Q&A with ME

[@boa1793]

I was a nurse’s assistant and the patient was out, comatose. The nurse said ignore the family as they were freaking out as death scared them. I noticed no changes in the patient so I calmed the family by saying all that’s happening is okay. This is what always happens. The nurse returned and was upset that I talked to the family. I was calm because I felt the patient was glad I was able to calm them down. 🙂

[@ruthwalker9174]

So glad to see someone who truly tells about hospice care accurately. I have been a hospice nurse for 30 years. I love what I do. Keep up the videos. You explain things well.

[@johncooner8957]

My mom had the big burst of energy 24 hours before she passed. She was sitting up in the bed reading the newspaper, laughing and talking. Prior to that she wasn’t talking, sleeping all the time.

[@leonmorales7025]

Hello Julie. I so commend you and your strength for the tough job you do. My wife of 20 years passed away from pancreatic cancer in 2016. And from the nurses doctors and the grief therapist were so amazing. I want to thank you and all who work caring and helping us through our tough time. I want you to know how much I appreciate your support and compassion. I worked in respiratory therapy and caring for others is in my eyes is beautiful. Your beautiful and all who help in hospice should know how much you are appreciated and loved. Again Thank you. Stay strong

[@circesgrandmainomaha580]

I can't tell you how your willingness to share your insights and experiences brings comfort to me. I'm a little bit older (60ish), and I've been contemplating my own death. I've already outlived my fraternal grandmother (cancer, 56) and my mother (cancer, 58), but I come from a family where we basically push until we simply can't anymore, and either fall over from a heart attack or find out we have cancer with days or weeks to live, less than a month. I have 5 adult children, so I've done some preplanning etc, but that doesn't address the very personal "what's going to happen to me" question. I have been following you for a while now, and you have been helping answer that for me. I'm not afraid of being dead, it's the dying part that's scary. Thank you for putting so much information out there, congratulations on your sobriety, and please keep up the good work.

[@michaelknapp8961]

Hi Julie. You know the best class I ever took in college was a psychology class called death and dying life and living. It sounds depressing but it it wasn’t at all. It was all about what happens in just about every aspect of the dying process. I thought it was fascinating!! When my dad died in 05 I knew exactly what was happening and how people were going to react. When I watch your podcasts, you talk alot about stuff we learned in that class. Anyway I just wanted you to know that and also let ya know that I’m one of your biggest fans!!!! Thanks for what you do!!!! Mike from Portland Oregon.

[@thomasrogers1020]

Question. I have COPD. I am so tired all the time. i work 50-60 hrs a week. the days i am off i stay in bed all day. i cannot really take care of everyday task. i have had this since 2013. it is harder every day. i think if stop that will be the end. Doctors seem to not understand. i do not want this way of death.

[@HEART2HEART-3]

Please don't be offended... You are in control of what you do or don't do beloved... Only you can tell you to stop or to change, what is making you unhappy ... Speaking from someone that worked in care, for special needs and or disabled adults. I was broken by the time I reached out for help, but I shouldn't have waited until I did... I should have made changes... Sometimes we fear change.... In ourselves or in our environment. Sometimes our lesson is to learn to say no... To care for others we must first care for ourselves... Maybe look within you and ask yourself some hard questions ... Looking into our own heart can be very hard... May Peace and Love fill you and may you find your answers... Many hugs and lots of love... Remember, we deserve to cherish ourselves, as much as cherishing others... Sometimes it's not about how we give love to others but how we give love to ourselves... ✨💛✨🤗

[@montanacrone8984]

My mother, father both died rom COPD. My brother died from hanging dry wall from China that was full of fibers glass. It chewed up his lungs and had to be forced oxygen to stay conscious. Please see a pulmonologist and discuss your options. In the US, you can have hospice care a team of doctors (this what happened with my brother) they agreed o keep him comfortable. You might give your local hospital a call and speak to the Social Services department..They can best advise.

[@jameshollen9723]

Love your videos. I am 76 now. Death has a way to "creep into your mind" now . I am SLOWELY coming to the realization I am nearing my life cycle. I am not to the point of talking in the past tense but I see the "handwriting on the wall" Cant tell you in words but I just "know" whats coming.

[@jameshollen9723]

I would like to communicate with someone with the same thoughts and experiences as I just mentioned in the above statement

[@tundrawomansays694]

@@jameshollen9723 Yeah, I think we *do* know and far more accurately than the medical people around us. At least we don’t have to explain it to anyone and have them dismiss our reality. I’m watching these for the same reason you are because I know I will die in the not too distant future and working on accepting it without feeling as if I have to discuss it with family or loved ones. They’re not prepared to hear it and I’m not prepared to burst their bubble :-)

[@jennifermastin7169]

I have an odd question and it’s kind of graphic… I friend of mine past from ovarian cancer.. her end of life , was what seemed like a seizure and then blood from her nose and mouth. Can you help explain possibly what was happening leading up to this.. it was extremely sudden we felt.

[@elizabethconroy7665]

Hello,Julie I’m from Amman Jordan Thanks for all the compassion you give to the dying Warm Hugs 🤗

[@CrystalDragon53]

My mums palliative care nurse gave her a large morphine bollus and told me she would be gone in about 10 minutes but 3 hours later she was still with us until my last brother arrived and then she passed 20 minutes later

[@robinpesek3657]

Wow.

[@Shelleejae]

I don’t feel a nurse or doctor has the right to shoot up our loved ones with a dose of a morphine cocktail to speed their death if that is in fact what your moms nurse was doing My mom or my dad never made it to hospice. They didn’t even put my dad in a bed at the hospital ER. They told me he had 103 temp. HE seemed to be talking to me and smiling. The doc said nope he is looking through me and at what he sees. He told me to leave and if there was any change he would call and they would put him in a room and do what they can. Not once did he say dad was actively dying. I lived 17 miles away. As I was coming in my house my phone was ringing it was the doctor and my dad was dead. Hmmm I could have stayed and held his hand. I went back and looked at doctors entries on his paperwork and sure enough I left at 9:06 pm and my dad died at 9:25 pm after a morphine drip was put in. My mom had lung cancer and the same thing, the doctor came into rounds at 7:00 am and her death certificate stated TOD was 7:22 am. This doctor however was a very arrogant man. She used him for many years as she had chronic bronchitis. But he never EVER prescribed her rescue medication to inhale. Their deaths although YES I was emotional happened in 1998 and 2008, it’s 2023 and I still say the doctors pump them with a lethal dose of morphine. I know they were sick but neither neither doctor told me neither were actively dying. They were wrong in that.

[@joyceputman7628]

1:04

[@leahm3421]

I don’t think either of your parents died from morphine. It’s actually pretty hard to overdose on drugs, especially if given by a medical professional. Julie speaks on this often but I’m so sorry for your loss 🕊

[@scotsman6712]

When my mom was taken to hospice,I didn't understand that they wouldn't feed or give water.they just kept dosing her w morphine.i was there at midnight the last night,the nurse came in to give more,my mom was zonked out with one eye open and I told the nurse,"You're NOT giving her that". She passed away a few hours later.i still feel guilty for agreeing w siblings to take her there..maybe it was better that way,but my mom was a nurse and I know how she felt about dosing people like that

[@Shelleejae]

Hi Julie. So very sorry so long but this has been weighing on me since 2007. I’m upset I missed that you were live. I am very happy that you created this channel. Your explanations and manner in which you deliver your experiences as well as the families and the patients. AFTERLIFE. I was very close to my maternal grandmother. She basically raised me as my mom was very distant of my emotions and needs growing up. 2 years after my grandmother passed I was asleep and heard her voice in my ear quickly and sternly say ‘Michele wake up!!! Your brother needs you! You must help your brother!’ I looked from my bed to the hallway and there she was literally waving her arms jumping up and down panicking I have to get out of bed to help my brother David 6 yrs my jr. I lived on the East Coast and he lived in Wisconsin. It was 4am and since I had to be in work at 5 am I just stayed awake and brushed it off as dream. At 10am that morning a police officer came looking for me at work. He took me aside and said my brother 36 years old living in Wisconsin in the house he built with his 6 yr old son and wife, well estranged wife had passed away the night before by his own hands. He hung himself. The Wisconsin police called the Connecticut Police to inform next of kin as his estranged wife was too cowardly to make the call herself. Here is the reason for my story. We were 2 hour difference at the time with Wisconsin. My encounter with my grandmother was actually at 4:15 am and the coroner put my brothers time of death at around 2:10-2:15 am Wisconsin time. When I flew to Wisconsin to bring my brother home to be buried among and near those who truly loved him, my soon to be ex sis-in-law took me to the house so I could see the beautiful home he had built for his family ( which she could careless about cause she now just wanted to sell it). She took me downstairs and took me by surprise by pointing to where my brother took his life (how the heck did she know since she had moved out months earlier and moved into her boyfriends apartment?hmmmmm) well as she pointed I was actually walking right underneath that rafter and all of a sudden my entire body turned ice cold I had pins and needles from head to toe and I felt squeezed and an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness and sadness came over me. I couldn’t breath. His coworkers told me he loved his wife so much that he was a broken man because 2 days earlier she had brought the boyfriend to meet him. Any thoughts about both my experiences in less than 24 hours?

[@suzanna5764]

We will

[@boa1793]

One, you don’t know if you could have helped him. Let go of any doubt. Two, he seems to have been conveying his feelings when he squeezed you. If you cried, he might have been glad someone understood even in the beyond. I immediately think of putting up a little altar maybe just a picture to keep talking to him.

[@Shelleejae]

@@suzanna5764 we will what?

[@jamierupert7563]

I'm from Pittsburgh too. I bet you don't miss those Erie snowstorms, lol. PS you're so pretty and I love the braids.😊 (I'm a straight female just giving another female a compliment).

[@bethgleason3896]

Thank you, Julie. You are so real and uplifting.

[@gracekennelly8534]

Grace from BC Canada 🇨🇦! I have learned soo much from you Julie! My mom is 93 and I feel so much more prepared for when her time comes…. Thankyou Julie I appreciate you and your channel 😊!!!

[@sherriwalton3464]

Thank you for your sharing. Because I listened to you, I was more prepared, if there is such a thing, for when my mom passed. It was still really hard, but I knew the hospice nurse knew when it was time. Truly angels that work in hospice.

[@deboralove3986]

You are really helping me with your videos. I was wondering if my mother was in pain when she passed and you made me understand she wasn't

[@ajp806]

The day before my mom passed away she had a doctor's appointment and her doctor asked her if she thought about hospice,my mom said hell no I'd rather die before I have that and the next morning she had passed,my mom was quite the stubborn vocal woman.

[@pineconemarty]

Hi Julue! Working at an Assisted Living home and love it. They are all like my own Grandma's and Grandpa's. From Manteno, Illinois

[@Majsztrik]

Do you see people tying up loose ends at the end of their life (financially)? Do you see people making big changes, like cutting people out of the will at the end of life? I've known a few people who have had a surprise after the passing of their parents. I work in finance, so this is always interesting, how the dying make changes, and I think that sometimes, they are venerable and coerced into making changes that effect their families after passing.

[@74yodinosaur99]

I retired in 2011, and decided to put my affairs in place. I made out my will, none of my family will benefit, the person I appointed to attend to my end of life requests has the unenviable task of telling people of my demise and my wishes. I'll try to make her life easier by writing letters to explain my thoughts. She had no input on the subject untill the paperwork was signed, done and dusted. I was not ill, or mentally impaired. In 2020 I was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer and set up a do not resuscitate with my G.P and with my oncologist, nurses and hospital administration, and my WISHES for Pure Cremation with my administrator. I'm happy I've done everything I can and will have no outstanding problems to disturb my end of life plans for MYSELF. I'm not afraid of dying, I'm not religious but I totally Believe in God and have experienced Spirits of loved ones as they passed and after they passed. I am content. God bless you all and give you peace 🕊️😇😇😇

[@kristinekupca154]

Hi Julie. Just want to say big thank you for your videos.They helped me a lot during journey of my mum’s battle with cancer.She gain her angel wings @12am on 25th January. I was with her during all stages of dying until she took her last breath.That was such a magical moment. Without your videos I wouldn’t be able to get through this.❤

[@Nadine_IBRfarms]

Thanks Julie! Have a great night

[@BANDIT2DAY]

Love these videos. You were born to explain to people about the process of death and dying. I am 53 and very healthy. But, I want to learn what happens when we transition through this life to the next.

[@lurenacornella6588]

You are such a great wonderful person. Thanks for all you do.

[@TDeanMK]

Hello.. I am much older (49)..went back to school to get RN, .and my goal is to be a hospice nurse. Do you think I need to go to the hospital before hospice care to gain some critical skills? Any recommendations?

[@barbaragermain3713]

Julie... You would have been an excellent doctor. You know how to communicate with people Very Well!

[@janicewilloughby]

You are such an angel here and thank you!!

[@gustsuz8587]

I have a question as well. My mother was dying, but not in the hospice care part of the hospital. She had a pained expression the entire time, crying while being moved due to them dropping her in the hospital, having surgery to fix that, and then being in excessive pain every time she was moved every two hours until her death. There were only short times of quiet sleep during those 8 days of dying, fear when nurses entered, and screaming/crying each time they moved her. Couldn't they have given her more medication so that it was peaceful?

[@HEART2HEART-3]

That's so sad ... I'm sorry you both had to experience this... I hope you get your answers so you can find peace... Bless you ✨💛✨

[@pennyp7382]

I'm so sorry. This is why hospice is so valuable for people at the end of life. Yes they could have but in the regular hospital they are very sparing with comfort drugs unfortunately. 🫂 💐

[@minnesotagirl7458]

I ama hospice RN in Minnesota. I am so sorry you had to experience that! Your lovely mom should have had better pain management with both long acting narcotic and short acting for break thru pain.. lorazepam is also used for anxiety and works well when given with narcotic. Hospice- anyone can call in a referral!❤

[@gustsuz8587]

I wished I had known that!!! They did nothing for her, and I kept begging but to no avail. Thank you for answering that question!

[@gustsuz8587]

Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a great deal to me. None were said at the hospital.

[@aleisterlilywhite1109]

I wish I could’ve been with or near my dad when he died. He died without any family around him since it was during the first year of Covid and we weren’t allowed to see him in person. He knew I was into ghosts and spirits and told me he would reach out if he could. I know he would’ve been ok with me holding his hand and watching him die and looking for the change.

[@scotsman6712]

My mother died almost six years ago- one night recently ,I was sound asleep having my usual crazy and vivid dreams.I instantly woke up and sat right up after hearing (audibly) my mom's voice right next to my ear saying my name only once,with urgency.probably a dream,but let me tell you,it did NOT seem like a dream. Only time in my life I have experienced something like that .

[@susanjoyce8053]

My mom had a morning routine. On Sunday a close Neigheor invited her to go I. Their pool but she said she wasn’t welding well. On Monday morning, she got up started the coffee, got her devotional book out, brought in the newspaper. 20 minutes after she got up my sister found her on the kitchen floor. She was gone at that point. When the paramedics got there they did CPR. She was 86 at the time. I’m so grateful that she had a quick death and apparently gentle death. I believe she was not aware she was dying.

[@carolemantha8958]

Hi nurse Julie !! Thank you so much for what you are doing!! Just love you .. ♥️🤗 Ps. Love the brades.. 😁👍🥰

[@rethalewisPT]

Hi to all. I am from South Africa and your videos are great. Love learning what to expect when a loved one passes. I read once that the "white light" is the brain firing and hence one get these visions of bright light. I personally want to believe that it's the "pearly gates" that awaits us. Q. Once a personally passes naturally how long does it take for the electric activity in the brain to "switch off"? Thank you so much for covering a subject that many are afraid to tackle. God bless you Nurse Julie 🙏

[@Jkk55]

Aww sorry I missed this live I really wanted to see this never mind watching now 👌💜💜

[@jennifermastin7169]

Hi Julie! I hope you had a good day! Houston, Tx

[@KavanOBrien]

What have you learnt from your experience dealing with the dying , do you live your life differently based on what you’ve seen and doing with your work .

[@andsoitgoes1142]

Hey, Julie…I just wanted to thank you for mentioning the Netflix series From Scratch. I binge watched it and thought it was great. I agree with you about the hospital scenes…unfortunately very typical.

[@pamelahetzel6523]

I really want to be a Hospice worker. I am not a nurse. I just feel it is on my Spiritual path to help them while crossing over.

[@pyrola4593]

They are always looking for volunteers. When my Dad was in hospice, we had the most lovely lady play the harp. He asked for cowboy songs and amazingly she was able to play some for him. My siblings and I cried the entire time. It was such a cathartic experience that we will never forget.

[@sassysandra245]

But be aware when most ppl die it’s natural for them to cross over very natural and they don’t need help besides being surrounded by their loved ones and feeling loved so I’m not sure volunteers would be used for that specific part of the dying process probably more for running and getting thing for the family or nurses so they don’t have to leave bedside and that just in my experience and what I see and have been thru and witnessed many deaths and no one uses the term crossing over anymore which now I’m wondering if it’s became a term considered forbidden in that moment idk should look into it tho.

[@leahm3421]

I say transitioning, but I’m sure you can use the term you mentioned too.

[@johnnyringo0506]

@@sassysandra245 The hospice I worked for had a "no one dies alone" program. Volunteers sat with activly dying patients that had no families, or if family members needed a break.

[@nancybenim8164]

Hi Julie!!! I'm from Erie too ( Lawrence Park). I enjoy learning from your channel. Keep up your good work.

[@rene5375]

Dang, I missed ya earlier. Question: What's the longest length of time you've know a patient to be in hospice? Thank you for sharing your knowledge & experiences!

[@ruthjesse6759]

Hi Julie, I’m Ruthie from Bloomington,IL.

[@tammyhilton1897]

Tammy from indiana.i have lung cancer. Gasping for air. Have a Hospice nurse.. Sleep all the time and migraines constantly. My meds don't help. Rapidly growing lump in my left lung and a large mass on my chest. I chose not to do anything. The nurses won't tell me how long I have to keep suffering.

[@tamragsdale5870]

Does everyone go in2 coma b4 they cross? (not counting trauma, of course) I've sat w/many of my loved 1s during their illness & thru 2 their death. My Mama was the only 1 that I was able 2 have in Hospice-inhouse. The environment was so conducive 2 relaxation & it was such a gift after having sat beside her 4 weeks on end in the hospital, it felt FRANTIC all of the time there. And the building-inside & out, was amazingly beautiful. The nurse in this Hospice, New Philadelphia, Ohio, was so incredibly wonderful not only 2 my Mama but 2 me as well. She felt like family. (Jen) Anyway, I wanna tell u, Julie, thank u SO MUCH 4 what u do! Idk how I would have gotten thru w/o fantastic people like u.

[@sassysandra245]

I can’t believe I missed you!!! I was watching for you all day cuz I really felt you’d be on and I really had some questions about the surviving spouse after being with them for 50yrs and my mom was pretty forgetful headed down the road of dementia before my dad died but even the day he died it’s like she checked out completely and it’s now only about 4 months and when I’m around her cuz I’m so much like my dad in my mannerisms and my heart cuz my dad and I have always been super close but ever more so the last 5 yrs or so that my mom wants to be around me and not my brother but my brother was being mean to my dad that we didn’t even know about til he told us after my dad died and he also admitted he used my dad to come work for him and he never spent time with him so he said he didn’t even know who dad was over he last 10/20 yrs which my brother always acted entitled so his and my relationship was severed many years ago cuz I refuse to be around toxic ppl. Mom made my brother the way he is she was extremely abusive to me for not only my mistakes but I also got punished for what my brother did wrong& he got many new cars and I never got anything like that bought for me, heck I was married 3 times the first two for business purposes basically and finally the 3 rd for love& still married 20 yrs later& happy no abuse like I lived with my entire life, btw my mom is not herself she’s more like a child and very kind and loving & so sorry for what she remembers she did to me, doesn’t know why she did what she did to me & allowedmy brother to take turns & most was while dad worked & threatened seriously if I told my dad. Of course he wasn’t perfect cuz she manipulated him too but he caught on the last many years and wouldn’t allow it. Is it normal for dementia patients to like completely lose it?

[@lori8981]

I have to say Julie ,you look like an Angel 😇

[@darlenegonzalez9386]

YES THAT BURST OF ENERGY HAPPENED TO MY DAD... HE WAS UP WALKING AROUND.. AND THE NEXT DAY.. WEIRD BUT VERY SICK, THEN GONE.. 💔

[@Kimberly-uf9dj]

My mother has been very ill for a year and a half. She has a tumor in her liver bile duct. They have done several biopsies to determine if it’s cancerous and none have come back positive for cancer. Doctors are sure that it is cancer. My question is, does she have to have a formal diagnosis of cancer in order to have hospice?

[@grizzlybear4]

Hi, sorry I am late and missed the live questions. My question is about dying people who never could get hospice... those who were murdered, or died in accidents, suicide, bad insurance, etc. Do you have insights on those deaths? May be a question for future posts?

[@margaretrowe5065]

My mom is 91 years old it has been through a lot and had a broken hip she's got she's recovered from that but she's been away from the house 3 months and a half and still can't walk stand up or anyting getting sleepy confused she's got a UTI what do you think about it

[@vickivanetten4445]

What is the difference between palliative and hospice? Is this paid for by the state you live in. I am in Arizona. Does Medicare have a different type of payment system if you are in a hospice facilities. Having trouble finding information.

[@darlenegonzalez9386]

YES MY MOTHER'S FACE WAS THAT WAY.. BIG EYES ETC.. WHEN SHE COULDN'T BREATH.

[@GmaSue541]

Can questions only be asked during live videos?

[@toddboden972]

Have you ever seen orbs during or after the dieing process? Great info!

[@amieagee3965]

My mom just passed 12/14 and I just feel she was not ready to die. My mom never told us what was really said in the Dr office and I think now that she may have had 6months to live. Y didn't she tell us? She was not eating for about 3weeks and then completely stopped drinking and urinating

[@apureenergyme8573]

I would like to know you mentioned about 30% people die with those visions, pull hands up or a burst of energy, how about rest of percent of people? What kind of symptoms they shows when close to dying? And it is very important you mentioned people who has personality disorders like narcissistic people, when they die, are they suffered? Are these people can’t see the angle, or their loved ones in their visions? I felt death is a very spiritual thing, more you are a peaceful and better conscious person, better your death experience will be. That’s why they say some people will go to heaven, some will go to hell. I just want to see your experience about it.

[@1HeathersJourney]

Our road with hospice for my stepmom was not a great one. I plan on writing the company to give feedback now that I have had some space from the freshness of that journey. So much could have been less traumatic if they had just educated us a bit more.

[@luisramonbarreras]

Thank you 😇 Julie

[@minnesotagirl7458]

Hi Julie! Hospice RN from Minnesota!

[@robertabarragan3211]

I have a question as to how doctors determine it’s time to place someone on Hospice care?

[@faithnicole2161]

My grandfather is in a nursing home in the final stages of dementia. He just had something called a T.I.A. stroke? It's very hard to understand him as he doesn't have his dentures, he whispers and mumbles. He sits in a high-back wheelchair all day or lays down, he's always asleep and cannot feed himself. So how do medical professionals diagnose somebody having or has had a stroke? And he's feisty, you cannot touch him (pre-stroke) His will states no hospitals, no scans, no doctors & a DNR is signed.

[@michelegawrys7286]

Thank you!

[@jefferyb304]

Talking about dreaming of a person dying or after death. One after-death story I have was about several people, including myself, who dreamed my grandmother walked out of a room and vanished.

[@garyfrancis6193]

I’ve had terminal lucidity for 30 years.

[@barbaragermain3713]

Do you notice since you teach us as a Hospice nurse, many nurses are copying you.

[@scotthyland5596]

Watching from the mountains in Colorado !

[@terrireed8949]

My mom was at home on hospice. I took care of her and said good night about 11 pm. Mom was fine in bed watching tv. When I got up at 7 she wasn’t fine had the death rattle. I called her hospice nurse she came and told me to call the family she was actively dying. She had end stage copd. Why did that happen that quick? She was fine all the day before talking eating drinking then after I went to bed the death rattle. I am an only child and having a very hard time dealing with this 3 years later. Please help me understand

[@pennyp7382]

She was dying naturally. My mother is about to pass. I am 41. My mother was a respiratory therapist for 33 years. My grandmother died of COPD and lung cancer in our home. She lived with us for 10 years. Even though my Mom knew what was happening as grandmother was having her death rattle she still tried to give her cpr. Lucky my aunt was at our home also. They called the hospice nurse...grandmother passed being held by 2 of her daughters. We are built to be born and also to pass. Please take comfort in knowing this is natural to feel confused. C.S. Lewis "A grief examined" may be of help if you like to read or listen to books on tape. Enjoy your life now. Teh death rattle is just a part of passing to where we were before birth. Hugs keep in touch on here if need be. You aren't alone. Are you somewhere you can get to a grief support group?

[@kathharris2826]

I have a younger sister with stage 4 COPD;when she's with her partner she's relaxed because of the love and trust they share. He cares for her 24/7, and does everything he can. Your mother took her strength from you and so she had a peaceful passing..

[@lisawrinkle63]

How can I get my mother on board with me dying slowly. She refuses to accept it's coming. Every time I try and talk about it she refuses to discuss it. I want her there with me, but I don't want her scared.

[@lindacamplin4373]

My mother is bedridden and has dementia. She talks about dead people a lot, they are or have been there. She asks me if they have woke up or still there. Yet, she speaks of live people as well. This has been going on for the past year. Really tuned in on her small amt. of money, her jewelry, and small children (that don’t exist). People tell me to go along with her when she asks questions, but if I do, I consider myself lying to her.

[@HEART2HEART-3]

Sometimes we find it hard when we can't see or experience what someone else is seeing and experiencing. I find that thinking, just because I'm not experiencing what another is, doesn't mean that it isn't true to them... A paramedic explained that to me once... Hope that helps ✨💛✨

[@heatherk5567]

Where do I send my questions?

[@kimberlybamford1072]

My dad got a big burst of energy before he went to sleep for the last time.

[@cherylmazzoncini280]

Hello from Northern California

[@heatherk5567]

If you do a regular live can you make it later in the day? Like 8 EST so your followers have time to get lids ready for bed. Just a thought. Have a great day.

[@threeqtrtime]

I missed this live… but hospice isn’t always for the dying is it??

[@kellygarland63]

Generally yes. People with illnesses that are eventually terminal, are often in a palliative care program. Which is proven to extend life and quality of living. As a death doula in Toronto, our hospices are for end of life folks.

[@robertdavid2839]

My grandfather told his son's wife , "before they lower me in the ground , I will take you with me." Came true ? She died at 46 , him early 90's.

[@roysua1056]

Hello again beautiful 🌹❤️ Lady

[@ladonnawilson2145]

When my LH was on hospice after he passed away I felt like the social worker and hospice pastoral care stayed way to long

[@whats_herName]

do drs take patients off of the anti-depressants during this time or keep them on it?

[@Elvenboadicea]

Yikes, I hope they'll keep patients on them. The withdrawal from antidepressants is horrendous.. especially those brain shocks!

[@cherylmazzoncini280]

How long does it take to let go of the experience of the passing of a love one?

[@cherylmazzoncini280]

I ment the experience of the care giving and last few hours of their death.?

[@PsychicMedium-Patricia.]

🙏🏽Bless you’re heart and soul MissJulie.🙏🏽❤️ You’re TRULY an Earth Angel…Xx🙏🏽🕉️❤️

[@mollielaws6266]

🙏🏼

[@muhammedjobe-hm5is]

❤❤❤❤

[@amieagee3965]

I just don't understand what happened to my mom, she passed on 12/14/22 and it was just so fast. She was doing well although I don't think she told us how bad it really was when she was diagnosed last February but she was doing well and all the sudden she just got not just bad but extremely bad and was just tired and napping and not eating and then not drinking and thats when hospice came in and literally my mom made it maybe 2weeks. I just don't understand how she plummeted so fast Julie and the hospice team was ok buy nothing like they were with my grandfather and how u are. Maybe because they came in so late and my grandma, her mother had to express to the Dr how she was just not eating at all

[@zandig666]

Noone just likes this awesome lady ??

[@leonieweimer6674]

My husband died from liver cancer and he didn’t get the death rattles is that normal

[@beverlykrause7015]

I'm from Michigan but live in Florida

[@lesjones5684]

I woke up dead 💀

[@Karen-bp3yg]

When a dying person is sleeping all the time and dying and your talking to them can they hear you

[@lesjones5684]

I’m in love 😍

[@debhelget5460]

Say I believe the soul already left the body what do you think?

[@brendablue403]

Brenda, from Belton SC

[@cindyrussom4213]

My husband's last word's were Help me also😌

[@Rebecca-1111]

My grandpa's too a WW2 preacher. Lived his whole life for Jesus. Help me he was choking, no meds no hospice. Completely natural 100yrs old.

[@stacy4278]

Hey Julie...Stacy here...my wife passed last year...she was in home hospice...my ? Is...if prescribed Ativan...does that mean end of life?

[@erinmees1530]

Ativan is usually give if the person seem anxious or agitated it helps to keep them calm and comfortable it doesn't necessarily mean end of life it's just to help keep them relaxed. I have worked with hospice patients before both when I worked in the nursing home and with my current job as a home health aid.

[@sassysandra245]

No no no I’ve been given Ativan throughout my life for severe anxiety or agitation as early as age 20 yrs old so it’s def not an end of life med now it can be very dangerous to mix Ativan with opioids/ narcotics and even muscle relaxers many ppl and eke s have died from overdose mixing that deadly cocktail of pills so I’m sure mixing it with any type of street drug would do the same thing cuz they also warn never to drink it with any amount of alcohol. Please be safe & call your pharmacy for any questions or to see if there’s any meds you or whoever gets perscribed a new medicine they can do a quick check to see if there’s any deadly interaction that your doctor missed& believe me your doctor is busy so only trust yourself in this life or in god all others need to vetted cuz nobody will watch out for for you life& safety like you will!!! Thank you& please heed the warnings I felt compelled to pass onto you. Everything in life happens for a reason& a purpose. God bless you

[@cmyFUfinger]

I love the thought of reincarnation and hope it's real

[@bouldergirl81]

Colorado

[@mikepayne5780]

I've seen spirits Washington state here

[@garyfrancis6193]

I worked in a liquor store for 6 years. I don’t think that counts as spiritual experience.

[@bonnieitzaina7841]

How is dieing of multiple myeloma in patients?

[@richard-en2dx]

😘🍵🌹

[@barbaragermain3713]

Hello Julie 💕

[@soniamartinez9157]

Dad had cancer and his voice left off and on some days - why?

[@darlenegonzalez9386]

I'VE HAD MANY EARLY DEATH'S IN MY FAMILY.. STARTING AT 22 YRS OLD..