Projective Identification: The Silent Narcissistic Abuse - Imi Lo/ Eggshell Therapy and Coaching

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[@Gemisnotmyname]

Ive noticed that narcissistic parent often give toxic shame to the child that they find most challenging. its like they pass down a bag of waste from one generation to another

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

Absolutely, your observation is quite insightful. Narcissistic parents, in their own struggles and challenges, may indeed project toxic shame onto the child they find most challenging or threatening to their own self-image. This is the core of PI and transgenerational trauma indeed. sadly, without awareness and healing, is how unhealthy pattern can perpetuate a cycle of emotional baggage being passed down from one generation to the next.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

my mother does this to me. my father just backs her up. I'm out. I bailed. Can't handle it.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

It’s ok to walk away from dysfunctional dynamics

[@North-lp8eo]

It doesn’t make much difference knowing it happens, it can still infect your mind. I was forced to live with my dad and npd step mother & her kids and I knew exactly what she was doing and thought that awareness would protect me, but the brain washing got through anyway. Also, even though I’m now no contact with her, other people seem to target me for more projective identification. I seem to have no defences against it happening even though I see it clearly occurring. Not really sure how to deal with this as it affects my life in many ways given it can happen with a variety of people eg neighbours, work colleagues etc. I find myself hiding away to avoid people who might do it again to me.

[@catalystcomet]

But what about traits, belifs, and characteristics they want praise for but don't get? Sometimes i think they project that and mold you into a person they want to be seen as. Loved for. Or even turn you into the parent they didn't have. Idk.

[@georgea1706]

Further on even authoritive figures trying to using it on unsuspecting victims.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

Indeed, it can happen on a systemic level.

[@jcimsn8464]

I'm working with a client who is a toxic narcissist and can only project her traits onto others. There is no building insight here.

[@jrcather5196]

I’ve showed signs of resilience but I fell for the usury or sympathy of any family member that knew of my lack of self awareness. It’s pretty complicated. I took the abandonment role at 8 ish after my primary caretaker began caretaking for her fiancée while he used corporal punishment on me. They sent me to the doc my entire life or backed the idea with $. All my relationships have failed or immovable objects preventing happiness from the fruit of his and her labor. My co workers picked up where they left off as well as did the pecking order of my siblings and their grown children. Like a mob mentality dog whistle handed out by that guy but first he set me up for failure with this demonic trauma bond.

[@estherann7407]

I'm really sorry JR, it's the crazy damn thing ever, like trying to make sense of the Twilight Zone. I wish you well.

[@jrcather5196]

Somehow I got to get out of this conspiracy

[@tmking7483]

This is a good video _ Thanks for making it _I'm currently being projected onto by several greedy needy people in need of an identity.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

Glad it was helpful!

[@JanesOracle]

The picture is so startling I can't watch... Amazing content though!

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

Glad you have found it too!

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

WHEn you talk about transference, is that like when you feel you're boring the therapist? Or that they think you feel too much pain given what actually happened. I did feel that. She was very kind to me though, she did listen.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

It can be. Without context and details I can’t tell for sure of course but this kind of projection can often be yes

[@tmking7483]

Blame Blame Shame Shame Blame Blame Shsme Shame. Im being told Im bpd cause i wont join a sex club _ lol

[@RedStorm.]

Blame the parents for things you cant even remember…give me a break

[@aaliyahscott9523]

If you don’t place healthy blame, the pattern stays in you.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

I am sorry if the video is upsetting. Healthy blame can be a rite of passage but it doesn’t erase love and gratitude and we don’t have to be stuck in blame forever.

[@CarnaghSidhe]

I blame my alcoholic father and autistic mother for the things I can remember. I was diagnosed with BPD myself over 30 years ago, and I personally find this essay really useful. Shit parents are shit, and do a lot of damage.

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

It’s important to stand up for your truth ❤️‍🩹

[@CarnaghSidhe]

@@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching your essays are utterly fascinating, and beautifully put together. This one in particular as Projective Identification doesn't get talked about much at all, and was a feature of my young life, so really useful stuff. Thanks. Really.

[@Nowbecomer]

Thank you

[@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching]

Welcome!🤗