r/AmIOverreacting Is Full Of Red Flags

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[@user-wi9hv2pb2q]

On a positive note, if you study Shakespeare you will see All the villains have poor grammar aka faulty logic, and if a protagonist becomes corrupted during a play their grammar and logic will degrade with the character. Shakespeare noticed this bad grammar for bad guys phenomenon 400 years ago.

[@rustyhowe3907]

That's an awesome 'did you know' thank you for sharing that with us.

[@catsncrows]

Very cool. Good to know!

[@fr33f4l4st1ne]

Ehh. Lots of classism, ableism, and possible (implicit) racism (immigrants learning english as a second language for example...) wrapped up in that last sentence. Thats like saying "villains being physically unattractive in cartoons is speaking on a phenomenon that ugly people are morally bad". Its an artistic metaphor, not a fact of life. We would do well to distinguish the two.

[@Izu_fanatic]

​@@fr33f4l4st1ne You have it the wrong way, they're not saying "Most people with bad grammar are psychos and villains" They're saying "Most psychos and villains have bad grammar". If you don't know the difference between the two, then you really shouldn't be attempting to correct people's comments.

[@marlena.]

Cool

[@armymedic_bnw]

That doofus never replied back because SHE FREAKING CREMATED HIM!! 😂🤣😂🤣

[@AngeliqueStP]

Had the same thought run through my head: "Well of course he can't answer - he's in the motherf'ing morgue."

[@ginam2817]

That “your forehead and his 🍆 are in the same general area “ almost got me unemployed 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@it_stimefortea]

SAME THOUGHT! Of course he can't reply, she buried him ten feet deep!! 😂

[@lemongreed7916]

I assumed she blocked him

[@AngeliqueStP]

@@ginam2817 Definitely jotted that one down in my fav insults notepad! lmao

[@skyeblueoceanx]

That comeback in the second story was FIIIIIIRE 🎉

[@SilverAuntie]

I'm so proud of her, I just want to reach out and hug her!! Since I can't, and she might be creeped out by a stranger wanting to hug her, I'll just say: 👍 ATTAGIRL!!!👍

[@chantelmurphy2397]

I loved it!!!! That guy definitely had no shot with her anyway when he types like he doesn't know how to spell or type properly, and she comes back with that absolute gem of a roast, comeback and shut down rolled into a beautiful burn burrito!!!!

[@xletragedyx]

She massacred him

[@okenwave3119]

"He might not beat the charges, but he'll beat you." Damn. DAMN.

[@rustyhowe3907]

I was cheering the screen! YOU GO GURL!!!💪🏆

[@totesmcgoats435]

As a woman, it's terrifying when a man makes a move on you and you're not interested. It's like diffusing a bomb, trying to figure out how to gently let him down without pissing him off to the point he starts threatening you.

[@ladosis5596]

Right? I'm over 40 and it doesn't happen as often anymore, but yesterday I was walking to the bus and a rando drunk started to walk with me as I passed a bar's entrance, and my FACE must have been something because he looked me in the eye and tried to say hi, but he looked at me and balked. I was so scared he would react badly because I was fully blindsided. But he slunk away thank goodness. I was so ready to throw hands though.

[@andalistark5416]

@@ladosis5596I heard every word of this, my 40some sis! I got my ‘nope’ face on too 🤘

[@aryella7107]

yep...exactly how i'm feeling

[@jasonhiatt3667]

Yeah I can’t imagine. We’ve all turned people down but I can’t imagine the idea of someone not taking no for an answer and continuing to escalate

[@Sleigh2000]

Thanks ladies! I’ve been told the same in many ways but never I’ve “got my nope face on” and I’m loving it 💃🏼

[@midnightlupus1262]

I think your analysis of the behavior with regards to using the emojis and laughing is spot on. Laughing to show that you aren't bothered is like the human equivalent of deer or gazelle leaping in front of predators to show they're fit and not a good target; it also would explain why people tend to laugh when they're nervous. In the texts those laughing emojis are someone trying desperately to appear like they're not feeling threatened; it's a common phenomena, the more insecure someone feels, the more they try to appear nonchalant (and the more obvious it is that they're unsettled). Also hot damn that was a stellar rebuttal from the girl in that second story. She verbally spiked him like a volleyball.

[@KinichIsTheOne]

This just described my friend

[@TheSCPStudio]

Careful with the armchair analysis. There’s a reason theres paid psychologists.

[@midnightlupus1262]

@@TheSCPStudio That's why I'm not attempting to diagnose an individual or a group with a condition, disorder, or illness. I'm simply stating my opinion based on my experiences and agreeing with his theories, which are also his opinion.

[@heatherheath3834]

​@TheSCPStudio how do u know they aren't?? 👀

[@mdrakonnia2933]

The first story reminded me of an argument with my father who didn't believe women and men could be friends. It didn't end up in him asking me to ask my male best friend to sleep with me, but it did end up in my dad scaring the whole family (myself included) for verbally expressing the will to do harm to my male best friend and another guy who I was on friendly terms with, and not caring about the legal consequences. I *think* I shut down that operation when I asked him "do you want your kids and grandkids to remember you as a violent man?"

[@LifeisFoo]

That was a very good way to change the perspective. You want children/people to view you as a violent person?

[@SilverAuntie]

Very well put. I hope he thought long and hard about your question, and came back with the right response. (I assume he did, right?)😳

[@aelwynwitch9460]

Last dude breaking out the racism while using AAVE. That never stops happening....😂

[@kurotsuki7427]

"Women and men cant be friends? Man it sounds more like you cant be friends wirh anyone."

[@oohmisslady]

I wholeheartedly WISH I would've done that before it was too late! When I say I'm envious of your bravery with saying that, that's not an understatement!! I applaud you and I don't even know you. My father never even tried to build a relationship with his grandkids before it was too late, I never got that apology I felt I deserved (because he thought you had to EARN or even ASK for it!!)before it was too late, I never got answers before it was too late. Ssoooo many things. I beg every young person reading my reply to please please ppplllleeeaaassee, don't wait for "the right time." Say what your parents NEED to hear but don't be over the top ugly about it. Start that healthy dialogue and show them a better way of handling a situation than the way they were taught/emulate.

[@AmethystEyes]

“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” So many women wish that they could respond truthfully but they are afraid that men will hurt them.

[@amazinggrace5692]

It’s why we all picked the bear

[@meganism8349]

@@도쿄라면 And if the bear kills us, it won't SA our corpse 🙃

[@l.j.i]

Yuuuup. I turned down a guy (twice my age) almost 3 years ago. He's still stalking me. Cops have done NOTHING because - surprise - they've all been male.

[@chesneymigl4538]

Yup, as old as that quote is, it never stops being true.

[@wendyg.2664]

💯!!

[@provocativecheesecake]

I just want to put out there that being bipolar is not necessarily an indicator of this abhorrent behavior.

[@WobblesandBean]

No, but it sure doesn't help.

[@provocativecheesecake]

@@WobblesandBean Oh, absolutely. It's no picnic, to say the least, for all involved. I just didn't want this to be seen as expected behavior, perhaps sabotaging what would otherwise be a good relationship. If that makes sense. I wasn't trying to downplay the challenges.

[@Moraca101]

Bipolar person, here its specifically Bipolar individuals who refuse to acknowledge or control their condition. And Im not even talking about meds, Im not on them and I have not threatened anyone who hasnt threatened me first. Now, can I be a bitch and get aggressive if you start screaming at me during a rage day? Absolutely, but youre gonna get the "walk away, put your complaint in our DMs so I can make sure I dont say anything I dont mean" warning. And if you dont take that warning, you get "Im serious, Im in a rage and I need you to back off, because I cant right now and I would like to stay friends." And if you dont take them seriously, you have a 50/50 chance of me going batshit or stomping away. I have gone 10 years without meds and have had zero arrests, zero messy breakups, and still somehow ended up one of the most well-adjusted out of my family. I did it by being responsible, acknowledging how my condition affects others, and using my coping mechanisms on top of going to therapy. Its hard, but it is possible. I just wanted to go through my formative years without a medication that messed with my head. I have been seeking medication recently because I have a required (as in, to continue living) medication that worsens my bipolar, and I just need it dampened. Aint no shame in it. Life happens and I am so glad that I have that as an option to make life go just a bit smoother.

[@darkstraylily1477]

Truth, i think mainly because there are different types of bipolar and and its not neccessary emotional outbursts. Its often misdiagnosed ith BpD as well so theres that bit. Also just because someone is a victim/is ill - doesnt automatically mean theyre a good person 🤷‍♀️ some people are jusr cxnts.

[@provocativecheesecake]

@@Moraca101 I think that's exactly right. I don't think my wife would have put up with me as long as she has if I hadn't acknowledged my mental health issues and got the help I needed.

[@kathrynmcewen2583]

I find “ no” and the power of “block” is a great drama reducer.

[@simonfea2]

But what if that shit happens in real world like a Costco? What if the woman is 20 and 90 lbs and the man is 40 and 200 lbs? See? Its not online thats scary for woman its the real world shit. Being followed off public transit, being gropped in Macys.... Every woman has a story. Your mom, sister, grandmother. Every. Woman. Has. A. Story. Just ask her.

[@Cowboy_Frog]

There are a bunch of psychos who don’t care that you blocked them. They make new accounts. They use friends accounts. They’ll keep going. But generally, yes.

[@stanleyelnats]

And I as a man have many stories as well js. ​@simonfea2

[@aussieoranges]

He got. Her number. Off the Save The Dates. That is WILD.

[@WobblesandBean]

Something similar happened to me. It was awful.

[@Zardox2]

... I had a dude show up at my apartment, after getting my address off a job application that was left unattended (for 5 minutes) on a receptionist's desk. Showed. Up. In. Person. Yeah.

[@petezipardi4022]

..had a friend that knew a girl's city and a partial street number, he showed up at her house. Drove hours and came to her front door, unbidden. I patiently tried to explain to him how what he did was deeply wrong. He just couldn't get it. Couldn't realize how weird and alienating he was to her. I just had to scrape him off.

[@rustyhowe3907]

I had to look up what that was exactly and OMG what a snake, shows he was just biding his time for a long time until he could take a bite.

[@mikelytou]

idk, maybe it's a cultural thing, or maybe a logical thing, but how is that wild? The couple sent out an announcement to their friends and wrote their numbers. If you write your number anywhere, you have to assume you are going to be called. That is why you write your number in the first place. That's the reason phone numbers exist. To be called by other people.

[@EkaMarie]

Imagine having a crush on someone and hoping for a chance with them by insulting them. I couldn’t imagine! If I had a crush on someone and they seemed uninterested or straight told me no. I’d just reply “I’m sorry for the awkwardness then, I just wanted to let you know. No worries” bc at least then you don’t completely burn that bridge to ashes! Who thinks calling someone a slut and belittling them will make them want to talk to you more? Jesus!

[@swanky147]

This reaction makes sense for a few reasons, sadly. One is cognitive dissonance - I think I'm good/appealing, this person I wanted has rejected me, therefore I must not have wanted them. It's a kneejerk reaction to resolve the discomfort of being rejected by someone you sought approval from. The rejection has to be due to a flaw in them, and/or you have to adjust your view so that you no longer sought their approval. Same thing as the "hi, wanna go out?" "no thanks" "nvm you're ugly anyways" exchanges we see constantly. Another is manipulation - they're trying to lower the prospective mate's self-image, so that the douchenozzle saying these things might be closer to their level. This is a common behavior by people (men) who're already in a relationship but are jealous and fearful their partner will leave. They want her to feel that nobody else would have her, so they berate her. In another of Dustin's vids he read a thread about a bf who constantly told OP she smelled bad, which she obsessively tried to fix for months. When she'd finally had enough and was about to leave, he expressed shock and said a male authority (his dad?) had said this was the key to getting a woman to never leave.

[@WobblesandBean]

It's sadly common among men to do that. When they get rejected they immediately lash out and insult the woman's appearance.

[@mishalmalik8474]

When you watch too much anime, and now you see everyone who insults you as them being in love with you.

[@sunshinelittler5027]

Dumb asses lol 😂

[@Lanoira13]

Seriously, if he wasn't a POS he could've still had a chance and even if not, been a positive experience by being like, "Hey, I got your number from the invites, I wanted to give my condolences. We had no idea things were that bad, and we still don't know everything tbc, but I know he must've fucked up for someone as great as you to leave his ass and I didn't liked how he talked about you at times. If I'm being honest, I always liked you more than I like him, so I haven't really been able to look at him the same since. I hope you're doing alright, please let me know if you need anything. I would love to hang out sometime, see if we'd work out as friends or maybe something else in the future, but I understand if you don't want anything to do with Ex. I don't either sometimes. I'm holding out for him to be better, but I don't know if he'll ever change his toxic tendencies if he wouldn't do it for you. I'll keep you updated, but please know I was always in your corner and I support you fully either way." And then just let it sit! Be cool, be empathetic, and be honest! But his honesty is what he did, because he's not a good person.

[@averymason4021]

"I'm angrier than a vampire seeing garlic bread on his wife's grocery list..." Duuuuude 😂 x100

[@gregoryvn3]

Ghasted my flabbers! 🤣

[@AuDHD_Mom]

It's wild that the first story, she's too drunk to drive home and yet she still sounds more sane and composed than her insane, infantile quasi-boyfriend. She shouldn't have to be his mommy or his therapist. Ladies and gentlemen, it is not your job to educate someone who doesn't want to be educated.

[@theoverunderthinker]

I think if you find yourself getting that level of jealous when she is out of your sight, then why are you even with her? some people can't tell when it is not a match. If they make you that crazy, it's not match. and if being with anyone would make you that unhinged with jealousy, climb up a mountain and be a hermit. it is wild to me that someone can be that insane with jealousy and still think it is a healthy relationship.

[@NarutoUzumaki71069]

Bro, how the girl in the second story tore into that coward. That was priceless. Someone, please give her an award for that outstanding performance. I laughed so hard I woke the entire house up. 😂

[@olivierdastein2604]

Between a coward, someone who beats up people who dare to hit on his *ex*, and someone who approves of this behavior and hope that the violent assaulter won't be charged, my choice would be easy. I'd take the coward any day and twice on Sunday. But apparently you think that not wanting to be beaten up is much worse than beating up people, and you side with the beater and the beater's support team against the "coward." Maybe you should think this through.

[@Galafael1122]

I had a fully platonic male friend for 23 years. I was the best woman at his wedding to his amazing wife. Sadly, we no longer speak but it isn't because he wanted to be with me or vice versa.

[@thatoneweirdbish6364]

Love how the first guy's first instinct to see if the guy friend is into her, is advising her to do something completely manipulative. Great projection right there, it speaks volumes about how he solves his problems.

[@Janjones7735]

Not only manipulative but unsafe. What if he’d said yes and assumed her drunk asking was consent?

[@thatoneweirdbish6364]

@Janjones7735 true that's also an option in the worst case scenario

[@mishalmalik8474]

I mean, it was a valid question, wrong method to go about it... but it's always good to check 🤷‍♀️

[@LadyAstolat]

He was absolutely trying to manipulate her with the goal being total control of her and alienating her from her friends. That was absolutely an abusive relationship and she's lucky he decided to out himself as a nutjob by going behind her back and messaging her friend.

[@thatoneweirdbish6364]

@@mishalmalik8474 it wasn't a valid question at all. When you have these concerns about a guy best friend who's in a committed relationship of his own, you're the one with the problem. Especially since he's not even together with her atm and because his trust issues don't stem from past relationship trauma but from a need to have total control over his partner.

[@empressphoenixrose]

Oh that first one. I know that routine. Divorcing my abusive malignant narcissist husband now. Been there done that. Glad yr posting that. Those are definite red flags! Mine was that exact way. They NEVER get better. Ever. Run away with those red flags yall. Save yr time and energy that you never will get back.

[@yellowrose4717]

SAME!!

[@WobblesandBean]

Same. They never get better. They only ever get worse. They. Always. Get. Worse.

[@Lanoira13]

Someone needs to know they're in the wrong to get better. There are certainly people who get to that point eventually, but no amount of love can force them into it. You gotta look out for yourself first and just wish them the best with changing from afar.

[@Esther-32013]

Why are people so freaking creepy? How do they think their crass behaviour is going to swoon over the ladies? People are so pathetic.

[@WobblesandBean]

Yeah. "People".

[@Cadence__1700]

​@@WobblesandBeanWhat?

[@Cadence__1700]

@Ester-32013 Is why I've been single for over three years cuz last two guys I've dated were just like this--even blackmailing me to self-exit if I leave, and making me feel paranoid and unsafe by showing up at my house uninvited. Authorities were practically dismissive everytime I reported him just because nothing physical was done to me. It felt like I was the final girl in a horror movie with how stupid the cops were. One night, the guy came over, I broke up with him, he called his friends during the altercation on speaker phone, forced his hand down my pants, and my dog (who just passed last month from esophageal issues) protected me when she heard the noises and my parents (who I live with still) called his to tell them what happened and when his dad drove over, he beat the SHIT out of him and the cops came over to tale him. They asked me if I want to press charges, I said "no", because I was scared still, so they gave me a restraining order. But that was three years ago. I've been happier without a relationship than I was in one ❤

[@MissLadyMaam]

​@@Cadence__1700I think they're insinuating that it's not, "people," but rather, "men." Idk, I could be making assumptions but, that's the vibe I picked up. 🤷‍♀️ And before the replies start rolling in, NOBODIES ALLOWED TO SHOOT THE MESSENGER, alright?! 😂 Those are the rules. I didn't make 'em. I'm just the clarity-fairy. 🧚‍♀️ Fluttering from comment to comment trying to make sense of it all. 😜

[@lorimiller4301]

​@@MissLadyMaam Quantum Leap is on Pluto right now. Your comment reminded me of the theme where he's trying to right things that once went wrong.

[@MyLadyPanda]

That guy in the last story didn't text back because he was in the Burn Unit. Phone calls only from there XD

[@MajestyofMayhem]

He got roasted so bad he's in a coma, gunna need reconstructive surgery for that trauma

[@darnunt]

@@MajestyofMayhem The goddamned Arctic Ocean won't be enough to help with that burn.

[@sugarsodawithconfetti]

I can't stop rereading the second stories "come-to-jesus meeting" part, she is an ICON

[@AngeliqueStP]

That was A. Thing. Of. Beauty. Me: "Well of course he can't answer - he's in the motherf'ing morgue."

[@theoverunderthinker]

it doesn't hurt that she has an ex that she can simply tell about him and the guy harassing her gets their butt kicked. what is he gonna say with that held over his head?

[@olivierdastein2604]

An icon who had no issue staying with someone who apparently beats up people when he's jealous, who would even beat up people who hit on her *ex*, an icon who apparently finds this behavior perfectly fine and whose only worry is that her violent ex could be charged with assault. What an admirable person.

[@BeeWhistler]

As the highly ticklish littlest sister of a large family (who HATES being tickled but of course was as a child) I appreciate your interpretation. Also, we once came home from a date to find my amiable, friendly, sweet little 6-year-old daughter sitting in her bed crying, where the babysitter had sent her. I am not calling her amiable, friendly and sweet just because she’s my kid… she’s always been a people person (well once she passed her colicky newborn stage) and would get so excited to have her babysitter come over, ad would be crushed if anyone was upset at her. I have two other kids who aren’t nearly as affectionate as my oldest. So we knew something was up if she was in trouble. Turns out babysitter, who was an older sister of many siblings, had decided to tickle attack my kid. My daughter was trying to tell her to stop but couldn’t quit giggling and was ignored. So finally my daughter hit her. Once we had that clarity, we no longer hired that sitter and I told my daughter she did the right thing. Sometimes you have to show people when they aren’t listening to what you tell them, and you have a right to defend yourself. It’s not like she could hit her that hard anyway.

[@Lanoira13]

Seriously, the adult thing to do in that situation would be to apologize and explain the misunderstanding and come up with an easy way to make clear when playtime isn't fun anymore and it needs to stop without hurting someone (which with siblings often just leads to roughhousing anyway). Like having a safeword or teaching them to say (and listen to) "I mean it, I'm not having fun." I had this issue with my niece and nephew as they're very much the playfighting performative displeasure types, and would whine to me to break things up when play wasn't going how they wanted but also when they were tired of it and genuinely wanted it to stop. But then half of the time they'd turn around and antagonize their sibling after asking to break it up. So I told them to pick an uncommon word that wouldn't usually come up to use as a real way to take a break, agreeing that the break time would be over if the person who said it started back up (or said they were ready ofc). They've been great about it, but the word they came up with was gibberish and I absolutely don't remember it. lmao If they don't, we'll have to come up with a new one next time I babysit.

[@clutterbot7279]

@@Lanoira13 it's all well and good planning a safe-word or sentence to tell people to stop, but when you're physically unable to speak because you're being tickled a lot, that's not a possible tactic for some to use.

[@Lanoira13]

@@clutterbot7279 That's why I said "come up with an easy way to make clear when playtime isn't fun anymore and it needs to stop without hurting someone", not just "establish a safeword". Tapping out is a common nonverbal method, I usually go for taps on the other person's body so they don't have to pay attention to their surrounding to notice them. Tactics for situations where one is restrained and verbal communication is hindered are of course possible, blinking or noises or pausing to check in or such, but such situations are probably better to just avoid with kids imo. I specifically gave verbal examples because from the OP's account it sounded like the daughter COULD speak and did say stop, but wasn't taken seriously because she was giggling involuntarily, and to the babysitter probably sounded like she was having fun despite her pleas until she made it obvious she wasn't. If she couldn't even talk to give a warning, that's even more understandable. Kids don't automatically know how to nonverbally communicate "stop touching me. get away from me" outside of pushing someone away or swatting at them, which like OP said can only hurt so much coming from an exhausted half retrained 6 year old. Awful that the babysitter didn't use that as a teaching moment to teach her other ways to get out of those situations.

[@Gracei_Taralom]

That was pure poetry and it made my day. She didn't overreact. 18:44

[@olivierdastein2604]

Not at all, she just mentioned that her ex would beat the crap out of his guy for daring to hit on someone *he isn't even with anymore* and it doesn't bother her the slightest bit, she mentions that her only worry would be that the ex could be charged with assault. Clearly she had no issue with being a guy who beats up people when he's jealous and even supports this behavior. Sorry, but out of the three, those needing most to have a huge red flag painted on their back are this girl and her ex. The guy texting, regardless how awkward he might have been, at least wasn't suggesting beating up anybody or that assaulting people was perfectly fine. Pure poetry, indeed.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

The first guy is deliberately isolating her to make her an easier victim. Whether or not men and women can be friends is the cover excuse. If she asks, she's a lady of the evening. If she doesn't, she's not doing everything she can for the relationship. And that's not even addressing the friend's response. It's just a way to make up something to get mad at her

[@elizabethtabarlet6561]

Yep. And, bonus if she does ask, that would probably ruin or at least harm the friendship, isolating her even further. When she didn't play along, he went to the male friend himself and tried to start something. So glad she got out, but so sad she felt like she might be overreacting!

[@YuBeace]

If anyone ever comments about leaving them on Read when it was only 18 minutes I will just not want to talk to them anymore ever again no matter what the context is. 🙂 I’m not customer service, brother.

[@LadyAstolat]

My own mother nuked our already delicate relationship because I left her on read for approximately 18 minutes. I was at work, busy, and needed a little time to come up with a tactful response to her ugly message full of demands. She went off the deep end and dozens of ugly hate filled messages later demanded I return the set of her house keys I had. I obliged, and have no interest in engaging with her until she can behave like a civilized adult.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Customer service will leave you on hold for a lot longer than that! LOL

[@Googledebunker]

Scared to grow up when people like this is who I’ll probably have to deal with in 10 or so years

[@crossanddream2]

It's unfortunately a big part of life, but they thankfully aren't all bad and it's usually rare to come across this kinda thing. You usually find some good people/green flagged people

[@thekameru6058]

You're right to be concerned. I'd agree its not all men, but when some real bad bs goes down, 9 times outta 10 a straight guy is either responsible, or a ringleader. A shocking number of the het guys you'll meet just won't be fit to be in a relationship with a woman. The only heartening thing I've seen so far is how FAST gen z women are to just go 'hell no' and walk away if they see a red flag. Their turn around time tends to be a lot faster than the millenial women's were. Anyway, my best advice would be to find older women either irl or online, ideally in feminist circles, and LISTEN when they compare notes on their relationships. It'll help keep you safe and help teach you what to guard against. The exact sort of men to pull bad crap is also the same ones who HATE women swapping war stories and giving survival lessons, because it makes women far harder to trick if they are pre-armed with knowledge at a young age. Ok, best of luck to you. I hope it goes better for you than it went for me.

[@lucylinia8694]

As a 22 year old cis woman who never leaves the damn house, I rarely get people like this on my case, so you're good hun.

[@SilverAuntie]

Okay, I'm an old lady, so I'll just pass on what I've learned in my 65 years. Keep your eyes open, and your heart protected. You'll learn to tell the good ones from the bad and, when you find the right person, you'll know. Just don't expect it to be the first, second, or even third person you ever date!😕 And, remember, you have to kiss a LOT of frogs 🐸 before you find your prince🤴🏻.(And, half the fun is in the kissing!)😉🤭😚💋💋💋

[@thekameru6058]

Find older women, LISTEN TO THEM when they talk about relationships, and arm yourself with knowledge. And keep your head on a swivel. The more you know the safer you'll be. And take a leaf from the gen z women - walk at the first HINT of red flag behaviour, don't look back, and don't be afraid to ask for unbias help from other women. The more we talk to each other the safer we'll all be.

[@Hannahgs]

For the first story…what would it prove if she lied and confessed feelings and he said yes or no? The issue is whether SHE would do that, she’s the one in the relationship. She is the one that needs to be faithful. If he doesn’t trust that, their relationship is doomed to begin with. It’s not in her control whether other people are attracted to her

[@theoverunderthinker]

if I ever felt that insanely jealous, I would think it was not a good situation to be in and leave. if someone makes you that crazy, go be a hermit on a mountain somewhere. nothing against the lady. but whether she gives you reason or doesn't, if you find yourself going over the deep end, you need to check yourself before you crash out. just because you like someone doesn't mean you should be with them. i think the story said they broke up before. from her perspective, she should have trusted her instinct in that.

[@TheOfficialTarynTots]

First guy reminds me of my crazy ex. He thought the same thing but that wasn't the worst thing. One time, he actually thought I poisoned the mayo and because I laughed and refused to eat it he thought that meant I definitely poisoned it. He made me eat 3 big spoonfuls of it to prove I didn't. He was obviously crazy and very paranoid.

[@WobblesandBean]

......Jesus.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

I bet he made it up just to make you eat mayo.

[@pittpenguins5871]

numerous women have killed their partner by poisoning their food soo...

[@davinasquirrel7672]

@@pittpenguins5871 Not as many women have done that as men who have strangled, shot, burned, bludgeoned, stabbed their female partners, which btw, happens every day. I'll give you a little secret, based on several decades of studying the DV and homicide rates. It's a little different in the US, but still basically in line with UK/AU etc. Women are killed 50-65% of the time by current or former male partners. Next highest categories are relatives (mostly male) and friends/acquaintances (again, mostly male). Strangers come in at around 5%. Now compare it to male homicide risk. About a third by male friends or business partners. About a third by male strangers. A lessor number by (usually) male family members or gay partners. Way down on the list, at about 3% are by female partners - and in a significant portion of those, the male was the domestic abuser whereby the victim either deliberately or accidentally during altercation, killed him (half of that, not meaning to, just wanted him to stop attacking her). So you know, you look a tad silly trying to claim that it happens just as often to men. Like super silly league.

[@ozmathegreatand]

3:15 she's also too drunk to leave??? if her friend said yes he'd be a HUGE red flag himself

[@CuteCuteJames]

Seriously! "Put your and other people's lives in danger because I'm too insecure to imagine that you WON'T be unfaithful to me." Bro, you are a babychild.

[@ravenlord-robinson1514]

" you're not mad how many men I'm sleeping with, you're just mad you'll never be one of them "💀💀💀

[@chantelmurphy2397]

That guy in the second story definitely had no chance with such a smart, honest and quick witted woman like her. Typing sentences like you are so "gangster" is definitely not going to get you with someone who is clearly out of your league. It should be obvious during the text conversation because she can string a sentence together, like normal human beings, without the laziness of abbreviated words everywhere.

[@theoverunderthinker]

it's not about leagues. she already knew him for years and wasn't interested. his response only proved her to be right, but the texting wasn't why he had no chance. she had been around him and had an opinion already.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Indeed, the disparity in 'leagues' was obvious right from the start. Tip-off was "hah ha ha aha a ahahhha" bullshit. LIke, what, you a Bond villain or something?

[@eMDTee]

That last one, the responses… INCREDIBLE!! She’s a damn good role model for us girls talking to those particular kinds of guys omg

[@RenardNox]

I always wonder why I decide to be single, then I hear/read stories like this and remember why.

[@lifeinflight7778]

Yep or watch videos on Law & Crime Networks page. So many "perfect" couples in photos turn out to not be perfect. Whenever I watch those videos I thank God that I'm single and alive.

[@victoriajankowski1197]

Not willing to destroy a good friendship to pacify a toxic ex, who could have scene it

[@Stuff_I_Watch]

WE NEEDED A TICKLE WARNING!!! ⚠️ I HATE BEING TICKLED. My family would tickle me until I peed myself as a child. Not good memories.

[@Snakeofwrath]

I have a sensory processing disorder that has given me touch aversion. My dad would always tickle me despite me telling him multiple times that I have sensory issues, and he knows full well that many autistic people like myself have them. I even gave him fair warning that if he kept doing it I would punch him. He did it again, I punched him hard in the stomach, he never did it again. Nowadays he’ll pretend like he’s going to but he’s never actually done it again and he apologized for disregarding my disorder.

[@Lilly_King]

Exactly, being tickled gives you a certain level of anxiety. Like reflexively putting your arm down when anyone is around. Or more recently being anxious when my back it to my father because he likes to poke my back

[@chickenanon]

Thankfully my mother was always very supportive so when i started kicking the shite outta people for tickling me it was basically like "well....she warned you" because since i wad like 7 I've been telling people I'll kick them if they tickle me. I'm like--literally the most ticklish person ever, I've been accidentally tickled many times, I've even accidentally tickled myself. I had a nurse accidentally tickle me and i jerked away and then apologized because I'm ticklish, and she like. Grabbed my ankle and was like oh it only tickles if you don't touch firmly and like--she did have to check my legs for something, i was in the hospital don't recall what this specific incident was about but she technically had a reason. But it was so shitty waiting for her to stop touching me. Nowadays I'm particularly aggressive about guarding my space, and even wind up snapping at my mum when she touches me unexpectedly. I feel like i had a point there but honestly I'm just like. I'm glad it's becoming less common to force tickles on kids etc. Like, I've genuinely had fun with it; me and this one kid in middle school used to chase each other around tickling each other. But it was like, we had permission from each other AND we neither went too far nor tickled anywhere like. Off limits i dunno lmao. Tickling CAN be fun for some people, but forcing something on someone is never fun for that person!!! And I'm glad we're finally doing something about it!!!!

[@mah1na]

god i've been there, my (non biological) aunt's family chased me down and tickled me until i couldn't breathe and thought i was going to pass out. she of course did nothing even though i was starting to cry

[@DebTheDevastator]

That's legitimately the most messed up thing to do to a kid.

[@drfhgoalie]

I live in the same house as someone who thinks pretty much every "femenist" idea is wrong and an attack on men. Last week I actually did bring up the "women need to be nice and back away slowly when some men approach them bc it's scary and you don't know how they'll react." He, of course, thought that was just women being over reactive and trying to make everything harder for men just because we hate them so much. It's exhausting to be around people who can see the world in such a different way.

[@DisasterAstor]

I had an ex who asked my (single) male bff to have relations with me so that my ex could do something silly with some other girl. Male friend and I have been married for 10 years now. Going on 11 next month. Better things are out there.

[@cynthiaholland13]

So you married the one you told him he didn't have to worry about😮 I thought guys were just exaggerating about that😂

[@DisasterAstor]

@ when did I say any of that? You definitely read between the lines there and took the message you wanted.

[@cymtastique]

Man got eviscerated. Bro's never gonna recover. Side note, does anyone answer private numbers? The only time people call from those is when something shady is going on.

[@stasiadoesntslay]

these stories normally get worst as the video goes on, and if that’s the first story, i’m scared about the rest

[@katietoo7754]

Tickling is abuse, imho. One of the ways my mother abused me was by tickling me incessantly until I lost control of my body. No matter how many times I begged her not to, or begged her to stop, she wouldn’t. I completely agree with your assessment about tickling.

[@Flowerpotpowerrrrr]

This is not to disrespect your experience, but while it can be used to abuse someone, it isn’t inherently abuse. Your mother took something “pure” and dirtied it. I am sorry. May she know endless shame for her actions.

[@bonzbeasty]

​@Flowerpotpowerrrrr I truly agree with your statement. Anything can become abuse in the hands of an abuser, but tickling is not inherently abuse. I'm saying this as a highly ticklish person who hates being tickled, and gets super human strength when being tickled to kick people across the room to make them stop.

[@ladyeowyn42]

My little boy likes tickling and we use strict consent, he can stop it at any time. That’s so important. There can’t be enjoyment otherwise, only fear.

[@finn_in_the_bin5263]

Id argue less that tickling is abuse and more that literally anything can be made abusive if done certain ways, but I'm sorry that happened to you. My experience was different but I was also hurt by tickling growing up, admittedly not intentionally but I have very low pain tolerance and my grandpa used to love tickling people but didn't seem to know his own strength, all I know is every time he 'tickled' me there was no tickle feeling only pain from how hard his fingers pressed in and to this day at 30 being tickled activates my fight or flight response, I think even though it was innocent I was so young at the time my brain was still building rudimentary associations and decided tickling was a form of attack or smth 😅

[@cabrielleholden]

​@@ladyeowyn42 Came here to say this about my family!

[@hoppybirdy6967]

The way my heartrate spiked at "don't be scared." Bro, why're you expecting to come off as scary? What are you planning? What are you expecting?

[@captainkylie2458]

Her reply 😭 It was beautiful 😭😭

[@WobblesandBean]

Right? It's not a red flag, it's completely warranted.

[@MonsterProblems]

i consult on social media bullying and bullying in general. Your analysis is perfection that was exactly what it is. it's a narcissistic wound to their misogyny feels. They need the reassurance. This video and her takedown were perfection.

[@ThatMontanaMom]

First story sounds so much like my abusive ex. Always accusing me of cheating even though I wasn’t. Meanwhile, he is on gay hook up sites as a bottom. He was raised in a homophobic family and can’t come to terms with the fact he is gay. So he uses women as his bi-alibi , hates THEM for it and ends up being physically, mentally and emotionally abusive all the while hooking up with guys whenever he can.

[@betenoireindustries]

god, dude, what a colossal dumpster fire. i'm just... so glad you got away.

[@ThatMontanaMom]

@@betenoireindustries you and me both, friend!

[@OrphenStudios]

I will say I had enough bad education on dating and (back then) an undiagnosed anxiety disorder (I got help and am doing better) so I can understand getting upset on unread...That said I never did this. I had a massive panic attack when a girl didn't answer a call when we decided to make plans. She was in class and I kept calling...Then realized I looked like a creep. That's when the panic and embarrassment set in...And I started calling again to apologize for all the calls... We're still friends some 15 years later. I got lucky I started making friends that stuck with me through all my time dealing with my anxiety attacks and bad decisions that I made during them. TL;DR Get help. No shame.

[@margodphd]

You're friends because she knew you weren't calling because you felt entitled to her response but out of genuine worry. I'd wager she didn't think you are a creep for a second. But, I second that. Get help people, for your own sake.

[@macpro75]

Asking that question (in the first story) would be the equivalent of entrapment. It's an inducement without appropriately showing predisposition.

[@evaveronica5222]

I don't know how these dudes can even think their responses are smart...and be so proud of them. Damn.

[@taylorwilliams4179]

And THAT womans last response is why I love our gender.

[@olivierdastein2604]

You mean the part where she approves of her ex beating up people when he's jealous, mentioning that her only worry is that her violent ex could be charged for the assault?

[@risuwolf]

The whole thing about laughing cause we're uncomfortable reminds me of something. I go to ballroom dancing parties once a month, and I'm not all that experienced, so whenever I mess up, I find myself laughing to cover up my embarrassment/discomfort over the fact I messed up

[@kyihsin2917]

The "other f-word" is usually called the "f-slur" to distinguish it from the more common f-word.

[@Beth-ie]

_Tickling! I was tortured by 2 way-older siblings as a young kid! "Get her giggling. She likes it," knowing I did NOT. I am now completely desensitized to tickling/torture._ 😐

[@Kristy-x1t]

My older sister would sit on my legs and tickle my feet until I cried. Now I can't stand anyone close to my feet😢 I'm sorry for your experience🙏 but it's weirdly comforting that I'm not the only person with a sadistic sibling.

[@martibee8984]

I had many people tickle me until I couldn't breathe when I was a kid. It was torture. Now I'm not ticklish either. The only thing that tickles me is when my cat bites my feet, but it doesn't bother me like intentional tickling did.

[@hollyingraham3980]

I had to stop being ticklish, too. It was a way for my way older sister to physically abuse me without getting in trouble for hurting me the way she wanted to. After a while my father told her to cut it out entirely, so she could only do it when he was at work. Mom couldn't care less.

[@mishmazy]

You're spot on regarding the tickling theory!! Never thought about it this way

[@mikelytou]

That second guy's writing style is extremely annoying. I want to send him back to elementary school so that he learns you don't HAVE to use empty phrases in EVERY. DAMN. SINGLE. SENTENCE.

[@andreavantzet1962]

I never knew passionate skipping with a big red flag was a thing. I love it.

[@TheSlong123]

The first one is narcissistic abuse. My husband does that shit. He's a fucking NUT. Example: always accusing me of fucking around, said I was at the store for an hour buying 2 things. I was there for 15 minutes. We have life 360...I showed my employer's timeclock to show that his timeframe was impossible. Now it's "I don't care what that says"...even though he based his findings on the same app he says he doesn't care about.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

praying for you to be able to get out of there

[@martibee8984]

Sounds like he's projecting. He has to logic out a way you're cheating because he is. I could be wrong, maybe he's just psycho. Either way, you deserve better.

[@crazyratlady3438]

The people who always accuse are the one's doing it. They assume everyone behaves as they do. My EX was the same way, it was exhausting and turned out he was the cheater. I see the same behavior in my mom. She's highly suspicious of everyone and assumes the worst..again, she's the one who behaves badly.

[@VeretenoVids]

Please get out. Please! This kind of behavior is really horrific and is the biggest red flag that ever waved!!

[@LaurenAlexandra13]

The best verbal beatdown of all time...damn. That was amazing. That had me sitting at my laptop honestly clapping for it, so smart and so biting at once. NICE!

[@MarMarLog]

8:06 hey everyone, maybe stop tickling kids?

[@tsgrandma9837]

My grandson loves to be trickled. He asks to be trickled.

[@jjday10machine42]

The laughter analysis is such a good point bro. You've got me thinking deeply about why I nervous laugh in certain situations.❤

[@victoriavilagines5596]

My ex was exactly like that first dude, honestly when you’ve dealt with this eventually you loose yourself and say/do stuff you never usually would. I stayed 4years with them and stg I’m still getting over it

[@THEMamaVicky]

I am so glad I don't have to deal with this level of psycho, and stupidity. I'd have blocked him everywhere long before any of this.

[@emmacarmichael706]

A lot of people get bi-polar mixed up with borderline. I'm not saying this is a diagnosis but in my completely unprofessional opinion as someone majoring in Psychology, this is more aligned with borderline personality disorder (bpd). Bi-polar disorder contains periods of mania that can last for days to weeks and periods of depression that can also last days to weeks. It's not the rapid back and forth people think it is. The rapid and sudden mood swings people tend to associate with bi-polar disorder is actually a typical symptom of bdp. The bpd person is triggered in some manner or another and this can cause a "split"- sudden anger and highly emotional to borderline irrational reactions as those with bpd struggle with emotional regulation. People with bpd often have what's known as a "favorite person" (fp). This person (platonic or otherwise) is the person they relie and go to. Their fp is often the most subjected to these rapid mood swings and the person with bpd will idealize them (put them on a pedestal, cannot fathom them doing anything wrong, they're perfect, etc.), and also go through periods of devalue them (say angry and hurtful things, lack of caring for the targets emotions, express animosity and potentially claim to hate them) while in their split episode. People with bpd often feel like monsters as after a split episode, they realize the damage they cause and can feel deeply depressed and empty. An important thing to remember is that all personality disorders are born of trauma. How the person cope's/their temperament determines what type

[@RabblesTheBinx]

It's a little more complicated than that. There is a type of bipolar affective disorder called rapid-cycling, which is characterized by much shorter periods between mood swings, and there's also mixed-symptom bipolar, which can make it really difficult to tell exactly how long the episodes themselves actually are. My diagnosis, from multiple licensed psychiatrists, is rapid-cycling Type I Bipolar Affective Disorder with mixed symptoms (along with CPTSD and GAD) and _not_ Borderline Personality Disorder, but I _absolutely_ am prone to those same kinds of sudden swings.

[@catsncrows]

Okay here is a learned in the fiery depths of the dumpster fire of my family thing, I think people in the middle of a strong emotion like rage, especially if they are feeling like they're being abandoned may regress. (I swear tf my mother was three. My sister said she felt like she was the parent. Same my father, I'm guessing like ten years old?) That's why you get cringey sarcastic laughing emojis and the punctuation of a third grader. Adult concepts are being run through a child tantrum filter.

[@amberc.2137]

I truly pray that the last lady see's you discussing her thread. You know why?? She WAS PERFECTION AT ITS BEST! Mature even when taking his ass to the ground and stomping it in to the mudd with her boot! I cannot stop laughing 😂😂

[@OfTheDoubt]

People scare me sometimes. Like what-?

[@Max-ql2pv]

The tickling thing is fascinating! Reminds me of when I learned that cats will purr when they are sick or scared as a way to calm themselves. 😢

[@omarabrody5469]

Wow, those last texts she sent were just awesome.

[@brynnamarion1904]

I have bipolar and I never isolated my boyfriend from friends or family, but he did isolate me from my friends and family

[@irisravenhild9060]

Story 1: I hate when people (find) excuses for domestic abuse. The relationship is abusive and narcissistic.. it's that simple. Story 2: That Burn! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@DystruktoBoi1]

The idea that men and women can't be friends is a strangely common opinion even among people you would usually consider to be mature. I am good friends with my best friends wife. We have been friends for over 20 years. I held his daughter right after he did when she was born and I am considered their uncle. His MIL STILL accused his wife of sleeping around with me because we sometimes go out to get food without my friend (he is a total burger and pizza guy with no interest in weird food, so his wife and I try weird food together). Basically called her own daughter a slut, over a friendship with a guy.

[@starryadventure8922]

I really like when he does videos on them his expression and feelings towards these are much better.

[@user-sg8wf5qo9s]

And then such ppl register on Omega male sites and complain about women

[@rustyhowe3907]

I've had the second story's situation before and got blamed for "having nothing on offer but kitty" (so not worthy of any basic respect or decency) by others when I wasn't offering anything in the first place let alone to the dude calling me, he wasn't even someone I new beyond meeting him briefly once and I didn't give him my number!🙄

[@PheonixLove]

Also important to remember the woman in the first story was also not sober when having that text conversation. She stayed over at her friend's house because she was too drunk to go home alone. And even though what she says isn't the best, she's not the one in that conversation acting drung af.

[@analogalien651]

Jealousy runs deep

[@animelady001]

These gave me the worst anxiety in the pit of my stomach. I recently had something similar happen when I kept trying to break off a relationship with someone, and they kept refusing. Safe to say I blocked that person and I hope these two did the same. No means no. No matter what context.

[@MajestyofMayhem]

That last guy got so roasted he's going to need reconstructive surgery to put himself back together. I was in the same situation but I told my ex immediately and they both called me a liar lol I looked his bro dead in the face and said "you know what you said why can't you tell him how you really feel?" All he did was shrug. The ex in question was the most abusive, pathetic, freeloader anyone had ever met and this friend told me so after...that I deserved better and he would never understand how I delt with it as long as I did. It was comforting and i felt seen, then realized I was vulnerable so I was like "no dude, I need time" just to put him down softly. My ex decided he was going to try and break into my apartment, then text me a bunch of nasty stuff after I called the cops (when we broke up I had to call the cops to get him removed so they were already aware of him) and told them I it was probably my psycho x. I told him how fake and awful of a person he was and went on to tell him the psychological issues he needed to get treated, I was in year two of a psychology degree at the time, that it would only be a matter of time before everyone saw him for the manipulative antisocial pd narcissist that he was and that one friend already did...he called me a liar, hit up his "bro" who decided to come knock on my door to gaslight me into telling him it wasn't true lol Fast forward 6 years, said x died of a drug overdose. He slide into my dms to tell me and tried to get with me AGAIN 😂 went full last dude in many ways that time, hating on my partner, calling me a slut, etc lol I sent him a picture of my middle finger and blocked him

[@BuddhaFang]

Laughing emoji: my theory is they want to show how little the other person means to them, like “I’m such a superior bad ass, your inferiority cracks me up.”

[@finn_in_the_bin5263]

I can second that. I'm not like this asshole but I like to troll people who are being assholes online sometimes to blow off steam and I'll use that on rare occasions when I'm messing with someone I know it'll piss off (like boomers are a prime target for this) and that is definitely the intended effect lol

[@lostribe5130]

I'm glad she told his ass off.

[@katimius]

Jesus h christ that first one.... I would've blocked him already. holy eff that level of insanity, manipulation, and just flat out bullying...

[@VividiVavidi_V]

The tickling analogy is amazing

[@childofgod1458]

15:46 sounds like her ex but using his friends phone to pretend it's his friend or just changed his number to make it sound like it's his friend

[@Love_Evie1213]

That’s exactly what I thought from the beginning of this segment 😳😳😳

[@q2anti]

The 4-point cussing from the second lady was actually cataclysmic. A linguistic lambasting more painful than a destructo disc to the chest.

[@Hillcountry_Catholic]

5:23 Yeah this is psychotic. That dude needs serious help, and I don’t say that to judge. I’ve struggled with anger, and I had to unlearn a lot of toxic behavior. It can be done, if a person can foster see how wrong they are and then commit to do the work to heal themselves. I pray this for him and others behaving like that. You do not have

[@KP-bq7yc]

I really love hearing your personal stories and insights in these videos. The longer ones. In this case, the explanation about tickling. Without a doubt my favorite part of your content.

[@pmjrjohnson]

Very good description of 'tickling'. I always felt like it was mean and it's so uncomfortable. Especially when you can't get away. People just don't do it!

[@Rhianalanthula]

16:25 Sweet Mother . . . Margaret Thatcher made me chuckle to myself. I could have used lol, but there has been a lot of initial condensing, and I didn't actually laugh out loud.

[@dianecampbell7392]

8:18 he "knows" he is right whether it's confirmed or not, everything said or done confirms his points

[@thebumblebeemovie3514]

The ladies’ mistakes were continuing the conversations with these guys. No is a complete sentence. Tell them your answer is no and are done with the conversations with them. And if they press you or continue to push your boundaries, you will send the screenshots of the conversations to the friend groups and the police for harassment. End of discussion. You don’t have to engage with them. You have the right to fully shut them down right then and there, so don’t bother about being polite since they haven’t been polite to you.

[@HelenCamile63]

If they persist after a “no”, block their number.

[@WobblesandBean]

Oh, okay. *_Her_* mistake. Not his. Right.

[@martibee8984]

Some people allow the conversation to continue for a variety of reasons. Frequently a lack of backbone when it comes to rejecting others. It's something everyone should work on if it's a problem for them. I've worked on it myself, and I'm still not perfect at it. It's still on him to be a decent enough human to take the no. People having a hard time shutting something like this down wouldn't be an issue if people like him would learn to take a no like an adult. Online content is a big reason why people let these conversations go on for too long. These types of conversations are basically guaranteed to go viral. Letting them go off for several extra paragraphs sweetens the post. If people shut these convos down quickly they're not as interesting to the masses.

[@Janjones7735]

Said like someone who doesn’t understand how volatile and dangerous these people get when blocked.

[@HelenCamile63]

@@Janjones7735 I understand too well. Which is why I cut off the conversation as soon as they reveal their psycho character.

[@blipblop1806]

Imagine being so completely insecure and toxic, not only to women but also men, that you're completely convinced that everyone is just out to have sex with your partner.

[@whosebuilderandmakerisgod]

7:30 bro is having a psychotic episode from the sound of it

[@OrchidLilies]

I would have sent screenshots to my ex, showing him he had more to worry about in HIS friend group than mine, then proceed to block both of them. It's no longer my problem, but that doesn't mean I can't make it someone else's problem while proving a point with a side of petty revenge. Ex will forever be wary of his male friends whenever he gets a partner, wondering who will slide into their DMs next. Letting his insecurity fueled paranoia eat away at him bit by bit would be the icing on the proverbial comeuppance.

[@anon0124]

Hey, the sponsored products are definitely not “risk free.” Please include some specific warnings, it’s false advertising to claim that breathing in any particles comes with no risks.

[@dinaboop]

I never made friends with a guy I was attracted to. If I wanted to date him, I would be nervous and weird, and jealous of his girlfriends. If there was a guy I liked, but did not want to date, I would befriend him. Even if he was attracted to me, eventually, it would wear off, and over time, I ended up with several totally platonic best guy friends I cared about like brothers.

[@Wendy-oxox]

Thanks so much for these. New sub and I am so glad you're here with the information. :)

[@rosieraye8833]

I absolutely love second lady. She gave it to weirdo without being crazy , just nothing but truth.

[@olivierdastein2604]

You apparently didn't pay attention to the fact that she expects that her ex would beat the crap out of the guy if he knew that he was hitting on her (beating up someone who hits on your gf is already bad enough, but beating up someone who hits on your *ex*???) and that she would have zero problem with it, apart from the fact that the violent ex could be charged for the assault. So, this "lady" you love so much is perfectly fine with the violence of her ex (as long I guess as she isn't the one getting the beating.). Would you have missed this part if instead she had casually mentioned, as if it was perfectly normal, that the ex could beat *her* up?

[@rosieraye8833]

​@@olivierdastein2604I thought of it a whole other way. Get your point. Thanks for the comment, but really don't care it's not my life or story. I was just making a comment to help the channel.

[@Mina-hm2og]

Yes, a grown man can have a platonic relationship with a grow woman. It changes a bit when she finds a boyfriend, because your boyfriend/husband should be your best friend, but it can be maintained. And in the first story is simple: either you trust your partner and relax, or break up. You do not demand constant proof that she is loyal to you. I think she should have ended this toxic relationship earlier and refuse to engage further with her insecure ex.

[@TawneyShea]

Have you ever done the one where the coworker was writing daily journal entries about OP, what she was wearing, what he thought was going on?

[@ZakEmerald]

That last story nah no over reaction that guy be a stalker

[@alexia3552]

I’m half listening and half watching, was her response “okay, have fun talking to yourself, j know you’re about to be gross and ugly” supposed to be a red flag? It’s not, it’s just a statement of fact and a little sassy.

[@loati94]

No, it wasn't that. It would be at 4:11.

[@marianilsson8785]

I don’t laugh when people tickle me, I hit them……Wait!! Am I the red flag?

[@fionacalou11303]

I do too. I gave my grandpa a black eye on Christmas Eve once...

[@MajestyofMayhem]

No! Like he said, it's a coping mechanism and everyone's history is different. Fight, flight, freeze and fawn are natural reactions to stressful stimuli 😊 we are just animals at the end of the day

[@martibee8984]

That probably depends on if you're hitting them instinctually or intentionally. Intentionally, you're the 🚩if you didn't warn them first. Otherwise, all good.