r/AITA I Called Out My Sister After I Caught Her Selling Sick Husband's Possessions

[@lokisgodhi]

RE: Possessions Stepmother is right. OP went about it the wrong way. They should have found out about it when the police came and took stepsister away in handcuffs.

[@ComaLies225]

But stepmom would have been upset if she was taken away in cuffs because she’s “faaaaaamiiiillllllllyyyyyyyyyy”

[@chetarisin3035]

Bruh. The stepmom would have went off if OP called the police and got the stepsis arrested

[@mari0b036]

Had us in the first half ngl

[@kemonono]

@@mari0b036 fr

[@lokisgodhi]

@@chetarisin3035 Then they would have both had matching set of bracelets.

[@AnymousScreams]

In story one, the sister stole items like drug addicts do. The difference is, the sister took advantage of a sick person while not being sick herself. OP did right by the situation calling out a 19-year-old. That's not a child, that's an adult. Hopefully OP got that bedroom key back and OP's husband ends up okay.

[@barbarastorball2117]

Op did the right thing by calling her out in front of family so she couldn't dispute it in the lie to everyone, to steal from somebody with cancer is very low. The sister needs to get back everything that she sold even if she has to borrow money to get it. Is. Op should never let her sister back in her house again because this this sister hasn't learned she simply will probably find another way to steal until she's caught again. She's old enough to know that stealing is wrong which is why she didn't fess up until OP showed proof with the video.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

OP kind of deserved to have that stuff stolen. She obviously has a history of being a family doormat and that is why the sister took the stuff from her KNOWING she wouldn't get into trouble (and she didn't other than some harsh words lol). If OP wants to stand tall for herself and her husband, she needs to call the police and press charges regardless of what other family members say. Otherwise, OP can expect more doormat treatment in the future by her family.

[@robertx8020]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Sounds like "you were raped but then you shouldn't have worn those kinds of clothes!" if OP was a 'doormat' then she wouldn't have called out her sister! Nice way of victim blaming! You sound like a decent person /s

[@simonO712]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Wow, victim blaming much?

[@pansprayers]

Gawd, a nurse stole my FIL's pain meds when he was dying of pancreatic cancer. She tried to blame it on me. I volunteered a hair sample, she refused, got shiny metal bracelets.

[@candanceharrison3564]

Story 1: Press the charges! Once you get your/his stuff back, change the locks and go NC with sister. You should explain on the last day with sister that both socially and financially SHE'S dead to you whether your Dear Husband passes or not.

[@catandrobbyflores]

This 100% its time for sis to get a taste of how the adult world works.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: It's not even just stealing. It's her stealing while hoping he dies so she can get away with it. Had he not been sick, she never would have done this. You can tell she's banking on him passing away from his sickness so she can pass off his stuff being missing as "he's not here anymore so it's being sold" still a major AH move, but she was hoping his death and everyone's grief would be a good enough cover so that even if they thought she was an AH, she could get them to believe it was a reasonable choice. She's not just an AH, she's vile and toxic.

[@zoehicks880]

Yes! She should seriously have a mental health evaluation cause this shit is disturbing. I can’t imagine my mind going there even at 19.

[@red0421]

That's not toxic, that's just straight up _evil_ .

[@TsukiKageTora]

I’m glad people now know the sister in the first story is evil enough to steal possessions from a cancer patient.

[@lancerevell5979]

Absolutely press charges. She needs to learn that bad actions have serious consequences. The court will likely go easy if it's her first offense", but she needs a painful lesson.

[@laraq07]

And her coming over to HELP as your mom said was just an excuse to have the free run of your house so she could steal from you. Despicable behaviour.

[@kemonono]

@@laraq07 exactly, something about their little bond is making me think that the step mom was definitley on this too. She gives access, sis steals, mom acts like it's no big deal... hmmm

[@zoehicks880]

My 23 y.o. sister steals from our grandma with cancer. And everybody else in our house. My mom refuses to kick her out and makes excuses for her 🙃

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@zoehicks880 I guess set up something worth $500 in your room or somewhere and hide a camera to record it being stolen and give the recording to the police.

3:18 "Now every one is shunning her" Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of her actions

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

She needs jail time. That's being responsible for stealing someone's possessions, PERIODT!

@@MmmKayHuuNay agreed, but it didn't seem like op wanted to get to those lengths, so shunning is the next best thing, I guess?

[@red0421]

@@MmmKayHuuNay I kind of understand OP not going to the police _now_ with everything going on, but when her husband (hopefully recovers and) no longer needs her, I hope OP will take the evidence to the police and press charges because what the sister did is just straight up _evil_ .

[@somerandoonyt9553]

The influencer story. NTA. The trainer literally wants to get paid to advertise themselves to further their career. Try telling someone, "hey, pay me to mow my lawn. So it can be featured in a lawn and garden magazine."

[@xientau9028]

I'd say more like: "Pay me to mow your lawn, and then put an article about how good of a job I did in the lawn and garden magazine that you publish, for free."

[@sibyllah.7703]

Story 1: The stepmom's problem is that everyone heard that her daughter is a thief? She IS a thief! And no, she is not a child! She is an adult who stole from a (possibly) dying man...

[@indianspartan76]

Story 5: he'd be asked to help out time to time. He helped out more often than expected. He did what he was asked and had to put that on hold to do extra work. All these are things that deserve a massive raise. OP HUGE YTA and I can't believe he doesn't see it. He needs to re read his own post

[@loviebeest]

And instead of a massive raise he doesnt even get a raise to match inflation. So he is getting paid even less in the end.

[@xientau9028]

He did all that, and OP couldn't even mark him as "exceptional" during the review. OP is definitely an A-hole.

[@kingslime]

@@melodyharpole8272 or that the OP ends up fired, at least

[@patsymathews2953]

Go to the police, press charges for theft and send her to jail. Call CPS and report her for setting a bad example to her kids. Maybe the threat of losing her children might wake her up.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 5: Welcome to corporate America! Minimum wage is still $7 an hour...which it has been since 2009. Meanwhile, cost of living continues to rise, and my rent still goes up every year. Companies complain that employment is at an all-time low, but what they don't tell you, is that jobs below 15.00 an hour are the ones that are understaffed. Jobs where they pay you enough to live? Snapped up in a heartbeat. I can list company after company that has been making better money year after year, but still claim they need to cut back on their employees' pay due to "covid." All so managers like OP can pad their own pockets. Things need to change! YTA, OP. In companies that actually pay their employees what they are worth, production skyrockets, turnover plummets, and overall employee happiness increases. Bosses that did this noticed their staff started buying houses and having kids...because they could finally afford to *live.*

[@squeakybb]

Story 5: this man is picking up SO much extra work, to the point that it seems he's having trouble doing his hired job, to cover YOUR butt being understaffed, you don't give him the review he deserves, a 1%!?!?! raise, and then GIVES HIM MORE WORK. I'm in the same situation as him and I'll tell you now he's not going to stay much longer because OP is an awful manager and the company is horrible. YTA 1000%

[@lancerevell5979]

Sounds like my last few years as a state IT employee. I had a saying, "The more and better work you do, the more you are given!" Especially as when someone left, their position was removed and given to a different department. When I retired (early), my original 20 person team was down to five, and workload kept being increased. This is the recipe for disaster, companywise.

[@Deaznkid280]

Yeah that’s straight robbery, hope the guy and you find a firm and manager that appreciates you both

[@xientau9028]

Almost sounds like OP is running what the japanese refer to as a "burakku kigyou" (Black Company): a workplace that basically sucks the life out of their employees while they overwork them to death and give nothing back for their efforts.

[@pansprayers]

This is a GIANT issue in tech industry. My husband fought yearly for COL increases, and yup, was using his PTO to find a new job by year three because f*ck them.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Why tf is gf in story 3 mad at OP when she didn’t let OP know?! TF?! She admitted she forgot, like _everything_ that friend was coming and vegan. And then friend calls the food disgusting and still thinks OP is TA?! FOH!

[@AvyFerg]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who caught that BS. She's the worst.

[@ComaLies225]

I had to laugh when OP in story 5 complained about the employee not finishing his assigned work WHEN THEY CONSTANTLY CALL HIM to work the front. Not to mention giving him more work to prove himself after the employee literally went above and beyond to help them. OP just pooped all over him and lost a good employee. The lack of self awareness is pretty shocking honestly

[@aikikaname6508]

Yeah, and that’s how he treats a skilled employee whom his company is very dependent on. It’s no mystery why so many of his staff are leaving and suffering burnout if this is how he manages people. And if the staffing situation is so bad that new guy has had to pitch in 40% all year, hoe has manager still not come up with a solution?

[@ComaLies225]

@@aikikaname6508 also sounds like a bad manager

[@Barlmoro]

@@ComaLies225 but he saved sooo much coast in HR with his managing. i think most manager are so delusional this days...

[@francit4856]

Babysitting.......Don't understand why they OP didn't take the kids with them to the mall.

[@mattm314]

I'm laughing at the IG trainer story. Asking for exposure.Usually it's the other way around.

[@llamabrat07]

Yeah. Someone pulled an Uno reverse card on this situation.

[@odysseus2656]

Call the cops on the sister and have her charged.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. NTA When my husband was dying from cancer, someone who was in our home, stole 2 of his last 3 pain meds. I had a good idea who did it, no camera's in the house, and I told that person that if anything ever went missing in my home when they were there again I would break both of their hands. I was furious that they would do that to a dying man. 3. NTA For not reading your girlfriends mind. She should have told OP that her vegan friend had been invited. And then she blames OP. Some women...

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

I think his GF is the ahole merely for being friends with those floravore cultists, even before the crap they pulled and caused.

[@lenamarist574]

STORY 1: she didn't accuse her sister of being a thief, she confronted a thief who stole from them in such difficult times even though she, the sister, was supposedly helping them.

[@ScooterBond1970]

and had evidence to the effect

[@red0421]

She literally had a video of her stealing from OP and her dying husband. OP could have beaten her sister black and blue and still not be the AH. Who needs enemies when you've got family like that with knives ready at your back?

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 5: OP is TA, and the employee needs to provide in his analytics that the managerial staff (including OP) are the ones causing the issue as they are working the employees to the bone without any appreciation or adequate compensation.

[@ptaradactletime11]

Op is such an asshole he didn’t even give the guy a raise that matched inflation rate

[@pixelthesketch5257]

19 and already is in debt to the point she’d steal from dying family members. She deserved the call out, because if not, she’d not only continue stealing from Op and her husband, but the rest of the family instead. She’ll be the aunt that constantly asks for loans and “gifts” to simply scrape by.

[@lillyvonshtup7314]

Does anybody think that stepmom is benefiting off of sister stealing the bil’s stuff?.. #2 would you be upset if they’d take your dog to a “ friends” house that you didn’t know? And left him there? It’s the same feeling as they had..

[@andreasavanna5666]

Except she wasn’t asked to watch the kids and her brother just dropped them off. Maybe he should have just taken the kids to hi father’s place instead. Is a broken leg really an emergency? I don’t call someone 5 minutes before I want them to watch my kids and expect them to even when I have medical problems such as kidney stones which I needed surgery to remove.

[@seenobody2105]

@@andreasavanna5666 I would class the broken leg as an emergency because that’s something that warrants going to the hospital for almost immediately. Also OP literally went to the mall. Idk man leaving your brother’s kids at a stranger’s house (even if they knew them, the brother doesn’t and thus probably wouldn’t be comfortable with it) and going to the *mall* while their brother is taking his wife to the hospital is kinda shitty. Edit: also it was said that they were the only people available.

[@MizutamariVT]

​@seenobody2105 what the brother did is child abandonment.

[@MzBatts1011]

​@@seenobody2105 as a mom I'm not showing up with my kids at my sister's house 5 minutes before I have to be at the hospital because my significant other without making sure it's okay or she wasn't already leaving the house and if she left them with a trusted friend of her's it the equivalent of me leaving the kids with a babysitter that I technically don't know so I don't see the problem and I trust my sister's judgment that she wouldn't leave my children. Her nieces and nephews was someone that is dangerous or will cause them harm while I'm away and she's away doing whatever she already had planned before. I rudely drop them off at her house unannounced and unexpected because I was inconveniencing her and she's doing me a solid so therefore she can still do her planes while my kids are well taken care of and I can still take care of my medical emergency but I guess I'm just considerate and so are my sisters because none of us would do this to each other no matter their circumstances 🤷🏾

[@SHSR0]

Story 5 is literally the saying: 'people don't quit bad jobs just horrible bosses'.

[@Scotia__]

As a database admin & business intelligence analyst, story 5 pisses me off SO MUCH. Data analytics is exhausting a f when employers don't let us do our damn jobs and then don't value our work when we are able to do it. OP is super TA

[@pvtpy1e]

Story 3: Entitled party crashing vegans. I would have kicked them out on principle and asked the petulant girlfriend to leave with them. You give the cook plenty of time to prepare if anyone has dietary restrictions. To spring that last minute and to cop an attitude on top of that is so rude.

[@Pocket_Crab]

Not even last minute. I sure he could have made a salad for them if they gave him 10 minutes, but being snarky is why everybody hates vegans. Even vegans hate other vegans because of the attitude problems they have.

[@wplains]

Calling her a thief? Well, that’s what she is!

[@catandrobbyflores]

If the boot fits and all that

[@notevenlistening6072]

Once again, it's not an insult if one is just being described.

[@red0421]

Call a snake a snake and a traitor a traitor. If ever there was a time to burn the earth and salt it after and go no contact, this is it. I hope OP presses charges because what the sister did was just unforgivable.

[@johnlinton6118]

The sister needs to be made persona non grata and prosecuted to the fullest extent

[@red0421]

My family? Sister would have had to leave in an ambulance. Fucking disgrace of a human being! Absolutely evil to steal - not only from a dying man - but her dying brother in law! I swear, if she sets foot in the funeral don't let her near the coffin because she'll rob the corpse before he's buried!

[@muppetsrule1143]

I had a boss like the last story. Wouldn't give credit for being on time for my evaluation because "I haven't been here long enough to get full marks". They wonder why five people quit before finishing their contract.

[@Becks-and-books]

Story 4 LOL NTA. The trainer wanted free promo and got mad that she couldn’t get it for free. And giving a discount for that is such a steal for her.

[@lancerevell5979]

Yep, she wanted special consideration but would not reciprocate. Sounds like a typical Greedy Beggar. There is an old saying, "Scratch my back and I scratch yours!"

[@dallen3000]

Nevermind the video she already took of the op

[@fishbowl5308]

See i knew once i heard influencer thered be a greedy entitled person. Was kinda expecting it to he op because they can be oblivious turns out it was the trainer.

[@MsAnimefan95]

Honestly, the vegan friend sounds like she was gonna start whining about about the chicken even if OP had made food for her.

[@xientau9028]

Yup. I'd be willing to bet $5 that she'd complain about their "disgusting food" as soon as they sat down to eat, even if OP had taken the time to make a whole vegan lasagna just for her.

[@sibyllah.7703]

Funny, I was thinking the opposite. I mean, if there were vegan options on the table, she might lecture them about eating animal products but then she wouldn't mind being around "disgusting food"... In any way, she was determined to be rude, imo...

[@katt5896]

@@sibyllah.7703 Trying to lecture people when they are trying to eat is rude imo

[@bridgetw8688]

There’s no way to know, they might have been just reacting badly. The GF is the TA in that situation without a doubt.

[@FluffieXStarshine]

Story 2 - couldn't the op have taken the kids to the mall? They probably would have enjoyed it

[@jjgandthatsenough]

People stealing from cancer patients do not get to set expectations on how they get reprimanded for their disgraceful behavior

[@avalasialove]

You would think a nineteen year old would know that stealing is wrong. If she really needed to pay off her debts and rent, she should have looked for help elsewhere.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 So NTA, I am so petty I would press charges and show the cops the video.

[@gaxalee7392]

That’s not petty; that’s self-respect/respect for the proper owner.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

@@gaxalee7392 Family will think it is petty. Like the saying goes Play stupid games win stupid prizes and sis earns a record.

[@gaxalee7392]

@@TheHellsHobbit Fair enough.

[@ScooterBond1970]

The last story reminds me of rSlash's "choosing beggars" video today, in which a middle manager wrote an online article complaining about how they had to fire an employee bc he refused to work unpaid overtime and tried to set clear boundaries between home and work life.

[@sherryflanigan7680]

I am surprised on Story 3 that more people are not commenting on the fact that this woman no longer wants to be friends with his girlfriend. So she was an a****** for insulting the food and her host and then she's being an even bigger one by cutting off her friendship. Why would his girlfriend even want someone like that in her life? Neither this rude girl or his girlfriend sound right in the head.

[@CleopatraDK]

When my parents got divorced my dad didn't tell my mom that he 9/10 times dropped us off at our grandparents house or left us with strangers. My mom would gladly have kept us had he just told her. I still don't know who "uncle Sofus" is.

[@kemonono]

I am sorry to hear but that last part made me laugh a little.

[@ewandavidson7001]

She is helping, She is helping herself to your Husband's stuff. CHARGE HER!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@FlamesofJagger]

❤ 😍 💖 ❣ 💕 💘 💛 💙 always remember to take care of yourself. Much love Broken.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@louellacharlton4425]

hey haven't seen you in awhile. hope all is well. stay safe. PEACE

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@louellacharlton4425 heyo I hope u are well as well 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Prettypoisonswitch]

Broken you and Mark are some of the sweetest people on the internet. I wish you both lots of happiness and joy. 🥰

[@TheSapphire21onyx]

Story 1 NTA press charges Story 2 NTA she doesn’t have to drop her plans for kids that aren’t her responsibility. She got a babysitter who she trust, the brother is an AH and selfish for not even really asking if she could babysit. He just dropped them off without her even being able to refuse and the dad insulting her dogs who yes are 100 % more important than some kids sorry not sorry.

[@WadeAlma]

Her dogs are more important than some kids? You mean her nefews? What a vile person you are.

[@Shamazya]

In the story with the trainer, the trainer boiling down what OP does to adding some hashtags is ridiculous. She literally wanted a before and after shot which, while it may look effortless, takes a lot of thoughtfulness to do right. If OP didn't know what she was doing with camera angles and lighting she could very well make the after shot look worse than the before.

[@HectoGames]

Story 3: now im not saying he should break up with her, but this would be a serious dealbreaker for me. You dont get to make a mistake and then treat me like shit afterward

[@aina3387]

Story 2 is horrible. Can you imagine if her brother agreed to babysit the dogs while they went out of town and then leaving them with a friend? Hysterics.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

But she didn't agree to watch them. He called, said he was coming, hung up, showed up, dropped them off, and left. OP NEVER had a say in if she was going to or not.

[@aina3387]

@@SerenaSilverMoon She had a say. She could have refused to watch them. Also, if you don't care to inconvience yourself for a few hours to watch a neice or nephew in an emergency, don't ever expect anything from your family. She could have even taken them to the mall with her. My neice is 3 and I could still handle taking her to the mall with me while my dogs are at the groomers. It isn't hard.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 that is just evil to steal from a sick person. she deserves to be put on blast in front of the family. I hope she takes her to small claims court.

[@huinismith]

Story 5: And this, ladies and gentlemen, is how you destroy someone's work ethics. YTA.

[@lisear2926]

1st Story: Tell stepmother she raised a vulture and would be grave robber, she should be so proud.

[@DFullerLisa]

If the husband makes it the punishment needs to be that she sit down with the husband and explain what she did. She's got it on video and can press charges. However, with cancer, it's so draining that it's hard to fight.

[@meezerluvr]

Story 5: OP is like that teacher that won't give top marks because "nobody is perfect," even though the student met every stated requirement and answered everything correctly. A complete AH. A year wasn't long enough to evaluate the employee properly??? Well, let's make this new employee behave just like the ones he was covering for all the time. Mission accomplished. I wonder if OP knew that he/she was ALSO being evaluated by the employee. Looks like OP gets a massive "needs improvement."

[@mpmansell]

Story 5: YTA, YTA, YTA. With bells on. The employee should analyse the reasons why he was sabotaged by poor management, find a new job and, when he leaves, give HR and senior management his report and cite that as the reason he would recommend no-one to work for them.

[@sabrinahinton1774]

Story 2) NTA Its not like she had time to refuse he was already there everyone wanting to be mad at her for not wanting to babysit kids when she wants a kid free life emergency or not she has the right to live her life accordingly. Apparently he could've called someone else the dad stepped into put her down.

[@JR-zi4bj]

Whether in education or employment, there's nothing more demotivating than being evaluated using a scale specifically designed to make you look bad. If "Exceptional" is not actually achievable , then it should not be presented on evaluations as if it were.

[@somerandoonyt9553]

The vegan story: NTA for all the reasons stated in the video, but I'd like to add...during the entire time OP was cooking, and his GF (I'm assuming she made the salad In the kitchen) still never thought about the additional people and their vegan diet? Almost sounds like the GF was setting OP up. During the entire process. Shopping, prepping, cooking, etc. She never once was reminded about them? As far as I can tell, they're HER friends, and at best acquaintances of OP. (If you can even consider meeting someone a handful of time an acquaintance. I'm not sure if/where there's a cut off from "we've met" to "acquaintance" to "friend"

[@laucorn123]

To be fair they sounds like your typical Vegans. As for the idea the GF set him up. Its possible her reaction is kinda extreme. Makes me question if she's looking for an excuse to break up.

[@POOKIE5592]

Seriously? You can't skip a trip to the freaking MALL to help your brother/niece/nephew in an emergency?

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Sad to say but the sister is going to get away with it. As low as it is for her to steal from a cancer patient, mother-in-law is going to make sure that that baby gets away Scott free. Cut contact with her. You see your burning on the sidewalk don't even stop to pee.

[@ComaLies225]

Yea. If sister thought getting reamed by family was bad, it’s nothing compared to getting arrested

[@Grimmdus]

She's lucky she didn't call the cops and press charges.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Wow, the woman who wouldn't look after her brothers kids during an emergency... I live alone with 5 cats and a dog. My furry family are like my kids to me. I don't have or want kids plus I struggle with loud noises and people being in my face... Both of which kids are known for 😂 so being around them is uncomfortable at times. However, if a friend or family member contacted me in an emergency asking to look after their kids, then hell yes I am looking after them. Of course I will help someone who needs it. A dogs groomers appointment can be rescheduled, an emergency can't.. Also, I would be angry with my sister if she left my DOG with a stranger. Doesn't sound like this OP has any form of empathy.

[@FredRated1967]

That first story, file a police report and demand the monetary value of what she stole or you're pressing charges and taking her to small claims court.

[@Roedygr]

VEGAN : The aggressive Vegan girl wanted to shame everyone into becoming Vegan. If she just wanted to eat she would have said "do you have anything suitable for vegans"? instead of "is the main course Vegan"? She then referred to the food others we eating as "disgusting". This woman should be barred from polite company. Your gf made two errors. She did not tell you about the two extra guests and one of them was a rabid Vegan. If she confessed she might have avoided the uproar. But she lied to herself it was your fault. If she keeps doing that, you will have to leave her. You made a wonderful dinner. No good deed goes unpunished.

[@brigidtheirish]

Maybe I'm becoming jaded from watching these videos, but I kinda wonder if this really was 'forgetting.' Definitely agree that rabid vegans should be banned from police company. They rarely seem to get any real comeuppance, though. They don't even get the ban hammer online when they start comparing people who not only eat meat but have to *audacity* to live in a farming community to Nazis and calling us 'reprehensible,' 'filthy,' 'ignorant,' and 'liars.'

[@saratronus]

@@brigidtheirish Not to mention most vegan arguments say that we R torture murder and abuse animals Which in the wild most animals are brutally murdered by one another and sometimes in the case of most orca's attacks they do it for fun And don't even get me started on mill zebras. The reason why we insert semen Into females it's because most males are very aggressive in the process injuring the females It's just a way to keep everyone safe. You know I don't really like to see a vegan be put in a middle of A Savannah and see what they do

[@saratronus]

I feel like the girlfriend was told last minute that guests were coming like they tagged alone Like didn't RSVP or anything they just Last minute Told her Hey we're coming And the girlfriend's just pissed at that and is directing it on to her boyfriend which is a shitty thing to do But it would just make more sense

[@brigidtheirish]

@@saratronus Exactly! A family friend is a dairy farmer and he was always annoyed when the company he bought sperm from mixed in some with whatever chromosomes make bulls. Not only were they useless for producing milk, but having a bull in the herd was *dangerous* to him, his kids, *and his cows.*

[@brigidtheirish]

@@saratronus Except she said afterward to him that she knew they were coming but 'forgot' to tell him.

[@testtickles7648]

Story 2: I would be pissed if I were the brother, too! I don't care if they trust the person or not, I don't personally know the friend. You can reschedule a "doggy spa day", you can't reschedule a medical emergency. And OP could have inquired about taking the kids to a friend when the brother showed up, as well, rather than just do it. If the brother opposed then OP could have rescheduled the dogs appt or taken the kids with. And I agree with other comments...what does the size of OPs house have to do with the story aside from gloating?

[@joaolima7131]

Really, I understand not liking children, but it seems OP hates even being around her own nephew and niece, she could have taken them to the mall too for fuck sake.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 1: OP's sister is basically a grave robber.

[@tnm1697]

That last guy really drank the corporate Koolaid didn’t he

[@CryWolf-sm9iw]

Holy shit does the OP in the second story reek of shallowness and entitlement. It was a medical emergency that couldn’t be avoided. The mall and the doggy spa would be there the next day. And to threaten her father with not walking her down the aisle, girl would be lucky anyone showed up to this wedding.

[@cheskydivision]

Did sister really help op out? Or was she just there to steal. A lot of thaught went into her actions and she did I repeatedly. Did step mom know about it from the beginning?

[@tovelokiwifeodindottir9936]

2nd story did everyone conviently forget the op wasn't given a chance to accept or deny? Yes they are still TAH but everyone is acting like she definitely said yes.

[@aina3387]

Story 3, the friends realized they weren't invited or not thought of well enough for their friend to have told the boyfriend they are coming. They might have been embarrassed or just realized the girlfriend isn't a good friend and thus stopped being friends with her.

[@AndyyWithAY]

OP going to mall is so bad in story. So, she really found and paid someone to watch the kids instead of just taking the kids with her. And the size of the house is irrelevant. Why did she bring the up??

[@audreynothepburn7663]

To gloat I guess?

[@FoxgloveWanderer]

If I were OP in the first story, I'd arrange for a friend to stay at her house during the future funeral, you know, in case certain people conveniently decide they aren't wanted and don't show up to the service. (in this case it might be best to invite her just to keep her sticky fingers where people can see them)

[@red0421]

It's easier to evade a ship than a submarine. But it's fun either way to sink them to the depths. If she shows up/gets invited, have at least 3 people watch her like a hawk because you take your eyes off her for a second and I bet she'll steal off the damn corpse or from the bedroom after "getting lost finding the bathroom".

[@Davtwan]

Dare I play the video to see how bad OP’s family gaslight her to the point she feels like she has to even ask this question?

[@dreamfired]

The sister didn't help op. She "helped" herself. Op needs to get the police involved. That will fix the sister's rent problems. She'll get a bed and 3 meals a day all for the cost of ruining her family relationships.

[@lizfritz6546]

I heard the title of the influencer one and it made me nervous but after hearing it she is NTA. I work in social media. I work with influencers. She is doing something at a discount too. 1500 off? That’s 50% off of OP’s services.

[@NewYorkJennifer]

Vegan Entitlement. It's one thing to eat a vegan diet, but calling the food disgusting when the cook didn't even know you were coming is childish and acting morally superior (when you aren't). I'd never have them in my house again.

[@laucorn123]

So they acted like typical Vegan's lol.

[@red0421]

And I know its not "all vegans" that act like this, but... about 90% seem to.

[@Pocket_Crab]

@@red0421 all vegans DO act like this. People aren’t vegan to have a healthy lifestyle, people are vegan so they can say they are better than you. The worst part about these people is they are only vegan as long as they feel like it and will scarf down burgers and steaks and say ‘I am just having a cheat day’.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 🤗🤗💜💜

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: NTA I would have posted it online, take the evidence to the cops. and tell everyone she knows.

[@greendaywonka4872]

First of all I absolutely love the title pic and the background, awesome man. And second of all what the hell? Stealing from a dying man is literally as low as it gets. Despicable behavior from Op's sister.

[@MizutamariVT]

A lot of people in Story 2 keep saying "but you agreed to watch them" when the point of the story is she literally didn't agree. Her brother legally abandoned his children at her home without her consent. This is literally a crime. What the family is doing is also a form of abuse. While the injury was real, using an injury or tragedy to justify bad behavior is manipulative and wrong. You don't get a blank pass to harm others just cause you've been harmed.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: One yes Police now regardless throw every last book you can at this woman. But Depending on how long my father had been married to STEP Mother I'd be hoping deeply This opened his eyes and made him wonder about the caliber of woman he married. To raise a daughter who had no issue doing what Stepdaughter did and being more up set it was made public.

[@AvyFerg]

Sis would have to go to jail for her own protection. I don't think i could behave so well in my grief

[@mem518]

Babysitting story. My SIL invited my then 10 year old son for an overnight weekend, his first time away without a parent, and I let him go. He loved her and his cousin and was excited to go. Around 11 pm the first night, he calls me to come get him. (50+ miles away). I asked him why. He told me his aunt and uncle dropped him and his cousin off at a friend of cousins and he was very uncomfortable. I asked him where did auntie go. Oh, she went to dinner and casino that night, so she dumped the kids at someone else’s house to sleep there! I was furious! Called her to go get him, take him home to her house and I went to pick him up. Last sleepover EVER!

[@AvengeTheTRexOfSteel]

Story 2: OP is only the asshole for bringing the kids to a stranger. Op's sibling didn't really ask for them to watch the kids, more like warned them that they were dropping the kids off right before they did. Yes, it was an emergency, but just assuming that OP would drop everything and watch kids for who knows how long

[@LadyJuse]

Story 2: Why couldn't OP take the kids to the mall?

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Story 5 Geez no wonder the staff is taking time off from burn out if they all are worked half as hard as the new hire. This doesn't serve the business at all because soon people will be looking for better options and it'll go under.

[@k.a.4522]

Story 1: 19 is NOT a kid. She knows better and I would have called the police and left it at that.

[@toothless3835]

Story 2: she didn't agree to take them. They were dropped on her without her agreeing to watch them. she could've called the police for child abandonment if she seriously didn't want to deal with her brother's kids. But she called a friend and paid the friend to babysit, which the brother could've done. I get why he was taking the wife to the hospital on his own, ambos are expensive, but really, you can't just drop a kid off at someone's house without first getting them to agree to look after them. which from the sounds of it, he didn't do.

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

!!!THIS IS WAFFLES!!!

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Mark you're beautiful! I've been studying for my math GED all day. I'm confident I'll pass!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You got this

[@abbyjackson5288]

Good luck 🤞

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

Good luck! I took mine 3 years ago and aced it, don't stress (I'm not super-duper smart lol). It was easier than expected. Now I'm a college graduate and I have a "good enough" job lol! But I am making it through life okay. Good luck buddy, I know math sucks!

[@Silence-1170]

Happy days to you all! I hope today is going well for all of ya amazing waffles!

[@louellacharlton4425]

Can't add anything they have said it all! geez. Thanks Mark. As usual you are the best. Stay safe please. PEACE

[@jessical4866]

Story 5 is like “we hired him for work A, asked him to prioritize work B, and then got mad work A isn’t getting done”. Make up your damn mind.

[@LadyJuse]

Also for story 5: Gee, I wonder why so many workers call in for a mental health day

[@fcold9402]

Employees You can't tell in a year if an employee is exceptional? Here let me help, no exceptional employees will work for your company for very long. Get used to average or below average employees.

[@Ambidexter143]

A 1% pay raise doesn't even match inflation. The guy basically was taking a pay cut. OP is totally TA for giving a guy a decent evaluation but refusing to even give an inflation raise. No wonder his company is short staffed, management is fucking over the employees. Also I hate the ideal "you did a good job but I won't give you a good evaluation for your first year's time". If someone does a good job then they deserve a good eval.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 5: YTA - He's doing what's called 'working his wage.' He did, in fact, have an exceptional first year, and instead of rewarding that, you crapped on it. No wonder he's no long willing to put in extra effort when you literally increased your expectations of his workload, then didn't compensate him for it. Trust me, it's far more cost effective to give him a better raise to retain him then it is to have to train a new person from scratch when he leaves for a better opportunity for himself. He owes you NO loyalty as you've shown him none.

[@aikikaname6508]

Story 2: FFS take the kids to the mall and use the promise of sweets to keep them in line. I’d understand more if they were toddlers or if brother had a habit of ding dong ditching them, but it sounded like a genuine medical emergency and I get the feeling OP did this more out of principal than genuine inconvenience. If OP had made it clear to the dad it was impossible and it was a choice between her friend or finding another babysitter she’d be above board Story 5: wooow, with a manager who holds their employee doing lots of extra work they asked then to do against them in performance reviews, I wonder WHY they’re having burnout and skeleton crew issues. They’re a garbage manager

[@jakeand9020]

Story 2- From the title I literally said out loud, "no, not the AH" thinking how I'm sick of family expecting child free relatives to watch their kids. The lead up confirmed that initial thought, figuring I knew where the story was going. Had to eat my words. Holy heck YTA with AH frosting. Hope OP has no intention of EVER having a relationship with brother or nieces/nephews, because it's not going to happen. Story 4- Damn, full of surprises this video. An "influencer" that is NTA, I didn't know it was possible.

[@yewwily9563]

Story 1: unacceptable. If that was my sister stealing from my sick husband, it would have ended up in me smacking her to yesterday. Disgusting behavior.

[@Becks-and-books]

Story 2…. Wow, YTA. Can’t show up for family because it inconveniences them? OP needs to think about something other than them self Also, wtf does the house size do with anything??

[@joaolima7131]

OP must really hate children or her niblings to do what she did, she could have taken them to the mall too.

[@brittbrann5797]

Story 1: she doesn’t take it far enough. Instead of confronting her she should have taken it to police immediately

[@hannahdavis5725]

Aaaannnd once again, people can't read minds or predict the future! Also OP in story 5, YTA, boy this is the clearest example of one of the many things wrong with work culture today, crappy managers! Hope Leo finds a better place that actually values him.

[@Guitarbarella]

That dude is incapable of being a boss, like seriously he can’t hear himself?its people like him that stuff businesses up when they don’t value staff, the dude was only asking for more than an indexation raise which is a as given anyway! Frankly giving him extra work to impress you I’m surprised he didn’t quit on the spot for the boss being a patronising a hole.

[@Buff_Helpy]

The sister from the first story reminds of in the King of the Hill Christmas episode where bill is suicidal and Dale starts stealing his stuff even though he's not dead.

[@randomchump7072]

Huh... I can't believe that buff helpy likes mark narrations