90 Day Fiancé - (Last Resort #19) - I shouldn't have cheated - Therapist Reacts

[@sallyburnell8082]

I'm getting tired of Ed and all the break ups and back togethers of this couple. Hopefully the Last Resort is the last we see of him.

[@VenusDeMilitant]

Ahh I hate to to be a bummer here, but they got married after the show and there were tv cameras there. Sooooo I think we're gonna see a 90 Day Happily Ever After for them.

[@virginiasoares826]

​@@VenusDeMilitantwhy does this make me so sad?!

[@VenusDeMilitant]

@@virginiasoares826 Maybe because we all wanted Liz to sharpen the hell up. But...NOOOO into the fire she jumped.

[@ms-corleone]

WHAT???

[@daisyo.6666]

​@@VenusDeMilitantnow he'll hold the marriage status on her head every time they have a disagreement and she'll be scared of getting another divorce so will likely become more agreeable. Just sad.

[@shmackydoodRon]

Ed is old school. He believes in controlling a woman with aggression and snurky murks. Liz’s mom is old school too. She believes in controlling men with selective use of a reward or neglect.

[@hullstar242]

Yeah he needs to cool it with the snurky murks

[@suee434]

Ed has that face to hide the myriad of reactions he's having while he figures out which is the most advantageous for the situation.

[@toricooper7910]

This was my ex and I. With him constantly changing behaviors. At the very end you said “it’s gotta be really confusing” and that is soooo accurate. It’s a constant state of confusion.

[@miahershkowitz2632]

I was so happy to hear you talk about how confusing it must be for Liz. One of the most difficult things for me to untangle after leaving a very physically abusive relationship was my own confusion about what was real and what wasn’t. I didn’t trust my own thinking, how had I stayed? It took years of work and still I struggle with working through how confusing it was and trusting my own thoughts.

[@mrsminnatk3992]

Everything Kirk says makes sense.

[@kayann100]

Man if this video had existed a year ago I probably could have avoided an entire nother year of emotional abuse 😭

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

I'm sorry to hear that. You deserve a safe and loving relationship.

[@thebowandbullet]

At the end of the day, when words don't match behaviour, behaviour is the truth.

[@LilShmerp]

I remember repeating the phrase "I can't do shit with sorry" to myself as a mantra type thing that, to me, was a reminder words are just words they're cheap and meaningless without action. I no longer wanted an apology, i wanted changed behavior and after a lot of practice i learned to hold the optional people in my life as well as myself to this standard. Confusing is a great way to explain how it feels when the right words dont make the hurt go away.

[@sarahsmith3682]

"I can't do shit with sorry" I need to hear that, thank you

[@toocutepuppies6535]

Ed is so toxic its hard to watch him. Its amazing that he's been able to watch himself on television for long enough now you'd think he'd gain some insight into himself and his own behavior but that has definitely not happened. He probably blames that negative perception on TLCs editing.

[@JulesA5266]

Well like Liz's mom said, he thinks he's God's gift to the world - so when he watches himself, he is probably patting himself on the back for being the good person in the show. >_>

[@KonjikiKonjiki]

I suspect Liz's mum has developed her response to her daughter's heartbreaks by Ed B over time, and it's taken a lot to get her response to where it is now. I would imagine she had a lot of regret over not speaking up about him sooner, and that has informed her current response. I honestly wish my family had done this for me at any point in my life; I'm a people pleaser to a really harmful extent, and put up with poor treatment because I was shown that's how you do things. Instead, they just judged me silently and never said a word about what kind of treatment I should be rec eiving instead.

[@snOags]

ive had a g/f that was like that. she would be what seemed genuinely apologetic about her behavior. i relented, and provided the security in the relationship, and not 1 day later she would be behaving much the same and would in fact be as adversarial because she now had the pain 2 days in a row so would be angry at me saying i have been harming her. its a no win if you are in this type of relationship and all that happens is the stakes get higher and the retribution becomes harsher.

[@sintara8442]

Its so difficult to just be supportive and listen.. I run out of things to say in 1 minute and then I'm scared people will think I'm bored 😅

[@rains5]

Same for me, but when I have nothing to say I've been told I'm a Good Listener

[@lilbeanbop]

Look up some active listening techniques! Sometimes just listening and echoing the other person is enough to be supportive. When you’re being supportive and just listening, you don’t really need to worry about running out of things to say because the focus should be hearing them rather than a response

[@cjgroom109]

Liz seems so miserable so often to me. It makes me sad just thinking about how sad she must’ve been before Ed to make her think this is what she deserves

[@bridgittetirman2645]

She has actually said that this is the best relationship she’s ever been in. That’s incredibly sad.

[@sabrinashelton1997]

I think Dr. Honda has become way more jaded lately when watching these shows.

[@snOags]

what do you mean? how so? like his tone is more sharp to the people or what?

[@snOags]

haha i saw more of this episode and maybe i see why you are saying that. i almost think more accurately cynical of some of these couples. you just get sick of the turmoil

[@sabrinashelton1997]

Yes. In older videos he seemed more willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. He spoke more softly, more kindly, and seemed more understanding. I am not saying it's wrong either way, it is just a difference I have noticed lately. @@snOags

[@snOags]

@@sabrinashelton1997 gotcha. Yeah I hear ya

[@rains5]

Yeah he's in the real world now, where people aren't from his social circle with similar morals and behaviors.

[@angelajohnson198]

You really need to interview Liz like the Jeymi episode. Ed has sucked the life out of her.

[@ChantalOfTheNorth]

I think they got married.... Like recently... Edit: yep..... Apparently they got married in August. Yikes.

[@caisearbhan4738]

😕

[@Jennifer-fk8kb]

Oh man. Damn. I was hoping she got away.

[@sarahsmith3682]

Nooooo!!! 😵

[@colettephair]

I only yell "Grow" when trying to create a field of corn. Guess that's why I'm still waiting. )*:

[@TimeWorksTrue]

needed to hear this- thank you Dr. Honda!

[@therealspixycat]

He either blames her or talks about "we"

[@Ferreneh]

I've noticed that too. "we need to work for this relationship" meaning she does all the emotional labour and gets the blame in the end if things don't work out. Ed has never said something about his flaws and actually followed through with becoming better. He's just all words and no meaning

[@thapoppyman]

This is just more confirmation of my hyoothesis of ed from the beginning.

[@jjmsf]

i learn so much from you

[@SLAMSwan]

Liz needs to leave him for good. Ed needs to stick to therapy and not date for a long period of time.

[@jjmsf]

stonewalling ed wont help

[@stellannie86]

90 happy days Fonzie? 🙃

[@KatherinaRussell]

😂

[@thevillagejoke]

FINALLY! Just focus on 90 day til it’s done please!

[@alexisrose71]

Hey, don't tell KZbin daddy what to do.🙃

[@thevillagejoke]

@@alexisrose71 seems like quite a few people agree with me. Also, gross 🙃

[@rains5]

Yeah we were the originals.