Psychology Expert: How Colours, Your First Name And Your Location Might Be Ruining Your Life!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

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[@jeremy_logan]

bro I don't think I've commented on your videos but I have to say I look up to you on so many levels and have been such a better communicator because of you. I ask why? As I highly functioning introvert that wants and desires to be so much more, I listen to you and learn how to carry conversations. It's still rocky and awkward but I want to get better.

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[@timonmees3043]

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[@marials9245]

I’m a chemist and I worked in the pharmaceutical industry for close to 25 years, feeling more and more stuck as years went by. When I was 48 I quit my job and went back to college to become a psychologist. I finished a year ago, and now I am doing a masters degree in clinical psychology. Hopefully in a year I will be working as a pysicotherapist

[@jonie429]

Bravo 👏 thanks for sharing. I love storys like yours. It gives me hope and motivation that its never to late to change my life around.

[@HilaRah]

What is a pysicotherapist?

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Wow that’s amazing 💕

[@jenpugh8734]

Respect you very much for your choices❤

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Congratulations! You are an inspiration to many. Good luck in your endeavors.

[@judystadt]

54:08 I am an 81 year old professional actor, writer, play write, jazz vocalist. I just recently started writing and performing poetry, and I’ve been creating paying jobs in libraries and little theaters. I have never stopped being creative and I believe that’s my secret to staying young.

[@KatieKamala]

Bravo! Love that 🎉

[@claire-ui6pu]

Amazing I just started singing a year ago and would love to go live one day

[@ClaireCelticMystic]

As an 81-year-old, you are to be celebrated for your ways and gifts, but in my mind, you have not "stayed young;" you have embraced the brilliance of your wisdom, and true capacity for living, creating and sacred service. I am turning 60 in 6 weeks, and I love your example. My mother was actress Sally Kellerman, who grew up in Hollywood desperate to look young, and she died looking ridiculous, and adorable. She wasted countless millions on facelifts, and botox, and daily stress and worry about "staying young." I love 2024, when some women are truly aging into becoming pure Spirit, giving all they can along this path of fully living, to death, and rebirth. It is freedom that has no age, and "staying young" is verbiage of a dying way of life that is limiting to our true strengths and capacity for living. I am grateful to hear what 81 can be, and is for you, Judy. Aloha, Claire

[@TheVoxPopuliOfficial]

As a 27 year old man I started singing showtunes after seeing so many on family guy and it just keeps me feeling stress free forever lol I wish to make my own soon!

[@amalgozaine173]

You are amazing 🙌🏻💪🏻

[@IsabellaBazzara]

Does anyone else enjoy spending time with their thoughts, journaling, contemplating... it's my favorite thing to do and I feel as though I need to do this for hours daily (if possible). It is strange to me that people would rather get electrocuted or that the idea of being with their thoughts sounds like "hell".

[@iam1smiley1]

Just notice next time you need to wait in a room full of people eg Doctors office....95% will have their phones out in less that 5 minutes because they can't be alone with their own thoughts 😂

[@lorimullen3680]

I love to be with my thoughts in nature, but when I am sitting with a room full of people feeling uneasy, I can feel them feeling uneasy & I want OUT immediately!!!

[@lorimullen3680]

Yes, it is strange they would want to take an electric shock over sitting with their own thoughts. This makes me cry to think of my beautiful grand doll in today's public school system😟

[@SpaceHopper777]

I started journaling daily in May last year and I love it 😁

[@pathfinderwellcare]

​@@iam1smiley1or...they don't know how to be in a community space with others. Folks are really socially poor. When there were no cell phones you would just wait and possibly have a conversation with other folks or take a quick nap. Now people behave as if it were inappropriate to do either and that being on the phone is the correct etiquette. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MrRatMommy]

21:30 colour red discussion 27:00 hard things bring good things

[@jto9202]

thanks. I have no idea how to look for the topic on wearing red cos it's 1 hour!!! appreciate this!

[@BlackSeranna]

Thanks I really only wanted to learn about that and not everything else they talked about.

[@MrRatMommy]

nobody cares. it is my personal notes and i honestly dont know where the attention came from suddenly. usually nobody sees my comments even when i make timestamps with the points that remember me of someone. so you inconsiderate spammers, may you leave me in peace and just shut your hole when yiu have nothing constructive to say to this world

[@MrRatMommy]

@@BlackSeranna you were meant

[@MrRatMommy]

@@jto9202 and you were meant

[@shereeclinton8741]

I grew up isolated. It was a blessing and a curse in a sense children shouldn't be lonely. But im extreamly self aware and struggle if i don't have time with my thoughts. I love my own mind.

[@SelfMadeHundredaire]

Totally agree. I was a lawyer for 15 years and I was definitely not getting closer to my professional and financial goals, and there was really no obvious way that I could make it suck less. So I took the hard path: I quit lawyering and went back to school to become a dentist. 6 years on, I'm so much happier and more fulfilled as a dentist than I ever was as an attorney. The funny thing is that, as a healthcare provider, my legal background now affords me unique opportunities, new doors that can be opened that I couldn't have foreseen before I undertook this journey of professional metamorphosis.

[@jocelynbryant3308]

@Robert wow! What a change!😊

[@lady_c9060]

I'm restarting education next year. I'll be 49 and I'm so apprehensive but excited for it equally so.

[@niamhcampbell87]

Reading your comment makes me really happy 💖

[@SelfMadeHundredaire]

@@lady_c9060 Always bet on yourself. You won't regret it. 😊👍

[@bherusinghkitawat9933]

at what age did you go to medical school? just curious and excited to know

[@terrigodfrey8260]

A curious person my whole life. At 75, I have no regrets because I've done various things, had more than one career and feel that reinvention is a normal part of the human process. This is an outstanding show.

[@vitalishus]

Same here. I’m 64. (Incidentally I too am also carnivore 😁) Have also had several careers from medicine to body mechanics to real estate to commercial cleaning to horticulture. Variety is the spice of life. I feel like a chameleon. In the beginnings of a new metamorphosis as we speak. 😊

[@joelmasantos879]

Amazing! thanks for sharing.

[@GemmaMR818]

Another great comment.

[@Dj_Nizzo]

Same here, but I’m in my 30s. In your experience, did you find it frustrating to be the only person the room to see things a certain way?

[@nazk5558]

Needed to read this.tx.

[@RiverWoods111]

Sitting in a room by myself or being alone in the silence with myself is what I absolutely love. Silence is my favorite music. It is the music of Creativity.

[@maryarnold1426]

Agree with you there.

[@monicagrorud2225]

Same

[@emba76]

well said!!

[@joycebowers9274]

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[@tess7798]

Well said. I am the same way!

[@anyi2250]

My 89 year old husband is amazing. Love talking to people, great psychologist, loves helping people. Plays 8 instruments. Was football + cricket coach. We talk about everything - my best friend for 35+ years.

[@janetvasquez610]

Is the best thing to have after God, have someone you can talk to ! Love ❤️ to see when people value what’s important

[@malaniadoo4731]

Hi Steven very interesting ❤

[@malaniadoo4731]

Steven u ar really matured❤❤love yr questions

[@malaniadoo4731]

Great book. ❤

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

You have the dream life ❤ ✨️ Treasure it.

[@tammyknoll-anderson2433]

I’m sure other comments have said this, but as a neurodivergent adult, I’ve been sanctioned most of my career by being curious and asking questions. Very few managers want to be questioned when explaining to the team what they expect them to do especially when it is something that’s changing. We’re 100% being trained and coached to conform, not optimize.

[@jensatu1413]

Exactly! My curiosity was crashed by a manager who wanted to go through the motions and that’s it. I felt lost for a few years, feeling a bit like working on a factory line even though I was working in academia. It affected my wellbeing and future work choices for a few years. Recently I’ve realised that I need to work with intellectually curious people to feel alive. I now remind myself when I interview for posts, that I am interviewing my future bosses as much as they’re interviewing me.

[@mindbodybuilding]

That’s a problem because many people don’t see curiosity behind the “why” but see contempt. In order to protect our curiosity (not allow ourselves get discouraged), it’s good to use little tricks to make our “why” come across less aggressive to those trigger-happy people, by saying something like “I’d love to know why it works this way/perhaps find an even better way” etc. Think of it as having to carry a sign “this is curiosity, not contempt” 😅

[@thinker646]

Im not even knowingly neurodivergent,although i am intelligent, and i get the same thing. I feel ya

[@suelee8779]

P paaa

[@leosine3807]

Yup, during my nurse practice i would constantly get shitted on for asking too many questions instead of just "do what i say" lol. Its a sign for you to progress further to meet people that match your level of curiosity and thinking

[@Metaphysics-for-life]

I'm so glad I listened til the end. I'm turning 65 in 24 and having experienced a tremendous amount of loss the past few years I find myself drowning in nostalgia. I never thought to appreciate the positive side of that experience... that I am so fortunate to have so much good stuff to remember :-)

[@egonetta007]

I am also turning 65 in 24 too, congratulations to you. I, myself do go back to nostalgic memories in order to cope with challenges. The difference is that I am always told that living in the past.

[@hangfeatphil905]

65 in 24 what? months? years? hours?

[@clairebeane3455]

@@hangfeatphil905the year. 😉

[@dorothysay8327]

@@fourteendays544don’t start over ‘in your sixties’. Just start over -now. From today. It’s no harder than it ever was. I know, I’m your age and doing it.

[@lilyTlily]

​@hangfeatphil905 I read that he meant that he is turning 65 in 2024.😂

[@cab26]

Some naturally curious people can’t work for others. Bosses don’t always want people to truly question how things are done.

[@llkg9]

True. When I worked in retail, corporate wouldn't let me hire someone because his personality test indicated that he was a "problem solver" and "would think about what he was told to do." I ran one of the top (sometimes THE top) store in the nation and wouldn't have been hired either - for the same reason - if they'd been requiring those tests when I was hired.

[@carrington2949]

@@llkg9We fake our personality tests. There are actual online guides on the best answers to give for various professions.

[@auntihooha]

It's gotten me canned more than once!

[@JJHurst]

Ain't that the truth ....smart enough to obey , but don't call out the obvious flaws in the system. explains the rise of the midwit.

[@sarahholmes5585]

Story of my life! I'm unemployable!!

[@pinschrunner]

I run hard and fast away from being pigeon-holed. Pivot and run, dont walk. Pray, meditate, and make moves often to not get stuck. People and things who don't move, get stuck. Keep moving, keep doing.

[@AnonYmous-mc5zx]

Bro chill

[@Jan-qv8ku]

I have an extremely high degree of intellectual curiosity, and most people seem to hate that about me 🤷‍♀️ I really can’t help it. I have an endless appetite for information and creativity, and I really do need it to live. I have to learn something new daily.

[@alinanuss8193]

I am so similar. And yes, people quickly feel like you are schooling you or just don't get what you are saying because your process to that is much quicker. I learned to tune down and step back through take the people into my thought process. It is very exhausting though. Also, I don't feel like I could ever be an expert in ONE thing, I would always have to sacrifice something else that is really important for me.

[@E-Kat]

Same here, but my friends aren't interested in anything i want to share, so i think, i need new friends.😂 I need to find out why all over sudden my predictive spelling system doesn't recognise the letter "l" and gives me a small "i" 😂

[@mariaharrington8708]

Scientist here! I literally moved from one science to another: biology, microbiology, chemistry, until I couldn’t hide my unhappiness with routine. I became a science teacher. I can honestly say I love teaching. It’s different every day, I teach what I love, and I can decide how to make learning fun. I love my students, and they like me.

[@shreel8880]

Sounds gratifying. Best wishes ❤️

[@4seasons546]

Alone with paper 📝 & pen 🖊 or pencil ✏️ & eraser to note my thoughts & draw out ideas 💡 👍

[@falsehoodbasher7240]

you do know TRUE science involves empirical evidence and new discoveries, not regurgitation of theories, memorization of outdated buIIshit formulas; do you not? that was a rhetorical "Question". you're a scientist moreover, a science _teacher_ sO, in all obviousness, ofc not!

[@egonetta007]

There’s something that makes you mentally and spiritually gratified about going after one’s passion. That is not to be underestimated.

[@donnajohnson3334]

As a child, I had no preconceptions. At home, my parents were pleased with my constant creativity. But I noticed there were times none of the other kids got on well with what we were doing. For example, we were asked to carve a half potatoe to use it as a stamp to make gift wrap. I waited all period to have the teacher slice a potatoe for me. What she did not realize is I had a pocket knife, and knew how to use it. Everyone struggled with that so, and teacher was told "Ten yr. olds shouldn't do that craft." It was all scrapped. I felt cheated. At home, I asked Mom for a potatoe. "No !". Two months later, They asked me what I wanted a potatoe for. At last !!. Dad gave me two. I surprized everyone with the gift papers I made. People were shocked😂. I had carved deer and woodlands. All that to say I've been held back by the herd for so long.. For me, anticipation is the best, and I aim for that target. 🎯 Bullseye ! Love it.

[@OurTube_TheOriginal]

Caring parents and a village, good enough of each.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Absolutely! Hope you loved this episode. Team DOAC ❤️

[@MerindaHasnaLDewi]

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[@TheZGALa]

I have lived under different names in my life and it is profound how differently people perceive/treat me with a different name.

[@chezmoi42]

That struck a chord with me, too. I grew up in the fifties being called Linda, and disliked it because it was so common. At 16, I discovered that my name was really Malinda, after my great-grandmother. My mother had thought it was too old fashioned for a little girl, but I was instantly at home with it and have loved it for 65 years. Red shoes make me happy, too.

[@yagushka]

I think the name can be given different impression when it’s just written, it doesn’t matter once you met someone

[@Youtubedeltesallmycomments]

According to numerology it is normal. And yea some names are just not the likeable people 😂😂

[@ItsMeRobynMarie]

Same ❤

[@ganymeade5151]

Someone might want an article on names that can make people more successful. There definitely is a bias against some names.

[@franciet99]

As someone that has worked for some major businesses and received a private education for half of my life, I feel that most areas do NOT reward people that ask questions and want to dig deeper. I’m not sure if I experienced this as a female more than a male but I saw consistently that most saw it as a threat. They “punished” me for trying to delve deeper and understand the whys.

[@daveuk1324]

Time to resign then and find an outlet where you are appreciated. Life's too short.

[@franciet99]

@@daveuk1324 laid off back in October and I’m enjoying life 😜

[@johnnyxmusic]

Systems, cultures, and hierarchies are self-perpetuating and can feel a threat coming on. Stay threatening!

[@yourshadows]

It’s because the people you asked the whys didn’t know how to answer

[@KILL_THE_HIVE_MIND]

How can you know both male and female experiences in one life?

[@shea5542]

I am not so bothered sitting alone with my thoughts. I find it quite comforting as I grew up in a big family with little quietness

[@trixtromp8930]

I am a 57 year old neurodivergent NICU nurse. All my life I have been insatiably curious about everything. Listening to this fantastic podcast, I realised I am on the the Brink of a midlife crisis and severely stuck in my job and life. I always wanted to be an archaeologist .....

[@amygresl3691]

If you have the money you can go on digs as a volunteer

[@shivaadli]

Same as myself

[@ellier21]

You are a nurse. Feeling severely stuck in thus ungrateful profession is a given.

[@iamjustsaying4787]

@trixtromp8930 Neurodivergent 🙄

[@cherylannebarillartist7453]

As an artist I’m often looking at something and asking, “how else can I do it?”, or “what ELSE might work?”… That went into my parenting style, suggesting to my kids to ask themselves, “what’s next?”, “what else can I do?”. It’s AMAZING to see, as adults, how they use it!

[@sunnyadams5842]

I wish you'd been my mother!! I was always asking, " How else can we do this?" and my parents always replied, " But this is how we've Always done it. What's wrong with you? Just stick to the script! " 25:01 Ho hum...

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Yes, artists are problem solvers and they also tap into the unconscious mind.

[@johnnyxmusic]

Yes… always asking, What if?

[@wendysusanlovejoy3983]

Ever since I was a very young child I loved painting and drawing. As I entered college, my parents strongly discouraged me from pursuing a career in art. Not knowing what else I wanted to focus on, I spent 13 years in college and never got a degree. The rest of my life followed pretty much the same pattern. I did work on my art throughout my life, but not as much as I would have liked. Now I am retired, with all the time I want to do my artwork, but due to nerve damage, I can no longer use my right hand as I used to in doing my art. I feel deeply sad, like I completely misused my whole life.

[@Zellow38]

There are many different ways to create art. Considering that you’ve been thinking of making art your whole life, I assume it is still very dear to you, so please do not give up on finding new ways to express yourself in art.

[@sarahbarton2089]

I agree @zellow38. I was a left-hander but 'trained out of it' by my mother. I have always felt very sad about that, Now (I'm elderly) I use my left hand to draw and to write my name, lists etc every day. It looks messy but it pleases me. Do try, it will make you happy.

[@veraroyen4986]

I feel sorry for you. At least you did work on your art throughout your life. 👍This is more than I did. I stopped completly after school. This was a bigger mistake than what you did. Congratulations, because at least you did a little bit 🏅🏆🎖.. so it wasen't in vain, maybe you are "only" depressed ? Hopefully you find something instead ❤❤❤❤🎉

[@ImaginarySusan]

Oh, dear artist at heart! Your story resonates extraordinarily with my life @zellow38! KEEP CREATING AND PAINTING! Just use larger scale canvases! That way you can be shaky with your left hand, or unpracticed with your right while holding your brush and when you're large image is looked at from a distance your shaky strokes will not be noticed!

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

Tony Ryals was a quadriplegic. He painted beautiful pictures with his mouth. He was a mouth artist. He may be still around. He traveled and did shows and lectures.

[@janetdiaz8916]

A counselor told me that every ten years a past trauma comes up, and asks, in ways, for you to deal with it. It will show in depression, anxiety and many other ways. I think that is why you see so many people acting out against normalcy, to escape those feelings that they don't want to deal with. If you don't deal with the trauma, it will be back in ten years. The best way I avoided my trauma was by "fixing others" or" blaming others" during that year. Avoidance is so common. Truly understanding our inner self is difficult for most. The human psyche is very interesting.

[@absb.5978]

Every ten years?! This happens to me at least twice a year and at this point I just roll with it 😅🙈 It's not as deep as full-on depression or severe anxiety, but it usually manifests as an uneasy feeling, restlessness and/or emotional exhaustion. It usually takes me about a month or two to complete a cycle of deep work on whatever it is that came up. Sometimes that fixes everything, sometimes another cycle is needed later on, but usually I get at least a few steps further than I was before. We are all works in progress, facing our shadows is a natural part of the process. And yes, unfortunately many people resist doing the hard work on themselves for way too long. But honestly, those periods of deep work propel me further in my growth than anything else. I am so thankful for the fact that I have the dedication to keep working on myself regardless of any discomfort. It's never easy, but always 100% worth it.

[@iah8331]

You’re fortunate to have a good counselor. I’ve never found a therapist who remotely knows how to help me. They’ve been useless, never ask the important questions and I end up feeling more depressed.

[@mistressvivian1116]

​@@iah8331don't stop searching for the right one, once you find one it's life changing. I notice you say they don't ask the the important questions, what are they to you? If you know your important questions or what it is you feel you need to dive into, maybe you could steer things in a way that will help you. Personally, the transactional analysis was the only model that helped me understand many things going on with me.

[@etcwhatever]

​@@iah8331study psychology as a way to find out whats your issue. Therapy never helped me much...turns out im autistic and conventional talk therapy doesnt work.

[@aninsidestory]

Indeed and our culture trains us to blame self or others. What else is offered with specificity? I didn’t learn the option of understanding what’s going on inside as I make choices until I was 50. ❤️⭐️💜

[@architektura204]

Adam is a brilliant thinker. He doesn't over-intellectualize complex problems but instead dissects them and offers insightful solutions. His ability to apply his talent to such a wide spectrum of life aspects makes him a rare find among academics. Thank you for this conversation.

[@oddestgoddess8825]

No! I have never thought, “Why me”. I am 64 years old. My Dad was a WWII POW at 19 yrs old. When I was raised, he drilled into me that “Life is not fair”. I was raised with the expectation that unfair things would periodically happen to me. My job was to learn how to face those situations gracefully. I trusted his profound experience. I have had my share of tough situations and value what they have taught me.

[@PeggyLawrence-cn1jn]

Agree! Suffering is also learning and those that have an easy life without it aren't learning very much about life! There is more suffering in life than not.

[@zeldat6654]

Everything that happens is an opportunity for growth. Why not me?

[@cj7784]

I was raised by protective parents who wanted to shelter their children to a degree. I’ve had my struggles and internalized a lot of them as my own doing since I didn’t see others’ struggles (except for the “less fortunate”). That internalizing can be empowering, but also kept me from seeing people/situations that were taking advantage & kept me stuck until a particular work situation completely fell apart 2 years ago. It’s been healthy for me to be in a ”why me” space so I could extend myself some grace, grieve loss and make more conscious choices about the people I let into my life & commit to serving. We’re all on different paths & were raised with different schemas. The more I experience I gain, the less I feel I know & the less I’m able to judge others & their paths.

[@thingsthatmakemego-ooh]

I would be happy to sit on my own, not just because I like my own space. Away from responsibilities and chores that keep calling ... to have that time, like bedtime, when nothing and no one needs you, is the time to get into those thoughts that you're too often pulled away from. Deep joy, thank you ❤️

[@beatricerweyemamu5540]

....some things and some people will still follow you even in your bedroom and bedroom time..😂😂

[@thingsthatmakemego-ooh]

@@beatricerweyemamu5540 time to install a portcullis 🤔

[@kalinmwilliams]

Your comment reads like poetry. Beautiful

[@ChristineJGold]

In our community we share our struggles. Together we are stronger, being vulnerable removes shame, guilt and more. Being stuck is a state of mind and a beautiful starting point, awareness is key.

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

you want to beat own weakness not share it with others accepting it but a friendly help and friendly eye can help for sure to change that stuck in perspective and move on

[@rolli6243]

Thank-you for your inspiring words!

[@jwcas318]

0:12: 🔑 The career model for how we live our lives professionally is broken, leading to people feeling stuck in their careers, relationships, and various aspects of life. 8:23: 📚 The book explores how to get unstuck in life and asks important questions about personal fulfillment and purpose. 16:08: 🔑 Our names and physical environments have a significant impact on our behavior and experiences. 24:21: 📚 The feeling of being stuck is subjective and can vary from person to person, but it is important to understand that being stuck is not always a negative experience. 32:34: 🔍 Curiosity and asking the right questions are more important than age when it comes to creativity and success. 40:31: 🔑 Maximizers are those who always seek the best option, while satisficers are content with good enough. 48:47: 💡 Symbols play a powerful role in shaping behavior and conveying meaning, often influencing our expectations and actions. 57:17: 🔄 Taking action, even if it's small or not ideal, can help us move forward and get unstuck in times of transition or feeling stuck. 1:05:26: 💡 Taking action and simplifying the problem are key to moving forward and reducing friction in life and relationships. 1:17:21: 🔑 The importance of exploration and exploitation in career hot streaks and the value of keeping a record of ideas and interests over time. 1:22:02: 🔑 The best ideas are often a combination of old ideas or a recombination, and struggling through difficulty is a signal of potential rewards. 1:30:00: 📚 The value of finding meaning in mundane routines and embracing technological changes. Recap by Tammy AI

[@r.p.8906]

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[@oa8420]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@ChrisAngelFather]

Wow dude so you just said "recap this video with timestamps" to a thing called Tammy AI? Pretty neat! Let me know

[@ChrisAngelFather]

Nvm just did it. Wow! How useful!!

[@DW-ut3fx]

Thanks, helps skip past the drivel.

[@gioanman]

Love how Steven has started responding and sharing his own reflections on his guest's answers. Comes off like a really good listener and empathetic

[@MariaSilva-ix1qc]

Getting unstuck sometimes it means finding yourself ,your own space, enjoying solitude. “All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” ― Blaise Pascal

[@leandrawomack9029]

100%!

[@tklyte]

This has gotta be my favorite DOAC episode of all time. Adam is smart, articulate and an amazing conversationalist. I could listen to him all day. Thanks for having him on. I'm gonna revisit this one a few more times.

[@veronicagreenaway6842]

Same here, so much to learn.

[@samarawilder9451]

Ditto. Best ever. Listening again too.

[@neverettebrakensiek8771]

I feel stuck when I have accomplished a goal that took time but then become bored. I realized that when I still young so I decided I should start thinking of the next project ahead of time. I must always have a new goal, " projects " is what I call them, always learning and moving forward.

[@alwayshangry8313]

Interesting point on maximisers. I was the "smart gifted child" but was masking adhd, autism and maths dyslexia. So I was constantly being compared to a high standard that was never good enough for teachers and parents.. resulting in people pleasing and perfectionism as an adult.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Hangry, hu? Me too !!! So, have you been able to fix that yet? The people pleasing etc.?

[@zoepaisley527]

Likewise. Developed a kinda failure to thrive/ " achieve" ( meaning really to feel self fulfilled)people pleasing perfectionism.

[@alwayshangry8313]

@@sunnyadams5842 wow sorry I don't use KZbin enough to realise I had notifications till now 😂 and yes my people pleasing definitely much better. I follow people like The Holistic psychologist and learn lots about human psychology ect which helped me understand things better. I feel better about saying no and standing up for myself

[@annadonahue4119]

Then what did you decide to do? Curious to hear! Cuz that ADHD, etc, snuck up on me too 🤔

[@alwayshangry8313]

@@annadonahue4119 I guess one of the biggest things is accommodating for it. I learnt alot about adhd and instead of fighting against it, I identified my struggles and changed things to make life easier. Like a simple example, when I don't see something, I forget about it so now I compensate by having things I forget about more visible. Especially in the fridge. Gave up on calenders and diaries ect and had to find things that worked for my brain. Everything I was taught growing up on how to live just was the opposite of what I actually needed to do and no wonder I'd always struggled "adulting" haha

[@sharonsomers5342]

As an autistic person, I will give you 2 things. 1. I saw your framework and said "he's missing something right there. Can I afford to keep doing this?" So yes. The challenge may be worth the reward, but if you can't afford to keep failing at something or even working towards something, it's time to consider quitting. To do otherwise would be to court disaster. 2. Autistic people are some of the most curious and analytical people. You want to see something a truly different way, fine an autistic person to look at it. They will challenge every assumption you hold. I am autistic and my early childhood saw me through schools that made me stop doing it and a set of parents who told me not to change such a wonderful facet of my mind. Look for the person who had somebody who encouraged them. There you will find genius.

[@BellyLaugher]

❤ thanks for that!

[@Lily_Daneva]

the thing with the autism is that people with that health condition are good at viewing something from a very narrow perspective (usually 1 thing), yes it's still out of the box but probably the result would be better with more than 1 autistic person

[@MSkp4wo]

@@Lily_Daneva exactly

[@kalinmwilliams]

Wow, you bring up a crucial point. Instead of only considering whether the challenge is worth the reward, consider whether you can afford to keep failing.

[@siobhanomalley1968]

You're absolutely bang-on there. I'm autistic too and at a stage in my life where, having failed to achieve the things I was aiming for, I'm assessing my path going forward. I can't afford to keep trying the sane things after having so many doors closed in my face. I don't want to starve, and I don't want to burn out. I'm in my 40s, and if many more doors close, I will have no way to afford to live and no way to go back and try something new.

[@yagushka]

I worked in a high street bank in the U.K. for 15 years and it was killing me. I kept hearing how I need to “prove myself” even though I was more educated and experienced than the new kids. I changed my career to accounting at the age of 43 and I love it. I’ve also always been interested in psychology so I hope I still have time to do that ♥️

[@bumblebee_ms]

I've thought my whole life that my curious nature was a huge problem in a world that bullies it out of you. I'm in my 40's and feel so questioning of everything around me. If I lived in the UK, I would have loved to work for you Steven, as a creative. Glad I didn't click off this video. Great insights. Makes me feel sane. Thanks guys xx

[@MoonLightOnWater1]

I sit alone with myself very well and seek out change in life just to pursue absolute joy. I put myself in some challenging situations, but I absolutely love the personal growth I have experienced. I have the happiest life I ever “planned”.😊

[@ARTyHaG]

Primary Teacher - gave up after 13 years as it was like working in a straight jacket - became like producing biscuit, factory children - same walls, same approach, same plans anything outside the box was frowned upon and thought strange - I’ve got my art channel now I work alone but use KZbin for my team - no niche. I try all mediums- your fantastic talk. Explained exactly why I’m where I’m at - I thought I was a misfit, but in actual fact, I’m just a thinker - and funnily enough I used to teach the children. Life is as good as the questions you ask. X ❤ loved your talk.👍👏ps i’m 56 now, and more creative inventive and thinking outside the box than I’ve ever been - I literally have learnt to question everything, so another, thank you for including us & not writing off the oldies that are still young👏 PSS, my dad is 90, and he still has the enquiring mind that you talk of- so just like you said yes, it’s DNA, and a type - I’m writing too much, as the subject is far too interesting

[@justbeegreen]

Teacher here and I felt I gave my all but the system sucks the soul dry because we forget that it’s humanity first, productivity second. I don’t have any desire to start a new type of school. Late diagnosed autistic and adhd. I know I need the structure but would prefer to work three/four days/week and focus on creativity. I used to read and write a lot. The past five years has been challenging.

[@NannyOggins]

I have always thought that teaching children is both the most fantastic, rewarding life skill and the most important for humanity. However, I also think that the way we organise it, herding kids into “exam factories “ is not the way to go at all , both for the kids and definitely for the teachers. Kids don’t seem to be taught how to think they are taught to reproduce facts. I am not a professional teacher and have only taught adults various (quite diverse) things on a casual basis but I always found it incredibly rewarding because I was free to allow them to ask whatever they wanted and adapt the training to their personality. I can imagine how soul destroying it must be to see a kid struggling with something and know that you could help if only you could step outside the box to do so. Best wishes to you.

[@stevenmahoneyNS13]

Pay attention folks! This is one of the BEST EVER interviews! On life, love our careers and basicly everything important to humans! Absolutely loved it. Wow! Watch it and watch it again!!!!!!

[@PhoenixAurelius-138]

I am definitely a naturally curious and experimental person. I questioned so much as a child and young adult, and never wanted to live my life the way I was told; and of course, I was shut down often, allowing other's opinions to be my own. Now in my 40s, I've realized how much I've allowed my creative potential to be smashed and and have slowly started to revert back to my questioning of everything and thinking outside of the box. Incidentally, I realized all of this by being by myself and thinking and feeling for long stretches of time. I've lately been wondering what job/career I would like to explore, which is a heavy question because I'm interested and good at many different things. Hearing Adam elucidate on the ways naturally curious and creative people go about that same dilemma, I'm feeling so encouraged to let loose and experiment with different things, quitting when I need to, persevering when I need to. This was fantastic!

[@rachelbailey641]

If companies want curious employees, allow them time to think and explore. I feel stuck in my career - couldn't pinpoint the issue, but this episode was a lightbulb moment. It's because the volume of tasks I'm completing coupled with very tight deadlines has eliminated my bandwidth for curiosity. Thank you Adam and Steven! Now to decide if it can be made better, or time to move on.

[@lisabeaumont]

Hi, Rachel. Career coach, here. It seems you've already pinpointed the issue in that things are so tightly packed together there's no breathing space. I think Adam's question would really help you to figure out whether or not it's fixable. He asks: "What are the 3 things in your life (switch "life" for "work") right now that cause you the most friction? Can you sand them down / minimise them?" Identify those top friction points in your work that are causing you to feel almost stifled, and then write down as many ways you can think of to smooth them out, from the totally insane to the entirely reasonable. From that list, look at which would give you the most value (think pareto principle) and are actually possible and legal; the most bang for your buck; define them, then write down the first steps to implementation... Best of luck. Lisa Cherry Beaumont. :)

[@lavenderbee3611]

I experienced the same thing in my work life, the workload was crushing and there was no time to think. I initially would brainstorm and come up with really good ideas, the managers would not engage at all so over time I just became an automaton. I stayed way too long, and it's a big regret. Most companies do not care about their employees so don't feel any guilt or loyalty, look out for #1 always. It's a good idea to have the feelers always active and to be on the lookout for better opportunities.

[@agnoses]

If you’re very smart work remotely. I do 10 hours of work in two to four hours and am free to do as I will AND control my environment most of my day.

[@KristinaK.-rt7eu]

@@agnoseshi! Curious what type of remote work? I’m looking for remote work and would love something that I could get done in 4 hours to free up the rest of my day!

[@NannyOggins]

@@lavenderbee3611 The insane thing about this attitude is that they miss out on some brilliant ways to improve their company productivity as well as potentially engendering loyalty in their employees. I have to say though that this comes from the top doesn’t it! If the top bosses don’t care the cascade effect filters down .

[@mariascalise]

The part of the discussion about taking action as a means to getting unstuck and managing rejection reminds me of the Rocky quote: 'it isn't about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and KEEP MOVING FORWARD, that's how winning is done!' 😀🥊...

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

The Jackass guy is stil taking the kicks on balls...

[@Intuitive_mind_healing]

It's also how never to reflect and do things differently.

[@alexarobinson2850]

Often I have gotten through the tough times in my life by remembering that there are few constants in life, but one of them is change. Even when it gets bad and keeps getting worse, eventually it will have to get better.

[@niamhcampbell87]

Love this 💖

[@universaltruth2025]

I don’t think anything necessarily has to get better. That is desirable but it is not a universal norm I don’t think? But things definitely change.

[@penelopecumas2327]

@@universaltruth2025 Alexa, You are adorable.and, yes, life is change. Thank god.

[@MissMelissa04]

I'm one of those naturally curious people and I have to say, in all the jobs I've had I've been mainly discouraged from standing out, asking questions, or coming up with new ways to do things. Supervisors often feel annoyed or threatened and almost everyone thinks I'm either showing off or trying to make them look bad. So, I learned to just shut up and do what I'm told.

[@abibatu01]

“When should you let life lead you and when should you be a little bit more purposeful.” I turn 40 this year and have always allowed life to lead me. I’m at a point where I believe I should be advocating for myself a bit more to pivot to that next level and it’s been gut wrenching, but I’m pushing through the unsettling feeling.

[@hannahkatehaklani8787]

You need clarity my friend 🙏 Meditate upon this

[@smrda91]

For me this kind of happened when I turned 30. :) (ofc during corona pandemic)

[@heidi22209]

That's awesome! Enjoy all the bizarre feels. Good stuff. Be proud of the fact you're even capable of being self-aware. That's huge.

[@PaintedShovel]

I congratulate you on your discovery and I wish you courage to find your new way through life. I felt similar feelings when I turned forty. There was something magical about it.

[@shutdown8947]

I always wear powerful colors, red and black.

[@VietYork]

summarized by Viet York from Mollyverse 00:00 Many people are stuck in relationships and jobs, becoming lonelier as a species. 05:22 Getting stuck in life is common due to broken career models and lack of variety. 14:57 Names have a significant impact on our lives 19:30 Physical environments and colors affect behavior 28:04 Hardship is the first step in making something good 32:30 Curiosity and questioning lead to creativity and success at any age. 41:17 Curiosity is key to success 45:31 Maximizers and satisficers have different outlooks on success. 54:40 Expectations can lead to unproductive behavior 00:02 Acceptance is key to transitioning between life seasons. 1:07:43 Simplify complex problems by identifying and removing friction points. 1:12:19 Small unaddressed frictions can compound negatively in relationships and life. 1:21:03 Recombination of old ideas is the best way to come up with creative ideas. 1:25:24 Minimizing change is important in difficult situations 1:34:21 Technology's unintended consequences must be considered

[@swanvegalove]

I wish the channel would do this so subscribers did not have to. Thank you.

[@Faith_Chi]

@@swanvegalove He always types the chapters in the content box above.

[@gersendedupont1654]

Thanks ☺️

[@ksm1255]

@@swanvegalovehe does its under the title of the episode, in the description x

[@Ohhhhreallyronnie]

Thank you! I wasn’t about to listen to this all the way through! I only clicked for the wearing red part, that was used as thumbnail

[@kathleen7849]

I was a why why kid. Drove my mother crazy. I was terrible academically but I was/am very creative. I would compose music in my dreams or when I was creating jewellery I would see the completed design in a fully formed picture. Just popped into my head.

[@deejai1173]

*jewelry* respectfully. ❤

[@blakeirvine8746]

​@@deejai1173respectfully "jewellery" is the English spelling.

[@cinnamongirl2916]

​@@deejai1173😆😆buy a dictionary. Respectfully.

[@mollyd.359]

@kathleen7849 I was the same way! I started sewing my doll clothes and my own on a old treadle machine at 4yrs old. I was inquisitive about everything! It would drive mom nuts at times so this kept me quiet. Lol Since the pendemic I surf the internet and learn something new each day. I never get bored but Ive met people who talk to me just to hear what ive learned. Lol Lately its been the anatomy and natural healing. Unraveling the sicknesses Ive had/have and learning to heal myself naturally. Being my own advocate. My GP(dr) is not a fan. Lol Im always impressed to find people who are why, why people. Im sure your jewelry is beautiful and unique 🌹 Ive learned people want different, not the cookie cutter item. Sending blessings your way for new inspirations and a openess to keep bringing the world beauty 💞🙏😇🌹

[@calista1280]

​​@@deejai1173Down with Spelling Police 👎🏻

[@kevin.skorupa]

I've learned from living alone for a few years and being single and without close friends for the majority of that time, that first of all, it is hell. Second, it makes a person quite unstable, because there's a searching for meaning without any guardrails and there's a lot of bouncing around and changing course. Finally, there is an element to it that is positive, and that is the forced introspection. I've matured and learned a lot of self-control and learned more about what motivates me and what I should spend my time doing. I would never advise anyone to do what I did because trust me it's terribly painful even when you think you've gotten through it, but I will say that there benefit to doing it from time to time. My advice is to get comfortable being alone, but not very often and not for any prolonged time. (no more than a few days)

[@elsagrace3893]

Mmmm, I don’t have your problem. Good for you for getting uncomfortable and finding the benefits.

[@kwws]

totally echo how you felt as I am currently going through the same, been living alone for nearly 10 years now. It requires a strong mentality to get yourself through.

[@gardeniabee]

There comes a peaceful strength in aloneness. A solitary life can even be blissful. 🕊️✨

[@patdenman3887]

What about those of us who are shut in due to physical disabilities and little family support?

[@lizlermitte3632]

Wow, it's so profound that I am reading this right now and you verbalized the very state I am in. These podcasts and comments are really helpful.

[@TwistedSisttaa]

My favourite interview by far. He gave so many insights and ideas without overly complicating his conveyance of them.

[@naturalflowalchemy]

In the hospital network I worked with - the doctors, nurses and admin have daily huddles - and we ask .. 'what are our barriers to success today?' - relevant to the chat at around 1 hour 11 mins in this talk. This question works for very immediate checking in - makes sense that this occurs in hospitals where its critical that understanding everyone's conditions and circumstances are refreshed everyday.

[@karenvermeulen3981]

So interesting. I have friends who get annoyed with me because I ask so many questions and can't just accept things at face value. I'm also an art director, designer and illustrator and consider myself to be very creative. I've never thought about the link between the two!

[@nerdsforfreedom2794]

I identify with your remark! Fellow annoying person over here, lol!

[@Hey_Its_Helena]

The naturally curious shrivel in most workplaces. Being told that you are annoying with all the questions, or worse, "not a team player" because you can see the holes in what status quo is, tends to make us just want to fit in. We shut up to get a better review, to keep the job, or to make friends. I am about to leave another company because I questioned something and my life became hell "because who are you to question why we do it this way".

[@stefaniadellarovere6488]

found your own company!! People with a vision need to be their own bosses

[@Hey_Its_Helena]

@@stefaniadellarovere6488 absolutely! It is what I am working on currently on the side. Make my own opportunities!

[@jacobjorgenson9285]

Perhaps YOU are the problem ?😊

[@Hey_Its_Helena]

@@jacobjorgenson9285 🤣🤣🤣

[@emilyl.771]

@@jacobjorgenson9285she’s a non-conformist and I can totally appreciate this

[@moonmagnolia7]

At 1:04:31, I like what you said about the writer who just wrote something down , even all the bad ideas. Once I thought I had ruined a painting I was working on. I thought, “oh well I guess I can mess it up any worse.” So I just kept painting it and trying different stuff, which I really didn’t think would work, but this painting has turned out to be one of the best ones I’ve created.

[@ravenrozze3]

Very interesting! My dad is retired now, but he was an architect. He enjoyed actually building the designs over just drawing up the blueprints. I have fond memories of, what looked to me as a child, huge pieces of paper that I'd watch him flip back and forth thru fixing things here and there and changing things sometimes completely. It was utterly fascinating to me. However, Dad was the happiest with a tool belt strapped on and making the designs come to life. He is incredibly brilliant but humble...he would just as quickly respond "I'm a carpenter" as he would respond "I'm an architect."

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

Sounds heavenly..I feel like your father button a smaller scale.

[@alexarobinson2850]

“Good is knowing when to stop.” -Toni Morrison in “Beloved”

[@uduakudo8908]

Steven this is so true!! My name was given to Me from My Dad who was born & raised in Nigeria.... I love My name & it is powerful.... it means the purpose of God..... but it has been a source of difficulty throughout My life.... I grew up in an all black area of Queens New York.... believe it or not I used to get bullied bcuz kids would say "she thinks she's better than us bcuz her name & family is from Africa" or they would mis pronounce My name on purpose, & call it stupid or ugly & I had to fight often to protect Myself.... I guess we can call that cultural dissonance.... when I would see family or meet someone from 🇳🇬 Nigeria... I was too light skinned to be African & I have naturally curly hair from My Mom.... & you definitely can't have naturally curly hair! So I have the name that allienates Me from most groups including blood relatives.... they were worse.... I live in a town by the beach in Southern Cali .... they don't give Me a hard time with My name 😊 My name is beautiful & unique 😘

[@bellaclyde]

Please understand many people are afraid and intimidated by uniqueness and beauty. It's a blessing and a curse if you desire to "fit in." My mother told me as a young girl that 99% of the people in this world won't like you for one reason or another, if you concentrate on the 1% that does you'll be happy. She was right, I did and I was happy for the most part. Find your tribe even if it's only 1 person and THRIVE. ❤️

[@JM-vj7we]

❤

[@tombennett9209]

I spent 5 years as a technical advisor (guru) atmy old job. Loved it. Loved the people, loved the learning, got such a kick out of work. Became an assistant manager, left within 7 months. A shame in hindsight, but I'm happy now

[@TruthTribeNation]

I understand the points he made about isolation, However, I'm going through this right now actually. I've felt the call to literally totally isolate myself. As someone who has always been in the "spotlight" so to speak, as an author, speaker, top numerologist in the world (moved to Los Angeles from Canada on the 0-1Visa for Extraordinary Individuals in 2013), this is the complete opposite of my life prior. Yet, this isolation period has been incredibly transformative. I've been able to take leaps and bounds in healing my trauma wounds, ridding myself of many of the old patterns were never my own patterns to begin with...it is the most incredibly rewarding period of my life.

[@regi4834]

if we just made space for people to take some time and disconnect, half the mental health crisis would fix itself. instead we punish that in every possible way, making it anywhere from impossible to borderline dangerous, depending on resources, savings, career, social connections etc there's a little-known but compelling theory on depression being a biological adaptation to basically demand rest, isolation and/or critical analysis for processing. Sort of the way your body will regulate itself when you're sleep deprived and just actually doze off if necessary.

[@TruthTribeNation]

@@regi4834 Yes, in a way I agree with you. Depression has been studied scientifically and it measures as "deep rest" in terms of wakefulness (consciousness). Essentially, those who are depressed aren't fully "awake." Perhaps a protection mechanism? Could be. Many great leaders and people who have accomplished greatness in some form or fashion have experienced depression. MLK Jr. for instance. He was so depressed at one point, he couldn't even dress himself. Then, he went on to accomplish all that he did. Those who are meant to "awaken" the masses further are the ones who seem to succumb to these "depressive" rest periods or dark night's of the soul where everything in "reality" becomes distant. The "video game" becomes clearly evident during these deep moments of "depression." That is the one positive side to it all. It is as if we need to see reality for what it is and from that profound awakening (from the slumber of depression), we are invincible, as we always were but weren't aware of it. Science looks at depression as a negative while in reality (spiritually), it's a positive in the end.

[@rachelgriffiths1]

Is the number 7 prominent in your personal numerology?

[@jolesliewhitten6545]

I’m a happy 80-year-old who taught all my life. I knew when I was 15 what I would do. I look back on very happy teaching years.

[@francineharris9473]

It's easy when you know what you were born for, but many people don't have that with in them.

[@soricel2012]

This guy is soooo brilliant , genuine, over intelligent, amazing guest Steven, thank u for bringing him

[@denisejames855]

Great guest to interview, as always my thanks to you Steven for allowing your guest to answer the question without interruption. My husband is one of those with an ever inquiring mind, even at 80! He is a lap swimmer and is always searching for videos on better ways to swim, breathe, stroke etc. He is also an avid vegetable gardener, transformed into an hydroponic grower from necessity of unit living. Endless hours of research go into finding new ways of growing in this manner and experiments are always in production. His work life was incredibly varied, he got bored easily when he reached a pinnacle and would change direction to follow another path. I also had many changes, some better than others but am very glad for the variety of lived experience against doing the same thing for decades.

[@susanwilshaw459]

My experience in the corporate environment has been that a person is penalized for being curious or questioning why things are done a certain way.

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

the problem is most of our environment starts being the corporate environment with procedures everywhere

[@jacobjorgenson9285]

The corporate system works when people stay in place and don’t change things all the time .

[@CaramelSunflowers]

Butter yellow is a happy and calming colour I think for houses and other buildings. Like sunflowers it improves your mood.

[@innakuliyev5708]

I just started liking and respecting you one thousand times more when you mentioned how many times you had quit.

[@angelika1586]

I am in a difficult life situation and the words of the Buddha regarding suffering have been most helpful. Meditation has helped me more than any analytical or talking therapy! But that is my personal experience hope it helps others.

[@kjl308]

Hey great video! I didn't read all 290 comments, but in case anyone wants to know the 60:1 rule; it's for every 1 degree you're off course, you will miss your target by 1 mile for every 60 miles you travel. This is true for any straight-line navigation.

[@JabulisileMangwane]

Thank you for sharing

[@alexryan5919]

The curiosity section 🔥 culture is also worth mentioning as a huge impact on killing that ‘odd one out’ natural inclination by alienation and punishment. It’s special to find out you never really lose it, you just lock it in in a box in your brain and so you can find your way back to it when life is safe.

[@kea5763]

I can't figure out what you're trying to say. If you can please explain more clearly. Thanks

[@Austinjetel]

⁠@@kea5763I think what he’s saying is that we all have this outcast/curious side of ourselves that we bury because it doesn’t fit in with our friend group/society. If we didn’t bury our uniqueness (what makes us different from others) we would be ostracized by our friend group. Happened to me as a early teenager and it still affects me to this day.

[@GoVoteDemocracy]

Great interview! My dad always answered my many questions when I was growing up, and never made me feel like he was annoyed with me. I still ask a lot of questions even into my 50s. I’ve found it easier to remember things if I know why, and helps me to figure out if there’s a better way or not.

[@brandnewyorker]

I’ve just reached the end of my rabbit hole! Podcast addiction. Reading addiction. Maximizing addiction. These 2 hours will be explored and exploited weekly for the next 12 months and serve as a springboard for ideas, gritting, quitting, reevaluating. This is the end of seeking! So fully packed with multifaceted aspects worth noting and incorporating into a daily practice. * A big gulp of fresh water * Tao Te Ching for Modern Business and Scholarship * The Basics of The Basics Thank you!!!

[@PiotrKolmanowski]

French philosopher Deleuze was talking/writing about Repetition and Difference which help us have something new. He also developed a concept about "Lines of Flight" i.e., how new ideas develop, how to spot them, etc... There are also modern techniques how to discover new things which derive, among other things, from this philosophy. It's called sense-making...

[@alicee.8676]

Almost brought tears to my eyes when Adam was talking about nostalgia. Love this episode ❤

[@NT0609]

1:02:00 - why do we need to see a season of change with fear? Why not excitement? As humans, we’re negatively wired, but by observing our thoughts we can create new patterns and choose excitement over fear. I’m in the middle of a major change, and yes my primary tendency is to see all things that can possibly go wrong, but as I have that thought, I cancel it and say instead “ imagine what it’ll be like when everything goes right?” I’ve trained my mind to imagine the best scenarios instead of fearing the worst.

[@zeruszephuros5419]

I'm that very curious kid, still am as an adult but it was really hard and trouble especially when I was young because I'm in a very close minded and strict old belief environment I really appreciate the internet for opening up and making me feel accepted and not a crazy person

[@Black__Cat]

The name analysis is so spot on. I have an unusual name and most people I meet have never heard this name before. And I always have so much anxiety when I have to introduce myself because I know they are gonna ask me to repeat

[@calista1280]

Why are you anxious? Just say your name s l o w l y... repeat it and even go so far as to spell it and say where it originated. Use it as a conversation starter about your heritage & ancestry! Embrace your whole self!

[@nehasonney]

I've tried everything you've mentioned and yet, most will pronounce it wrongly. So I stick with telling my last name which is way easier for them to remember. Of course, if the person in front is from the same cultural background, then they know how to pronounce it correctly. The pain of hearing your name pronounced wrongly is... just ugh! Frustrating, lol.

[@JCX-9]

@@nehasonneyi use a nick name my ex boyfriend gave me it stuck with me most of my life. So instead of going through the trouble of giving out my real name to everybody i use the nickname. So far i never had any issues. Went through most of my working life being called by that nickname.

[@MSkp4wo]

I wish it was more common to change first names as we go throughout life. we change all other things that we are born into bc we change as people as we grow up- why do we stick to the same first name? wish this was a norm

[@karenmoodley]

So inspired to complete my MA in Research Psychology after listening to Adam speak (after a 6-year hiatus). I'm now within the Market Research space, and the dualities which Adam so eloquently discussed is CHEFS KISS. Thank you for this Steven and Adam!

[@pavijan]

Thank you Karen.

[@normanquednau]

How to get unstuck in life in general: self-accountability, courage to acknowledge the truth and total acceptance of the current situation while taking massive action towards changing it. Change via accumulation of little increments on a daily basis over a loooong period of time.

[@paulcolin9071]

I like this positive outlook

[@angelocast]

I feel stuck in my financial area. Earning money but with the expectation to earn more and as fast as possible. This JEWEL DOAC episode came in a perfect time. I am 42 today, multiple passions brought to professional levels: Music composing, Sculpting, Writing, Content Creation, Training, Coaching, etc...got crazy sometimes but here master ADAM ALTER said something like this 1:02:51 (and I am totally agree) "You get UN-STUCK by Acting". The same thing applies for inspiration and creativity. Inspiration came to me when I sit to create the next video, the next training, song, or a new sculpture. So, creative and curious people there, take action and move your hands.

[@deanshort9011]

I hope I get to meet you someday Steven. Even if that doesn’t occur, your impact on my life is still profound. Thank you for Diary of a CEO. Your preparation, the questions you ask, the quality and sheer number of podcasts you have with interesting & scintillating guests always teaches me something new. Huge shoutout to you for that. I sincerely thank you for sharing your gift. 🎉😎

[@keyfromthecity]

He is spot on about the color red. I have had more interactions (negative and positive) with males when I wear red in public. It's quite an interesting phenomenon.

[@kclarke2971]

I love red, I wear it often. I used to love neutral earthy colors but as I've aged my tastes have changed. My boyfriend upon first meeting could hardly speak when he saw me at work in red. Today I saw myself in the mirror and I thought do I actually look good in red, I'm so pale. I told myself I'm going to wear it anyway because I like it.

[@lindamoses3697]

❤Being single I used to go to huge single dances. I would dance all night if I wore red. I always thought it was easier to see in a darkened room. Now I know the real reason.

[@monicagrorud2225]

You know working girls traditionally wear red or have a red light. Just saying.

[@randibass7558]

Yes, it's true!!

[@joyatodd]

My experience about being curious is that people are not interested in putting the time into looking at the question far fewer possible answers. When teaching, I always welcomed questions because it was an opportunity to discuss possibilities with the student and the class. It's really easy to shut down that space and watch the light fade from their eyes. Usually, the reason is lack of time. Also, some people like certainty. When you're holding potential alternatives in the air, you initially have to suspend judgement while those possibilities are being revealed or teased out. Some people find this uncertainty very very uncomfortable.

[@NatalieBaucum]

Absolutely uncertainty is uncomfortable and not embraced enough in academia. I teach marketing on the college level and it really pains me that such a creative career choice is met with silence when I ask, "How would you do this or that for a client?" Intellectual curiosity is not the norm. They look at me for the answers when in my field there are often no right answers but one path the client ultimately chooses.

[@joyatodd]

@@NatalieBaucum Yup. We are naturally lazy. Someone else can work out the "right" answer.

[@johnnyxmusic]

@@NatalieBaucum Now, in the Israeli/Palestinian conflict, wouldn’t be interesting to take on one side or the other as a client… Figure out what their goals are… And help them create a “campaign“ in order to realize those goals. Do you have the respect of that is once you’ve decided which side you’re on… You find a way to justify the actions of your side… I mean there is a middle ground where you decide the rightness of one particular cause, and have the freedom to point out and criticize the errors and excesses of your chosen side. But that doesn’t fit into politics.

[@EiliKaijaKuusniemi]

This was honestly one of the most profound interviews I have heard in a long time! I just ordered the book. I just had to 😊

[@danmoreno934]

Im 48. Feeling stuck and going nowhere. Been at my job for 20 years. Love the people I work with. But its becoming mundane. Thoughts of going back to school have become regular. Glad to read others have choosen to move on, and gives me encouragement. Thanks for shareing

[@KatieKamala]

I was a massage therapist 23 years then went to film school , made a few award winning documentaries but it doesn’t pay the bills so now I’m a freelance videographer and love helping small business people with videos for their website and social media. Take a leap but be gentle with yourself also because it may take time to transition. I spent a few years not making as much money but I’m happy and working on my prosperity mindset. Wishing you lots of luck 🤗

[@KatieKamala]

I forgot to mention I went back to school in my 50’s So you can do it!

[@Zen-qe8ro]

I love your podcasts, the way you speak, the way you ask questions very straight to the point and clear and your genuine energy and respect is reflected at least in my perception! Thank you 🙏

[@NannyOggins]

Totally agree, Steven shows respect both for the guest and the subject under discussion.

[@alisonbailey7518]

This is something that I excel at. I’m a Cancerian, I do ALONE exceptionally well

[@marcia.adrian]

Hi, my name is Márcia and I'm part of that group of super curious people but this is not very recognized here in Portugal. We are part of a minority that is often left aside because we defy the "we've always done it this way" and that for many, is a lot of work. Thanks for the content 🙏😊

[@fluentinoverthinking]

This is so true about the names! I’m from Ukraine but my mother is Russian and my father is ethnic German, so I have a typical Russian name and my last name is German. Wherever I go people remember me! That’s insane. Even when I went to our version of MRI or DMV (the atmosphere there is tense worldwide😅) people would remember me and be more lenient. The part about symbols was fascinating and I’ve never noticed it. I think if you bear this information in mind it can significantly help you through life. Even in the way you decorate your home/office etc. Thank you for the podcast!

[@user-vd7fu3ku3n]

I'm absolutely hooked on this podcast! I find myself learning so much more here than I ever did in school. Thank you for sharing such valuable insights! 🙏

[@yvonnewennerlid2552]

Adam Alter has such a fascinating way of sharing his knowledge and how he explains the topics they talk about. It lifts up the spirit and mindset to a new and higher level and it is interesting how just from listening to someone talking it clarifies some hurdles in your own life. Loved this conversation, runs so smoothly. Steven is simply so interested in his guests and other people´s and it is sooo obvious how genuin and real he is!! I love watching these episodes!!!

[@jukeski]

Latent Energy is SO REAL.. I couldn't skateboard by myself but when I was with my friends I was better than all of them and they practiced way more.

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

I don't understand how that is possible.. can you explain?? 🤔

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

There was a NEW YORK Times experiment done years ago. Hundreds of identical resumes were sent out to the same companies, the ONLY difference was in the first names of the candidates. They found that the resumes with culturally Americanized names were the ones most picked!!! Parents are often short-sighted when they pick names for their children; not realizing they are often DISADVANTAGING them from the BEGINNING!!! Stay blessed, Everyone. Robert-

[@iam1smiley1]

I have a first and last name that makes me sound like a super hero 😂 I've also got an unusual resume, I often get job interviews where the interviewer says they just had to meet me because of my odd name and resume...be unique, even if you have a common name.

[@kamallamccain2699]

Well my name definitely isn’t common and I haven’t missed out on opportunities. You have to know that what is for you will never pass you by. The companies that pass up non common names miss out! Everyone has something to bring to the table and that is why so many companies have started investing in diversity and inclusion programs.

[@TheJoshestWhite]

​@kamallamccain2699 your name is fun though and has some quasi alliteration. Just rolls off the tongue.

[@MB20fangirl]

This was an excellent video. What a humble and intelligent approach to giving insight to what makes us motivated and where we should focus our energy. When you can see yourself and your strengths and weaknesses as part of being human versus the idea of being a failure you can get “unstuck” This made me feel so good about my new career and the ability to be trainable as opposed to knowing everything. Thank you for the gentle approach to coaching and motivating.

[@mariegordon3722]

I’m not sure if you just choose really fantastic guests or if my psyche is drawn to your videos, but every time I watch you, it’s exactly what I needed to hear at that time. Excellent job!

[@preetrekhi2898]

The flow of questions is good, nothing seems unnecessary. Amazing.

[@Rachel-lx1gl]

This was absolutely fascinating, but the thumbnail really undersells the value of this content.

[@owl4260]

I also noticed that the titles are often clickbaity - which makes sense, that's marketing I guess -, but they often really don't do the content justice...

[@NicoleByron]

The ending in 9-year idea is so ACCURATE. I'm 29 and will be 30 in a month. I have been reflecting so hard and changing so much lol. Hunting for meaning is so true.

[@paulaarchuleta8684]

Seasons change as in life, 0-30 school years, 30-60 working years, 60-90 old years.

[@rolli6243]

Additionally Nicole, never give up your BLISS for anyone!!!

[@allisonbrinkworth4596]

59 here and doing the same! 😂

[@ganymeade5151]

Some of the most successful people I know of are named: Anne, Joan, Mary, Rachel, Margaret, Jackie, Catherine, Trina, Kat, Mark, Steven, Jack, Pete, Mike, Robert, Tony, Ron, Sam, Don, Tom, Ted, Charles. These are more common and easier to remember names.

[@anneb5603]

I'm Anne and my mum's Joan and my brother's Steven lol!

[@JCX-9]

I gave my kids common names Michael and George. So far they are doing well. 😊

[@penelopecumas2327]

Easier for who? The intellectually stunted and the bigots? What a bloody bland world of Tom, Dick and Jane some people inhabit.When I taught, the first names I was able to remember were the foreign names because they stood out. I would remember I had a Bob in my class, but not who he was? A name is history, heritage and identity. Let's not wipe out all difference. Please. And maybe growth can be measured by the ability to remember names of more than one or two syllables?

[@HoneyIYKYK]

43:07 - he made a good point here. An important trait for leaders in organizations is to be able to gauge and be willing to train the ones who latch on and get better. But unfortunately in many organizations these people (including myself) become threats to organizations because they feel insecure about their own work ethic and have a fear of being replaced. I’ve worked in dozens of corporate organizations and I see it time and time again. Many people who are in leadership positions shouldn’t even be in leadership positions because the way they act can debilitate someone who is curious and willing to learn. I’m definitely getting his book on audible, I’m excited to learn more on this topic.

[@kathieoray2990]

I believe, due to life experience, we can become stuck in our own trauma and sorrow. Moving through our lives as though enveloped in a shroud that keeps us from really facing the world that has left such an indelible mark on our souls. If we try hard enough, we don't have to remember the hurt or the trauma at all. Almost.

[@mathieutrepanier5867]

One of the most life changing videos I listened on youtube! Answering the questions you said has just propulsed me in life like nothing in a long time. Thank you so much Adam and Steven for this wonderful interview!