Pregnancy Week By Week: 36 Weeks!

[@biggyziggy5777]

Hi Ruth, it's time to stop reading and listening to other people .... The best advocate for you and your baby is YOU !!!

[@gailsmail9852]

Oh Ruth, having had 2 babies years and years ago, you just brought the memories back of that last month of pregnancy, sleep, sleep, sleep when you can. Can't wait to "virtually" meet your little one. Take care.

[@sarahhenderson3237]

I really feel for you Ruth, it's almost harder when the choice is given to you isn't it. You sound like you know what is best for you, and have done for a long while. Don't let anybody make you feel guilty about it. The mental health of the mum in labour is important too, and your birth experience impacts post-natal health too (in my opinion). Go with your gut and good luck xxx

[@victtayl]

Sarah Henderson Yes! If vaginal birth and the worry of another em-C would be traumatic, you wouldn't be able to stay relaxed and therefore likelihood of intervention would increase anyway

[@beth3011]

Dearest Ruth, I want to share with you that I attempted a VBAC with my second child and suffered a uterine rupture. My doctor told me I was strong and healthy and that I would be able to deliver, but that was not the case. My daughter and I almost died, but being at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston, I was in great hands, and we were both saved. I do not want to scare you, but I always want to share my story with moms who want to try to deliver naturally. I absolutely adore your videos. Can't wait to hear the good news about your new baby!

[@KJH0111]

I'm pregnant after a previous c-section and my consultant (I'm going private because I have insurance) said that if the baby is big, I should go for a second c-section as they'd be worried about the scar rupturing etc and I'd almost definitely end up with an emergency c-section anyway. I totally understand your dilemma. With my first I was told to have a c section but that I could try naturally if I really wanted. I spent weeks and weeks worrying about it. I did the c section in the end and couldn't believe how amazing it was. Totally different to everyone I know who had an emergency c-section. It was empowering and calm and lovely. And I think the recovery is easier with an elective c-section. It hope you're happy with whatever you go for and good luck!

[@faflonietta5819]

Dear Ruth, your story is same as mine. First time I was so sure and felt so strong and it ended up with C-section, because baby was too big. Before my second child was born I was insecure, full of fears and was considering what is best for the baby for almost half of the pregnancy. I chose C-section. Choose your way. All the best! Love!

[@marzipanpig196]

Oh honey, there is so much unfair pressure and shame forced on mums. Think of how much thought and consideration you're putting into this, and how much you love your family. It's your decision to make, and you're a person who does her research and knows what she's talking about--so just trust your gut and your doctor's thoughts. Trust yourself--that you're making an informed choice, however your birth-plan/experience goes. How you feel is normal, understandable, utterly. Your readers/vlog-watchers/fans respect you because of your integrity and strength--and we're rooting for you, and we're so happy to see you healthy and thriving. You're a wonderful person--just, wonderful, Ruth. You really are. We respect your intelligence and your agency, and we're rooting for you. xoxo Much love, Amy.

[@princesscharlott1983]

Love your pregnancy videos and their honesty - thank you x helps me not feel so alone with my pregnancy worries and thoughts. First timer here and feel a million things other than excitement.

[@tryingnottotourist2588]

It's such a personal decision, although everyone will try to advise you. I went for a VBAC, labored heavily all night with no meds and then ended up with another c-section. Such is life, and I'm fortunate to have 2 healthy boys, which is all that matters. Go with your gut and best wishes to you!

[@PinkChampagne2000]

Hi Ruth, I am a midwife and have spoken to many women about whether they would like a VBAC or an elective section. Listening to you, I would say that you are definitely leaning towards opting for a caesarean, and this is 100% OK. Many women hold on to the VBAC idea because they think it is what they 'should' do. There is no 'should' about it. You do what you feel is best for you and your baby. When it comes to giving birth to a beautiful baby, there is no place for guilt! I think that as soon as you have made the decision (either way) you will feel a sense of relief and will be more relaxed about the delivery... Enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy :)

[@claired2735]

You'll make the right decision, trust your gut. Try not stress & enjoy the last few weeks. I'm 36 weeks tomorrow too! I've loved your updates. Very best of luck xxx

[@SoniaVerardoBeautyBlog]

I'm glad to see your update here! I'm 39 weeks today, and these past few days I've been feeling super anxious because it's my first baby and I'm basically terrified thinking that the labour is so close. I also have a huge phobia of hospitals and needles, so that's making things even harder. I can only imagine how you must be feeling, trying to make this decision whether to go for a VBAC or not. A lot of people think of a cesarian as "an easy way out", but in my opinion that is so not the case, it's still an operation. I can only pray that the nature allows me to have a natural childbirth and that I'm able to handle the pain, but we can never know how it'll go, as you mentioned what happened with your first one, you ended up in an emergency c section, even though you had prepared yourself for the natural childbirth. I just hope this experience goes well for the both of us! I guess you can't possibly be certain whether you're making the right decision, the right decision will be what feels right for you! Looking forward to watching yours "what's in my hospital bag" video!

[@ninastrauss6041]

Wow! I've been there. Twice before!! I had to have an emergency c-sec with my first after an agonising 56hr labour, he was back-to-back and nothing went smoothly. With my second I decided to go for a vbac but ended up needing a forceps delivery which was such a nasty way for her to be born. With my third I desperately wanted a no- intervention vbac but was prepared for anything...even told the consultant I'd rather have a c-sec than a forceps. Ended up having a water birth and 3 hour labour. If it was me..I'd go for a c-sec, you seem to sound most at peace with that decision. All the best!!

[@GemmaJade]

Awww I loved vlogging my pregnancy and looking back at my bump! Such a special time xx

[@ceekay9076]

Ruth, go with your gut. If you have that strong feeling, trust it. It never fails...

[@nivkhexonym]

no pun intended

[@CathyBrodie1]

Oh, dear Ruth. I'm sure it's of little consolation right now, but one day this will all be a distant memory. You have many years of hard work, sleeplessness, as well as great joy, ahead of you. I had 2 Caesars, the first was emergency, the 2nd elective. My girls are 21 and 20 years old now. They grow up, and we just have to grow with them and keep adapting to each new stage of life. In the end, no matter which way you choose, your medical team will not let things go badly. They've got your back (and front). Rest, relax more. Each time I see a new post or video on your channels I can't believe you still have the energy to do this! All your fans are cheering for you and waiting excitedly for the big announcement. We'll still be here for you when you get back. Much love to you and the AMR family

[@jenlefevre]

I literally nodded at you while you talked! I had to have a c section with my first and then when i had my second baby i just felt like there were too many risks, and i had known so many women who pushed ahead against doctors advisement for the sake of being "more natural" and did a VBAC and then there were major complication to them and the baby..... I just needed my little dude to get here safe. So i took the more cautious route. Such a tough decision! Do what makes your heart clam and happy!

[@jenlefevre]

Im also in the same boat with the near 10lb babys!

[@stefaniemedina14]

Go with your gut, you know what is best for you. I needed a c section with my first and am having another c section with this pregnancy.

[@itslinziwalker]

I really feel for you, Ruth. I am currently pregnant with my second, too (my eldest is ten though! 😯) and there are SO many decisions and choices to make. But, at the end of the day, it's your baby and your body and you're the only one who can make the right decision for you. I don't envy you having to make it! Good luck xx

[@ginnyburley9552]

These last few weeks are tough, as I remember even after many years. Be kind to yourself whenever you can. You deserve that as does the baby you are carrying and your little Angelica. It's so tempting to push through and keep working, I think. But there will be time later for all of that. You are a lovely, brave woman! I am hoping that all goes well, that it goes as it should go, and that you can be at peace.

[@workhardshopharder]

Oh lovely Ruth. Sounds like we had an almost identical experience first time round...9lb 10 baby, 16 days late, induction, pushing for hours, forceps, ventouse and emergency section in the end. I totally get the obsessional thoughts daily over what to do with number two. I had a 3 hour natural labour a week overdue with my little boy 3 months ago and still can't believe the difference in the two baby's delivery coming out of the same body! Everyone has an opinion on what is best but trust your own instincts, hope it all goes well and can't wait to see baby two! Xxx

[@megangildert-hope2807]

I was exactly this way with my second child. Contemplating to go down the Vbac route or whether to have an elective section. Deep down I think I'd made my mind up all along about rather having a section but you feel as though people think you're taking the easy way out when in fact, you shouldn't give a damn about what other people think in the first place and go with whatever you think is best. I ended up having an elective section and it was such a nicer birth than the first time with not being an emergency. Everything was a lot calmer and I felt I bonded a lot better with my baby straight away. I'm 27 weeks pregnant with my third child now and I'm 100% having elective again. Even though I could have the choice to try for a natural birth if I wished. Good luck whichever you decided.

[@lornab7613]

I had 2 induced vaginal births within 14 months. First baby 3 days early, second baby 5 days late. Second baby was only 2 ounces heavier... I was shocked! Given she was a week older and a second baby... and I was mahoosive both times... nearly needed scaffolding if you opted for the planned c/section, that takes most of the 'what ifs' away? ... and the best birth for you will be the least stressful. It's your Body, your baby, your birth. Please don't let outside pressures weigh on you... go with your gut

[@LabNYorkie]

You seem very well informed. Use the information and your instincts to do what's best for you and baby. I'd think I'd rather plan for a c-section in this scenario.

[@joharvey2534]

Good luck Ruth, with whatever you choose. As everyone else has said, trust your instincts - you know you better than anyone! Will be interested to see inside your hospital bag. Mine is packed, as I'm 39 weeks, but would be good to know if I've missed anything vital! Xxx

[@fairydustofficial]

This could be me talking in this video! I'm 34 weeks and have had the same struggle! I have opted for the elective section this time and feel much calmer now I've made the decision. Go with your gut feeling xx

[@GemTakesPhotos]

I do think you should do whats best for you, for sure! If i were in your situation i would get a C-section though, like you say - you'd forgo the trauma of labour pains / going overdue etc. It might just be worth the peace of mind to book it in and have a slight plan. Whatever you decide, just make sure it's what you think is best :)

[@gracedaly4]

Totally understand, I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and had an emergency c section the first time around. Now I don't know what I'm more scared of this time and feeling like I should be doing a certain thing. It's tough, but ultimately about making sure you and baby end up healthy xxx

[@checkersintherain]

I'm not sure how common they are in the UK, but if you do try for a VBAC you could consider hiring a doula to support you and help you have the confidence you need and to help with comfort measures and suggest positions to help baby move down and out on its own. And if you do opt for a c-section, a doula would still be a good asset to have with you anyway.

[@omgomgjo]

It sounds like you've made your decision already! just stick with it and you'll feel much better. best of luck x

[@lanataliamaria]

I love this second channel Ruth! I went to look at the uphill blog yesterday and saw it was gone!! Hope all is okay. Xx

[@ellierobinson89]

Awh I really emphasise with you! I had to have an emergency section with my first and then had the decision for my second, (I didn't progress to 10 in over 36 hours and things were slipping) In the end I decided to have an elective, I always kind of new I'd have sections I'm 4ft 10 and have 9lb babies I just didn't feel I'd ever do it naturally. I was told by the doctors they were completely in the middle as to what to suggest for me because both odds out weighed the others. In the end it was the most peaceful and best decision we could of made, I managed to sort out childcare and plan all of that which helped with how I felt and I knew what was happening. I wasn't tired because of no sleep for days and felt the recovery was actually better. Do what you feel in your gut and own it! You'll do great either way xx

[@queenhelen84]

trust your gut ruth. I had an elective csection with my first because she was breech and a vbac with my second. I was determined to have the vbac because I felt I missed out before. I was induced at 40+1 because of the previous section and i had gd. It didn't go as well as i had hoped and I needed assistance with the vacuum to get her out. I was left with horrendous internal injuries as a result and took me a long time to recover. My previous csection was a breeze compared to it. Good luck ❤

[@nicoleclark7134]

Looking forward to the hospital bag video Ruth :) I've just started thinking about what I need and I've got a list as long as my arm! Think I may be an over-packer....

[@Bela-ur4pe]

I couldn't breastfeed and I was very disappointed about that - that mothers perfectionism :) It helped me to read "Bringing up bebe" - French mothers seem to have much more relaxed opinion on birth/breastfeeding and it helped me to see that you dont have to be a certain way to be a good mum. Maybe it could warm you up to the idea of having a second cesarian :)

[@victtayl]

bela vloggt Bringing Up Bebe is brilliant! Highly recommend it, Ruth! Very sensible approach to it all

[@sarabuch807]

Ruth, it doesn't matter how your gorgeous baby gets out. It only matters that he/she is healthy as are you. I had three C-sections. My sister had two C-sections and one natural birth. She says, either way sucks. Just get your baby here and healthy. Don't fret or worry, just go with your gut. Xoxo

[@EWYTC]

I'm in a very similar VBAC situation Ruth, 2.5 weeks til due date and still not sure what to do for the best. Good luck with your decision - I think you just have to go with your gut x

[@MsGoldgirl]

Hey Ruth-no matter how they get the kid out of you, you'll still get the same prize at the end-a beautiful baby! No one asks you how you had your baby except your OB, so just do whatever you want.

[@tarottannigel9105]

Ruth, you are a hero! because of your honesty. thank you.

[@michaelas7288]

One of my best friends had an emergency c-section with her second baby, got pregnant just shortly after she gave birth and went back and forth between the options like you. In the end, she felt more comfortable with a c-section because she knew when the baby would be born, she already knew what it was going to be like having a c-section and just felt she could prepare more for it. I can imagine it's a really hard decision to make, but whatever way you decide, you'll have your new baby in your arms so you can't really make a wrong decision :)

[@rentiasmal1827]

You are me 100%. Also 37 weeks now and experiencing everything you mentioned!

[@thejulydays1]

Gosh it is a big decision when you have to make it!! My doctor gave me the choice as I was considered elderly having my first baby(36) I went for the c section and was really glad that I did for different reasons that I won't go into here !! Sending love to you from Ireland ❤❤

[@makeupcatsobsessiono4900]

I'm an ex midwife, I don't practice anymore, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said all that matters is getting the baby out safely : that would then be a planned section. Good luck Ruth I can't wait to see baby on your channel 💋

[@bimboxhollie]

Good luck Ruth! I am sure that you will make the right decision for you. Still looking fab as usual xx

[@ellietaylor9938]

Definitely go with your gut. Just from a completely outside point of view, you really don't sound sure about the VBAC and I truly believe that when it comes to delivering babies you are a hero whatever happens. Good luck with it xx

[@artbeg1]

Oh yes pls do a hospital bag video. Especially as you know what worked and what didn't first time round.

[@sbarber3329]

I had the same deliberations. I opted for csec rather than vbac. I realised the only thing holding me back from that decision was how I THOUGHT other people perceived elective sections. Turns out no one cares! They just see a beautiful baby :) in my head i weighed it up like this- their are risks with a natural and risks with csec- but it is more of a 'controlled' risk with csec- if you get what i mean? Also in my experience, if you had emergency csec last time, the process and recovery is so much calmer and easier. Good luck with whatever you decide- its not an easy decision to make xx

[@beaner80]

Your fears are common for second child. I absolutely remember feeling the same as you did with my first. But when it came time with my second, it was different because I was privy to what happens. As they say: "Ignorance is bliss" :D

[@saxophone2143]

Like the other comments I really feel for you and found it hard not to start talking to you during the video with my advice etc! I'm pregnant with my second child at the moment and I know as a mother you worry about everything - all the time! But ultimately yes do what feels right to you and your husband which is what matters and as you say as long as it is a safe delivery it matters not how it was achieved. Wishing you lots of luck when it happens and just love you videos on both channels :) xxx

[@katya69adams]

Keep in mind that a second c-section is nothing like the first. Everyone says the second time is just horrible and takes time to recover. But if it makes you more comfortable... Just go with your gut! In Bulgaria they don't even make it optional after a first c-section, you just go in for a second one... It is a hard choice. For my first delivery I travelled an hour to go to a doctor who I knew was against random c-sections cause I am terrified of the idea. Your instinct should be really strong right about now :)

[@cherylcollinson4711]

Hi Ruth. Along with other comments made, you have to do what you feel is best for you!! Every pregnancy is different. I was told I would have to have a C-section as the doctors didn't feel I could give a natural birth like I wanted to. On the day, I insisted I wanted a natural birth and that is what I did. It was quite the experience but I'm glad I did it. My Sister was much like you and decided she would have the C-Section instead of attempting the natural birth and that worked for her. Again, we are all different and only you know your body and what you are and aren't capable of on the day. Personally, I think there is far too much pressure on women t have natural child birth as if it's THE only way to birth a child. I'm certain that whatever you choose will be the right thing for you and baby. Sending you lots of love. xo

[@TheStyleOfTheTimes]

Please please book in a c section. It seems to be the best option and you and the baby are the most important thing here! It is the safest option it seems and there is no point putting yourself through the torment of trying to do things another was because you think that you should! Xx

[@CherrieWalker]

I think I'll definitely be having a planned c section with my second because with my first I had a 46 hour labour which then ended in a c section anyway and I was sooo tired from being awake through it all I couldn't care for my baby until I had slept and I didn't get that bond straight away with her and I don't want that again!

[@charlottepagitsch7416]

Hi Ruth, I'm going to try for a VBAC in about 6 weeks, my babies will have about the same age gap as yours, my first was huge and this one's looking big too. I went into the first birth all confident having practiced hypnobirthing techniques and done loads of other preparation for a totally natural birth, which I think made the ultimate c-section outcome all the more traumatic and hard to recover from emotionally. I was in shock and felt cheated and betrayed by my body. This time I feel differently because I feel mentally prepared for the reality of giving birth - an incredibly painful, exhausting, dirty and overwhelming experience (for me) - so don't feel I can be shocked and thus completely traumatised like last time, even if it does end with a cesarean again. In my case there is no clear reason why my contractions got weaker right at the end stage, the same thing could happen again, but if it does I'll be ready for it! I hope you manage to make the right decision for yourself soon so you can mentally relax knowing that you've got a plan. Good luck with it, whatever you end up going for! xxx

[@yoyoskittles]

I had a VBAC, but my kids are 8 years apart and my hospital is known for supporting natural births and VBACs. I also had a gigantic baby the first time (10 lbs 5 oz), so I had to have a c-section after being in labor for over 24 hours with nothing progressing. I believe it was because I was induced and had an epidural way too early into labor, but I'm glad now that I had a c-section! With my second baby, I hesitantly chose a VBAC because my doctor strongly advised it and I didn't want to go through the same recovery process from the c-section. I was still scared as hell though! Baby #2 ending up coming early (the day after my baby shower!), and I was only in the hospital for about an hour before she was born: we literally parked the car at 8:50 and she was born before 10. She was a smaller baby (7 lbs 12 oz), but I think it's only because she came early. Now she's about the size of a baby twice her age. I think my labor was fast and early because I worked right up until she was born. I'm a substitute teacher, so I'm constantly on my feet, walking all day. So keep walking and stay active, and it will make your labor much easier. Most of all, just trust your instincts. Don't feel bad about a c-section: natural birth isn't all that great either! Ha ha. I hope this helps!

[@powderandpaint14]

Go with the c-section, it seems you will feel much easier about that decision and it will be safer overall. All that matters is that baby and you are safe and well :)

[@krisnote1261]

I relate completely to how you are feeling. I am 35 weeks tomorrow. I get to see what my little one position is and how big he is this week. It kinda determines in some direction if I will have a repeat c-section or if I am induced. So much unknowns. Kinda annoying. I looked at your channel what was the outcome of your birth?

[@jndbeatty5644]

My 1st baby was c-section, on my second I wanted the vbac more than you can imagine. I labored the 1st time 24+ hours, second time nearly the same, because my second baby was to be under 6lbs (per all the measurements) I was allowed to labor until I started to rip my previous inside incision. I had my 2 son and he weighed nearly 9lbs. I knew I was ALL baby. Trust yourself, trust your body, remember having a healthy Angel is all that matters. Dr's are amazing at helping, however even Dr's miscalculate. Your a good mum, it's your body, you will make the best decision for this baby also....TRUST Yourself. Blessings

[@stitchyreispeices]

These are my thoughts about baby number 2 also...and i am not even pregnant yet! I will tell you with my first pregnancy, my baby was large for my size but I didn't know and I was determined to have a natural birth. Well I ended up in labor for 32 hours, pushed for FOUR hours, and then ended up in c-section bcasue there was no way the babies head was going to fit. So i basically recovered from a normal birth tearing etc and a c-section!!! I know I would not want to have to deal with both again at once..but I am terrified of another c-section even though mine went fine. But I guess I am more scared of baby having a large head again and not knowing and having to end up with trying a vabc just to end in c- section. From what I have heard, just getting another c- section is much easier for many moms.

[@romanova311]

i 200% agree with your totally SOBER and rational mindset. Fully agree.

[@Egyptologist2009]

Why not decide that if labour starts naturally by you due date then try for the vbac. if not have your elective section scheduled for 40+2. If you go into labour naturally you are much more likely to have a positive vbac result. Induction only sets you up for a series of interventions. Having the scheduled section will help calm you and also avoid the induction/11 pound baby attempted vbac scenario at 42 weeks which is probably the least desirable set up for a successful vbac. But whatever you decide break a leg! x

[@natalies737]

Recovery from and elective section is far more likely to be easier then recover from emergency c-section. But if baby is here safe and you are well that is the only thing that matters. You aren't cheating the system if you have a section!

[@missjen6063]

I do not miss the engaged head related pains 🙈 or as I affectionately called them 'fanny daggers' 😂😕

[@dollyboo8306]

Hi Ruth its many years ago now but my first was 10lb 3oz two weeks late and after a difficult labour had to have an emergency c section, a few years later with my 2nd pregnancy I was told I was having another big baby but the midwife said I could give birth vaginally however after a couple of hours and an obstetricians decision they tried firstly the vontousse method (basically a Hoover!) that did not work then they had to cut me and use forceps I finally delivered another big baby 9lb 6oz as I was a day early. They then thought I would need a Caesar to deliver the afterbirth thank god I didn't. Go with your heart lots of love whatever you decide x

[@millsy1236]

You just have to do what is right for you. I was all geared up for a natural birth but baby was breech and I had to have a planned section. If I was to have another I would chosen a section. if anything I'm even more scared of natural labour!

[@lisawifemom]

The main thing is, the outcome will be the same....you will have another beautiful baby! Don't stress about how it gets out and don't let anyone bully you or try to tell you that "natural birth" is the best for whatever reason.

[@romanova311]

you're totally right:why traumatize if c section happened before???? Doctors are going to be watching your scar progression while labor lasts. and if they see ANY thing that makes them doubt the success or the integrity of the scar-they're going to be cutting right away,,,, So why suffer? for the sake of what?? no common sense there. No reason to torture yourself. You remind me of myself when i was going to be delivering my first child. Very much doubts, very much obsession over the control of the process. Which, as it appeared in the end you have very few chances to cotrol, really. Love your videos. U are incredibly smart and very rationally minded. For a woman.

[@themerricreekkid7588]

I had a 26 hour labour which ended in an emergency c-section. If I had another, I'd go c-section, just couldn't go through that again.... xx

[@shellypopslovemakeup]

Take it week by week (or day by day) have a plan in your head ie if I have the baby today I will try naturally, or vice versa. There is no right or wrong way as you say getting baby here safely for you both is the priority. Birthing rarely goes to plan anyway! And as for a bigger baby my 2nd was 2lbs heavier than my 1st baby and much much easier no intervention all natural birth with the 2nd! Good luck for the big day. I hope whatever your day is it will be a positive lovely experience xx

[@victtayl]

Stress and anxiety in these last weeks is best avoided so if making the decision to have a c-section would clear your mind and make you feel like a weight's been lifted, perhaps you should go for it. You can then have a calm birth experience - I've heard planned caesareans are super calm experiences :)

[@Swiftandsound13]

honestly ruth i've looked after many vbac women and its a lot more traumatic to go to a emcs than just to have a elcs to start with. elcs are much nicer than emcs and the recovery is better. VBACs are great if you're 100% committed but you need to be confident in your mode of delivery. what i've always said to undecided women in book the elcs and if you labour before and want to try for vbac go for it! I think honestly you've made your mind up, go with it! once baby is here you won't care how you've delivered. xxxxx

[@Ribring]

Follow your instinct, Ruth! Whatever you decide will be right!

[@Courtney6]

My thoughts are with you Ruth. I know whatever happens it'll be what's meant to happen and you two will be healthy and happy once he or she is here. Hang in there. I'm wondering if you know your Myers Briggs personality type? You seem like an infj like myself. Xo

[@carlywelsh7919]

You are obviously really not happy with the vbac, don't put yourself under so much pressure and have a c section 💕 I've been reading the secret and it says you make your own future with your thoughts, and I think that as you are so worried and concerned the vbac would lead to you needing a c section anyway. Sending you lots of love, don't stress xxx

[@Yesthankyou8]

I had same bump with my first baby boy and he wasn't big, just 7pound, but I had a lot of amniotic liquid...

[@mellylavi]

size of baby does make a difference but also the size of mom! taller women can birth big babies naturally, i've seen it first hand! anyways, do what you feel is best for you and your baby, i'm sure it'll be the best decision in the end, whatever you choose!

[@bunzilla19]

Remember God will always provide no matter what happens. Relax and nourish yourself until the baby decides to come! Be strong and have faith that whatever you choose is the best decision you can make with the information you have.

[@elizabethyates-paredes2848]

Hang in there sweetie .. same thing happened to me .. 23 hours of labor then they told me I had to have a ccecion 😞..I'm all for trying to go natural second time around ..I say go for it because I'm sure the drs will keep. A good eye on u and your baby..xoxoxo

[@elizabethf8459]

Ah, so rough. I'd be doing the same thing in your position. Also you're helping me to remember that two kids is enough and I need to squash that baby rabies. Those last weeks of pregnancy are no joke. Do I really want to go through it again? Nope.

[@clairreads1965]

Ex midwife here - go with what you want. Im very out of practice here but I think I would go for the elective at this point too.

[@chriggle1]

I think there is a lot of pressure in women to give birth "naturally". I use the term in quotes as to my mind, every birth is natural. In my case, I had pre-eclampsia and my baby was moving in all sorts of positions right up until the morning of her birth. I had SPD and was told it was highly unlikely I would deliver naturally. I was in hospital from 36+6 and had her at 38 weeks exactly. I was offered an induction, with the likelihood of an emergency section at the end. I decided on an elective section. I couldn't see the point in putting my body through labour to then be worn out by the time the c-section happened. It would be distressing for me, which wouldn't be good for the baby. My thought process was to get the baby out in the calmest, most appropriate means so as to have a positive outcome. I opted for a general anaesthetic as there was a risk if the placenta rupturing and I didn't like the idea of being awake. At the end of the day, it's a decision only you can cone to. I think society brands c-section mums as lazy, but in all honesty it's bloody hard work trying to recover and look after a baby. You know your body, you know what you can cope with. Intuition shouldn't be ignored. The only other thing I will say is that if things do go wrong in a VBAC, it can be very quick and very scary for everyone involved. My sister in law had her second as a VBAC, in a similar situation to you that her first son was breech. Unknown to the midwives delivering, my SIL's placenta was attached to her previous section scar tissue. As she delivered the placenta the tissue came open. She ended up in surgery, having to have 6 pints of blood and had to be resuscitated at least once. She was in ITU for 36 hours, and once she was conscious, she was told categorically not to have any more children. I'm not trying to shock or scare anyone with this, I'm just trying to point out that if a VBAC goes wrong it can be almost catastrophic. It has to be a very considered decision. If it were me in these shoes, I personally would be leaning towards a cesarian, but it's not my decision to make. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. You will still have a beautiful baby to love and cherish, no matter how you choose to deliver the baby.

[@bartlettje]

Ruth, listen to you gut, at the end of the day you are bloody enormous and you are going to have a bigun! The end result must be the safe delivery of your beautiful new baby and for you to be healthy as well, I would be full of doubt too if I was fobbed of by the consultant after a cursery scan. On a side note - my sister told her midwife and consultant that she felt baby was breach, she could feel the head nodding under her ribs, no one believed her until 40 weeks when she struggled to vaginally deliver her first baby (with a big head) breach ( daughter is now 28😄). it's your decision to make as to what you feel is right. good luck😚😚😚😚😚

[@waubese]

I'm so sorry you're reading so many negative stories about birth, Ruth! It's scary to be in that position. Breech is considered a variation of normal for midwives in North America, so it almost always results in a successful vaginal birth at home. Midwives are also trained to deal with VBAC births! Some women have 12 pound babies through VBAC. Ultimately, empowered birthing is what the mother (you!) want to do. Best wishes and successful birthing for you and your family!

[@mariab4250]

Why is it harder to have a natural birth after having a c section the first time? Not talking about Ruth here, just in general i dont know the answer

[@SakennaM]

I believe (not sure, and won't google it atm) It's got something to do with the uterus having been cut open before. Slight chance it might tear? I'm sure google will know the answer though :)

[@stefaniemedina14]

There is a risk of uterine rupture,which would cause hemorrhaging and would put baby and mother at risk.

[@mariab4250]

Oh dear i didnt know that. Thanks for replying!

[@SpecialK698]

There is an increase of uterine rupture after a c-section. Scar tissue (of any kind) has a max 80% of strength when it heals. So going through contractions and delivery it a lot to take

[@destroyer4364]

I tryed for a v-back for my 2. I was in labor for 10 days. Needless to say both myself and my baby just about died!!!!! I had to be totally put under and my baby ended up in UICU. I did get to meet her till the next day!!!!!😧😢 Needless to say every birth is different.

[@damedeviant1388]

Aww, bless you. Your body wouldn't make a baby that you couldn't physically deliver. As a daughter to a mother that delivered two 9 pounders and a 10 pounder at home - don't worry. I myself am scared of operations so I know where you're coming from, but a VBAC would be much better for a recovery with two under the age of two xx

[@kcv0605]

Nicola Dunford It's obvious you mean well but as a medical professional I can assure you that women make babies their bodies can't physically deliver ALL the time. That's part of the reason that a good 20% of women died in childbirth prior to the development of modern obstetrics. It's not a perfect piece of intentionally-designed engineering, childbirth (sadly!). That's why we have c-sections, instrumental deliveries, and why things like shoulder dystocia occur - and indeed why a small but not insignificant percentage of the female population end up doubly incontinent after vaginal births. Population needs two babies born to every mother to sustain itself and we spend a good few decades fertile: for most of human existence the numbers were kept in check by nature bumping us off young, and for women this was overwhelmingly in or after childbirth. The reason why both vaginal and c-section births are overwhelmingly safe nowadays is precisely because we can intervene when things go wrong. In the developing world where women have to trust in their bodies and naff all else - they're still dying in overwhelming numbers. Sadly evolution just let us down on this front.

[@kcv0605]

Nicola Dunford Just want to add that that isn't to say that there haven't been instances (to say the least) of unnecessary interventions - by it is vitally, vitally crucial that intervention is at least possible and available because the percentage of women that make babies they can't deliver (so to speak) is fairly significant. There are doubtless many good things that can be said of the olden days - but maternal and infant mortality were shockingly high until very recently, in the grand scheme of things. Nature is not a sentient entity and although it does in a way have its own inherent rhythm and rationale, that rhythm and rationale is entirely amoral and cares not a jot about our living or suffering.

[@damedeviant1388]

Carlotta V Of course, I'm no medical professional... Sometimes things go wrong. Nowadays there's not a lot of chances to give birth naturally, unless you fight for it, out of that fear. Of course I'm biased, my own experience is one that involved intervention (I have a video of the story on my channel) and even though it was a 'natural' birth, I felt the treatment of myself and my daughter in the hospital was traumatic. It took a long time to recover emotionally. As a culture I feel we are detached from the idea that childbirth isn't a terrible thing that requires interventions at every turn.

[@rebeccam6446]

Ruth, don't put yourself through this torture hunny. Unless you're a 100% confident, ready and willing for a VBAC then you're going to have a hard time be it physically or mentally or both coming to terms with the process and getting through it. It's not defeatist, it's not the easy option. It's the safest, kindest option for you and baby (and Angelica and your husband) to deliver your baby. The truest sentence you said was 'it doesn't matter how baby is born as long as mum and baby are healthy' and that's the bottom line. Any mother who has had a previous section is 'deserving' of a second section lovely and you are doing it 'normally'. You mention perfection - well process makes experience and to gain a beautiful experience you need a manageable process and imho for you that's a planned section. Good luck lovely, please don't give yourself a hard time or waste another moment torturing yourself xx

[@JannetjeW]

A planned c-section is very safe!!!!

[@gauppjd]

My first was breach and we had a scheduled c-section. My second 9! years later I went with the the thought I'd try vbac and of course the second was breach too....another c-section. Go with your gut.

[@dms0110]

I think if I were having a second baby after a c-section, and the baby was quite large, I would go for a c-section. Safe and sound is what matters most. But I am sure you will make the best decision for you.

[@lisaann8473]

If you are anything like me then you just want someone to tell you what to do, for the element of choice to be removed. My first baby was breech too and I had an emergency c because she was 3 weeks early. 2nd time round I was determined to have a natural birth, like you I had this idea in my head that I didn't deserve my baby unless I put in the same work as everyone else. Well, hindsight is a wonderful thing and that was just plain rubbish. I now have had my tummy cut into twice, both emergency and the 2nd time was a very emergency so my stomach muscles are to pot and I have a ridge of scar tissue that no amount to of dieting or exercise will flatten. Also the recovery of a c is hard, getting g in and out of bed a day lifting a toddler is a flippin nightmare and don't get me started on removing that bloomino covering they put on your wound now. C-sections also cost hospitals a lot of money - I think 4 x as much as a natural so don't ever expect them to push you down that route unless they really need to. After my 2nd birth I wondered if maybe I just wasn't built to deliver babies, this time round baby was back to back and face first and no one even noticed until it was very nearly too late. I kept telling them something was wrong and they kept saying in a sing song voice "pain is good, pain is what we want". Let's just say it was probably just as well I was nearly passing out with the pain or midwife Celine dion might have lost her teeth 😬 I suppose what I'm trying to say is that you are no less worthy, no less of a mother and certainly not imperfect by chosing to have another c. If I could turn back time I would Def do that, the very worst that could happen almost did and I'm not trying to scare you, obvs that prob won't happen to you but I just want you to feel like there isn't a right or wrong, only two choices, neither of which deserves judgement from anyone else and certainly not from yourself.

[@pennym4101]

Ruth, its your body, your baby and your birth. You decide what you want and don't be terrorized by doctors and midwives, into having the birth they want. They are thinking about their statistics, not you and your baby. Good luck, whatever decision you make is the for you both. X

[@meagantaylor4394]

Any guesses on boy or girl?! I still can't make a guess! Have you chosen names? (Obvs don't share yet!)

[@meagantaylor4394]

Ok...I'm guessing....I say girl! You're carrying the same way as you did will Angelica. I think two little sister would be so sweet! 💖

[@virginiemorice4298]

Everything's gonna be ok ! I gave birth (vaginal birth) to 2 babies of more than 8 pounds each ! As if my body just adjusted to the situation.

[@ShastaRavenY]

Dear Darling Ruth, plan for a successful delivery. That is one where Mum and infant come home from hospital as healthy as possible. Be a true perfectionist by perfectly realizing a vaginal delivery will not produce a different baby! My husband loved your complete heifer remarks. That size would not march out your vaginal chute, no how, no way. And you look gorgeous.

[@SarahLee8888]

Make the decision you'll regret the least. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@PreppyEllievibes]

Have another c-section Ruth! I speak from experience, my first was an emergency, my second planned and was actually really enjoyable. Why ruin two areas of your bodies?! I am only half joking. You can have a really good c-section experience, I promise you and the chances are that you will end up with help anyway. It's been a few years for me now but absolutely no regrets. Xxx

[@SpecialK698]

Go with your guts (as lots have said) and don't stress about what other people say, at the end all that matters is your baby to be born healthy and for you to be fine (mind and body!!)

[@DoctorAnne]

Go with your gut. You have plenty of time for perfectionism after the baby is born.

[@ritaromney584]

Ruth, In a quiet moment, ask the Universe for help in the decision making process, then listen carefully for an answer. The answer will come.and then follow it up with trusting in your intuition (gut). You know your body best!