Preparing to Leave a Narcissist - 7 Things You Must Know

[@SimplyBassy]

Is there anyone else that's ready to leave their narcissists and want completely nothing to do with them, well I do and leaving will definitely be the best day of my life because right now I feel trapped

[@Glloommental]

Me too sis

[@stevenjohnston1107]

I just left my narcissist a few hours ago and had to call the police as she was trying to break down my door to get in during her rage.

[@Glloommental]

@@stevenjohnston1107 what happened?? Are you ok!!

[@stevenjohnston1107]

@@Glloommental Hi GlooM. I'm fine now. Although quite down and heartbroken. You really get addicted to them. I'm in a stage where I question my perception of reality, wondering how I will trust another woman because I seem to attract this type of woman. I could on and on... Anyways. I'm going into therapy to stop being bait for them. I'm most likely codependent. I have blocked this person everywhere and am continuing with my life.

[@Glloommental]

@@stevenjohnston1107 that's great but I'm stuck now I had an escape plan It wasn't successful I'm loosing my faith in God I could feel the anger and pain growing in any soul

[@melissasims3343]

I'm leaving my husband after 16 years. I've lost myself somewhere and I need me back. Thank you

[@sandyrodriguez8400]

I'm preparing to do the same. I don't even recognize me anymore. After 18 + years, Friends & families don't know me either. Strength.

[@Glloommental]

Me too

[@BIGBOOTY54]

Me 2

[@BIGBOOTY54]

I'm ready been ready have 1 move safely

[@munhassan7840]

You go hun sending love ❤️ you are strong 💪 I understand you in same situation.

[@OkkyHan]

Thank you. I'm preparing us (my children and I) for our physical escape in 2021 and your words help me strengthen this. Tried leaving 2 years ago but it was a mess and I was eventually lured back. Do wish us luck.

[@unapologeticella4540]

Same I left hon I cant believe al ost to years ago tine flys in the worst way possible I left him on my 27th birthday now in almost 29 in one month I need to leave him.

[@tiredmomoftwo5682]

Hows everything now?

[@btwin3506]

You got this mama! Hope your escape is successful.

[@morningsong8077]

You can do it. You are stronger than you think !

[@CB-kz1iz]

My plan is for my child and I to leave in January or February 2021. How are you?

[@MR-fe7st]

My move in date is in two weeks. I am aligning my finances and gradually getting things ready. Slowly moving my stuff into new place. Leaving my narcissistic parents - I’m 31.

[@IronMountainx]

20 years of abuse, multiple times a day, every day from my wife. Feel stupid I have taken so long, making plans to leave is making me feeling positive for the first time in decades.....

[@jamesmcginn8874]

i had 23 years of it--im out 6 years--Never heard a word from Her ever since--thank God

[@sixkidssiany]

Literally cried throughout this video. Just feels like I’m being listened too. I need to leave I’m so stressed and depressed and find it so hard. 😪💔💔💔

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Aww sweetheart, I know how hard this is. You aren't alone and I've created a 16 day course that can help you through this early stage of recovery. It is here whenever you need it: melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox

[@morningsong8077]

My sister told me that the hardest step is the first one out the door. We can do this! We are strong, even when we don’t feel like it.

[@annavasquez862]

I feel the same crying also.I dont have little kids so its not really hard to leave.But I just guilty because he has alot of medical issues.But I am also so sad and suppose to have therapy session Thursday

[@howard1beale]

1. Aftershock. Symptoms of Withdrawal which feel like love. Which makes you want to go back. 2. The Narcissist is invested in punishing you for leaving. 3. Plan your escape. Don't tell anyone who might tell the Narcissist that you're leaving 4. Go mo contact. Just go. 5. Don't want the Narcissist to change or be accountable. Any apologies or epiphanies will be fake. 6. Detach from smearing. Don't get sucked in no matter what. 7. Value your soul above all else. Above material things, above keeping the "family" together. Having been through this and now out the other end for several years I can testify that all of this was true for me. Every single part of the process is vital and each of these 7 warnings would have helped me so much in 1990 and then again in 2003 and finally 2008. Listen to this woman she knows what is really going on

[@elizabethelliott7303]

nuffsedd thank you ❤️

[@jaennis421]

I’m planning to leave. My son is eleven. Four yrs ago I left a traumatic scenario. In 2009 I moved in with parents, single and pregnant, as a result of the economy crisis of 2008. Narc father figure ‘saved’ us. Now I understand most all dynamics😳. I went NC with my parents almost three hrs ago. No problem, mostly. I commit and go! I’m wondering if NC is best option for us since narc father figure has strong bond with my son.

[@howard1beale]

@@jaennis421 of course no contact is the best thing for your son. He doesn't love your son any more than he loves you. It's just an ACT and he will use your son as an instrument of torture against you if you let him. Plus he will and I PROMISE you he WILL poison your sons mind against you Please please just have faith that things will work out for you and your son without any input from a narcissist

[@jm6749]

Day 15 of ending relationship with severe narcissistic man Support please !!!!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi hun, here is one of my most valuable resources blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-pain-of-narcissistic-abuse-wont-end-until-you-do-this/ and then, I highly suggest you take my free 16 Day course: www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox

[@Woo88]

You can do it! Stay strong

[@muddthekingofnothing6249]

I am a man preparing to leave my narcsasist wife of 30 years wish me strength.

[@wildcrafttattoo]

@@muddthekingofnothing6249 Im in the same position , just not as long of a relationship... Be brave, Stay strong

[@chayhughes9242]

Hang in there. My thoughts are with you.

[@chayhughes9242]

I'm silently crying inside in the hope that when it's all out I'll feel better. I love you all

[@jamesmcginn8874]

You Will--i planned my escape--dont tell Anyone--you will be better for it--i promise. J.

[@Mary-wj2po]

I so agree that actions speak louder than words. My narc has never been ignored by me or by anyone! For me it feels GOOD to end a lifelong pattern of letting her tell me what my truth is and what my worth ISN'T. The hardest part for me is being left in deep financial insecurity, living every passing day with the repercussions and stress. But in going no contact, I truly feel my own power coming back to me and that thriving-not just surviving- is the probable outcome!

[@Raw_Meows]

TODAY IS THE DAY!!!!!!!!!! have no idea how good it feels

[@candyshane3611]

I been married 2 months and im ready to leave

[@hopeglory1286]

Omg I felt that horrible pain when I left my narc 2 times. Emotional abuse and financial abuse have more sickning 🤢 aftermath.

[@tunesandmorebytrishmcleod4672]

Unfortunately this does not cover disabled people dependent on narcissistic family members

[@Juniperberry1]

Tunes by Trish Mcleod now that’s sad. Omg

[@EllenCPickle]

I have twelve disabilities and illnesses...I thought same thing but he's the one making me sick. I understand

[@thisissarah815]

My mother is the narcissist that I have to leave. I'm addicted to trying to win her love. I'm constantly walking on eggshells, trying to make her happy. I'm not making life choices that will make me happy, I'm doing what I think she will approve of. But it's never enough for her. And she has smeared my reputation with other family members and friends. I've been trying to prove that what she has been saying isn't true, but the more I try, the worse I look. And yes, I have cared so much about other people's opinions, that I became paralyzed. I thought it was all my fault until I found your channel. I see a light at the end of the tunnel now. Thank you so much!

[@hygrnz6110]

Live your life to the fullest, making choices that serve you. Choices that are fun, edifying, exciting, and full of growth. You probably will get completely rejected, but no big loss if you are on eggshells. People who love you HUG YOU, not put you on egg shells or into 'don't rock the boat eternal night watch' mode. I was completely rejected by my mother. I live abroad, have tons of cool experiences, and love my partner. If I was on the ...keep them happy treadmill..., none of that would have happened. If a mother is NPD, they don't love and will never warm up to you. You may need to grieve as you realize that nothing warmer than a birth certificate bonds you. Also, NPD mothers discard shared history and memories. They easily label, exclude, defame, and discard. If this is your case: listen carefully to everything M. says about loving yourself as a piece of god. Realize you may be bidding time until you move out or move on. Focus on inner peace, education, and independent finances. It's all up to you.

[@bettyboossister3918]

You will get through it...Keep marching ahead

[@hopeandheartsloveandfreedo3580]

Can relate to you so much we will get out and make better choices for future generations

[@bitsnbags]

I'm going to struggle with no. 6 the most. He's extremely religious and uses the religious arguments on me, tries to make me feel guilty but I've moved on from that aspect. He's covert and sinister, looks picture perfect to everyone else...but the truth is only shown at home. I'm scared and empowered bat the same time. Thank you xxx

[@bettyboossister3918]

Hi many people use the Bible to control and manipulate...I completely understand...one thing I've understood is the Bible is ambiguous and people interpret it how best suits them...for example a lady in a church I used to attend said to me the Lord has asked me for you to work in this department and that department...so I went up to her at the end of the service and said I connect with God everyday and pray...so God can speak to me directly why would He speak via you??...She said because in the Bible God used people to speak to others I said yes to those who didn't connect with Him directly but I do...I have the same telephone number to God you do...because I am young she thought she could manipulate me...I had other people say if you don't connect to Jesus I don't want to be friends with you...again I said im a flower and will blossom naturally my own way...I learnt something from these experiences and others God is peaceful and organised and of order and is patient and compassionate...if you don't feel at peace with something it's not of God and if you are not at the centre of your peace and joy something is not right.....in the Bible I love the scripture ....no weapon formed against me will prosper...weapon can be a personality... a word.. . a look.... a comment... the list is endless...best wishes

[@bitsnbags]

@@bettyboossister3918 thank you so much! I know God would not want this horrible played out process for me or my kids, so this definitely is not of God. No matter what ex says about me going to hell, I know God will wait for me when I'm ready. If anything the ex is the reason I've turned away from Him. Slowly I know I'll make my peace with things such as certain scripture, bc ex tarnished so much for me. It most certainly is ambiguous. And that's how ppl twist things to suit their own agenda. Good luck to you too, I hope you got away peacefully xx

[@bettyboossister3918]

@@bitsnbagsI'm not married and I don't have children so I didn't need to get away but I have met alot if people in my life... You will get stronger...writing a journal helps...mindfulness...to recognise when you are down and ask yourself why...working on the inner child...don't let anyone tell you what God will do and where you will go...if anyone says you will go to hell then that is coming from a place of hate in them...in Bible it says I look after the birds in the trees you are so much more...when we are vunerable and we all can be we can take others views as our own their opinions as the truth...get stronger day by day to the point no one can tell you who you are...only YOU have that right and luxury...ask God for grace and strength and know God loves you...have faith...and trust the Lord to see you through...

[@bitsnbags]

@@bettyboossister3918 thank you xxx I've been married 21yrs, 2 yrs together prior, 3 kids. It's so hard, but you're right. He's using scripture as control.

[@vibekes2416]

Bits 'n Bags That's terrible 😣 So sad to hear that these people are to be found in Christian society's. They represent Christians in a very bad way. I hope you don't feel like this about all church members 😶

[@andreacartee1250]

I walked out with my dog n clothes on my back several times he keeps calling but this explains my feelings to myself leaving me a few steps ahead him n myself this understanding renforces that I will not take another beaten EVER. My husband was shot by his uncle n still did not change at all not even a lil

[@EllenCPickle]

I'm preparing to leave and I thought I'm going crazy because I find myself second guessing myself. Even that he's really not that bad....don't worry I'm working the plan...about six more weeks...by God I have inherited a life changing amount of money and he knows nothing and can't touch it. With these videos and help I realized I was in love with the man I thought he was...not the man he really is...acting like normal is extremely hard...but enough is enough. Slowly packing and cleaning out everything when he is at work...thank u for these videos because without it I would still be in the middle of it. Pray for me. ☮️ And yes this is not my real name

[@EllenCPickle]

update: im days away from making my exit plan a reality but as ive been doing this I keep telling myself what im doing will hurt him...wait before you say anything these thoughts only last for a few seconds until I find his latest shopping list on facebook( his new supply)...when I finally break free and more next week will let you guys know. I have to believe that no matter how much he fakes being a good guy ITS NOT WORKING! I DESERVE BETTER NO MATTER HOW OLD I AM!

[@kenzakiki7092]

Ellen C girl I need an update

[@EllenCPickle]

@@kenzakiki7092 I am out. I left him finally two weeks ago and its going well. I printed out 200 pages of his lying, infidelity, and did I mention lies lies lies....just a sample of what I know from the first day we met, sextng, marriage purposals, gps printouts of girlfriends, and just lies.....my careful planning paid off....hes not fighting me probably because he's busy with all his new supplies and telling everyone we know how I abandon him....I have so much peace in my life now and am working on being a better person ....I was always that person but had temporarily forgotten that. I have appointment with divorce lawyer and he isn't fighting me because he still needs me not to retract his green card and I did pay off alot of our bills...lol...my year of planning everything is paying off but at same time I am not under estimating him...he is the narcasist....counseling is helping and I will survive!!!! but im out!!!!

[@kenzakiki7092]

Ellen C be careful when they go silent it means they are up to no good trust me he will find some crappy way to have he’s last word , they all do !!! Wish u the best, run toward ur happiness and freedom, celebrate , and pray for me sis cauz I’m still stuck !!!

[@hl7806]

@@EllenCPickle hi how is it no?? I just left my husband

[@jamesmcginn8874]

God bless you--that was my story in a nutshell--im OUT almost 5 years--im almost back to Normal--still have Trust issues but i am working on it .

[@christadavis236]

2 yrs is too long.... I use to be so active in life... And now nothing its like a darkness has entered my world. I have high anxiety, he makes me feel crazy, twist everything i say and never seems to understand my feelings says im to sensitive... He calls me names goes off on rants for hrs... And when i try to explain myself he says theres something wrong with my brain...i have cried sooo many nights and i cant wait to get the strength to actually leave....

[@cristareinhardt5213]

Asking for prayers, I’m leaving tomorrow morning.. can’t sleep, I’m so scared. I just don’t wanna run back this time..

[@Kyledillon]

The idea of leaving and being on my own is both stressful and a relief. I've been on my own and the person tracked me down and helped herself In. And used shame fear guilt to manipulate me. She enjoys gaslighting. Playing the victim. She always has the need to be in control. Everything she says its true if you believe other wise your being brainwashed . The irony. It took me along time to understand the means of this person. Somtimss I fall her her. But then I take a step back and detangle the knots in the situation and her motives. I'm on survival mode 24 7. I don't feel safe somtimes but I don't show it. She hates when im calm and collected. When she can't get a rise out of me. I wasn't tought how to be independent by my parents. I taught myself. And some things I struggle with like insurance and taxes. But I power through. Once I'm comfortable where I am separate from the 2 of us I do plan on leaving again. Not letting her know where I'm moving but not fully cutting her out. She'll get visitations we can meet up.

[@traciej.6301]

MELANIE, YOU ARE UTTERLY PHENOMENAL, AND I THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR SHOWING ME THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO DO WHAT I HAVE THOUGHT FOR TEN YEARS TO BE IMPOSSIBLE.

[@brumble]

Yep, 3 years of constantly leaving and coming back, the same cycle over and over. When together everything is good for 2-3 months then boom he switch's, turns horrible, nasty, starts making up non-stop lies, i leave. weeks later, he uses one of his 200 phone numbers, discord accounts, facebook accounts you name it to try and get in touch to lure me back... this time, im never going back. I've kept screenshots of his abuse to remind me never to go back. Sadly i know how long its going to take to heal. WIsh me luck.

[@katiegaga2250]

Very helpful thank you The part about the aftershock was so validating for me, I've previous felt pathetic for running back and missing him

[@Juniperberry1]

My narcissist husband is from a different country. If I leave he will get deported and we have a child together. Am I wrong for contacting immigration? He is extremely abusive

[@Juniperberry1]

Jayna I’m working on it

[@kreneejewell4081]

I say call them

[@EllenCPickle]

Mine too....but we've been married long enough he doesn't need me for this.... actually it was his plan from the start. Found last year he's asked three other women to marry him since and before we came here...it's time for me to help myself....hell if the situation was turned he wouldn't and hasn't helped me but giving me empty promises and physically a heart attach. Hand in there

[@lw2072]

I wish! When you sense something is wrong go with it! Mine is from another country. He was nice until he got his papers! Now 3 decades later it’s a disaster! Calle and Run quick!

[@sumterblackchamberofcommer7218]

Let's connect

[@lazydaisy411]

I’ve had a plan to leave for a while, but I could only bear to do a little at a time. But I’ve now watched this episode 2-3 times, every time I start to doubt my plan.

[@dbm7128]

You can do it! It’s so easy to doubt yourself. I’ve done the same many times, however, I just keep thinking of all that I’ve lost in all these years, including my sanity and mainly MYSELF. You can do it! It won’t be easy, but you can do it! Wishing you strength and the best of luck. God bless you.

[@eleanorsolana9346]

I thought I was going to die! I was always a strong woman. I’ve had a really tough life and every one has always told me how strong I am. We weren’t married just dating. I went NC contact 6 weeks ago! Now I’ve been drug and alcohol free for 22 years which was a piece of cake compared to this. He was everything that you described. He treated me like a second thought. He can’t smear me he is a felon did 17 years so the cops would laugh at him. I think I caused enough narcissistic injury where he won’t hover but he’s not too bright. It scares me that he might come around when his supplies are on to him. He’s 55 and doesn’t have much to offer. I need to seriously learn about your internal work! You are a huge inspiration and a wonderful person!!! ❤

[@checkingitoutthere]

Hitting it out of the park again, Mel. Thank you for all the support and tips for us to move on from this abuse.

[@dianerose7631]

It’s true the narc has no care for my future. thousands of events happened with significant other. I now really want to leave.

[@apersonthatsnice6202]

thank you . my narc suddenly got a brain cyst when i was going to leave four weeks ago,,,,,he had this years ago and thought he was healed. I should say all of a sudden its bothering him,,,,,,now im thinking he knew it was back but was faking symptoms again to keep me with him.....keep in mind i am so ill,,,,diagnosed with lupus..diabetes..heart problems and need a total abdominal reconstruction surgery.....ive been so ill our entire marriage.....he is a malignant narc.....so now he is fired from his job from covid and we are losing our insurance.....so now he is home four weeks and im about to fall apart....this is my second narc.....so now i haven't slept in four weeks....maybe 30 mins a day is it,,,,im working on an out plan,,,,but it took me watching your videos that he is using sleep deprivation against me......THANK YOU BECAUSE ITS SO HARD FOR ME TO LEAVE....LITERALLY I DONT HAVE ONE DOLLAR

[@Postulatedstate]

I'm working on moving out of my narcissistic parents house, actually his moms house. He'll try to destroy me and it's going to be difficult to leave. I will have to well plan it. Your video is very helpful thank you. Your points are right on . Once he knew I figured him out, he went into total narcissistic rage. The cops will see right through him. This dude is effed. He doesnt take showers clip his nails brush his teeth or anything. He's a sadistic person big time. I pray I get out safely.

[@jackierichardson9534]

I am struggling to leave. He has threatened to post all my intimate pictures he has saved and post all over Facebook he has also threatened to make sure my kids know what kind of mother I am. He tells me he has people watching me. I said I am calling the cops and then he would call me up calling me a rat etc and then say I won't post them but you better come clean but idk qhat he wants me to come clean with.. i feel like i am loosing my sanity...

[@tiredmomoftwo5682]

Just delete fb and let him post them. Dont let him win! If you have to screenshot the pictures posted from his account and get him for sexual harassment

[@Glloommental]

I would try to delete them when he sleep and the back ups then leave because if he notice all hell will break loose I'm going though it now

[@morningsong8077]

Narcs are incessant bullies! You can do this! Just keep going with your head held high.

[@juliegloer786]

I’ve spent 17 years with a narcissist. I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd and struggling in every aspect of my life. I’m so angry at myself for allowing him to do this to me! I went from being married to one to pretty much being married to another!

[@IronMountainx]

Be strong, I was a broken & unwell man after 20+ years with my wife. It was my son who helped me leave, I never involved him in my agony but he was seeing every day how my wife behaved behind closed doors and he kept telling me not to let her treat me like that. I took the advice of a 12 year old and got out. I now feel healthy and positive, exactly how life should be. The ptsd will subside and one day almost without noticing it you will feel like you, be strong 💪

[@MonaLisa-ih5cx]

Planning my escape the day before thanksgiving. I have 1 week to get a plan going 7 years of pure hell we don’t have kids together (saved myself from that one lol) i’m SO done thanks for your vids you are an ANGEL much ❤️

[@S..Perrie]

2 weeks no contact still persistant with his hoovering even though he has new supply freaky thankyou melanie just what I needed

[@karenrudge4082]

This is my far the best video I've seen on exactly what to do and how to prepare! I am prepping to leave after 20yrs with my husband, it brings up such anxiety with how it might play out! I am determined to go through with it but it fills me with dread! Thank you for this great explanation 😬

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Karen, I'm really pleased that this is so helpful for you sweetheart. Sending you love, healing support and strength xoxox

[@JR-nm2zu]

Thank you. This video has helped me tremendously. I've been out for a year and a half, but this is another great reminder about what I'm still dealing with every day - especially with my coparenting (but unchanging) narcissist.

[@kaykay7271]

How has coparenting been for you ? I’m currently going through this . And need all the advice I can get

[@rachelmoore5079]

Thank you. I’m leaving and he’s making it very difficult. Wish me luck 🙈

[@charlene274]

Thank u im trying to leave and finding my self worth

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

I've noticed those nasty peptides even being away from a narcissist for the weekend. It takes a few hours to gain some clarity, when you really leave them it takes weeks or months to gain clarity. 😅

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Paul, it is so much quicker when you get the trauma out generating the peptide addiction. Have you tried QFH yet? Come into my free webinar -and you will experience the difference www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxox

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

@@MelanieToniaEvans I have seen some of your videos on QFH and find it very interesting. I will look into it more 😊 because I think some trauma's are still there. Thank you so very much 🌄

[@isabellekramer9040]

How to leave a narcissist when im a stay home mother with alot of financial debts and no security in life. My son has autism so he only attends 2 hours at School, making it hard for me to work. I live in sweden btw

[@lilyannocean5835]

You ok ?

[@hildehausikujohannes7664]

become independent in small way, that autist child is his harm ,don't let him harm you more.

[@peony8905]

This video spoke to me. Thank you 😊

[@morningmayan]

Thank you so much for the kindness and wisdom.

[@frhwebmaster]

You are my Godsend! I love what you do and say - you do it in a way that touches me and my soul and just brought tears to my eyes. Blessings to you and yours! Shalom,

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

Now I know why I was hospitalized when I left the first time. My next time will be a celebration.

[@tradgunter5828]

I want to leave my spouse of 26 years. I'm totally wiped out. I have no hopes and see no future. I'm living in Hell.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Trad, sweetheart I so know how that feels. But you do, in fact, have a future and can both leave the marriage and heal from this. My free 16 Day course is a great place to find support for the early days of this process. I'd love you to come on in. It is there for you whenever you need it. You are not alone sweetheart: www.youcanthrivebook.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox

[@syedali3410]

Hi did you manage to sort anything out. I’m in the same boat 21 years, and I feel no energy or life in me 🤦🏽

[@Kevinmsr]

I am so emotionally destroyed. Everything is my fault, from the rise and fall of the Roman Empire to the assassination of A Lincoln to JF Kennedy. I saw the writing on the wall months ago, but I hoped and prayed it was maybe her medication or menopause, but I guess I was fooling myself. I am 60 yrs old and disabled and am being forced to leave my home, my mini farm because I fear for my life because of a deadly situation that occurred a few days ago

[@fatimael12]

im trying to leave this relationship but its so hard its like addiction i know he abuse me but he is very smart he blame me and somtimes make believe that i didn't try hard to save this relationship or that im thr reason leaving is so hard but i have to do it for myself and because i don't want to have kids that suffer with him one day . i feel stuck i feel like im in a war with him and with myself . i start having panic attacks and enxiety . i hope i can do it and just leave and never come back

[@hildehausikujohannes7664]

how can I leave with no contact when I have kids with him. I tried to escape for a months period, my kids were badly sick, almost loosing the youngest, i was scare tht I have to come back, because the sickness was stress that they missing the nasc dad, I ran away for my life, but then my kids life was in danger in the process, so I have to come back and they are fine now. I'm still in separation with him even I'm back, I feel trapped and depressed. what can I do?

[@elderjonathanwhite6633]

Thank you for this video, helping me with my plans for leaving my narcissist wife

[@Aquariusrising11]

I want my half of the house. Its not fair in my 50s to have nothing. My soul truth is most important, but lets be real, I need security. Im sure Im in for a hell of a ride!

[@lukeshepherd330]

I received legal advice not to abandon the family home, but then I got sucked back in. I should have taken all my valued possessions and left while I still could.

[@tiggybud8474]

Minute 8:00, My narcissistic chose my mother as his 3rd party communication in having a mutual child and it has decimated the family for my family. It has been over 3 years and I have not been “allowed” to be with my family because of smearing..does this phase out or am I moving along in my own healing bubble?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi TB, truly hun, your answer is to heal so much that your life is firm, healthy and moving forward. Then if they respectfully move into that space with you - fine. And if they don't that is no condition on your life. Its usually when there is no more pain inside us, that things swing around and heal with others xoxox

[@Heatherandherson]

Perfect advice! Awesome

[@marissas9583]

Just left going through the motions and on day 4. Questioning if I did the right thing....please send all support.

[@muddthekingofnothing6249]

Follow your heart be true to yourself

[@cheryloconnor7073]

How are you doing?

[@melissalord4390]

You are amazing Thank you

[@user-pb6mm4ms1o]

Thank you for posting this.

[@Taniapin43]

Hows these people exist in this world? It’s very awful.

[@unapologeticella4540]

So it's ok to ghost them if they dont let u leave?

[@AnaLockett]

I need this video right now. Thank you so much.

[@boiobsessed]

I’ve been on and off leaving for 1.5 years. They would make me feel like everything was going to work out and that because they loved me and were there not dating anyone else I should be grateful and not ask for more. It’s my first week without them in 6 years and I’m really going through it emotionally. I want to stay strong but I just keep having conversations with them in my head defending why I left. I want to talk to them so much even though it’s not healthy for me. I’ve drafted like 25 texts but I know if I send them I’ll just start the cycle over again. I hate how they think they’ve done all the can do and that I’m being controlling for asking for more commitment. I hate that all her friends agree that we were miserable and don’t belong together. I hate that there’s nothing I can do to fix us. I’m just trying not to be alone and trying not to cry but they are always on my mind. I hate feeling this weak.

[@bitsnbags]

I'm similar to you. I want to scream out to all his family and ppl he tells lies to! I want to scream it out that he was soul destroying. But I've learnt that it achieves nothing except make me look unstable. And I hate that bc I'M the stable one. God it hurts... Hang in there xxx

[@bettyboossister3918]

If you have a photo of yourself when you were a little girl put it in front of you and see what you feel if you connect....you must connect with her and support encourage love her unconditionally work on the inner child...in Bible it says not to idolize anyone...so we must not look up to anyone to point we get sick...when you are not at ease it's DIS EASE and if you put dis ease together it's disease...which is the root of all sickness...best wishes

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Andrea sweetheart that is great you haven't given in. Please know it is possible to get this trauma out and heal. Let me show you how - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxox

[@godylocksarts7632]

is it possible to change a mindset of a 21 year old who is abused by a narcissistic mom??he has resorted to drinking it breaks my heart.

[@sophi1020.]

No. Unfortunately his mother is the cause of it. He will always seek approval and love from his mother but will never get it

[@nvp9095]

2 years free, never felt better

[@lunibombom4551]

He is at the discarding phase so I'm trying to pack right now and get my van ready and drive off in silence when he is away. My anxiety is all over the place. I barely have any money, I do not know where I am going to go, I have to get another job, I'll probably be homeless but maybe I'll have more peace.

[@julialednicky7542]

Super helpful? Thank you!!

[@finnmccorkle4694]

why should i leave? this is my house not his... everything is about me leaving.. but this is my house i bought. i'm not leaving it.. any other options

[@sylviatuckanow1424]

How can I get him to leave my house?...he reeled me in again nd I feel so stupid..I'm scared of his reaction

[@godylocksarts7632]

I stay with my narcissistic sis.(cousin) she makes me takecare if her child while she sleeps at night.been an artist its tough to find time to work.3months I've been baby sitting ;-(am tired of such a life ..I feel pity for my innocent nephew(2months)who's is neglected..any solutions...

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Godylocks, The best way I can help you is to connect you to my free resources. www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse Love and Blessings xoxox

[@leahsmith2078]

Very very helpful. This would have been useful years ago

[@crusitacorral2821]

Where’s the link?

[@stevenjohnston1107]

Number 6 can be much more dangerous if the narcissist is a woman and the victim a man. I have just left the narcissist a few hours ago and this scares me.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Steven. My heart goes out to you. I know how frightening it can be. Please know there are many men in my Thriver community who are healing by doing the necessary innerwork to help them breakthrough. I'd love you to join me in my free healing webinar if you're yet to so I can explain more and how you can truly emancipate your Self and move out of the fear. melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings xoxox

[@amberfreeman4335]

So what about when you have no place to go?

[@hildehausikujohannes7664]

how to prepare the kids for the escape ?

[@lafreedahill2127]

Thank you..🙏💪💛💫😘

[@mordechaygalila6279]

she is amazing can someone help me to understand she was talking about it and i cant find it is nap that can help with my divorce

[@edkasprzak3901]

Hey what's everybody I got a problem out here I got a friend a female her "husband" likes to put hands on her and rough her up. Like it's the thing to do. So if you can help, or even if you cant, God bless you

[@romcom5]

You know what my narcissistic husband said to me when I decided i didn't want to be with him and asked for divorce due to his cheating? He SHAMED me for having diabetes!!! YES! He f*cking SHAMED ME for being ill with diabetes and not only that, he shamed me for having a special needs brother who has Down Syndrome! He was like: "You should thank God that I accepted to marry you while I am fully aware of your illness and your brother's condition!"

[@EllenCPickle]

Me too and the diabetes turn to lupus and kidney failure and more.

[@munhassan7840]

These people are like this sadly they don’t deserve good people in their life.

[@braininjuredbabe]

What a moron!

[@andreacartee1250]

Thank u

[@nathankoehler2143]

Hi, in your (or anyones) experience is it possible that someone with many narcissistic tenancies (among other issues) but without a full npd diagnosis can heal? Ive only been on my path to work on those tendencies these past few months and have seen a lot of good come from it. I have been on a year long journey so far but didnt know about cluster b and narcissism until this spring. While my partner agrees there has been great progress im always worried that it isnt sustainable as all i hear is that narcissists cant change. Im afraid im just wasting the best years of her life on someone who, if what i read is true, will not feel love. Thank you

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Nathan, the best advice I can give you is to be committed to being in a healthy relationship and do all you can to make that happen on your end. blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-create-a-healthy-relationship/ Love and blessings xoxox

[@lukeshepherd330]

How did you know that I had an anxiety disorder :)

[@andreross2092]

I can’t find narp on line for free assistance

[@issaccwittcop5598]

Watching most of your videos I came to the conclusion that my girlfriend is a narcissist she plays victim a lot says I’m always the bad guy when no one points a finger she calls me words she yells at me when I call her when she is being a bitch sorry no disrespect and I don’t ever say it out of disrespect but I don’t take disrespect well and when I stand up she plays victim cry’s and I feel bad and I feel like I’m stuck I don’t see my freinds anymore my hobby’s I don’t do I get cussed out for supposedly looking at other females when 99.9% of the time I really wasn’t I j feel like I’m going crazy I’m drained idk what to say and do 🙁🤦🏽‍♂️

[@shannons842]

How do I find Narp?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Fiesty, You can find it here hun: courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp/ Love and blessings xoxox

[@Faithandseekerofchrist]

Yeah but what if you have to deal with revenge porn if you break up with them?

[@lulu-rm1jk]

Idk how to leave

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Lulu, first of all sweetheart, there are domestic violence organizations that can help you with this. You can reach ot one in your area. But the truth is that when you have shifted some of the fear surrounding the decision to leave, you will be able to come some conclusions as to the how. My free webinar can help you you and I so hope you will join me. melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings xoxox

[@lauraaleo8790]

Can I have the address to apply for sponsorship I have a fixed income and I need help before I end up dead

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Yes absolutely Laura it is [e-mail] Sending you strength and healing xoxox

[@drlarrymitchell]

I'm ten days out, and my like was number 666- this is a good omen. 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@kendallmoore1483]

I am so scared

[@Glloommental]

Your not alone

[@shaniecegullison]

How are you doing?

[@shaniecegullison]

I'm scared too

[@alicearcturus8610]

No! I wish the sob was dead. He has kept me as a prisoner for years because I have disability. He has ruined my life and health. I am desperate to get away. He has tried to kill me. He moved me from home town. I have no money. I would kill myself but that is what he wants. Everyone thinks I am crazy because I stay in house and don't leave except to get supplies or doctor. He tells everyone I am crazy. No one will help me. How do you get away from this?

[@jennifervaladka505]

He is in my house I have no where there to go this is my place

[@jesusblack1320]

you keep saying never change they will never change that goes against the idea that we're divine and we can heal ourselves that would put a limitation on with our Free Will make a different decision people do change all the time I'm not saying that I have the answers that I can make my narc changeBut everything is possible it's possible

[@rebellucy5610]

Sorry, but they do not change. If they change at all it will be temporary. You'll see.

[@pisces8882]

I'm stuck without help or my own $ to leave. Shit, if I had the $ I'd GTFO RIGHT NOW!!!!... I can't stand him, no love, no more addiction to this person. I physically can't work anything other than desk jobs. With this CV Bullshit the only jobs out here are factory jobs, SSD is basically shut down out here. I WISH the smear campaign was the ONLY thing I had to work about. I could care less. I WANT TO LEAVE SO FUCKING BAD I JUST WANNA DIE.

[@godylocksarts7632]

hai mel..am from Africa Zambia..do you have an email?my storyy is deep.maybe you can help me

[@junkettarp8942]

Wow trauma addiction. Oh dear ,the victim .....again.....sulking too.