Are you a fan of my training style, but can’t travel to Kentucky to see me in person? No worries! I offer an awesome online dog training course, which includes access to an array of exclusive videos and content, personalized coaching, journaling, and in-depth mentoring and evaluation by yours truly! If you just need some an advice or have a couple questions you need answered, I also offer professional consulting by the hour. Both of these great services can be found here: www.KentuckyCanine.com Thank you all for your remarkable support over the years! I cannot express enough how grateful I am for your appreciation and patronage of this channel, my training style, and my kennel. Always remember, it’s a great day for a puppy-sized adventure!
@kellysias083 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your hard work. I've learned so much from . Take care.
@tenplus10253 жыл бұрын
Awesome man! Love the content
@beckiestonehouse33353 жыл бұрын
Love your training
@57colliegirl3 жыл бұрын
Stonnie, I have a 2 yr. old, (3 yrs. next month) adopted this May who is very much like Bella. She is good with people but very dog reactive. Don't know a thing about her background except that there have been 3 previous owners ( UGH), her parents have working line lineage and she's had at least one litter of pups. She is doing well on the leash with the "Leave It" command. Lunging and growling at other dogs on leash has gone from 100% to about 20% consistently. I am pleased and she is so happy when she is successful with this! I sure wish you took this age dog. I'd sign her up immediately! I love this dog and want her to have a happy life. But she needs more exposure to other dogs which I don't feel comfortable doing... and don't like the idea of dog parks. I like your method and philosophy. I am older but active. We walk 1-3 miles most days. It's a challenge living in the city. I have been seriously considering finding a rural property in order to give her the freedom and learning experiences she needs. I've had rough collies in the past. I grew up with a few GS. My father adored the breed.But -- I knew while working full time I'd never give a GS the exercise and attention it requires. I am so concerned about her not hurting other dogs. She recently got out the front door accidently and bit a passing dog in our front yard. Would not let go. So she must have been trained to do this? (or is it natural for the breed?) She came afraid of storms and loud noises, but her fear is less than it was. I have not babied her on these problems. The vet wants to put her on Prozac and is very adamant she needs to see a behaviorist so that the agresssion does not escalate. She's never growled at me or our elderly Boston terrier/pug mix. She loves her kennel, and stops at the door ALWAYS to have her feet wiped before entering the house. I LOVE THIS DOG!! Can you give any comment that will direct me in how to get this dog socialized? Would you take her? I know that's doubtful...but it never hurts to ask.
@dominickpollino1485 Жыл бұрын
I Have been Training dogs of all breeds for 40 years. I think you are well spoken extremely Smart and a person at my age I Can Look up to. Keep up the good work I Know you will never see this post but i feel like you earned it.
@cassiestone62810 ай бұрын
I enjoy your rants because they are so true! I received so much bad advice when my (now old) working dog mix was young. And of course I was in over my head not knowing what I was getting into with her. As soon as I stopped trying to make her act like an Instagram ready showdog and just let her be a DOG, things got so much better. She has been a great adventure buddy, companion and protector over the years, and all I had to do was let a dog be a dog.
@HUGESTAFF3 жыл бұрын
🤜⚡🤛
@Tiffany-qb7dh2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful
@lorrainescandia62675 ай бұрын
Bella has progressed so much since she has been with you, great job Stonnie Dennis.
@islaystevensoncurrie10162 жыл бұрын
Great show 🏴
@Marshall119-q7l9 ай бұрын
If nothing else those dogs look happy and healthy!
@brianrogers53272 жыл бұрын
Great job!! Keep up the good work
@debbiesmith22073 жыл бұрын
Thanks for all your videos
@evieclark75910 ай бұрын
We need more honest trainers like Stonnie, says it exactly how it is, 👍
@robinbyrd44305 ай бұрын
I love your videos❤🐾👍🏾💯
@StonnieDennis5 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@tamsynfowlie1492 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video series. This helped me understand my dogs and their behaviour much better.
@terrilee67453 жыл бұрын
Stonnie you are great!
@fmknokey Жыл бұрын
I bought a 13 week old GSP that hadn’t been socialized. He bark at every dog he saw when I took him to stores. I made so many training mistakes with him. I wish I would have watched your videos before I purchased him. He ended up getting through our fence and rough played with a lamb and killed it. I had to find a new home for him. It left a whole in my heart. I’m looking for the right dog replacement for me, like you suggested. But you almost have me convinced not to get a dog at all. I don’t want to make the same mistakes. I’m not sure what to do now. Your videos are the best. Your dog advice is golden. Thank you.
@DragonflyGlitter2 ай бұрын
That's exactly why I wasn't keen on the German/Belgian/Dutch Shepherds, I could see they were scared. My mutts and a couple of working line Akita dogs I had were chosen because they weren't scared. They were bold and confident and just seemed to be happy dogs.
@OnPointDogs3 жыл бұрын
Very insightful.
@donnahalstead5313 жыл бұрын
Wish I could bring my dog to u I want exactly what u do!! Just well behaved happy dogs
@gbottomly3 жыл бұрын
Great job..Do you have any content on diet and wht you feed your dogs?
@breikowski3 жыл бұрын
Okay, hands. Who loves a good rant? This guy!
@khrisdavis19442 жыл бұрын
Love your rants don’t ever stop
@marisatea2910 Жыл бұрын
I love your vidéos. It is so true. Finally when the dog come back when you call him it's the most important thing and it's hard. We have a two years malinois girl. It's the first time we have this kind of dog and it's a pleasure but we still don't have the key when she sees a rabbit or a cat. But we try to keep her focus on us with toys sometimes it works sometimes not. Still working on it. During three months from April to July we have to keep the dogs on leash in the forest because of the births of animals. So we avoid forest because I cannot imagine to have a walk with my dogs only on leash. Once again thank you for your vidéos . I like the way you are with the dogs.
@williamalexander74812 жыл бұрын
She's doing great
@OlGatorOfficial3 жыл бұрын
Stonnie, I agree with you 100%. It breaks my heart to see people get working dog breeds and keep them in a crate for 12 hrs a day and use them solely as fashion accessories. Then the same folks wonder why the dog is always anxious and destructive when they let them out. People are so concerned with internet optics and how they look on Instagram they forget that the dog is a living creature with wants and desires even if they are just simple needs such as going for a nice walk or swim to get their energy out. Keep up the good work man!
@StonnieDennis3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Great comment!
@brianlocal32 жыл бұрын
Perfectly said
@michaelschuetz24279 ай бұрын
Thank you for succinctly posting my thoughts! It breaks my heart and I'll never understand how so many pet owners confuse their pets with jewelry and it really ticks me off.
@myhounddog6 ай бұрын
Amen❤. Having a canine companion is a lifestyle choice not an accessory..like you said. Just because a person can buy it, doesn't mean all people should have it.🎉🎉
@lancedyck37303 жыл бұрын
What brand is your shooting vest? Great looking vest!
@emiliehicks54902 жыл бұрын
I have a GSD. The first video really kind of bugged me but after watching your follow up ones, I completely agree.
@jogracehart2385 Жыл бұрын
I'm sure you already know that you are correct about GS dogs and others being afraid. I have a 3 yo German Shepherd/ Cane Corso mix. Born Nov. 2020. Big surprise that he is under socialized. Working on it and your videos are really helpful! Thank you.
@jimbrown58663 жыл бұрын
Stonnie, No argument here ... love the channel!
@estebanserrano1303 Жыл бұрын
Stonnie, you are hands down the best dog trainer/phycologist period. Thank you for sharing.
@StonnieDennis Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching!
@maryharvold58742 жыл бұрын
Don't let those few idiots ruin your channel. I appreciate what your sharing.
@DeepSeeBlue36369 ай бұрын
😅So good rant 👏
@enriquemiranda2983 жыл бұрын
You’re the man!!!
@Yeoman73 жыл бұрын
Nice little rifle rang set up there.
@artreyes49313 жыл бұрын
your a good guy stonnie. period teresa
@vernonhall92622 жыл бұрын
Love the content man Its super helpful right now I took in a stray that just popped up at the shop i work at Just a pup maybe 9 or 10 weeks old Im keepin her but i want her to be trained Calm an obedient Ive never trained a dog before but im gonna give it a shot
@MrBilljudd3 жыл бұрын
Love what you do! My favorite 4 letter word is NEXT. Please take it and use it. More dogs and less RANT... LOL
@susanfowler42282 жыл бұрын
Just common sense. 👏
@denisekoltys30192 жыл бұрын
You are exactly right. My dogs fit my life. They make sure visitors do what is expected of visitors who are mostly invited in together out of the Texas heat. If your a friend and gonna stay awhile my dogs will greet you in an aloof manner because that’s what mastiffs do. They’ll stop barking but they won’t be your good buddy lol
@vinceking76514 ай бұрын
Hey Stone I love your content and philosophy in what you need to do with dogs. You make sense to me and get results and that's what counts and you meet the needs of your followers and like minded people who respect what you do. Don't entail the idiots because there's always someone who knows better they are as you say TROLLS with nothing better to do.
@joem16343 жыл бұрын
Dang Stonie them knuckle heads gone got you all rawlled up. Jealous bunch of Wankers who really don’t know what they’re talkin about and have probably never worked with more than 1 or 2 dogs and think they are experts. What your doing is fantastic and the fact that you are sharing this invaluable information with us all is amazing. I have a one year old black lab and have been using all of your techniques and methods and general calm ways with him and I have people asking me how did you get your dog be behave so well. Put in the work and spend time with the animal period.
@rogermayer58992 жыл бұрын
Mate, great work. I have found that if you put 3 dog trainers in a room two will agree the 3rd bloke knows nothing. cheers from Australia
@breikowski Жыл бұрын
I don’t argue with professionals about their trade. I tend to sit down, listen, and take notes.
@breikowski Жыл бұрын
But, you are on KZbin. Acknowledge there are folks who do nothing, but believe they know best. And they are willing to instruct you. My advice, ignore them. You’re wasting your time and energy, both are limited. And let’s face it, you have plenty to do already.
@breikowski Жыл бұрын
But give everyone hearts. Cause comments equals cash!
@fuelman5242 жыл бұрын
Stonnie.. keep up the good works. That was on point!
@StonnieDennis2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@MeiraV-2 жыл бұрын
Ha! I'm watching these videos so that my pup will be a good companion and enjoy our future vanlife together.
@StonnieDennis2 жыл бұрын
Van life? That’s my dream!
@MeiraV-2 жыл бұрын
@@StonnieDennis lol You said so in the vid, that's why I mentioned it. I have a friend in Lexington, I always want to visit her but now you're giving me another reason to trek my tiny travel trailer out from the east coast. :)
@malinoisdogtraining34412 жыл бұрын
Hi Stonie, Your spot on Stoney in this 3 part series. I train nothing but malinois. I agree with you100%. The malinois has become a fad dog. There are alot in our local so cal shelters. A Belgian Malinois is too much dog for 80 % of folks. Thank you uncle Stonie.
@annylaurie4222 жыл бұрын
You are my favorite channel - just common sense and building confidence so formal training is easy - i live in Alberta or i would love to come to your kennels and train my new aussie puppy - i love that you do not turn your dogs into the new kind of dog that takes 10 days just to put a collar on and then another 10 for the leash. I lost my patience with some you tube trainers i dont have 2 weeks just to get a collar on. They never allow their puppies to get to know the world that they live in - without micro management. They are never allowed off leash because they forgot to teach them to come when they are called. And the biggest thing that is missing is having fun with your dog on their journey. I feel most trainers are so stressed about the perfection of a sit that they pass it on to their students and their dogs and all fun is lost.
@richnamerow7303 жыл бұрын
I sure do wish that we did not live so far from Stonnie all the way in Hawaii. My husband just loves Stonnie's videos and has been watching them since we got our pup last August. I have a yellow lab that is very timid and have sent him to a board and train twice. He hasn't made any progress with his reactivity to other dogs. In fact he is actually worse. We love Stonnie and would have sent our dog to him in a heartbeat. Stonnie has actually tried to give us "free" advice but a dog like ours needs more hands on with the "right" professional trainer in my opinion. Frustrated Lab owner but love him so much. I guess a house dog he will be....
@martindolben97573 жыл бұрын
My wife and I watch your channel for entertainment, we love you thoughts and your politics, if you were to apologize for you statements we probably wouldn't watch you. Addressing the Idiots on the internet can be a full time job. If the wife and I were to bet a dog we would bring him to you, but we both work to much now and we like that at a drop of a hat we can go, so a dog isn't in the cards for us, but we are dog people and love your channel. So don't sweat the D-bags you are awesome, thank you for your channel.
@sg6398 ай бұрын
The truth of what Stonnie said 2 years ago is sadly observable today in the composition of shelters, which are now filled with German Shepherds. Their owners made ignorant, irresponsible choices and the suffering that caused is endless. I wish they'd listened to you, Mr. Dennis.
@notesfromleisa-land Жыл бұрын
I was captivated by the English Setter...and that it was off doing what it wanted says much about the breed!
@edwarddurkin663511 ай бұрын
What more could a teacher ask for? True for human students too!
@PatriciaSamHouston3 жыл бұрын
Sweet dogs
@salvatorfarms68112 жыл бұрын
Stonnie listen to me man you are GREAT! Ignore them HATERS and stay focus on the people who need you! Think about it you must be doing something right because THEY can't stop talking about you....ignore them and spread the knowledge my friend PEACE!
@moonoggin3 жыл бұрын
Where did you find the vest you're wearing where the dog food stays?
@ilovejimrogers3 жыл бұрын
This bloke knows what he is doing
@jedwasson61543 жыл бұрын
Stoning I've learned a lot of basics and reinforcement of dog training from you next idea of KZbin and I never know which had to put on I'm doing the customers but as different as all dogs are owners are the same and trainers and the dog doesn't do right Falls onto the hand water the bottom line all the dog owners must get out interact with their dogs and that's your broker teaches keep up the good work!
@frazbmw Жыл бұрын
Stonnie, huge fan of what you do. Love your videos and I agree with your approach for a happy well socialized dog that minds. Certainly you get uou share of grief from trolls and inexperienced trainers, but let me offer another paradigm for your take on people that are into dog sports or competition. They are still out there having a relationship with their dog and learning training methods, they're trying. My bet is you probably were in the same boat before you ended up where you are today. In this video and some others it comes across like you are bashing some competition training and trainers, and maybe that is or is not your intention. Are dogs that are kenneled and taken out put into drive and trained then put away living their best life, no, we know that. You can be the voice of reason to help them understand a better way without talking down to them or not appreciating the work and dedication they put in. You know more than I dog people can be super emotional about certain topics, I know what you are doing and have to offer, what I'm saying is be careful that you stay on the side of things where they are still listening. Thank you!
@jamesallison487511 ай бұрын
Your rants always pick me up when I’m down and feeling a little put upon. They are a good dose of intelligent common sense. Thanks, Uncle Stonnie!
@Ithinkthatsillegal3 жыл бұрын
I think I'm a competent trainer also, similar style, but I'm unbelievably jealous of your facility. People who visit think I have a lot of space, but once I hit about 8 big dogs, it starts feeling small to me (especially when the pool is out). Your space puts mine to shame. It really is the best I've seen, and it would make my life so much easier. Watching your videos has inspired me to work harder and save more so I can upgrade to larger acreage. Also cant wait for my kids to get older and more involved, you're a real role model there too. You're awesome. Keep up the good work, love watching you. Thanks
@maryt.osullivan8989 Жыл бұрын
I completely agree that a tired dog is a good dog. My lab loves to get out and walk or go to the beach. Then he’s happy all day.❤
@ehendriks33289 ай бұрын
What if the puppy has incomplete socialization and is engaging in humping behavior in the mentor group? Do you allow the mentors to deal with that or do you prevent the behavior. One school of thought says intervene, the dog is over-excited. Another says let the dogs correct the puppy.
@claireabbott61123 жыл бұрын
I love how relaxed and happy all these dogs are. Such a natural way to train :)
@sept9293 жыл бұрын
Hey Stonnie, please consider writting a book ! I bet I won't be the only one interested. Keep up the amazing content !
@lynnspeight1609 Жыл бұрын
Amen!
@christianartiles29683 жыл бұрын
One of the best videos🔥🔥🔥thanks for the inspiration for more adventures
@dariocontreras44443 жыл бұрын
"COME WHEN CALLED, STAY STILL WHEN TOLD, AND HAVE GOOD MANNERS FROM NEIGHBORS PERSPECTIVE" That really is the only thing a dog trainer can GUARANTEE its customers. Uncle Stonnie You helped me become the good a$$ trainer I am today. Love from Mexico.
@titanbuck73 жыл бұрын
The manners part is sometimes the most time consuming part of the job. Lol!!
@bigbert25083 жыл бұрын
Great progress
@toob2473 жыл бұрын
1:32 and thats why I watch you and recommend others do the same.
@POGLIFE7132 жыл бұрын
Stonnie Dennis for President. 2024: Come Strong
@reitairue20733 жыл бұрын
17:00 First of all, loving the videos. I like how you teach here and how well the dogs behave. Best advice I can give you is NEVER again talk about these idiotic trolls. All it is doing is making them smile and want to come back for more just like the elementary school bully. Use the time here to teach the real ones who want to learn. Forget the rest, they LITERALLY are not worth the breath or time. Keep it up man.
@emiliehicks54902 жыл бұрын
anyone know what leash he's using in the video?
@lindaszymkiewicz51093 жыл бұрын
Bella looks so happy and look at all her friends! Stonnie is the best! My pup came back from this awesome facility over a month ago and she is a changed dog. Thank you Uncle Stonnie for all you do.
@legendofzelda23242 жыл бұрын
Bella looked so happy and relaxed sitting on top of table at end of video. Almost a different dog from a week ago ❤️
@downlow00753 жыл бұрын
Uncle Stonnie YOU ARE the expert. 😉
@downlow00753 жыл бұрын
I raised my Boykin and my adopted Springer using your methodology and they turned out well behaved, good manners and come when i call. Can pretty much go anywhere and be okay .😉
@stellacwalker2 жыл бұрын
Amen to your beginning speech..love it, keep doing what you do. Absolutely 🥰
@jennylynne44142 жыл бұрын
I love your channel! I'd love to trek up to Kentucky hang out with you and your dogs. Just to learn.
@lyndaluscombe14753 жыл бұрын
If I was a dog I would want you as my dad. I watch loads of trainers and pick and choose the bits I like, but you are my favorite. Keep up the good work x
@myhounddog6 ай бұрын
😂 oh my gosh that's so cute.
@denishunter21513 жыл бұрын
Great stuff , thanks Stonnie !
@jethroh1233 жыл бұрын
I love your way of ‘training’.
@jamesbyrd11283 жыл бұрын
Life lessons from Uncle Stonnie!
@ashleym50002 жыл бұрын
These videos are really helping me understand being an owner a little bit more. It is also helping me see what is missing from my training of my 5 month old great dane. It's hard to get him in the world.out as much as I need to, but I'm doing my best and I'm actively trying to make his life more fun!
@mischawalker63573 жыл бұрын
stonnie dennis your the best
@jamesstrachan22882 жыл бұрын
Hi Stonnie i live in Australia and love watching your videos. I have a beautiful light colour Labrador, u call them chubby i think lol. I am working with professional trainers as i want my dog to come to work with me. I work as a deputy principal and he (Teddy Bear) is training to be a therapy dog. He’s great therapy for me as well best time of the day him and i just going for a walk. I dont have a beautiful place like your place where i live at the moment but we still find places to go walk together. Love ur common sense videos including the ones with your son. Cheers all the best to u and your family.
@blakebacon33733 жыл бұрын
Stonnie you are a blessing, don't listen to the haters and keep spreading wisdom
@StonnieDennis3 жыл бұрын
You are too kind!
@JW-20013 жыл бұрын
I like your channel. Have had 2 large farm dogs. What you do makes a lot of sense. I am learning. It's the humans that need training. Like me .
@arock30523 жыл бұрын
You are wonderful and I really enjoy your videos . Keep them coming
@leecastle14653 жыл бұрын
Stonnie please don't change, you make it so easy to understand for ordinary dog owners what to do. Bella looks so very happy now, part of the pack. After the advise you gave me this week about exercise for my 6 month GS Rescue, Lexi, she has completely calmed down in the evenings 🙂 She's chilled and so are we. Looking up your old vids on recall with long leads now as she's begun to say 'nah, don't think I'll bother' Thank goodness you have made so many vids for every stage to refer to. Heartfelt thanks from Epsom, England 🇬🇧
@marktucker67493 жыл бұрын
Uncle Stonnie, you are my mentor. I’ve got my stepdaughter walking a dog for an elderly woman and I teach the girl how to keep it on a long leash in the condo neighborhood and keep it fun for the dog, a Chow Chow (6 y.o.) and let get the “bugs” out. He goes out in front, sniffs and pees on every bush but in ten minutes his tail is level and the tongue gets longer and now he’s following, watching us and coming when called back. No fuss, no conflict and my daughter gains a great friend and the dog has a good leader.😀
@NickNightingaleYT3 жыл бұрын
Love your channel Stonnie. Great work!
@aaronpotter20003 жыл бұрын
I’ve always been told, tell them what to do, not how to do it. I don’t understand why there is a problem if it works.
@jedwasson61543 жыл бұрын
Trouble with most commercial trainers they're on the clock. I'm in my 60s but when I was in my mid twenties I work with aggressive dogs in the oil field of Louisiana as a handler drug enforcement at in the coastal city Louisiana for the first drug security company similar to the airport now I just enjoy a playing bird hunting and watching my Britney Wagner tail and having fun a lot of us forget that's what it's about.
@CzystaMoc3 жыл бұрын
👏👍
@LivingtheIrony3 жыл бұрын
On insta I'm the one with the broken hip. I'm here to say I love your down to earth training. Oh, and I'm living (or trying to) the vanlife!!!
@carlnorton61643 жыл бұрын
Stoney don’t listen. I have watch you for over 2 years. You are good and a professional. Don’t let them bring you down on their level. Winchester native with 2.5 year old Boykin. Love it !
@jimwickham63003 жыл бұрын
Thank you for these videos. You are an inspiration for me and everyone else. Simply put keep doing what you're doing. Thank you very much
@blackout42033 жыл бұрын
You've done your research... 👏👏👏
@StonnieDennis3 жыл бұрын
What are you clapping about, troll?
@inprdcreations16743 жыл бұрын
Love your easy clear and concise training manner. Less fuss, less issues and more real. Appreciate it all the way from South Africa
@kevinschuiteboer63672 жыл бұрын
Stonnie I know you don’t like the electric caller I use the beeper most of the time I walk with a walker so sometimes I get pull down he’s three years old he is my service dog he still needs work
@traceydonnelly32592 жыл бұрын
G’day Stonnie. Don’t let commenters get you going. 😉 Your vids are very informative. I’ve had 3 Dobermans & 1 Lab. Totally different dogs to train.
@debbiejohnson47373 жыл бұрын
I admire the confidence you have in your own competence in the dog world Uncle Stonnie because you are living it. Your kennel & your dogs back you up.
@pickupnplay3 жыл бұрын
I love your videos and you do an amazing job my lab had his fair share of behaviour problems when I got him and I got him to work him retrieving and I prefer to have my dog being a dog around me but living in a built up area I needed him to understand heal sit down and stay and now I only require him to do any of these in situations ie on the way to the great outdoors then after we've had are fun he's so much calmer and makes so much better choices on the way back he enjoys hunting out dummies out the bushes and planted retrieves I wish I had access to the space and the amount of dogs you have I know your right and I love doing the good stuff you do I'm always learning from your videos so thanks for sharing your videos
@dariuspringle26083 жыл бұрын
At about 15:00 in this dog on the picnic table, shows how remarkable this concept is. I’m working with a dog now Stonnie would call a covid dog. Two weeks ago he was snarling at the end of the lead at everything. We worked the mentor dog process with lots of hike and run in the woods. Last weeks video was adding more dogs, I thought where am I going to get more dogs to add in? Then my neighbor asked me if I would watch his two dogs while they had an appliance delivered, Ha! I added two more dogs for the afternoon. Then another got added as a peer group dog, we had a chance encounter on the trail, totally surprised, not planned at all. No snarl, no warning bark, just “ who is this? do you want to run and chase? I was so happy with this today. I can see now we are moving in a positive direction very rapidly. When I got this dog to take care of for a year, I felt like “that guy, the idiot neighbor with the poorly trained dog” . I’m not “That guy” anymore, because this is happening. One more thing, building on what the dog does right is such a great concept, it has made me feel differently about our training since, this one right thing today turned into two by the afternoon, then six the following day. A Mentor dog and feeding the positive outcomes, just huge concepts for me now. Thanks again, don’t worry about the idiots, they are everywhere, just keep doing what you are doing, it’s helping me deal with a situation I had no idea how to handle.