Psychologist Explores BTS - Parent Connections

I'm Dr. Harley and I have a PhD in clinical psychology. My career was spent in both private practice and as a psychology professor. I'll be analyzing successful people in their journey for happiness.
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[@harleyburke1461]

I want to apologize to my viewers for confusing the names of the BTS members. I recognize that each of these young men are individuals in their own right. It was my error. I will do better next time. Dr. Harley

[@s.susanmarandi9080]

Not at all; totally understandable. You're doing great for such a new reactor. Looking forward to more videos. BTW, it might be helpful to "pin" your own comments to the top, so others will find it more easily. Warm wishes from an Iranian viewer 😊

[@beamoon6447]

It was difficult for me to distinguish them at the beginning specially because Suga and JK with short black hair at some point looked very similar. Totally understandable! You are doing greatly.💜

[@kdonaldson7308]

Have you seen that meme? When you first get to know BTS you mix them up, once you are ARMY you can identify them just based on their smile lol

[@mzen56]

You are getting better at putting the right name with person. That's great. Thanks for acknowledging and going on.

[@cindybee9270]

No worries! It took me a long time to figure out who is who.

[@Saranghae68]

V was raised by his Grandmother and Grandfather for 14 years as his parents worked away a lot. They did visit him regularly though and he has a loving bond with both. He says his father is his role model. The guys all have a strong bond with their families and with each others.

[@wongpauline22]

V is such a family-centered person....thanks for this info!

[@Saranghae68]

@@nobodyzzz9832 It was a discussion about parents. Without question he loves his siblings too

[@Saranghae68]

@@nobodyzzz9832 He has if there has been any discussion on siblings between the group during activities. The not close thing was a quite a few years back and that doesn't mean they do not love each other. Siblings argue from time to time I know I did with mine its a part of growing up and finding your place.

[@MrKaibaoh]

@nobodyzzz9832 he does though and did mention going out with them in recent years but it's better keeping their meetings private knowing how some fans disregard family memebers privacy

[@Saranghae68]

@@MrKaibaoh well said.

[@sabinemuller8124]

there are two situations i can´t forget. the first one is Yoongi. he spotted his parents during a concert. that obviously meant so much to him that he bowed towards them on stage and then he started sobbing so deeply. it gets me every time cause Yoongi tries to hide his feelings. seeing his parents who didn´t support him as an artist at his beginning meant so much to him. the seccond is J-Hope. it was at the beginning of their training, it was his birthday and he couldn´t see his parents. Bighit made a surprise for him, they made a video message for Hobi where his Mum and Dad told him how much they love him. Hobi was so surprised and overwhelmed that he started crying. all the members were crying with him, even the manager had tears in his eyes. me too, every single time i am watching this.

[@wongpauline22]

indeed! those really got me too! They're so real and so precious!

[@carasss7775]

J Hope rarely shows sad emotions on camera - so that Birthday video where he can't control his emotions is Big deal.

[@monkat3759]

Oh yeah Yoongi's full body collapse & Jimmin standing over him. I felt that to my core.

[@monicab377]

It is ok, Uncle Harley! 💜 Every Baby Army does that 🤩

[@harleyburke1461]

These moments capture how human and vulnerable these 'famous' young men are viewed.

[@pyejammiesfanfic640]

Hi DR Harley. Don't feel bad about mixing up the guys when you're so new to BTS. It must be helpful to the families to support each other. Having a world famous star in your family can't be easy. Jin tells the story about how his mum wouldn't talk about her younger son when she got together with her friends. Little did she know that her son would be known as, 'Worldwide Handsome', and be part of the biggest band in the world. RM's family were worried that he wasn't going to achieve the potential that their very intelligent son had. J-Hope's mum worked away from the family to fund her son's dream. He wrote a song about her and when his dad called on his birthday he couldn't stop crying and needed a hug from Jimin. J-Hope's family have taken, Leetuk, of Super Junior under their wing. He has had a very traumatic family life and they have him to visit after meeting him by chance. Jungkook's parents must have been so worried when they allowed their young teenager to live so far away. He was lucky to have six brothers to help him through his youth because their schedule meant that trips home were very few and far between. Jimin and Jungkook both come from Busan so Jimin's father would pick them up from the station when they did manage a trip home. V's parents had to send him to live with his grandma and grandpa because they were working away but his father would visit at weekends. He is very close with his parents who may now live in Seoul as he will say he's going to visit them after work. His father is particularly supportive. He has a very relaxed view of life so when V said he wasn't coping he told him not to worry. If he wanted to come home they'd find something else he could do. They look after V's dog, Yeontan. SUGA's relationship with his parents hasn't been so easy. They were very negative when he first began writing and destroyed his music. Whether that contributed to his mental problems we don't know but he understands that they were just concerned that he was going to end up poor. They were there for him when he had to visit the psychiatrist and now he obviously sees them regularly and his father is well known to the other members who do impressions of him. Yoongi says that he comes to visit and comments on the décor in his apartment and he follows his dad's advice. We've seen pictures of him with the family dog, Holly, in bed with him so he must stay over with them. The scenes where they were calling their parents were obviously arranged. Instead of, 'phone a friend' they could make a call to their parents. RM's dad has called him when he's doing a Live. They are good sons.

[@harleyburke1461]

You make an excellent point that these are good parents but also they are good sons.

[@BT7_skyblue59]

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[@Joud.Phoenix]

Jimins father has a habit of sending him flower bouquet on his birthday! ❤❤

[@sheilsikay8030]

You're getting all their names mixed up 😂 but it's totally normal for a new army. Appreciate how you emphasized how strong their bond and relationship with their parents

[@MrKaibaoh]

19:30 that was V actually, he always talks about he looks up to his father and wants to be like him, both his parents and grandparents did an amazing job supporting him and giving him love and it shows with how he communicate with those around him

[@sarahj3695]

I wonder how much of the unusually loving bond the BTS members have for each other is because of what they learned from their parents. Without exception, their parents seem to have been good people who gave love.

[@harleyburke1461]

I believe that the love of each BTS member toward each other has been nurtured by what they felt in their own family environment.

[@Gramcracker72]

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[@pacificpacific]

You got every member wrong 😂😂😂 and it's still so endearing 😊💜💜💜

[@popyindriani8109]

Thank youu uncle, for this reaction 🥰💜 Wanna make it clear the one who received call from his dad is Jin not J-hope😊 13.49 they are jimin and jungkook 😊 And 19.41 he is V not jungkook 😊 But it's okay, me too when i first discover them their names are exchanged 😅

[@Maraaha55]

This is really only touching the surface of what ARMY learned about these men and their families. You are right in the idea that they are like a big family together, andit's lovely that some of the parents are also close. When they were trainees Jin, who lived not too far away, would go home at weekends and his mum sent him back with food for everyone because the agency was so short o funds and couldn't buy stuff. And Jungkook - who left home at 13 - would get homesick so Jin sometimes took him home with him for home cooking and home comforts. Two other observations I'd make : these are Korean families and Korean parents. Some of the Dads' behaviour may be unusual because men in Korea are supposed to be stern and phlegmatic, and clearly we see here dads being soft, warm and loving. Mums are often closely involved with their kids - and sometimes oppressively so. Parental authority can be harsh, and almost impossible to challenge. But it's clear that BTS all have good relationships with their families - most of them have moved close to their kids now. The fact is that BTS' schedules are so intense that for years they had scant chances to be together. All the calls you see here are made AT WORK as part of the work story. They are joyous. Another element I'd observe. BTS have for the last 13 years worked under intense pressure, anxiety and fear - the work is physically, mentally and emotionally demanding. Bang Si Hyuk who selected trainees and mentored them ever since once said that he looked at personalities more than simply at talent or potential in any particular skill. He also said later that he looked back and thought perhaps he had been too greedy and demanding (though he didn't set working hours or the amount of practice they had to do). He would look in their eyes and saw their determination - but years later he realised that what he saw was a deep anxiety or fear. When they started their ages ranged from 13 years to 18 years, and at that time the company had recently been close to bankruptcy, had only one other artist signed to them and were very short of money: bankruptcy looked possible a few times. These boys were quite aware that the company (and the salaries of all the staff) would depend on them managing to earn enough to keep going. BSH is not, I think, one to rub that in or even mention it to them, but since most kpop bands are dumped within three months, they knew. I find the fact that they survived it all quite incredible. No wonder they are a family - and BSH is something of a surrogate dad to them all. Clearly these boys arrived with the bones of emotional rigour and resilience and they can thank their families. Relationships have not always been smiley, sometimes they've been toughly criticised and pushed to do different things instead (like study), but I think they all feel that they were always loved. Even if they were not well off, they were cared for an loved.

[@harleyburke1461]

You are very knowlegable about BTS and have some excellent insights. Thank you for enlightening me.

[@30midnightdolphine]

All the guys/members are just so sweet and humble.

[@kaviflora2057]

love ur videos a lot I love the fact that Jin is the youngest in the family and eldest in bts. Members used to tease him for jin calling his mom for hours. 😸

[@LostNTranslations]

While everything you said about J-Hope is also true, it was Jin who got a call from his father at tennis. I did a quick scan of the comments so far to see if there wasn't already a whole calvary of army making that correction. I didn’t see any so I'm the pain-in-the 🍑 thats gotta point that out. Sorry. It's also Jin who cannot spot his mother. Otherwise love the video.

[@bees369]

The lovely thing is that no matter how big, famous, or busy they are.. they are still in a very child parent familiarity with their parents and families.

[@harleyburke1461]

It is a life long bond.

[@tasha5768]

Don't worry you'll get their names in time you've only just started. Thank you for reacting again.

[@kdonaldson7308]

It’s great to discuss their family and how much they obviously care for them. I see some Army implying they can’t be close to their family cause they abandoned them to K-pop as teenagers. I think a few other great moments are when Jimin’s dad sends Jimin flowers for his birthday, when Suga sees his parents at a show, and Jungkook doing impressions of Suga’s dad they talk about how much Suga’s dad loves JK. Also if you see JHopes documentary he shows his parents house and all the memorabilia they have of JHope.

[@MidnightxCrow]

Abondoned them? Lol whose crazy theory is this? Some of their parents were literally against them being k-pop idols (obviously now they are supportive) so why do you think they pushed their children to this? It was just their dream to become artists, all of them grew up attached to music or dance in one way or the other and chose to pursue their dreams at a young age, that's it...

[@BAMMIE7613]

no way someone thinks that omg have they seen bangtan content at all or not?

[@kdonaldson7308]

@@BAMMIE7613 exactly when I first got to know BTS I saw content mostly on TicTok about how they weren’t close to their parents etc and that BTS had to raise JK cause his parents just abandoned him and that V was raised by his grandmother etc etc then I started watching Run episodes and Bangtans and realised how close they must feel to their parents and how supportive their parents are, so it’s nice to see content that vibes with this!!!

[@Ri_8518]

@@kdonaldson7308 Tick Tock is the worst place to learn things about BTS.

[@sage3553]

I don’t think it was armys saying that I only see solo stans saying things like that because solos always try victimized everything about them

[@talacorgi]

Thank you for your analysis of the parent- child relationships of BTS. Many can learn from these videos, especially it seems nowadays, the generation gaps and parent-child relationship gaps are widening. You probably are still not familiar with the names of the band members. In the first tennis video, that was Jin they were making fun of. Also, it was Jin who was talking to Jimin about not finding his mom in the audience, and it was also Jin talking about his dad telling him Santa was not real. The last video, it was V not Jungkook whose parents drove 12 hours to see him. One thing about Jin, he was brought up by well-to-do family yet his parents trained him to be humble since childhood. He once talked about how his dad took Jin with him to distribute coal to the poor during winter. There is also one famous video of their concert where Jin talked about his mom and why he wanted his parents to be proud of him. Jin has a very high EQ and all the members thanked him for what he taught them about life and being happy. His parents must have really raised him well. There is also one good video of V talking about his grandmother who raised him during the concert and Suga bowing in tears to his parents during the concert too. All of them were raised beautifully, so grounded, humble and kind people.

[@Kirakait]

JHope's song...HEY MAMA...brings me such joy! What a tribute to his mom...SO touching! I cry when I watch him perform it every time!

[@BeThePurpleStarlight]

What made me easier to learn the members was watching the show Run BTS = then you start recognizing by behaviour, voice, laugh, facial emotions 💜 you can do reactions to this show and analyse them from psychologycal point of view maybe 😊 I really love your calm voice reactions. Very relaxing.

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for your suggestion and the compliment.

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for your suggestion.

[@kailara3342]

If I remember right, I read from a Korean Army that in Korea they adress their parents with formal speech and that Jungkook is talking to his parents in a more familiar way so that means he's very close to them

[@aspiresamori9696]

So did V and J-hope.

[@anneprendergast7834]

Thank you for the lovely video. At the end it is V not Jungkook who speaks of his parents making a 12 hour round trip

[@soradream724]

This is so beautiful. Thank you for covering this. We have these incredible young men but they would not be where they are at without their parents. I may never become a beautiful Korean man with saint-like musical abilities, but I can still become a wonderful parent who can raise a child who feels loved and is instilled with hope from whatever support I can provide.

[@amajinjams6966]

1:18 we all make the mistake in the beginning, and its true, but its Jin that got the call from his dad not J-hope. 😊

[@tanc136]

I love seeing BTS with family 💜

[@kimleeclau7529]

It sound rare to hear naming them by other names. Anyways, Taehyung, the last member talking about his parents, he has a really beautiful relationship with his parents and granparents, I could tell he is the one who talks abt his family love the most.

[@gracemclean2098]

I love your comments and your reaction to their relationship. Although you're still having trouble matching names with faces we can see you're trying. Enjoying your channel, keep going💜😊

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you.

[@_filifjonkan4290]

Some more thoughts about the parents. I guess there has been an evolution. In the beginning not all parents supported their son’s choice to pursue a career in music. Suga’s parents didn’t support initially (now they do), Jin’s mom was embarrased about her son being an idol initially. So both Suga and Jin were very happy (and crying) when their parents finally came to their concert. Then JHope… he has a song about how his mama supported his dance career, even though she was having a hard time financially at one point. Jimin’s father takes care of handing out the donations to charities that his son wants to make. He cried when he listened to Jimin’s solo album because it is actually very sad. Finally V… I’d like to add that he expressed his sadness about the death of the grandma that raised him during a concert. I also remember that the staff pointed out his parents in the crowd at one point, and that made V very happy. Why do I know this? It’s unbelievable what movie clips fans watch when they first discover BTS…

[@harleyburke1461]

It is impressive how knowlegable you are about all the members.

[@xviolet953]

@@harleyburke1461As someone who has been into the k-pop scene for 15 years now, I can tell you that Korean idols manage to be both extremely open about their childhood and talking about their parents without us ever having seen their faces/interactions with them on camera (as Koreans in general are very protective of non celebrities rights to privacy)

[@valenciabegay3489]

Good Day Uncle Harley! I enjoyed your reaction. Each member is close to each other parents. Each parent imo have to be wonderful loving people. Look how they raise all their children! Not just these 7 but their siblings too. This is a great subject and I always look forward to your reactions.

[@amajinjams6966]

19:46 it was V, not jungkook. And it wasnt even for a performance, it was jusy to see him at the weekend as a trainee.

[@alird1645]

Jhope escribió una canción para su madre "Mama" es tan bella que siempre lloro de la emoción !! Escuchala porfavor ! Hobi es un hijo maravilloso!!

[@harleyburke1461]

Mamá es una canción maravillosa. Saca muchas emociones.

[@harleyburke1461]

Es muy interesante entender la cultura coreana vs. la occidental. Sin duda hay diferentes estándares para cada uno.

[@sandys1890]

V was one whose parents traveled 12 hours...A lot of people get V and Jungkook mixed up in the beginning of getting to know them💜

[@lalaking7974]

Thank you, Dr. Harley - I love your commentary. And it made me think about my own parenting and contemplate the "positive memories" and nurture that will provide my own sons with a "lifetime of comfort." What a beautiful summary. And thanks for the life lesson! - Just one of the wonderful things about BTS, we can derive so many deep lessons from their lives and experiences.

[@harleyburke1461]

I am so delighted that you can apply these lessons to your own life. That is a big part of why I do this.

[@angieceron2012]

First of all, love your shirt 😊 second, interesting video, good job 👍🏻. Little tip, you need to conect better the names of the members 😉☺

[@lealarsen2017]

what you said about RM mom is correct at least from what i know. she is practical and was against him becoming an idol at first. he asked her if she would rather preferer a happy son a unhappy but succesfuld son. so she allowed him do persue his dream. and it turned out that he is more succesful as an artist, than an office worker like she wanted him to become. so i think she is happy for allowing him to choose for himself

[@bees369]

Good evening to you Dr. Harley.. many beautiful blessings for the day. Thank you for the valuable insights.

[@harleyburke1461]

I am glad you found my video helpful.

[@showyourtruth]

The love everywhere in this video from BTS and their parents makes me emotional 🥺💕

[@Sunset553]

When I heard Jung Kook talk about his parents meeting, I thought it seemed unusual. I wondered how often someone’s child would know that origin story. I’m glad you commented on it and how it’s connected to open communication

[@harleyburke1461]

It is very telling that he would have such intimate information about his parents. It does show they are open and comfortable letting him into their personal life.

[@carasss7775]

This was interesting take, as I dont think many reactors have discussed BTS parent relationships. From what I gather from videos I've seen, the members all love and respect their parents, but some did have typical adolescent challenges with their parents accepting their decisions to pursue music professionally. I think Suga/ Yoongi had the most difficult time with his dad and there were some hard conflicts and large communication gaps. But ultimately they've healed some of that hurt, and Suga says even if they have conflicts now, he understands because he is similar to his dad's personality style. J Hope's dad also was not fully supportive of his son pursuing dance and music, instead of academics (His dad is a literature professor). His mother was 150% behind him, and he wrote a tribute song to her "Mama" about all her sacrifices to help his career. RM's mother probably expected her brilliant son to continue to pursue the expected path of getting into the best University in Korea, but came around and bought RM his first professional mic to help him pursue rap music dreams. V's dad has always been supportive of whatever career decisions he wanted to pursue. V does speak about his dad in almost hero worship terms. I don't think Jin has really commented on how his parents felt about him joining a Kpop music group, but since they already accepted his pursuing acting and film studies, I don't think that's too divergent career choice. Jimin and Jungkook both seem to be very close to their parents. I'm sure for Jungkook's parents it was really hard decision to let their middle school child move far away to Seoul to pursue his singing dreams.

[@harleyburke1461]

Adolescents is a time for self discovery. Their parents were there to help them with their choices.

[@apobangpo1117]

Happy to see Uncle Harley's videos :)) keep shinning :)

[@tercilachuvas2398]

Dr. Harley I missed you. Thanks for your reaction! Looking forward to the next.

[@samraffertymusic]

I'm a little late watching this but really enjoyed it, thank you! Also you don't have to apologise for getting the members names mixed up. The majority of us were in the same boat in the beginning so don't worry about it :) I appreciate your videos so much and I'm certain the rest of your subscribers do too 💜

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot to me as a new reactor.

[@mariahaarsma9700]

I am so glad you are discussing this topic- and yes by the time I figured out who was who ( so I could relate to my granddaughter’s interests) she had moved on to college and other things! How did the parents feel about letting them leave home at an early age? How to handle all that attention? The relationships here appear to be very healthy and I think a good example for their fans. Great discussion.

[@samik2420]

Some great analysis and comments here. I just wanted to add in support of your analysis of Jungkook's relationship with his parents. He has said in his livestreams that they were always supportive and didn't force him to study, in fact the only time he got scolded was because he cheated on a school test. His mother said she didn't care if he got a low score as long as he did so honestly. What a great mindset and a lesson that stayed with Jungkook.

[@Baddiesc7gn]

V ‘s family were farmers. They know what calms homesickness. Baked goods and banana milk are a winning combination.

[@mipae5292]

From 19:30 is taehyung, not Jungkuk. Taehyung is very close with father and grandma who raised him when he was young.

[@serenity3209]

Thank you Uncle Harley, as always. Take care 💜🫶🇵🇭🇦🇪

[@shirleyrasmussen7414]

I really like your analysis of the members with their families. It' s very important to have this type of bonding during your childhood and during the grown up years. Really proud of them for their kinship and their positive influences with people around them.❤😊

[@harleyburke1461]

And, because of this bonding they can share their true feelings with their fans.

[@SoundousTaleb]

Hi Harley haraboudji ,I missed you, I was waiting for your videos and It's okay to be confused because of the members' names because I used to be like that in the past you don't have to apologize , and for the members All the guys are just so sweet and humble ,

[@ingridaraos3824]

Es un agrado escucharlo. Gracias por la orientación, he aplicado, como madre, lo que he aprendido de BTS y ahora lo refuerzo.escuchandolo a usted.💜🇨🇱

[@btscomingbackin2025]

Good things that not only bts members are close with each other but also their family too. bts parents usually hang out together or going to the boys concerts together, i find that so sweet ❤

[@harleyburke1461]

It speaks to how they are open to their circle of friends.

[@lilicore8210]

Hola Doc! Un gusto verlo nuevamente, seguimos aprendiendo.

[@leigh2604]

That was Jin who got a call from his dad while they playing tennis.. 😊

[@showyourtruth]

Super happy you have your own channel! I watched all your guest episodes. ❤

[@janetseymour8358]

Folks, uncle is still a new ARMY. He prefaced by apologizing for the name mix ups. Cut him some slack. Lol. His analysis was pretty much on point with what we know.

[@sugar2n]

Hi, Dr. Harley! Thanks for the new video! I found it to be very enjoyable as well as interesting in two different ways. First it sent me reminiscing about the connections I shared with my parents. I tried to see which member's parents were most like mine (turned out to be RM). Secondly, It's heartwarming to hear the members of BTS speaking with and about their folks. If memories are wrapped in emotional experiences, then it's important to generate positive emotions with children through love, listening, praise, bonding activities, and respect. You detailed these parental behaviors that lead to positive, strong reactions from the members. In doing so you provided models on how to create strong and loving bonds for Army who will become parents or who are currently parents. That is wonderful! I see others mentioned some mix-ups with the individual members names (I found it endearing and relatable as we all had trouble in the beginning!), but you hit the ball out of the park on expressing the importance of positive parental connections! I look forward to your next video! Health and happiness to you always from this Silver Army! 💜 p.s. Thank you for the large sized subtitles. 🤓 Much appreciated!

[@harleyburke1461]

I so enjoyed your comments. You are wise "Silver Army".

[@monkat3759]

*** came back to share w/ my Mum & already almost @ 10K views. Way to go Harley !! Sorry for the 2 comments Harley, there was an error that YT could not edit. Great reaction. Ya relaxed and smiled, showed true engagement w/ the material. May want to practice w/ the camera on focus to know where to look so it appears you are talking to the viewer. Max may help you there. He has excellent placement. When he looks up from viewing it is spot on to eye contact w/ viewer which draws you into the viewer reactor relationship community feel I think you are going for. Love the shirt. It is so your color & set up works nicely. Just adjust around and you'll get your groove. So excited for you!

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for the suggestions. I will apply them to my next video.

[@SusieQ1955]

It's Suga who had a tough time. His mother had a heart attack the month he was born (I do think he carried guilt). As an adolescent, they wanted him to follow traditional Korean standards of going to school, testing well, and bringing money home. He wanted to be a rapper. So there were teen/parent fights. His father had a liver transplant while they were on tour. It's presumptuous of me to say this, but I think there was lots of alcohol in that family. So at 18, Suga left home (Daegu) and went to Seoul to be a rapper. He was injured in a car accident as a trainee, and didn't tell anyone, not his family, not BTS, not the management. He had psychological problems - OCD, depression, social anxiety, - and got so down that his parents came and they went to the doctor and got help. The situation of seeing his parents in the audience and bowing, a deep deep sign of respect, and sobbing, tells me that something of gratitude and release was working in him. His video, Amygdala, about healing from trauma, is the most powerful of all BTS videos to me, because Ive been there myself. I learned all this from interviews with Suga and documentaries because of my interest in mental health.

[@snagglejag1977]

All of the guys are very close with their families, and their parents are very supportive and loving. (Not Suga's at first, but now.) What's nice is that all seven sets of parents have more or less adopted all the members. It's lovely how much of a family they all are. The parents are also close friends with each other now.

[@harvestmoon_autumnsky]

Hi Dr. Harley! Thanks for your video. I love the idea of analyzing the relationships they have with the people around them. Each other, their families, the company, their managers, the cities they explore, other celebrities. Just a note: Make sure you know who each member is before you film. I know it takes a while to get the names and the faces. I also like NCT with like 21 members and I never thought I'd learn them all! But it does get easier with repeated viewings of different content. And I imagine Max mentioned, keep videos between 15-20 mins. Young people these days flip through videos like shuffling a deck of cards! Hope you keep it up.

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for the heads up with regard to the length of my videos.

[@chellelee9192]

Always enjoy your insight Uncle Harley! Thank you for sharing with us. 💜

[@harleyburke1461]

It is my pleasure.

[@yolandabranch4287]

😊😊😊😊❤❤👍🏼This is soooooooo AWESOME AND WONDERFUL TO HERE BTS PARENTS. HOW THEY RESPECT THEIR PARENTS THANK YOU.

[@sakulee2614]

Hello💜 thank you so much for this video. You got the members a little bit mixed up😅 On the first, when they were playing tennis it was Jin's dad calling not J-Hope's. And the second was Jin's mom who was screaming in the crowd not Jimin's. The third was the last video, this wasn't Jungkook this was Taehyung aka V. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@The88lightangel]

Lovely information from your clinical perspective. I really enjoyed this. Yes the names were sometimes mixed up...but great you have realised this now. I feel your information is so very important....from different perspectives....one can use this feed back in a very positive way in our own lives as perhaps Parents are even being a very supportive friend and how the support them..... plus it allowed us to understand why and how people are 'sometimes' the way they are....which is very useful to know. Thank you very much..great work.!!

[@classical7]

There were a few hiccups in names mentioned, but no worries because lots of ARMYs were there too especially at the beginning in discovering BTS. For me it was trying to distinguish Suga's and JHope's voices....took me a while, but it was during my initial discovering/learning phase of Bangtan. 😂😭💜🎶😂

[@shirleyboyd2716]

I'm 71 year old BTS help me some song help with memories and you think back in your life .and they help me with my grand kids to understanding them and when to step back .me and my great grand son we listen to BTS together .he will climb up and get in my lap a to watch and he is 18 months ..

[@showyourtruth]

I love that red top by the way hahaha very Bruno Mars in concert

[@joylandaleistra6929]

Thank you so much. Love your video's!!!

[@bees369]

Namjoon's Mother is scolding him. 😆

[@Kim_Vu_ARMY7]

😂😂

[@carasss7775]

when RM used to post outfits of the day- he said his mother often made comments on his fashion, what bags, accessories he wore etc. I think she too is a fashionista and feels very comfortable to critique his choices and sense!

[@mishka0613]

Thank you. I enjoy your insights. Don't worry about their names, you'll get it the more you watch, so isn't that a great reason to check out more of their content? Haha i think you'll enjoy In The Soop season 1&2. You get to watch them hang out. As always. Thanks again!

[@Gramcracker72]

You being a clinical psychologis that I find so refreshing,not knowing all.the boys .You will see by the comments. They Army ,and fans ,will school you like they do with us all. They know every move all the boys make. They know all and when your done be ready! Being home ,and of age they will respect. But it was hard for the parents as well. All to young, you see the very best . They had a start like few can understand.Each brother have an amazing story . I hope that ,if you can watch in the beginning, what a one room beginning. You right the parents are all amazing, they do there parents proud. You will respect them even more then you do today. With respect. Thank You .

[@JPG.120]

Thank you for the video!!💜💜💜

[@Renrose68]

Great video. Thanks for posting.

[@Baddiesc7gn]

RM tends to overspend. A few years ago, he was a regular on a tv show called problematic men. One show the panel who consists of celebrity male geniuses and one non celebrity. The men were asked by the host to empty their wallets of the cash they are carrying. The guys all with the exception of RM had very little cash because they carry credit cards. RM who was the youngest that day was carrying quite a bit of cash. The host expressed surprise that he didn’t have a credit card. He asked RM the reason he didn’t have a credit card in his wallet. He said he gave it to his mother because he overspends. He knew he needed to work on a bit of self restraint. Apparently, his spending habits did not change. He took pretty much an empty suit case so he could have space to purchase a lot of new clothes. A true shopper.

[@harleyburke1461]

Some people see that as the fruits of their labour.

[@shyfan68]

Though you got some of the names mixed up, this was very interesting

[@liracomplido112]

I love watching your bids on your insights about BTS. As a young mom, i learned a thing or 2 about how I should support my kids so they will be successful as well when they grow old 😊 thank you! And dont mind the mixing of names, we understand who you are referring to and that happened to some of us as well during our first few encounters with bts 😅

[@harleyburke1461]

I am very happy you have taken some of this information and applied it to your own life.

[@kathyjohnson4212]

Don't stress to much over the name mix ups. Your still new. You'll get there like Max. We are here for you. Army will help you. 💜

[@harleyburke1461]

Thank you for your support.

[@ismotjahan6583]

Thanks for analyzing BTS contents 💜💜

[@lunasterisk]

Thanks for the reaction ,bro ❤️‍🩹🫂

[@9mmstella]

Loved this!

[@anitaherbert1037]

Sugar mentioned in passing in a clip that he felt he had put on weight his mother told him he looked like a white slug.

[@rosaliebaloloy4528]

The parents who travel for 12 hrs. Just to see him perform for 30 minutes is taehyung not jungkook. That is taehyung not jungkook.😊😊😊

[@cheonsachil]

Jin received the call from his dad while they’re playing tennis. 😊

[@CarolineForest]

Dr. Harley, its ok if you mess up their names sometimes, we all did when we first got to know them. Even if you recognize their faces and them as individuals, the names take a while to settle to each face. The most important is that you do see them as 7 individuals and dont pull them under the same comb as many reactors do. They see BTS as 1 unit instead of 7 individuals that go together. And you do that! you see them as their own people which is the most important here. The names will fall into place eventually

[@lunariadynasty3065]

You are still considered a BTS baby reactionist so mixing the names of band members is common and you will get it soon especially when you review one or more of the BTS introductory documentaries. Keep up the good work doc, I and may others appreciate you. 💜

[@harleyburke1461]

I appreciate you.

[@melanyblake1470]

It took my about 10 months to learn their names and another 6 to place the names to the right person and after 3 years depending on the angle I still get them confused🤦🏼 🤭 🫰🏼🫶🏼💜

[@candicesmith-mackenzie6303]

Thank you 😘💜🫰🏻 I miss the beard.

[@O_Giyuu]

No se si se han dado cuenta pero jimin habla muchisimo de su padre pero muy pocas veces habla de su madre .. a que se deberá? ..simple curiosidad 🥺

[@harleyburke1461]

Muchos tienen una relación más cercana con uno de los padres es a menudo el caso.

[@АидаЖумагул-и2х]

Thanks ❤😊😊

[@sebastiansmythe3157]

The boy raised and educated by his grandmother is KIM TAEHYUNG AKA V!

[@rosababasa613]

Thanks for loving BTS ❤❤❤

[@sam693691]

Suga recently said that at the start of the pandemic when all BTS schedules where cancelled he sleeps between his parents in their bed, he also cry.. he was 27 at the time.. Now I don’t think a western culture parents would allow their 27 year old child to share their bed. Jimin dad has always send him flowers and touching notes..

[@itzmehDevi]

LET'S GO!!

[@brendamiller5785]

Part two of the phone incident was also interesting. When Jungkook's mother got the answer right, he was yelling, "thank you, thank you Mom!" Jimin was also excited and shouting into the phone. He said his name in case she didn't recognize his voice. I think he called her Mother. And she said, "Ah, Jimin, I love you." He was so surprised and pleased. Many people are raised in a home where they don't hear, "I love you" very often. To be told by someone else's mother that she loves you ,, must be a special feeling. To know JK's mom felt comfortable enough to let her son's friend know she cared about him. ..on a worldwide camera! It said a lot about the mothers and their sons. The other person to watch was JK. His face/actions didn't show any signs of jealousy. He trusted his Mon, and his friend. It didnt bother him at all. Not only for each of the 7 members, but generally, I would say the parents care for all the boys like their own. They've all been there since the beginning. In the early days. esp., it must have been hard to watch your child go through such hardship. There was an instant bond between all the parents right then. So many relationships to appreciate. (Jin and RM's fathers have been friends for years...even before BTS) Thank you for your caring reaction. 💜💜💜💜

[@marissa1341]

Its funny, i have a contradiction of feelings on seeing this. While i love to know and see how wonderful the relationships they have with their family, i also see this as none of my business. But what they freely show us, i know we're good with knowing as they choose to share it. The fans or media trying to get more info than that, i really cant stand. Its such an invasion of privacy of those that have done so.

[@harleyburke1461]

I believe if done in a respectful way ARMY so appreciates information of these beloved young men. As public figures there is much curiosity about them as individuals.

[@emiprzyczyna5222]

In fact, Suga's parents were both abusive. In a radio interview, Suga mentioned that his father beat him and tore up his lyrics. His father thought that in this way he can force him into an civil servant carrier. Basically, since high school, Suga has to manage himself. He worked in many music studios, but even after signing a contract with the label, he had very big financial problems and had to work various jobs just to survive. Often he had to choose between food and a bus ticket. Also, This maybe controversial, but a lot of fans claim that his mother is sarcastic. It's not sarcasm, his mother constantly criticizes him i.e. for looking like a cooked dumpling, that he doesn't know good English, etc. Suga just presents it in a humorous way, because respect for parents is very important in Korea, and domestic violence/ parental violence is still a taboo.

[@meemac4709]

That was Jin on the firsr clip.

[@sarafinaspeaks2232]

That was Jin that got the phone call from his Dad...not J-hope!

[@simoneaparecidadasilva1918]

BTS sempre 💜💜💜💜🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷

[@aissaagregado3309]

In the first clip that was Jin not J-Hope. It was Jin's father and not J-Hope's.

[@sebastiansmythe3157]

The parents who traveled so many hours to see their son for 30 minutes are the parents of V! Please don't confuse V with Jungkok