6 Signs Your Kindness is Used Against You

Do suspect that someone may be taking advantage of your kindness? If this thought hasn’t crossed your mind, it’s still better to stay informed and secure with yourself, rather than feeling doubtful of a questionable or unsafe relationship with someone. Here are some ways that someone may be using your goodwill against you.
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[@Psych2go]

On a scale of 1-10(10 being very often)), how often do you find your kindness being used against you?

[@saltytomato5568]

5 tbh!

[@confusedbiscuit9053]

7-8

[@xempororhxppyx]

Never ^^ and I’m really glad :]

[@trashy4857]

10

[@existentialcrisis7180]

Um 7 tbh

[@ComicalRealm]

"Kindness is free to give, but priceless to receive" - Snoopy

[@froge9843]

I'm kinda tired to understand this, can u explain?

[@Dan86130]

@@froge9843 it's easy to be kind, but receiving kindness is something you won't forget easily

[@CHEXCALIBRUHPG3D]

@@arisyolaj1776 no

[@JavaCake]

@@arisyolaj1776 no

[@jessicaeberhardt8229]

Snoopy talks?

[@chynabarbieeeeee]

If you are reading this, you have survived your entire life up to this point. You have survived traumas, heartbreak, devastation, the difficult phases of your life, and here you are, still with us still fighting and for that I will always be proud. You are amazing, valid and awesome.

[@martinasheets5888]

Thank you I really needed this :)

[@RY-os9vw]

Thank you dear-you are awesome too! ❤️😘

[@goreshit-lover]

You don't know how much it means to other people, thank you :)

[@priyamalhotra5794]

❤️❤️✅

[@kengored_alt]

Who cares, i gave up long ago, empty word for me lmao

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

Please don’t ever get tired of being a good person with a good heart. I know it sucks being taken advantage of, and feeling like it’s better to be cold hearted, but people like you matter and are so important in this world ❤️🚀🌙

[@carolynf192]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Rose-gy1cc]

😀

[@jrod1382]

😥😥😥...I'm mixed with this comment.

[@LiquorSTARTStheBICKERING]

I don’t know y reading it makes me feel like it is being said against me by someone who thinks I used em just like everyone else who they say or think did, while I was trying to convince myself that we were just different people who had different issues and principles in life & that while they thought I used em I thought they were wasting my time , draining me & not respecting my boundaries. I would like to know the psychology behind this feeling one day.

[@Spiral-Nemesis]

This is a true statement

[@carlogaytan7010]

It's worse when someone is emotionally abusive, not for thier sake, but for the sake of an unknown power.

[@DontInterractWithMeBetween9-5.]

Or simply for money for example

[@womenwhodate7643]

"A part of kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve." - Joseph Joubert

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

*6 signs your kindness is used against you* 0:36 - Emotional abuse 1:27 - Ignoring your boundaries 2:01 - Selective attention 2:42 - Constant judgement/ criticism 3:23 - Guilt-baiting 4:01 - Victimhood ❤️🚀🌙

[@actorjulion101]

Thank you! I never have time to watch the full thing, so I'm always hoping someone did this already 😂. Thx again!

[@momagiraffe4989]

Sounds like my “friend”

[@luckysharu4163]

God bless you 💜🙌

[@animalfun304]

@@actorjulion101 same 😂

[@beulahrachel5912]

All these things are happening to me ... Why it is only me...😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭😭🥺🥺

[@datboi6954]

1. emotional abuse 0:36 2. ignoring your boundaries 1:27 3. selective attention 2:01 4. constant judgement / criticism 2:42 5. guilt-baiting 3:23 6. victimhood 4:00 I hope I could help!

[@PurpleHoodussyBussy]

thanks time traveller

[@rmcd823]

Smart ponies!

[@uwu-vn2kg]

Wtf this video was posted seconds ago

[@megaroid9817]

Wah

[@missdina8174]

Indeed, this did help. Thank you 😊

[@USNBLUE]

Abusers believe Kindness is an act of weakness and will be exploited to the abusers benefit.

[@CartoonyPirate]

Kind people are the richest in this world because kindness can never be taken, only given.

[@varun.shenoy10]

I relate to all the signs..... Growing up I have had many toxic friends and family members who have gaslighted me and used my kindness for granted. I have now realized after all these years that whom you give your trust to matters greatly. Trust has more value than money because you are sharing an intimate,soft and vulnerable part of yourself with others. Sharing this part of yourself with the wrong people will break your heart and feel like a stab in the back. Select the right people. Choose wisely 🙏😔

[@randomperson9961]

What if you give your kindness away unknowingly and it's something you do over and over....

[@varun.shenoy10]

@@randomperson9961 I have been asking myself the same question for years 😭

[@randomperson9961]

@@varun.shenoy10 then we shall have to figure this out, together.

[@varun.shenoy10]

@@randomperson9961 from what I've learned, manipulators pick on kind-hearted and sensitive people like us because they know they can use our openess and welcoming behavior for granted. We need to be mentally aware of the situation so that they don't gaslight us into a situation where we didn't imagine or intend to be in

[@momagiraffe4989]

I have a “friend” that’s manipulative, it’s terrible because I liked them, and then I see that they are like that. It’s so hard to get away from where I am. It’s like I’m being watched by them.

[@TheBlackButterfly888]

”A single act of kindness doesn’t just move mountains. It turns people’s hearts from stone back to flesh. Kindness really is what the deaf can hear and what the blind can see.” - Isolde “Luna Moon” Eve Lynn. (RIP).

[@Mikey-1990]

It's beyond infuriating when you finally say no to people you've done so much for, but then they get pissed at you and have the audacity to call you selfish or greedy. I went way more years than I'd like to admit sacrificing myself financially, emotionally and physically for people who could give two shits about me. It's tough being a kind person in this world. I'm glad I finally started to have moments of clarity and realize these people don't deserve my kindness. It's good to be kind and help people, but only for those who truly appreciate it and don't just want you around for their own personal gains.

[@tws5745]

I like how Fluttershy appears, since she is the element of kindness. Cute little Easter egg

[@mamananachi5116]

I immediately noticed the cutie mark of hers, so it's a very nice touch

[@Jackgritty28]

Is this video going to help, kindness is mistaken for weakness, trust issues, gaslighting and abusive behaviour, don't ignore boundaries, tricky to navigate the manipulation, distance yourself from criticism, skewed evaluation of others, guilt bating,pressure to persuade,it's a dead giveaway, if your safety is a at risk, don't ignore any warning signs, fool🆘🚩⛔💲✅🆗

[@Massivefish]

You just have to be careful not to be SO kind or else you'll get manipulated. It happened to me since I'm not a person who gets mad at others every once in a while.

[@zombierage8130]

It's ok to be kind just makes sure the people that are around you appreciate it and if not cut them off

[@ShrimpFry_Cute]

What if it's your parents and you cannot cut them off?

[@TEAforMIND]

"You can't always be nice, that's how people take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set boundaries. You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say "NO". Just keep your head high with a genuine smile 🙂

[@mysterion3182]

Most of the people I say "NO" to don't seem to understand the meaning of the word because they keep badgering me.

[@MCAlexisYT]

Mysterion Yeah, same :/

[@jadexrose]

@@mysterion3182 same. Just thought of saying "no" to even my closest friends makes me feel like I'm going to make them so terribly upset that they'll have second thoughts on being friends with me.

[@mysterion3182]

@@jadexrose if they don't want to be your friend after telling them you won't give them money, then they're not real friends.

[@_G1ZM0_]

There was person and ppl were tellimg them no they are a kid btw and kid said they are bing bullies .-.

[@uselessvader]

“Kindness is not a weakness, it’s a huge strength.”

[@peacheroseee]

i had always been kind, helpful and just had a very accepting nature. my 'friends' and classmates thought i was boring. lmao now when i finally knocked in some sense and talk back "she's the rude one" 😃

[@ColemanTheShiningStar]

Just leave them

[@ColemanTheShiningStar]

That’s what I did

[@wikichizzel]

That’s what I get, too. It’s really frustrating

[@ShitToSociety]

When you treat them like they treated you then your automatically become a bad person

[@ref0rmstvars]

Same :/

[@sell3100]

Don't stoop to their level, you're better than that! ❤️

[@goldenapplesaga5446]

I've always said "its not the Heroes that die in this world, its the careless ones that do." So this is a fantastic video to watch if someone wants to help people

[@czowiekkontraswiat8279]

everyone dies in this world from deth is no escape

[@goldenapplesaga5446]

@@czowiekkontraswiat8279 I know that I meant spesifically from trying to help people. This video is about being taken advantage of, my point was to avoid that

[@sydneyrogers9697]

I've given up all my "friends" after nearly 50 years. They all had these traits. I was just so sick of being used. I've unfortunately become a recluse because I'm so susceptible to people like this. I live with my pets now. Nothing to worry about with pets. They all have a pure heart ❤

[@thebrotasticbro9465]

Sorry that happened to you. Hope u are better without them

[@leighannkst93]

Karen, same here!!

[@sell3100]

Same here Karen! I no longer tolerate or participate in unhealthy relationships so it's just me, my faith in Jesus, the healthy people who are in my life and my beloved pets 🙏🏻❤️

[@anushkanegi304]

Yep! sometimes in some cases animals are BETTER than humans. And to be honest it's better to be alone than with toxic people. And you should be so happy because you are not alone, you have your little pets with you!

[@zombiekiller7101]

Lol 🤣

[@victorialevy431]

I'm not as nice as I used to be. People and situations that were extremely bad caused me to change. I still care about others, but I'm much more careful now. God bless you always.

[@freddyzamora176]

I never had a problem with me be nice and kind to people. I treat people the way I wanna be treated. I'am cool with everybody. I could be very mean also just ones are mean asshloes . I,am really good being very mean right back.

[@freddyzamora176]

Ps ps ps i'am always Nice 🙂 and nothing happens to me.

[@freddyzamora176]

Ps if I was veryyyyyyyyy mean I,LL make you hate my Guts . Hate enough to kill me .

[@SuperWiiBros08]

I always felt like everyone I wanted nothing but to get along with always took advantage of my kindness Now I'm always depressed

[@protomedia8325]

Ouch, I hope you feel better soon.

[@RegisteredNurseL.A.]

The “refusing to trust “ could come from something that other person did in the past many times. At some point the trust can be completely broken

[@sriku1000]

A great video on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@RegisteredNurseL.A.]

@@sriku1000 I’ll check it out. Thank you

[@RegisteredNurseL.A.]

@@sriku1000 That was a great video. Thank you for sharing.

[@Psych2go]

And it's completely understandable to have a difficult time trying to rebuild trust in someone. However, this experience taught you how to gauge who is trustworthy and who isn't, which is a crucial life skill --- it's a blessing in disguise!

[@sxblynxx6907]

Kindness is something you do out of your own free will . not forced or being told to . you do it at you own will never forget that.

[@satrickptar6265]

That's when I learned how to walk away from people. I hate rejecting people, so I always do my best to help everyone. But I do have my limits too. Thanks to them, I realized that saying "no" is not my lost, it's theirs.

[@sophrrrrrr]

I had a 'best friend' like this in elementary school. They had EVERY SINGLE ONE of these traits.

[@bombergame8636]

That must've been horrendous, feel for you

[@torinique]

god, i am so sorry. ppl like them suck

[@momagiraffe4989]

I’m in fifth grade, and one of my closest “friends” has all of these traits, and they were my crush. What a crushing experience I had.

[@sriku1000]

A great video on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@Mika-xs1sl]

I love your prfp :)

[@lapetus7695]

Childe: *fishing* Zhong li: YOU BROKE MY FENCE! Childe: *chuckles* I'm in danger

[@Ayako_Yae]

FINALLY SOMEONE NOTICED GHJJHJMJGJGJ

[@roonee7909]

THABK GOD I WASNT THE ONLY ONE WHO SAW

[@Ayako_Yae]

Zhongli: 𝙄 𝙒𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝙃𝘼𝙑𝙀 𝙊𝙍𝘿𝙀𝙍! ╲ 　 ╲ 　　　𒆙

[@drinasun6984]

From elementary school to high school, my classmates took advantage of my kindness. I became resentful for 22 years, but was too scared to do anything about it. So I gave them all my pens and pencils. I let them copy off my homework and exams. Then they coerced me into doing their homework, and buying things like lunch, snacks and electronics for them. I let them take things such as my lunch, my DS, and my phone. I had no idea how to say no. They took complete advantage of me. I felt so used. I said yes to everything they asked of me to the point where I slowly started to become resentful.

[@Alejandro-eq7xq]

Same, but only in elementary, now, i'm more closed socially and don't want to open myself emotionally. It's shitty, but eventually, it gets better.

[@kengored_alt]

Same, they also were the cause of my first mental breakdown, and after it i forgot what kindness is. Yet still, i see no kindness in myself.

[@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475]

I became resentful and then I would dress in all black and look all scary and then act all crazy and do bad things to scare people away from me.

[@drinasun6984]

@@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 I became resentful too. I also wore all black some days. Sometimes I wouldn't say a word to anyone. I would listen to music to cope.

[@drinasun6984]

@@arisyolaj1776 Stop self-promoting.

[@CudesniVuk]

i am in elementary school and i recognise all of these signs in my class. I am currently going to a psychotherapy and i am trying to speak up for myself for the first time. whoever read this Thank you

[@sam-qp4hy]

Protect and care for yourself first and foremost

[@TheScrabbleKing]

#5 and #6 were especially painful. I had a friend who used those like he’d been training his whole life for it. I spent the whole summer and change falling for it like a fool. It took me a solid five months to realize what happened to me.

[@maitreyeeasatkar9760]

I've faced all those traits mentioned, and glad to declare that I am still kind and helping to people and closed ones but with my own sense of wisdom. ❤

[@karim.finalblow4356]

Can't believe I had a friend who would always exploit my kindness in middle school just cause I was a nerd...

[@atarawoods7420]

my old friend did that to me- she was abusive and toxic and now I have a group of friends who respect me and my boundaries and who I am as a person; I am happy I got to find them; I felt like I would be alone forever because that old friend would push others away from me to the point I thought I would be lonely forever.

[@sriku1000]

A great video on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@ryanodyssey4957]

Can you make a video on issues or toxic things that aren’t actually malicious, and how to help them? I think it is an interesting topic that isnt touched on alot, things that if you just look at what they do, it looks like the friend doesnt care or is being toxic, but it is more of a nature than anything malicious looking deeper

[@minyoongi2662]

That would for sure be interesting

[@Psych2go]

Interesting topic! Stay tuned :)

[@poingucac]

Do you know what hurts? Realising you're losing your kindness because of the people around you. I used to be very postive and kind, but now i'm slowly losing it because of all of my toxic friends. Please help me become myself again...

[@miko7271]

I hope you will come back to your beautiful personality again may Allah swt help you 🥰

[@jusk8lp]

What's disturbing to me is how so many abusers are children. When I was a child, certain peers get attracted to me, and the kids that latched on to me and called themselves my best friend urged me to let them steal my pencils, let them depend on me for sheets of paper, copied my answers on tests, and would either physically assault me or emotionally manipulate me if I say no. I was too young to know better; I latched on to the first person that got attached to me, and it didn't occur to me that there are other people I could befriend. Besides, these "friends" would say awful things like: "Oh, I thought you were my best friend." That kind of manipulation had never even crossed my mind; how did these kids learn this by 7? The pencil thing bothers me the most. My "friend" would "borrow" my pencils and then claimed that they returned them but they didn't. I would be forced to ask my mother for new pencils, and she would get understandably angry that I'm wasting money for school supplies.

[@kenziekena3488]

Hi jusk8lp I totally understand where you come from and how I wish we could have been friends coz I freaking resonate with your story......I hope you are doing okay now....and sorry for what had happened to you ✨✨✨✨❣️❣️❣️❣️🌻

[@ladyt9000]

I just ended a friendship due to this behavior. The individual would not even speak to me when I tried to communicate, which is what I always emphasized with her. I watched her child months for free, ran errands for her, and listened to her tumultuous relationship drama…all I asked was communicate and be considerate. Multiple times she would leave her child and not follow through with the “pick up time” I’m not going to be helpful and you disrespect my free time and compassion. Even with them walking away..I was still kind but Al respect for them is done 💯

[@soumentalukder4750]

I’ve experienced many of the behaviors mentioned in this clip.. and often a toxic person will act offended if you stand up to them / stand up for yourself.. or they’ll talk as if you’re the one being unreasonable

[@notso_cody]

Fluttershy reference :D She is the pony i relate to the most

[@danielvakser9993]

Everyone in this reply space, clap, if you care.

[@happi1594]

@@danielvakser9993 👏

[@kirisummer]

@@danielvakser9993 :clap:

[@scifidino5022]

Fluttershy yay :3! 👏

[@moon.mp3148]

@@danielvakser9993 👏

[@CreativeMindIndustries]

These all hit it right on the head to protect yourself and remain in your power while being the kind person you are 👌

[@sriku1000]

A great video on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@dollarbambi]

can relate to all the signs and as I get older, the more I use my kindness with discernment and especially boundaries. it feels better and I feel less drained!

[@davidfalcon6550]

This channel literally uploads the exact thing I need to know at the moment

[@BlazingGreenFire]

I already considered this with one of my "friends" ages ago, I am sick of them, but this confirms it, every single sign is an exact description of what they do, thanks!

[@thebrotasticbro9465]

Cut them off

[@BlazingGreenFire]

@@thebrotasticbro9465 I try but they are forcefully following me and won't let me not interact with them and online they keep interacting with me through my online friends by like accusing me of doing something bad so I have to reply, and they haven't and won't block him, because like sign 2 I think says: he only targets me, not them

[@thebrotasticbro9465]

@@BlazingGreenFire they just want a reaction out of you. Try the greyrock method and don't respond to them online. If the friends won't believe u maybe they not really ur friends

[@BlazingGreenFire]

@@thebrotasticbro9465 my friends believe me, but he's nice to them so they don't wanna unfriend him. Also I haven't spoken to him online for like 2 weeks but he basically makes it impossible in school, I stay completely silent for like 3 days when he's around yet he's still at it

[@EvanBagwell]

Please keep a lookout on your loving friends who you fear are in an abusive relationship. My first serious relationship was an emotionally abusive one where I (a male) was the victim. It’s been 10 years and I’m still reeling from it by dealing with social anxiety and depression. It’s a valid form of abuse that needs to be talked about more.

[@paulanthonyvlogs728]

Always be willing to give kindness, but don’t let others put you down

[@drinasun6984]

Sometimes being kind-hearted gets to the point where you start to resent others. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your niceness and use your good nature against you. Don't say yes so often that others start to ask too much of you.

[@flyingfridgezzz7347]

I had a friend, and even though we’ve fallen out of touch because of all the drama in our friend group, I still think about and appreciate her every day. She wasn’t an angel, that’s for sure, but she was always much better at judgement I’m character than I was. Even though she was a bit pessimistic when she looked at other people-seeing the worst in them-while I was more optimistic-only seeing the good in them-she was still better than I was at knowing who was toxic. She was always there to warn me of people who she was afraid would take advantage of me-and a lot of times she was right. As I said before, she wasn’t perfect, but she cared and she showed it. Thank you Kenzie 💕

[@kayleetoms6591]

The only problem I have with this is that there are sooo many people out there who will try to say that it’s *my* fault I got taken advantage of. As in, I *allowed* it to happen by *allowing* myself to be a doormat. Sighhhh…

[@tinaradlowski2184]

It's never your fault it's the person who's abusing the kindness.

[@kayleetoms6591]

@@tinaradlowski2184 Thank you 😊

[@tinaradlowski2184]

@@kayleetoms6591 Your welcome

[@RaeLarz]

The barista at Dunkin this morning told me, "You're too nice." He meant it though, like not in a nice, friendly way. And I wasn't offended. Honestly, it reminded me that even when I feel like I'm being "mean" for setting boundaries (or just simply BEING)... I'm not at all. Sometimes my kindness can go a little too far in that MY needs aren't being met. I'm learning to take care of myself first FULLY so I'm able to be there for others.

[@UnicornDreamsPastelSkies]

This deep level of kindness empathy of mine has made me weaker, but its' enormous benefits are still totally worth it for all the love and genuineness it has brought me. ❤️ Listening to this made me gently cry.

[@crashqueenxx]

i used to know a girl like this. she gave off 3 of the 6. she wanted info on a guy i was close with (keep in mind i had NEVER spoken to her before any of this). i helped her because i thought she actually wanted to be friends, but she wanted me to give her EVERYTHING i had on him. then after they got together, she left me.

[@jonathanwilliams365]

Thats messed up

[@kengored_alt]

My kindness perished a long time ago, now i have only two states: neutral and agressive.

[@sam-qp4hy]

Aww.. don't let undeserving people change you, don't let them dim your light. The world needs nice and kind people like yourself xx

[@Quitmaker]

It's so hard to be kind when others don't want to consider your feelings 💔

[@zerologic6848]

“They can’t take advantage of kindness if there is no kindness” -Me, an idiot

[@omarmedina3893]

Those who seem heartless, once cared too much

[@KCALBWITHHS]

Kind persons is precious once you lost them you will never get them again

[@tinaradlowski2184]

You hit the nail on the head.

[@indridcold8433]

My kindness was most definitly used to the advantage of others. However, I have made that impossible for that to ever happen again. If I keep everyone away from me, nobody can ever take advantage of my once kind ways and social inexperience. There is no need to be social. However, there is a need to stay safe. Thus, I reacted accordingly. I keep others at a very well defined distance.

[@dreamtoonfamily]

Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 😍🍊🍅😘

[@moonflower1729]

I broke off from two people who used all these signs, and I figured it out a long time ago but never did anything about it til a few months ago. I’m a much happier person, but I suffer from a lot of doubt, depression, anxiety and guilt from it still. It would be great if there was a video on how to try to get back up from a relationship like the one in this video, because even tho i know what I probably should do, it always nice to hear it from you guys too

[@thornwolfsoul623]

I don't even need to watch the video to know that my kindness is used against me, 'cuz I know it always has been from everyone I've ever known... but I'll still watch the video anyway... After watching the video: Yeah, as I thought... every single thing mentioned has happened to me ever since I was a child.

[@Hannah-vw7vd]

this account makes me feel so much better. thank you

[@meowsama1]

that keanu meme where it says, "i want to live in a world where kindness isn't a weakness"

[@fifiak3135]

Using my kindness against me? Not on my watch. Actually there are few people who does this, but at least my true friends doesn't and i hope they won't. It's only fair - even if i'm an easy target, i won't be that manipulated easily! PS. Continue doing your amazing work. It is really helping me, especially in that teenager times.

[@Zasz799]

Being kind and gentle is a trait found often in people who have some sort of weakness in social relationship, and for them is easy to fall into the arm of a manipulative person! When you grow, when your "heart" is mature enough, you can be kind with strangers, but always at YOUR own conditions (example- I'll help you for something, and I don't ask back for nothing, but it's my choice to help you in a determinate thing. Do not cross boundaries or ask for more, I could change my mind and walk away). It's harder when those people are closer to you, suc friends, partners, relatives.

[@benztheprotogen3502]

Even if your kindness is being used, remember that they might not mean it and might just need a reminder to be more careful

[@tehnsib]

I know kind people and such are important, but there came a time where I really couldn't take it anymore and just snapped, I lashed out on people who tried to take advantage of my former goodwill, and even got into some fights, I began to decline mentally afterward but thats another topic for another day. It takes a lot for me to trust someone nowadays, but I'm still willing to help out even a complete stranger if they just arent feeling well. Because that's who I am at heart, I really do care for people, but my limits are really being pushed and my patience is running thin. I do all I can to comfort those around me, time to time, but the moment I sense they're being selfish or irrational or something, I don't have the patience for it anymore, and immediately get confrontational with them. People start to assume i'm "crazy" or "a menace" because of it. I try to shrug it off but it really takes a toll. I want to be good but it's really hard, I still tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, but I hold resentment for the people who once took advantage of my good nature, and they never repaid me in the slightest. And I'll never forget that. They didn't even remember I existed until school started again. But it's whatever. I just wanted to share what I had on my mind at the moment so yeah.

[@Manon-be2zl]

That's my sister's way of acting toward me in a nutshell...

[@Paigular]

Again, perfect timing. This exact thought crossed my mind about one minute prior to the notification. 💗💗💗

[@ryv0416]

Kind and generous people are always treated badly. But despite everything, despite the kindness and generosity that was never shown back to us... We still choose to be kind and generous to the world no matter how broken we are.

[@chraerit]

being abused or not helping people as much as i could is what i enjoy what matters isn't myself because i know my future isn't going to be bright but if i make somebody's day a little bit better i can feel happy because i know that i'm actually existing in this world

[@light_wolf]

Love MLP characters in the bg xD And thanks for the video! This is for educational purposes only, but still - I feel confident that nobody is using my kindness against me now :D

[@tapesone2]

Stop being kind. Be neutral. If they show you they won't play around with your feelings throughout time, then be nice to those people.

[@minsugagenious]

Ok...ty 😔😊🥺

[@tapesone2]

@@minsugagenious Protect your peace at all cost.

[@kengored_alt]

Finally, someone who also shares the idea of being neutral

[@minsugagenious]

@@tapesone2 ok..thank you sis/bro..u are helpfull 💜🥺 for a strange person like me

[@serpentmongrel]

Yes, and no. Be kind, but set your boundaries and take care of yourself. You never know who will be dying to see a friendly face, just don't don't let those who disrespect your boundaries take advantage of that.

[@leighannkst93]

I befriended a lady here last year at the same apartment complex. We had things in common, texted everyday, laughed even went out to eat sometimes and we split the costs when we went out to eat. we are the same size in clothes. We exchanged clothes and we did it free. What I wouldn't wear anymore I gave to her and vice versa. Then all of a sudden she asked for money from me to buy her clothes, I gave her $5 to $7 for shirts and pants off and on she said she needed the money. Then she said she started working a job $13 hr and said she was making good money then we would go out to eat on days she didn't work and one day we went to McDs for lunch and right at the counter before we ordered she claimed she didn't have any money hadn't gotten paid that I could buy her lunch so I did. Then she would call and text me if I could go buy her some groceries and cigarettes (I don't smoke) and just told her I can't and told her to go to soup kitchens even the food bank for food she hated that idea. Have not heard from her again that's been 6 months ago! Sad isn't it. We are almost 50 years old

[@mimic1610]

Psych, I just want to give thanks. I've been in a couple of relationships and other things at least a dozen times, and your videos keep me from entering a bad place. Thanks, and keep up the good content.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the kind comment. Thank you too for watching our content and using it to help you avoid bad situations. Please take care!

[@davidanthonyburton2253]

Thanks for the vid! 👍

[@the_hi_guy__6121]

Can you do something about seeing if someone you are interested in is worth it or if they are just faking their personality.

[@ref0rmstvars]

I recognized a lot of these signs. From past online “friends”. I’m glad they’re out of my life now though and I’ve got better friends because they messed up my mental health so badly…

[@sailorpluto9914]

I was in this situation. Years ago with a neighbor. I was the people pleaser and she was verbally abusive . So l got tired of it and left. Life is to short. 😌

[@BrentJohn]

The worst part of this is when it's done by family members to coerce you into "charity" or just "being nice".

[@oliverspiler9101]

0:35 Emotional abuse 1:26 Ignoring your boundaries 2:42 Wait how are we at 4?! Anyways Constant Judgement/Critism 3:23 Guilt-baiting 4:00 Victimhood

[@yachikai6997]

Smooth animation,thank you for this video.before i was a softie and yeah im kind,but now i have now anger issues,violent,and yeah they say im cruel.i chose violent everyday than kindness because i knew people would play me but i am kind to people i know and im close with unless they hurts me.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing. Also, glad you like the animation

[@angelikialexiou8951]

Yes, a person close to me practice all these behaviors upon me. I'm grateful that I have professional help and support. I have faith in me that I will find out how to deal with the situation in a healthy and respectful way. Thank you so much for this video! 🙏

[@Subkitter]

WHY ARE THERE BARLEY ANY VIEWS, COMMENTS, AND LIKES???

[@anxylla]

huh i got this video late

[@lilmarko6776]

Bruh wth I just got the video 😳

[@traceyminx2504]

Its just up i think

[@nicekittysara3560]

whatd happening to youtube

[@uwu-vn2kg]

@@nicekittysara3560 yt is drunk

[@escherichanja8522]

Kindness will never used against someone, because abusers and thiefs deny that their victims are kind. They prefer to see their reality as true as if a helpful person say take what you want it´s free. Toxic people prefer to think that the victim is responsible for his safety, no matter what. Otherwise it´s not the fault of the abuser if things go worst.

[@Someone-mk2oe]

Another great video! You dont know how much these helps! ❤️Thank you

[@businessisboomin7252]

This channel seriously needs to reach more ppl cuz just 1 video is enough to change someone's life by 180°

[@GAMEBEATER6000]

Childe: *Fishing in a prohibited area* Zhongli: *I WILL HAVE ORDER*

[@goreshit-lover]

What

[@QueenMuser]

@@goreshit-lover 1:38 the Genshin reference

[@ludovictrottier425]

Only be kind when it's a win-win scenario for you and the other person. Otherwise, just say no and don't listen to them.

[@irene_f.]

8 Kindness should be given to all. Once an individual takes advantage of my kindness, I adjust accordingly.

[@Icecreamfuckinglemon]

Your videos is making me feel better. Thanks for the content !

[@llxCreature]

No such thing as kindness being used against you just a such thing as jerks that like to destroy others, it's best to walk away no matter how upset.

[@voiceofcrime]

Nobody: Psych2go thumbnails: "I am looking into your soul".

[@VTKC]

A friend who I thought was a very good friend use to only appear everytime they needed me to do a favour. The result is I stopped being friends with them. One of the best decisions I made.

[@spudthing1168]

I can associate with many of those points. Especially being ignored until they need you then go back to ignoring you

[@blyp8856]

I just realized that literally 99% of my friendships are this way. Let's gooo I love being abused

[@ColemanTheShiningStar]

Then end them

[@blyp8856]

@@ColemanTheShiningStar I cant because then i wouldn't have any friends

[@nataliejohnson5972]

@@blyp8856having no friends is better than having abusive friends that dont treat you welll

[@HiImUnderYourBed]

Got all the sings... again. I’m tired of leaving myself for others. While I rise everyone, I’m pausing my life. And that’s for sure not good at all. It’s better to try to set boundaries until you succeed than never trying. *So keep trying!* ❤️👍

[@burra007]

And I’m stuck with a parasite of a brother I can’t get rid off. Good thing he’s leaving town by next year

[@HiImUnderYourBed]

@@burra007 I have a similar situation with my sister. Unfortunately she won’t leave now. Because she wants to make faculty here- Guess I’ll be stuck with her ‘till she leaves. *But I wish you luck with everything!* ❤️

[@DarknessXxMaster]

Had this friend a while back. She was kind hearted but set boundaries for herself at some point. I guess back when hugs weren't offensive she was like a "hug buddy" for me. I'd have days when I just needed a hug and there was nothing wrong with that. So, one day we were hanging out at lunch (this is back in middle school so waaaay back to like 2002, 2003--around there.) Every other day, she'd share her lunch with me when I didn't have anything to eat--which was wretching because I eventually got sick from it. Aside from that, she was always there for me. I just had no idea at the time if I was or not but now that I think about it today as I look back, I feel like I was taking advantage of her. I may not have known it then, but as I look back on those days I realize she just had a good heart. Well, she was my very first friend and it was comforting to feel like one's life holds meaningful value to another's life. Her existence is the reason why I'm so inherently nice to others. (Yeah, sorry about my profile pic. It's like 12 years old. I promise. I'm a pacifist. I dislike violence. But the rabbit was inspiration.)

[@LiquorSTARTStheBICKERING]

Ur story is so beautiful & She clearly had a good impact on u & I am sure she’ll be happy to know how positive and happy ur thoughts and vibes are .

[@gachahonk-kun2647]

Thank you! Also great vid!