You are a wonderful woman. May God grant you victory as you fight for your children.

[@ibedukenneth9961]

The first time he abused you should have been a red flag for you, but I don't know what made you think he could change. I wish a victorious outcome in your fight with the daredevil.