How To Ignore A Narcissist Who Tries To Punish You

[@billharden7127]

The narcissist in my family hates it when I just SMILE and walk away. Very good video.

[@DanteWesker612]

I can relate. Because I have a narcissist in my family as well: the oldest of my three half-sisters who are younger than me. She's my dad's oldest daughter, and she does everything she can to get me in trouble for this I never did. But I don't give that little brat power over me anymore. I ignore her every time she is in my presence

[@hoth1009]

So accurate. When you stop reacting emotionally, you're no good to them anymore and the game is up. During therapy and therefore beginning to heal, I stopped crying, pleading&begging and the Narc walked away. He ended the relationship so many times&I felt devastated, distraught and chased everytime. The final discard stayed final because I let him go.

[@awolfadventureawildconnect5311]

this sounds just like me

[@bobbarker1798]

Congratulations on your freedom! Keep yourself free.

[@alldor4902]

Any advice for me please?

[@nancykuske7486]

@@alldor4902 No Contact. none!

[@annharrison4774]

I've learned ......DON'T REACT!!!!

[@kathleenkathleen6381]

IME This will cause them to change up their longstanding tactics, so be on the watch for that.

[@alldor4902]

Any advice you can give me please on covert?

[@chanellbrown9794]

It’s so hard when he hits me with the low blows

[@annharrison4774]

@@chanellbrown9794 If it is physical get out - NOW!!!!

[@chanellbrown9794]

It’s the mental abuse, sometimes I can’t believe what comes out of his mouth. It’s really sickening. I’m just learning about narcissism now. This stuff is really deep😔

[@NikibaRichards]

I get it! My salvation is not about the narcissist it is about healing me!

[@mgtow6683]

My life is so much better when I ignored the toxic person in my life.

[@Eljay1222]

I'm learning the same,my friend! Who needs the extra chaos & drama?!!!!?

[@ARedMagicMarker]

@lovely Kissies I'm not mgtow, and I'm a woman, but just what is wrong with going your own way if you want to? Is that not a human right? And no one said anything about women.

[@GreekDino]

Me to my friend. Last words to my mentally and physically abusive narc father was dont bother calling or texting me as you are officially blocked and go Fuck yourself. 6 months now and I couldnt be happier. I was never the problem and it took me a long time to figure that one out. He was the issue. No more. Freedom!

[@nidakhan4916]

But its hell tiring n hard😖n he keep on punishing threatening

[@nidakhan4916]

But my husbnd says i feel good whrn i ignore u n leave u abandon and m stress free n it makes me depresd but you say that they can't tolerate ignorance

[@cheryltainsh1143]

One positive side effect of the virus is the need for social distancing and keeping contact to a minimum. I am busy now and just refuse to experience any more toxic behaviour from the narc and flying monkey family members. Cut off the supply and refuse to play their game,6 feet is not far enough. When you realize that narcs will never change , you are free

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

When a person becomes so important to us that we fall apart if they reject us, then we have an idol in our lives. We can trust Christ completely with our spirit, but we cannot trust any human being in this way. God knows everything about us and loves us so much He died for us. People do not love us in this way. We can love people but we cannot trust them with our very souls. When the people we love become dangerous to us emotionally and spiritually then is the time to walk away.

[@kelseyreese2641]

Christ is an idol too

[@jessicaborgogni9595]

@@kelseyreese2641 no, Christ is a symbol, as Gwendolyn explained. What you're referring too is exactly what the Church warns us against, to make a material object (or person) impersonate spirit. That would be paganism by the Church's definition. Christ had to die to show us that Spirit is untied to any one physical body, which is by nature corruptible. Spirit is Love, and we must look for Love in the meaning beyond physical reality -paradoxically, that enables us to overcome and create a better reality, according to functional values. We must be prepared to die in order to resurrect and recreate and evolve, like he showed us.

[@wendydrummond2338]

Have you ever noticed that those who say trust me, trust me, trust me are those to never trust

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

@@kelseyreese2641 Christ is not an idol, He deserves worship His God Who made us and died for our sin, we owe Him.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

@@jessicaborgogni9595 God is more than love, He is justice, righteousness and cannot have in His presence Sin. He is the righteous judge and will throw into hell anyone who refuses to love Him.

[@wendydrummond2338]

I. Used to think it was rude to ignore others but I been so ignored and neglected but now it is such a relief to completely ignore narcissists thank God for that God bless you

[@ravenel2]

That’s the problem. The kind group thinks it is rude to ignore others. The evil group ignores others as a control tactic. This causes confusion. Always look at who is trying to be the destroyer.

[@sandrarosa9258]

I finally get it after 18 years. When I ignore and live my life first I feel so powerful it was very hard getting my power back. Because I'm a huge empath and still am But not for energy draining toxic evil people. I can always feel it when I have my power it feels so good ! Peace.. still learning about me and I love it !

[@poisonivy5506]

It's so so so difficult to not react. They know how to say and do deeply betraying things you trusted them with/not to do.

[@christinehaigh9807]

They lie, lie and endlessly lie.....

[@msliberated3899]

They lie soooooooo much

[@you8just]

The worst part is realizing my whole life was a lie, I was always alone surrounded by fake people trying to control me and steal my energy. I wish I had someone to support me through this hell, to validate my feelings, but I think God is enough. It's important to forgive the narcissist, because it is the anger that gives them control over you, and you become what you hate.

[@barbarastrayhorn4667]

Good luck. It took a few years for me to start feeling alive again. You will find yourself again. When you do, embrace it and reward yourself for being able to break free.

[@gaynell4441]

How are you??

[@craigblenman6959]

I'm now a victim for my wife, she put my families and friends has I make she bring me in suriname and now she halland and I still let her control me psl someone I need to talk with

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

I GET IT MELANIE! ITS ALL ABOUT MY SELF-HEALING!! #StillIgnoringTheNarc

[@Tiamoya23]

Yes!

[@belindametz5130]

This as always is profound and yes the narcissistic people use family members against you-what I believe though is the truth will always find its way out!

[@bettinade6831]

Yes, it will! ☀️

[@Unrove]

My ex girl would always tell me to fuck my sister

[@alesiafoster7750]

No reaction is the key..they don’t know what to do with that.

[@lilmar1710]

Exactly

[@zygi1921]

They know. You know how they explein to themself? That they won. Because they can not loose.

[@avecmoi9429]

This is worth listening to more than once.

[@darleneburns4093]

I listen to this over and over. I just want it planted in my soul so I can heal and move on from narcissistic abuse

[@avecmoi9429]

@@darleneburns4093 Yes, it has to be planted in you soul and if you must see the narcissist keep that the forefront of your mind and be superficial in your communications with the narcissist. Put time limits to the interaction. (say 3 minutes or whatever) Remember these jerks love confrontation and get energized as you get drained. My psychologist told me that last week. They do not do that just to you. They do it to some others. ( not necessarily to all others ). They are stuck in some level to pre-adulthood. YOU cannot change them. I come from a family of 6 children'. The youngest is now 55. The patterns were set for each person. Narcissist's often lack empathy for other or do not have enough. Two of the siblings have abused the other 4 pretty much always. The abusing ones are stuck and they do not have the concept of "love one another" much. They do like to use religion to put people down for trivial stuff or even stuff not important at all. They ignore the idea that "love one another" was the most important over riding rule. One of the mean sibling said very hurtful untrue stuff to me while my Mom was at the end of her life last May. He just had to do it. Then 5 months later he wanted one of my sister "to mediate" between us. I told him there was nothing to mediate and praised his for his job. He is somewhat of a con-artist in the job he choose. I did that to go out with a positive note to him. I made sure the nice siblings got a copy of that email. They approved. Our parents let the two mean ones get away with anything and I accept that that happened, grieve some but do not expect the pattern to change. The parents did not realize fully the harm that was being set up for. The parents had some inkling now and then but not on a consistent basis. Well it happened. As one counselor told me, you can forgive people you but you do not have to hang around each one. I love all but I trust only some. If someone drains your energy level, get away. THs becomes even more important as you get older. The higher power does not want you to be abused. Take care.

[@darleneburns4093]

@@avecmoi9429 Thank you for the encouraging words.100% about family,its my story of where it all began for me as a child that led into narcissistic relationships with people including marriage. I have to keep watching these videos everyday to stay encourage to continue moving to a better place with my self until I open my eyes to 100percent freedom.

[@avecmoi9429]

@@darleneburns4093 You helped me too! thanks

[@CammyR]

I get it, and I really needed to hear this today - thank you

[@narcaway]

Thank you Melanie for all your videos and inspiring us all to move on, heal and get over narcissistic abuse once and for all. You are truly a saint. Much love ~ Amy

[@drawbreath2218]

Oh yes I get it! It's only ever been about healing my inner wounds! They don't just exploit them, they point them out for me to address.

[@taramaescott8733]

Since subscribing several months ago, I have learned sooo much!!! Your advise regarding ignoring the narcissist... is the absolute best advise, ever! This allows them to hang themselves without any energy from me. :) I have 2 in my life... who are now without any narcissistic supply from me, and I can't tell you how free and happy I have been since behaving as though they don't exist. It has been like getting rid of the big bad bully in school. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! Your words and wisdom have spared me so much wasted energy these past several months. I am so grateful to have found you and appreciate you so much!

[@taramaescott8733]

@Florida Girl 1216 Yesss! Both of the Narcs i mentioned i my comment....I'm STILL free of them! One of them (which was a co-worker) I let them hang themselves and I moved on to bigger and better pastures!!! The other Narc is my ex-husband...and his family knows all about him now...and Still makes sure to visit with me and my family when they come to visit (from Florida) ...with no mention of him! Ha Ha!! Keep pushing, Ladybug....it REALLY WORKS when you don't give them anything to work with anymore.

[@amandalewis6738]

Oh my gosh!!!! The penny drop of all penny drops! I didn’t realize that a wound of not being trusted existed. I just didn’t get that! That and being a disappointment are my wounds, which I finally just now could name. My eyes just opened for real and I’ve been working on this for 3 years. Thank you!!

[@beccabean2207]

I get it !!! my salvation isn't about the narcissist, it's about healing me, I'm going to heal me , the rest will fall into place

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Becca I'm so pleased you got to this stage 🤗 sending love and light and many blessings stay safe and well sending the Angel's to wrap their wings around you and give you everything you wish for 🙏🙏👼👼👼👼🌈🌈🌈💐🌹💐🌹❤💜

[@patriciastewart2537]

After 2 years of your help I rejoice in self focus! Freedom!

[@janda1352]

I got it, I am ready to completely ignore the narcissist and heal and love me so much,

[@candywilliams3533]

I get it, and much of why I get it is because of your insights Melanie. Thank you.

[@homebody61]

I find it helpful to write down 5 to 10 personal goals to achieve every day. Whether or not I achieve all of them, it keeps me more focused on my own life and happiness, and less focused on the narcissist and the abuse they mete out..

[@mariabrand1011]

Its not about narcissist, its to get me healed....💗

[@TSWaves1]

I went in to apologize to my ex for being angry. I left being called childish because I put a quote on Facebook. I feel like I walked in confident and loving, walked out feeling like a child that deserves to be punished. I have no idea what just happened to me.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

That’s their game

[@LaMartina1000]

Wow, you are SO right about that the narc behaves different depending on your wounds...! Thank you for this info! Love it!💕

[@epiphanysoulguidanceb756]

I get it! It's not abt the narc, it's abt me and my healing from the abuse

[@brandymount139]

Forgiving myself and working hard to heal and move forward

[@amymcg154mcguire5]

In the end, it's not about the Narc at all. It's about our inner world/health. Thank you for NARP and your work, Mel!

[@tatjanasihmuratova743]

Thank you I needed to hear that, I’m training every day myself not to react and not get get triggered by narcissist, not succeeding yet! I just keep Doing it every day

[@Saroposha]

You're the best Melanie I feel every word you said. Thanks for helping me through this

[@alifuller9224]

I went no contact with my father last year and as a result my oldest brother, golden child, cut me out. Recently my father came out of the woodworks and invited my partner and son to the cinema in a letter! They of course declined and as punishment my brother blocked contact to his son, my nephew. I feel like I am trying to heal and move on and accept my family for the way they are but they just will not leave me alone. I wish I could move across country but I dont want to leave my mum behind and my partner isnt a fan of 'running away' when we have a life here and our son is so happy in his school. Thanks for this, Mel.

[@anya4304]

I wish I discovered your channel sooner, I love that you focus on healing oneself, instead of the narcissist. Feel like this would've helped me love myself even long before I met my ex, so I would've never tolerated his abuse in the first place

[@teodoram.7498]

Its so difficult when you have the urge from childhod to please others. Thats the main problem. I am now isolating myself to heal, i don’t want anymore contact with such people. I made the mistake to let them lur me in, i learnt my lesson. I go to church now and found friends, and through constant work and faith I am healing. You are such an inspiration. I will make it🙏 so God will.

[@kerripotkonen4300]

You should have over a million subscribers. You save us all from this intense trauma with every video! Thank you Melanie 🤗

[@NT-is8pv]

My narc ex best friend did not know how to truly get to me. I allowed her to drain me of all of my energy bc I wanted to help someone I pitied but wanted to help. She depleted my energy and I realized and started creating distance. ... she panicked and tried every single way to get to me. She even told my personal rape story as her own to my face .. mere weeks after I had told her my personal experience... I was so confused ... I wasn’t hurt ... I just felt like she was most likely on drugs and her brain was scrambled. It was made clear later on that she told my story as her own to make me feel crazy and to trigger me .. but I have healed all my issues surrounding that event in my life .. so it couldn’t trigger anything in me .. I just pitied how broken her brain was ... and when I realized she was lucid when she told me my own rape story ... I still feel like her brain was broken and it still didn’t trigger me. These narcs are easy to figure out if you are willing to accept and educate yourself on narcs. That’s half the battle

[@ema9682]

I GET IT! ITS ABOUT HEALING ME!

[@ashleymorgan5476]

The narcissistic people in my life ignored me instead that includes my mother and my ex. I guess it God’s way of removing them out of my life so I can do the healing I need to get better.

[@RosasResources]

My mom took the narc view over me but I just got away from her too. I can't change her and I'm tried of the hurt.

[@notsheepish8304]

My adult daughter constantly puts me down and then the next minute is nice but only til she uses me to get what she wants. I recently stood up for myself after 3 days of constant abuse. Now she is keeping me away from the birth celebration of her 3rd child. Why do narcissists start arguments before important events to keep some family members away? She knew I have been looking forward to the birth of my granddaughter. She also triangulates constantly trying to turn my other daughter against me.

[@carolloraine223]

"If it's to BE.. it's up to ME"! Thank you!! 😙

[@jimi8fun235]

A great way to bullet proof ourselves from all manner of ignorance and abuse and to stay centered in our bodies is to put our intelligent attention on the stomach area of the body. This is the place where fear, anxiety and emotional pain seems to develop and will shoot into our brains where it can then run riot causing insecurities, worries and feelings of worthlessness. If you feel a knot in your stomach that's it trying to get into your brain. The more time spent observing it with our attention the weaker it gets. Eventually it will disappear and it,s like a dark cloud has lifted and a huge burden has gone. Welcome to being! Of all the self help channels there are this one's the best thanks.😀

[@erockfreedom6399]

I get it. My salvation is not about the narcissist - it is about healing me. Thank you

[@GracieAckerman]

This is exactly the energy shift that I had from a greater power this weekend. My ex dragged me back to court to have the alimony taken away. He already stole $84,000 in assets. I can’t win in court anyway. He wants to drag me though hell again so I was told by my angels 👼 to let go! The fight could kill me. The past came back in the old court papers and diaries of events. He became the centre of my thoughts and fears again. It was sickening. It was pure trauma. So I emailed my lawyer and the court and told them I withdraw from the trial.

[@nicolaapps6889]

Wow! That takes strength and courage and a whole heap of LETTING GO! Well done you!

[@GracieAckerman]

Nicola Apps thank you 😊

[@shirley8107]

Exactly the decision I’m trying to get to. My ex doesn’t pay support when he’s supposed to. He refuses to follow through on our settlement agreement. Yet he takes me to court. Tried to evict me from the place he put me so he could carry on his affair. I have less and less. I owe more and more. The alimony doesn’t cover the debts he’s created and dumped on to me. He has swayed the Judge with lies to make me look like the one not complying.

[@FM-gv4yl]

It wil be difficult for a while and you will, you will overcome it xxx hugs,head up, move on xxx

[@micheleagren1604]

@@GracieAckerman how are you doing now?

[@haliec496]

When I was in it I was so down I couldn’t connect with my real self, you must leave to do the work. Over a week out now and I’m finally feeling so much better, no anxiety or sadness and I’ve put weight back on. So happy to be away from him and his abuse.

[@kwpk7915]

I don’t need specific outcomes in order to be whole ❤️

[@juliebutzow3124]

Thank you thank you thank you!! THIS is everything I feel and more. 🙏🏼❤️ healing from family narcissists is so very heartbreaking as you don’t want to offend or hurt them, until you realize..they don’t hurt the way I do and that my wounds MUST be healed.

[@saadhna7260]

Melanie dear, I find your content excellent and life saving. You are explaining your unique information in a way that is unparalleled to anyone else's. You have put so much of love and dedication into explaining and teaching. I find your videos absolutely delightful to watch and learn from. It is only after watching your videos that I felt "soothed " and my panic levels started coming down. One of the MANY interesting things I find about your videos is that you bring out the "curiosity " in my being. The "student" in me is brought to life. I am so grateful to have found your channel. I believe this moment is a gift from the universe.

[@NT-is8pv]

I experienced 2. Narc boyfriends and 3 female friends that are narcs .... I’m using all the pain they placed on me and I’m actually writing a book on my experiences so I’m grateful that I fixed myself in the process of having a life experience to write about. It works out for the empath in the long run.

[@robertsmith1153]

I did exactly what you explain on this video and it works 100% thank you my sister I love you🤗💗

[@Sweetlilyshow]

You make so much sense... I grew up with a narcissistic mother... married one and we have been separated for ten years and I am still fighting in court with him. Only finally got a divorce last year and still no child support. He won’t even work anymore. We payed off a farm, our farm 15 years ago. The kids and I ran away he tried kidnapping my daughter and in the process broke my neck from c3-c7 I have cages, rods, screws holding my head on. My spinal cord was crushed. I should not be walking. Needless to say I have no income coming in.I need the revenue from our shared property to raise my youngest one as my older children are grown and have kids of their own. I have cut him off in every other way. Except for needing the money from our farm. This presents a big problem for me. I feel like he still has some kind of control over my life. Yet it is necessary...many times I just wanted to give up on the whole thing. I feel like I am in a loop. As long as he keeps dragging this out. I started watching you in hopes I could get some tips on how to help this situation. Possibly make court with him easier. I am also an Alchemist and so I really appreciate your channel. As really truly the reason you attract people like this is because of “ the law of attraction”. I am still unsure as to how to proceed. After investing as much of my life money and time into this property. Knowing that I need the money from the farm. Ugh anyway thank you for your wise words. I am not financially prepared, the lawyer fees are piling up and really don’t want to just give up on the situation. It would be different if I could work however he has made that impossible for me. So what do you think.... should I just give up I personally think i won’t ever heal from this if I let him win. That would leave me desolate. So you can see my dilemma.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Bonnie, you poor love, I'm so sorry and my heart reaches out to you so much. You have been through so much. Sweetheart from my heart to yours I cannot urge you enough to look into my healing program NARP at this point. You can find all the information here www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and please know if you have reduced financial means you can email [e-mail] to apply for sponsorship. Please connect with my beautiful team and they will help you. Love and blessings xoxox

[@Sweetlilyshow]

Melanie Tonia Evans thank you so much.... you are a source sent energy, of healing. I so appreciate your channel. Thank you thank you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@johnbehneman1546]

GREAT VIDEO MELANIE!!!! IT IS TIME FOR ME TO HEAL MY INNER CHILD AND CONTINUE WITH THE CALLING IN MY LIFE!!!! TIME TO ENJOY LIFE AGAIN ON MY TERMS.

[@sydshrimp]

Thank you. Such an important video. Healing ourselves, not reacting and letting go of what the narcissist is doing.

[@jspin6871]

I get it. Thank you for being an integral part of me getting myself together and getting out of here.

[@littleiodine9480]

thank you so very much! I totally, finally, totally get it! :-) after a year-and-a-half of constant KZbin trying to fix self, I finally get that. the men in my life were way easier to dump. it was my son and my brother that I mothered that I just kept trying to fix. what mother feels like they can let go of their Duty or their unconditional love? on top of that when I figured out how hurt they were inside , the guilt that wasn't mine to carry was eating me up on top of, if I took me away from them it would hurt them . who wants to hurt their children emotionally , even though they have been grown for decades ? good luck with that one. but I finally get that as well.

[@belindametz5130]

I appreciate you so much Melanie so very much. Thank you.

[@annbrown5014]

Wish me the best. I’m evicting my narc. He is so vengeful. I’m over the back and forth, and ready to move on with my life!

[@WhipRunner]

This is THE key- Healing your wounds - the narc is just a dog chasing cars.

[@AngelStormee]

I get it now. It's not about him and his manipulating or guilt-tripping me anymore. It's about healing myself and becoming stronger and wiser. 👌🌸 Thank you♥️

[@tiptoe3776]

[EXTREMELY emotional comment here...] The intro is a work of art. it's all i've watched so far, but since i'm dealing with a very terrible narcissist that when reacted wrongly to is a complete monster which is such a horrible thing for me to say since she is my mother, but she's just hurt me so bad so i know i'll have to regret this once i figure your video tricks out, but for now, this really does seem like a very vague lightly put with sprinkles on top understatement for me.. which is extremely sad to say... Ok enough of that justification for calling narcisissts monsters, even though in my narrow-fielded vision, they ARE, just because i am SO freaking hurt, so hurt. I just want to say thank you. you are like a goddess descending from heaven with this video... i want to scream, cry, laugh, yell, break down, break things, and WITH SO MUCH PAIN given me, make the narcisist feel pain. SO BAD. but it's never going to happen the way things are going. I know, this comment is a lil dark. but that's what narcisism is, an evil, disgusting thing. (again opinionated but i d c). Sorry for this, seriously i am. love u and thank you. and i may be exaggerating when i say this but, Thank you, for Saving Me. 💝

[@Markus-gf7su]

You and your videos are amazing Melanie! You have a good way to get right to the point. We're so lucky to have someone like you who has gone through it and is able to articulate how everything is with those narcs.

[@trhnitesinohoudokelu]

I get it 🦋 It's all about my self-healing.

[@emma.bestrong333]

Very very good topic and point of view. I’m healing now . Thank you Melanie. Hope everyone suffering understands this!

[@debiedeschaine8414]

Absolutely, it's such a relief to be operating more and more in these truths! Thank you for bringing so much life-giving truths and literally saving lives.

[@naomisims7230]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I think you finally got through to me with this presentation! Listening to what triggers me/what I react to are the wounds I have, so I wrote these down that I've heard recently: 1. Stalking 2. Interrogation 3. Physically controlling me 4. Throwing other women in my face 5. Putting other women down & hoping I am going to repeat these things to them 6. Speaking lies about me to me and other people So, I am going to start listening for what I react to & continue the list. Learning to not respond to these things or getting up & leaving will be the challenge

[@Babu-kr3cr]

I agree. This is like genius spiritual quantum mechanics. The reason people can't do it is because ego gets in the way. We want to think that we can solve the problem, make evil stop, settle the score. The fact is, we can't do anything in the face of pure evil because it is too exhausting. The narcissists feeds off this effort as well. Just ignoring it, even though it sounds boring and humiliating, is the only way out. We would love to be able to jump in a fight and finish the whole thing. Then your spirit is filled with hate instead of love and creation. It is a way of worshiping the creator without even realizing it to just let it go. Maybe the victims are all just being tried in the fire to make them pure beings of light and love. It is woo woo and not of this world, yet the kingdom of heaven is not of this world. The kingdom of Satan, evil and darkness is. We have to choose to transcend and practice actually transcending. It isn't easy at all. The kingdom of heaven is narrow and very few find it while the kingdom to hell is broad and easy and many travel thereon. Your adversary Satan prowls the world like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. So we waddle on like lost baby ducks following the mamma and hoping the hawk doesn't grab us before we get to the next lily pad.

[@lisalisgarciavillegas1178]

Very well said...The Kingdom of HEAVEN is not of this world!!!

[@sinjinmonsoon9055]

3 weeks, no contact. 😁😸

[@love2crochet786]

Sinjinmonsoon Monsoon yay! We should have chips like they have at AA meetings lol

[@abyssious92]

1 year and 3 months

[@taramaescott8733]

congratulations!

[@thekrrib]

I wish we did have chips coz I've gone no contact before (about 6 months each time) but I always relent and get sucked back in. I haven't seen the N for about 2 or 3 months but this is my 3rd day NC and I'm struggling already. My wound was abandonment so it is me that chases him 😔

[@lisalisgarciavillegas1178]

@@thekrrib hang in there! Prayers for you & all of us!!!

[@abdulc5726]

I ignored him, then he reached out like he wanted to know but then ignored me, then when he next saw me he acted surprised and offended when I ignored him again ... like I'm gonna fall for his bs again! How can he think that I'm not gonna ignore him again after that is he f'ing thick. I didnt do it as though I'm playing games I did it to say f-off and don't come near me again. I get that its still a reaction albeit a bad one and hes likely to feed off it, but I wasnt doing it trying to give him supply but to let him know not to dare come near me with his attention seeking again. Is this OK?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Abdul C. I so know how confusing all of this can be! Please Google my name and 'No contact' and 'boundaries' to help you get clear. Going 'No contact' is an act of Self-love and is about you protecting you so you can create space so you can heal and move forward. Silent treatment and stonewalling by narcissists is the opposite and is a form of control and punishment and aims to keep you attached for 'supply'. See? Very different! I hope this helps! Love and blessings xoxox

[@addapavan5200]

Hey, while I was first searching in internet to know if there was any info about my dad-like people, it is from your channel that I came to know about Narcissists from video 'why Narcissists pathologically lie' as my dad was a big liar & I was searching about liars. I was very thankful for that.

[@hfalenski]

Endlessly grateful for the work that you do. ❤🙏

[@TheAppaloosa14]

I’m here Melanie You’ve described my inner and outer state to a t 17 years with a malignant narcissist sex addict. Two years out and suffered a heart attack when his many lives were exposed. I feel good and at peace. Thank you 🙏💕

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

I'm so happy I could help and that you have recovered sweetheart. Well done! Love and blessings xoxox

[@TheAppaloosa14]

Melanie Tonia Evans thank you Melanie ❤️

[@johnbehneman1546]

GREAT VIDEO MELANIE!!!! THANKS FOR SHARING AND I LEARNED SO MUCH. A MUST-WATCH.

[@classicaltutor2370]

I GET IT. Best message yet, Melanie, and I have appreciated every one of them. Thank you!

[@thriver9468]

I get it! Its about healing very soul. Thank you for bringing me to embark on this journey!!

[@d.majesty2185]

Thank you so much . because of you and others like you I I survived. 3 years NO Contact with the narc full contact with the kid . Thank you.

[@aking4766]

Sooo perfect now- I get it-IT IS ABOUT HEALING ME! That is all it was ever meant to be....self partnering has saved my life- I could not care less about that false self these days...still being dragged a bit legally but I can feel the grip loosen as I truly realize this creature has ZERO to do with my worth, value and life going forward...to imagine the years spent soooo ill- losing handfuls of hair everyday (down to maybe ONE hair per shower- that alone tells me of stress hormone overload!) But the punishments I have had to list for upcoming potential court reasons- could not have had a bigger AID everrrr! The "punishments" were beyond what most people could even imagine- so much more progress in a couple months than the past couple of years- thanks mel and please keep on! Learning and following narp and researching Lipton and Dispenza has given me hope for perhaps the first time...and I agree.....when we change the punishment is no longer for us...but anything less devastating would not have brought me here- I feel more confident and safe than ever in life....NO MORE trauma no more being kicked like a dog- I see through things now that I never before questioned- only the best is to come! 😗

[@asanthasamaraweera9679]

I can't thank you enough. I was in a relationship with a narcissist almost 10 years. Finally I come to know what is going on my relationship. I thought there is something wrong with me.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Asantha I'm so pleased for you and you are so so welcome sweetheart. Love and blessings xoxox

[@derekrichards5600]

Thank you for your videos it is been a big Enlightenment for me and I'm soon to be relieved to get rid of the two narcissists that I still am currently around and that's going to change soon enough but I've learned to ignore them and keep my attitude positive and my aura clean

[@robbieatwell9462]

I get it-and you are so right...if it triggers me,there is a reason that I need to address in myself.Why would I entertain a person who on purpose hits below the belt with their actions...This has been a big aha for me,this video

[@sharonhousden605]

I'm proud of myself that I didn't react. It was hard and it really hurt at the time, but years later, I'm glad I don't have any regrets about looking like a fool for reacting and showing that it got to me.

[@dawnemile4974]

I get it. I used to think that people did wicked things on impulse because they lacked the motivation to do the right thing when emotionally triggered by negative feelings and were often just temporary. With the narcissist, it appears that they plan to be wicked. When someone knows what is right and does wrong anyway, there is no sacrifice for forgiveness left. They deserve any punishment they receive from on high. This stops one from trying to find reasons to forgive the narcissist and think there was some part of them that was worth loving. Then you can completely detach and see them for what they really are.

[@ct6852]

I struggled with that question for a looooong time. Way too long. When I realized they planned I got LIVID. But I still question whether they actually premeditated the abusive shit.

[@risingeagle6332]

I totally get it now; I cannot fix the narcissist, I have to work and take care of my self. Thanks again Melanie! You have helped me to begin to heal in the right way by becoming aware of my inner self. Your channel has been providing me the understanding I needed. I’m making progress finally after years of abuse. I’m getting through the situation finally and your insights are giving me the clarity I need to truly heal. Thanks!!!

[@fadista7063]

Clear The Trauma. Make this part of your routine. Patience. Play the long game, you will get there! Thank you Melanie for the best channel on this vital problem of getting free from these people and their damaging ways.

[@wheel631]

The key to always remember it has nothing to do with you .. it's all about their own deep rooted insecurities

[@saadhna7260]

I am so glad that I have found you here. I am so grateful for this moment 🙏 So proud of you!!

[@nancygreydee2608]

I need to learn to ignore my narcissistic ex husband. He pushes my buttons on purpose while I’m trying to co parent retraumatizing He purposely comes near me when I’m at sporting events for my son and stands and stares.

[@lykke4996]

man up and kick him in the baaaallsss!!!!

[@cola1606]

The sociopathic stare.

[@pennykent5687]

Melanie, my Narcissist is my brother, and he is going after me to get my property, and the last time I have. He's enjoying a smear campaign, engaging lawyers, and trying to scare me and catch me off guard. I WISH I could just ignore him. The joint ownership of property, and my trying to get out of it fairly is what is keeping us bound. He's playing games and seems to enjoy trying to upset me. He's really sick.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Robin Lindberg my heart goes out to you. Please google my name plus ‘beating / winning / court’ and other relevant key words and you will find quite a few resources I have created that I hope can help you. Much love to you xoxox

[@pennykent5687]

@@MelanieToniaEvans Thank you Melanie. You are very kind. I will check into that. 💖🙏🙂🌤️☀️

[@axeltank06]

Unfortunately my narc wife has the endurance to argue with a brick wall for hours on end. She’ll still hold said brick wall responsible for her emotions.

[@dawnemile4974]

I would suggest you stop focusing on your wife and work on yourself as Melanie suggests in this video.

[@adriaticseaeyes]

I GET IT! Blown away Melanie.. you are the only person I have heard that exposed the white heart of Truth ✨💗✨😭😭🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@kittyhume3917]

Melanie thanks. I'm 52 and 32 years with my narc. Last year i had to admit i married a narc. I knew all the time, but i didn't understand. Last week i forgave myself instantly. thanks to you. But the start was your meditation about the inner child. She realy i was forgotten. 💗🤍💙 kitty, Holland, EU. PS; A year ago i could not believe i could handle this, but i can!

[@erinmueller3407]

I get it!!! Love your stuff- just joined the NARP community- ordered thriver gold- so much info- looking forward to starting my journey

[@janda1352]

I'm going through no contract with a sister, her husband, his sister, his mother & his brother. A fight ongoing for 12 yes this October. I'm exhausted! I want to just ignore them all, and enjoy my life. Anything I do, they do or anything I have w/would people nice to me or like me they want. My reputation at church where I went for 34 years they go now & want my reputation. Any justification I give is destroyed, make fun, or be mean emotionally, as a kid physically. I feel I have no voice & am punished daily. I moved an hour away. My sister & her husband move too, 30 minutes from me. What to do?

[@Shadow-runner939]

I GET IT...AMEN! It’s all about me healing!!!😇❤️🙏🏽🔥

[@t.sinclair8288]

You are a very smart person. Thank you for helping us all to break free and heal.

[@ladyoflove1679]

Melanie thank you for being such a blessing to all of us!! I didn’t realize that not wanting to be right or always needing to win. I didn’t know that that played such a big part in my own happiness!! I just learned that with the last 2 to 3 months!! I hope that message hits home to a lot of people because we could stop hurting a lot longer if we would just let go and let God!! As you said, whomever your God is!! Blessings, Thanksgiving and appreciation for who you are and all you do!! Have an awesome week and stay awesome!! LOVENJOI 💕💕💕

[@ruthyoung1032]

Every word of what you said is true. I've lived through it and am on the other side, liberated and free🤸❤️

[@janda1352]

Thank you for this very important & wise video. I can ignore them. It's all I really do well w narcissists.

[@darjaklemencic2668]

Dear Melanie, I am so grateful for your work! Nowhere else I found such clear and honest explanations than in your videos. God bless you 🤗

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Darja, I am so honored to be able to help you! Love and blessings xoxox

[@darjaklemencic2668]

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