r/AmITheA**hole I Tricked My 16-Year-Old Babysitter Into Getting Drunk, and Then Fired Her

[@rSlash]

How entitled do you have to be to drug a 16 year old girl without her knowledge (even if it was accidentally), and then BLAME AND PUNISH HER FOR IT???

[@kaedentomhave3297]

Love ur vids!

[@SirDunzo]

Very entitled

[@idkanymorelolz]

Gud

[@silsilahwationg8908]

More entitiled than entitiled karens

[@nessusio6124]

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[@KayBbyXOXOXO]

As for the babysitter story, let’s no forget she KNEW the babysitter was drunk AND THEN MADE HER WALK HOME

[@holymoly9903]

Ye, there is so much dangerous shit that could have happened

[@r.w.3378]

AND SHE WAS ONLY 16.

[@jonathankhuzkian6419]

I do want to know how the babysitter didn't realize it was hard seltzer. All of them that I've seen are clearly labeled, have clear alcohol content warnings, and taste like alcohol. Surely anyone who drinks even a little would know somethings up. Either way, op is definitely in the wrong

[@shannonheisler6627]

Am I the only one that forgot it wasn't enough that they wouldn't be able to drive and thought they had a choice

[@shannonheisler6627]

Sorry I meant didn't have a choice

[@Jennifer-jt9cb]

Initially when I heard the title _"AITA For Firing My Babysitter For Getting Drunk On The Job"_ I thought *HELL NO YOU'RE NOT!* But upon hearing the story, I agree with rSlash. The girl said she liked seltzer water, so OP started keeping it in the house for her. They never told her that they bought some ALCOHOLIC seltzer for themselves. She unknowingly drank it and got drunk. She immediately called and told them she wasn't fit to babysit anymore that day. The blew her off. Then *_THEY_* blamed *_HER_* for *_THEIR_* screw up. They get infinity out of 5 assholes here. My father was a mean drunk and abusive as hell to the point that I started sleeping with a loaded rifle in my hands when I was 12. So I understand the babysitter completely. She is an angel, and will be an amazing mother when she has her own children, if she chooses to do so.

[@RedOrange7]

To think this whole thing could’ve been avoided if they just took the time to remember the baby sitter liked seltzer water (and you know, OP wasn’t so rude about it...)

[@LeannahW]

And imagine if she wasn't feeling well due to another serious medical issue and they just made her stay there with their children or had her walk herself home? Like what the fuck?

[@nicky-su4uo]

Change THEY to OP cause the husband i think was on the baby sitters side

[@VesnaVK]

OP? I say EP! 2:30 OP forgets all about buying seltzer for the baby sitter, and even buying herself hard seltzer doesn't jog her memory.

[@Nerobyrne]

95% sure she got the water intentionally to fuck up the babysitter and fire her. Also the mega irony of claiming that the babysitter puts the kids in danger, when she LEFT ALCOHOL IN THE FRIDGE WHICH LOOKS LIKE SODA WATER!

[@marionnel2931]

Man, usually I agree with Rslash's verdicts but that wedding one was definitely not an "everyone sucks" situation. Just because you personally have a good relationship with your brother doesn't mean that everyone has amazing relationships with their siblings. Personally, me and my brother don't get along at all and only talk to each other when we absolutely have to but even then he would automatically be invited to my wedding because he's my immediate family member. I would never make any of my family members do something as dumb as write me essays explaining "how much they would LOVE to attend my wedding". The sister needs to get off her high horse and uninvite people herself like a big girl and explain that since there's a PANDEMIC currently taking place she will keep the guest list to family and close friends.

[@rishabhanand4973]

also, part of having a good relationship with someone is being comfortable enough to check them on their shit. if my brother or best friend said i had to write an essay in order to come to their wedding, I would say hell no, and you better not be making other people write essays for this.

[@cmm3699]

It makes it worse if they’re close, cause then I’d be second guessing how close we are if my brother ever did that.

[@Reciprocitus]

I agree. I also tend to agree with rslash but thus was a major misfire on his part. This is a hard 4+ buttholes for everyone but the op.

[@DarkEvilFoxy]

@@rishabhanand4973 can all say rslash dont know what he talking about and needs to rethink what he said

[@jamesmills6605]

I couldn’t agree with you more

[@magmavulcana4023]

If my sister asked me to write 50o words on why I should be allowed to go to her wedding, I would just write "I am your sibling" and copy-paste that until I hit the word limit.

[@WynnWyvernn]

That's genius level thinking

[@jackpowwe9012]

Thanks for the idea

[@jinraigami3349]

I won't even do it.

[@jessweaver5713]

Or write an essay on how it’s a privilege to have people WANT to come to your wedding, especially if they have to pay for it out of pocket.

[@joimumu]

Ether you invite someone or not you don´t make people beg and I personally wound never show up to any party if I was´t welcome

[@somebody4952]

Are we gonna ignore the fact that the drugger told the babysitter to get a "real job"?

[@mikeb5063]

Hope she can never find a baby sitter again

[@aaronrashid2075]

If she wanted her to find a "real" job, why hire her? Just let her find the real job herself

[@KarmaTube5]

That mother is indeed a Karen. I ain't gonna lie. When I heard of it, I thought it was my friend sister because same thing happen to her but the lady got arrested. So I ruled that out.

[@831china]

somebody 495 fr😭

[@jacobfx3630]

she should be on r/entitledparents

[@francisfuzzynips902]

This whole "It's a small price to be able to attend their wedding" is the pinnacle of stupidity. I adore my parents and their respective partners as they're seperated, along with my sister, her boyfriend, my aunt, grandma, I have a close-knit family, I'd be on the verge of arguing for postponing it if some couldn't join and bend/break any rules possible. This Karen insisting on having her sister write an essay IS insulting, it's not even in the realm of possibility or realism that it's a thing. Either you love your family, you don't, or it's a step below "I'm so happy my friend Madison has her tongue halfway up my colon". If I were in that situation I wouldn't go.

[@dx1450]

Yeah, I agree. If I'm not close enough to get an automatic invite, and instead have to write out an essay about why I should be allowed to attend, I'll pass.

[@chinmayikalapatapu4320]

"halfway up my colon" 😂

[@LMSPetRescue]

I’m having the exact opposite experience with my sister’s wedding. Due to covid they’re only inviting family and she almost forgot to tell me I’m her maid of honor 😂😂😂 my mom had to remind her that she needed to actually ask me. She just assumed I’d know that she wanted me as the maid of honor (I didn’t I assumed she was going to ask her best friend). I can’t imagine not even being allowed at her wedding without jumping through hoops because SHES MY SISTER. Side note she asked me with enough time that I could plan a bachelorette party at least 😂😂😂 she doesn’t want one because she’s not a partyer but I’m taking her and the rest of our side of the family to a rollercoaster park because she’s a big adrenaline junky and her fiancé is terrified of rollercoasters

[@randomrebecka6778]

Uhm No! I would NOT write an essay to attend anyone's wedding lmao! That is ridiculous and sounds like the bride/couple is severely Narcissistic! Bye have fun on your wedding I'll send a card... without an essay. Seriously that is crossing a line. NTA

[@dominiqueharriott8054]

Thank you if my sister did that I would simply write "I'm not going." Definitely NTA

[@donnabrewer4971]

I'm with you! I sure the heck would NOT write an essay AFTER dishing out tons of money for plane tickets and hotel costs. If my sister really wanted me - or anyone else - to attend she would drop the whole essay idea. And with both the pandemic AND throwing a destination wedding, she probably won't need the essay to weed out the riff raff.

[@matthewtolltrollsher9635]

Changed the comment lol. Majority of the people who haven't read this, will figure it out.

[@upcastthunder35]

Matthewtolltrollsher He’s giving his opinion? If we don’t agree that’s alright? Dude chill out

[@zakkcooke8050]

Matthewtolltrollsher not entitled, probably just a liberal

[@sugarbear4865]

I love how he plainly and unironically says “OP, that’s a sweet sentiment, but I don’t believe you.”

[@HackiePuffs]

Honestly I feel like that was a little too harsh because what if she actually did follow through with what she said and actively tried to improve?? Doesn’t excuse her actions but you can still learn from them and try to improve.

[@koencagurangan3256]

Hackie Puffs It may have been too harsh, but given the fact that OP literally fired someone bcuz of her own screw up is just stupid. I honestly wouldn’t believe that a scumbag like that would suddenly have a change of heart. Plus, the compensation that OP was suggesting is WAAAY too much, i get paying for her permit and license but upping her pay to 1500$/week for a BABYSITTER? That’s just unbelievable, plain and simple, i understand bumping it up to 15 or even 20/hr, (which would amount to a good 300-500 or so per week) but 1500?? I’m pretty sure that’s the kind of pay a high end engineering job, Medical Occupation, or even a CEO position in a massive company would get (unless of course the raise that OP is talking about isn’t permanent and is probably only gonna last a week, then that would make sense as compensation)

[@sugarbear4865]

I was just saying that I love the way he said it

[@Rashinnu]

@@koencagurangan3256 I read the story and her comments and the babysitter was being paid only $100 dollars a week for 60 hours of babysitting each week. She recognized that this was too low of a wage as that's not even two dollars an hour. So she decided to give her $1500 for the last few weeks she needs her before school starts up to make up for the underpayment.

[@koencagurangan3256]

Rashinnu Ohhhhh That definitely makes more sense 👌

[@snazzy_clock]

i'm not schizophrenic, but saying that someone is tracking you when you're schizophrenic seems like one of the scariest, worst things to say

[@ReptillianStrike]

Yeah. Like I thought the weird clothing was kind of funny, but those paranoia conspiracy lines went too far.

[@thebestgamer4106]

It is. As a person who exibets every single symptom or sign of schizophrenia but haven't gotten a diagnosis. Yes it is people have tried to pull it on me

[@iane9552]

That women does not have a husband, that is a child. Probably best to get out now.

[@mostar1219]

Ghee Buttersnaps He’s gonna use the “If I’m a child, that makes you a pedophile” from Family Guy as an excuse to leave

[@WobblesandBean]

Agreed. He's a louse.

[@RIlianP]

Well he is a shitty husband but she married him, she deserves him, is she dumps him maybe her shitty taste in men will improve but I doubt it.

[@MadameChouette800]

I wouldn't even ask for advice, I would just kick him out.

[@RIlianP]

@Erin Bliss Nah, they always say that, just excuses, he wasnt like that etc, we were happy before, yada yada, they say love is blind and people choose not to see theirs spouses shittier sides at the begging, 18 months seems like the perfect time for the bubble to burst proper especially if they have not lived together before the marriage, if she have backbone she will dump him but that doesnt mean that the next one wont be as bad as he is. When you got shit taste, you got shit taste.

[@joshijoshi6308]

NTA. So why should an immediate family member have to write "essays" to "apply" to attend that family member's wedding? The invitation should be a given, no "application" necessary. If my sister pulled that on me, I wouldn't be attending either.

[@LadyLeomon]

Joshi Joshi *thank you!* Like _maybe_ for people outside your immediate circle of close friends and family, like triple-jointed Cousin Shirley (no offence to any actual Shirley reading this!) but making your own parents and siblings do it, and even if they did they _might not even get in regardless AND presents are still expected?!_ As we say in my area “you can f*ck that for a lark!” Nah, this is shameless preening on behalf of the bride (and arguably the groom even though he’s hardly even mentioned here) and if my own sister did that to me? She could count me out of the wedding altogether! 😤😤😤

[@MrKabab6]

Well said. Why should he HER FU*KING BROTHER AND PARRENTS need to write an "essay" what is this preschool? Close family should be a given, regardeless of any "essay" that has to be writen

[@Harrier42861]

It's offloading the work of prioritizing their invite list to their guests, which is just crappy behavior.

[@BeanManolo]

Couldn't agree more. I mean, she was already a bit of a butthole by still trying to do a marriage on the middle of a frickin' pandemic, them she forces people to write a giant essay to show they are gadly to be there? So, she basically wants to see which people would lick her boot enough to not only pay for traveling and a present, but also risk their lives to see her getting married? Yeah, I would refuse it too.

[@tracylw]

I wouldn't go to a wedding where an essay was required. Its a wedding not school

[@neeramaiia9027]

Being a breastfeeding mom, that last story made me tear up. People love to shame moms for just feeding their babies. It's what's female breasts are MADE TO DO, yet it's shameful?

[@savannahs.5874]

Gasp!!! You're taking care of your newly born child???? THE *AUDACITY*

[@Michael05292]

@@savannahs.5874 i know! Its so stupid! Caring for newborn children like come on!

[@TheBaldNonce]

Yeah its stupid to shame mums for breast feeding unless the kid is way too old for it

[@aninditachandrakirana7896]

They thought it's a shameful thingbto do bcs they think all the breast for is to feed the overgrown man-baby they called their husband lol

[@avashnea]

@@aninditachandrakirana7896 Don't you have a 'man hate' rally to go to with the other feminist idiots? STFU

[@BeanManolo]

About the cousin trying to propose: Yeah, OP is totally not the asshole. Also 'you destroyed my chance of doing the proposal with the entire family here' is the dumbest excuse ever. OP's cousin could very well do his own Zoom call later and do the proposal, he was actually mad he didn't got the chance to steal the attention from OP's sister.

[@trinalgalaxy5943]

It's disgusting that his parents supported HIM doing something not only taboo, but incredibly rude and uncaring as if it did not matter at all what they were there celebrating.

[@heidtb6746]

I really hate people who propose in a Setting, where a "No" would also ruin everyones day. That puts pressure on the other person and is in my opinion a no go... So if you want to propose... Do it in private

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@heidtb6746 It really bothers me when literal fudging strangers give a woman who says no to a public proposal a hard time. Since I don't mind confrontation in the slightest, I went off on a restaurant full of people who legit loudly booed a woman who turned down one such proposal. She ran out crying when the boos got really loud & aggressive. The dude just went back to eating. Geez I remember being so friggin mad though. My late husband said he saw my eyes flash (idk what that means) & he said he just leaned back to watch the show. I stood up & said loudly "How many of you know these people? Do ANY of you know them? How the hell do you know this isn't their 3rd date & he isn't seriously jumping the gun? How do you know anything at all? You people are trying to pressure a stranger into marriage, one in which had this discussion EVER have come up before now & it absolutely should have, he would have already known the answer so was using you assholes to try pressure a yes against her wishes. I find you all disgusting as hell." Then I slowly glared around the room & saw a whole lot of blushing & heads down because they hadn't really bothered to think through what they were doing or how it would be to be on the receiving end of a fudging stealth proposal from someone you don't want to marry followed by a room full of strangers booing you for that choice. I also saw a smirk & a raised eyebrow from the late husband that almost made me laugh before I was done glaring at the room. He was a people pleaser so it always amazed him just how willing I always was to not give a bloody damn what anyone thought & stand up for what I believed in. Idk, I dislike how women are always pressured into not hurting feelings but nobody gives a goddamn if she's uncomfortable. Ugh. That's where I'm at.

[@ShadowSora8491]

That story shows just how much OP cares about his sister. He was NOT gonna let their attention-seeking cousin ruin her special day.

[@ShadowSora8491]

@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 As a man, I think I'm inclined to agree with you that women are expected to be people-pleasers even more so than us men are. Before anyone freaks out on me, yes, us men are expected to be people-pleasers, too (practically, everyone is), but it seems like society expects women to please people, even more than they expect men to. This is just an observation I've made. I, myself, still has a problem with people-pleasing, 'cause I've too often had to deal with backlash, just for trying to speak my mind and stand up for myself (I have a much easier time doing that from behind a keyboard, than I do in person).

[@ShogunTurnip]

The fact that OP's sister didn't automatically add her own family to her wedding without the need for an essay says a lot.

[@sophiaaleksandrovich6937]

I wonder if the parents had to write the essay

[@margretlynch7503]

If I was I that situation my full 500 hundred words would just consist of “we are family” over and over again

[@RRW359]

They didn't even want to go. If they want to give their seats to someone else who wants to they shouldn't be considered an antagonist. That's ignoring the issue of traveling during a pandemic and how nobody should be blamed for not wanting to regardless of their reasons.

[@grimxtray]

Hope rslash keeps the same energy when he’s actually asked to type an 500 word essay on why he wants to attend his brother’s wedding.

[@maddiekoester7785]

The only time it’s okay to propose or announce a pregnancy at a wedding is if you have the permission of the bride and groom, and even then it can still seem as insanely rude the other guests.

[@shy-watcher]

Maybe, but is it the zoom host's responsibility or right to boot people for trying? Let them do it and live with the consequences.

[@iSMILEasAcureForUSal]

wat yea but then you as the host have to take responsibility for the fact that you allowed something upsetting to happen during your siblings wedding. Plus none of the other guests cared except the cousins parents who probably already know their son is a little shit and they condone his behavior. You should only ever announce something big like that at a wedding with clearance from the bride and groom period.

[@ashtonrooks7899]

@@shy-watcher they were designated to manage it on behalf of the wedding couple, so yes they had both the responsibility and the right.

[@shy-watcher]

@@iSMILEasAcureForUSal upsetting is way to broad. Anything can be upsetting, maybe two guests have the same hat and are upset by it? "Manage" means to gather guests, switch modes, maybe temporarily mute loud drunk uncles, kick uninvited naked people (if somebody posted the password in the open), not curate the guest list ad-hoc while lying about it.

[@upcastthunder35]

I just feel like that the cousin was being a jerk? Why propose on someone else’s special day that their trying to make work dispite a GLOBAL PANDEMIC really, it’s known that happiness helps people in many ways, ruining that is just a@@holery 101

[@alejandroelcid]

On the story of the ICU nurse, she is not wrong, there are two issues: her husband is being lazy and needs to be more responsible, and it may also be possible that her long work days are putting a strain on their relationship. They need to talk about it, but he still get 3/5 for his overall lack of effort in this partnership. On the story of wedding essays, the sister and family are being petty on this whole affair. OP does not have any need to write an essay in order to go the wedding, the small "price to pay" adds up to the other costs (round trip, hotel stay, food, money missed from not working, and the wedding present). OP is a 0/5, rSlash gets a 2/5 for implying that writing that essay is part of OP's obligation to his sister; he does not owe them anything and if they are so incompetent to rearrange their invitations or impatient to wait for a better time than that's on them. rSlash you forget that if there is still a pandemic at the time of the wedding then they are putting their guests at risk.

[@RedOrange7]

I agree with all of this but would like to add that he used his relationship with his own sibling to explain why he thought she was in the wrong. Not all siblings have good relationships like that, for all we know they couldn’t care less about each other!

[@sirnird9982]

Captain Orange7 absolutely right so I would bump rSlash to 2.5/5

[@randomboys1000]

OP is female

[@ezranian]

The person putting the blanket on the head of the person complaining about breastfeeding is honestly a power move and I love it

[@baptistem2978]

I had to scroll for far too long to find this comment! But yeah, it was the only sensible thing to do

[@squishy8758]

Poor baby was freaking out because she felt really sick and wanted to go to the hospital.

[@jaggedlittlepearl8635]

I know right I feel so bad for that kid.

[@RMZain08]

Ikr

[@vgverog]

I hate OP for refusing to come home after the first call. The teenager's sick. Drunk or not, she knew she wasn't in any condition to care for her children and did the right thing. The mother was an ass to not even try to get back. Worst case, you go back to bring the children to work for the rest of the day.

[@yougosquishnow]

Who TF let's a drunk person walk home alone, let alone a drunk CHILD who has no idea what's going on? I kinda feel like t Child services should be called on that woman. She endangered a minor and is a total piece of shit.

[@Ikajo]

@@vgverog After all, it could have been something else that was wrong. Something that needed immediate medical attention. Even if it wasn't, it could have been. I once had to leave work early because my whole skin was turning red (kind of like rashes). I even ended up in the er because I needed medication asap.

[@Dragon7398]

For the wedding story, she should send back the essay, with every answer just being "I'm your sister." Ball's then in the sister's court. Either that response is sufficient, in which case she gets out of writing anything more, or it's insufficient, and her sister made the choice not to have her attend. Either way, OP wins.

[@strawberrysoulforever8336]

I would have been insulted if my half-sister had made me apply to go to her wedding. For me, I wanted to attend because she's my sister and I love her and want to celebrate her having found someone she wants to spend the rest of her life with. And I didn't have to write some application for why I should be her bridesmaid, either (the other bridesmaids were her other half-sister - her mother and stepfather's daughter, while I'm her father's and stepmother's daughter - and her best friend from childhood).

[@squirtletown5307]

Yes exactly

[@kiitaclyzm]

"while that's a sweet sentiment, I don't believe you" it really did just sound like trying to save face, honestly

[@ladysollua]

If my brother was getting married and did that thing with “RSVP” essays, I would simply send him a message saying “I’m your big sister. If I’m not important enough to you to be automatically included on the guest list, then I’m not coming.” We’re not super super close, but I’m hoping we’re close enough that I’ll be able to attend his wedding one day with an automatic invitation. (Obviously I’ll send an RSVP if I’m issued a proper invitation).

[@Phlimbob]

Same, I was an automatic yes to my sister's wedding and I didn't even get an invite. If you're close enough with your family, they are put in a different category from the rest of the guests.

[@MAndSquared]

Someone on the post suggested copy and pasting ‘I’m your sister’ until 500 words were reached with one essay and then ‘mum says I have to go’ for the other

[@LukeVilent]

@@MAndSquared But that will be 'not putting enough effort'.

[@LukeVilent]

Me and my sister were totally ok with me not attending her wedding because of the distance. It just worked. No offence from either side. Why the heck people are sticking to obsolete traditions so much?

[@m0L3ify]

@@LukeVilent No fucking clue. I only invited my parents and my siblings. My sister doesn't speak to me so she declined to come, which was fine. We decided to skip tradition and keep it short and simple with as few guests as possible -- just the people we really cared about. It was the best wedding ever! Perfect day! :)

[@caliqm2199]

Rslash: "An essay is a small price to pay for my sibling's wedding" What about the thousands she's spending on travelling there and back?Also you'd do that for your brother cause you love him,OP didn't really show any semblance of love towards her sister which might mean they don't have a good relationship

[@GiordanDiodato]

maybe it's cause I'm an only child, but even if I did love my sibling, I'd still refuse to write the essay. Seriously, the sister is a bridezilla.

[@RedOrange7]

EXACTLY! Like I get along pretty well with my sibling but if I already have to pay tons of money to go somewhere I probably wouldn’t want to write 500 words of butt kissing -_-

[@missflowerpower8724]

I have an inside-out version of this… my sister and my mother BOTH wanted special HAND WRITTEN, personal LETTERS OF INVITATION to both my son’s wedding and my daughter’s wedding 5 years later. This AFTER receiving formal, engraved invitations. I just said “you got an invitation like everyone else!” They were insulted! Jokes on them. Neither son nor daughter wanted them there. They did not attend. Fun was had by all!! 😃😃

[@alissadoley7487]

I love my brother and we are really close siblings but if he asked me for this kind of thing..not only will I refuse to do it, I would definitely point out how freaking stupid this method is.

[@savannahs.5874]

Lmao I'd just say my essay was their gift

[@TwilightWolf01Lux]

The first story reminds me of when my sister would say things or do things around my grandma and then pretend like she didnt. My grandma thought it was the onset of dementia which a couple of her siblings have, so its a very real risk and fear. She told me about how she was scared, didnt know what she was going to do and is actually on the younger side of people who develop it. My sister told me what she was doing and laughed about it and I snapped at her telling her that grandma really thought she was losing her mind. Luckily my sister stopped after I made her realize.

[@Artretha]

That's exactly why I have such an issue with that. That's gaslighting, and it's way more harmful than most people realize. Some douchetard replied on my comment admonishing those friends, saying that it was a "harmless prank," but it's not.

[@invadar789]

"i mixed peanuts into these brownies i made then my babysitter ate them. I fired her for going into anaphylactic shock in front of my babies. AITA?" same energy

[@greeneye2037]

I wouldn't be surprise if that actually happens.

[@RedOrange7]

Except she had been giving the babysitter normal brownies for weeks before then and THEN put peanuts in

[@RedOrange7]

Madd1e Lov3ly Exactlyyyyy

[@TheFuri0uswc]

Thats not quite the same thing. It's like if you left prepackaged browines in fridge that contained peanuts and baby sitter eat with out reading the label and going into shock

[@我很菜请见谅]

U forgot to add the part the babysitter likes the brownies.

[@artsykai]

About the first story... it hurts me so much to hear that. I have quite an intense & extensive mental illness combo, which includes schizophrenia-like symptoms (hallucinations, delusions, psychosis, ...). That's one of the things that I'm most paranoid about, everyone ganging up on me/everyone being "in on the joke". It almost made me cry to hear that OP got treated like that... I can't even begin to imagine how that must feel for it to actually happen. Because it's something that it's a paranoid thought that I deal with everyday. Sending all of the love and support to OP 💙💙

[@yougsa]

You guys realize that pranks like that are normal to people without mental health issues right. Even more so there HARMLESS. Just because op was ignorant and didn’t tell her FRIENDS of her SERIOUS mental issue and they triggered it or her doesn’t mean they are the problem. She is, because she’s acting like her friends are supposed to be able to read her gosh dang mind. I get that your worried about stuff like this but you seriously can’t blame her friends for her ignorant choice. I fricking hate people like her

[@thenightmaricsenpai524]

Sorry, RSlash. But the first wedding one isn't an ESH. OP in that story gets 0/5 buttholes and their family gets 3/5 buttholes. I'm sorry but filling out an APPLICATION for a WEDDING is bull-crap.

[@mauriciaokieffe9950]

Yup. She does want to attend but the couple wants to put the burden of disniviting people on the guests themselves. Making it so that they get their asses kissed and not having to explain why they disinvited whoever. That pure laziness and unreasonable to expect. They get an extra butthole for that.

[@LadyLeomon]

The Nightmaric Senpai *thank you!* I totally agree, this is just the bride (quite possibly the groom too) wanting an ego boost because it’s “their special day”. For distant relations/acquaintances you hardly see _MAYBE_ I could understand it (if this is the case then why invite them at if you aren’t that close?) ... but for your own parents and siblings? Nuh-uh! I’d tell the bride she could, as we say in my area, “you can f*ck that for a lark!” (And on top of this she still expects presents from those not selected?! Lunacy 😂😂😂)

[@jinraigami3349]

Same here. I just ask if they could join or select who to invite.

[@No0neat]

Specially when they are related. This is just a attempt to ge bootlicker to attend.

[@typhoonhurricane18]

I suppose it depends on whether you think 500 words is more valuable than the relationship with your family. I'm a stubborn bastard and also not that close with my family so I know I'd dig my heels in over this kind of thing, but I can see why some people would see it as being needlessly stubborn. 500 words really isnt that much to write, so you could always just be the bigger person and suck it up for their special day, so there's some suckiness there if you want to be stubborn.

[@name-uh5ee]

OP's sister should automatically invite her immediate family

[@thathumangiraffe6548]

did the parents have to take that essay

[@blueberry1804]

Joshua George bet they didn’t and they are mad the sibling won’t do the stupid Essay

[@WynnWyvernn]

That's what I was thinking. Like that's your sibling and you want them to pay for ALL their own stuff and then do an essay. Very rarely do I disagree with R/Slash on one of these but this is one.

[@ResidentMilf]

I would just paste "I'm your sister" over and over until I hit the word limit.

[@Diamonia16]

That's what I thought too! If I had to cut down numbers, my first thought would be to immediately invite my close family. But then, I'm not the sort of person to do the whole essay thing anyway 😂

[@QueenGeek13]

Let's not forget in the alcohol story - when you feel sick you drink water so this girl was probably actively drinking more and more to help make it better and get through the day

[@KlockoFett]

For the wedding essay one: everyone does NOT suck, only the bride to be (and I suppose her parents for encouraging it). There's no excuse for having immediate family apply to be invited. In fact, there's no reason to have anyone write 2 essays to be considered. When you have to scale down a guest list sometimes you have to make hard choices, and that's on you not the guests. As OP stated, attending would already be costing her thousands of dollars. Essentially asking her to beg for the opportunity to do so is going too far.

[@ThingMaBobJimmy]

Agreed. Passing the buck to the guests is a cowardly copout.

[@KlockoFett]

@@ThingMaBobJimmy right on!

[@kryptical7315]

Third Story: I feel sad for the wife. 5/5 buttholes for the husband for being so uncaring and unkind. Fourth Story: I would say NTA, since it should be OP's choice whether or not he wants to do it.

[@WynnWyvernn]

I had an ex like that. I paid for almost everything and did most of the cleaning. To give him credit he did do most of the cooking but was uninterested in sex or watching things I liked. I finally threw in the towel after repeatedly begging him to make an effort.

[@kryptical7315]

@@WynnWyvernn Oh... Hopefully you're leading a better life now with a better partner.

[@WynnWyvernn]

@@kryptical7315 I am! My husband is kind and caring and works hard for us! That one guy wasnt god awful either but I dont think he really wanted a relationship and had some unresolved issues is all.

[@kryptical7315]

That's nice to hear 😊

[@WynnWyvernn]

@Steve Abner lol my ex?

[@JohnMcLoughlin06]

“Op, while that’s a sweet sentiment, I don’t believe you.” That actually made me smile a tiny bit because of how abrupt and unexpected that was (at least for me it was unexpected)

[@christian10697]

The one with requesting essays to attend the bride's wedding is a classic case of being a Bridezilla. Immediate family should be first priority when deciding who can and can't come. I'd be highly insulted if I was in OP's place and not even bother showing up.

[@joimumu]

Also how can you get in trouble for not being invited to the wedding?

[@EnbyAxolotlOfficial]

With all this I'm wondering how close her and her family actually is. If they only have an 'average' relationship, then frankly it shouldn't be expected that OP would want to write an essay. If they DID have a good reltionship, OP would automatically be on the invitation list anyways.

[@liv1522]

@@joimumu I think the parents mean that "she'll never live it down"

[@dracko158]

RB: "Bring a blanket and cover up!" OP: *Covers RB with the blanket* RB: "No, that's not how you're suppose to play the game." Damn, OP is savage!

[@sarasorensen2650]

She came to a baby shower though. Should know better.

[@its_nick_2437]

At first I thought it was in public but then I realized it was at a baby shower what do you expect at a baby showee

[@josephwisniewski3673]

As far as the babysitter case: if I were that mom, I'd be promising that babysitter anything to keep her from taking this to a lawyer or to the press. It sounds like there's at least a possibility that she deliberately set a trap of some sort for the kid, then simply lost her nerve before doing whatever it was that she wanted a trapped teenager for.

[@91madridista]

That nurse's husband is doing it on purpose. He's most likely hoping she divorces him and wants to live off half her stuff and an alimony check. Big mistake to rush into a marriage with an unambitious partner.

[@brandonnyberg5733]

Damn who hurt you

[@ashershometown]

91madridista this makes a lot of sense actually. At first I thought maybe the guy is cheating or he just got used to not having to put any effort into the marriage but Jesus this is darker

[@missflowerpower8724]

91madridista Seems pretty obvious, doesn’t it??!! He did everything he could to ignore and avoid her ALL DAY!! “Cooking dinner together”?? Um… lame, fake promise!!

[@okbuddy1695]

Then she should take all her stuff and leave him alone and never talk to him agian

[@dx1450]

I was seriously wondering if he was having an affair or something. At any rate, he's obviously not committed to the marriage. They need counseling or divorce lawyers.

[@bigkmoviesandgames]

You're completely wrong about the wedding one. Nobody should have to fill out a 500 word essay to go to a wedding. what is this high school? Really dumb call on your part.

[@Cheshiregrinn91]

My sister is my favorite person and even for her wedding I only 'might' write a bloody essay to be allowed to attend her wedding but honestly. probably not.

[@bigkmoviesandgames]

@@Cheshiregrinn91 I wouldn't write an essay for anyone. Wanting someone to write an essay for anything like a wedding or social event is some odd strange narcissistic behavior. I think rslash had his head where the sun don't shine on that one lol.

[@GiordanDiodato]

@@Cheshiregrinn91 your self-respect must be very low

[@Cheshiregrinn91]

@@GiordanDiodato that's a bold thing to say to someone you don't know even in the slightest. My sister happens to be my favourite person in the world and if she asked for me to write a 500 word essay for her then I assume she has a bloody good reason for it. measured against my love for my sister a 500 word essay is absolutely nothing. But I also know that she wouldn't make me do it or uninvite me if I didn't do it. If I told her that.

[@RRW359]

Not to mention that they didn't want to go to the wedding in the first place, them going means that someone who actually wants to go can't, and regardless of the circumstances, nobody should be considered an a**hole for refusing to travel during a pandemic.

[@ceegee5724]

The wedding one was ridiculous . If the guest list had to be cut , then immdiate family should have been at the top of the guest list regaurdless . Then extended family . Then close friends . Having your sister compete against ever person you know just to get into your wedding is stange asf

[@thenarrator9204]

I was stoked hearing how OP handled that Zoom call! Perfect execution for the situation!! 100%!

[@trumediamix1]

OP was as swift as a Commissar that saw a Guardsman retreating - *BANG!*

[@gh.5875]

I'm a writer and I'd never make my siblings write a "wedding application essay" just to get the CHANCE to go to my wedding, I'd instead prioritize immediate family and respective spouses and maybe (assuming it'll fit) a few friends then I'd look into everyone else

[@jackadams3878]

"i love my brother and would give anything to attend his wedding, even write 250 word essays" good for you. i love my sister, but i was done with essays when i was done with school, and she knows better than to pull some stunt like that

[@Bofore13]

"What will attending our wedding mean to you specifically? " Well every trainwreck has a beginning...

[@katt5896]

Wanna bet almost no one bothered and they all canceled their attending

[@name-uh5ee]

"OP while that's a sweet sentiment, I don't believe you"

[@thekittenlordstreaming8960]

I wouldn’t believe them either

[@WynnWyvernn]

That cracked me up. Who makes a 16 year old walk home drunk?

[@RMZain08]

:)

[@liamgoetz2890]

Yeahhh 1500 a week is roughly a 75k/year salary.... for babysitting

[@moe_1838]

@@liamgoetz2890 damn imagine your a teenager getting 75k a year, it would make more sense if like he says to her that she has to pay rent WiFi and food but even then that would be alot of money so he's definetly lying

[@randomstuff8149]

“I’d be fine with writing an essay to go to my brothers wedding,it’s only a small price to pay” Dude,that person literally said that they are not spending THOUSANDS of dollars just to go to a wedding. Did you even pay attention to what you were reading?

[@nellcade6340]

I really can’t understand how some of these people think.

[@blacksheep9144]

ikrrr

[@jibanyangamer9260]

THAY dont

[@blacksheep9144]

@@jibanyangamer9260 lmao

[@wta1518]

Are you talking about the people who are so clearly NTA or the people who are so clearly YTA?

[@jibanyangamer9260]

@@wta1518 the people who are clearly the butthole

[@emmagraves2056]

I didn't know what Hard Lemonade was until I was 19. That poor girl. She deserves better.

[@t-chan4640]

Know that feeling, I find out when I was about 25 :'D I was a long time teetotaler and these days I drink once a little in every two months. I saw a hard lemonade on sale at the store and was thinking hard means its strong sour soda because of lemon taste. I like those so went to store to get it. Checked the whole soda shelf with no luck and went to ask from person who worked there that where could I find it. He looked at me w the horror and tried to explain to me that its alcohol drink. Tbh, not sure why he was so awkward to tell it was alcohol drink, it sounded like he would try to explain to 8 years old what sex is. :'D But never got it because it was sold out anyway, still dont know what it tasted like :(

[@Slokoki]

PSA: Do NOT listen to rSlash when it comes to dropping your own self respecting and dignity to make a sibling happy. If their happiness is making you lose your respect, you're better off and I hope that rSlash finds some self respect some day in that regard.

[@bretsheeley4034]

I think I would had sent the essays in with 250 word responses of: "F*** you. F*** you. F*** you. F*** you. F*** you. F*** you. " (etc) Hello r/maliciouscompliance I've skipped relatives' wedding when their invites said they didn't want small children there when I had a very young son. If people want to invite us, invite us. If they need to cut down the number of guests and want us to jump through hoops to prove ourselves, I'll do them a favor and let someone else more deserving take my seat.

[@harveylunt4613]

I would have just written... Well I don’t want to write anything but our parents do so. I really really really really... (repeat about 250 times) don’t want to come if you are making people write these things

[@AC-so6up]

I would have wrote Idk why I have to go about 400 times or however many I need to write.

[@Ajehy]

Exactly. I’m a writer (trying to go pro), 500 words is no sweat to me, I’ve written 4K words in a day. However, even I would refuse this BS on principle.

[@75ur15]

@@Ajehy you need to check those principles. If you are a professional and given this glorious opportunity, and you don't take advantage of it, you are the problem. I want to attend the wedding because it would be amazing to watch an entitled brat get her one day in the sun and it would be wonderful to see her live her life's ambition knowing it is all going to be downhill from here. It means so much to me to see how happy she would be on that day, knowing it will never be this good again and being able to hold on to the memory of the one and only day she was special.....you get the idea, im no writer, you would do it so much better.

[@r.w3800]

EP: Drugs a minor with PTSD EP: fires the minor she drugged Ep: Am I iN tHe WrOnG hErE? Edit: this is supposed to be a just a funny comment, so if you a gonna reply don’t call the minor in the story things like “stupid ass”. Seriously people. I didn’t think I had to say that.

[@Rebrutez]

I hope OP gets jailed for that, that thing can traumatise the babysitter

[@r.w3800]

Amanze Maduako, hmmmmmmmmmmmm

[@r.w3800]

Rebrutez, yeah she should go to jail.

[@zhipeizhou5582]

Jail be like: 😐

[@WhoRUTalkingAbout]

Everything's wrong here if u think about it.

[@JetstreamSam343]

Seeing most of this storys end and you be like: *Bruh*

[@thesuperwhatwhat1000]

Not funny didn't bruh

[@thedarkdragon1437]

agreed

[@Average_Josh]

How the hell can you expect someone who has never drank to know that the 'hard' in hard means alcohol. At first I thought it was a more concentrated drink or some other flavoring or marketing thing. Screw that parent.

[@plaguenurse4399]

Late reply, but as someone who’s fallen for the whole hard seltzer thing, some of them don’t like even visibility disclose that they have alcohol/are hard seltzers :/

[@noodleydoo2862]

Same, luckily I never got accidentally drunk, but I did used to think ‘hard’ was just another word for carbonated

[@mitchverr9330]

The accidental drunk babysitter story, holy hell depending on what country that is happening in, not only could the woman be sued but she could be facing criminal charges. She would be smart to not fire the babysitter and to apologise for the screw up because a lawyer would greedily take that case up. Looking at the edits.... I think somebody might have warned her the serious legal case she could be facing.

[@amadkmimi1144]

There was a lot of : thats illigal, YTA, you let a drunk minor walk home alone (leasing your kids alone), how dare she just pay the babysitter 1.66$/h for 10 hours a day 6 days a week and hard setzer is dangerous and does not taste like alkohol If you are curious: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/i0q5un/aita_for_firing_my_babysitter_for_getting_drunk/?

[@r.w3800]

Yeah, where I am now it’s VERY much illegal. I think you get arrested, deported and serving the sentence in your home country. There is that ON TOP OF being sued. So yeah mitch verr, definitely.

[@lelnel6242]

I think it's The US. I had to google what 'seltzer' is and it seems it's just The US word for carbonated water

[@mitchverr9330]

@@amadkmimi1144 Holy hell no wonder the pay thing was mentioned there. I didnt even see that comment on the pay originally being so low. She has enough to pay properly after being told how illegal the situation is, what an entitled disgusting person. I hope the kid found a lawyer and went to town against this woman.

[@sidgar1]

It's not illegal to keep alcoholic beverages in your refrigerator. If the babysitter decided to drink them without permission (i.e. steal them) the one criminally liable is the babysitter.

[@mustbetheSUN]

Something about your "I don't believe you" is so bluntly hilarious.

[@Bitgedon]

King crimson style hard and lethal chop

[@Hopeandpeaceinjesus]

As someone who has delusions and psychosis I really feel for OP 😞 sending you many gentle shoulder pats

[@PurpledaisyShasta]

If anyone in my family tries the whole essay thing on me my letter will be “I’m not attending because if I have to convince you to let me come then YOU don’t care about me or our relationship. Screw you”

[@dominiqueharriott8054]

Right like if I have to write an application then I'm not going

[@liv1522]

The point is to see who wants to go the most. If you have to cut down the amount of people, why cut the people who want to go the most rather than those who didn't care that much. It makes sense if you think about it.

[@PurpledaisyShasta]

Then the bride and groom should just cut the people they don’t want in. If I have to write a essay then it simply means the bride and groom don’t care if I come or bot

[@shadowman7307]

I wonder if the sister who's about to get married is a teacher. That's exactly what I'd expect a teacher do. OP should just send 500 "No"s.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

Not just any teacher. A bad teacher

[@Ajehy]

Substitute teacher here. An essay is supposed to determine if the student has read & understood the material, as well as critical thinking skills and the ability to put together a coherent argument. This is more like at the beginning of King Lear when the old idiot divides up his kingdom based on which of his daughters says she loves him most (spoiler: the two horrible daughters lie about “loving only him” & get everything, the honest daughter says “I love you, but I also need to love my future husband” and gets exiled). Only with an expensive wedding trip instead of a Kingdom on the line.

[@crazyinsane500]

Question about that story with the babysitter: Why did they have hard seltzer? That's not a common or appetizing drink, and they don't indicate if they were planning on mixing it with anything. It sounds like they're leaving out the part where they bought it *intending* on tricking the babysitter into drinking it. It also sounds like it was left where the regular seltzer water was, and that they didn't warn the babysitter. Plus, OP seemed to have a really irrational and immediate response when she was alerted, and seems to be leaving out the girl's parents who would be interested in all of this. The more one thinks about it the more it seems less like the act of stupidity and definite malice. So 5/5 YTA for this situation.

[@ljsnax7504]

I think you reading too much into it drinks are often stored in the same place regardless and people have different tastes so op prolly likes it and that's a dumb plan cause what if the babysitter never called then op's kids would just be in danger

[@An0nymous_L0gic]

I love both my brothers unconditionally and, if necessary, irrationally. There's still no freakin way I would write that essay

[@octaviashadows6711]

Dude, the person who wrote wedding story is so NTA.

[@BorninVirginia]

Right, how entitled do you have to be to expect your own brother to pay over $1000 and write a 500 word essay to go to your wedding.

[@adamgrace7976]

Especially for something that might not happen It feels like a power trip

[@impagain]

That man that kicked his cousin out of the wedding zoom call is a frikin LEGEND

[@crdnls1]

I was really Annoyed about the wedding one, like that cousin is just awful, and since they were awful the cousin deserved for the proposal to go awful. I just couldn't imagine doing that to anyone

[@sarahheck9831]

Why do people ALWAYS try to get engaged at other people's weddings? So selfish. God forbid somebody else gets attention.

[@Cheshiregrinn91]

exactly, do they not have other family meet ups where they can pull something like that?

[@eye-chan1711]

*Accidentally Drugs babysitter.* “It wasn’t my fault that you got drunk.”

[@jfeva415]

OP with the man child. Don't fool yourself love, he's cheating and you should kick him to the cover. Most guy's would do anything for their girl.

[@VRDejaVu]

"Most guy's would do anything for their girl." Unfortunatly most of the men i know don't actually have that drive. Also, i know someone in that almost exact situation and he isnt cheating, he is just an idiot and a momy's boy.

[@jfeva415]

@@VRDejaVu I hope he sees before he lose his moon to one who would admire her more. I'm a old buck and a poet, mix that with what I've seen and guy's like me would do anything for someone they care about let alone love

[@megaman37456]

@J Feva As someone who is insanely lazy let me tell you this is 100% not a case of cheating, this is finding any possible excuse NOT to do something just to keep time all to yourself. I'd do this all the time back in High School, look for shortcuts around homework and schoolwork, I wasn't the best when it came to grades, but I was far from stupid. My point is OP's husband clearly is so used to his "Me" time that he can't deal with having to go through "Us" time with his wife, so he makes up whatever bullshit excuses he can to continue playing video games all day. However I agree OP SHOULD kick him to the curb, I know if I was in a relationship and married, I'd spend as much time with my SO as able to. OPs husband is clearly selfish and lazy, however she should talk to a lawyer to ensure if a divorce happens, which it should for OPs sake, that her husband sees as little as possible, hopefully nothing at all from her.

[@briandugas1648]

I can tell you that hard seltzer does not taste like alcohol. Someone who does not drink would not have known.

[@meganfenton856]

TBH I imagine there's some difference in taste, like between regular and diet coke. But yes, someone who had never tasted alcohol wouldn't really be able to tell.

[@briandugas1648]

@@meganfenton856 really there is not. They both taste like the flavor they are is a million miles away. The alcohol does not burn or have any flavor.

[@zarzee8925]

Even if there were a slight taste difference, the poor girl could have easily chalked that up to it being a different brand of seltzer than she's used to. How's she supposed to know what hard seltzer tastes like?

[@briandugas1648]

@@zarzee8925 that is what I am getting at. As a person who has had both alcoholic and regular there is no difference really. So someone who never has drank would not know.

[@shanemorehead2958]

I drink seltzer water and hard seltzer, I’ve never been able to tell the difference.

[@devinw6332]

“Hey dude, I think our friend is going crazy! Let’s start messing with him! 🤪” Yeah. Don’t do that shit.

[@orochimaruginju6868]

Nah man 5 out of five. As someone who is schizophrenic that is legit torture. That kind of shit can cause relapses

[@LatvianVideo]

If I had a friend who was schizophrenic, and some friends who would do that "Prank", they would get hit

[@orochimaruginju6868]

@@LatvianVideo It depends on how bad the "prank" was you may not beat said friend to the punch. Id just be glad to have a friend who cared that much

[@confuzedgraphite]

I think he said 3.5 because OPs friends didn’t know. Like it’s an asshole thing no matter what, but at least they didn’t do it to OP because they were schizophrenic.

[@Purin1023]

I mean, I guess OP never told them about it, so they didn't mean any harm by it. I guess the intent would be like a 2/5, but the execution ended up being 5/5. A pretty harmless prank to a non-schizophrenic, but a complete nightmare for one. I'm glad OP seems to otherwise have his shit under control though. He knew to check himself in to the hospital and everything way ahead of time.

[@orochimaruginju6868]

@@Purin1023 Yeah not everyone has the wherewithal to handle a sudden stressor like that.

[@Rico_71]

Since she is her sister she should automatically be invided, since based on her side of the story there are no past problems or anger between the two prior to this instance (like for ex. one of them went no-contact and they did not see each other for a long time). Just write "i'm your sister." until you reach the word limit. Just for a bit of malicious compliance

[@karma-4730]

Non implied in the story

[@Rico_71]

@@karma-4730 in fact i specified "based on her side of the story". I'm giving my opinion based on the info i have, assuming that OP said the truth.

[@joreyn7656]

That was SUPER quick thinking to disconnect the cousin. Bravo!

[@kytota1470]

The title made me think what was going on in that persons head. Nope, cant think.

[@kylebroflovski6236]

Thats my life :D

[@jovindsouza3407]

Correct.

[@kylebroflovski6236]

@@jovindsouza3407 Lol

[@kip3427]

Kyle Broflovski correct

[@thedarkdragon1437]

I know what went on. "I WANNA BE RIGHT SO IMMA POST THIS OUT HERE ON THE NET WHERE I GET SUPPORT" gets ripped apart, then acts like genuinely made mistake while keeps going on like nothing happened. i'm pretty sure law enforcement should be involved

[@kryptical7315]

The second story: You kept hard seltzers, even though you knew that the babysitter would take the seltzer? You drugged her, fired her for said drugging and then put your own kids and the babysitter in danger. 10/5 buttholes, even though I'm hoping that her updates are true.

[@micchannya8093]

6/5 butthole for me.

[@kryptical7315]

@@micchannya8093 Yeah, now that I think about it, this situation was really horrible, so 10/5 buttholes.

[@jennifert8542]

Also if you read the whole story it turns out she was paying the girl like $1.25 an hour

[@risharddaniels1762]

She didn’t drug the minor...the stupid ass minor drank something without reading the bottle, who tf does that? Especially if you know it isn’t the brand of seltzer water that you typically get AND this is after a period of time where the homeowner hadn’t been buying seltzer waters...

[@kryptical7315]

@@jennifert8542 Seriously?! Yeesh, this person is horrible! Under paying her, endangering her, blaming the babysitter for her own mistakes, god I hope the babysitter doesnt have to work there for long...

[@whatteamwildcats4033]

imagine acknowledging that someone has ptsd and never planned on drinking alcohol, fucking that up for them accidentally and then blaming them for your fuck up

[@epsilonjay4123]

I got an ad for hard seltzer right after that story about the hard seltzer.

[@willsmith0206]

With the zoom wedding call story. The only time that is acceptable is if it is done with the permission or maybe even help of the bride and groom.

[@sandyjamison5929]

I'm glad the friend stood up for her breastfeeding friend! It's overdue for breastfeeding to be *normalized* and not sexualized, imo.

[@megamindsoftheworld.624]

Me, reads the title: I’m sorry, you *what?*

[@thewanderinggamer1369]

OP Number 2: Tell your kids we're sorry you're their parent.

[@QuakeNLD]

Here, I will write it for him. Why do you still want to celebrate this day with us? Because you are my sister and I very very very very very {repeat another 237 times} much love you! what will attending our wedding mean to you? If I do not go I would be really really really really {You get the idea} bored that day. Voilla, bit of malicious compliance in that mess xD.

[@Ash-uo8sp]

👏👏👏👏

[@kevinaweso7656]

By the way the woman who drugged a minor deleted her message on reddit

[@Cinko420]

Tyrique Williams RSlash was right on not believing her. If it were true, she wouldn't have needed to delete it.

[@zettovii1367]

@@Cinko420 I dont see how that means that the story is fake. It's very possible that she just deleted the post because she didn't want to get trashed any longer. People can act like that, even for stuff that are real.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

@@zettovii1367 But it's not like deleting the post will help

[@zettovii1367]

@@bigjalapeno7061 It wouldn't help much, but not all actions people take are idiot proof. In either case, I just checked, the post is still there.

[@elsie8757]

@@zettovii1367 They didn't mean the story was fake, they meant her claim that she would hire the girl back and raise her pay was fake

[@breezainebigeagle8695]

Seriously rslash? 3.5/5 for the schizophrenic guy's friends?? I hope they at least paid his medical bills after that

[@paul-georgjordan2650]

More a 5/5, a friend of mine (14M at the time) is schizophrenic and his cousins (17M, 17F and 19F) did this and he nearly kill one of them, because he think the cousin (19F) was controlling him. I needed to tackel my friend to the ground and restrain him. The chaos that followed was massiv.

[@justinb7707]

I would say 4/5 because they didn't know. What they did was absolutely wrong but they didn't know who they were doing it to. If it was someone without schizophrenia it would have been a normal prank.

[@breezainebigeagle8695]

@Pyromike the reason they were doing it is because he has schizophrenia my dude. They did it to basically make him think he was hallucinating.

[@lixlix4689]

Pyromike they still shouldn’t have done it like I have bad anxiety and something like that would probably make me have a mental breakdown what I’m trying to say is you never know what someone’s going trough so don’t do shit like this

[@Luesatora]

@Pyromike What OP's "friends" did is gaslighting. It is a terrible thing to do to anyone, even a person who does not have any pre-existing mental conditions. Intentionally making someone question their own sanity like that is cruel and can even lead mental problems such as cognitive dissonance.

[@paranoiarpincess]

OMG THAT'S PRICELESS! I laughed SO hard at OP covering breastfeeding bigot with a blanket that I have tears running down my face. WELL DONE! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHHA 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@PhoneHalHome]

What is it with women who have good jobs and actually give a damn about their relationship being with actual manchildren who don't wipe their butts and sit at home and just play video games? Ladies, stop settling!

[@kirielbranson4843]

Let’s not make this an us against them thing. There are plenty of examples of the other way around. And we hear of them on these Reddit’s.

[@vlitragaia5969]

@Chris George 100 doesn't equal the entire population

[@vlitragaia5969]

@Chris George Also www.fatherly.com/love-money/when-wives-earn-more-money-than-husbands/

[@mwo79]

I would never write an essay to attend a wedding, especially a brother or sister, as if they need me to write the essay to prove my love, then they must truly not love me. I understand the point in post, but, they did the essay to cope out of choosing who to send invites to, and make it look like they are inviting on merit. They need to just be grownups and make a decision without requesting others to suck up.

[@cherryblossom00000]

I'm close with my sister but if she asked me to fill out an application to her wedding I would go off too and say I'm not doing it. Immediate family members should automatically be invited. My grandma when got married didnt have a big wedding, she and my grandpa just invited immediate and close family. That's what OPs sister should do.

[@Bmacthesage]

Seriously? The husband cant spend time with his wife who clearly wants to spend time with him? I'll admit I probably play an unhealthy amount of video games, but I'm also not f'in married, and would also know better.

[@nicholasf5742]

I know a lot of people don’t like the first Op’s friends. A lot of people don’t like that the “prank” was for a week NTA A lot of people don’t like the second Op. The babysitter didn’t mean to get drunk, she thought it was seltzer. A lot of people say they can’t tell the difference between seltzer or hard seltzer. This is such a YTA. Third Op’s husbands a POS NTA Fourth Op’s sister... why? If you do want them there, don’t make them do the essay. If I was Op, I would say “I’ve been told I have to go to your wedding, so that’s why”. NTA the bride is a bridezilla Fifth Op’s cousin is gonna be come a groomzilla. The (probably) fiancee is gonna be a bridezilla NTA The sixth one’s title is kinda misleading. I hate that everyone is ok with Jane breastfeeding, but one person has to complain. There(their?) reason (a man being around) is ok with it. NTA

[@War_is_cool]

IMO the last one sounds fake

[@War_is_cool]

Actually, I bet half of that subreddit is fake or extremely altered in OPs favor

[@bitameah7745]

I love the last story when OP covers the head of the woman complaining. Absolute beast and I applaud them for their actions.

[@DeadFam2]

This is really long, sorry :/ The group in the first one is mean, they bullied her and made her seem like she was going crazy. The second one got a 16 year old with PTSD drunk for the first time because you did a stupid thing then fired her for you being extremely stupid. In the third one, the husband sucks and needs to get his priorities straight. The fourth one, you shouldn't have to write an essay to go to a wedding and get basically graded on it. The fifth one, I think that it's a bit selfish and rude to propose or make an announcement at any wedding especially a virtual one. The sixth one is confusing, do you want a baby to eat or cry the whole time instead? Honestly, some people are just dumb and mean.

[@michelb.5186]

English is my second language so I might not have fully understood the story, but in the first one it wasn't clear to me whether or not the friends were aware of OP's condition. If they were aware I agree the "friends" are complete buttholes in the story and OP is not the butthole. But if they only became aware after OP went to the hospital, then they weren't the buttholes (specially because they apologized right after) and I might even give OP 1/5 buttholes for not accepting their apology.

[@kelsx9741]

Michel B. Even if they didn’t know op isn’t the butthole either way she went to metal torture that came to her hospitalizing herself even if they didn’t know I don’t think she had to except their apology after the trauma they put her through

[@michelb.5186]

@@kelsx9741 That's a good point, but at the same time I think we should try to look at the situation from OP's friends point of view. They pranked their friend, the prank ended badly because of a condition they didn't know about, and they apologized immediately. I'm not saying OP is the butthole if their friends didn't know about her situation, I'm just saying someone could argue that she is. But if the friends knew about it then they're clearly the butthole and OP is not, there's no possible argument against it.

[@Juubith95]

@@michelb.5186 It is quite clearly said in the story that the friends didn't know about OP's conditions. Regardless, there is a certain limit between pranks and bullying. If a group of "friends" decides it will be fun to try and convince one of them that he/she is going crazy and spend DAYS or even WEEKS to execute their plan, that's way overboard! A good prank would never last for so long period of time, that is bullying, plain and simple. Like, if they wanted to do something like that, maybe it would have been fun to try the thing with the T-Rex head and keep it going for some minutes, or an hour MAX. Not weeks.

[@michelb.5186]

@@Juubith95 I agree the prank went a little bit too far, but I wouldn't go as far as calling it bullying. If they knew about her condition and decided to prank her that way, then I'd consider it bullying, but since they didn't know I, personally, wouldn't say that's bullying. There isn't a clear line between what's a prank and what's bullying though, so I understand if someone disagree, but in my opinion bullying is when you intentionally harm someone (physically or emotionally) while a prank is you just messing around with someone. In this scenario OP's friends did harm her but it wasn't intentional, they meant to just mess with her, that's why I personally consider it a prank that went too far.

[@brandi5126]

Lmao I am glad OP booted the cousin off the wedding call. That is what he gets.

[@josephwisniewski3673]

My wife was a pieds nurse. A "bad day" for one of them is something the rest of us can hardly imagine. There is no way someone in that line of work should ever have to come home to a partner who doesn’t take adult responsibilities. I dislike telling a stranger what they "need to do", but kicking that man-baby to the curb would probably be a weight off her shoulders.

[@danielclark-hughes692]

"Application essay" to fund your own trip to your family member's wedding? Pfft, no thanks.

[@lillimay98]

If my sibling tried to get me to write an essay to attend their wedding I'd just write "This is bullshit" over and over again until I reached the word limit

[@kaniyaru117]

As someone who suffers from schizophrenia, I can heavily relate to that first post. Every now and then people say stuff like that as a joke, and every time I try to stay calm and tell them that stuff like that really messes with me and I'd appreciate it if they didn't joke about those things. There is this constant fear that my meds will stop working and I won't realize it because my reality slowly slips away without me noticing the change. It is extremely scary.

[@tcsam73]

Regarding the story with the overworked wife and the man child husband, she needs to lose him like a bad habit. If I were in his position, I'd be making her dinner every night and trying to pamper her since she's working so damn hard. The fact that he can't even spend a day with her says there are some underlying problems, and one of them being that he's a spoiled child in a mans body. As for the story where the wedding guests are expected to write an application essay, OP should send in one with two words "F**k off".

[@phoenixgaming3488]

"I bought alcohol and basically tricked a minor into getting drunk, she didn't know but it's her fault!" I just.. I can't even... like the babysitter possibly could take legal action like wtf

[@dyliamvonkillsu]

"My husband plays LoL" Me: Well, thats your first red flag 🚩

[@dianakosianka5344]

Story 2: OP is a massive AH in this one. She should've warned the babysitter ahead of time that they had alcoholic drinks in the fridge, ESPECIALLY since she clearly knows her family's past history with alcoholism. She should be ashamed of herself for behaving like a massive and unfair Karen.

[@shoom7103]

“I made my babysitter get drunk then refused to let her go home, then when she stayed on the job I fired her for being drunk around my precious angels. AITA?”

[@strudel_reviews]

Don't forget she made her walk home by herself

[@emilybrinegar7011]

I love that last lady who covered up the whining friend instead of the new mom.

[@coreyforbis5612]

I have to agree with others expecting people to write, not one but two essays so they can spend thousands of dollars to attend your wedding is ridiculous. They might have had a leg to stand on if the couple was paying for everything, but they aren't. Refusing to put on a song and dance for this entitled couple because they are too lazy to trim the list themselves does not make someone a butthole, it just confirms the couple is the butthole