Psyche's gift to the shameful: two powerful questions that'll change your self-image

[@leialuminous]

Oh man, when you haven't been allowed to feel your feelings your entire life this one is so true, go through it, experience it, healing is possible for everyone. You are not broken, you're breaking the cycle.❤

[@Betwixt_App]

I couldn’t agree more!! 🖤🖤🖤

[@StainlessHelena]

Given how much I've repressed in myself, it's kind of ironic how much of a dysfunctional, unproductive, lonely, self-hating and yet self-absorbed mess I am. This got some painful but important gears turning in my head. Thank you!

[@Betwixt_App]

Ah, man. I’ve been there. I know that feeling x

[@c.virmani2461]

What a deep question. I suppose I would no longer feel as a fragmented person. I would see myself as a complex human being with strength and flaws that coexist in harmony.

[@Betwixt_App]

What a wonderful answer! I love this!

[@l11ac]

I’m healing and growing from years of religious conditioning. Learning to accept and embrace my true self has been a challenge, but your videos have helped immensely! Thank you!

[@Betwixt_App]

Oh, you’re so very welcome! 🤍🤍🤍

[@umm7063]

Wow, I think I just understood this thinking. The point for me was at the end when you were speaking of accepting the characteristic but with temperance. I have started to really dig deep with understanding what I see in others is myself (sometimes that which I don't like). Now, taking those characteristics that I don't like and accepting them within myself and using them, sometimes with temperance, as needed. Somehow, I wasn't seeing them as being on a spectrum. 🤔 More deep thought🤔

[@OldGreyMare]

That's (6:40) actually a very unusual understanding of guardian angels to me! But a delightful one. In the tradition I know, guardian angels were silent protectors, possibly akin to conscience but more like security guards; Catholic art (cheesy) shows them hovering over children in storms or dangerous places. A sign of divine presence in the midst of darkness. Your suggestion adds a wonderful vigor to the picture: this guardian angel is not just a buffer, and doesn't just whisper prettily. It has something to say, and that's excellent: I appreciate the invitation to encounter it . Tx.

[@Betwixt_App]

It’s great, isn’t it! I can’t claim the idea as it’s part of Hillman’s lecture, but I loved that take too.

[@majarini]

I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your work. ❤

[@Betwixt_App]

Thank you so much! This means a lot x

[@ABo-jr8pg]

It's so interesting to me that you perceive ambition and competitiveness as not being socially accepted. I get the exact opposite impression. Maybe I'm surrounded by to many people who have fallen victim to "hustle culture".

[@Betwixt_App]

@@ABo-jr8pg This is a good point. I think you’re right that ambition and competitiveness are prized by many. There is definitely a gendered difference (these things are generally considered much more acceptable in men than in women), but I also think there are a lot of double standards around it all. We’re supposed to be the best, but not put others in an uncomfortable position; we’re expected to be competitive but remain humble… It’s a bit of a minefield.

[@electricAB]

Great stuff and really well presented! 👍🏽

[@Betwixt_App]

Thank you 🖤

[@dianemoril7612]

for me things change as I grow. the one thing that makes me mad today (last 14 months) is cowardliness. because I used to do the things that nobody wanted to do because they were afraid about the consequences. so every ugly job became my job. the thing is, I am afraid too, but I go forward despite that. and I realized that people used me to do what they didn't want to do. so now I don't do anything, I stopped, and I hate it, and I hate even more those who should do something and doesn't want to act. and now I am despised by all the people who once said they were my friends... hahaha! I know there is still something unsettling about that in me, but I am in the process of solving it, one step at a time. thanks gale!

[@Betwixt_App]

Oh, I love this! I’m so glad you spotted that pattern and stopped taking on other people’s fearful responsibilities 💪🏼

[@irizanpereira792]

Just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much!

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re so welcome! 🤍

[@asecretturning]

This is brilliant, just downloaded the app

[@Betwixt_App]

Thank you! And I hope you enjoy Betwixt 🖤

[@latiam]

I struggle with shame, rage and guilt in specific relationships.

[@Betwixt_App]

@@latiam 🖤🖤🖤

[@Lovenarek]

Cruelty (to animals or other humans) is the most despised human trait, IMO. I can’t imagine being cruel as I find it so appalling, so I can’t witness it in myself. What to do with your second question?

[@Betwixt_App]

I totally agree with you re cruelty with animals. Re applying this here, you would need to build it down to the base trait (i.e. just cruelly or meanness).

[@Lovenarek]

@ Ahhh, got it!, just reduce it down. Well, unfortunately I can relate to having been mean on occasion, human after all :). Thank you for the reply. I enjoy your story telling style, and have previewed your app, the sound effects were simply awesome!

[@drusillialeavel7533]

I totally accept myself. But people pointing some aspects of my personality as flaws, seem don't understand when I say: " I know but if change this part it will lower one of my quality; and I actually like the quality in question. So I will not change anything. Because those flaws are just annoying without harming any one. Sorry for you, it the way I am."

[@davidwhitcher1972]

Weakness is the one thing that i can't stand. I don't care if others are weak. I have no ability to look into my future. When i attempt to I can't imagine my life any different then how it is.

[@annetyrie2596]

i have lived through this one, but... it was not easy to understand. your questions are a great way to start.

[@Betwixt_App]

Yes, me too. And it is very hard indeed!

[@Numina_]

❤ thank you

[@Betwixt_App]

You’re welcome!