r/AITA UPDATE Not Accepting Sister's Relationship With My Ex Despite Her Having Cancer As A Teen

[@jimleon7894]

If Ben cheated on OP, he’ll cheat on the sister. It’s in the nature of a cheater. Karma WILL catch up with her and leave her a single mom with a child.

[@songohan3321]

I am hoping for the inevitable update on when that happens. Everyone knows that it will.

[@mimiwhite1963]

And it is past time the sister gets karma.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

I hope so 🙏

[@nataliereeves3594]

Once a cheat, always a cheat. They will both be forever paranoid that the other is creating.

[@kelleygreengrass]

I mean being a single mom isn't a bad thing.

[@wickedlysyckk]

Not a thing was surprising about the non-response from OP's father in the first story. He checked out from the moment he had a new family. He's a lost cause. Shameful behaviour.

[@Passions5555]

It's sad that the parent of the biological child in a blended family is the one who shuns the child they had from a previous relationship once they get a new one. I feel the Dad is just a garbage human. The step mom at least doesn't seem to be influencing the Dad as I can gather and he is behaving this way if his own accord.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

Honestly a national park sounds more fun than a marriage anyway.

[@carolroberts4614]

More fun than mine was! Even if it didn't have a cafe or gift shop!

[@vernell2601]

Hell yes!!

[@carolroberts4614]

You too have suffered?

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

@@carolroberts4614 I mean, no? Just really love nature. Wish we had more of it.

[@brigidtheirish]

Definitely. Especially one for such horrible people. Since when is refusing an invitation *not allowed,* anyway?

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA And how can people treat their children this way. It's one thing for the sister, but the parents and extended family? Her having cancer is not an excuse to act like an asshole. Edit after update: so she's pregnant and that's why they're forcing OP to accept the relationship. I'm glad OP is going to cut them off. It sucks that her dad is less understanding than her stepmom, but OP has been failed all around.

[@itsjustme7487]

Sis is the AH and the parents aren't any better. Go NC in my opinion.

[@gazzhumbly5433]

The dad will regret his lack of actions when his own daughter cuts him out of her life.

[@aethertoast4320]

​@@gazzhumbly5433seems like she did.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA supposedly they want a child free wedding. HE'S NOT A CHILD, and that excuse is BS. They don't want his wheelchair to distract from the bride and are being assholes about it.

[@ivechang6720]

Simpler than that my friend. They are bigots. Prejudiced against "cripples" and "lower class." ♡Be blessed neighbor.

[@brigidtheirish]

And the whole "you can't do that" to her deciding to go to a national park instead is BS. It's an *invitation,* not an *order.* Just wanted to add that the 'mistaking him for 15' excuse is also BS. I've *always* been mistaken for much younger than I actually am. Hasn't stopped me from going wherever adults are allowed to go, I just have to show my ID more often.

[@ashh4929]

And if she wanted to do like the last commenter on that story did and consider everyone under 21 instead of 18, she should have made that crystal clear. I don't think that was the case though.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@brigidtheirish yes! I have chronic baby face (very round and squish) and I’m quite short (5’2). I’m an adult but I just gotta show my ID more often, no biggie. op’s sister was definitely being an ableist crapbuvket

[@brigidtheirish]

@@Ax-xo4ux Yep. And just made herself sound worse with the excuses.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 4: NTA Essentially OP's mom was saying "OP's love is worth $90" and father would reply "No dear you're overvaluing her love, on a good day I might be generous enough to pay $65 for my daughter's love". Also they never even apologized for the whole "we already paid you stunt", that's some scamming a low level drug dealer degree of haggling!

[@carolroberts4614]

I have no words to describe how awful they are! I have two daughters ,and they're in their forties now, but they get treated the same!

[@RuminatingRaptor]

Story 1. I think the fact that her parents punished her for getting upset about having to give up volleyball speaks volumes. Instead of being loving and understanding because she’s already given up everything else, they were extra horrible. That poor woman doesn’t know how truly toxic her family is and that how she was treated was not normal. I’m so happy she is going NC. I hope she has the best life bevy living well is the best revenge.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 when Op finds love again and gets married. But none of her family gets invited they're all gonna be like why are you excluding us. What did we do? Op deserves so Mich better.

[@benry007]

I love my family but I'd still cut them out if they betrayed me like that.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Oh and heaven forbid when/if OP gets pregnant. She’ll get little to no peace

[@crystalmorgan8039]

Or, you can't marry him, he's not your sisters type at the rate they're going.

[@LovelyCinccino]

I admit, I wonder if Ben would already cheated with the sister at that point..

[@dionysus_adores]

The excuse of the step mom is bs, someone in that family, that's on op side, probably gonna post exactly why they wouldn't be attending the wedding on Facebook as well. If they're picking sides like that the parents sister and ex will be dragged through a mine field. Also ex is most likely gonna cheat again.

[@threeducks157]

Honestly its sickening how common stories like the first one is, and unfortunately parents almost always pick the side of the cheater cause grandkids. These stories always end up same way, the cheaters ends up with several kids as a single mom with a dead beat ex.

[@meirin5316]

they remind me of my sister. she purposely stopped taking birthcontroll in 5 relationships starting when she was 16(!!!) and my mum supported her every time.. the guys would not know that... now the 5 guy got her pregnant and noone wants to tell ehr that she is fucked up. the guy is in a gang too, has no teeth from fights and they are poorer than poor (cuz she didnt wanna take care of documents to get money from the gov)

[@mbyerly9680]

And OP lives happily ever after without those toxic piles of poop.

[@laurenmentink7401]

I have actually seen a couple of stories where the person that cheated was cut out of the family and the person cheated on was comforted by the family. It is nice when it happens.

[@meirin5316]

@@laurenmentink7401 seems to become more rare tho sadly

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 4: NTA. The old saying is "It's not the gift, but the thought that counts." Face it, the thoughts in this case were just plain shitty.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA look, would it be nice to help his wife? Yes. However it sounds like he works and she doesn't. Between that, the fact that she could cancel but refuses, their agreement, and the amount of food she wants and OP is well within his rights to not cook. If she can't cook, she needs to cancel, period.

[@brigidtheirish]

And that's a *lot* of food. The parents sound *horrible* for being so picky with food.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 2: No one feeling sick should be having guests over, period. Especially not in a pandemic.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

I think it was just a bad bout of morning sickness, despite the name it can last all day. But your vary right a group that large and the stress of prepping a perfect meal likely didn't help OP and only made it worse.

[@songohan3321]

What happened to Edit 5?

[@brigidtheirish]

@@ShatoraDragondore Agreed. Randomly feeling nauseated is normal during pregnancy.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

​@@brigidtheirish I feel bad for the wife if even pregnant her family is still that abusive and still expect her to "Perfect Housewife"(tm) all thing, and still never give her credit for, and moving the goal post for it.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@ShatoraDragondore Yeah. I feel sorry for her *and* OP. Thing is, OP's wife won't listen to OP that what her family is doing is abusive.

[@James-sq4sc]

If my parents threatened to cut me off for not accepting my sister getting with my cheating ex, I’d just say “ ok. Bye~”

[@rakky9694]

Story 1: Cousin is the MVP for telling the truth to OP, it's always nice to have someone like him when everyone in the family is against you.

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 4. If I was the brother I'd refuse future gifts in solidarity with my sibling. Imagine watching your parents haggle like that in front of your poor sister--who'd want a present from that kind of trash?

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA wow.. They obviously don't give a single shit about OP. The fact they don't get OP similar gifts is ridiculous. The amount of money doesn't matter, it's the thought, but when the dollar amounts are so disparate and they show the thought isn't there, they are assholes.

[@songohan3321]

The cousin in story one that was on Reddit sounds like a future Madlad. I wish him the best in his future endeavors.

[@agathoklesmartinios8414]

Story 4: Holy shit. Haggle down the price of the birthday gift you were going to pay for your daughter. Haggling with said daughter. On. Her. Birthday. Wut. The fuck. The only positive here is that even the brother, who is being blatantly and unsubtly favoured recognises what is happening and is deeply uncomfortable about it. Like, when your own favoured child is telling you to quit it, maybe you should listen. Frankly, I don't think the parents are really as good parents in everyday life as OP thinks. She should go low or even no contact with them. In fact, I think the brother should go low contact with them too. Those parents are toxic as fuck. For both OP and her brother.

[@FredRated1967]

OP should return the favor. Give the parents cheap dollar store gifts, nothing that they would like. Have the brother do the same, since he and OP are close and such. Treat them with the same disdain they treat her.

[@yadayada752]

I would question if the father is not the bio dad & mom goes along with him through guilt.

[@carolroberts4614]

I like the dollar store idea! Lots of exciting looking parcels to be disappointed with! I was looking. in our local pound shop and they've got lots of suitable(!) stuff

[@quaruke9489]

Get the brother to ask for what op wants and visa versa. Then the siblings can watch the fireworks when they realize :)

[@lynngrant533]

You took the words right out of my mouth! Those parents are unbelievable!

[@GIChiyo]

Story 4: wtf I can't tell if this is child favoritism or gender favoritism...NTA but your parents 100% are TA

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 4: Honestly, if I were the brother, I think I would tell my parents that if that's the way it is, I don't want any more gifts from them.

[@songohan3321]

Story 3. Once again, if you play a stupid game, you will win a stupid prize. Sister gave an ultimatum and OP decided to called her on her bluff.

[@NightAuracle]

For story 1, just wait a year or so until the boyfriend finds someone else. He has cheated once on someone he supposedly loved, he is perfectly capable of doing it again.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Yup

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

Of course he's gonna do it again!

[@lhuynh731]

And keeps having a whole bunch of baby momma and a whole lotta child support.

[@wmdkitty]

Yep. If they'll cheat with you, they'll eventually cheat on you.

[@NightAuracle]

@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax I can just imagine the sister's surprised Pikachu face when he cheats on her. "But he loved me, not OP!" "Why would he do this?!?" 🤣

[@animelytical8354]

Story three. The sister and the mother are horrendous. He's not a child. He's just disabled. How dare they say she's "not respecting the rules". Based on the rules, OPs son should be there. This is an actual disgrace.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 1: I always love how toxic people threaten to go no contact. Yes please! Save me the trouble.

[@JoJoGranum]

S1 : omg what a toxic family. I hope OP cuts them all off and live well to spite them. She doesn’t need a narcissistic set of parents and sister to drag her down .

[@ivechang6720]

I'm sad OP #1 went through this. I want to point out all the energy and compassion she will have to spread between herself and others, when she's not dealing with that toxicity. She now has this incredible opportunity to discover who she is and what she wants without their influence. Not everyone will have that in life. 🙂 Best wishes!

[@lucere3674]

Story one has been stuck in the back of my mind since the first video and came back to find this to see if there was anymore updates. Sadly, there was. First one was in /relationships where she talks about meeting up with a college friend that was mutuals with her ex and they started dating. Her new boyfriend and her had a date at a party but when she got a call from her new boyfriend saying her ex was there and asked if she wanted to go, she decided that she didn't want to. She then got break up text and got her number blocked and suspected that her ex sabotaged her new relationship. Then in the last update that was in /infidelity, she found out that her second guy ended up cheating on her at the party and is dealing with some self worth issues. Man, out off all the posters I seen this is the only one I feel a weird connection to and I really hope that she finds her way.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 4:* NTA. You have terrible parents that don't like you. Period. That's the sad reality. I grew up similarly. My brother every Christmas would get $100+ electrical tools (he's an electrician and has always loved taking things apart), expensive archery sets, shooting range lessons, anywhere from 3-12 video games depending on how much he wanted that year. If he didn't ask for a lot, they'd give him Steam gift cards totaling anywhere from $50 to $200, etc etc. You get the point. I wouldn't be surprised if the amount spent on his gifts went in the $500-$1000 range some years. Me? It was consistent every year: a stocking full of toiletries, which would not only be my only supply they'd provide me for the full year, but they regularly took some of them from me for themselves (sometimes even on the very day they gifted it to me), clothes (often a size too small because "no daughter of mine is allowed to be overweight"), and one ticket item. Usually some expensive art supplies like a drawing tablet or Copic markers. Which, until my next Christmas/birthday, would be dangled over my head as emotional blackmail. They'd make me feel guilty for not doing things by complaining about how much they spent on the gift as well as threaten to take it back or even give it away to somebody else if I didn't do as they told. Holidays got so much easier when I went full no-contact.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - NTA. Especially considering OP stated that 'if the meal is not up to their standards, wife's family will just leave'. Piss on that. Why even bother to try? They want a feast of ten dishes set out? Let them go to a restaurant. There is no need for OP or his wife to EVER exhaust themselves for that ungrateful lot. Plus they are SO hateful towards OP and his wife for her choice of him. Better to stay far away from that mess.

[@slick8086]

Story 3 is a little bit ironic to me since I just heard another story about a couple getting married in a national park and her parents were pissed at her because she has a sibling in a wheelchair and the parents claimed the national park was inaccessible. Now a wheelchair bound person is going to a national park instead of a regular wedding.

[@Jessidafennecfox]

I was thinking the same thing

[@wmdkitty]

The national parks tend to be fairly wheelchair friendly unless you're going waaaaay off trail.

[@benry007]

Last story: I hope OP finds a way to communicate how she is feeling to her parents.

[@carolroberts4614]

Going no contact should do it! They are horrible parents! To both of them.

[@paden1865able]

I love finding an update after crawling out of the shower with all the housework done. Thanks, Mark, much love to you and Poppy!

[@mindyschocolate]

Story 2: good lord, no way I make all that even healthy. That is HUGE! Like Christmas dinner huge. Damn. Wife should wait until she’s feeling better and they can work together to make all that food.

[@brandi5126]

Hope op still talks to her cousin. Cousin sounds like a decent person at least.

[@kellypatterson8506]

For my Halloween costume I'm gonna go as a scariest thing in the known universe… A human

[@mbyerly9680]

You monster!

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@mbyerly9680 😉

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: I wanted to say YTA, but you have to work and can’t cook the food she normally cooks. Especially since your in-laws turns their noise if it’s not ‘up to their standards’. Story 3: NTA. It does sound like she’s making excuses to have him there. He’s 18! You are respecting her wishes for her child-free wedding by not going. Final Story: NTA. Your parents sounds toxic.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 2: as an Indian, all those dishes OP mentioned will take a good 5-6 hours to prepare

[@missme8674]

I think OP's parents thought the sister would be jealous if she saw OP living life/participating in extra curricular activities. So, thats why they made her quit. Pretty much let the sister never feel like she lacked even if OP had to.

[@JR-zi4bj]

Story 1 - The shockingly disgusting behaviour of her entire family in this situation is only surpassed by the dignity, class, and grace with which OP has responded. I'm so glad that she updashd her post, and that even though her toxic "family" won't, she's choosing to do right by herself, and cut them off/out. I've never felt so proud of a complete stranger before.

[@clairebear-96]

Lol I just resigned myself like “oh well i guess no video today” so this was a nice surprise! Much love everyone!

[@carolroberts4614]

It's great isn't it! When you think there isn't going to be one, and then there it is!

[@goofygoofymf]

Story 3: NTA. I can understand having a childfree wedding. There is nothing wrong with that. Should I ever get married, I would want a childfree wedding as well. The issue is that OP's kid is 18 and therefore a legal adult- and the sister is judging him on his disability. OP is based for spending the day with her son.

[@songohan3321]

Story two's menu requires a team, not one person.

[@bluemonk44]

The sister broke the girl code. You don't do that!!!

[@stay1080]

Just wanted to know I listen to your videos to sleep every night and I really appreciate you posting everyday!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks so much Kathy 😁❤

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 🤗🤗💜💜

[@songohan3321]

I have no mercy for people driving while drunk. You constantly see the unfortunate results of drunk driving and people seem to keep doing it.

[@TonySamedi]

If Brother is willing to do it, I'd weaponize their favoritism. Have him ask for a gift that sister really wants, while she asks for a gift brother really wants. Preferably something that is nice enough the parents don't suspect the switcharoo of requests. When they give Brother the really nice gift, he immediately gives it to sister and vice versa. I doubt it'd make them realize or change anything, considering the 'haggle' nonsense, but it'd at least be worth it for the looks on their faces, and prove brother is a far better person than them.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

3- NTA even if op’s son was underage or not disabled people have the right to not go to an event period. But I would definitely go NC if the family was liying about no one 18 and younger and didn’t invite the son because of his disability

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 4: I'm wondering if there's not some DNA discrepancies between her and her brother...

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

I think that last commenter on Stroy 3 has a lt of nerve. So they'd only invite guests if they drink alcohol? So, they're saying if their best friend was in AA and couldn't drink, they wouldn't invite that friend because they "can't get their money's worth for him"? That's ridiculous.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#3 NTA They were looking for a reason.

[@animelytical8354]

2nd story people are saying if it were less food, they'd say "YTA", but nah. The family don't have to come. Wife can't cook, so she can't host. She needs the rest

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Last story: OP is NTA and needs to just decline any more birthday parties they want to throw her. She is old enough to say she has plans with friends and can stop by in a week or two on her day off to see them. As to Christmas, I'd almost be tempted to tell her to do the same but understand that is not always possible. Maybe volunteer someplace to hand out food or gifts for the holiday to avoid them? Or, as many families do, suggest they four of them (or more, if there are others) draw names and each buy just one gift with a dollar amount limit.

[@impagain]

Story 3, the only reason I could see them being the a-hole was for telling her son he wasn't invited before speaking to her husband, and possibly doing it out if anger instead of explaining calmly what the plan was. But that's a huge assumption on my part based on wording

[@sylvestercat1898]

I wonder what National Park OP is going to? Wherever it is it’s gonna be better than her sisters wedding.

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

And cheaper!

[@janicewilcox8590]

I'm so proud and happy for OP cutting her family off especially her sister. It's SO hard to cut toxic family off, but there is such a feeling of freedom and peace once you do it. Yes it hurts ending a relationship that you only thought you had because the other person was never actually in it because of narcissism or whatever and you were filling in all of the gaps with your good nature. Cutting off my toxic family member felt like liberation. Telling my other family members they were going to have to accept it or get bent was almost as freeing. I simply shut them down if they tried to talk about. "We can hang out but if you talk about it anymore I'll leave, I love you but this has nothing to do with you"

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 2: NTA. Based on the information provided by OP, his wife is never going to be accepted in her parents eyes. If she wasn't sick, and she produced a big fancy meal for her family, they would complain about a stain on a shirt, or dust on top of a cabinet. It's a set of ever moving goal posts. The best thing is to simply not play along. That means since she's sick, OP should call her parents up and reschedule the meal to a day where you are not working so that OP and the wife can work together to host. If they are rude to OP's wife, call them on it. "Wow, that's really rude." If they escalate throw them out, or simply cancel the meal completely.

[@JR-zi4bj]

Story 2 - NTA. Agreements are already firmly in place for this couple, and all of the other points OP made about the meal size, 9 hr shift etc. make this a no-brainer. Also IMO, even though the cause of OP's wife's illness is likely related to her pregnancy, she should still take a lesson from 2020: if you are unwell, do not get together with company.

[@elaexplorer]

Thought op for story 3 was a bit weird to feel the need to say that he became disabled through no fault if his own. It implies they think most disabled people are that way because they've done something wrong. Edited for grammar.

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

Don't know. Maybe she was just clarifying it because someone might ask in the comments so she said it first. Not only that, the boy was walking up until he was 16 so her sister knew all about his past and still treated him like an ableist would. She clearly doesn't care about him and now the facade has been lifted off of her.

[@garthrogers2269]

The national park story. NTA and screw both the sister and their mother for their actions. The gift story. OP & brother are NTA. In addition to refusing the insults pretending to gifts, OP should one of two things. Never, ever, buy their parents another gift, or give them something with zero value. Like a used tissue.

[@cutieetae3351]

story 1 That family is gonna get some karma for this crap . We have seen how people always end up crawling back asking for another chance in the end, 9/10. Even when they treat people this badly

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Can you imagine family get togethers after this? I would absolutely not be around these “family” members!

[@johnmckenna5782]

That younger sister of OP, OP's ex-boyfriend and OP's family are all disgusting.

[@bloonh8tr619]

Thanks for the stories Mark! Helping me focus on studying! Can't study in a silent room, I get distracted

[@shainasawyer4649]

1st story: I wouldn’t be surprised if the family reaches out later for “reconciliation.” I can see a scenario if the sister needs financial help/childcare. Or if OP gets married and has a baby. I can see it now, everything would be about the sister. “Your sister had cancer, so you need to make up and have her be a bridesmaid/let her have your day,” or “Your sister had cancer so you need to name your daughter after her…”

[@annanas9122]

Story 1: eh, I feel I would prefer to be much pettier and would air ALL the dirty laundry - parentification, cheating, cheating stepsister having a child because of that cheating. All in all, anything to paint them as the horrible people they are and ruin as much as I can before stepping away.

[@catherinejones5723]

Story 1: Girl go live your best life hold your head high. You did wonderful throughout you childhood. Your sister is 🤢 human. How she and your parents can look themselves in a mirror I seriously don't know! Your halo is shining. Be well.

[@wmdkitty]

1: NTA. OP's family and ex are all toxic, and OP should go gray rock with all of them for this massive betrayal. 2: ESH. OP needs to pull his weight in the kitchen. Wife shouldn't be hosting anyone if she's ill. 3: YTA just for using the phrase "wheelchair bound". My wheelchair doesn't "bind" me, it FREES ME to live my life nearly independently. 4: NTA. OP's parents did what, now? WTF? This is seriously forked up. Any sane person would object to this!

[@confusion4774]

Story 1: NTA Obviously, though I call bullshit on the mother using her excuse. I believe that no excuses are an exception to your choice, no matter how horrible it was. The events may encourage one choice, but you are still the one choosing. You have other choices than the ones being encouraged. So I think she is just bullshitting her way through things. And the father is even worse for not even trying to defend himself, or even better apologize. His silence still speaks about how he knows what he did was wrong.

[@confusion4774]

And story 2: NTA. The wife needs to learn that rules are there for a reason, and nobody are immune to said rules. I get how she wants to see her family, but it's still her hosting them.

[@confusion4774]

Story 3: NTA, I will keep this one short. The sister is embarrassed to have a disabled kid in her party and is trying to make up excuses for her assholeness. Because if people would think that then everyone who knows the kid should correct them.

[@confusion4774]

And last but not least, last story: NTA. what the hell is wrong with OP's parents to haggle RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER? It's also obvious that there's a golden child.

[@confusion4774]

I'm surprised that we had all NTA this episode mark! Thanks for posting this video so I could watch it!

[@paulahowlett1043]

Cancer treatment can't kill betrayal, disrespect or assholeness

[@ohno8398]

Story 4 was just downright miserable

[@civivva4501]

Bride didn't want a CRIP at her 'I HAVE ALWAYS DREAMED ABOUT THIS DAY, MY DAY AND SPENT 50K' Wedding.

[@animelytical8354]

Story 4. The title sounded like it was unfair. Haggling makes some sense. But I was expecting it to be haggling with a dealer or something. This is mad. I've never heard anything like this. The accidental gift differences make sense, but not after the gifts are bought on their behalf because their gifting is so awful. I'd be incredibly embarrassed if I were them. If not for the haggling event, I would say some people are harder to buy gifts for. A gamer would want a gaming laptop. But someone who doesn't game might have much cheaper interests. Though I'd be trying to at least add a gift card for a book store to try to show that you know the interests of the person but don't know their exact desires. But the haggling incident just screams of favouritism. However, it could be that they really don't have money at that time of year. That wouldn't excuse. Christmas, of course.

[@DeathNoteMaker]

If they didn't have the money at that time of year, then her brother would also get the same kind of gifts. It's favoritism, that's it. They can't have money when it comes to the brother and then suddenly don't have any for her. They just don't like her.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "We're so disappointed in you OP. We know you literally gave up you're entire life and everything you loved in order to support your sister but how _dare_ you not give her the rest of your life as well and support her in stealing your boyfriend. As compensation, we want you to quit your job and recommend your sister so she can have a better life. It's what she deserves after you betrayed her and broke her poor little fragile heart in such a cold, cruel, selfish and heartless manner. In fact, give her your actual heart, she needs a transplant. " Edit: "She has a hard time meeting people" Well she clearly did NOT have a hard time meeting Op's boyfriend 🤨🙄 Edit 2: Random thought but I think it says a lot about how much OP was gaslit when she mentioned the part where she "had a tantrum but was swiftly punished" after being told to give up playing volleyball. That's not a tantrum, that's someone being upset because their life is being ripped away from them over something they didn't cause, and for the parents to have the absolute _audacity_ to punish Op for not willingly throwing away her entire life makes me sick.

[@sabrinahinton1774]

Story 1) let them go no contact. Cancer didnt stop her from spreading her legs. The parents have entitled her so much. You lost your teenage years, by being the caretaker for her. Cut them off the entire family, because how you get them is always how you lose them. Please don't become and alcoholic because of them. The trash took itself out. Live your life. God Bless you.

[@orionspero560]

There seems to be a theme today. Parents getting mad at women for standing up too as opposed to participating in indiscrimination. And the women coming on to ask if they're being an asshole by not participate it's not participating in discrimination and harassment. In the story about the woman and her son it strikes me that the bride and the mother are conspiring together to force the OP to be an accomplice to abella's discrimination. It strikes me what they're really mad about is that the OP stood by her son as opposed to letting them manipulateor into discriminatory harassment against her son. In the last story, assuming the OP as a woman, it strikes me as straight masaginy. The last story really reads as the O p's parents harassing her for being a woman and not a man.

[@jameslyons6655]

Story one. Most relationships are only as good as their foundations. That’s a ship put together with bailing wire and duct tape. One helluva “How did you two get together?” story as well. What’s going to happen in the future when this child finds out the truth about how they were conceived? Hoo boy.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - OP is NTA and she is following sister's request for 'no kids'. Her 18 year old kid isn't going to the wedding. Problem solved. TAs are sister and mom telling OP 'you can't do that!'. Um, what? OP is an adult and (I'm guessing) not on any kind of restrictive probation about travelling, so she can go wherever the hell she wants when she wants. Hope sis enjoys her wedding and checks IDs at the door.

[@James-sq4sc]

Lol OP’s ex and entire family are disgusting. What sane person advocates for cheating and threatens their child with no contact because she’s rightfully hurt and put off? I suppose if OP’s dad cheated on her mom, she should tell mom to slap on a smile and attend the wedding

[@kurushiiarashi]

I had cancer at 11 yo. Got the Make a Wish and everything. I love my sister and I have never even THOUGHT about doing something like this. My sister actually got hit on by my ex husband. She immediately told me, showed me the email, and help me make his next visit to our kiddo (slightly) uncomfortable by hinting at shit he said to her without saying anything concrete 😂

[@GreenSkye42]

Perfect time for a Mark video to make me feel better ^^ ! Hope all you guys are having a great day and hoping you are enjoying spooky month ^^

[@katiakat999]

Im ngl all the uncensored swearing in this video caught me off guard. 🤣 lovin it

[@SJM3187]

Story 2 : I’m Indian but there’s a difference OP’s language is actually Hindi aka the (White Indian) also most not all are kinda snobbish and uppity figure they are always mostly in “rich” line. It sucks but it’s true. The dishes itself was big giveaway it’s a rich girl love the average joe.

[@jennilynne1977]

Much love to you Mark and everyone else as well! I hope everyone is having a great day/evening/night!

[@MarkNarrations]

You have a great evening too Jenni 😀

[@carolroberts4614]

Hi Jenni! Hope you're ok, and work is going well!

[@jennilynne1977]

@@carolroberts4614 work has been going well. Thank you for thinking about it. I work 4 days a week and they're 12 hour days. Sunday through Wednesday. So I was off today and the next 2 days. I rather like what I do.

[@standinthegsp6858]

Betting she was afraid a person in a wheelchair would take attention away from her.

[@yellit1975]

1. NTA. I think that OP made the right decision to cut off her awful family. 2. NAH, apart from the wife’s entitled family. 3. NTA but the sister and mother are. 4. NTA maybe time to go low / no contact with the parents.

[@Teezyweez216]

Story 1- coward father

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 4: my dad is just like this. He's a CFO for the company he works at, while I'm at college (with a scholarship) with an internship that pays minimum wage. He will literally haggle when it comes to paying medical bills we previously agreed my parents would help me with, given I have plenty of physical and mental disabilities (some that are exclusively their fault due to childhood trauma). Then when I say I'll just not buy that medication or do that certain procedure, because I can't afford it, he says I'm manipulative. Meanwhile he'll pay for expensive designer bags for his wife and a bunch of extracurriculars for my half sister. It is what it is 🤷‍♀️

[@boondragon6999]

Story 4: If I were her I would gift the parents in kind. On mom's BD I would get her a magazine sub. For dad a small donation in his name to something he hates. As one of one of my fav comedians would say "Here's Yer Sign" and keep it up until they "Read the Sign".

[@boondragon6999]

Oh and NTA by a mile"

[@mayurakshimukherjee7948]

I am Indian, when we have guest we never cook that amount of food unless its a special occasion like birthday, marriage anniversary or house warming party. And they leave if elaborate dishes are not there? How rude! NTA. But if she wants to invite her family so much, they can just order take out. But it might be a little risky considering that she is pregnant & we are in the middle of a pandemic.

[@cptfwiffo]

THat last story. Ouch. Also, in public (christmas, big birthdays, wedding anniversaries), start giving them big boxes with a random dollar-store item in it. Or, as a previous one did: give a book about narcissism, nepotism, or favoritism. Or ask to be given books on healing favouritism, maybe your brother is willing to help.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Just got home after a whirlwind time. Was rushed in for emergency spinal surgery, 2 inches of disc was taken out of my back. A condition called Caudia Equina Syndrome. I'm fortunately not paralysed, which I am so lucky and thankful for. However, I do have potentially permanent nerve damage in places, permanent numbness ect. GOOD NEWS is, that the pain from the surgery incision isn't even close to the pain I have been in these past few years. I just wanted to share. I did self discharge this evening, I am back in my local hospital tomorrow morning to have some things taken care of, but right now I am home and ready for some Waffle AITA. 😁

[@carolroberts4614]

Glad your pain has eased somewhat! Take care, and I wish you a speedy recovery.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

@@carolroberts4614 Thank you so much. I feel pretty good at the minute so hopefully this stays this way 😁

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Wow. Story 1. The update... No amount of my physical pain and permanent issues would ever compare to the emotw pain OP must be feeling. So many betrayals. I hope OP overcomes this and surrounds herself with people who genuinely love her 🖤💜

[@carolroberts4614]

I know! Sometimes I really hurt for some of these ops! I know what it's like to be cheated on, but my family were always there for me! I have three sisters, and never in a million years could this situation arise!

[@BobSims-yi3os]

Last story: brother should give his present to his sister in front of the parents and tell her to sell it on eBay and buy herself a great present--every time until the disparity in treatment stops.

[@jennilynne1977]

I love whoever Mark has editing his videos. They make it funny when Mark forgets to give them something. I'm waiting for some funny little soundless video clip while Mark reads.

[@EditorStevo]

You are most welcome Jenni!

[@jennilynne1977]

@@EditorStevo you're everywhere. You edit at least 3 of my favorite KZbinrs.

[@EditorStevo]

@@jennilynne1977 haha i guess i am! Thanks for watching them all and keeping me in a job 🙌🙌

[@jennilynne1977]

@@EditorStevo good to know that you really aren't locked in a basement somewhere. 😂😂

[@darklightmagus1222]

Story 4: My sister was actually accused of the opposite by her daughter. The eldest sibling, A the accuser, said that her mom preferred her younger sister and brother over her. A mentioned how her sister got a huge party for her 16th birthday and her brother got a custom built gaming computer (he chose all inner components to have RGB lighting). A on the other hand got nothing. While she is sort of right about that, my sister went to a closet and pulled out a binder. Inside was a scrapbook of planning and receipts. Then a cancellation and new receipts for A's treatment for drug use. My sister said she had to cancel the party she was gonna surprise her with and use the money on getting A's treatment going for drug abuse. Also, she's not stupid and had noticed when A stole money from her purse among other things. The whole reason they moved all of A's brother's stuff into a personal gaming room made for him and his cousins (oh they live at my mom's house btw since their dad died) was because games were going missing and she knew that A had been taking stuff but had no solid proof to accuse her. It's not that she was treating them better but all of A's bad behavior has been eating away at expenses to replace items and undergo treatment. She at least tries to do something small for A on A's birthday but can't do anything big otherwise the other two will learn they can mess up and still get things.

[@sars910]

As someone who can read the language and knows the culture (I'm not Indian tho), the insults from the in-laws in Story 2 seem very tame when translated into English. You'd need to know the language to understand how damn rude they're being to OP. The in-laws are toxic as fuck.

[@Josku2411]

Should be doing DM prep and listening to this..instead i shall be drawing and listening to this

[@katiesmith2031]

Sounds like a plan

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oooo

[@carolroberts4614]

One out of two ain't bad, as Meatloaf didn't say!

[@mbyerly9680]

On the potlucks, I think you mean the American South, not South America. You have not lived until you go to a potluck at the local churches, handled by The Church Ladies, the most awesome of Southern cooks.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Swiftly punished for not wanting to quit one activity. That's not ok.

[@sammyk.6457]

Lol mark forgetting the comment kinda lightened the mood for me