The Empath & The Narcissist - The Most Painful Dynamic

[@Psych2go]

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[@quantumz4625]

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[@ander_1O1]

To all the empaths who have been in these relationships trust me when I say, some people don’t deserve your forgiveness, some people don’t deserve your empathy. If they hurt you after they know they did something wrong yet continue OR even blame you, don’t take it because almost everytime it’s not you and they are making it seem like it’s you, treat yourself with the same kindness you give to other people who didn’t deserve it

[@sakiyaki-sashimi]

I needed this honestly, thank u! It’s so hard being an empath honestly…

[@Brightifyisthebest]

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[@ItsJustMe162]

This is very true:)) I needed this Ander, ty😫

[@TarifHuda]

So true

[@missjddrage1111]

You're very aware, and beautiful for giving ththis type of advice. Yes, you're right.. I've known this for too long now. Funny thing is that I even need reminding at times. Thank you. 🌻🤘

[@wanelisaxaba6172]

Plot twist: most people who identify as an empath are actually children of narcissists who have been groomed to be hypervigilant of emotions or be emotional shock absorbers of parents rage and abuse. Then they attract other narcissists as friends/bosses/lovers and relive the cycle.

[@plaguedoc7727]

............Madame. Sometimes, your genius frightens others around you.

[@matthewlake2813]

There's truth in this. I'm an empath surrounded by narcissists. Only one family member is also an empath and he's the only brother i mostly trust and confide. In terms of friends, I got rid of all toxic narcissists. I keep only agreeable empathic ones. I'm happier now.

[@QuidamByMoonlight]

Yes, this is common, unfortunately. Empaths aren’t saints. They have to do a lot of work to heal or their emotional volatility can hurt others, too. Once healed, they can consistently bring many gifts to a relationship.

[@djcoolzi965]

@@matthewlake2813 I second this but only one of my parents..it's more of my siblings and others I encounter that are usually narcissist

[@wanelisaxaba6172]

@@plaguedoc7727 unfortunately im speaking from experience. i think it will be a lifetime of unlearning and healing through the pain

[@carriesausser6773]

We need an Empath Island! Everyone must pass the"are you a narc" tests first though. They are so easy to spot once you have enough experience with them. They are everywhere.

[@alicegoldenvalley]

Omg yes 😢 I feel like they are everywhere, now that I’ve experienced one for 2 years, I don’t trust anyone anymore. I am literally scared of people 😢

[@deiandorinha1207]

@@alicegoldenvalley i know the feeling but you will learn how to identify the signs and step away when you need. And when that process gets clearer for you, you'll also learn how to recognize and open your heart (IN YOUR TIME) to people who wanna see you happy and are able to give you the care and love you deserve! they exist somewhere, but they are harder to spot because they don't show off like narcisists do. But you'll recognize them and know how to separate your perception of them from the previous awful experiences you had with narcisists. Therapy is literally 100% how i started to learn this... and i still am learning. But it gets soooo much better with time. I'm only recently starting to open my eyes to the wonderful people that exist out there and identifying them. If your trauma is still recent, please give yourself time ❤️ i hope you have a beautiful life with people who deserve to share ir with you! i believe in you and wish you all the best 💕💕💕💕

[@PleaseHelpICantThinkofaName]

I vote for this! Let's come up with a plan. I've thought about this before too. We need extra security for the communal narcissists who pretend to be empaths.

[@caldog619]

They’re easy to spot as they all wear mirrored shades

[@patriciarose2342]

😁 Are there any islands left for sale? Or maybe a colony. Anybody know of available land?

[@desperado.1001]

I’m an empath. My father is a narcissist. If you can relate to this, I feel for you and I wish you happiness and inner strength ❤️

[@silliestbilly39]

I would wholeheartedly agree with you but I'm too busy admiring your lovely profile picture..

[@KarolineThePagan]

I can’t relate to this and it must be tough for you to have an unhealthy relationship with your dad. Don’t let any narcissist corrupt your mind. Because your mind are your own, and no one owns you only you.

[@Yudentheepicboy]

This is the exact situation I'm in. Thank God I don't live with my Dad.

[@arianapatawaran4381]

Jason T. Remember narcissist dont always say truths

[@gratefulila9980]

I'm an empath and my mom is a narcissist. I can understand the feeling of having a narcissistic parent, not fun. Many blessings

[@womenwhodate7643]

“Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” - Frank Salvato Great content, love it! ❤️

[@thecelesteial5918]

"Love" is a double edged sword, being the one thing that can get either or both parties hurt eventually and it will do so and such is the ultimate form of emotional masochism.

[@renemiranda8003]

It really is, i've been there. Great phrase.

[@Founderschannel123]

I meant if you f up love then i guess you wont be able to fix it again.

[@thecelesteial5918]

@@Founderschannel123 but if you dont allow it to exist for yourself you can never be hurt by it, that is what i meant, kind of like pets, sure they're fun for the moment, but you're really just gonna end up in pain from them dying or (in certain animals) the pet itself can get depression, you never get the pet, you never lose the pet.

[@theemofemboycatgirlw3214]

That's the biggest load of crap I've ever read of course love can die naturally

[@bluetickbeagles116]

Saying, “no” to a narc is dangerous physically & mentally. There will be consequences for saying, “no” and setting boundaries.

[@samc8249]

I get punished like I'm a child

[@rmisaacs]

agreed. I was never physically abused, but I had to hide all of my emotions so my narcissist husband couldn't use my vulnerabilities as "tools to use against me". It took a lot of very bad choices of his for me to finally see reality.

[@roadworkahead8967]

I told my narcissist best friend who claimed to be an empath I didn’t want to answer her call or talk to her this one time because I was really upset and hurt with what she did, and then she went on to say I didn’t respect our friendship and we shouldn’t even be friends( plot twist: I would call her at least semi daily and not all the time would she answer the phone, it would be either later on or not at all that day, and I would just say to myself oh she must be busy that’s okay I will probably just hear from her later) the one time I said to her I’m upset with you and I really not interested in having any sort of conversation in this present moment when you want to me to call you now I don’t respect our friendship. And that’s how I realized she is a narcissist trying to desperately convince herself she is an empath.

[@arielgarciadenovaes9044]

It's not your fault if the other gaslights you, these are consequences of the way the OTHER has of not being able to deal with the establishment of YOUR limit that is legitimate just like anyone else, and that he can't respect at this moment. He will always find a way to try to cheat. Each one is responsible for their own maturation, as well as their own attitudes. You won't be able to change the other and you won't have control over his reactions. The secret is that you don't even need it. Because the moment you say "no", you are doing it for yourself, you are the one who is respecting your own limits, and that's why you don't need the other person's consent. Yours is enough. Because it's yours, it belongs to you, and you're taking back something you believed was in someone else's power. It's hard to deal with the other person disagreeing with a right that belongs only to you, but there are always ways out, no matter what the other tries to do to imprison you. If this narcissist is an abusive husband, you can always ask for help. If it's your parents, unfortunately it's more complicated to have autonomy if you're a minor, but it's a matter of time because it won't last forever. Until then, just be aware that this is abusive and keep living and waiting, and when you have the opportunity, grab the right to own your life with both hands. Even if you are censored by the other. Even if he doesn't recognize what's yours. You know and that's enough. You already have the conscience, that nobody can take down. Your conscience is the foundation for the exit, it will give you the strength to take action. It's the first step to getting out. Once you understand more clearly what is abusive and what is not, what is blackmail and what you are entitled to, you will free yourself from the guilt of reacting and know where the time to fight is. Then you'll find yourself taking action. Even silent no one will be able to take your conscience away. It is something that resists despite fear and inhibition, and the feeling of powerless. She is your home right now, choose to dwell in her and remain faithful. You will arrive the moment you discover that you are free. When that happens you will discover a force that you didn't even know existed inside. Consciousness is the seed that will germinate this. She's already there. On the contrary, you would not be here commenting, neither watching this video. Choose to cultivate.

[@fluffywhitewulf3119]

Agreed.

[@MissyRichmond]

My exhusband is a narcissist. I loved him so much, and living through the time we were together was awesome in the love bombing stages and horrific the rest of the time. The gaslighting was the worst part. Example: I could say the sky is blue. He could say it’s red. By the time the conversation/fight ended, I would be in tears agreeing with him and apologizing profusely. I’ve been single for years now. I just can’t go through that again.

[@niniflower3538]

I'm sorry you went through that but I'm happy it ended. May you find the love you deserve and want.

[@ToyKeeper]

I lost a decade of my life to a narc-empath relationship, and I am _still_ noticing more and more abuse and red flags from that time. Like, I wrote her a ton of love letters, and one time she wrote one for me, but only because she felt obligated. And half of it was talking about how she's bad at love letters because a sheet of paper doesn't admire her while she says "I love you".

[@corvinusmathias9898]

I have been through the same, my ex girlfriend was a narcissist. But I tend to think of it like this: a toxic person in your life is like a fly, you catch it or drive it out of your house; you are not going to burn down your house to get rid of a fly!

[@Wamambokadzi]

I am going through that now.l recently left him and l feel like l don’t want to be in a relationship every again

[@MissJanaMac]

I know ur pain & I couldn't agree with u more. Its mentally, emotionally & physically exhausting. We all deserve to be happy in life. We all deserve to feel loved in the healthy ways of it. Namaste

[@mp4455]

I'm an empath and I feel like such a loser. We are highly taken advantage of and scrutinized. I feel scarred for life from my narc relationship. I'm still trying to heal from it and it will take me a long time

[@anavik6214]

You can do it, we can do it. I was in a relationship with a narc, nobody knew he was one. He charmed everybody until he almost killed me. After we spent a good evening together. We were in a relationship for 4 years. Healing from such people is hard. But we are stronger than them. We feel and understand emotions, let's take advantage of this gift and use it to understand ourselves. I wish you all the best!

[@patriciarose2342]

I hear that. I don't trust anyone anymore. The only love I can expect and receive now is from God alone. Only Jesus has the power to heal. And He can do it as fast or slow as you want to go.💜 🤗

[@alicegoldenvalley]

I totally understand how you feel :(

[@dhihosilver7419]

@@patriciarose2342 Amen!! I know your pain!!😟😯 God can truly heal us!🙏🙏🙏😇

[@patriciarose2342]

@@dhihosilver7419 thank you so much Lovely 🤗💜. I believe it! The Lord bless you indeed!

[@noirettebeauty]

Narcissist’s favorite line: I won’t do it again. I promise They’ll do it again and again to whoever will enable them

[@forestdude5168]

nah i swear i wont do it again, trust me i will change.

[@roxannerodriguez7075]

Wow.... I needed to read that. I'm wanting to get out of an 18 year relationship/14 year marriage, with 4 kids together, that falls into the narcissist/empath duo... It's physically painful to see anyone or anything hurt. I can't hate him, so I feel his pain and don't want to be the cause of his pain! But I just turned 40 this year and I'm tired. I actually feel like my mental health is suffering from this life. Before it was him and I, (I was 22, he was 19 when we got together) it was my dad and I. If not my mom and I. I just wanted to make them happy and proud and love them. It was never enough. Just like my love won't ever be enough for my husband. I need out. Tax time is coming, and I feel that if I can't use that money to get my own place for the kids and I- and then him get his own place- I'm gonna run to a shelter. Because I need help and I need out... 😩

[@ShawnaGiles-yf7mv]

I did nothing wrong! You are wrong!

[@Alina-xu7nn]

and "it's always your fault" they could never apologize

[@joeshabe]

@@all.about.narcissism when you know someone's a thief and you continue leaving your bag open right in front of them, you're enabling the thief. if you see the person doesn't change and you go on putting up with it, you're enabling the narc.

[@CLB30ROX]

I'm an empath. I dated a narcissist for 7 years. It was the most toxic, abusive relationship I've ever been in. I had to come up with an unorthodox strategy to leave, but it worked and I got out. Emotional education was the key for me, and I know it can help many others caught in this toxic merry go round. Educate yourself, reach out for help, and put yourself first. That's the only way to win this kind of fight. Strength to all involved and recovering from this 💪🏽💪🏽

[@orangeziggy599]

I needed to use an unorthodox strategy to leave also.

[@ScarlettNyxx]

I also dated a narcissist for 7 years. I tried to break up with him after my eyes were truly opened to who he really was. But he refused to accept the break up and even almost threw my phone in the toilet. I had to pretend I wanted to give him another chance but I needed some space and time to think and wanted to go stay with my mom for a little while. He actually let me finish packing (I had secretly started weeks before, 7 years is a lot of time to accumulate stuff) The whole time he tried convincing me to stay, but I held my ground, got out of there, and never looked back

[@CLB30ROX]

@@ScarlettNyxx wonderful! Glad you escaped.DON'T EVER GO BACK.

[@Psych2go]

Agree - educate yourself, know the signs, and get the help you need so you can take better care of yourself.

[@kellogsliters434]

May i ask what your unorthodox strategy was please? Im currently trapped in one :(

[@MrBadgerbingo]

I got out of a 3 year relationship with a narcissist a year ago. I had no boundaries when it started because i'd never needed them, everyone i'd dated before had been honest and decent. I made the mistake of believing that when someone says they love you it means they'll do anything not to hurt you. Narcissists are different. Never blame yourself, never believe what they say, never feel sorry for them, and never go back.

[@alivc2458]

I'm currently resisting the urge to chase my ex narc bf who I was going to marry someday, genuinely thought he was the love of my life and I still can't stop myself from missing him everyday. I'm an empath who desperately wanted to fix him, the harder I tried the more our relationship broke until there was nothing left but resentment. I appreciate your reminder to never go back.

[@alicegoldenvalley]

@@alivc2458 Never go back. Stay strong. There will be someone who will treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. Don’t fall for the trap and toxic cycles.

[@emmapatric]

@@alivc2458 honey, i married one and trust me its not good picture

[@merryg.7347]

They say they love you because they want you to tell them the same. They say I want to hear about you an support you only to fit the role of a good bf gf and so you won't leave

[@Samira_m84]

@@alivc2458 I’m so sorry you went through that. I swear reading your comment felt like reading my life. Everyday I try to resist the urge to contact an extremely toxic ex who I was with for about 5 years total on and off. He did everything imaginable to me outside of killing me. Somehow, I still have the urge to fix it because when it was good, he was the most loving person to me. I just don’t understand how one can be so kind in the beginning and just become the devil himself after. Why? How can they live with themselves. I still want to help him because I truly believe he’s sick and I want to help him because as much as he cut me deep, I feel like he’s so much worse off than me

[@briannefletcher2728]

This was my boyfriend and I. I had no idea what I was in for, no idea what a narcissist was - or empaths. In the beginning it was beautiful. Four years later, I have lost everything including myself. I gave until I had literally nothing left. Then, he left with zero explanation. I lost my home, my car, my job, my friends and family. Once he drained me in every way possible, he was done with me because I had nothing more to give. I have never felt so used, so hurt, so alone, so stupid.

[@zakaylahwilliams9007]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You are not stupid by any means. You were used, that is not your fault. I am sending so much love and encouragement to you through this journey of healing, it will be long but worth it in the end. Keep your head up. ❤️

[@kasturikshirsagar5683]

Much love and light to you! 🌸❤✨ Bless you with healing!

[@oliviadawn9002]

Sweetheart :(( I am so sorry. Know that you're not alone.

[@tawncaputo686]

Youre not stupid, you were used. And I'm sorry it happened to you.

[@Achieng.C]

I’m so sorry about all that you are faced with.you are not alone God is with you don’t loose focus

[@queenmia1965]

“Empathy believe they can fix and heal anything with compassion.” 💜

[@coolskunk6186]

True

[@seanm7539]

Yes

[@dod9208]

And i'm like this😊 i want to cure them💔

[@gingerrivas5354]

We want to cure them because we are in love with them.

[@EinfachValle91]

@@gingerrivas5354 or trauma bonded, like it's explained in the video. I'm just out of a relationship where i wasn't sure if i was in love. I was extremely caring and uncertain at the same time. I've felt such a strong connection, because we've had some similar experiences. But at the end she left me pretty brutally. Called it self care, and i know it was, but i was severely hurt. And after some time where i couldn't let go, i realized she's gaslighted me and herself. She was in a relationship with a gaslighter before, at least that's what she's told me, so i think she may has adapted some of his patterns. But it doesn't change the outcome. It was a really toxic relationship and i didn't realize it because i was too caught up in a pattern of "wanting to help" and "make it work" myself. It's so sad to see that she might be caught in this unhealthy cycle and i think i kinda love her, but at the same time: how could i be in love with someone who denies my feelings? So i think it was trauma bonding. The attraction was insane, that's why i thought it was love. I wonder if two empaths could be trauma bonding each other if they've adopted some narcissistic behavior by introjection.

[@ydbetan]

Sad to think that most narcissists have an empath feeling like they’re the narcissistic one

[@ammiebrooks6011]

I’ve worried so much incase I was the narcissist. It’s so hard.

[@jaimedeltoro1761]

That’s exactly the way I feel!

[@jayjaysanders3046]

I swear you pick up narc tendencies if you’re with them long enough

[@RealTalkRS]

Narc's favorite weapon is reaction abuse. Just learned about this and it makes it all make so much more sense. Never stop learning and therefore growing family. If we are alive here on earth we are community. Sending you love and healing thoughts all

[@saoaleixo8293]

I actually demanded my therapists to do me a test to know if i was the narc. And even with the negative results i couldnt believe!

[@Foodication]

Share this with a narcissist and they'll tell you that you're crazy and treat the video like it's nonsense... Even shame you for trying to understand this dynamic in your life. As frustrating as the relationship was, I am so grateful for the experience. First, I'm grateful it didn't last long -- A year was all that I could handle. More importantly, I'm grateful for the lessons learned from that experience. It was necessary to experience the disappointment, manipulation, the highs, the lows, the betrayal... Not just for me, but for the both of us. I left the relationship with a deeper understanding of my capacity to love. I no longer need narcissism to show me the things I couldn't. And as much as I don't want to... I pray for my ex. It's my responsibility as a healer. For those who read this, move forward gracefully, heal, and remember that you are the blessing.

[@sriku1000]

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[@riagurl3078]

Thank you. I pray too.

[@noahjordan6761]

Not really, I believe most of the stuff in this vid

[@superDpermn]

As someone that somewhat relates to the narcissistic side, i wish more empaths to learn about narcissism and adapt. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings while trying to maintain my own balance. Even though i can't emphatize much, i still think everyone deserves love and respect so i try to listen, understand and help. It just makes me feel anxious to ignore my ego and relate. It's like flying a plane, i feel like i gotta keep my ego high, so i don't come crashing down in the smallest struggle but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes i guess :o ( *prepares parachute* )

[@riagurl3078]

@@superDpermn im learning more about narcissist. However, egocentric will not allow you to grow and empathize with others. Learning to manage your ego will be the first step, when you learn to do this then you will balance your life better. Thx for responding

[@unicornishcornish]

I was the narcissist, he an empath. One day, completely resigned he said he couldn't do this anymore. He didn't understand yet what I did to him, still thought all was his fault. Scared that I'd lose him I decided to make a show of how I'll change myself, he wasn't interested. But a string of unexpected events actually did push me to change, I ended in therapy and unlocked empathy, and the realisation of how much hurt I've caused.

[@ellyroach7525]

Finally some one on here who'd Amit to been a narcissist! Well done for been aware and trying to change.. better then been a empath bragging about been a empath.. makes me cringe. Not that every one does that. But adlist your honest and to your self also trying to get help for it x

[@fAnnY7lU]

Thank you for sharing this...its a light at the end of the tunnel

[@unicornishcornish]

@@ellyroach7525 it's hard to admit to having a problem while spending all energy on proving you're perfect. It makes me wonder if they really are empaths, true empaths I've met never bragged. Anyway, 3 years of hard, painful work in therapy and I'm heald. Yay 😀 and he stayed with me- yay again 😀

[@unicornishcornish]

@@fAnnY7lU you're welcome. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist please take care, protect yourself, support them if you can and if they ask for it but don't overspend yourself and don't try to change them. Narcissist will only truly change if they find a strong need within themselves.

[@groomslayer3372]

@unicornishcornish yea I've tried to help them but ultimately they said they'll never feel deserving of me, that they'll just mistreat me, and that they can't see themselves changing as a person, they're gone now. Hopefully they won't hurt the new person too much.

[@andrewboyddotcom]

At 63 I discovered what a narcissist is only two weeks ago. She sowed the seeds to her own destruction and self doubt in me simultaneously. I called her out on lack of forgiveness, disrespect and passive agressive behaviour and ENDED it... in two minutes it seemed. Riding away on my bicycle never felt so light. I thanked her in truth for two wonderful years. She was amazing in so many ways (never had sex) and we had so much fun - and now I can swim 1/4 mile at 43⁰F. I feel huge compassion for her because I know the back story. But death by 1000 cuts? No thanks. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.

[@albertomendeschumaceiro8404]

The same happened to me a night mare im 61 she devastated me and super unfaithfull and a flirt with man in front of me.

[@NarutoUzumakiofficial]

Any advice for a 20 something ? How to deal with a narcissistic treating you badly ? I can surely need it.

[@Simon0501]

0:39 Who are narcissists and empaths? 1:20 The empath and narcissist at first sight 2:08 The poisoned apple 2:52 Trouble in paradise 5:50 Let the chaos games begin! 6:53 Recipe for disaster 7:32 It all ends with self-love You can help others, but sometimes you have to take care of yourself first If you helped them a lot, then they hurt you, don’t help them

[@aartisharma864]

What if I'm a best friend of a narcissistic and she's in the same school as mine, I don't think I can make distance from her without making her angry....

[@adzukibean2190]

@@aartisharma864 tell a teacher. It all sounds very cliche, but I had a narcissistic friend in primary school that left me so many scars. It might hurt, they may cry, or get angry or throw a fit to prevent you from distancing yourself or telling an adult, but it’s the only thing that really worked for me. Trust me, it’s the best thing to do.

[@briankreezan7843]

Why I learned along time ago to never let my gard down with the narcissist in my life. " Who is a family member . " Yes the empath and the narcissist will always clash like in and out, black and white, stop and go you get the picture. But us empaths feel sorry for the narcissist anyway. Because we know that the narcissist will die to be better, hateful and very lonely 🥺 and that they will burn 🔥 the hottest. " And we still feel sorry for them. " Meaning I still have my fingers crossed for you EL--CEE

[@lesleyvivien2876]

Nice list but you omitted the "message from our sponsor" between 3:38 and 5:48. That's more than a fifth of a "helpful" video given over to a computer game.

[@Simon0501]

@Making Memories Collecting Moments Sorry to hear that, we will be here with you ❤️

[@JadedCreations]

I'm an empath who hasn't spoken to my narcissist sister in years. I've never felt more free, confident and peaceful in my whole life.

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@Uchihasasuk5]

Congratulations! :)

[@pablorocky6064]

@Stacie R We are in the same boat, My father is a narcissist and I can't leave because I'm not 18. I believe that we will be able to leave one day so don't give up!

[@amybecca17]

I have a narcissistic sister and mother. My dad also displays some narcissistic traits. I am on a path of detachment from them and from other family members who ganged up on me to protect my narcissistic mother from me when I left home and didn't want to talk to her, and when I dared criticise her. I am not currently responding to any messages from either parents or my sisters. My youngest sister always seemed like an empath but I have noticed she is essentially just a pawn for my mother and my older sister - she will empathise with me when we are alone but when she is with my mum and older sister she will blame me just as they do. So I have turned my back on all of them. I also have never felt more free, confident and peaceful in my whole life.

[@pablorocky6064]

@@amybecca17 I'm so happy for you! Hope you will live your best life! 😊💕

[@lifewithyana2924]

Being an empath is hard when you constantly want to help other people and you feel so, so deeply. You have trouble saying no, feel bad for creating boundaries, and you feel like an outsider. I have been this way since I was a child ( and I'm only a teen now ) but I have done a lot of healing to be so young from things I went through emotionally that I give myself credit for getting through. I've been in contact with many narcs and they aren't pleasant at all. I literally see through them and I so badly want to change them but I know that's very much impossible. Sending love to all my empaths out here

[@blessingnimaaxo]

This is me🥺 facing a conflict with myself right now concerning a situation between a friend who I believe is a narcissist based on what I have observed

[@chynabarbieeeeee]

Hey, everyone. I know some of you have been having horrific times, so I'm just here to tell you that you're loved. You all deserve the world, and I'm very glad to have you all here with us. You will always, always be valid, needed and incredible people. Please, don't forget to take care of yourselves today. I believe in you and hope your week has been amazing so far.

[@stephscraftycorner8394]

@silkify thank you so much that makes my day

[@Brightifyisthebest]

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[@StrawbearXD]

Ty

[@VoteBlue4Peace-LoveInUSAagain]

Thank you! ✌🏼💗🤗 Signed, Someone who has been destroyed by loving narcissistic people most of my life.

[@neoniixV3]

@@josh3arch31 maybe you just haven't met them yet but I guarantee there is someone out there out of the 7 billion+ people on this planet who will love you and treat you kindly :) I hope you find them soon

[@TheDarkness1]

Empath and the Narcissist An all so common relationship dynamic Starts as a whirlwind, ends up in panic The empath truly has love and compassion The narcissist requires constant validation The narcissist feels truly empty inside Afraid to be alone in their darkened mind Afraid of the voices in their head Believing they're worthless, better off dead The empath has nothing to gain They build you up to shut off your pain What the empath doesn't realize Is the narcissist's inability to empathize The narcissist thinks it's a power struggle The empath has all their feelings to juggle Pushing and pulling, a constant fight Waiting for the next rage to ignite Idealize, devalue, and discard The narcissistic calling card The empath is tired of insulting their soul They awaken and take back their control Narcissist moves on to another fixation Unable to live without validation Never to blame, ego increases While the empath is left to pick up the pieces

[@KristineTran]

Wow!

[@brittanypowell7474]

Beautiful

[@m2b785]

*PYSCHO2GO IS FAKE NEWS MY CONTENT IS BETTER*

[@SteampunkinOfficial]

👏

[@nzfairytopia9229]

such a beautiful poem :')

[@Vidtycoon314]

Didn't truly realize i was an empath until i met a narcissist. Smh it was a blessing and a curse because i realized what i was doing wrong by not protecting my light but damn that was a hell-ofa lesson!

[@ryand1404]

Same here! I never paid enough attention to my “light” and for me that was my identity, my emotional needs and what I alone really wanted. I am going through it now and it was quite the lesson that I’ll never forget. Hope you are doing okay yourself.

[@melodyal3357]

Same here. Absolutely same.

[@SolarSeeker45]

This really downplays the severity of the damage done to the empath as well as the pure evil that the narcissist is capable of doing to those who would never do them any wrong.

[@amyitis]

Agreed. Currently suffering from C-PTSD and the tremors, nightmares, losing weight, no sleep, unable to work, dissociation, hypervigilance.....the list goes on.....

[@KaiIchiRu96]

Well, thank you for mentioning this! Same here :/

[@SolarSeeker45]

@@truthseeker8502 There are ways out of the pain. I was terminally suicidal as a direct result of narcissistic abuse. If I can do it you can.

[@JROC2112]

I am very empathic. My ex wife was and extreme narcissist. I have been recovering from PTSD since managing to leave in 2020. This video is absolutely how it is.

[@alicegoldenvalley]

🙏🏼 sending you strength. The PTSD is a real thing.

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@Jen18lol]

My husband is the narcissist

[@JROC2112]

@@Jen18lol leaving is extremely hard. But it was the only thing I could do. Blessings and kindness to you.

[@KaiIchiRu96]

Is it PTSD or complex PTSD? Because being in a relationship with such an devastating trauma bond for years can leave individuals with the complex form. Wish you the best of luck, pal! It will get better. But it sure wasnt easy, was it? 😕

[@GodammitNappa]

As someone with narc tendancies (thanks mother) who is working on repairing and rewiring my thought process, my therapist has been helping me see how empathic I am when the selfishness and immaturity is gone. It is weird to relate to both sides of this video... really goes to show how much more work I need to put forth

[@Vi-Vi-Kitty]

That sounds super complex, good luck on your journey

[@GodammitNappa]

@valvetdelight8118 thanks. It's mostly learning that narc tendencies are easier because I can separate myself from my intense emotions rather than coping with them since I didn't get proper emotional support growing up. So now I'm relearning how to feel and that is making my empathy meter spike and naturally making my narc tendacies lessen. But it's a very big journey and a lot of pain to learn to feel again after forcing it down for so long

[@BerryJam123]

​@@GodammitNappa Thank you for sharing! I think it's awesome that you are willing to put in the work in order to grow and evolve. Kudos to you and I wish you the best!

[@kristynadostalova4359]

It's not easy to work on yourself, you took an amazing step to grow. I wish you good luck on your journey!

[@aliyahpasco4352]

People actually evolve. No one stays an empath/narcissist forever. External factors like friends, environment and social media trends play a major factor in changing us

[@midbreezy]

This was so me. Self love has really helped me set boundaries and let folks not good for me go and feel OK with it because I'm worth it.

[@m2b785]

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[@LocalGooberGoobs]

Hell yeah! Good for you yo

[@bobbruce4135]

Wish I knew more about this 25 years ago. Spotting the narcissist isn't that easy. They will fake love and charm for a long-term goal. In retrospect, take time and make no commitments. Peace.

[@superDpermn]

Take time and make no commitment. Magic words.

[@ocean91]

My way to get out was to give him an ultimatum. Either he tried theraphy, or I would leave. He wen't and got diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.. He met a girl during therapy, and left me for her.. It was the biggest relief not feeling like I had to "fix" or take care of him anymore!

[@jiyefuuu]

wow that sucks, went to therapy yet excarcebated his synthoms. but good that you managed to get free

[@amyitis]

Narcissists will usually only go to therapy to silence the victim (see, I'm willing to change), only to go back to their normal behavior, or they will go to therapy to learn how to be a better manipulator. Even therapists get manipulated by narcs...

[@kezbot2]

@@amyitis yep. When my ex finally went to therapy, he conned the therapist into believing his edited versions of stories. Then demanded I attend his sessions and found out he had pinpointed me as the cause of his bad behavior. So guess who became traumatized by that therapy experience? 🤚

[@joanngross786]

@@kezbot2 My God! I hope you are OK, these demons are some of the most cunning monsters on earth. I pray you totally recover from this horrible experience.

[@patriciarobinson6914]

I fell for a Narcisst but I learned that we are all in charge for our emotional state of being and we have to take responsibility for our well being . Once you see a person is not for you don't allow yourself to stay in the cycles of abuse love yourself and most importantly God and deal with child hood trauma

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@odduckOasis]

From personal experience, we also have to take into account the covert narcissist- the one that isn't showy and doesn't exude confidence- for they are surely the more dangerous kind. It took me over a decade to realize I was being manipulated and gaslit- I had no idea that's what was happening to me- and that all my issues and how I was feeling wasn't my fault. It wasn't because I wasn't trying hard enough or not doing enough, it was because he was telling me I wasn't trying hard enough and it became so convincing, I believed it. Some dynamics are harder to see and tell how they are- because the covert narcissist is harder to spot- their martyr complex makes it easier for empaths to feel their plight and want to help, especially if it's mixed in with true trauma and issues, but then the constant victimhood gets exhausting. I'm glad to say I got out and am doing my best to protect my son as well, who is at least too young to be manipulated- but I'm certainly keeping my eye out for the emotional abuse. Keep your head up empaths, one day you will see the truth and you will break free too. Thank you for this content guys, appreciate it- esp when I have those days that I doubt I made the right decision.

[@squishlabs724]

You are not alone. I have been through a very similar situation, and am somewhat on the other side of it now. It's pretty much every other day that I doubt myself, saying "There's just no way they're a narcissist." Then I have videos like this as well as family/friends to remind me that I deserve better treatment than that.

[@gretchen8100]

I left last year, after 23 years of marriage, 15 of which were emotionally manipulative and abusive. Whenever we fought (that is, he ranted and I had to listen), or whenever he thought I wasn't giving him enough attention, he would threaten to kill himself. I used to just be shy, but friendly, and a hugger. Now I can't stand most people, and hate to be touched. And believe me, once my kid was old enough to move out, she did, and helped me leave when I finally ran out of excuses not to.

[@tinahiggins2932]

coverts are dark and dangerous. in a 5 year relationship with one. finally free of him it was a true nightmare. my mother is a narcissist but I had never met a covert very dark mean people. with very low self-esteem.. I sometimes feel sorry for him. don't know why. because he honestly tried to destroy who I truly am. hope I never meet a person like this again. finally getting back to myself after questioning if I was completely out of my mind.. good luck to all who are dealing with this.. stay strong and hold your ground... God Bless to all..😇🙏

[@dirtybowls]

Yes! I was wrapped up in a covert for 3 years. She finally agreed to go to couples therapy. After a few sessions the therapist pulled me aside and advised that I research covert narcissism. Every question that I ever had about the relationship was finally answered. Packed up her shit that weekend, but it still took another 7 months for the stalking to stop.

[@mahririlee]

I think u made the only sensible decision. As of yesterday I ended my relationship of 9 years. God it hurts but it's the only way in my eyes. Best of luck to you all! This has become a daily hell, so glad to be FREE

[@sabrina.claudio3184]

I fell on love with a narcissist. Once I stepped back and started saying no i began setting boundaries Then i gained emotional independence which really put the abuse in perspective and helped me move on it was beautiful

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@sunayocarissime5309]

Sadly I had to learn the hard way of what its like being in a relationship with a narcissist but thankfully this video hits the nail on the head. A little advice to my fellow empaths, NOBODY IS PERFECT. There's no such thing. We ALL have flaws, the trick is learning to overcome those flaws to be a better person. Sadly some INSIST those flaws are what makes them God's gift to creation. This is vanity, a trait I severely loath. It had to take a spoiled relationship to realize this but sometimes hard lessons are only learned the hard way. If you meet someone that acts like they're God's gift to creation AVOID AT ALL COSTS. They aren't worth your time and patience because THEY WILL make a doormat out of you. Humility goes a long way and is a noble trait.

[@sunshineinthesky2532]

Been there too. I wasn't aware bc when I told him that he needed to be a little more considerate of others he kept twisting it as if I'm being to naive and selfless (I'm not, really) and people are gonna take advantages of people like me. It wasn't until recently that I realized he did everything throughout the relationship for his own ego and that I deserve to be loved right.

[@sunayocarissime5309]

@@sunshineinthesky2532 Yeah that's how they twist the knife, making you think its YOUR fault because they're so apathetic. It was only after I met her grandparents I found out just how she was. Her grandparents were nice people, really kind hearted and they were very religious. She had been coddled her whole life, allowed to do whatever she wanted and what was worse she was given EVERYTHING she ever wanted, whether it was money for college, her own car, her own phone etc., nobody ever told her no. Me I had to work for everything I owned. Should have seen the writing on the wall the moment we met, would have saved me a lot of heartache.😢😢😢

[@m2b785]

*PYSCHO2GO IS FAKE NEWS MY CONTENT IS BETTER*

[@InnovativeSparks]

@@m2b785 shut up

[@FlyingcupNsourcer]

@@sunayocarissime5309 yeah. Do I need to tell my story, is just be reiterating all of yours. Entitlement, apathy, soaking up everything that you are until your have nothing left to give. And when you finally speak up, admittedly with anger, you are the worst person in the world. And you do genuinely feel bad for losing your nerve.

[@TEAforMIND]

"Empaths have to be careful not to internalize others’ feelings, as this can cause them to feel anxious, sad, or even depressed. It can leave the empath feeling drained or exhausted. They must learn to set boundaries so as not to let toxic people drain them dry." Donna G. Bourgeois, Life with Ollie: The story of an only child of a single narcissistic parent ... ... ... And "Never underestimate the empowered empath. Our kindness and compassion is too often mistaken for weakness or naivety, while we are in fact highly calibrated human lie detectors...and fearless warriors for truth and justice." ❤ Anthon St. Maarten

[@fbi2522]

Guess that's a bit late for me, but I'll manage

[@pepelepu5534]

I wish I could learn how to do that

[@orangeziggy599]

Then why didn't I know he was lying?

[@m2b785]

*PYSCHO2GO IS FAKE NEWS MY CONTENT IS BETTER*

[@LocalGooberGoobs]

@@m2b785 Bro I don’t think no one’s gonna watch your one unlisted video if you promote it like that.

[@stilljocelyn_]

Being an empath is a blessing and a curse. 😔💔

[@JohanDanno]

this video really supported my mental health and heavy heart. as an empath, love blinded me in ways... and this video hit everything I've been navigating perfectly. if you're an empath know narcissist attach to kind, amazing people... dont be afraid to walk away. you deserve to be happy and loved by someone who will truly love you in a way that supports you versus limits you😊 don't let loneliness or their charm make you choose them over your own happiness and peace of mind

[@jillian2596]

I can confirm that it’s an *incredibly painful* dynamic! Being in a relationship with someone *incapable* of empathy was terrifying for me! 😱

[@alicegoldenvalley]

Same. It’s just that scary level where you can’t even understand the kind of evil in a person. Like how does it even exist? I am scared for life and I have PTSD from being abused emotionally for 2 years by a narcissist.

[@JROC2112]

In my marriage my narcissistic ex wife told me I had no empathy. She gas lighted me in so many different ways but when she said that I knew it was a step too far. It's horrendous being in that situation and truly terrifying to look back on.

[@guywithgreenshadess6647]

I had a narcissist mother, she was also an alcoholic. I struggled with her, got super depressed and just wanted to make her proud. Whenever I told her I was depressed, she hit me, anytime I was doing good in college, she was never impressed. I had to cut my connections with her so I could be happy. I wish it didn't have to be that way, but I had no choice. :( I'm glad I could learn more from these videos about who I am and what my mother was.

[@D0NTHEMAN]

Glad you're better, you're really strong! I'm struggling with a narcissistic mom too, but I'm getting through it I don't love her, but I don't hate her either.

[@mdbham]

I had to leave mine too and she has some supply with my sister who’s a narcissist too so I’m lucky to get away. 🙏🏻🥰

[@wwexstans8183]

@@mdbham oh yeah plz get away because dealing with more than one narcissist at a time can be a whole train wreck. I’m sorry you’ve been through this but I pray you give yourself time to heal 🙏🏾 I’m dealing with a narcissistic mother and she acts like she cares about me and the things I do but she doesn’t. It’s like I keep looking for the emotional support from my mother that I never had but I don’t want to look for it because I’m always getting stepped on by her like I’m so kind of roach and I don’t deserve to be treated like that and you don’t either. Move on and live your best life you!!💝🤩

[@iyaaan2643]

I’m happy for you to have realized that and did what you could best for your own happiness

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing. That's a tough childhood and situation to be in. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. And hopefully you're getting the help you need with a mental health professional so you can heal and continue forward. Please take care.

[@abigailestherrobinson2204]

I come from a family of narcs and my father is a psychopath…it’s very important to not underplay the reality of what these people are capable of …

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@RuthIvey-kt1oz]

It's a constant battle fighting denial internally and externally but better than being a sucker. You made the best point.

[@Paigular]

Thank you so much. I was crying over this exact issue when I looked at my phone and saw the notification. For almost six months, I was stuck in this dynamic until I ended it because the red flags were waving in my face, but I didn't know why. It wasn't until last month that the narcissist finally told me the truth about how his new relationship started. I unknowingly was stuck in the middle while my intuition was screaming. I'm glad the truth is out, and yet, I'm still emotionally exhausted remembering he got what he wanted out of me until his new supply entered the picture.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry you went through that ordeal. It takes time but you will heal and you will come out of it stronger. We recommend you reach out to a mental health professional who can help you with the gaslighting, manipulation, and abuse you may have experienced. Please take care!

[@kaypaton3263]

After 33 years being in a relationship and trying so hard to fix it. I have finally realised my ex husband is not capable of changing He is self centred and entitled and a total taker. If everything is right in his selfish bubble then why would he change. I didn't feel significant I felt a burden. I HAD to do it his way because he Was in his head never wrong. They drain you ... they ...make you feel so unworthy and it's so toxic. The main thing I have learnt is this... I know now after finally leaving him that I truly deserve so much more. HIS LOSS

[@yoya4766]

The payoff from their behaviour is very good. It's us who lose in this dynamic. So yah he's been on a win win, and its a lose lose for you.

[@fatoucisse8646]

@@yoya4766 we lose in the dynamic they lose for life !

[@lindseyosborn154]

The narcissist in my family literally calls herself an empath during any argument. So that way, everyone else is in the wrong all the time. She claims she feels others emotions but she just uses that as a way to turn anything you do into “why are you mad at me” or “why are you attacking me” even if she is in the wrong.

[@KaiIchiRu96]

My goodness, that sounds soo exhausting to me- how are you doing ? Maybe a lil in-depth research could help you to get the mental tools you’d need to 'handle' her. A little reminder: Everyone is responsible for their OWN feelings/ thoughts/ emotions/ actions. Sure, you can be influenced by outside stimuli (i.e. persons, circumstances etc.) BUT at the end of the day everyone is responsible only for their own feelings/ emotions and so on. - so, if she is reacting all the time to the emotions of others, you could politely state the above and tell her that it may help her to learn how to distance herself from others feelings. And maybe- only maybe- if you’re straightforward enough- tell her that what she’s been doing is 'slightly' annoying and emotionally immature🤔💛 Good luck!🍀👍🏻

[@yoya4766]

@@KaiIchiRu96 You don't know what an empath is, judging by this immature comment. Being responsible for your feelings, doesn't stop you feeling hurt when you are violated. If you act in a way to harm someone, you can't throw it in their face and say ''you're responsible.....''. Its the ultimate in gaslighting. If you physically strike someone, you don't say 'you're responsible for your health'. Well yes they may be but that doesn't stop the pain from the strike.

[@emmccasland]

I can relate heavily to this within my most recent relationship. It really struck a cord when she said that cutting people out of my life is extremely difficult for me because this has been the most difficult breakup I’ve ever experienced. The worst part is I’m having trouble admitting this relationship matches with this video pretty accurately. I don’t want to believe that this is how my relationship was because I want to believe that our relationship wasn’t that bad and that it’s all my fault. That I’m the one to blame because I couldn’t communicate or set boundaries. I don’t know if anyone else is or has experienced what I’m feeling but I know that it’s nice not to feel alone. So whoever is in a relationship like this, you are NOT alone.

[@alivc2458]

I could have practically wrote this comment, I was just in the best and worst relationship I've ever experienced. This video describes it 100% its a big pill to swallow but we cannot allow ourselves to let such dangerous people stay in our lives. It hurts like hell but I have hope I'll be thankful someday soon that it's over. You wrote this two months ago, how are you doing now? I'm still pretty heartbroken but each day gets easier.

[@emmccasland]

@@alivc2458 it was tough getting through everything at first and it still affects me currently. The trauma from the relationship affects a lot of current relationships and how I react to things. I’ve been doing a lot better and I know it’s tough at the moment, but it does in fact get easier!

[@alivc2458]

@@emmccasland Thank you I appreciate your insight.. I just don't know if I'll ever be able to trust anyone again.. nor do I trust myself anymore to be able to make that judgment. My ex came across as the perfect person in the beginning, I was completely fooled, I thought he was my soulmate, I told him I'd never love anyone again the way I loved him, but my love was never enough to satisfy his needs. Now im left picking up the broken pieces alone. How can someone tell if a person is genuine and trustworthy if they are so good at faking it? Makes me not want to ever risk getting hurt again.

[@emmccasland]

@@alivc2458 That’s completely understandable and I feel as if your comment spoke words I’ve only ever thought. I’ll admit I don’t trust anyone or myself currently. I felt the same as you did in your relationship, nothing I ever did was enough for him. It was always my fault.. but it’s all about patience and time with yourself. After my last relationship I was all alone too. I had friends to help me through it and while I appreciate them immensely, they can’t glue my heart back together for me. I know you’re hurting but you will survive this. He didn’t deserve you and you deserve better. With this heart break time is all I can tell you to hold onto. Try your hardest to accept and allow yourself to heal before looking ahead into future endeavors. The present you needs to be your focal point. You are strong and worthy and powerful. This break up will not be your downfall

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@pamelakelley5535]

Yes, was in this for 5 years. He made my life a living hell. As a super empath I did not accept his abuse both mental and verbal. I walked away. So glad I was able to regain my freedom and peace. He never thought I would leave he thought wrong.

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@wendychavez5348]

I am mildly empathic. My last boyfriend, who I started disengaging from about 5 years ago, is almost a textbook narcissist. My current partner is a strong empath, and life is so much nicer with his energy than it was with the narcissist's! I'm actually learning to encourage and improve my empathic tendencies, and really enjoying the process.

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@baguette5678]

You guys are the best, you’ve changed many people’s lives whom seen your videos! ( including me! )

[@deathcrow3907]

Love ur png my dude

[@baguette5678]

Thank you :)

[@Brightifyisthebest]

This video will guess your AGE 🤯 👇 kzbin.info/www/bejne/foLVo5WihtOFkJo

[@keiron.4612]

My life's stop the same lol

[@m2b785]

*PYSCHO2GO IS FAKE NEWS MY CONTENT IS BETTER*

[@randizzleswizzle8810]

The timing of this video and what I just went through the past 5 months and how it all played out exactly like this video is chilling. The emotional abuse the narcissist can unleash on empath is unreal. My best advice to anyone in that situation, don't be afraid to end things. Once those red flags start coming in, don't justify, don't gaslight yourself, don't ignore them. Listen to your gut instincts. As much as an empath wants the affection, it's not going to happen. Thank you for this video it came at the perfect time and really helped.

[@keddy5627]

This is such a great summary of the dynamic that existed between myself and my father, my ex-husband, and my former employer…time to move forward and appreciate my strengths and know that I am a better person for being to care so deeply for others. I choose to extend that same level of compassion to myself, today!

[@mooshroom_cow4620]

As an empath, I tend to get overwhelmed when the people I love are upset. Can you make a video of how to prevent that?

[@superDpermn]

(As someone who's *not* an emphath) I think you should take notes on what exactly they experience and then write down what you can do to help them. When everything's in your head it can be overwhelming. This really can help you disconnect from their feelings when you need it.

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

Yes, I know that. They point their finger and scream at you. You feel hurt but also understand what they are going through at the same time. So you are hurt twice.

[@teresanum278]

Teaching to help kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSMKMcCCZAROMCxCJF0VkaKs

[@canfeilie]

superDpermn is right if you are overwhelm its always better to take note on whats going on, make a plan for it and stick with a plan it would be better than following your feeling. Try to make everything a plan from now on. For example, take note on how your are feeling and how the other people feel, then brainstorm some solutions that gonna fit you and them. Never hesitate to discuss these solutions, especially with your love ones. You got to remember if someone truly care about you they wouldn't refuse to grow with you. And if it did turn sour then you already got your answer. Its not selfish to leave someone that weigh you down however it is selfish to become someone elses' burden.

[@enigmatic2878]

Not even our therapists are safe from the ever-expanding, youtuber-hunting game that is Raid Shadow Legends. Also the fact that Amanda's voice is too soft and calm for a sponsorship like this somehow makes it better listening to, despite no hype.

[@m2b785]

*PYSCHO2GO IS FAKE NEWS MY CONTENT IS BETTER*

[@superbloxian502]

@@m2b785 what content?

[@richavarghese5986]

@@m2b785 u have 7 subscribers, ma dude 💀💀

[@RussianSpy4632]

@@m2b785 If it was better you wouldn’t need to prove it by responding to a silly youtube comment

[@hurjireepz7021]

Just face it bruv. They care more about your money than your mental health.

[@kankan3625]

Reading these comments made me feel less like a weirdo 😅 and more like a gifted human being. Thank you to my newly founded community. May we all set boundaries, protect and love us first. And heal from any damage we have trying to love someone who will never feel it.

[@KarolineThePagan]

Actually I wanna share something, and it’s relevant to the same topic of this video the empath, and narcissist duo relationship. A true narcissist is a true gaslighter, and manipulator, and a true empath or HSP are considerate of others, and checks in how they’re loved ones are doing, and enjoys helping others by supporting them not fix everyone’s problems yourself. Because I learn it’s a mistake myself, and anyone makes. I hope anyone would read this feel, or think there are good people in this good than bad people.

[@Brightifyisthebest]

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[@theepicgamer989]

I'm both in a way so im neutral

[@mistedpawtheblogclanner9653]

Please do not hate on narcissists, some do not know they are bring so rude and if they do they apologize like a week later- I say this from experience because I am one.

[@mistedpawtheblogclanner9653]

@Whychilly I know, I have BEGGED people to stop Hanging out with me, they simply refuse, saying they know I genuinely care and do not want to punish me, and the look on an empaths face, I just, can't argue, it hurts more then you think, narcissists are not heartless you know. And yes, sometimes it is healthy to cut them out and I encourage everyone to do so but, if they show that genuinely care, do not give up on them yet!

[@mistedpawtheblogclanner9653]

@Whychilly Yes, but, most describe me as a empath and a narcissist, saying i am very self centered an seem to lack empathy but at the same time say I have to much empathy, I might just be self centered like you are saying, idk but, thank you!

[@美兮兮经典音乐_123]

Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 🍊🍊🍊

[@skullduggery83]

The givers have to have boundaries because the takers don't have any...

[@mrsmarie1292]

I’m an empath and my mom is a narcissist putting siblings against each other ,avoiding what she did wrong ! Lack emotions fake crocodile tears have her favorites out of all her kids blame others play victim and always lying!! Also when people first meet her they like her right away she plays an innocent role It’s a never ending cycle.. my advice is to stay far far away from them once you reach a certain age love them from a distance and never ever fall for anything they say!!

[@dianaburkley1267]

Both parents, sister, boyfriends (most), husband. Light finally went on.

[@linhdieuha]

I second this notion✋🏻✨

[@meerockz_41]

Same here. Same! 💔😥

[@stacymetcalf6018]

Ditto

[@Lizablue0608]

I ground my energy by going outside barefoot and let the negativity go from the top to the bottom of my feet and into the earth. Imagine it and it helps. No matter the weather. It’s how I let it go. I recharge by shutting down for a few days and my friends and family understand when I need to. It’s exhausting. I can feel a narcissist the moment they are in my space. It angers me. I learned what it is to be interactive with one. It’s the most exhaustive and darkest feelings ever.

[@rodrigoantoniojrgallardo6607]

This is something that I have been researching for a long time now, I’m a narcissist. And I want nothing more to understand why I was being so destructive. I’m doing my part to change that and there are resources for individuals like me who want to change. A narcissistic doesn’t take accountability and I’m here to say I’m doing my best to own up to it and let the shame of letting the woman I love down push me to because the best man I can be. I had to let her go because there’s no doubt that she’s hurting. But that’s the least I can do, respect her space. I love her for her and my ignorant ways prevented me from seeing that

[@Anna-vq1qn]

I've had enough experience with narcissists....u cud say I've a whole family full of them and I know it takes a lot owning up. As a person who's went through a lot of narcissistic abuse.....ur comment gives me hope that might still be teeny tiny way out for the people I still love somewhere in my heart. Keep going, one day u'll reach there❤️ - from an empath

[@Mii.2.0]

_"The question is not why you fell from it, but what you can do to rise from it."_ ~ *Amanda Silvera*

[@simplyydivine]

I know another painful dynamic! My pillow and I are the best of pals

[@framundajohnson2186]

I feel the same way, friend. cuddle close

[@fumikoh6231]

I finally ended a long, close friendship with a narcissist. This video described our relationship perfectly!! It was difficult, but I’m so happy to be out of it!

[@norinellysrodriguez4538]

I'm trying to do the same. Last night I watched this video and then spent four hours figuring out ways to help her. Now i feel i should just cut her off. But if i drop her shell try and get back at me

[@PatrickJB410]

As an empath I was blind to my wife's hidden trauma.. Which surprised me because I can usually pick up on people quite easily.. 8 years later, my wife is a TRUE narcissist.. And I'm a broking soul who has lost themselves.

[@DocLantern85]

I don't know if I'm an empath or not. I think I'm an HSP. I'm about to go through therapy. My Mom is a covert narcissist and a self-righteous christian. I knew from the get-go that she was emotionally abusing me and she used me in emotional incest. She never taught me how to take care of myself and she never helped me grow. She was never there emotionally, she kept blaming me for everything, even why I didn't get out on my own until I was 27. Saying that I squandered my life and there's nothing I can do about. That it's too late. She antagonize me at every turn when I was trying make my way out of the house. If I squandered my life so much, then why did she make an effort to keep pushed down in her house and made me to feel like I was stupid and nothing to make herself feel better?

[@SweetUniverse]

My mother was the same, right down to the self-righteous christian. My mother wanted me to be a servant to her is why she was desperate to keep me around.

[@mkextra05]

Narcissistic abuse is truly real because why is this EXACTLY my life and of many others? Something that's so obscure for others to understand because of it's insidious and often covert nature yet so painfully accurate described by complete strangers who also suffer from it. Only people who gone through it can truly and clearly understand. More often than not, victims are further gaslighted by the rest of society. Growing up from abusive conditioning is so hard to wake up from let alone break away from the viscious trap. It's literally invisible abuse since birth and will grow up victim-blamed by default. It's sad to think that the people who most likely at least lost half of their lifetime and will be completely shunned if they chose their well-being, will probably also end up healing without support from family and friends and fighting by themselves if they want to stop narcissism. It's a poison that alienates people not only from others but also themselves. You are killed twice: childhood trauma that affects your potential and your pure empathic nature. If that isn't evil and the cause of societal problems then I don't know what is.

[@claaiirre]

Call the police and tell them to arrest your mom >:(

[@morganvickery3230]

It took my cousin telling me I was with a narcissistic guy for me to finally realize why I was so drained of myself. I was giving all of myself and I felt empty. I was so sad all the time. I kept trying to give all of my love when I received nothing back. He was never happy with all of my love and attention. It was never enough. I never felt like enough. It was the most freeing time when I said goodbye.

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@KarlaFlores-cm5cr]

Wish I had had the courage to say goodbye...

[@darknessfierce4209]

Usually the narcissist empties your life of people Glad you got out

[@maddie-son4241]

As an empath, I can totally relate to this. I used to have a best friend who was a complete narcissist (though I didn’t realize it at the time…), and I honestly didn’t realize how much of a toll our imbalanced friendship had on me and how much I was being taking advantage of until I stopped being friends with them. I was completely loyal to them and found myself trying to make them happy even if it costed my own well-being. I think it is okay to be nice and empathetic to everyone but definitely be careful who you get really close to…😞

[@coolskunk6186]

Same 😥

[@christymckee8133]

...at first, usually, the empath isnt totally or even at all aware they are an empath. Theyve experienced things their entire life that they believe to be common, everybody is that way... The narcissist is a chameleon and they will be who ever they need to pretend to be to get their target. So its not really an opposites attract. Narcholes are very VERY good actors. When an empath becomes aware of theirself, they can smell a narchole from a mile away and they may have one narchole theyre attached to, but wont be caught dead with another. An empowered empath is a narcholes worst nightmare. Because ya cant lie to an empowered empath. Sometimes empaths use a narchole theyre in relationship with to hone in on their gift. Blessings always come in disguise... Empaths, self awareness is your best friend! You will be tested 🙂

[@peter10245]

Alright i am an Empath then i guess. I usually see and feel others Emotions quite easily and feel most of the times the same way then. I have a Coworker which often looks so sad and unhappy. I asked her i think 3 or 4 times if everthings okay. Of course she said all is fine and tryed to hide it, but i am so sure that she is unhappy or has some Issues with herself. I always feel the Need to help but that is often not wanted of course even though it would help. Especially with Women it is like that. Maybe it´s like a typical Male Behavior to tend to help or uplift a sad Women i don´t know. But i feel with Man the same sometimes but not that strong.

[@christymckee8133]

@@peter10245 id say youre an empath. We usually go through life and people, strangers approach us and unload on us, telling us their life story. Id say she might think youre maybe hitting on her... i see peoples pain, its not something we can try to force out of people. That can be dangerous to them. Id just let her know if she ever needs an ear that youre there for her. Shes probably in relationship with a narchole and is hurt and confused. Lol, its a really common occurrance.

[@peter10245]

@@christymckee8133 No she is single. I think she did make some bad Experiences with Men. I asked her for a Date two Times but she rejected me of course. Sometimes she is so angry and Moments later she looks like she is about to cry. She makes herself unhappy and doesn't even recognize that somethings not right. I can't help her but it hurts to see her that way. I had Feelings for her but she destroyed them pretty good. Now i am just sad to her like that.

[@sriku1000]

A great watch on an age old custom and its severe consequences - Sibling marriages kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGPadaWff910rrs

[@TimTamSlam7]

Holy shit thats because being an empath is not a real fucking thing. It IS common to have empathy. It IS a human trait to be sensitive to emotions and thoughts. Get a grip on reality, you're not a fucking powerhouse for other people's emotions. You literally cannot tell me my thoughts and feelings, everything that is said about empaths is literally universal towards anyone who has literally any level of emotional intelligence

[@aartipatel1960]

There is hope even for children of narcissists or borderline families. It totally stems in a process. 1) know you are not responsible to fix everything in others’ lives, 2) spending time with yourself and “unplugging” in whatever way feels good for you, 3) using kind words towards yourself and occasionally indulging in something that makes you happy, 4) making boundaries that are set in stone. As an empath myself, I have often found it hard to put myself first and would become overwhelmed by my inability to “fix” other people’s problems. I became a physician so that I could truly help others in a way that had some boundaries but still changed things for the better. If you believe you are an empath, then know it is a beautiful and amazing thing when you don’t let that gift control you or allow others to do so. Remember: you are intrinsically loving towards others, so balance that with a lot of self-love too. ❤️

[@trevorfranks69]

Literally every children and their parents ever. Once you move out it will be the most satisfying experience in your life.

[@katrinamendoza4467]

Felt.

[@orangeziggy599]

Wonderful

[@chipotleguest690]

my parents are great and try their best to take my needs and wants into consideration and I feel really bad for people who struggle with this dynamic with people in their family

[@deadinside8719]

Specially my father

[@shadorra6627]

I dont think so, not every.

[@e.g.jamestrumm7101]

my sister is a narcissist and its so painful to watch how she manipulates my parents to get everything she wants, the worst part is that she is only 10 years old

[@meditate0924]

i find it all clear and simple to understand and there is nothing you can do to a narcisict person all you need to do is leave them alone forever

[@starfier_starr4218]

I agree with all of this, my mother is 45, she is a narcissist, she keeps saying she's not, but she is when I tried to tell her and help her change she pushes me away

[@jessicawidmeier2862]

I just got out of this, I had a guy who was a Narcissist, I called it, but he still lured me in, me not trusting my own Empath way gave him a chance, he lead me on, then backed out and has barely said a word to me in almost a month, I was in a rough place for three of those weeks wanted to die, I still get moments where I miss him, that false feeling of how he made me feel like he cared, it crashes in like waves and I sob, then I'm ok again, but I need to let him go because he just doesn't care about me and never will.

[@jazz2313]

I'm astonished ,same situation here. All I can say focus on what you want to accomplish , your happiness is important too!

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@alexischristian4004]

They have found a new supply they will either break up with you, hurt your feelings and make you jealous and in turn you leave. They will ask to be just friends, just to keep you as recyclable energy. Run and go no contact

[@cassiohenrique352]

I have some things I gained from experience with a narcissistic mother: 1. No love or effort will ever be enough. 2. They will strike you even harder when they realize you are acknowledging their abuse and/or trying to have some self esteem or self care. 3.The other people in your family will probably turn against you when you set your boundaries and/or go against the narcissist will, and they are probably being manipulated too. 4. Stay strong. Maybe you will need to search for a therapist and a psychiatrist, and that’s OK!! 5. Keep going, I’m sure you will find your right place on earth. Xoxo.

[@danah-..-...]

i resonated with all the points on this list. thank you for taking the time to write this today. i hope you have a good rest of your day/night. :)

[@YelsewNesnej]

Thank you so much. I’ve really been hard on myself and questioning why. I was gaslighted badly and taken advantage of.

[@MintyCow101]

First relationship i ever had he was a narcissist, almost 4 years trying to make him happy and him just using up all my energy. So glad he left me, i had no idea how much better i deserved

[@user-gg3qh4di9s]

This is such a precise summary of the relationship between a narcissist & empath. I discovered my husband was a covert narcissist after 25 years of marriage (now 28 yrs). Now I'm trying to put boundaries in place. Just over a year ago he told me to jump out of the car (that I'm paying for, but he drives) and commit suicide because I said he needs to keep the car clean as he happily drives it around with lumps of birds poo on it. This is a man I had doted on & idealised since marriage, repeatedly telling him that he was such a kind person, but I noticed that anytime we had a slight argument the first thing he would say to me is 'you are ungrateful' & then walk out; each time this happened I'd yield to what he wanted. 3 yrs ago I started challenging him on why the first thing he says to me is 'you're ungrateful' anytime there's a disagreement despite the fact that for 17 of the the last 19 years I had been the SOLE financial provider for our family of 5, doing everything I could do to help him. About 4-5yrs ago I asked him to look for work because it was getting too much for me but he refused saying he can't work. Finally 15 months ago he got a part-time job as I wouldn't let up. He's undermined me & turned the children against me - the 2 adult ones quickly jump to defend him & blame me for everything (just as he does). I am trying to recover from the hurt and damage caused by the constant gaslighting and sabotage to my career. I've actually been "burned out" for the last 3 years & had to take unpaid time off work for 2 months to recover - during this time he asked me to sign up to get a mortgage so we could move to a new house!

[@FantasticFouzia]

You can do this! Keep going and don't look back. Take one day at a time. Establish Self love/care routine that works for you. Those work s well for the days we feel drained. Children will understand when you communicate with them, you must save the children because usually they are the next supply...

[@Badobadee]

Oh dear! You must be so exhausted! Can I please ask you a question, because I need to understand my mother who has been in your situation for 27 years and she eventually left my father. Why did you stay in this marriage for so long ?

[@user-gg3qh4di9s]

@@FantasticFouzia Thank you 🙏

[@user-gg3qh4di9s]

@@Badobadee Yes I am. Thanking you & all those who have shown support by their 'thumbs up' 🙏! Initially I did not realise anything was wrong, it was only 4 years ago I began to notice following the passing comment of a psychologist. As I mentioned, he is a COVERT narcissist so it can be difficult to realise until many years down the line (they present differently to the usual narcissists we are familiar with). I became more alarmed when he told me to end my life - I was frightened so I told the police. I stayed mainly because of my daughter who has just become 14 years old. I have contemplated leaving many times but haven't ( it can be difficult leaving someone you known & loved for many years but it's still on the table).

[@Badobadee]

@@user-gg3qh4di9s All respect for taking so much responsibility ❤️ it’s right it’s difficult to identify a covert narcissist, especially when you didn’t have the awareness! Do you love him, or do you sympathize with him because he always see himself as a victim? Is it fear that’s keeping you in the relationship?

[@kyrabrown6529]

This makes so much sense. The empathy I have it so insane but my mother lacks so much and I'm like HOW ARE WE RELATED

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@Ari-yg3iu]

Felt this so much. I constantly pour my heart out to my mom and she always ends up giving me the silent treatment and gets mad at me for being “sensitive” even if I tell her I love her and I don’t wanna fight with her she still gives me the silent treatment. It’s so hard and so painful. I don’t know what to do anymore. I hope you are in a better space today and I pray for your well being 🙏🏼🤍 happy new year!

[@kyrabrown6529]

@@Ari-yg3iu hey no one including you deserves this. We can't pick the parents we get but we have to best in the situation we are in. At this point I have giving up on trying to build a relationship with her. And have mental boundaries between us untils she realize she got to get help. Until I get the chance to move out, unfortunately I just have to face the fact that I don't won't have a mother and daughter like others. It hurts and it saddens but it no point constantly hurting myself if she doesn't do her part in the relationship. I hope the best for u as well I can tell you mean well and anyone who Mets u will be glad to have someone caring.

[@kyrabrown6529]

@@Ari-yg3iu also happy new year 🎉

[@damienkarney2251]

I’m an empath I keep getting sucked into relationships with narcissists. Twice I put up with an abusive partner for far too long. I just stay single now because I don’t seem to be able to find a healthy relationship. This video is so true.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

❤❤❤❤

[@hollyventer1337]

i genuinely can’t explain how much i needed to see this video. he would always tell me i was crazy for thinking he was manipulating me and playing with my feelings. his damage is still very raw and i know it’ll take a long time to heal from, but i’m so incredibly happy that this video found me.

[@SecretsofShade]

I'm an empath, and I was raised by a narcissistic mother. Upon reaching adulthood, I jumped headfirst into this relationship with a charismatic man. Took me nine years to realize that he would never actually change, and that our relationship didn't mean to him what it meant to me. I still remember the last telephone conversation we had. He was so good at pretending to take responsibility for his actions. When I say pretending, that's exactly what it was. The dynamic we'd had was that he would say something like, "It's my fault," and I would be quick to tell him it wasn't at all. I wanted to build him up. But that last conversation, he said that, and I just said, "Yeah, it was." He got so angry with me, because he'd expected me to pander to him once again. But I was done with that dynamic. Thankfully, my husband and I are a much better fit. :)

[@sethwells1602]

I have a suggestion though I'm not entirely sure how much you can cover but it would be helpful to tell the differences of a male vs female narcissist because I recently had dealings with a female narcissist and their manipulation tactics are far more difficult to notice because of their subtleties where as majority of males are more obvious in most cases

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the suggestion! Hope you're doing okay!

[@lowbudgetadvice95]

And the difference between Male and female empaths if there are any as a suggestions as well. I would definitely be interest in both these suggestions.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

They are tooo smart and have no empathy

[@Hopscotch_24]

Great suggestion!

[@linnea5124]

I've been through this. It was heartbreaking and terrifying for me to let go of that relationship, but I did put my foot down. I was all the same shocked when my former "friend" just coldly shrugged it off. Once she couldn't use me anymore, she did not care at all. She never apologized for anything. While I loved her deeply, she clearly didn't feel for me at all except for what she could get from me. That was a huge eye-opener and I regret that I wasted many years prioritising this person in my life, being dominated and used, taking time from others I should rather have spent that precious time with. 😔

[@stephie640]

So.. Does the Narcissist KNOW they are being a narcissist.. Or do they simply operate that way thinking it is normal?

[@ichsehnursoaus]

There are narcissistic tendencies and there is the narcissistic Personality disorder. Nevertheless you have the right to call out hurtful behaviour and to be treated respectfully and with empathy and sympathy.

[@SweetUniverse]

My mother was a narcissist. She believed she was perfect and couldn't understand why everyone didn't want to be like her.

[@1suemartins1]

Be aware, people. The FALSE NARRATIVE: "oh, so NPD people are all hurt people that hurt others, they don't know the impact of their actions" can literally kill empaths. Doctor Ramani (a psychologist and Author) who has a channel about narcissism, talks exactly about this. Important to watch, empath people (and also enablers): kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmerp6hriblrepY

[@garycordle5295]

They know, but here's the deal, they just don't care.

[@choboboyo333]

I have some slight narcissistic tendencies and I know it.

[@Eckister]

also - Raid: Shadow Legends is an excellent example of a narcissist...

[@deadinside8719]

Lol

[@michaelhighlights1614]

anyway im both narcisis and an empath, im just that good you know?

[@changedmyusernameagain7654]

Agreed

[@TrollyTrollge]

And genshin impact is empath

[@bobaax.xteaa.]

😂😂😂

[@FictionalLover2726]

As an Empath, almost every "best friend" ive ever had, turnes out to be a manipulative and toxic person full of narssisostic traits. 😔

[@jazzhands3329]

I love learning about this, it feeds my craving of learning lol

[@Brightifyisthebest]

This Video Will Guess Your Age 🤯 👇 kzbin.info/www/bejne/foLVo5WihtOFkJo

[@quantumz4625]

@@Brightifyisthebest I wonder if it’ll guess i don’t like reply spam

[@brineeggliang5460]

I just like how she still kept using that gentle voice for a Raid ad

[@TheSkyFish]

I am a empath and from watching this vid you guys helped me figure out that one of my best friends is a narcissist thank you I will confront them tomorrow

[@GreenUnicorn91]

I'm going through many life changes all in one. This video perfectly explained the entirety of my relationship and marriage with my husband... I just left a month ago. My heart won't let him go. It's crazy that you stated narcissistic people wearing "masks"... that's one of the first real conversations I had with him. I told him he was hiding behind a mask. He went through so much in his life he felt he had to. But in the process of me trying to help him... he's hurt me in more ways than one. The fucked up thing is I know he loves me... but I can't trust him anymore. He's still asking me for help, it's really tough for him and on to of his mentality... he's got ptsd and depression with anxiety. Idk if he's actually stopped drinking... I don't know what to do anymore 😔

[@TarifHuda]

I had a similar experience with my ex wife. This video perfectly depicted my former married life. The horrible experience I had to endure was unfathomable. She made me feel suicidal but thankfully I got abundant support from my family. But still I seldom experience subtle PTSD. Sometimes putting a wall doesn't help, they might just go on a warpath to bring your life to ruination. You just gotta leave before it gets more toxic.

[@azrikoplayz]

“I can fix him!” NO YOU CANT! NO. YOU. CANT.

[@dsoul1305]

I'm in a relation with a person who have narc traits, but they are also empath, self-critical and have shame. It's not always that I manage to make them realise they are stepping over boundaries or being bad, but as I said in my other comment is being very helpful. I say "this was not nice" in a calm tone and they stop the bad behaviour. They are fairly open to calm conversation and gentle and well put critic and new proposals. They still go about they business sometimes without remembering we were in the middle of conversation (it's online, kind of understadable that may happen a few times), but more often they are warning they will go take care of something before leaving and asks forgiveness in the cases they forget. They genuinely perceives and cares for my feelings, even when my mother and best friends don't. They get sad if I get sad, and are happy if I'm happy, but if they don't get what they want sometimes they mad and acts like they are special. If I get something and they don't, they get frustrated. But then if they are rude to me in moments like this I shut them down and they become self-aware again. They already know and admits when "jealous" and they prefer to shut themselves down when realizing they can't happy for my success because of their bad fate. It's really odd to me that I adore they as I hate true narcissists. I want to spoil them with love and my mind thinks they are great, but there have been a lot of drama in the beginning and we both thought many times in going our separate ways, but we miss each other like soul mates... So I invested in focusing we both in personal and relationship development. I'm glad they truly care, but am so upset to see they have a lot of narc traits. I'm happy to notice I'm aware of the need to set boundaries and they of knowing and respecting them because it easy the load of having to say no. They are now constantly checking my emotional state to have sure I'm confortable and not hiding any disconfort, and learned they don't need any sarcarm towards me and that I never attack him.

[@Illette]

I'm not narcissist I'm empathetic, *but not for everyone*

[@muricanecount8211]

Empathy is not a choice that you either select or refrain from. Its innate. You can only learn to regulate it to a certain degree after lots of deliberate practice. If your "empathy" is selective, its not empathy, its probably psychopathy - pretending to care about people only when something is needed from them

[@Illette]

@@muricanecount8211 Let me elaborate, I *hold* my empathy for people that are way too bad to have it I mean in their shoes, *I wouldn't constantly refer to someone as "stupid" for looking weird* I mean i don't even look weird it's just rude When i see them hurt I'm just asking Dud r u k *Nothing more or less*

[@childofgod759]

@@Illette idk why people think empathy makes them a good person, it’s fine you hold ur empathy. I have autistic friends because of their neurodivergence they don’t feel much empathy but they can still be very compassionate and sympathetic. :)

[@Illette]

I don't think empathy and any of that makes me a good person I just don't wanna look too rude or too caring I prefer staying natural NOW'S YPUR CHANCE TO BBE A [potato]

[@cr1t1cs92]

@@Illette I AM A POTATO

[@olenaturkevych9737]

I just wanted to say that this video is so explanatory it hurts. A great reality slap. Thanks for making things clear!

[@sriku1000]

Is this the legacy you leave behind?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWbJZq2BqLNkeqc A great watch!

[@twinkincarnate]

i’m an empath, and my mom is a narcissist. needless to say we don’t get along too well

[@SweetUniverse]

Same. My life finally got better after she died of cancer.

[@LE-zy2od]

I finally saw through my narcissistic mother abuser. She destroyed me constantly and I finally woke up and realised I had been this broken before and so many Times. It clicked she did this

[@beyondthedarknessislight]

I'm an empath and my husband is a narcissist. This is absolutely true.

[@FLdancer00]

Whyyyyyyy did you marry him?

[@beyondthedarknessislight]

@@FLdancer00 at this point I wish I hadn't. We learn from our mistakes and it was a long hard lesson to learn.

[@alisonrichardson6630]

Yes I am an empath and have been in this type of relationship for 30 years. I am now recovering and your information was 100% correct. Hope this helps people to recognize their trauma bonded relationships sooner than I did.

[@MinjiJhen]

I was in a narcissist-empath relationship for 5 years. Sadly, I was the empath... And yes, it ended with self-love. This video captured everything that happened point on.

[@aprilbanks2018]

Everything said aside from the squeezed in gaming infomercial was spot on! I’m an empath and I kept thinking about a particular individual. Whom I have to cut ties with. I’ve come to the realization that, he’s been draining me and I’ve allowed him. I’ve been reminded numerous times to love myself and take back my power. Damn it’s hard and I’m trying!

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

This video basically outlined my relationship with my recent ex. So many things make sense now. "A narcissist loves someone who would tolerate their actions"......🤯 This is why I'll have an extremely difficult time getting back to normal and he will move on with his life effortlessly. This is also why he will likely jump right into a relationship with the next woman who shows him a bit of attention. They crave that constant supply. I have a strong suspicion he will dump all his efforts (love bomb) into one of the women he said was 'just a friend' because these types of people have such fragile egos that they need to surround themselves with people they can easily manipulate. I've had one of his longest and closest male friends suggest leaving him was the best thing I could have done for myself...that's huge. It makes me wonder what he knows that I don't. Oh well. I don't care anymore. When you finally realize and fully understand that a person you loved didn't feel the same it really changes your heart. If I wasn't so angry with myself for not realizing sooner, I'd be completely spiraling. Never remain in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you or your boundaries. That is not love. Don't be fooled like I was. ♡