7 Signs of Emotional Intelligence: Which of these do you possess?

[@Psych2go]

Happy Sunday everyone! Here's a video we did on emotional intelligence! Let us know what other videos you would like us to cover! Also, be sure to check out our other video on why intelligent people are less happy here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d3Okf42whMh6qK8

[@dukeyy3235]

Psych2Go I guess I'd like to see signs of PTSD

[@peepo9781]

Psych2Go did you go to art school?

[@peepo9781]

Dukeyy as would i

[@Psych2go]

We can do a video on PTSD. It's an important subject! @Steak, our team does. The founder went for psychology :)

[@Briesje91]

Psych2Go In a sense I agree with the video but what when someone has an high EQ but gets an mental disorder? I believe everyone can get problems/mental disorders even people with an high EQ which means that a few of those points will become impaired (not thinking negatively about yourself) despite the fact that someone has an high EQ right?

[@shahermyonez6647]

Okay I'll be that guy with the list 1) Can read non verbal communication 2) interested in others feeling and thoughts 3) your emotionally reailiant 4) You know where you need improvements 5) Aware of your own feelings 6) Avoid negetive self talk 7) you pursue success If you suck at EI you can improve Yes, You're welcome for this.

[@panicatthemars7619]

Eu A thank u so muchh

[@interstellard1987]

Goat

[@slxsarc.entertainment7906]

Thank you bruhhh.

[@lynnjohnson9727]

Thanks for saying it for me 😉

[@sameerakhan7455]

Thx!🙂

[@thereisnousernorname]

I can't believe I'm lacking in both departments.

[@anomicandlost46]

same...

[@pauldearey7631]

Oh No😂😂!! I was reading the comments and got so sad when I read this one!!😂😂😂😂

[@zenchiassassin283]

At least I have a better iq xD

[@KhalVici]

TheDangerWolf For me the fact that you know you lack some of them is already a form of Emotionally Intelligence cause you know it and you know you can be a better version of yourself in the future 😊

[@TheThirdSephira]

Awww cheer up!

[@nerdylettea2448]

I was a really motivated and a curious person when I was little but people just ruined it

[@rohanjarande]

I always get sad when i think back to how i use to be...

[@nerdylettea2448]

Rohan Jarande well sorry bud

[@srdast]

That's the first step Anney - recognizing you felt a different way at one point in time and that you no longer feel that way now. When I was in grade school I used to do theatre and singing and I loved it. But I got bullied by girls in junior high and they told me i'd be laughed at if I continued...so I stopped. I recognize that it was my decision to stop, the simple fact of the matter was that I was not strong enough at the time to stand up to my peers. And that's ok. But i am strong enough emotionally now to try again and not care what other people think. That is an AMAZING feeling. I went 20 years without singing. Two years ago, I joined a local chorus group with a colleague. I was super scared at first, but I feel my voice coming through again, and that young fearless creature I used to be is still there, she was just waiting for me to be ready to let her out again.

[@美美-f1w]

Anney Nerd Lovely ikr

[@nerdylettea2448]

srdast thanks for the motivation but it depends on my surroundings and my family keeps on saying "you're useless" "you're stupid" "u are not good enough" just so they can have whatever they want I know that's a bit over exaggerated but I was a hyperactive kid and they thought I had adhd

[@kh2war]

I don't like how some people are blaming the video, rather than noticing they also have faults.

[@booboo8460]

KHwar ikr! It's like hello projection! Don't blame the video for what you're lacking in life.

[@natashaprimus4235]

KHwar yess thank you.. was saying the same thing

[@danyagha5654]

KHwar I don’t like how you blame other people for blaming the video. You should notice your faults. Lol why am I even posting this, no one is going to read, and even if someone does, it will result to an argument.

[@thelux8539]

EQ makes us more human than IQ

[@theknight9292]

Eq+iq=success

[@strawberiv2501]

@@theknight9292 + anorexia = death

[@theknight9292]

@@strawberiv2501 eq+iq+anorexia=death? I do not see the equation

[@strawberiv2501]

@@theknight9292 well...i kinda have a big EQ and IQ and anorexia. that's why

[@Minptahhathor]

Facts

[@lilythegymnast9459]

However it's not allways too good for you to be emotionally intelligent... You tend to overthink and put other peoples needs in front of your owns.

[@shenruivah]

lilythegymnas t balance

[@milly0497]

wow true! thats me right there

[@PropertyVlogsUK]

Completely agree!

[@vigintiundecim1364]

lilythegymnas t True, it all has pros and cons. However it's never to late to learn from those experience. We can also try to cope with the fact that we tend to overanalyse by reminding ourselves that we are not our thoughts. :)

[@NikkiDocherty74]

lilythegymnas t , I believe many of us with high eq learn to balance that as we get order. We also learn to form boundaries.

[@Lisa-wz2de]

well i'm emotionally dumb

[@Kirronvibes]

Lisa Kromarck me too😐

[@HashbrownMashup]

I've got some interesting nuance on the matter. I have a lot of internalized guilt and anxiety from the past, and I'm completely unsuccessful socially and financially, but I'm really good at reading people, giving sympathy, having empathy, and tempering my emotions with philosophy and reason. It's really weird.

[@Lisa-wz2de]

I don't know you or your story but maybe it's because you learned to understand people and to give sympathy to get sympathy...or you are able to do/feel all this from right the beginning but things happened to you so now you are anxious and socially unsuccessful (it's just a little theory like I said i don't know you or your story) I myself am socially awkward and don't properly understand people and don't like many people but sometimes people trust me immediately or whith some people I have a pretty good non-verbal communication even tough I don't know them. I guess that's weird but maybe I was supposed to be a person who's able to deal with humans but because things happened most of the trust in humans is broken but theres still that ability thats always been there..... (again just a theory)

[@HashbrownMashup]

Well, I didn't say that I had destructive social issues or that I was bothered by that (again, strong temperament), I just have very little drive to build a large social network, and most of my old friends have moved a good distance away. I guess I have misanthropic tendencies too, but honestly there's a lot not to like about people these days. It's almost the opposite of your first theory though, my capacity for empathy comes from having dealt with a lot of BS in my childhood and late teens. My internalized guilt mostly has to with my upbringing under a very low-EQ narcissistic parent and having mental health problems in highschool due to stress, and my anxiety just affects how I act around groups of people, since I'm just normally dorky and awkward and I pick up on nonverbal cues really easily (especially of other people's discomfort). I dunno about being meant to be one way or the other but I think certain people are built by their surroundings to fulfill certain social roles, even though it can be grating when they aren't typical ones.

[@Lisa-wz2de]

In my opinion it's not necessarry to have a large social network or many friends; one needs just good friends. oh okay I'm sorry I got that wrong but I get what you talk about well of couse one is made what/who they are by what they experience and what happened to them and so on but I also think that when you are born certain traits of your personality and abilities are already there deep inside you because of genetics and stuff (it's possible that I'm totally wrong with what I say, it's just how I think it might be )

[@danjal87nl]

When someone asks you what you're thinking about - they typically don't want an honest answer. They're just using it to initiate smalltalk. Which you quickly discover if you honestly answer the question and they drift off or change topics.

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

In my opinion I think that EQ isn't it's own intelligence but part of different forms or types of intelligence such as inter-personal and intra-personal, maybe even a little bit of spatial because you also read others emotions through facial and body expressions. having a high EQ requires some good IQ as well because you have to be able to identify every emotion on the spectrum.

[@lloyddragon2036]

The Devils Grass true but I do think there is an element of it that is truly emotional; it's kind of hard to explain though

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

Lloyd Blueheart oh I'd agree, Emotions can be transformed into energy and transmitted to people as empaths experience on a daily. I also think that they also are a divided intelligence in their own way because they are connected with out spirits which are known in meta physics to be made up of antimatter, I believe that high order intelligence is best working when their is a healthy balance of EQ and IQ.

[@lloyddragon2036]

yes you're right; you're really smart

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

Thank you, everyone has there gifts and everyone can allow themselves to gain universal intuition and knowledge, it can be done if they bring more spiritual evolution to their lives, life is duality between the materialistic world and the anti matter spiritual realm. Bringing balance between the two is the best thing anyone can do for they're life, its very fulfilling... Buddha and Jesus had both talked about it in their teachings and people forget about it today. I hope me sharing this info helps your life improve as it greatly did to mine. Also I just realized how bad my spelling was in the first paragraph; I was on vyvanse at the beginning of the first release lol I sounded geeked.

[@ineigreyblade3284]

xc v Or unless you are a psychopath or have autism or any disorder that disrupts such EI functions LOL.

[@angel_soup]

psst hey yes, you i have a idea/request for the next video. Signs that your friend does NOT want to be in a relationship with you ty for your time

[@angel_soup]

OH MY GOD I HAVE LIKES

[@tree...]

I need it too :)

[@angel_soup]

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[@marialampilahti5575]

I Am Bread ooh yess!

[@redemption3830]

😅😅good one

[@flyinganvil1067]

I have been hurt many times, which is probably the reason why I'm 'emotionally inteligent'. I care so others don't get hurt the way I was, and also I'm not letting anything to pull me down. So basically, being an optimist makes you emotionally inteligent? 😕

[@TheHandyfon]

Yes it does.

[@weraasher8018]

flyinganvil i am same with you. I try to guild people while they're passing by the paths I've passed.

[@NikkiDocherty74]

flyinganvil , emotional intelligence is a personality trait, part of one's make up, not a learned behavior, but it can be honed sharper. Intuitives and empaths do this naturally.

[@valeriew4833]

I believe being mindful of these things is emotional intelligence. just awareness

[@TheThirdSephira]

Eyyy me too

[@AimaruVee]

I have a somewhat high emotional quotient, basically because I can understand other peoples feelings, I always tend to have concern, I get really empathetic or sympathetic, I can tell what a person really feels, and I have a really strong emotional connection with my bf (whatever his current emotion, that's also my current emotion) even from a far distance, I can tell his actual emotions. But.. There are some qualities of high EQ that doesn't match to me (like not putting yourself down, always seeing the positivity in life and such). Basically because I am suffering from anxiety and I tend to think that I'm a horrible person a lot and care too much about other peoples opinions. It just makes my head hurt and sometimes it can drain me badly

[@BananaBug]

well I think alot of the times trying to think positivly can really be an unhelpful thing? because of corse, all the time were constantly going to have negative thoughts about all kinds of things including ourselves, and you cant help that because belive it or not, your not really in controll of your thoughts? after all? can you tell what your next thought is going to be?? or dose it just come? and you cant have good, with out bad, you cant think hey this cake is delicious, withought a referance of other cakes witch were all yucky, and in the same way, if being positive and confidant is good, then being negative and harsh is bad. and so anytime you think negativly about yourself, youll think about how you should be positive and what your doing is bad, witch *of corse* only creates *more sufforing!!!* XD Ps ima really tired now soo Im going to bed now but if you want me to I can finish what I was saying tomorow or answer any questions you may have but bie for now ^^

[@Vizible21]

♥CutiePachiMelody♥ i can relate.. i have anxiety too... i always have been interested in other peoples feelings so i can make them happy because i know how it feels to be in pain but sadly i cant do that for myself... i know happiness comes inside each and everyone of us but i just cant seem to find it. I always need someone to do that for me...

[@AimaruVee]

gfglastnight i'm sure there'll be the right person that'll come into your life someday ^^ I also love making people happy, it just gives me the energy and strength, it just feels so good that you did something emotionally helpful to a certain person. But sometimes when that certain person that you tried to emotionally help is now in a depressed or negative state, that's where I tend to blame myself alot and I get so mad at myself for not able to make them happy like before. It drains me a lot. Don't worry, just wait for the right time to come where someone is going to cheer you up

[@Vizible21]

♥CutiePachiMelody♥ haha.. thanks.. just glad to know there are people who feels the same way i do... 💜💜💜💜...

[@lloyddragon2036]

♥CutiePachiMelody♥ im exactly the same

[@goodthingsarecoming3349]

Ten years ago I was lacking in EQ, i knew because I took a test. Good thing is it did grow over the years. Now I got better at empathy and understanding people, but sometime still lacking anger control. Thanks psych2go, I got better at understanding myself #infp

[@CitronnelleCiphy]

As someone who only like a decade ago would probably score near 0 in this checklist, I can confirm EQ can be developed. I'd like to think I'd score at least 5 full points and 2 half-way by today, although there is still quite some room for improvement. I guess my base score wasn't that high. Being exposed to different environments, people and ideas has really changed me enough though to almost completely make up for it, paired with the attitude and determination to improve that came with it. EQ is such an important quality, paired with a decent IQ it can work wonders. Can also confirm from personal experience that IQ alone really doesn't cut it in the way to success. EI is something that should be taught to every person ever as much as possible, for their own personal success and also to make the world a better place in general. I wish I knew how to.

[@leahcimmmm]

Smart people tend to be realistic and not much optimistic.

[@shenruivah]

Leahcim Oyatse stupid people are often happier and with a little hard work and up somewhere decent.

[@angelgray701]

Leahcim Oyatse Smart people know how to be both ;)

[@NikkiDocherty74]

Leahcim Oyatse True. And we are often called "negative" by emotional abusers and manipulators, particularly when we have become survivors and developed boundaries they can no longer cross. They become infuriated and call us "negative", "crazy", "trouble", when all we are doing is blocking their abuse and finally speaking up in honesty.

[@saverio_6990]

I used to be realistic.Not anymore."What is the point of being realistic when you can be optimistic?"(Cit. Will Smith)

[@enfpflower5751]

Anonymous Idiot you must be happy all the time then

[@cousinit9718]

Emotional intelligence is tough as a person with autism I strive harder and harder to try and understand people, but it takes so much energy that I literally run out of ideas to express how I feel . I run out of questions on how others feel as well not because I don't care but because I am exhausted. For most of my life I preferred just intelligence in math and science but as I went forward I broke because I was doing well but felt empty inside .

[@Minkfang]

I have 0 balence in my life, I cant relate to most of these at all. I try to get my shit together but depression doesnt allow it

[@BananaBug]

XD I dont think trying to "get your shit togeather" is ever going to help ya there chum. there is a reason your deppresed, just like everything. and when for example some computer program your using is glitching up or not doing as you want, do you tell it to get its shit togeather??? do you simply force it to do what you want? no, you work out what the sorce of the issue is and wait that probabally wasnt the best analogy??? no matter XD all im saying is maby give yourself a bit of sympathy, and realise that at the end of the day theres really nothing wrong with sadness and greith and ultimatally theres a perfectally reasonable reason your this way but that dosent mean you need to shift your blame to some other thing because theres a reason its like that too and really theres nothing wrong with anything i had other points but alas I have forgotten them?? because im tired??? XD soo-a goodnight!

[@jakakorn]

I don't think you understand how depression works mate...

[@dishwasherdetergent6144]

Bannana Train! :DDD I agree, that's not how Depression works. And, dude, please work on your grammar, that shit gave me depression.

[@lloyddragon2036]

Alyssa Black recognizing that you can improve is the first step to healing. if you work at improving your EQ, which you can, your mental health may also start to improve. that doesn't mean that you shouldn't get other help, but its a good first step so don't feel bad

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

The opposite to depression is gratitude it will numb it off for a little while, watch the video on this channel about it...

[@tigerx36]

I guess my EQ is okay. I'll give how I feel about each of these. Coming from someone who hardly shows emotions, this was good to watch. #1. Sometimes I know how people feel, but it can also be hard to tell. #2. It really seems other people are interested in what I'm thinking. Maybe it's my mysterious vibe. #3. Emotional and mental resilience are why I'm confident the way I am. #4. I always know where to improve. I mess up royally, and a lot, but I just pick myself up. No big deal. #5. I'm aware of how I feel, especially when angry or anxious. #6. I still struggle with negative self doubt. A while ago, I was certain people only settled for me when I knew they could find someone better. Even keeping up with the grind sometimes infuriates me when I feel like my best just isn't enough. #7. Despite all my negative thoughts and emotions, I still want better, not just meaningless manual labor. I know what I'm good at and won't settle myself despite those that may have settled for me.

[@TimeandMonotony]

Hmm... Not sure where I would place here. There are some areas in which I'm emotionally intelligent, and some in which I'm emotionally moronic. Like, I'm pretty good at identifying feelings, in both myself and others, and am emotionally pretty resilient, but I engage in negative thoughts about myself all the time, have very little empathy or sympathy, and could not care less what other people are thinking or feeling. I also know the areas in which I need improvement, but do nothing to actually improve.

[@orf2072]

I'm the same way and my only conclusion is that depression ruins a part of it even though I'm not diagnosed

[@TimeandMonotony]

@@orf2072 Yeah, I have depression, too, that's probably a big part of it. Have you considered going to a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis? They might be able to help you if they make it official.

[@orf2072]

@@TimeandMonotony I have parents and I asked them and they keep forgetting so

[@TimeandMonotony]

@@orf2072 I'm sorry to hear that.

[@natalia5189]

When you realize you have 0 E.I.

[@Psych2go]

HAHA. Been there. :)

[@mv1991]

How does that make you feel? Don't answer. I don't care.

[@thedarklrd6714]

Matthieu Vonlanthen then why did you ask?

[@mv1991]

Kiss me.

[@madarthivanki]

Matthieu Vonlanthen why?

[@0_nerd_077]

I've finally found why I'm the mom of all my friends.

[@wwuunngg]

Cook me some good food, mom.

[@listenup2882]

What happened to their dad?

[@emilyandrews9857]

1. You can read nonverbal communication: While I may not be able to read minds, I can tell what people are feeling based on facial appearance. 2. You are interested in other people and their feelings/thoughts: One time, a friend of mine was checking one her phone. When I asked her about it, she said she was "checking on her phone" and took her word for it until her mother came by and asked what happened. I, then, found out that she was sad, because her boyfriend was unable to make her high school graduation party, so I comforted her. 3. You are emotionally resilient: Sounds like me, because I get bad grades a lot and that never puts me in a bad mood. 4. You know where you need improvement: Can I get an example, please? 5. You are aware of your own feelings: Makes sense since I know what makes me happy and when I come down with an illness. 6. You avoid negative self-talk: I don't necessarily put myself down, although sometimes I feel like I do whenever someone puts me down. 7. You pursue success: I work hard, despite the shortcomings.

[@nicoleandrews4967]

It's 2 am here. What are you guys doing?

[@opaque2331]

Nicole Andrews Breathing

[@HashbrownMashup]

Eating instant udon. West coast = best coast

[@opaque2331]

HashbrownMashup fite me

[@user-ws2zq8rq2o]

3 pm wasting my life

[@opaque2331]

HashbrownMashup *O o f*

[@user-bf4eq2fc8h]

oh man this explained why i was more mentally stable than my friends when college entrance tests came around (#6) AND how much i wondered why people couldn't take a hint on other people's emotions from their reactions/gestures alone (#1).

[@vampireprincess7934]

I tought i would be bad at being emotionally intelligent, but based on this video i've learned to be kinda good at emotional intelligence.

[@kanaishkgarg]

Made me realise I was even more of a emotional idiot than I thought

[@ICONIQPsychology]

EQ is so important! Yes, it can be shaped by your attitude but above all it's a skills that needs to be learned if you want to have a better quality of life. We need to take this one step further and make EQ a part of education for all children.

[@elerteeffi60]

I am a fucking genius.

[@elerteeffi60]

You're so funny. I almost smiled.

[@cryptidcloud]

Fucking. Epic!!!!

[@stupiditystarbucks7771]

Ah man. Wish I could say the same.

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

A real genius would know not to tell anyone they are a genius because that reveals intentions and an inter-personal preview of yourself to other people making you somewhat predictable in life scenarios and situations.

[@elerteeffi60]

The Devils Grass I know that, drink a hot tea, calm you down. We are in Internet and Internet isn't serious at all.

[@therezarachel]

can my mental illness possibly disrupt my emotional intelligence?

[@codyhodges1590]

Hell yes

[@angelinaarnes206]

I can relate to 3 and up, mainly because I want to succeed in "happiness" after my depressive episode and try to avoid it from getting worse.

[@redcrossman9014]

What if I can do all these things but I still want to die...

[@IbarraAlejandro]

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[@nicolamassarini8413]

Stella B well that’s stupid the only thing you have is life remember that

[@PGOuma]

@@nicolamassarini8413 and life is stupid

[@redcrossman9014]

@Ipsita Chatteejee Damn this made me feel even worse, thanks

[@jackshadow1234]

i got all 7 so i have a lot of emotional intelligence....but i have depression so I know when i feel horrible but i can't stop the feeling because i try to stop it but then my family yelling at me for no reason keeps that feeling of sadness with me, and then its harder to fix myself.

[@sophiek7872]

I already knew I was Emotional Inteligent before I watched this video. I thought everyone thought trough things before I met my best friend haha. She never understood or think that something is wrong or people hurt. I asked another person that I thought was more Inteligent but she wasn't. That way I learned that if you don't have any or wery few of this strategies then your not a person I want to chear my feelings with bcz I always test a person with many few steps without them knowing to check if they can "receive" or talk about a subject that contains like a heavy feeling or thoughts. If They don't "pass" if I can say so then then your not able to give me the comfort I need and I will neither not talk about my meanings/ feelings then talk about it and that person is not able to "take it". They love talking to me about theyr feelings or even cry if they have to but they change the subject at once or say just ok.. when I start talking about my feelings. And I dont mind, I love listening to them and even tho they cant listen to me then it's not like they'r a bad person. They have other sides with them that is just fine too that I need with a friend for example that they have humour. Learning who I can talk with and not is a social training for me. I always pushed my feelings on others but after I learned that some people cant handle it then I learned to stop feeling sorry for myself. Ofc I feel sorry for myself from time to time but I dont blame it on my pasts or people so I can have a excuse for my actions. If your read trough this then congrats!

[@nothing.6342]

I think i'm Emotionally destroyed

[@anonymously8711]

I know this is gonna seem shallow, and I know this was three years ago, but I hope you’re doing better❤️

[@nothing.6342]

Gwyneth Dote Thanks but I’m still Emotionally destroyed

[@emmaletourneau4924]

See I love that they approached the subject but I'm kinda getting weird vibes from the video. Its like they are saying that if you are a person who tends to be more on the negative side, you're emotionally dumb, wich is in my opinion 0% true. Let me explain: if you set goals too high, you will be disappointed and you know it, but you still set them...how is that intelligent? Also, "over happiness" can't be intelligent because if you always focus on the good of things, you won't be motivated in any way to improve the bad that needs to be improved, because you will completely forget about it. See my emotional intelligence is weird, and I'm sure some can relate. I am extremely great at finding solutions for others and myself and can be extremely positive with someone when I feel that they need it, but never will I force myself or someone to get out of a negative emotion in the hopes that it will disappear. This would be lying to myself or the other person (depending on the encounter) wich in my opinion is the opposite of emotional intelligence. Any thoughts?

[@babyshark4555]

Just some clarification on my personal opinion... 1) If one tends to stay on the negative side of life, it is emotionally unhealthy, NOT emotionally dumb. (This video is in no way an insult to realists, anyone, etc.) According to surveys/researches, dwelling on negativity is really bad for one's health, and that optimistic people have longer life span than the pessimistic (meaning, those who stay on the negative side) ones. 2) Setting your goals is a completely normal and good thing to do, for these goals motivate us and serve as reminders on our purpose of having the said goals. However, setting them at a height we know we CANNOT accomplish is utter foolishness/ignorance. That is why one should know oneself (ie. his strengths, weakness, AND ofc one's limitations). Hence, knowing oneself is a sign of emotional intelligence. 3) I'm not sure about the term "over happiness". If this is your way of saying, 'Focusing on our good points while completely ignoring our flaws', then it is indeed bad. Period. However, there's also "Optimism" which is staying positive on the face of tragedy (or in the video's example: still looking forward for a better tomorrow even if one lost his job or loved one). If you dwell on these tragedies far too long, again, it's not healthy for the body. While I do understand your view on looking at our mistakes as a means of improvement, it is also healthy to realize our good points (not just the bad ones) and move one and improve from thereon (at least, for certain people). Denying one's good points and constantly pulling onself down is a sign of low self-esteem, depression or other traumatic stress that are plaguing us (which is bad). This is coming from someone who, ironically, is shy and has 'fluctuating' self-esteem. I still belittle myself to this day but at least a little less than before. I know my flaws, I know some of my strengths and I accept that I know not everything about myself. That's okay, and I mve on from there. Really, I'm one big juxtaposition, and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who feel like this.

[@emmaletourneau4924]

khurhmenn mkshknaty Thanks for sharing your opinion its really cool 😊 You have very good points there, I mean they are all very logical. I guess what I was trying to say is that everything is about balance in a way and to a certain point. Being too optimistic when it's unrealistic (like extremely optimistic in a situation that 100% can't turn good) can't be good because the negative emotions comming from the situation turning bad will impact the person at least twice has bad if they had too high hopes. However if we reverse it, being extremely pessimistic in a situation that has actually a good amount of chances to end up positively isn't good either. Because yes you will have positive vibes that can fill you of joy at the end, but before that, you did fill your body with non-good vibes, for pretty much nothing. So yeah everything is about finding a midle point. This is the logical side of it all. However personally, has fucked up has it may sound, I enjoy negative emotions, like happiness kindof disappoints me hahaha. So I'm negative but it doesn't bother me because I get the sadness I like from it. However I'm well aware of the things I would need to change if I actually wanted to be a more "healthy" being. Anyways thanks again!

[@cynthieful]

I kinda agree with you talking about the balance, but I also feel like you might have a bit of a wrong idea of how optimism works. I'm very optimistic so when something bad happens to me, I still think that okay but I learned a lot from it. When I dream of becoming very successful, I do it just for fun even if I realize that it's not necessarily realistic. And when it doesn't come true, I as an optimistic person am still content with the outcome, thinking either that what I got is good enough or that it wasn't meant to be and I'll success somewhere else in life. So the idea behind optimism is to always focus on the positive even if you can see also the negative

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[@missmonke8706]

1) Definitely not. 2) Yep. 3) I'd say I'm emotionally hardened, but not resilient. 4) Yeah. 5) No. 6) It isn't uncommon for me to bombard myself with self hatred, so.... no. 7) I don't really have any goals or aspirations, but certainly take measures to achieve.

[@legion4698]

Code 0 aren’t we all emotionally hardened. I think that this makes me hardened is seeing gore at a young age and then my family’s situation it’s not the best and it locks you up. That’s bad I know that but it’s also beneficial to when someone dies you’re not sad

[@tisdalelucas924]

1.) Defintely! I can ready people and their body language like a book 2.) Yes, I love people and am probably too concerned with others well being 3.)Yes. I know how to keep my emotions in check...No matter what! 4.)Defintely. I am extremely self-critical and analytical. 5.) Yes again. Feeds off of 4. Being self aware is too important 6.) Yes of course! I never think and dwell on negativity....my mindset is, for what?! 7.) Yes!! I'm very goal orientated and I always seek success, even on a daily basis! WOW....never realized how emotionally intelligent I was until today; let alone that our EQ can be quantified. Hell let alone that there was a such thing as "EQ" specifically hahaha

[@saliha_g2975]

I'm definitely self conscience but there's so much epiphany I gained from this video alone! Emotional intelligence is a growing game💪

[@SpectreAirsoft123]

The key to defeating self conscience and anxiety is to just not believe the thoughts crossing your mind when you feel that way, just let them flow and endure them objectively. Society makes us judge ourselves between good or bad subconsciously but good and bad are artificial morals, just accept yourself the way you are and life will accept you too its like a mirror mirror psychological reflection game with the outside world and your interior thoughts.

[@booboo8460]

Såłł _G gosh. So nice to see someone hopeful in the comment section. Thank you for realizing you can improve and learn most of the things they say in the vid.

[@joanniefischer8108]

Emotional intelligence plays such a significant role in relationships and empathy, but even if you aren't skilled in EQ, that doesn't mean you're heartless or hopeless. As with most things, with practice, you can improve.

[@Strawberrysunset23]

Yea "I was hurt by that". I would use lots of those statements & my ex would call me selfish for that. Saying I only cared for my own feelings when I didn't want to use "YOU" statements cus I didn't want it to sound like blame. SMFH

[@squeezeliz]

Just sounds abusive in my opinion.

[@legion4698]

Strawberrysunset23 say more “yeah, That is really hard to take” or “what you said that there hurts me, I get what you’re trying to say but it still has an impact” try to use less me’s and i’s you can cuz that does sound selfish like my narc mother

[@Shinom4ever]

1- Doing it since I have 7. 2- I go it too. I even feel bad when I found someone who is sad on the street, wanting to tell them something or just hear them. 3- Yes and not. I know that I'm so strong, but with the things, I dealt and I deal are far away for any human to endure it alone, and I choose that way of life because someone has to do it. Self-hating is a symptom of an illness not for lack of intelligence. 4- True, but that doesn't think that I will do it. Sometimes "success" isn't something successful. 5- Yes and not. Life doesn't have a solution, and some feelings can't be cured, the way feelings were treated here was... unrealistic and idealistic. 6- I totally don't do that, but that's because I have depression. And this way of thinking is not something that has to be a part of someone with a huge EQ, it is a decision between you and the others, and there is no right answer to that question... 7- I think everyone has this. But we are talking more of an "American traditional success person" more than a high EQ person. Accomplishing more goals that are present in our daily actions is another success that doesn't need to go one step after the other. I know that this was put that way in order to have more importance to the EQ that it has today, but it was kind of bias... EQ does not relate directly and only in success.

[@meteora6972]

I've got social anxiety ,so I have to be smart and study hard so people will respect me!!!! I only got 1 month to study until my exam

[@gugutenberg]

Charlie Rex Relatable, good luck!

[@sacredyveltal4688]

Charlie Rex Good luck! I know that feel!

[@sharonfung341]

💪💪

[@obilim2155]

Thats why i try to do well on exams too lol. Good luck !

[@vishalpachpande5921]

so.....are you studying to get respect !!!

[@dragonusmolamola4140]

1. I'm on the internet so I can't answer that 2. Yes 3. Sometimes I am very resilient, some occasions I am the opposite. Sometimes in the middle. 4. I was never the type to be narcissistic, yes. 5. I know what caused and what I am feeling but I'm not entirely sure on how to deal with it. 6. I don't really think highly of myself at all but I don't insult myself. 7. I dream a lot sometimes I'm not sure on the dreams though like art but I'm practicing piano and I have a good teacher so maybe someday in the future I can play my favorite songs or even become a musician.

[@booboo8460]

I used to be such a mess... After I learned some basic emotional intelligence, I can now make sense of WHY I'm such a mess and what to do about it. It takes humility and, let's face it, a break down or two before you see actual results. To anyone striving for greatness, don't give up. I can assure you everything will make sense eventually. Keep patient, and be persistent. Where there's a will there's a way.

[@spacemonkeydoom6116]

i've a low level of Eq but i'm smart enough to not blame others for my failure so i blame myself, self if i'm not in control of everything

[@AceFuzzLord]

6. It makes me feel better about myself to put myself down. Helps me keep sane and happy about life.

[@rolinevictor6755]

" I was hurt by that" Who say things like that ?

[@jewelsschonegevel9437]

Roline Victor I do😀

[@alextrebek8293]

most women

[@charlesbannon6909]

I only ever came across self centered people who do, possibly even as far as narcisists

[@autumnleighves]

I normally don't even attribute a person to it. I just say, "hey, that was hurtful."

[@kermorin715]

I just say "ouch/ that hurt."

[@jinnaikousaka963]

I think that by saying "I was hurt by that", one leaves him/herself powerless to what anyone says or does to him/her. A true seeker of emotional freedom would intensely inquire within to find out why he or she is unconsciously generating a hurtful internal reaction in response to what happens on the outside, including what another person says or does to him/her. Once he/she realizes that internal response can be chosen, then he or she can courageously face a myriad of things that happen in the outside world and even turn those happenings into exercises to gain more emotional freedom.

[@dmitrigeorge8523]

Psych2Go I typically belittle myself a lot. Like, an extreme amount. Not because I'm being dramatic or anything, but it's the absolute truth. I don't see any good qualities in me, I don't have anything to be confident in. I know how to better myself. I want to. I just don't do it because I'm just a lazy fuck

[@wdavidjt553]

Dmitri George ...then you, observably, do not want to.

[@Jess-nz7be]

Hm if u want to but dont do its because your i dont want to side wins, you don't want to because you don't think its worth it

[@Bobelponge123]

Everyone has their own unique talents, but if you do not believe in yourself you starve your own success

[@docfabz]

Guy Fieri!

[@troy02627]

emotionally, i know i’m very smart but i also don’t relate to many of these reasons due to my depression and anxiety. i constantly put myself down and i don’t know how to reach success, but i know how to help other people and i want to understand my friends more than i already do, and they depend on me a lot for emotional help. i just need to learn to practice what i preach

[@amelia1004]

I think this channel is awesome! I considered myself to be sort of emotionally intelligent

[@Psych2go]

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed! :)

[@legion4698]

As soon as the list started I was amazed on how that makes someone high eq, as someone with it, it doesn’t make anyone special and i think people can learn it all, as the start “posture facial expressions arms mouth look” can tell their mood. This was something I’ve known forever and no one else seems to get it, just flies over them

[@mrtannzr]

(4:14) little editing mistake. You repeated, "you set goals..."

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! We will note that for future editing!

[@jeslynn1144]

This is a very huge asset to possess. In a lead role, it's definitely an important trait to have. When you learn what motivates others, you get positive results, utilizing their talents fully. Ultimately building a good team that WANTS to work. I'd say If you have one of these, then your off to a good start. More often people have none. Completely self centered and self motives. I.E. ..I'm aware of my wrong doings..and take accountability ( sometimes TOO much). But bad I'll " belittle" myself in the process. It's a routine I know needs breaking. With age it gets easier though. Also good listening. There's the ones that just don't want to... and don't care, they just NEED to be heard always over anyone else, or me. Better... but sometimes just get excited and jump in. I'll recognize it though after immediately doing it. Then correct it. Paraphrase what I thought I heard till I feel I'm not an asshole lol In my 20s? Not so much. 30s closer... maybe by 90 pure I.E.

[@QuentinDamour]

You Should consider investing in a better microphone. Great video !

[@QuentinDamour]

Dishwasher Detergent my sound system is fine thanks. However you should check your ears cause it's clearly recorded with a shitty microphone and this channel deserve better in my humble opinion. Peace

[@GaussTheory]

I'd side with Shaun Tea over a bottle of detergent resorting to insults to get a point across.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for feedback Shaun! :)

[@sartistikleader]

This video made me realise I am making progress and moving in a direction that I am proud of.

[@Strawberrysunset23]

I possess 100% of what was mentioned lol. But I'm an emotional wreck, I care too much hehe

[@hypercyclone1252]

Being a emotion reck is one of the most debilitating and painful things to happen in life. Your safe here, you can let your stress out

[@MonkeyMan01]

1. I think so... 2. Absolutely! 3. Surprisingly accurate! 4. Kind of... 5. Definitely! 6. This happens all the time! 7. I have a dream, but don't really have goals. Hoping to find that out in college (I'm 16 doing dual credit)

[@lilly1928374650]

What about someone who suffers from depression? Would it be any different?

[@igotaglockinmysock]

Louise Leech Yes! One thing they failed to dwell on more is it is extremely easy for someone with emotional intelligence to develop depression if they were not raised on how to cope/utilize it. (As a person with an extremely high eq) I tend to immediately sense how one is feeling and automatically feel like it’s your job to fix it. People tend to manipulate this and think it’s your job to make them happy at all times, and when you try and stand up for yourself or grow these people try and push it away, which can cause extreme depression. You feel like everything is your fault, etc. In summary, yes!! Haha

[@legion4698]

Melah Nakai holy shit, I never thought of that, I always felt too that it’s my job to make people happy. Though the not doing it doesn’t give me depression, I just get it from over thinking as well as my situation in life but I try to think it not bad and try to help other people. I often think I’m a servant to people just for joy, a joy dispenser that is very limited.

[@sydneytidwell5970]

3. Emotionally resilient... Bad things happen in life like losing a job or a loved one leaving you... I was just like crap, must be nice for those things to be the really bad things in life. Seemed a bit trivial at first, but upon reflection I probably just lived a pretty sad life compared to my fellow peers and it must be nice to have that be the worst thing happen to you as compared to something like being abused or your family falling apart.

[@meeca1671]

I got all 7 signs😆😆😆 I love this!💕

[@hannahjoy222]

Ivee origamee saaamee😅

[@farizanroslan]

I get the points and I agree. But I would like to point out, emotions are volatile unlike our intellect which matures over time. EQ can be arguably be better over our age(experiences in life, post traumas,etc.) so, in my opinion we need a both IQ and EQ to lead fulfilling lives. You need to be able to figure out you have attitude problem that's holding you back while having the sensitivity in emotions(spiritual qualities) to manage and actually make your attitude/personality/character better. My favourite analogy would be, imagine a person, person A who is highly intelligent but he's apathetic towards himself and others, resulting person A being hated by everyone and fails in recognizing that he needs a change(his intelligence made him an arrogant person, too arrogant to note he needs an attitude change). Then imagine person B that so sensitive to emotions and relationships but he can't analyse his shortcomings(to be successful, beating out competitions) due to everyone being nice to him and happy around him (his control over emotions with lack of analytical thinking made him grow complacent and ignorant of his situation). So I suggest we have balance between IQ and EQ, with a heavy emphasize on EQ. You don't have to be the smartest guy around but it does pay off to be the nicest guy around(and be fool proof, avoiding being taken advantage of). Personality and good character always win and pays off in a long run. just my 2 cents.

[@nanafa370]

Well, I always feel guilty after being a jerk but I always forget that in the future. I have guilt but I never listen to that guilt. So let's say I'm emotionally unintelligent.

[@nanafa370]

But I'm not conceited. I have no resilience but I realise that I flew off the handle. Also I dream big. But I just don't remember it. I want to be emotionally intelligent but I just feel like I get lost in the heat of the moment and never remember my lectures on controlling anger and putting myself in someone else's shoes.

[@ehwa6780]

NANAFA 3 just sounds like you have bad memory but good EI (edit: Sorry, I just read the date, Im a bit late)

[@maxtomchris]

Interesting~ I'd like to share my opinions. Firstly, at the start I felt put off by the "You hurt my feelings" and "I was hurt by that" But, it's the idea of how you process it and the image that it represents, one may say "You hurt my feelings" but still otherwise act like it was their feelings to blame. I'm honestly trapped online so I lack understanding of non-verbal gestures, or at least, I lack experience. I do take interest in other people, and I do worry a lot about others before myself. Emotional resilience, I'm unsure, but I would say that I have strong, or at least adequate resilience, and even when I felt like I died I could still get up and go on through my day. Knowing where to improve is honestly a hard thing for me, as the areas of improvement that I keep encountering are contradictory, a "Be myself" or "Be abused" scenario, where I always end up between those two, but in a way that kindof works.. I am aware of my own feelings, before I would say I'm not, but I am understanding of when I feel down, up, etc. Negative talk has never been a thing with me. And finally... I pursue everything, I feel like I fail in this category~ but solely because I choose to seek out every possibility, every knowledge, etc. I push it too far~ And honestly, why did I just type this like it was school homework? pfffff~ ohwell~ post!

[@ontpoftheworld3806]

Actually I can read really well others emotions and helping them, I listen and give them advices but I'm struggling with sharing my feelings, like I have trouble talking about something that hurted me or if I'm sad. I actually know how I feel, but I just can't find a way to feel better. So I guess I've got a low EQ 😂

[@foreverdmsrus3589]

I'm extremely emotionally intelligent when my mental disorders (which includes depression, anxiety, etc) aren't acting up.

[@iclaimthisname9767]

I've watched about 4 of these video's so far: 1. Are you an introvert? Conclusion: Yep I am 2. Are you an empath? Conclusion: Yep I am 3. Do you have social anxiety? Conclusion: Yep I do 4. Are you emotionally intelligent? Conclusion: NOPE!

[@drinasun6984]

I'm aware of my emotions, and know what I need improvement on. I also pursue success.

[@petrapredovan473]

I'm pretty sure I'm emotionally dumb. Tho I do think that it's like that partialy because I stopped giving a fuck. I have met so many people who overreact over everything that emotions became annoying. I'm talking about the people who cry when they get a C or say that they are depressed because they were sad one day. Drama queens. People use me to let out their emotions because I'm patient and a good listener, but in reality it's annoying and I don't know how to comfort people. I envy people who understand others... Also, I'm a realist. Half of the things in the video sound like they were said by an unoriginal beauty vlogger.

[@wanderingshiren1325]

I always feel like I have a good understanding of others and I'm able to read them very well. Every fake smile they put up, every awkward pause they have, even the slightest fall of their eyes can tip me off. My problem is that I can never read myself. Most days I have no idea what makes me happy or sad, I just am.

[@vishalpachpande5921]

Actually EQ is more important than IQ..........becoz Adrew Carnegie was richer than Einstein

[@shagunrao5894]

Michalina G well its not but ironically todays world has become like this where even uneducated rich are thought to be more successful than a knowledgeable poor....its painful though...

[@budisuseno3000]

LOL, yeah, but without geniuses like Einstein, we won't have the great life quality like we have today with higher life expectancy, less disease, more energy, easier life, etc. We all have our own reasons for existing in this world, don't belittle one another just because their impacts aren't that great. You've done a great job if you can do just a little bit of positive impact in this world. No need to feel so insecure and have a low self-esteem about that.

[@inkhed]

Why does “richness” matter? Einstein was about INTELLIGENCE, not richness

[@liltoaster7308]

IQ will always be more important than EQ. Knowing how someone feels won't get you through grade school, highschool, into college, a degree or a job that pays well. You must have IQ to apply your EQ to something.

[@KlearChristal]

@@liltoaster7308 Actually, there are studies that show a direct correlation between people with high EQ and leadership skills. Specifically in the business world and positions that require heavy co-worker interactions. It's linked to higher social communication, something that's needed to make interpersonal connections after you get out of college; something that determines an expensive piece of paper from an actual job investment. Both are equally important in the practical world. As humans, we are social creatures; we live in communities not in solidarity. You can have a high IQ, but it's not very useful if you can't properly convey your findings in a social situation; if you can't excel yourself up social ladders due to an incapability of reading those around you. Likewise, you can have a high EQ but it's not very useful if you don't have the ability to understand the world around you outside of the social aspect.

[@Dakarai_Knight]

If I feel bad emotionally I try to make myself feel worse because I don't get bad emotions normally so best to feel it while it lasts.

[@eltriplej6944]

The School of Life released a video, not long ago, on emotional intelligence too. Coincidence?

[@kamilee4123]

I'm good at reading people, pretty emotionally resilient, and I see where I need improvement. I don't really talk about myself negatively either, but that's about all I cover.

[@deakrisetap]

3 of 7 signs is me so am i have EI or not 🤔

[@TeamRCXD]

Just like IQ, it is about how you use it, more then whether or not you have them. Last year, I did less then nothing at school, and easily passed my final exam. Another person in my class, worked really hard, and made anyway. I respect him alot, and believe his perseverance deserves more prais than my innate abilities.

[@obilim2155]

I literally don't have any of these, wish I had a higher IQ and EQ :/

[@legion4698]

Obilim practice then, someone born with it doesn’t mean they are any special or different then someone with 0 of it. Just need to learn it

[@macawesomebird3383]

I think I am / have all of these qualities, but for 3 I'm resilient when it comes to the big things, and fragile when it comes to the little things.

[@PersonalPower]

jesus first school of life and then you. I made a video about emotional intelligence and it will be uploaded in a couple days, but you always upload just barely before I manage to get it up. I think you can in fact read minds.

[@akirashiori6265]

Everyone who suffers from depression needs to watch this. Mental illness isn't in your head, but people need to realize they have more control than they think. In order to stop feeling sorry for yourself, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

[@innoxio]

Zero points of emotional intelligence (ಥ ͜ʖಥ) 0.1 point for eternal crying ability

[@charliemarie895]

I may not be an A+ student (or have a solid 4.0) and I may not be an athlete but I (think) can understand how others are feeling. It's part intuition and part me paying close enough attention to people to kinda memorize emotions to physical appearances

[@spyderpig991]

Physically fit, yeah…we've got a problem there XD

[@carsickjoker9485]

I can relate to most of these. I tend to be hard on myself though, but I’m aware (most of the time) that I’m just being negative and that it’s my anxiety talking.

[@ghostymon]

I can't understand Emotions mine or others

[@Vivi_Pallas]

A lot of people in the comments are saying that emotional intelligence is just being optimistic or happy, but I don't think that's true. I think people with emotional intelligence are hardworking and responsible and somewhat of a self filling prophecy. They have a goal in mind, believe they can accomplish it, and work hard at achieving it. Then, if they fail, they try to solve the problem of why, learn from their mistakes, and try to grow as a person. I've seen many optimistic people who think that things will just happen for them, so they don't put in the necessary work. Also, being happy isn't being emotionally intelligent. I think an emotionally intelligent person can be unhappy with their life, but they work through it regardless. Again, trying to find ways to change their situation so they can be happy with their life again. Or at least, that's my take on it, but I may be wrong.

[@otmancool]

Well I'm definitely ei smart.. But a bit depressed :/

[@dmur612]

Jesse pinkman I'd be a bit depressed too if I went through the shit you did...

[@silverflower72]

I’m pretty sure I’m emotional intelligent. I relate to everything about this except knowing how I feel, what caused it, and how to fix it. And not having negative thoughts. But I relate to everything else.

[@butlikeno2082]

i feel like this is just talking about optimistic people lmao

[@emilycheshire]

The truth has spoken.

[@rizikifuraha6646]

Emily Cheshire not true I'm not optimistic .

[@emilycheshire]

Well, this is your opinion. The video says Emotionally Intelligent people happy. So everyone who is suffer is emotionally dumb? So I'm, who being locked from years, who always bullied and hurted is dumb? (Sorry for... This, but I wanted to write this down.)

[@rizikifuraha6646]

Emily Cheshire hey your not dumb

[@emilycheshire]

Riziki Furaha Thank you.

[@Manuel98a]

I always thought I was an emotionally intelligent person, but now I am certain of it. Thank you for the video!

[@Manuel98a]

I have 6/7 of these traits. Number seven is the trait I am currently working on.

[@alappattjerish]

Most times it's better to be emotionally dumb. Im not explaining why. (Really intelligent people will understand why i thinks so)

[@BananaBug]

not nessisarily?

[@irusuferal3834]

i get ya, so you don't have to deal with knowing and understand others

[@jacobhahn601]

you narcissistic fuck

[@panthekirb7561]

You don't need to be intelligent to understand why. It's pretty obvious.

[@MooLovesYoutube]

BIG MAK I'm a little lost as of what you mean. Could you explain why?

[@theenchilada1525]

I myself believe i have really good emotional control. What i lack is being empathetic. I use logic in my life the most. I also know what exactly would make my happy or content. An example would be to shot at or cut up bottle in the backyard or raking leaves.

[@taranloses]

Lol outtake at #7

[@andyfung7878]

Look at your comment, it has 17 likes. Congratulations

[@danielforrester1579]

Whoa! Of course understanding people's emotions is important! It's the major predictor to so many behaviors - destructive or otherwise. Without that we can't possibly hope to build a stable future.

[@meeca1671]

I possesed all signs😄

[@yadayada111986786]

I think I'm not alone in knowing that I should avoid negative self talk or stop comfort eating when something went wrong, but I can't help it. So there is also a component of self-discipline here I think.

[@emil.jansson]

Im pretty shure thats impossible!

[@dishwasherdetergent6144]

Emil Jansson sure*

[@davidrodriguez4889]

6/7 i have... i have a problem with negative self talk but even with that going on i still focus on the solution first... then deal with my negative thoughts...

[@yasminaelouardani4212]

i'm lost. i don't know who the fuck i am anymore.