Let's Talk About | AskReddit: "What Are Some Things You Can Do To Be More Attractive"

[@seleneblackthorn1752]

"If you're shorter, clothes in general are not gonna look good on you" It's illegal to go out naked in most countries though.

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

Society also says it’s rude to not talk but some people are born socially disabled

[@MissMoontree]

It also is very cold most of the year if you live too far from the equator.

[@ClaireEmilia]

This dude has no idea what he is talking about. Of course you can wear mom jeans if you have shorter legs, they simply don't look good (in todays context of beauty) if you have bigger legs. I have seen tall girls with big legs and mom jeans and it looks worse than on girls with shorter but thinner legs

[@seleneblackthorn1752]

@@ClaireEmilia yeah, he clearly has his own opinion which isnt universal

[@dip9634]

im tall and clothes look terrible on me

[@sudokurapist]

"Think positively? Think positively? PoSiTiVeLy?? What does that even mean?!" Love this, you're the realest

[@Spoopy_man]

Are you russian?

[@sudokurapist]

@@Spoopy_man no, Serbian.

[@Spoopy_man]

@@sudokurapist same thing Jk you're very pretty by the way.

[@sudokurapist]

@@Spoopy_man thank you so much, Cuckasaurus!

[@Spoopy_man]

@@sudokurapist no problem homie.

[@Moonprism93]

One for women and I guess some men would be eyebrows. Choosing the right shape when plucking/waxing your eyebrows can really impact your facial attractiveness. I have little hairs that grow below my eyebrow and when I pluck them everything just looks much more neat and polished compared to when I don't.

[@diadiaa892]

True! When i found my eyebrow shape after years of being confused i think it definitely upped my attractiveness, even by a little bit :)

[@GABE_is_here]

to me it's always the hairstyle that makes or breaks the entire look. I'm easily attracted to people with good hairstyles

[@OnlyViKnows]

So true. My eyebrows are pretty sparse so I have to get them micro bladed. It makes a difference!

[@OnlyViKnows]

@@GABE_is_here I agree, hairstyle is one of the best ways to change your face without cosmetic surgery since you can create the illusion of changing your face shape.

[@Janelou42]

Thhs! for me too! Whenever I feel ugly I do this and its 100% better ;D

[@ken.kallingil237]

"shorter men have shorter.... Everything' You didn't have to assault me like that.

[@MegaAnnabanan]

Not true either

[@oftenwrongphong]

haha...I remember being disappointed when I read a study involving 10,000 men that the only consistent predictor is LEANNESS...guess I'll dig up that old gym membership somewhere....and stay away from sumo class lol

[@sophiaguzman5893]

@@oftenwrongphong predictor of pp size is leanness?

[@Natalie-lw2cn]

@@MegaAnnabanan it is lol shorter limbs compared to a taller individual

[@musashi542]

@@sophiaguzman5893 the leaner u are, the bigger it looks

[@areyoukirringmeirriyaa]

my personal suggestions for everyone 1. a good skincare: depends on your skintype, search on youtube which one is for you before buying products. the basics include a cleanser and moisturezers 2. take care of your hair and eyebrows, try to pluck the latter and change your hairstyle. look at your face type: most hairstyles suit a specific face shape 3. wash urself and use perfume / cologne: healthy 💅🏻 4. lose weight if u need to: this is not fatshaming, if u have a goal weight then try ur best to reach it 5. make up! universal and it enhances ur features 6. try to find something that u like and practice, the best thing would be to go the gym or play a sport / instrument 7. WEAR SUNSCREEEEEEEN: helps protect ur skin and also prevents skin aging

[@Michael-lk4fn]

Was about to say something was almost angry when I did not see the sunscreen at the first point

[@candellina6]

I'm not sorry, I hate sunscreen. I look so sick being white as a sheet. How am I to get tan and look healthier if I wear sunscreen?

[@marlenemendoza4279]

@@candellina6 use a chemical sunscreen without a white cast if it is such a problem for you. There are many available but be careful bc some might irritate your skin

[@candellina6]

@@marlenemendoza4279 thank you, I think I have found one.

[@wulfsorenson8859]

@@candellina6 I had the same problem till I discovered a decent tinted sunscreen and fake tan.

[@votranvietanh8494]

"Self-Confidence comes from previous social experience" I couldn't agree more

[@EH012]

I like this channel, and I find it incredibly pragmatic and practical. It's true that physical attractiveness impacts social experience, and confidence is impacted by that. However, BASIC self-esteem is something that exists on a mental level, even apart from physical appearance. Attractive people can and do have terrible self-esteem. Especially women, who are conditioned to behave in ways that actively sabotage a healthy sense of self. Mistaking lack of self-esteem for a lack of superficial confidence is an iffy thing to do, and can lead to overlooking more pressing mental health issues. I don't believe this channel does that, but it's a thin line. Oversimplifying positive social experiences to being perceived as attractive is a yellow flag to me.

[@QOVESStudio]

You're certainly not wrong, that clarification could have been better worded in the video. Next time!

[@ponternal]

I think attractive people are often more insecure about their looks because they really understand how much they matter.

[@jinniesamericano3416]

@@ponternal yea before I wasn’t really good looking and I barely got any attention or compliments. After hitting puberty and getting braces I started to change and ppl started treating me better, staring at me, and giving me complements. It made me realise how looking better can change how a person is generally treated and it actually made me more self conscious and I always gotta make sure I look good enough because now I know the direct effects of simply looking good.

[@cookiecookielookies]

I agree with u 100%! I can’t believe he said that…appearance will contribute to ur confidence but that’s only ONE part of who u r as a whole. I can confidently say that I’m pretty. I’ve gone to a plastic surgeon (for a skin condition) and she randomly brought up that I was pretty which further confirmed what i thought, but I am deeply deeply insecure about other parts of me that I think are much more important than looks.

[@NoName-mm6gh]

You're forgetting tht confience and self esteem does not exist in a vacuum. Pretty people who have low self esteem suffer from other issues ie BDD

[@yasmin4299]

with regards to clothes: start getting your stuff tailored to fit your body yall. clothes straight off the rack are standardized sizes, but people's body shapes are far too diverse to be standardized.

[@gummy5862]

Actually somehow, a lot of off-the-rack clothes fit me quite nice lol.

[@bastian9693]

@@gummy5862 Do you have the straight body type? I have that but my shoulders are broad so standardized clothes always dangle and it’s annoying

[@gummy5862]

@@bastian9693 Maybe? Idk, I usually go for slim sit things rather than standard fit. I guess I should specify that a lot of slim fit off-the-rack clothes fit me well.

[@EspritsFantomes]

Yeah even when I was 10kg slimmer it didn’t fit me Now that I weigh a bit more, it’s a disaster

[@zedohe172]

I would like to highlight that this is very culture dependent, in Latin American countrys where we appreciate the power of a strong leg. Short skirts that show that very pronounced leg muscle is considered rather feminine and attractive.

[@markhooker8520]

cool!

[@biathefirst]

Yesss!!! Thank you!! I was like ??? I love my curves, sir. Bye 👋

[@joatanpereira4272]

I wouldn't say specifically muscular legs in the case of women. the standard is "thick", so some muscle but also fat. leanness is a masculine feature and is not that desirable when it comes to the lowerbody here in SA. people don't realize this is but bodyfat is a REALLY important aspect of femininity

[@awesome_barabado]

Thick thighs save lives

[@biathefirst]

@@awesome_barabado amem 🙌

[@ninavictoria5960]

I think maybe you don’t realise that probably quite a lot of people on Reddit are the type of people that need to be told the basics like teeth brushing. Maybe because they weren’t taught or suffer from depression. Also there’s a bit of a stigma there that many users have trouble socializing etc. so this advice while it may seem kind of unproductive, might apply to some people. ( I use Reddit myself. I’m not trying to say that everyone who uses it is like that. )

[@e.l.2734]

That's fair, still, like you said, there is probably a majority on there that really could use more than that kind of advice, and ultimately the idea of giving any advice at all is to help everyone improve, meaning ideally at least some people reading that post should eventually get to that point where they themselves need to progress to doing more than just brushing their teeth in order to be as attractive as they'd like, so the fact that nobody's willing to go there has to seem a little self serving or otherwise suspicious.

[@drewskt1]

@@e.l.2734 Well, no one can go there because they are a stranger asking a vague question that requires more information about them. If there were a straight forward formula for "How to be more attractive" that worked for everyone, no one would have issues.

[@e.l.2734]

@@drewskt1 If that were all the objectivity there is to attractiveness, this channel wouldn't exist.

[@Supergecko8]

Yeah redditors seams the most degen peeps LUL

[@ioncekilledamanwithmyshoe]

@@Supergecko8 please time travel back from 2009 to 2021, your mother is very worried about your use of outdated slang and phrases.

[@unrulycrow6299]

"If you're shorter, clothes in general won't look good on you" well I'll be starting making my own clothes in November so 😘

[@shinjite06]

I have long legs but a short torso and large chest. FML trying to find a top.

[@Rococo9202]

Or go to tailor

[@subliminalpeach]

@@shinjite06 those are model proportions tho 😭😭

[@cookiecookielookies]

@@shinjite06 that’s a good proportion? U want short legs and long torso?🤨

[@cookiecookielookies]

Right? Some of his views are too outdated and extreme. I think he mentioned in one vid he’s a model so that could explain his bias bc he probably thinks highly of himself as a model. Ppl used to say plus sized models would never exist and now they do. Later, it will expand to shorter ppl 👍🏻

[@yugen8382]

I spent a year and a half with braces and got my teeth fixed at 19.I CANNOT stress this enough, its very important, i got a lot of compliments and it really shot my self esteem sky high. "Id like our kids to have your smile" was one of those compliments from a girl i barely had something going with

[@SuperAnimecity]

I got my braces tightened just now today. I saved up and spent £3217 on them and I'm so happy with my decision. I couldn't bite properly with my front teeth. Once the brace is off, I'm saving to get a nose job

[@yugen8382]

@@SuperAnimecity Its a worthwhile investment.Teeth really do play a huge role in attractiveness.

[@hskxskdwj]

If your smile is good youre probably attractive to begin with, my teeth is straight and my smile looks horrible loool

[@gummy5862]

Well teeth can help, but a nice smile also pertains to muscular definition around the mouth, clear skin (obviously pimples on your mouth don’t give a nice smile), and generally decent bone structure.

[@foofung9961]

@@gummy5862 my smile looks like a grimace lol Idk what it is up my mouth just has never moved like that. The eyes are what determine whether or not I’m smiling or crying

[@yuruyukii]

As a girl I'd like to say that if a guy I was into liked playing with LEGOs I'd think it's super adorable! Seeing guys wholesomelly really into something makes me feel like they're genuine and that I can trust them. Instead, if a guy says that he likes to insult people on league because they suck then... I'd be naturally more inclined to not trusting them and losing all the interest. That's just me tho!

[@yxumi]

Hell yeah that's super cute uwuuu

[@MissMoontree]

I had an ex who played legue while videochatting with me. He always randomly started cussing and shouting. It was very unattractive.

[@yxumi]

@@MissMoontree sheesh drop him

[@jasonclaros7073]

Being called adorable is emasculating don't do that to a guy you like, fastest way to turn him off and it's hard to do that to guys so that's saying something

[@EloHell1129]

@@jasonclaros7073 We don't call our partners adorable directly, we just FIND them adorable when they do things like that.

[@CB-dy1he]

Hello to anyone reading this comment. Just remember that this channel specialises in in-depth analysis of the structure of faces and style. Please try to not take any comments to heart as they are not personally aimed at you. They are just an overall criticism towards some of the flimsy advice given on the Reddit post and how they could have given the same advice, but better. If you are feeling yourself becoming bothered by this video or it's commentary, it's perfectly fine to close it, take a break and focus on something related to self-positivity. If you suffer from even mild symptoms of Body Dysmorphia, it is ok to switch off from this video and move on with your day.

[@pluet_2003]

thank you so much. when he was talking about how shorter people have more bulky legs my immediate thought was wondering if my legs looked like that and if that was undesirable, even though I never even thought about it. struggling with body image issues is common and while channels like these are very informative and helpful, sometimes they give birth to new unneeded insecurities. It's like what he said-it's walking on eggshells. And I want to point out something too-there's always exceptions. What he was saying about looser fitting clothes on short men might not fit all shorter men and some girls have the appearance of having long legs while being short just because of their proportions of torso to legs. So remember that too:)

[@doomsday7308]

Your so nice. Agreed

[@istilldontknowmyname7324]

Yeah! Well said

[@ClaireEmilia]

@@pluet_2003 Please don't listen to that guy on his body analysis. It doesn't make much sense tbh. I am working in the medical field and I have been an athlete for over 12 years. Just because your legs are short, it doesn't mean they are bulky! I have seen plenty of people with long legs, short torsos and some of them have very big legs! Also plenty of Asian girls tend to have shorter, but very lean legs!

[@Silver77cyn]

K thanks.

[@IndigoHazelnut]

As a petite person and fashion afficianado I can tell you that knowing what to wear makes a BIG difference. I absolutely agree that dressing for the body type makes a big difference.. clothes are meant to fit our bodies not the other way round. We just need to know what suits us. I absolutely agree when you say dress according to body type not according to trends

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

petite. lol You meant SHORT AS FUCK?

[@IndigoHazelnut]

@@vimanaarchitects2151 sure you can put it that way.. but usually the words petite and short are used interchangeably and they do not necessarily mean the same. Short is short.. petite is not just about the short height.. its the whole body structure

[@gibvi6794]

Working out does help, though I more so mean weight lifting and being lean, and having muscle can help being more attractive , it changes the way your face look, and your body shape. Though with this you need to have a good diet and good workout plan which can benefit a lot of things to how your skin looks , how you feel, how you look and comes with cognitive benefits, I think everyone should try it.

[@applepeel6613]

Love how chill he's getting with the channel. Earlier, it used to be more....rigid? Idk? I mean I liked that in a way but this feels a lot more relaxed

[@zippy3253]

Yeah...me too. I was wondering what changed. Couldn't put a finger on it.

[@Alice-zf2io]

Before it was more just data and facts, now he acts more personally, he even said he played with legos

[@alexanderginger754]

I think the self-confedence point is more about understanding that people around you don't really care about how you look most of the time. So you shouldn't be insecure about some things (especially the ones that cannot be changed). You shouldn't think "Am I looking attractive right now?" every single second

[@ThatFuckinGame]

Yep and he gave the absolutely worst advice "if u insecure. Try to Chang yourself more to see if it get better". Chances are that advice will make the person even more obsessive about his looks and therefore more insecure. The right answer. If you struggle mentally. You need therapy with a good person specialized on this things. Being temporally insecure it normal and happens. Being chronically obsessed and stressed about it. Feeling enormous pressure socially it's not.

[@pimmohs]

Love how critical you are towards the basic advice

[@anthony9013]

• Make yourself unique in a alluring way • Have multiple interests and hobbies • Have your own style but that isn't too out there • Have an athletic body type • Style your hair • Take care of you skin • Speak more than one language (shows intelligence) • Be employed and ambitious

[@charlicks8808]

If you struggle to make conversation, ASK QUESTIONS!! Everybody likes to talk about themselves... if you are giving them a positive, interested response. Do NOT make up stories about yourself and your life, unless you never see that person again, your story will at some point be exposed as a lie. Even if the person never calls you out on it, it WILL happen. And then you will look like a liar. Which breaks trust and makes people lose respect for you. Ask questions, really listen. When something comes up that you relate to, then share your perspective or experience. The more you practice this, the easier it will be to do. Also, don't try to 'one-up' people. If someone tells you they went mountain climbing, listen and show interest, ask them a question, be impressed at their efforts. Don't respond by dismissing their story by besting them with the story of when you climbed a bigger mountain in a shorter amount of time. Wait until their story is finished, then tell them you also climb mountains, and wait for them to ask you to elaborate. That way you don't come across as an arrogant d1ck who is so insecure they need to best everyone. It doesn't make anyone like you. People like people who make them feel good about themselves. However, do not be afraid to talk yourself up when the opportunity arises. No one is gonna know how great you are if you don't tell them about your accomplishments, your talents, your experiences, etc. Remember, it's better to SHOW not TELL. Tell people about something you did, but don't try and tell people how they should perceive you. You can't control that, and if you try, you come across as insecure. Show them who you are, and let them draw their own conclusions. Desperation is the worst cologne. Don't try and control how people perceive you. You know your talents, you know how special you are. Show that, and the people who appreciate those things will keep coming back.

[@charlicks8808]

Sorry, I had to add this... People who are shy or under confident often have the perception that everyone else has it all figured out. That everyone else belongs, but they don't. The people you perceive as beautiful, successful, confident... those people are either feeling EXACTLY like you, but are 'faking it' (as mentioned in the video), or they have felt exactly like you in the past. Social success is a matter of practice, but also finding the right kind of people you want to spend your time on. If you are an intellectual who likes to talk about quantum mechanics or literature, then don't waste your time with people who want to talk about reality television and idle gossip (no judgement if that's your jam). If you are passionate about fashion and art, don't waste your time with people who only want to talk and engage in sports. This is a crass illustration, but I hope the point translates. You don't have to fit into a mould that isn't right for you. But it is possible to find a point of common ground with every person you meet. And remember, never presume you know who a person is or what they are about until you have put in the time to get to know them. Remember EVERYONE will always surprise you in some way. Everyone you meet has something special about them. Everyone has flaws and weaknesses. Everyone has something to teach you and something to learn from you.

[@ohsehungry2084]

Thank you so much. I feel like this is life-saving advice. I’m not proud of it in any way, but especially the first bit of advice speaks to me. I’ve been trying to stop, but it’s almost as if lying comes naturally to me in these kind of situations.

[@zermanman9891]

What if you don’t have talents bruh

[@jayslingualounge]

Exactly man people just tell you what they think you wanna hear. I like how this channel just gives the information that is actually helpful. i hate when people give advice they don’t even believe in (ex: height doesn’t matter just be confident *dates only 6ft and up*)

[@e.starling141]

Very true. Years ago when i was still single there was a really nice guy who was into me but he was VERY short. Im 5'6 and he was maybe 5"2 or 5'3? Anyway one time he said "if only i were a few inches taller...." in regards to me not wanting to date him. And in my head I was actually kind of agreeing. Which made me feel horrible. But its hard to control who your attracted to.

[@jayslingualounge]

@@e.starling141 I feel you on that one

[@cookiecookielookies]

To comment on ur example, I think u have to realize that women don’t only share ONE opinion. The women who say height doesn’t matter are usually women who DONT only date 6 ft+ guys. I personally only want to date 5’8+ guys so height does matter FOR ME and I will ADMIT that. Don’t use me as an example and then say “look at women who lie and say height doesn’t matter. She won’t date someone shorter than 5’8.”

[@Vladimyrful]

@@e.starling141 But as cruel as that may sound, it would be FAR worse to tell the guy some bullshit that he would waste time on improving, rather than seeking out someone who's okay with his height.

[@e.starling141]

@@Vladimyrful Yeah that's fair. I was happy to see recently that he finally met a nice (shorter) girl and they got married. He really was a nice guy. Had a lot going for him personality wise.

[@moretrenmoremen2771]

19:54 I think that confidence is nothing more than the lack of insecurities, just as darkness is just the absence of light and that being confident is the natural state a human should be in.

[@pr-jj6nc]

I think that wearing accessories like watches, rings, and necklaces, THAT MATCH, can definitely help

[@lindboknifeandtool]

Material or motif?

[@corilia9529]

I make earrings that are not exactly alike. To each their own

[@annjay2581]

As a 25yo woman shaped like a 12yo boy (5'2, 45kg) who doesnt have the money to tailor all my clothes, I shop at the kids section, where things actually fit me. Idc if people stare at me. Obviously stay from the glittery stuff with the unicorns if you wanna be taken seriously at work, but there is a lot of stuff thats just smaller (and a lot cheaper!) than the original piece from the adult section.

[@3xitthissid3]

do you mean stores targeted at teens or actual children's section of a store like gap kids? how are they fitting your adult length limbs despite being skinny though? like I've tried children's clothing before...the sleeves were short and the skirts were either too short and came off sltty, or somehow didn't even fit me despite me having what I thought was a very flat and uncurvatious body...and I was pretty young back then too, maybe still in HS even. I'm not that tall but I don't believe that adults can just fit into children's clothing ( teen clothing, sure maybe), but with kid sizes the hemlines and sleeve lengths are generally short - too short for an adult.

[@aricarly]

@@3xitthissid3 Most kids stores today have very large sizes. For instance, I still buy clothes from Gap Kids or Zara Kids, because their second largest size fits me perfectly (and I'm not that small at almost 5ft5 and 55 kg, with 36 in bust and hips, and long arms and torso, but almost no defined shape, as my waist is 29 in... so it works for me as I'm shaped very much like a ruler). The largest size could perfectly fit someone up to 5ft6-7 I guess.

[@ifyouknowyouknow6964]

Huuuuh???? I’m 5’1…. I have no idea what you mean ? Do you mean no hips ? The female standardized stuff?

[@jojotention]

Kibbe Body Types can help a lot too!!! It takes a while to figure it out your body type but it’s certainly going to make a difference

[@Junior-jz2ug]

I thought the comment on teeth gaps making people looklike meth addicts was very sad in your part, there is an awful lot of responsability on commenting on people's looks in a safe and constructive way, which i find you usually do, not this time tho. Honesty and kindness can always be on the same page.

[@d_oneee]

Completely agree that was such a reach, literally never had that thought while looking at someone with gaps in their teeth

[@Yaurii]

I actually think gaps are very attractive they really add a speck of uniqueness to someone. I’ve never compared someone with a gap to a crack head. Yikes.

[@hungabunga513]

Fr though my jaw dropped at that comment. There's a difference between constructive criticism and just plain insulting someone.

[@okcoolshades2203]

Get over yourselves

[@michaelmoore2568]

@@okcoolshades2203 Oh No how dare people have different opinions than a KZbinr 🙄🙄🙄 they Must be full of themselves 😒

[@Vladimyrful]

The whole video is fantastic, but I had to leave a comment thanking you regarding what you said about confidence - when your social experiences don't reflect what you're telling youself. FINALLY someone actually said something I'm sure we were all thinking. The whole "jUsT bE cOnFiDeNt" thing just upsets me whenever I hear it.

[@user-qp6lj6gu7s]

Tbh I'm pretty sure it's the very early life experiences that determines your confidence, that then shapes how you react to social situations and if you can laugh at something that would be embarrassing to others and therefore not remember it later - or if you hyper focus on all things wrong with what you've done and how others must be judging you. This in turn affects your stress levels which affects breathing (face and skin related), posture, recovery from physical activities and even how your gut works (skin and hair quality). This is an even harder pill to swallow since the absolute majority of people do not want to admit that their parents made mistakes resulting in all this, "mY pArEnTs DiD tHaT bEcAuSe ThEy LoVeD mE!!" ya right lol. Start trying to fix your childhood trauma guys it's going to improve almost everything even your thinking, that's my best glow up advice for anyone that dares to take it.

[@Vladimyrful]

@@user-qp6lj6gu7s Right on the money. Great comment.

[@AnnaGirardini]

About taking care of your teeth, when I finally had the money to do it I went to an orthodontist and discovered that the issue was not just with the alignment of my teeth but an underdeveloped lower jaw as well. So the process I'm going through now - braces + surgery - will improve the aesthetic of my face as a whole. Not speaking about the ability to finally bite!

[@areyoukirringmeirriyaa]

buona fortuna!

[@lilenwasnothere6867]

it's been almost a year. how is it going?

[@AnnaGirardini]

@@lilenwasnothere6867 Hi, and thanks for asking. I got the surgery 2 weeks ago. The dentist says I won't have to keep the braces for long now but at the moment I'm wearing both braces and elastics to better close my bite. The face is more harmonious now but some little areas are still swollen and I'm eating very soft food. I will have more updates in a couple of months.

[@newtnewt540]

@@AnnaGirardiniit’s been 3 weeks how’s it going? (i’m getting surgery in the future 😅)

[@ruriwijaya595]

​Well, it's been 9 months now, any update?

[@emi2733]

I think confidence shouldn’t depend on outward appearance, it’s too unpredictable. Personality, intelligence etc is a better source imo, confidence in your competence etc

[@andrewoakeshott7759]

Very true. Unfortunately, the advice this channel is giving is pretty unhealthy and unsustainable for most people. Research shows that attractive people don’t worry any less about their appearance, sometimes quite the opposite. And while there may be a small number of people where society can collectively determine that they’re ugly, purely in terms of looks, this neglects the fact that the vast majority of people, including most of those worried about their appearance and most likely to be viewers of this channel, are average looking. I’m not saying the halo effect isn’t real and that increasing your visual attractiveness can’t pay off (for instance in the workplace, dating etc). BUT; it’s important for most people to deal with their deepest fears, anxieties and obsessions first, before undergoing any treatment or making drastical changes to their body and life. Otherwise, this risks making existing body dismorphia or an obsession with looks much much worse, or in some people, it can even lead to them developing new insecurities about their looks, when previously they were pretty confident all things considered. Also, as you say, there is a certain volatility and uncontrollableness to physical looks. Even if you eat the best diet and take care of your skin, you could still look puffy and bloated on one day or develop rashes/pimples etc. Obsessing about how you look in all situations 24/7 is not going to help and it’s bad for your mental health. Also, and we tend to forget this, good looks fade eventually. Therefore, it seems much better to me for people to build their self-worth based on becoming comfortable in their skin, being kind to themselves and others and by doing something they love, which preferably is also a contribution to society. An obsession (rather than appreciation) of looks doesn’t enter in to it.

[@c.c.margaret]

Dude, I agree. Most people are NOT ugly, they may not be beautiful They may not even be pretty, but whats wrong with being average or normal, it's okay, most are Nothing wrong with being ugly either, but the vast majority of people truly don't have to worry about that This guy's channel is kinda crazy, I like it in some ways, but some of the people he considers average is baffling to me Not beautiful, I can agree with, but some of them I still found pretty, not average I feel like you really only see average people IRL, but most people in KZbin vids are still above average to me, that's why they got pushed up in the algorithm Also, please everyone love yourself, regardless of how you look or how you've been treated

[@Gabster1990]

A good haircut and being fit as possible.

[@soguyswedidit1148]

"just get a haircut bro, and don't forget to take more showers and drink more water!" - every model ever

[@majik87]

@@soguyswedidit1148 Based...dont forget your tactical pheromone infused soap

[@JacksonBeatson]

Be good looking

[@Gabster1990]

@@soguyswedidit1148 You sound like a fun person to be around.

[@AuroraAce.]

@@soguyswedidit1148 honestly hair is pretty important. hair often fits personalities more than clothes do

[@e.l.2734]

Everybody only ever talks about the bare minimum, it's always been quite easy to see how this channel is different.

[@broomy143]

The 28 dislikes were from people "not thinking positively"

[@BasedChadman]

The confidence part is HUGE. Confidence is a product of positive feedback loops in human interaction, not the other way around.

[@maika2449]

I disagree. Confidence does not come from good looks. I know a lot of average looking people who are perfectly confident, and I know a lot of very good looking people who are not confident. I also know some bad looking people who are very confident. So these two things are not correlated much.

[@youtubesucks2755]

What's the difference between confidence and arrogance? When you are confident and others don't see what warrants it, you're arrogant. So yeah, it comes from good looks. If I go around yelling confidently that I am the most intelligent person on this planet and others can easily see I'm dumb as a rock, they're not gonna think "He is so confident, he must be actually smart" even after seeing a lot to the contrary.

[@archaicamusement3871]

@@youtubesucks2755 Confidence is something that others can see. The way you carry yourself. Arrogance is something one do or say.

[@william_SMMA]

Confidence in their looks and not general confidence All confidence isn't the same There's sports related. Test/exam related. Appearance related. Dating related It's not all jumbled together A nerd can think he's a 2/10 in terms of looks and not confident But he can be extremely confident in winning the upcoming National spelling bee or math Olympiad because he won last year's version or has never gotten a B in 5 years at school

[@archaicamusement3871]

@@william_SMMA great explanation. I was thinking something similar. One can feel confident in some aspects, and insecure in others. The thing is work and improve in what we are lacking. I think that's the key.

[@william_SMMA]

@@archaicamusement3871 yessir But I personally think the best path is to find a celeb that looks like you without makeup Then do whatever they are doing if they are attractive

[@abby4643]

I wanna say smt about the confidence part. I used to have acne and used a lot of foundation to try and hide it which probably led to even MORE acne 😭 I got on accutane after a while and cleared up fully. It was really like seeing myself for the first time because I knew it was how i was meant to look. Acne is truly a condition where you have the power to change it or get rid of it ( not all the time though unfortunately genetics are a big factor). And ever since I’ve gotten rid of it, I could focus on my hair and clothes and overall general style. I just look better. I get compliments all the time though and it’s the best feeling you could as for. But to sum this up, yes, confidence comes with looking better and changing your physical appearance

[@lindboknifeandtool]

Same with hair loss.

[@taru4635]

Back when I was an insecure and lonely person, I befriended someone who would give me advice on how to improve my looks. However, while at first the advice was about makeup, clothing, hair, stuff that was actually useful, it pretty quickly changed to her pressuring me to get cosmetic procedures and plastic surgery done. I was none the wiser, still insecure about my looks, and spent probably close to 10 grand on the procedures she 'planned' for me before I realized her further advice is not gonna be a key to anything. The moment I got her out of my life was actually one of the most confidence-boosting moments of my life. Still, I choose to be grateful for the more helpful advice she gave me, but no, I'm not going to fix my minor facial bone asymmetries or my harmless pectus excavatum so I would look like a mathematically average human.

[@zekeyeager1458]

This man explains in another one of his videos about how attractiveness is all but one of the MANY ways someone can contribute to society. We all feel but hurt when we are told that we are unattractive because it feels as though it is a jab at our usefulness to society. While that is not in fact the case, having beauty standards will always hold true as it is part of human psychology and physiology. I suggest reading up on sexual selection, and perhaps taking an anthropology class. It’s quite an eye opener.

[@tula1433]

@@zekeyeager1458 love reading about sexual market value so interesting

[@zekeyeager1458]

@@tula1433 indeed, as it’s only human ;D

[@Kuralai95]

quoves: clothes don’t look good on short people Okey, let me log off and go cry in corner real quick

[@Kuralai95]

@Venus Infurs yeah clothes definitely look better on tall people but cutting it off as short people not looking good is harsh and untrue

[@anarchsnark]

I threw my head back and laughed. He said it a bit on the point, but it is true off the rake clothes are made for average height people and we need to pay attention to silhouette.

[@AkiraScrolls]

As a girl the day hasn’t come where I’ve flexed on how cool being 5’6” is in a country where most men don’t reach that height xD

[@aileenvillalta5322]

Name twin! And I can related im 5’1 😭

[@harsh3948]

Schoolgirl outfits look bomb though lol

[@LeharcBlueHeart]

This was such a good video. I've never heard anyone say how experiences shape our confidence. People always just say be more confident!

[@lilsbourne]

I never surrounded myself with passionate and/or successful people on purpose. But I have people who always have my back and are easy to talk to:)

[@grantg.1140]

What would be some of the “hard truth” suggestions that people avoid bringing up?

[@d0k0night]

That outward attractive matters much more than people admit, and that changes the way people react and act towards you. And many people will never understand how it feels like to be attractive so they downplay how important it is. It's when potential mates find you attractive and actively seek you out, without you needing to put in much effort, or even mistreat them, and yet they persist. If you aren't born attractive, then there will be hard work to start, but most importantly the next thing - and that's upkeep, which can be expensive.

[@almamater489]

Having pretty teeth will impact the quality of your life in more severe ways that people wanna admit. Your smile will be noticed a lot unintentionally and will make ppl make harsh and quick judgements

[@kiiltochii1607]

Fit is always more attractive than fat or skinny-fat

[@NoName-mm6gh]

Looks matter especially your face. People in general (excluding the male gaze) look at your face primarily than your body. That's where people with unattractive faces get such a hard time because there's such phrase called "can't get past her face". Men who say faces don't matter are simply speaking from a sexual standpoint since some of them will "put a bag over her head theory" its explicit but it's the truth

[@NoName-mm6gh]

@@Fyzyx i wish there were awards on youtube

[@ben-bs8bl]

Do mewing/hard mewing and many things to improve appearance (skin and hair care, orthodontics and many small surgery) Know your strengh and your passion to build your vocational career And then you will be your better apparence and strong personnality to be attractive.

[@Nana77707]

Hey about mewing does mewing help with cheekbones ? Like prominent cheekbones or is it genetics and mewing just enhances it?

[@sheb5961]

@@Nana77707 yes

[@gigachad3861]

mewing only works when youre a child not when youre a adult .

[@nicholejaydee]

@@Nana77707 It does , I had zero cheekbones and a neotenous face. I had a very small jaw and small mouth, I still have a small mouth because that was fixed by the time I was 24, perhaps if I’d had a pallet expander I could change that slightly. But I was able to change my jaw with mewing and therefore the cheekbones, the whole face pops out and moves forward. My brow bone even popped out slightly more. I actually went too hard with the mewing for too long and lost a bunch of weight and it revealed that I had pushed my face out so much further than I realised.

[@Nana77707]

@@nicholejaydee wow thank you for sharing! I was worried about my cheekbones since i'm 20 and i thought that they had to do with genetics i really hope my face gets a bit wider too lol

[@CaylasCapsule]

I think for hobbies, it depends on the deeper significance of that hobby to the person. Like when I talk about how I’m a huge Pokémon fan, I explain how it gave me something to hang on to when I felt very alone, and how I now use that hobby to try to help young people who might be going through the same thing, especially young women who are largely underrepresented in the gaming community. If somebody likes rock climbing just because it makes them buff or something, that’s not very interesting.

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

Came here to say this. Talk about the why of your hobby, and it can spark a conversation and a connection. Then it doesn't much matter what the hobby is. I, for example would be turned off by someone who likes rock climbing, because I am not outdoorsy. Especially if they have nothing to tell me about it, except that this is their hobby. Then you might as well say you like to stick plastic blocks together, at least I would have shared that experience as a kid and get a conversation going.

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

I agreed to a street fight because it was therapeutic

[@benwinstanleymusic]

Really refreshing to hear someone speak so honestly about stuff like this

[@strictlyaesthetic9202]

The way to look presentable is to accentuate your positive body-parts and lesson your negative body-parts. Proper fitting tasteful clothes will always be in style. People need to focus more on the gift and less on the wrapping paper. In other words strive to be the healthiest person possible.

[@Lina_92_]

Hmm, I'm kind of short and have short legs compared to my torso, but I feel that wearing loose pants make me look even shorter and really dumpy. Skinny, boot cut or mom jeans look best on me, and of course high waisted. But any time I wear palazzos I feel like I look like a kid wearing their parents clothes

[@e.starling141]

I agree with you, and definitely high waisted jeans are best!!

[@romayi7983]

I think that thiccer shorter girls look better with tighter pants, mostly bc of that ass, but I could also see how an appropriate hemline and nice pleated looser style could work to their advantage. Honestly, think most of this is dependent on your culture

[@ClaireEmilia]

this!! this guy has no idea

[@weekend1rocks]

Yes, there’s more to how your clothes fit than just your height. You may want to look into Kibbe types to get more specific style suggestions.

[@areyoukirringmeirriyaa]

i have super short legs as well, wear ur size skinny jeans! even baggy jeans look good, as long as they’re not super big ,, we have it a bit hard, just try on as many jeans as possible and see if it works

[@chrisptaco1139]

There's nothing wrong with a gap between your front teeth :/ I actually find it really cute on people

[@amandae7896]

I know you said women’s clothing isn’t your strong point, but I just wanted to throw out there that your advice for short women in this video (and also the previous video where you’d mentioned it) is sort of confusing and contradictory. You say to not wear form fitting clothing but also to not wear loose clothing, so I guess we should wear something in between? But it’s unclear what exactly that would be, and honestly in my experience things that are sort of loose sort of form fitting tend to be unflattering on short women- it often needs to be one extreme or the other, and then you can play off of the opposite end in the silhouette. If anything I think it’s really important for myself (and most other short women I know) to have some amount of waist definition or else some part of the clothing that is form fitting, otherwise the clothing swallows us and we look dumpy.

[@e.starling141]

I agree about wearing something with shape that isnt too large. I also thinking making sure sleeves and pant legs are tailored to length help a lot. Also wearing one color head to toe really stream lines and gives the illusion of length. I've also alwats thought jeans or pants with a boot cut or straight leg that are wide enough to wear over tall heels or tall boots to almost reach the floor really elongate the legs. But unfortunately that stype doesnt seen to be around anymore. Whats trendy in pant or jeans length is (in my opinion) very unflattering to just about anyones legs. Having jeans cut at the ankle or above only shortens the leg.

[@shirin9452]

If you’re really interested in figuring out your most flattering clothing, look up the Kibbe system! It is fascinating how much bone structure plays a part in appearance and honestly it’s about more than height. Aly art and Merriam style are really good KZbinrs for this :)

[@amandae7896]

@@shirin9452 I was actually debating include a recommendation for Kibbe in this :) I am a soft gamine and have found it so helpful!

[@An-kw3ec]

I love systems, so I checked out the kibbe one, I think it's kinda true in some ways, cause part of it it's based on body geometry, also the taking on the proportions it's great, the only problem that I found it's that encourages cliche images and personalities, I hate the names too, for example, a dramatic type woman who probably wants to look soft and approachable will find it difficult because the system encourages just to follow your already determined features instead of "fixing" them, the point is that not all the types are equally attractive, yes you can find people who can be as beautiful as others, but the point should be to look as proportionate as possible.

[@shirin9452]

@@An-kw3ec I think it’s important to note that you can go against the rules once you have them down. Like I love when a dramatic woman wears a flowery frilly gown, maybe in a column style to go with her vertical line. Makes her look so otherworldly. And Reese’s romantic/tr looks in Legally Blonde are so hyper feminine for her gamine countenance that it’s really striking. I follow my TR rules but I’m very fashion forward, so when I’m trying a weird silhouette or loud print I make sure you can still see waist definition ^^

[@pheize5669]

to be honest, i think hair plays a big part in someone's appearance, that's why taking good care of your hair, using good products with good ingredients, trying to figure out what hairstyles suit your facial structure, is very important. another thing is mewing, you did touch upon that in this video, but yes, correct mewing is very important i did realize a difference in my appearance after i did some research into that topic and implemented it into my life. getting a tan could make you look more tone, so if that's what you are looking for then you could try that. i personally have fair skin but it goes well with the rest of my features so i dont think im gonna go out of my way to tan. if you have a big nose, dont get a piercing on it. piercings are going to bring attention to your nose, and if you dont want that then dont get a piercing, same with using highlighter on your nose, if u dont want to bring attention to it then dont highlight it. ALSO, eyebrows, EYEBROWS ARE SO IMPORTANT. so shape them to suit your features.

[@yumpatMEOW]

Could you go in a bit more details on how you practise your conversational skills? I really enjoy how you speak, and your mannerism can keep me focused on the subject matter. I'm very curious about how you do it!

[@Meiw7777]

Advice that my dad always gives me is be yourself,I know that sounds generic and lame but if you fake your personality you are going to attract people who are like that fake personality but if you be yourself sure sometimes people won't like you but the ones that stay are the ones that you'll probably get along with best. It is good to learn conversational skills but do it your own way be authentic and the people you want in your life will come to you,, even if it takes time to filter through,, if you are fucking weird and are openly fucking weird most people may not like you but the ones that do you will prob like to because they are also fucking weird and y'all can be fucking weird together Edit: I just saw a girl in the comments say she would find it indearing if a man played with Legos and it is a perfect example of my point, if you show all aspects of your personality people will like you and they will be the ones who like most of you and not just the side that does rock climbing and plays the piano

[@HereIAm247]

Solid advice. Being the best version of yourself is important, but being someone else is rarely a good thing.

[@jacquelineazure]

I like that the Qoves pill boils down to high-school-common-knowledge: LOOKS matter the most

[@anarchsnark]

LOL love how you dismissed the bare minimum advice. "just smile! just be confident sweaty! :)" It feels nice to hear that it's all you need to do, but if that advice worked, no one would feel down about themselves.

[@trone3630]

Guys, don't wear pleated pants. Even if you're lean like me, they flare out at the waist, which give you a feminine-looking figure from the waist down. You want a V shape, not an hourglass shape. Throw that crap away... unless you're competing with me for the same girl. In that case, you should definitely wear them all of the time. : ) Another tip for lean guys is to wear European cut rather than American cut shirts, which includes soccer shirts, and dress shirts that are marked "fitted". If you're in small town USA, you'll need to visit stores in larger towns for these, incl. soccer shops, H&M, Express, and American Eagle. Don't wear baggy stuff to look less skinny. Wear things closer to your shape, and you'll look great.

[@jennifermarie8979]

There is almost NOTHING out of this entire list off suggestions, that one can go complete after reading the thread🤣🤣

[@lmaolmao9713]

Attraction is determined by bones (hard mewing & wolff's law), fats (macronutrient ratio & skin care), and muscles (exercise)

[@favidh1934]

I like his truthful approach that physical measurements cant always be overcome by topical cosmetics. I do not understand how toward the end, he was incredulous at someone saying change your fashion. That is great advise, it means get out of your fashion rut...change it up! How does he not understand that?

[@QOVESStudio]

The advice is good, the execution of how the advice is given is wrong. "Change your style" helps no-body if there is no specific advice or resources on what that could mean.

[@redsoxfox]

‘Think positive, what does that mean? What does that mean?’ 😂 this guy is great, I love that sees how superficial people’s advice generally is.

[@Ivanmaradonaaa]

You can use a lot of timeless pieces in streetwear. Just don't be a hypebeast. I also disagree with the hobbies, you should do whatever you like if you're not harming anyone, there's people to anything. Obviously it won't cater to the mainstream but imo I prefer to be real.

[@wizard185081]

That wasn’t his point though. You can do whatever hobby you want as long as you want to, because there will be hobbies that won’t reflect you in the light you think it will, and this whole video is discussing ways to be more attractive.

[@Ivanmaradonaaa]

@@wizard185081 There's hobbies for everyone, some people will find it attractive and some won't, there's this girl that liked me, she's really cute and has a really nice body. And the girl is super into videogames, COD, Free fire and other games like that(I don't play them so idk all the names) I know of other girl that's also really attractive and she does the same. And they like people that share those hobbies so what's attractive to some people varies. There's not a one size fits all in terms of "attractive hobbies"

[@orangy8549]

@@Ivanmaradonaaa All he basically said was that not all hobbies are rated equally in terms of attraction. Some things are more attractive than others, just like physical attributes.

[@Ivanmaradonaaa]

@@orangy8549 yeah and I disagree, there's something to everyone, what one person think is attractive is not the same as what other person thinks. I like history and sociology some people think that's wack and some people think it's attractive. You see what I'm saying?

[@AuroraAce.]

@@Ivanmaradonaaa bro some people hobbies are masturbating all day. you do you but you don't have to incorporate all your hobbies into your personality as some of them will have most people look at you in a jaundiced eye

[@monisiay]

I stopped watching this video in the first half of the teeth care part and immediately ordered a water floss devise. The fastest purchase of my life. Thank you

[@Shiro642]

I would like to add one recommendation to be more attractive: Reincarnation

[@archaicamusement3871]

😂. Jaajaj. Is the only solution. Jajaa

[@yin2586]

Yeah, but with bad luck one could end up less attractive than before.

[@Shiro642]

@@yin2586 So? You simply reincarnate over and over until you end up as a 6’4 wavy haired man.

[@yin2586]

@@Shiro642 so try again until it works?

[@Shiro642]

👍👍👍

[@staninsertkpopgroup1181]

The callout of heterosexual men fashion is 💀💀

[@myst717]

How attractive is attractive enough? It seems like most attractive people have flaws, too. So at what point does someone starts being "beautiful" ?

[@nood1le]

Everyone has flaws, but some have less than others. That's how it works.

[@Joelbrandan]

Wash your face routinely, brush your teeth and get braces. These will make you feel good about yourself. If you have light eyebrows, darken them with tint . If you have thick bushy ones thread them.

[@stevet4573]

thick bushy eyebrows are a dimorphic masculine trait and look good on masculine and sometimes feminine faces.

[@alexisrene5854]

@@stevet4573 yes but cleaning them up makes the world of a difference

[@possumpancakes1007]

nah, people should embrace what they have - crooked teeth, light eyebrows (Lara Stone, hello!) thick eyebrows...changing them so everyone looks the same isn't cool. you can't go wrong with what you naturally have

[@b.r.2562]

@@possumpancakes1007 Shut the f**k up. All I hear is a loser mentality. Like you just know you're not good enough, and you have to make everyone else around you lower their standards. That stuff isn't beautiful, and never will be.

[@stavroulathebest]

@@possumpancakes1007 olay cool dude domt change anything on your face that is (relatively)easy to change,its your choise and no one can force you obviously but its makes a big difference in you can take care of your teeth(not easy tho) and make your eyebrows look a bit better (very easy) and put on some moisturizer (also very easy)

[@MrMelonMan96]

Lmao thank you for pointing out that you can't just fake confidence. It's absurd advice that people give. Who do you think is going to be more confident with women: The guy who has had attractive women compliment, chase, pursue, and want to be with him his whole life or the guy who is invisible to women and is rejected every time he makes a move?

[@semajcarlson4038]

Exactly. People are oblivious to observable reality

[@XTheSpartanX7]

This is a harsh reality. Confidence is a loop, people treat you well > you become confident.

[@michelbruns]

you are very direct in critic and how someone looks, this sounds very rude, but on the other hand its just honest.. i really like that and not like other channels which give advice like "brush your teeth" and other you mentioned

[@doomsday7308]

Theres middle ground

[@annaedward2601]

but for real. you cant be 26 wearing a nike tech tracksuit everyday. are you not employed somewhere?? you're 26 showing up to a date in roadman outfits. im actually triggered.

[@Ivanmaradonaaa]

Why? Let people be themselves

[@wllulu]

Why? If I want wear a track suit whats the problem

[@fadlinugraha347]

i wear adidas to work everyday

[@nectarshrub]

Lmao all the triggered road men replies💀

[@HillbillyYEEHAA]

For me, losing weight did alot for my face. My face got round when I gained weight, my chin got jowls 😂 😂 😂 When I dropped the weight, my face looked 10x better.

[@onewayticket2148]

Can I ask how many pounds did you drop? I dropped weight a while back and my face changed a lot too. It was only about 8 pounds tho. I plan to loose more but I don’t know if I’ll see any more changes unless it’s drastic weight loss.

[@stevelovegood3505]

Qoves is the Ben Shapiro of the beauty community “ur ugly facts don’t care about ur feelings”

[@zekeyeager1458]

Hahaha yes!

[@AnonyMous-gt8vq]

Sorry, but I just have to complain about Shapiro. He just sucks, and it turns out people's feelings don't care about your facts, atleast most often.

[@bennablements]

You really under play the nonphysical aspects of attraction. Self confidence is a super admirable trait and I don't think it's fair or accurate to act like having flaws like an imperfect smile, being overweight, or being shorter are all things that should negatively impact confidence. I've known many physically attractive people who lack confidence or have an unpleasant attitude that truly cancels out their attractiveness. There's a lot to say for just being self-assured and loving oneself and being pleasant to be around that makes someone attractive. Balance is everything.

[@SamarG5]

"shorter men have shorter everything" 😂😂 i lost it right there

[@lizzyarlyn3409]

The most important thing about good posture is physically aging better. I’m 40 every active and I clean my house a lot, I have no back issues. Most everyone I know started having back pain in their mid 30’s. I’m a former ballerina and I practiced yoga for years, I very good posture and I think that’s why I don’t have back pain. I also squat rather than bend over, it’s much more comfortable and better for your body.

[@Yellow_Afryca]

Essentially be rich and everything else will follow

[@Antonioexbbbdaltoro]

or you can see it this way: this are means to perform better at social situations, consequently impacting in your career path. You can see both ways, but maybe ~just maybe~ you are creating excuses for your bad performance.

[@An-kw3ec]

Maybe prioritize it's the answer, yes I'm aware that some people can't even afford tooth paste, but if you are in a descent situation you can fix your overall appearance, start with the basics so then you can go for more depending your field or opportunities, I know Bella Hadid was already super rich but you can see that she took the opportunity and now it's a prime in high fashion thanks also for her beauty enhancements, the surgery wasn't just for looking trendy attractive like the Kardashians, it was more to fit the requirements of runway modeling.

[@lalasee2873]

Accurate 👌🏼

[@simplelifeinfo3913]

that's a victim mentality

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

Ok Tony Montana

[@corilia9529]

Look nice wether you are going to the store or club. Just dressing halfway decent helps boost confidence

[@DevoteaSings]

Umm, excuse me? If someone tells me staying home and watching Netflix while eating ice cream is their hobby, then I am very much interested and I know I'm not the only one. Personally I think geeky hobbies aren't anything to not share with others. It seems close-minded to say you can't be attractive because of confidence in your needy interests.

[@shirin9452]

I think it’s totally cool to be into that, who isn’t? But it would also be good to have 1-2 other things you would be able to say, like playing an instrument or something. Still, I haven’t gotten to that part of the video so maybe I’ll think differently when I hear it.

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

Right? I was like, "Oh, let's talk shows, we probably both like chill weekends and alone time."

[@Vladimyrful]

Well the problem with that is that a 100% of the population does that, then I HAVE to have something else to differentiate myself (often looks), otherwise why would someone pick me? It sounds cruel but it's true.

[@lolablake9196]

Yes I would love to meet a guy I can game with

[@zippy3253]

@@lolablake9196 that's cute but it's important to be careful. Most guys just hang out with girls in private so people wouldn't see them together.

[@mostlyhumanslightlycat6975]

"Are you really going to tell someone your hobby is staying in, watching netflix for 7 hours and eating ice-cream?" - Oh yeah, I can tell you from experience that you can definitely get away with that if you're attractive, and preferably have a high-earning career. Attractive people tend to feel intimidating and are subconsciously perceived as arrogant and unapproachable, so admitting to weird or geeky hobbies can work to their advantage by making them more relatable.

[@ineffablemars]

I hate when men wear low pants.. it's the worst choice a man can make and literally just wearing pants at your waist makes you 10x more attractive.

[@zg5672]

3:50 "this is not the peak of fashion" eshays: *punching the air rn*

[@Wangriceman]

I have to disagree with your stance on confidence. When people are able to lead conversations and put themselves forward in spite of whatever physical imperfections they may have that from my perspective is undeniable attractive. Confidence doesn’t always need to be linked with attractiveness. Take industry leaders for example, or management in the corporate world. There is a certain magnetism that comes from power and leadership.

[@Wangriceman]

@Tony Montana Untrue - people respectfully exude confidence when they are good at what they do and excel in their domain. I'm going to give you specific examples here - politicians - Boris Johnson looks like a knob but is he not confident? Of course he is confident, he's a great public speaker and had the skills to get elected. Athletes, politicians, scientists - people from all walks of life are confident without their attractiveness necessarily coming into the picture.

[@zekeyeager1458]

@Tony Montana mmm yes, defend yourself hopelessly while this man just ratio-ed you… it seems as though his confidence has won people and myself over because he exudes confidence and is good at what he does, which is making a valid argument. Unlike yourself…

[@giuliar2539]

@Tony Montana I knew a not so good looking guy, he often had bad posture and much other stuff going against him look wise, yet he was one of the most outgoing and confident ppl that I have ever met. Confidence comes from your mind not the looks

[@wit_ef8853]

I have always found shorter men so attractive. It's just something about their body proportions that's so pleasing to look at.

[@drewskt1]

Commenting twice because while this channel is generally good - the section at 21:10 about confidence and 'This doublethink around what you tell yourself and your lived experience' is absolutely BS. Humans are absolutely *terrible* at self assessment and there is use in confidence. Your 'Lived experience' might tell you that "If you're bald you're less attractive" but only if you're ignoring the millions of men who are Bald that are; married, have children, lead successful, fulfilling lives. Etc. This is true for whatever 'problem' with attractiveness you want to address. What the 'confidence' argument is getting at is the nice way of saying, 'get over yourself'. What isn't attractive in, to keep with my example, a balding man - is when they go on and on about how they are losing their hair while they are surrounded by friends who love them. Its one thing to acknowledge that you're balding, and even have some emotions surrounding it - actually its encouraged to be honest and open - but don't let that be your whole personality and/or get in the way of human connections.

[@youtubesucks2755]

No woman finds baldness attractive

[@drewskt1]

@@youtubesucks2755 LOL, Jason Statham, The Rock, and Bruce Willis would beg to differ.

[@william_SMMA]

@@drewskt1 because they have amazing bodies Baldness in itself isn't attractive Stop twisting shii to get your point across It's a bad habit

[@drewskt1]

@@william_SMMA lol

[@drewskt1]

@@william_SMMA Wait okay, so 7 Billion people on the planet. roughly 3.5 Billion of them are Women. 0/3.5 Billion are attracted to bald men?

[@kevinwong4446]

Thanks for the brutal realistic take on subjects, you don't get that a lot nowadays

[@komred64]

I was unaware of the existence of the waterpik. I just made a quick search and bought one! Should be arriving tomorrow. Also good to know Im not the only Lego aficionado out there, though Im more of a Bionicle fan (not that you will hear me say this in a social setting with a potential date lol)

[@QOVESStudio]

Bionicles, what a throwback

[@welcometothecircus_]

“Everyone’s advice is so superficial!! Also the only important thing you can do to improve your social experiences is look conventionally uh I mean objectively attractive. It’s the main thing you should prioritize. Don’t worry about your ego issues, the fact that standards of beauty are ever changing and surgery is exclusive to privileged classes and that you shouldn’t surround yourself with people who care about your appearance anyways. That’s such SUPERFICIAL advice!!!”

[@sunnc]

you do have a point here

[@robertwright4906]

I mean you’re on a channel that gives real advice and not platitudes. Not sure what you’re doing here if you’re this insecure

[@sugarzblossom8168]

@@robertwright4906 insecure it sounds like they had an opnion and backed it up

[@ILENEmusic]

I subscribed because your voice is so calming to me- literally listening as a make a PowerPoint for work haha.

[@selfsacrafice]

Just found your channel and this video. I like how you pointed out that a lot of the advice given is more princess diaries advice (general makeover advice) but not actual advice to improve attractiveness. I'm going to check out more videos.

[@mariannek6735]

I have to say your frustration is very entertaining 😂 No but seriously, I guess the advice on these threads is very general and easy/cheap/simple to do because you're writing generally, these are advice that everyone will benefit from and can do without having to pay a bunch of money or spend tons of time and effort to do. You can't just go through all possible "problems" that can be fixed through surgery or whatever and say "if this is your problem, do this, if this is your problem, do this, etc.). And a lot of people actually don't keep up with hygene, health and basic grooming, simply because they feel like they'll be alright without it.They don't prioritize hygene and health. Without realising the importance it also has on their image and in turn their chances at finding a partner. Some people are just dumb like that 😅 Advice like these serve as a reminder for those that care about finding a partner more that about hygene and health.

[@linnea696]

I’m a short woman (5” exactly) but with an extremely high waist and short torso. I find high waisted pants make my legs look long and nice but my torso look comically short. Any tips you’re willing to offer, or maybe if you’d consider making a fashion suggestion video for people with this body shape?

[@xMay296]

I mean, yes, their advice is superficial, but yours kinda is too. You say I need a glow up first and confidence comes later... Well, then, how do I glow up? Surgery? You only added to their comments of changing your style and fixing your teeth, but how do I change my ugly face? Maybe you didn't want to go into detail in this specific video, but I think it would be useful

[@RedApple33333]

It's superficial from the start and very much based on stupid "universal" standarts that the more you know about them the more you understand that it's all a facade designed to sell (surgeries, etc) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Despite that right when he started the vid he was like: short bodies aren't attractive. He stated it like a fact which I didn't like. Then he continued on how to make this "ugliness" kinda better using clothes. Why do short bodies have to considered ugly in the first place? 🤔 followed by yellow teeth and bla bla bla Most of the times these things are genetical. As for the hygiene part it's smth ppl ought to be taught in early childhood. The thing is: be confident first and you'll see beauty in yourself later. No need to change anything and give more money to surgeons etc etc. Tired of people selling the button nose, big lips, perfect teeth and face. Our features make us unique. No need to fit in a "universal" standart.

[@AkiraScrolls]

Do you have a discord? What’s your gender? I went through a very consistent glow up from childhood to early twenties. It’s hard for him to express the minute details and lifestyle changes that one has to personally go through for this to be sustainable for one person specifically. If you want we can talk about it! I’m very into this topic. And I assure you my glow up had nothing to do with puberty, it was a very strenuous routine that I implemented in my life. Other than that his advice is legit and straightforward, want a better face? Lose weight, better body? Workout (lift weights and do low intensity cardio), sunscreen everyday and tretnoin for age spots or melasma, FIX YOUR POSTURE, learn to do makeup for your specific failos in your face, long hair if you’re a woman and CLEAN hair (better if it’s straight hair that reaches your mid back), always show off your figure even if you’re fat. There’s no reason why you should be ugly ugly, I truly believe everyone can be at the very least decent, how sustainable it is depends on your time and need for it. If you want it you’ll get there

[@youtubesucks2755]

It's not gonna be all in one video. Go watch other videos. If you're a man there is much better advice out there

[@archaicamusement3871]

The thing is what can you do to improve yourself. Better higiene. Clothes for your body tipe. Good perfume. To be fit also helps. Those are general things that will make people see you as a person who present himself in a respectable way. Also, learn new skills and things, in order to have a good conversation. For all this things,you don't need money. Of course will always be people better looking, but the idea is about being your best. Not comparing to others

[@william_SMMA]

@@RedApple33333 keep your advice to yourself. Because it's so annoying to even hear you speak lol

[@fabianruiz4667]

People that obsess over their looks tend to be the least confident people I know, so in a way everything discussed on this channel actively works against building true confidence. Obsessing over your appearance manifests itself in trying to always appear beautiful which leads to constantly caring about what others think, which is the closest thing to an antonym of true confidence.

[@boredmockingbird1477]

One of the moat underrated channels on KZbin! Very good content, awesome voice.

[@joshiifruit5554]

I love your constant drive for excellence in your videos. You always go into detail which is very essential especially in this aspect. I really appreciate that you always tackle the causes and effects of things rather than just settling on what's on the table, only few channels do what you do and I'm glad that I discovered this channel. Also, I love the way you go into-depth in a clear and concise manner without using excess words unlike others who keep on rambling when they could've stated it in a short manner but still get their point across. Hoping that more people will notice your channel. I guess what resonated a lot to me in this video is when you said, "self confidence comes from social experiences and if you have positive social experiences, you get more confidence but those positive social experiences are more often than not correlated with your physical attractiveness." As a guy who's short, bullied and rejected a lot, I hate it when people ignore the fact that looks do matter in our society. I appreciate it when people are real.

[@codywhite9739]

What are some additional suggestions for more attractive face? I've always been a slim skinny-fat guy and I'm currently working out and eating very healthy but I want to get some extra pointers to maximize attractiveness.

[@RAUL-kt7vi]

You dont need to maximize atractiveness, i feel you though. Just try to be happy with yourself, you are enough, although i need to listen to my own advice.

[@drewskt1]

@@MC-eu8wm What do you mean by, 'Surgical options are best left to women' ??

[@MC-eu8wm]

@@drewskt1 whatever you want me to mean!!!

[@kfcmanager759]

Skincare, eyelash, eyebrows, lips, thick/dense hair, low body fat, if you still look bad after all that then maybe it's your bone structure that's the problem

[@ythelldoineedahandle]

One should attempt to improve their personality with the same fervour they put into their appearance? I apply this in my life and I am a better person for it.

[@pepplemint3735]

There's a difference between being attractive (not available to everyone) and doing the best with what you got (everyone can do this). That's where you get the comments about moisturising, sunscreen, changing your hairstyle/color, changing your eyebrows, working on your posture, losing weight... Because those are things you can actually work on yourself. And they absolutely make a difference, but truth is, for most of us TRUE attractiveness is only available through surgery.

[@kobab4270]

Could you please make a video on male vs. female gaze you talked earlier while talking about your hands?

[@lilane2400]

I would like to see a video on that too

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

Male gaze: you look like you don’t get laid Female gaze: you look like I’m gonna hate your personality

[@chrystianaw8256]

@@notproductiveproductions3504 not quite it

[@thaianydasilva4257]

Oh, that's why my friend and I tried out the same dresses and they looked SO much better on her, she's taller

[@zinnia5659]

That’s wierd my friends are shorter and I always thought the clothes look better on them

[@kyupin1075]

the reddit post asked for simple tricks to look more attractive, the replies gave some simple tricks. i really don't know what you were expecting. you really thought they'd be recommending plastic surgery as a simple trick or what?

[@ChickenNugget-zh9bn]

Agree, people are looking for some magical, top secret advice, when they fail to apply to themselves the most obvious and important ones.

[@yabe1496]

For ladies that are short look for Miroslava Duma, she is 1.50cm, but she is fit, not skinny or bulky muscle (well, also a millonaire) and looks amazing in outfits that generally looks great only on tall women. So short but with simetry is the key.

[@christiantava442]

Being short is a male problem. Short women are cute, short men aren't

[@runpheonix9926]

@@christiantava442 ofc the expectation to be tall is higher for men but that doesn't mean short women cannot have problems or insecurities about their height. btw short men are cute to me.

[@yabe1496]

@@christiantava442 I agree, I guess in that case attitude is everything. I married a short men, now divorced, and met a lot of them that their attitude make you just can not notice how short they are. Read about Napoleon Bonaparte.

[@livelyosaki80]

Thank you for the teeth advice my own dentist told me that i do not need to change anything which was frustrating for me because after wearing braces i noticed that my teeth are still uneven like some are longer and short. Now i'm concedering to fix that

[@violetmoon2283]

Just fyi, the "wider silhouette for shorter people" thing directly contradicts the advice of basically every professional stylist ever. Wider silhouettes make you look shorter. In my opinion, the older man looks "frail" because his coat isn't tailored, and his jeans are cuffed about an inch too high. The slightly loose shapeless coat makes him look thin, and the too short jeans make him look short.