r/Bestof I Cast a Magic Spell to Make My Baby a Girl

[@nicolas0622]

Are we just going to ignore 8:57? Dude already has a girlfriend less than 2 months after being "convinced to leave" by his mom. Something doesn't add up...

[@thenightmaricsenpai524]

Yeah that's hella sus

[@skylerchan7746]

Well nico, this man isn't a man he's subhuman since he doesn't even stand up for himself

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@thenightmaricsenpai524 and I’m betting he was trying for a do over baby whether the girlfriend wanted one or not

[@CloudyNight2156]

@@lorilancaster5917 sorta hope it's a girl if that happens.

[@daliyashohat1320]

That's what I said too.

[@somebody4952]

Story 1 Villains: You're terrible and manipulative for having a daughter! Also Villains: Give us your daughter!

[@ReigoVassal]

The want the daughter solely for the reason that it would hurt OP. It's simple as that. They justa vile human who wished misery to others.

[@lorilancaster5917]

We won’t love her but want to ensure she never loves you! Wow! I’m glad OP is out of that situation. She previously mentioned moving to another state. Hope she followed through with it

[@LunaP1]

What century are that ex and his mother are living in?!

[@Godzilladino]

@@LunaP1 I think the century 15howdareyouhaveadaughter

[@ruffr4bb1t]

God forbid a person want to actually move on when being hurt by a family… I’m so glad she got full custody and is able to move on for the most part. Imagine being so pathetic as a person that your morales are demolished over a 90 min phone call

[@ericday637]

I am so, SO relieved to hear OP got full custody. That mom is a manipulative monster, and the father is absolutely pathetic. Props to the other wife who tipped off OP too.

[@iasomnium919]

The other wife: "I married into crazy, but I ain't crazy"

[@WeirdOrangeThing]

He's sleeping with his mom. 100%. Lmao.

[@sourappled8665]

You people read this posts and you believe every word of it. So ready to get out your pitchforks and demand justice. You are a clear example of why America is so looked down on. We are supposed to be a country of law through unquestionable deliberation. But no people like you have no brains so you already made up your minds.

[@AnavelJay]

Just introduced your channel to my nan (79 with advanced dementia). She loves it!! She found the first story so funny, calling the mother an "outdated witch" (she doesnt swear) i havnt seen her so lively just by watching tv in years, she usually cant keep up with story lines! Thank you for your channel rslash.

[@XivioOfTheGreen]

Your nan sounds like a lovely and awesome woman.

[@angelbabies7]

There's something about story telling that transcends all other mediums. The first method of entertainment and passing along histories. Music too can bring out a positive response in those with the same condition as your nan.

[@minnarosenqvistmr]

This is so sweet! I wish I could've introduced all the excitment of the internet to her,and grandpa.. but they've been gone now for 20yrs soon.. I think my nan would have loved these typer of channels.. but granpa though, he loved formula 1.. dang,i miss them! Cherish your nan and her company! I'm happy for you! And give hugs to nan, and say greetings from Finland!

[@minnarosenqvistmr]

@@angelbabies7 music is my remedy, it's what i always say.. it helps with any mood ,or situation..

[@JamesDeanShadow_Blitz]

I find it funny that your nan says she's outdated

[@Halsquare]

When the husband replied to OP's post in the first story, I really thought we were about to find out that OP was lying... INSTEAD HE 100% CONFIRMED EVERYTHING

[@animeotaku307]

Really says something about him when he thinks whining about OP not being up for sex whenever he wants, being repulsed by foods, getting tired, and not wanting sushi while pregnant, would make everyone see OP for the “manipulator” that she was.

[@heedfoo6780]

@@animeotaku307literally lol “what about me why is everything about you wahh wahh” she’s got a baby growing inside of her and he just wants sex and fun 💀

[@suitdoggy4707]

@@animeotaku307 Watch when his new gf becomes pregnant. Pregnant women having craves and sickness. God forbid.

[@ahstiasummers5583]

@@heedfoo6780 He also sounds like the kind of man to not help out with childcare or domestic chores before complaining about how his wife doesn't look as attractive as before popping out kids

[@heedfoo6780]

@@ahstiasummers5583 ooohhh definitely

[@kylehenderson9489]

Story 1: He found out about this via his girlfriend!?! His ex-wife hasn't popped and he's got a girlfriend. I can tell he's REALLY heartbroken over the whole baby girl thing. I wonder if getting set up with the new girlfriend was also part of MIL's machinations.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Or if he was already cheating on OP prior to finding out the sex of the baby. Was that even his mom that he was on the phone with the night he left OP. 🤔

[@lifewuzonceezr]

That's my guess.. mommy's choice

[@natashavag]

Or he is even lying about having a girlfriend to begin with. I can´t imagine an adult woman listening to all this and saying to herself "yeap this is the guy for me"

[@Dondizle]

MIL probably had the new girlfriend lined up whilst she was getting the divorce papers sorted.

[@amaurapond]

@@natashavag you'd be surprised. If there's nutso's like the ex mil and the ex husband, there's bound to be more birds of a feather

[@TheOddityFair]

S1 - Side Note: The SIL who warned OP & her husband (who’s the oldest son in the ex’s family) also started cutting the MIL & her family out. They had a son first followed by (I think) 2 daughters. However, seeing what happened to OP got to them both. BIL couldn’t stop thinking about what might’ve happened if he’d had a girl first. So, he & his wife decided they wanted nothing to do with that toxic family. MIL actually called OP & started blaming her for “destroying the family.” It’s ridiculous.

[@tully6648]

Good for them, even if it took a while. I can honestly kind of see how one could be misled into not comprehending how seriously unhinged the MIL was, esp. since they were “lucky” enough to not set her off.

[@Avrysatos]

This is how you break abuse cycles.

[@amusing4me257]

I was wondering because how can you look at that and think oh good news she’s definitely not gonna treat me that way

[@Swnsasy]

Yes, I could do nothing but shake my head at this.. So you're literally telling me that he doesn't love his wife because HIS SPERM was the fasted to fertilize the egg and the girl was the best!? I just could not understand the sheer stupidity of this family... What is so insane is that MIL IS A WOMAN!! She doesn't know how this works?! I think she dodged a MASSIVE BULLET!!

[@_Fizel_]

It said that SIL had two boys and a girl.

[@gemrock]

I remember a similar story where the guy threw a fit a about the baby being a girl and his family convincing the husband she cheated because his family can only have boys. After the DNA test showed it was his baby they still didn't believe it until she left him got remarried and pregnant and it was a boy and ex got salty saying it feels like the guy stole his life.

[@orchidoxs126]

I remember that. He deserved it. But don't forget he was also in a relationship by that point.

[@KirbyKips]

Fun fact: whether a baby will be born male or female is determined by the father’s sperm. Its pretty much like flipping a coin and neither the mother nor father can do anything to change the outcome. If there’s anyone to blame, it’s Mother Nature herself. This SERIOUSLY needs to be taught to people more.

[@gemrock]

@@orchidoxs126 definitely but in the end he deserves to be alone especially being convinced by his mother but his family can only have boys.

[@RadioOppy1]

I remember that! Then he came to Reddit to cry about it. He asked for a paternity test while she was in labor!

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

That's just ridiculous. I hate how families get worked up over the gender of a baby. Too bad that wasn't even the real problem.

[@lista2308]

Complaining about his pregnant wife not eating sushi (when all doctors say don't eat sushi when pregnant) and the dude got himself a girlfriend before the divorce was finalized. Such a good, dotting husband he was

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

*doting

[@mask938]

That worm is huffing so much copium that he can’t even breathe oxygen anymore.

[@kaijupink]

That's exactly what I was thinking! He said "one month until you lose everything" and like, I know that's the court case but OP was still pregnant right? So I'm guessing that the divorce case was set for after she gave birth. I checked, and I guess usually doctors recommend waiting until about 20 weeks in to check gender with an ultrasound (I read that it can be done earlier but can be hard to determine). So that's 5 months in? So between finding the gender out at like, 5 months pregnant and 1 month before the court case (and birth?) this dude has a new girlfriend? In like 3 months? That's shady and also gross.

[@EjP270]

Um fun fact sushi if you eat enough can make you drunk

[@EjP270]

Several foods can make you fail drug tayousnd something most people know is DONT EAT RAW FISH WHEN YOUR PREGNANT

[@DapperSapper515]

In case anyone’s wondering, I messaged OP from the baby story. She actually responded! She slapped him with child support - for the next 18 years, the ex-husband owes her a whopping $3900 monthly. That’s the only fishy sounding part to me seeing how child support is usually 1k or less. However, she didn’t mention if the ex-husband and MIL are loaded or not, so it is possible, I guess. Anyways, she’s trying to get it upped though because in her words: “f**k him”. Apparently he’s tried to run back to her, but every time he does, OP sends him a screenshot of his Reddit post. I also sent her the link to this vid, rslash, so she might even comment here! OP you’re amazing! *Edit #1:* she’s also trying to sue MIL for emotional trauma. Lawyer says she has a good chance at winning. If she messages me anymore, I’ll post them as edits in here… 🔥 *Edit #2:* OP’s lawyer filed the lawsuit. OP has court next month to sue both the MIL and the ex-husband. She watched the video but didn’t want to comment on the video in fear of people not believing that she’s the real OP. Don’t worry, rslash, she subscribed lmao. 🔥 *Edit #3:* OP’s ex-husband tried breaking into her house for some of his belongings. The ex-husband was arrested and OP is going for a restraining order against both MIL and the ex-husband. Again, I’ll post more edits if/when they come in! *Edit #4:* OP’s court case was today! She was able to get the restraining order on both the ex-husband and the MIL. As of right now, the EH will never see their kid and MIL will never see her granddaughter. OP didn’t win the lawsuit against EH, but she did, however, win the lawsuit against MIL and successfully sued her. There was also no bail for EH so he’s still in jail - likely to be there for a few years or more according to OP. Don’t know if this will be the last update or not. Maybe the last for a few months, so if she updates me again, I’ll try to remember to update. I’m sure in time, I’ll get a notification on this thread lol. There you go everyone, OP’s updated story! Stay safe! *Edit #5:* this isn’t anything extra to add - just a clarification since it keeps being brought up. OP is from the states. Mid-west of America to be specific. *Edit #6:* EH got sentenced to 11 years! *Edit #7:* OP was able to sue EH on grounds of threats. She didn’t go too much into it, but apparently EH wrote letters to OP while he was in prison that contained some highly derogatory threats. *Edit #8:* OP has a new boyfriend! EH is annoyed obviously and MIL is jealous and told OP that she’s like property - only belongs to her son (lol)…. *Edit #9:* Well, I thought this was done. But nope… So I got another message from OP, and boy is it crazy! So I guess MIL put a hit on OP. Guess what! OP’s new boyfriend - his family is into some shady stuff. Well this “hitm**” (censoring it so KZbin doesn’t remove my comment. Just in case), knew OP’s new boyfriend’s family. He told him, and obviously, OP’s boyfriend told her. She now got MIL arrested and she’s going to try and sue yet again! I wish I could post screenshots because this is frickin insane, guys!…. *Edit #10:* OP’s new boyfriend is a cop! He’s been a cop on the same department for about 6 years. So even if something happened, OP has the entire department on her side to help her out! So that should answer some safety concerns! As for moving states like others have mentioned, OP has no intention of leaving her state! If she did, she’d leave her friends, family, and decently high paying job behind. On top of that, she loves her boyfriend and sees herself with him forever (congrats, OP)! Therefore, she says it isn’t fair to him either to just up and leave a department that he’s been at for 6 years and start all over again at a new police department. As of right now, the tide and storms have all settled. Per usual, if there are any future updates, I’ll make sure to update you all! Thank you! *Edit #11:* OP got engaged! Unfortunately, this will be the last update ever… she told me that she’s tired of people messaging her, so she’s deactivating her Reddit account. I just checked back earlier today, and it has been deactivated, so I’ll no longer receive any updates… hope this is good enough for you guys! Stay safe, and congratulations, OP, you deserve the world for you and your daughter! 💪🏼

[@myheartismadeofstars]

ooohhh she should save as much money as she can from the child support and put her daughter through college!

[@DapperSapper515]

@@myheartismadeofstars agreed. I linked her to my comment, so hopefully she puts a comment here!

[@sabrinastratton1991]

She should save a good chunk of that for her daughters future. It's well deserved. I barely get the 235 a month ordered for BOTH boys and I try to save what I can for them

[@RamdomView]

That's just under $47K/Year! I'm paid less than that for my full-time job. Assuming this is the truth, then the ex and his mom must have really angered the judge and are loaded.

[@DapperSapper515]

@@RamdomView I agree. But it’s the internet, so anything is possible, I guess? Either way, if it’s true, she deserves it! Unless, however, that post he made is true… at the end of the day, it still doesn’t excuse what he said about his daughter…

[@FreyaofCerberus]

The most insane part of the entire insane saga is that the husband claims his ex-wife was abusive and manipulative. Then proceeded to offer no evidence of such, even fabricated evidence. If anything it showed his massive entitlement, immaturity and selfishness. Then acted as though that explained everything. True madness.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

His explanation like "she didn't even want to eat sushi cause its bad for the baby" as if thats some kind of gotcha moment?

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

'You didn't want to do it that day' Um... yeah, normal people don't bang like rabbits.

[@vivideblois]

Seriously, "you didn't gave sex with me whenever I wanted and refused to eat sushi with me", that's what he's got ? Not to mention he already had a new girlfriend. What a loser, I hope they reamed him in the comments.

[@nicolasinapart4019]

But she made it about her! 😩 SHE WOULDN'T EAT EGGS! how much of a manipulative bitch do you have to be to not want eggs!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Not to mention the sushi! I mean yeah it's bad for the baby so she probably doesn't want to kill her child BUT STILL! SHE WOULDN'T EVEN EAT SOMETHING THAT COULD POTENTIALLY HARM HER BABY!!!! THAT HORRIBLE WOMAN DESERVES THE DEATH PENALTY!!!!!!!!!!

[@giftheck]

@@vivideblois Only one person saw the comment before the moderators locked the original thread (for the very reason of it being him). Unfortunately, the comment was also removed by the moderators, so we don't even have the guy's handle. Not even unddit or reveddit has a record.

[@ZeroDim]

I like how his only evidence to op being manipulative was that she didn't like eggs and didn't wanna have sex every second of every day

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

And immediately after saying she was obsessed with the calendar he said they barely used it.....guess not that obsessed after all. Lol. Typical narcissistic gaslighting

[@echopeak5953]

The ex-husband really said "Waaah why won't you let me r*pe you ?!?!"

[@justaperson4656]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings and the "reason they never used it" was because... She was tired? They'd had sex the day before, using the calendar? So you DID use it then? Also "you were obsessed with the calendar", wow it's almost like she has a family history of infertility!

[@Sawamura_]

😭😭 Like ...Dudeeee what the hell. Thank god he proved himself to be further insane because those are NOT valid reasons

[@GeeksOasis]

You forgot about her not wanting to have sushi while pregnant. If my girl said something like that to me, I'd leave too!

[@blaa6]

That husband and mother in story 1 are completely insane. I've never wanted two people to be thrown off a cliff more in my life.

[@lorilancaster5917]

Now I’m thinking of Billy Madison and the fate of the O’Doyle family

[@CloudyNight2156]

Thrown off a cliff? To fast, slow and painful is how they need to go.

[@danielbrant6740]

No cliff deserves them, toss them into a fire pit!😈

[@QueenEevee1994]

God: Thou shalt not kill. *sees OPs husband and his equally bat crap crazy mom* God: *crosses out the word Not* Thou shall _sometimes_ kill.

[@FreakoftheAngels]

THROW THE WHOLE MAN OUT HOLY SHIT

[@roberthunter5059]

I love that the husband found out about the post on a podcast. That story was so insane that there is no way that you would recognize it as your own story unless it was based in fact.

[@wowee5334]

I wonder if his girlfriend broke up with him after realising it was him..? I hope she did.

[@bibigamer502]

@@wowee5334doubt it though

[@sheeptasticSeb]

Also, as far as I understand from the timeline, he shoulda found the gf immediately after separation.... Or even worse, before 😬

[@brookez3116]

“I find out about this post on a podcast that my girlfriend listens to” that was pretty fast to move on since OP is still pregnant at that point considering he referred to the baby as a fetus. Something tells me mommy dearest wasn’t the only one whispering in his ear about leaving her

[@BritaMooreKutz]

Or mommy dearest handpicked the new girl for him...

[@guardianblackwolable]

It's funny how the husband went: how dare you make me out to be a horrible person. I can do it in my own words!

[@animeotaku307]

FR. Man is delusional if he thinks anyone that isn’t a hardcore misogynist would read his “evidence” and say “oh man OP really was a manipulator I’ve been bamboozled.”

[@Nox.x_ART]

At least there’s some independence, I guess

[@justicedunham4088]

The good news is, the husband’s post alone would be enough evidence to get zero custody and maximum child support

[@TheGreyKami]

Yeah, a girlfriend, he left her... There's 0 chance any judge would look at that favorably.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Not really, Reddit is typically very good at keeping someone anonymous and the husband could’ve simply denied that he wrote it, saying that it was someone else that was pretending to be him. It’s so easy to make a Reddit account, anyone with even an ounce of computer literacy can make one and pretend to be the other party of any Reddit post. Hell, for all we know the whole thing is fake and it’s some troll that made the whole thing up, including husband’s post, it’s that easy.

[@nicolasinapart4019]

Theoretically yeah but it's difficult to prove that those were his words

[@skylerchan7746]

@@TheGreyKami as a child who has actually gone through this, he doesn't have a leg to stand on.

[@teepartey7975]

Anyone who calls their own damn baby "the fetus" doesn't deserve custody.

[@sadfishboy7003]

When rSlash showed the husband’s comment, I thought we were going to get a whole new side of the story where op was actually manipulative and was keeping the husband away from the baby. But it just showed how delusional the husband is.

[@hunnykun101]

And whiney

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

And that he was probably already cheating on OP....cuz the girlfriend knew the ACTUAL truth well enough to recognize the post as being OPs and not one of the other hundreds of millions of people posting on reddit.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings Men are probably allowed to cheat in that family.

[@vanzy01]

😱

[@dagnytheartist]

@@It-is-me...Melsie Heck, his mom probably jumped at the idea of introducing him to a new girlfriend as soon as she "rescued him" away from OP.

[@cadiza315]

The thing that struck me the most was the husbands post. I thought there would be at least something and he said that would incriminate his ex-wife to some degree. But no quite the opposite, his own post incriminates himself. The things he complained about we’re mostly how dare his wife follow a calendar to get pregnant and then eat a diet to protect the baby. At best, she might be guilty of very minor and typical spousal issues. Not wanting to have sex when tired and being opinionated about where to go eat dinner tonight. Also he sounded so trashy and angry as all he did was call her names and did not list one creditable complaint. Oh, and “ f you and f your fetus” His defense made him sound worse. It was remarkable.

[@vacuousbard6410]

When you are privileged, equality sound like oppression.

[@CDE.Hacker]

Story 1: Could you imagine what would happen if she had a boy? If the mother-in-law already had divorce papers ready, what would they have done to get the son and get rid of the mother?

[@CloudyNight2156]

The most likely outcome there was that they wouldn't have done anything if it were a boy. They just would have tried to manipulate the son to act how the crazy grunt wants. Like a "Nice Guy" just like his dad.

[@dracko158]

Husband: "I'm sorry, but my mom forced me to!" Good riddance, I wouldn't want to be a wife of a dude who still needs his mommy to do everything for him and basically being a momma's boy. The part where he called OP a manipulative b*tch is already a lost cause, drop this guy immediately, and fight with everything you got for full custody. The f-bombs he dropped in his reply just made me lose all respect for him.

[@madgevanness4011]

And probably offended the judge.

[@sophietremblay3795]

Exactly I would have dumped him the second he pulled this stuff on me

[@Yvonne-Bella]

The only way i could accept that is if she and the baby were threatened. And i mean _T H R E A T E N E D_ Otherwise, dude. Either grow a spine or buh-bye

[@firewizardrunepro]

You had respect for him to lose? 🤣

[@dracko158]

@@firewizardrunepro At first, when he's overjoyed. But when he start swearing at OP, it all just fell apart.

[@SuperKyliebear]

Story 1 husband was probably cheating lol. Also interesting how all the “abusive” and “manipulative” things she did were not at all. He couldn’t even make her sound bad when he tried. He only made himself look worse.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

A bit of proof he was already cheating on OP is that the girlfriend recognized the post to be OPs......no one is going to know a post is about them and not one of the other millions of other people who post to reddit, would only happen if the girlfriend knew the ACTUAL truth, not some version you tell a new relationship, because new relationships rarely get that many details about an ex, let alone it not being a 'this is why I am the victim' version either. The girlfriend has been around for quite awhile

[@christopherjones8448]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings Yeah and she will get hers one day too, if she thinks their bitter, unhinged attitude towards the X won't be a problem for her when the only reason douchebag Magee could give for why she is manipulative is "She didn't have sex whenever I asked" new girlfriend is in for a rude awakening later..

[@guywholikesgoodmusic]

Yeah probably with his fucking mom, honestly....

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@christopherjones8448 so true, definitely without a doubt

[@ScarabD]

I really feel sorry for Ops ex brother in law in story one too: it doesn't come up here but op mentioned elsewhere how her ex bil and his wife were in the process of separating themselves for the family, too, since he was the first born and in her words "the what if's were driving him crazy" . "What if I had been a girl and my family had treated me the way they're threatening to treat OPs daughter?" "What if MY kid had been a girl first and this was me dealing with this?" "What if my mother acted like this to MY wife?" What a batshit crazy woman. I hope all her kids follow suit.

[@neirgara2217]

Story 2: I am soooooo proud of OP, that she was able to give him her two cents, especially in such a determined matter and without backing up for even an inch. Even with external input and preparation that is a really difficult thing to do. By ending this relationship she dodged more bullets than a protagonist in any action blockbuster. Based on what she said about her ex's behaviour, that dude has some serious mental problems, and I wouldn't even be surprised to see a news article about him being a serial killer or something like that. Just the fact, that the crying baby makes him this mad is an indicator for something not being right. That alone wouldn't be too much of a problem, because it could be some mental condition, like what she listed, or a trauma, and you can work on that stuff, and find solutions. But instead of avoiding this situation he deliberately exposes himself to something that makes him this angry. He demands that OP silences the baby of her neighbors. He could instead demand that she makes the rain stop, and it wouldn't be more hilarious. Even, if for a moment we completely ignore his reluctance to let OP sleep over at his own apartment (which is another problem in itself), and accept, that for some people ear plugs don't work, he still could sleep at his own apartment without his girlfriend. Any kind of evasion would be easier and more believable than his selfinflicted exposure to something that drives him crazy and his unrealistic demands that someone else shuts the baby up. Then there is the apartment thing. If it was this alone, his reluctance to let her sleep over could be from as harmless as not wanting her to see that it is chaotic and perhaps dirty (which isn't a very good thing, but can be solved), to something as not so harmless as cheating. But combined with him preferring to be going mental because of a crying baby, making his girlfriend miserable and getting physical and destroying things, would probably force any therapeut or psychologist in a radius of 50 miles to experience a weird tingly feeling in their neck. Add the gaslighting, shaming and emotional pressure, as much as his incredibly inflated ego, and you have a good candidate for domestic violence or worse.

[@spydersoup8447]

One thing that confuses me is, well, imagine the AITA story rSlash read where the OP of that story always suggests to her friend to come to her place, her terms and only her terms and never on her friend's terms, but the roles are reversed where the friend would always prefer coming to OP's house and never at her place or anywhere else. Well, this is OP's BF here. OP actually did mention in the comments that she has been at his apartment and mentions that his place is much nicer than hers and is even quiet, but for some reason, he always prefers coming over to OP's place, despite what this decision is causing as here and OP had even tried to ask why when he's got a much better place, but he never gives off any explanation for it at all. It feels like this AITA story about a mother who comes to a coffee place with her baby and she demands the people to keep quiet because her baby doesn't like it. My guess is the reason why he prefers coming over to OP's place over bring OP to his place is because if he were to bring OP over, he'd forced to pay the extra rent while if he were to come to OP's place, he'd never have to pay the extra bills as OP can take care of that (Basically, double standards as this isn't really new on Reddit, I mean, remember the story about the OP constantly sleeping over at her BF's apartment and his room mate getting annoyed at it for all the extra bills she's taking up?), as well as trying to shape it into his ideal place, which explains the "doesn't want to give in" comment and all the controlling and manipulating behavior.

[@neirgara2217]

@@spydersoup8447 I'm not quite sure, what extra bills you mean, except perhaps utilities. But sleeping over at his apartment once or twice a week shouldnt be too much extra, especially in exchange for not having to endure something that makes him this aggressive. Also, he could just not sleep over at hers while not having her over at his. But he doesn't. Since his apartment is so much better, that makes his behaviour even more unhealthy.

[@spydersoup8447]

@@neirgara2217 I know, you'd think, but I'm suggesting that he's this cheap, like he can't stand paying a few extra electricity and water bills just by having someone over a few days a week.

[@neirgara2217]

@@spydersoup8447 That would be a good explanation for the resistance to her sleeping over alone, but won't make much sense considering his overall behaviour. It is not just that he is inconvenienced by the neighbors and their baby, but he is constantly p*** and gets verbally and physically aggressive. He is kind of suffering. If it were just him being cheap, he would be looking for alternatives, like asking her to pay for utilities when sleeping over, or not sleeping over at her place while not inviting her to his, or ending the relationship, etc. But he is not doing anything to stop his suffering. If he is willing to endure something that makes him crazy, just to save a few bucks, while not looking for any relieve, then there is more to it than just being cheap.

[@erin8050]

Maybe the reason for him not wanting her to come over, his constant staying at her place, his anger about the neighbor baby, and his reactions to her not doing anything are all the same. He's already in a relationship and has a small child. He's going to OP's apartment to get away from his relationship/child and now her apartment isn't the saunctuary of peace and quiet he thought it would be/was in the past. Maybe he wakes her up every night to scream about the baby is because that's what he does at his place when the mother isn't fast enough for his liking. "Not wanting to give in" isn't really about getting away from the noise but not wanting to admit that she's a mistress or that he has a kid.

[@TomoyaKun100]

So, as someone that is Chinese, a lot of the traditional families would prefer having a son or grandson over a daughter or granddaughter. This is so that they can pass on the last name. I've had family friends stories where the new other friends that the paternal family were upset having a granddaughter and not having any grandsons. But I also agree that the mother-in-law is crazy and insane and while listening to this story, I was cursing learn Chinese while driving. It made my blood boil a whole lot

[@mothergoose9383]

My husband's family is Kentucky born and raised. His grandmother lamented our having a girl because no one would carry on the family name. (We're one and done.) This bitch was his paternal grandmother! It wasn't even HER name. The obsession with "bloodlines" is sick and misogynistic. If you don't want to seem like an ignorant hillbilly...

[@wannabehistorian371]

I thought that Chinese women keep their names after marriage?

[@CieraMychele]

2 stories of 2 strong ladies who got themselves out of toxic relationships. We love to see it 👏 🙌

[@balarion539]

I mean both women would've taken their men back so "strong"? No

[@haratism]

@Balarion , no they wouldn’t 💀 they realized they were in a toxic relationship theirs NO fucking way they would go back.

[@balarion539]

@@haratism both of them, before commenters knocked some sense into them were on the fence. The second one didn't say that her ex said his mom manipulated him. SHE said his mother manipulated him. A grown man that gets manipulated by his mommy is either lying or not worth the trouble

[@weirdkraken]

@@balarion539they wouldve taken their partners back because they were unaware of how awful they were being treated until their eyes were opened. this is common in abusive relationships where the victims jist plain dont see how hard theyre being abused even though to an outsider it’s clear as day. to have broken out of that mindset is strong.

[@hmspretender]

Story 1: It turned out that not only did the mom not like OP but she was serious about the first born being a boy. The other siblings having boys first, the same as she did in guessing, it only reinforced her belief. It's revealed, in the divorce post I believe, that the ex-husbands siblings and their families distanced themselves from all 3 of them (parents and the ex) because they were shocked by the mom's behavior and was afraid of her doing something to them and any future baby if it was a girl.

[@ANPC-pi9vu]

Makes me wonder if she's Chinese... Her generation in China would often kill female babies because they wanted males, especially if they were under the one child policy. The idea is that a female child will be traded off to another family through marriage and will care for their spouse's parents, where as a male continues the line and takes care of his parents in old age. That is very much what this sounds like.

[@_Fizel_]

Especially because some of them DID have girls (see SIL who warned OP) and realized just how messed up this was going to be and already was (favoritism of the boys).

[@that_pan_chick8650]

Story 1. “She’s abusive and manipulative 1. Didn’t want to have sex when I demanded it 2. Thought her pregnancy was about her 3. Didn’t want to eat foods because they made her sick and were bad for the pregnancy” Oh how could a woman be so RUDE, how DARE she have bodily autonomy and make choices for her own body. That’s just not fair 😂😂

[@giggle_snort]

Literally my same thought. This guy is a delusional idiot.

[@tahraethestoryteller6079]

Yeah he was a bad egg from the start

[@kristinaashbridge4764]

@@tahraethestoryteller6079 well, good thing they separated while she was pregnant. Eggs made her sick! Just like his attitude! She’s better off without him.

[@loganfields8826]

Can't tell if your joking or serious

[@darkage1524]

Guy also admitted to cheating lol

[@peterarbet1447]

If the husband didn't realize, how much he was fooled, especially considering that a lot of what he listed as OP's manipulation was actually completely normal behavior out and during pregnancy, than that man does not even deserve to be called an adult. Dude, use the internet and read about the stuff. Good luck to OP and hope she and her daughter have a good and safe life.

[@ghostedkilljoymemelord5340]

Literally so happy that the OP in the first post won custody of her kid, her husband's response was mind-blowing, and he literally admitted in that post that he didn't love the 'fetus' so I hope that was used in the court case to get custody.

[@leviuzumaki3903]

Omg the husband in the first story is so freaking toxic!!!!! I’m so happy he showed his true colors and she got away from him. He’s a complete and utter embarrassment. Edit: also does that dude not know that fish and sushi does harm unborn babies, like he is a fool.

[@danielmorton1606]

I don't get how he had a girlfriend already. How do these toxic guys do that waiving all these red flags.

[@msreinhard28]

The thing that left me speechless in the 1st story is that he found out from a podcast that his GIRLFRIEND listened to. His daughter is not even born yet and he has a girlfriend.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

And she knew the ACTUAL truth enough that she recognized OPs post.....with the millions of posts added to reddit each day, she was able to recognize OPs means that she isn't some new relationship, she didn't have some "my crazy ex and I just broke up and this is why I am the victim" version...she was able to recognize it from OPs point of view.....she's been dating OPs (ex) husband for quite awhile before this debacle to know that many details.

[@AlexLopez0506]

Right? And how long were they together? He was cheating and was looking for an out when the mom pounced and you can't convince me otherwise. I wish him and his mother were aborted.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

I'll bet mommy had the girl waiting on the side and introduced them.

[@RamdomView]

Thinking charitably, the scum ex could have thought/been manipulated into thinking the relationship was all but legally terminated.

[@your_local_questerian]

What was the podcast name that his gf listened to? Anyone remembers?

[@666Vampirefromhell]

Story 2: Yeah, that man would definitely be an abusive father. If he loses his cool over someone ELSE'S kid crying, imagine how he'd react to his OWN child crying. No way could he be a husband or a father. OP was right to dump his sorry ass. Edit: Not to mention the fact he spoke to OP like she was the problem then, when she dumped him, tried to get her back. That just shows he was manipulative too. What a loser.

[@DarklightAmy]

Yeah if OP wants children that guy would definitely not be safe to have them with. Even a pet would be in danger, because sometimes they can be loud too and you can't immediately stop them. Good riddance that OP left him!

[@condorboss3339]

The BF sounds like a narcissist. He's blaming OP for what she can't control and trying to run her life.

[@QueenEevee1994]

Thank God OP didn’t have kids with this ignorant, narcissistic, man-child. I can definitely see him shaking a baby just for crying

[@cyberscapegaming]

Was thinking this too. The guy sounds like a baby shaker for sure. Glad OP got the hell away from that.

[@moonfire41]

Why didnt he just get earplugs to sleep at night?

[@Parrapette]

When I heard that she won the court case I was so relieved I said YES!!!! out loud, I'm so happy she won oh my god that baby in that family with the father and grandmother? Thank goodness the other relative told OP about the court plans

[@danielmorton1606]

I didn't see a world where he won, without some fabricated circumstances, but it is nice to hear.

[@JayJaytheweird]

This story fits as the top 3 insane stories I have heard from this channel. Here's my rank: 1. The story where OP's wife friend feeds her (OP's wife) lies about how OP is cheating on her and it ended up as OP's wife terminating herself in a car crash against a tree (was almost going to take her daughter out with her) and the friend wanting to come to her funeral. 2. Where OP (pregnant woman) finding her husband and her own mom passionate hugging together (going on for years) and blames OP and her "genetic cheating genes" 3. This video's first story Comment if I missed any potentially insane stories from this channel. These are the ones that popped in my head.

[@BeanManolo]

First story: I feel OP's ex-MIL did her a massive favour by showing how crazy and manipulative her husband's family is. Also, I'm glad OP got full custody, specially because I feel any proper judge would give her that seeing how crazy OP's ex-husband and his mother are.

[@KumiChan2004]

Well the ex-mother in law is the manipulative one. Which is funny considering that the ex-husband was claiming that the OP was.

[@valivali8104]

@@KumiChan2004 well, ex-husband isn’t well, either. Only one hour and starts hating own, unborn child... something is terribly wrong, some kind of abuse would have followed.

[@KumiChan2004]

@@valivali8104 Yeah. It is good that OP got away from him really.

[@jittercritter]

The last story: “You aren’t who I thought you were if you can speak to me that way.” Translation: “I thought you were a pushover that I could manipulate and scare into behaving, but now you’re standing up for yourself so I need to go find someone else to torture.”

[@tully6648]

Exactly this. You can tell because she had to leave him-he thought he still had a shot at keeping her like she was.

[@cyberscapegaming]

This 100%

[@AzureKyle]

Exactly.

[@sydneyyxD]

Story 1: She dodged a whole nuclear warhead. Oh my god the way this man's brain works is insane. And his mom is just gross. Story 2: DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THIS MAN. He is trying to battle a literal infant child. He doesn't know how babies work on any sense of the word and he's kind of spoiled that he will throw that many tantrums over a baby crying. Also, throwing fits so someone will fall all over you and tell you how important you are to them is toxic as shit. When crazy people don't accept they're crazy they become dangerous.

[@wafflestoast4546]

she got grazed! shes pregnant.

[@totallynotfiller9587]

Not just a Nuclear Warhead. More like World War III

[@annika5893]

Story 2: He repeatedly woke her up at night and expected her to coddle him (oh honey, I'm so sorry the baby is crying again) and to do what he orders her to do (go and make sure the baby stays quiet!) instead of taking in any reasonable suggestions like staying at his place or using ear plugs. Glad OP ditched that loser.

[@sydneyyxD]

@@ItsMeBarnaby I get the feeling even if we were told the information it wouldn't help much with understanding. His reply on her post was enough to show he was self centered.

[@DarkHeartTheEmo]

@@ItsMeBarnaby Not really, everything she said was true, his reply shows that, since the frist word, he also admitted that his mother convince him to do it, like she (the original OP) said.

[@indiashante1560]

The fact that the mother-in-law was able to get her son to change his mind about having a daughter and being married to OP in a short phone conversation and it also having divorce papers ready shows who the real manipulative person was in that family. Glad OP gets to enjoy her little girl in peace.

[@TinyGiraffes]

Damn that 1st story mom is in the best custudy situation ever. She's got so much proof he's abandoning the kid and he's going to pay so much. Judges really care about this stuff. Edit: yep

[@silverflight01]

Story 1: So all of this happened because the kid was a daughter. As a result, OP is accused of manipulating events so the kid was a girl, even though everything really just boils down to which sperm hits the egg. Is one with an XX, or an XY? And I think you hit the nail on the head, RSlash. What MIL did was never about the baby, it was about ruining OP. The family name is forever tarnished for what MIL did.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Single x or single y the mom provides the other x

[@ginihall1234]

This

[@hunnykun101]

I would bet the MIL never liked OP but kept the face for hopefully a another grandson but when 'its a girl' was reveal, she can finally get rid and ruin OP. That family (besides that one BIL and SIL) are nuts

[@NekoYuki]

Not only that, but it's not just xx or xy. medical differences in utero, like testosterone or estrogen intolerance (the body can't process it), can cause an xy individual to physically grow as if a girl, or xx as if physically a boy. And even THEN, the guy is a blooming idiot! Nobody has control of that, it's just NATURE. He's an entitled jerk who never actually had respect for OP, saw her as a puppet, and has no sense of knowledge for basic biology.

[@Yumi_Jay]

So I look at the Redditor posts and BIL and SIL are trying to go LC/NC due to the fact that while they have 2 boys and a girl with the girl not being the oldest, the girl is not fully accepted into the family due to the family's misogynistic ways. Also, OOP specified that her ex's family is American while she can trace her lineage back to Italy. I wonder if the ex's family is religious.

[@jaredmancio510]

OP’s mother-in-law must’ve been saying small stuff to the husband for YEARS in order for him to finally up and leave after that phone call because there’s no way that was the only time she mentioned to her son anything about OP

[@tamararey6792]

The whole joke about having a boy first, was years of preparing for this.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

I also think he had already been cheating prior to everything. I say this because the girlfriend recognized the reddit story as being OP. Which means that she had to know the ACTUAL true story, otherwise they wouldn't know it was for sure OP because no names were used. And if he was really being that detailed and that honest at just started dating then he found a kindred psycho, because anyone else getting such intense details that they recognized OPs version would have fled.

[@sayadiva123]

First story: oh my Jesus…this story is so disgustingly insane! The husband is spineless and the monster in law is manipulative (as she’s sooooooo skilled and bending the son to her whim and pin this all on OP). I’m happy at least someone on the husband’s side was on OP’s side. And the husband’s crappy attempt at getting people on his side is so pathetic that it makes me sick (like I’m actually gagging at work). I’m so happy everything ended in OP’s favor and I hope the girlfriend of OP’s SPINELESS EX HUSBAND realizes how crappy of a man he is and leaves him. Actually…I hope the ex-husband and his mother rot and get shamed by their family

[@mostar1219]

If it were up to his mother, SHE would have been his girlfriend probably

[@sophietremblay3795]

Exactly and hope they get publicly shamed by everyone

[@moonlighthunter5421]

That monster in law has a silver tongue that rivals Sauron!

[@annienunyabiz6627]

I'm actually worried about the SiL. Obviously she's a decent person, but given how OP's ex and his mother are, it makes me wonder how the SiL's husband treats her. Sould she have been in the same boat if she had a girl first?

[@sabrinastratton1991]

I hope the gf got pregnant with a girl too

[@basementdwellercosplay]

Husband really thought the reply would help him out. Hope OP and her daughter go on to live a good life and the daughter has a good father figure in her life. Glad OP won the court case. I won't want those people in charge of any child, especially one they shunned from the family

[@wolfywox]

I kept waiting for the ex-husband to give some evidence of manipulation, like the wife lying or keeping secrets or something, but instead it was just things like she wanted to stop eating sushi while she was pregnant. 😐 OP dodged a major bullet there, that man and his family are unwell.

[@xxoxEMxoxx]

Also anyone that has to say “I wAs So GoOd” isn’t good. If you gotta convince people you’re a decent person, you’re not. But no her not eating eggs was definitely manipulative? 😂

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* I've read this saga before, and I'm _still_ shocked by how far gone OP's ex was. I'm glad OP got full custody of her baby girl. Best of luck to them both! I wonder if OP's ex's mom had something on him to make him leave OP. It doesn't excuse the ex's actions, but it could explain it. Drink a shot every time rSlash says, "What am I reading?!" 😛 JK please don't; you'll get unalived *Second OP:* Good for OP for breaking up with her boyfriend and growing a spine. Dude sounded hella toxic. I thought I was the only one who thought the ex boyfriend might've been cheating on OP, which is why he didn't want to go at his place. As someone who lives in an apartment with paper-thin walls, I'm _so_ glad none of my neighbors have kids!

[@Lestaticate]

Story 1: I remember this story. Loved how the ex publicly freaked out on a public forum in the world's most saddest attempt to defend himself. "I'm the victim! How DARE OP love and respect me, keep track of her ovulation on the calendar to conceive a girl--(WITCHCRAFT!), rest, avoid harmful foods and drinks, suddenly become sensitive to food smells when I want them, and selfishly NEGLECT my blue eggs when I'VE BEEN THE PERFECT GENTLEMAN!" OP didn't avoid a bullet, she avoided an armored TRUCK. Glad she got full custody. I hope she's still in touch with exBIL & SIL as they seem to be the only ones in the family that have tightened head screws.

[@hunnykun101]

He sounds like a nice guy/incel. His new girlfriend must be lucky /sarcasm

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

The ex SIL and BIL must get the links to the post and read her divorce post and updates. They cannot be close to such an absolutely evil being as the ex MIL. No way would I watch my MIL deliberately nuke her son's life and think, "I think I'll call her up to chat over some coffee."

[@QueenEevee1994]

I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall of that courtroom, and listen to OPs ex husband, and ex MIL try (and fail) at trying to defend themselves. Bet it was like an episode of Judge Judy .

[@Lestaticate]

@@QueenEevee1994 Shame popcorn isn't allowed in courtrooms

[@ApocalypseAxolotl]

Story 1: I think the answer to Rslash's question is simple, what could be said in the 1hour convo to make him change his mind? Nothing. His mind was already made up, he pretended to be happy, to love his exwife and the life they created, only to show his true colours not even 12hours later. He was never going to stick around if they had a girl, only if it was a boy. He would have left regardless, he just didn't blow up at the doctors office because he didn't want witnesses to his insane behavior. He wanted to paint the narrative that OP was a monster who abused and used him. Obviously it wasn't true and thankfully a judge saw through their bullshit. Hopefully OP and her daughter are happy and healthy, where ever they are.

[@rebekahguidry7090]

That first story broke my heart for that poor pregnant wife. I wanna hug her so badly and make everything better

[@thomassicking100]

I was a Sheriff deputy for years and this is why I did it to deal with toxic people. The worst was a boyfriend who slammed a baby against the wall for crying.

[@mothergoose9383]

Some people are beyond repair.

[@Netherdrop]

"I was so f***** nice to you" Well, at least he recognizes how much of a favor he did her by leaving her, that indeed was an incredibly nice thing of him to do /s

[@Zerosknight5]

I'm not a violent person. But after hearing that first story, I felt a growing rage that made me want to hurt that father in a way that would last. I think I would actually be moved to violence if I saw that man while hearing the story. Everything about him just kept getting worse. I hope he never has children and that every woman who approaches him has to hear the story before going on a single date with him.

[@Grouchbox]

I hope he never even finds 3:05 a woman willing to marry him. He shouldn't get to ruin any more lives, so he needs to move in with Mommy She is his one true love, so maybe he can try to knock her up.

[@bland9876]

In Story 2 I think that OP should go talk to the parents of that baby because he can thank them for helping her figure out how horrible her boyfriend was.

[@hunnykun101]

Agreed give them a gift basket, Extra stuff for the baby and a big bear

[@Avrysatos]

She should definitely send them a thank you card at least.

[@squirrel670]

She did, they were nice and the baby was sweet and she was glad she didn't antagonize them like the ex told her to.

[@LordBison98]

Story 2: "You care about a random baby more than about me." Well, I'd also rather care about a random baby than about a manbaby.

[@Bagel.404]

Story 2: Definitely for the best that OP got out of that relationship. If the boyfriend can't handle a crying baby below him how the hell would he react to his own child? OP definitely dodged a bullet there

[@Yumi_Jay]

Yes, the sperm does determine gender. In fact, I am the oldest of 3 girls from my father. That story is bonkers. This isn't the 16th century anymore with King Henry VIII. Edit: The part about him finding out the post through his girlfriend while still married to OP was wild. Bet the ex-MIL planned this all and will do so again. Ex-husband needs to grow a spine.

[@chessnitemayr]

100% agree. I also find it suuuuper sus that the ex-husband had a gf so quickly. A fwb would be one thing (been there, did that about a week after I left my ex-husband 8 years ago), but a whole damn relationship that fast? Uh-uh. That had to have been started beforehand. Mind you, after my ex-husband and I tried to work things out (obvs didn't work since we're filing for a no-contest mutual agreement divorce), I had a relationship pretty quickly, but I also knew that person for years, and she and I had dated before. I also was coming to terms with my sexuality at that point, and that had a major part in my divorce. Actually, my ex-husband is invited to my wedding to my partner, who I just proposed to (he knows this, we wre struggling with filing due to covid restrictions in our area as well as financial constraints, and he seems ok with coming as a "friend of bride #2"). So moving on semi-quickly, especially to someone you already had history with, depending on circumstances, isn't too too terrible, but it does seem very weird that he moved on so quickly after mommy dearest "convinced" him to leave. I suspect some cheating, sneaking around, or he had an ex that he never really gave up on who didn't give up on him either, marriage be damned.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@chessnitemayr I think he had been cheating on OP for awhile already.....I say this because the girlfriend knew the ACTUAL truth enough that she recognized OPs story as being about her boyfriend......you aren't going to recognize a reddit story as yours unless all the details you know match. 🤔 and seeing that multiple people have been the children of a douche like that guy, means that there are others as well out there cuz as I post this there aren't even a thousand comments yet. So yeah, that girlfriend had to already know quite a lot.

[@ManlyStump]

The MALE sperm??

[@Yumi_Jay]

@@ManlyStump I meant to say male sex cell.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

A spine and more importantly a brain. To think that "it's all about you" when the pregnant wife said that she couldn't eat sushi, had praganacy cravings, mood swings, and a heightened sense of smell.

[@emzkinz]

The husbands response in story one makes me so mad. Like she was pregnant. Those aren't manipulations. She's growing a human. That's uncomfortable and exhausting. I hope OP all the best. And that the husband realizes how stupid he sounds and how selfish he is.

[@bibigamer502]

I don’t think Op’s ex will realize anything considering he was easily manipulated

[@skylerchan7746]

@@bibigamer502 he wanted to, he wasn't manipulated.

[@bibigamer502]

@@skylerchan7746 then explain what his mom did to him that wasn’t manipulation

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@bibigamer502 narcissists quite often will have parents that feed into their narcissism. That's probably what this is. I had a friend married to a narcissist, she lived a similar family dynamic with his mom in terms of her always being against her and driving a wedge between them. Spoiled mama's boys find it easy to be a narcissist.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

All he had to do was pick up a book on pregnancy, i.e "What to Expect When You're Expecting", etc. Or, you know Google. He is so utterly smooth-brained and spineless that a call from his mommy without him ever verifying anything made him do a 180 on his entire life trajectory. And all along, his mommy had the divorce papers ready. Does this moron not understand that either his mom is a sociopathic narcissist or he is one of the dumbest people to ever walk the earth? Like, even elementary school children understand to never take the word of one person without hearing out the other. It's playground rules.

[@meloncornets3034]

What a sad story. My child looks more like me than my husband but he has parts of his dad for sure. A small part of me was so nervous his family would cast doubt. I was so wrong. My 80+ year old MIL would elbow drop someone for my child. I feel so crushed OP had to experience that. I hope they have a restraining order.

[@trashnyc]

My sister is pregnant and her husband and I are the only ones who know because she just went to the 3 month gender appointment and she’s waiting for the blood tests to confirm gender before she tells everyone (the doctor was wrong the first time!) and it’s a girl! We’re all excited even though they kind of wanted a second boy, I’m excited to have a nephew AND niece. My mind is BLOWN by this story too, especially as an expecting aunt AND a years long listener of rslash- I agree, I didn’t think anything could shock me much anymore, but holy hell! This guy and his mother are psychotic, literally, I’m not throwing around a term like that lightly, they have to be SEVERELY mentally ill. Best of luck to OP and her little girl, I’m just glad that father and his family can’t go anywhere NEAR them

[@Chirobs_art]

The SHEER skill in manipulation you need to have to change someone’s whole entire perspective in a single hour is just insane . That’s some scary crazy skill

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Dude in story one: You're so abusive and manipulative, you being pregnant had to be just about you!! You dared to say no to me having s*x!! You didn't even want to eat sushi, just because it's bad for the baby!! With that great argumentation I'm reeeally confused why he lost in court.

[@sophdog2564]

"when you got pregnant, everything because about you" Umm, yes? She's growing a human, this guy is insane

[@stephaniehorne6692]

And when she says no eggs please, as they make her feel ill, she means it. What the heck?!?

[@sophdog2564]

@@stephaniehorne6692 and the part about sushi too! Ugh I hope he never gets another woman pregnant

[@ginihall1234]

Yeah boys get so jelly when the baby is born because the mom gets mommy brain. They don’t help her also.

[@luckypikachu4892]

​@@sophdog2564 I hope he never gets with another woman in general

[@sophdog2564]

@@luckypikachu4892 unfortunately one of the posts says he has a girlfriend 😬

[@yellowbunny812]

Imagine starting a family with that guy, if he can't handle a baby crying upstairs, he'll explode at one being in his apartment. Even if op started a family with this man, who says he won't "discipline" their baby for crying too loud. Op dodged a MAJOR bullet.

[@TotalFreakZoid]

Being honest Rslash I'm really glad that you're not jaded and you haven't "read them all" because even this story caught me off guard and threw me for a loop. I thought the Husband was going to have a different story but the moment he said that he believed his mother and wanted a divorce threw me for a loop. Then when he posted his "side of the story" I thought this was going to go down the rabbit hole of, oh she IS really manipulative but everything he said just seemed like he was parroting what his mother said. Having no evidence for it and just showing just how far gone he is and how manipulative his mother is. So yeah, it's not just you.

[@LEXXIUS]

The ending of the first story is such a relief! The daughter will 100% be much better off without this manipulative and toxic lot (I don't even want to call them people).

[@Monasaurus_Rex]

“When you tried to get pregnant everything was about you” Well yeah.. who else is gonna carry the baby??

[@bibigamer502]

Not the dad apparently

[@hypercactus6489]

“We couldn’t eat sushi!” Yeah… anything that has the potential to have raw fish in it can cause a miscarriage… this dude loudly didn’t understand pregnancy

[@LunaP1]

Unless he's a fucking seahorse, he has no room to complain.

[@Twinklethefox9022]

@@hypercactus6489 even then, I don't think that stopped him from eating sushi. Unless that also is an issue

[@frohenleid]

It's not even "all about you" she declined food that made her throw up!

[@toriibarlow]

I didn't see you covered here but basically this situation caused a big drama in his side of the family as many of the family members were uncomfortable with how they were treating OP and so many of them left to the femily especially the oldest son because he thought if he was a daughter then they wouldn't have loved him or wanted him due to how OP was being treated with her daughter

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

For real???

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Wow, who could’ve guessed that someone that has been conditioned for 20+ years into believing misogynistic ideals would reject their child just because she’s a girl?

[@bellerain381]

It really is so sad! Did they ever hear of tomboys?? I truly hope that poor mother keeps that sweet baby girl AWAY from that psycho family!!

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

I do believe that when he was saying sexist stuff about the 'boy' they were going to be getting and the OP thought it was fun banter and joking between them, he was actually quite serious.

[@bradleybarnett1469]

What's misogynistic? It seems like they were only making jokes. I agree with Rslash, it isn't about the gender of the baby, she just used that to get her son away from OP

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Rejected it and divorced the woman, only to then try to manipulate his way into full custody? What? Literally no logic.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@bradleybarnett1469 Did you not finish the story before commenting? Very obviously not all jokes... VERY obviously not all jokes at all...

[@takedownmg5096]

You know what I find funny about the first story: Everything! But more specifically how the ex-husband recognised that it was him from the post. Clearly it wasn't that far from the truth if he was able to determine it was a part of his life

[@mbyerly9680]

MIL dissing OP about the sex of the child. "What position did you use?" "None of your business." "My son told me." I'd have said, "That's disgusting. Send me those divorce papers. I'll sign them immediately."

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

I hope the ex-husband finds this video. I would love to see the reaction that he makes from how you reacted to this story. That would be so glorious to see his reaction. I would have loved to see the bs that he would say about this video after seeing it. It would really emphasize on his insanity even more :P

[@lorilancaster5917]

I’m still laughing how he tells OP how he acted like Prince Charming instead of saying he treated her like a princess. Instead of getting pity he just dug himself deeper.

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: Also, his reason for refusing OP's initial solutions being "I won't give in" is also strange. I think it's a red flag, but I'm getting the idea that he's always had his way (entitled, basically), and OP not shutting up someone else's baby is a threat to his ego/pride

[@lorilancaster5917]

Glad that her roommates are done with his BS too! I was worried it would lead to a restraining order

[@EyseaSol]

If he hated the sounds so much, wouldn't he stay at his OWN place and invite her over? One of multiple red flags.

[@tully6648]

@@lorilancaster5917 You just know the roommates were done with him a LONG time ago and just waiting for OP to finally dump him. Can’t imagine he was a good guest at all.

[@spydersoup8447]

@@EyseaSol About that, one of the updates is OP had clarified that she did went to his place a few times and it's quieter and more nicer than her place, and yet for some reason, he always prefer going to OP's place as she even asked him why, but he wouldn't tell her why. I'd say that this is because he's cheap, like he can't stand spending a few extra bucks on water and electricity just by having someone over a few days a week while if he goes over to OP's place he doesn't have to deal with that because OP can easily handle that for him. However, I'd say there's more to this than just him being cheap.

[@beautifulmidnight]

I was just constantly whispering “…what the fuck” throughout that first story. Seriously. What the fuck. Story 2: OP’s boyfriend is literally waging a one sided emotional battle against an infant. Girl, dump his ass.

[@lorilancaster5917]

Second story: as we know the sensible thing to do is let OP stay at his apartment so they both can rest. He chose to go to war with a baby and made sure no one got any sleep if he didn’t. He wanted to piss on OP and her apartment to claim as his

[@ownitervi241]

At this point I’ve watched all your videos. My dog died a few days ago, and this channel is actually helping me through the grief. Thank you.

[@featherstone2.0]

Story 1: I feel so much cooler rn knowing my fiancé will be taking my last name. Can't imagine what that'd do to the mom in this story if one of her sons took their wife's last name, but I'd pay good money to see the mental gymnastics she'd have to perform to avoid an aneurysm.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

Story 1: I’m happy about OP’s updates, but worried that the story isn’t over yet. Crazy people like that never seem to give up so easily.

[@HobieInTheBox]

Stories like story 1 always remind me how badly gender roles and stereotypes have been engraved in society, and how damaging it is. To the point where people fight over what's in their baby's diapers. *It shouldn't matter.* As a mom you can match with your son and a dad can teach his daughter to be a leader. Why are we still obsessed with these ideals in this day and age?

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

Honestly, though. The patriarchal crap was only used as an excuse. The mom really wanted her baby boy home. And she used all the bullshit that she instilled into him about gender roles and medieval understanding of sex, pregnancy, and birth. The woman has to be a narcissist. The son is the product of a narcissist parent- they're at the complete mercy of their parent because they never got a chance to look at their parent objectively. Smarter kids understand that early (I did with a narcissistic dad), but he was the baby and his mommy smothered him.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

Well said. It's beyond pathetic. Just be grateful for a healthy baby.

[@BritaMooreKutz]

@@ImNotaRussianBot and yet he had a new girlfriend before the divorce was finalized. I wonder if it's someone his mom hand-picked for him? Hope she doesn't have to deal with the same consequences as OP.

[@AlastorsNight]

I bet the Ex-husband of the first story probably loved having those words from his response to OP's thread thrown in his face in court (because I know I totally would have hammer fisted those in somewhere just for extra hurt against the ex if I were OPs lawyer). God that would have been amazing to be a fly on the wall in that courtroom during all this with how deranged the ex and his mommy are.

[@HaloREACHelite26]

In regards to the first story, would've been wild if it turned out that the scan had been misread and the child was revealed to have been born male.

[@KayBbyXOXOXO]

He’s deadass complaining his (ex) wife won’t eat sushi when it’s literally a whole ass thing that doctors tell you you shouldn’t eat any form of raw fish

[@ariadnefrolich7243]

Good for the sister in law to give OP a heads up about her soon-to-be ex and his mother's plan. Kudos to that woman.

[@manchild8365]

The husband family in the first story are the smoothest brained people I’ve ever heard of. Actually cave people. After listening to this video more, I now realise what the husband is, a ‘nice’ guy

[@thenightmaricsenpai524]

They sound stupider than Nick Adams and Lauren Boebert.

[@comradekitty3759]

I thought that too

[@Kruhee]

Now now, let's not insult cave people, troglodytes would be offended to be compared to this lower life form. 100% agree though, he's a 'nice guy,' who seems to assume he should get some sort of award for stealing air from the rest of us.

[@HasufelyArod]

Nah, he's just an entitled moron. An actual "nice guy" or an incel wouldn't even have met, dated and married someone in the first time.

[@tully6648]

It’s like an egg inside that skull for sure.

[@dezelias]

Holy shit, I'm so happy Story 1 OP won the court case. I can't believe her ex's reddit response was even posted - everything said indicates how much of a POS he is and that baby girl is better off without him.

[@shiomicchi7247]

Holy shite that husband O_O Of course a pregnancy is going to be about his wife because she's the one carrying the baby!!! To ensure that the baby is delivered safely and in good health, OP needs to take care of herself during the pregnancy too! Op dodged a bullet with this guy and I wish nothing but the best for her and her kid

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Good for OP to stand her ground and dump that abusive, angry boyfriend! You don’t really need that drama in your life.

[@jackbloom6062]

Both of these stories were a ride by themselves. together they combined into the emotional whiplash I would expect from a soap opera. Good narration as always, and gotta say, you have a great voice for this type of thing.

[@TheGreyKami]

"My mommy forced me to." Aka, I don't want any responsibility for my own actions.

[@TheGreyKami]

Oh my god it got WORSE. He has a girlfriend less than 9 months later. HE WAS ABSOLUTELY CHEATING ON HER, MY LORD. No wonder he got mommy to draw up divorce papers

[@hayleyemma877]

@@TheGreyKami what’s the bet mommy had the girlfriend picked out already and conveniently set them up?

[@fanfictiondreamer7836]

Yeah, definitely an indication that he's a manchild. His mother is a real piece of work, they deserve each other.

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@hayleyemma877 and I bet the new girlfriend is barely past 18

[@likes.of_oldcrows]

@@lorilancaster5917 i bet the girlfriend is someone who goes to the mothers church, because the mother gives crazy christian energy.

[@Hybrid301]

Dude, if your daughter doesn’t grow to be a strong leader; that’s on you.

[@RunicSigils]

True. Especially if one is stupid enough to do things like send them to schools instead of homeschooling.

[@nkk334]

@@RunicSigils what's wrong with regular school?

[@HobieInTheBox]

@@RunicSigils I think you mixed the 2 up bud

[@MrsShocoTaco]

@@RunicSigils Judgemental much? Not everyone is in a position to homeschool their kids. Good on you for being able to, I assume from your statement, but calling people stupid because they can't afford to home-school because they have to work makes you look like a jackass

[@MickGallJr]

@@RunicSigils yeah Homeschool where she'll totally be normally socialized.

[@VarmintLP]

4:19 Fun fact. Science has proven that it's the egg cell determining, which sperm can enter. It's not the first to arrive but it's also not something you can control.

[@jinqo7975]

I’ve never felt such blind rage hearing the husband’s comment. Like i have never felt such a need to bite someone’s nose clean off their face,

[@restionSerpentine]

I have seen a few youtubers cover the first story... and they always glance over the fact the husband had a Girlfriend

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 1: I'm so glad you got out of that crap show pretending to be a family. Also based on that post your ex made I don't think he's brain washed at all, I think he was just looking for a reason to go back to his mom's chest milk. I wouldn't even call him a mama's boy because even they draw the line at some point.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed.

[@firemum6437]

Wow, that first story was the the most random, unexpected, borderline psychotic thing I have ever heard.

[@Ratpoisonbean]

As someone who is married, I had a son from a previous relationship, and my husband and I had a beautiful baby girl back in July. And let me tell you, if for whatever reason it came down to it, my husband would choose our kids over me any day, my son-OUR son-included.

[@crashawashere]

So... He doesn't WANT the baby but he's just a jealous little kid and wants to take everything you have.

[@CieraMychele]

Omg I almost cheered out loud for OP when I heard she won her case. Good for her I am so happy to hear that pathetic excuse for a man has no contact with her

[@raarasunai4896]

“Am i the bad guy” is much better than “Am I wrong” Good on you Rslash

[@hhluvzmagik]

Dear RSLASH, I think "Am I The Bad Guy" definitely works for your AITA videos! 👍

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

14:06 "he can't believe that the parents allow him to make noise like that" dude. It's a *baby*, It's not like they're carelessly leaving the radio on or something! christ, what did he expect them to do, cover his/her mouth with duct tape? Smother it with a pillow??? He sounds like the kind of person to go out into a rainstorm and try to shoot the *clouds* for daring to make noise outside his house/ apartment.

[@imnotsuspiciousshh]

Story 2: "I can't live like this!" STAY AT YOUR PLACE, THEN!! That poor woman, having to deal with an actual baby and a manbaby. Arguably the manbaby was worse but thankfully he's out of the picture