r/AmITheA**hole For Screaming At A Barista?

[@rSlash]

Oops, screwed up the intro :P

[@seanhaughey8450]

Hey

[@WhoRUTalkingAbout]

Its ok

[@cinnamonkc4147]

Yep

[@arohsix]

Oof

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

Lmao it's ok

[@Quinn-Harrison]

$7M? Yea I'd be so deep in that closet to the point I'd be discovering Narnia.

[@paulziiee]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@njcheddar]

This comment so underrated

[@KnittingGirl28]

Wait for me🏃, im coming too~

[@kristashafer93098]

This was awesome!!

[@crazzyconnor97]

Same lol

[@magicfireflame]

As an assistant manager, I can assure you that an apology and free gift card does not necessarily mean agreement. It often means "Here, take this and please shut up so I can get back to important things."

[@jjohnston94]

Fine, but the manager needs to make sure the employee knows that. This is how a superior earns loyalty.

[@dmf1301]

Yeah, that’s understandable on some level... but your headache might just get much bigger if the entitled Karen gets it into her head that she now has the right to make other insane demands of the poor baristas! 😞

[@KumiChan2004]

When I was a manager free stuff for a costumer was pretty much my way of saying piss of and leave the employees and me alone. I don't care about what happened. Just bloody go away.

[@hld3738]

Husband: "Hey wife can I entrust you with my dying wish?" Wife: "No"

[@ThisHandleIsNotTaken.]

Dieing

[@gen4john660]

Dying

[@die_mez17]

Federal 2000 dying. It’s dying, not dieing

[@shellshockedbros4458]

@@die_mez17 Last I checked its dyeing

[@solarianv3]

Shellshocked Bros last time i checked im an idiot

[@MercuryA2000]

Grandparents: finally pass. All the inheritors: come out the same week.

[@SryBut]

Closet-Or. . . I mean Party!

[@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821]

at the funeral? jk..........not really

[@ked49]

@@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821 they have to wait until they get the money. If they do it after the will is read before they get the cash it still counts so they lose the money

[@bellerain381]

I’m just picturing Robin Williams acting out how the Vatican would come out in a musical number!! 😂😂😂

[@daemonoferror557]

I'm still processing the mother telling her daughter to take a picture of the letter that was meant for *her*

[@agentmaryland1239]

Mom: I know your father wrote this for you...but could you just like take a picture of it on your Android and keep that so I can keep the actual thing? K thanks, love you peaches!

[@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821]

cant be processed. does not compute

[@petzi_plays]

the mother should take the picture

[@strawberrysoulforever8336]

@@petzi_plays That was my thoughts. If she thinks that's good enough for the daughter, it's good enough for her. Let the person who it belongs to have it for heaven's sake!

[@spydersoup8447]

I get the feeling that OP might be obsessed with him so much, like, the type of creepy obsession where they want to keep everything relating to him, even at the cost of others like the kids.

[@96NSW]

I hate managers who bend to the will of entitled customers. I had a manager reprimand me because a customer didn't read the description on the menu and was upset that her meal wasn't what she thought it was.

[@MrJerichoPumpkin]

that's why managers sholud do the work they are supposed to mange before being able to enter the position. But no, there's a degree in being an asshole that qualifies anyone to be a manager. A dash of incompetence is usually a plus.

[@bxnvrr763]

I had a front end supervisor (I was cashier) get mad at me because I told a couple that they had to pay for the sanitizer their three kids used (pre covid). They used half of one of the ones for sale at the register

[@j.j.juggernaut9709]

And on the other end of the spectrum, you have entitled managers in developing countries such as mine, where the staff will burn your food until it's charred, refuse to change it, scream and cuss at you and demand your money. (No, I am not exaggerating in the slightest, they literally put pure vanilla powder on a cake instead of sugar and refused to give a refund or make another cake. That's just one example out of many). Sometimes I wish there was a "customer is always right" policy here too... but then you hear stories like these...

[@danni1650]

Honestly it is the worst... don't encourage assholes to be assholes! Its not fair to the rest of us... If it keeps being more profitable to be an asshole, who knows how many decent people will turn?

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

@RICHARD TAVERAS The phrase was originally more 'if customers want x product, we should stock x product', like, 'if there's a boom for ladders, we should probably stock ladders because we'd get better profits'. It's just been twisted over time to mean something else.

[@callmewolf3910]

WTF that first story got me mad af. That letter wasn't FOR the wife. It was WRITTEN FOR THE DAUGHTER

[@thedrawingllama2046]

I will not call you wolf

[@callmewolf3910]

@@thedrawingllama2046 okay

[@cmm3699]

throwaway there’s such an easy solution that the mom could’ve used. She should’ve asked to have a photocopy of the letter after she gave it to her daughter, and I’m sure the daughter would’ve said yes. Now there’s no way in hell she’d even do that for her.

[@singer2be256]

grief makes you do crazy things

[@cuteizombi6946]

Not to mention the other letters that she hid from them I would have cut her off immediately no just no

[@corginand]

"AITA for snapping at a barista after she woke up my sleeping baby twice?" Hoo boy, this will be a r/entitledparents crossover!

[@k8magic6]

“HI KAREN!! We are so sorry that baristas making COFFEE in a COFFEE shop are waking up your ‘PrEcIOUs bABY’. Too bad the would don’t revolve around you.

[@cuteizombi6946]

Reee!

[@Nik.No.K]

She even says that she heard the loud coffee grinder as soon as she walked into the shop. If you see that and then still choose to go in, whatever happens is on you. Your sleeping baby is no one's problem but your own.

[@noname-gh1vr]

@@Nik.No.K I mean. I don't fully think shes wrong. A sleeping baby is hard to console when awoken and if it was really screaming that loud I think it wouldve been alright to ask them politely to not use the grinder while im in the store with my baby. Idk man, i personally just think op deserved like 1.5 of 5 assholes

[@noname-gh1vr]

Plus wouldn't the screaming also bug other customers?

[@SaltyGoon96]

As a father of a 1 month old girl, I can say that Coffee shop Karen is SUPER in the wrong. The world goes on regardless of your baby sleeping or not. You don’t have a monopoly on quiet just because someone came in you. I’ve quickly learned the longer your baby is awake during the day the longer they will sleep at nap time or at bed time. Barista Becky was doing her a favor.

[@IcyAquaMarine]

The story about the mother hiding away the letters, she's a monster! How could she do that to her own daughters and to her husband?

[@sophiatroanska1432]

Right? Then told the daughter she could take a picture of when she knew Damn well she could’ve done that herself before the wedding

[@Marigoldmoo]

The mother while I do have some sympathy for her because she lost her husband was a major asshole. Like, ITS HIS DAUGHTER. She lost her dad and you refuse because of some TRAUMA?

[@terramarini6880]

@@Marigoldmoo Not to mention the daughter was meant to read those words on the day, perhaps hear his voice in her head while reading them, it was meant to feel like him being there at her wedding and she can never get that back. Mom had no business even reading the letter that was not addressed to her in the first place. Mom needs to grovel hard and hand over the rest of the letters as she can't be trusted with them.

[@lilwizerd9537]

Also she named her kid Imogen? What tf?

[@Centiipede]

@@lilwizerd9537 what's wrong with the name imogen? Are you just being a twat?

[@bowmanwright532]

The first story made me so angry, even after OP’s daughter found HER letter she only offered her a photo of it, not the actual letter. Unbelievable!

[@LittleBlueOwl318]

That mom is deliberately cruel.

[@nopenopenopenope4076]

She could've kept a photo or scan, then gave the letter to their daughters. Dumbass.

[@stickiedmin6508]

@@LittleBlueOwl318 I think it's a bit much to say "deliberately" cruel. The reaction is kinda understandable, after losing her husband, she 'rediscovers' a little piece of him, speaking from the past, and desperately wants to cling onto it. Of course, it's not *_excusable_* in any way - it's a terrible and selfish thing to do, but it is understandable. Her reaction on being discovered however, is disgusting. She was weak, and greedy, and the whole thing could have been resolved so much more easily if she'd just owned it and apologised, not tried to hang on to the letter and look for justifications that she was in the right.

[@DravenGal]

@@stickiedmin6508 Well said. I agree.

[@ian_2006]

Yeah I was thinking why doesn't see make a photocopy and keep the photocopy

[@tomasstephenson5357]

It’s almost as if making coffee is an integral part of a coffee shop

[@mermpydermpy2047]

What no way

[@snoochieboochies8523]

But think of the BAY BEES 😭🤣

[@billycat309]

Hmm strange

[@queenfopsie5442]

Nah I walk into the coffee shop and expect a soda bar, how dare they make coffee 😂

[@deadmemes21]

WhAT!

[@kankrivantas5536]

Girl:I have to stay in the closet for $7 million Me: wait you guys are getting paid?

[@GiveMeAllTheSpace]

Dear Karen, just because the manager sends you an apology and a gift card does not mean he agrees with you. It just means he wants to get rid of you with as little issues as possible because he knows what kind of person you are.

[@fourden5659]

The first OP is so selfish wow. And your daughter, who the letter was for can just take a picture of it??? There's other letters you can look at until they have to be given away. If I was one of OPs daughters I'd find that very, very, very hard to forgive. The husband is most likely frowning down upon her right now.

[@ArmageddonisUnleashe]

My immediate thought when that was said: "Why don't YOU take the picture, and give your daughter the original, if you think a picture is just as good?"

[@chunghung7951]

fourden Grief is something that is hard to deal with and it and I do think op was wrong.We have to remember that she's in grief and probably isn't thinking straight.Yes op is in the wrong but most of her action were in grief not selfishness

[@spider_flash509]

@Chung Hung true, but her daughters had to have been dealing with grief too, they lost their dad. Good moms support or try to support their kids when they deal with stuff like this or provide closure, the karen didn’t. Edit: plural words

[@fourden5659]

@@chunghung7951 You're right. If she has a good talk with her daughter's about this and explains why she kept the letter (because they were in her husband's handwriting and his words) I'm sure they will understand and forgive her as they are also grieving.

[@ethanlarocque2253]

Those letters are technically the husbands dieing Will and the daughters can take it to court.

[@fen4613]

As a gay person, I fully agree with the gay kid staying in the closet until the grandparents die. It’s honestly just not worth the energy to argue with people that won’t change their mind and with 7mil she’s technically settled for life and can be as open as she wants to afterwards. She’s not asked to change who she is, just to not mention it for temporary time.

[@mercenarychef9465]

I say, stay quiet until you get the money, then throw the biggest 'coming out' party you can imagine using some of the money. Biggest F U to the old bigots, and there's nothing they can do about it, anymore.

[@elliottlupin]

As a lesbian half in and half out of the closet, I agree the money is far more important/ reasonable to have than to be out, even if it hurts to be in the closet.

[@bellaboo182]

I'm bisexual myself. And the amount if satisfaction I'd get in spending that homophobic assholes money would be worth every SECOND of staying in the closet.

[@therealmr.incredible3179]

1st. Its not her self earned money 2nd. She really gonna do them dirty like that?

[@fen4613]

Pri Just pri 1) so what? It’s her inheritance still 2) wtf do you mean 'do them dirty‘? Do you know what‘s dirty? Kicking out lgbt+ kids for who they are

[@sadbread7261]

You know that saying? "I'm not gay, but 10$ is 10$" "I'm gay, but 7 milion $ is 7 milion $"

[@itzztim6987]

Made my day

[@hiimkillian7143]

i would like to let you know: i friggin love this joke.

[@simplysim1346]

r/technicallythetruth

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

i agree. tbh, the niece is 17. The moment she goes off to college, she can live the life she wants and come out 2 months after getting the inheritance.

[@Frost-ze6rw]

Bruh, it’s “I’m not gay, but $20 is $20!”

[@lexalina132]

Damn, that one about the uncle and his neice really struck a cord with me--I'm a lesbian myself, and have absolutely ZERO intention of coming out to my whole family until my grandma passes (i love her to death, and i know she loves me, but she was born in the 40s and raised in the 50s), not necessarily for money reasons, but when it's your grandma it's a whole different beast entirely. Man i feel for this kid, but i'm glad that it sounds like she has a very supportive family (besides the grandparents), what a tough situation to be in. Not the butthole, sounds like the uncle really is just looking out for the future of his neice and just wants her happy in the long run

[@Kisozriel]

That protective uncle made me cry, 10/10 would hug tf out of him for looking out for his niece.

[@JokesInBase13]

Teacher in the second story sounds like he's trying to groom his _barely_ legal students.

[@KnittingGirl28]

Mmmmmmm, now that you mention that, it explains why i was feeling my skin crawl during that story. Creepy af

[@WobblesandBean]

Yuuuuuup.

[@McSnezzly]

Explains why the girl thought he was just joking

[@TruthNerds]

@@McSnezzly "Hold still and bend over, it's part of the joke." (scnr)

[@bimblebury7105]

That teacher is pushing the boundaries to see what he can get away with. The more you and other students laugh it off the more he will push. If you are uncomfortable about someone's comments or actions you should never just laugh it off.

[@chrisworster4878]

Let me rephrase: “Aita for snapping at a barista for doing their job”

[@Nik.No.K]

Grinding coffee in a coffee shop??? The audacity!

[@milesrogers7402]

@@Nik.No.K how dare they do this to me

[@naturekinkatartist9292]

I go into a workspace and get mad they do work

[@Lukkaboc]

I don't like coffee, but I feel like I would just keep ordering fresh grounds over and over and over again till she leaves.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Coffee shop tend to make coffee, because you know, that's what they sell.

[@barbarastorball2117]

The simple fact that the Op thought the workers could stop doing their job which they're paid for all while she was there. Tells you she's very entitled to think other people should follow her schedule, then get upset that the other co-workers were rude to her. She earned it you snapped at a poor woman doing her job hopefully her kids don't grow up like her

[@simplysim1346]

I personally like coffee.

[@13thMaiden]

Also who takes a baby into a coffee shop to sleep? I get walking around or even taking them to a park, but if it was that bad she could have sat outside while she waited on her order....

[@bnanaaasbrown9529]

That woman is a moron. Stay in your home if you want your baby to sleep...don't make the world conform to your needs.

[@mintcoral]

@@13thMaiden so most of the mom's I know bring there babies to coffee shops during nap time so that they have a chance to talk to there friends. These are also women who vacuum during nap time so there kids sleep though loud noises. This mom is raising a light sleeper. Also about the waiting outside part. Maybe this is just were I live but if your not inside someone else will take your coffee and leave with it. Then the waiting process starts again.

[@Dr_Kyutoko]

"You brought a baby to a coffee shop" This is the entitled parent version of "you brought a knife to a gun fight"

[@thatkingdomheartsguy9615]

That last story I agree with. She emotionally manipulated him into buying something that she legally could not buy then expected him to be fine with not going. She must have hit her head when she was little because thinking that is crazy.

[@yuffiefan7637]

The guy asking his niece to stay in the closet: he is supportive. He does not oppress her,but she really would have a better life with the mony

[@mercenarychef9465]

And it's not like he's saying "never, ever EVER come out." Simply, "Hey, these old bigots are gonna die soon and give you a lot of money, so maybe you should keep the act up for a little bit?" In a perfect world, that wouldn't have to happen, buy there are some very uncomfortable truths that exist in this world, and sometimes you have to be open to a little flexibility. Plus, now she's got time to plan a huge 'coming out' party with some of that money, and that's the biggest fuck you to the bigots of all.

[@trickyagent127]

I feel like no one in the story are buttholes (obviously ignoring the grandparents here). At the end of the day, I would rather have the niece know what would happen to her inheritance if she comes out, and let her make that choice. Wish things weren't this way, and that she wouldn't have to worry about coming out, but sadly thats the reality of the situation. I totally get the wife of op being a bit pissed at whats happening, but yeah, neither of them arr the butthole. At the very least it's just her grandparents that are the problem (hopefully).

[@KnittingGirl28]

I agree, she can set up a great future with that money. College, a house, maybe even marriage and kids, the possibilities for her would be almost limitless if she waits it out and comes out at the right time. Plus it shows that the niece and him have a close relationship if they had this kind of conversation with each other.I take it to mean she trusts him to not turn on her but also that she trusts his jugment when suggests she wait it out, very obvious he only has her best interests at heart.

[@moonshinewolf4840]

@Mercenary Chef OMG that would be amazing!

[@SpruceOaks]

@@mercenarychef9465 I did the math - let's say it's two years. Think of it as being offered a job you hate where you work 24-hours/day, 7-days/week, 52-weeks/year. That's still a $400/hr job with a $7M payout after two years. There aren't a lot of people who wouldn't take it.

[@JAYfromspace]

"coffee grinder was constantly on in a coffee shop, it was very loud n woke up my baby" THEN LEAVE

[@frocat5163]

Barista: Starts grinding coffee in a coffee shop. Karen: *surprised Pikachu face*

[@NymphetaminesCustoms]

No no, You OBVIOUSLY are not allowed to grind coffee in a coffee shop, I mean, who does that?

[@tristanchaplin392]

@@NymphetaminesCustoms idiots

[@TruthNerds]

She may have had a point if she had added: "Unclear directions for exit door."

[@lilliangoddessofmadness5629]

8:30 Not the A-Hole. The way i see it, OP is just looking out for his niece's well-being. By keeping her sexuality in the closet for a year or two, she'll be set for life. I'd do it if it were me (both ends). But then again, i (would) only care about the money.

[@brantnuttall]

Honest! I like that!

[@2MeterLP]

Id do a lot more than stay in the closet for that much money. A LOT

[@karstenmeyer1242]

So, this lady walks into a coffee shop, and gets mad at people for making coffee?? Wtf.

[@2Blessed]

My mom read my diary when I was maybe 12(?) and it was horrifying to me. There was nothing in it really, but just my personal thoughts, and she actually talked about some of the things I had written, told me some of my feelings were 'wrong' (things like I thought she was unfair about something, etc) and literally laughed about some of my ideas and opinions. I never trusted her after that, but she doesn't know, because I stopped keeping a diary!

[@jrytacct]

If I were ever to keep a diary, it would be a fiction writing exercise where I'd put down the most outrageous, scandalous, and lurid incidents I could think of. Then I'd wait to see who read it and laugh at them.

[@sethdickerson9360]

Karen: ILL GET YOU FIRED FOR WAKING UP MY BABY!!! *Baby looks on in embarrassment*

[@Ella-gh7qh]

The first one is so sad, but she should’ve given her the letter.

[@robertpeploe4440]

I was annoyed with the mother, she has his stuff clothes and stuff to comfort her, and she'd probably had been the last person to see him off but those letters were a last wish from him and it was a bit selfish of her even those she lost someone close to heart, they were meant for her daughters

[@13thMaiden]

Also had the woman never heard of photocopies? She couldn't give the girls the letters and then ask if they could give her photocopies of them because they bring her a sense of closeness? I know grief does weird stuff to you but how does it make you THAT selfish and dumb?

[@Goblin.6686]

I agree, I can't imagined highschool(?) Love birds, married for almost 20yrs, gone due to a Brain Tumour. But it was something that her husband wanting to give to his daughters and something for them to look forward to. For every major milestones. So I'm kinda torn, bc I can't imagine loosing my partner and I haven't received a letter also. But he trusted her to make sure to give them the letters as his final wishes

[@Holy89Mage]

@@13thMaiden Fully with you on this one - just make a copy of it and give the originals to the daughters - like they were meant to ... that was a serious A**H***Move

[@bnanaaasbrown9529]

The mother is an asshole. Disrespecting your partner's wishes like that is terrible.

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

The entitled Karen story was hilarious, to think that there are people who actually think like that in real life.

[@lucilelunarnight4863]

Which one?

[@erierierierierie]

Hes back

[@TruthNerds]

Yeah, what's next? "AITA for pulling a mute and paralyzed old lady out of her wheelchair so that my precious angel (good grades) could play with it?"

[@mrturkey1124]

Reminds me of the “The mega Karen destroyer of Disney land”

[@firey9309]

Hello again

[@MrMordo85]

With the last story too it also sounds like he was paying with his money too, so BASICALLY she not only wanted to get underage beer she wanted it to be free beer, AKA doesn't matter what she or the friends say, he took his property home

[@tigerninja25robot82]

Honestly I think the best thing for the first story is to send OP to therapy. OP is clearly still suffering from the loss of her husband and I think that therapy would aid in helping her with her grief and understand why what she did was wrong.

[@dirtydan9785]

Wife: **doesn't give daughter a letter from her father** Daughter: this is a betrayal of my father's trust and my inheritance. i no longer trust you. Wife: :o

[@youtubalt6978]

Ummm..You're wrong and so dumb

[@dirtydan9785]

@@youtubalt6978 What point am I even making that I'm wrong about?

[@kranberry3318]

Youtub Alt How? That was literally just a summary of what actually happened. How is that wrong or dumb?

[@youtubalt6978]

My bad. I thought it was presented in a sarcastic tone. Sorry lol. I cant read emotions

[@LittleBlueOwl318]

@@youtubalt6978 Then maybe don't comment. The 315:1 ratio should've been a clue.

[@Gible427]

for the fist story is just stupid because SHE should have taken a picture of it not her kids

[@Louis_2568]

yep

[@alexhulea2735]

yes, then there is also something called a scanner, or a bloody XEROX..... it's not like all such machines have disappeared from the planet and no one knows how to build them anymore :-|

[@lotuslady9821]

Not to mention it was letter meant for her daughter, she shouldn’t have read it.

[@KumiChan2004]

@@alexhulea2735 That's when you reintroduce them to the world as your own inventions and watch people's reactions.

[@TiffWaffles]

Exactly. If she wanted to keep a memento of her husband's writing, she should have taken a picture before handing the letter to her daughter. Or gave the original letter to her daughter and then asked that once she's ready if she can have a photocopy of the letter. That letter was for her daughter on her wedding day. She probably was heartbroken that her dad wasn't there and would have loved to have his words to her. She could have even read the letter out loud to her reception or during the wedding itself. However, due to her mother's selfishness, the letter was never given to her. The mother turns around and says that she fully intends of giving other letters to her daughters, but she sounds like the type that she'd read those letters and keep them for herself. She shouldn't have even read the letter. She should have given it to her daughter and said 'this was written for you by your father. In the months leading up to his death, he's written both you girls letters because he knew he was going to miss momentous moments such as your weddings, etc. This letter was written for you for your wedding day. In time, when you are ready, maybe you can give me a photocopy of the letter so I can read what he has said to you.' That's what should have happened, not stealing a letter and refusing to give it to her daughter.

[@RodH_05]

The moment she said Budweiser is a total RED FLAG. Who wants to drink piss water?

[@DRAG0NSPIRIT10]

Is it really that bad? I don't drink booze myself so I've got no clue on what's considered decent.

[@GameAlicornLuna]

*Alarm clock buzzes, showing PISS WATER* Oh, boy! Piss Water!

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

For future reference, what would be a decent beer in the US?

[@frocat5163]

@@augustaseptemberova5664 Depends what you like, really. In general, I'd suggest staying away from any of the major brands: Budweiser, Miller, Coors, Michelob, etc. Your best bet is almost always going to be something from a microbrewery, craft brewery, or a local spot. There are also generally pretty solid beer selections in most liquor or grocery stores that will allow you to buy mixed six packs to try different things to figure out what you like. Even in small cities, there's often at least a good selection of craft beers in stores, so you should be able to find something you like with a little experimentation. Alternatively, ask the locals what's good. I'm from the Great Lakes region of the US, and around here, I would recommend trying things from Sun King, Bells, Three Floyds, Mad Anthony, New Holland, or Upland. There are also some national "microbreweries" that have decent to great beers; Leinenkugel's, Yeungling, Sierra Nevada, New Belgium, Dogfish Head, etc. Of all those, my personal favorite is Bell's Amber Ale. Bell's Oberon is also pretty popular, too.

[@intorainbowzOG]

Minors who can't try what they like and just buy the big brand.

[@LostTheNecromancer]

Im glad u did the first story. That story is straight up insane...

[@bradbeauchamp9546]

The dad reading the Daughter's diary post is 50/50 for me. I can completely understand that a single father worried about his daughter would want to know more about why she's acting and isolating herself. He handled the situation wrong, but had good intentions. On the other foot, yes, because he violated her safe place to write and work it out.

[@Avrysatos]

The beer buyer ... could have called the cops on her for trying to get him to give her alcohol. He let her off lightly.

[@moonjoke]

In the us isn't it that you can buy alcohol at 18 but can't get in bars before 21 ? Idk I'm not from the us and where I live it's 16 for wine/beer and 18 for everything else 🤣

[@TheTardisNamedSexy]

Nadia Corpataux Nope. You have to be 21 to legally buy alcohol in the US.

[@marissawallace1994]

In the US you must be 21 to buy any type of alcohol, and 21 to enter a night club. Although some night clubs have special permission to be 18+ but those under 21 get black X’s across their hands in permanent marker.

[@TheRedGyardos]

In the US, he could have gotten in trouble for intending to buy it for her. So he would be risking legal trouble for himself, at least in my state.

[@frocat5163]

@@TheRedGyardos Only if there was definitive proof that he bought (or was buying) the beer for them. Since he wasn't invited to the party, it's a "he said, she said" situation. Even with security camera footage of him buying two cases of Buttwiper from the liquor store in question, there is no proof he gave (or intended to give) the beer to the minors. The only way he'd actually have gotten in trouble is if he admitted to giving the beer to the minors, if he was at the party with the minors, or he was stopped and questioned by police after buying the beer and gave them sufficient reason to suspect he intended to give it to the minors. Even if stopped, if the minors in his company hadn't consumed any alcohol, and the cases he bought were open, its incredibly difficult to prove he was going to give the beer to the minors. However, if he went to the party and there were minors consuming alcohol, he could be charged with providing it even if he didn't.

[@Sean-uv2di]

Read the title, answer is yes. Im a barista and when people yell at me, its never fcking warranted. Just yesterday we had people working construction outside of the drive through and all we hear is a lot of banging and piercing drill noises with only some whispering from people trying to order. Its extremely hard to tell what these people are saying, especially when they have accents. But even then, like 80% of the time I get their orders on the first try. But this one woman wanted a Pink drink, had a VERY heavy accent, and was talking very lowly. I asked her to repeat her drink about twice, then I repeated what I had heard which was not what she wanted apparently because she screamed at just about the top of her lungs “PINK DRINK!!” And I was just shocked. I was like “Oh okay of course,” and looked at my coworkers. As soon as she drove to the window all my coworkers were like “Wtf that was so rude, she literally yelled at you,” and i was like “0.0 guess she was thirsty.”

[@13thMaiden]

I've actually done this, omg. The coffee shop I had pulled up to was having construction like right next to it in their parking lot so there was a ton of jack hammering going on and stuff. I'm naturally loud, so usually people can hear me, so I'm trying to give my order through the drive through thingy, and the poor Barista just can't hear me over the jackhammering. And by the 3rd time they had to ask, I put on my 'across the cow pastures' voice, which is terrifyingly loud and harsh sounding, especially coming out of a child-sized woman like me. It was right then the men stopped jackhammering (like all of them at the same time!!) and I'm pretty sure everyone in the 1 mile radius heard me scream out for a London Fog like some kind of raging Sirenhead. I was so embarrassed I was nearly crying when I came to the window and apologizing profusely to the poor Barista that I probably just given tenitus to.

[@mariannadawson1925]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I'm not a barista but I work in fast food and we deal with these kinds of people sometimes. It sucks. I feel for you. Living in the south the people with the loud trucks are the worst at the drive thru speakers

[@midnlghtmoon]

lol been a barista for a year. I work in a very affluent town. one lady yelled and threatened to sue one of my coworkers for accidentally spilling an iced matcha latte on her Louis Vuitton bag even after we offered to pay for it to be cleaned. I constantly get yelled at for having 1/16 of an inch of foam on no foam lattes after they have been sitting for a good minute (bubbles settle to the top after sitting for a while). another story i’m loving rn is from a barista in San Diego who asked a Karen to put on a mask per city mandate and she yelled at him and posted a picture of him on facebook. another guy saw this post and started a tip fund for the barista, it’s at $100,000 now :)))

[@Sean-uv2di]

Riley Nicholson Damn yea im glad you know the feels, ive for sure had worse. Thats just the most recent. And damn, wish i had a gofund me for every time someone yelled at me, id be rich too 😂

[@Sean-uv2di]

Aaron Berhane Lmao, cant we all?

[@pickingwilddaisies945]

Last story reminds me of highschool...... two of my “friends” asked to borrow my clothes to go to a party. I said sure thinking I would be invited to go along. NOPE they took my clothes and went without me. AND one of them never gave me my clothes back....... after I asked for them back multiple times. I am socially awkward like the guy in the story. The friendship ended after that. One of them hits me up every once and awhile “we used to be so close”..... ummmm we were “friends” for less than a year and you treated me like shit.

[@kitkattkandybarz7312]

I was that way when I was really young. I would let people borrow my stuff if it meant being friends for a few minutes. Heck, one older kid even stole from me for his own amusement, and I let it happen because I was young and dumb, thinking that was somehow the way you made friends. Really messes you up when someone claims to be friendly but ends up using you/laughing about it behind your back. I don't blame OP for taking the beer with him. Heck, if I was him I'd pour one on the ground right next to her with a big smile on my face knowing it means more to her than it does to me.

[@Vampkiki]

I had a girl borrow my clothes... after hanging out only once or twice by chance meetings, not being deliberately invited to hang out with her... and she movedvaway and kept my things. Then saw me at a mall a couple years later in the same town ... asking to borrow cab money... I declined.

[@dmf1301]

Pickingwilddaisies I definitely relate to that. I’ve been used and abused by ‘friends’ my whole life! But at least we can tell them where to go after they reveal their true colours and STILL come crawling back! I don’t even get why - maybe all their friends dumped them for being fake, so now they need their sucker friends who were actually nice back! Or maybe they just need more favours - who knows? 🤷‍♀️

[@dmf1301]

Alex Hulea I’m guessing you’re an adult by now... but just for the record, having a crush on someone doesn’t make you a ‘stalker.’ Whoever called you that has no idea what stalking really is! Although if they were also a teenager, then I guess that explains their skewed perception. 😏

[@SeanStrife]

The daughter who got mad at her dad for reading her diary, I completely feel her on that; my grandparents had stumbled upon some really depressing poetry I had written to work through some really dark feelings, so they had my DAD take me for a drive and made me read one of the poems (which did talk about suicidal thoughts) and I remember feeling absolutely humiliated and bad for having these feelings of depression so I just wound up kinda bottling it up... even AFTER a suicide attempt, I continued to bottle those feelings because I really didn't want to be embarrassed anymore for having mental health issues (even still dealing with suicidal thoughts from time to time). I get that the father had good intentions with it, but I completely understand the daughter's reaction at the same time, cuz I don't even tell them about any sort of mental health issues I have after that; I just kinda keep it to myself at this point (even if, deep down, I know it's not the healthiest thing to do).

[@Noah-gp4ml]

Maybe that wasn’t the best way for them to address the issue. Also are you alright now?

[@SquatterLoki]

In my opinion it all depends on the person's intention and method of solution. If they have the intention of humiliating you or in some sick sense wanted to cure your depression through humiliation they they are a butthole, all the way to the colon. Some old timers do like that sometimes. I remember my cousin was forced by his grandparents to dance in front of other relatives during New Year reunion to discourage his choice of career to be a dancer and instead shoot for a doctor (Asian Grandparents. Go figure)

[@dmf1301]

Sean Strife I can absolutely understand why you FELT humiliated at the time. But it honestly doesn’t sound like your family intended to embarrass you purely for kicks. They were attempting to address your issues in the only way they knew how. I’m guessing you’re an adult now... you talk about bottling things up, but you also admit it’s not healthy... so I hope you can maybe understand now where your family were coming from when you were younger. I also hope you can get help if you still have the habit of bottling things up... help is always available at any age, and you deserve help if you need it. You deserve to be happy and healthy. 💐

[@CuteLilEldritch1010]

If someone read my diary and forced me to read it out loud for everyone to hear, I’d be pissed

[@kaycollarfeild]

See I'd probably have torn it up and hit him and gotten myself into a lot of trouble. But I also have a massive anger defence machinism when I'm upset and it would have not ended wlel. Not that yours did..I hope you can get better, and that your family learns and understands that was not ok.

[@shiomicchi7247]

As an openly gay woman who is very proud of her sexuality and isn't afraid to talk about it with anyone who asks, I would also stay in that closet if it meant 7 million dollars, especially if it was like 100% certain that the people who'd be giving it to me were ready to cut me out of the will if they found out, but were also on the verge of passing. Honestly, I could stay quiet for a few months and then tell everyone after the immediate danger had passed and I was $7mil richer. I pretended to be straight for 19 years to my parents and still have to pretend to some people at 21, so like 6 months of pretending for $7mil would be a cakewalk.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Yes she shouldn't come out until her grandparents are gone.

[@lord__pasta]

I mean, to her close family and friends, sure. Being open with those you love and trust would be a-okay. Everyone should be honest with themselves and others (that they trust, or everyone in general, whichever way it goes.) But I would say to avoid anyone who would tell her grandparents until they pass.

[@abbim2531]

@@lord__pasta Just to be safe, I wouldn't even say that. You NEVER know who's going to blab because "tHeY dEsErVe tO kNoW" (yes, that is a very real thing that I've seen happen). The grandparents will be dead in, what? Two, three years? Maybe even less. She has her whole life to be out and proud for who she is, and the uncle who gave her the advice is a great ally who's just looking out for her safety and well-being imo

[@lord__pasta]

@@abbim2531 True. Though I imagine true friends would understand not to blab, but being extra safe about it is probably the better option.

[@fannymorein]

I don't know about you, but I'd happily hide who I really am for my grandparents if it would mean I get 7 million dollars

[@1985toyotacamry]

True I have parents that are supportive of my lifestyle but if it's in that situation I will hide it at least til they pass away.

[@jacquelinen5059]

Shit, I'd go to church every week and be a typical good, totally straight, christian girl if it meant id be left 7 mil xD

[@Ikajo]

Especially since she isn't looking at 20-30 years in the closet. More like 2-3. That's doable.

[@SugiyamaHiromin]

@@jacquelinen5059 I´d do that for 1 mil, even though I´m pretty sure I´d burn the moment I walk into the church.

[@frocat5163]

I'm a happily married straight man, and for $7million, I'd gladly come out as gay.

[@thenarrator9204]

The dad diary story is a mixed bag. I've had a friend who hung themselves from a bad breakup and when their parents found their diary, it was filled with months of entries showing their decline into depression and then a suicide note... So I can't come down too hard on that guy. No parent has a manual and many are just trying their best for their kids. Sometimes you feel the risk might be worth it if it can lead to a better life for their child. Especially if you're a single parent and don't have someone in the same camp whom you can bounce thoughts and actions off of to come out with the best conclusion.

[@Noah-gp4ml]

I agree. And in the long run, I’m sure she will understand and be thankful that her dad was looking out for her.

[@SquatterLoki]

I agree. In my opinion, he is not the butthole. I will gladly getting screamed at by my children if it means there is a chance they have destructive ideas in their minds and I intercept them amd get them the help they need.

[@ThiccOgreBoi69]

Im glad someone else thought this way. Although I do agree he probably shouldn't have read the diary, his heart was in the right place. Hes a single dad too, and it didnt seem like he knew what else to do or where to go. I think id be angry if my parent read my diary, but later on glad of they had found my thoughts of suicide and depression in there and got me the help I needed. I think he should apologize to her, and instead of giving the "im trying to protect you" speech (because lets be honest, all teens would think that was an excuse), he should say exactly what he said in the post. He was worried for her because she was withdrawn, she wouldnt open up, ect.

[@NicholeParker]

I think he’s not the butthole because he did it out of concern for her, not selfishness or manipulation. It would be different if he was reading it just to pry or because they don’t talk, you know?

[@scarletia14]

This exactly. He was concerned and desperate enough to check the diary despite knowing the consequences and even had the honesty to confess reading it.

[@Kakmanmartinez666]

Ugh. My mom used to read thru my journals growing up. She used to tell me "you don't need privacy". When I made any attempts at myself or self harmed, she took away my door and I had to use a bed sheet over my door cuz I have anxiety about dark doorways at night (long story). So ever since then, I have a huge peeve with people coming into my room. I have a huge mess and it's becoming almost uninhabitable. My fiance offers to help clean it but again, I have a big issue with people touching my stuff. I draw a lot of weird shit and some have been lost in my room. So I have anxiety about people snooping around and unraveling papers in my room. Or digging thru my journals. I just.... UGH

[@manimations4233]

For the first story... OP is definitely TA. I understand that she wanted to keep it as a memento because she lost her husband, but I think that she forgot the fact that she wasent alone because her kids lost their FATHER. The letter was also clearly addressed to the daughter, so if anyone should take a photo of the letter, it’s her, not her daughter.

[@nauscakes1868]

"I didn't believe my husband's opinion, but I totally believe some stranger manager lady I've never met! And because I want self-validation, I'm going to ask Reddit, because I still don't trust my husband's opinion." Ooof, that poor guy. And to think they have a kid together.

[@Xolivas1]

And to think...if this is how she acts here, I can imagine the many horror stories of her entitlement.

[@closetdemon4293]

Its most definitely not his

[@jessbeingme8155]

Who wants to bet we've already heard a story about her entitlement?

[@sleepysnailsnack]

I think we forget the people behind the screen are as equally deep as ourselves. Just food for thought. She probably was looking for self validation because she was embarassed for her actions, I know I have used AITA for that in the past haha.

[@dmf1301]

People who ask reddit because they don’t believe the people they actually know who tell them the truth are idiots! The reddit audience doesn’t pussy foot around - they straight up tell you that you are in the wrong! 😛

[@Nullicity]

The person to get the actual first comment: *doesnt say first* The entire 6 year old community: *confused screaming*

[@zfo7859]

Nullicity so true

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

7-11 year olds: 😔 Am i a joke to you

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

@Paul Tuiono-Maumalanga 3 seconds ago

[@Sinful_Ariq]

*correct*

[@sotions]

Technically, rslash writes the first comment, he wrote it as soon as the video went up.

[@keiths.9239]

Ill go back in the closet for $7 million.

[@therealmr.incredible3179]

Shame.

[@therealmr.incredible3179]

Keith S. nope shame just shame

[@whooshifgay5472]

Pri Just pri why shame? Worth the money.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

Pri Just pri why shame? That’s a lot of money. Hell, they can take that money then move away from them with it.

[@alex41201]

Same

[@bethturner5667]

As someone who has lost their dad, I would have loved to receive a letter from him. However, I can also see where the mother was coming from in that story. Grief does strange things to people and can sometimes change people. I am not saying that the mother was right in what she did, I am just saying I can see why she did it.

[@queenfopsie5442]

Yeah, it bothers me a little that people are calling her the asshole as if she's in a right state of mind. She said herself she's been with her husband for nearly their whole life, from kids to marriage. She probably should have negotiated with her daughters beforehand or talked it over with them but grief is definitely a big contribution and she didn't want to let go just yet.

[@soulgazer11]

As a trans man, I really love that Rslash covers LGBTQ+ stories and that he is super supportive 💙 it makes me super happy to see that some people still have a heart

[@madambutterfly1997]

Withholding those letters was absolutely selfish. you clearly didnt respect your husband enough to honor his last wish. i refuse to allow anyone to use grief as a crutch to justify not doing what's right

[@SugmaDick]

Sorry mate, but how old are you, 7? Because the post in my opinion is more of a moral gray area. Yes, the mother was selfish but there are two sides to every conversation.

[@madambutterfly1997]

@@SugmaDick she tried to take out a monopoly on grief. like she's the only one suffering

[@simluar]

They had us in the first 7 seconds, not gonna lie. I thought my eyes had stopped working haha

[@lpg5355]

I love when stories get read and you can hear how entitled the people are like, Telling a barista to turn off a coffee grinder in a coffee shop

[@eclipse4376]

Honestly bro that uncle who was trying to save his niece all of that money is so fucking nice, he views nothing wrong with her being lesbian and just wants her to have a good start in life

[@jaybehkay2438]

You can just bet that if that mum had been told she had to wait for her coffee because they couldn’t use the grinder right then, that she’s church a hissy fit about that too

[@madambutterfly1997]

classic karen to try and have a monopoly on grief when she's clearly not the only one hurting

[@callmeishmael2415]

Other way of looking at that, the mom deliberately sent the daughter to the drawer where the letter was, knowing full well the documents the daughter wanted were elsewhere. She wanted the daughter to have it just couldn't bring herself to hand it over as it would have felt as another small bereavement. I don't think she was right in opening it tho, that should have remained private between him and the daughter

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@callmeishmael2415 No, she explicitly stated that she wanted to keep it for herself and couldn't give it up.

[@lycheesaft503]

@@callmeishmael2415 It isn't stated in the story if the documents were in the drawer, but it rather hints that they were in there and the letter just happened to be in it as well, with OP just forgetting it had been there.

[@callmeishmael2415]

@@lycheesaft503 No says in the story that the documents were elsewhere, she gave the daughter her letter the only way she knew How, the only way she could emotionally, because there's No way the mom didn't kno where that letter was

[@csilla3085]

@@callmeishmael2415 bruh, she says at least 3 times in the post, that she was not planning to give them the letters once she read their content. Yes, she led her daughter to that drawer, but she still insisted on keeping that letter and suggested her daughter to "take a picture".

[@zerinkfer]

100% agree with hiding until it's safe. Still trying to patch things up with my parents many years later after that mistake.

[@dracko158]

Crush: *Literally uses OP to buy beer for her and her friends* OP: Takes all the beer to his house for being humiliated by her Crush: *Surprised Pikachu Face* Crush's friends: "Wait, that's illegal."

[@mercenarychef9465]

Not even dudes girlfriend. Just some girl he had a crush on in highschool.

[@ZanzMcFate]

I'd have let her have the beer... then a few hours later called the police to report underage drinking at the party location. (Though if police weren't likely to cite anyone, or if they might come after me as the purchaser, then taking the beer is a good Plan B.)

[@nanashiwolf]

@@ZanzMcFate i feel like with those risks taking it was a good plan A lol

[@dracko158]

@@ZanzMcFate That's....actually a pretty smart idea!

[@mrsauceee]

I love hearing rSlash ripping into oblivious entitled parents.

[@livefromisolation]

Rslash: lgbt speech Me nb too scared to come out except for my tbf: I'm not crying totally not just cutting onions

[@artemisorwhatever9828]

You can do it! I'm a trans woman and I just came out earlier this year. If I can do it, so can you!

[@Alakaizer]

Do what you need to do to live a happy, safe life.

I am a male college professor. That professor in the second story was completely in the wrong. He has no right to sexualize students. He was completely over the line, way before showing you that video.You were victimized. Period. You say that "you should have said something," however the power dynamic -- he controls your grade -- makes that sincerely problematic.

[@gollygeewhiz3033]

Bit didn’t she say it was a baking class though. Are there even grades and if there are they important?

[@atomiccrouton]

​@@gollygeewhiz3033 Let me respond to for A B then. I used to be a culinary instructor and I also went to Baking school. I have a b.s. in hospitality and an a.o.s in baking and pastry arts. Classes are usually $1500 a pop (the average uni class is around $600. I'm not including fees both costs) and if you fall bellow a certain GPA you have to retake the class and then pay the full amount again. Most culinary school are scheduled in blocks so usually a student needs to wait until the next block or be pushed completely behind which means they have to pay the additional fees that happen when you're staying another semester. This can lead to loss of scholarships and load assistance leading to students either needing to drop out or taking out high-risk loans that frankly they can't afford. Also, as an instructor, I was told that I needed to accommodate student sexism by my boss and other instructors pretty much said that sexism and racism is such a problem in the industry that I need to let it pass and just let it go. OP did exactly the right thing.

[@gollygeewhiz3033]

Alex Talbot thanks.

[@TetraSky]

The lesbian coming out story.... I'm with OP. He did well to tell her to keep it under wrap a bit longer. 7 million is NOT a tiny amount in any way, shape or form. It shouldn't be that hard to keep the secret a bit longer, maybe a few years at most.

[@maryann778]

I agree op wasnt the a-hole, and its not like he's forcing her to be in the closet, he's informing her of the inheritance. Like he said it's only for a short while, until she gets the money. I mean if the niece ignored him and came out anyway, then honestly that's her decision, and if she did, I hope she'll be okay regardless with her decision.

[@dmf1301]

Jasmine Johnson that’s the key, I think... the uncle gave advice, not a command! He had the right to give advice. However, if the girl ignores that advice because she would rather be honest than wealthy, I hope her family support her (emotionally, I mean) rather than focusing on the fact that she lost her millions because they think it’s a dopey decision. 😏

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

rslash: censors the word "porn" also rslash: doesn't censor "orgy" and "pornstar"

[@kimihirowatanuki3888]

This is true. Managers will give people thing just to get the customer to shut up. They were totally wrong, but we just want the person to leave.

[@emmote77]

Father who read his daughter's diary. "I knew it was wrong but did it anyway." ...... really?

[@Kiwicrushes]

Phone: *notification for new RSlash* Me: stop everything and play that NOW

[@Holy89Mage]

Indeed :D

[@NoOnesBCE]

Yes buuut it can get really dicey on social Media when you stand against Baby mothers.

[@devonthephantomofshadows9585]

Same

[@MamaLauren523]

The last one was so sad and just plain mean. OP needs to realize he actually dodged a big bullet! He was buying alcohol for underage teens. The law would not care about a couple of months difference in age. If any of the 18 year olds drove drunk and got into an accident, you know they all would have told who bought the beer! He would have been held responsible and possibly have gone to jail!!! The Universe was actually looking out for OP.

[@KnittingGirl28]

Thankfully it was too, he pretty much almost ruined his life there.

[@frocat5163]

Only if he admitted to it. Even if he bought the beer with a credit or debit card, and the liquor store had security camera footage of him buying the beer, unless he was actually at the party, there isn't even circumstantial proof he bought the beer for the underage drinkers. The only thing that could be proven is that he bought two cases of Buttwiper from the liquor store in question. That alone isn't enough to prove he bought the beer the minors were drinking.

[@MamaLauren523]

@@frocat5163 Maybe. A good cop would collect cans and the boxes and compare the manufacturer's codes of where and when it was made, boxed and shipped. They can tell what time of day it was made! These are actually safety and security measures. One to trace contamination or tampering and one to trace stolen goods or procurement of alcohol for a minor. That, added to the security footage, shipping records, possible credit/debit records and first hand testimony, could get him jail time. If someone was seriously hurt or killed, detectives would use ALL of that to bring charges and probably get a conviction.

[@frocat5163]

@@MamaLauren523I think you've watched a few too many crime drama TV shows... First of all, no police agency is going to even attempt to pursue that line of investigation for a case of minors consuming alcohol, even if that consumption resulted in someone dying due to a minor driving drunk. Second, that level of product traceability is a complete fantasy. I've worked in the medical device industry for over fifteen years. It's difficult for us to maintain that level of traceability for FDA regulated devices that are being implanted into people's bodies. It is absolutely impossible to maintain that level of traceability on food products. At best, the manufacturer can identify when and where specific lots were shipped. There is no way to link those products to individual customers. I'm not sure where you got that idea, but it's complete nonsense. That's why individuals aren't contacted when it's found certain food products have _E. coli_ or some other contamination. The manufacturer sends out a notification that anyone who has purchased the contaminated products between a certain date range and in a certain are needs to check the packaging to see if they have any of the potentially contaminated product. There is absolutely no way for anyone to figure out exactly who bought those affected products.

[@MamaLauren523]

@@frocat5163 You are absolutely right about food products. They can be traced to a particular chain, if not each individual location. As for medical devices, I have no experience with those. I do have experience with alcoholic beverages and cigarettes. These are treated a bit differently. I was able to trace both items by the codes on the packaging back to my store. Actually, once I had the packaging and codes it was pretty easy. I was able to press charges in 3 cases.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I had a friend whose daughter was struggling and didn't seem like herself either. We were all concerned about her and when asked, she would say everything was fine and wouldn't talk to anyone about what was bothering her, not her friends, family, professionals, etc. His wife came across her diary in her bedroom when she was getting some dirty clothes one day and found it laying right on the bed. Neither her nor he knew she kept a diary. The husband/father asked her what it said and she said she didn't read it and it would be a breach of trust. They argued with the father saying she is not herself and we are all very concerned about her and maybe the diary can shed some light on what the problem was. The wife refused to read it even though she saw it sitting on the bed 3 more times that week after she left for school. That weekend the girl killed herself. THEN, they actually read the diary and the last post in it said something like, "obviously, her parents didn't care about her since she left the diary out for them to look at and she had been talking about suicide." Since they either didn't read it or didn't say anything to her if they did read it, she simply gave up on everyone and life. 2 weeks after the funeral the husband filed for divorce and blames the wife to this day for not reading the diary or bringing it to him to read. After the first time, the wife found it and they argued about reading it, the wife never told him she saw it sitting out there the next 3 days in a row. The daughter was their only child. My friend has a severe drinking problem now and his wife ended up going out to bars, getting drunk, and having sex with numerous men several nights a week. It appears she may have a drug issue as well. Sorry, but if your kid has an issue and you are worried about it, you do WHATEVER it takes to find out what the problem is in case something bad is looming around the corner.

[@dmf1301]

Thomas Joseph oh gosh that’s awful. I can understand why the husband was upset enough to blame his wife, I really can. But I do wish your friend could get some help to stop blaming herself. She made the choice to respect her daughter’s privacy... that turned out to be the wrong choice, yes, but she didn’t make it out of malice! She was just trying to do the right thing! She really doesn’t deserve to feel guilty for the rest of her life and drown in drugs and alcohol. I hope she can get some therapy and learn to forgive herself so that she can make a better life for herself. 😢

[@dmf1301]

Thomas Joseph sorry, I misread... the husband has the drinking problem. He needs help, too, he obviously feels guilty and he doesn’t deserve to either. He deserves help to forgive himself and make a better life, too. Neither of them deserve the guilt they are heaping on themselves! Just a very sad situation. 😢😢

[@Delta_2209]

Que pena

[@Delta_2209]

Mas a mãe está certa, ela deu privacidade ao filho, mas o filho ficou bravo que respeitaram ele e se matou

[@Kisozriel]

Omg Thomas, that’s awful! That poor girl was crying for help and while I obviously see what the mom was trying to do...... Gosh, I don’t want to sound like I’m harping on her because I’m not, she was clearly doing what she thought was right at the time even if it wasn’t. The thing about teenagers is....they’re not always good at asking for help. I’ve heard it suggested that because it’s that age gap between childhood and adulthood where pressure is constantly on them to not act like children, prepare for the future, and start handling things on their own even if they don’t know how yet, they feel like they CAN’T ask for it. As someone who struggled HORRIBLY in my teenage years and refused to ask for help, I was inclined to agree to the suggestion. I was forced by my middle school to see a therapist because I didn’t have friends while completely IGNORING the bullying I was being subjected to. They forced me to miss class until someone could see me and I missed two whole weeks of school over it. When I was raped and struggling with a candy dish of other mental health issues, I was AFRAID to ask for help because of how I was treated the time before that I didn’t know what to expect this time around.

[@queenbee23225]

My pastor was the first person I came out to. We had a fantastic conversation where he was so supportive & loving. I'm not christian anymore, but I'll never forget him & never stop respecting him for spreading so much love & encouraging growth of acceptance in Christianity. One of the first things he asked me was if I was safe with my parents. He said his first concern was making sure I. was in a safe place and didn't have to fear around my parents. Luckily, I am in that safe space, but I'll never forget his kindness.

[@ivytaylor1494]

That first one had me crying, my mom died when I was young and I would be CRUSHED if I found out my dad kept something like that from me, it’s unbelievably selfish! To think your grief outweighs your own child’s or that you’re entitled to something just because of how much you want it is delusional. Her husband wanted to give his children something special to help them get through his death, and to express his love for them even after he’s gone and she stole that moment from both of them. It’s absolutely deplorable and there’s no excuse

[@EE-jo5pt]

The positive thing is there is no shortage of assholes, entitled people, etc. in the world so we’ll never have to worry about Rslash having no content.

[@JustAFace_InTheCrowd]

One time, a Karen came into my store and asked my shift manager to stop cleaning the glass of our pastry case with our windex like cleaning spray (no food was harmed in the cleaning of the case, and I believe the spray is non toxic anyways, unlike Windex), and Karen told her to stop cleaning cause she was eating across the room and didn’t want to be poisoned (this was pre-quarantine so our lobby was open). We have to do our tasks within a certain time period so we can go home on time.... Oh and even though my shift agreed and stopped cleaning, she still left a review saying that we shouldn’t be cleaning when people are in the lobby. 🙄

[@Drummerchef13]

You want streaky fingerprinted glass? Because that's how you get streaky fingerprinted glass

[@filmandfirearms]

4:19 When this post started, I was expecting some boundary pushing, politically incorrect joke, but no, this dude definitely got what was coming to him. That is way too far. I couldn't even imagine doing that with your wife, let alone a student

[@amberlance3221]

It sounded like grooming to me.. pushing the bounds to see how much he could get away with - completely inappropriate!

[@melkat606]

Why does she keep saying “my husband “instead of like “my children’s father” - She’s so possessive over her late husband that she won’t even let their daughters get in between them

[@chicken7805]

If u don't understand why then u need to wait a little while before getting into a relationship

[@sophiatroanska1432]

Well that’s her relationship to him. People only refer to their spouses as “their father” or “their mother” if they’re divorced.

[@DopeioThePhoneBoi]

What? In what universe does a spouse refer to said spouse by a moniker solely based on the relationship they have to their kids. She was an Ahole, but this complaint makes zero sense. I doubt you've ever been married or had kids bc calling your husband 'my children's father' sounds incredibly impersonal 💀

[@marsh.al.mel0w162]

Well- he was her husband, that’s how she knew him and it’s shorter to type.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

I... would find it weirder if she referred to him as her children’s father.

[@leosack9718]

I can’t stop laughing after imagining the woman with the baby walking into a starbucks and everyone is instantly quiet 😂

[@Hijinxx772]

7 million dollars for not coming out? Me packing up all my stuff: Time to go live in the closet for a while, see y'all when gramma dies

[@nenabarbosa7795]

To Narnia

[@ic1815]

The dad who read his daughters diary: “At first, I did not know it was your diary, I thought it was a very sad, handwritten book”

[@Lecommenter0987]

Me: *clicks aita* Rslash: “Welcome to r/relationship advice” Me: *looks at title* *audible mechanical whirring *

[@michaelakrams679]

Did you hear the outro to

[@hewnozit]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I scrolled through just for this comment!!!!

[@AlgorithmDG]

Yes, the worst part of that final story is most definitely the fact that he has to drink the Budweiser now. There are some really good American beers but that kind of beer is disgusting.

[@z0nra]

Speaking as a lesbian: If my relative told me that staying in the closet for a little longer would get me a $7million inheritance, I'd be SO FRIGGIN APPRECIATIVE LIKE HOLY SHIT THAT AMOUNT OF MONEY WOULD BE LIFE-CHANGING, I would absolutely stay in the closet for that reason. What a good freaking uncle for looking out for her to that extent. Like, that scenario could have EASILY swung a completely different direction and I'm so glad it didn't, jfc.

[@timbitslunatic6319]

Rslash: Welcome to r/relationshipadvice Me along with the others: *Visible confusion*

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

How dare you not give me bamboo!!! -some karen panda i met at the forest I had to run away with my bamboo in my mouth

[@Avrysatos]

I'd tell family to stay closeted for a little bit longer for millions too. That kind of money is life changing.

[@indecisiveire1746]

"Welcome to r/Relationship_Advice" *sees title* *sees words on screen* *_Confusion noises_*

[@h-bomb1663]

The barista one reminds me of that one kid in class who shushes you even though the rest of the class are talking loudly

[@leohunter801]

For the letter keeper, I will knock off a point because shes in grieving, she lost the man shes been with for nearly 20 year however that being said I agree with rslash what she did was wrong in so many ways

[@kennytv6724]

If it hink about getting 7 million when I turn 20, I would actually do pretty crazy shit to ensure I keep this inheritance, I mean, if you think about how much money you would be getting if you invested that money in something, you would quite literally only need to work for a year or two to buy a house and after that you just get the money you need to survive from this investment, every job you have will be a nice little bonus for your nice new car or something like taht.

[@jjohnston94]

Absolutely. Even if you invested that 7 mil at a lousy 3% interest, that's still $210,000 per year you could live on.

[@dustintunis9347]

@@jjohnston94 - If you invest right you should be around 10%. Sure could safely pull 500K per year and it would still grow.

[@saturn6784]

"Screaming at a barista" Looks like meat's back on the menu, boys!

[@onlythebest9376]

When she said:,,They can take pictures of it" I LOST IT. HOW LOW OF HUMAN BEING U HAVE TO BE TO STEAL LETTER FROM UR DAUGHTERS AND HAVE AUDACITY TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT.

[@thedisneysinger5749]

The only reason a parent should read their kids diary is if they have substantial reason to believe the kid is going to hurt themselves or other and specifically kill themselves and they will not talk about it.

[@Slithery]

Title card: AmITheA-hole Rslash: welcome to r/RelationshipAdvice Edit: twice.

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

🤷‍♂️

[@justsomepandawithinternet]

You gonna get 100 likes in 30 seconds

[@apexstonerfailure2121]

I heard that too

[@vanderlindeplays7499]

Ralash?

[@JuniorYouTube]

LMAO

[@Yikerr]

Ah yes my favorite r/Am I The Relationship Advice Also the coffee woman basically said let me just take my small grumpy child to an air show. OH NO WHY ARE THE EXTREMELY LOUD PLANES WAKING UP MY BABY!!

[@ayahasad4437]

Girl: *Lies to a guy to get her beer* Also Girl: WHY ARE YOU SO UPSET????????!!!!!!?!?!?!?!?!

[@eline4188]

The first one has to be a narcissist, how awful, poor daughters.

[@sophiatroanska1432]

I’m a barista, and I am 100% sure the story is about Starbucks because they follow the same protocol I do at my store. The barista was grinding cold brew. Not urgent. Just needs to be prepared within the hour. Coffee, however needs to be brewed every ten minutes to stay fresh. It’s a hard rule. You’re on a. Schedule and have to perform like six other tasks within that ten minute cycle. No. It couldn’t have waited. She gave OP her drink, ending the verbal contract as OP could leave by that point.