7 Types Of People You Need Strong Boundaries With

What are boundaries? Boundaries can be words of warning, not giving someone your time, or your attention, influencing your emotions or giving people material goods or money. Boundaries can be set with everyone and anyone. In this video, we will be addressing a few common types of people you need to set strong boundaries with.
We also made a video on the things you should say NO to: • 11 Things You Should S...
If you're wondering about how to set boundaries, we have a video on that as well: • How To Set Healthy Bou...
Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Thumbnail Artist: Nina Draws (IG: ninadrawthings)
Thumbnail Manager: Michal Mitchell
Animator: micoflores
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
1). Gossipers 0:32
2). Attention seekers 1:48
3). Victim mentality 3:18
4). Compulsive liars 4:38
5). Enablers 5:31
6). People who constantly belittle you 6:25
7). People who make you uncomfortable 7:29
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[@kathleenfrances8808]

Be careful who you open up to: after revealing at work that I've survived an attempted kidnapping at age 9, and fought off a home invasion as a newlywed in 1993, people at work treat me differently. Don't just open up to anyone even if you think it could help them because you don't really know them or what they've been through, or how they may use such information against you.

[@monk4ever]

You shouldn't be talking about these personal issues at work.

[@kathleenfrances8808]

@@monk4ever It seems that I lack fear.

[@catniplovescake]

...anything having to do with a work situation: better to remain cautious..or decide if another work environment (where ppl express those topics regularly) might help you be happier🤷‍♀️

[@kathleenfrances8808]

@catniplovescake Very well said and true. The police dept came to talk to us about active shooter response and survival tactics. More than one of us shared a personal experience. I remain surprised and saddened that violence is so common.

[@kathleenfrances8808]

@catniplovescake still it was a mistake to say so much. I learned this before seeing this video.

[@TheDarkPlace00]

There are too many people out there who tend to ask you a lot of personal questions and for the most part they will use that information against you to spread false rumors or as a manipulative tool. It is important to maintain strong boundaries to protect your personal space and your reputation.

[@RPGMinty]

Great point. Too many people i know want to over share or ask really personal questions.

[@monk4ever]

I tell people, "I'm not sharing that information with you." They get the point that I'm not some push-over.

[@nicola-xk5cp]

Thank you for the advice

[@gafer8808]

Completely true words, but not all people are bad and want to use information against us, some people have good intentions, and yet we have to be aware not to share our information

[@nicola-xk5cp]

@@RPGMinty it happened to me too

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Gossipers 0:32 2). Attention seekers 1:48 3). Victim mentality 3:18 4). Compulsive liars 4:38 5). Enablers 5:31 6). People who constantly belittle you 6:25 7). People who make you uncomfortable 7:29 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@RichardHowells1234]

Etymology nice suggest

[@PancakeRights]

Please edit 6 People who constantly belittle

[@lovelumity]

👍

[@niasiamack9333]

Cool

[@POINTHINKPOINTHINK]

𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙧𝙩 ❤❤❤

[@clauduchiha]

don’t be afraid to set boundaries y’all ✨

[@Psych2go]

💯

[@thesaddestdude3575]

I also want to point out that alot off these traits in moderation isnt too bad, if you pointed to attention to yourself you would barely be there at all as an example.

[@Vareiance]

Truth is tho, most people will probably not care about your boundaries and you might honestly not care about theirs. The only people who will comply with your boundaries are people that respect you. When it comes to putting your foot down with boundaries, just know you need to have the ability to walk away at any point, sometimes this might have harmful consequences depending on who you are dealing with. The whole thing is a power dynamic, so make sure you have the power in the relationships.

[@DomFortress]

Don't blame others for your weak and dysfunctional attempts at yourself controlling others with your ultimatums, especially when setting and enforcing our own personal boundary is about self empowerment, by ourselves aligning our actions with our values. When you don't even respect your own boundary, you didn't earn self respect.

[@Vareiance]

@@DomFortress Their is no one to blame, we are all looking out for our own best interests in the end. Especially people who are watching this video. The goal is to improve our life by strengthening our boundaries. I did not suggest using ultimatums to control. You must have the confidence to walk away from any situation, which I believe is true power. If you have been disrespected by a partner or even family members, have the confidence to walk away. Although it can be lonely path, always know it’s better to have walked away. Self respect is truly something that must earned by ones own actions but even those who promise to commit heinous acts have self respect because they aligned their actions with their beliefs.

[@DomFortress]

@@Vareiance I specifically said values, not beliefs. As in if one values impulse and rash emotional reasonings as their sole foundation of beliefs, then they'll act accordingly to hedonistic instant gratifications. A warrior traditions values impulse control and stoic steadfastness as practices to counteract the denial of death, so even heinous actions like unnecessary brutally or suffering are therefore undesirable. Finally, an individual with avoidance attachment style will always have the upper hand in all relation power dynamics, because they're never fully present thus will leave and withdraw impulsively, I know this from personal experience because I had that dysfunctional learned coping mechanism. Now I simply trained to confront and make my stance, just as how I'll always be present for myself.

[@tdesq.2463]

@@Vareiance Good point(s)! I had the displeasure dealing with someone who one day just tossed his (already thin and translucent) mask aside and basically "came out" as creepy-ass, snake-in-the-grass predator ... even gave some strong hints that he's a r@pist. And he communicated this with a zickening smug smile, while making crystal clear references to a certain Young Lady that he, by certain statements of his, obviously thought was my partner ... or, personal Slave, which is his idea of a "partner." But, that She was "discarding" for him ... and that he "claimed her." The references also included talk of hotel rooms, and porn shoots ... and his glowing admiration for a certain numbskull who was convicted and imprisoned for luring a susceptible teenage girl to a hotel room and savagely r@ping her. The baboon was a celebrity of sorts, so the whole matter was widely publicized. I'm quite sure this creep was fully of that tragic fact and its relevance to his sticking it my face. So, how is this relevant here? It was all in a lesd-up to him asking me for a favor. Specifically, to talk him up in front of a camera for a YT video ... seeking crowd funding to ostensibly capitalize a pro-social art biz start up. But,my speculation is that he had run into some acute personal financial problems. Yep. He he thought he was in a position of power. That would be overflowing with respect for him. He genuinely believed that his sx predator behavior was the mark of a Real Man. He was seriously proud of it. No lie.

[@frosty8104]

It's hard setting boundaries when you've grown up without them.

[@starsearcher2634]

This!!!!

[@raynie96]

1. Gossipers 2. Attention Seekers 3. Victim Mentality 4. Compulsive Liars 5. Enablers 6. Compulsive Liars People who constantly belittle 7. People who make you uncomfortable ------------- Unfortunately, I continue to learn my lesson with setting and maintaining boundaries. But each time I learn and improve.

[@RichardHowells1234]

Do i

[@brandonjohnson7729]

This year I learned the lesson of setting boundaries! I wasnt taught this during my upbringings which explained a lot of trauma. Boundaries are EXTREMELY important when meeting people. Thank you for this video, God Bless

[@DomFortress]

So do you know the difference between boundary and ultimatum, especially when the latter just won't work at controlling others, while the former is all about self empowerment?

[@tims9434]

I don't think my parents understood boundaries themselves.

[@user-li4pj5zk1q]

yes, I totally agree with you!! and also a think that boundaries are extremely needed for realization, too

[@WhoSaidDitzy]

As a late diagnosed autistic person, I appreciate you bringing light to the fact that we can end up saying something that might sound odd to other people without necessarely having ill intentions. I've always struggled with what is socially acceptable to say to people and have been silencing myself alot in my life because of it in order to not make others uncomfortable. While I often could tell if I unintentionally made someone uncomfortable, I wouldn't know why or how to fix the situation as people most often would just avoid me rather than addressing the issue so I could understand their point of view and take note for future social sitauations. It has been very isolating to not just be told what I did wrong instead of being shunned...

[@victorialaing4227]

Yea I struggle with something similar. Sometimes my teachers will scold me in school because I will say something inappropriate without meaning to and the teachers don’t find the stuff I say appropriate I am also autistic

[@Eddison33]

It's relatable. While I learned well enough how to not make people uncomfortable in workplace/study environments and common social situations, it's still a problem for close relationships. I might unknowingly overstep boundaries and ask uncomfortable questions. So, if there's someone who tries to be my friend or even a partner, I tell them right away that I'm autistic and ask them to tell me directly if/when they are uncomfortable with my behaviour or topics I bring up. It's much easier once you learn and memorize a number of such things for each particular person you want to be close with.

[@JustAGalAndHerDog]

Very relatable

[@debbiechadwick861]

I have a female narcissist in my circle. I must admit a female narcissist is harder to recognize. I never talk about anything deeper than the weather w her. Once i closed her off it seems she tries even harder to get information about me. Whatever she learns she will use against me. So we talk about the weather. 👍

[@monk4ever]

I wouldn't have a Narcissist in my circle. It spells trouble. Good luck.

[@debbiechadwick861]

@monk4ever IT took me a few years to consciously realize it. Seems others don't have a clue yet. I keep her at arms length tho. Thx

[@breanntheartist1989]

I cut off mine 4 years ago. Female narcissists are scary.

[@carlymara88]

Boundaries can be tricky to set when others ignore them

[@birichinaxox9937]

Or punish you for them while automatically accepting others

[@Psych2go]

It often requires consistent communication and reinforcing those boundaries.

[@danielfogli1760]

It helps to remember effective boundaries are "something YOU will do when/if they do that thing", because you can't really make people do stuff. The key here is "refusing to cooperate".

[@Grumpisaurus]

If i come across someone eho actually says "daddy chill", I'm avoiding them like the plague.

[@foxybrosimp1451]

Boundaries are always important, base on a experiences

[@patienceacheampong9542]

*Based on an experience*

[@brain_respect_and_freedom]

How to START? For example: Step 1. Be as clear and as straightforward as possible. Do not raise your voice. Step 2. State your need or request directly in terms of what you’d like, rather than what you don’t want or like. Step 3. Accept any discomfort that arises as a result, whether it’s guilt, shame, or remorse.

[@justsomestranger9256]

Thank you

[@Psych2go]

Great start! Thank you for outlining these steps.

[@MusicalDroplets]

I have 2 friends. They both lie but in different ways. One lies to hurt people while the other just wants to look cool. The one who wants to hurt people for their own benefit is the one I told lots of information. But months later they told everyone and blamed it on the one who just wanted to be cool. Although they both lie, it was easy to know who did it because I only told one of them.

[@gabrielo1311]

im sorry that youve been hurt by the same people you thought will be there for you when youre feeling down. and when youre feeling like youre the best version of yourself. it hurts

[@mentalwellnessdaily]

That's a great point about people who lie not being able to secure attention and love through more socially acceptable means. Lying allows them to create their own reality, which covers up the discomfort of the truth. Sometimes we'd rather convince ourselves that fiction is better.

[@DomFortress]

So what does that observation has to do with the Jungian psychoanalysis of our personas and shadows? And why is it important and necessary for us to do the hard work of reintegrate our own shadows?

[@cynicalafflictional1725]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[@beansnrice321]

Ouch, the belittler one got me with my mom. She thinks she does it out of love but she nags and lectures to me endlessly and rarely if ever asks for my opinion on the things she says. I used to just ignore her more because of it but that never would get her to stop. I eventually just had to tell her that I did not understand how she felt that she was being a good advocate for what she's saying to me because she continues even when I'm white clearly and happily ignoring her. I told her that it seemed as though even she didn't think that she was speaking to me as a person and that that was why it was so easy for me to ignore her. There was no inflection, no pausing for thought, no dialog. It was not communication it was a one way download that she expected me to take without any criticism, interpretation or push back. Finally, regarding the nagging, I asked her what thing that she does poorly that she later does better when someone has repeated to her countless times to do the thing. I asked her, did it take ten times for her to be told or twenty? What about thirty? At this point she got the point that she wasn't communicating and was in a way isolating herself with her language and that I was the one trying to communicate. I ended our conversation with a non judgemental, "this is why we talk about this stuff." I'm 44 and I've never known how to speak to her about her pathological habits before and I'm pretty proud of myself because I didn't attack her but I attacked her strategy and was able to improve our communication without being judgemental. Sure, old habits still die hard but we're all doing much better now. =)

[@Psych2go]

It's truly commendable how you approached the situation with your mom and It's wonderful to hear that things are improving.❤

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

I'm the type of person who always asks for people's boundaries before going any further to a conversation when I first meet them.

[@birichinaxox9937]

Yes same. Please tell me if at any point you have something you prefer or expect of me. If i miss it it isn't on purpose. Too many don't like this direct conversation.

[@Psych2go]

That's a thoughtful and respectful approach! How have people generally responded to this when you initiate these conversations?

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

@@Psych2go they've responded quite well actually, they'd understood what I had asked and told me their boundaries

[@felixthecat5333]

Thumbnail: “Daddy chill” What the hell is even that?! 😂😂

[@AC-ni4gt]

That's an old meme if I'm guessing right.

[@noelle2k3]

@@AC-ni4gt it’s a quote from the video lmao

[@Psych2go]

We are changing it lol.

[@felixthecat5333]

@@Psych2go in all honesty it’s hilarious 😂 Don’t change it

[@nightowl334]

Thank you so, so much for advising to still be a good friend towards the attention seeker as long as they don't hurt you. I'm sure they've been through a lot and many just want to be loved and accepted. I think the conventional advice of cutting them off immediatly is really problematic and hurtful. I think everyone deserves to be treated kindly and respectfully as long as they don't hurt people.

[@monk4ever]

I will never be friends with an attention seeker.

[@tdesq.2463]

As long as they are not hurting anyone ... deliberately. Absolutely agree. In fact, that's my No. 1 criterion. That's pretty much the only thing I will not work with. Absolute, Unconditional Rule. One drop of malice, and you're out. Period. ~TD, Boston

[@birichinaxox9937]

Ppl that make you uncomfortable, if you tell them and explain what you prefer and expect and they then ignore it or dismiss it 100% distance. If you haven't been clear and just ghost it is beyond cruel. It's how so many ppl with ASD are left isolated. Most of us want to respect boundaries but we can't if we don't know they are there. The sexual stuff is 100% no go. But for stuff that is harmless but make you uncomfortable please just say something we can't read minds we want to connect but to often ppl just ice us out.

[@birnamagnusdottir5189]

If they talk smack about others to you they most certainly do it about you. And if they tell you a secret, they will have told others and then blame you when it gets out.

[@rufoisaiahbracamonte338]

Some of my toxic siblings who over critical my emotions throughout the years which makes me feel uncomfortable but I only spend time in nature to protect myself from emotional harm and critisms then surround myself with people who cares my emotions during that time.

[@NeverToMuch21]

Idk If this is my first time doing it but I didn't feel anything. My dad and I were arguing over some small miss understanding and I raise my voice at him cause I was fed up and he stared down at me while I stared at him back ready for anything like we were staring like 2 tigers, waiting to see who would make the next move, then we calmed down and fixed the issue we had so we good lol.

[@DomFortress]

You don't value emotional regulation, so you never exercised personal boundary for better emotional wellbeing, and that's the pattern in your family dynamics. You weren't taught in how to process anger, instead you held onto it in silent contempt. You can't even remember why you were angry, like how you default to belittling your feeling.

[@mem1701movies]

@@DomFortressyou can’t speak English

[@michaelclear986]

Tha star wars reference in the uncomfortable section was brilliant!

[@Bingo_the_Pug]

“daddy chill”

[@user-gj5rc8ie1g]

Came here to set boundaries now realising people have to set boundaries with me 🙂

[@skycat1350]

lol the thumbnail says daddy idk why i laughed at that

[@azloii9781]

I thought one of my friends was an enabler until I told him I want to quit smoking and he was very supportive of me and talked with me about it to help. There are good people out there

[@nicolebogda1482]

I’ve cut almost everyone I “thought” were close friends, for decades, only to realise how much I was used, abused, & damaged by these people- being ridiculed when reaching out? Is one of the hard truths when we are bad at boundaries. This is an episode that could be extended into individual episodes~ but so well summarised. Ty

[@cosmos3753]

I did the same in Q4 2023 and I'm proud of myself. I refuse to give any of my energy to people who don't deserve it. I started drinking at the age of 14 and stopped at 24. That's when I started to understand that maybe something was wrong with my friends. I also got depressed at 22 until I got over it completely at 28, and that's when I found the strength to cut ALL old friends. Yes, it's not the nicest thing to have 0 friends (I speak from experience :p), but if your friend selection criteria are poor or/and if you don't take the boundaries you set for your friends seriously then such an outcome is possible. The good news is that when we have a healthy lifestyle, do activities we enjoy and generally do things that make us happy, it's inevitable that we'll meet new friends who will be a much better match! ❤

[@Angie12582]

Wow this videos taught me a lot. My younger step sister has a tendency to treat me like I’m not smart or smart enough to do things and she downplays my accomplishments and makes me feel like I’m not doing enough and she doesn’t just do it to me either idk if it’s just something that she does because of personal issues or if it is belittling but it describes what she does perfectly. I’ve had some bad experiences in the past that have affected me till this day that make me lack in confidence and self esteem and whether she treats me this way it triggers me and I could feel upset for weeks after. I’m still hoping that as she gets older and matures (she’s in her middle teens) she may treat the people around her better.

[@asillybutprettylily3658]

Great video and very informative, but I can't stop cackling at the thumbnail 😂

[@Andresxist]

Godbless Amanda Silvera for her voice as is giving all this knowledge is also really soothing which helps me to learn all this relaxed

[@sunfairy8269]

This was eye opening,. I realized some of these things about my friends and myself. I think it's the time for me to better myself and level up.

[@MONKEYGUY8504]

#1 Some people will share literally EVERYTHING and in a bad way!

[@monk4ever]

The fact is I just don't care about their past or present problems. They get offended when I admit that.

[@ILOVELYY1]

The thumbnail😭💀

[@williamelliott186]

Lol not you putting tippy in the thumb nail!! I love him and king tonio!!

[@azi_adam_]

Okay but let's talk about the thumbnail, I love it 💞

[@DrawsJanella]

It's great to set personal boundaries with people that you know or are familiar with, but what about people you don't even know? Especially when online! How do you set boundaries for someone over the internet who asks you weird questions? How do you set boundaries for someone who says or does questionable things that make you feel uncomfortable in any way? And even if you do set boundaries for them, what if they get mad and then try to turn everyone against you by spreading false information about you over the internet? I'm only asking this because I've experienced something like this before, and I'm pretty sure it will happen again to someone else! We seriously need to spread awareness!!

[@howlpendragonbich]

okay good advice aside, why aren't we talking about the "daddy chill" meme as thumbnail?! it's giving 😌💅

[@tims9434]

Thanks. An excellent informative video on this subject. Nicely referenced too. Top job ❤

[@RuseGuise]

There are times when i don't know what is truly happening, so i do come up with assumptions that are probably not true. To the point of maybe, I should have trusted the persons concerns and instincts instead of downplaying or trying to look at the positive. Sometimes, i come off as a bit rude because i get frustrated and annoyed, or expectations not being met. I think i might have underlying issues. When it comes to performance, i do feel like i do better without the criticism, in general as well. Especially noticeable when not in a group. It's just that having a group can make things significantly easier as well. On a bit of a different note, quite literally 🗣My voice tone specifically, it's crazy to me how my friends can know how I'm feeling at the moment. With the tone of my voice. I was asked yesterday if I'm depressed because of how i sounded when talking

[@professorJorge11]

This is good, because some people should be aware.

[@ankurmandal4792]

Some times people don't understand what is right and wrong for example like going out with friends drinking smoking(destroying your own life)....if you simply say them to stop this activities...they don't...but sometimes a slap on the face solves the problem(based on true events)...i guess we should properly decide when we should be insensitive and when we should be sensitive or when we should be angry or when we should explain them patiently

[@RayPeng-07]

I wish I heard this as a kid or a teen so then ppl wouldn't have sucha big bad influence on my mental health. But better to learn later than never. So thank you for it. I give a heart -> 💗, to his episode to show how important it is to protect the mental health.

[@niasiamack9333]

Thanks for your help

[@user-ms7sq1vo5f]

Thank you for the information I really need that so I can talk to my friend about boundaries

[@anothergirlinasweater]

Gossiping is like cancer, though.

[@lindavalentin5582]

Thank you for sharing this very pertinent information!!❤

[@Psych2go]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Peter-rn5bu]

Thank you for another great video!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks!

[@TysonASMR]

The thumbnail 😂

[@jackiecastillo2484]

This is a v informational 👍🏻 video. Yes, boundaries need to be set! 💯😎👌🏻

[@amygradybsw]

WONDERFUL VIDEO! SHARING EVERYWHERE ❤❤❤

[@gafer8808]

Nice video, thank you

[@cutiepie_1_]

Why do people have 11months ago on their comments... Like seriously this was posted a few seconds ago 😲

[@tdfleur]

exactly bro.. probably a glitch

[@MufflesTheGerbil]

You see that Join Button on their Channel where their Subscribe button is at? If you join the Channel's Membership you will have access to their private exclusive membership only videos. Or it could only be exclusive to their Patreon where they post a link to the video while it's Unlisted for their Patreon Supporters to click on before the video gets fully published.

[@user-ld5sb5tq4g]

I get highly annoyed by people who ask me personal questions 😒. It’s sad smh. That’s why I don’t trust people. If they talk about others they will gossip about you 100.

[@kronosking9403]

BEST VIDEO YETTTTTTT❤

[@ordinaryaccount7114]

Confession time since Wolfy Playz has a playstyle tier list. I am rarely a Gossipers but not my habit. I sometimes accidentally tell some topic but I said not to tell anyone that may have an issue. It is the opposite of compulsive liar but I have to balance them, to secret, or to lie. Now, I have been a victim of people who are compulsive liars, make me belittle, enablers, and make me uncomfortable. It is embarrassing that I don’t share or report it. You know not to betray and ruin the lives of others so I go away from them, as much as I forgive them without apologizing.

[@QuantumPrecision]

I'm a pathological liar but not an impulsive one, I can tell a lie well enough to trick just about anyone due to a bad childhood and having to lie myself out of embracement but I always know I am doing it and I always think before I either tell the truth or lie.

[@Yohann_Rechter_De-Farge]

A big thank you 🌹🌷🌺

[@TinosCat]

6:25 I can relate so much with this. I have this one friend who constantly judges my art no matter what I do, from “Triangle Head” to “Cringe”, I know criticism can be good, but it’s at the point where whenever I just make a art piece, he just insults it and I’m tired of him.

[@Starmistresslilith]

Omg I love your video references :3

[@bikramjitsingh8708]

Sums up the whole world!!

[@ghostmoji_xox]

I need to learn this

[@neowolf09]

The star wars reference tho 😂❤

[@victorialaing4227]

The ones who belittle and talk down to others reminds me of characters like Catra from She Ra who constantly belittles and mistreats Scorpia and Adora. I struggled to set boundaries with some elementary aged boys that were wanting more attention from me then I wanted to give them. One did not respect my boundaries even if I set them. I still sometimes struggle to set boundaries to avoid making people mad at me

[@puppybreath6790]

You should do one about addiction

[@giovannip8600]

How do you know if you're one of those people? I think I fit in all categories... What to do? Am I toxic?

[@-Samik-]

Oh gosh i just realised i always talked about my Problems to my friends.. But What to do now? What should i talk about with them, Im not really with Fashion and im not On Many social media.. What should i and others who might suffer from the same thing or from the other types. Can you make a video about this? Im sure this would help a lot of people

[@cakefrosting6451]

I find that all 7 types of ppl are in the person I call my mom😅 ok maybe she’s 6 of them because she will know to try and make you comfortable with excessive amounts of food, as if that’s a way to make up for the hurt she inflicted.

[@juliuscaesart]

Have to admit Psych2Go you guys outdid yourselves with this list

[@himathyjenkins]

That thumbnail is great

[@coco_mum]

That's mean stay away from everyone and be alone and happy😷 🙏

[@PH3_N0X]

I just try to keep strong boundaries with everyone because I can get upset really easily.

[@_mirary_]

The daddy chill meme thumbnail i'm rolling 😭

[@theelementalflow432]

Attention seekers can also be victims of narcissists too and assurance can go along way of healing them.

[@Maeriyz]

THE THUMBNAIL

[@jujuoof174]

I use to think one of my (now) best friends used to be a compulsive liar, but in reality, even if he could be a great manipulator, he stopped outside of silly jokes and I think it’s more because he was new in my school at the time and was trying to fit in. I even realised one of his “lies” was actually truth despite being so odd lmao- I also have another best friend who has a talent for making people believe pretty much anything but doesn’t use it jn lies or all that much

[@yukimiasma9590]

Time to set boundaries with all 7 of my personalities

[@lotusmarilyn2825]

....we can set boundaries with a boss....in our communication language ....belittling us does not help in anything ,especially at work ....."show me how it is done i want to learn ...."

[@georgianagheorghe8848]

It's even harder to set boundaries when you live with these toxic people or they turn out to be your parents and family.

[@TheIGITnBLUE]

Step 1: Avoid these people. Done.

[@monk4ever]

It's very easy to do. People act like avoiding others is so difficult.

[@kelvinmukovic9382]

Great video and very insightful, I think we all should know that God is good and sometimes he pushes you to places and opportunities you never knew you needed. I just got to realize that trading comes with a lot of benefits And I have just bought my first house through it. As a beginner I was scared of loosing my savings but l'm glad I took the bold step that is now favoring me.

[@lumiereforbes8118]

congratulations!! I will love to be your friend dear as well. as sharing some ideas which you're benefiting.

[@lumiereforbes8118]

please how do you earn or should I say how does it work. are there steps I need to take, I need guidance my friend.

[@jasonstorm2118]

Yes please How does this trading stuff work? I'm really interested but I just don't know how to go about it. I heard people really make it huge trading

[@kelvinmukovic9382]

I strongly advise you against self trading, it's really dangerous and has brought many investors down, you need someone with the right strategies and expertise to do the work for you, I recommend Maymuun j Choi

[@ferdinandramirez7890]

That's awesome!!! I know nothing about investment and I'm keen on getting started. What are some strategies to get started?

[@MegaCyberleader]

ya know, Ive been passing these up. "excpet for the ones on love and companionsip" but when I saw the bird. I knew, That you had something to say.

[@HippieWitchyAsh]

I'm fairly sure that this video confirmed that I should be alone, locked away in a room, as I am all of this video. I am struggling to reparent myself. I recognize my faults, over a year now of working on healing, and I'm still a nasty judgmental curt mother, just like my own. I can't shake it for some reason. I'm so scared to ruin my relationship even more w my young daughter. Time feels like it is non-existent, pressure to be perfect employee, wife, mom, sister, friend and love myself feels impossible. So if turn I have sacrificed friendships and closeness w my family, to attempt a gain in time to heal me and attempt being present for my child. I feel annoyed with myself for not accomplishing this goal already, and in turn, my annoyance is shoved onto others. .. idk I'm rambling in a YT comment that just goes into an abyss.

[@wminerva252]

I don't have the answers, and I can't imagine how difficult what you're dealing with is, but I know for a fact that you don't deserve to be alone, or locked away. You're recognising your faults and you've been working on yourself for over a year. That's so much more than what a lot of parents do. I know it's cliche but healing takes time. You don't want to ruin your relationship with your daughter, you're regonising your faults and you're working on yourself. Those are three massive things that seperate you from millions of abusive mothers. It's difficult, but it sounds like you're on the right track, and if you keep working on yourself like this and seek the relevant help, you'll get to where you want to be. It's so important to recognise the things you're achieving, be kind to yourself too, and not expect too much too quickly. I wish my mum made the same kind of effort you seem to be for your child

[@HippieWitchyAsh]

​@wminerva252 😢🫂 thank you for commenting back. I sincerely appreciate it and I'm crying now.

[@wminerva252]

@@HippieWitchyAsh I'm not an expert at all, but I think the fact you feel guilt and disappointment with yourself is a great sign. Obviously it feels horrible, but it sounds like you're not making excuses for or denying the things you want to change. One day I hope you can shake that guilt, and I'm sure you'll be proud of who you've become. I can't remember where I heard this, but people become what they want to become. You're not alone in this, and nobody is perfect. This might not be my place to say but as somebody who's mother still denies most of what they did, and blames me for the rest, I really apreciate the work you're putting in. You have it in you to change, and I'm sure if you looked back objectively you'll see ways you have changed in this last year. Obviously I don't know any details, but it sounds like things were difficult for you growing up too. Good on you for putting in the work to break that chain. I'm rooting for you ❤️

[@HippieWitchyAsh]

Awfully kind of you to state such supportive words to a complete stranger. You're not off with your assumptions. Thank you again for feeling the importance of reaching out. You rooting for me and holding space has helped me today. Thank you again.

[@gachadelight243]

There is this girl in school who is constantly following me. I try to run away from her and give her every hint that I'm not interested but she just doesn't get it. And I don't want to hurt her feelings as well cause as far as I know, I'm her only friend. It's exasperating. How to set boundaries with such a person?

[@brontedavison5101]

How do i set boundaries with people who constantly break them the second i set them?

[@jeffreysherman8224]

2:37 I swear she said *"historic* personality disorder." 😅

[@teegutta4689]

HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY, I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, I CAN RELATE TO THIS TOPIC 💯 PERCENT, I KNOW THAT I'M PARENT SHE DO THIS ALL THE TIME. I REALLY WISH I WAS NEVER BORN OR DIE, MAYBE SHE WOULD BETTER OFF, HAVE A BLESSED DAY,TEE 🙏💯🙏💙💪

[@Elusivefire5993]

Sometimes I feel like I have some of these traits talked about. But its so hard to tell. Like the attention seeker is a good example, any time I being something up with someone there is a voice saying that I just wanted attention and nothing was actually wrong. But I don't like whine about things all the time to get pity. Idk feels like I am in a grey zone

[@prettyzen2]

We all have these human traits just some people have them more than others.

[@marissaburke1357]

I wish people would understand that last part about people you take seriously just belittling you, why don't they see the different heaviness of it? I'm sure they felt hurt by that too, why do they just expect me to brush off what they say like they're a stranger? If I take someone seriously and respect them, I can't do that

[@Matthew8473]

Your exposition is masterful; similar to a book that was a master in its field. "The Joy of Less: A Minimalist Living Guide" by Matthew Cove

[@sonerism4073]

0:32 is literally almost everywhere in my country, we have too many busybodies here 😂 1:48 and 3:18 that shit that I handled for two years cus my teacher told me to on look out for her. Thankfully my parents and teachers know about this, where by she will self-harm, then just literally cause a scene just to get what she wants. There's even once that she wanted to jump off the building or probably just pretending, (literally 3:10) because the teacher held her back because of her meltdowns. Then I was the middleman between her and her bf, who is also quite toxic. But impossible to stay away from those two years cus they both WERE MY CLASSMATES. She had ever texted me that she will bring knife to school just to kill her bf etc etc. In the end I got ditched, and I too ghosted her 😎

[@coreyondavis6032]

can i also say that to the people who uses the fear of abandonment to force the other person to give reassurance?

[@superhero5259]

Sees the thumbnail: "What the HELL is even that?!"

[@derekspradling7452]

I get boundaries. I don’t set them. I’m a monster of a person And I feel like the least I could do is lay down like a doormat and let people walk all over me and I’ll obey there boundaries I having none of my own. Even if they want to run over me in their car, I asked them how should I lay parallel or vertical to the car.

[@jamesalexander6417]

You need strong boundaries with EVERY type of person.

[@NynyshAulia]

I am an attention seekers, and it's because I'm afraid if someone would abandoned me like my late Dad use to did to me

[@MusicalDroplets]

For me it’s not really a major issue but I get uncomfortable when my friend puts his arm around me or hugs me because I don’t like physical contact. How should I tell him I don’t feel comfortable with it in a nice way? I know what to say but not how to word it as he can get upset easily