Protect Your Pretty Privilege! Gatekeep & Move in Silence!

[@mjelani723]

Pretty girls HAVE to gatekeep…. I never fell for the social media trend bc some things need to be a mystery

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly. If you only follow social media trends you’ll just look like everyone on social media. That’s not necessarily a bad thing but when it comes to your unique and personal beauty routines, you have the right to move in silence if you want .

[@mjelani723]

@@ExoticalsUnited this is def my sentiments.. I love it here

[@coconuttrees]

I agree I never fell for the “story time” “GRWM” nonsense you got to keep that shit to yourself

[@saffy771]

Also every time a pretty girl talks about her favorite product it's gonna be sold out for days or even weeks on end 🥲 Just a recent example: That one girl from Love Island saying that the Sticky Dates shower gel from Lush is her favorite. Literally everything with that scent was sold out afterwards. Good for the company though I guess lol. It still annoyed me because I use that shower gel too, and because of people blindly following trends online, my staple products are suddenly getting harder to buy.

[@saffy771]

​​@@ExoticalsUnitedSo many times I've seen certain products or beauty trends becoming super popular. While sometimes it's for a reason because the product is in fact really good, but so many things are also overhyped and just did not impress me at all. You gotta use your own discernment and see if it's true to you and your own taste. Also where's the fun in everyone looking the same? I don't want to look like a clone of everyone else.

[@imandalton4227]

I find that even if you tell people what you do to be fit or have tailbone length hair, these people are way too lazy to be consistent. We all have the internet and libraries. The trial and effort to find out what works for you is it's own journey. I went to cosmetology school, make my own beauty products, eat whole foods, water fast weekly, monthly and seasonally, exercise, massage my scale daily, sleep on a satin pillow case,prioritize relaxation ,get quality sleep, have regular bowel movements and eat vegetarian. Those are the basics and very vague and not on purpose. Use ingredients that are natural that you understand and eat a vegetable soup with navy beans at least 4 days a week. Laziness is at an all time high but solutions are out there. Have a fun and appreciative mindset when you beautify yourself. As a married mother of 4 I make time for these things and it's sooo worth it.

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

That’s true. I only lose weight and grow hair when I consistently eat high veggie and fruit moderate protein diet, cut sugar, processed and fast food. Regular hair bands break my hair off. I need satin hair ties and I have to deep condition weekly. I moisturize every other day. I take daily supplements too.

[@Natalie-dj5bg]

That’s dedication right there 👏🏾 Also this shows a lot of self- love and respect which is hard for most people to do

[@saffy771]

Girl I feel you! I have hair that goes down to my bottom and it's also shiny and looks healthy. I'm often being asked what I do, but seriously it's so individual depending on your hair type. I've tried so many different products to find out what works for me, it took me months or even years to find out the perfect leave in conditioner for my hair. Also I've noticed that a lot of women admire long healthy hair but don't actually want to put in the effort themselves if they want to achieve it as well.

[@bettinaorevil5056]

You doing great work and thank you for sharing!!

[@habibtiz4335]

Yup !!! Game ain’t free! Gone are the days of me writing workout routines and meal plans for overweight friends and meeting up with girls which turns into an interview of what I do for everything . Bye 👋🏻

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right! I’m not casting my pearls before swine.

[@habibtiz4335]

@@ExoticalsUnited they don’t wanna do the work they are hoping for a magic pill or shortcut . Happy Friday 😘 happy full moon 🌕 🌹

[@rixl3x]

THIS!

[@Princess-jh5qq]

And even after all of that they still stay fat. Lol. Like stop asking me a million questions when you arent even going to try anything

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

I learned my lesson. I was sabotaged by a supposed friend after helping her career and working out with her. She wanted to know how I did everything in my life then turned everyone at work on me. Then she ghosted me.

[@privacywanted434]

Never stop making these videos!!! I am one of those girls who are constantly leveling up. Every time people see me they comment on my progress, what I'm doing, and ask how I achieved XYZ. They would grill me for answers but would never do it. It took me awhile to realize they just wanted to be nosy and find "the source" of my glow up so they didn't have to credit me for it. You're the first person who helped me realize being able to glow up is a skill. I used to have people tell me they were taking notes whenever they saw me and I thought they were joking but I see now they were serious. These were people who wouldn't really compliment or validate me, only question me on what I'm doing and how I did it. I used to think I was doing life wrong because they barely say anything to me. I see now it's because I was doing it better than them. They were secretly taking notes and just didn't want me to know I was their inspiration.

[@Bluesmoke4200]

BTW what you say about generational pretty privilege is spot on! My grandmother won a contest for "most attractive pregnant lady" in Atlanta back in the 1950s. We have the newspaper articles to prove it! Mind you, the city was highly segregated at the time and white women still voted for her. 😅

[@BarbiGirl24]

This is so true! I had a friend say … the only reason I stay skinny is bc I I eat a granola for breakfast with coffee. She was huge.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

😂😂😂 wow

[@Iambellarayne]

Like duh, d u m m y 😒. Annoying AF.

[@cocobelle5321]

Hahhahahahahaha😂

[@Academiacaramelcurlz]

Yeaaa I keep having to learn this lesson… keep it all to myself because the ppl you thiiiink you should be able to talk to… you can’t! So just be quiet and move in silence. ESPECIALLY if you already knoooooow you look better than them without making any changes…🤣🤣

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg yes 😂😂 because sometimes people will literally get mad when YOUR beauty tips don’t work on THEM! And it’s like sis we have a difference face! Different hair texture etc so I can’t control how you look! It’s not my responsibility to turn you into a baddie

[@Academiacaramelcurlz]

@@ExoticalsUnited THAT!!

[@ExoticalSauce]

Omg i have had that happen when they will try to use my tips against me or act like they told me the tip and not the other way around🙄

[@taesimmer]

Tips are nice, but everyone should go through the trial and error of finding what works best for themselves

[@ExoticalsUnited]

@@taesimmer exactly ! It’s not like your tips are going to work for them anyway. Everyone has a different face, body, etc ,

[@Jennyxx-ie5jw]

I gatekeep so much cuz some of these femcels want to use your information for their own benefit or use it against you For example you might have a product you use to grow your hair and might put it on your tiktok shop and they'll literally buy it from somwhere else just to not support your business or give you credit 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mjelani723]

@@ExoticalSauce that’s one of my biggest pet peeves… when someone acts they put me on to something

[@Blueocean881]

Yup, they have a fixed mindset.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes! They don’t believe in growth and evolving so when you evolve they’ll be like “you changed!” It’s like - yeah duh! You’re supposed to change and grow ! 😂

[@Blueocean881]

@@ExoticalsUnited That’s actually our greatest advantage. While they are in a state of lethargy we are building our pedestal! That’s why I don’t say anything. I let my inaccessibility communicate our differences. It prevents a debate or bargain. It’s simply a decline! Access denied 🙅‍♀️

[@alignedandobsessed]

There's only one person I tell about my things and that's because she loves what I do and she does the routines... She now even has her own routines and tells me about them... We share so many tips and tricks and our friendship has become stronger because of it! We both put in the work and uplift each other! I got really lucky with her❤

[@aamoriqualifiedswan4105]

🎉

[@KiaRoane]

I gatekeepe too, bc I get tiered of people wasting my time, and then them saying “that’s too much work” after I done sat there and explained myself. People want to eat crab legs, hot Cheetos, and drink Mountain Dew, and drink alcohol every weekend, wash their face with a dove soap bar, change their pillow case 3 times a year, wear frontals glued down for months and months, and wonder why their skin is bad, their hair won’t grow and they can’t lose weight.

[@naesajefferson2460]

Yess!!

[@lester2588]

Is Dove soap bar that bad? I wash my face with it 😲

[@food4thought692]

@@lester2588 You probably would be better off using at least something like Cetaphil. Although Dove is moisturizing it’s still bar soap and can dry you out.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

@@KiaRoane omg I’m screaming at this comment 😂

[@lester2588]

@@food4thought692 That’s so true! I never made the connection. Thanks, boo 💐💝

[@mansanayanaranjado]

My daughter was so beautiful and she had so many haters. She came home crying because her hair was curly. The other girls had straight hair and they were so mean to her.

[@Pinkrealnys]

One day I was at school and two friends came up to me and told me that a bunch of girls were in a huddle talking about me saying how pretty I was and how they wanted to ask me how I get my makeup so flawless, or how I do my hair and how I dress, etc. and one girl I accidentally told in the bathroom where I got my clothes from and she said oh well “she shops on shein her wigs are from Amazon!” and she was just spreading jealousy throughout the entire conversation and when me & that exact girl fell out, she used it against me saying “Amazon isn’t your friend sweetheart go have a social life” and I was so confused on how she could do and say such a thing but then I found out recently that her mom doesn’t really care for her and she hates on the pretty girls because she knows she can’t be what she wants to be.

[@Satin.B]

If you look good wearing SHEIN and Amazon clothes then that even more of a compliment to you then ANYTHING else. ❤ A lot of people can’t take the clothes off a model and look as good or even better than said model. Those girls are disappointed that the basic skinny jeans don’t flatter them as the girls in the ads.

[@food4thought692]

There’s plenty of well heeled women that shop on Amazon. Lots of girls have no real personal style and buy designers that they can’t afford. It was obviously enough to garner you admirers. Jealousy is so embarrassing and exposes people.

[@copperwarrior]

Everybody in america orders from amazon unless you dnt want to pay for shipping, prime, or you cheap. Idc how cheap shein is. Im late and just got 1st order. Logos played out so shein perfect.

[@purevenus6359]

Shein is quiestionable due to their horrible worker conditions… (especially after the scorpion fiasco) but Amazon? There’s nothing wrong with the clothes on Amazon. Some people really just are insufferable and she sounds like she’s one of them.

[@purevenus6359]

Also careful girl when you buy certain products from Shein because high amounts of lead have been found in their clothes. So do your research on which are fine and which aren’t… cuz I don’t want you or anyone else getting gravely ill just for not being aware of certain dyes in the clothes.

[@nannaed7833]

Honestly I am not worried - I don’t gate keep because I know they just can’t do it like me - they can try but you can’t become a chef overnight by cooking one recipe. They can copy my style but without my slim thick/petite body it won’t slay the same. They can copy my makeup but their eyes are not a big almond like mine so my face card cannot be replaced. They can copy my hairstyle but I get to wear my butt-length Indian hair to bed because it’s from my scalp. They can copy my workout, but they would never push themselves as hard and lift as much as I can. They can learn what I know, but their minds will not be able to analyze like me. Confidence is knowing you are irreplaceable

[@PunkBunniii]

My toxic mom is trying to copy me with all the supplements, diet stuff I do... She was talking about how I actually lost a lot of weight and how my stomach used to look horrible.??( I was bloated) Like.. are you trying to congratulate/compliment me or insult me? Just a few hours ago she came home and immediately offered me chocolate 😒 In the morning she bought me a pastry (which she never does) My jealous brother used to try to offer me food all the time as well ( I stopped talking to him after an argument so he stopped) even tho I told him I was being careful with what I eat. It is the worst when it is family because you can't get rid of it

[@ExoticalsUnited]

@@PunkBunniii yes I agree, I would do limited contact with them if I were you

[@Khaegch-favh]

Yes you can. Turn 18 and move away. Make your own money, don't tell them anything about your life, Don't go home for the holidays, don't invite them to your home or any events. just say hi when you want to until you finally realize they don't measure up to the people inypur life who actively support you.

[@Jennyxx-ie5jw]

Unless you're older and turn away from them and focus on your adult life

[@Satin.B]

👩‍💻… Some people don’t want to admit that genetic play a huge part in your look routines. (Same goes for motivation). A lot of girls ask me how my skin look so good & feel so soft I just tell them it just 5$ lotion you could get at any store. They call me a liar because they do more than me when getting ready in the morning. Like girl 🙄. All I do is lotion lip gloss and foundation under my eye with mascara ( and that rare if I even do full face of makeup)…

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes! And then if you admit you have any genetic advantages you’re racist of course 😂

[@LottiezLotts-k3i]

I agree completely. I’ve learned to be quiet about beauty my ambitions my finances and romantic life. Too many people want ammunition the moment you rise above them. I have noticed that pick mes in particular are always befriending women they envy. I’ve had this happen. They want the pretty privilege to trickle down and when it doesn’t they become a frenemy. I don’t know if you’ve seen euphoria but if you look at the dynamic between Maddie and Cassie. You see how Cassie literally tried to become maddie became she wanted the guy. Mainly as a form of validation. The same with Regina George on mean girls. Lindsey lohans character eventually became the Regina George. Prettty girls have to face it. When you have a pedestal a lot of people hate you on it because they want to sit on it.

[@coconuttrees]

I agree I never fell for the “story time” “GRWM” nonsense you got to keep that shit to yourself. Facts they don’t wanna improve themselves and don’t wanna see you do either . Lazy and hating . I even stopped sharing certain aspects of my beauty routine with my mum . I noticed each time I bought a new cream or hair product or something she would cuss me out and say I’m “wasting money “ only to run to me to use it later . Women are funny creatures family or not . They never want you to attain more beauty than them out of fear of outshining .

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I agree ! They have a fear of you outshining them but they still want to know your routine so they can copy it and try to outshine YOU 💀 the jokes write themselves

[@Jennyxx-ie5jw]

And its so crazy that family do it too !! Glad i grew up being wary of this

[@goldengal_]

I agree. I used a curl definining gel uncle funkies and my aunt with 4C hair would ask what i used and I even bought her a bottle but she got mad because her curls did not define the same way my 3c/4a4b hair does but yet insult it for being too thick

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right! 90% of the time they won’t be able to replicate you anyway because everyone has different DNA, body types, routines etc . your beauty journey is personal and often times jealous women are just trying to discover the SOURCE of your beauty. So instead of saying you have pretty hair, they’ll just say “your hair is only pretty because you put XYZ gel in it” 💀

[@ladyeam]

Yes ladies 😊! If you give tips you should definitely be getting paid for it (podcasts, classes, etc.) This way you definitely know that most of these people truly WANT the information or else they wouldn't be paying the "exotical tax" 😉!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly ! if you’re pretty enough to have people asking questions about your beauty, you’re pretty enough to be getting paid for it .

[@Iambellarayne]

Good point!!!

[@GoBelindaGo]

Interesting. I remember an UABW asked me how I got my teeth so white. So, I told her that I did Zoom years ago and that now I simply maintain it with bleaching trays when I need too. Someone later on complimented me on my smile and how white my teeth were, and the same chic jump up and said “ it’s because she BLEACHES them. I looked at her like that’s right, it’s expensive too, most can’t afford it! I sure did say it because WTF was that about. I suppose she thought she was trying to expose me……didn’t work.

[@biggieshorty]

Love this. Second message of the day about ways to move in silence.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Nice !

[@IwaChan-sn7wb]

omg this has happened to me before! I'm a lightskin South African black woman (multicultural ancestry) so I have more 4b leaning hair that's really long, which isn't common amongst black people where I'm from. I like to blow dry my hair and curl it so it looks big and wavy and falls down to my shoulders and one time a girl at my school who had very short and kinky (like 4d) hair said my hair was pretty and asked how I did it. I told her how I did it verbatim and she was like "Oh you blow dried it straight so that's not really your natural hair it doesn't count" HUH???? Never again! I learned my lesson.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yup ! She was just trying to discover the SOURCE of your beauty so that she could use it to say “see, I knew she wasn’t that pretty! She’s only pretty because of XYZ”. Ive learned to just keep my beauty mystique and only share beauty knowledge with those I trust

[@alignedandobsessed]

Fellow South African here and I know girls like that! It's sick!

[@oxytoxic7006]

Im going to be honest, you’ve taught me to see the hypocrisy in my own actions and i thank you for that.

[@ExoticalKiss]

OMG THE QUEEN HAS POSTED 🎀💖

[@dejanasnaturalway]

I realized my last two “friends” were jelous. Trying to compete with me. I’m naturally slim but I eat VERY clean, I walk, I’m naturally funny & bubbly. I have 3C/4A healthy hair and I’m alwaysss trying to level up. I’m DONE giving advice. Both of those girls were big. And would say stuff like “whew chile idk how you do all that” but lowkey admire me. Gatekeeping starts now. I liked this video!

[@EVA-ki5vw]

I needed this gurl I BADLY needed some female telling me to stop sharing my beauty routine. THANK YOU.

[@monicadrew4701]

I’m passionate about health from the inside out. And when my mother or friends ask how I got so skinny, I just say now “I’m not gonna bother telling you coz I know you won’t do the work” - magnesium citrate tablets for bowel movements - lymphatic drainage massage on myself everyday - high protein, walking and lifting weights

[@wifey379]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 drainage cleanse my stomach was killing me all night I need to use a bowel movement cleanse Jesus

[@camieb.7852]

realll!!! 💗💗💗 love ur account babes!! keep shining and glowing!! ✨✨🤍🤍🪽🪽

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@nadsgee7245]

I have learned to keep my beauty and hair tips to myself when dealing with mean women, for example, I'm always asked how I get my curls so defined and shiny and I say "it's ecostyler gel" it's an easy answer (but I know for my hair it's the worst gel, as it keeps my hair wet for days and then dries out my curls.) and I know it is something they can afford. 😅 And you should see them tripping over their feet to buy that gunk and to replicate my curls. 😂

[@dejanasnaturalway]

I’m doing this 😂❤ I also don’t use eco styler either. I use to give the WHOLE run down on what I use. Now I’m lying idc.

[@monicadrew4701]

First they make fun of you, then they COPY you. I’d tell my ex best friend I buy all my clothes on shein and fast to lose weight and gym. First she’s saying how it’s so cheap and bad quality. After we break up, she’s buying on shein!!! DO NOT share your beauty secrets ladies!!!

[@queenqueen594]

So Im black and stay in South Africa. I relax my hair for context. Over the past year or so I have taken care of my hair,am picky of the salons I go to and I even make the effort to baby my hair to the point its tender headed. Did this other woman not come up to me and say “Oh your hair is long probably cause of Genetics” and I kept insisting that I take care of my own hair,place it in wigs and weaves, and only one other family member really had long hair and she was like “YEAH THAT FAMILY MEMBER IS THE GENETICS AND IS WHY YOUR HAIR IS GROWN”🤦‍♀️ Haters will hate

[@baddest.emhlabeni]

omggg! a lot of the salons here cause so much breakage! or atleast around here in johannesburg 😭 I’ve stopped going officially since december last year! but yes, when you have healthy long hair they always wanna call it genetics, like no sana? i take care of my hair 💀

[@alignedandobsessed]

I started doing my own hair... Went to Sunny Side once to do my hair and the breakage was so much! They almost ruined my hair! Never went back... I do it myself now

[@nfc598]

Women who talk shit about makeup and don't understand how it works think it's like some kind of magical mask that zaps away all of you "secret" problems. My sister always talks down on women who wear makeup for being fake and then one day she came to me wearing makeup and she was so confused about why all her acne was still visible and actually looking worse and she couldn't cover it. I told her that's not how makeup works, you have to start from skincare and work every day to manage your skin because makeup doesn't hide acne. Beauty is a full time job. Just because someone wears makeup doesn't mean they don't also work harder than you for their natural beauty.

[@PalisUK]

kind of like how guys have no idea how to identify who is wearing make up, yet talk down on it.

[@Jennyxx-ie5jw]

This! At first i used to think it was selfish to gatkeep but now from my experiences I've learned its a must for our protection and safety both spiritually and physically!

[@purevenus6359]

When people ask me for advice or just tips I tell them I got it off KZbin and end the conversation. It usually suffices enough and is a polite way to say I’m really not about this talk.

[@chicka.alexia]

I gatekeep just because i 100% know ugly girls wont do what i do and think i “ do too much” . I know they cant handle the info. I mention fasting , which is prob one of the easiest things i do and they mentally clock out already. Its just a waste of my time and their time 🤷‍♀️

[@mrscLKC]

I never really thought about it this way but it's so true, most of the time they just want a reason to feel like you're not ACTUALLY that pretty naturally to make themselves feel better. But it doesn't matter, the world will still see the beauty no matter how it was got. If someone really wants to 'glow up' they will figure it out, it doesn't need to be taught

[@girly.mimi00]

Facts, I had to learn this. I love this topic too. Keep up the great content. 💕💕

[@Aceboogie2911]

I’m so glad you include Tiny in your pictures because so often I read negative comments about her. I’m like she’s pretty…the plastic surgery has altered her natural beauty but she is still recognizable. I think the hate comes from the fact that they think TI should’ve “chosen” a DSUBW (if that’s correct acronym).

[@Rissawinedrinker]

In my experience, they usually belittle you and try to make you feel some type of way about your beauty and health routine. And then they secretly copy you. Make them pay for the information every single time. $200 per topic. Topics include health, fitness, beauty, makeup, and rituals. That’s about $1000 if you add that up. Make them pay for it.

[@DivineDreamLife]

Omg EU!!! Such a Great video once again!!! Mystery is part of my Beauty! ❤

[@Ohsnapitzann]

I love gatekeeping my favorite products it's more good products for me to stock up on.

[@EvaVas03]

I just stopped social media due to my weight loss pple starring and stalking for this same reason. Watching my stories it not liking females just 👀. 💯 Blessings 💜

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

I don’t tell people where I buy clothes and accessories. I lie and say I got it from shein or fashion nova. I don’t say who does my hair, where I got my pageant gowns and international jewelry, skin care. People often ask about my skin care.

[@imdinma9826]

Someone told me i was only pretty cus i was lightskin and i believed it. Then i had my daughter and she has MY WHOLE FACE but darkskin and this girl is gorgeous. People literally stop us to compliment her and it got me thinking how i could ever believe such a thing when this baby girl is beautiful and not cus of her being “lightskin”

[@Mystic_Paths]

Don't letting others exploit your advantages, and quietly working toward your goals without drawing unnecessary attention.

[@geminirants424]

This is definitely true as the women in my family all have had pretty privilege for generations. I do know ALOT of beauty tips and tricks that have been passed down...that I don't see on KZbin or most women don't know.

[@bonita-u9ve]

its funny how our parents admonish us for not being nice and affable as a pre-teen but then upon glowing up; I realised.. pretty girls don't have time to befriend everybody !!!

[@IndigenousExotical]

Happy Friday EU🌞✨

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Happy Friday beautiful! 💜

[@meladje5451]

Girl, you spoke to my soul with this one. My own family wanted me to share my routine and then turned around and accused me of "doing too much"- only to turn around and copy me!! I learned the hard way to gatekeep.

[@ExoticalTaxCollector]

Yess!!! I have leveled up in my life through manifestation but I never let other women who try to bully me into spilling the tea on my beauty routine or my monthly activities so they can try to destinyswap with me 🥴That’s why I’m making my patreon to teach other Exoticals to level up with manifestation, self love , self motivation and strategic planning ❤ I only value women who value me and my wisdom 🔥

[@Ohsnapitzann]

My internalized beauty and body standard is Andra Day. I gatekeep my skincare, gym routine, gastric sleeve surgery and wellness routine in the sense of the beet juice recipe that I drink in the morning and the vitamins that I take to keep my physical and mental health in a great place.

[@alyssiagonzalez]

Now that i think about it you are 100% right let me move in silence

[@RS-007]

Then once you give them the info, they tell everyone you learned it from them 🙄

[@taesimmer]

Just the other day at work, I got a lot of compliments from customers about my hair. Like yours, its long, curly, and shiny. Every time I got a compliment from a customer, my coworker had to stop everything she was doing and listen (as though they were talking to both of us). Basic Bettys will try very hard to put themselves in your shoes. They might do it by being nosey, interrupting you in conversation, cyber stalking, and more. Basic Bettys will also set pretty girls up. A "friend" asked me if I wanted to play volleyball with her and her friends; I said yes. Tell me why it felt like this girl was trying to serve the ball at my face...

[@poshspice2540]

This message popped up in my newsfeeds today and I needed to hear it. Thank you so much

[@desm.8243]

literally they be asking “workout routine” as if they actually work out. or those girls who be asking where someone’s WHOLE outfit is from like it would look like that on them.

[@FamiliesOfWolves]

Lol my doctor put me on Wegovy and I’m not going to tell my mom bc she wanted to go on it

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg ! 😂 I almost was going to try that! (I wasn’t fat but still). I ended up just eating healthy but if I would’ve done it I would’ve kept it a secret

[@geminigirl3800]

Thanks

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thank you !

[@Calicandyy]

This is all truth and Incredibly useful for the way things go in life dealing with some ppl out here. Thanks for the video ❤

[@himerune]

I definitely learned the hard way with this one!😅💀

[@Aprilsyoutube632]

Thankyou for teaching us this girl!!!

[@AizaV333]

All true .

[@Renae_000]

Yes! They will throw everything you do and say in your face for every time! Whether we get enhancements, lose weight etc. It's none of their business. I grew up on the islands and in the church also and they make you feel guilty for trying to change yourself and for a long time I felt like it was wrong to do or if we do we didn't love ourselves, now idc. Also, the people who are obsessed with figuring you out and making entire videos about you wont like this one. They are so bothered. Lol. I love you!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

I agree. I never even wore highlights until my late 20s because on so many occasions I heard people talk crap about me or other MLS women trying to “look white” by wearing highlights (like Beyoncé for example)

[@Renae_000]

@@ExoticalsUnited I'm happy you broke free and you are trying to help others like myself break free also. Thank you!

[@747gevans]

So true! EU....it never stops. Even at my stage in life.... this still happens. I stopped sharing a long time ago but I still get false inquiries about how I take care of myself. ❤❤❤

[@chicka.alexia]

Alot of celebrities dont tell that they are vegan because they know everyday people are going to judge them too! So they gatekeep. Its easier to digest that they got surgery than them being vegan because it means surgery is out of their league while vegan is doable…

[@carolinesalv]

My beauty routines are unconventional but boy do they work!😊 I look nowhere near my age. As it so happens most femcels never ask me what i do? They would rather just hate on moi.

[@Tiffany-vk1tl]

This is so true!

[@regalsylvester]

Recently did a double date and the girl looked at my girl and started questioning her on her hair “It’s so pretty, I’ve been watching you all night…” and i started wondering what is her intention?

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes she was trying to figure out how she was that beautiful 😂

[@regalsylvester]

@@ExoticalsUnited something like that. She was tryna figure out how she got it to look so good. My girl started sharing info in a “gurl it’s no big deal” type of way and i wasn’t a fan of the interaction. The girl wasn’t that cool, so on the rare occasion that she opens her mouth, it’s to pick apart my girl’s aesthetic didn’t sit right with me.

[@regalsylvester]

No good deed goes unpunished 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Martiniiiiiiiiii]

I’m glad someone finally said it. So just because I have routine my beauty isn’t natural?? What?? 😂

[@DenzelDiesel]

let's go sister

[@Simpleliviing]

This is what i do. I either lie or tell half truths coz not everyone is a fan

[@thehappyproject7117]

You also have to gatekeep certain opportunities and keep your successful friends and acquaintances from friends and family. Especially if they are toxic. Please make a video about this and how to protect yourself from jealous family members and friends. I let pretty privilege guilt ruin my life.

[@heymisswest]

Im about to start being extremely quiet!!

[@TheCleverExotical]

Reall I’ve experienced this by my beauty choices like long nails and tattoos

[@PurpleLillies8]

Yes, had this happen to me with a former friend and others. They tried to shame and embarrass me. My former friend went as far to price all the items.

[@JetBlackNumbFace]

It’s funny you made this video because at my big age I had just decided to stop telling women my routines and how I do stuff. I have a history of dating men who have higher paying careers and spoil me. Like doctors, engineers, business owners, DJ’s, news reporters. Etc. Women always ask me how I be meeting them and what do I do to meet them. Ask me what dating apps I use, what bars I go to, how I dress to meet them. And there really isn’t an answer because I don’t use dating apps and I don’t go out to meet men. I guess I just attract decent men. Women are always disappointed, annoyed, or think I’m lying about not being on websites to meet men. But that’s what made me realize these women aren’t asking me questions about how I do things in order to help themselves.. they’re asking me this because they just wanna talk badly about me.. they’re HOPING I’m on some sort of dating arrangement app to meet these men. So, now when anyone asks me anything about what I do I just act oblivious because it does add to my mystery.

[@mushuchicken8256]

Thank you for this timely info ❤

[@QueenJuliana89]

Will your glow-up routine even work for others? The stuff I do for my hair isn’t going to work for most people, for example.

[@chicka.alexia]

21:00 in 6th grade i got my first pair of wedge heel sandals and my sister kept saying oh u think ur all thatt 😂 like yess i am all that

[@Jennyxx-ie5jw]

Girl at 4:27 is so pretty x

[@jahmekmi2165]

So true. And please do not tell your so called "friends". Some love to know just to point out that you whiten your teeth etc or ask innapropriate questions outload about your looks. Disgusting

[@muringosubliminals]

❤❤❤ Great video! Thank you

[@Thehonored0ne-r3z]

Yes I 💯 percent agree with women being lazy about their level up, I have lost 15kg thus far and when I recommend the products I used to achieve that goal all I hear are excuses, I just gave up on them 😅

[@JasmineSlater.]

Thank you for this!! 🩷🩷

[@Iamcoatcheckgirl]

Thank you for this video.

[@coconuttrees]

I also never quite understood the girls who would film all there procedures and post online ofcourse if it’s a paid influencer sponsored ad I can understand but honestly speaking the average girl shouldn’t be putting stuff like that out there there was a time a whitening company who whitened my teeth wanted me to repost and tag them I always refuse these things as I feel it’s far too intimate of information to share with my audience.I think it’s far too personal and intrusive of oneself

[@Bluesmoke4200]

I always laugh when you refer to yourself as "Exoticals United" as though that's your real life name. 😂

I had someone (uadsbw) ask me for makeup tips so when we were out at the makeup section she told me she won't buy the white eyeliner I mentioned because she doesn't want to be white?? So to her I want to be white because of eyeliner.🙄I no longer give certain beauty tips anymore.

[@CC-pu6qn]

This woman in my jujitsu class asked what perfume I was wearing and I ignored her. Do you know this woman has been acting weird since and being disrespectful. She’s the type who would have started dressing like me and smelling like me. She even had showed jealousy. I’m gatekeeping who I feel fit. People really feel entitled.

[@heymisswest]

I have to work on this

[@nicolenicole2085]

This is why I don't deal with hyper, masculine, bitter women or men. Anyone who loves themselves likes and wants to be around others who are the same. I can't imagine clowning someone for getting better, ppl like that are laaaame😂😂😂.

[@yahainHotPink]

🌻🌻🌻

[@hadiza1]

Sitting! 💚🍵💚

[@nannaed7833]

Honestly I don’t gate keep because they just can’t do it like it like me - they can try but you can’t become a chef overnight by cooking a recipe

[@lightinthedusk]

How should you actually respond when they ask though? For example if it’s someone who you are going to see regularly, like a coworker, you can’t really say “That’s not your business”, because it could be interpreted as rude and she could make your work life harder. What is a diplomatic response to their questions? Like what should we actually say?

[@heymisswest]

You can say you learned from KZbin

[@user-bx2wl7we5k]

💯% True….🙏🏽🌹

[@Findmy_Way-Home]

6:55 I noticed women try to make u feel under appreciated. Scoffing at all that work you put in. I noticed that some 4C girlies discredit the work other ppl with other hair types put into their hair. They don’t have your hair type and never will, therefore there’s no point in comparing “struggles”. You figure out how to take care of your hair or pay someone creditable to do it for you. It would also help them promote each other. They’re making life harder than what it needs to be. They are also teaching other groups of ppl to avoid and exclude them.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg yes ! It’s almost like they’re asking “how much did she struggle to get that level of beauty? Did she struggle more than me?” And yes, a lot of women are definitely teaching others to avoid them because they’ve said themselves they want their own exclusive spaces. Exclusive literally means you want to be excluded from all others and you don’t want to be grouped in together .

[@Iambellarayne]

My beauty standard foundation is definitely my health and my mental first. It has to be that way for me though. I do use topicals but tha6s for my own pleasure because my genes are amazing. I truly enjoy my produ ts its geounding. I can make it do what it with very basic things, though. I can't wait to reach med spa full day once a week. IDC, what other people think i don't need that's my own goal.

[@wifey379]

Social power ohhh me and dumb self