Q&A with Hospice Nurse Julie

[@susanjane8020]

I am a retired Hospice RN(30yrs) your channel is wonderful. Thank you. Ppl need to hear all this. The only problem I hand in my Hospice years was when their doctors left us to explain their situation and explain it to the patients and their families EVERYTHING. You are a HOSPICE STAR

[@robyngrogan7647]

Hello Nurse Julie, Two nights ago I was at a friend's house when the hospice nurse was making the first visit. I could tell after a few minutes my friend didn't understand what was going on. He thought that the nurse was there to help his dad get better. His dad has cancer in two or three places and also kidney disease. His kidneys are at 2% and he doesn't want. I REALLY think that the doctor should have told his son that his was dieing and what hospice is. I finally asked him if he knew what the nurse was there for. He said og course he did, to help his dad get better. The poor nurse looked at him and then at me. I feel so sorry for him and for the nurse. The doctor should be should have his tail kicked. Thank you for everything you do. I found you after my wife of 31years died I July 18, 2020. Please take care of yourself we all need you.

[@ReginaCorn-vx4iu]

Thanks Julie for all the info 😁. I have end stage Renial desiese, What Can I expect.

[@ellenboyt5896]

We lost our daughter last October from liver disease. She was in the hospital about a week before being taken to a Hospice House. That was the best move ever. The staff was outstanding. They kept us advised of her condition and never seemed to tire of our questions, always answering them honestly. No-one should ever be afraid of going to hospice or being cared for by hospice.

[@lesleyatcofo]

Thank you for doing this! I have been a teacher and have a master's in school counseling. I have been working as a CNA for 6 months in long-term care. I have always been fascinated by Hospice and am considering doing a fast track RN program to eventually be a Hospice nurse. I love the idea of being able to give proper care to the dying and their family.

[@Claire-wg8np]

My dad died from severe brain damage would his brain stem died slowly he was in a coma I really appreciate you and your channel you have brought me some peace ❤ thank you ❤

[@Claire-wg8np]

We survive energy doesn't die if just changes form it's a beautiful experience trust the universe you're going home ❤

[@Cool-Lake]

I worked for multiple funeral homes removing the deceased loved ones body and it is very mechanical but I always ask if the family would like more time with the loved one before leaving. Many understand their loved one is already gone but others want that time. I always cooperate with the families requests. From Ohio. I’ve seen every aspect of the dying process having lost family members bedside.

[@nonyabeezwax8693]

Stay safe Ohio, more toxic then they are telling the public

[@MagsChase1229]

Thank you CoolLake. I made the mistake in listening to a sibling and not making prearrangement for my dad prior at the choice funeral home. My sib,His reasoning, it may take awhile for my dad to die and FH had another location that had closed down do to economy. What turned out to be my dad’s last 2 days, I stated with many siblings around him, that I’ll call the home after. It was now so close, I didn’t want to leave my dad, it could wait. Uhhh, I get a call a last call, that it could be hours, I drive there, get stuck by sooo many lights, I arrive, rush down hall, walk in look up to in-law, he says, “He passed.” I reacted with uncontrollable crying and I knew and believed it that death was coming. So I cry for about 10 mins leaning on him, like a hug, his face to mine. My mask was catching the tears. I repetitively kept stroking his arms, his collar bone, his right leg (thinner than a child’s) and holding his hand, like a handshake. So family finally walks out of room, we are at a facility. My spouse says we need to go for a walk. We go downstairs and I take a text message and spouse gets a soda pop (10 or so mins). We come back upstairs. CNA tells us she HAS to clean my dad one more time. We then get to see him again, other family arrive. Another sibling is alone with him, soI walk out of the room again……at this point he has only been dead 40 mins. When I step out, there is a man in a black suit, mask too and I’m thinking…..”what the heck….. I turn my head to the left and I see the gurnee with a beige color w/ a design body bag. I was Furious ! I say, “The Undertaker is here already!” The man was nice, he said for all of us to take our time. The sibling and spouse that called were long gone. Needless to say, I felt pressured to leave once all the siblings were there. 3 grandchildren came and never saw him. My dear son, signed in, walked to Grandpa’s room and the name plate was gone. He arrived approx 2 hrs after dad’s death. My son called us, we told him that I knew he may have been on the road so I didn’t call him. Ugh. I’m happy my dad has a new life now. Everyone just speak up do what you have to do. The sibling that called undertaker seems to be more afraid of death. His visits with dad were much less. Thanks for listening everyone.

[@Cool-Lake]

@@MagsChase1229 I’m so sorry you went through such frustration and heartache during the loss of your precious father.

[@cricketsmom13]

You are an angel!

[@debbiewhite9711]

Julie thank you for explaining things about death and dying. I have cirrhosis and have to have ultrasound every 6 mo. I'm always nervous they will find cancer on my liver. I'm getting less stressed about dying thanks to you

[@mapleext]

I hope your way is eased, no matter the outcome. I’ve often thought of my friends who have those periodic checkups and how stressful it must be. Sending hugs❤

[@philtoro9199]

You are in my prayers. 🥰

[@audreydempster6630]

After my mother passed 2 of my daughters were sat beside her bed my 2 year old grandson was laying beside her his 5 year old sister was sitting beside them I was coming and going probably tidying up while we waited for the funeral director coming to collect mum as we know after you die the jaw drops open no one noticed my grandson was feeding his dead nana skittles candy 🤦🏽‍♀️ had to warn director she had a throat full of candy 🫢

[@franj8690]

💜💜💜

[@patriciaschuster1371]

How sweet!

[@philtoro9199]

That is actually a very sweet story. 🥰

[@thara21]

This is amazing 😂🙈❤️

[@loramaclean476]

I would definitely want you to care for myself and my family!!! Hospice was huge help while my bestie was losing his battle with cancer. So thankful for your love and care.

[@elizabethwhite196]

When my mother experienced agitation the Ativan actually made it worse. One hospice nurse addressed it by prescribing Valium instead which really helped.Be an advocate for your loved ones. Odds are there is something that can help them. The nurse said she witnessed it a lot where the Ativan actually makes it worse. Like I said, they know ❤

[@wlfrdr]

Thank you and God Bless you! You have just given me some peace at last. I had a very rough go with my Mom growing up. As a hint, I actually moved to another country to get away from sibs and Mom. She refused the treatment for her kidney disease after several months. I have always wondered how bad it was for her. After many years of therapy I have come to understand her much better. I'm glad it could have been peacful for her. God knows she didn't have much peace here. Thank you.

[@janeburns6405]

You are so needed for the wonderful, caring way you explain about death and dying.. Thank you

[@zbaby82]

The audio was excellent.

[@sylviaharding9600]

I was rushing to the hospital which was 40 miles away.. As soon as we hit the bridge I told my husband you can slow down now, I new she had past. I had this feeling of peace.

[@elizabethwhite196]

A similar thing happened to me- slightly different tho. I was driving to work and out of nowhere this intense feeling of sadness overwhelmed me. Took my breath away actually. Fifteen minutes later once I got to work- my mom called me distraught that my dad had just passed away suddenly from a massive heart attack. I think when you have a heart felt connection to your loved ones - you just know. Sorry for your loss ❤. It’s never easy😢

[@sylviaharding9600]

@@elizabethwhite196 Thank you. I truly believe that when you have a connection you will know.❣️

[@plbmbbmhb]

I haven't been following you until recently. Love how you normalize talking about death

[@carolyn9824]

Faith, I have lost a sibling. My sister. She was more of a Mom to me. She was 10 years older and our bond was amazing. I miss her so much.

[@thejiggitygiggity90]

Shes at peace looking out for you still but from heaven this time shes in paradise with the lord carolyn godbless you'll see her again one day in gods kingdom

[@judypollatta5346]

Thank you Julie. You are very comforting.

[@butterfly4him168]

I am grandma Lois in Mn! I am a born again Christian , age 79. I just love you! I follow and always watch you on several plat forms! I also watch Randy Kay ministries near death experience videos!

[@cruiz62]

we had transition care they done everything for us at the end they were awesome

[@hollynelson543]

My mom would not see me the last month in a half of her life. You have helped me so much. THANK YOU FOR HELPING me understand.

[@vicentagonzales7149]

+qe4

[@deeskajem5881]

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[@SEAWAYable]

WHAT A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG LADY, AN ANGEL BY THE SIDE OF THOSE PASSING ON.

[@dinastevenson7745]

Dear Julie---- I just found you on youtube and want to say thank you thank you thank you. My mother is 100 years old and has dementia. Lately she is sleeping more and more. My brother, who lives near her, visits every evening. She is less and less interested in food. I don't know that she has any specific illness (I have to ask my brother). She is often anxious about non-specific things. She just gets frightened because she forgets where she is. Anyway, I love your videos and will be checking in regularly. And will be buying Barbara Kerrie's book. (Do I have the right name?)

[@k.bethrihn6915]

You are so helpful. I volunteered for hospice and listening to you I want to get back

[@ROMOM63]

I am so very grateful I found you. I wish I would have found you prior to my mom’s passing two years ago. I have lost my 3 brothers my mom & dad. You have taken the fear away of dying.

[@jimbrown4990]

Audio is great on my end. Thank you so much for all that you do. Your videos have brought me so much peace of mind. God bless you for that. 💙

[@jeannieeubanks9550]

I really lurned a lot from you thank you!

[@lisadominguez6140]

Thank you for ur help, we lost my mom yesterday, ur info was very helpful.😢

[@philtoro9199]

So sorry for your loss. 🙏 😇

[@Cool-Lake]

You may have spoken about this; but, can you talk more about survivors understanding that our dying loved ones last “ability” is hearing us, especially when they seem gone.

[@susierainey9937]

Can you do a video on stroking the patient during the active dying process. A hospice nurse explained this to us when she noticed that we were constantly stroking my Mama. I didn’t realize that we were stimulating her body while her body was trying to die. Holding her hand was okay, but stoking her arms, face could stimulate the body. After we stopped stroking, Mama passed peacefully a couple of hours after. I see people doing this to their loved ones and I wonder if anyone has explained this to them. Thank you for your videos! I have been the caregiver for my Mama and my father in law during the last year of their lives. Our hospice experience was amazing! Your videos have helped me so much, wondering if I was doing the right things for them. We need to normalize death and the dying process!!

[@tettivestberg2989]

So sorry for You! I’m a retired nurse and it’s hard to foresee how much your physical abilities will decrease, it depends on where the tumour is located in the spine, what has your doctor said? If you know the positions of your tumours you can google spine and it’s nerves but the best is if you dare to ask someone in your medical team. I will pray for you❤️

[@deltaecho9584]

Hi Julie, Didn't have time to watch all, however, thumbs up & I'm already, subscribed. 😊

[@Neicorr]

Answering these questions as if a patient., brilliant. The silence is… rather not know. Birth, taxes, love and pain. Hope love is the strongest feel in all life.

[@barbaraannbreenmodsquad1874]

JULIE, THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR HELPING TO EDUCATE ME, AS MY PARENTS ARE VERY CLOSE AND I FEEL LIKE IT WILL HELP ME, AS I WILL KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING WHEN THE TIME COMES.

[@joshchapman3515]

My mom was on hospice three years ago. She had end stage COPD and congestive heart failure. She was on in home hospice.

[@debwassman]

We LOVE you nurse Julie ❤️

[@nigeldelacruz4400]

Hi Julie from the Rock of GIBRALTAR 🙏🙏🙏

[@barbloiselle215]

Love learning so much from you! ❤

[@gergwilsun5067]

Wish I could catch the live stream. Really good info.

[@suecox8355]

Hi Julie, I am reading, Advance Medical Directives Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will Information. Also the Five Wishes lists. I am well at this time just doing some reading up. Thanks , you help explain some of the questions.some

[@debistanley2791]

My Mom had a aorta stroke, brain very much with it. Due to lack of circulation needed heavy sedation. When she could still hear me I couldn't bring myself to tell her she's dying. I was the only one with her, family in route. Waa I wrong not to tell her?

[@lenetteshaw4833]

I did the same with my husband and questioned myself for many months after he passed. Time has allowed me to realize that at the time I did what I felt was best at the time. I was afraid if he could hear me, it would scare him to know he was not going to make it. It was during covid and I couldn't be with him when he passed but was allowed in for a few minutes while he was on life support.

[@jamierogers9433]

Thank you for your kindness and hard work.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you!

[@BestBrusselsGriffon]

My brother has acute renal failure and dementia He’s been in hospice 10 days. He’s no longer eating or swallowing but drinks How long can this go on. He appears comfortable with comfort meds.

[@dwayneoneil689]

​@@BestBrusselsGriffonDid he die?

[@maryscott358]

I appreciate what you do...Mary from Memphis Tennessee

[@vickywalden9453]

Julie, can you do a segment on end stage Pulmonary Fibrosis? My dad has it and it would be nice to know what to expect

[@tonimacdonald9555]

I❤ you dear woman. Thank you for all the loving things you do. Much respect.

[@ellenmapes4973]

Ivan hear you.just fine😊

[@jaynewalsh6566]

I live In Florida, I don't have central air conditioning at this time..possibly the issue of heat affecting the body,be reason for the 4hr limit 🤔

[@joshchapman3515]

I lived with my mom my whole life!

[@carolyn9824]

Love you Julie.

[@milliechilders6038]

My husband died from Parkinson/throat cancer in March this year. I am still in hospice therapy.He had Parkinson 13 tears. We have now had 4 deaths of family in past 6 months. My sister-in-law is at hospice now.she went in with terminally restlessness. Now just sleeping.

[@jimbrown4990]

When my time comes, may I request you as my personal nurse? haha Please take that as a huge compliment. 💙

[@cruiz62]

I know I have a home in heaven and that is peaceful if there is a heaven there is a hell.

[@ellenmapes4973]

My friend, Al, got freaked out accepting help from hospice.Hes a perfect candidate with COPD and asthma. But the label of dying within dying in ,,6 months freaked him out and scared him off from accepting the wonderful help!

[@ellenmapes4973]

My friend,,Al, who has COPD and asthma, he's 75, is a perfect candidate for Hospice, refused to accept their help because of the ""required "" label of dying in 6 months. It freaked him out, so he refused the wonderful help he could have had.

[@cruiz62]

my last breath on earth and my next breath i take after death with be in heaven my belief

[@MrUnderstoodxx]

So pretty 😍

[@vinubhaichavda8611]

Very nice person

[@Claire-wg8np]

My dad was in coma before he died and he had severe brain swelling. The evening before he was declared brain dead he jumped and I always wondered if that was him crossing over I really need to know

[@milliechilders6038]

Thank you Julue

[@elizabethneer5848]

Lost my baby brother in September, his wife would not let me in hospice to see him, 9 yr battle with colorectal cancer that metastasized, talked to him everyday twice a day…can you control his awful pain? If so would he be awake..would he be aware that I was not by his side?😥

[@bethbasilone5927]

They say the dying have a kind of "6th sense". Since you 2 were obviously very close I'm sure he knew "something" was preventing you from being there and that your heart was with him. Shame on his wife! Why would she think that was helpful for him or you? I'm sure he's haunting her for that decision.

[@jenniferwells9032]

Hi Julie, this is what scares me. Dying in a hospice being in agony and not given meds, and not being able to ask?

[@johnvonlove2734]

This expresses that you believe the true way to heaven !! : Lord Jesus, I have admitted I'm a sinner being sorry. Therefore, I do not trust in my own works to go to heaven because I realize, being a sinner, I cannot offer the perfect blood sacrifice that you require to pay for sin. Instead, I fully trust, believing in my heart, that your finished work on the cross, your one perfect blood sacrifice; when you bled, suffered and died, in my place, paid for my sins in full, past, present and future ! And I believe that you rose from the dead and that you are God Almighty, God the Son, alive for evermore !!! Therefore, I fully trust that you have forgiven me by cleansing me from all sin in your precious blood, which purified my soul. Thank you Lord Jesus for greatly loving me, for forgiving me, saving me from hell and giving me eternal life and sealing me with the Holy Spirit dwelling within me forever! Rom.3:25,5:8,9,10:9, Rev.1:5, Ephes.1:7,13, 4:30, Heb.10:10-14,19,38,39,I John 5:7,13,20

[@theresaschuer1934]

if I choose to forgo treatment for my Kidney disease by six months or less. I have no one to care for me. Would Palliative Care admit me ?

[@leesproston9116]

I pray I'm doing the right thing

[@cruiz62]

my step dad was on oxgen 24/7 even on hospice was on it for 10 years

[@cruiz62]

he had copd

[@deedeehubbs948]

My husband has end stage COPD and has been on oxygen 24/7 for about 6 years. He’s been on hospice for almost two months now.

[@lauracesena9115]

When do you know if you should enroll parent in assisted living ?

[@melodymcminn4107]

How many of you nurses pushed the covid failures? My father was very ill but went to a nursing home.. ( Was not in end life condition) Died a week later. covid restrictions kept me from being with my dad.

[@thejiggitygiggity90]

I'm sorry for your loss melody. I hope you see your father again one day in heaven. The lord will look after you and your father until time comes when you and your father will be reunited in paradise one day. God-bless and R.I.P to your father and God-bless to you to again, I'm sorry for your loss

[@mariasussman-rb9em]

How do you comfort someone who is terrified of death/dying

[@CHRISTINATRENEFF]

Does this reflect your experience near time of death? Pierre Teilhard de Chardin quote - Wa are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

[@jodiefitzgerald9480]

I am on anti-anxiety meds will they keep me on them until I die... I hate the withdrawal...

[@cristalhopkins6159]

Hi Julie ..Cristal from BC here😀

[@karencarlin647]

Before my Dad passed I did give him morphine, was that something that was OK?

[@LoriPetlock]

Hello Julie, I have stage 4 metastatic breast cancer that is spreading more. If I am ever diagnosed with terminal cancer, how do I tell my 5 year old daughter? I already talked to my 7y/o son, who seems to understand in case I pass. Ty❤

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you for reaching out. There are likely social workers in the hospital that could help you. Also: there are many books to help you navigate it💗💗. Sending you love

[@LoriPetlock]

Ty very much!!!

[@grandsewb5452]

My mom fought so hard to stay alive that the nurse told all the family we should give her permission to die and she went that night

[@cindyfitzgerald4500]

My father in law was like that. When no one was paying attention I told him he could go we would take care of my mother in law. 1 hour later he passed. I still wonder if I was the one who helped him finally be able to be free ❤

[@bethbasilone5927]

My mom was actively dying; unconscious, death rattle, skin mottled. While sitting with her holding her hand I told her I loved her, I'll miss her, but it's ok to go when she's ready. Hours later I told her I was going to make some dinner for our friend who was with us and me, but they'll be with her and I'll be back. When dinner was ready to be dished up (just some spaghetti and jar sauce) our friend called me to come quick. Mom had passed. She obviously didn't think I should see her when that happened.

[@narelleschulze3959]

I worked with palliative patients and noticed some would pass over when family said it’s ok to leave and others would not let go till family had gone, they passed peacefully

[@joshchapman3515]

What are some of the most common illnesses you deal with in hospice care?

[@cruiz62]

my mom said she cried a lot before her husband passed like a month but she used to be a cna so she knew what to expect

[@joshchapman3515]

On average what is the longest you have seen a person live on hospice with end stage COPD? My mom was on hospice for eight months.

[@tommyd1376]

Can you do a video talking about kennedy ulcers as early signs of death?

[@SageWhite-Rose]

Will Drs prescribe anti depression rx to patients who are on hospice?

[@kennethdingler9026]

You are sooooo beautiful !!!🥰🤜🏻🤛🏻👍🏻🇺🇸👍🏻🇺🇸🥰

[@HonoluluTita]

When someone in their mid 90's without a disease, what would trigger them going on hospice or qualifying for hospice. Old age is sort of like a terminal condition.

[@RuralCoast2024]

Is Ketomine used in hospice care? Does it help with agitation?

[@Rita-yw2tn]

Dang it I never get any notifications from your channel I would love to ask you some things but maybe next time .

[@Cool-Lake]

Me too.

[@lauracesena9115]

How can I enroll my mom in assisted living care ?

[@nancynorsworthy2526]

Love you❤

[@witnessesforchristcolorado9893]

Is it normal for oral morphine to cause stomach pain? Kind, 102 yo Grandma would get very angry at the morphine doses and accuse us of making her sick. She’d beg us not to give it to her, and double over in agony with each dose. She was put on morphine the last couple days of life to try to ease agitation and help her sleep. No cancer, just arthritis, pacemaker

[@anthonyeinstein]

i don’t understand why you’d force shots on her if she was begging you not to? Sounds cruel.

[@DonnaMaldona]

Morphine can cause gassiness in the gut. It’s horrible especially if you never been on the medication. There’s GasX or other types of medication that helps with stomach aches in the beginning after 3 times the body acclimated to the gas pains. You not cruel

[@PeggyBerry-r6f]

Do you take a care for kids as well as adults

[@Claire-wg8np]

Is it possible a very frail and full dementia who I had the pleasure of being by her side when for her final few weeks because the carers were too busy to sit with her. She was blind and she would sing and pray and I would join in. I was only a trainee carer and I only 16 but I feel like some of the older carers resented me because their clients like me more. Would she have felt my presence and did she wait until I went home to die without me having to go through that

[@hazellove2144]

❤😊🕊

[@SOMERVILLELISA]

Are u an RN case manager Julie?

[@MrWholdaway]

Julie, thank you for using the word death and dead instead of passing or passed. When I hear someone say “they passed “, I wonder what test they just passed.

[@australianbirdgal2786]

🤣 lol if they are telling you they passed, you can be certain that they are not dead 🤣

[@joncrane7661]

For your neck and jaw try Rolfing structural integration.

[@Oldspartan65]

Hi julie sorry i missed you i had to work

[@johnkonley1421]

Audio is fine

[@cristalhopkins6159]

W hen my Mom was dying she kept clutching at her nightie …I don’t know if it was just a reflex or if she was struggling to breathe…It ‘bothers me to this day 14 years later 🥲

[@debistanley2791]

Unexpected dying, OK not to tell loved ones they're dying before meds to sedate?

[@annicrawford]

What do hospice volunteers do?

[@myword9133]

My family was blessed to have hospice volunteers come in when our Dad was in hospice care at the end of his cancer fight. The nurses took care of Dad and the volunteers took care of Mom by running some laundry, picking up a few groceries, doing some light cleaning, and most important of all, giving Mom a loving shoulder and a listening ear.

[@johnkonley1421]

Have you worked in Florida??

[@pata4094]

Do those with sleep apnea continue to use CPAP at end of life?

[@johnvonlove2734]

This expresses that you believe the true way to heaven !! : Lord Jesus, I have admitted I'm a sinner being sorry. Therefore, I do not trust in my own works to go to heaven because I realize, being a sinner, I cannot offer the perfect blood sacrifice that you require to pay for sin. Instead, I fully trust, believing in my heart, that your finished work on the cross, your one perfect blood sacrifice; when you bled, suffered and died, in my place, paid for my sins in full, past, present and future ! And I believe that you rose from the dead and that you are God Almighty, God the Son, alive for evermore !!! Therefore, I fully trust that you have forgiven me by cleansing me from all sin in your precious blood, which purified my soul. Thank you Lord Jesus for greatly loving me, for forgiving me, saving me from hell and giving me eternal life and sealing me with the Holy Spirit dwelling within me forever! Rom.3:25,5:8,9,10:9, Rev.1:5, Ephes.1:7,13, 4:30, Heb.10:10-14,19,38,39,I John 5:7,13,20

[@flappingflapper2300]

Working in a nursing home, a man just passed and his neck elongated 2-3 days prior. Was the first time I’ve seen this.

[@sterlingstarz]

Super duper excited to watch this...

[@cindychandler2121]

Hi i think your awesome

[@melodymcminn4107]

End of life descriptions are very different now days.....Not afraid of the dying.. afraid of the shitty lift of welcome... AS AN FELLOW ARTISTS.... dying with an idea is the way I will demand to go...... hospice nurse,, beware.. :P