90 Day Fiancé - Last Resort #11 - (That's Why I Cheated) - Therapist Reacts

[@andedom]

Haha, I love the “my wife was texting me about dinner” moment. So relatable. Usually we only get “my dogs are barking”. Thanks for not editing out that behind the scenes moment 😂

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

ha!

[@sdvoor]

Agree! Love that so much. SO relatable. Great and most appropriate word. Dr Honda is so real and that was a very cute moment

[@MeaganJones-qc8uw]

What bothers me about Ed's behavior her is that, in a sense, he gets everything he wants. He gets to cheat. He gets to "win" and then he gets to back track on his behavior and come away being liked. It feels so slimy

[@trinejensen1707]

I totally agree 🤮

[@Lisa-yv2hd]

This! Every damn time. Everyone accommodates his bs. He’s like he never got told no as a child.

[@emilymulvihill3545]

Came for the reaction to the show - stayed for the verdict about dinner

[@RyuSaga99]

So.. Ed cheats... denies cheating and calls you names... admits to cheating but will attack you for saying he cheated.... And apparently he does it in therapy games too. 🥴

[@trinejensen1707]

Yes, and gets away with it 🙄

[@trinejensen1707]

To me he acts like a classic little brat but the sad thing is that he isn’t a kid, he is actually in his 50’s 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️😣

[@milanmilan2]

Ed said in previous seasons that he went to therapy on his own a fair bit, but it looks like he just learned to fake progress using therapist terms with no intention of improvement. Liz needs help so she doesn't end up with any more Eds in her life... Actually quite afraid for her future.

[@stellannie86]

I'm just getting such a superficial vibe from Molly's "i was so into him when he was a cop, and now that he's unemployed i couldn't be more unattracted"..

[@XxThexBitterxEndxX]

Then why was he so mad when they called him a cheater? Ugh, Small Ed is just unbearable...

[@meowmirrr]

He has Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[@alyssalynn1691]

✨️Narcissism✨️

[@sharky1213]

In my personal experience, cheaters often times get the angriest when being called out for being a cheater.

[@blanchardsw]

Liz deserves so much better. Whatever flaws she might have pale in comparison from what we've seen from Ed. Someone in her life at some point must have convinced her that she doesn't deserve happiness because she seems to have settled for so little with Ed. It's so disappointing to watch.

[@sarahsmith3682]

Totally agree

[@rachelleeden8824]

I hate that everyone cheered when he admitted to cheating. I mean, yeah, it's good he confessed, but no one addressed that he genuinely tried to lie about it to begin with. Let alone that he missed the point of the exercise.

[@rowancoates.2054]

He clearly has anger issues self hatred ,misogyny issues.

[@trinejensen1707]

And he called kelly a b**ch for calling him out on cheating

[@BanjoBitty]

Your reactions have helped me better navigate my own communication with my partners. They have also helped me better advocate for myself in therapy when I felt I wasn't on the right path. Currently looking for a therapist with more experience to meet my needs. But until then these videos give me useful notes to think about that I can bring up with my new therapist.

[@LeanDoughnut]

I think a behind the scenes or daily routine for Kirk would be a cool video!

[@caisearbhan4738]

No, I don't believe it's just shenanigans. It seems that in an earlier season, the production team might have encouraged him to portray a specific character type. Over time, with the increase in viewership, fame, and attention, this character has become a part of his actual personality. As a result, the production team may no longer need to instruct him in "shenanigans."

[@mamasunshine80]

He started selling his own "merchandise" from the very first appearance on 90F. He even showers with a shower curtain that's plastered with his stupid face. Rose caught on quickly, had a good cry then kicked his arse out like a fucking soldier. Go Rose! ❤️

[@mamasunshine80]

I don't think his merch made it to Macys though....

[@vida2459]

Hair is looking great!

[@rowancoates.2054]

No ed is not a superstar hes the reason alot of people considered not watching the show and why many skip past the parts where hes talking.

[@RosyFdz]

7:03 can’t miss with tacos 🌮 (edit) MOD is my jam, I can get exactly what I like there 😂 (edit to the edit) excellent choice DKH! 🍕

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yeah, their pizza looks like it'd be floppy, but it's not!

[@cjgroom109]

We have Mod Pizza here in Austin, TX and I love it because they offer 2 different types of roasted garlic topping

[@mamasunshine80]

Ed, you have been granted the looks you deserve. From the whole UK 🇬🇧

[@aimeeshatto9504]

I think that's the question with Ed. Why? He's crossed so many personal boundaries, without little consideration. It's about Ed. Has he ever put himself in Liz's shoes, or anyone else's. Does he take a moment and think, " if I do this, this will hurt her or make her mad?" It's all about Ed. It feels selfish. It feels that there's conditions to him. I will love you, but it has to be my way, go my direction. It feels like a power struggle. They live in HIS house, not one they found together. He dictates Liz's career or job choice. He showed the same behavior with Rose. It's a good question. What is it inside of Liz for her to be okay with that kind of treatment? MOD is right around the corner from my house. It's a staple 😂. It's weird to hear a semi local restaurant from your favorite doctor and human on the Web. Dillion James and a caeser salad is my goto.😂

[@bananascoaster1243]

MOD is a national chain. Taco Time on the other hand, is American west minus California.

[@aimeeshatto9504]

​@@bananascoaster1243taco time came from Eugene oregon. Another semi local.

[@bananascoaster1243]

@aimeeshatto9504 my bad, didn't know you were talking about origins. MOD was pretty quick to expand though

[@trinejensen1707]

No, he doesn’t think about other peoples feelings, sadly he is waaaay too selfcentered to do that 🙄

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

My go to is caspian and greek salad. Yum!

[@radk3124]

90 Day Fiance and The Things We're Gonna Have for Dinner Tonight 😂😂

[@cestmarrant1]

My mother and I went to a retreat with Virginia Satir, I think in the late 60's. The only part i remember is that after my mother complained about how I was dressing, Virginia put us in the center of the circle, mussed up my hair, put dirt on my face, and hitched up my long skirt in a messy way. I wish I could remember what she then said to my mother and what my mother said - but I don't 😞

[@katella]

Interesting. How old were you?

[@cestmarrant1]

@@katella I'm guessing between 16 and 19.

[@katella]

@@cestmarrant1 would love to know what happened next. I remember well the excitement of such moments. Thanks for sharing.

[@cestmarrant1]

@@katella I wish I knew too. I do remember that I felt kind of astonished and terrified by Virginia's "audacity". However, I do know that nothing changed in my relationship with my mother. Even though we tried various therapies over the years (and she was an art therapist!), we were both too damaged for anything to have an effect. I didn't discover relational therapy til I was 60, and she had already died by then. Did you have an experience with Virginia?

[@katella]

@@cestmarrant1 it's always sad when we want to work things out with our parents and aren't able to do that. We can keep working on ourselves though. I had no personal experience with Virginia Satir but I found her approach intriguing and enjoyed a year of training as a gestalt therapist.

[@katella]

This just shows that Liz will never have an equal partner in Ed for anything she wants to do. He can't be trusted or relied upon to be on her team.

[@katella]

He just always has to come out on top.

[@BekaB85]

"Lots of tacos in our lives"... lol I love it! Yay you landed on pizza!!!! I hope you enjoyed it!

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

I did!

[@thevillagejoke]

Wish Dr. Honda would focus on getting through the Ed stuff. Whenever too much time passes he literally forgets how bad Ed is

[@rowancoates.2054]

Ed and Angela get along because theyre both angry.They have alot in common.

[@katella]

And love to drink and party in ways others find unacceptable.

[@meowmirrr]

they're both narcissists

[@nyarden301]

Calling them shenanigans in light of his later leprechaun life reveal is too good

[@sallyburnell8082]

What bothers me is how quickly and often Ed broke up with Liz. I wonder why she keeps going back. She's pretty, smart, hard working and would be a catch for any man, from what we see. The Dr. Probably discussed the possible whys and I must have missed it.

[@rowancoates.2054]

Ed is an emotionally abusive gaslighter and calls Liz whenever there's trauma in his life to get sympathy from Liz after they break up.

[@rowancoates.2054]

He wants comfort from Liz but then publicly humiliates her by cheating on games.

[@irairod5160]

No. Liz would not be "a catch" for most men, only emotionally stunted ones. She revels in the turmoil of bad relationship. A healthy and mature man would not hold her interest, nor would he be inclined to pursue someone with such unresolved issues.

[@elizasoutie]

I love hearing about how a Virginia Satir approach could be used with the couples. And MOD pizza is great, too!

[@shmackydoodRon]

Angela is trying to steal everybody’s man.

[@BekaB85]

I wish I thought it was shenanigans but I do not believe it is with Ed. Liz is really bothered by his actions and if it was shenanigans I think she wouldnt be as upset by it.

[@St3ph3rs]

I think they keep Ed on the show because it’s who he truly is and they get a free show without the work

[@rowancoates.2054]

theres alot of gaslighting of Liz by Ed and seeming self hatred and misogyny.Anytime theres a traumatic event in his life when they break up he calls her .She needs to block his number he has publicly humiliated her multiple times.ugh.

[@ericalivinglife693]

Angela and ipad Micheal are pointless on this show. Unfortunately a lot of people treat their partners worse than the average person they'd come in contact with. Often in dance classes they make people dance with strangers so there's no bickering.

[@meowmirrr]

Are you still convinced Ed isn't a narcissist, Dr. Honda? lol

[@Ola_Stawinska]

He can't diagnose him from far.

[@rowancoates.2054]

The entire relationship between Ed and Liz is based on gaslighting of Liz.

[@katella]

He said it is possible that Ed and Liz are good 98% of the time. 🤷🏽

[@meowmirrr]

@@katella Possible but NOT LIKELY AT ALL.

[@meowmirrr]

@@Ola_Stawinska he can speculate but he hasn't really seemed to pick up on it..

[@joannawrzelikowska3273]

Ed is manipulating everybody Dr Honda 🙄

[@jenniferfootman3257]

To clarify, Mod is in Colorado, too. You're right, they do have good pizza.

[@Cathee45]

what is the name of the warm grandma therapy expert you were talking about??

[@Cathee45]

Virginia Satir got it

[@AuroraP4t3L]

Thank you for the 90 Day Finance content! I love it!!! You rock Dr. Honda!

[@milanmilan2]

When we are not sure what to have, we auto default to Vietnamese food....:)

[@bigelowkaryn]

What’s the difference between an ultimatum and a boundary?

[@thisismyinferno]

I really question Molly...going forward. I know there was something that happened privately before this show, but I found shes contradicted herself on the show about Kelly. Says she hasnt said things she has said on video. Maybe theres a chance it wasnt meant but... i dont fet that feeling.

[@Gokce-Aysun]

I don't think it is uncommon for a lot of women to want to be provided for. Even women in industrialized countries. Many of them a are sick and tired of doing everything. Many times women get the short end of the stick. Many times they have to work and have careers, plus deal with the children, and the household chores. Sometimes they have to do it all alone too- which honestly I prefer that then to have an ineffectual glorified roommate with extra benefits- probably which benefits them more than me. Also many of us want to build strong nurturing bonds with our children. It's natural. Mother nature's call is often strong and overpowering. It can actually be detrimental to our emotional and psychological and physiological well being. And Some people may actually say... Well Molly's children are not that young. One child was even an adult if a remember correctly. For those who say that are probably not mothers of teenagers and young adults. It's actually way harder to parent a teenager and to help guide and support a young adult in a healthy and effective way. Molly was by herself trying to single parent her daughters of a lot of her life it seems. So I can empathize with her. And for those with hectic lives because you have an infant or toddler or young child... Just wait. :-) Kolay Gelsin (may it be easy for you). 🤗

[@kyrab5828]

Much love for Virginia Satir

[@Jennn.rennn17]

Haha thank you for keeping us updated on what you were getting for dinner, cause yes I would have been wondering the whole video lmaoo I don’t know why, I guess I’m just nosy 😅

[@jessa.4529]

Did you entirely forget how Ed is?

[@Nikkiluvphilly]

Yea Mod Pizza!

[@ClairesMyth]

I miss taco time!!! It's the best

[@bryanbytes]

I’m more of a Pagliacci

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yes! Our fave. Our go to for decades. But... Mod has better salads.