r/AITA Kicking Out Father's Girlfriend When He Passed, She Claims She's Pregnant | Am I The A**hole

[@fcold9402]

1.NTA. Dad shouldn't have been able to kick out mom in the first place. Mom had rights not girlfriend.

[@bird5306]

story 3 really proves school isn't for learning it's about grades

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

Yep my uncle didn't finish highschool stoped at 8th grade and started working at a plant in the 60's to early 00's and he won awards and became the highest ranking plant member he was even gifted many awards for safety he didn't finish school and had Bipolar autism and dyslexia but he was the most accomplished person I know I miss him dearly

[@brigidtheirish]

Yep, pretty much. Was home schooled after elementary and even *during* elementary I learned way more just listening to my parents than I ever did in class. Most of what I learned in public school had nothing to do with the official lessons. "Rules only apply to those who'd follow them anyway," "group assignments suck," "people are jerks," etc.

[@ilbercgross4736]

Just wait for this kid to go in and get that professor that only gives out one A and one B for the class. Or the professor that flat out states, 50% of all his students receive a failing grade.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@ilbercgross4736 There are really professors like that? I wish I could drum up a bit more surprise, but tenure is a bitch.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@ilbercgross4736 Wish I could drum up a bit more surprise at that. Tenure sucks.

[@amanur1518]

Story 3: High school math teacher here, truly OP NTA. I teach AP Calculus and my grading breakdown is such that it's impossible for students to pass my class without doing work. I do this because for every student who's like OP who can do well on exams without doing any of the assignments there are 10 students who would attempt a gambit like this and fail miserably. I can't believe this teacher had such a horrible grading rubric in the first place. Seniors not wanting to do work is not a new thing, there's even a name for it - Senioritis. It really boggles my mind that any teacher would overlook what we can all easily predict the students will do and then try to screw them over when we mess up. I am almost certain that teacher had at least one colleague who warned him that this is a problematic grading breakdown. Kudos to OP for self-advocating and learning how to make a system work best for them - both skills that are just as necessary in life as hard work.

[@justin09756]

I think it is smart that you compensate for that. I also think it is an important skill for OP to be able to work out how much they needed to pass the class and not need to do any extra/unnecessary work. budgeting is not just for money. Budgeting your time and energy are extremely important skills and different people have different effort requirements because no one is the same as another person. I didn't get to learn this skill until recently, after I had gotten diagnosed with ADHD which means time budgeting is even more important for me. I can't say OP is an ass, but for sure the teacher was one

[@brigidtheirish]

@@justin09756 Yep. Budgeting time and effort are just as important. Something I *also* struggle with because of ADHD.

[@dandotvid]

The point of your class is to learn the material, right? So if someone can learn the material without turning in assignments, but passes the tests with flying colors, they've shown they learned the material without having to do all the busy work. Now if you want to argue that part of the class is actually about doing busy work, that's fine. Teachers sometimes forget that students have more classes than just theirs. There were times when I had so much homework there was absolutely no way to complete it all in a satisfactory manner. Sometimes I had to prioritize a class I was struggling in actually learning the material and slacked a little on classes I knew the stuff 100%. TLDR: If your students can show you they learned the material, that should be all that matters in the grand scheme of things.

[@amanur1518]

@@dandotvid You make a good point - but students who can perform on exams like OP are really few and far between. I try to make plans that will have the most benefit to the most students, and most students don't succeed on high stakes tests. I work with the other teachers to ensure that they're not overworked and we're not over-assigning. In 7 years, I have had maybe 3 students who could do well on all of the exams without doing any work, and they were released from my class to just take the AP exam. The vast majority of students are more successful when there's a balance of assignments and assessments. Honestly, weighing tests more heavily would be less work for me because I would have less grading to do. Especially in something like AP Calc the students need lots of practice. Weighing assignments and exams more equally gives them more chances to show they learned the material - which as you say is what matters.

[@amanur1518]

@@justin09756 This is a really good point, I do appreciate my students' need to budget their time and I'm not a huge stickler for homework in high level senior courses like AP Calc. Most of my students would rather do a weekly assignment than have so much of their grade rely on tests. Even the brightest students can have an off day and throw their grade off if they do poorly on one test. The students have to study anyway and I think of their assignments as built in study time that bolsters their grade in case the mess up on an exam.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: ESH. They should have controlled their kids. I mean running around the table or restaurant is a little uncalled for without parents controlling them. OP should have told the parents that the kid is being loud and bothering him, if they don’t comply, call the manager over or something. You just don’t allow children to be annoying or loud and disruptive in a restaurant setting people pay money to eat there. You also don’t allow yourself to be bottled with such anger and resentment to call a child, who made a mistake, a stupid idiot.

[@kemonono]

aye! I feel like the assholes in the story are supposed to be the adults, the only one who was just vibing was the kid because they didn't know any better. smh.

[@JUMALATION1]

Even if I was OP and totally hated kids here in this story, I would probably have crouched down a bit and told the kid "be careful about this wild running, you might get hurt". Unless a kid is physically assaulting me just to intentionally annoy me, I wouldn't take drastic action like this. I might have a bit more patience than most child-free people here since I have worked in kindergarten, but name-calling a kid is not okay. Also a quick comment to the parents to keep an eye on the kid might be in place.

[@kemonono]

@@JUMALATION1 Hey! Child free person who doesn't work with kids here: It's not that we lack patience this guy is just an arsehole and doesn't want to admit it. The decent lot of us just mind our own business and are like you. The most childcare I do is babysit siblings, and even then that's different because they're not strangers.

[@personman8734]

Honestly I’m going a lot more towards YTA. OP was looking for a reason to hate this kid from the jump because how dare a child exist in OP’s presents and I doubt he was being near as rowdy as OP describes. It sounds like he was just being a loud kid and probably was trying to go to the bathroom too but OP decided that justified getting berated by a grown man. I’m honestly surprised dad didn’t introduce himself into the picture with a swing

[@hazeltulip]

It YTA for me. He was mad the child was even there.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA if there's a kid, they can spilt whatever inheritance there is(nothing,lol). SHE has zero rights to anything and needs to bounce ASAP.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. The mistress is entitled to *nothing.* Giving her 28 days to move out is generous. Even if (and that's a *big* if) she's pregnant.

[@justabunneh6490]

Restaurants where kids aren't allowed?! WHAT?! That sounds amazing. In my area of the US, that doesn't exist. Dave and Busters doesn't even kick kids out until 11 at night, and they're a literal bar.

[@tabithavanderpool418]

Lol dave n Buster's isn't a bar. there are arcade bars I've been to a few, and no kids allowed in them

[@brigidtheirish]

I've heard of it but never seen it. Probably the sort of place that doesn't print the prices in the menu and if you have to ask you can't afford it. Lots of pretentious meal descriptions in the menu, too, I bet.

[@Steampunkkids]

When I lived deep in America’s Bible Belt there were restaurants without a separate bar. The bar had to (physically) be in a different room from the restaurant portion of the building or else kids weren’t allowed. Then, I moved out West. Here, I have literally eaten dinner with children at one table, and Larry Flynt dining with Joe Bobbitt at the other table. It’s like two different worlds!!!

[@brigidtheirish]

@@Steampunkkids Spent four months in Ireland for school (and a lot of sightseeing). *Everything* happens at the local pub. If you want to be sure to meet someone, you meet at the pub. You and the kids want a bite to eat, pub. You and the boys want to watch football and place bets, pub. They don't check ID for drinks, either, so long as you can see over the counter.

[@Norinia]

Lmao Dave and Busters is more an arcade than a bar, with meal deals that bundle said arcade. Hell, one of said bundles is a bowl of bacon Mac and cheese (omg that Mac and cheese is divine, but my point still stands, it’s Mac and cheese, what kids usually get)

[@LOLtz1]

Story 3: people who are saying school is important, I want to know how much of high school math do they actually remember and is using in real life.

[@stevenk2817]

Honestly an excel or word class would be more useful than say... Algebra. That being said I have applied the Pythagorean Theorem when I needed to square a structure to 90 and had a measuring tape instead of a square. Granted I've done this maybe 5 times in the course of 10 years.

[@daorignaldumbucket]

For sewing crystals onto clothing, you need to buy crystals made for clothing and a specialized tool to affix them to the fabric

[@daorignaldumbucket]

Also there's more than one way to do it, like crystals with specialized holes. Nowadays there's also the tool I mentioned to do it. Both are very costly and very time consuming

[@amerlin388]

Story 2. I've never actually done this, but I've grinned and asked my wife if I can pretend to be pleasantly indulgent and reminisce with the parents about I remember when my own kids were small and how when they cried as babies or misbehaved as toddlers I would WALK AROUND OUTSIDE WITH THEM TO CALM THEM DOWN SO AS TO NOT BOTHER THE OTHER CUSTOMERS.

[@15oClock]

1. Sounds like a paternity test wouldn’t change anything. You can't squeeze blood from a stone. 2. We can't control other people, but we can control our reaction to them. OP did *nothing* right. 3. Retroactive grading for bad attitude is ridiculous. Something tells me OP might do well in politics. 4. Damon's done too much to consider reconciliation! His behavior is baffling and contradictory. 5. Karina was taking advantage of OP's kindness. If she wants a dress, she'll need to eat a lot of crow.

[@harkonnen_3240]

they can do dna test to see if she and bimbo's baby are related. fathers dna is not required.

[@davidreynolds8865]

story 1, she's a single mother with an alcohol problem.... the councils/housing associations will be lining up to help her.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 4: NTA, how are you supposed to love a child that hated your guts because you married his father? Constantly wished you were dead, begged your husband to leave you, and all the other stuff he did. How are you supposed to love him? Opie did literally everything to try to get him his kids good side but he rejected his stepmother at every turn. Yes step children are not obligated to have a relationship with a stepparent if they don’t want to, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t try to at least be civil as long as you’re coexisting in the same house. OP really try to have a mother son relationship with him but he did absolutely nothing but showed hate towards his stepmother. The fact that he got other family members to call OPL spiteful bitch but he didn’t get his way shows he hasn’t changed. clearly he only went to reconcile due to ulterior motives…. You can only put up with someone’s abuse for so long before you completely lose any type of emotional investment in that person.

[@Godviahh]

tf is up with the comments on story 3? those yta commenters sound jealous that op is able to game system. get tf over it

[@gaxalee7392]

Op may have had selfish reasons for doing what he did(and I’m not saying selfish negatively, it’s fine to want to find a way to chill and still do well), but this teacher was probably screwing over a lot of other students just so he could spite Op. Op putting him in his place by going over his head probably saved at least half of the calc students.

[@Godviahh]

@@gaxalee7392 imo that teacher needs to be fired. unprofessional as fuck.

[@se4307]

Story 3 don’t hate the player, hate the game. Smart person! Knows how to stand up for themselves too 👍

[@elaexplorer]

Story 4. I wouldn't be surprised if Damien found a more recent will that left the house to his step mother and split the other assets evenly between the children. The only way it makes sense that he alone was left the house is if the house was originally his deceased mother's or it was an old will before the remarriage.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA the system is set up where your grades are based on certain things. Literally every student decides which of their assignments are worth the work. This teacher wanted to ruin OP's future college chances because he used hisnsystem against him. School is about learning and OP knew the material well enough that he could coast. ALL seniors take a break in senior year where they can. The whole point of senior year is to transition from childhood to adulthood. Learning to game the system is something that we all need to learn. The teacher changing grades retroactively is a big no for me. Edit: this "in college if you don't turn in most or all assignments you'll get dropped" thing is nonsense. Literally every teacher is different. Some require you to come to every class or you fail. Some have you only take tests. ALL OF THEM have grading rubrics that you can :game" to get a desired grade. All you have to do is find out if there are any assignments with an absolute requirement and turn those in and the rest is just figuring out how many points you need to pass and you're golden. It also depends on what your major is and what school you go to. I've NEVER had a teacher drop a student because they didn't turn in work. They either got the grade, or they didn't.

[@diamcole]

Really? That's so interesting, I had several folks in multiple lectures get dropped because they weren't turning in assignments.

[@DrJoy-cw7lt]

Story number two. ESH. The parents suck and op overreacted. He does have a point however. I wouldn’t yell at the kid. I would yell at the parents.

[@brianlawson3757]

A note on Swarovski crystals for anyone curious. They can be purchased as loose crystals for jewelry making or mounted as mini-cabochons and sewn into fabric. They also come as settable rivets through Tandy Leather. But, they are crazy expensive compared to cut glass. Very pretty, but not a cheap embellishment by any stretch of the imagination. I don't even offer them as an option in my own custom work, even though I really want to make a rainbow themed handbag with them. A bag of twenty rivet backed crystals in just one color used to run for $15 US, and that was almost four years ago. Gods only know how expensive they are now, and to use them like rhinestones would easily push a dress into multiple thousands of dollars for full coverage *just in material cost*! For one person to make a dress like that, with those materials from scratch, that Bridezilla would be staring down both barrels of $10k *minimum*! Holy smokes! I can't even wrap my head around that sort of build! 🤯 I run into the same issue with specialty hardware and good quality spikes for my leather projects. Everyone wants the 1 inch chromed spikes for their chokers/bracers ( they are objectively badass 😎). But, after they find out what the cost per spike is they usually back down. Everyone wants something wild and fantastical looking, and while craftspeople *can* make that vision a reality, it often comes with a heavy cost. People in general just don't know the real costs involved, and because they see something that was quickly thrown together in a Malaysian sweat shop on a website they honestly think someone like myself can replicate it for close to the same price, just with my personal flair. Nope! 😅OP was definitely in the right place telling this parasite of a friend to pound sand!🤣🤣

[@lilydragonsupersta12]

Incase Anyone is curious Hi am a Baby Seamstress About the wedding dress. Depending on the type of crystal they ordered, you'd ether have to individually glue or sew each of them on which can take hours to weeks of labor depending on the design/size of the crystals. Plus the hours of altercations/designing that goes with in the base dress. The reason why wedding dresses are so pricey Especially the crystal ones is because usually its all handmade with hours -weeks of labor going into it. Most dresses I know of with detailing and stying like that goes for 5K plus depending. Basically is a fuck ton of work that OP isn't getting compensated for. If any one what's to add more feel free to comment.

[@kemonono]

holy crap that's ridiculous, sweet jesus no thankyou lmfao. I appreciate all of the work seamstresses and anyone of that field do because I made a very tiny shirt once and it was not only difficult it was extremely tiring and made me ache XD.

[@ThiccOgreBoi69]

Not a seamstress, but sew as a hobby. 100% this. It would take weeks, possibly even months if you worked on only the one project, to cover an entire dress in crystals, especially if youre sewing them on. At least with glue you could lay out a large part of the dress flat and glue them on continuously. With sewing them on, you have to work with each individual bead, tying the string off to keep them in place ect. It would be absolutely INSANE to ask for a wedding dress coated in swarovski crystals and pay the seamstress any less than 15k, maybe even 20k id say.

[@blackroseinbloom]

Story 3: I was that senior in high school that took 4 elective classes and 2 AP courses. Most of my days would be just having fun because I had gamed the system. Let’s face it, school is mostly an institution meant to have kids grow up normalizing the 9 to 5 mentality and just being another number in the system. Completely NTA

[@spibow]

Totally agree - And homework inherently trains students to have absolutely zero work/life balance, especially for ND kids. Op clearly does well. Homework isn't the be-all end-all

[@melanellie_art]

More like 6 to 2 mentality lol. Why do they have to make school so earlyyyy

[@somedragonbastard]

@@melanellie_art legit including travel my school day is realistically 8 hrs minimum

[@MiniKitty27]

@@spibow THIS oh my god my roommate had a shitty school life growing up and has been taught and internalized the *WORST* work/like balance ever. like to the point where she feels guilty for needing to sleep/"oversleeping" when she has homework to do. also i had to fight her to advocate for herself to her professors so that she can get either better/fair treatment, accommodations, extensions, etc. she hates doing it because she thinks of it as complaining and she was always told that complaining is incredibly bad and you need to just suck it up and take what's given to you otherwise it's rude or whatnot. growing up i was always told that there's no harm in asking but like, they key is to know when to ask and how to ask

[@captainclown2718]

Story 3 made me laugh. When most of the comments mentioned how homework and school is so important I just awkwardly shifted in my seat after not donig any homework except the ones I knew would be collected by the teacher 100% for the last 2 years of school. My grades did not change at all because I was really good at knowing wich homework would be important...

[@strangastrigo]

Same. Grades only really matter if you intend to go to college and that's only useful if you have a career plan that requires it (I'm still pissed the school counselor told me trade school was a waste of time. I'd have been so much happier and much better off going to one of those!)

[@Imolos]

And I think OP did this just to have a free time for his last year in high school.

[@KyrieChii]

@@strangastrigo Wow, that counselor was not only spectacularly _wrong,_ but an asshole. The careers taught at trade schools are usually always in demand (job security), are usually available no matter where you go, & can be extremely well paying.

[@gerble36]

Ya, I could probably count on one hand the number of times I did homework in high school, and still have some digits left over to count how much I studied for exams... haha. The thing is, tests and exams count for a very large portion of your grade, and I aced almost every single one. Class work and exam marks got me through high school easily. Never had to do homework. If I got a teacher that was gung ho on forcing homework being done, I simply transferred out of that class and retook it the next semester.

[@deadseven3474]

Homework shouldn't be a major part of grades anyway imo, it's there to show you understand the material, not to carry enough of the grade to determine whether you pass a class. I think you should maybe get a B+ or an A- if you never did homework, and maybe the A+ should be for someone who understands the class AND puts full effort into the course. Why punish a single student for knowing exactly what he wants and needs to do? Would he have been as upset if the student just really sucked at the class and didn't do the homework?

[@amysmith6791]

Depending on the style of crystal: some are like sequins that you sew on using smaller beads to block the hole in the centre. Some are like earring gems with a hole at the top. Mostly to avoid threads blocking the bling, they are applied with strong glue or heat. Also, on average a Swarovski crystal is about $1.20 PER GEM! With between 1000-2000 on an average dress, she was expecting at least $1200 in free materials.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Plus the price of all the other materials and stuff so 1500 easily depending on what kind of material.

[@dragonleheart2137]

Not to mention if there was a train on the dress, especially a long one, the price would skyrocket even more considerably. Sound like OP dodged more than a bullet here.

[@KyrieChii]

@@dragonleheart2137 And we don't know if any sort of head decoration (or a veil) was supposed to be included (made out of the same materials as the dress to match). This could've been a crazy expensive/time consuming mess.

[@ThePinkBinks]

I was going to type this but you’ve already done it so no need. 😁

[@Greenwren]

I found listing by kilograms. Swarovski is just like any other quarz crystal. So you could also buy cheap quarz beads by the kilo and just use that. But that bride doesn't deserve that either.

[@puli_dreadhead]

High school/College story: it depends what major/career OP is interested in. My major was/is art related and when taking ceramics I barely had any outside homework other than designing sculptures. During my other art classes like art history or animation there was a lot of outside work to do

[@savageinkstudios2969]

2) Ive actually left resturaunts without eating because of screaming kids, and only once or twice leaned in to tell the parents they are assholes before leaving, but never to the kids. Its not their fault their parents suck. Additionally though, i have a 3 and 6 year old in my care and neither of them would ever act like that in public, and if they ever did you can bet id throw down the cash for the meal and we would be leaving the moment they started acting up. Thats only happened once or twice when they were very young and the lesson stuck.

[@gaylenewood7707]

Well letting kids run around is very dangerous cause of hot food getting served and hot drinks why risk having your child scarred for life?

[@gaylenewood7707]

Oh hey when I was four years old I wasnt allow to run around in the restaurant my parents would've spanked me for even trying to get out of my booster seat..

[@KyrieChii]

My little brother & I sure as hell never acted like that, or got out of our seats at a restaurant. The only time I remember either of us being anything but polite in public is when we were super young & didn't feel well (when everything makes you fussy, cranky, or cry). And I agree, I can't STAND screaming kids, but would never direct my frustration at the children (& like you, only rarely at the parents depending on the situation).

[@gaylenewood7707]

@@KyrieChii Well I love kids but I cant stand kids who screams and cry or whine especially in stores like Wally world friggin parents just stands and visit ignoring their crotch goblins or hose.goblins are opening up boxes or cereals or dumping out bottles of dish soap on the floor the parents just keep talking like their precious didnt do nothing wrong..

[@KyrieChii]

@@gaylenewood7707 LOL, I'd never heard the _'hose goblin'_ variation before! 😆 And I've seen my fair share of kids having tantrums in department stores (particularly the toy aisles), but OMG, I guess I've just been lucky enough not to ever encounter (or see) a child wreaking havoc the way you described. That's just insane! And enabling parents are just _the worst.._ They deserve to get their asses _nailed to the wall_ by the store for allowing such things.

[@1978honore]

Story 3: NTA S/he DID do the work. They were getting all A’s ffs! It’s alright to not be balls to the fucking wall all the time. Jeez…S/he was playing by the rules and the teacher changed them when he felt like he was "losing" the game. Work smarter not harder.

[@dustyrose192]

Fun fact, you can use the singular "they" when you dont know someone's pronouns. Not trying to be mean, trying to help

[@munenightwing]

@@dustyrose192 This ^

[@1978honore]

@@dustyrose192 I’m aware. It was done purposely but thanks.

[@enkiimuto1041]

14:03 - "Your ability t o game the system is probably not going to serve you well in college or your job" ...Dude that is exactly what will make him succeed.

[@viciousrape]

dude what. that kid who didn't do his homework because he calculated that he can still get a B in the class.. *how the fuck can anyone say he's any kind of asshole*

[@charondusk5608]

Story 2 - As someone who has zero tolerance for loud noises and has walked out of restaurants because of children incessantly screaming and their parents doing nothing to stop it....I have to say ESH except for the kid. The child didn't know any better because they weren't being TAUGHT any better, so OP is the AH for shouting at the child like that. What he should've been doing is screaming at the parents for not teaching their child better manners and letting their child not only cause a disruption for other patrons, they were also letting the kid put himself AND other people at risk, what with hot food and cutlery/plates being carried around. OP was within his rights to be mad, but his anger should've been aimed at the shitty parents, not the kid. Also, god I would LOVE for the restaurants in my area to be child-free at ANY point....but nope, kids come first EVERYWHERE here, even in bars/pubs.... Story 3 - Sorry, no. I'm a teacher and the mere thought of any teacher retroactively changing how grading works just because you don't like one student playing the system makes me sick. It's punishing everyone because you have a grudge against ONE person and it is petty as fuck. NTA. And in all honesty, I know kids here in the UK get too much homework as it is...

[@dandotvid]

Story 3: OP still needs to know the stuff to do well on tests. He was just not going to do the assignments. If you know the material for a class and can show you know the material for the class, you should pass the class. There are exceptions of course with classes where participation is an actual part of the course, but calculus is not one of those classes.

[@breeinatree4811]

When I make clothing for others, I always have them buy the materials and I donate my time. This has always worked for me.

[@KyrieChii]

Definitely makes sense... That way the only aspect you're gifting are your skills, time, & effort. (I can't _imagine_ trying to take advantage of someone who was going out of their way to do something so lovely for me...but I'm not the sort of take advantage of people in general).

[@bgcorporation]

Story 3: There was a comment I wish you read because it completely encapsulates my thoughts on it. Everyone is glossing over the fact that he was accepted into the college. That means he already knows and has the work ethic to get there. He's just taking it easy because he's already done the work to get there. He's working smarter, not harder. Everyone sounds bitter and is acting like he has to be a cog in the machine. Thing is he already knows about the wort ethic. If he didn't have the work ethic he wouldn't have been accepted already.

[@beautifulinfinidee7233]

Omg I was wondering why nobody else thought this... He has already been accepted. He's taking an AP class which means he's already gotten the grades and shown he is capable of doing the work and has the work ethic and drive to succeed. They don't just allow you into AP courses. You need honors classes first and then some classes you need to test and the teacher hand picks their students. What I think he's doing is taking it easy after busting his ass to get into college before he needs to do that again once university starts. He's avoiding burning out before he even begins. Nothing wrong with that. Sounds like he's a smart kid. Best of luck to him in college.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

No you >:(=

[@Mewse1203]

You! You too!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659 you too🤗🤗💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Mewse1203 💜💜🤗🤗

[@jennilynne1977]

You're wonderful Broken! Hugs and love to you!

[@sinbingaming4419]

Story 2: I have sensory issues and persistent loud noises can make me oversensitized and angry- children fall under that category. I live with two kids under the age of 10, and my GOD the days I'll wake up and immediately be overwhelmed by the noise of screaming before I've even gotten out of my room... I can't count how many times that's happened. But (and here's the kicker) I never take it out on them. Because they're kids. In a public setting, you approach the parents like "hey your child is disrupting the restaurant, can you do something about it". Not call a child an idiot??? Are you crazy? I'd suggest counseling as to why you thought yelling at the child- who is actually too young to properly understand why people don't find his playing fun/funny- was the right move. YTA big time. Christ.

[@brigidtheirish]

Exactly! I've got similar sensory issues, so even though I *like* kids, I can't spend a lot of time around them. I have, unfortunately, yelled at my niece when she's having a tantrum or simply doing something she's not supposed to do and *not listening* when I'm babysitting her, but I *don't* insult her. It's just a lot of "stop!" "don't do that!" "LISTEN!" Thankfully, my sister understands my limits, so I rarely end up watching her for long enough that this becomes an issue. Also completely and *totally* right about how OP *should* have approached the situation rather than be *dismayed* immediately on *seeing* a child.

[@AshleyMaklin]

Whether you choose to sew them or glue them, you still have to apply each one individually by hand, my GOD I could never! That's literally THOUSANDS of them depending on the size of the dress and silhouette.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: As someone who also isn't the biggest fan of the small, loud humans, I have to say YTA/ESH except the kid of course. The parents are also AH's for allowing the small human to cause such a disruption that someone snapped like that to begin with. Not saying OP is justified, just that it never should have gotten to that point to begin with. Edit: I want to have my own restaurant one day, and I actually plan to have scheduled times where kids are and aren't allowed. I want it to be for everyone, and I'm aware not everyone wants to go somewhere for a date night and potentially have kids screaming in their ears and running around causing a disruption 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@VidWatcher01]

You might as well not even have kids in you restaurant at all😕

[@KinguKirai]

stary 3 is a NTA

[@fcold9402]

4. NTA. I would stay no contact. He has said many times you are not his family. He wants something.

[@SilentDecepticon]

4: He absolutely does want something. Nobody treats someone like shit for years then turns around and wants to be a buddy buddy unless there's something else in it for them..

[@marionmarshall8438]

If parents will not keep their children under control, in public restaurants and shops, it's them that should be called idiots. I had three very lively boys and they were not allowed to treat these places as playgrounds. It is too dangerous to have uncontrollable kids in restaurants, where hot food is being served.

[@yaff1851]

Story 3: NTA. You cannot change the rules retroactively, period. Why would a teacher worth their salt even want to? OP cannot retroactively change their behavior, so there’s no purpose other than pettiness.

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

If I was that student that teacher wouldn't be a teacher anymore and if that didn't happen I would make his life hell

[@katherinekurzius290]

So Damon wants a relationship with you, his stepmother, but NOT with his half-siblings? I call BS!

[@lianabaddley8217]

Adulting is hard. . . Lol

[@Cat_chan420]

Hey Markee, don't know if anyone else has answered this question you had over a year ago, however beads and crystals are generally sewn on by hand either by strands, fancy designs are mostly done on the side then stitched in, or individually stitched in. Very time consuming, and can be expensive. Usually most dresses only have beading or crystals on a specific section of the outfit. Hope this helps and everyone has a wonderful day!

[@Nortarachanges]

Also seems like it wouldn’t make any sense to have them all over the dress, because then you’re just begging for trouble any time you move your arms, bend, and sit down ^_^

[@dianesmith2555]

Yes,be glad someone didn't break your face,call manager over, Ask him to handle things, that is his job, move them, move you,free meal.

[@dsm4462]

Swarovski Crystals are beads, they can sew them on. I make jewelry and use them. They are expensive I can’t imagine the cost for a whole wedding dress!

[@mercycunningham2813]

Well 800000 Euro with 500000 Cystals. Weight 46 kg. But this was Victoria Swarovkis weddingdress so she might have gotten a huge discount on them ;). It was designd by Michael Cinco who does not come cheap either.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

With the third store you're not in the wrong here I get the feeling you found on loophole in the system and the teachers pissed off that you found it and he's retaliating by taking away because your hard work. You're not in the wrong here but you may want to keep an eye on the other teachers just in case

[@Nixie3545]

Ok i googled it. 5000 8mm crystals of that brand cost almost $1900 without tax! Depending on style of dress, mermaid or princess or slim etc., it could take anywhere between 50,000 - 500,000 to coat the ENTIRE gown! That means it'll cost $19,000-$190,000 before tax! Not to mention the effort in stitching! This, since they are glass of sorts, would also make the gown ridiculously heavy... What a bridezilla!

[@JayeEllis]

Story 2: Next time, the proper reply is, "Ouch!! Who is in charge of you?"

[@judithjeffers7666]

Last story about the dress: Swarovski crystals are expensive and the bride or the seamstress could not afford it. The crystals have holes but depends on the shape as to which direction they are.

[@pasalking7760]

The Story 3 ESH are the professors that made life harder for no reason

[@VidWatcher01]

Wow. People who dislike/hate kids usually had shitty childhoods themselves. OP's father must said some similar shit to him growing up

[@novakane701]

The Bridezilla probably got the idea of sewing crystals on the dress from the movie - "CRUELA".

[@Arkryal]

Regarding the student... What he fails to see is that while he's had no trouble maintaining straight A's, that's because the US Public school system is fucking horrible. The curriculum of a high school senior is not much different than that of a 7th grader (or equivalent) in many countries. Knowing your ABCs and the ability to count to 25 is good, but that bar isn't set very high. When you get to college, you will most often be graded on a curve. The point is to eliminate those who shouldn't be there, and advance the best students up to higher levels. It's not about meeting a minimum requirement, but progressively establishing yourself as better than the average person in the same field of study. It's a competition. And you will be competing with kids who went to far better schools, who have a head start on you, sometimes by years. Private and prep schools, advanced homeschooling, foreign exchange students, etc. Fucking off for the last year does not do you any favors. Believe me. I fucked off through ALL of highschool, and literally tested out of every class in the last two weeks before graduation and was one of the highest scoring students. I thought I was smart. Turns out, schools are just idiot-farms, lol. Went to college, and I had no idea what was going on, and had to work 10 times harder than anyone else to catch up. I eventually did, but it wasn't an easy path. The job of the teacher is not "grading". Grades are just a tool they use. An assessment metric. Their job is to certify you are competent in the curriculum and ready for advancement to the next level of study. If you don't do the work, they cannot attest to your abilities. This is especially true in mathematics where competency is established not by getting the right answer, but by getting the right answer consistently in a variety of scenarios to prove an understanding of the underlying logic. You could get perfect marks on every test and still be a complete failure in that world. The work is tedious, but it needs to be done to get an accurate assessment. If you don't produce that work, the teacher cannot do the assessment he was hired to give. I do think retroactively changing grades is a shitty move. The teacher already assessed the quality of that work and found it adequate. The quality of work done hasn't changed, so the grade should not change. HOWEVER... mental retention is a factor, and assignments early in the term should have dramatically lower weights to them than those assignments at the end of the term. A paper in September (start of the year) is not equivalent to a paper in June (end of year). So if you're thinking "I just need to get a good score on 5 assignments", make sure they're all weighted the same. Assignment 1: 100 questions, weight of 1.0 Assignment 2: 100 questions, weight of 1.2 Assignment 3: 100 questions, weight of 1.4 Assignment 4: 100 questions, weight of 1.6 Assignment 5: 100 questions, weight of 1.8 Assignment 6: 100 questions, weight of 2.0 After the first assignment, you have 100/100 = 100% Fail to turn in the second, you have 100/220 = 45%, NOT 50%, even though you have 100/200 questions answered correctly. It's a weighted scale, and your grade will deteriorate with the addition of new assignments. In this common system of grading, your past grades do diminish in value over time. It's not that they're being retroactively changed to maliciously hurt you, they're just corrected for depreciating cognitive retention. Many schools, and especially teachers in mathematics use this or a similar system to grade. It's not that the teacher is being a dick. He's just providing an accurate assessment. And this is usually geat for students. Because later assignments are more heavily weighted, if you fall behind, you can very easily catch up through study. That first mid-term you bombed can be negated entirely if you apply yourself and ace the final. And it's an AP class, those often grade on a curve, so the bottom X% fill fail, even with high grades. If the bottom 25% is culled, even if they got 89% on every assignment, they don't have B's, they have F's. It's about how you compare to your peers, not an objective measurement. They typically don't do that in your senior year, that's a tool to see who is eligible for advanced placement in subsequent years before graduation. And in highschool at least, they don't usually reduce to a failing grade, but to the median grade of the bottom percentile with some floor value. So a student with an 89% might get a C- instead of an F if everyone in the class did better than them. But these grading systems are normal and common, they serve a purpose. If that's what happened in this case, OP would be the asshole. If the teacher was just being petty, however, then Everyone Sucks Here.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 2- NTA. I am sure that kid learned that day to not act like a little AH. He probably got better parenting from op than from his parents

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

Story 1 they should get the high court involved so they can kick her out on the 28th day on the spot so it won't take months, but days

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

The AP calculus teacher was right. OP should have to do the work. Here in California if you don't do homework, you fail period.

[@LadyDragon11135]

Story 2 ESH, who the hell insults a child??? The parents suck here too for not controlling the child (and if the child can’t be controlled you DO NOT take them to a restaurant)

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: ESH The parents suck for letting their child be a disruption to a bunchbof people at a restaurant. Had OP said something to the parents, he'd be NTA. Instead. He called a CHILD a stupid idiot while yelling at him in a restaurant. That kid didn't know any better and didn't deserve to be called names regardless of his behavior.

[@sylvanaire]

When I was a kid, 1965 or so, mom and dad took me to Howard Johnson’s, which is a casual family restaurant. I don’t think I was badly behaved, but I did spill my glass of milk when I was waving my arms around. They didn’t take me out to a restaurant again for many years. And now 60 years later, I still consider eating out a treat even though I’ve been doing it a lot since they both passed. I can see having an adult yell at a child at a restaurant making an indelible impression on that kid, whether it is a good or bad impression, who knows.🤷‍♀️ P.S. I don’t like kids either& he’s definitely ta.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Do not gift that dress to Karina, or she will think she's won if you do!

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S2: Restaurant that forbids kids? Judging by the fact that there is a kid there and they weren’t turned away from the door, I’m gonna press x to doubt on that. OP was horribly out of line. At first I thought he was gonna mention that the kid was being a brat in some way, but all he did was be rambunctious and BUMP INTO OP’S LEG. Yes, his parents should have been telling him to sit, but calling a child an idiot for a simple mistake is a bad look. I don’t want kids and I still don’t insult them to their faces. S3: NTA and good on OP. Highschool grading can be arbitrary and unimportant in a lot of cases, and often highschool teachers will grade based off of very little. I barely did any homework in highschool, but I got good grades purely on behavior (I was painfully shy and quiet). Homework in college and homework in highschool are drastically different, and, at least for me, college work is far less annoying and tedious than highschool work, especially since you are studying what you are interested in rather than boring subjects. OP will be fine.

[@hume6900]

There are definitely restaurants that if they don’t outright ban children, they actively and I mean actively discourage their presence. These are usually higher end, upscale restaurants where significant business, charitable organizations have meetings or clients are entertained. There were odd occasions where some of these meetings would come up with very little notice and my parents were unable to get a sitter for my sister and myself. That meant we were also at those dinners. My parents were usually complimented on my sister’s and my behaviour, we were quite young at the time, my sister maybe somewhere in the 2 to 4 year old range and I would be maybe 5 to 7 or 8. We were taught how to behave in various situations. We would have crayons and paper or a simple story book I could quietly read to my sister. In no way was this restaurant a McDonalds or Wendy’s.

[@emanx222]

With your first paragraph, no one said that the restaurant the OP went to forbided kids. There's nothing to doubt 😂 What was said was that there are restaurants that forbid kids, big difference :)

[@anthonyburke5656]

Story 1, NTI, exactly right, she gambled and lost.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

To put crystals on a dress, one can do k e of two things. First, glue the on with fabric glue, but they aren't very stable and can fall off during wear. Second, and most tedious would be to sew the crystal on through the setting on the crystal. This method would make the crystals sturdy, and most like won't fall off.

[@ThePinkBinks]

I think he wants to pretend he is loving towards his step family for someone and you play your acting role. A wedding? A child he wants you to look after? Money he thinks “family” should provide? He clearly still hates you so this must benefit him somehow. No love is unconditional anyway.

[@princesssunshine874]

Okay, I am not a kid fan.. I don't love being around them, but holy crap! That poor kid. I would have gone over to the parents and told them. "I am sorry, but I almost tripped over your child. I just wanted you to be aware so he doesn't get hurt."

[@oakenshadow6763]

Love IS conditional. Parents have a right to be hurt. He REPEATEDLY said he wanted OP to die. He even tried to kick OP and his siblings out on the spot. OP has a right to be hurt as he is an adult. You try with kids. But adults hurt.

[@robertx8020]

Story 5 : NTA .. But I wonder if OP's friends are either 1.on drugs 2. Also extremely entitled 3. Stupid 4. bad friends 5. all of this? How could these friends tell her that OP is TA???

[@DarqueQueen7]

Story 3? NTA. I had a instructor fired who was selling my stories in English Comp to magazines and gave me Fs on the assignments so I would get angry and not look at my assignments again...or so she thought. It was my adviser that found MY assignment in a Reader's periodical and showed it to me. The first thing I did was burst into tears and ahowed my F marked paper to him. He calmed me down, apologized and called the department head from his class to come down immediately for an urgent matter. Turned out she was stealing stories from people in all of her classes and was put on disciplinary suspension. She had to pay us the money she got from the periodicals she sold our stories to, she had to change all of our grades to passing ones and she had to write apology letters to us. Scary part was I was one of her favorite victims. That was why I was meeting with the advisor; I was failing English Comp 3 and he wanted to know why. He knew about my assignment because my Head thought what I had written was very funny and witty and he had passed it to others to read. My advisor was one that had liked the story, so when he read it in the periodical, he wanted to know if I had submitted it or not. Or, if I had plagarized it. That's why I showed him the matked paper. And i left that institution with passing grades for all my classes and never went back. I'll never trust a community college that allows anyone to instruct a class so long as they had a minimum of 60 college credits.

[@DevilFruitZero]

Love is always conditional. He's your children's half-brother. NTA.

[@JRMAV1]

Story 2: When your average redditor goes out in public

[@bryzcrochet]

Teacher teach, then they test to make sure the material has been learned. I have never understood punishing someone for knowing what you want them to know. Unless the assignments were required from the beginning, made clear in the syllabus, in order to pass the class the teacher is simply being petty because they resent the smart students abilities to learn without all the busy work! As a teacher I would be proud that I was teaching well enough that the student got it,that is the goal after all. This is the product of an educational system that teaches to mid level students with no ability to adjust for those that need less help.

[@lauraprokopetz3255]

He fought the child and the child won🎉

[@dianesmith2555]

Bills, the kid just learn paying bills is hard!

[@Ospyro3em]

I'm really not a fan of children who are just allowed to run around a restaurant, and can't understand why the parents think it's acceptable, but OP's reaction was too much. If you want to say anything at all in that situation, a polite "Careful- watch where you're going, please" is enough

[@Metonymy1979]

Nightmare neighbors and bad landlords are some of my favorite shows. LoL.

[@lina9535]

Story 5: Meanwhile I was in a bookclub as a kid-teenager, I believe it's called Penny Girl now (classic horse related things), and we'd get items with Swarkovsky crystals on them

[@joan-mariacbrooks]

After taking a required class in Eveningwear/Wedding wear, I refused to go anywhere NEAR doing wedding wear. The lady I bought the veiling from for the headpiece even discouraged me from doing it as she was cutting it for me; a customer who came in and was a jackass confirmed it for me that Wedding wear and its accessories was never going to be something I would do. I did break my rule for the sister of a friend and did her veil after the one she was going to borrow from a friend fell apart ($600 veil!); I did hers, beaded it with real pearls by hand and got a lovely bouquet as thanks since I didn't want to be paid. OTOH, half sister wanted an elaborate wedding gown that had ruffles cascading down the back of the dress and I told her no. I don't do sewing for anyone any more; while I do a lot of Beading, I don't do that either, especially for family. Don't let anyone use your talents without compensation.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Story 2: Excuse me?? You're a grown man yelling at a five year for bumping into you? You were mad at him before he even did something. I suggest getting help cause damn man, your social skills can rival one of a house plant.

[@yobabycolin2933]

Plus, he was acting entitled on top of being cruel. Like, dude. There were other people who have enough self-control to ignore the poor kid. You could have just asked him to be more careful.

[@digitalharmony26]

The house plant comment got me 😂 I feel that’s offensive to house plants. Some people just shouldn’t be allowed in public.

[@mathewporter4272]

As the oldest of 4 siblings, the oldest of which is 7 years younger then me. I disagree with you. Kids need someone to give them hard lines to help them learn both safety and social rules. What if that had been a server carrying Scolding hot soup or steaks with the knives? And at a Sit down restaurant it is socially required that you be quiet and calm, I had to teach two autistic little brothers this so I can speak from experience on this. And the parents should have been controlling or at lest Rangling their spawn

[@darkshadow5581]

The kid is literally running around a restaurant without the parents even caring. If you see someone bring a child into the movies and they start crying, with the parent not doing anything, only to get upset when they run down the ailes and run straight into you, that's a valid reason to be upset. Considering all OP said was "stupid idiot" not like he cursed at the kid. I can't believe the amount of people who think it's OK for a child to run around in public without a care for the where they are or the feelings of others nearby, but take offense at calling a ruckus of a kid a "stupid idiot." I see this no different than if the parents were letting music play without speakers in the restaurant.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@mathewporter4272 I'm an older kid to a brother that has a delvopment disorder as well. That child is five years old and if it would've been the server with a knife or something I would blame the person responsible for the child. The only reason Op is the A-hole to me is that its obvious he dispised that kid before it did anything and for how he yelled at them. Telling them to be careful is one thing, insulting a child and seething over its existence before they did anything is another

[@nikkid7838]

Story 2: when my daughter was around 3-4; I went out to dinner with a few friends to a very upscale restaurant. She always has a “to-go” bag with a small toys (ie Polly Pockets )to keep her occupied for when we go to church or something similar. While we sat there I kept noticing this older woman keep staring at us/her. Finally the woman got up to leave stopped by our table and said “ you have the most adorable and well behaved little girl” My friend chimed in “ yes, she is.. it’s called good parenting” the lady agreed and left. I still to this day wondered why was she staring? Was she ready and waiting for my daughter yo erupt?

[@hotrodmercury3941]

It took two years to remove our tenant out of my grandmother's house after she abruptly stopped paying rent.

[@Thedragonlover95]

2nd story, I can't help but be reminded of that moment in Family guy where Brian yelled at a screaming baby. Does anyone remember that moment?

[@idkkkk7588]

Story 2: Going against the grian but ESH except the kid. Yelling at a child is a jerk move but so is not controlling your damn kid in a public place and letting them run around all over the place. (Unless it's a place specifically for children to play in) The child was young enough to not know any better tho so he gets a pass.

[@betsysanders4524]

As for story 2, he shouldn’t have yelled at the child. It’s not the child’s fault they act that way. It’s the parent’s fault. Something similar happened to me. I worked as a sales rep at a military grocery store & had just recovered from a car accident. I entered the store early to avoid most of the customers, except the “early birds”, the elderly who need extra time to shop. As I was walking, a child or someone’s grandchild came running around the corner not watching where they were going & ran into me almost knocking me over. He fell & started crying. His mother expected me to apologize. I asked if she was the military ID card holder. She was not. Her parents were. I explained that I had just recovered from a car accident & her child running into me could seriously could have re-injured me. The mother said so your going to blame that on a child? I said no I blame that on you. You are his parent & his poor behavior is your fault. You allowed him to believe this grocery store was a playground. It is not. If I, or one of the other seniors shopping in the store were injured by your child, it would be your parents who would lose their ID card privileges to shop here, not you. You & your child, actually have no business being in here. This time is a safe time for seniors who need extra time to shop, guests technically aren’t allowed right now. If I chose to make a complaint, your parents could lose their shopping privileges. Now, I suggest your child apologizes for treating a grocery store like a playground & for running into me before I call a manager. The grandfather had the grandson apologize & then made his daughter & grandson go to the car. He also apologized to me for their behavior. He didn’t want to lose his shopping privileges. I never saw the daughter & grandson in the store as guests again.

[@michelleayotte2364]

If I was the first OP I'd offer to take the Mistress to a Dr or clinic for a pregnancy test. If she refused I'd bluntly tell her, "That only proves that you're not pregnant, tramp." If she did and it came back positive, than I'd immediately demand a paternity test .

[@gloriasowle8083]

You should have called the manager over when the parents allowed him to run around the table. The manager then should ask the parents to ask the child to sit down.

[@katwitanruna]

The crystals are glued on. One by one. It takes hours. And hours. And hours. Plus the cost of the stupid crystals which bounce all over the fricking place and hide all over the sewing room. Oh! Was that my outloud voice?

[@Mewse1203]

Story 5: NTA she was being really entitled. OP offered her a modest gift and she kept trying to up the cost. She was a nightmare to work with. Op has stopped herself from being taken for a ride and had not left her without a dress. She just needs to pay. OP learned in hindsight that she didn't have money to pay for a dress...so how was she going to pay OP? Don't treat people like shit, especially if you are reliant upon them.

[@maddy8328]

Restaurants that don't allow kids? Sounds beautiful. I don't like kids too and will try by best to never be pregnant. BUT I have young cousins who I love dearly and if I saw them being yelled at for being a kid, I would straight up destroy OP.

[@llamabrat07]

There are some restaurants that don’t allow kids at all, and some that ban them at certain times of the day due to the chaos & damage children have caused.

[@perfectlyqueer1658]

Story 3: NTA. This kid has been working hard for years to reach a goal and now that they’ve done it, of course they’re not going to just continue to grind for the sake of it, to show obedience or an unfailing work ethic or whatever. We really expect K-12 students to have no autonomy and to just do all the work set in front of them just because the adults said so, and to resist would be disrespectful and irresponsible. I heard some advice once that goes “life is about juggling responsibilities, and it’s not about not dropping any balls, it’s about knowing which are made of rubber and which are made of glass.” Prioritizing is an essential life skill. Perfectionism is not. I went the perfectionism route in school and it made me suicidal. Taking it easy the last year of high school is not going to ruin OP’s work ethic and college achievements and career prospects and lifelong happiness and etc. That’s ridiculous. There are way too many teachers who have control issues and are obsessed with making kids’ futures hinge on each assignment and it needs to stop.

[@Pankachu102]

Story 3 - I had the exact opposite problem. For my Junior English class, they gave us a summer reading assignment (given at the end of year from our Sophomore English teacher). I spend the entire summer reading The Iliad, writing chapter summaries, marking up the book, and writing the definitions of the words I didn’t know (per the instructions given). Well, let’s just say I came to the first day with my binder full of work and no one else has anything. Over the next few weeks, a few kids brought in a “marked up” book for the assignment, but most people just didn’t bother. Per the syllabus, this assignment was worth 10%+ of your overall grade (which was dumb). As we got through more and more of the year, it became extremely obvious that a significant portion of the class was going to fail because the didn’t do this assignment and the teacher changed the grading to make this assignment extra credit. Let’s just say I was pissed that I wasted a whole summer and ended up with over 100% in the class. To be fair, this is also the class that had a lot of group work and after the first few weeks the teacher put me in a group of 4 with myself, a drug dealer, a kid who just got out of juvie, and a guy who was the drug dealer’s best customer…. So I’d say that was about on par with what I came to expect from that class.🤷🏼‍♀️ At least I have some weird drug dealer stories after sitting with them for a few months.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

ESH second story. I'd get angry like that too, but calling the kid idiot was a bit much. The kid's parents NEED to teach the kid to not suddenly start running around at a restaurant, clearly the parents acted like their child was an angel when there was a VERY real danger of being tripped and breaking your skull!

[@gessikaguerra1351]

Last story: OP needs to learn the meaning of written contracts

[@Charles-sd7xu]

Child free restraunts aren’t a thing in the us at least on the east coast, they’re all bars

[@Lyca31]

I once went to a restaurant with my daughter a few years ago. (well, really it was more of a Wetherspoons type place, like a posh pub, not an actual restaurant) It was really busy and noisy. We knew kids were allowed, but didn't realise it would be that noisy, we didn't complain though, we just decided to try and enjoy our food. Well suddenly I felt a sharp pain on my foot. (I was wearing sandals) I looked down and there's a toddler under my table and he's just bit my foot like a zombie. My daughter looked under the table with me and we tried to get the kid out. (It was a biggish round table that seated four, but there was just two of us sitting there) I lifted the toddler from the floor and looked around for a family that looked like they were missing a kid. No-one even looked at me so I said a bit loudly: "Excuse me folks, is anyone missing a little boy?" A woman looked up, she had a few kids and adults with her, it looked like two families or family and friends. She confirmed the boy belonged to her. I said something like: Please keep an eye on him, he was under my table and he's just bit my foot. she replied with "He's just exploring." Nothing dramatic happened afterwards. I didn't say anything else because I don't like conflict and she just took her child back and I noticed he was right off again crawling round the other tables. He didn't come back near me though. I guess he didn't like my foot lol.

[@ThatsViews]

Story 2 Sadly "no children restaurants" no longer seem to be a thing, any longer, at least in Britain.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗 also sleep well

[@jessical4866]

Big respect for OP3. Homework has repeatedly been proven to not improve learning. Everyone who says OP is setting himself up for failure are missing the point: OP has learned the material because he’s passing his exams.

[@navi2710]

Story 2 - I did the bare minimum to get past academically as I was always good at school. But when I went to uni I had to get 1.1 in everything to be able to obtain a 1.1 in my degree.

[@tharbeapancake]

In america the only child free restaurants are bars lol to be fair

[@tophesshtzgiggles609]

story2: ESH, OP for yelling at a freaking untrained 5 yr old-he literally has not been taught better. Parents of 5 Yr old are AHs. It's fine to firmly tell a child to stop the activity if it's harming you. But then you should have spoke to the parents(in a normal voice) to say, you need to control your child before he's harms himself or hurts someone.