r/AITA UPDATE I Got Upset AT Husband For Eating Part Of Our Dinner For His Lunch, He Got Mad

[@HowlingEclipse]

Giving an animal away that you've had for 18years... He is going to regret it and despise his wife in the end

[@iris5678]

Wife was doubling down on Reddit as well. She's in for a horrible marriage. Her husband needs to dump her.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@iris5678 did he really have the cat for the whole 18 years? I'm still on the fence about a judgment without knowing, also the part about the baby, I've heard stories about cats/dogs being BOTH protective & hostile towards kids/babies.

[@Flufferz626]

@@zerobolt9506 dogs kill babies/children at a much higher rate than any cat, especially high energy aggressive breeds that don't do well without good handling or training like a pure Staffy.. From my experience working in a cat specific shelter very rarely does anyone adopt a senior cat (above 8 years old). So likely this cat has been with the guy for over a decade more than he's been with this nasty woman.

[@ezyo1000]

@@zerobolt9506 Does it matter? OP is unwilling to part with her 3 year old dog, and I guarantee you the husband has had the cat longer. I usually hate when people say get a divorce on Reddit but this is one of those few times where I would agree. OP is 100% TAH. In her post it's all about me me me. The one who needs rehoming is OP

[@vixievonlyn]

Alot of the time the dogs are the issue not to be mean to the op but alot of cats aggression to dogs are because dogs do micro aggression based on the difference between cats and dogs like they don't get them socially Alot of times you can get cats to get along with dogs but you have to train your dog and also give your cat alot of upward space

[@impagain]

I feel like it's extreme to say, but if my partner bullied me into rehoming my cat, I would literally never be able to forgive them. That poor cat doesn't understand why it's been rehomed. It just knows that an intruder came into its house, stressing it tf out, and then it's been taking somewhere new without its family. It makes me so sick to think about, I'm literally starting to cry. That is so upsetting, and I hope he gets the poor cat back.

[@impagain]

Mark thanks for the rehoming warning. I didn't think I would need it, but I may just skip those stories in future if they come up again because I've gotten so upset over it 💛 thank you for making warnings and giving timestamps!

[@Flufferz626]

I see it every day working at a cat shelter. It is taxing on my mental health (not to mention the cat's!), but I'm happy to be there for them. You get some really asinine reasons for re-homing this past year, or is ridiculous. Had a cat named Boba Fett 🥰 that was returned to us because he "meowed too much when it was time for him to be fed" and "he follows me to the bathroom and it creeps me out. Can I have another cat?" Ofc we refused her adopting another one. And Boba found a great new home with a little girl who loves him so much!

[@JaneSmith-d1h]

I feel like there are more ways to get the cat to calm down. They need to try more before the baby comes, not just give up. There are even cat behavioralists you can hire. But I understand being scared the baby could get hurt. It’s just not an excuse to give up so easily.

[@j.p.2636]

Tell me I have to re-home my cat and I will re-home you instead

[@j.p.2636]

@Gi Gi to be determined lol

[@dootznbootz]

I grew up with an ornery, mostly blind cat who eventually lived to be 26 years old (crazy I know) who was around 14-15 when I was born. And you know how she reacted? She would try to cuddle with me every chance she got. Even with her horrible arthritis and having a hard time moving, she would always try to make the jump into my crib. My mom had to put a veil-like thing around my crib to keep her from trying to snuggle up with me (of course, to keep her from smothering me, but you get my point). Although she was scared of strangers and mostly stayed in my mom's bedroom she was a lovely cat to me and my bros. Not saying that this is universal in all kitties but most are overprotective of all the folks who live in the home. R.I.P. Sequoia, you were a lovely, grumpy lady

[@zerobolt9506]

I've heard they're especially protective to babies.

[@barbaragarner9192]

She was your protector cats are cool about that,dogs too nothing is greater then a fur baby next to you when sleeping

[@disneydork100]

she seems like she was a great cat, I love that your mom was trying to keep her from literally cuddling you to death, and since she was grumpy, she probably had to deal with a lot of bites, scratches, and back talk trying to separate her from you lol.

[@MEWMEWDENSETSU]

My cat didn't die till he was 24 years old. I miss him every day.

[@grimsoul0]

That's great for a cat. Mind if I ask what breed it was?

[@seleneledezma3543]

My brother in law's cat died a couple of months ago. He was 22 years old.

[@MEWMEWDENSETSU]

@@grimsoul0 He was just a pure bred Black 🐈‍⬛. We got him when he was 2 years old. His name was Blackie. He was always a grumpy old man. Our neighbour hit him with their car. He had a dead tail, blind in one eye. And a permanent limp. He still carried on. When a another cat we got got pregnant He fell in love with the kittens. Groomed them and played. The day he died, we were only bringing him in for a check up. He was urinating everywhere. My last words to him were " See you later old man ". I did. Just not the way I wanted. I had him for so long I tought he would never leave.

[@missveeta8872]

Story 1: HOLY TESTICLE TUESDAY. METH?!!!! Oh honey, leave.

[@MarkNarrations]

Testicle Tuesday 😂

[@tiryaclearsong421]

Right?! I was thinking that maybe he was misdiagnosed and he actually had something more severe or at least MDD with psychotic features. I had an ex who was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety for years when he actually was bipolar. When it got severe he could be very angry, paranoid, and delusional. It didn't sound quite right but people are affected differently and psychosis is terrible. Then she mentioned meth and I was absolutely gobsmacked. It makes so much sense but I never would have thought of it.

[@zerobolt9506]

🤣

[@ineedhoez]

Lmaooo!!!

[@msredux]

YTA he had the cat for 18 years, and now that poor cat is gonna live his last years in a shelter. I would never do that to a pet that I have had for all his life, I would divorce first.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: he asked for a divorce, threw a temper tantrum, and slammed ALL the doors of the house, all because OP, his wife, asked him why he had to eat the dinner she got earlier. Depression and grief are one things but this is way too much, maybe it would be safe for the kids and OP to move out for a little while since this behavior can easily turn into something a lot more dangerous usually in the matter of seconds resulting in OP and the kids needing to walk on eggshells hoping whatever they do doesn’t set the man off

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

No, he needs to be kicked out. The kids are suffering enough with that man for a father, they shouldn't be forced to leave their home because their dad isn't helping himself.

[@escapec1077]

My ex was diagnosed as clinically depressed and also didn’t want to take medication. Been my ex for over 20 years and cured me of marriage-never did it again.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. I'm familiar with depression from multiple angles (most people in my family have it). *This* is something else. Edit: Drugs. Yep. *Definitely* fits more than depression. Funny how he's doing drugs yet *refused medication from the therapist.*

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

@@brigidtheirish Sometimes addicts think the drugs they take are better than the drugs the licensed professionals would give them.

[@songohan3321]

@@brigidtheirish So basically, he probably needs to be committed to a GOOD mental institution or rehabilitation center. Something might have popped in his mind and resulted in a full psychological change. I know of cases where people on drugs are high functioning until an event happens and the normal side effects hit all at once. Edit. I see where he is refusing medication. I know in America, there is this general thinking how medication is not needed to treat the mind and there are always jokes and skits about it. We as a country still seem to not understand the importance of mental health. I also seen where medication for mental illness has helped people in many ways.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

If I was dating or married, drugs would be an instant end for the relationship. OP is right, you can't win against addiction. It has to be something the person wants.

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

Yep. I divorced my husband because he quit a high paying job without warning only to find out later it wasn't a lay off, but a random drug testing since dangerous machinery was used on the job. He had shown the same things later, irritated, short temper with everyone, gas lighting and theft/maxing out of my emergency credit card. Should of divorced sooner, but I was early 20s and pregnant so I was trying to make it work. Baby was barely 8 months old when he flipped and got violent. Filed divorce same day.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Girl that used to be my best friend married a guy with addiction (against everyone's advice). It caused huge stress on their relationship, obviously. She was always complaining about how hard it was, what it cost them both financially and in friends and family, how it hurt her and the kids. Then what happened? She started doing meth. I was furious; she knew better than anyone what drugs did to a person, their relationship, their family, their kids. When I asked her wth, she then went a step further and wanted everyone to celebrate her sobriety, claiming if I lectured her for trying drugs in the first place that I could cause her to relapse. That was the end of the friendship for me.

[@lukaseldenrust2637]

Even medical marijuana? Or any other medication that is referred to as a drug? Sure a drug addiction would get the same result from me but not a one off, only on parties or for medical reasons kind of drug use... I guess part of the reason hy I’m more relaxed with this subject is because I’m Dutch and like 90% of people have used some form of drugs (usually weed since that’s the most legal) the only reason I myself haven’t joined in is because it tends to be in the form of a joint and my throat is severely effed up from yearly throat infections and smoking (even just being around smoke) would probably throw me into a coughing fit, I’m open to edibles but we haven’t gotten those yet since we want to do that during a sleepover so we know we’re safe and don’t need to go home while high/stoned... yes I’ve been around my friends after they’ve smoked which they sometimes do during breaks from class (they’re idiots like that sometimes, it’s toned down now with covid tho since they’d usually be sharing one or two joints between like 3 to 6 people) Edit: I feel like I need to clarify that HIGHLY addictive drugs are a no go for me as well since those tend to have you addicted by one use already compared to something like weed which takes a lot more to become an addiction and my friends don’t smoke often, the past year they’ve gone out during school twice and outside of that maybe 3 times (I’m not sure I’m not there) I’ve also heard of this party drug that only works once every like 3 weeks because of some reason but I can’t remember the name

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@lukaseldenrust2637 For me personally, weed is fine (so long as you trust your source and know what it's being mixed with. I don't smoke but a friend of mine ended up in the hospital because of something that was mixed in to make his weed stretch). There have been studies that show alcohol is actually worse than weed, and it's legal.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

@@lukaseldenrust2637 Depends. If it’s some one under 25 then no. Even if medically die to the fact it can delay and be detrimental to mental development, which doesn’t start stopping until age 25. Also I don’t want to date anyone with such trial Ian either on medicine or one that has such severe diseases. I’d rather have a healthy person.

[@str4yk1dsw0rldd0minati0n]

Story 3-Unless they're also getting rid of the dog then yes OP is the AH, you can tell from how shes acting she'd be extremely angry if her husband told her to get rid of her dog, I've never wanted to punch someone more than I wanna punch OP, that poor cat and husband

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2- OP- "look after my kids for me" Parents- "no, sorry, we do enough already" OP- "Fine! Then you're not invited to my wedding!" Wow, OP- toddler tantrum much?!

[@andreawalker8343]

If I were the parents I’d be happy to not attend

[@songohan3321]

This story should be posted to R/choosingbeggars and r/entitledparents. She played a stupid game and as a result, she won a stupid prize. She went from having some babysitting days to having no babysitting days.

[@fhuber7507]

But, who'll watch the kids during the wedding? Oops... "Grandma, you're invited again."

[@Ospyro3em]

@@fhuber7507 🤣

[@Sherwoody]

OP has a good job and can’t pay a sitter. Somethings wrong here.

[@Minidane]

Story 4: I think he just lost his oldest. Good luck with the future. Family is who you make it. Make a new family when you leave for college.

[@Bonaduece]

Story 1: Drugs are an incredibly expensive self-medication, especially for a dude with no job. I've known some people who could blow through a hundred dollars a day, easy. The divorce and separation of finances needs to happen, like, yesterday, or OP and the kids will literally be paying for his mistakes for years to come. Story 3: I would sooner give up that wife than my cat. And probably try to push for custody of the coming kid, because that kind of me-me-me attitude doesn't make for great parent, imo.

[@karimuffin]

Story 3: YTA. I'm gonna be honest, stories like this make me furious. The cat has spent all their lives in the comfort of a home, and they're up rooting it because they can't keep the animals apart. Unhappy incidents happen, it's just part of being a pet owner. And if you were a geriatric cat would you want a teenage dog in your face? I wouldn't. I honestly love my pets so much I would straight up get a divorce/drop the person like a ton of bricks if anyone asked me to get rid of them. They are my family. I wouldn't be surprised if the husband harbored resentment for this. He obviously loves that cat, but has essentially being given an ultimatum he can't win. And while giving the cat to a sanctuary is better than some alternatives, it's still not ideal. Poor cat.

[@ilbercgross4736]

I am betting the 18yo cat wanted nothing to do with the dog. I am betting the dog would not leave the cat alone and invade the cats space. I would not have gotten rid of the cat. Wife that is pregnant costs a lot to divorce. While I would show all the love I could with the child, I would move the wife out of the bedroom. I would barely be civil to her. 18yo cat of unconditional love, so that equals 18 years of dislike to the wife. Everyday I would talk about the cat. I would remind her every day how sad i am. When the child is old enough to notice I show warmth and love to the child and coldness to mommy, I would explain to the child about the cat (yes I am that petty). The would know that mommy wanted the wonderful and loving cat to die old and all alone. The day the child turned 18, i would hand divorce papers to the wife. If the marriage lasted that long. But i would not divorce her before that.

[@sm0lbeansasha]

And since she doesnt see a differenve in her baby and a fucking dog, why wont she have her child sleep in the kennel too.

[@zoe9190]

do a baby gate in the house to seperate it for the animals, that way the cat has a dog free zone. There are ways to have 2 opposing animals in 1 place

[@toysruskid5074]

9 times out of 10, all you have to do is provide the cat safety and distance. Carpeted wall shelves and a big wall hammock would have gone a long way to peaceful living.

[@squirrel670]

@@ilbercgross4736 thats going to mess the child up beyond belief. Divorce asap, its better to be divorced because the most unhappy of all are people who are in bad marriages. Staying together for the kids is a sham that damages them, its literally proven staying together for them in this toxic relationship environment is bad for them. They need to see what healthy relationships look like. Don't punish the kid for the mothers wrongdoing.

[@LilChuunosuke]

Story 4 just absolutely broke my heart. A child openly professing their love to their father, actively begging him for one-on-one time to bond, only to be rejected and called selfish for not wanting to share every single moment she has with her father with the rest of the family. There's something so deeply special and intimate about spending time alone with someone. Having their full and undivided attention. It really is a special moment that this father was repeatedly denying his child of.

[@bilbybloom]

Story 4: it always amazes me when parents can't spend time separately with their kids. My mum and dad are still happily married and we had plenty of days where just me and dad, or me and my mum had a "girls day" "daddy daughter day" together. We did lots of stuff together too but one on one rtime is really good, and even more important for blended families.

[@videofan1010]

Bless your experience! It seems to be a rarity.

[@timclute9507]

Yeah - I came from a nuclear family (not blended) and my Dad made sure we had father son time together - my sister got father daughter time - It is normal - seems blended families abandon their senses and think everything and every time should be blended time - it's f'ing nuts

[@tegantalks9612]

I have 3 kids and spending time doesn’t even have to be anything super special it can be as simple as taking one kid to go run errands with you or going for a walk around the block.

[@tegantalks9612]

@@timclute9507 my family is a blended family and I grew up in a blended family and I always got to have one on one time with each of my parents even after my new siblings came along. I still do one on one things with my parents occasionally even though I’m all grown up and have kids of my own. Also quality time doesn’t have to be some big excursion, my kids like just coming to run errands with me and my son loves playing video games with my boyfriend (his step dad).

[@ArcaneNim]

Story 3: we had a cat who lived to be 26 and she was an absolute sweetheart. She was roughly 16 years old when I was born and afaik there weren't any issues when I or my sibling were babies. YTA, poor feline probably just wants to live out the rest of her days with her beloved owner.

[@dianemartel5205]

Story 2: What OP is missing is that those are THEIR children and THEIR responsibility, and that nobody else has any responsibility to “pull their weight” with regards to the care of those children. And is OP also expecting their parents to “pull their weight” with regards to the cost of this wedding to which the parents are no longer invited? Christ on a bike, what an entitled taint!

[@brigidtheirish]

OP needs to ask herself what's more important, her career or her kids. She *and* her fiance work, she can take fewer hours and spend more time with *her kids.*

[@songohan3321]

OP needs to stop being a choosing beggar.

[@robertx8020]

@@brigidtheirish Or her partner could

[@robertx8020]

Yep Parents can't expect their children to babysit Parents aslo can't expect their parents to babysit They already give them a saturday off I wouldn't blame OP's parents if they would stop doing that too!

[@brigidtheirish]

@@robertx8020 Weeeell, I mean, *I* was the go-to babysitter for my younger siblings. Wasn't paid, either. Not that I babysat often (Mom was stay-at-home) and my maternal grandparents lived just a few minutes away if there was an emergency. Family helps each other. That's the thing. Family helps *each other.* Everyone pitches in. As for the dad taking fewer hours, yeah, I guess he could. I've got cousins who grew up with a mostly stay-at-home dad while my aunt worked full time. Guess I'm just more used to the mom being the one to stay home the most.

[@stormy8734]

Story 3: I would keep the cat and rehome op. 😾

[@MarkNarrations]

😂

[@drizztdourden8111]

Love how the 3rd OP is living in a fantasy world. The odds of a senior cat especially one at that age finding a home are slim to none. I also wonder about what actually was going on between the dog and cat. Did they talk to the vet about the behavior issues or was it to just see if it was physically healthy? Did she even consider that her dog might also be a contributing factor to the cats behavior?

[@olgalavado]

She is building up her way to divorce. I would get rid of a partner with such mentality.

[@drizztdourden8111]

@@olgalavado I agree completely.

[@alyssapalmer1995]

Yeah I also have a feeling that it was the dog that was the problem and not the cat.

[@wmdkitty]

She's a dog person, of course she hasn't considered that the dog IS the problem.

[@ivy456]

Wtf is wrong with you people? It's her dogs fault now eventhough he's not the one attacking? If her dog wanted to he could've easily killed an old cat. I had to keep my dog and cat seperated because my cat would attack my bully and it's 100% my cat's fault. My dog didn't do anything wrong. Now my mean old cat lives alone with me lol. He still can't stand other dogs/cats. I get that the cat in this story is older and probably doesn't a new dog in the house but to blame the dog for that it's just dumb. Of course the cat doesn't want her dog if it's used to living alone with the owner. OP and boyfriend shoud've tried to find more solutions to keep the animals seperated.

[@saltysnake3774]

Story 1: NTA. But this is a really sad story. This guy's best friend got him hooked on meth right after his mom died. I hope OP and her husband can recover from this, whether it's individually or together.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

It is tragic. A guy loses his mom, gets hooked on drugs, and his wife and kids are leaving him because he’s too self-destructive.

[@hothotheat3000]

It’ll be best for everyone if the husband dies. That sounds harsh, but the finality of death is better than the false hope that “maybe one day he will sober up”. The kids can move forward, the mom can move forward, clean break. The kindest thing he can do is OD.

[@CatAstridphe]

Story 3 has me LIVID. My heart breaks for her husband and his cat. I had to have my 17 year old girl PTS in late May and I would have sooner gotten a divorce than give her up. My cats and I are a package deal, don't even ask me to give them up because I will never forgive it.

[@Pepperjack1986]

I can't love this comment enough. Well said, and agreed 100% ❤

[@maheenahmed6653]

Story 1: it’s sucks he is depressed, but his actions were not okay, quitting, forcing to do all the work, slamming doors like a damn child. This isn’t who he is but he needs an ultimatum. If he’s not going to try and stop that shit, through therapy and medication and helping himself, then the divorce he is demanding will be granted.

[@Davtwan]

His biggest issue is that he’s doing very little to manage his depression. He’s mainly self-medicating which does little for traumatic experiences. His judgment may be clouded, but the world, and his family, have finite patience. Edit and spoiler: oh lord, his self-medication likely involves addictive and non-medical drugs. The idiot...

[@evarodriguez4319]

1st story, get legal custody of the kids ASAP.

[@flamin.hot.cheeto]

Story 3- YTA! What the hell is wrong with the OP? Kicking a cat out during its final years is absolutely horrible behavior. I would leave a partner if they tried to pressure me into abandoning my cat.

[@lillithherondale1972]

Story 3: yta. Sending that cat out of its home is going to cause it to die from STRESS. My baby girl lived to be almost 18 and if someone tried making me get rid of her there would be so much yelling

[@ipsitamazumdar4849]

I can speak only for myself: I would have been pretty pissed off living with someone who insists that an 18 years companionship means less than a hypothetical situation. Maybe the cat acted like that towards OP’s dog because it sensed OP’s dislike for itself? Animals aren’t dumb.

[@CatsandDragons7]

God, Story 3 really ticks a nerve for me. I mean, maybe it’s that I’m a cat lover, and my fiancé’s 18 year old cat is such a sweetheart, but I could never imagine making him get rid of his cat for any reason. Even if it was a young cat, it’s just not acceptable unless the environment is genuinely bad for the cat

[@krystiharper]

Story 3: that poor cat I hope the husband divorces op 😭

[@Vikabro]

Story 3: This one really got me miffed. I've had a cat. Had her from when she was born until she died at the age of 19. I would be mad if I had a partner and they told me to get rid of my elder cat. It's sad because it might be possible the cat might not have much longer. It seems cruel to have to send her away to live the remainder of her life in such a place. Since I'm pretty sure if someone is there to adopt I doubt they'd even consider an elder and would prefer a kitten or a younger cat. Sure, it might be a possibility that there might be the off chance someone might adopt them and give them a good few years it still seems unlikely. I can see that he might grow resentful and might later want a divorce.

[@karendaniel620]

Story 3: I'm going to adopt a cat sometime after Christmas. I already chose this phantom cat over my husband.

[@carolroberts4614]

By the time my ex and I separated I'd have swapped him for a goldfish!

[@squirrel670]

@@carolroberts4614 they can be trained and are long lived, some of them can live 25+ years, so it is a great trade.

[@carolroberts4614]

You're right! They don't nag or run off with other women either, a great step up!

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I feel so sorry for that kid that saved up for the trip with their dad. When my parents split up and ma moved me to another state, the time I got to spend with my dad became super important. We would still see family when I visited, but most of my time was just me and him going on adventures, and I cherish those memories something fierce. On the other side of things, it was my ma who suddenly never had time for me anymore, and kept leaving me to go on dates. I'm in my 30s now but that stuff really stuck with me! Your parents choosing anything over you, even if that's not at all how they see it, that's never OK.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Words that contains the word meow : meow, meowing, meowed, meows, homeowner

[@allisonwinchester3108]

Alright meow...this is getting out of hand

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@allisonwinchester3108 lol

[@vernell2601]

This cracked me up!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@vernell2601 good, I'm glad 💜💜🤗🤗

[@apileofratz4131]

@@allisonwinchester3108 oh great, now there's two of them!

[@FormCreator]

I wasn't the one who asked about it, but thanks for mentioning rehoming the cat! I have a big soft spot for cats 🥺

[@anarchylove92]

Story 3: YTA I'd leave OP if I were the husband.

[@agravery223]

So you're choosing a cat over a damn kid????

[@kayemckeeth2301]

Having MDD is awful. It's hard to get out of bed, be motivated, and be engaged. To lash out, not communicate, and be cruel to the children is way out of bounds. His therapist isn't working. He may not be an addict, but he is not a good parent or partner.

[@novabrilliant4510]

The story about the kitty was so sad. My cat, Stella Blue, just turned 19. She has her check up with the vet tomorrow. I want to go hug her now.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: OP needs to get order of protections up on her and the kids right now. Her ex his not a safe person to be around and now that she knows hard drugs are in play the kids come first in all of the battles to come. Tooth and Nail for solo custody and the Order of Protection will be the best way to get a judge to favor her.

[@dracawyn]

Story 1: sounds like he's lashing out. In a lot of cultures---Western culture in particular---men are taught that they're not allowed to express any emotions other than anger. All emotions are treated as "feminine" and "girly" *accept* for anger. So, a lot of men don't know how to process grief or sadness. They're told to "man up," leaving them with no way to emote other than to rage. This sounds like a prime example of that to me. OP is absolutely not the AH, obviously. i It sounds like her husband has no idea what to do with all the negative feelings bottling up inside him and is lashing out, the same way toddlers and infants do when they don't know how to react to what they're feeling. He needs a therapist or a grief counselor and possibly even get on some kind of medication. He's very ill and he pretty clearly doesn't have the tools he needs to recover on his own.

[@trinitylane2202]

He was seeing a therapist who did suggest medication which he refused. OP said he has a new friend who is an addict and it's likely her husband has also become addicted to some kind of drugs.

[@ericaschaidt8588]

@@trinitylane2202 definitely sounds like he rejected the idea of prescribed medication in favor of self medicating with heroin (I believe that’s the new friend’s drug of choice)

[@squirrel670]

@@trinitylane2202 the attitude where men can't express themselves also makes men more likely to do drugs instead of relying on a support system and it's so sad it comes to that

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "That's an ultimatum" Yeah but it's a fair and rational one. Get sober or lose your marriage. You can't have both.

[@carlrood4457]

There are two rules to ultimatums: 1. Be prepared to follow through. If you don't, expect increasing levels of disrespect 2. If they accept the conditions, expect that failure is a likely outcome. If it's something like marriage or kids, they probably won't be happy long term with a decision they only made not to lose you. With drugs/alcohol it's a lifetime fight and relapses are common. The truth is that if you get to the ultimatum stage, it's probably over already. It's literally a last ditch option.

[@sdaniels160]

Notice she asked for advice after she had the cat removed and not before.

[@sliceofpizzainspace]

Story 3 had me crying. I could never imagine giving up my cats especially one so old, clearly the poor thing did not feel comfortable or safe with a dog around anyone that knows anything about cats know that a sudden change in their behavior like that has a cause behind it. I wonder if her kid is mean to the dog if she will rehome the kid 🙄.

[@aina3387]

Stepsister story: I have a full sister who is 3 years younger than me. That didn't stop from needing time with my dad without her. It's not a blended family thing, it is a family thing. Children need 1 on 1 time with their parents.

[@silver5515]

My in laws have a grumpy old cat, who scratches and bites with little warning if you cuddle her the wrong way. We were all nervous to introduce her to our baby, and even more when he began being interested in her. Turns out she is really good with children, to everyone's surprise. She is incredible patient, and takes an active part in raising him to be a good cat cuddler. She does bite if he hurts her (she has painful joints and the fluffy tail is sensitive) but only warning bites with no blood and little pain. He always cries when it happens, but mostly because he is scared, and he gets more careful after. I would have been left with a bloody hand had I attempted the same.

[@samvoss6697]

For the beginning of story 3, it's really nice that you take all requests for warnings seriously. Even if the warning doesn't seem like a big deal for one person, it is for someone else, and the fact that you want to make every viewer comfortable is really great of you!

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #4: OP is NOT the butt. She just wants a little one on one time with her Dad and he's not receptive to that. I fully understand her reaction. OP's Dad is precisely the example for what not to do as a parent. I try to get one on one time with my kids as much as possible along with family time.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

He'll be on Reddit in a couple of years asking why his daughter doesn't talk to him anymore.

[@badkitty4922]

My two little old men cats both passed in 2019. My Tabby boy, Jake had a massive stroke January 2019 at 17 years old, putting him down was a mercy for him. His big brother TK was 18 years old when he passed that December, and just went down hard. He passed away surrounded by me and our 3 Pitties who absolutely adored him. Then August 2020, my baby boy Pittie, Apache (who would've been 3 years old October 2020), was attacked and also had to be put down as a mercy. I'm still not handling so many losses so close together very well at all. I'd leave my husband before I would willingly let go of ANY of my fur babies. That OP is the worst!

[@FoxValley123]

I'm sorry for your loses. They sound like they were wonderful fur babies

[@badkitty4922]

@@FoxValley123 Thank you. They were. My cats grew up around dogs, and it was sweet to see them so attentive and loving over Zoë and her pups. Puppy Daddy, Tank was also so very good with his babies. Losing my two old men cats in the same year did hurt but, I also know they'd had long, loving, spoiled lives. I handled their loss MUCH better than the loss of our pup Apache, whom we'd kept out of all of Zoë's litter. I was there with him when the attack went down (Zoë was in heat again - bad timing because she had a spaying appointment even though the Pandemic was around, we had to wait out her heat cycle. Anyway, everyone was on separate potty breaks and separated inside with cages, etc). I fought HARD to try to save him and hubs with both of his Pittie parents came out to help but, the damage to my baby boy was too much. I had to say goodbye via video chat while I was in the ER getting treated for MY injuries from trying to get that dog off my boy. That loss has me all kinds of F'ed up. Even after a year, I'm really mourning the loss of my baby boy, Apache. He was frikken AWESOME. Sweet, silly, loving, and a liquid puppy. Liquid because of the way he would just spill off the couch, chair, and our bed. Also, if all 3 were in bed with us, hubs and I could literally gently drag him up between us, making sure he was comfortable, and he'd just chill there, and sleep the whole night where we put him. It's only a Queen sized bed so, space Thank you. I still have great memories of Apache that I try to focus on.

[@FoxValley123]

@@badkitty4922 Apache sounds like he was truly a beautiful and loving boy, your a very strong person and I am so sorry for your loss of such a wonderful boy, losing a family member is never easy. I remember my great aunt had a frenchie who got stolen and then a black lab who got poisoned all in her back yard at different years though. She cried so much and when my older cousin lost his pittie from old age that was the first and last time I ever saw that man cry. I have a rescue cat named belle and I know that when she passes it will destroy me in every way. Shes 7 to 8 years old and is the light of my life since she came into it.

[@badkitty4922]

@@FoxValley123 Apache was the best. I was the one who cleared his airway and cleaned him up before handing him over to mama. He was the third of six to be born, and there were 3 of us, my hubs, our friend who has Zoë's mama and papa, and me, helping Zoë when she was giving birth to her puppies. I, along with Zoë, was their primary human caregiver, and had special but different bonds with each pup. Part of my utter soul deep link with Apache was, I had to wipe his face/nose/mouth TWICE to clean his airway because the first time I didn't get everything out of his nose and didn't realize until I saw him gasp for air. I was so upset that after I'd PROPERLY cleared him up so he could breathe, I held him up to my face, kissed him and swore to him I'd NEVER let anything hurt him EVER. Even though he was minutes old and couldn't hear yet, that was where our bond started. I'm so so sorry your great aunt had to suffer such horrible losses. People are crap, sometimes, to hurt a lady by stealing her dog, the Frenchie, and the other crap person poisoning a black Lab (sweet derpy, goofy, loving breed!) I feel so terrible for her! And your cousin's loss of his Pittie boy, I know his pain, and hurt for him, too. You've got a wonderful bond with your little girl, Belle. I'm sure you're going to cherish every moment you have with her! I wish little Miss Belle a long, happy and healthy life with you, sweetheart! Much Love to you, as well. (((((HUGS)))))💖💖💖😘😘😘🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍🐾🐾

[@maheenahmed6653]

So why didn’t these two idiots see if their pets were compatible before moving in together. If the cat is so hostile that they worry about a future baby, why not wait till the cat dies before they start trying? Because that cat isn’t going to last longer. OP is TA.

[@dustyrose192]

Totally agree

[@destinysphinx27]

Story 2: there is a saying I think is appropriate for this story - 'The reason Grandparents and Grandkids get on so well is because they share a common enemy.' Congrats OP on proving this right.

[@Flufferz626]

Hooo man that first story made me mad. I lost my mom and didn't have the luxury for over a year later to lounge around the house and not work or clean. I get it, I had to take time for myself for grief. But this is ridiculous. The cats are doing well, one kitten in the free-roaming room had ringworm so we had to lyme dip all 14 of them just in case 🥴 I swear the stench of sulfur is in my nostrils permanently. Edit: oh Lordy don't get me started on the 18 year old cat story. Water splashing doesn't work in discipline for fear. It is scared of the staffy, which is a breed that is animal aggressive when not properly trained. Any dog kills more kids than cat.

[@Beka_Rex]

Wow. I’m astonished. I started having kids at 20, not very young but reasonably young. And never once did I expect my parents to do me any favours when it came to childcare. I was old enough to decide to start having children, so I was old enough to look after them. The fact that she said having her own kids on a Saturday was stressful to her and her husband? That’s shocking, and tells me they aren’t fit to be parents.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 1: NTA. Yes, he's going through depression. However, he still has a filter on his mouth, and is deciding not to use it and behave like a selfish child (ironic and gaslighting of him to call her that). OP needs to sit down and say firmly but gently, enough is enough. She understands he's going through something, and she's here for whatever he needs. She will pick up the slack around the house and responsibilities when he feels like everything is too overwhelming. BUT, he needs to start doing whatever it takes to help himself get to a better place, be that therapy, medication, etc, because she can't do that for him, and she's done being his verbal punching bag. He is no longer getting a free pass to throw tantrums, call her names, and make the kids feel like they have to walk on eggshells; and the next time he threatens divorce, he'd better be damn sure that's what he means, because she'll give him one. ETA I didn't see the drug thing coming, honestly, but it makes total sense. I also find it pretty funny when someone does something to hurt another person, but that person has reached their limit and all they can feel now is relief it's over so it kind of backfires. Story 2: LOL you're so TA it's laughable. You "put yourself in a compromising position" when you decided to spread your legs. I'm not shaming you for having sex, sex is awesome. But the actual purpose of it *is to make babies!* If you didn't want to be a struggling young mother, you should have taken precautions/made better choices. Then after the first time, you decided it was a good idea to have a second baby! Your kids, *your* responsibility (and don't get me started on asking for more FREE childcare). Welcome to adulthood, sweetheart. Story 5: NTA. There's a saying about neighbors and how "good fences make good neighbors." I think something similar applies here along the lines of "Good sleeping arrangements make good houseguests." You're going to be in pain, probably not get much sleep, in a crowded condo. Also, depending on if they own or rent, there might be a limit to how many guests they can have per bedroom. Tell your mom you're going to enjoy every minute you spend with her, which will be all the time you can, minus sleeping (which you wouldn't be spending with her anyway).

[@shelly5224]

I'm REALLY interested to know who was paying for the step daughter to go on that trip last minute since Op needed to save for her share because daddy dearest couldn't afford it

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 2: YTA. “I figured that since they’re retired there’s nothing wrong with asking them to pull their own weight” but most likely since they’re retired they’re probably getting old and having their own life stuff to deal with that involves getting old. I mean yeah there’s nothing wrong with asking grandparents to help if they’re available and willing my grandparents did it with me and my cousins all the time growing up but our parents still made time for us they didn’t pawn us off on our grandparents. If you want a promotion fine but I would say at least wait until the kids are old enough to take care of themselves and stay home alone.

[@songohan3321]

Story 2 is one of the rare trifectas. R/AITA, R/choosingbeggars, and r/entitledparents all into one delicious sandwich.

[@RedReaper666OG]

Story 1: Definitely NTA- have a cop or two present when he gets handed the divorce (and eviction if necessary) papers. Cops are REALLY good at handling tweakers. Oh, and CHANGE THE FUCKING LOCKS THAT SAME DAY!!!!

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

Omg😳 re-home the dog of three years, NOT the husband’s life long family cat, that was his first baby and it wasn’t going to live much longer. Disgusting

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

The grandparents one is weird. I know in some cultures that grandparents watch the grandkids while parents work, but I think it's more of a case of 'I want to be free from being a parent every weekend' type deal. I'm lucky that on weekends my father comes over to hang out with my two kids. His only grandkids since both my brothers do not want kids. Some parents do not have money for babysitting or family who could watch them and they do fine. Tight on money, but fine. I understand every once in a while parents deserve a few hours of destressing, but every weekend says they aren't wanting to be bothered being a parent so they can party.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#4 - Feel so sorry for OP and the fact that she's tried over and over to get some activity with just her dad, only to have his wife and her daughter intrude on it. OP can at least look forward and know she is out of this situation soon enough, either college or work and out on her own. Maybe some other family members, on dad or bio mom's side, would be willing to host her for holidays from now one because one can understand if she leaves and NEVER looks back after all this bullshit.

[@catherinerawson3559]

3d story: I would tell op to pound sand. My cat was staying and she could like it or leave.

[@agravery223]

A cat over a freaking child???? Pregnant females cannot be around cat litter either. Some people are just crazy!!!

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: YTA. Why was the only option husband giving up his cat? Was OP giving up her dog on the table??? It seems hella unfair...like OP used her pregnancy to get her way. If husband leaves OP, I wouldn't be surprised.

[@DragonFruitCake]

Hey Mark, love your stories! I know this one's from a year ago, and not sure if anyone even cares, but my hubby and I are exactly the people that would go to a sanctuary and adopt an 18yo cat. We adopt old or sick or special needs or all combined to make sure they get the love they deserve. Every animal has love to give and deserves it in return; sometimes you just have a to work a little harder to find or earn it.

[@anikat6783]

Story 3 I can't say what I want to because of KZbin guidelines... YTA x1000

[@missveeta8872]

Hiiii Mark~~ I'm watching Ghostbusters (original). Just got to the part where Venkman says: "Egon, somehow this reminds me of the time you tried to drill a hole in your head." ...It's on pause now so I can listen to juicey stories. :D

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oooo

[@aikikaname6508]

Story 2: with these stories I can understand them having ONE oopsie baby; things happen. But it baffles me they’re struggling to raise their offspring, don’t seem to like spending time with them (hence they don’t want to have to deal them for multiple evenings) but have TWO of them. Why do they have 2 kids? Why did you go for kid number two when you ‘struggled to balance kid and education’? It’s not like she became a widow or her husband bailed

[@thegamingcomrades1669]

My first cat passed when I was 6 or 7, Moe was my dad's cat since being a kitten and lasted 23 years. Was still an active runaround and play cat till the end surprisingly.

[@dandotvid]

When I was a kid, my parents rarely had me and my brothers be babysat. They didn't get "time off" every week. They did their job as parents.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

This is the most kindest, but aggressive, adorableness I ever read. Thank you for making my day.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Thanks for the good vibes. Much love Broken 💘 ❤ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘 🫂 🤗 🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger much love m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Neighbor-assistantYN lol and im glad and ayo another kiri fan

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Yep. I used to have bright red hair and went by Riot or Chaos. My roommates teased me for months for looking and acting like Kiri. After reading one of the mangas and seeing a DVD I changed my profile to female Kirishima, then to V. Kirishima because I went back to my natural dark hair.

[@CyeOutsider]

Story 1: Can relate. My ex fell into meth addiction after 15 years together. We just had our son and he was showing similar behaviour- rage fits, unfounded hostility towards me, irrational behaviour, blaming me for his issues, etc. I endured 4 years of that before I walked away. Hardest thing I ever did. 8 years later, he's off the drugs and has stepped up as a father. But our relationship just couldn't survive that.

[@katsukibakugan9490]

story 3: if someone tried to convince me to rehome my cat they'd be the one out the door. This cat thinks of me as her mother and I've accepted this position. she'd be stressed out as is, and she's only 8.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 3- big YTA. I have helped out in rescues (in the UK) before. 18 year old animals often end up dying in the rescues because of lack of adopters. Animals aren't plants, they are beings with emotions! This cat just had its life upended by being forced into living with a dog, and now has been ripped out of his or her home and sent to a VERY scary new place, frightened, alone, confused. I wouldn't be at all surprised if the stress doesn't cause the poor baby to become ill. This situation COULD have been resolved, the cat COULD have learned to live with this dog and the baby. There are a lot of things you can do to help cats feel more comfortable so they don't attack the dog. People expect instant results though 🙄. From someone who has 5 rescue cats, has had multiple foster cats and dogs, and had 4 rescue (failed foster) dogs. This poor elderly cat is probably really struggling right now.

[@crystalwolf6788]

Story 1. From what I've heard a single gram of any drug can range from 50$-150$ depending on the drug. Also nta. The husband asked for it and I hope op takes safety measures for her and her kids

[@soulechelon2643]

Story 1: NTA, absolutely totally reasonable to be upset when someone eats food that was pre-planned to be part of another meal. I'm the "cook" in my own household, and I'll certainly blow up at least a little if someone ate food I had stated was not to be eaten until a specific time or date...ESPECIALLY if it was from my own pocket. The OP planned around that BBQ dinner, and it was also from her own funds. The husband is being petulant. Extremely petulant. And while I feel for him when it comes to his loss, he needs to realize that he has a family he should be taking care of. This guy's being a child while actually having children? It's time for him to grow up. I'm 100% positive his mother wouldn't be happy with him right now. As for that update....damn. That's terrible. In his grief for his mother, he ruined his marriage, made his children lose a father figure, and ruined his life. A very depressing outcome on his side, but at least the OP and her children aren't going down with the ship. Props to the OP for standing her ground and protecting herself and her children by not giving in to his childish reactions. One thing's for sure - she's gonna most likely get full custody. Story 2: YTA by far. That last line says it all: "Since they're retired, there's nothing wrong with asking them to pull their weight more and help out with my kids." Yeah lady, they're YOUR kids, and your parents are RETIRED. They don't need to babysit your kids and are not obligated to do so. And there's something quite telling with how she talked about Saturday night. Instead of saying the kids lost their one day of the week with their grandparents, she focuses on how losing that day affected her and her fiance. Extremely entitled, and it sounds like she thinks of her kids more as a burden than anything else. story 3: YTA however I feel like some of those redditors (especially the last one) was being a bit overly dramatic. OP is not heartless. If she was, she wouldn't have posted on Reddit for an outside opinion. However, she doesn't seem at all well informed. Nor did it sound like she (nor her husband) thought to try and bring in outside help to see if they can figure out why the cat is so aggressive towards the dog (Pretty positive it's territorial issues). Yes I agree they should bring that cat back home and try to fix the problem a different way but there's no need for so much melodrama in the comments, yeesh. Story 4: NTA. It's really, really sad that the father didn't see the obvious signs that his daughter was reaching out to him. Yes, having events with both sides of a step family is a great idea, but it sounds like one on one time between him and his blood daughter is extremely rare. That's not good. You can't just have a step family and then forget to do the things you used to do with your own child. That breeds resentment. Case in point - this story. Not only that, it's mostly her money. She can do whatever she wants with it, and if her desire was to have a holiday with her dad, then that's what she should have gotten. Story 5: NTA. Seems the mother is being a bit too hurt over something so miniscule, and I'm curious as to exactly why. OP is simply suggesting a hotel for everyone's convenience. It's not like he's going to be staying in that hotel throughout the whole vacation. Such a weird thing to get hung up on. And Unit-Healthy is right about the bathroom thing, too.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 3: YTA automatically for asking your husband to rehome his cat. That cat is old and nobody will adopt a cat that old. Also, that is a cat your husband has a very long bond with. Why not rehome your dog? Because that would hurt you a lot? Same goes for your husband. I could understand rehoming an animal that is a threat to children, but no other reason is justifiable. Husband does not need to rehome a cat, but he might need to rehome his wife.

[@kristys7172]

Give him a divorce, he can go live somewhere else for awhile, it's not safe for op or the kids to be in that situation. Sounds like my abusive ex. He's going to cause permanent emotional damage to you and your kids.

[@trinitylane2202]

OP in story 1 needs to change all the locks on the doors and maybe invest in a security system (if she doesn't already have one). Also change the banking. If her hopefully soon to be ex husband is on drugs he will rob her blind. Maybe even get a restraining order.

[@CodenameTurtle]

story 3 upsets me so much. I would never, ever agree, how heartless. Honestly, thinking about that scared old cat left to wither in a shelter makes me want to cry.

[@rylashadow18]

I'm taking the day to try and get some chores done. I might listen to the chapter reviews of my course work while cleaning my room before lunch if possible. Right now waiting to get some laundry done and am also working on a nice surprise for a nice person via art. Every day is a day waiting for you to make the most of it. All it really needs is you to be apart of it.

[@moxee33]

Hi Mark, Really appreciate the heads up on the rehoming story 😿

[@bricksloth6920]

Story one: you had me at hubs original freakout demanding divorce. Yes indeed, now you've brought it up, that sounds like an excellent idea.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S1: NTA. Violent behavior is ALWAYS a red flag, no matter the reason. Slamming doors, screaming, isolating himself because you asked him why he had dinner for lunch? That’s unacceptable. I don’t care what condition he has, once it starts negatively affecting the people in his life and altering his treatment of his kids and spouse, it’s over. If your mental health is compromised and you don’t want to medicate, it’s YOUR responsibility to distance yourself from people you could hurt. If you don’t, it’s other people’s rights to do it for you.

[@amethystanne4586]

Story #2………. OP says about her parents having to “pull their weight”? smh It’s best that this topic came up now. A CloseFamilyMember expected their parent to quit work to stay home to babysit the up-coming child while the CFM continued their career. Doing that would have jeopardized the parent’s self&work’s contribution towards retirement. CFM got upset about it, but their parent stood firm. A babysitter was hired for the first and 2nd child and it all worked out.

[@jennilynne1977]

Much love to you Mark and everyone else as well! I hope everyone is having a great day/evening/night! I'm heading to bed after the stories are over. Goodnight everyone!

[@nikoladedic6623]

Last story, NTA. Tell them you are happy that one of them is giving their room just for you. See how fast they will change their mind.

[@brigidtheirish]

I know, right? Hell, it should be the guy with *kids* staying in the hotel to take some of the pressure off their parents. We used to stay at my paternal grandparents' house when we visited but as we got older and there where more of us, we started staying at a motel in town. I didn't like it because I *liked* the noises the house made at night and waking up early to hang with Grandpa as he did his pre-dawn exercises (he was in the navy during WWII). Grandma and Grandpa, as I recall, said they were fine with us still sleeping at their place, but didn't make a fuss. They knew they were getting older and that setting up a bedroom for us was a lot of work. Also, they only *had* the one bedroom with one bed plus an old, creaky davenport. A motel room has *two* beds and an option for a cot. Which is better for two adults with *four kids?*

[@theconfusedvampire]

Story 4: Even as a non-blended "regular" family with full blood siblings spending time 1-on-1 with a parent is expected. It becomes even more absolutely mandatory when it's a blended family. The Dad is a clear a**hole here. Smh

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

Mark, thank you for what you said about your experience with depression and meds. You will help many people with what you said. My respect for you grows almost daily.

[@GBunnyG]

Watching a current video and this one (which I did watch when it first came out) came on automatically. Man, do I wish for an update to story 1.

[@unluckypuppy13]

I always get so surprised by these stories because I don't think I've ever had quality time with any of my immediate family. Even when I got my nails done for prom my mom just dropped me off and drove away and I got upcharged for something because I was nervous and had never done it before and then I got screamed at. Even with my brother we've never gone out and got an activity together. We've never seen a movie together we've never had lunch in a restaurant together. I never really considered us not close until I heard these stories.

[@greninjastorm6734]

Story 3: YTA Cats are very territorial creatures, so of course it wouldn't be very happy accepting a dog in its house. Not to mention this cat is 18 years old. It's effectively on its last legs, and should be living its final years in a loving home with the people that took care of it People are almost never going to adopt a senior cat because they want a younger pet that wants to play with them, and will stay with them for a long time

[@songohan3321]

I second this. When bringing other animals into a home with a cat, especially a senior cat, there is a proper way of doing things. Was OP'S dog a young dog?

[@leviathan8215]

I lost my dad at 15 and have diagnosed depression, I managed to keep my shit together enough not to ruin any relationships and ask for the support I needed. It’s hard, but Other people don’t stop being people with feelings just because you are in a tough place

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

I WOULD HAVE REHOMED THE WIFE PREGNANT OR NOT

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. Hope we get updates on these stories. Have a great evening. PEACE

[@jessicamarsh9779]

10:36 YTAH. Girl when I was 25, I had 3 kids, a 6 yo, a 2 yo & new born, I was graduating college, my now husband & I were moving into our forever home with our kids. We did get occasional help from our parents but not in the sense of “my parents can’t watch our kids”. It was more “can you help us fix the roof” or whatever. We made the choice to have our kids & it was our responsibility as parents to care for our kids, not anyone else’s.

[@hlcooper]

For story three - did everyone overlook the part where it is the CAT picking the fights with the dog and being aggressive? the dog has not been instigating fights with the cat so if logic is being used - you re home the animal that is causing the issue - not the one being attacked - that would be like if the cat attacked the baby and you give the baby to someone else to look after (far-fetched i know but just an extreme example). the cat was taken to a cat sanctuary - not a shelter and it amazes me the amount of people saying the guy should leave/divorce his pregnant partner over an aggressive elderly cat being re-homed for safety of another pet and an upcoming infant.

[@wmdkitty]

No. We all listened to the part where the DOG IS AN INTRUDER IN THE CAT'S HOME. The cat has every right to defend itself and its home.

[@FriedaMMartin]

Story 2 YTA. They’re older people and could be developing health issues soon if they don’t already have them. I bring my child with me everywhere when he’s not in school or I’m not at work. Why did you have kids if you didn’t want to spend time with them?

[@tessalouis1278]

“Thanks for spending 20-30 minutes to hang out with me” 😂🤣 me spending 7-8 hrs watching your videos, on video 150 of your AITA playlist definitely spend more than 20-30 minutes, absolutely love your videos though! Helps get me through the work day

[@purpleiguana208]

Story 4: as the one comment said, navigating blended families is a hard thing. I can only speak from my own experience. My parents divorced when I was 14. Mom got remarried almost immediately. And while she wasn't as pushy as we've seen in some stories, she almost exclusively called her husband "your stepfather" when speaking to me... and his daughters "your stepsisters." I was a moody teenager and I was grieving the loss of my family as it was and trying to figure out how to make sense of my new world, and I get this shoved down my throat before I even had time to make sense of my new normal. Part of me would have disliked anyone she would have remarried under those circumstances, so it wasn't any dislike specifically directed toward him as a person. My mom just never let me have my own time to come to terms with things before she was forcing visitations that I didn't want to go to and cramming familial relation to a person I didn't even want to accept as suddenly being a part of my family because.... I guess in her mind, if I'd accepted him, it would have made all her shitty decisions all right. Mom's husband died after COVID started, and there's a part of me that feels bad that I never really gave him a chance. But part of me just really rejected him because of my mom's behavior. The dad in this story is doing pretty much the exact same thing, and it just about guarantees that OP will never have a good relationship with their blended family if the dad continues on this way. OP's NTA, BTW.

[@platyadmirer]

That was incredibly irresponsible for that couple to have a kid BEFORE seeing if their animals would get along.

[@Alfy1980]

Story 5. I sleep on a couch everyday, and my back is knackered every morning I wake up. I would love to have a bed but just don't have the room for it lol

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@vernell2601]

Have a fantastic day

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@vernell2601 thank you and you too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@mirror2760]

My cat just passed away recently and she was older than even I was (She was 20). She was a bit of a bully to our younger pets but mostly due to her not wanting to play with them and simply wanting to be left alone. She never one lashed out at my younger siblings even if they were a bit rough with her (we got her away from them when we saw it). I cant imagine sending her to a shelter in her last days.