Love Is Blind S3 #44 - (Bartise Interview #1) - Therapist Reacts

[@rw7567]

Can we just speak on the fact that honesty and brutality don’t have to go together and shouldn’t?! How about some kind honesty only when it’s necessary. There is a time and place for silence.

[@GreenJewelLights]

Latchkey is the perfect accidental put down 😂

[@haileydavis6404]

Nobody ever comments this, but I LOVE your short intros!

[@dedu98]

Me too! So fucking nice to be rid of that intro bullshit. Straight to the point. Nice.

[@donato286]

Lol there is a video that Dr. Honda released a week or two ago where he responds to a comment like that and says he doesn't like long intros too. 😄

[@s.melonita4454]

@@donato286 I’ve made a whole time stamp comment about that lol

[@inferno7289]

yes they do

[@LilBrownieD]

I'm cautious that Bartise has simply learned what the public *wants* to hear to rehabilitate his image....... Also that host's composition notebook laptop cover is fire

[@crystalwaithe865]

I agree. I think he responds appropriately during interviews but looking at his content on Instagram and Tik Tok where he kinda leans into the bad guy image and makes it a joke, I don’t think his interview mode is genuine.

[@Drs195]

You know it’s not the 90s anymore when it’s Nick Latch-Key 😂

[@frankieloves7078]

Completely forgot about Bartise

[@poponachtschnecke]

😂

[@theweekndxo7438]

or as I like to call him, Barstool or Barqueese

[@KoreanChocoBoy]

I think everyone’s gonna remember the word “smokeshow”

[@raimeepigsley5140]

Or Nancy’s remembrance of the word, Smoke House.

[@tahliacain2834]

Fucking mood 😂

[@AprilT72]

Not latch key 😂 Dr Honda is so funny without trying.

[@beets5919]

He just seems so inauthentic to me

[@setme4ree]

Seemed like he was just on the show for the clout

[@Evie534]

Same - I’m not buying that he actually means most of what he’s saying

[@s.melonita4454]

Same. Don’t believe a wooord.

[@rethinkcps2116]

Are those teeth bleached to literal dead white? So many vain bids he's made, yet still unappealing.

[@magnoliadjholmes247]

I still have no love for Bartholomew.

[@setme4ree]

Same he was a dick, maybe its editing but he seemed like a total ass

[@talktalk3]

I see you're also on that sub 😂

[@Mindyzzzzz]

Not Bartholomew 🤣

[@magnoliadjholmes247]

@@talktalk3 I've dabbled lol

[@janedza]

omg im laughting so hard 1min in, cos when Bartise is concluding learning more from watching the show then experiencing it, Dr simply concluded he was cringing watching himself

[@jonhinged]

I’ll never stop praising you for that short intro.

[@yessenia2440]

I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL DR HONDA! okay I just needed to get that off my chest❤

[@DanielleMarieW]

Nick Latch-Key. Bless your ever loving heart, Dr Kirk Honda! ❤😂

[@Ola_Stawinska]

I got so invested with Zanab and Cole (to the point where im exhausted with them but still can't stop watching more stuff o.o) that its actually refreshing to see episode about other cast member! Its nice to see that Bartise learned something.

[@paintedpawstudioPetportraitart]

Same! 😅

[@roses.9181]

Omg I'm dying 😂, "Nick.. err... Latch..key???"

[@marlynmontoya]

🤣Nick and Vanessa Latchkey!! Protect Dr. Honda at all costs! Thank you Dr.H!!

[@maciw456]

Latchkey? Dr Honda you are total Gen X! It’s Nick “la-SHAY”. How very Gen X of me too! 😂

[@miriteich5859]

I watched a recent interview with Nick Viall where he says he is currently training to be a therapist so you're spot on!!

[@Redpandakiwi]

I saw some short video posts from Bartise (some call out to girls asking for all of the smoke shows to come meet him as he’s going to x location) that really made me feel he hadn’t grown at all and actually felt quite proud of his not so great behaviours during the show I get having a joke but I wouldn’t joke about something I had done that had seriously hurt someone and I regret it might be interesting if dr Kirk also reacted to some of these videos as I feel like bartise is showing a very different side of himself

[@theweekndxo7438]

Barstool/Barqueese really out here doing damage control

[@Nunofyabizzzzz]

I wonder if Dr. Kirk ever wonders if they're lying. Someone else said it best this is damage control

[@raimeepigsley5140]

Latchkey 😅. At first I wasn’t sure what he was talking about . DR. Honda it’s Nick and Vanessa Lachey pronounced luh-shay

[@superhotnutjob]

I was looking for this comment. The Latchkeys would definitely also have been a great reality TV show. It would be 2 latchkey parents and a bunch of latchkey kids. Hysterical.

[@raimeepigsley5140]

@@superhotnutjob When he said it, I thought to myself, “I have heard that term, but not sure what it means.”

[@superhotnutjob]

@@raimeepigsley5140 Oh, I am very familiar with the term. My grandma would use it to low-key shade my mom when I would get in trouble. She would say things like "Has no one taught you manners? Are you some kind of Latchkey Kid?" Mind you, we were a ESL family (with an English Grandma) so I always thought it meant "a kid who has fun and doesn't trouble themselves too much with rules."

[@raimeepigsley5140]

He is 27 I believe. He was 25 in the show

[@Evie534]

I feel like Bartise is just regurgitating what the audience wants to hear. I’m not a fan of Nancy or Bartise, but I find Bartise to be abrasive, rude, and full of himself. Still don’t understand why he’s full of himself lol

[@s.melonita4454]

Same. I don’t believe a word he says 🤣 not on or off the show lol

[@Evie534]

@@omojefeugbeyan5518 totally agree with your assessment. I missed that part about his friends and I’ll have to go back and watch it. Would explain a lot of why he acts the way he does.

[@Evie534]

@@s.melonita4454 me either. Not buying it for a second

[@Redpandakiwi]

@@Evie534 I got the vibe about the friends being negative towards nancys appearance nothing was ever directly said by them but possibly implied in somewhere?? Who knows maybe it was just a vibe I can’t remember any direct conversation about it in the show

[@Evie534]

I feel like before the wedding there were weird vibes from his friends, but I can't remember exactly why.

[@irenalovesart4064]

Hello from Australia

[@tomslick1026]

Dr. H I am still confused by the contrast between your (and others') reaction to Bartise and his statements and actions vs those of Cole. Cole was constantly challenged and tested by Zaneb and was reacting to a tense judgemental environment which many translated as his own sexist behavior that was NOT objectively observable, yet led many to assume a nefarious intent despite the lack of direct example to support such a claim. Any statement by Cole was translated in the most insulting and harmful way, despite the obvious contextual clues that indicated otherwise. Yet Bartise brings up a topic to point out how hot and attractive another woman is while his partner silently watches with clear hurt in her eyes, yet there is none of the presumption that he has any ill intent whatsoever. His claim that a birth defect (like downs syndrome) was not reason to terminate a pregnancy, but a simple unplanned pregnancy when one is young WAS a valid reason is revealing about his values. (His claim that being LGBTQ+ WAS a birth defect also is revelatory). Bartise is trying to redeem himself yet cannot say he was wrong... he was simply being "brutally honest." He got that half right: he is brutal. He exhibits traits of a self assured, egotistical player whose best skill is manipulation of others through charm and strategy, but displays very little real insight. I don't get it. TLDR: Bartise gets a pass while Cole is assumed malicious

[@honeyryderchile]

I totally agree, Bartise got sooo much benefit of the doubt and leeway, even though what he told Nancy about Raven, several times, totally unsolicited, would have been much more hurtful to me. I also thought Nancy was such a sweetheart. And I don't ever remember Bartise really apologize or tell Nancy how beautiful she was too. It was odd to me how much grace Bartise got, where most of Cole's actions seemed framed as nefarious.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

I'm starting to wonder about this too. If you had to choose one of them to date your sister which would you choose? Cole is a dope, but he seems like he means well. Bartise is the type to knock a girl up and then block her on all social media lol I actually have a half baked idea on why there's a difference in perception between Bartise and Cole. For me, growing up I've lived in 4 states and 3 countries. That means I've met A LOT of people from different areas. I tend to get my opinions on a persons character from ignoring what they say and watching what they do. I just sit back and watch like I'm in a zoo. I think others put a lot of stock in words spoken, which to me is very child like, but whatever. If you were to judge these 2 men on how they speak you see Bartise is a lot more smooth and slippery than Cole (something I tend to see as rehearsed and manipulative) and Cole's communication is so clunky and lacks nuance.

[@lynncrf]

So sad that we live in a world where DS is considered a birth defect. Most people with DS can live fully functioning lives. It's not like hydraceps or something.

[@stephaniesilvan3526]

I'm pretty neutral between Cole and Zanab, so I'm getting the strong impression that Zanab is being roasted way more than Cole. Don't get me wrong, I think they were both being a handful and I wouldn't want to date either of them, but I think siding with Zaneb is the unpopular opinion. It's usually the women being assumed to be vindictive and manipulative, while the men are assumed to just be naive, innocent and boyish. When a woman overreacts on the show, people are absolutely sure she has an agenda, while men are just powerless over their words and actions. I think that's demeaning to both genders. Just an impression from the sidelines.

[@carminahh8138]

If no one has already said it it’s Nick Lachey like La shay .. he was in a boy band 98 Degrees about around the time N’Sync and Backstreet Boys were popular.

[@mabel9357]

I may be misjudging him but this interview just confirmed what I thought about him all along, he's pretty self-centered and whatever he says remotely partaining to others is just to save his face. The whole abortion debate had nothing to do with his own opinion, he probably never even thought about it or had an opinion but the cogs were turning hard on how to be the good guy in that conversation, instead of actually focusing on how that discussion may be relevant to them as a couple. It boils down to the fact that from day one out of the pods he knew Nancy was a no for him but due to the show he was in a situation where he needed to play it up to not seem shallow. I would say it is his personality at fault but also the way the show is designed, and together it just gave a really damaging result. As much as I enjoy this content I don't think Bartise should be given more limelight, I wish it would fizzle out, he's just not that interesting.

[@Ferreneh]

You're so right about the abortion convo. I think Bart saw his opportunity to disagree with Nancy & to push her away, but his reasonings were shallow. Nancy gave some really logical & agreeable answers because apparently she's been thinking about it a lot, and he just hasn't. Wanted to look like a good guy but came out an incompetent fool. And the whole relationship is like a textbook "a lot of talk, little action". I found it very telling that Bart was hyping himself up throughout, even saying on the wedding day "I'm gonna take that ring & put it in her finger, to show I'm in it for life" or something to that effect... Then I knew he was going to say no. The whole thing is just cringy and I just wish he would have more insight & a true learning curve, but that seems unlikely. I hate it when there's so many men who really don't know who they are or what they want & they just talk a lot of talk to seem like an ideal guy they think women like, because they want a constant stream of ego boosts. They just end up hurting a lot a ladies & themselves in the process

[@setme4ree]

Thats the issue with therapists.. well some, they pander to the person and thats why my family never gets any better from years of therapy. I’d love a therapist who did that to me. Mine always said they support me etc. even when im wrong so I stopped going. My bf is better at being my therapist and being honest than any therapist ive paid for lol 🤣 makes me cringe all the time at myself but it helps me grow a lot.

[@fruityeva]

Thank you!🌞😊

[@BeckBeckGo]

Maybe the best therapy for fledgling therapists is to go through therapy? I have no idea, but I like this anecdote. I actually had to listen to this twice. I’ve been listening to this after having a fight with my boyfriend. And I left the house and started tinkering with my car. He’s not easy to have certain conversations with. But this idea that there is an opportunity to have a conversation and we should stick it out. As much as I don’t want to, I’m going back inside. Thanks. Hope it goes well. And just to be clear, I have no interest in talking. But I’m going back. That’s something. It’s a start I guess

[@litarivera-cortes146]

Maybe Bartiste’s approach to Nancy DOES have something to do with him knowing exactly how it feels to be rejected. Maybe rejection from someone other than a love interest. Society. His parents. The two cultures that are his life as a biracial person. I think we assume just because somebody is good looking they haven’t experienced rejection. Sometimes the hot adult guy went through an awkward phase when they were younger.. he needs that Barbie doll type girl on his arm in compensation for something. Some type of hurt or insecurity. Maybe it gives him a sense of control he feels he doesn’t have or didn’t in the past. Maybe he’s retaliating. Or needs her to hurt like he does to feel better about himself.. The options are endless. Isn’t Psych fun. Love it. Well there’s no fun in peoples hurt. I meant psych is intriguing I agree though the awareness is definitely not there. The why behind it. Therefore doomed to repeat

[@niccole3542]

Sure he may have done this because he may have been rejected of course we don't really know him to know if he had faced rejection.But if he had,it doesn't excuse him from just saying that he finds another woman physically attractive over his own fiancee and not care if she is hurt by that comparison.He seemed like he wasn't fully interested in Nancy but still continued on and waited to say no at the altar.He simply does not give af about her being heartbroken which is sad cause Nancy seemed like a sweet girl who couldn't see all the red flags up until the wedding.

[@bigmunchkinfan]

I don't trust anyone that talks as fast as Bartise

[@moonlightpixie8976]

My ex is like that! You’re definitely right about that!

[@stellannie86]

I think bartise-epating in a conversation should be a new word for idiotic comments like that.

[@integritireeves6028]

Latchkey!! 😂😂😂😂

[@chicquie5471]

I thought now that the Zay & Cole is story is over, I would finally agree with Dr. Kirk, but nope 😅 We don't need to go through similar experiences as other people to empathize with them. At least all women I know don't but it's true that men will often undestand p.ex. the extent of misogyny and sexism once they have a daugther, wife etc.

[@s.melonita4454]

I named him Barftise… and after Intoxicolteed that is the proudest nickname I’ve ever come up with 🤣 Edit: Have also come up with Dick and Vainessa Lachey.

[@katesimpson5098]

I think it's fair to want to be honest , usually Bartise and Nancy wouldn't be together for any length of time. But I feel like it's plain disrespect to compare your partner to another woman. Women aren't buffets where you can pick and choose these looks with this personality this hair and this style. Accept her as a whole and just plainly state your not exactly my type.

[@michellechee7890]

The interviewer reminds me of toast bread.

[@samanthawolf3139]

Reddit calls him Barqueef 😅

[@andra9601]

I don’t agree with people who vilify Bartise.. I think he’s a nice person, but that he doesn’t understand how his actions impact others. He seems immature is all. I hope he learns. I don’t think that what he did is so terrible considering the situation he was in.. And I think Nancy deserved what she got.. I don’t understand people who say that she deserves better bc I think she got what she signed up for - Bartise had red flags all over him, so it’s hard to believe that Nancy really did not set herself up for what happened. It’s not like he held back! So I think Nancy was also immature, and I hope she learned from the experience.

[@ahmorgan]

This is a pretty balanced view. I think most people probably see themselves in these shows and can't separate their own hurt from them. They are triggered by Bartise while the rest of us just watch the show for enjoyment. I was triggered by Alexa, I really didn't like her even though I know she isn't a bad person. There was just something about how she carried herself...yikes.

[@soclose2her]

@@ahmorgan Alexa triggered me too! I don’t know why…

[@ahmorgan]

@@soclose2her lol she never did anything bad for me to not like her, I just never did lol 🤣. It low key made me feel a way about Brennon because he was with her lol

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

I half agree, I don't like Bartise. I think he's the type of guy who's super self absorbed and then gives these half assed insights when you hold him accountable. Just enough to make you think he understands why his behavior was unacceptable but just goes right back to his owns way. I do agree that Nancy got what she deserved. Bartise could've taken a megaphone and held it directly to her ear and screamed that he's not into her and she'd still say yes at the alter. Then after that it really felt like she projected all of her frustrations with Bartise onto Cole and went super hard on him. I don't like Cole but Bartise is way worse than Cole in cany universe so thanking Bartise for his honesty and then drilling down on Cole was immature and I was actually very confused because I was wondering if I missed something.

[@Selenas627]

I agree completely. We literally don’t know these people at the end of the day enough to comment on their character. Maybe we can say we don’t like certain behaviors that were done, but all the character assassination is so illogical and honestly inhumane. Reducing peoples worth and character to the few hours or minutes we saw of them on reality TV is ridiculous.

[@itswhatevs214]

Omg Dr. Honda I can't believe you've met Nick Viall. That makes me lol. I don't like that man's public persona but good for you for talking with him. Also I still don't like Barstool. He seems really disingenuous to me.

[@heathersando92]

Nick Latchkey🤣

[@unicornL]

I don't believe anything Burt w a mole is saying. Strictly here for Dr H

[@rosyf123]

Is it just me or does Bartise sound like Andrew Tate?

[@talktalk3]

Oh my gosh HE DOES 😳😳

[@hellomynameiskim6283]

You’re nothing like Nick Viall, Dr Kirk

[@jamiex6072]

He looks better with the beard.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

98% of men do lol

[@rethinkcps2116]

😝

[@carr0760]

Nick Latchkey! Ha!

[@ellenacanape7693]

To be fair, he did check in with her in that scene in the bed, and said is it okay with you if I'm this honest. It might have been nicer if he had done that before dumping all of his thoughts and feelings about Raven in her tight clothes, but he did actually do it.

[@chicquie5471]

That wasn't a check in, that was to reassure himself that he's not an asshole

[@chahuncoller]

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