r/Tifu By Setting The House On Fire Watching *Spicy* Videos

[@humanoid251]

Who wants to bet that the reason Skyler was dared to date OP (if he was even dared at all) was cuz he himself instigated it? Like he randomly hung out with his friends and was like “bet you guys won’t dare me to date gay guy”

[@thomasjones6216]

Wouldn't be surprised

[@osmiumman167]

That whole situation was giving me "It was me, Barry" vibes

[@SapphicTeen]

At first I thought oh maybe his friends found out and he wanted to play it off or smth, and then I remember that this isn't a movie

[@justaperson4656]

@@SapphicTeen nah but as a gay, it is highschool

[@amandasunshine2]

Ya, I just came out as lesbian, and finding any reason to kiss girls was a sign

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* That video must’ve been fire! I’m sorry. *Second OP:* Poor guy. People can be such buttholes. I hope OP finds a good support system to help him recover from the betrayal, and I hope that jerk farts in front of his crush. *Third OP:* It sucks that OP had to find out about his wife the way he did, but the important thing is that he knows her true colors. Time for a divorce. *Fourth OP:* I thought OP was going to find out that his friend either 1. Died, 2. Got arrested/involved in criminal activity, or 3. Joined an mlm/cult. But no; the friend just couldn’t be bothered to ask OP not to contact them. How odd.

[@dracko158]

Only fart? I hope he farts, AND sh*ts himself in front of his crush.

[@SuperBatSpider]

I hope he shits his pants and pisses himself in front of his crush

[@tawnyacosta9091]

I agree. I hope Op gets good support, and is doing well. He deserves better than *THAT!* And I hope that Skyler and his group of flunkies get slapped hard with karma!!

[@finndemoncat9379]

I guess there is more into the story than he really knows.

[@speedstick8981]

About the fourth story, unless there’s an official document I’d start sending stupid memes daily. Without formal writing nothing real can usually be done about it. Plus it was once every few years at most lmao.

[@Ironraven001]

Story 4: Either OP is lying and had been constantly harassing that dude on the daily OR that dude has some SERIOUS skeletons that he thinks OP knows about.

[@simmang18]

I was gonna say something similar and/or WP, The witness protection thing but then thought why would he have his same name lol

[@petraleong]

yeah story 4 doesn't seem to add up, cause why would you so diligently seek out a friend that has ignore you for years, I would have already stop after they left Facebook.

[@ghoulruby9871]

@@petraleong I mean, OP said the friend just disappeared so it's probably curiosity for their part

[@lowkeylola88]

second story is heartbreaking but also....sus that "for a bet" he was kissing and cuddly with another man. sounded like this dudes chance to experiment with his bicurious feelings without being ostracized by his friends

[@crowsartcorner9381]

Fr, plus it seems like he accepted it without question- And honestly, what kind of strictly straight guy would accept that kind of dare, no matter how big his ego is sjsshskhda. He'd be far more likely to respond with disgust to the idea, esp if he and his friends bullied OP for being gay.

[@thegrimharvest]

For a bet... I might maybe could see someone doing it, depending on how big the bet was, and assuming it was something extremely short term, like one date or something. Maybe I could see that happening, though it's still a big stretch... But all of that was done just on a dare? The dudebro committed to multiple dates, intimate quality time with op, everything short of sex itself, and it was all just for the sake of accepting a dare one of his buddies challenged him to take? Im seriously pressing X to doubt. Agree with r/Slash and the general consensus, this guy was definitely at least curious or in the closet, and used the "dare" (if there even actually was one, and the story wasn't a fabrication after the fact for him to save face in front of his friends) as an excuse to test the waters. This feels like an actual example of "Ha!Ha! Wouldn't it be funny if we kissed? Unless...?" but thinly disguised as "lulz! It's just a prank bro!" Op should get the pendant back. And Dudebro should have no qualms about returning it, afterall, since the whole thing was done "just for a dare". By that implication, the gift should mean nothing to him. Of course, I expect the dudebro won't want to part with it. For obvious reasons. He can justify it to his friends as just an extra joke at OP's expense, and they'll laugh. But I don't buy into the story of it all being for a dare. Either dudebro was an amazing actor, OP was completely blind, or the actual truth is he wanted it, but wasn't ready to come out to his friends, so he had to hide behind the dare excuse.

[@Lestaticate]

2nd Vid: Heard this story before, and it was absolutely heartbreaking. OP actually spoke with Skylar's mother, who I think ALSO experienced what he went through. (Skylar's mom was bi and her husband wouldn't accept her). Skylar did what he did as a way of lashing out at his mother over the divorce. Unfortunately OP can't get the necklace back since he gifted it and it wouldn't hold up in court. Luckily THOUSANDS of people on social media have OP's back and fellow LGBTQIA+ and straight people shared their stories of being led on as pranks. (So at least OP isn't alone) Skylar's throwing a hissy fit and justifies everything he's done. OP's personal life is out in the open at school and he's getting ostracized by Skylar's friends more than ever. Though there is absolutely no excuse for what Skylar has done, the most I can see done is either school expulsion for bullying or a slap on the wrist. If any of these things happen, OP's safety could be in jeopardy. He'll probably have to move with a trusted relative and start over. The system failed this kid. *Edited for clarity, at least from what I remember

[@MinionEnji]

I like this ending, OP deserved way better! Sad about the necklace but at least it was a lesser price to pay then if this went on longer. 😔

[@PaintSplashProductions]

I wish rslash read the update

[@Lestaticate]

@@MinionEnji Somewhat bittersweet as OP knows he isn't alone, but justice wasn't really served. I'm worried he'll turn to self harm or worse. I hope OP found a safe space.

[@jatterhog]

The ending is correct. Absolutely shit circumstances, but he’s gotta bite the sour apple and just do it because the option may be even worse…

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

"Unfortunately OP can't get the necklace back since he gifted it and it wouldn't hold up in court." Now, I'm not a lawyer, but this sounds like theft by false pretenses. Ever heard of the Tinder Swindler? He defrauded lots of women via theft by false pretenses. This is the same thing essentially. Skylar love-bombed OP, got OP to hand over material wealth, then skipped off on him. Laws vary, but in California, where I'm, from, this would likely fall under Penal Code 532 PC, which is defined as defrauding someone of money or property by way of false promises or representations. The false pretense theft could be prosecuted as a misdemeanor or a felony, depending on the value of the property taken, and could mean up to 3 years in jail or prison. The most common defense is that the defendant did not intend to deceive the supposed theft victim - and Skylar clearly did.

[@madambutterfly1997]

I’m amazed he could be so blatantly homophobic towards OP when his own mother is bi. So imagine how’d she react.

[@reddsbootyale]

Honestly OP should tell the mom what happened

[@fdm2155]

Skylar is probably bi or gay. Self loathing is not rare. And what straight guy dates a gay guy for 3 MONTHS for a 'prank'?

[@3431angelbaby]

@@reddsbootyale this is what I thought, I'd totally tell his mum what he did and get his necklace back

[@Kelaiah01]

@@reddsbootyale He did. He posted an update where he ended up talking to Skylar's mom for an hour. She did try to get the necklace back, but couldn't (I guess she didn't want to wrestle it away from him; don't blame her). Skylar's parents are divorced because Skylar's dad couldn't accept the mom, and now Skylar is living with his dad.

[@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness]

@@Kelaiah01 that explains the homophobia - he blames his mother being bi on his parents' divorce.

[@silverflight01]

Story 4: Yeah, I don't know what is wrong with that friend. OP just contacted him a couple times over the years, and he decided to just send cops? Is he paranoid or something?

[@FreedomHero4]

It doesn’t even take too long to reply once saying “Sorry please don’t contact me.” It’s definitely some kind of paranoia if a few messages over the course of decades causes him to respond like that

[@zozocecp]

@@FreedomHero4This is why I don’t think ghosting is effective (for normal relationships). It doesn’t communicate much and leaves people more confused than anything

[@Guildelin]

I don't think we're hearing the full story here... for context read about an old twitch streamer named Avilo and what it took for the cops to finally get involved

[@TomDarkwulf87]

Yeah feels like we're definitely missing context with that one. I can literally see no logical explanation with just what was told

[@fdm2155]

@@TomDarkwulf87 Well, I think that's OP's point. He has no recollection of any issue with his 'friend'. They simply drifted apart literally and metaphorically. We all know people like this. It's entirely reasonable to reach out to them via social media and say Hey, this thing reminded me of you OR I just ran into Random Friend and they reminded me of you. If the lawyer friend really wanted to end the friendship and never be contacted again, he should have done the mature thing... explain that to OP. That said, humans are endlessly weird.

[@Gavryl_xd]

In the second story there’s an update. OP talk to skyler’s mom about the 3 month relationship and the dare. Sadly the mom didn’t get necklace from skyler but she did apologize. Now OP is planing on confronting skyler the next day after the update was posted

[@lifewuzonceezr]

Bad Mom!! 😡

[@KarmaTube5]

@@lifewuzonceezr I don’t think mom can’t do much here

[@locusxe1411]

@@lifewuzonceezr she really wasn’t. She tried to get it back but he refused and she couldn’t force him to give it up

[@Gavryl_xd]

@@aduckofsomesort probably not because skyler is currently staying at his dad house after he got upset that his mom is trying to force him to give the necklace back

[@Nayas_Scattered_Mind]

@@Gavryl_xd Seems like Skylar must’ve learned his mindset from his dad and peers, or at least I suspect as such. As I doubt his mom, who is said to be bisexual in the main post, would allow this kind of attitude…

[@phobiawitch835]

I definitely agree that there might have been other information hidden from OP in the story about this Skyler guy. Bi Curious, Bi, or closeted gay are certainly all options. But that still doesn’t give him the right to do such a thing to OP. I hope OP gets the support he needs in this time. I’ve felt that same earth shattering pain in the past. Also, I wish MANY unspeakable horrors upon Skyler. From embarrassing noises in front of all his friends and on dates, to stubbing his toe, only to stub it again just as it is finally being healed, for eternity. YOU SUCK, SKYLER!

[@giancarloc1985]

Indeed. The story hurt me because it brought up my own bad memory in freaking college. A frat dude bro dated me and then one day claimed he was straight and bullied me when his frat bros were around. Didn't go any further than kissing, and I never dated a guy like that again. I date only gay or bi males who are out and sure of themselves. Not to attack anyone in the closet.

[@phobiawitch835]

@@giancarloc1985 Sorry to hear that happened to you. Hopefully you find someone who will be there for you and not hurt you like that guy had.

[@HalfEye79]

The people, who are most outspoken for being against gays, are gay themselves. Only the self-hate speaks out of them.

[@gothicgolem2947]

@@giancarloc1985 sorry that happened to you

[@Hybrid301]

Honestly, all the blame and shame is on Skylar. You are the victim, OP. They are piles of rotting garbage that somehow gained some form of sentience.

[@AstralightSky]

seeing this comment threw me off because that is basically my name

[@fdm2155]

Absolutely. I'd also say, Skylar probably is gay or bisexual and this was his way to express it without owning it.

[@Nekulturny]

Yeah, I don't believe for a minute it was "just a dare", this is something Skyler is going to realize one day when hes older was a terrible mistake while hes very lonely at night.

[@Jubilation457]

@@AstralightSkyWell I’m of the opinion that all Skylers are DEMONS!!!!Also possibly closeted.

[@furiousalleycat]

This comment had me confused for a mint bc my name is Skylar

[@RobGMun]

"Contacting an old friend" - There's MUCH more to this story than the OP is letting on. I's love to see the other guys side to this. Obviously something big went down

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed. Like what if OP wasn't actually nice to their 'friend'....there are lots of people who didn't realize they were being terrible when they were young.... like what if the friend ghosted after OP did something awful to them. And the 'friend' is out there wondering why this bully keeps trying to contact him.

[@RobGMun]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings Hum, i've been doing some digging in the comments, seems like the OP has been cagey when asked if this friend is a female. Looks like u/thenoticable is a bit of a stalker! Shame r/slash didn't do his due diligence.

[@adamb89]

Reminds me of something that happened to me about 20 years ago. Out of nowhere my friend T just cut all contact for seemingly no reason. We weren't super close so I wasn't broken up about it, just more confused than anything. It wasn't until a decade later I found out why. Some lying cunt, for literally no reason, said I collected child porn. Made up this whole story that I had a PC just rammed with pictures of naked children. I didn't even know this guy. I mean I knew OF him, we knew each other's names, and had some mutual friends, but we never hung out or talked or anything. But he'd convinced T that I was a pedo. Anyway years later another friend of mine J found out about the story from T and burst out laughing when he heard it. He knew it was BS. They went and called this liar and tried to get him to repeat the story, and of course the whole story fell apart. He didn't know me, had never been to my apartment, nor seen my computer. Didn't even remember what I looked like. So all the details of how he "knew" just evaporated like a fart in the wind. Plus by then he'd already earned a reputation for exaggerating and outright lying in order to sound cool, so nobody believed the story anymore. T and I never became friends again, but in a bizarre twist of fate T actually WAS arrested for sexual assault of a minor. So no loss there.

[@bladerunner3314]

@@RobGMun Is it stalking if it happens every few years?

[@Marco_El_Afro-Latino]

@@RobGMun Tryna catch up w/ an old friend is *nothing* like stalking. You should use that phone of yours to look up what stalking *actually* is. You can use this thing called Google to do that

[@Kipicus]

Story #4: Look... from my experience stalkers usually send hundreds of messages PER DAY. Maybe there are different flavors of stalker, but I find the story hard to believe, or maybe there is something that OP wasn't sharing. The only sense I can make of it is this. I work in the IT industry and often times, older folks cannot accept how accessible they've become, and how EASY it is to find someone, so in this case, casual how-do-ya-do's from OP to that person maybe made the person feel like OP was going out of their way to find them when it very easily could not have been the case. It's still weird that the person didn't say, "Hey stop talking to me." but paranoia is a weird bird. You know what they say... just because you're paranoid, don't mean they aren't watching. 👁👄👁 On another note, what I find MOST strange about the story was that the cops even remotely entertained the person's concerns. They were a lawyer so who knows what he told them when he had such flimsy evidence, I guess the cops really must not have had anything better to do in what ever town they're in. Seems very "small town problems" to me, especially since OP's daughter found a book that the person published. The odds of something like that happening in my town is slim to none if I'm not running in the same circles in the exact same area as someone, I live in a very highly populated area. Any way, that was my 2 cents on that. Very weird story.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

The cops that showed up to OP's door though wouldn't have been small town cops unless OP lived in a small town too. Makes you wonder what was said to OP's local cops to have them be so threatening. 🤔

[@NEPAAlchey]

Friend is a lawyer, probably called in a favor. Also it's Alaska they are probably bored AF

[@lesliehyde]

What is weirder for me is the fact that the OP and the "lawyer" guy are both friends with many of the same people.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@NEPAAlchey OP wasn't in Alaska though, so the cops that came to talk to him wouldn't have been bored

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@lesliehyde but yet OP had to use a completely new method each time the reached out, I bet that they kept blocking OP. And if they actually had mutual friends instead of "I found her through mutual friends" then wouldn't it have made sense to reach out to one of them to see about things. And since I seriously doubt that a lawyer, who also wrote a book that a kid wanting to be a veterinarian finds pertinent, would still have the same email after 20 YEARS meaning OP hunted that information down. Yeah OP is definitely leaving a lot out

[@Ahrpigi]

"No filter" or "keeping it real" is purely a code word for "asshole and doesn't want to admit it".

[@RunicSigils]

Nah, it just means no filter and keeping it real. People thinking that it makes you an asshole to tell the truth is what makes them the asshole. Don't do stupid things if you don't want people calling you out for it. Pretty simple. Idiots not wanting to be called idiots for being idiots are much bigger assholes. Especially since it hurts them more than you to not want to accept their actions were stupid because until they do that, they can't fix it. If someone wants to keep hurting people because they'd rather not accept responsibility for being stupid, I will keep being their asshole of a conscience.

[@itzsiennaduhh]

@@RunicSigils not in the case of this story... she was telling OPs work partner about very private things happening in OPs life. It's not appropriate and it's a really dickish move. This just creates a relationship dynamic where the person with "no filter" can't be trusted because they'll go around gossiping about it to no end, so they're left out of important conversations. either way, that relationship isn't going to work if she doesn't see how toxic her having "no filter" is. she can't even admit that she has no filter she's that indenial about it. your comment about having no filter isn't being an asshole can be correct in some scenarios, but not in this one

[@threecheeseburrito]

"No filter" doesn't always mean asshole. It depends on the information you divulge. If you're being honest with how you feel and not targeting anybody, then no, you're not an asshole. But if you're actively telling people private information that can and will hurt others just to get a point across, or telling someone about how horrible you think someone else's family is, then yeah, that'd make ya an asshole. Also, I don't hear "keeping it real" used in my personal life, so I'm not sure about that one. But "no filter" is normal for people with autism such as myself, and as long as we're not being malicious about it (because sometimes we honestly just can't help our filter, but we can help the intent of the words), it's usually pretty funny or doesn't hurt anybody. There's always cases of people using "no filter" as a way to pass themselves off as just being blunt. But unless the intent is to be mean and "get away with it," and not be labeled as an asshole, then it's not always indicative of a bad person.

[@Marco_El_Afro-Latino]

@@RunicSigils Sometimes it does, but more often than not just like in that story, it means you want to be an asshole and get away w/ it. There was *ZERO* reason for her to talk about OP's sister or his dad. I know that if someone was sharing private things about your family w/ others, you'd be pissed. Especially if they said, "I'm just keeping it real". Same w/ anyone else

[@AngelDragon43]

I really want to give the guy who got tricked into dating someone evil a hug so bad. I know that feeling way to much

[@cherenkov_blue]

Second story: yeah, I'd get the pendant back. I'd immediately confront him about it. If he agrees to give it back, great! If he doesn't, I'd provide some free _dental realignment_ until he feels compelled to. If that still isn't enough, I'd _test the strength of the chain_ on his neck. You know, to make sure it doesn't break _under stress._

[@vpuppyshadow9293]

You just made my day "Free dental realignment"

[@nanakwame1122]

Story 4: The OP's friend probably heard some rumors, chose to believe them and then ghosted. Still a poor attempt at cutting off contact

[@mikaelawilliams5779]

Some people in the comments were wondering if the friend is a female. A few people even said there were just way to many coincidences in the story. I have a small feeling that OP is an unreliable narrator.

[@abelle5859]

@@mikaelawilliams5779 same I think theres a lot more to the story that has been left out

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

I think OP has left a lot out of the story. You notice each time OP reaches out it is a completely new method...I bet OP was blocked on each of the other methods. Also I seriously doubt that a lawyer, who also wrote a book that a kid wanting to be a veterinarian finds pertinent, would still have the exact same email for 20 YEARS...meaning OP hunted down that information.

[@75ur15]

@Random Ramblings to be fair, if you are blocked, the other person won't show up on a search, as in, to the person blocked, they appear to no longer be on the platform (for Facebook at least). Seems the op mentioned the person closed their social media accounts. Maybe they just don't know for some that means THEY were blocked. Isn't intentionally left out if they don't know about it.

[@Catnipatrick]

Honestly I’m wondering why they kept trying….the other person didn’t owe them a reply? At what point does one just shrug it off like okay the feelings aren’t Mutual to wanting to reconnect.

[@SchererProductionServices]

Contacting an old friend: OP should have asked the mutual friends on Instagram if THEY heard anything from the friend. Were they just ignoring OP or were they ignoring everyone? Seems there's more to this story than OP is presenting.

[@annienunyabiz6627]

100%

[@DianaWanMa]

Story 2: Absolutely tell the mom and recover the necklace… can’t you report them for harrasment?

[@realryleu]

Probably not, no. IANAL, but harassment != deception.

[@jimmygarza8896]

*Story 2

[@Mithandune]

there is update to story 2, OP told Skyler's mom about everything, she was mad at her son what he did, but OP still didn't get his necklace back.

[@DianaWanMa]

@@realryleu he said he “is already the laughing stocks on social media”. Smells like harrasment to me. I’m pretty sure he can also make them not talk about him. If we can go deeper maybe the necklace can be considered as a scam because he faked being jn love with him? I would definitely consult a lawyer.

[@KarmaTube5]

@@realryleu if it comes to the point where everybody is making fun of him, then it’s cyber bully

[@Aloofgoblinoid]

Second OP: tell Skylar's mom what happened... As for the necklace, pro revenge says let the bastard keep it, but get it in writing that if he wants to sell it, he has to sell it back to you. Eventually he will give it to a girl he likes, and when things get super serious that is when you and his mom explain what he did to you, presenting that document as evidence.

[@RekiTheRyvian]

The story about the wife's recordings: Actually, OP brought it on himself for ALREADY KNOWING she was like that beforehand, and ignoring it because he was never the target. Then for only getting upset and seeing it as a bad thing now that he is. She's clearly already been doing this to everyone else, and is just a case of "I didn't think the face eating leopards would eat MY face"

[@HarmfulGiggles]

Story 3: No filter, huh? Weird how her lack of filter only affects how she talks about other people.

[@ZoeyHope]

I'm pretty sure the first OP gotten kicked out of their shared apartment due to his irresponsibility. If I would make the same fuck-up, I would immediately pack up my things and go back to square one just to suffer as well as delete my roomates' numbers so that they don't have to put up with me anymore.

[@annika5893]

I hope some lovely young lady who's heard about what Skylar did does the same to him. But if not, OP could say in public for the record that Skylar absolutely loved making out with him on so many occasions.

[@cynister7384]

I I was OP, I would've just said "So you let me fuck you because of a dare?" in front of all his friends, see him try and tell them that I'm lying while panicking.

[@gillianmckenzie3018]

I know how it feels having people dare their friends or make bets to go out with me...when I was in high school, I was 300 pounds and had super low self esteem due to the daily bullying I received. I remember the devastation when a guy I really really liked learned I had a crush on him, tricked me outside after school, only to insult me and make fun of me with his friends. I didn't trust ANYBODY after that, especially when it came to boys being nice to me and asking me out, and it destroyed my self esteem. Regardless if the bully was gay or bi in the Rslash story, what they did was disgusting and mentally devastating...anyone who does this as a prank or joke, whether to show off to friends or lie to save their reputation, is a foul and evil human being. (I'm bisexual myself, man or woman I would never think putting someone through that pain is okay.)

[@snackwayz4216]

Damn the friction was just so immense he set the house aflame

[@luvondarox]

My dude, I was not expecting that headline. Having to explain my laughter to coworkers was... awkward.

[@kathyniebylski6735]

The second post has an update saying that he messaged his mom on Facebook and eventually voice called. The end of that being that her son getting grounded for (I think) 2 months. I'm not sure what happened to the necklace.

[@GloomyFish]

the second story is heartbreaking. that's a really horrible thing for someone to do, and I don't put any of the blame on OP at all I'm actually crying right now

[@jennstewart3003]

The story 2 has a big update. His dad is antigay. OP goes to the guy's mom and the mom kicks the guy out. She couldn't make him give the necklace back but OP learned a serious lesson about gift giving.

[@kyiamack]

The second story has an update and Skyler’s mom is the best.

[@ThatOneKid410]

Can you find it? I'm trying to find it on Reddit but can't.

[@kstricl]

Looks like op deleted the account. There's a large delay between rslash recording and releasing videos, so no surprise.

[@alexaltenberger7324]

what was the update?

[@DayDreamingWriters]

@@alexaltenberger7324 Basically, OP confronted Skyler's Bi mom(I adding this information because it is nessesary for context). And she berated his son for treating OP like this, but she couldnt get the necklace back.

[@alexaltenberger7324]

@@DayDreamingWriters thank you🙂

[@hollyandstelladoodle8748]

I’ve been listening to older rSlash and realized it’s been three years since puppy bloopers! Dang, time flies!

[@chaseemills]

Story 2: as a 29 YO gay man, I agree with Dabny. Homeboy is definitely using the dare as a cover. No straight guy commits to a dare that much. Talk about a sad and sickening case of internal homophobia. Sounds like he needs some major therapy. I’m sorry OP had to be on the receiving end of it. That’s really gotta hurt.

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: I don't get why people overshare. I mean, it's better that all the embarrassing stuff stayed private if the person in question wants it to.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

I am not normally a fan of calling parents, but I think that dude's bi mom might appreciate knowing her son's the opposite of an ally.

[@wargamesmaster]

Story 5: I think I know what's going on, I think OP's old friend is in serious trouble (like, potential witness protection or important trial trouble) because cops wouldn't just show up at someone house for the occasional communication attempt via phone/social media where the other person never asked for OP to stop contacting them, especially if that guy OP tried to contact is a lawyer. Well, if that story isn't fake.

[@samhainnc9416]

If it was Witness Protection local cops wouldn't talk to them it would be the Marshals service Also they would never publish a book in their name etc. And If it was recent their calls would go to a dead number, im etc.

[@wargamesmaster]

@@samhainnc9416 Then it's a fake story.

[@djs2182]

OP’s “old friend” is a girl he likes and can’t let go of even after decades of her ignoring him. Continuing to email someone’s work email you googled for personal reasons with no response is odd behavior

[@wargamesmaster]

@@djs2182 Oh yeah because occasionally using social media and e-mails over a period of 20 years is sooo odd comparing to one guy sending cops (if it's a real story) instead of just saying stop contacting me, I don't want to be friends with you anymore.

[@wargamesmaster]

@@aduckofsomesort OP typed the old friend's name on Google and got the right result, no name change. And sending cops for a harassment complain years after the first "unwanted contact" is pure overkill and a waste of police ressources at this point. If the friend just didn't wanted to talk to OP anymore, a simple "don't contact me again, I don't want to be friends with you anymore" would have sufficed (or in the worst case of OP actually harassing the guy, calling the cops the first few times it happened and getting a f*ing restraining order).

[@benjie128]

Way back I had a breast reduction surgery. I had taken before and after images. After included very swollen and bruised images where you could see the incisions (I've healed very well) but these were fresh pics. My brother and his kids went to the park and I went with. He wanted some pictures I'd snapped at the park. He loaded the sd card in his computer. But I forgot about those surgery pictures. He could not click the X fast enough. LOL

[@lifewuzonceezr]

Arrrrrrrggghhh..lol. oops

[@samhainnc9416]

4th story (old friend). Sounds like OP may have tried to contact their friend A lot more then a few times in 20 years. Enough that they went to their local police in Alaska to complain about harassment. Then since Alaska couldn't get up with OP they contacted OP's local police to pass along the message. Stalkers think in their own mind they have not done anything wrong or that they tried to talk contact their obsession as many times as they did. I am former Law Enforcement and I served a restraining order to a man who called his ex 180 times in a month. Left tons of messages and they were all just like nothing was wrong. "Oh hey I saw so and so is playing live at this club. I remember how much you like them and wanted to let you know." Etc. As soon as he saw the call log he was devastated and said 'Oh my god she must think I'm a monster.' He said he was going to go for therapy as he didn't realize he called that often. The reason why it took a month for the order was was she lived 5 states away and was gone on business trip for over a week and came home to a full answering machine. (this was before internet/cell phones etc. so that dates me.)

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

EXACTLY. I feel like OP is not telling everything

[@healingthroughchrist1988]

The police didn't show up until 5 years after OP's last attempt to contact this friend.

[@BunnyQueen97]

My sister put chicken nuggets in a toaster for my drunk ass and went to bed. I IMMEDIATELY passed out, and like 20 minutes later the upstairs neighbors were banging on the door because both of our apartments were filled with smoke. There wasn’t a fire, but the nuggets were now chunks of charcoal lol

[@SyniStar616]

That last story reminds me of something an ex-girlfriend told me once. We were both 14-15, she took a camera to the Walmart photo center to get some pictures printed out and didn't know her older brother had been playing around with it. Turns out, he managed to snap a full-body nude of himself and just left it on the camera. She was not happy, and I forget what she said she did to him as payback.

[@marylowther8495]

Last story: I was showing my Mom a contact sheet of photos taken at the beach that (unknown to me) included a full frontal of my boyfriend. Her response was epic: "This one needs enlargement," she said.

[@Houleigan]

I started a fire by overheating a pot of cooking oil. A friend and I were going to make some fries, I turned on the stove and we went downstairs to watch tv. Well I forgot the stove was on until I heard the smoke alarm going off. The kicker.....my dad was a firefighter himself (35 years in Toronto Fire)

[@ResidentMilf]

I learned the hard way to be careful using nonstick cooking spray on a gas stove. Thankfully all I set on fire was a towel.

[@ReginaArtist]

The story talking about reaching out to someone online reminded me of my own. Fair warning, it is a sad ending, and a long story. So, I had a childhood friend since almost 5 or 6 I would say. I will call her Clementine. We were friends most of our lives until I believe I want to say high school, where we went to different schools and she got new friends where she didn't want to hang out with me as much. We got into a horrible fight , pretty small when looking back on it now, but she basically on that day said she didn't want to be friends anymore so it ended. Well, when I was 20, I figured enough time had passed and we can try to be friends possibly again. I went through my own trauma because of the whole incident, but I wanted to be the bigger person and try to if we can't be friends, at least get on mutual understanding and at least say sorry to one another on the matter to let it be bygones. Readded her on Facebook, which was instantly accepted, and sent a message. After a few days with no reply, I checked it and saw she is never on Facebook. Fair. A couple years go by, and I wonder about Clementine, so I check her Facebook. No updates at all. I found it odd, but also figured since childhood, she always went to another country during summers to study abroad during grade school, she might of done the same for college and not want to do social media since it will take away from studies. She was never big on social media either way. I messaged once more just for the hell of it since I did not have her phone number or any other social media. But no reply. Fast forward to 7 years after my first message. Its 2020, covid hit and I was browsing Facebook. That was when it hit me about her once more. I checked, and again, no updates. Not even a photo update on the profile. I was confused nothing had happened, but it clicked maybe this isn't her account anymore but an old one. I looked her up, and found a memorial. When she was 18, before graduating high school, she ran away with her boyfriend at the time to another state, where her poor family couldn't find her. When she was 20, same age as me, she was slowly coming to realize she didn't want to do this and was secretly making plans to move back to her family and finish school. And I say secretly because her boyfriend would monitor her every action and messages on her phone. He even got a job at the same place as her to watch her. Well, sadly, he found out the plans before she could do them. He strangled her to death just a few months before I reached first out to her. He even sent messages to the family saying it is their fault. He is currently in prison for life sentence, but it just doesn't ever seem right. So, despite the story of the guy getting called a stalker, reach out to those old friends you never hear from anymore. You never know when they can use you.

[@nidhi2693]

that is so sad. i really hope you can heal from this and i hope your friend can rest in peace. while things might have ended on bad terms if she were to know that you still cared for her after so long, im sure she would be really happy.

[@jacjennings1640]

That fourth story was just weird Why did OP keep trying to contact the "friend" after they didn't answer the first couple of times?

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly, plus I think they kept blocking OP.....you notice OP mentioned a completely new method of reaching out each time they reached out. Like a stalker re-finding their victim again.

[@Dr.RatioSnail]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings I bet it was more then just a few times. Something isodd about that story we're not getting the full story.

[@healingthroughchrist1988]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings But isn't it weird that the police showed up five years after OP's last attempt to contact their friend? Also, it seems like OP never once identified himself to this friend. So this friend might not have known that it was OP.

[@damilolasokoya1266]

Second story: I’d tell his mum honestly… bc wth

[@pokemonslayer3345]

4th Story: I feel like OP is leaving out something very important. No one just ghosts a friend then gets cops involved and threaten legal action over a nice message sent to them once every few years. But the old friend might also just be an ass

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

First off...who keeps reaching out over 20 years of being completely ignored....it's not like on insta the person couldn't see OP's pic and didn't know who was reaching out, they were intentionally avoiding OP. Plus OP said they had mutual friends....kinda odd that he didn't ask one of them anything about reaching out, and if he did then definitely some troubled backstory that the friends are trying to protect the guy from OP. OP definitely is leaving stuff out

[@nicholi8933]

I'm thinking that guy wanted to keep it on the down low so that his friends wouldn't find out. And they probably found out and that was the reason why he broke up. 3 months is a long time for a dare.

[@screamoneo]

I feel genuine pain for that first story. Hearing my name be used as the villain made me feel guilty for something i didnt even do. I hope OP can get some revenge on that bastard. 3 months is a long time.

[@CieraMychele]

Story 1 is exactly why I never wear both headphones no matter what I'm watching

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

I actually had an ex get the cops involved after he and I broke up. I contacted him to see if I can get my Epi Pen back, the only text message I sent him. He went to the cops and I had a detective tell me that I was harassing him and to stop contacting him. He told me if I want my Epi Pen back to file with the court and get it back that way. That Epi Pen was not worth dealing with his childish behavior. I ended up changing my number, blocking him on everything, and moved on with my life.

[@Wendy_O._Koopa]

For the second story, OP needs to get drunk and/or take a few Ativan/Lorazepam and confront Skylar in front of his friends. Ask him if all the times he took it up the butt meant nothing, ask him if it was "part of the prank" for him to wear diapers while you spanked him. Look up the most embarrassing fetishes and whine about doing them with him, go double scorched Earth, I mean what's the worst that can happen at this point? He can blush and say "That didn't happen!" It's like an unwritten rule that everybody listens to and believes the one crying over the other individual.

[@charlesmaxey9342]

Let's be real who regularly tries to reach out to old friends for 20 years after no responses the first few times?

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Yeah exactly......after the 2nd one was ignored, to not take the hint is odd.... I truly wonder what OP has left out of the story. 🤔 Like was it way more times than what he told us....or maybe he wasn't truly friends with his friend....like what if OP was actually one of those bullies who had a "sidekick" whom he also bullied just not as bad as the others, and even though OP thought they were friends, they might not have been, and maybe he was ghosted for good reason..... 🤔

[@charlesmaxey9342]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings especially on different social media platforms. It's sounds a little bit stalkerish albeit over 20 years and a hand few of times according to OP. Either way he should've stopped trying to reach out to this person over a decade ago.

[@dontshoot42]

If you nearly set your house on fire trying to masturbate for 40 minutes with waterproof headphones and you take away "I see why some people like oxygen deprivation," rethink everything.

[@kjb-gamesandreading3981]

So, in regards to the first story. I almost set my kitchen on fire due to cooking bacon, and then getting impatient about cooking frozen hashbrowns That second story, I would have straight contacted his mother and requested that she give me back that necklace. Immediately.

[@RisingRevengeance]

"Uh no I was only pretending to be gay for months" Sure bro keep telling yourself that

[@XXXkazeXXX]

Story 1 is a perfect example of this thing known as ADHD tax 😞

[@Coira2]

I'm honestly pissed that the Alaskan police are taking the accidental stalking more seriously than my local police took my abusive ex boyfriend's stalking. I almost got arrested myself for how often I called on him for breaching the restraining order because they were sick of me calling them.

[@batboy0707]

To all my lgbt teens, it is normal to fall for boys who happen to be straight, your hormones (like any other teen) are going wild and dragging your standards down. My point is, straight boys often know this and will take advantage of you at any chance, whether that is cheating off you or getting you to buy them things. Don’t fall for it.

[@kaytenn1]

Story 5: OP should report their ex-friend to his work place for abuse of the police and legal system. If he’s a lawyer I’m sure his bosses would be very interested to hear about it

[@ZombieSazza]

Imagine being a lawyer, having an estranged friend, and calling the police because you don’t have the balls to say “please don’t contact me, I’m don’t want a friendship” like WTAF was this case

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Makes you wonder how much OP actually left out. 1st off who keeps repeatedly trying to contact someone who keeps ignoring you for 2 whole DECADES. 2nd OP said they had mutual friends online. Did OP not ask any of them about the guy, or did OP leave that part out cuz they told OP "don't worry about it, just leave him alone"...cuz odd to not try asking the mutual friends about contacting them. 🤔 3rd why did the person ghost OP in the first place....were they actually friends or was OP one of those people who picked on and made fun of their friends.....cuz it has been discovered that a surprising number of bullies had no clue they were bullies, and the person they remembered as their childhood friend was actually just their most prominent victim.

[@bigclown23]

At the same time they should've gotten the hint after years of silence

[@kaykanut8778]

Once I was showing my Nana some photos of my kids on my phone, I swiped and BAM a photo of me in thongs with my ass just fully out there!! I was like omg those are private I'm so sorry Nana!! She just chuckled and said "well you look very nice dear" 🤦‍♀️😭 I love my Nana haha!

[@Sorchia56]

My heart twisted a bit for OP. My mama bear fury came out full force. Wretched family and the ex is definitely bi. He was just playing it off, at your expense. That mum needed to return the necklace, I would have taken it off the little prat myself. What a horrid family. If one of my kids did that, Hell would rain down on them. We didn’t raise them to be evil little tossers who purposely hurt others. Our oldest daughter is engaged to a phenomenal woman, we are over the moon. Her family is absolutely brilliant as well! No drama, not pretentious and loads of fun! I’m soo sorry for OP. Just so sorry.

[@mmlm4116]

First story: Guess the other head didn't get enough blood to think straight

[@jonthornton5471]

Actually it's not weird at all I had a situation similar to this where I was not informed to stop talking to a friend police showed up and made a similar threat I was 17 at the time

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

About the lie thing. I had a similar experience once. I've recalled this so many times it feels surreal. When I was in elementary school I had a crush on this guy. And so did my best friend. We both thought he was beautiful. And I wasn't shy about it as I've never been. I used to talk very loudly to my best friend in kindergarden about this other guy who we both thought was the prettiest boy in class. And he was our friend. Mainly mine and my brother's since he loved to show him all the lego creations he would do. But that's besides the point. One day I approached the school kid (around 7/8 years old) and I told him I liked him. I was waiting for a response but he said he needed to think about it. He missed school the next day and I thought he did it on purpose I was that anxious. Mind you at that time I had undiagnosed Aspergers. So it makes sense I was anxious after what I did. He said yes and I was ecstatic. But not long before be started to make fun of me a week later. He would say mean things to me while we played. Like: "You're ugly." etc. That paired with my lack of self love/confidence made me feel horrible. I thought I was even uglier. Which now looking back I'm exactly the same. I look the same except I dress better and can make myself prettier and have gained confidence after years of bullying. Anyways. A few years later in middle school my best friend, the same I had in elementary school, told me this golden nugget. That every girl in class was in on it. And they knew he wanted to hurt me. I don't believe it or I refuse to. I can't imagine the person I considered my best friend doing this to me. Not telling me this guy was about to hurt me. Or at least if we weren't friends at that moment in time, to tell me as soon as we became friends again. I still feel heartbroken everytime I see this guy around. I always think about if he recognizes me and if he thinks I'm prettier now. Or if he's still the jerk he used to be.

[@VeggieGirl07]

I didn't know there were water resistant headphones water resistant enough to take a shower with, I'm going to have to find myself one of those but I'll make sure I don't burn my house down

[@lifewuzonceezr]

Right!!..i can't listen to a podcast in the shower..Id have to turn it up too loud..and my shower is beside the building stairs!!

[@WraythSkitzofrenik]

I hope we hear a ProRevenge story about Skylar later...

[@cathylanders6377]

I hope so

[@drake1193]

1 like = 1 update for something terrible happening to skylar

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I was showing my soon to be mother in law some pictures of my son at a family gathering and was very careful about moving through my gallery. And she started to question but I pretty matter of factly said, where do you think your grandson came from?

[@beverlycrusher9713]

story-1 i did SOMETHING like this a long time ago, FORTUNATELY, i didn't set the house on fire, just ruined the microwave and ruined my piece of french bread, fell asleep for a few minutes intending just to heat up a piece of french bread and when i woke up headed back to the kitchen and saw this cloud of smoke come billowing out of the the doorway , ran in to the kitchen and saw a three inch flamer jumping out of this piece of charcoal, unplugged the microwave and opened the door grabbed a glass of water and threw it on the charcoal, the temperature difference literally caused the glass pan to break, it took hours for the smoke to clear, and to say the least mom and dad weren't happy.

[@TheDarkLink7]

The second story. Hell...... go further. Start talking about the relationship on social media and make sure he regrets doing the "dare."

[@aum1040]

I'm really curious why the "old friend" cut off contact with OP. If I was OP, once the police showed up at my door, if I really had no idea why this had happened then I would feel compelled to investigate. So, at least for me, involving the police would have the opposite of the desired effect.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

OP is definitely leaving stuff out of the story.

[@aum1040]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings There are a ton of other stories where this happened without any lies or omissions on the part of the person who was ghosted.

[@GloomyFish]

I am so confused about the fourth story... there might be some missing details from the former friend's point of view maybe? I'd love to hear his side of the story tbh

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed. Definitely something missing from OP's story. I wonder if they weren't actually friends to begin with. A lot of bullies didn't realize they were bullies, and people they considered friends they also picked on....wonder if this may be one of those cases.

[@mr.scarlo2234]

I hope that everyone is having a good Tuesday!

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Have a great day 🤗

[@littlemschatterbox4993]

Rslash! You should do r/nosleep. I know it’s not true stories but I think it’d be fun

[@Katie-bx3jb]

Yesss!!! R/nosleep is one of my favorite subreddits

[@silver5866]

5:12 so...the story with OP & Skylar is legitimately disturbing in a way that even the more wild Reddit stories usually aren't. I've been a teenager. I know they can be mean, bordering on actual sadism. But this story has the feeling of a psychological thriller. Like it's the beginning of a movie.

[@thehangmansdaughter1120]

Next time that boy or his friends try to bully you about being tricked just say "You/he didn't seem that straight when you/he shoved your/his tongue in my mouth". That will shut him up forever. Also, I think a visit with his Bi Mum is in order. You'll at least get the necklace back.

[@xeedflarian9748]

Man I always get scared when I take those risqué photos. I make sure I unload them onto the computer and delete them off the phone just to avoid those types of problems 🤣

[@Queen_Nyxie]

That 4th story gives me the creeps. Sounds like the "friend" I used to have. Somehow he would always find me when I switched to different social media sites and would make fake accounts in order to keep tabs on me. It was easier to just let him than it was to avoid him since I needed social media at the time since that was the only way my job and family contacted me.

[@Adair.Stewart]

I had an older mate who said that, when he was a young man, his fav VHS adult vid was “G*nad The Barbarian”. He told me that his 25yo son found it once and watched it. Got really into it, forgot about the huge oily AF pizza in the oven. That kitchen was F-ED for months. After laughing my arse off, I told him to educate his son on the barbarian code: “Remember, boyo, it’s ‘’, pillage, THEN burn!”

[@moniquescott7127]

I feel like if you contact somebody twice and they do not respond you should stop contacting them. Clearly they don't wanna talk to you and there's an underlying issue. So there's something going on that happened to that person that they felt the contact was harassment.

[@disgruntledmum4916]

I was thinking the same. It seems super weird that this all went down after the friend visited 20 years ago. I wonder whether there was something the friend saw at OP's house that made them nope out?

[@nicolelawrence7722]

I need OP from story #2 to convert this story to petty or nuclear revenge.

[@Neck41]

Dang, it has been 5 months since the last TIFU video. It's pretty refreshing seeing this now after all the other videos.

[@thomasjones6216]

I gotta agree with RSLASH on the Skylar situation; hopefully he figures himself out but what he did was cruel To the OP stay strong pal, better off alone than with a douchebag It'll hurt but you'll find someone someday Peace

[@charlieinserra6305]

hii Rslash, just to let you know I’ve watched so many videos of yours that your voice became the voice of my mind LMAO, btw hope you have a great day

[@ThomasGuitarist453]

Hey Rslash, I just wanted to say happy late birthday, I've been traveling the country for my birthday (Ironically same date as you) And I haven't had any coverage. Thanks for the awesome vids you put out :)

[@Supernaturalist-nd2ot]

yeah I definitely think there’s way more to the “old friend” story. from the comments on it, it sounds like it was actually a female friend and OP was really avoidant of admitting that. I’d like to hear her side of the story.

[@DeadDancers]

The stalking one is weird. If its true, the other person has some serious drama need and/or paranoia. It might not be entirely true, based on the cops spending their time on this, but there may be some misunderstanding between the complaint lodged (those in the know just trying to make a call) vs the local cops who don’t get any content before being asked to issue a ‘cease and desist contact’.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

There are a few things I find odd about OP's version. I think they keep getting blocked by the person, you notice each time they mentioned a completely different way of reaching out to them. And since I doubt a lawyer who also writes a book someone interested in being a vet would find pertinent would have the exact same email they did from 2 DECADES prior, meaning OP hunted that information down.

[@niccalee]

2nd story: poor OP. That was just cruel. I don't understand how people can do stuff like that. Like, even if you don't agree with something or think it's weird or wrong or whatever, if they aren't hurting anyone leave them be. Be nice. I hope OP is able to heal.

[@logirl1975]

I can only hope that Skylar receives back three-fold that which he did to OP. There's a lot more I could say about this but some things are best left unspoken. At the least, I'm heartbroken for OP and absolutely infuriated at Skylar.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Story 2: Maaan…Op i’m sooo sorry :/ that’s heartbreaking, i don’t get how him pretending to be into you makes YOU the laughingstock, but tbh everyone in your town sounds like a total douchebag. I’m really sorry man :/

[@thetruth1223]

Story 2 : time to move towns bro.. those things will never let you live it down.. Story 3 : Time to start planning your exit bro..if your wife doesn't care enough to keep private info private what's the saying she wasn't sharing with others what you to do in the bedroom!! Story 4 : That old "friend " is a snitch.. he's most likely in witness protection..

[@cynister7384]

I don't think people in witness protection have public instagram accounts

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@cynister7384 agreed. Plus you notice that each time OP reached out it was via an entirely different method, I am willing to bet OP got blocked from all the others before hunting out the person's email to continue harassing them.

[@ryanbashor7371]

How do you pretend to be gay? They kissed. They cuddled. They went on dates. I don't know any guy who pretend to be gay and actually kiss, hug, cuddle, or go on dates. Skylar is either bi or gay.

[@ZombieSazza]

OP, tell Skylar’s mother, she’s bi, she’d be furious hearing her sons homophobic behaviour. He and his friends should face consequences, you’re the victim and shouldn’t have to move schools or feel shame.

[@NEPAAlchey]

I actually think OP in story 4 is the weird one. It was pretty clear the dude didn't want to talk but OP can't seem to take no for an answer? Maybe they just don't like confrontation, but then again they're a lawyer so that's probably not it. I feel like OP slighted this person in some way and is too obtuse to have realized it

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed.

[@adamb89]

Closest I ever came to setting the place on fire was when I had a nasty cold and really wanted to add some humidity to the air. A hot shower helped, but the air was so dry the moment I stepped out I was hacking a lung again. So I filled up a 2.5 gallon stock pot full of water on the stove, on high. At some point I nodded off while watching TV, and woke up a couple hours later to the smoke alarm going off. The pot had boiled dry, and apparently that was somehow enough to trigger the smoke alarm even though I didn't see any smoke. In my infinite wisdom I decided to pour a cup of water into the pot to quickly cool it down. Which resulted in a gout of boiling hot steam blasting my hand resulting in HUGE blisters over the half that was that got hit. It hurt like hell, and I ended up having to sleep on the floor that night with my hand soaking in a roasting pan full of cold water. Every hour or so I'd have to get up and change the water, because once it started to warm up, it felt like my hand was still burning. Fucking sucked. Not only did I have a nasty cold, but I had second degree burns to boot. But at least the air was humid.

[@savagebear4374]

Story 3: If I was OPs friend that AH (Skylar) wouldnt be laughing after I was done with him .

[@acesinger6092]

“The supposedly straight man” story definitely gave me Heartstopper vibes

[@Richard_Nickerson]

1. Why wouldn't you actually tell someone to stop contacting you? Especially a lawyer. 2. Why in the world did OP keep reaching out? Like... 6 years of silence, and you try again? Another 5 years of silence, and you try again? Take the effing hint.

[@smorphous8928]

Skylar is only saying all this so his friends don’t make fun of him for being gay, he’d rather tarnish his relationship with Op then to lose his homophobic friends in a dare.

[@eddiekalista3222]

Story 2: Prorevenge would have been to openly ask why he was so into the sex if it was only a dare.

[@illidanST7F]

Maybe the dude from the 4th story has an actual stalker, and when it got to the boiling point and the police got involved, then during the investigation he or the cops saw OP calls and messages and went IT MUST BE HIM! and that's why the police tried to contact OP and finally went to his house, they must have taken him not answering the calls as an admission of guilt, like : ''He's not answering, he knows why are onto him now''

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Good thinking....I hadn't thought of that possibility. I only figured OP was actually one of those bullies who didn't realize they were a bully and picked on their 'friends'. Especially when they had mutual friends on insta but the guy kept ignoring the requests, like if the person is active online there's backstory OP forgot.