9 Comforting Things Introverts Would Like To Hear

[@Psych2go]

What are some comforting things that you would like to hear? Comment below.

[@nickthepick8043]

I like to here I'm a good person. But not for vanity reasons, because I am used to worrying about my conscience.

[@zellu7485]

I would love to hear my parents say "You can go whenever you like" cause they are practically forcing me to attend family events or just any events even though sometimes I don't have the social energy to do so 😔

[@nick27march]

You are the one who understands me I love talking to you. Your words are so comforting to me ❤️

[@GamerBoy.1761]

Thx for making this I rlly need videos like this.

[@bottleheadhourglass7311]

i just want people not to say i'm 'emo' or 'edgy' or 'dark and depressing' just because i don't talk to them

[@shvn22k]

"It is very satisfying when someone acknowledges the mental and emotional work that introverts put into their thoughts. " Exactly!!

[@gotnoideaforaproperusernam8122]

"I feel so comfortable around you" I've heard it from every person I've known (not many, but a lot for me) It really helped me a lot, I used to doubt myself so much I even was prepared to isolate myself, and then people would save me with this I feel comfortable around you too my dear friends ❤️ you saved me

[@JesterMCL]

Thank you for sharing. I felt the same way and sometimes I still do. Then I’m told I’m comforting to be with. People that are close to me can be themselves.

[@CaptainphoenixofficialYT]

Goddammit guys. This is what I needed. I'm an introvert and being surrounded by extroverts, even in my close family is draining. I really needed to know that I'm not alone and that someone out there understands me. Maybe I'll meet someone like that one day. Thank you Psych2go.

[@LtRee96se]

I'm with ya on this one, Captain!!

[@blackrose.28]

Yea I'm in the same boat😒🤦🏽‍♀️

[@LtRee96se]

@@blackrose.28 Yes, we are in the same boat, but at least we know the Captain. I am comfortable with myself. How about you?

[@blackrose.28]

@@LtRee96se Honestly where I'm at in my life right now I'm comfortable with myself but I guess to a certain extent. I do wish I was fully comfortable with myself like I use to be back then when I didn't care what ppl think of me but I have children now and my son is a big time extrovert. I try hard to get out of my comfort zone to bond with him on a daily but it's draining af and some situations we're in, I'm not going to lie I'm VERY uncomfortable lol I'm a BLERD who's socially awkward and being around to many ppl make me feel like the walls are closing in on me. 🤦🏽‍♀️ But I do It to make him happy you know. Don't get me wrong times I do enjoy myself in certain uncomfortable situations only if it brings positivity to us. But at the end of the day no matter how much fun I had with him, I'm just ready to go back in my hole for a week or two alone to recharge. 🤣 So do I go back to the way I've always been and stay happy and comfortable with myself which might make him distant with me or do I let him bring me out of my comfort zone and be uncomfortable and drained for the rest of my life lol🤷🏽‍♀️

[@LtRee96se]

@@blackrose.28 Remember, extroverts need someone to listen to them. My nephew is a big-time extrovert and yet he sometimes listens to his quiet aunt. I would think, with your son, it might be a give-and-take situation. As long as you get some time to recharge, it should work. Just let him know that you love him and the rest might just work itself out. In the end, you can't really change how you were made or how he was made. I haven't had a lot of time with my nephew as he grew up, but I was there to support him at the football and hockey games. I always cheered and never lectured him. I just told him what I thought was good. His father (my brother) always told him what he did wrong. I think the difference was noticeable. And I think he never forgot that I was there for him. If I can do that with my nephew, I know you can do better with your son. I don't know, of course, but I doubt that he wants to drain you or make you uncomfortable. Is he old enough to understand the difference between you and him? If so, just talk to him about it. If he loves you, it won't matter. See how you are trying so hard for him? That's love. Because I sell my art at conventions, I have to recharge as fast as possible for the next day. I found what can help me the most and so I do that. This weekend is a big convention (I hope) where it may be intense. Reading helps me as there are no outside noises to distract me.

[@DaestrumManitz]

Being somewhat of an introvert, what I would appreciate is for people to recognize that I do possess feelings just like everyone else. But I seem to keep them locked up and do not exhibit them as easily! \🕶/

[@bastionsea2829]

Same, sometimes it's just easier to hide feelings instead and it's a wonderful release when they're noticed

[@LtRee96se]

It's safer that way, in my opinion.

[@imconfused4803]

Same

[@blackrose.28]

@@LtRee96se yea I totally agree

[@GenericPhantom1]

You're all addicted to comfort.

[@mgc26133]

As an introvert, I can confirm that these are not specific to introverts. Everybody likes their thoughts, opinions, contributions or existence acknowledged and commended. As an introvert, the things I truly appreciate are 1- When others initiate the conversation, because initiating conversation for us is a true hassle. We are socially awkward, and very rarely nail the right intro. And then we replay the thing in our heads for weeks, sometimes years about how we made a complete moron out of ourselves. Just save us the trouble. Say hello. We'll be receptive and appreciative. 2- When others ask us out to go hang out, because even though we would like to hang out with friends, for us it's very challenging and draining mentally to ask that question. 3- When we are left alone for our "me time". I'm an introvert and you know it. I'm not comfortable with constant socializing. So while I appreciate that you want me to be an active part of your life, it would also be great to leave me alone to rest my nerves every now and then. 4 - Furthermore, parties are not my scene. I can tolerate joining one or two once a year for special occasions, but if you don't ask me to go to every single party on the block with you this weekend that would be great. 5- When I have something to say once a blue moon, and it is actually listened. I don't speak much, so when I do, it's because I have something good or something important to say. I wouldn't otherwise even attempt. I like to stay quiet. I'm an introvert. 6- When people recognize that I'm an introvert and don't ask me things like "why don't you have more friends". I don't ask you how many of your "friends" you've spoken to in the last 3 years, so don't criticize the number of real friends that I have. Because let's be real, my 1 good friend is a much better friend to me than your 100 friends combined to you, but you don't see me rubbing that in your face. 7- Or "why are you so quiet". Like you don't know what an introvert is. Worst is, that question is mostly followed by the "then why are you an introvert" like I had a freaking choice in the matter. Don't be that person, because honestly for us such questions has the same intelligence level as "why are you a blonde". In other words, you will get looks. Pretty sure there are more, this is just off the top of my head.

[@jevan1247]

Your numbers 3 and 4 seem very privileged because a lot of introverts don't even have these things to be annoyed by (even though they'd like them, as annoying as it can GET). Also...criticism is cool, but don't assume you're the expert either. I'm pretty sure Psych has said they aren't professionals etc etc, so take everything they say with a grain of salt. I agreed with their points and most of yours, but let's be nice shall we

[@funkymonkey8777]

Very cool points. I can really relate with some. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻

[@mgc26133]

@@jevan1247 I don't see what might come off as privileged in 3, but I see your point about 4, though the "party" was a figure of speech and the exaggeration of the frequency was deliberate. I just meant to say "don't make us have to join every get-together you guys be doing" whether that be family gatherings, friends, business, casual, whatever. Introverts feel boredom and often anxiety when surrounded by too many people for too long or often. This is not me pretending to be an expert, I just know because I'm an introvert also. I know how introverts think, feel, because it's how I think, how I feel. All the stuff I shared above is what I know that applies to at least 90% of all introverts. Psych2Go did make great points for sure, but if we're being real here, a lot of those apply to people in general, introvert or extrovert. That's why I said that at the beginning. I wasn't trying to rant, or come off as aggressive. Just sharing my own pow. Of course we can be nice about it, no reason not to be :)

[@indiechick05]

@@mgc26133 I have to agree that number 3 doesn't sound privileged at all. There are people who want to spend every bit of their free time with an introvert and don't understand the whole "me time" thing. I know this because I've experienced it as an introvert.

[@bastionsea2829]

For #3, letting us be alone, but ready to jump when we're ready is a great feeling Wanting to be with us but willing to give the space we need Gives us that respect we crave

[@ivoryusagi]

As an introvert, I actually don't really want to be asked "Are you ok?" when I'm perfectly fine. I guess depends on the situation.

[@agentorange153]

Neither do I!

[@luke78333]

I was thinking exactly the same thing... This video hasn't been well researched at all

[@MorganCabral-x8g]

For me I like when people compliment me because it makes me feel good about me

[@ChikinNuggz119]

i went to a teen camp for my church not too long ago. Hearing another teen who was just like me, say that they were there for me if i ever needed them... I almost cried. It's the mosst love and support ive gotten from friends since third grade.

[@etienneleroi9515]

Being an introvert, it took several years to develop meaningful friendships. Even still, I don’t think my friends have ever asked if I was okay, or said they were here for me. I don’t have bad friendships, but I have definitely put in a lot of work that wasn’t appreciated

[@jbasasa]

Having a person who being there for me and actually caring about who I am is the best thing I would ever need to hear to not be alone. Even sometimes "being an introvert can be a curse and a very beautiful gift."

[@wildflowerwind6941]

You said that perfect. That is my problem. I feel all alone in the world.

[@spxc3g1rlv1rus]

I'm an ambivert but people mostly think I'm an extrovert but treat me as an introvert. People never listen to what I have to say unless if I say something smart during any classes I have. It sucks because I'm constantly being used and never get a thank you for all the hard work I do. Even with my friends I'm ignored from time to time which is why I only show few of them what I'm truly like and what I'm capable of doing and accomplishing because they appreciate everything about me and what I do.

[@cherryowl]

Time Stamps: 1. Words Of Appreciation: 0:27 2. Are You Ok?: 1:12 3. Compliment The Way They Think: 1:54 4. I Love The Way You Are: 2:35 5. Thank You For Your Insight: 3:13 6. I Feel So Comfortable Around You 4:03 7. You Were/Are Right: 4:49 8. You Can Go Whenever You Like: 5:30 9. I'm Here For You: 5:56

[@ezra5797]

Thanks!

[@andrewkomaniecki480]

I feel like this applies to anyone. Not just introverts

[@QuasarSolarStorm]

@Gеnshin lmрасt 🅥 finally who tf asked

[@SillySamWho]

Huh, Never Knew These Are The Words I Wanted To Hear..

[@mkuzu_ez]

I’m so happy because my best friend is an introvert and even before watching this, I have always said nearly half of this list to her. Now I know some other things to say, too!

[@omeone2911]

To all the introverts there is nothing wrong with you. You are amazing as you are!! "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." So be your awesome self:)

[@R_d_aq]

TYSM!! Love you💝💝

[@_Im_Ok_Just_Tired_]

Tysm same to you

[@qiu5660]

You made me cry... Much love ❤

[@Vampireninja102]

As a predominantly extroverted person dating an introvert, I really appreciated hearing more things to say to my partner and to know I’m on the right track already telling him things listed here. 🙏🏻

[@viktoriaschmied6627]

@@SimonB. It can if both are closer to being an ambivert. But definitely will be a major difficulty if both are on extreme ends of the spectrum. Ultimately every relationship is different though, so any pair can find a way to balance it.

[@Vampireninja102]

@Omique Williams It's different than my past relationships with fellow extroverts and we meet each other's needs. Today actually marks 7 months we've been dating which is the longest relationship I have ever had, so all good things! Lots of green flags. 👍

[@Vampireninja102]

@@viktoriaschmied6627 Agreed! I'm mostly an extrovert, but do have some ambivett in me too. Adding to the reply for @Simon B. it's different than my past relationships with fellow extroverts and my current partner and I meet each other's needs. Today actually marks 7 months we've been dating which is the longest relationship I have ever had, so all good things! Lots of green flags. 👍

[@Vampireninja102]

@Omique Williams Thank you so much!

[@derpyguy3611]

How’s the relationship going?

[@nyx5915]

as an introvert, i dont like being asked if i’m okay because people always think something is wrong just because im quiet which isnt true

[@Lonevessel]

Even parents say the same thing.

[@agentorange153]

Neither do I! Because, honestly, "are you OK?" = "WTF is wrong with you?!"

[@rustyshackleford1697]

Number 4 really spoke to me, I very much dislike it when people say something like I should be more extroverted or think I need "fixing". Introverts definitely aren't in need of fixing their introvertedness if they don't want to.

[@edi0157]

Yes, and that kinda contradicts number 2. Constantly being asked "are you okay?" is exactly the sort of thing that makes it seem as though we are wrong to be who are and that we picked wrong at the character creation screen of life or something. Obviously if you really think somebody might be having issues then do so, especially if you are close to them (and in that case you should be able to make a more clear distinctiob between how they generally act and when something is going on and they are upset or sad or whatever the case may be) but I can definitely see how that part can be taken the wrong way

[@introvert9673]

Watching this made me happy and it made my day, not just because I'm an introvert but because I've heard some of them from the people who finally understands me and care. Being asked if I'm okay really means a lot to me because the truth is not everyone asked that to me, only to those who is concerned about me.

[@miloplayz2012]

As an introvert, this video reassured me that people do care about me, even when I'm going through some tough times.

[@PsychToLight]

Top Comforting Things Introverts Would Like To Hear. “I love how real you are.” ... “You have an awesome personality.” ... “I love the way you think.” ... “You always know exactly what to say.” ... “I love how unique you are.” ... “You're someone I can trust.” ... “I'd love to hear your opinion on this.” ... “You're a great listener.”

[@followyourdreams8673]

I would like someone to say, “I like you just the way you are.” Not like my dad who called me a freak on holiday because I was uncomfortable sitting in a bar with family when I just wanted to sit and read my book. I’ve never forgotten that comment and I think everyone thinks the same of me.

[@agentorange153]

Did you stomp out and slam the door behind you? I would have, if anyone said THAT to me!

[@thereadersvoice]

For most of my adult life, I have known I am an introvert. And, this has cost me regular friendships and romantic relationships. My current "best friend" is a HUGE extrovert, and she often criticizes me for my thinking and my mindset. At one point, I had a serious argument with her over all the above, and I said I was no longer interested in being friends (setting boundaries). A few days later, she came back and apologized for her actions and words, and we are friends again, with a better understanding of each other. Sorry about being so long-winded with this story; it just seemed relevant. Anyway, I agree with what had been said in this vid; it is nice to receive that compassion once in a while.

[@berhonkusbardledoo]

Also OMG THE FIRST ONE I RELATE TO IT SO MUCH- I have been in so many forced group projects, and I do all the work, and then all the talkative people get the credit because I’m just the stupid quiet person even though they did NO work. And they don’t EVER even say “thanks” and it gets me SO ANGRRYYYY- also the second one. Basically all of them I relate too and it feels very nice to be so understood

[@agentorange153]

I absolutely HATE forced group projects!

[@nmnknwn]

I’m an introvert, and I often get the same compliments, occasionally from the same people. This may not be the case with all introverts, but definitely myself: the more you hear a compliment, the more insincere it feels. It lets me know that there’s only one or two aspects of my person you feel are worth something.

[@Is_This_Really_Necessary]

I can ... relate to this. The most comforting thing ever said to me was from my elder brother last week. "Do what you feel is right." This was in direct response to me telling him that I won't be travelling interstate to attend our mother's 80th birthday as our family gatherings have not only always drained me, but the experience leaves me feeling extremely depressed due to the extremely toxic nature of many of my family members.

[@agentorange153]

Excellent choice -- I'd have done the same if I was you!

[@0LLy796]

"I love the way you are"... Damn, I actually need to hear that. Being made to feel faulty cos you don't act boisterous in situations actually takes a toll... But hey, what can I do. Sometimes, you just gotta keep moving

[@Kiwi_DeFruit]

4:04 yes! I just heard this yesterday and... I was unsure if he even liked being around me ❤ someone who is also introvert feels as safe and at peace around me as I do around him. No romance, just quality companionship, and it is the best 😌

[@danoncho]

That's true! This is truly awesome to hang around with introvert friend who deeply understands you...😌

[@xninja2369]

@@danoncho i agree you

[@agentorange153]

In my case, I don't care for companionship AT ALL unless it's part of romance!

[@Abigailcotton1]

The “are you ok?” Makes me so happy that someone noticed I’m not and that they see it’s not just me being dramatic that it’s actually me needing help!

[@agentorange153]

In my case, it makes me pissed off that they think I have some kind of problem just because I sit alone and don't socialize, when in fact I don't have any problems!

[@dgthe3]

Didn't quite agree with the first two. The various 'thinking' ones were nice. But the 'feel so comfortable around you' really hit home. Being truly comfortable with someone is rare for an introvert. So to hear that someone is comfortable with me? It's extremely liberating.

[@jinxgirl5]

I would kind of disagree with number 2. Sometimes being quiet is just being quiet, or lost deep in the realms of thought. It's actually annoying to constantly be asked if you're okay. Unless you really know the introvert, are up-to-date on what's going on in their lives, and are prepared to offer help or just let them vent, the question comes of as insincerely offered or a little prying. I could be biased, of course. It's just, in my personal experiences, being asked if I'm okay is really them figuring out if I'm a problem to work around, not because they're actually concerned if I'm having problems of my own. It's like they're assessing what I can contribute today instead of what help I may need.

[@soccerchamp0511]

I don't think they meant to do it constantly, and obviously they are talking about someone who will actually care to listen to you for real.

[@jinxgirl5]

@@soccerchamp0511 I know their point was well-meant, and for some people it's a perfectly workable method. The counterpoint I'm making is that some introverts are going to bite your nose off if you ask if they're okay, no matter your intentions when asking. Not everyone has someone who cares enough to listen without some kind of agenda of their own.

[@agentorange153]

Same here -- when someone asks an introvert this question, usually they imply that the introvert in question is not OK, and that's not true!

[@berhonkusbardledoo]

I’m just binge-watching all of these introvert videos while coming home from vacation because SO understood it’s amazing

[@agentorange153]

Same here!

[@VanillatheRabbitLady98]

The one that hit me the hardest was, "I love you the way you are." I wish more people said that to me. I feel like I always have to pretend to be someone I'm not in order for people to like me. It fucking sucks.

[@agentorange153]

Me, I just refuse to pretend -- and if people don't like me, I don't care, I'd be better off without them in my life!

[@GreenTRC1]

I'm introverted and I can't stand when people ask me if I'm ok all the time. Maybe once in a great while. When I am actually upset.

[@agentorange153]

Same here!

[@BHawk420]

I do like when my insight is appreciated but I don't know how to respond to compliments, i just say thank you but feel like it isn't enough and feel bad, for me I love it when someone listens to me talk about something I'm really interested in and ask a question that shows they listened, when people just say stuff like "oh, that's really interesting" it doesn't feel like they listened, but I'm so used to that response that showing that you listened feels like an incredible privilege now and I'm not sure if it is.

[@agentorange153]

My sweetheart's favorite words when I talk about such things: "Wow, fascinating!"

[@ROKIIIIIII]

9 comforting things introverts would like to hear 1-words of apprecation 2-Are you ok? 3-Compliment the way they think 4- I love the way you are 5- Thank you for your insight 6-I feel so comfortable around you 7-You were/are right 8-U can go whenever u like 9-Im here for u

[@Buplr]

Bricked up

[@aastejasmara1175]

#1 fits me 100%. I dislike being the center of attention. I prefer being behind the screen. But it's nice to hear once in a while that my work/deed is appreciated.

[@gianar6653]

Same, who else relates

[@auroraseyets8516]

I loved this sooo much!!! As an introvert and as a friend of introverts who I want to make sure they know they are loved and appreciated, this video is highly valuable 😍

[@Shampo537]

you dont even know how I am relating to this video I feel like you read my mind every each of those comforts are so true thank u so much people dont know that thing and tend to think that there is a problem with being an introvert and with one video you made my day a bit better to know that more people will know that

[@Mcgee6]

Yup thank you true introverts act this way though giving compliments I wouldn’t say quite good we shy away people because we feel we’ll get our hearts hurt if we open up too much or being smart to give a bonus appreciation on people we care about is a great thing true introverts value one or friends at best not a lot to us we rather have one great friend we can literally tell anyone anything least that’s how I am not sure about everyone else but thing I will mention is not every introvert the same acts the same in every manner etc

[@C_Films.]

Number 7 is something I can really agree with, I'll say something I think we should do in order to make sure something goes right, or to see the other possibilities and prepare, or maybe I say something I feel is smart and other people should think about and know, but they'd usually brush it away, not only does it hurt then, but when something does happen that if only they'd listen, it could've been avoided, or if only they had thought about that then maybe it'd go better or other people (or maybe their own) life would be better, I never get credit in the end. It may feel weird to say it, or awkward, but trust me, we'd love to hear in the end that you acknowledge we were right, or that you'd at least consider it, give it thought, instead of immediately shunning it away.

[@koolmees637]

I relate to everything. it is really nice to hear something positive from someone. It really does make our day.

[@rixaccl]

I'm an Introvert, I'd always help if I can. I just want a friend to talk with everyday, a comfort person, but most of my class just go : "What's wrong with her?" "I don't want to be near her, She's weird"

[@lavenderdreams2479]

Don't worry that happens to me too

[@jhm2732]

sadly a lot of people don't understand that there are many types of people and not everyone behaves in the same way because they just follow what they're supposed to do instead of being themselves, so they see others as 'weird'

[@RainbowSkyDancer]

😢😢😢❤️❤️❤️ thank you... I was bawling my eyes out listening. Needed to hear this it looks like. It's hard for me to see what I need sometimes. I'm autistic with ADHD, and introverted.

[@obeluskepusken8609]

2:37 for me i feel like its the introverts that a loved for their personality and i as an extrovert feels that people gets easlily annoyed when i am around and that i want to be an introvert some times

[@ArcticLost]

I relate to everything described here. We have to learn to express what we need (and learn what that is in the first place) and not be afraid to be who we are. There may be this *perceived* (i.e., not necessarily correct) expectation of how to be or how to behave in every social environment, at work for example. Imagine 5 introverts at work all thinking they need to be/act more outgoing than they actually want to. In the end you have 5 people stressing over this constantly when they could all just reflex and be themselves and feel comfortable.

[@agentorange153]

And do better work as a result, too -- less outgoing means better concentration, and better concentration means better quality work!

[@ImcoolRick]

For all you extroverts out there, I'm honestly happy for you all for not having such a hard time with social behaviour. Not that you guys don't have anything to worry about in your own lives, and not to sound like a victim or anything, but as a fellow introvert, may you please be so kind as to not stare in my direction when I seem awkward or shy? That would really help me and probably many others out there, thanks! Yours truly the biggest socially awkward person to ever walk this earth.

[@twicenikkiv.7486]

This sum it all up. As an introvert, It's like I'm reading myself about how I feel about certain things and how I wanna be treated but yeah it's not always someone there for you to understand.🥺

[@albertohernando3947]

Oh, gosh... you were talking to me. You nailed it. All those things are true, at least to me. But also, very important, "once in a while". It's not about hearing it all the time. Dependency and low self-steem are a problem. But, once in a while... yes. I also loved that you can feel at peace when you are with some people. It's not that you are comfortable or not. It's something deeper. With some people, very few, I just feel ok. It feels right to be me.

[@StellaPinkbird]

Yes we need words of appreciation! I don’t really get that in my home. I started a new job a few months ago and everyone is very nice, every now and then thanking me and/ or telling me I’m doing a good job. It makes me smile every time ☺️

[@theweeknd005]

I realised that everything in this video is true about me. Things I will like to hear: 1. “I feel comfortable around you”. 2. “I will always be there”. 3. Words of appreciation.

[@hooballoolify]

Thank you! Introverts like myself are important and valuable.

[@DrPatrickKingsep]

It can be challenging to navigate the world as an introvert as it can often be misunderstood. Often feeling drained when in social situations or afterwards and needing time alone to recalibrate.

[@bellethilrancthalion1109]

Be careful with the "Are You OK?" card because, sadly, introverts can sometimes think it isn't genuine. Or they just won't want to answer and burden someone else with all the internal conflict.

[@agentorange153]

Or, most likely, they'll think you're presuming that they're NOT OK just because they're introverts -- and THAT is one of the BEST ways to piss off an introvert!

[@Solesteam]

No 7 and 8 I felt a lot, I tend to simply watch others fall into disaster and pretend I had no idea because sometimes people don't see it or acknowledge it, and then if I tell them that I saw it coming and tried to warn them I get lashed out at, and the amount of parties and events I get dragged to, makes me wanna fall into a month long coma sometimes.

[@christalone0188]

I don't like being asked if I'm OK. Because #1 I want to left alone and #2 I won't just give the simple answer, be prepared to stay awhile and listen.

[@agentorange153]

Same here -- except that my answer would actually be pretty simple, "I WAS OK until you went and stuck your nose in!"

[@UsagiDene8626]

My boyfriend’s an introvert i never even thought of his brain process in this way i wanna try it to be more supportive

[@VictoriaForSale]

All of these r true. Especially the no escape option is really hard, I was on a party once and my friends didn't wanna leave though I actually started having physical pain from tiredness and exhaustion and I was dependent on them. It was horror to me. I am actually really blessed to found a person that is introvert himself and knows what I need and what makes me happy. He always asks me if I am okay, he tells me how much he appreciates to be with me, that he feels peaceful with me and he acknowledges my opinions on things. I feel extremely happy and understood thanks to him and not deeply lonely inside anymore.

[@agentorange153]

You know what's EVEN WORSE than having no escape from a party -- it's when even you go into another room or into a quiet corner IN THE SAME HOUSE, the party host calls you out PERSONALLY and tells you to come back and join the fun! Yes, this actually happened to me once -- I left the dining room to sit for a while in the (deserted at the time) living room, and after maybe 10 minutes or so the lady of the house went in after me and told me, "Hey, why are you sulking over here? Come back and join the others at the table!" (And I wasn't even sulking or anything -- I was just getting some fresh air because the dining room smelled bad!)

[@cosmosasmr3665]

Thank you for making this video, needed to hear these today :> Hope you are all having a wonderful day, take care

[@Kitajewel]

I have no doubt that introverts have changed my life more than most extroverts have on a more significant and life changing level, they’re like ninjas that are saving lives as they work from the shadows, and that shvt is so dope ❤️

[@mpumelelomtshali5834]

I love how all this is true and really positive

[@ninoshoshiashvili8622]

When one of my friend texted me and said that she was glad to have a friend like me, I started crying a happy tears because no one else ever said something like that to me

[@eirikmurito]

I cant stand when people ask me how i am because if i answer the question they always tell me to look on the bright side or gives me some horrible advice that they get mad if i dont wanna follow..

[@agentorange153]

Neither do I -- my answer is, I'm fine, leave me alone!

[@mrsmarlasinger5198]

That list is so on point, couldn’t agree more 🧡

[@Fafr]

This video hit me deeply on an emotional level, this video is talking about the *exact* problems we have, or at least I do, can't speak for everyone.

[@staceyruwoldt9158]

Can relate so very much as an introvert being told that you're appreciated and important to a person, is one of the most uplifting things you can ever hear 😘🥰 Especially being told 'I love who you are' and being thanked for your insight, that is amazing in such a humbling way 😘❤💚💜 xox

[@amandac3362]

Im an extroverted and i feel like all of these apply to me as well.

[@ghosteddenial9538]

As someone who is on a spectrum and introverted this would be soooooo great! I have spent way too much time around people who just sap your energy. I wish I could make some friends like that one day. Of course I'd be that friend too for sure! Too bad I rarely leave my house nowdays ...

[@ericklian1411]

i love to read people emotion 🥺

[@Jacko_hedgehog]

I don't know how or why, but this video made me feel sadder than i was previously

[@agentorange153]

That happens to me also when I watch these types of videos -- it makes me dwell more on my own introversion! But in my case, it's a pleasant kind of sadness!

[@brodyhunter6387]

This was great to listen to as an introvert and found literally all of these points spot on. Being the only few introverted people in my church I’m always felt pushed to go to events or activities with most or all of the church and when I tell them it would be draining for me and try to explain why it seems like they just can’t process that so they keep on at it and find they start pushing harder especially if it’s drawing nearer and that ends up draining also. Sorry totally just went on a rant but seriously that helped.

[@agentorange153]

I just say no and don't give any explanation -- and if they start pushing, I tell them to get lost! And also, I don't go to church, period -- I've had enough of organized religion!

[@benmontey3438]

I personally don't like 2 because people have asked me that so many times. Like, I swear, when I'm fine, people ask me that all the time. When I'm not, I never get asked that. So I just don't like that question because 1, it's never consistent with where I am at that time, and 2, most people can't take what I'm feeling anyway. I try to explain myself and open up and one of the three things usually happen: 1: They zone out. 2: They get really quiet or just don't respond to anything I'm saying. 3: They try to flutter out of the conversation because they weren't ready for a deep one. They were ready for an adventurous reason as to why I'm not okay I guess.

[@agentorange153]

Neither do I -- people ask me that even though I'm perfectly fine, and it sounds like they don't accept me as I am and want me to conform to THEIR standards instead!

[@humairasalehsyed6367]

So true!! I would like someone to say these to me. Especially when you overthink and tell ppl the consequence, but then they either reject your thought or later say you said something negative that's why it happened .

[@-IVY-738]

I’m and extrovert but my bf is an introvert and I tell him most of these things every day ❤

[@YokaiTemple]

I actually personally highly disagree with #2 "are you ok?. for me that is the worst thing for me to ever hear, it fills me with such dread. Once that question is asked people turn to see what's happening, and its worse if I am not indeed ok, I break down. So peeps, please check in with your fellow introverts about these given points to ensure none may possibly be a trigger for them. You'll never know unless you ask 🙇‍♂️

[@agentorange153]

Same here -- it sounds like they're presuming that you're NOT OK just because you're an introvert!

[@YokaiTemple]

Yes! exactly!

[@BarksWolfy]

“Are you okay.” Always breaks me down when I hear it. If you ask me this, I will be so grateful, and probably open up to you.

[@agentorange153]

In my case, expect the opposite reaction -- I will at the very least clam up completely, and maybe get pissed off!

[@mephistopheles1086]

I end up crying by watching the video because nobody was that level of kindness and appreciation have towards me. Every time when told my now ex about something that I accompanied even something small, he end up responding "congratulations, you did a basic human function" in a very condescending way. When he said that, I end up really sad that I end up crying and self-esteem end up down bottom. That's why I stop talking to anyone about accomplishment and the activities I do to anyone. 😢😢😢

[@ramgoowy]

All of these made my smile as an INTJ, thank you (:

[@warlordofvideogameglitches]

I get anxious when talking to certain people that are assholes who disregard what they do. They always assume that you are doing something different when in fact you are doing something noble and kind even if you don't like them.

[@bastionsea2829]

Halfway through the video and I've already decided that it needs to be shown to Silvervale's discord I'm sure some of us try to say these things unconsciously, but it's so nice to know we're helping her feel better for herself

[@puflin9474]

as an introvert,i can confirm,this will makes my day.I usually have time to just think,having so many ideas but my family and friends saying that i’m dreamy and too lazy and i won’t survive the real world. that kind of words make me feel useless. like after all, all my idea, my work on anything is nothing since yeah, “just thinking is lazy” according to my parents

[@TheStartrek99]

Number 7 is why I often don't give advice even when I am asked for it, especially when the person asking for it has a history of ignoring advice already given.

[@Sylvia.Torres]

This information is spot on! Thank you!

[@Luzita_1972]

Ok I'm subbing. I going to use these methods more often until we go on our end of school trip to Cardiff in Wales in may. I'll tell you all in a comment where this goes after that. Cuz I'm confessing that day.

[@Moraenil]

I would LOVE to hear any of these. The only I've ever heard any is watching this video. Usually I hear the exact opposite of these things. The criticism and abuse versions.

[@lindseygood7241]

This was great info. Happy to see I am treating my introvert well and I learned some new ways to validate them.

[@ciao2315]

This made me feel seen. Thank you. Anyone watching this you are valuable and loved. 💜

[@sonnilowe8858]

I love the relaxing voices on these videos, the abrupt cutoff of the last word rocked me harder than I expected : P

[@cherylchewilliams5040]

Though I am an introvert, I do have a network of supportive people! They cant be around all of the time ! But supporters help me but also come to me so I can be there for them as well .

[@candlequeen4441]

Omg the first one killed me because I remember being super depressed after my friend made fun of something I worked really hard on and it wasn’t even for myself it was because I promised them I’d make it and even if it was a stupid and small thing to put effort into it still really hurt to see them be so disrespectful towards my project

[@susysnakegirl]

Your voice is so unbelievably soothing

[@eliesapphire]

Additional stuff I like to hear as an introvert : I missed you! Take your time Don't be afraid, just ask!

[@limitedinfinity4191]

As an introvert myself, I don’t really like to be thanked, or asked if I’m ok at an outing, or told that I’m comfortable to be around. But that might just be because I’m not used to it and I don’t know what to do with this information, it just kinda makes me feel weird after being thanked, like “ what did I do that I should be thanked” but that might just be me.

[@tilo_xP]

Not every introvert is like that. You somehow described an INTP or an INTJ. Cool Video!

[@agentorange153]

I'm an ISTP, and I don't really need anyone to say anything to me at all in order to feel good!

[@yousefmajednayef1987]

as an introvert (who is rediscovering his introvertedness) i like to be appreciated for my hard work ☺️❤️

[@indridcold8433]

I am an introvert. I like to hear nothing from the social people except: 1. "Excuse me," if someone bumps into me. 2. "I beg your pardon," if someone bumps into me. 3. "Pardon me," if someone bumps into me. 4. The total of a transaction so I may pay the total at a store. That is about all an introvert wants to hear. We we are not social to want to hear familiarities from anybody. A familiarity heard from someone has to have alternative reasons. Nobody knows me to give a comment of friendly familiarity to me.

[@ArcticLost]

"I appreciate you. If you want, you can join ______ (activity). I'd be happy if you could come." Being invited to stuff despite (thinking you're) possibly coming off as a bit boring because you're more reserved or quiet and don't really outwardly show all your personality. Though we gotta watch the terms, don't want to exclude here. There are quiet extroverts and loud introverts too.

[@beyoutiful-z9y]

Omg this narrator's accent and voice is SOO beautiful 🥰 we would like to hear more of her narration!

[@JJShalashaska]

I'm an introvert, yet I do my best to be a good Person to everyone. I have an introvert friend, I always respect her ways to be silent even if I feel like she doesn't really care because more than introvert she is probably a narcissist and our affection doesn't feel like mutual.

[@henryfontaine8624]

I consider myself as extrovert but I have a friend who matches the personality of an introvert, and I say most of these things from time to time. Finally I do things right:)

[@Mariewolf_94]

i related to all of this. sometimes at home i dont feel appreciated for the good i do and all of the negative things i may have done, recently or in the past, i never live down. i try to express to my family i wished theyd be more appreciative of what i do rather than always call out my mistakes, especially when it's in the PAST when i'm trying to do better TODAY. my parents just assume i'm just whining from attention and remark why do i need to be validated for what i do when thats furtherest from the truth. w/ all that being said, i also sometimes feel heard but not listened to whenever i try to explain why i'm upset, and it just leads me to getting more frustrated and agitated as a shouting match between myself and my parents ensues which follows up w/ a sharp decline in my mood and me just clamming up. i am also sometimes forced to interact during social gatherings because my family believes i'm being "anti-social" since i prefer to be surrounded by ppl i know or just to be off in a corner by myself to read, watch videos or play games on my handhelds. whenever i am off alone, my parents always come over and scold me to be more sociable, dragging me alone behind them to introduce me to ppl and/or telling me to go hang out w/ anyone my age at the location. this is not to say my family are neglectful or anything like that (like they do sometimes praise me for my thought processes/observations and compliment me from time to time as is suggested in this video), but i do feel like they dont truly understand introverts. theyve known ever since i was a little girl i was very quiet and shy, preferring to relax alone, or just having fun w/ my family and/or friends/ppl i know. now that i'm older, i'm very much a ppl-person and i joke i'm an extroverted-introvert since i love helping and being around ppl (that i know), but i tend to be very quiet, observant and borderline distrusting at first, especially after ive dealt w/ bullying when i was around 10 - 13. this does beg the question now what extroverts find comfortable. i mean, i feel like itd be obvious, and it probably should be, but ive met some extroverted friends who dont have a "night life" nor are interested in going to fast-paced, energetic and wild locales w/ a bunch of ppl...and, even if they are the type, they tend to confess to me and other friends they get just as drained as introverts do at times. i'd love to see a vid about how extroverts feel and think as is presented in this vid, or, if theres already one, if someone could point me in the right direction 😄

[@agentorange153]

OMG, sounds like you have a REALLY toxic family! How old ARE you, BTW? Because I wonder whether cutting off contact with them might be an option or not!