Q: Facing Real Self-Care

[@bilong92]

Really admiring the hair in this episode.

[@morphineprincess098]

THEY'RE BOTH SO BEAUTIFUL alb' s looks like a cloud!

[@darthfiende1]

Real self care is doing what's good for you even when it doesn't feel good. Commercial self care is doing what feels good even if it's not good for you.

[@stephanieweeks3489]

Damn you nailed it 🤘

[@glutenfreedaddy480]

there it is-there’s the thesis of the video!

[@xfrancescanicolex]

This

[@lolz9113]

i feel like i'm watching a moving painting of the midcentury aristocratic couple who invented atheleisure

[@glutenfreedaddy480]

To add another layer of nuance to this already complex self-care burrito: no one needs to be productive *all* the time. The 24/7 workaholic lifestyle is just as dangerous as the indulgent, self-destructive “treat yourself” end of the spectrum (i.e. when Niko talked about retail therapy), despite the fact that productivity is heavily rewarded in our current culture. It’s a very difficult balance to achieve, especially given the time frame most of us are growing up/have grown up in. (Millennials and Gen Z-ers) I’m constantly trying to rid myself of Capitalism Guilt-a.k.a. the feeling that you constantly need to be doing something productive even if you can’t or don’t need to.

[@TheFoofyLion]

Well said! This comment means a lot to me, especially since I hurt my back and physically can't do certain things and be productive. Thank you 💖

[@courtneygooris]

I think working out/exercising is a perfect example of self care (for me personally). It's something that I really, really don't enjoy but it's important to my mental and physical state. I also totally understand what you say when you enjoy being by yourself. I love my partner, but I really value the time that I get to myself when they are away at work. It allows me to get everything done (like change the sheets!) and it's very therapeutic for me :)

[@Ferncovered]

I'm the same way! My fiance took years to convince me to go to the gym, and now if I don't got for multiple days I feel achey and just not well. I have energy disabilities so sometimes its really hard, but I am so glad I've been going for a year now! We got this!

[@Flint1545]

Courtney Atkins that’s true. And it’s interesting that for others, exercising can be the opposite of self care. It end up being a self destructive behaviour. So many of these things are relative to the individual and their own experience. Kind of cool.

[@charmedvenuss]

as someone with like superbad depression who is really into self care, i use those like lush bubble bars and facemasks etc to put myself in a position where i can take care of more important things, like i can trick myself by using a bubble bath to be like "oh well if you're already here why dont we scrub and untangle our hair" and if im gonna put on a face mask "well you're already here might as well wash your face and brush your teeth" so i use these little treats to lure myself into ACTUALLY taking care of myself

[@RiniKiwi]

You guys are so articulate! I hadn't really thought about the toxic aspect of self care, but we learn something new everyday! Thank you for another great video 😊💕

[@woolhatlovebeads]

i also don't eat or work in bed!! i read in bed sometimes, or i watch tv in bed, but i don't Get In my bed until i intend on going to sleep within the hour. this boundary is important to me, since i work from home (on my job and on my passion projects) and i'm an online student. migrating to The Desk means the productive day is starting; leaving The Desk means it's time to relax. i love the way you two ladies approached this topic. insightful as always!!!

[@Melainis9]

Forgive me for the long comment; I had a lot of thoughts. I think there's a small problem where some people conflate self-care with self-indulgence. When really, like ALB was saying, self-care is sometimes doing the thing you don't want to do. And this is where discipline comes in. Sometimes self-care is about being self-disciplined. If you're a person who generally gives, gives, and gives to others around you, self-care would involve saying "No" sometimes and focusing on yourself. But if you're the kind of person who tends towards things like selfishness and procrastination (and this would take some radical looking-at-yourself-in-the-mirror spiritually to come to this realization) then self-care could involve getting up and cleaning up your house because it's a mess. Or going out of your way, even if you don't want to, to help someone else even if that means just listening to them when they've had a bad day. Because there's a lot of spiritual growth that comes from connecting to others and being of service. Self-care is about doing the things you don't usually do. Sometimes self-care is gently and self-lovingly getting out of your comfort zone.

[@beepea]

I really like how y'all focused on the fact that self care is individual. I find myself feeling bad when I have to take extra steps to take care of myself that other people view as unnecessary.

[@jessl365]

Thank you for being the mums we need in these trying times.

[@meganpinkston9390]

I used to be a nanny of two small kids, and while I worked I would think to myself “wow I wish I had a big person come in my house and take care of me.” Like when I would encourage them to eat healthy snacks, or go outside with them, fold their laundry, made sure that they took a rest if they needed one, help them tidy their room. That’s when the idea of self care really changed for me. We can be so busy that we stop checking in with ourselves and stop taking care of all these basic needs. So to me self care is literally just taking care of myself and being nice to myself as I do it. being my own nanny I guess.

[@duxsilvae]

I'm unemployed since last week, and made sure that I still keep to a very rigorous schedule of "getting up early - getting plenty of work done before I just relax and watch Netflix - going to bed early". I never really thought of it this way, but I think I might have been doing Self Care all this time without even realizing it!

[@amysharpe698]

If you can't depend on your cat children to be your biggest fans, who can you rely on?!

[@WorldBurningTime]

I absolutely agree with this. Self care has become about “treat yourself” when really it should mean doing things that are beneficial for your physical or mental health or well being. Eating healthy, exercising, good habits, going to the doctor/dentist/eye doctor.

[@anchoriajanet1840]

What bothers me about the common concept of self care is the fact it is so divorced from its original meaning. It was coined by Audre Lorde, a black lesbian living in America with cancer. She was refused care because of who she was, so she needed to look after physical health herself. For me, my first introduction to self care was through depressed people on tumblr and all that. That self care was getting out of bed, showering, eating, cleaning. Those basic things that will for one make us feel mentally better and another just to survive and not get physically ill on top of our mental illness. It's not the same as Lorde's original concept, but its not too far off. My biggest issue is it's always framed as taking time for yourself, doing face masks and all that, not going out to social things cause it take a lot out of you. Which 100% there will be people that need that as their way of looking after themselves. But that is so detrimental to people who have depression and similar mental illness. Because in my experience a day of that common concept of "self care" will slid back into staying in bed for a week. It gives people like me the excuse to not look after themselves, through the guise of commercial self care because for one moment it make us feel better. Self care is making yourself feel better for the long run, not just the length of a bubble bath and a face mask. Sorry, I have a lot of feeling on this subject, so i typed all of this pretty early on in the video so sorry if you guy have already said any of this.

[@mcgonagallerys]

The problem is if you are renting a room in an apartment with roommates there's nowhere to sit/do stuff but the bed :(

[@emilyyoung8552]

mcgonagallerys I share a house with two other students at my university, and I spend most of my time in my room when I’m at home. I just dedicate half of my bed for homework, eating, etc. and half of my bed for sleeping. :)

[@ruliak]

Might it be possible to invest in a desk/bean bag/comfy chair that can just provide a different space to get you up out of bed?

[@ramywiles]

Yay being sick! My self care today will consist of signing up for health insurance, going to class, and getting my semester schedule sorted out, even if all I want to do is nap for twelve hours, because you're right. Self care needs to be just as much about the long term as it is about the short term, if not more so. So, on I plod to the health center. (.... ok ok, I already had my day or two of doing nothing but sleep and take meds, but it sounds more impressive if I don't admit that I'm through the worst of it. Shhhh.)

[@BuriedTeeth]

Good on you for doing those things! Everyone goes at their own pace so dont worry. I didnt make the phone calls to find a new therapist after relocating for like half a year...But once you do these things it is SO REWARDING.

[@sja157]

A nice distinction to figure out if an action is 'self care' or 'avoidance' is to figure out- is this action to benefit future you (self care) or for current you (avoidance focused)- Shalini :)

[@stephanieweeks3489]

Very well said.

[@elizabethwbelnapII]

I have a chronic illness, too, and I have to say no CONSTANTLY and i hate it. I was a very lazy person up until about five years ago and so I STILL beat myself up for not doing things that are good opportunities--even if I said no because I'm too sick to do it. I'm working on balancing "saying no" self care and "you're not lazy you work hard you are allowed to rest" self care and "do the work that needs to be done" self care. a self care triangle of terror.

[@stephanieweeks3489]

Everything you guys said in this is gold. Self-care is not blowing off work when you don't feel like going in, sometimes it's going in so you can pay your bills. So much of the time it's doing things you don't like short term because it will benefit you long term. For me, I try to save money, exercise, read books & keep my house clean. Doing all these keeps me happy physically and mentally.

[@CamiPML]

Saying that “self care sometimes SUCK” was so eye opening. Sometimes I do that, but I have never seen that as self care, and that lift a weight out of my shoulders

[@Pigeontoesss]

I really needed this episode today! I’ve been doing a lot of things lately that I was telling myself was self care but in reality I was doing some really unhealthy things and I felt like I let my life get off track. Im trying to get back on track and this video is just exactly what I need to hear today because i was feeling really defeated 😔

[@fijimermaidable]

OMG, right on you two!! I have been thinking about the concept vs. reality of the term self-care. You have discussed this beautifully 💜💚💛

[@hannahw2]

Thaaaaank you for talking about the whole "Self Care TM" brand. It's pretty unfortunate how the entire idea of self care has been reduced to face masks, bubble masks, and binging netflix all day. I can't help but roll my eyes whenever I hear it. Both of your introspection about what self care means for you was pretty eye-opening. I really liked how you addressed the fact that sometimes we take something that isn't good for us, and dress it up as "Self Care". Because I do that for sure when it comes to responding to texts/messages. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by messages and ignore it all because "I'm focusing on myself today". Which sounds like a good thing at first, but when you look at the fact that I'll be ignoring messages for multiple days... Thats not healthy at all. Especially if I want to be someone who is a reliable, good friend. Thanks for making me realize this.

[@Princessyoku]

I really related to the part about having to miss social opportunities because you need to care for yourself. I'm often hard on myself because some of my friends are so much more busy than me, but are still able to go out and have fun, and then im sitting here saying I cant bcause i need to rest. You've helped me realize that everyone has different limits and different things they need to do to take care of yourself.

[@losersocool]

I feel like my def for self-care is taking care of myself. Most often that doesn't mean what makes me feel better, but sometimes it does. Like doing laundry then doing a face mask.

[@InnerUtopia]

I was thinking a bit about self-care today as I caught a pretty nasty cold over the weekend. Right now, in this moment, I need rest above all else, so my current version of self-care is to throw all productivity out the window and focus on feeling better. Once I'm on the mend, however, I know that I'll have some work to catch up on and THAT version of self-care will be forcing myself to do the things, even if I still don't want to. I can handle living in a dirty apartment for a day or two when I'm sick, but letting that turn into a week or two out of laziness is not going to make me feel any better.

[@corey_el]

Loved this y’all! I saw really good quote recently about how self care is ugly sometimes. For me it’s easy to let self care lull me into isolation - sometimes self care is making a plan to eat with a friend or study with a friend. Bc my self care cave can very easily become a depression cave. Also, self care is sometimes sending that email I’ve been putting off, or reaching out to a friend you’re worried you’re losing touch with, or doing your homework... it’s not always easy and just a treat yourself moment. Sometimes caring for yourself is really more for the long term, like you guys said !!

[@jojo_jm]

I feel like you guys are the sisters I never had! 💖 In the spirit of self care things: I realized last semester that being a musician is at the core of my being (go figure, played piano since I was 6 and just finished a Bachelor of Music in Clarinet). Making time to practice and take care of my reeds is work that I often don't want to do, but it always helps me in the long run and keeps the balance between my depression and anxiety. Also, getting things done will usually give me more energy than having a nap or treating myself to a book or a show or a game (provided that I am not sick and I've been getting enough sleep).

[@digimaui]

As someone who works in retail and just got through the holidays and all the self-care "themed" merchandise, thank you for this!

[@mollybarr3818]

A lot of this resonates with me and are things I needed to hear. I live with a laundry list of mental health things (PTSD, depression, anxiety, Borderline Personality, misophonia/kinesia and ADHD) and self-care for me is taking my meds, talking to my therapist and doing my DBT workbook. It's not always that cup of tea or eating that pastry. I have to keep a strict bed time, a particular diet and steer clear of caffeine or alcohol. And that's not counting chronic pain and fatigue associated with PCOS! I have the potential to be a shambling corpse of a human being, but when I do practice healthy, mindful self care, I feel more levelled out and that's the best thing. Love you pals a lot! And take care. ❤

[@kay3557]

Please make a shirt that says "Self-care", it's the exact wavelength of irony my jaded soul feeds on. Okay but really, thanks for making this video, I agree so much with you both and I needed it today. 💖

[@missusjuggs]

I am having the worst bout of anxiety right now, but watching your videos and listening to your voices really brings me back to center. Speaking of self care, I just pulled the bedding out of the dryer and am putting it on my bed!! It helps reduce my anxiety to smell clean laundry for some reason. It's like a fresh start.

[@animefan1025]

Love the nails, Niko 😉

[@0pizzaqueen0]

I’m very proud of myself because I got really into skincare a couple years ago, and I cannot ever go to bed without taking off my makeup. For me, my skincare routine is a treat. I use all Glossier products which are aesthetically pleasing, and also smell good, and it actually makes my skin feel nice, that is a treat for me.

[@bethanclaireprice7835]

This was such a great conversation. For me, I've found that self-care means doing things for myself ahead of time. If I make my lunch for the next day and lay my clothes out for the next day then I know I'll have a much easier morning the next day. If I take the time to make my bed in the morning, it means coming home to a nice neat bed at the end of the day. It just all adds up to make me feel less rushed and stressed out all the time to care for my future self.

[@leradoms]

Self care for me is doing things like cooking a nice meal just for me. Yes, it takes more time and effort, but I used to do it just for my family. If it was just me I would just have cereal or something

[@cariannekulwicki5426]

This is such an important topic, and I'm glad that you two went over how some "self-care" isn't truly caring for yourself, in the long-term. I've had experience with using this concept to enable bad habits, and it's a difficult habit to escape, especially when anything labeled as "self-care" can seem acceptable. Here's to taking better care of ourselves in 2019! Also, I love your hair in this episode, ALB!

[@JennaBeelack]

self care for me is getting out of bed as soon as i wake up, and not spending any time in bed for activities that are not specifically sleeping, or spending time with my partner. also making sure that i shower regularly when i'm spending a lot of time in the house (depression makes it really easy for me to say --- oh well i'm not going out today so there's no point -- but i always feel good and productive when i'm clean).

[@jessicalanger7599]

i'm still very much learning how to take care of myself and discovering what self care means to me, but i'm a strong believer in self care as an overall lifestyle. realistic goals, moderation in all things, attempting to maintain balance between the difficult types of self care and the more generally enjoyable ones, and unconditional self compassion and love. thanks for this video angels!!

[@frodossweetie]

I relate to this so so much! ABL I am the same way! "Self care your self out"- Nikko I love this statement.

[@karab7461]

I watch this video monthly. It has helped me take time out for myself and learn to take better care of me. I’ve noticed my mental health has improved a lot since doing so. Thank you so much.

[@thefatalgift]

Thank you as always for these videos! You two do such a lovely job :) I really appreciate you talking about how a lot of self care is hard, and that it can also be pushing yourself to go out into the world instead of taking time in solitude. When I’m having a depressive episode, I never want to get out of bed, but being around people - not even necessarily people I know, just out in public, at the library or something - makes me feel a thousand times better than skipping work, class, or staying at home all weekend. I’ve learned that a lot of self care seems like the opposite of what I WANT, but it is what I NEED, and that’s the difference.

[@hoffmanbree]

You guys are so neat. I hope I can find my Ang/Niko one of these days

[@OhDeerGirl]

Thank you! This made me realize that self care sometimes DOES suck! As a veeery evening and night active person it sucks that I have to go to bed before 23 in order to wake up at 7 and to have the energy to keep taking care of my self in the following day. Even it's annoying to force myself to a rhythm that's different to my internal rhythm, it's a lot easier if I get my 8-7 hours of sleep.

[@AllTheNasties]

This was a great discussion and opened me up to things about self care that I never considered to be self care before! To me, self care was always the 'treat yoself' mindset of 'this is a thing i want to do because it will make me happy.' I never before thought of it as 'this is a thing I NEED to do to take care of myself and my body.' So I guess a couple of my self care things that I wouldn't think of as such are never going to sleep unless I brush my teeth, wash my face, and do my 7 step skin care routine. It doesn't matter how tired, drunk, exhausted I am, I ALWAYS do my skin care routine because I know if I don't, my skin will look and feel awful. Also on the nights I want or need to make dinner, I do it as soon as I get home from work. If I let myself relax, or get caught up on social media first, I'll never regain the motivation to get up and make something and end up turning my food meant for snacking into a meal or skipping dinner altogether. Self care really is knowing your limits and your faults and making adjustments to your day to make it easier to do the things you need to do to feel like the best version of yourself.

[@TheFoofyLion]

This video is IMPORTANT! I didn't know anything about toxic self care and targeted retail towards it, or at least was not able to recognize it. Also, I am terrible at routines, but have come to realize I am just sabotaging myself in the long run if I skip out on doing things that are good for me, but tedious.

[@stefw46]

I'm so jealous of both of you folks' hair, it's not even funny.

[@roubha]

Oh man i really really feel this, esp the chronic illness and saying no, i have a huge problem with doing that and then making my life miserable bc of it. For me it's making that phone call that i really should have made a month ago, scheduling that appointment, putting my clothes away when i Really just would rather leave them in the laundry basket. Indulgence is ok as self care, but not doing things you Need to do, and coping out of important things? Not actually self care.

[@bierkaaa]

I had never thought about the bed thing, it's something I just do without even thinking... I'm in my bed all day, working, playing Sims, talking to my girlfriend (we're in a LDR) and I never seem to find the energy or motivation to get out of bed. Being someone who's also dealing with some of that good stuff, I think it might be good for me to start looking at things differently. And the thing about not going to certain social events after other social events: I feel you. I need that too and it really does suck when you know you just can't do it, even if you want to. And it's really hard to explain to new people in your life, which aggravates my anxiety. Anyways, very good episode! Thank you, moms.

[@darylivan7901]

The term treat yoself has effected me negatively. Like I'll just be like I should treat myself and then I end in financial situations. And then like at coffee shops sometimes I'll say, I don't want anything too sweet or heavy and then they say, you should treat yourself. So then I get something less healthy than I wanted.

[@nessbowify]

I have been having this exact conversation with myself this week. My goal for 2019 is to focus on true self care, doing the things that genuinely nurture me (even if they don't always feel great in the moment) and letting go of the sneaky habits that are masquerading as "self care" but are actually harming me.

[@PsycosomaticPrincess]

totally relate to what Alb said about hanging out with people after an event (etc) - I'm exactly the same

[@olivianeal2830]

A lot of the time, self care for me means leaving the house every day, even when I really feel like laying in bed watching Netflix all day. Because I know if I don't I'll fall into a pattern that leads to some real depressive tendencies. Thank you both for making this video!

[@garyemaraboto3]

Its 3am an I just had a really bad dream and the first thing I thought when I woke up was coming to watch you because of how calming you are, thank you for being here

[@auroriiia]

This video was so helpful to me because even though I know that self-care isn't always good, I still only focus on the pampering things, not the things that I need to do. I'm going to try my best this year to prioritize my health and taking care of me because I've been so bad about it forever. Thank you

[@kathryndreams]

I’m only 8 minutes in and both ALB mentioned that self care sometimes really sucks. I think the core of self care is self discipline. And disciplining yourself reeeaaaalllllllyyyyyy sucks. But like Niko said, it’s better to discipline yourself than to not be able to function and have to “self care yourself out”. I really needed this video, it was awesome! Thank you.

[@J_Themborn]

Everyone remember to eat your vegetables, especially the other one!

[@fablefear]

“Just because it feels like a treat doesn’t necessarily mean it is one “

[@Lacifur]

You two mirror so many truths I have felt in such a kind way. Awesome conversation on this topic!

[@HowCaseySeesIt]

I have multiple chronic illnesses and it really hit me with what you said about saying no. I’ve had to say no to a lot of fun things because I know I wouldn’t be able to do it, but I’ve learned that self care is more important for me

[@raedefrane5505]

You guys are my favorite. I'm trying to get better at real self care and not false self care that only causes damage. Its not easy for me, that for sure. I often feel like I don't deserve it. Happy to hear your girl"s take on the topic.

[@makaylab6276]

I believe self care is drawn between self -absorption and self-centeredness. If you know the definition and difference between the two it becomes easy to choose what's best for you.

[@czz1751]

Great, vid! I like the no being sad in bed rule. Adding that to my list. It’s true self-care isn’t always fun, but it does pay you back in the long run.

[@litda]

I think what worked for me was that I told my friends to know that I can't go to things in advance (because for caring for myself and family) or without advance notice and with pre-planning. They will still invite me out of the gesture that they still care about me and would like me to go BUT they know I can't make it. It helps that my friends are very mature and understanding and really great people that they don't take my absence from parties or dinners personally.

[@danica2603]

Your hair is adorable in this video Angelina

[@kimberlygraef]

I'm seconding all the hair comments, you are both angels. That aside, I think this is very solid advice and something that came at a very appropriate time for me, as I'm exploring things like this for myself. Thank you for always giving us that good advice 💗💜

[@ameliad507]

Watching this video was like Angelina and Niko leaning out of the tv like “hey you- yeah, you. stop that.” I feel called out but in a good way lol

[@Resonance1919]

I just wanna say I love you guys so fucking much and theres not much i look forward to on the reg but your content just makes me feel warm and fuzzy and good

[@kirjahyllystani]

I just adore both of you, and this channel - hearing and seeing you talk and making a conversation about things - it is so rare and beautiful and so many these things in this video resonated so hugely in me!

[@fireferna]

Amazing content, girls. Your voices are my favorite thing to listen when i'm making art.

[@sadie9356]

Really articulate comments and important things you said about self care, very true!

[@omegazombies]

Really good conversation! I have always been a very self sabotaging person and am really trying to fix this. I've been having to start thinking of self care as a care for the whole rather than just in the moment kind of self care. What is best for me over all vs what do I want right now

[@Lazamattaz]

Listening to you both is self care to me!

[@carryonmywaywardbun]

you guys are so insightful and well-put, especially together! watching you is very relaxing and thank you for spending time on this channel, it helps me a lot! 💖

[@stephanieweeks3489]

Would love an episode on your guys' favorite books!!!

[@annaweaver3253]

Hey ALB and Niko! I love this video a lot; it's super inspirational (also just love your whole channel)! I want to show this video as part of a three-day event I'm planning for my sorority called REAL Wellness Week, where I'm going to talk about self-care and personal wellness. I was wondering if you guys would be willing to make a quiz about different self-care styles based on this video. I've been searching for a good one, and I can't find any I like. They all seem to be focused on things that feed into "the franchise" - things that aren't real self-care like you guys talk about in the video. Thank you!! xoxo

[@arsenicbug1537]

tbh i hate when im feeling down and i just depression shop get hit with the aforementioned feeling of terribleness after putting myself into debt so! for people out there with a manic shopping problem, cut yourself off from methods of spending like leaving your credit card home

[@arsenicbug1537]

like the wives said, sometimes self care sucks but boundaries set for oneself is very important

[@todazetomsawyer]

I CRIED laughing at Niko's comment on Buddhism, "relieve yourself of wealth" y'all are VERY GOOD

[@moolikeachicken]

Thank you for this video, Moms ♡ everyone needs to listen to this! It makes me sad when people start throwing critical thinking out the window, especially for something like self care -.- it ends up doing... The literal opposite. Also, I love watching both of you listen to each other ♡ the amount of attention you give to each other is so beautiful and a great example ♡♡♡ I love it

[@haefishyhyukanchovy3527]

Thank you 🙌🌼🌸

[@sooyoungfanclub]

Another really great video!! Can’t wait for those other queued questions

[@abbcccddddeeeee1234]

I loooove this series, and getting to know Niko more though it!

[@CyberBBtv]

ANG that SCRUNCHIE is magnificent. Also really nice video, I'm totally guilty of the fake-self-care not-taking-makeup-off dealio.

[@Ferncovered]

This video really resonated with me a lot. Thank you for this conversation, it was something I needed to hear today

[@thursday48]

Bless. This showed up at a really good time

[@oliviahancock2274]

I love Ange’s hair I gotta get mine that poofy 💕💕

[@jessicathompson1477]

I would love to read that article

[@RadiantPixie]

Thank you for this episode. You two make me really want to fall in love with someone. There is so much respect between the two of you. Unfortunately, this is something I needed to see to give me hope again. I definitely need to fix some stuff in my life. I really loved this video.

[@birdyinabox]

It wasn't until I watched this episode that I realized I have a problem with working from bed. I'm going to try and stop it moving forward because it does seem to affect me in a negative way mentally. Any tips on migrating the work space from the bed to a more suitable place? I know one of my problems is that my current work space is extremely uncomfortable to be in for long periods of time, not to mention freezing cold, so I end up choosing my bed instead. I'll have to at least remedy that first but I'm wondering if there's more to it.

[@katl.7586]

My greatest aspiration is to make content that reaches the cat demographic.

[@beebeardia]

I love you both so much :D ...broccoli, celery, other one, that cracked me up

[@rachel.beth99]

What a solid video. Thanks Moms

[@torytalaga2568]

You both are so amazing!! Thank you for the great content, this was such an awesome and genuine video.

[@angelajohnson7834]

I love you guys. This was an awesome episode.

[@BuriedTeeth]

Yeah i see treats as separate from self care. One big self care thing to me is doing things that youve been avoiding, (esp little chores and errands). Taking the easy road instead of the best road is not self care. And consistently doing something that makes you happy in the moment but is ultimately unhealthy is not going to help you get out of that rough place.

[@moonzalera202]

Nico’s Gay nails keep sending me every time I see them, reminds me of the episode when Ang didn’t have her nails done on one hand and said “it’s the gay hand” Also; this is the video I really needed right now, I love you both and how articulate you are 💕

[@chocolaterockz]

this is great !!!!!!!!!!!!!! love u both sm

[@kaitlynr9271]

"the adult lay-down kisses" *busts out laughing* HAHA oh you guys are great lol